I have been journaling for 20 years, almost daily. My husband found my journal and read it. I felt violated because he had no respect for my boundaries and mental privacy. I now have a private journal online, password protected. And I am divorcing my serial cheating, borderline, bipolar husband. I am looking forward to handwritten journalling again.
Hey, this comment is a year old, but just wanted to say I know what it’s like to have someone violate your privacy by reading your journal. They found something they didn’t want to find in there and were hurt by it, but didn’t even see anything wrong with sneaking into my room and finding my hidden personal writing. That’s smart to provide better security. Sounds like you got rid of that toxic relationship too.
I've had that happen to me too with feeling violated at repeated reading of my diary. But I discovered that online is even worse for privacy for me. I haven't journalled a lot for years but I needed it as a kid and it helped me survive. My psychologist and doctors are so angry at what I had to go through which is validating because I always tried to find a way to blame myself. It is empowering to know more about relationship dynamics and types of abuse from people with cluster B disorders. It's not about labelling people but about being able to know that what you've been through is not right and it's not your fault.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. You deserve a safe place to let your thoughts go freely. I hope your divorce goes smoothly and you find the life you deserve 💘
I have journaled since high school with long gaps in between. I've destroyed pages and probably even whole books. I've also reread the survivors and felt unbearable compassion for the person I was back then. Some of it helped me remember why I became what I am because I'd forgotten what happened to me, I think trauma caused me to lose memories. On the whole I think journaling is an excellent coping mechanism for us INFJ's, we need that release.
I have only one journal left and it has mostly college memories and of job hunting days. I am still deciding whether to throw them or ripped only few pages haha.
You are so funny...don’t know if you’re trying to be but you are and interesting too. Love the rambling also and it all makes sense to me bc I’m an INFJ too.
I’ve never had enough courage to write down my darkest thoughts. I don’t even have the courage to contemplate them in my head, but suppressing such thoughts must be pretty unhealthy. This video made me want to start journaling, though I still fear if I really face my darkest thoughts, I might go insane... Anyway, thank you so much for the inspiration 😊
You won’t go insane. It has helped me to face the painful things and people. The other way I often let those things and people linger in my life way too long.
I don't worry, about my darkest thoughts now 'cause I have actually used them. I am only telling it to you all as you are an INFJ like me. Otherwise I wouldn't have said this.
I didn’t know other people did this, mine is a whole ritual when I journal dark things because it feels like physically letting go of the emotions that hurt...
@@nehamotwani6477 Nah, things change, and we can't help it no matter what. It's also the case with other youtubers that I watch, there was this time, when they weren't so popular and couldn't afford expensive material but their videos were still gold tier quality. Now they have millions of subs, gain way more money and can afford expensive material and stuff (they also are experienced) which makes them professionals, and when you're a pro you just can't do videos that are "amateur-like" like this video anymore. So sadly, there is very few chances of seeing Frank speaking so openly and seriously about his personal life and experiences like that.
@@keaton5850 makes sense. But I think there is also a personal preference for not making this content anymore. His life must have changed a lot in these years. Maybe now he doesn't want to. Because he can start another channel for that kind of unfiltered raw content. He surely has an audience for that.
I'm glad I'm not the only one that has done this As a teenager I made it a routine that I would spill every emotion onto the page, burn it, and then bury the ashes Was always afraid to admit that cause of how paranoid it sounded
Thank you for this. You are so right. Also, I totally agree with: ...if the journal looks too good, pretty and important then you kind of get a blockage in you mind...things to be written will have to be at the same level...the perfectionist kicks in...and you don't write anything.
I used to write my thoughts in a journal when I was at a pretty bad period with my depression. Eventually I stopped writing because it's too scary when I reread some of my entries. (Also I would write for hours and run out of time to do anything else). I should have ripped the pages out and burned them. Thanks man.
I had a ninth grade English teacher, Mrs. Turner, who made us keep journals we would turn in every quarter. Some days we would have specific topics to write on, and she would read those. But the other days could be whatever we wanted to write about. I got in the habit of journalling because of her, and I’m so grateful. Thank-you, Mrs. Turner!
I used to journal when I was younger but had my privacy violated and used against me. I can’t bear to put ME onto paper anymore, even seeing it myself makes me cringe. I am so intensely private and need to guard that to feel safe. I do do a dream journal in pictures with brief notes. Only I can interpret it. Luckily I have a great memory for details and pictures easily trigger a memory. Dreams are personal but a little more removed than intentional soul spilling. I also avoid dwelling on negative things now so I don’t want a permanent record, I already have the movies playing on repeat in my brain.
if you want to get back to journaling you can always label the notebook as something else like a subject for a class or shopping lists so nobody who finds it decides to snoop
I love the old FJ too. He's a nice, relaxing old friend whom you could listen to for hours. The new FJ is good for learning or laughter. But the old FJ is peaceful. Loved the new video with your newborn. So beautiful. Seeing where you've come from and where you are now, I marvel over your progress to my kids all the time. Yet the old you is still worth keeping around there somewhere. 😊
The reason I keep my journals: I journaled my way through a 20 year long bad marriage. After a divorce, years later I had viewed myself as the victim of a narcissist. But when I read my journals, I realized how strong I had been to survive. That is the power of journaling.
What i got from this is: Keeping thoughts or words in your mind make you weaker because you fixate on them. Speaking or journaling them makes you stronger because it is liberation from that echo chamber. This is really helpful. Thanks Frank
27 yrs ago I burned my diary...it was a cathartic experience watching painful memories go up in smoke. I guess it’s a way of freeing yourself and moving on. I now only burn pages, not entire journals🔥
I still have all my diaries since I was 15. 51 now. I am saving them in case I want to write my memoirs lol. Or when I become senile and would like to see who I was once. Lol.
Thats the reason i am writing journal too, because when i got old i can read all my journals or my kids or grandkids will read it to know how i spend my life
I am going to make a video and just be myself. one video at a time. with the intention of helping out this community. Because it has been a huge blessing to me. Thank you!!!
Wow. This is the time when Frank had less than 100 subs. Now he has almost 1M subs. So much love to you. The captions for the drawings made me laugh. They are cute. I really miss the intimacy of these older videos. Frank has really grown so much.
I’m an ISFJ and I totally relate to everything in this video, journaling relieves the anxiety that I have and honestly as a person who used to self harm it is a lot like blood letting. Journaling is one of the best things you can do in my opinion
Yes, for me it helps to talk out loud about certain thoughts... that’s why I actually will sometimes use my voice recorder on my iPhone and journal my thoughts through an audio recording. Some of them I keep, and then some I delete when I feel I’m done with them. But it helps me process when I feel that I can’t or am not quite ready to talk to somebody about what’s going on, and listening back once or twice sometimes even gives me some interesting perspective.
Have had a journal since 2008, and my life is in there...memories, happenings, dreams, thoughts...I reread it from time to time to remind myself of how I felt then. Never want anyone but me to read them, unless I'm dead and they need information for my obituary! BTW, I'm an introvert, so my family would have to read it to know me...I just use a 5 subject notebook from school...filled one in 5 years and am on my second one!
