I go to a family member's house sometimes that's completely secluded, no TV, no internet, no cell signal unless you drive an hour to town. You'd think it'd be really boring, but I'm completely content just lying in the grass looking at the clouds, reading for hours and hours, hiking around. Nothing makes me happier than being there. But then when I come back, the moment I open my laptop, I feel noticeably more depressed. It's harder to look at the sky, I'm too distracted to read for too long. I feel like I should be doing "something" or I'm wasting time, but when I'm there, as long as I'm enjoying what I'm doing, it IS "something." If that makes sense. tldr the internet is a huge distraction.
Yeah, I gave up social media years ago. Made me uncomfortable. As for internet in general. I just love to learn things. It helps me to have an open mind and see other perspectives. I like happy things, so I focus on seeing the good. But too much screen time does overstimulate me. I get headaches and I can’t focus. It’s kinda like a drug. It gives you pleasure at first, and then hurts you later. Also you can’t stop watching it. Like being hypnotized. Hmm, maybe I should fast from this for awhile.
Of all things, this video is like an oxygen mask for my inner peace. My voice that's not me, that is the extension of "everyone," has been very mean to me lately. I really enjoy your perspective and what you have to say. I wouldn't mind if your videos were "just another voice in my head," because they align pretty well with me.
This dude’s videos are truly opening up my perspectives and helping me better articulate my patterns. I appreciate you so much for these kinds of videos. I feel like you’re my big brother
@@yousfiabdelali I understand what you saying there, I really appreciate way more his old videos, I miss them in his actual content, but at least his comedy content is in my sense of humor :) It could be soo nice, if from time to time he would put sth in "old style"
I agree, I have felt similar. You explained it very well. Even though it’s a rather serious thing I found myself laughing because I have never heard anyone actually say what was in my head. Thank you.
Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Isaiah 53:5-6 “But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to our own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all.” Romans 10:9-11 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in Him will never be put to shame.”
Dear Frank, I doubt that you'll ever see this comment but I wanted to thank you for expressing a complex concept in such gentle and compassionate terms. There was something so *direct* and open about you in this video and listening to you gave me a moment of peace and left me with a subtly altered perspective. You have a real gift for communicating your quietest and most potentially elusive thoughts in a compelling way. The best way I can describe it as a viewer, as sappy as it sounds, is that it felt like it came from your heart/mind (heart-mind?) in a very pure way. I definitely need to question my 'everybody' voices more effectively. I think I'm a reasonable guardian in terms of choosing who to listen to/what to give power to in terms of input, yet the voices that already exist within me can be harsh judges. I hope that you continue to hang on to your core peace and whatever form of enlightenment it is that you are pursuing. It's thrilling watching your channel take off but I sometimes wonder if the experience might be a little overwhelming. I hope that it is nothing but good for you. That was strangely therapeutic to write. It's a little like sending a message out to sea in a bottle given the deluge of comments rushing towards you each time you post a video. All best (and peaceful) wishes to you...
I've been thinking about this stuff as well, how constantly taking in other peoples' opinions and perspectives on different things can make you lose yourself. Thank you for making this, it gave some reason as to why I'm so fed up with social media Been watching your videos for about a week now and I've seriously become addicted. Relate to pretty much everything you say and for the first time in my life I don't feel like a complete alien So thanks again :)
This is one of your best videos! Truth from beginning to end. My family and friends cannot understand why I had to deactivate my FB and act insulted and take it to mean I am not interested in their lives. For my own mental health I cannot be on it because there is likely to be something I glance at in my feed that ruins my day. I have to be very careful on TH-cam also and only go to my "niche" people and avoid anyone else. Thank you for this video that validates my convoluted mind!
This video is NOT another voice in my head! Thanks a lot, and I agree with all you said about the internet (well, social media specifically). Everyday I am gladder that I left twitter.
Jesus, listening to you is just like hearing my own inner voices rambling about life but manifested in a physical person outside myself. Thank you for just showing that you exist and confirming that I'm not the only one with these kind of monologues!!
This is a very high quality content ! Everytime i watch these videos of yours where you just talk calmly & share your wisdom with us i end up feeling so much better, relieved, more at peace..thank you so much Frank because i feel completely understood here ! And i know i would never find this kind of valuable advice anywhere else
This is so lively, and I am actually amaized that you are aware of this " thoughts" in your head, and can see them, and discuss about it. And probbably learn something about it. Thanks for the encourigement.
I see a different perspective of life while I’m listening to you FJ. My unhealthy Fi (with Si loop) dominance finally gets balanced. 😿 Thank you so much for the content. INFx should be so very careful when using social media, learn how to not get affected (or maybe infected by the ideas all around) and be balanced in their own daily life. Down to earth routine I mean. 👍
Thanks Frank. It is strange, sometimes I open a video that is exactly what I need to hear. I’ve had some time off lately, and spent a lot of time on TH-cam and Instagram. The last couple of days, my mind has felt pretty clustered and unfocused. I think I underestimate how input from the Internet can make the brain spend extra of energy on processing information that is not relevant to the bigger goal that I am working towards and who I want to be. It might just slow me down. I think it’s important to be mindful of who you choose to listen to, and actively decide when and how much time you are going to spend online. This makes me even question how different my life would be if I didn’t spend time online, as I have grown up with social media. I see how it can cause mental stress, as you are constantly presented with how your life could be lived differently or how your world view could be different. Still, I think it’s important to keep an eye on what’s going on in the world, but maybe from reliant sources or specific people online you feel you can trust, that is not just doing it to feed their ego as you said, but who essentially is trying to make the world better, or open up to conversation. Sometimes it’s enough to navigate your own life. I see how people can get attached when they feel a disconnect from the people around them and some voices or communities online share their understanding of things. Now that I think about it that can actually make you more disconnected, or branch off to other directions in life than you normally would. It is actually a bit scary how the internet can influence you, if you take a step back and look at it. Maybe you have inspired me to log off social media for a while and spend my social energy to the people that matter in my life. This was just my reflections after watching your video. English is not my first language, so I apologise if it’s not written correctly, if you’ve even made it this far, which you probably have not.. haha. In case, I want to say thank you I really appreciate your content and reflections on things. It seems very thought through and honest like you don’t put it out there unless there is a reason behind it, I appreciate that. Lots of good energy from an ENFP out there.
