Does Frank read these? I was Blown away at the unhealthy INFJ video. Frank is like my Shaman. It is me to a T and nailed my problem I've had my whole life. The big reason of my addiction problem is exactly what he talked about and all those ideas I never did anything about. I been wanting to write a book lately and if course stuck again and not taking action.. especially after my mom..my rock and best friend died 4 mos ago from cancer I spiraled quite a bit into being suicidal and numbing myself. His videos just about saved my life . God bless you Frank
why are you getting the sub's mate? ummm...because you are honest, relatable and talk about what you know and live. feeling flat? waiting for something to hook you into passionate drive and action? these videos are great because it helps others know they are not the only ones like this. Being honest and vulnerable and real is totally your brand. own who you are. remember you are humble, brave and complex, contradictory, and real.
This is so true! I feel bad for him right now, but in the meantime, the fact that he is posting these videos, is something that I really appreciate. It gives the comfort of not being alone, giving legitimacy for the feelings of those who are going through the same. Especially when all we hear is "you're stupid" or "you really shouldn't be this sad, some people are going through worse and they are still not depressed" whenever we are trying to talk it out...
I found you because I was looking to relate to someone. I stayed because I do. I love your humor and I get your analogies. It all makes sense to me. I live in small town in the middle of nowhere so finding someone that is so similar to me is a breath of fresh air. I really thought I was messed up for a long time. So, thanks for putting yourself out there for me to find. Now I know I won't be alone in the asylum!
I hope I don't come across as creepy but I really really adore you as a human being and I've never met someone who is so similar to me before (I mean I've never met you before but I feel like I have?) which is kinda amazing because I'm a female INFJ teenager while you're a near-thirty year old (I think) INFJ male living across the globe from me yet I feel like I connect to you so much. As a fellow INFJ, I came here for the INFJ videos and stayed for your intriguing rambling and precious personality haha I've been a sub for a while and I'm usually too self-conscious to comment but you compel me to :) Got to 'extravert' these feelings so why not by commenting :')
Olivia That was great! Btw, I feel the same way about FJ - like I've known him for years. In my case, I'm a 43 yr old California girl. There's no way our lives could have crossed if it weren't for YT. Yet, it seems as if our minds have visited the same thoughtful places and at the same time. It's really weird. :) Side note: The world feels less lonely JUST knowing that there's at least one person (FJ and 15k+ subs in this community) out there who has similar musings & perspectives of life as I do. It's uplifting despite the reality and similtaneous existing state of depression. The depression doesn't weigh as heavy when I know there's a community who understands and joyfully chooses to bear some of the weight through their encouragement.
and ddaaaaaangs, just heard the funny part re: your “religious journey”- word man, i was always a free bird-esque kinda (liberal) christian ... ultimately i have discovered i love jesus’ message and it’s in my heart but i do find it strange that He improves lives of those who pray but no one else’s?! 😆... i’m too new agey and dynamic for this shit. but good lord we be so alike. super self effacing and perfectionist is but vulnerable etc etc is totally moi. anyway, you’re getting me through a hard time, please keep on keepin on.. thanks for your intelligent humility
My INFP cousin and I were talking about lack of expression the other day. Her take: other people need to get over it and not take her lack of smile personally. My INFJ take: don't want to offend, better smile!
infp here. I'm a "how the heck is my not smiling your problem? read my mood...clearly expressing it ATM" kind of person. Sometimes I'll be all polite and exhibit social expectation behavior... mostly I'm me...deal with it or leave...kind of mindset. hope that makes sense. I find the differences interesting and puzzling.
Jenn Pod23 people say that smile stuff to me too. Especially at work where its hard and not a smiling activity. Here's my question?...Why you lookin at me? And why you judge my facial expression? wtf?
As an INFP I definitely get that smile thing. I’m a pretty gregarious person but for some reason people always catch me with my rbf and I always get those ‘smile. It will be better’ comments and variations therof. But I hate the idea of just smiling for random people. I’m getting better because I think it really does improve my mood now and I do want to make more friends, but I legit used to have existential dialogue with myself about the smiling/not smiling for folks.
+FrugalMummy That is exactly how my cousin feels. She smiles when there is something to smile about, but thinks people need to stop commenting on her lack of smiling which makes them feel intimidated. I applaud you INFPs for being true to yourselves. We INFJs are so extroverted feeling and conflict averse that we will smile even if we don't feel like it because we don't want to upset anyone - we worry too much about such things!
I'm glad you put yourself out there...because there are a lot of INFJ's that feel alone and cut off socially...having a TH-camr to relate to is very theraputic
I've noticed lots of people don't get sarcasm, maybe that's why that subscriber left. I on the other hand live for sarcastic humor, so I love yours! even in a video about depression you manage to add sarcastic bits that crack me up so much!
Yeah, it is funny how people can interpret jokes so differently. I totally saw his 'the greatest story ever told' as a bit of (absurd, like he said) self-deprecating humor. Actually 'self-aware' humor might be closer.
The entire reason I left my channel was because of horrible depression... two years ago. I totally understand the fatigue, the lack of motivation to make videos. I'm so sorry you're going through this, FJ. I know you don't know me other than dumb comments from me, but you're not alone in this. All I wanted to do was sleep. My relationships crumbled. I, too, turned to alcohol. It was my only comfort, my only friend. Just don't let that friend take over your life, man. It tends to actually make you feel worse in the end. I give you super props for coming out so openly about it, and it really hits home with me. I've used my channel, even though it's an ASMR channel, as a therapist in a way. I'd let out my emotions and it was almost cathartic. I hope you don't find this comment strange, but when I watch these vids I feel a connection with you through this, like I do with anyone who is suffering through this terrible thing. I really wish I could help take that pain away, but we all know that's not how it works. I'm sorry this isn't a funny comment from me, but I want you to know your channel helped me so much, which is crazy to say since I just found you a few weeks ago, but just knowing there's someone out there with these same feelings makes me feel less alone in this scary world. I mean logically I know there's people out there with depression and fatigue and all this, but hearing it out loud from an actual person makes it feel a little less lonely. You're under no obligation to make vids! I just wanted to let you know you do help others. "Who am I to tell you anything?" - Just explaining yourself, your feelings, what you're going through helps people understand maybe what they're going through. P.S. I love your musical taste. Love a Zappa shoutout anyday.
Again, I didn't finish the video before I posted this comment, but I too am in a religious no-man's land. I've basically shoved myself into agnosticism because I have no idea where I belong. Get crazy with your vids! Do your thing. I don't think every sub is here just for the INFJ stuff. We see this guy we can relate to (and yes, I'd be lying to say you're not eye-candy, sir, but that's not why I stay), so get as crazy and as offensive as you want with your jokes. (I'm a weirdo dark comedy lover myself).
Agnosticism all the way ✌ almost no chance to fit any religion into my perspective since I'm a scientist. (Or at least trying to become one, lol.) I find the INFJ-only channels super boring. FJ is not only super relatable, but also giving a representation to anyone else what it's really like being an INFJ, since the standard talking about "INFJ stuff" is just scraping the surface. And there is not much like this around.
Omg i love your asmr videos! Youre pretty OG asmr. But yeah no one is beholden to post on youtube. If it is not good for you then thats how it is; your viewers/fans can go watch anything else. And i dont think theres anything wrong with emoting in a public space such as this. If it is cathartic, why not? Not hurting anyone.
💕💕💕💕💕 I have watched this video 2-3 times already as I have been reading others' comments. I have to say: my heart is full. FJ, I hope you realize how much this community loves you. 💕💕 I hope you truly feel it. I have a reflective question for you, FJ. Did it help your mood to breakthrough the withdrawing pull of depression by forcing yourself to do this video? I was thinking it did. I really hope so.
I am a 60 year old woman who is an INFJ. I can relate with you. I understand you. Does it help you to have these talks on youtube? I hope so. I find you interesting to listen to.
I love your humor! There were a few times I laughed out loud, despite the sad and serious topic of the video. It is an art to keep humor during hard times. :)
Hey Frank, I'm normally one of those silent viewers (you know, thinking it doesn't matter even if you say sth) but I guess I just wanted to say (*lies* yy I don't care anymore) (you can take it however you want) that I enjoy your videos, its one of the things that makes my day because its kinda raw? like you tell us your honest thoughts and even if you are scared of it you still do it. which is remarkable in my eyes. so yeah, stay strong, try not to pay that much attention to the lies your mind tells you. even if you'll say you don't need it here's a ghost hug, fellow human being ^_^
I take down my comments when I'm down. I wake up and start clearing my old comments I don't know why the f--k I do this. It's more if the comments deep from the heart, a silly one I'm willing to keep up. Sorry to say frank it's just what we do one step forward and 2 back. I had an idea something was up when you missed a vlog that's weird right? I personally couldn't do what you do. However what you do is like self sacrificing your own private world to help others... Sorry to say dude we all relate to you...Your living proof of who we are and how we tick...✌peace
INFP's are more expressive through art than facial expression- through music, dance, photography, and mostly writing or poetry I would say... We have a lot going on in our feelings and imagination always (unless we are exhausted or brain dead from too much feeling and perceiving in a cruel world) It's a rich inner world for us though. We forget most other people are not as perceptive as we are, so we try to hide what we feel because we feel others will read us like a book... and further abuse us. We are vulnerable people so sometimes we try to protect ourselves in a cruel world.. We need the solitude. We can also get quite cold at times (once we have reached our limit..) I think it's also possible an ENFP becomes INFP after being hurt a lot- they introvert for protection. Or maybe they were forced to be an E by insensitive family and then once they grow up, they figure out they were an "I". Who the heck knows, lol Everyone is complex. Everyone needs love. Everyone is special, made by God in the image of God
Sometimes depression is a symptom rather than the cause, either something needs to be fixed or something if not someone is draining you. Spent some years in this hole and know how it goes.