I love to journal and completely relate to needing to burn the pages sometimes. My private thoughts have been read by others before and I felt so violated afterwards.
There was a time when I wrote almost all day every day. I have filled 30 something journals so far. It's been a couple years since I've journaled with the exception of a poem or string of words that needs to come out. I have been chipping away at reading the old journals in no particular order, tearing out anything I want to keep (poetry, short stories, drawings, dream recall, and stuff I taped in like photos and whatever else). When I'm done burn the rest of the journal. It's very cathartic because I acknowledge the past and how I felt at the time, send love and forgiveness to those involved (including myself, yeah depression is a bitch) and then let it go. I have the stuff I'm keeping in a box with the intention to some day turn it into a book.
Writing journals, in my experience, is counterproductive- I filter everything. Lol. I don't want to share my darkest thoughts or even the happiest ones with people who'll violate the privacy of my journal. I don't want anyone to judge me. The most selfish part of me says that I don't want people to know what I think and why I think that way, then use it to figure me out. A friend told me before to write on a paper and burn it afterwards. After hearing that you burn yours, I find it logical to do what she suggested.
Oh how I needed this channel 600 days ago! Good at least I found u now. You are my current therapy. You have no idea how much of an impact your content is making in my day to day existence, specially with all that's going on in the world . Personally, u have become an Island in the middle of my dark ocean.
I think the strongest is when you have all three..... the words/ideas are an important aspect of this. I haven't journaled for years, but found great relief from my thoughts by journaling in my teens & 20s. I should start again, as my head is full too often these days. Cheers, great video & hair xx
Off sub but one of your best looks- hair might have had a lot of product in it but it still looked quite decent to me. And yeah I have sketchbooks and notebooks that are just way too good for me to be even thinking of using to give this a go- I'm an artist and one of the biggest issues I have is starting a new sketchbook. Messing up the beautiful blank paper that's full of possibilities up until I mar its surface or heaven forbid I have a major mess up and I have to rip the page out or leave a wonky half drawn image in it...=_= my heart can't take even the thought of it right now.
Hi, I’m a singer. My private teacher used to say I would stop before she could help me fix it. It’s ok to be an idealist but there are many mistakes to be made to get close to your ideal. These mistakes are opportunities to train yourself and find the next step to improve all the way to your ideal. Keep stepping. Mistakes become much less heinous as you accept them as necessary to the process.
For a long time I too struggled with the intimidation of 'the beautiful blank paper.' While the page is still blank it is filled with infinite potential and each mark we make narrows those while open possibilities to some degree. So I started to write (or sketch) in those inexpensive notebooks (or sketchbooks) with thin cardboard covers. I then graduated up a little to those with more substantial covers but which could be obtained cheaply at a dollar store, but I noticed the pages sometimes tend to fall out of these unless I get spiral bound versions. Finally at some point between necessity and a desire to simultaneously take myself more seriously as a writer and the expression of my ideas a bit less seriously (at least at times) I bought a nice, thick leather-bound notebook. At first it joined the collection of nice but empty notebooks given to me as gifts and which were collecting dust, but at some point necessity pushed me to select one and start using them. I had run out of room in my current notebook and it would be a while until I could get out to buy a new one, so I forced myself to select the nicest of these. Paradoxically, the instance of usable 'finished' or easily finishable pieces dropped at first. However, I also increasingly recognized the value and potential of some of these unfinished thoughts. I always leave blank space to work on ideas some more and have actually gone back and worked a few pieces from these notes I jotted about some ideas I had been working. So the 'lesson' I learned here was to honor my process more and to allow myself to play more. Perhaps also that 'mistakes' and 'failures' (at least in the creative process) are not final but rather a starting point. My next challenge was when I ran out of notebooks with ruled pages; quel horreur! I haven't been doing much drawing and again I needed a new notebook right away. This too has been interesting because it allows me to use the page and arrange words in different ways. Also, I find myself actually drawing the odd sketch. And surprisingly I find that I can write much more neatly and evenly than I thought I would be able to do on my own.
YOU are so weird! And so am I because I had a mini freak out just imagining that I could be doing that knowing I COULD NEVER. I Simply CHERISH my papers and pens and supplies! ❤️🔖📝🖊
I write poetry about dark and traumatic stuff and only in the last 5 years have I "released" them onto an online forum. This was a huge, huge step for me because I too burned every journal, story and poem for at least 20 years. I tried a few sites out first and so many people thought I was actually going to commit suicide & i quickly realized I needed a place where people can relate to dark subject matters. After I found that place (Deep Underground Poetry) now I feel that my writing is not complete until I post it and its out there for the world to see. Funny how our lives turn in directions that lead us to little places of freedom. Thanks for listening, Lori
When I was a teenager, I journaled regularly and I still have them. I don't know why I keep them. Now I tend to "journal" via notes on my phone or computer; either that, or I spout out my thoughts all over Facebook. I feel bad when I delete them. Its a piece of my brain and I suppose I don't want to forget who or where I've been.
I am so glad I found your channel. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one who cringes when they read old journals. Writing is very therapeutic though. It's the only way I can find closure and think through the thoughts when they just come to quick to comprehend!
That's a very good idea. I've been intuitively drawn to keep journals, but wasn't keeping one as i couldn't find a good reason for it. Now, after watching this video, I understood what my brain actually wanted. It wanted to pour it down: all thoughts, unresolved feelings, everything on the table. So, maybe it helps me to see my mind more clearly and recognize myself better. In any ways, that sounds like a very necessity to my life now. Thank you. If this video wasn't so vulnerable and honest, perhaps, I wouldn't even take your advice seriously. Now you are famous for making comedian sketches and don't make this real human to human conversations anymore. But, this was really beneficial in its own sincere way. Don't get too wrapped up in your known-to-everyone image of Frank James, but take some time to make such one-to-one real life videos as when you had 80 subscribers. 👍
As someone who has journaled since 1971, I am now contemplating burning the whole lot of them' so they will not be around in case I die suddenly. Mostly because if read by others they would be alarmed, and I don't want them to think I was unhappy my whole life. I agree it's just a way to get the thoughts out of the head, and in some way take away the power they have away...otherwise I am crippled with anxiety. However it works, it helps. But yeah, I don't want anyone else to read them.
I’ve been journaling since I was 12. My parents moved around a lot , I was constantly changing schools, so I started to become anxious about the future and writing was my only outlet. I stopped writing when I was 17, I hid my journals when I went on vacation, but when I came back it was placed somewhere else, making me feel like someone in my family looked through it. Ever since then I began using my notepad on my phone. I’m 21 now, I don’t write as often or as much anymore. I usually just write about realizations I have about people or about me, when I experience a pleasant or unpleasant emotion (I like to explore that a lot) or when I try to clear the plans I have (could be about anything)
Yes, I use my notebooks mostly to plan in now. When my journals were continually read as a kid and teen without my consent I was blamed for something in them they didn't like and there was no apology given for reading them. In fact I was made to burn them but they were difficult to burn. Once when I was very young I was made to destroy a page by someone after a social worker asked me to keep a diary. So I probably won't burn them now.