I’m so glad you said this, because for the past few years I’ve really had the sense that the internet is evil. It also causes me to think for myself less. This made a lot of sense in a way that was practical instead of my own feeling-based conclusions that always confuse me .
I found a person who thinks like me, or very close to what I think, this is so rare... Agree FJ, we have to make decisions for ourselves, I've always had this inclination, some people call it stubbornness, whatever... I know that being misunderstood has always been and will be part of my trajectory, but I've learned that it's better to be misunderstood but congruent with myself ..
That's subjective. As an intp, I've never been offended by anything I've seen on the internet, i understand that whoever says something to me doesn't know me and i don't know them so there's nothing personal, and i understand that if i really did know them i would understand exactly why they wrote what they wrote, and i probably already understand them more or less, so i probably already undertand why they wrote what they wrote (more or less). Same logic can be applied irl, and bam, bullying isn't a thing anymore unless it's physical. I mean i guess it depends on how detached of a person you are. I see myself as a separate person from myself, or something like that, i wish i better knew how to put this image into words. It's like a videogame, that's a good analogy. Do you get offended or upset when an npc in the game insults the character you're controlling? Absolutely not, that'd be a silly waste of energy.
@@xynx1211 I'm INTP too but I just don't agree that words are just words and they don't have the power to hurt people. I had that told to me as a kid, the sticks and stones saying, and I never believed it.
@@xynx1211 i see where you're coming from but you are assuming one real big thing: *that the **_only_** way words can affect you is when you get offended by them.* Did you understand what i mean? I hope so. I can be very abstract sometimes. Let me elaborate. When you read or hear something, it doesn't have to be offending to have an impact on you. It can just flip your perspective. Or add to your opinion. Or make you consider things that you usually wouldn't. Moreover, everything seems more real, it has more... weight when its written. Point is, it changes the wiring in your brain lol. A new bit of info. _Even if that info is about a random opinion._ It still is info and still in your head, isn't it? Now, add to that the fact that most of that info is contradictory, which is understandable because it literally comes from different minds, and you get a whole load of unconscious opinions floating around in your head telling you the general judgement. Who wouldn't be confused? Especially if you are a person who values authenticity and identity so much like INFJ or INFP. I know you can't relate. But i hope u understand.
I write on the internet and I try to model positivity and growth or at least the quest for positivity and growth - even in difficult times. I’m not anonymous anymore because it’s important to own up to what I’m putting out there. I try to be a light on the internet. I think you’re a light, too. 🕯
I'm so thankful I found you on the internet. I stumbled upon some of your mbti videos and when I found out you make ones such as this as well, I was in a flash dragged in a distress of being intrigued by your ideas. Often, I wish I could talk to you about these thoughts. Sometimes, in the next life, maybe. I can't get enough of your words. Thank you for your content.
Admirable message/ episode. Thanks. Internet can be a key to personal freedom or own misery, for sure. I have never experienced the “voices” tho. My self judgment works a bit differently and is based on questioning what is right for me and my environment, and what doesn’t matter much ( which can be also enjoyable- like commenting here right now). I like internet because it serves me as a tool. My overly self aware nature makes me question everything on internet and I constantly seek for my own truth, but I’m not adapting to something that is copied and replicated blindly, but really diving deep on everything and deciding what truly fits me, or makes sense, even if it’s not easy/ hard to hear, and questioning my previous beliefs in some way. But then, when I find that something is universally true, and worth sharing, but challenging at the same time, something I truly believe in- then I might just share it in a blunt and not so sugarcoated way, and some people perceive it as a harsh judgment or a strong opinion. In some places hints are just useless, and are interpreted the wrong way, so now I’m blunt. But I am a highly sensitive person, and I used to be overly concerned with accidentally attacking some people with weaker skin, but the older I am the less I’m tiptoeing especially around those who need a dose of reality check. Lol (myself included) 😅 Social media is fun but I think how people use it is more important. I’m no one to judge others, but personally yt and ig are the only social media that make sense to me regarding self expression or photo or video emotion thought journaling. (Sharing thoughts, values, views on life, experiences and even opinions, -unlike 1000selfies- is heathy- and doesn’t have to be wrapped around ego boost, or an instant gratification. Self expression is necessary for many individuals especially artists and those who want to make a difference in the world.) But I’d never go on reddit or fb or anywhere on a strange person’s account to argue, so pointless. But commenting on videos of yours is kinda like journaling / chatting session or something like that. The community comments are cute and hilarious, often relatable. A relaxing peaceful stressless zone. Nice creation. 👍🏼
Sometimes those illusions become so real that it can be paralyzing to my interaction with others online. I'm in a certain forum and I thought I was vibing with this other girl in the group chat and then all of a sudden she got distant. It weirded me out and now I feel like I'm over thinking it. Too much time has passed without any interaction between us and I feel so awkward about it. Ugggghhh.. I just want to be able to make friends/be friendly, without things getting weird, ya know?.. I think I might just be too sensitive for online hangouts..🤷
I find your videos interesting and enjoyable, your comedy hilarious. I appreciate your intelligence and thoughtful nature. Written from a place of enough authority: Life is a gift. Also, I don’t have an internal monologue/voices, so I can’t relate 😆. I used to think that reference to internal monologue/dialogue was metaphorical (on tv and such) until the whole internal monologue discussion blew up, and I realized people are actually talking to themselves.
