How Narcissists Use YOU to Raise THEIR Vibration |Michele Lee Nieves
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There is so much information regarding HOW TO RAISE YOUR VIBRATION - and as I'm learning more and more it's obvious that without any 'training' at all (at least non on a conscious level)narcissists innately know how to raise their vibration - but it's very different from how healthy individuals go about raising their vibration. Not understanding these dynamics is what causes targets of narcissistic abuse to lower their own vibration without realizing it!! Once you watch this video and understand these dynamics - you can begin holding on to your emotional states despite toxic people trying to steal your energy.
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When I first started my healing journey I binge watched on narcissism videos right? Understanding and getting that validation that helped me to have that clarity. Well, now I binge watch on law of attraction and how to raise your vibration videos. And I was thinking the other day, something interesting - I was thinking - narcissists raise their vibration they know how to raise their vibration but they do it at the expense of their target. So that's what I wanted to talk about today - HOW NARCISSISTS USE YOU TO RAISE THEIR OWN VIBRATION - with that in mind my name is Michele, I'm a life coach and I dedicate my time to helping people overcome Complex PTSD and to breath through subconscious programming - if those are topics that you like make sure that you subscribe and hit that bell icon so that you're notified of my latest videos. So how do narcissists raise their vibration at your expense?
1:00 To understand that let's take a look at the scale that helps us to know what each emotion is calibrated at - It's made by Dr. Hawkins and I'm going to leave a link to his book as well in the description box below for anyone that's interested in learning about that:
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Notice that the emotion that is calibrated at the lowest frequency is shame.
So what does that mean that it's at the lowest frequency? What helped me to understand this was the illustration about a radio right if I have my radio - which I don't have - but if I had a radio still and I put it on 107.9 right I put that channel on 107.9 I'm going to get certain music on that channel - if I then change it to 92.3 I'm going to get a completely different song or information or whatever on that channel, because they are at different frequencies. Well, it's the same thing with our emotions, each emotion vibrates at a different frequency again shame being kind of one step above death pretty much. So it's the lowest frequency and narcissists are made up of a core sense of shame. That's their most overwhelming emotion inside of them. Now here's the interesting thing: ok because they always say like attracts like and that's true right. We attract externally what we are internally. Well narcissists don't look for people that are calibrating at the level of shame, because that would be of little to no use to them but they do look for somebody that has a shame wound.
They use gaslighting to make you feel insecure and then they feed off of that.
I feel so angry that I let these vampires steal so many years of my life. Ex-husband, ex-coworkers... I was so naive.
These people nearly killed me.
"I'm still allowed to stay happy." This mindset here will make a narcissist extremely upset with you. They will continue trying to bring down your happiness, and will end up making you feel guilty for it. It is important to keep that mindset in tact. Your happiness is a threat to them, and they have trouble functioning if you are happy. This isn't your problem, this is THEIR problem. I've learned so much watching these videos and it's helped me free myself from toxic narcissists.
They do steal your vibration. Was married to Narcs twice, and they 'take your MoJo'. Without them I am happy and successful. You are also right about them seeking out your 'wounds'; when you grow, heal yourself, heal your wounds, they continue to try and poke you there which becomes very apparent. I am not that person anymore so it does nothing more than show what THEY are. And you walk away.
Jay Tapper-McKelvey Me too. But 2nd WORSE..malignant. I knew there were bad people in the world but these are just sadistic. Love these vids to help us HEAL and get educated on this epidemic!
@@tammyturner7988 My first wife was actively trying to kill me for the insurance. Had nothing I could prove in court. All behind the back with every word s lie. Thats malignant. My 2nd was worse in some ways - more out in the open - but could be reasoned with, and most times and would honor agreements. There are monsters in the world who use your human weaknesses against u while professing love. That trap takes a lot of courage to rise up against to be free.
@Bob's Your uncle work though, doesn't it? Because without them draining me I'm Austin Powers...
Michelle Is Sooooooo Good!