This was a great video ❤ i do journal, and it helps me sooo much with my depression..i totally agree with your theory because when the words/ideas stay in my head they keep haunting me but when i write them down i always feel better even if i don't come up with a solution or anything..the weight of them decreases and it's kinda liberating
I’ve said that before, but I’m gonna say that again. Many times Iisten to you, I can relate to what’s you say. And it feels amazing and creepy at the same time. Many times I also have tears in my eyes while I’m watching your videos, because you say what I’d like to say. I’m sure, that I’m not the only one.
I like to think of these old videos as the journal entries you kept for us to share in and learn from 😌. You’ll probably never read these, but thanks. It’s amazing because just before I found this channel I had decided to be embarrassingly honest with people in going into my first year in college. I thought this would solve issues with pride (in forcefully humbling myself) and in fear and anxiety (not caring so much about what people thought of me). I also hate being misunderstood, so if I could reach people’s hearts by embarrassing myself (in being open to people) then all the better. I can see now that you’re doing this with your channel, and it really makes me wonder if I’m up for it. Still, I hope I can be more like you in the future so that I can meet people where they’re at. You’re awesome. I eff with your channel. I wish you the best going forward :)))
I burn my writings also, but I do recommend writing events in a journal because of memory problems later. I have an excellent memory, but there is so much we forget.
I would never burn my journals, they would actually be the first thing I’d save in a fire. My Si may be more nostalgic, I want to keep everything. XD But I have a bad memory, I need to remember my life through my journals, the cringy included.
This makes sense to me tbh. One of my best friends is an INFP and the lengths she goes to to remind me of things that happened 14 years ago at school like that one day X said Y to her and I said Z, and am there just like wow why. How and Why do you remember any of this 😂
loved this video! Thank you! I've journaled every day since I was 11 (44 years) missing only 1 day. And I write in spiral notebooks because they're pretty boring/ discreet looking. But wow, I agree with every single sentiment in this video. I don't know how to get through a day without journaling but I definitely think burning these volumes (when I die) is key!
I love how you describe it as bloodletting..... I feel that!! Love this. Thankful to you for putting this out in the world. Happy to have found your channel.
I stopped journaling after doing it for many years, exactly for the same reasons and in the same way as you. I found out that writing about the dark stuff, the doubts, the fears and so on is not a release at all but, on the contrary, is perpetuating the momentum of it. Today instead of journaling I would recommend meditating or just deliberately focusing on more positive things.
I used to journal in my pre-teen to 18 or so..? I don't know why I'm not journaling anymore. It's been 6 years. I loves journaling back then. I feel freer. There's one diary in my pre-teen, it was so dark. Poor INFJ me as a child, feeling so out of place. The teacher always say that I daydreaming a lot. I always rage & have anger management issues. I still have regrets about the hurtful thing I do to my love ones. Ever since I found out about MBTI, I feel so much calmer and understands about me a lot better. It's a long journey.
I am going through a lot right now and watching this old video of yours has inspired me to start journaling. I will, however, do it on my laptop as writing it with a pen makes my hands tired. I do realize that my mind has become absolutely chaotic and I may need to release it by expressing it in this form.
I get happy every time you upload a new video! :) I recognize myself a lot in how you think and express yourself, maybe not so strange because I'm also an INFJ. I used to journal a lot when I was younger, should probably give it a chance again. Now that you're talking about it I got kinda scared because I remembered that I've left lots of my old journals in my dad's attic. I hope he stays away from them :'D Anyway, hope you continue making videos! /Emelie
I need to go back to journaling again, would let my bf get a break. Also! I started following you just a few days ago and you are up 1000 subs since then, congrats!
Whenever I get a new journal or sketchbook i scribble horribly on the first few pages and write something along the lines of "this is my journal and I'll write whatever I want to in it" and then I feel like well, it's already ruined so I can just write/draw whatever trash comes to mind.
Using a simple student notepad is perfect for that type of journalling. Or a whiteboard. When we aren't worried about our secret fears and embarassments being "found out" we can really explore them freely. It's free therapy.
I use my journal as a way to get myself through stressful situations. Its as though I can't process what is going on and deal with it until its on paper with the events detailed chronologically. As you said, its a release and it untangles the knot in my head. Then once I have written it out and processed it and run it through the filter, I can then start planning what to do next. Its a bit like I am writing a television show and each day is an episode. I don't know what I would do without my journals. They have gotten me through many things.
I wanted to revisit this since your poll the other day. As of last night. I've started up again.😉 I've been thinking about what you say here about written or verbal words and which is stronger? I think maybe it's up to who is on the receiving end of those words and what the words are. Sometimes I can read something in a book, text, or even YT comment, and it can cut me to the core or lift me up and inspire me. Other times, someone might say something that can do the same. Maybe they're equal, idk. Then there is what is left unwritten or unsaid that can do those things too. For journaling though, I write whatever needs to be written, meaning whatever my hand wants to write at that moment. I try not to edit myself. Good, bad, ugly, vulnerable...as I said in my comment months ago, I only destroy it if I need to completely let it go. The thing about being a poet or writer of any kind, I want to keep my writings in case one day they may be of some use or value. Don't you feel that way? The super dark stuff, yeah I destroy it. Something sort of related, or maybe not...In my dad's notebook where he kept his poems, there were also old thoughts, notes, and scribblings from meetings he held as a school board president; even a homemade ice cream recipe he wrote. I can’t get rid of them. He had the most perfect handwriting I've ever seen and it's like a tiny window into his brain from then. I don't know why I thought of that right now. Stream of consciousness I guess. Goodnight fellow writer.I hope you're getting some sleep. I worry about you. 🤗😘
Hahaha your drawings are hilarious! I love them! They're very you. Journaling is fun, but there are some things I don't want to write or talk about out loud because I feel like they're not worth giving that power. But if something is reeeally bothering me, then I'll talk about it with someone I trust.
I am an avid journal writer.....I have them coming out of my ears. Sometimes I wonder if I want my posterity to read them but I figure they are history so will probably keep them.....to be most likely trashed after I’m gone because nobody will want to spend time reading them....you’ve given me food for thought though about free writing as sometimes I think I am going nuts with my thoughts but am reluctant to write them in my journal for fear someone will read it one day. I like your idea of ‘blood letting’. Will have to look for perforated pages notebook. You’re a marvel Frank James and this hairstyle is awesome on you.
I totally F with this. I have a hard time writing dark things in “nice” journals...never once thought of having a burn after writing ritual. Thanks for the suggestion FJ. 👍
As an INTJ who’s been watching your channel for about 4 or 5 years now I miss the style of these old videos. They really are an Fe/Te hybrid. An Ni dom moves forward. So I just rewatch them. Thank you for leaving them up.