I wondered about your absence Friday. I too, have been struggling with Profound & thorough going depression. Alcohol, fyi, is a depressant--ironically enough. You're up to 15k subscribers & still climbing!(sarcasm doesn't get perceived very well out there, I have found--your joke was just fine). Think you are being hyper self critical. Your "performances" are consistent, with dry humor. "Frank Zappa & the Mothers, were at the best place in town, some stupid with a flare gun burned the place to the ground---Smoke on the Water.." (Don't go in the river). OMG you referred to ME! Im so flattered! Ty!!
People these days seem to be looking for reasons to be offended. Their heads probably would have exploded from the 80's and 90's humor. You don't want the super uptight amongst your tribe. Your subscribers need to know a joke when they hear it. Good riddance to the one who left. Your are not just an MTBI commentator. It is apparent that there is so much more floating around in that brain of yours. It is a fun ride going on this journey with you. Heck, this is your channel - do what you want with it. I am sure you will gain more subscribers than you will lose. I think it's just fine to go through a period of compression (to me it's not necessarily DEpression, it is just internalizing your energy). You don't have to always do so much. People make that into a problem too, but it's only a problem if it bothers you or makes it where you cannot pay your bills or take care of yourself. Try to be at peace with who you are in any moment, even if it is not what you think you should be. You don't have to be perfect or an authority figure to have a great TH-cam channel. You are enough as you are. Keep being you. :)
I find you to be so likeable, FJ. Whether you believe it or not. And I know many other subs do too. Honestly, do what you feel like creating. There will always be people to watch. ❤
HSP over here, videos like these make me feel like I'm not alone... So thanku and God bless x p.s for an 'idiot' I sure learn alot from u an ur channel
hey my girl FJ! a new subscriber here. i think i watched too much of your videos that i feel like i have a little FJ inside my brain as the 4th voice in my head haha
Careful with the alcohol, took my dad on a bad path. Anyway, I also deal with depression and anxiety. Probably from childhood ptsd as well as things passed down from my dad. I'm a christian, but I find I don't fit in with most church groups, for many reasons. Finally found a bible study I love. Yay. I actually see a counselor as well, she is awesome, and it helps me express my feelings. Take care!
87holdfast Thanks for sharing. To tag off your thoughts, as a Christian myself, I think you're right that a lot of people feel they don't "fit in" within the church culture. I think the reason for that comes from misconceptions about "church" (fearing judgement by all these saintly people) and from misunderstandings by those church people who are supposed to represent the truth of Christ's message. Jesus went out of His way to find the ordinary, the outcasts, the ignored, the forgotten, and the dismissed. He showed compassion and touched the unclean to heal (body & spirit). Ideally, NO one person should enter a Christian church and "feel" like they don't fit in. Unfortunately, churches are made up of other humans who are not perfect. Most, I believe, would admit to that fact - that we were one of those ordinary, ignored, forgotten souls that Jesus sought out & saved. I have a personal conviction that we as Christians - who realize that we were once nothing BEFORE we knew about the love, mercy & grace that Jesus demonstrated through His death & resurrection on the cross for MY sins - have a responsibility to live out Christ's love by seeking out those who feel like they don't "fit in" either and showing them that they do belong, they are deeply loved, and have value/purpose in God's kingdom. John 13:35 (Read John 13 for context - the Last Supper biblehub.com/niv/john/13.htm)
Ohh Frank. I know the feeling you describe so well... Unable to collect my thoughts and put them down to words is one of them. I have depression too. Not the moodswing but actual depression. I went to the psychiatrist cause nothing helped anymore. I've struggled with it for years and years... So I finally went to a doctor and got medical help cause I had suicidal thoughts almost every day. I'm medicated now and I hope that helps. I'm not saying it helps for everyone and I'm definitely no saying the medication is for everyone. I was against medication for soooo long and still kinda am. Therapy might work though. Talking to an actual person might work. Even if it's just to collect your thoughts. Making videos is a good too. But if that doesnt help either then get someone to talk to. Careful with friends tho. I lost so many cause I poured my problems and moods out to them and they didnt understand why I'm doing this to them. My own fault 😣 Anyways. If you're struggling with the same things then get help please. I get that the river thing might of been a joke. You have dark sense of humor my friend 😅 Just..... don't really do it okay 😆 We're here for you😉😊 INFJs should stick together. Love ya! 💞💕
You're totally right about the # of subscribers. 15k is no joke. There are other INFJ TH-camrs - that I LOVE and have taught me so much - who don't have close to that #. Shout out to Boom Shika (3.5k), Erik Thor (10k), Wenzes (8k)!!! Even Personality Hacker (LOVE) has only 17k, and they serve the whole MBTI community. You are doing amazing!!! Good job at reframing the discouraging criticism that other person made. You were able to focus on the reality of the situation and not let that comment bring you down further.
"Selp helf" - call me silly but that was funny 😂 You said here MBTI specific channels don't get beyond 20k subs. Congratulations again on crossing 100k subs yesterday! 🤠
I’ve been noticing that you have been alot more expressive in your videos this past month, and its nice to see you opening up a bit. It’s totally ok to feel the way you do, so do know that we can understand if you don’t feel like filming anything. Maybe pre-film a few videos and save them for the days you don’t feel like filming anything so that you don’t fall behind if that worries you :) Stay cool and attractive 😎
As someone already mentioned, " videos like these make me feel like I'm not alone." I can relate to youre depression. Keep cozy and drink some herbal tea. 🍵 May be making a podcast will make you feel better. 🍰
I wish I had known the channel 2 years ago. I have just come across it a week ago after learning that I am an INFJ. Every word of this is so relatable man. It's like seeing my male version, even the body language is somehow relatable and the way you question and comment on your statements and emphasize the accurate wording, the perfectionism, and self-doubt. I'm looking forward to watching all of your videos. Keep the new videos coming! I know I will be feeling empty and sad after binge-watching all of the available ones :D Hugs from Denmark. I hope your moods are less volatile than the weather is here.
I've been a Christian my entire life and have been really involved in church, but these last couple of years I have been completely disillusioned about the institution of the church and the 'fakeness' and misuse/ misrepresentation of Christianity - esp in politics. I have also been hurt most by people who were suppose to be Christians. But as an INFJ, I am a spiritual person and do believe in God...I think I have just lost some faith in people 😞
Exactly. I didn't have a religious upbringing, and I was planning to do some spiritual research when I get away from home. These are the things that are keeping me back. I guess I'll stick with being agnostic.
Hej, understand. People are same every where. But I don't go to church because who's there or for the people. A quote: The very purpose of religion is to control your self, not to criticize others. How much am I doing about my anger, attachment, hatred, pride and jealousy? These are the things which we must check in our daily lives. I'm going to church for self development and trying to have this personal relationship with God. I hope this didn't come out like I'm critical of something just trying to point out something that's all. 😊 Im bad at expressing my self so i hope you don't take it badly.
Heili Lohmus I don't know where you live, but I'm happy that you can explore your spirituality. In the country where I live I see that the Christian churches are super loyal to a government that I don't really like. I'm afraid that a priest with good rhetoric skills would brainwash me into something I'm opposed to, because I might would switch to people pleaser mode if I got involved in a church. Also, a lot of people who get public attention and I don't like, claim themselves to be Christian. I don't want to have anything in common with them. And we don't have many churches outside of Christianity.
Almost every time I have to watch your vids on parted, because I just can't resist the emotional flood. Either with joy, as you are such a sweethart that makes me laugh (what's do rare thanks to my deppression), or annoyed with this weird kind of snobishness, that makes me feel so connected. Thank you.
I miss you doing these kinds of videos, Frank. Its powerfully helpful. I love the funny stuff you do today- just wish you did both the serious and the funny. Grateful for you
It's really nice to watch someone talk and not get bored or overwhelmed. I can easily understand everything you're saying/not saying in your videos, I don't have to think differently to relate to you. I was just wondering that whole 'keeping old videos' thing last night as I myself hate or just like, grimace at my old creations and would prefer they would get taken down or put away. As for the depression, I just cycle through it constantly; which I feel is bound to happen when you're sensitive to others feelings and want everyone to get along, it just builds up and gets overwhelming. You're not saving the world, so why create? Why do anything? Why not just stare at the wall for hours? It's a paralyzing feeling/thought process. This also ties in with the religious struggle, I feel, because we all just want people to be happy- with Religion the societal feeling is that you have to pick a "side"; as people who are used to bridging thinkers and feelers; it's very hard to think like that. Temporary bandage for the depression; the thing I do is just completely concentrate on others, ask for music suggestions or just, anything to get out of myself, if I can find no joy in my life I try to understand theirs and then I start to miss my likes/hobbies and go back to feeling okay...ish. Anyways, thanks for this video, sir, as well as all the others. (What a mess of a comment, my apologies.)
Yesterday I got home from a soul-crushing day of trying to get ends to meet in my mess of a life, both financially and just in my head, I didn't know what to do, felt so lonely and useless. I've been like this for 8 months, fucking everything up for myself in the meantime. I was sitting in my chair in the kitchen and didn't want to cry again, so I decided to lay down with a blanket on the couch and put on some Frank James. This video came on because of AutoPlay, and I smiled, and I laughed and I cried, because I didn't feel alone. When it was finished I didn't even realize how long this video is: but it's so uplifting to me, I just had to share this. After finishing this video I was able to get up and decide to visit my aunt's, instead of staying home alone. Thanks for being you, man, you saved me yesterday
Nah, man, we ain't going anywhere. And keep it as loose as you want. We do look forward to videos, but don't feel pressured to upload all the time. Btw, people are always pointing out how expressive (and apparently how funny) I am. I don't mean to be. I don't like a lot of attention lol. I'm all "Stahp lookin' at mah face!"
The way you talk about your depression- kind of 'chipper', wry, self deprecating humor... Jeez you are giving me the Heebie jeebies ( in a good way)- this is how it feels!! Damn you! I laughed in spite of myself( i was wondering when the guitar was going to come into it) You made me smile. Thanks.