I have binge days
All women cant help but to love a narcissistic man,that why you where marriage to one think about it,anyguy without the confidence is labelled as insecure,and having low self esteem is a big turn of for any women,I'm a narcissistic person,but I'm still empathetic towards others when I want to be just to do it,most insecure people do things to get something back i give to give forward,hope that helps,and yes narcissistic such as myself are confident,and you cant help but to love us because we love are selfcenterd selves baby😏
This is great to see a more spiritual perspective from you Michelle. These narcissists are feeding off us and training us to become low vibe.
Yep now you gotta heal!! Can't dwell on narcs forever
Your name makes it seem like you've not healed yet
I feel narcs use our positivity to feel validated. We see "something" in them and they use it...thus feeling seen. While the empath wastes away from continually giving and receiving very little affirmation.
Great vid. 🙏💯🙏
My ex narc was always talking about shame. It drove me crazy. He was in awe about my positive attitude. Scary stuff once all was said and done.
Just this 👆👏
I can remember when I was young and didn't know much about psychology, I used to notice that certain people were like emotional vampires. Always taking and never giving anything, leaving me feeling like my emotional bank account was low, and I would have to make a conscious effort to exercise, keep my mind on positive thoughts and I would pray to God, for him to fill me back up, and he did.
There needs to be laws against these demons!
I believe that somewhere in Europe. You can use narcissistic abuse as a reason for divorce
Agreed
@@greenspider1598 i wish u could divorce a narc parent
@@SusanDelgado1177 Just to walk away and watch them destroy themselves. They make you feel like you're helpless and you have no power in the world. But the truth is you have all the power you have choices. You have human rights and you have legal rights? Can you have the right to walk away and go no contact and that's it.
There are...spiritual laws.
SO TRUE!! They bring you to their bottom-feeding level of miserableness!
First ever see the frequency concept represented like this and to me shame being lowest of the low explains a lot! Like, when you've been taught to bear this for an obscenely long time, almost any significant emotional change can become quite an exhausting experience - after you've been even below apathy for a while that's close to a lifetime.
You have a great mind. One of the most prettiest women I've ever seen.
U need to get out more
@Bodhi Shiva hahaha
Bodhi Shiva 😩😩🤣🤣🤣
@@SweetShayla how narcissistic.. Let someone express how they feel.
One word: ENVY.
They're hopelessly envious.
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Reminds me of when my ex had me second guessing my sanity. That was my first major wake up call of his sick personality. And it feels good to know that I’m not alone. I always say now,,, nobody knows the meaning of Narcissist unless you’ve been manipulated in flesh by one for years.
No contact is the best response once you have recognized a narcissist. Energy work is great to identify cords and programming which drops our energy but any contact is a bad idea once the source is identified.
It feeds their abandonment complex and makes it real, better to exorcize the demon out of them so they can be healed
"Why are you no longer bubbly, like when I met you?"
Kellaegh Anderson barf oh gimme a break
Lol or they be like you don't usually get angry like this before.
"Because I'm with you, and you're a f*ckhead??"
This is personally done to me by a female narcissist I suddenly feel like she is a energy vampire
look up a video by Bruce Frantzis about energy vampires
@@noklarok thanks nick dee sure i will watch it . is there any other way or method's i can find female narcissist within few interaction's (or) conversation's of talking can you suggest me some video's on it
I love This video! You keep your vibration high if you do not let the narcisists provoke you. The ability to stay calm and Composed is like a muscle, we must practice it to master it. Let us keep our cool attitude!
Oooo. Intensively looking for wounds to lick so you end up trusting them and rely on them wow this lady is amazing.
This is a GREAT video. I live in a retirement golf community and a neighbor/Club member, is a severe narc. People call her "Cruela" she decided to target me. I have been watching a lot of your videos and others on Ytube for about a year.
I learned great tools, she has now apologized to me twice, I pretend that nothing is wrong, I'm kind to her- but don't give her the time of day or engage with her at all otherwise. A friend of mine who was targeted as well decided to wrestle with the "pig" and there has been so much drama between them, plus now it is a very uncomfortable place for both of them. I appreciate you and all the help you give us Michelle. Keep up the amazing work! Thanks!!!