I have had people find my journals before so I really hold back now on writing anything. I think you are inspiring me to start again. But now I am not with anyone so I could write whatever I want. All my deepest darkest things and then rip out the pages and burn them. I get it. I do find writing cathartic.
I've religiously kept a journal since I was 11. I'm on Volume 41 at the moment. I write whatever I think, like you said, but I keep them. I write nearly every day, and sometimes it's a 20 page long shit show. Still -- destroying them is my worst nightmare. My journals are the one thing I would save in a natural disaster or run back into a burning building for. When I die, I want to have a huge library of them. Is that narcissistic? Probably. Either way, I love being able to go back through the years and see what I was thinking, how I've changed (or not), and what was relevant in my life at certain points. I get why you burn them, but I think those pages are the best parts, the most important parts -- the window into your humanity.
I am an INFP and what I do is much more imagistic. I wouldn't exactly call it art journaling but I draw images which for me precede words and thoughts. In my mind, images are always coming to me and they're always there. if i sit and draw any crazy thing that comes to mind it is amazing to me how consistent they are in bringing to my attention what is going on with me. Years ago I took an arts therapy class in college and one session was on mandalas as interpretative frameworks for what's happening in the psyche. It was based on Jung's great wheel of mandalas. The book if you're interested ... cuz i lost track of it for a long time afterward: The Mandala Workbook by Susanne Fincher. the idea is that jung saw mandalas as representing the eye because mandalas are drawings made within circles. this is why it relates to the psyche or what the mind/person sees: or the self or mind, with emphasis on the individual and the individuation process. you might really like it. or not. it fits how i tend to think and how i process things very well.
I have two journals I've filled with insane thoughts and experiences my entire time in undergrad. It represents my struggle with coming to terms with my identity. Now that I'm in a better place, they feel like weights I need to get rid of. Everyone around me is trying to convince me to keep these journals, but this video really got my back. So... to the fire pit they go! ^_^
Frank in this video your rambling stream of thought makes no sense. But it is all perfectly clear to me. Thanks again. BTW, I always burn my journals also.
Sometimes when life gets overwhelming, I’ll write down all of my negative thoughts in a notebook, then I’ll rip the pages out and burn them in my backyard. It helps because it lets me express how I feel so I can externalize it and the burning gives me a sense of control, like I can burn up the things in my life that are tormenting me. Very liberating
Journal in text computer files rather than paper. Name each file based on the date (YYYY-MM-DD.txt) Benefits: . add everything; notes, todos, chats, love letters . encrypt the entire set of files for great privacy . be *able* to review most phases of your life . touch type with eyes closed, relaxed, drunk, etc . review months or years to see behavior patterns . gain wisdom by identifying recurring behaviors . keep memories forever in an organized fashion . be able to have multiple encrypted backup copies . be *able* to share the journal with a therapist . not worry about fires, theft, or losing journals . analyze the entire journal using data science . be able to search for forgotten information . be able to index the data with text markers . take your journal with you whereever you go . be able to use different devices based on mood
Did you have 80 subscribers when you did this video and pitched the mole skin type journals? So glad your channel has flourished in that amount of time, every video is great for a time when we're in need. Even the ones you don't feel are great, they are to us. 🙌🏻 I need to purchase one of these mole skiné journals you speak of👌🏻
I used to have a therapist that suggested this technique to me. But here is the thing: I found it hard to do. I would get deep into analyzing things that it didn’t even seem like a ‘normal journaling’. It was more of a riddle within a riddle within a riddle… It was filled with questions and no answer, with doubts and insecurity that lead to deep and unexplainable inner hurt… Until REBT. That was more up in my alley. I had realized that I had already been using such method due to the cognitive functions without knowing it is an actual method used to help people. And art became the way of exploring, expression and transformation to my inner world into a visible and externalized action. It became a language in itself that opened a gate towards higher understanding and self-acceptance.
I have come to understand that journaling is a way of meditation and raising one's vibration. Especially if one takes time to journal things one is grateful for (after the general download of all other stuff). It's an instant "feel good" and, leads to other amazing stuff like attracting one's deepest desires. When one's vibration is positive, magic happens. One is going to start their day now :-)
I started journaling 30 years ago for the exact reasons you named. I think of it as brain regurgitation or clearing my data. It is the only effective way to get that stuff out of there! I use dollar tree spiral binders for the tear out necessity. It is essential to burn what you don't want read by others otherwise it is impossible not to mentally edit. My main incentive for burning= grown kids.
I like to write stories for that. I am pretty reserved, and anybody who has read these stories is surprised by the amount of things I pick up on in life, the concepts I have formed, and the raw of emotion. I’m just extremely private & selective with people , but not in fantasy land!
I believe written words are the strongest of the three. You write down specifically what you are feeling and your thoughts. You can easily forget what you think and verbally say. But the written word is harder to destroy, unless it is by your own hand.
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"... a youtuber with 80 subscribers"
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Had my first honest laugh of the day. And those are hard to come by. Thank you.
I have been journaling for 20 years, almost daily. My husband found my journal and read it. I felt violated because he had no respect for my boundaries and mental privacy. I now have a private journal online, password protected. And I am divorcing my serial cheating, borderline, bipolar husband. I am looking forward to handwritten journalling again.
Hej Lauren, are to jurnaling again :)?
Hey, this comment is a year old, but just wanted to say I know what it’s like to have someone violate your privacy by reading your journal. They found something they didn’t want to find in there and were hurt by it, but didn’t even see anything wrong with sneaking into my room and finding my hidden personal writing. That’s smart to provide better security. Sounds like you got rid of that toxic relationship too.
I've had that happen to me too with feeling violated at repeated reading of my diary. But I discovered that online is even worse for privacy for me. I haven't journalled a lot for years but I needed it as a kid and it helped me survive. My psychologist and doctors are so angry at what I had to go through which is validating because I always tried to find a way to blame myself. It is empowering to know more about relationship dynamics and types of abuse from people with cluster B disorders. It's not about labelling people but about being able to know that what you've been through is not right and it's not your fault.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. You deserve a safe place to let your thoughts go freely. I hope your divorce goes smoothly and you find the life you deserve 💘
Violated also and never journaled again. Lost trust for the world around me.
I have journaled since high school with long gaps in between. I've destroyed pages and probably even whole books. I've also reread the survivors and felt unbearable compassion for the person I was back then. Some of it helped me remember why I became what I am because I'd forgotten what happened to me, I think trauma caused me to lose memories. On the whole I think journaling is an excellent coping mechanism for us INFJ's, we need that release.
Can relate.
Me too
Same...
I have only one journal left and it has mostly college memories and of job hunting days. I am still deciding whether to throw them or ripped only few pages haha.
You are so funny...don’t know if you’re trying to be but you are and interesting too. Love the rambling also and it all makes sense to me bc I’m an INFJ too.