i had to listen to this vid again because nearly 2 years down the track it's of course still up to date................. i have done a lot of "cleansing out " what i used to watch............... as soon as the video makes me feel uncomfortable i stop it so now it has been reduced to a small amount of people and of course i don't go on social medias ........................there is life out there !!! Thanks
Facebook is a bummer, big time. It's like I gathered together all the people I cared about in life to emotionally jump me out of their gang. ;) Good times, lol. Some things I like online are: Chris Martenson of Peak Prosperity, Nathan Fisher of Nate's Vlogs, Dan of Plant Abundance, James Prigioni (coming to you live from Jersey!) of The Gardening Channel. Pinterest hasn't damaged me emotionally yet. I also like etsy. My INFP son says most of the really mean comments online are bots, which helps put them in perspective for your head voices. A drop of DoTerra frankincense oil on the roof of the mouth seems to help when I'm beating myself up. Also, bach flower remedies.
I left twitter 2 years ago because I couldn’t tell which opinion is mine , I got overwhelmed by all the voices on there I used to get extremely anxious whenever a controversial topic or a political event happen
Frank, you are very comforting as well as wise. This video came from a deep well inside you that tells a universal truth. These platforms can be extremely addictive and often take precious time away from the stillness we need to listen to that quiet voice that refuses to compete with television or music or anything else. It demands us to be aware of an internal dialogue that comes from our very unique spirit. It never yells, SHUT UP! Even when that's exactly what we need to do. Stay secure on your path even though it will twist and turn. You are your own best friend and there are sign posts along the way to keep you learning, growing and thankfully sharing. You can be an accountant or a musician or a taxidermist...well not the last one. But, those are jobs. Your gifts of speech and I want to say, the way you talk out loud almost as if you're listening for the ring of truth even in your own words. You are awfully young to have learned so many truths of human nature. Thank you for your precious time and effort you use in order to share yourself rather bravely with us. You are good and loved and I can almost see you in a cozy chair sharing your hard-learned lessons with your grandson some day. Sincerely. CJ
Finally a voice that sounds like my voice.... Jk, but props to you understand all this FJ. For a long time I didn't know that there is alot (well maybe not alot, but enough) of other people who realize to much of other peoples opinions is toxic, and distracts you from understanding what makes logical sence to you. There is hope for humanity!🙏😋 I just keep telling myself the dopamine rush is worth the confusion later.😅
Please do a video on Facebook and social media. I've recently completely quit social media. I believe it disconnects people more than anything now. It feeds negativity and makes me despise people I otherwise wouldn't.
JohnnyLaw0516 I think as it evolves, social media will just be a “thing”, like tv. It will become less important as people start to wake up and tire of it.
My sons are INFJ and INFP. I’m INFJ as well. I’m sharing this with them. They watch/read some pretty radical materials. This is helpful. Thank you!!! 🙋🏼♀️
The key is balance with limitation. Some individuals are looking for instant gratification through Social Media, which can be very detrimental or confusing. We must learn to develop or acquire self-control or self-discipline. Monitor your time wisely, be mindful of what you watch or listen too. Make an effort to talk to real people from time to time; because we are social beings and need that interaction.
No matter how awful the internet is, the most awful thing still is Instagram (or social media in general). Btw what you just said about reading being worse than casually overhearing something proves that written words are more powerful than said words.
Thanks Franks! I’m addicted to these videos. I tested as an INFJ and I can identity with you. I’m a little skeptical of the tests because how can everyone fit into these 13 little boxes. But I think it could be a good tool for self acceptance. Everything is good! :)
This is actually a really big deal. As INFJs, we tend to be obsessive research junkies and the internet can be our crack or our medicine. It requires a tremendous amount of self discipline which also can get us in trouble.
What can I say to someone who overthinks everything, have zero presence on earth, hate humanity, social structure, government, mass media, cultures, basically the world? Someone who doesn't have the motivation, his vitality is drained, his life feels pointless and worthless?
I'll try not to overdo the commas, lol. I'm quite lucky if I have negative thoughts before they start to spiral out of control, I hear a reasonably loud "Rebecca" which makes me stop. I agree, there are a lot of things from my childhood still rattling around in my head. I am not as thick skinned as I would like to be.....
I am thinning down my focus in this area because I have run into some gargoyles etc this week and I’m better off not knowing they exist at all. I already have stacks of books to read etc. Shady reality no thank you. 👍🏼
I don’t do FB OT TWITTER ONLY YT. I’m addicted to politics since 911. But ur right I get overwhelmed and more depressed. I have to set limits how much I take in. Thx for reminding me Frank.
I could agree more. For years I kept deactivating my accounts because they would get me so angry or down. I couldn’t believe the ugliness inside people’s souls. It greatly depressed me. Finally, I permanently deleted fb. I feel better.
You might not ever meet a flat-earther in real life. But you can go on the internet and find so many people that believe it. It makes it seem legitimate.
You should be a Dalai Lama...☺ That was beautiful. I especially love this sentence: It is easy on the internet to overindulge and overwhelm yourself and to drown out the authentic voice of you... I never had a Facebook account but I am older...I am worried about my daughter and the whole generation glued to their devices...
So well stated ... your words ring so true. Thank you for your videos ... I am so grateful to have found you ... as I am 54 and (not very tech savvy) and new on TH-cam. Without your social media advice ... I would probably have gone crazy looking up different people on TH-cam 😍... as I am an INFJ 🙃. On another note 🎹 ... You are truly on a strong path of awakening ... have you been told whether you are a mature or old soul ?... and .... it is no coincidence that I found your channel ... or did your channel find me? 😎. P.S. You humor is contagious ... whether you are feeling up or feeling down ... your videos are somehow very comforting.....I know I am stating the obvious ... but we “special unicorns” so often fly solo ... which at times can feel so lonely. You need to hear that your videos ... help me remember that humanity is truly connected ... and that there are others out there who think and act like me. I consider myself to be a light worker ... the energy you send out ... really helps charge my introverted batteries. Thank you. ♥️ mary lee
I don't have a FB account. Only the last two years I got an Instagram and Twitter accounts. They are just fan accounts. They mainly promote awareness of the injustice this one artist is facing. Other than that, I don't have social media accounts. I feel that they are toxic to my self esteem.