They never developed emotionally. They are actually extremely fragile people. It takes nothing to trigger them. All you have to do is disagree with their projection or say no to them. Just imagine her weaving an intricate web of Deceit Or some sort of smear campaign and you don't fall into it. Just think of how enraged that she will be. Or maybe somewhere off in the distance. You can make a comment about her. That's more than enough to just set them off. I'm not scared of the narcissist anymore. I see through them. They are transparent. And extremely fragile
I totally agree!
The best tool is to stay as far away once you have identified them. RUN!!! And if you have to interact, keep it to a minimum and with very low expectations.
36 seconds into your video and I'm shaking my head in agreement. Hell, my whole body is shaking because, just now we *actually* had a nice time outside of the house as a family (husband:toxic with NPD and our two beautiful children) to a matinee. As we were all walking out of the theater, both kids smiling, I'm holding their sweet little hands feeling better/hopeful about our family as a whole (even though the past 72 hours has been an emotional/mental rollercoaster caused by him, and the 72 hours before that, and the 72 hours before that, and so on. Now several years.) He out of nowhere picked an argument. I stupidly attempted to correct him, but was "corrected" right back in defense which was *surprise surprise* a complete alter-reality of the reality of the situation. Suddenly realizing that once again he was Gaslighting me, my heart dropped, the world spinned around me, I felt like I was going down an elevator shaft as I swallowed the huge lump in my throat, and tried to catch my breath. Now there is tension. Both kids are not smiling. He is as relaxed as can be, lounging in his usual spot on the couch. He has a twinkle in his eye, I *swear*.
Given this was just one small moment in the *years* of verbal, emotional, and mental abuse. But I gotta tell you, it has affected my health aggressively.
Unfortunately I am a shell of who I used to be. I am very, very sick.
Today was the first time out of bed for more than the usual short lived caffeinated few hours I struggle with all within to be with my babies; Feed and bathe them, help my Kindergartener with homework, and do my best to play and read to them.
I now have Multiple Sclerosis and Arthritis and *horrid* *excruciating* full body nerve pain; All of which flares up when he's around me, especially when he yells, screams and uses all of his tactics to belittle me to feel stronger himself. I don't understand how anyone could be so cruel. I had believed that I was done with cruel people when I left behind my Malignant very cruel Narcissist Mother.
The fact that I am married, and have my two sweet innocent children with one is destroying me. I need to figure out how to escape but he's financially controlled me for so many years as well. Up until I my body literally shut down, for years and years I waited on him hand and foot. All his meals and all the housework, barefoot and pregnant, or, with a baby strapped to me in a carrier, as I supported his dream career. He has stopped paying for my medical treatment.
Anyone who is in a relationship with someone who causes you pain, or even to doubt yourself: RUN. These people will take years off of your life.
Everything Michelle Lee Nieves speaks about in her videos is so spot on. I cried first watching/discovering her, "Oh my God. I'm not crazy. I'm being gaslighted, blameshifted, I walk on eggshells waiting for his next flip out. He talks in double/triple Word Salad ways so he is always *right* "
I'm trying so hard to stay positive, be in mindfulness and attune my energy.
I can feel his hate radiating from him.
Omg I am so sorry. This sounds my marriage. I have so often been very ill and still having issues. I went to a naturopath and it was the best thing I ever did. Thankfully I have my mother to help me and she loves my girls. I have however worked out she is a bit of a convert passive aggressive narcissist.
@@m.j.2939 "Naturopath" Thank you ❤ I am going to find one! My Sister has offered to help me medical wise (as much as she can, she's not rich by any means, but, naturally she's concerned about my health) this sounds hopeful.