"Stay tuned for more makeup tutorials"
I’ve never had enough courage to write down my darkest thoughts. I don’t even have the courage to contemplate them in my head, but suppressing such thoughts must be pretty unhealthy.
This video made me want to start journaling, though I still fear if I really face my darkest thoughts, I might go insane...
Anyway, thank you so much for the inspiration 😊
You won’t go insane. It has helped me to face the painful things and people. The other way I often let those things and people linger in my life way too long.
If I may ask, have you tried it and did it help? Just curious.
I don't worry, about my darkest thoughts now 'cause I have actually used them. I am only telling it to you all as you are an INFJ like me. Otherwise I wouldn't have said this.
I didn’t know other people did this, mine is a whole ritual when I journal dark things because it feels like physically letting go of the emotions that hurt...
I miss the old Frank... just a camera and some thoughts. Top INFJ content ;)
I agree old vedios are so Great, informative..& so thoughtfull
Me too
He should start making these kind of videos again, from time to time.
@@nehamotwani6477 Nah, things change, and we can't help it no matter what. It's also the case with other youtubers that I watch, there was this time, when they weren't so popular and couldn't afford expensive material but their videos were still gold tier quality. Now they have millions of subs, gain way more money and can afford expensive material and stuff (they also are experienced) which makes them professionals, and when you're a pro you just can't do videos that are "amateur-like" like this video anymore. So sadly, there is very few chances of seeing Frank speaking so openly and seriously about his personal life and experiences like that.
@@keaton5850 makes sense. But I think there is also a personal preference for not making this content anymore. His life must have changed a lot in these years. Maybe now he doesn't want to.
Because he can start another channel for that kind of unfiltered raw content. He surely has an audience for that.
I'm glad I'm not the only one that has done this As a teenager I made it a routine that I would spill every emotion onto the page, burn it, and then bury the ashes Was always afraid to admit that cause of how paranoid it sounded
Thank you for this. You are so right. Also, I totally agree with: ...if the journal looks too good, pretty and important then you kind of get a blockage in you mind...things to be written will have to be at the same level...the perfectionist kicks in...and you don't write anything.
I used to write my thoughts in a journal when I was at a pretty bad period with my depression. Eventually I stopped writing because it's too scary when I reread some of my entries. (Also I would write for hours and run out of time to do anything else). I should have ripped the pages out and burned them. Thanks man.
Lala :)
Same
You look awesome here.👍
Eros L ‚the bad hair day’ lol
ditto!
I literally thought, "I like his hair in this video. It looks good" seconds before his hair comment.
I had a ninth grade English teacher, Mrs. Turner, who made us keep journals we would turn in every quarter. Some days we would have specific topics to write on, and she would read those. But the other days could be whatever we wanted to write about. I got in the habit of journalling because of her, and I’m so grateful. Thank-you, Mrs. Turner!
I used to journal when I was younger but had my privacy violated and used against me. I can’t bear to put ME onto paper anymore, even seeing it myself makes me cringe. I am so intensely private and need to guard that to feel safe. I do do a dream journal in pictures with brief notes. Only I can interpret it. Luckily I have a great memory for details and pictures easily trigger a memory. Dreams are personal but a little more removed than intentional soul spilling. I also avoid dwelling on negative things now so I don’t want a permanent record, I already have the movies playing on repeat in my brain.
if you want to get back to journaling you can always label the notebook as something else like a subject for a class or shopping lists so nobody who finds it decides to snoop
Thats what happened to me with writing poetry.
Maybe you can put a lock on it?
I had the very same thing happen to me. Devastating.
Same i don't know why most people have no sense of privacy, my cousin brother read mine which was something i hated him so much for
I love the old FJ too. He's a nice, relaxing old friend whom you could listen to for hours. The new FJ is good for learning or laughter. But the old FJ is peaceful. Loved the new video with your newborn. So beautiful. Seeing where you've come from and where you are now, I marvel over your progress to my kids all the time. Yet the old you is still worth keeping around there somewhere. 😊
The reason I keep my journals: I journaled my way through a 20 year long bad marriage. After a divorce, years later I had viewed myself as the victim of a narcissist. But when I read my journals, I realized how strong I had been to survive. That is the power of journaling.
What i got from this is: Keeping thoughts or words in your mind make you weaker because you fixate on them. Speaking or journaling them makes you stronger because it is liberation from that echo chamber. This is really helpful. Thanks Frank
I do this too - making theories and patterns and processes. When I figure something out, I want to explain it.
And I definitely journal!
27 yrs ago I burned my diary...it was a cathartic experience watching painful memories go up in smoke. I guess it’s a way of freeing yourself and moving on.
I now only burn pages, not entire journals🔥
Did you ever regret burning them?
You deserve way more subscribers than you have. I'm going to share your videos with my fellow Nis.
I still have all my diaries since I was 15. 51 now. I am saving them in case I want to write my memoirs lol. Or when I become senile and would like to see who I was once. Lol.
That's fantastic! Do you journal on most days?
Thats the reason i am writing journal too, because when i got old i can read all my journals or my kids or grandkids will read it to know how i spend my life
I burn thoughts in my mind
Hi Frank! I am from the future. You now have 341K+ subscribers. Also, we have a pandemic...
Love this comment! I also had need to say that to him, especially about his subscribers amd how successful he is.
I am going to make a video and just be myself. one video at a time. with the intention of helping out this community. Because it has been a huge blessing to me. Thank you!!!
Wow. This is the time when Frank had less than 100 subs. Now he has almost 1M subs. So much love to you. The captions for the drawings made me laugh. They are cute. I really miss the intimacy of these older videos. Frank has really grown so much.
I’m an ISFJ and I totally relate to everything in this video, journaling relieves the anxiety that I have and honestly as a person who used to self harm it is a lot like blood letting. Journaling is one of the best things you can do in my opinion
Yes, for me it helps to talk out loud about certain thoughts... that’s why I actually will sometimes use my voice recorder on my iPhone and journal my thoughts through an audio recording. Some of them I keep, and then some I delete when I feel I’m done with them. But it helps me process when I feel that I can’t or am not quite ready to talk to somebody about what’s going on, and listening back once or twice sometimes even gives me some interesting perspective.
Have had a journal since 2008, and my life is in there...memories, happenings, dreams, thoughts...I reread it from time to time to remind myself of how I felt then. Never want anyone but me to read them, unless I'm dead and they need information for my obituary! BTW, I'm an introvert, so my family would have to read it to know me...I just use a 5 subject notebook from school...filled one in 5 years and am on my second one!
I love to journal and completely relate to needing to burn the pages sometimes. My private thoughts have been read by others before and I felt so violated afterwards.
There was a time when I wrote almost all day every day. I have filled 30 something journals so far. It's been a couple years since I've journaled with the exception of a poem or string of words that needs to come out. I have been chipping away at reading the old journals in no particular order, tearing out anything I want to keep (poetry, short stories, drawings, dream recall, and stuff I taped in like photos and whatever else). When I'm done burn the rest of the journal. It's very cathartic because I acknowledge the past and how I felt at the time, send love and forgiveness to those involved (including myself, yeah depression is a bitch) and then let it go. I have the stuff I'm keeping in a box with the intention to some day turn it into a book.
bad hair? nope ...
