how to become the MAIN CHARACTER in your life 🌟
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Ngl I used to be jealous of the people who were main characters in their lives and always thought I would be a side character!!
How do you know if someone is the main character ?
What does it mean to be the main characters ?? 🤔
@@inesdz438 its all mindset
@@inesdz438 hmm it is like main characters live their life and change their fate but you can't change it and you live your life like how they want you to live. I thinks it is like that but not so sure.
You can be the main character babe!!
*If you are reading this, never ever give up. We will succeed. I'm cheering for you!*
Have a great day! 🖤
I was sure i will find ur comment there !
😭you made my dayyyy 💕🥺💖🌍
Thank you ❤
I can't even explain how much my life changed when i realized: my life is supposed to be fun, not meh and boring. And to achieve that i need to do what i like, not care about others. I had a major confidence boost hit me about two years ago and i can just say my life completely changed. I stopped caring about what anyone was thinking, i just had fun. (There is a limit to that too though, sometimes people can disturb others while having fun. So it is all about balance.) I started being more open to things, more open to new adventures. I started doing stuff, not waiting for stuff to just come to me. I realized i can dress however i like, be who i am, unapologetically. I make my own decisions. I do whatever i think is right for me, i don't adjust my entire life according to the wants of others. I swear once i had that mental glow up my entire life changed. It is all in your head. Your life is whatever you make it, it's your decision.
Making yourself a priority is key. No one can make you a priority in your own life but you.
From a self love content creator to another; beautiful video Aileen!! ❤️
Great video .. ive been struggling a little with this .. ima dress up and go buy some flowers 🤣
@@gabrielnicholls2000 loll it’ll work!! Do it for yourself!!
@@F0reverblessed thanks . I appreciate you
"Life is an art, make it your masterpiece."
I realized yesterday that I haven't been playing my favourite songs lately so I listened to BTS while washing the dishes and put on classical music and the theme from The Shire while making bread this morning😅 felt like I was in a 19th century movie in the countryside of England or something and it felt amazing! Love this video soo much Aileen🤗🤗
Omg I felt this because I haven’t listened or kept up with Kpop because I was procrastinating too much but now I want to listen to it again and keep up because it made me happy and I want to feel that again instead of feeling nothing during the whole summer
Aww love to hear you find joy again thru music ✨
You know i literally was making my coffee while listening to still with you (jk solo) and it felt so good !!! So much positivity a very small step but made me feel relaxed and was a main character energy
Yaaay! Me tooo I've been way to busy for a while and haven't really had a listen to a good playlist gosh I miss it so much
I needed this. I was literally just thinking I am only a background actor in my life. Just kinda dwindling about and doing everything for everyone else’s movie. It’s a sad feeling.
*If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will become the ultimate sacrifice.*
The chances of you seeing this comment is really low, but if you did, *I hope you have a great day...* 🖤
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Self discovery is the best way to become the main character of your life. You need to take out time for the most imp person of your life aka YOU. I always take time for myself no matter what my mood is. Whether im upset, im worried, tired, happy, excited or whatever, i never stop doing what makes me feel good. It can be anything. For me it's talking to myself while doing makeup. Makeup is something i love doing. As long as you do something JUST for yourself and not caring about others, trust me that's shoots up your confidence 1000x times. Like, if you're afraid of wearing that dress, just do it. Who knows you will turn out the most attractive person in room then?! I love how Aileen sista always focuses on these small points which we tend to miss out. Thank you so much!!😚💜
I was just thinking this when the video came out : "I wish I could feel more often the way I feel when i'm coming out of a movie theater, when life seems a little bit different and magical for a few minutes"
Avoiding conflict definitely puts us in the side character energy!! Sometimes we just need to face what is 🤷🏻♀️🤗
I feel that Togi has Main Character Vibes!! Confidence, authenticity, soulfulness! Animals that are well taken care of become reactive and expressive :-)
A fun question for you: What genre would your life movie be? 😍
mine would be either... dramatic coming of age story, or biopic about a girl who grew up in the digital age (the start of the internet, social media, blogging, creating, etc) 😋
It will be sexy business woman always traveling and taking care of herself
Definitely a romcom, I love some of the older ones from the 2000s haha
A fantasy with romantic academia, cottagecore, and royale core vibes
Slowliving calm🥰💓
OK... But, Am I the only person that her videos make me happy? 🌞🌞
Ur not alone 🥺🥺🥺
nopeee
nope
My state of mind has been meh, unmotivated and tired (a bit bitter) for a month now to the point I shut myself from social media and friends to recharge. This video is the answer to my current state. I forgot how to be the main character because I dwell too much on my insecurities but this opened my eyes again. I'll start from scratch and feel good once more. Thank you so much Aileen 🥰🥰🥰
i posted my first youtube video today, but i didn't promote it to my other social media accounts bcoz i am scared and embarrased of the judgement that i might receive. AND THIS VIDEO POPPED UP. i'll take this as a sign to not care about what they say and be the baddest version of my self. Thank you Aileen! you're an angel.