After several months of different Primary Physicians misdiagnosing me, *somehow* almost *miraculously* through the months of disorganized referrals to a Neurologist, I got lucky enough to get in with the Top MS Specialist in the state. He's even one of the top 5 in the nation. A couple of MRI's, a Lumbar Puncture (spinal tap), and some steroid infusions later (with an almost year gap between seeing this Dr. thanks to Dear Husband; Needless to say the Doctor was visibly both shocked and disgusted with DH for allowing me to go down so badly with no treatment) and *now* over 6 months with zero medical treatment because DH has decided "we can't afford it". I've been trying to get to the 2 referrals to the 2 specialists this MS Doctor reference me to (I have Optic Neuritis so need to see an Eye Specialist, and have Narcoleptic Episodes which are so scary, so need to see a Sleep Specialist) both referrals are probably not even valid at this point. It's a mere $30 co-pay for each visit. BUT every single time I've made the appt. he's found a reason to take all means of money from me and halts transportation. Yeah, he's driving around in his nice big fancy truck and I've been with no car, or no key to the house since I *stupidly* moved to *his* home state because "We will have Family support and I promise I will be a lot more mellow... We will go camping, hiking, go to music festivals, go on dates...." All of any of that could be further from the truth. We moved from Maui where I had friends, a car, FREE HEALTH CARE 🤦♀️. He keeps me in the dark (or rather confuses me to the point of losing my mind) regarding medical bills. He'll promise that he has indeed paid the medical bills yet, I check the mail and see Past Due bills. Anything in my name goes unpaid.
So now I am stuck here in his world, with his family of "Flying Monkeys".
That's good you have your Mom. Isn't it unsettling how we attract exactly what we grew up with?
Sorry for going on and on. I'm venting and you don't deserve it.
We will SURVIVE and SUCCEED 💪👊
When we first moved here (lived with his parents) I began online Real Estate courses. His Mother offered to watch the little ones until 10:30am so I could study 2-3am. Then she had a heart attack (she's fine) so couldn't care for the children obviously. I helped care for her and tried studying earlier evenings. My daughter being so young would climb up in me and push the keyboard keys. When I asked DH if he would please watch the kids "I CAN'T PHYSICALLY PRY THEM OFF OF YOU!!" and turn his head back to the TV. So I had to stop that. About a year and a half ago I became really interested in Skincare. Every spare moment I had a learned about formulating and all about the best non-toxic ingredients. This is when I still had my "allowance" and so purchased my domain name, ingredients, and even the containers. A few, or more now, months ago I needed a $9 preservative to keep the ingredients from going bad. Head game after head game I never was able to purchase it. Now he screams "YOU TOLD ME IT WAS $500!!!" He changes the price but, I had explained and told him at *least* 50 times that it was just $9........ I've tried Grey Rock, I get hoovered back in (Valentine's Day, of course) only to "observe" him go into a rage fest over literally nothing/something he's made up in his head.
Good times.
((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
Sending you lots of Love ❤❤❤❤❤
@@mirafawn1019 ooh that's terrible!. Vent away I don't mind. I became incredibly ill after my first child and the doctors were useless. Went to the naturopath my mother used and had a hair analysis. Best thing I ever did. Showed up what I was lacking and the resulting symptoms. Took my supplements and changed my diet accordingly and became better. Stress really does a lot of damage and even just not eating right for your body. Also showed up my past illness which had contributed. Really interesting stuff!
I feel so sad for you as i know what it's like to live wiith a husband like you have.I now live alone and its a great feeling but my health as been destroyed so i understand what you
are going through i pray you escape from that monster and get your children away and can have some peace.God Bless you and your dear children.
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Mira Fawn, so sorry you are going through this! Mine left me 5 months ago under the guise that he would be back in 3 months as a new man, I thought I was just dealing with a dry drunk. Also, told our daughters and son in law the same thing. What a liar he is/was. He created conflict every week and not knowing he was a narcissist and gaslighting me, I repeated the defense mode. I was diagnosed with depression, PTSD, and situational hypertension Because of how he left and the conflict HE CREATED, but blamed me for it. Once I realized he was a covert narcissist, I was beyond angry and felt like a fool. Now that I know what his problem is, I see all the past shit he has said or done were not true and that validates me and I am not crazy. We are divorcing and when I didn't back down and beg and cry for him to come back to me, he showed his rage, lol, sorry, I get a kick out of his rage because he always had total control over his emotions, whereas, he had me out of control with my emotions. When he left 5 months ago I told him that the ball was in his court and I was done chasing him, I have chased him for 32 years. I know it caused his narcissistic ego to be hurt when I said in a text "it's over", because he started lying and falsely accuse me of things that never happened, he is very delusional and paranoid. I am working on me now. Going to the gym, trying to get out more, hopefully new job and surprisingly the anxiety is not too bad, which he causes. I also see a psychologist and have been seeing her for over 6 years now. If it wasn't for God, my psychologist and the youtube videos, I would still be addicted to him. I am praying for you, stay strong!! xoxo
How about healing your shame wounds? That would take a lot of power away from the narcissist.