I have had to be very careful and have noticed a good change in my internet behaviour- pick up their feelings to easy and have to back off certain sites- bad habit of telling my truth and get called a “ proper troll” and that’s not accurate- my emotions get influenced and it’s not my thoughts- and it can be a downer! I can get a way too self critical + it’s not my thought but theirs! To counter this I must stop and read uplifting stuff to get out of their egos!
Well said. Running into clashes and instigators in Facebook Special Interest Groups or Twitter occasionally, try to block them and not look for disagreement otherwise get triggered and hurts for hours or whole day.
I gave up social media and news sites years ago, and I've never felt the lack. Quite the contrary, it makes for interesting conversations when people realize how much I know about books and science, but how little I know about current events, lol.
Also an HSP, ANY type of news/pics/story re: animal abuse & neglect can put me down for rest of the day, just an article heading! Add politics, racism, shootings & general hate everywhere, hard to think positive of our world. SO I'm out! Well YT isn't too bad as long as I'm careful 😁 It lead me here where my ppl are & love your messages Mr James!
Eckhart Tolle-The Journey Into Now. I found this video very good for stopping the mind's constant thinking and most of it not good. Brings on an inner peace, Eckhart's quite deep, so don't expect to learn and completely understand all he says in a short time, but I find him good for troubled times in my life.
Listening to you is a niche for me or one of them anyway. I have ADHD also and I’ve read that Add ppl are a perfect match for Internet. They say our brains work and Exactly like the internet. I’m a blogger also and I love it because I also love to write after I do the research. But AGAIN I have to be cautious because I get too much into it. Bottom line though Frank what you’re saying is true also. I give it too much importance and yes I get overwhelmed. It doesn’t matter to me if I’m right or not about something I just have to be researched which is a must.
At least it's a nice, calm voice. 🙂 Not only the written word, but the tone of the spoken word can be debilitating. Here's one... an ESTP just told me to be truly liberated l should be able to go out and listen to anyone and not be affected. Whatever.....
The internet and smartphones are and were intentionally created for extremely busy people. This is how come the military had an intranet in place long before the internet was introduced to us in '95. What we seem to be struggling with now is being busy online. Everyone is doing it. I imagine no one wants to be left out. We're social creatures baby! Where do go from here? The interwebs...websssszzz🐅💭🤳🕸
I hate that because I can't help it. I usually have songs that I love to listen and I just adore everything about them and then I see an article that wrote many things that they hate about the song and so many people are agreeing with the article and then I start to doubt myself. I really like the part about the voices because I never looked at them from that perspective. Usually when I let pain and depression overtake my mind I shut out every but I always forget to shut out the voices.
How can I live my life better by using the Internet? By bing watching your videos. Seriously good stuff that I needed in this time of my life. Thank you, Frank! ♥
Binge! BingE! Rats. It would haunt me for years if I didn't come back and say that I know, I really DO know how to spell that word. Dammit. *checking every single word a gazillion times to make sure I didn't make another one* **decides to not give rat's arrrrs** ***sort of***
You can find meditation videos on line....fish tank videos...talk to friends or family on FB....but keep away from the news, and put a cap on how much time you spend on line. You can read real literature on-line...I think caping the time you spend online will help. People are just poop-heads.
People tend to expose their fear easily on the internet because they are comfortable with it. It is safer for them. We feel it more intensely and directly without processing it.
Wait wait. I like my unnecessary commas and no period at the end of my overly funny sentences. I like being a punctuation minor irritant to better people than me.
I go to a family member's house sometimes that's completely secluded, no TV, no internet, no cell signal unless you drive an hour to town. You'd think it'd be really boring, but I'm completely content just lying in the grass looking at the clouds, reading for hours and hours, hiking around. Nothing makes me happier than being there. But then when I come back, the moment I open my laptop, I feel noticeably more depressed. It's harder to look at the sky, I'm too distracted to read for too long. I feel like I should be doing "something" or I'm wasting time, but when I'm there, as long as I'm enjoying what I'm doing, it IS "something." If that makes sense.
tldr the internet is a huge distraction.
So true. I love how organic I feel without internet and enjoy doing what I love
Yeah, I gave up social media years ago. Made me uncomfortable. As for internet in general. I just love to learn things. It helps me to have an open mind and see other perspectives. I like happy things, so I focus on seeing the good. But too much screen time does overstimulate me. I get headaches and I can’t focus. It’s kinda like a drug. It gives you pleasure at first, and then hurts you later. Also you can’t stop watching it. Like being hypnotized. Hmm, maybe I should fast from this for awhile.
Of all things, this video is like an oxygen mask for my inner peace. My voice that's not me, that is the extension of "everyone," has been very mean to me lately. I really enjoy your perspective and what you have to say.
I wouldn't mind if your videos were "just another voice in my head," because they align pretty well with me.
I do hope that you know that your videos are helpful. You are making a difference in some people's lives.
This dude’s videos are truly opening up my perspectives and helping me better articulate my patterns. I appreciate you so much for these kinds of videos. I feel like you’re my big brother
Same. I don't get the new him I guess he's going for a more outward and shiny persona but his old videos are really really good
I don't mean to sound degrading or anything though I support whatever he's going for
@@yousfiabdelali I understand what you saying there, I really appreciate way more his old videos, I miss them in his actual content, but at least his comedy content is in my sense of humor :) It could be soo nice, if from time to time he would put sth in "old style"
I agree, I have felt similar. You explained it very well. Even though it’s a rather serious thing I found myself laughing because I have never heard anyone actually say what was in my head. Thank you.