Dude, Selp helf 😉😂..... you had me laughing SO hard! Please never stop making these vlogs , as a fellow INFJ I totally get where you are coming from even when you are all over the place. ❤ I would never have the guts to make one myself, but I'm so happy there are people out there who are like minded and brave enough to put themselves out there! 😁👍
Hello again, Frank James, it’s been a little while since I’ve seen your videos, but this one caught my eye, because of the depression part. I’ve actually struggled with feeling that way myself for a long time, it comes and goes. I’ve actually never really told anyone about it, perhaps because of the stigma still attached to it in this society. It seems though nowadays that so many people who you would never expect are opening up about their personal experience with it. It’s becoming more clear to me not only from psychology and life experience that sometimes there isn’t always an easy answer to this epidemic we have in society. You mentioned religion and it being Father’s Day and all, I think might have something to do with it, at least in my case. This holiday always makes me think of my biological father who as cerebral and educated as he is, was never really there for me in a physical or emotional sense. I went to church today, since my earthly father isn’t capable of a relationship, I thought I would spend the day with the real Father who created me. It’s always the worshipping that gets me crying, that He thought of me before the foundation of the earth and knit me together. Worshipping is one thing that gets me out of my intellect and touches my heart. The word was about how love only truly comes from God, because He is the creator of love. We as humans are actually incapable of truly loving someone in an agape, self-sacrificing way unless we realize that we are loved for who we are. That there’s nothing we can do to separate ourselves from that love. It is only then when we accept that love that we are able to see others as ourselves and extend that love to someone else. I think it’s interesting to note there were a lot of people suffering with depression in the Bible; David, Jeremiah, and Joseph who was sold into slavery for many years by his brothers, to name a few. I think sometimes people think we have to be happy all the time, but I’m not sure if that’s exactly natural. As humans we experience a range of emotions and they’re there for a purpose as a barometer to tell us something is wrong. Whatever the reason may be, it means that something is not right in our lives and needs to be resolved in some way. I’m not claiming to have all the answers in any way, just like you said the only thing we really have is how we feel. Going to church kind of made me realize that I get more out of my personal relationship with God than the religious part of feeling obligated to interact with certain people. Maybe this has something to do with infj, but I’m realizing more and more that I already know what truly makes me happy and all anyone really needs to do like Joseph Campbell said is, “Follow your bliss.” If you look deep down inside of you, you know what would allow you to feel pure joy in life. There is not another human being who can tell you what would make you feel better, because you already know what it is. The only question is what are willing to do or give up in order to have that, “greater good” for yourself. I hope whatever I said doesn’t come across as dogmatic, but that you’ll take it like you said as the way someone feels. Also, I know you said you don’t like it when people say you can always reach out to me if you feel like it, but I thought I would extend the offer anyways.
When I get like that it’s usually because I’m at a tipping point for an emotional conclusion. Sometimes they let me off the hook and other times it means a complete life change. You’ll figure it out. You have a lovely voice, by the way.
The "anyways I'm very depressed" got me rolling with laughter. I felt that. I think I get what you mean about having a video up after you've moved through something. With my mood swings I always hate to say anything about it cause I know it will pass and I don't want anything set in stone with it
My acquaintance, a long term herbalist, told me Magnesium and Tyrosine supplements should help eliminate your depression. Please don't take any of your videos down FJ. I see these videos as a human study. It's like a sociological experiment. You are showing us how a person's states of mind entrain causing the human to follow these states' illusory paths to a hellish internal and external experience. Your willingness to be vulnerable and allow us to see your pain is astonishing but revealing. It's self exploitation basically, at your expense. Many subscribers probably feel more self acceptance in knowing that they are not alone in experiencing neuroses, depression and anxiety. Keep those sacrilegious jokes coming too. We are your loyal neurotic followers, ourselves (I speak for all if us) so be not afraid of a mass exodus. You are rubbing off on me. We are your loving cult. Do not despair. Be the observer. Change your mind, change the world.
"there's no channel that's myers-briggs specific that's above 20k that I've seen" Less than 1.5 years later and you're at 152k. Good job dude and keep up the great content
I really appreciate how genuine you are and you may claim you're so negative with all the depression but it makes us like minded/same wave length people, feel less alone. and yes you're INFJ and you're so "expressive" because you're alone in a room in front of a camera 😂 not literally in front of a big crowd of people which I can imagine/relate that you'd start off/be/maybe not be, not so 'expressive'. I think you're hilarious with your dry sense of humour and I think you struggle in this world along with alot of others, because you're actually super intellectual and intelligent. You know alot. I'm INFP BTW and I'm so offended by what you said about INFP in this vid. jokes. I didn't quite even understand what u were saying. lolz. I'm from South Africa and you're the only channel I follow. I'm going to make a video just for you FJ. Watch this space. or not
August!! Yes! I think this would be a safe place for you to practice your skill. You should know that we enjoy just listening to your musings. As INFJs, we thrive on helping/encouraging others to become better versions of themselves.
I have pretty much concluded that I have to give up junk food, caffeine, booze and late nights forever if I want to be happy and creative or at least stable and not depressed. I dunno perhaps INFJS are more sensitive to things that don't affect other types. 🤷♀️
You’re extremely relatable. When you share like this it’s uninhibited, honest and feels very authentic. I for one would love to see what you come up with as you branch out.
:) You are fantastic. Why is it that all the really cool, kind, talented, intelligent, wise people get depressed sometimes? ACK!!! (Shades of Bill the Cat from Bloom County.) Many of us have been there. Nice Martin- much love there. Chocolate? Cheese fries? Simple pleasures that you might not do everyday? Singing silly songs and moving your body to get back into life physically. Looking at nature. Petting a dog at the park. I'm so sorry you are hurting. Anhedonia lack of joy is part of depression. Like when I can't find any funny movies to watch, there's no book or stand up comedian that would be fun, and I focus on negative thoughts, I create a neurological pattern. Sometimes it helps me to feel better to talk about how I feel and sometimes it is like swimming out into deeper water when I am trying to keep my head above water. It is okay to recognize my feelings and patterns. At a certain point I have to make myself do the opposite of what I want to do and I regain control. Like taking care of my body and exercising and focusing on other things and helping others. I am saying I because I don't want to tell others what to do, but- Start simply doing a simple healthy thing and then another and then another. It helps me to pull back and do a gratitude journal to give thanks for the little things and all the times when Someone helped me out. Sometimes when I am doing everything I can, I have to say to myself, I have been carried through before: there may be cool things being set up backstage that I can't see right now. You've crewed in theater before, right? You know that there can be a really wonderful script and great scenes coming up. The next step is setting up some really positive scenes for yourself. I don't know if this helps, but I really hope it does. Find the simple little things that help you best. You know what I would say about using a substance or a depressant, so I won't say it. I wish I knew more of the simple little things that contribute to your life and happiness. Keep reaching out as you can- people really care about you. Take what time you need to take good care of you. :)
I hear you. I've suffered from depression for years. I try to function like anyone else but its so difficult You are amazing with your sketches. Keep up the good work ❤
Frankheyyy! ♡ The struggle is real :( I hate how clichéd that statement is but I got nuthin' else. Depression is an absolute arse kicker. Also, why didn't the skeleton go to the ball? ... because he (or she! EQUALITY, YO) had no body to go with. Ayyyye! Wah-pow! Hahaaaa. Yeah ...I'll show myself out.
I think you should have two channels, one focused of the Myer Briggs aspects. The other free range. That way you keep all the folk studying you for uni projects ;)
I feel like we are a lot alike! I’m an infj who struggles with depression and anxiety. I just had to quit working about because I can’t function out of bed some days. It sucks feeling so lost sometimes. But just wanted to say your vids are always entertaining and informative, and I always get a good laugh watching. Your sense of humor shines through even in difficult times! Keep up the good work 🙂
You are just like me, I always tell people what to say to me in a better way lol, so INFJ lol, love you! By the way your depression videos are so relatable, I smile all the way through them because I totally understand your thought process and find your honest delivery so humorous.
I found that auspicious moment that made me subscribe @ 8:57. Biggest mood of all time. Also, I’m sad that I missed the drunk daylight savings time video. I 👏🏻 want 👏🏻 to 👏🏻 watch 👏🏻 it 👏🏻
I'm INFP and I take this as a compliment. Wth would I want anyone to be able to read my expression?? Nope. No thank you. I'm very proud of my pokerface. Loving these old videos, dude!!!
Frank, I miss this old way of you expressing yourself. I wanna see this expressive fj behind the curtain of Myers-Briggs explainings you're doing now(2022). No offense to your explanations(they help me). I just want to connect with you emotionally and openly regarding our lives.🤔🥇
I was beginning to wonder if you were ok. I know the feeling you were describing, inertia is my word for it. Try to get outside, go to a park or a zoo or something, walk around outside, that's what I do when I start feeling that way. Also, I love your guitar - I have three Martins, they make a beautiful sounding instrument. The non-apology popup cracked me up, you might be depressed but at least you haven't lost your sense of humor, good job. Hang on, buddy, it'll get better, it always does.
Wow, literally you are the male version of me. I have never read, heard, or felt so understood- ever! As an empath, INFJ, with hypersensitivity and lifelong depression and anxiety, I have never felt understood or validated. You’re right on and have explained it so eloquently and articulately that for a moment I felt somewhat “normal”! What you’re doing is not only relevant but literally life altering. Thank you for using your “gifts/or curse ~depending on the moment, for those who identify and relate on the deepest level.
FJ! I love your heart! I'll stay subscribed no matter what. Branch out. Be free! I kinda thought for a moment you took a swipe at J. C. too because I don't know where you stand; but I'm a mature Christian... One that... You know...like actually walks in all that grace, love and forgiveness jazz. Besides... You're amazeballs so I won't use some little goofy joke you make or whatever a reason to door slam you! No way brother FJ! No way. Much love! - INFJ in PA :)
I tried the 16personalities.com and it concluded that I’m an INTP I think it was. And the questions were leading me astray. It felt like they were very leading towards a certain way, and I couldn’t answer the way I felt and thought. It was very disappointing. But it’s not changing anything though. I know I am an INFJ. I know you wanted funny, absurd comments, so.... I hate meeting myself in the closet when I’m trying hard to avoid coming out of introversion... because I feel like I let myself down. That’s a tad bit too serious. And depressing. I like your hair though. And I wonder what it would look like with pigtails and braids.