Yeeesss! I have some videos coming up on this topic 😊🤗👊🏼
Michele Lee Nieves Coaching this video made me realize that I had a “shame wound” that my narcissistic mother and ex wife had been using against me. Now I began to heal. Looking forward to more videos about this subject 😊
YES SHAMELESS COWARDS 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊.
We must be brave!
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As a childe, if I heard a beautifull song in the car and my dad noticed I enjoyed, he changed the radio station and I was so disappointed. I became grey rock automatically and I still am because I still am afraid that if someone sees my joy, they will steal it and I will feel the dissapointment and sadness again
omg im the same way. ive been dealing with a narc dad, narc ex bf, narc managers at work theyre EVERYWHERE. the only place i feel safe is when im by myself..i dont even trust anyone anymore bc i think they will not like me if im happy. what a sad life.. i really want to be happy im trying to find my ways to be come happier
@@ruepandya3504 I am so sorry for you. Story of my life.. Hope we can transform it to a narc-free future!
They've taken your energy and blame you...True words right there! And then the escalation into creating fear. I always wondered what was wrong growing up.
constant criticism, plus blaming me for being negative and low energy. i ended up with extreme anxiety and suicidal thoughts when the discard inevitably happened. i felt as though everything had been my fault.
So great video. I v been study narcissism and codependency over a year now this video represents exactly what is dynamic in relationship between those two. That is actually the most obvious sign of all of them. I am highly vibrant person and every time when I was in the clothes contact with my narcissists including best friends relatives parents my energy drops so fast I feel like somebody push me on the floor and every time when I’m not in a good mood or sad or depressed they’re so freaking happy and excited it’s just unbelievable
Totally resonate with this Michelle...I also am studying vibrations and frequency and know the scale well...it's amazing how you can plummet in the presence of toxic individuals...wonderful video..thank you and much love. .💜
It’s only now that I don’t value toxic people anymore that I’m getting into my interests again and am able to make myself truly happy. It took many years because there are ALOT of people that have a lot of toxicity, it’s rampant, sadly.
Great video Michelle. I agree 100%. That is what I encountered tonight going home. I was reflecting on all the pain and sorrow the narc brought into my life. And why I keep my distance with them now. That is why I focus on raising my vibration every chance I get. I am worth more and I deserve better!!!!.
Well, you had the answer to the question I have been asking myself. I co-parent with a narcissist and I have to be in contact with him, which I do the less I can. I notice when he is in this cycle where he tries to pick up a fight with me to make me angry and reactive; sometimes fearful. Now when I sense that dark energy, I avoid him totally. These people are energy vampires.
This really hits home. I'm convinced there is a powerful spiritual element where you are ganged up on at times.
I completely agree with Michele, and will go even further! If we feel that our vibrations have been lowered by such people, *never forget* that *the Kingdom of Heaven is within!* This is a reality that toxic people and other Cluster B's can *never* internalize! We become happy, exuberant, fulfilled and/or *any other* deliciously pleasurable emotions/feelings because of the *thoughts* we *choose* to have inside our heads! This objective reality cannot be repeated often enough!
Omg. I never had the words to describe this very thing. I’m speechless with a sense of overwhelming relief. 😥thank you.
Wow!!! Absolutely Brilliant!!!
And so much more validating than the term “Co-Dependent”!!!