I feel we are in the same shoes, I just posted my first video too and I didn’t share it. We have to be confident 💕💕
Like I said in the video, no one cares as much as you think they do :) just post it & move on to your next video!
This desicion of becoming the main character poped out of my head from no where when I felt that I can't take others pressure and selfishness anymore and trying to takecare of their feelings too , and how funny that immediatly I found this vedio and after all this I realized that if you don't make yourself the main character of your life someone will use u and make himself the main of urlife
This is so timely. I suddenly got tired of what's happening in my life. I work so hard but not getting what I want. I realize that maybe I'm being too hard on myself. I know I deserve more of life. I just let people use me. Today is the day I decide to love myself the most.
👏🏻👏🏻🤗 go sistah! We got this!! ☀️
This is such a cool concept! 😄 The first time I heard about this was from the beautiful, positive TH-camr called Darling Desi. She published a similar video last year in 2020 about being the main character in your own story. She is more like "Live your life as if it was a Studio Ghibli film. Where every moment is the best one you've ever had." And I loved that and it's so cool that you've made one yourself Aileen! 💗
Hi Lavendaire , I was depressed and i didn't have any motivation till I discovered your channel about a month ago . i learned how to journal and make plans for my life and know myself better from you 😍
now im much better and in real peace thanks for your great content!
Thank you, I needed to hear this! Lately I've been thinking of myself as a character in other people stories, rather than the star of my own. This shift of mindset is so powerful! Especially the joy of truly accepting that No One Cares!😂 You always lift me up, Aileen. And the off the shoulder top is my favorite, so cute!!! xo
It's more about who you impress than how much you impress. If people you look up to are impressed by you, you're on a great journey.
Yess! Aileen you have no idea how much you have helped me through your videos! Thank you soo much sis!💕💜
Loveeee this so much ✨ I really needed to hear this. I’ve always been just waiting for that “movie like” moment to wear or do or say what I want, or romanticize my life, when I should live like that all the time.
This was very accurate to burnout too. This was very comforting and encouraging, I like how you emphasized having fun and channel energy.
Thank you so much Aileen for this! I've been feeling overwhelmed and low energy lately, and now I'm motivated to take better care of myself in order to lift myself back up to a state where I can thrive. Thank you 😊
Thank you Aileen, this was so helpful and uplifting. Keep doing the good work. This world needs you.
"most of the time I feel like a side character" you got me there
Edit: okay after watching this video, which is beautiful, I want to say that I've tried acting out the ordinary things in my life as if I was in a movie and it only made me more self conscious and ultimately feel a bit dumb. Just my experience thought maybe someone may relate :)
Hi, random internet stranger. Your identity is built from your actions. If you have always been a side character it's going to be bloody hard and awkward to be the main character. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't continue to try. Few things are easy the first go-round. Leaning into the acting trope a bit, main characters in movies have to practice their lines before they can give a big performance, maybe you should practice? :)
@@taylormcneil2285 that's actually a very good way to think about it, thank you ! ^^
You dont have to be conscious at all, remember that you are doing this for yourself and just enjoy the things you do- its okay if you are feeling so. Side characters are called so, because they are in someone's elses story and might just be a helping hand , in the off stage- in the shadows of the movie, you are you. Just be you and everything is gonna be fineee💜
@@jasnoorkaur2499 thank youu💖
@@clau_sing_ mention not💜
The tip about music is soooo true! Music is such a great form of expression and written from our emotional experiences. Thanks for the video. ❤️
This video came at the right time, thanks for sharing Aileen! Esp the “life is an art, make it a masterpiece” quote is just spot on 🥰
Seriously needed this so much.. the stress from work and studies have made me feel so low and irritated.. I was not sure, but now I know that I felt like the side character; as if I am just living each day, not living my dream life.. But when you said "No one care", I laughed.. This one life cheer up my mind.. This has boost up my motivation.. I want to look and feel good.. I have to stop feeling guilty of buying clothes for myself or eating whatever I want too.. I just have to remember myself as the main character and make the most beautiful movie.. Thank you so much.. 💜
the narrative flow of your videos/ editing is sooo good!! Super inspiriting 🙏🏻
wow aileen uve really glowed up a lot and ur confidence is actually infectious dang girl! continue being yourself man and inspiring everyone the way u do 🙌👊🤩
You're such a ball of positivity! 💜
Living on-campus has made me realize that no one really cares about what you wear. There are people who wear hoodies, there are people who wear dresses, sports bras, khakis, suits. We are all so different and there's no single rule to tell us what to wear or how to look.
