1. Commit to life 2. Do not distract yourself 3. Deal with feeling of despair directly, it's the root cause 4. Anger is your very best friend 5. Start feeling your emotions 6. Follow your positive emotions and take action on them, routine and monotony are your enemies 7. Notice positivity every day, make a list of positive things in past, present, future 8. How can you facilitate more positivity in my life? 9. Approach this world with a beginner's mind 10. Don't expect yourself that everything is gonna be okay. Do those steps because nothing is worse than this living death.
I am a 22 yo guy and I cried at parts while watching this video dont know why i wanted to share such an embarrassing event but this video reached somewhere really deep. I feel lighter from a weight that I never knew existed Teal Swan , ily
@@sonalshalom8240 Whaa whaa whaa. Weak people always lose touch with themselves and then blame others for it. Look at yourself for example, you're so estranged from reality that you do not understand the difference between a man and an infant, and you're trying to seek emotional validation by mothering some random loser on youtube. You must be pretty damn lonely.
Your definition and description is very observant. The problem with apathy is that you lose complete interest in everything. I find I have tried so many things to get out of this that I no longer believe anything will work. I find I am half way through trying something new and lose interest as the voice inside my head says 'this won't work'. Each time it gets worse. Its self perpetuating.
My list: a hot bubble bath, reading a good mystery book, smoking an indian beedie cigarette, eating some yummy food, watching a sci fi movie. Lets list our good things we feel better by.
@@marieb.1810 Seeing a few close friends; Eating yummy food!! The right food would create a braingasm not kidding; Listening to a song or a whole album without doing other things, I did that since I was 14.
Well, the fact that you're able to identify anything at all that you genuinely enjoy is a huge step in the right direction! The only thing I enjoyed at my most apathetic state was playing Call of Duty and listening to music lol, but those things alone were enough to carry me through my darkest times.
@@marieb.1810 all these things to me feel like they are gonna keep me stuck,but I also do some of these and some other stuff when I feel hopeless about not being able to make the change I was trying to.
I ask from God , and from u all burn souls ,to cure and recover , and back to the life ,to experience all emotions with joy , and be fully human beings ... An apathetic who thinks she's recovering sends love and support ^^
Apathy was a slow, learned process ever since the day I was born. It wasn't clear to me what-so-ever until it was explained. I appreciate your video and I am looking forward to taking advantage of this world. Its almost as if I forgot that I am allowed to have fun and excitement in life.
my parents often would blame me for for losing interest in things, my Mom would scold me and say "Why don't you do something constructive?!" I asked her what that meant and she'd say "I'm not here to entertain you" and walk away. and my dad would either watch T.V. go on the internet all day long and be completely distant... I still blame myself for who I was since their arguments against me were SO FUCKING CONVINCING
I've watched a lot of your videos now and this was clearly the one that I needed, cuz I just busted out in full on sobbing, I'm desperate. I know that you received a lot of criticism for telling people that it's okay to commit to death so I just wanted to say thank you for that. Having a distigmatized makes it a lot easier to not incriminate myself for even thinking it when I have a little girl, it makes me not hate myself quite so much. Because yeah I cry every morning now, and once that's through I just button up for the day and go about my life like any of it ever mattered. She matters. I'm going to dance with her today, we'll see if she likes it. I'm partial to twistin the night away. Thanks.
This video was extremely painful for me to listen to even though I'm aware of why. It's still very hard to hear. The intense emotional pain came back up and it's emotional hell.
As a way to distract myself, I have developped a complex story of daydreams. Whenever I feel bad, I go into these daydreams and let one figure meet a need for another figure. I rarely spend two hours without daydreaming like this. I remember starting this when I was eight. Love your videos and message, Teal. Thank you so much.
I do the same since I was a kid, some years ago I got to know that its called "maladaptive daydreaming" which is a coping mechanism. I still do it! I hope one day we actually live our life fully and authentically❤
Omg I do the same thing I remember doing that since I was 6 and maybe earlier... Especially daydreaming about boy since I was 6 till now I still do it at 38 to distract myself and havent been loved by a guy that I daydreamed about
@@mickbowe4252 You CAN............ it's a choice. PERIOD... That's not being unsympathetic to your cause... it's just a what is...... It's your life & if you can't or won't make the necessary changes to make your life fulfilling then TAKE it... WHO says that's right or wrong........ it's YOUR life.
1. Will you commit to life? Death is not wrong so commit to what you actually want 2. Decide to stop distracting yourself. When you feel like distracting yourself, turn toward what you want to distract from 3. Address despair ❤️ do this before anything else 4. Anger is your best friend. Express your anger. 5. Get in touch with your feelings and body sensations. Carry a feelings journal & check in throughout the day. 6. Follow your positive emotions. Take action on those positive emotions. Shake your life up. 7. Notice positivity every day. List your good memories. List things about now you love. List things you can look forward to. 8. Look back at these positive lists and figure out ways now you can facilitate those positive things in your life now. 9. Approach the world with a beginner’s mind. 10. Don’t expect yourself to believe that everything is going to work out and everything’s going to be good. Do these things not because they might work out but because any movement is good right now.