I hate that term. Although there’s always room to grow, I more considered myself a team player. I entered competitions just by being good at things like parenting (which both my ex’s admired about me in the beginning). All of a sudden it turned into “well if he’s doing such a good job, than I must be doing a bad job”. This was even though I always complimented them.
Thanks for getting this out there!
I'm so with you on the term "Co-Dependent." It's like there's a nugget of insight, but it's covered by this sense that you should be ashamed of being a caring person? This is a much better way of looking at it; somebody is trying to steal your good energy, and simultaneously make you feel like giving up yourself is the only way you have value.
Lane Brown Glad we’re on the same page! You can’t be blamed for trusting someone you when they groom you over a long and calculated period of time... That’s like saying that the only thieves that exist carry sacks with a dollar sign written on it!
@@MusicBobAllan So true!
Thank you so much Michele for making this video for us. I've just turned 50 and I've had to deal with a narcissist father for years. I had a number of setbacks and disappointment by the early age of 30 which required that I left my then home in Cape Town SA and move back home for what was supposed to be a 6 month period. For 15 years on and off back and forth I was almost anialated by my narcissist father...Suicide was my escape... Thank God for His protection. From being a girl who embraced life and my religion and living in the Amazon Jungle with a wild Indian tribe to a girl who could not even open her bedroom curtains in the morning because of my tormentor (my dad)... Michele 💔 do you want to know the worst thing about it all?... He managed to make me believe that it was ME who was the "screw up"..... I've been free from him for 4 years. NOW I'M HEALING and my life is soaring 👏👏👏
I cannot wait to be free of my narcissist father.
@@kristeandreatujague7016... Hang in there Kriste... 🙏♥️😘
So happy to see you're doing well Michele.
This is right to the point. I was looking for this a whole time. Thank you Michele, you are the best.
You are very beautiful! Inside and out, if only there was more like you in this world. I tend to only attract narc women but that's ok I'm happy I'm on my journey to be closer to God until I meet a true empathic women!
This is so true. It also works by chat or smartphone messages - and also without talking, touching and seeing them: I experienced that she got up from bed and poured a torrent of anger over me. While I was still half asleep, this wave of evil thoughts and feelings came over me and entered me, so that I woke up from it, and without doing anything. It made me feel really sick. She didn't even have to say anything about it, didn't have to touch me, didn't even have to look at me, nothing. This happened again and again - even by smartphone chats. As if a witch had put a curse on me. These kind of people a very dangerous. They SHOULD BE TAGGED WITH A WARNING STICKER ON THEIR FORRHEAD.
Simply enlightening!!!!!thank you!!
Just try to back away from a narcissist who believes that they've secured you as supply, and this phenomenon will be evident. The best way to detach yourself from them is to a) say "no" to their requests, b) keep conversations extremely limited, and c) don't react to their drama, because that's where they can make their move to grab your energy. Stay neutral. I'm still practicing. Getting lots of practice, living in a condo association, lol/absolutely true...
Great facts you're sharing. It's very difficult to understand narcissistic behaviours even after the years of suffering. They feel happy when you're sad and feel sad when you're happy. They change you're emotions and they blame you for this.
Wow, this video was amazing! Thank you, you’ve really cracked the code!
Dear Michelle , Thank You for all your precious videos ❤️
Exellent tips Michelle..Thank you for sharing these perceptions!
This is genius. Explains my life the last 2 years perfectly. Thank you
Thank you for this one, Michele. This is a great one for many of us to become aware of. How many times I've dropped down in my life and I just allowed myself to go down. This is a great one!
Great video Michele, thank you!
Thank you for that video. You are so spot on - you're insights are groundbreaking and you showed how much of a CRIME against humanity narcissism actually really is when we even take the laws of the universe into consideration. Wow just wow.
I can tell you read our comments to see where we're struggling and what we need help with and then you make videos to help us. You're literally helping thousands of people gain clarity so they can change their lives for the better. Thank you for what you do.
Thank you so much for sharing!!
This really helps me understand my mother’s interactions with me. Wow. Thank you!
Thank You Michelle!!
Going to watch this clip many times! Thank you, Michele!!
I love this! It makes soooooo much sense!!