From a fellow INFJ, I just wanted to say that you are wonderful & I hope you know how loved you are by God. :)
Yeah, I already know
Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
Isaiah 53:5-6 “But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to our own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all.”
Romans 10:9-11 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in Him will never be put to shame.”
Dear Frank,
I doubt that you'll ever see this comment but I wanted to thank you for expressing a complex concept in such gentle and compassionate terms. There was something so *direct* and open about you in this video and listening to you gave me a moment of peace and left me with a subtly altered perspective. You have a real gift for communicating your quietest and most potentially elusive thoughts in a compelling way. The best way I can describe it as a viewer, as sappy as it sounds, is that it felt like it came from your heart/mind (heart-mind?) in a very pure way.
I definitely need to question my 'everybody' voices more effectively. I think I'm a reasonable guardian in terms of choosing who to listen to/what to give power to in terms of input, yet the voices that already exist within me can be harsh judges.
I hope that you continue to hang on to your core peace and whatever form of enlightenment it is that you are pursuing. It's thrilling watching your channel take off but I sometimes wonder if the experience might be a little overwhelming. I hope that it is nothing but good for you.
That was strangely therapeutic to write. It's a little like sending a message out to sea in a bottle given the deluge of comments rushing towards you each time you post a video.
All best (and peaceful) wishes to you...
I've been thinking about this stuff as well, how constantly taking in other peoples' opinions and perspectives on different things can make you lose yourself. Thank you for making this, it gave some reason as to why I'm so fed up with social media
Been watching your videos for about a week now and I've seriously become addicted. Relate to pretty much everything you say and for the first time in my life I don't feel like a complete alien
So thanks again :)
I love his old content, he seems so pure
It’s hurts when you have hobbies that take place on the Internet where all the other garbage is.
This is absolutely true. You make a good point. I've seriously considered "logging off" for a while lately. And at the very least limit the frequency.
I would buy any book you publish/pay to attend a seminar you give. Soooo relatable.
This is one of your best videos! Truth from beginning to end. My family and friends cannot understand why I had to deactivate my FB and act insulted and take it to mean I am not interested in their lives. For my own mental health I cannot be on it because there is likely to be something I glance at in my feed that ruins my day. I have to be very careful on TH-cam also and only go to my "niche" people and avoid anyone else. Thank you for this video that validates my convoluted mind!
This video is NOT another voice in my head!
Thanks a lot, and I agree with all you said about the internet (well, social media specifically).
Everyday I am gladder that I left twitter.
Just by the title I liked before watching! 👍🏼 100% agree sometimes I wish I didn’t even have to have a phone.
Jesus, listening to you is just like hearing my own inner voices rambling about life but manifested in a physical person outside myself. Thank you for just showing that you exist and confirming that I'm not the only one with these kind of monologues!!
Thank you james your videos help me amplify the voice, "amplify" it not "find" it and im grateful!
Needed to hear these things today (and every day). Thank you.
This is a very high quality content ! Everytime i watch these videos of yours where you just talk calmly & share your wisdom with us i end up feeling so much better, relieved, more at peace..thank you so much Frank because i feel completely understood here ! And i know i would never find this kind of valuable advice anywhere else
This is so lively, and I am actually amaized that you are aware of this " thoughts" in your head, and can see them, and discuss about it. And probbably learn something about it.
Thanks for the encourigement.
I see a different perspective of life while I’m listening to you FJ. My unhealthy Fi (with Si loop) dominance finally gets balanced. 😿 Thank you so much for the content. INFx should be so very careful when using social media, learn how to not get affected (or maybe infected by the ideas all around) and be balanced in their own daily life. Down to earth routine I mean. 👍
Thanks Frank.
It is strange, sometimes I open a video that is exactly what I need to hear. I’ve had some time off lately, and spent a lot of time on TH-cam and Instagram. The last couple of days, my mind has felt pretty clustered and unfocused. I think I underestimate how input from the Internet can make the brain spend extra of energy on processing information that is not relevant to the bigger goal that I am working towards and who I want to be. It might just slow me down.
I think it’s important to be mindful of who you choose to listen to, and actively decide when and how much time you are going to spend online. This makes me even question how different my life would be if I didn’t spend time online, as I have grown up with social media. I see how it can cause mental stress, as you are constantly presented with how your life could be lived differently or how your world view could be different. Still, I think it’s important to keep an eye on what’s going on in the world, but maybe from reliant sources or specific people online you feel you can trust, that is not just doing it to feed their ego as you said, but who essentially is trying to make the world better, or open up to conversation. Sometimes it’s enough to navigate your own life. I see how people can get attached when they feel a disconnect from the people around them and some voices or communities online share their understanding of things. Now that I think about it that can actually make you more disconnected, or branch off to other directions in life than you normally would. It is actually a bit scary how the internet can influence you, if you take a step back and look at it. Maybe you have inspired me to log off social media for a while and spend my social energy to the people that matter in my life. This was just my reflections after watching your video.
English is not my first language, so I apologise if it’s not written correctly, if you’ve even made it this far, which you probably have not.. haha. In case, I want to say thank you I really appreciate your content and reflections on things. It seems very thought through and honest like you don’t put it out there unless there is a reason behind it, I appreciate that.
Lots of good energy from an ENFP out there.
I’m so glad you said this, because for the past few years I’ve really had the sense that the internet is evil. It also causes me to think for myself less. This made a lot of sense in a way that was practical instead of my own feeling-based conclusions that always confuse me .
I found a person who thinks like me, or very close to what I think, this is so rare...