Writing journals, in my experience, is counterproductive- I filter everything. Lol. I don't want to share my darkest thoughts or even the happiest ones with people who'll violate the privacy of my journal. I don't want anyone to judge me. The most selfish part of me says that I don't want people to know what I think and why I think that way, then use it to figure me out.
A friend told me before to write on a paper and burn it afterwards. After hearing that you burn yours, I find it logical to do what she suggested.
Michel Angeli / Frank doesn’t burn the entire book, only certain pages ( sometimes ) He keeps the journals. That’s why he buys the good notebooks ..
Oh how I needed this channel 600 days ago! Good at least I found u now. You are my current therapy. You have no idea how much of an impact your content is making in my day to day existence, specially with all that's going on in the world . Personally, u have become an Island in the middle of my dark ocean.
I think the strongest is when you have all three..... the words/ideas are an important aspect of this.
I haven't journaled for years, but found great relief from my thoughts by journaling in my teens & 20s. I should start again, as my head is full too often these days. Cheers, great video & hair xx
Off sub but one of your best looks- hair might have had a lot of product in it but it still looked quite decent to me. And yeah I have sketchbooks and notebooks that are just way too good for me to be even thinking of using to give this a go- I'm an artist and one of the biggest issues I have is starting a new sketchbook. Messing up the beautiful blank paper that's full of possibilities up until I mar its surface or heaven forbid I have a major mess up and I have to rip the page out or leave a wonky half drawn image in it...=_= my heart can't take even the thought of it right now.
Hi, I’m a singer. My private teacher used to say I would stop before she could help me fix it. It’s ok to be an idealist but there are many mistakes to be made to get close to your ideal. These mistakes are opportunities to train yourself and find the next step to improve all the way to your ideal. Keep stepping. Mistakes become much less heinous as you accept them as necessary to the process.
For a long time I too struggled with the intimidation of 'the beautiful blank paper.' While the page is still blank it is filled with infinite potential and each mark we make narrows those while open possibilities to some degree.
So I started to write (or sketch) in those inexpensive notebooks (or sketchbooks) with thin cardboard covers. I then graduated up a little to those with more substantial covers but which could be obtained cheaply at a dollar store, but I noticed the pages sometimes tend to fall out of these unless I get spiral bound versions. Finally at some point between necessity and a desire to simultaneously take myself more seriously as a writer and the expression of my ideas a bit less seriously (at least at times) I bought a nice, thick leather-bound notebook.
At first it joined the collection of nice but empty notebooks given to me as gifts and which were collecting dust, but at some point necessity pushed me to select one and start using them. I had run out of room in my current notebook and it would be a while until I could get out to buy a new one, so I forced myself to select the nicest of these. Paradoxically, the instance of usable 'finished' or easily finishable pieces dropped at first.
However, I also increasingly recognized the value and potential of some of these unfinished thoughts. I always leave blank space to work on ideas some more and have actually gone back and worked a few pieces from these notes I jotted about some ideas I had been working. So the 'lesson' I learned here was to honor my process more and to allow myself to play more. Perhaps also that 'mistakes' and 'failures' (at least in the creative process) are not final but rather a starting point.
My next challenge was when I ran out of notebooks with ruled pages; quel horreur! I haven't been doing much drawing and again I needed a new notebook right away. This too has been interesting because it allows me to use the page and arrange words in different ways. Also, I find myself actually drawing the odd sketch. And surprisingly I find that I can write much more neatly and evenly than I thought I would be able to do on my own.
YOU are so weird! And so am I because I had a mini freak out just imagining that I could be doing that knowing I COULD NEVER. I Simply CHERISH my papers and pens and supplies! ❤️🔖📝🖊
I write poetry about dark and traumatic stuff and only in the last 5 years have I "released" them onto an online forum. This was a huge, huge step for me because I too burned every journal, story and poem for at least 20 years. I tried a few sites out first and so many people thought I was actually going to commit suicide & i quickly realized I needed a place where people can relate to dark subject matters. After I found that place (Deep Underground Poetry) now I feel that my writing is not complete until I post it and its out there for the world to see. Funny how our lives turn in directions that lead us to little places of freedom. Thanks for listening, Lori
I actually don't have enough discipline to journaling, but I really recognize the importance of doing things like that... and burning them too
When I was a teenager, I journaled regularly and I still have them. I don't know why I keep them. Now I tend to "journal" via notes on my phone or computer; either that, or I spout out my thoughts all over Facebook. I feel bad when I delete them. Its a piece of my brain and I suppose I don't want to forget who or where I've been.
I am so glad I found your channel. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one who cringes when they read old journals.
Writing is very therapeutic though. It's the only way I can find closure and think through the thoughts when they just come to quick to comprehend!
😁 it always makes me chuckle when you say stay tune for more makeup tutorials 😁😁😁😁😁
"What I had for dinner doesn't matter." Please let millions of Instagramers know...
That's a very good idea. I've been intuitively drawn to keep journals, but wasn't keeping one as i couldn't find a good reason for it. Now, after watching this video, I understood what my brain actually wanted. It wanted to pour it down: all thoughts, unresolved feelings, everything on the table. So, maybe it helps me to see my mind more clearly and recognize myself better. In any ways, that sounds like a very necessity to my life now. Thank you. If this video wasn't so vulnerable and honest, perhaps, I wouldn't even take your advice seriously. Now you are famous for making comedian sketches and don't make this real human to human conversations anymore. But, this was really beneficial in its own sincere way. Don't get too wrapped up in your known-to-everyone image of Frank James, but take some time to make such one-to-one real life videos as when you had 80 subscribers. 👍
As someone who has journaled since 1971, I am now contemplating burning the whole lot of them' so they will not be around in case I die suddenly. Mostly because if read by others they would be alarmed, and I don't want them to think I was unhappy my whole life. I agree it's just a way to get the thoughts out of the head, and in some way take away the power they have away...otherwise I am crippled with anxiety. However it works, it helps. But yeah, I don't want anyone else to read them.
Well, there goes all my journals! The thought of dying and anyone finding them just freaked me right out! Thanks Frank James :-/
I’ve been journaling since I was 12. My parents moved around a lot , I was constantly changing schools, so I started to become anxious about the future and writing was my only outlet. I stopped writing when I was 17, I hid my journals when I went on vacation, but when I came back it was placed somewhere else, making me feel like someone in my family looked through it. Ever since then I began using my notepad on my phone. I’m 21 now, I don’t write as often or as much anymore. I usually just write about realizations I have about people or about me, when I experience a pleasant or unpleasant emotion (I like to explore that a lot) or when I try to clear the plans I have (could be about anything)
Yes, I use my notebooks mostly to plan in now.