Dear Teal, I've been fighting with depression for so long and I've tried many things but nothing helped. People told me to be more cheerful, to get up, to realize that my problems were not that serious. And then I accidentally found this video. Idk, I feel so different now. I didn't understand earlier that I was ashamed of my emotions because of my surrounding. And yes, I am totally going to do all those things that you suggested. I choose life. Thank you!
Teaking Tiles Indeed. If it was just a matter of "cheering up" we wouldn't be in this crap to begin with. Another nuisance are those who overreact and think that if you have a bad day you're depressed. Delegitimizes people who are suffering for real.
***** The new age movement was co opted by the illuminati trying to make it look bad - the new age movement is about love, and empowerment to better yourself and the world. Don't let anyone tell you to be powerless in the name of being a good religious minion - the divine should empower you. And I besides she's not even talking new age quantum physics - she's talking about love.
***** Why does everything get a pet label, why can't a simple thing like a video be looked at and judged on it's individual merits. This comment goes out to RebelThoughts82 as well.
And by the wat...those of you who are shocked by her stand on suicide, I have to say that I was incredibly relieved when she mentioned this. I lost a parent to suicide. There's not a single day I have given a thought to following her steps. But I'm not allowed to even mention it. Felt good to be understood , to hear someone say "it's ok". It's very unlikely I'll ever do it. Just felt relieved about hearing it.
I think her greatest point on how to dislodge the apathy from our selves is when she says, what did you like to do as children? For sure im thinking how much i liked sports n exercise and outdoors, playing with friends. I think this is on the money. Whenever i cancel my gym or stop goin for walks everythin goes down. Causes of me not being able to gym are being overworked for one. I think we all have this problem at work as we are expected to work like hell for less and cut off our feelings. Well how draining is that?
This video truly hit me right on! As with alot of your other videos, this is very inspirational. I feel motivated to change my ways of life. I feel excited also. The problem i have is alot of the time i get this feelings where i am really motivated and inspired to changing myself for the better, its almost like it all goes away through a nights sleep. I might feel this after work sometimes and sit down and meditate a little, take some time to just do whatever i feel like doing and trying to just follow my emotions. But then next day i wake up completely in a dark place, where i feel like my life is not worth to live, i feel lonely, powerless to control my own life and just really demotivated to really do anything with it. This cycle goes pretty much on and on 1-2 days at a time for me. Thanks alot for videos you put out, Teal. They sure do make my days brighter and make me wanting to get my life together again :) Much love
I've struggled hard with this too. It takes a lot of effort to leave it behind for good and not giving up on yourself when those feelings creep back in. It's like a subconscious emotional habit. And habits take time to break, even the emotional ones! Be easy on yourself, and I hope things are better now!!
This video made me realize that I've literally never had anyone tell me that it's okay to want, and I'm 20. Not a single time. As a gay guy who grew up in the Bible Belt in an extremely homophobic family, you can probably fill in the blanks. Coming out meant getting kicked to the streets or worse, so I had no other option but to completely detach from myself and just survive until I turned 18 and could finally legally move out. I almost committed physical suicide many times, but even after the hell that my family had put me through, I still didn't want to traumatize them with a suicide because I knew how desperately they needed a change of worldview and that my coming out was the only thing that could do it. They really were just as miserable as I was in retrospect. So basically, I willingly sacrificed my entire childhood and rotted from the inside out for 18 years so my family and the world at large could have a brighter future. It kinda sucks to be a real life sacrificial lamb, but it's also really nice to know how much purpose my life has because of it.
Never has one of your videos helped me more than this one. Thank you, thank you for what you do to help people, and thank you just for the amazing person you are.
You need to learn to cry and feel grief , than you will move up from grief to fear, desire, anger, pride... ( book power vs force) this is the only way out from apathy and to transcend..
Apathy in a person is largely in part due to people having so much on their plate that their mind is traumatized to the point where they cant think straight and also can only focus on self healing. Then there is the others that dont have a heart at all. Those are called psychopaths.
Not in my case, it was created by bein raised in a hostile home, where my needs did not matter. I learned to become needless and want-less.... she nailed my childhood.
Teal, Your clarity of expression is always a fresh breath of air, and you have provided valuable life guidance and helping people like me to get our grooves back. Thank you. People like Jessica Schab who criticize you or call you a dangerous person are themselves deluded and dangerous. The negative experiences of one person she chose to elaborate over 5 hours of videos, does not constitute a legitimate condemnation of you by any rational yardstick. Keep up the fine work.