Agree FJ, we have to make decisions for ourselves, I've always had this inclination, some people call it stubbornness, whatever... I know that being misunderstood has always been and will be part of my trajectory, but I've learned that it's better to be misunderstood but congruent with myself ..
so true, every time someone says, "i know it's just words, but.." I want to yell "There's no such thing as *just words*!!"
That's subjective. As an intp, I've never been offended by anything I've seen on the internet, i understand that whoever says something to me doesn't know me and i don't know them so there's nothing personal, and i understand that if i really did know them i would understand exactly why they wrote what they wrote, and i probably already understand them more or less, so i probably already undertand why they wrote what they wrote (more or less).
Same logic can be applied irl, and bam, bullying isn't a thing anymore unless it's physical. I mean i guess it depends on how detached of a person you are. I see myself as a separate person from myself, or something like that, i wish i better knew how to put this image into words. It's like a videogame, that's a good analogy. Do you get offended or upset when an npc in the game insults the character you're controlling? Absolutely not, that'd be a silly waste of energy.
xynx speak for yourself. NPCs can absolutely upset me in a video game.
@@xynx1211 I'm INTP too but I just don't agree that words are just words and they don't have the power to hurt people. I had that told to me as a kid, the sticks and stones saying, and I never believed it.
@@xynx1211 i see where you're coming from but you are assuming one real big thing: *that the **_only_** way words can affect you is when you get offended by them.* Did you understand what i mean? I hope so. I can be very abstract sometimes.
Let me elaborate. When you read or hear something, it doesn't have to be offending to have an impact on you. It can just flip your perspective. Or add to your opinion. Or make you consider things that you usually wouldn't. Moreover, everything seems more real, it has more... weight when its written. Point is, it changes the wiring in your brain lol. A new bit of info. _Even if that info is about a random opinion._ It still is info and still in your head, isn't it? Now, add to that the fact that most of that info is contradictory, which is understandable because it literally comes from different minds, and you get a whole load of unconscious opinions floating around in your head telling you the general judgement. Who wouldn't be confused? Especially if you are a person who values authenticity and identity so much like INFJ or INFP. I know you can't relate. But i hope u understand.
I write on the internet and I try to model positivity and growth or at least the quest for positivity and growth - even in difficult times. I’m not anonymous anymore because it’s important to own up to what I’m putting out there. I try to be a light on the internet. I think you’re a light, too. 🕯
I'm so thankful I found you on the internet. I stumbled upon some of your mbti videos and when I found out you make ones such as this as well, I was in a flash dragged in a distress of being intrigued by your ideas. Often, I wish I could talk to you about these thoughts. Sometimes, in the next life, maybe.
I can't get enough of your words.
Thank you for your content.
Admirable message/ episode.
Thanks.
Internet can be a key to personal freedom or own misery, for sure.
I have never experienced the “voices” tho. My self judgment works a bit differently and is based on questioning what is right for me and my environment, and what doesn’t matter much ( which can be also enjoyable- like commenting here right now). I like internet because it serves me as a tool. My overly self aware nature makes me question everything on internet and I constantly seek for my own truth, but I’m not adapting to something that is copied and replicated blindly, but really diving deep on everything and deciding what truly fits me, or makes sense, even if it’s not easy/ hard to hear, and questioning my previous beliefs in some way.
But then, when I find that something is universally true, and worth sharing, but challenging at the same time,
something I truly believe in- then I might just share it in a blunt and not so sugarcoated way, and some people perceive it as a harsh judgment or a strong opinion. In some places hints are just useless, and are interpreted the wrong way, so now I’m blunt.
But I am a highly sensitive person, and I used to be overly concerned with accidentally attacking some people with weaker skin, but the older I am the less I’m tiptoeing especially around those who need a dose of reality check. Lol (myself included) 😅
Social media is fun but I think how people use it is more important.
I’m no one to judge others, but personally yt and ig are the only social media that make sense to me regarding self expression or photo or video emotion thought journaling.
(Sharing thoughts, values, views on life, experiences and even opinions, -unlike 1000selfies- is heathy- and doesn’t have to be wrapped around ego boost, or an instant gratification. Self expression is necessary for many individuals especially artists and those who want to make a difference in the world.)
But I’d never go on reddit or fb or anywhere on a strange person’s account to argue, so pointless.
But commenting on videos of yours is kinda like journaling / chatting session or something like that.
The community comments are cute and hilarious, often relatable. A relaxing peaceful stressless zone.
Nice creation. 👍🏼
You are very Charismatic, don't know if you know that. Deactivated FB months ago, don't regret it.
Sometimes those illusions become so real that it can be paralyzing to my interaction with others online. I'm in a certain forum and I thought I was vibing with this other girl in the group chat and then all of a sudden she got distant. It weirded me out and now I feel like I'm over thinking it. Too much time has passed without any interaction between us and I feel so awkward about it. Ugggghhh.. I just want to be able to make friends/be friendly, without things getting weird, ya know?.. I think I might just be too sensitive for online hangouts..🤷
Thanks for your message ☺️ I always felt this but never understood it until this video
I find your videos interesting and enjoyable, your comedy hilarious. I appreciate your intelligence and thoughtful nature.
Written from a place of enough authority: Life is a gift.