Thank you for sharing your deep thoughts and feelings. Even though I was not there during your earlier videos, I am very much enjoying them now. Thank you for keeping them up.
What did the past, present, and future say to eachother as they walk into the bar? .....this is tense... Haha always find a good/bad dad joke helps on those days
New subscriber here! I find your videos relatable and fun to watch. Sorry about the funk you’re in. I get in those weird places too. As odd as it may sound, I feel like you’re in this place because good changes are about happen in your life soon - brace yourself! Excited to see what will happen with your channel 😊
Oh dear...I *am* sorry that you're feeling like this (to the tune of Tropicalia??) I'm in a similar state, which is why I stopped commenting for a while. I was walloped by the vicious 'what authority can I possibly have?' feeling in response to your call for advice for your young viewer and it spiralled from there. (You didn't cause the feeling! It just clarified in that moment...Then something very serious happened that amplified that feeling and I'm still processing that.) *Anyway*. Very well done for breaking through the inertia/sadness/general dissatisfaction (I'm not sure which is strongest) and managing to make a video. You've had a run of very strong, snappy videos so I wonder if this is just a moment of exhaustion or (more optimistically) the moment before another creative shift (I recognize that pattern in myself. I really hope that's what it is.) (I wondered when you showed a fleeting glimpse of your "midlife crisis" guitar ages ago if it was a Martin. My curiosity has been satisfied! What a beautiful guitar to have...) Please take good care of yourself. Depression is a terrible, mean, sneaky thing 😔 Your self-critical streak seems to be turned up horribly high right now so please be a little gentler on yourself, if you possibly can. (There's *so* much value in your earlier videos. I can truly vouch for that even though I understand that the speed of your development might render some a little awkward for you in retrospect. I like the more rounded portrait they create cumulatively. I have also really enjoyed watching you playing with/mastering the form.) Oh! I've no idea if it's to do what being an INFJ but I've had a lifetime of being told I have an expressive face. It's definitely part of my attempt to beam empathy and/or express my inner world to whomever I'm talking to.
Hello again! I am laughing because I pretty much had the same experience you describe with respect to the commenting. I cannot remember exactly when I stopped commenting but it seems to be around the same point. I started feeling like I had something I wanted to say and then it sort of got stuck in my throat. I was thinking "what's the point" but not in a 'sour-grapes' kind of way. It was maybe more in line with the question of the authoritative voice that you mention, as well as the point FJ brought up about 'attention-seeking,' and just a bit of the usual existential angst - what are any of us really doing here anyway. As for FJ and the question of 'attention-seeking;' I totally get it. When I share thoughts and feelings which might be more difficult or darker it is meant in a helpful way; as if by some collective brain-storming, authenticity, and perspective sharing we might all benefit just a little from each contribution. I've always gotten a similar sense from FJ - just "this is where I am and maybe some of you get this too." When more of us are able to share more openly about our experiences then I think we get a more accurate and complete picture of the human experience. As for authority, both your comment and his, I think all any of us ever can do is just to share our own opinion and perspective on something. While I admire expertise, research, and skill sometimes these things can become limiting in themselves and sometimes a totally fresh 'uneducated' perspective can have something really valuable to contribute to a conversation. "From the mouths of babes..." and something about "the least of these." And I agree about the old videos. I am so glad FJ respects the process enough to want to leave a complete record. As for looking back, of course from where he is now some of what he says or how he does things might feel cringe worthy to him but for others who haven't passed that point yet, there is valuable insight for a point in time or for parts of this spiral journey. (Some of my favorites are probably some of the older videos.) Anyway, if it were me I think I would use those kinds of feelings around the older material to practice self-compassion. This is actually a really difficult thing for me to do. I too have been told I have a very expressive face, even when I think I am being reserved - perhaps especially when I am attempting to do so!
qu0thraven I'm so sorry! I loved your comment ♥️ Please don't delete it. I've actually been thinking about it continually but didn't have the brain power to reply in the full way that I wanted to. I'm really sorry to have made you feel self-conscious - I completely understand the feeling but it's a complete misunderstanding, caused by me wanting to reply well!
I totally understand that as well. I do that too, wanting to wait until I feel I have sufficient brain power to reply and thinking over a response for a while. Unfortunately for me this means I don't get back to some people or some topics which are important to me, or sometimes I think I have written a letter or replied when I actually haven't. Please don't feel you have made me feel self-conscious. Yes, I wondered about the lack of response since usually you do respond but I am in such a funk and a weird state of self-doubt right now that is all my own. I took a little while to respond to someone (maybe also under this video) where I think I may had inadvertently upset someone or at least triggered something for them. I went back to respond today and the entire comment thread seems to be gone. I feel absolutely terrible and am seriously questioning what I am even trying to do with these comments of mine or at least how I am coming across. :/
qu0thraven You come across beautifully. If I could short-circuit one worry for you, it would be that. Your comments are sensitive, meaningful and are clearly thoughtful. For me, it's probably some awful remnant of the perfectionism that I've tried to eliminate from my mindset that delayed my response but it's also a genuine wish to communicate in a meaningful way. This seems to be an unusually thoughtful community that have gathered around Frank and often the comments we are leaving trigger feelings of vulnerability but that's also why these interactions are so valuable. I guess we are mirroring the emotional risk/openness that he demonstrates in his videos. Also, we're a self-selecting group of hyper-sensitive/considerate INFJs so it's no wonder that there's a fair amount of over-thinking going on! 😅
I look forward to your videos. Your voice is soothing. My daughter watched one of your videos and gave me her classic ISFP face and said you are basically the male version of me. I have that same lost feeling sometimes and what I have noticed is that it usually happens prior a good burst of energy and creativity. It's like a buffer zone. The more I ride the wave of it, the shorter the period feels. Anyway, I enjoy you. I look forward to another podcast.
How do you fix a broken tuba? With a tuba glue... I was a little confused when I didn't see a video from you on Friday but then I assumed that, like me and nearly every other human at some point, stuff came up and not this time. That's okay. My personal thing lately is, I'm dreading going back to work in August. Not because I dislike the actual teaching in any way...just because I hate everything that goes into setting up a schedule THAT much. Also, I've liked not working. So I'm just going through the motions, ignoring the inevitability of someday needing to face the truth about this. Oh well... I did VEDA in April. I learned a lot about how to edit video on my phone during that time. My proudest VEDA achievement was a video called "Flugelhorn Yoga." I still don't know that I can ever top that. As for your channel, I clicked on a video because of the INFJ thing (validity of which remains a giant question mark in my mind, but in a loving way) but I subscribed because I thought you were cool and funny. I think it's a great idea to branch out and do something different if the moment takes you there. I like hearing about your instruments. I enjoy watching collaborations. If you would ever want to do something with music, that is quite figuratively my jam. I would also not be offended if not. 😁 Was that 5 paragraphs yet? See you next time!
Stephanie Douglass You are awesome, Stephanie. Your students are very fortunate to have you teaching them. So glad Frank mentioned your lovely song about him.
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you're so real and so relatable. you're by far my favorite youtuber.
I agree 100%. I started watching because of Myers Briggs and here I am trying to watch as much of his videos as possible
Dude . don't ever go offline. You are saving my ass!
Me too
Does Frank read these? I was Blown away at the unhealthy INFJ video. Frank is like my Shaman. It is me to a T and nailed my problem I've had my whole life. The big reason of my addiction problem is exactly what he talked about and all those ideas I never did anything about. I been wanting to write a book lately and if course stuck again and not taking action.. especially after my mom..my rock and best friend died 4 mos ago from cancer I spiraled quite a bit into being suicidal and numbing myself. His videos just about saved my life . God bless you Frank
ClandestineGirl16X what's the meaning of a soul depression crush
why are you getting the sub's mate? ummm...because you are honest, relatable and talk about what you know and live. feeling flat? waiting for something to hook you into passionate drive and action? these videos are great because it helps others know they are not the only ones like this. Being honest and vulnerable and real is totally your brand. own who you are. remember you are humble, brave and complex, contradictory, and real.
This is so true! I feel bad for him right now, but in the meantime, the fact that he is posting these videos, is something that I really appreciate. It gives the comfort of not being alone, giving legitimacy for the feelings of those who are going through the same. Especially when all we hear is "you're stupid" or "you really shouldn't be this sad, some people are going through worse and they are still not depressed" whenever we are trying to talk it out...
Agreed, his bravery and authenticity affects even non-INFJ's. He's not only one of my fav TH-camrs, he's one of my fav human beings. (:
I for one didn’t come to your channel for the infj but for the ramblings of an intriguing mind; love to hear all your thoughts 🐝 xx
Even in a video about your soul-crushing depression, you manage to make me laugh. That takes talent, right, F. J.?
FJ, you're a cool guy. That's why I want you to know that sometimes the knobs of the back of your chair look like frankfurters.
I can't unsee it now. XD LOL
lol, i was actually thinking that too hhahaha
i can’t stop laughing now. thank u. lmao
Well yeah.... Frankfurter James
*wow*
I found you because I was looking to relate to someone. I stayed because I do. I love your humor and I get your analogies. It all makes sense to me. I live in small town in the middle of nowhere so finding someone that is so similar to me is a breath of fresh air. I really thought I was messed up for a long time. So, thanks for putting yourself out there for me to find. Now I know I won't be alone in the asylum!
LOL
I hope I don't come across as creepy but I really really adore you as a human being and I've never met someone who is so similar to me before (I mean I've never met you before but I feel like I have?) which is kinda amazing because I'm a female INFJ teenager while you're a near-thirty year old (I think) INFJ male living across the globe from me yet I feel like I connect to you so much.