I wish I learned this lesson before... This should be a part of school education ☺️ love you 🙂
Totally agree with you 😊🌸
Amazing video Aileen! I definitely needed to see this today :) I loved all of your outfit choices but I think for me it was the rainbow top with the sleeves! Made me want to go out and add lots of colour to my wardrobe as it's all a bit grey and 1 dimensional. Thank you for always sharing inspirational content xxx
Reflecting on self and re-wiring the behaviors and patterns i grew up with to better frame who I want to be. It’s such a fun life journey seeing the maturity and new foundations within myself. I’m at a point now I feel small and insecure with not having many friends/connections. I remind myself to be type of the friend (to myself) that I want in my life. I’m sure one day the right energies will cross paths 🥹
I needed this reminder this week, I feel like I've been letting myself stay "blah" because I'm in a covid lockdown at the moment, but I will try to make the most of the free time I do have.😌 Also, my fav piece was the Celine bag! love it 💗
GIRL ILYSM. The positive affirmations in this is amazing, you're the best. I loved watching this video so much.
I've been really getting into playlists with "pov" and moods that scream main character, only really pieces it together with this video! Love it x
Thank you so much!! I'm here for 4 years and still LOVE your videos! Putting me in a positive insparational mindset:))
Love the FUN you had in this video! Thanks for transferring that energy! (Also, the long dress was my fave!)
As much as I love all of your videos, this one was just plain AMAZING. Honestly, I think I loved the confidence you exuded in every outfit and the intro boss babe vibes was 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 Thank you for always creating high quality videos, Aileen!
I love this so much! 0:54 YOU'RE A QUEEN !!
Thank you for always spreading positive vibes
Im loving this get- along aileen, i feel shes changed for the better she seems more open. Love aileeeeennnn always here for your videos
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Your rainbow color top is so good and I am in love with this..
I think I would wear floral dresses as I love the prints and it literally spark joy to my style and life!!❣️
This video makes me so happy :) thank you so much, Aileen!! 💗 being the main character is so much more fun
You're GLOWING girl !!!!!!You look so HAPPY!!!!Loving the energy and vibe 💞💞💞
yeah I use to be the side character.. shy, insecure....the people pleaser living in other people's frame instead of my own and it causes distress and disease. I created a whole program to change my mind to change my energy to change my life and now I don't shy from the spotlight..I believe I have a direct channel to Spirit and instead of shrinking under other people's judgment and ridicule I rise in the power of SPIRIT. Namaste
Just found this channel after listening to one of your 5 min meditations. I really resonate with this as I’m an online fitness coach and named my brand HEROZ and my motto is to become the hero of your own story for my clients. So this really helped me remind myself why I do what I do ❤️
Aileen, your energy in this video is so infectious! Just before watching this video, I had a really tough week... My family is dealing with the passing of my uncle due to cancer, my brother went through his first break up, and there has been a lot of tension at work because I've been stressed about my grad school applications and my managers are unhappy with how I let my anxiety affect my work. And it seems I might be positive for COVID (rapid tests showed a very faint line so waiting for PCR test to confirm), even though I am fully vaccinated and have taken all precautionary measures of sanitizing and masking up. I've just been feeling so low in mood and had several breakdowns this past week where I'd burst out in tears because I truly felt invaluable and unworthy, as if all the work I had done was erased and I am back to square one. Watching this video made me feel inspired and excited to get back on my feet and channel my inner main character energy. Thank you, Aileen 💛
You're such an inspiration Aileen!
From now on I WILL be the main character in my life and i will put all my effort into making it happen.
Lots of love from India❤
I am living for this Aileen!! Love you so so much 💖 Loving the outfit with the Lirika Matoshi top 💕
Never knew I needed this, i have maladaptive-daydreaming and most of the time,I daydream about some fake scenerio's and most of them don't even include me, and the ones that include me distant me from the real life.
✨ So this is just amazing ✨
Her videos have become so fun!