I feel you've tailored a lot of videos to people in my state of body and mind, I wanted to personally thank you for taking the time and energy to do that. It's the first spiritual teacher who not only had an understanding of what many of us are, but also stuck with us long enough to help. I say us as I understand fully many people are stuck in this, exactly what you are talking about now is virulent in the population. (I also understand how heavy it must weigh on your frequency to look at it) Dealing with despair could be a video, as you say it's so important, I could personally use a step by step guide to help with despair, I am sure others could too. Although I know it would share some common ground with this video, is anger the only way, because my anger tends to be very blunt and nasty, like my father. We argued every day for about 10 years, and that is not an exaggeration by much. I don't remember where I gave up hope it was very young. I asked my mother about how I was when I was a kid. This is the second time around i've done that (at least), I had to keep asking her to try and get back before obvious signs of trying to please others came in. For me it's before the age of 5, so it's really down to other people to tell me, or unless my own higher self has some insight to let me know. I am trying to get to some things I enjoyed before this type of invalidation happened, and it isn't easy. The two earliest memories she had was me never wanting to leave the group of kids I was playing with, whereas everyone else cried on being put with other kids and leaving their parents, I loved it, same with swimming and getting in the water (I cried when I left them or the water, rather than the other way around). The other memory was standing at a door, really young, handing out gifts to people as they left, she said I was proud and didn't want to leave until everyone had got a gift. Previous to this she has told me I was trying to climb everywhere to get away from being stuck in one place, always active with who I was with. Aside from that it was several different physical activities, pick any of them as long as I achieved in them, but I think many of them came from the need to achieve something for others, same with cub scout badges, where she said I loved having these badges on my arm. It's not the activity itself, so that wound happened, the need to please really, really young. Anyway I committed again, for the nth time, to have another go towards life, after new year I will try things again, but not knowing what my purpose in life was or is (i've been seeking that since I was 12, now 34), it's a shot in the dark like you say, but more I hope this push doesn't just become one more thing to do because I don't know what else to do. Anyway hope that rambling helped others, as I like to share :) Take care Thank you for letting us know that it's okay to feel this way too :), thank you, said thank you alot but needs to be said. PPS :) loved the if you've given up, give up and start over, making that okay is a big deal and a crucial step in moving forward that people had not linked the dots up on.
I was reading through your comment and got mixed up now I'm confused but I do think I understand enough and I do also feel like her video's are for me because I relate to almost all of them (I actually can't remember the when it didn't apply to me)
Andrew Bryner I know looking back not one thing, including intense spiritual study, intense exercise, intense desire to be successful in business, internet addictions etc they were all to avoid unconscious apathy, and when I failed in them for whatever reason dropping back into apathy it was one more excuse to stay in that state. Much of the world is in a state of unconscious apathy, much of it isn't but you can see vast sways that are, and more now I can see many kinds of unconscious emotion in people. I can see around me people invalidating how others feel all day, I do myself sometimes still sadly but I catch it a lot more. It's beginning to hurt to see it in parents doing that to their kids and their faces as they walk on by, because I know that kid is going to end up like me more or less with their emotional guidance system completely fried. Much of my comment was trying to find things before my emotions were invalidated, so finding out exactly what I was like when I was born and naturally inclined to do, before my need to please others (to avoid apathy) set in at about age 5. I was giving you my very early life experience :) All the best, Mark
True. I wish teal emphasized the"getting rid of despair" bit, and the being patient with getting out of apathy. The darkness of the video also comes from the pressure we put on ourselves to solve it all, and the realization about how far away from the light we are.
This is the yin/yang. There cannot be light without the dark. The dark is not a "bad" thing. Life comes from the dark; we need to go into the dark for sleep. Balance is the key~~or at least I think so
I agree with Valerie. There is information, most of it sounds like good information except for mentioning suicide. This could be really dangerous for people who feel at the brink... But what does give her away: No warmth, no smile, not even the empathy any doctor or counselor will have with you.
How about people who protest injustices in America being told, "You've got it so much better here in America than in most other countries.(If not all)". What I like to think to myself and I should probably say this out loud is, "So that means that because someone is getting whipped more that me, I should be glad that I am getting whipped less? How about no one gets whipped?"
cried my eyes out through the whole video. from all the relatable videos teal has this seems like it was made for me. thank you teal, you have no idea what you already have done for me. I will forever be grateful for you!
Does this work for anhedonia and emotional detachment too? I'm pretty sure the apathy, anhedonia and detachment I've been experiencing is caused by repressed pain that I'm scared to look at. Repressing one emotion repressed them all. This also cuts off awareness to the point I lose awareness of my surroundings. The anhedonia and apathy came on for me recently after an ayahuasca ceremony in which I experienced exorcism type symptoms, and since possession has been my worst fear since I was a kid, I suppose the apathy is due to my need for safety not being met.