As a fellow INFJ, I came here for the INFJ videos and stayed for your intriguing rambling and precious personality haha
I've been a sub for a while and I'm usually too self-conscious to comment but you compel me to :) Got to 'extravert' these feelings so why not by commenting :')
Olivia That was great! Btw, I feel the same way about FJ - like I've known him for years. In my case, I'm a 43 yr old California girl. There's no way our lives could have crossed if it weren't for YT. Yet, it seems as if our minds have visited the same thoughtful places and at the same time. It's really weird. :)
Side note: The world feels less lonely JUST knowing that there's at least one person (FJ and 15k+ subs in this community) out there who has similar musings & perspectives of life as I do. It's uplifting despite the reality and similtaneous existing state of depression. The depression doesn't weigh as heavy when I know there's a community who understands and joyfully chooses to bear some of the weight through their encouragement.
Totally relate. Sadly my INFJ rubbed off on my son.
and ddaaaaaangs, just heard the funny part re: your “religious journey”- word man, i was always a free bird-esque kinda (liberal) christian ... ultimately i have discovered i love jesus’ message and it’s in my heart but i do find it strange that He improves lives of those who pray but no one else’s?! 😆... i’m too new agey and dynamic for this shit. but good lord we be so alike. super self effacing and perfectionist is but vulnerable etc etc is totally moi. anyway, you’re getting me through a hard time, please keep on keepin on.. thanks for your intelligent humility
My INFP cousin and I were talking about lack of expression the other day. Her take: other people need to get over it and not take her lack of smile personally. My INFJ take: don't want to offend, better smile!
Jenn Pod23 this is me and my INFP sister!
infp here. I'm a "how the heck is my not smiling your problem? read my mood...clearly expressing it ATM" kind of person. Sometimes I'll be all polite and exhibit social expectation behavior... mostly I'm me...deal with it or leave...kind of mindset. hope that makes sense. I find the differences interesting and puzzling.
Jenn Pod23 people say that smile stuff to me too. Especially at work where its hard and not a smiling activity. Here's my question?...Why you lookin at me? And why you judge my facial expression? wtf?
As an INFP I definitely get that smile thing. I’m a pretty gregarious person but for some reason people always catch me with my rbf and I always get those ‘smile. It will be better’ comments and variations therof. But I hate the idea of just smiling for random people. I’m getting better because I think it really does improve my mood now and I do want to make more friends, but I legit used to have existential dialogue with myself about the smiling/not smiling for folks.
+FrugalMummy That is exactly how my cousin feels. She smiles when there is something to smile about, but thinks people need to stop commenting on her lack of smiling which makes them feel intimidated. I applaud you INFPs for being true to yourselves. We INFJs are so extroverted feeling and conflict averse that we will smile even if we don't feel like it because we don't want to upset anyone - we worry too much about such things!
Chicken nuggets dude, chicken nuggets
🤔
Porcupines and pickles.
Biscuits, man! Biscuits.
It’s all fun and games until someone drops their nuggets... DON’T DROP THE NUGGETS, TREVOR! 🐥🐏
I'm glad you put yourself out there...because there are a lot of INFJ's that feel alone and cut off socially...having a TH-camr to relate to is very theraputic
I've noticed lots of people don't get sarcasm, maybe that's why that subscriber left. I on the other hand live for sarcastic humor, so I love yours! even in a video about depression you manage to add sarcastic bits that crack me up so much!
Yeah, it is funny how people can interpret jokes so differently. I totally saw his 'the greatest story ever told' as a bit of (absurd, like he said) self-deprecating humor.
Actually 'self-aware' humor might be closer.
I feel like my love for sarcasm is the reason why I tend to laugh at the worst moments
The entire reason I left my channel was because of horrible depression... two years ago. I totally understand the fatigue, the lack of motivation to make videos. I'm so sorry you're going through this, FJ. I know you don't know me other than dumb comments from me, but you're not alone in this. All I wanted to do was sleep. My relationships crumbled. I, too, turned to alcohol. It was my only comfort, my only friend. Just don't let that friend take over your life, man. It tends to actually make you feel worse in the end.
I give you super props for coming out so openly about it, and it really hits home with me. I've used my channel, even though it's an ASMR channel, as a therapist in a way. I'd let out my emotions and it was almost cathartic. I hope you don't find this comment strange, but when I watch these vids I feel a connection with you through this, like I do with anyone who is suffering through this terrible thing. I really wish I could help take that pain away, but we all know that's not how it works.
I'm sorry this isn't a funny comment from me, but I want you to know your channel helped me so much, which is crazy to say since I just found you a few weeks ago, but just knowing there's someone out there with these same feelings makes me feel less alone in this scary world. I mean logically I know there's people out there with depression and fatigue and all this, but hearing it out loud from an actual person makes it feel a little less lonely. You're under no obligation to make vids! I just wanted to let you know you do help others. "Who am I to tell you anything?" - Just explaining yourself, your feelings, what you're going through helps people understand maybe what they're going through.
P.S. I love your musical taste. Love a Zappa shoutout anyday.
Again, I didn't finish the video before I posted this comment, but I too am in a religious no-man's land. I've basically shoved myself into agnosticism because I have no idea where I belong. Get crazy with your vids! Do your thing. I don't think every sub is here just for the INFJ stuff. We see this guy we can relate to (and yes, I'd be lying to say you're not eye-candy, sir, but that's not why I stay), so get as crazy and as offensive as you want with your jokes. (I'm a weirdo dark comedy lover myself).
Agnosticism all the way ✌ almost no chance to fit any religion into my perspective since I'm a scientist. (Or at least trying to become one, lol.) I find the INFJ-only channels super boring. FJ is not only super relatable, but also giving a representation to anyone else what it's really like being an INFJ, since the standard talking about "INFJ stuff" is just scraping the surface. And there is not much like this around.
Omg i love your asmr videos! Youre pretty OG asmr. But yeah no one is beholden to post on youtube. If it is not good for you then thats how it is; your viewers/fans can go watch anything else. And i dont think theres anything wrong with emoting in a public space such as this. If it is cathartic, why not? Not hurting anyone.
thatASMRchick I think my mom watches your channel! She loves that stuff! 😁
💕💕💕💕💕 I have watched this video 2-3 times already as I have been reading others' comments. I have to say: my heart is full. FJ, I hope you realize how much this community loves you. 💕💕 I hope you truly feel it. I have a reflective question for you, FJ. Did it help your mood to breakthrough the withdrawing pull of depression by forcing yourself to do this video? I was thinking it did. I really hope so.
I am a 60 year old woman who is an INFJ. I can relate with you. I understand you. Does it help you to have these talks on youtube? I hope so. I find you interesting to listen to.
Jeanne Sanders One more year and I'll join you. just had a birthday. DMV lines, ughhh
I'm 63! I have a 30 year old infj
8:50 I'm not offended, it made me laugh, actually. 😂 I think you're kind of right and everything you say make sense to me.
-INFP
I admire how he can be funny and charming even when he is down
I love your humor! There were a few times I laughed out loud, despite the sad and serious topic of the video. It is an art to keep humor during hard times. :)
Hey Frank, I'm normally one of those silent viewers (you know, thinking it doesn't matter even if you say sth) but I guess I just wanted to say (*lies* yy I don't care anymore) (you can take it however you want) that I enjoy your videos, its one of the things that makes my day because its kinda raw? like you tell us your honest thoughts and even if you are scared of it you still do it. which is remarkable in my eyes. so yeah, stay strong, try not to pay that much attention to the lies your mind tells you. even if you'll say you don't need it here's a ghost hug, fellow human being ^_^
I take down my comments when I'm down. I wake up and start clearing my old comments I don't know why the f--k I do this. It's more if the comments deep from the heart, a silly one I'm willing to keep up. Sorry to say frank it's just what we do one step forward and 2 back. I had an idea something was up when you missed a vlog that's weird right? I personally couldn't do what you do. However what you do is like self sacrificing your own private world to help others... Sorry to say dude we all relate to you...Your living proof of who we are and how we tick...✌peace
I don't understand how a video about depression could be so slap-your-knee funny.
INFP's are more expressive through art than facial expression- through music, dance, photography, and mostly writing or poetry I would say... We have a lot going on in our feelings and imagination always (unless we are exhausted or brain dead from too much feeling and perceiving in a cruel world) It's a rich inner world for us though. We forget most other people are not as perceptive as we are, so we try to hide what we feel because we feel others will read us like a book... and further abuse us. We are vulnerable people so sometimes we try to protect ourselves in a cruel world.. We need the solitude. We can also get quite cold at times (once we have reached our limit..) I think it's also possible an ENFP becomes INFP after being hurt a lot- they introvert for protection. Or maybe they were forced to be an E by insensitive family and then once they grow up, they figure out they were an "I". Who the heck knows, lol Everyone is complex. Everyone needs love. Everyone is special, made by God in the image of God
Idk
“I feel good sometimes I don’t, ay.”
-drake
We’re not alone 😌
in time 😂😂😂
Sometimes depression is a symptom rather than the cause, either something needs to be fixed or something if not someone is draining you. Spent some years in this hole and know how it goes.
I wondered about your absence Friday. I too, have been struggling with Profound & thorough going depression. Alcohol, fyi, is a depressant--ironically enough. You're up to 15k subscribers & still climbing!(sarcasm doesn't get perceived very well out there, I have found--your joke was just fine).
Think you are being hyper self critical. Your "performances" are consistent, with dry humor.
"Frank Zappa & the Mothers, were at the best place in town, some stupid with a flare gun burned the place to the ground---Smoke on the Water.."
(Don't go in the river).
OMG you referred to ME! Im so flattered! Ty!!
"there's no Myers Briggs specific channel above 20k I've ever seen"
And look at where u r now at 500k. That's been quite a journey for u. Congrats!
People these days seem to be looking for reasons to be offended. Their heads probably would have exploded from the 80's and 90's humor. You don't want the super uptight amongst your tribe. Your subscribers need to know a joke when they hear it. Good riddance to the one who left.
Your are not just an MTBI commentator. It is apparent that there is so much more floating around in that brain of yours. It is a fun ride going on this journey with you. Heck, this is your channel - do what you want with it. I am sure you will gain more subscribers than you will lose.