When my journals were continually read as a kid and teen without my consent I was blamed for something in them they didn't like and there was no apology given for reading them. In fact I was made to burn them but they were difficult to burn. Once when I was very young I was made to destroy a page by someone after a social worker asked me to keep a diary. So I probably won't burn them now.
This was a great video ❤ i do journal, and it helps me sooo much with my depression..i totally agree with your theory because when the words/ideas stay in my head they keep haunting me but when i write them down i always feel better even if i don't come up with a solution or anything..the weight of them decreases and it's kinda liberating
I’ve said that before, but I’m gonna say that again. Many times Iisten to you, I can relate to what’s you say. And it feels amazing and creepy at the same time. Many times I also have tears in my eyes while I’m watching your videos, because you say what I’d like to say. I’m sure, that I’m not the only one.
I like to think of these old videos as the journal entries you kept for us to share in and learn from 😌. You’ll probably never read these, but thanks. It’s amazing because just before I found this channel I had decided to be embarrassingly honest with people in going into my first year in college. I thought this would solve issues with pride (in forcefully humbling myself) and in fear and anxiety (not caring so much about what people thought of me). I also hate being misunderstood, so if I could reach people’s hearts by embarrassing myself (in being open to people) then all the better. I can see now that you’re doing this with your channel, and it really makes me wonder if I’m up for it. Still, I hope I can be more like you in the future so that I can meet people where they’re at. You’re awesome. I eff with your channel. I wish you the best going forward :)))
I burn my writings also, but I do recommend writing events in a journal because of memory problems later. I have an excellent memory, but there is so much we forget.
I would never burn my journals, they would actually be the first thing I’d save in a fire. My Si may be more nostalgic, I want to keep everything. XD But I have a bad memory, I need to remember my life through my journals, the cringy included.
This makes sense to me tbh. One of my best friends is an INFP and the lengths she goes to to remind me of things that happened 14 years ago at school like that one day X said Y to her and I said Z, and am there just like wow why. How and Why do you remember any of this 😂
loved this video! Thank you! I've journaled every day since I was 11 (44 years) missing only 1 day. And I write in spiral notebooks because they're pretty boring/ discreet looking. But wow, I agree with every single sentiment in this video. I don't know how to get through a day without journaling but I definitely think burning these volumes (when I die) is key!
I love how you describe it as bloodletting..... I feel that!! Love this. Thankful to you for putting this out in the world. Happy to have found your channel.
I stopped journaling after doing it for many years, exactly for the same reasons and in the same way as you. I found out that writing about the dark stuff, the doubts, the fears and so on is not a release at all but, on the contrary, is perpetuating the momentum of it. Today instead of journaling I would recommend meditating or just deliberately focusing on more positive things.
I used to journal in my pre-teen to 18 or so..? I don't know why I'm not journaling anymore. It's been 6 years. I loves journaling back then. I feel freer. There's one diary in my pre-teen, it was so dark. Poor INFJ me as a child, feeling so out of place. The teacher always say that I daydreaming a lot. I always rage & have anger management issues. I still have regrets about the hurtful thing I do to my love ones. Ever since I found out about MBTI, I feel so much calmer and understands about me a lot better. It's a long journey.
Wow, I love watching and hearing you! Thanks for your posts about just being you! Mike
Thanks for the kind words!
I am going through a lot right now and watching this old video of yours has inspired me to start journaling. I will, however, do it on my laptop as writing it with a pen makes my hands tired. I do realize that my mind has become absolutely chaotic and I may need to release it by expressing it in this form.
I save my writing so I can reread it later and see what I've learned and what I have forgotten.
I get happy every time you upload a new video! :) I recognize myself a lot in how you think and express yourself, maybe not so strange because I'm also an INFJ. I used to journal a lot when I was younger, should probably give it a chance again. Now that you're talking about it I got kinda scared because I remembered that I've left lots of my old journals in my dad's attic. I hope he stays away from them :'D Anyway, hope you continue making videos! /Emelie
journalling has been my best comfort all my life
I need to go back to journaling again, would let my bf get a break.
Also! I started following you just a few days ago and you are up 1000 subs since then, congrats!
Whenever I get a new journal or sketchbook i scribble horribly on the first few pages and write something along the lines of "this is my journal and I'll write whatever I want to in it" and then I feel like well, it's already ruined so I can just write/draw whatever trash comes to mind.
everything you said here is so accurate to the smallest detail. and you are great at putting into words things that people cant articulate.
Using a simple student notepad is perfect for that type of journalling. Or a whiteboard. When we aren't worried about our secret fears and embarassments being "found out" we can really explore them freely. It's free therapy.
I use my journal as a way to get myself through stressful situations. Its as though I can't process what is going on and deal with it until its on paper with the events detailed chronologically. As you said, its a release and it untangles the knot in my head. Then once I have written it out and processed it and run it through the filter, I can then start planning what to do next. Its a bit like I am writing a television show and each day is an episode. I don't know what I would do without my journals. They have gotten me through many things.
Me too to everything you just said.
Okay, if I wasn't scared before of the similarity of our personalities, I am now😂
Your old videos are really great and helpful.
I wanted to revisit this since your poll the other day. As of last night. I've started up again.😉 I've been thinking about what you say here about written or verbal words and which is stronger? I think maybe it's up to who is on the receiving end of those words and what the words are. Sometimes I can read something in a book, text, or even YT comment, and it can cut me to the core or lift me up and inspire me. Other times, someone might say something that can do the same. Maybe they're equal, idk. Then there is what is left unwritten or unsaid that can do those things too.
For journaling though, I write whatever needs to be written, meaning whatever my hand wants to write at that moment. I try not to edit myself. Good, bad, ugly, vulnerable...as I said in my comment months ago, I only destroy it if I need to completely let it go. The thing about being a poet or writer of any kind, I want to keep my writings in case one day they may be of some use or value. Don't you feel that way? The super dark stuff, yeah I destroy it.
Something sort of related, or maybe not...In my dad's notebook where he kept his poems, there were also old thoughts, notes, and scribblings from meetings he held as a school board president; even a homemade ice cream recipe he wrote. I can’t get rid of them. He had the most perfect handwriting I've ever seen and it's like a tiny window into his brain from then. I don't know why I thought of that right now. Stream of consciousness I guess. Goodnight fellow writer.I hope you're getting some sleep. I worry about you. 🤗😘
This guy sounds like hes burning some Dark shit......I get it! Its type of crap most would never tell anyone!! What dont people get?
Hahaha your drawings are hilarious! I love them! They're very you.
Journaling is fun, but there are some things I don't want to write or talk about out loud because I feel like they're not worth giving that power. But if something is reeeally bothering me, then I'll talk about it with someone I trust.