Also, I don’t have an internal monologue/voices, so I can’t relate 😆. I used to think that reference to internal monologue/dialogue was metaphorical (on tv and such) until the whole internal monologue discussion blew up, and I realized people are actually talking to themselves.
i had to listen to this vid again because nearly 2 years down the track it's of course still up to date................. i have done a lot of "cleansing out " what i used to watch............... as soon as the video makes me feel uncomfortable i stop it so now it has been reduced to a small amount of people and of course i don't go on social medias ........................there is life out there !!! Thanks
Thank you for making videos, Frank. You're such a positive light in my day to day life. I'm wishing you warmth and positivity :-)
Facebook is a bummer, big time. It's like I gathered together all the people I cared about in life to emotionally jump me out of their gang. ;) Good times, lol. Some things I like online are: Chris Martenson of Peak Prosperity, Nathan Fisher of Nate's Vlogs, Dan of Plant Abundance, James Prigioni (coming to you live from Jersey!) of The Gardening Channel. Pinterest hasn't damaged me emotionally yet. I also like etsy. My INFP son says most of the really mean comments online are bots, which helps put them in perspective for your head voices. A drop of DoTerra frankincense oil on the roof of the mouth seems to help when I'm beating myself up. Also, bach flower remedies.
I left twitter 2 years ago because I couldn’t tell which opinion is mine , I got overwhelmed by all the voices on there I used to get extremely anxious whenever a controversial topic or a political event happen
I am so distracted by how beautiful your eyes are....darn it! I really think you sharing good information, but....darn it!
Frank, you are very comforting as well as wise. This video came from a deep well inside you that tells a universal truth. These platforms can be extremely addictive and often take precious time away from the stillness we need to listen to that quiet voice that refuses to compete with television or music or anything else. It demands us to be aware of an internal dialogue that comes from our very unique spirit. It never yells, SHUT UP! Even when that's exactly what we need to do. Stay secure on your path even though it will twist and turn. You are your own best friend and there are sign posts along the way to keep you learning, growing and thankfully sharing. You can be an accountant or a musician or a taxidermist...well not the last one. But, those are jobs. Your gifts of speech and I want to say, the way you talk out loud almost as if you're listening for the ring of truth even in your own words. You are awfully young to have learned so many truths of human nature. Thank you for your precious time and effort you use in order to share yourself rather bravely with us. You are good and loved and I can almost see you in a cozy chair sharing your hard-learned lessons with your grandson some day. Sincerely. CJ
Finally a voice that sounds like my voice.... Jk, but props to you understand all this FJ. For a long time I didn't know that there is alot (well maybe not alot, but enough) of other people who realize to much of other peoples opinions is toxic, and distracts you from understanding what makes logical sence to you. There is hope for humanity!🙏😋
I just keep telling myself the dopamine rush is worth the confusion later.😅
Please do a video on Facebook and social media. I've recently completely quit social media. I believe it disconnects people more than anything now. It feeds negativity and makes me despise people I otherwise wouldn't.
JohnnyLaw0516 I think as it evolves, social media will just be a “thing”, like tv. It will become less important as people start to wake up and tire of it.
❤❤❤i love YOU man and this makes sense.❤❤❤
My sons are INFJ and INFP. I’m INFJ as well. I’m sharing this with them. They watch/read some pretty radical materials. This is helpful. Thank you!!! 🙋🏼♀️
Can you do this stuff more, please? cause when im watching your videos.u felt me like im not alone .and im an infj too:,)
The key is balance with limitation. Some individuals are looking for instant gratification through Social Media, which can be very detrimental or confusing. We must learn to develop or acquire self-control or self-discipline. Monitor your time wisely, be mindful of what you watch or listen too. Make an effort to talk to real people from time to time; because we are social beings and need that interaction.
No matter how awful the internet is, the most awful thing still is Instagram (or social media in general). Btw what you just said about reading being worse than casually overhearing something proves that written words are more powerful than said words.
Thanks Franks! I’m addicted to these videos. I tested as an INFJ and I can identity with you. I’m a little skeptical of the tests because how can everyone fit into these 13 little boxes. But I think it could be a good tool for self acceptance. Everything is good! :)
Bizarrement, TH-cam me fait moins cet effet que les autres réseaux sociaux.
Comme s'il m'était plus facile d'ignorer les commentaires ici.
This is actually a really big deal. As INFJs, we tend to be obsessive research junkies and the internet can be our crack or our medicine. It requires a tremendous amount of self discipline which also can get us in trouble.
말씀 하시는 방식이나 표정이 마치 보들보들한 비눗방울로 마음을 부드럽게 누르는 것 같아요ㅋㅋㅋ짱 좋아
What can I say to someone who overthinks everything, have zero presence on earth, hate humanity, social structure, government, mass media, cultures, basically the world? Someone who doesn't have the motivation, his vitality is drained, his life feels pointless and worthless?
That sounds a lot like Te. Flexible thoughts on the surface.
You’ll need some Fi to go with that.
Thank you
This is a great video. Thanks
I'll try not to overdo the commas, lol. I'm quite lucky if I have negative thoughts before they start to spiral out of control, I hear a reasonably loud "Rebecca" which makes me stop.
I agree, there are a lot of things from my childhood still rattling around in my head. I am not as thick skinned as I would like to be.....
I am thinning down my focus in this area because I have run into some gargoyles etc this week and I’m better off not knowing they exist at all. I already have stacks of books to read etc. Shady reality no thank you. 👍🏼
I don’t do FB OT TWITTER ONLY YT. I’m addicted to politics since 911. But ur right I get overwhelmed and more depressed. I have to set limits how much I take in. Thx for reminding me Frank.
I could agree more. For years I kept deactivating my accounts because they would get me so angry or down. I couldn’t believe the ugliness inside people’s souls. It greatly depressed me. Finally, I permanently deleted fb. I feel better.
So so true. I am planning to quit it. 😣
This is also gold.
You might not ever meet a flat-earther in real life. But you can go on the internet and find so many people that believe it. It makes it seem legitimate.
You should be a Dalai Lama...☺
That was beautiful. I especially love this sentence: It is easy on the internet to overindulge and overwhelm yourself and to drown out the authentic voice of you...
I never had a Facebook account but I am older...I am worried about my daughter and the whole generation glued to their devices...
Twitter is ego centric + must be careful! FB no more! Instagram no more ! Tumblr - fun at times!