I think it's just fine to go through a period of compression (to me it's not necessarily DEpression, it is just internalizing your energy). You don't have to always do so much. People make that into a problem too, but it's only a problem if it bothers you or makes it where you cannot pay your bills or take care of yourself. Try to be at peace with who you are in any moment, even if it is not what you think you should be. You don't have to be perfect or an authority figure to have a great TH-cam channel. You are enough as you are. Keep being you. :)
yeah, what he/ she said!
BurgundyandBlue1111 Amen! I totally agree. And I like your idea about "compression" vs "depression."
Yes! Here here!
I find you to be so likeable, FJ. Whether you believe it or not. And I know many other subs do too.
Honestly, do what you feel like creating. There will always be people to watch. ❤
HSP over here, videos like these make me feel like I'm not alone... So thanku and God bless x p.s for an 'idiot' I sure learn alot from u an ur channel
Hina Kh99 I hear there's a difference between Empath and HSP, but I'm not sure exactly what that is.
hey my girl FJ! a new subscriber here. i think i watched too much of your videos that i feel like i have a little FJ inside my brain as the 4th voice in my head haha
ha ha nice
Careful with the alcohol, took my dad on a bad path. Anyway, I also deal with depression and anxiety. Probably from childhood ptsd as well as things passed down from my dad. I'm a christian, but I find I don't fit in with most church groups, for many reasons. Finally found a bible study I love. Yay. I actually see a counselor as well, she is awesome, and it helps me express my feelings. Take care!
87holdfast Thanks for sharing. To tag off your thoughts, as a Christian myself, I think you're right that a lot of people feel they don't "fit in" within the church culture. I think the reason for that comes from misconceptions about "church" (fearing judgement by all these saintly people) and from misunderstandings by those church people who are supposed to represent the truth of Christ's message. Jesus went out of His way to find the ordinary, the outcasts, the ignored, the forgotten, and the dismissed. He showed compassion and touched the unclean to heal (body & spirit). Ideally, NO one person should enter a Christian church and "feel" like they don't fit in. Unfortunately, churches are made up of other humans who are not perfect. Most, I believe, would admit to that fact - that we were one of those ordinary, ignored, forgotten souls that Jesus sought out & saved. I have a personal conviction that we as Christians - who realize that we were once nothing BEFORE we knew about the love, mercy & grace that Jesus demonstrated through His death & resurrection on the cross for MY sins - have a responsibility to live out Christ's love by seeking out those who feel like they don't "fit in" either and showing them that they do belong, they are deeply loved, and have value/purpose in God's kingdom. John 13:35 (Read John 13 for context - the Last Supper biblehub.com/niv/john/13.htm)
Shannon Logue. Agreed. I've always felt like the "invisible one". So I try to help others that are left out feel included. 💜
Dude!!!! You're so wonderfully complex but completely understood.
I too, am an enthusiastic fan of staring despondently into the depths of blank walls.
Ohh Frank.
I know the feeling you describe so well...
Unable to collect my thoughts and put them down to words is one of them.
I have depression too. Not the moodswing but actual depression. I went to the psychiatrist cause nothing helped anymore. I've struggled with it for years and years...
So I finally went to a doctor and got medical help cause I had suicidal thoughts almost every day.
I'm medicated now and I hope that helps.
I'm not saying it helps for everyone and I'm definitely no saying the medication is for everyone. I was against medication for soooo long and still kinda am.
Therapy might work though. Talking to an actual person might work. Even if it's just to collect your thoughts.
Making videos is a good too. But if that doesnt help either then get someone to talk to. Careful with friends tho. I lost so many cause I poured my problems and moods out to them and they didnt understand why I'm doing this to them. My own fault 😣
Anyways. If you're struggling with the same things then get help please.
I get that the river thing might of been a joke. You have dark sense of humor my friend 😅
Just..... don't really do it okay 😆
We're here for you😉😊
INFJs should stick together.
Love ya! 💞💕
The title is about depression, but I kept on laughing because the editing is just gold.
Please do not delete any of your vids👩🏼💻💕
Can you do an episode about your hair?
p.l.e.a.s.e.
Yesssss!!! pretty please
Love this idea
Please let me be your damn barber! Chicago trip. Haircut. Success. 💇🏻♂️
LOL if I'm ever in Chicago I'll let you know
You're totally right about the # of subscribers. 15k is no joke. There are other INFJ TH-camrs - that I LOVE and have taught me so much - who don't have close to that #. Shout out to Boom Shika (3.5k), Erik Thor (10k), Wenzes (8k)!!! Even Personality Hacker (LOVE) has only 17k, and they serve the whole MBTI community. You are doing amazing!!! Good job at reframing the discouraging criticism that other person made. You were able to focus on the reality of the situation and not let that comment bring you down further.
"Selp helf" - call me silly but that was funny 😂
You said here MBTI specific channels don't get beyond 20k subs. Congratulations again on crossing 100k subs yesterday! 🤠
I’ve been noticing that you have been alot more expressive in your videos this past month, and its nice to see you opening up a bit.
It’s totally ok to feel the way you do, so do know that we can understand if you don’t feel like filming anything. Maybe pre-film a few videos and save them for the days you don’t feel like filming anything so that you don’t fall behind if that worries you :)
Stay cool and attractive 😎
As someone already mentioned, " videos like these make me feel like I'm not alone." I can relate to youre depression.
Keep cozy and drink some herbal tea. 🍵
May be making a podcast will make you feel better. 🍰
Heili Lohmus I was looking forward to a podcast, too.
Broke my fellow INFJ heart at “abandonment issues” 😭
P.S- you don’t know it yet but you’re my new best fwiend
I wish I had known the channel 2 years ago. I have just come across it a week ago after learning that I am an INFJ. Every word of this is so relatable man. It's like seeing my male version, even the body language is somehow relatable and the way you question and comment on your statements and emphasize the accurate wording, the perfectionism, and self-doubt.
I'm looking forward to watching all of your videos. Keep the new videos coming! I know I will be feeling empty and sad after binge-watching all of the available ones :D
Hugs from Denmark. I hope your moods are less volatile than the weather is here.
Please please please don't disappear !❤
I've been a Christian my entire life and have been really involved in church, but these last couple of years I have been completely disillusioned about the institution of the church and the 'fakeness' and misuse/ misrepresentation of Christianity - esp in politics. I have also been hurt most by people who were suppose to be Christians. But as an INFJ, I am a spiritual person and do believe in God...I think I have just lost some faith in people 😞
Jenn Pod23 th-cam.com/video/7d16CpWp-ok/w-d-xo.html
Exactly. I didn't have a religious upbringing, and I was planning to do some spiritual research when I get away from home. These are the things that are keeping me back. I guess I'll stick with being agnostic.
Hej, understand. People are same every where. But I don't go to church because who's there or for the people.
A quote: The very purpose of religion is to control your self, not to criticize others.
How much am I doing about my anger, attachment, hatred, pride and jealousy?
These are the things which we must check in our daily lives.
I'm going to church for self development and trying to have this personal relationship with God. I hope this didn't come out like I'm critical of something just trying to point out something that's all. 😊 Im bad at expressing my self so i hope you don't take it badly.
check out this and mybe you'll find something th-cam.com/users/AmazingFactsvideos
Heili Lohmus I don't know where you live, but I'm happy that you can explore your spirituality. In the country where I live I see that the Christian churches are super loyal to a government that I don't really like. I'm afraid that a priest with good rhetoric skills would brainwash me into something I'm opposed to, because I might would switch to people pleaser mode if I got involved in a church. Also, a lot of people who get public attention and I don't like, claim themselves to be Christian. I don't want to have anything in common with them. And we don't have many churches outside of Christianity.
"From one idiot to another"
I felt that.
I admire you for making such a real video and talking about depression.
Almost every time I have to watch your vids on parted, because I just can't resist the emotional flood. Either with joy, as you are such a sweethart that makes me laugh (what's do rare thanks to my deppression), or annoyed with this weird kind of snobishness, that makes me feel so connected. Thank you.
I really appreciate how authentic you are! It makes me feel less weird.
Soul crushing depression is my favourite kind of depression.
LOL
I hear you; it is definitely better than just meh...
Kinda
I miss you doing these kinds of videos, Frank. Its powerfully helpful. I love the funny stuff you do today- just wish you did both the serious and the funny. Grateful for you
When I get depressed I change my hair. Usually dye it. Maybe you need a green streak.
Shane Fitzgibbon I'm still awaiting the makeup tutorial...dollar store lipstick, just for giggles. laughing just thinking about it.
OMG, that would be so funny with FJ's personality... so many jokes, but 50% of them are offensive lol
Its great to know that im not the only one who experiences soul crushing depression. Thank you frank, you have changed my life.
It's really nice to watch someone talk and not get bored or overwhelmed. I can easily understand everything you're saying/not saying in your videos, I don't have to think differently to relate to you. I was just wondering that whole 'keeping old videos' thing last night as I myself hate or just like, grimace at my old creations and would prefer they would get taken down or put away. As for the depression, I just cycle through it constantly; which I feel is bound to happen when you're sensitive to others feelings and want everyone to get along, it just builds up and gets overwhelming. You're not saving the world, so why create? Why do anything? Why not just stare at the wall for hours? It's a paralyzing feeling/thought process. This also ties in with the religious struggle, I feel, because we all just want people to be happy- with Religion the societal feeling is that you have to pick a "side"; as people who are used to bridging thinkers and feelers; it's very hard to think like that. Temporary bandage for the depression; the thing I do is just completely concentrate on others, ask for music suggestions or just, anything to get out of myself, if I can find no joy in my life I try to understand theirs and then I start to miss my likes/hobbies and go back to feeling okay...ish. Anyways, thanks for this video, sir, as well as all the others. (What a mess of a comment, my apologies.)