I am an avid journal writer.....I have them coming out of my ears. Sometimes I wonder if I want my posterity to read them but I figure they are history so will probably keep them.....to be most likely trashed after I’m gone because nobody will want to spend time reading them....you’ve given me food for thought though about free writing as sometimes I think I am going nuts with my thoughts but am reluctant to write them in my journal for fear someone will read it one day. I like your idea of ‘blood letting’. Will have to look for perforated pages notebook. You’re a marvel Frank James and this hairstyle is awesome on you.
I never liked/thought about journaling much.
Coincidentally I saw you at a time when I understood/needed journaling.
So thanks brother for sharing.
I totally F with this. I have a hard time writing dark things in “nice” journals...never once thought of having a burn after writing ritual. Thanks for the suggestion FJ. 👍
I've tried journaling before, but would always stop after awhile. This video made me want to start doing it again.
When was this? I must’ve sinned so much watching. You look so gorgeous in this one.
As an INTJ who’s been watching your channel for about 4 or 5 years now I miss the style of these old videos. They really are an Fe/Te hybrid. An Ni dom moves forward. So I just rewatch them. Thank you for leaving them up.
I have had people find my journals before so I really hold back now on writing anything. I think you are inspiring me to start again. But now I am not with anyone so I could write whatever I want. All my deepest darkest things and then rip out the pages and burn them. I get it. I do find writing cathartic.
I've religiously kept a journal since I was 11. I'm on Volume 41 at the moment. I write whatever I think, like you said, but I keep them. I write nearly every day, and sometimes it's a 20 page long shit show. Still -- destroying them is my worst nightmare. My journals are the one thing I would save in a natural disaster or run back into a burning building for. When I die, I want to have a huge library of them. Is that narcissistic? Probably. Either way, I love being able to go back through the years and see what I was thinking, how I've changed (or not), and what was relevant in my life at certain points. I get why you burn them, but I think those pages are the best parts, the most important parts -- the window into your humanity.
I don't read them but I don't burn them either just in case I might want to read them for something actually important down the track.
Hair is on point 👌
I am an INFP and what I do is much more imagistic. I wouldn't exactly call it art journaling but I draw images which for me precede words and thoughts. In my mind, images are always coming to me and they're always there. if i sit and draw any crazy thing that comes to mind it is amazing to me how consistent they are in bringing to my attention what is going on with me.
Years ago I took an arts therapy class in college and one session was on mandalas as interpretative frameworks for what's happening in the psyche. It was based on Jung's great wheel of mandalas. The book if you're interested ... cuz i lost track of it for a long time afterward: The Mandala Workbook by Susanne Fincher. the idea is that jung saw mandalas as representing the eye because mandalas are drawings made within circles. this is why it relates to the psyche or what the mind/person sees: or the self or mind, with emphasis on the individual and the individuation process. you might really like it. or not. it fits how i tend to think and how i process things very well.
I did some mandala work in a course and because I'm good at art I found it therapeutic.
I have two journals I've filled with insane thoughts and experiences my entire time in undergrad. It represents my struggle with coming to terms with my identity. Now that I'm in a better place, they feel like weights I need to get rid of. Everyone around me is trying to convince me to keep these journals, but this video really got my back. So... to the fire pit they go! ^_^
The thing about hard cover journals not letting you write the trivial details of life is so relatable👍
youre so handsome, damn!
You're too kind ;)
I agree!!
@@MissCap93 me too
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I like this old Frank James, I like the new one too just this one is great.
Great idea. To write - release your thoghts whatever they may be - and burn it.
You are wise.
Frank in this video your rambling stream of thought makes no sense. But it is all perfectly clear to me. Thanks again. BTW, I always burn my journals also.
Sometimes when life gets overwhelming, I’ll write down all of my negative thoughts in a notebook, then I’ll rip the pages out and burn them in my backyard. It helps because it lets me express how I feel so I can externalize it and the burning gives me a sense of control, like I can burn up the things in my life that are tormenting me. Very liberating
“I’m having a bad hair day…”
Me: in my mess of rough tangled hair that I thought were kinda nice.
* sad noises *
I just started journaling again after years of just not.... not sure why I stoped ....but it’s super
Journal in text computer files rather than paper.
Name each file based on the date (YYYY-MM-DD.txt)
Benefits:
. add everything; notes, todos, chats, love letters
. encrypt the entire set of files for great privacy
. be *able* to review most phases of your life
. touch type with eyes closed, relaxed, drunk, etc
. review months or years to see behavior patterns
. gain wisdom by identifying recurring behaviors
. keep memories forever in an organized fashion
. be able to have multiple encrypted backup copies
. be *able* to share the journal with a therapist
. not worry about fires, theft, or losing journals
. analyze the entire journal using data science
. be able to search for forgotten information
. be able to index the data with text markers
. take your journal with you whereever you go
. be able to use different devices based on mood
It all sounds far too organised for me to do 😆. Are you an INTJ?
Great video!! Thank you for sharing! XO I love journaling! It definitely helps me put my thoughts and feelings out of my brain.. helps calm my brain!
This video was the final push I needed to start journaling, thank you!
Hey no problem, Mariah!
Did you have 80 subscribers when you did this video and pitched the mole skin type journals? So glad your channel has flourished in that amount of time, every video is great for a time when we're in need. Even the ones you don't feel are great, they are to us. 🙌🏻 I need to purchase one of these mole skiné journals you speak of👌🏻
I used to have a therapist that suggested this technique to me. But here is the thing: I found it hard to do. I would get deep into analyzing things that it didn’t even seem like a ‘normal journaling’. It was more of a riddle within a riddle within a riddle… It was filled with questions and no answer, with doubts and insecurity that lead to deep and unexplainable inner hurt… Until REBT. That was more up in my alley. I had realized that I had already been using such method due to the cognitive functions without knowing it is an actual method used to help people. And art became the way of exploring, expression and transformation to my inner world into a visible and externalized action. It became a language in itself that opened a gate towards higher understanding and self-acceptance.
I have come to understand that journaling is a way of meditation and raising one's vibration. Especially if one takes time to journal things one is grateful for (after the general download of all other stuff). It's an instant "feel good" and, leads to other amazing stuff like attracting one's deepest desires. When one's vibration is positive, magic happens. One is going to start their day now :-)
I started journaling 30 years ago for the exact reasons you named. I think of it as brain regurgitation or clearing my data. It is the only effective way to get that stuff out of there! I use dollar tree spiral binders for the tear out necessity. It is essential to burn what you don't want read by others otherwise it is impossible not to mentally edit. My main incentive for burning= grown kids.
Natural light looks good on you...very cute 😄
Journalling is great. I only journal the most important thoughts and it helps to get it out of my mind
My parents found my journal and read a few pages. So when I went hiking, I tossed my old journal into the forest. :3
I like to write stories for that. I am pretty reserved, and anybody who has read these stories is surprised by the amount of things I pick up on in life, the concepts I have formed, and the raw of emotion. I’m just extremely private & selective with people , but not in fantasy land!
I believe written words are the strongest of the three. You write down specifically what you are feeling and your thoughts. You can easily forget what you think and verbally say. But the written word is harder to destroy, unless it is by your own hand.