Awwww, Omg, Thank you soo much for this beautiful video my Lovee !! This is really soo helpful, articulate and lovelyy !! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THISS AND I LOVE YOU SOO MUCH MY ANGELLL !! SENDING YOU LOADS OF LOVEE, BLESSINGS, POSITIVE ENERGY AND BIGG HUGSS !! MAY GOD BLESS YOU SOO ABUNDANTLY BABE !! ❤️❤️❤️🦋
I love it so much how you inspire and spread positivity to us in such a casual and light way❤ and I like the red jacket btw
Loved the intro 😩
I love how your style changes throughout the years
You’re so creative ❤️😌✨
I was almost falling into a lil slump and this picked me right back up! Thank you Aileen❤️
I love your vibes here, Aileen! I'm just smiling while watching this. I'm a lowkey fan of your contents. I love how genuine and sincere you are in every vid! Thank you for reminding us that we are the artist and main character of our lives 💖
I watch this video everytime i feel low or doubt myself it really cheer me up & give me the confidence i need
You are one of the effective vloggers I've ever faced..you know what,I am an energetic guy and by watching ur videos getting more .needless to say spreading positive vibration gets back to us .so just keep it up..
I loooooooooved this video, the philosophy and everything!! Also congrats Aileen for leveling up Lavendaire ❤️❤️❤️
I can feel a positive vibe in each of your videos. Thank you so much for sharing, Aileen. Love you
Aileen, love the editing of this video. It feels super relaxed yet very informative.
Yes, of course.. This is what I really needed to be clear about. I read it somewhere that be the main character of your life.. But I wasn't clear about it, and honestly took it in a negative way.. Like everyone is everyone's main character.. Blah blah blah..
But now I got, what it actually means.. Thank you so much 💫✨💖 .. This is the best thing I have ever learned.. Thank you 😇💜💜💜
I really enjoy the way the video is made. It’s very natural. Thanks for making these videos, they means a lot during the pandemic time. It’s lockdown where I live.
Lavendaireee! I love your videos so much! 🥲🥲❤️ Seeing this makes me want to go out there and live my best life!
I can't choose, I loved all your outfits!! Thank you for sharing this really sweet video, I enjoyed watching and feel a bit more motivated both in myself and what I do :)
Have been insecure about my teenage acne and finding ways to not meet ppl and hide myself behind the doors, not going out with family and friends. This vid and some songs such as bts' 'love myself: answer' has really made me more confident in myself and my 'flaws'. Thanks a lot! 💜
Thanks for this video! I was needing to watch it!
girl you should totally make a podcast. i would be listening to it 24/7 !! x
Your energy in this vid is so amazing
Oh my Angel.💕
I love all of you. You have taught me a lot and I'm always grateful for it.
Watching this and imagining this moment as part of my montage into making over my more confident self😊
Woww!! Thank you:)
Have a good day✨
Thank you sooooooo much for this amazing video...i really needed it rn🌟🌟🌟
OMG i love her energy and her vibes!!
with the red jacket you look so freaking gorgeous, such a queen;; love your new video, thanks for the confidence boost
Hehe ty love you!
I recently started watching you.
Really love you💜
"You're the artist of your life.you can create whatever you want"
From 5min meditation
Your eyeliner is on point today mama. My movie is a noir thriller, and I’m in all black everything with silver aviator shades and dark red lip. This is actually my every day style and I get lots of compliments in random places like gas stations or dance class. I have always lived as THE main character in my story and I guess it shows :)
I needed this one , it's just gave me the boost to start Being the main character of my life. Thank you Aileen. ❤
I watch ur videos when my mind gets messy
Very calming and pleasing and pretty and informative
Tysm
i’ve been a slump for the longest time ever now, school is draining even when i’m not paying attention. i’m constantly on my phone and even when i’m bored with what’s going on my phone, i’m still on it 24/7. my screen time is 10 hours daily which is really bad and i want to fix it but just can’t. i want to stop procrastinating, not paying attention in class, etc. i wanna be active in class, always have my camera on, make notes, talk more in debate but my anxiety stops me. i can’t breathe, i can’t see properly, my body starts shaking and i just can’t do it. thank you for this video, its definitely helping me out
Totally agree with you
And I loved the glasses and long dress, they look so lovely on you❤
i love love this video! couldnt agree more with every point you mentioned
im not crying, u r. tysm😭
Wow love the style of this video, nice mixing it up 🤩🥳
Ahh thank you.. I was feeling so low.. This really helped.. I love you..
I needed to see this video. Thank you for creating it
I love the thumbnail of this!!!!! obsessed with your videos and vibe!
Thank you! I feel so much better after watching this video! Helped me a lot!
I actually really enjoy your channel you have some good advice.
You are the awesome person who I could relate my life. Thanks. Positivity is guaranteed with Lavendaire.
love the different angles 🥰
Thanks so much for this. I've struggled with self love for the longest time and you are one of my inspirations. Your videos help me push through my everyday struggles with self love. I aspire to become like you someday,
PS: i love how your sponsored videos does not scream "i got paid to make this video". Every single video that you create, whether sponsored or not, are always so insightful.
Hi di
Your contents inspires me so much. Just so connected about your thoughts.