Yesterday I got home from a soul-crushing day of trying to get ends to meet in my mess of a life, both financially and just in my head, I didn't know what to do, felt so lonely and useless. I've been like this for 8 months, fucking everything up for myself in the meantime. I was sitting in my chair in the kitchen and didn't want to cry again, so I decided to lay down with a blanket on the couch and put on some Frank James. This video came on because of AutoPlay, and I smiled, and I laughed and I cried, because I didn't feel alone. When it was finished I didn't even realize how long this video is: but it's so uplifting to me, I just had to share this. After finishing this video I was able to get up and decide to visit my aunt's, instead of staying home alone. Thanks for being you, man, you saved me yesterday
I sub’d because you are interesting and smart. Your mb take to me is a reflection on how we need to be defined like religion. Keep on keeping on👍👍👍
One of my favorites, I can so relate. I love it.
Nah, man, we ain't going anywhere. And keep it as loose as you want. We do look forward to videos, but don't feel pressured to upload all the time. Btw, people are always pointing out how expressive (and apparently how funny) I am. I don't mean to be. I don't like a lot of attention lol. I'm all "Stahp lookin' at mah face!"
The way you talk about your depression- kind of 'chipper', wry, self deprecating humor... Jeez you are giving me the Heebie jeebies ( in a good way)- this is how it feels!! Damn you! I laughed in spite of myself( i was wondering when the guitar was going to come into it)
You made me smile. Thanks.
Dude, Selp helf 😉😂..... you had me laughing SO hard! Please never stop making these vlogs , as a fellow INFJ I totally get where you are coming from even when you are all over the place. ❤ I would never have the guts to make one myself, but I'm so happy there are people out there who are like minded and brave enough to put themselves out there! 😁👍
"there's no group that does what I want it to do, as selfish as that sounds" -- nailed it, haha...
It does sound selfish.
Hello again, Frank James, it’s been a little while since I’ve seen your videos, but this one caught my eye, because of the depression part. I’ve actually struggled with feeling that way myself for a long time, it comes and goes. I’ve actually never really told anyone about it, perhaps because of the stigma still attached to it in this society. It seems though nowadays that so many people who you would never expect are opening up about their personal experience with it. It’s becoming more clear to me not only from psychology and life experience that sometimes there isn’t always an easy answer to this epidemic we have in society. You mentioned religion and it being Father’s Day and all, I think might have something to do with it, at least in my case. This holiday always makes me think of my biological father who as cerebral and educated as he is, was never really there for me in a physical or emotional sense. I went to church today, since my earthly father isn’t capable of a relationship, I thought I would spend the day with the real Father who created me. It’s always the worshipping that gets me crying, that He thought of me before the foundation of the earth and knit me together. Worshipping is one thing that gets me out of my intellect and touches my heart. The word was about how love only truly comes from God, because He is the creator of love. We as humans are actually incapable of truly loving someone in an agape, self-sacrificing way unless we realize that we are loved for who we are. That there’s nothing we can do to separate ourselves from that love. It is only then when we accept that love that we are able to see others as ourselves and extend that love to someone else. I think it’s interesting to note there were a lot of people suffering with depression in the Bible; David, Jeremiah, and Joseph who was sold into slavery for many years by his brothers, to name a few. I think sometimes people think we have to be happy all the time, but I’m not sure if that’s exactly natural. As humans we experience a range of emotions and they’re there for a purpose as a barometer to tell us something is wrong. Whatever the reason may be, it means that something is not right in our lives and needs to be resolved in some way. I’m not claiming to have all the answers in any way, just like you said the only thing we really have is how we feel. Going to church kind of made me realize that I get more out of my personal relationship with God than the religious part of feeling obligated to interact with certain people. Maybe this has something to do with infj, but I’m realizing more and more that I already know what truly makes me happy and all anyone really needs to do like Joseph Campbell said is, “Follow your bliss.” If you look deep down inside of you, you know what would allow you to feel pure joy in life. There is not another human being who can tell you what would make you feel better, because you already know what it is. The only question is what are willing to do or give up in order to have that, “greater good” for yourself. I hope whatever I said doesn’t come across as dogmatic, but that you’ll take it like you said as the way someone feels. Also, I know you said you don’t like it when people say you can always reach out to me if you feel like it, but I thought I would extend the offer anyways.
When I get like that it’s usually because I’m at a tipping point for an emotional conclusion. Sometimes they let me off the hook and other times it means a complete life change. You’ll figure it out. You have a lovely voice, by the way.
It takes two to tango, only in solitude can you stare at a wall.
The "anyways I'm very depressed" got me rolling with laughter. I felt that. I think I get what you mean about having a video up after you've moved through something. With my mood swings I always hate to say anything about it cause I know it will pass and I don't want anything set in stone with it
My acquaintance, a long term herbalist, told me Magnesium and Tyrosine supplements should help eliminate your depression. Please don't take any of your videos down FJ. I see these videos as a human study. It's like a sociological experiment. You are showing us how a person's states of mind entrain causing the human to follow these states' illusory paths to a hellish internal and external experience. Your willingness to be vulnerable and allow us to see your pain is astonishing but revealing. It's self exploitation basically, at your expense. Many subscribers probably feel more self acceptance in knowing that they are not alone in experiencing neuroses, depression and anxiety. Keep those sacrilegious jokes coming too. We are your loyal neurotic followers, ourselves (I speak for all if us) so be not afraid of a mass exodus. You are rubbing off on me. We are your loving cult. Do not despair. Be the observer. Change your mind, change the world.
You don't speak for me! Oh crap, looks like you do 😉
"there's no channel that's myers-briggs specific that's above 20k that I've seen"
Less than 1.5 years later and you're at 152k. Good job dude and keep up the great content
"From one idiot to another".... I laughed so hard at that... thanks mate xD
These are my favorite videos....the ones about crippling depression....because I can sit alone in the dark and commiserate.
I really appreciate how genuine you are and you may claim you're so negative with all the depression but it makes us like minded/same wave length people, feel less alone. and yes you're INFJ and you're so "expressive" because you're alone in a room in front of a camera 😂 not literally in front of a big crowd of people which I can imagine/relate that you'd start off/be/maybe not be, not so 'expressive'. I think you're hilarious with your dry sense of humour and I think you struggle in this world along with alot of others, because you're actually super intellectual and intelligent. You know alot. I'm INFP BTW and I'm so offended by what you said about INFP in this vid. jokes. I didn't quite even understand what u were saying. lolz. I'm from South Africa and you're the only channel I follow. I'm going to make a video just for you FJ. Watch this space. or not
August!! Yes! I think this would be a safe place for you to practice your skill. You should know that we enjoy just listening to your musings. As INFJs, we thrive on helping/encouraging others to become better versions of themselves.
I have pretty much concluded that I have to give up junk food, caffeine, booze and late nights forever if I want to be happy and creative or at least stable and not depressed. I dunno perhaps INFJS are more sensitive to things that don't affect other types. 🤷♀️
Katie Bee I agree, except for the caffeine. ☕ I don't feel loveable until I've had my coffee. It stimulates the smiling muscles.
Shannon Logue same
You’re extremely relatable. When you share like this it’s uninhibited, honest and feels very authentic. I for one would love to see what you come up with as you branch out.
:) You are fantastic. Why is it that all the really cool, kind, talented, intelligent, wise people get depressed sometimes? ACK!!! (Shades of Bill the Cat from Bloom County.) Many of us have been there. Nice Martin- much love there. Chocolate? Cheese fries? Simple pleasures that you might not do everyday? Singing silly songs and moving your body to get back into life physically. Looking at nature. Petting a dog at the park. I'm so sorry you are hurting. Anhedonia lack of joy is part of depression. Like when I can't find any funny movies to watch, there's no book or stand up comedian that would be fun, and I focus on negative thoughts, I create a neurological pattern. Sometimes it helps me to feel better to talk about how I feel and sometimes it is like swimming out into deeper water when I am trying to keep my head above water. It is okay to recognize my feelings and patterns. At a certain point I have to make myself do the opposite of what I want to do and I regain control. Like taking care of my body and exercising and focusing on other things and helping others. I am saying I because I don't want to tell others what to do, but- Start simply doing a simple healthy thing and then another and then another. It helps me to pull back and do a gratitude journal to give thanks for the little things and all the times when Someone helped me out. Sometimes when I am doing everything I can, I have to say to myself, I have been carried through before: there may be cool things being set up backstage that I can't see right now. You've crewed in theater before, right? You know that there can be a really wonderful script and great scenes coming up. The next step is setting up some really positive scenes for yourself. I don't know if this helps, but I really hope it does. Find the simple little things that help you best. You know what I would say about using a substance or a depressant, so I won't say it. I wish I knew more of the simple little things that contribute to your life and happiness. Keep reaching out as you can- people really care about you. Take what time you need to take good care of you. :)
I hear you. I've suffered from depression for years. I try to function like anyone else but its so difficult
You are amazing with your sketches. Keep up the good work ❤
Frankheyyy! ♡ The struggle is real :( I hate how clichéd that statement is but I got nuthin' else. Depression is an absolute arse kicker.
Also, why didn't the skeleton go to the ball? ... because he (or she! EQUALITY, YO) had no body to go with. Ayyyye! Wah-pow! Hahaaaa.
Yeah ...I'll show myself out.
Dog Walker here ... I have been on vacation ... just binged 3 of your videos. Keep it going ... your words are so real. Sending you energy up 😍
Thanks Mary :)
I think you should have two channels, one focused of the Myer Briggs aspects. The other free range. That way you keep all the folk studying you for uni projects ;)
FrugalMummy Well now, that's a scary thought, that people are "studying him" for uni projects. No pressure there....sheesh.
my dark humour, no pressure intended ;)
I feel like we are a lot alike! I’m an infj who struggles with depression and anxiety. I just had to quit working about because I can’t function out of bed some days. It sucks feeling so lost sometimes. But just wanted to say your vids are always entertaining and informative, and I always get a good laugh watching. Your sense of humor shines through even in difficult times! Keep up the good work 🙂
you are too cute...and non judgemental.
You are just like me, I always tell people what to say to me in a better way lol, so INFJ lol, love you! By the way your depression videos are so relatable, I smile all the way through them because I totally understand your thought process and find your honest delivery so humorous.