❤Michelle - your videos are simply packed with useful deep insights and quality mapping of the psychological landscape❤
Beautifully said
Thank you Michele once again for this excellent video! Being used for so long to attracting constantly narcissists into my life, be it in personal or professional relationships it is the first time that I fully grasp the "concept of this so bizarre seasaw" why they thrive, when I am unhappy or worse when I have been sucessful they undertake anything to bring us down and we start to doubt ourselves just to ensure that we certainly donnot menace their false superiority.
Thank you Michelle you're right they don't like to see you happy try to pull you down when you're happy
I’m writing a book on this dynamic. It happens in all hierarchical animals such as Lobsters or Chimpanzees. I have been a student of Dr. Hawkins for decades. Love this.
Thanks Michele. Great explanation!
What you’re describing here is precisely what I endured for 3 and a half years with a toxic narc client. Thank goodness it has been over 5 months no contact and my entire life is sooooooo much better on many levels. God bless you Michelle for your consistent clarity and wisdom is this area...you’re absolutely beautiful and amazing!! 🙏💜😘
I love that smile u. Have! Thanks for. All your input it helps people in many ways!
Very well explained!!! 💛
This video is an eye opener Thanks a lot. Amazing
MAY GOD BLESS YOU WITH PEACE, PROSPERITY AND HAPPINESS 🌞
I have noticed and started tracking how I have been regulating my own energy just to keep from having her start an arguement. some days I sit out in my car for 15 min just to get my mood up knowing I am about to go inside to a war zone of verbal attacks. When I come home from a tuff day, she seems happy, wants to help, and starts to hoover all over me and plays kind as a kitten. If I am happy or when my mood is high energy, from the moment I walk in the door and she sees it, " the sky falls" all around us. for some reason she starts picking at her day, or how our kids ruined her day, or how her customers suck, or something that causes me to want to help and console her or offer assistance, " you can't help " or " you're too late " or " Yeah, right you think you can help, ha " is what I get from her. It hurts, the last 3 years of our 14 year marriage i've really just walked away from those baited situations but we still argue, fight and when I am now in a bad mood, she walks away happy and then in a good mood starts treating everyone else like GOLD, become the KIND MOM and makes sure she talks loud enough and high pitched enough from me to hear she IS KIND and that SHE IS happy, but no with me.... I have had to just disengaged and become mute for the most part these last few years, until Dec. Ive ready 15 books, listened to 11 audio books, and binge watch TH-cam Vid on her disorder and how I have fallen into this chaos and trap. thanks again for sharing your knowledge!
I went through the exact same thing , I know the feeling all to well it's no joke.
This really hits home with me, almost identical!
@@navydogsadventures3500 If it's not me then I walk in to her verbal abuse of our children. a couple years back I found myself stand up for them in argumetns that turned into yelling matches because of her name calling or 30 min rants on how stupid a 5 yr old is... it only made things worse for our children as she felt she had to show her superiority when I wouldn't support her in joining in the verbal attacks. So I withdrew, bit my tongue and chose my battles for when it was serious... it has taken therapy for me to realize my own desensitized feelings on the abuse she delivers. I also see this has allowed her a pass on how she treats our children. This. Is. Why. I. Am. Leaving... and taking my children with me... sadly, she is all to tactful with her ability to put on a good face with others and I am sure it will be an up hill battle for me, a father, to win full custody. I will do my best.
@@missrose1983 absolutely, sometimes I will come home and when she is gone, I feel myself take a deep breathe of relief... and my anxiety falls.... but when I come home at a time I am not expecting to see our car parked in the driveway, I instantly feel the tension. It has only been 3 months gaining so much knowledge and it is all i can focus on!
@@jokristian3651 it is brutal. Even when I want to focus on my business or the kids or goals... I have found my subconcious ask " Hey, is that going to be ok with your wife " or " Why are you even trying, you're going to fail at it or be torn down by her and you should just give up " it's a mess and supper grateful for the open willingness of so many to share their stories. Once I am out, I plan to dedicate a large portion of my time to sharing my story, in hopes of continued healing and aid my children into their own path for the same.