So well stated ... your words ring so true. Thank you for your videos ... I am so grateful to have found you ... as I am 54 and (not very tech savvy) and new on TH-cam. Without your social media advice ... I would probably have gone crazy looking up different people on TH-cam 😍... as I am an INFJ 🙃. On another note 🎹 ... You are truly on a strong path of awakening ... have you been told whether you are a mature or old soul ?... and .... it is no coincidence that I found your channel ... or did your channel find me? 😎. P.S. You humor is contagious ... whether you are feeling up or feeling down ... your videos are somehow very comforting.....I know I am stating the obvious ... but we “special unicorns” so often fly solo ... which at times can feel so lonely. You need to hear that your videos ... help me remember that humanity is truly connected ... and that there are others out there who think and act like me. I consider myself to be a light worker ... the energy you send out ... really helps charge my introverted batteries. Thank you. ♥️ mary lee
However, the internet can be great for INFJs to meet each other in communities and support groups.
HEY FJ, have u ever listened to alan watts? he gave me so much insight as an infj i feel most infjs would benefit from his lectures.
Love Alan Watts, and Terence McKenna
I don't have a FB account. Only the last two years I got an Instagram and Twitter accounts. They are just fan accounts. They mainly promote awareness of the injustice this one artist is facing. Other than that, I don't have social media accounts. I feel that they are toxic to my self esteem.
I have had to be very careful and have noticed a good change in my internet behaviour- pick up their feelings to easy and have to back off certain sites- bad habit of telling my truth and get called a “ proper troll” and that’s not accurate- my emotions get influenced and it’s not my thoughts- and it can be a downer! I can get a way too self critical + it’s not my thought but theirs! To counter this I must stop and read uplifting stuff to get out of their egos!
Well said. Running into clashes and instigators in Facebook Special Interest Groups or Twitter occasionally, try to block them and not look for disagreement otherwise get triggered and hurts for hours or whole day.
So happy I found your chanel, you speak out the words and thoughts I feelt all my life, that means I not as F up as My voices told me 😜
I gave up social media and news sites years ago, and I've never felt the lack. Quite the contrary, it makes for interesting conversations when people realize how much I know about books and science, but how little I know about current events, lol.
Also an HSP, ANY type of news/pics/story re: animal abuse & neglect can put me down for rest of the day, just an article heading! Add politics, racism, shootings & general hate everywhere, hard to think positive of our world. SO I'm out! Well YT isn't too bad as long as I'm careful 😁 It lead me here where my ppl are & love your messages Mr James!
So true.
So true..about the written word..
Me who watching this, with my mobile data/internet on:
Eckhart Tolle-The Journey Into Now. I found this video very good for stopping the mind's constant thinking and most of it not good.
Brings on an inner peace, Eckhart's quite deep, so don't expect to learn and completely understand all he says in a short time, but I find him good for troubled times in my life.
Excellent idea!
Do it
Listening to you is a niche for me or one of them anyway. I have ADHD also and I’ve read that Add ppl are a perfect match for Internet. They say our brains work and Exactly like the internet. I’m a blogger also and I love it because I also love to write after I do the research. But AGAIN I have to be cautious because I get too much into it. Bottom line though Frank what you’re saying is true also. I give it too much importance and yes I get overwhelmed. It doesn’t matter to me if I’m right or not about something I just have to be researched which is a must.
At least it's a nice, calm voice. 🙂
Not only the written word, but the tone of the spoken word can be debilitating.
Here's one... an ESTP just told me to be truly liberated l should be able to go out and listen to anyone and not be affected. Whatever.....
That's what makes intuitive types to sort out the rubbish and find the gems....
Helpful! Thanks!
I love you Frank James
Your past you, present you, and future you
10/4!
please don't delete your old videos.
Hi, have you heard oh Dolores cannon?
C'mon, more, dammit. Jeez. Holy sh*t. Let's see if you bastards can do ninety.
It already did hahaha. I am so done with social media
The internet and smartphones are and were intentionally created for extremely busy people. This is how come the military had an intranet in place long before the internet was introduced to us in '95.
What we seem to be struggling with now is being busy online. Everyone is doing it. I imagine no one wants to be left out. We're social creatures baby! Where do go from here? The interwebs...websssszzz🐅💭🤳🕸
I hate that because I can't help it. I usually have songs that I love to listen and I just adore everything about them and then I see an article that wrote many things that they hate about the song and so many people are agreeing with the article and then I start to doubt myself.
I really like the part about the voices because I never looked at them from that perspective. Usually when I let pain and depression overtake my mind I shut out every but I always forget to shut out the voices.
Get your coat Frank we're off to the pub!
How can I live my life better by using the Internet? By bing watching your videos. Seriously good stuff that I needed in this time of my life. Thank you, Frank! ♥
Binge! BingE! Rats. It would haunt me for years if I didn't come back and say that I know, I really DO know how to spell that word. Dammit.
*checking every single word a gazillion times to make sure I didn't make another one*
**decides to not give rat's arrrrs**
***sort of***
a-ha! so that's what happens when using only one *
Live and learn.
🙏🏼🌹🙏🏽
Agreed. Good read: Alphaber Versus The Goddess by Leonard Schlain.
I am off FB - love short term twitter and TH-cam- off all else!
You can find meditation videos on line....fish tank videos...talk to friends or family on FB....but keep away from the news, and put a cap on how much time you spend on line. You can read real literature on-line...I think caping the time you spend online will help. People are just poop-heads.
Your right about Reddit being mostly junk.
People tend to expose their fear easily on the internet because they are comfortable with it. It is safer for them. We feel it more intensely and directly without processing it.
Wait wait. I like my unnecessary commas and no period at the end of my overly funny sentences. I like being a punctuation minor irritant to better people than me.
fuck man i love you
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