I found that auspicious moment that made me subscribe @ 8:57. Biggest mood of all time.
Also, I’m sad that I missed the drunk daylight savings time video. I 👏🏻 want 👏🏻 to 👏🏻 watch 👏🏻 it 👏🏻
I'm INFP and I take this as a compliment. Wth would I want anyone to be able to read my expression?? Nope. No thank you. I'm very proud of my pokerface. Loving these old videos, dude!!!
Frank, I miss this old way of you expressing yourself. I wanna see this expressive fj behind the curtain of Myers-Briggs explainings you're doing now(2022). No offense to your explanations(they help me). I just want to connect with you emotionally and openly regarding our lives.🤔🥇
I was beginning to wonder if you were ok. I know the feeling you were describing, inertia is my word for it. Try to get outside, go to a park or a zoo or something, walk around outside, that's what I do when I start feeling that way. Also, I love your guitar - I have three Martins, they make a beautiful sounding instrument. The non-apology popup cracked me up, you might be depressed but at least you haven't lost your sense of humor, good job.
Hang on, buddy, it'll get better, it always does.
You're not alone x
Wow, literally you are the male version of me. I have never read, heard, or felt so understood- ever! As an empath, INFJ, with hypersensitivity and lifelong depression and anxiety, I have never felt understood or validated. You’re right on and have explained it so eloquently and articulately that for a moment I felt somewhat “normal”! What you’re doing is not only relevant but literally life altering. Thank you for using your “gifts/or curse ~depending on the moment, for those who identify and relate on the deepest level.
selp elf! LOL
FJ! I love your heart! I'll stay subscribed no matter what. Branch out. Be free! I kinda thought for a moment you took a swipe at J. C. too because I don't know where you stand; but I'm a mature Christian... One that... You know...like actually walks in all that grace, love and forgiveness jazz. Besides... You're amazeballs so I won't use some little goofy joke you make or whatever a reason to door slam you! No way brother FJ! No way. Much love! - INFJ in PA :)
I tried the 16personalities.com and it concluded that I’m an INTP I think it was. And the questions were leading me astray. It felt like they were very leading towards a certain way, and I couldn’t answer the way I felt and thought. It was very disappointing. But it’s not changing anything though. I know I am an INFJ. I know you wanted funny, absurd comments, so.... I hate meeting myself in the closet when I’m trying hard to avoid coming out of introversion... because I feel like I let myself down. That’s a tad bit too serious. And depressing. I like your hair though. And I wonder what it would look like with pigtails and braids.
Thank you for sharing your deep thoughts and feelings. Even though I was not there during your earlier videos, I am very much enjoying them now. Thank you for keeping them up.
What did the past, present, and future say to eachother as they walk into the bar?
.....this is tense...
Haha always find a good/bad dad joke helps on those days
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New subscriber here! I find your videos relatable and fun to watch. Sorry about the funk you’re in. I get in those weird places too. As odd as it may sound, I feel like you’re in this place because good changes are about happen in your life soon - brace yourself! Excited to see what will happen with your channel 😊
Oh dear...I *am* sorry that you're feeling like this (to the tune of Tropicalia??) I'm in a similar state, which is why I stopped commenting for a while. I was walloped by the vicious 'what authority can I possibly have?' feeling in response to your call for advice for your young viewer and it spiralled from there. (You didn't cause the feeling! It just clarified in that moment...Then something very serious happened that amplified that feeling and I'm still processing that.)
*Anyway*. Very well done for breaking through the inertia/sadness/general dissatisfaction (I'm not sure which is strongest) and managing to make a video. You've had a run of very strong, snappy videos so I wonder if this is just a moment of exhaustion or (more optimistically) the moment before another creative shift (I recognize that pattern in myself. I really hope that's what it is.)
(I wondered when you showed a fleeting glimpse of your "midlife crisis" guitar ages ago if it was a Martin. My curiosity has been satisfied! What a beautiful guitar to have...)
Please take good care of yourself. Depression is a terrible, mean, sneaky thing 😔 Your self-critical streak seems to be turned up horribly high right now so please be a little gentler on yourself, if you possibly can. (There's *so* much value in your earlier videos. I can truly vouch for that even though I understand that the speed of your development might render some a little awkward for you in retrospect. I like the more rounded portrait they create cumulatively. I have also really enjoyed watching you playing with/mastering the form.)
Oh! I've no idea if it's to do what being an INFJ but I've had a lifetime of being told I have an expressive face. It's definitely part of my attempt to beam empathy and/or express my inner world to whomever I'm talking to.
Hello again! I am laughing because I pretty much had the same experience you describe with respect to the commenting.
I cannot remember exactly when I stopped commenting but it seems to be around the same point. I started feeling like I had something I wanted to say and then it sort of got stuck in my throat. I was thinking "what's the point" but not in a 'sour-grapes' kind of way. It was maybe more in line with the question of the authoritative voice that you mention, as well as the point FJ brought up about 'attention-seeking,' and just a bit of the usual existential angst - what are any of us really doing here anyway.
As for FJ and the question of 'attention-seeking;' I totally get it. When I share thoughts and feelings which might be more difficult or darker it is meant in a helpful way; as if by some collective brain-storming, authenticity, and perspective sharing we might all benefit just a little from each contribution. I've always gotten a similar sense from FJ - just "this is where I am and maybe some of you get this too." When more of us are able to share more openly about our experiences then I think we get a more accurate and complete picture of the human experience.
As for authority, both your comment and his, I think all any of us ever can do is just to share our own opinion and perspective on something. While I admire expertise, research, and skill sometimes these things can become limiting in themselves and sometimes a totally fresh 'uneducated' perspective can have something really valuable to contribute to a conversation. "From the mouths of babes..." and something about "the least of these."
And I agree about the old videos. I am so glad FJ respects the process enough to want to leave a complete record. As for looking back, of course from where he is now some of what he says or how he does things might feel cringe worthy to him but for others who haven't passed that point yet, there is valuable insight for a point in time or for parts of this spiral journey. (Some of my favorites are probably some of the older videos.) Anyway, if it were me I think I would use those kinds of feelings around the older material to practice self-compassion. This is actually a really difficult thing for me to do.
I too have been told I have a very expressive face, even when I think I am being reserved - perhaps especially when I am attempting to do so!
I am feeling really self-conscious about my reply comment now but will resist the urge to delete.
qu0thraven I'm so sorry! I loved your comment ♥️ Please don't delete it. I've actually been thinking about it continually but didn't have the brain power to reply in the full way that I wanted to. I'm really sorry to have made you feel self-conscious - I completely understand the feeling but it's a complete misunderstanding, caused by me wanting to reply well!
I totally understand that as well. I do that too, wanting to wait until I feel I have sufficient brain power to reply and thinking over a response for a while. Unfortunately for me this means I don't get back to some people or some topics which are important to me, or sometimes I think I have written a letter or replied when I actually haven't.
Please don't feel you have made me feel self-conscious. Yes, I wondered about the lack of response since usually you do respond but I am in such a funk and a weird state of self-doubt right now that is all my own.
I took a little while to respond to someone (maybe also under this video) where I think I may had inadvertently upset someone or at least triggered something for them. I went back to respond today and the entire comment thread seems to be gone. I feel absolutely terrible and am seriously questioning what I am even trying to do with these comments of mine or at least how I am coming across. :/
qu0thraven You come across beautifully. If I could short-circuit one worry for you, it would be that. Your comments are sensitive, meaningful and are clearly thoughtful. For me, it's probably some awful remnant of the perfectionism that I've tried to eliminate from my mindset that delayed my response but it's also a genuine wish to communicate in a meaningful way. This seems to be an unusually thoughtful community that have gathered around Frank and often the comments we are leaving trigger feelings of vulnerability but that's also why these interactions are so valuable. I guess we are mirroring the emotional risk/openness that he demonstrates in his videos. Also, we're a self-selecting group of hyper-sensitive/considerate INFJs so it's no wonder that there's a fair amount of over-thinking going on! 😅
I know all about staring at a wall or ceiling for hours oh, that was my most favorite pastime when I was a teenager. Thank you.
I won't abandon you honey bunch.You are too cool and attractive to do that.😌🌹
I like this. Glad it’s still here.
Nothing says "soul crushing depression" like a G Cadd9 progression
Hahaha so true Ivona :)
I find major 7 chords good for expressing this too. :)
I look forward to your videos. Your voice is soothing. My daughter watched one of your videos and gave me her classic ISFP face and said you are basically the male version of me. I have that same lost feeling sometimes and what I have noticed is that it usually happens prior a good burst of energy and creativity. It's like a buffer zone. The more I ride the wave of it, the shorter the period feels. Anyway, I enjoy you. I look forward to another podcast.
How do you fix a broken tuba? With a tuba glue...
I was a little confused when I didn't see a video from you on Friday but then I assumed that, like me and nearly every other human at some point, stuff came up and not this time. That's okay.
My personal thing lately is, I'm dreading going back to work in August. Not because I dislike the actual teaching in any way...just because I hate everything that goes into setting up a schedule THAT much. Also, I've liked not working. So I'm just going through the motions, ignoring the inevitability of someday needing to face the truth about this. Oh well...
I did VEDA in April. I learned a lot about how to edit video on my phone during that time. My proudest VEDA achievement was a video called "Flugelhorn Yoga." I still don't know that I can ever top that.
As for your channel, I clicked on a video because of the INFJ thing (validity of which remains a giant question mark in my mind, but in a loving way) but I subscribed because I thought you were cool and funny. I think it's a great idea to branch out and do something different if the moment takes you there. I like hearing about your instruments. I enjoy watching collaborations.
If you would ever want to do something with music, that is quite figuratively my jam. I would also not be offended if not. 😁 Was that 5 paragraphs yet? See you next time!
Stephanie Douglass
You are awesome, Stephanie. Your students are very fortunate to have you teaching them. So glad Frank mentioned your lovely song about him.
💛💛💛 Me too Annie.
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Stephanie Douglass ☮️
Staring at the wall kind of depression... me lately.