This is your best video so far
i LOVED the examples you gave toward the end about when they something false and how you provided the one sentence replies. Thanks!
6:33 Thanks for preparing me for the event that I might receive that look. Knowing is power.
Fantastic! Observe not absorb saved my sanity. My narc can take me down with a few different resentful grunt styles or a click of his tongue in disgust and I feel my energy drain. He doesn’t do it often now that I’ve changed. My narc sister in law knew I had gone no contact with my narc sister when it happened and since then whenever I saw her (every 18 months), she’d ignore me until the only thing she’d say was “How is your sister?” She knew that event destroyed me emotionally. It took her 10 years of asking that question to realise it doesn’t faze me so now she ignores me completely and doesn’t ask. You could actually feel her vibration rise when she’d ask (once I knew what she was doing and why). I went no contact 10 years with my sister before I knew what it was.
Doing grey rock has shown me just how much my body goes quiet and still when he enters the room. I’m trying to reprogram myself out of grey rock by doing little things like wriggling my toes in my ugg boots, smiling or doing a little dance in the room but out of his sight to get my vibration back. It’s funny that since he doesn’t get a rise out of me since grey rock (most of the time), but he’s been whistling a tune or trying to say any word in a cute way when entering the room I’m in. He doesn’t do cute any other time. We spend a lot of time apart and that’s when I let loose on happiness but still have the undertones of grey rock to work on then.
Thank you for sharing. Very clearly explained. Best to you too.
Excellent video!!! I’m in a narc survivor group on Facebook and I’m always pointing them to your videos ❤️
I have definitely noticed everything you just said. Its definitely the truth. Thank you for your great content ❤. I can change my dynamics by leaving and finally not coming back to him.
Excellent video! Learned so much!!!
Spot on , this is so accurate
I've experienced this. It has been soul crushing.
Thanks for another informative video Michele.
Thank you for this video. Observe, not absorb is essential.
Awesome information, thanks for sharing
Loved this video
Very enlightening video. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 👌
You got this spot on, well done Michelle :) very helpful video
More great words,thank you
Thank you so very much .i really needed to hear this. Many blessings to you.😃😃😃😃🙏🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖💖
OH my word - right on target!
You just described my father like you've known him for years, the little gestures , the facial looks to shame others, the criticism , always lowering the vibration level of everyone around him, My mother was an angle she died young .....I see her pain now
Nailed it!!!!!
So good to see you. Your truth is your power Right?
lol - I sure hope so!!
This is so true.
OMG yes!!! This is exactly what he does!
Somehow mine infiltrated my soul. When I visualized the light and sent everything to him, I saw someone jump out of my body but the light was too bright. I was getting tired, depressed, angry, bitter, resentful. Let me say this loud and clear, these feelings were his not mine!!!! I connected to his energy throughout a relationship. I believe we shared energy! I sent his energy to the light, saged
my house and I feel like a new person, for the first time on 5 years. Ever heard of a soul merge? Don’t mess with Narcissists it will bring you down to their level and they will come up to yours!!!!!!
Life saving video
🔴🔴🔴Wow, so true! I wish I knew this before. Thank you so much!⚘
Thank you so much , very nice lesson . In many situations loneliness of the target is a paramount contributing factor that allows narcissists to execute their plots .
Michelle, binged watched videos on narcissism.
I honestly can say i have watched more than 400, including most of yours. Now am over it and know what i am dealing with completely.
I'm really grateful for this video it's blessing and I have got my confidence back ❤️ thanks alot Michelle 🙏
She's so right on everything as if I wrote this myself as its 100% true. I worked in an environment with a woman who was in charge that totally fit the description of the narcissist in the workplace. I've had many narcissists around me through out my life I have discovered.
Thx Michelle! As a preaching minister your channel is a God Send!!! Stock Up!!! Food. H20. TP. Ammo. First aid!!!!!
GREAT information i got from you, stay blessed dear ☺️
I am married to one I believe, when we have been separated in the past I really enjoyed life more! This video makes good since!