I am more apathetic that I ever was in my life. I searched "Apathy" and saw that video. I thought "Wow, Teal Swan about apathy, this will be interesting!" I am at 08:49 and I really like it so far! Thank you!
This explains everything. Sometimes my mom told me that I need to be send to army so they would shake me up. I want to laugh, but mostly all I can do is to give a smile. I feel strongly but I can’t express them. Thank you, Teal 🙏🏻✨
Such good material, so grateful for your work Teal. I've fluctuated through apathy and depression for about five months following three experiences which surfaced as I was beginning to experience kundalini activity, the first characterized by despair, the second by fear and shock, and the third by anxiety. After cocooning myself in my room for a month, I entered a tedious pattern of coasting and sabotage, during which I experienced exactly what you're talking about of not trusting oneself due to a bad track record and unwillingness (really a fear) to change. Things are shifting now, I just listed several things I enjoyed as child and then paired each with an adult version of those activities, and feel more motivated! Thanks for the light :)
That really got me crying but also felt released to know it, things are making more sense now, it feels like the first step to healing, thank you so much.
wow. so many tears after hearing you speak about this topic. it's so utterly painful for me and hard to bear the feelings of what I've been through. I've forgiven the parent figures in many ways, though one is still alive and has not been nurturing to me for most of my life. I grew up with my aunt and uncle as my dad was a deadbeat absentee and my mom had to raise 4 kids alone. she was and still is a pretty negative Jekyll hyde of a person. it is hard to do this 'self love' by one's self. I go to counseling and have been working on it for years. all because of narcissistic parents who did not encourage me much - an aunt and uncle who discouraged me and did not show up for my interests - and I'm still trying to stay above the water breathing. I saw other kids get what they wanted, get their needs met and have a hard time getting past this. how can I get past feeling like only others deserve good lives? I find myself losing interest in things periodically and have been told 'you're too emotional' by family. I want to not need family anymore, but I find myself wanting what is not realistic - a loving and present family and siblings too! It's not happening unfortunately. I've told them my needs and they get ignored or not acknowledged. I am a musician and have to put my feelings into songs or I will go crazy. some people want to hear my music which is good, but I battle with thinking that my emotions in song or in dialogue with others are not valid. ugh. I'm so tired of this f-d up dysfunctional family life so I have avoided family in a large way. I have no choice as they are toxic for me going forward due to such a difficult childhood.
Wow!! My past, my present and how I see my future. Apathy, despair, depression, suicidal thoughts 😭 Teal is changing my life, I have never found anyone like her, she read emotions like a map so she gives the way out! So many thanks ❤️
I have Huntington's Disease and was diagnosed 3 years ago.I have had Apathy for over 20+ years, as I am 42 and starting to develop some facial twitches, anxiety and I have already lived with the depression. All these symptoms are also side effects of the disease in neurological state. Long story... shortened is My childhood sucked because of all the millions of wrong choice I made around every corner of my life. My father making me work along side him as a mechanic yelling constantly at me for every mistake I made and how I should have known better and lacked common sense. Now I am a basket case with Huntington's, and can hardly concentrate on anything I wan't to do in life. Can never hold a job and been on social security since the age of 20. Every medication out there for depression and anxiety did nothing if not make my mood or symptoms worse!! Now I have a felony from when I was 19 and haunts me for life as well... I think I should have been killed many years ago. The only reason I am here today I think is my new found love in my life and the fact my parents pulled my bail to release me from jail the same day I was going to get a beat down from 5 men in jail. or possible gang raped. That tragic event was sort of life changing and gave me a mental reason to think God or something knew I didn't belong in prison and somebody watched over me that day!!
Wow this was a truly holistic explanation of the matter! I would like to share my journey with anyone who seeks empathy: I actually experienced childhood exactly the way you described it. And the fucked up thing is that when I turned 18 and found new hope and started to dream big again my parents showed me again that they didn't believe in me and that was the deepest rooted believe of my old self. Moving into my new Self I now welcome my ANGER and HATE toward them for doing this to me. Justifications like "You should be grateful that we give you so much" and "Look at Joe's parents they give him even less than we are giving you". With this bullshit trying to justify what shitty parents they were in this regards. I love'em now and understand that they we're only afraid of me failing because then they would feel feeling ashamed in front of others. But that Anger and Hate is very crucial to me to understand what they did was wrong and fucked up and absolutely not an acceptable trait for any parent who is actually committed to being a real parent who is meeting all the needs of a child that are so god damn crucial for their development! Dream Big! Recognize that is right to feel anger toward those that took your dreams from you! Take your dreams back and hold that middle finger high until you naturally find that calm untouchable state. But don't try to be all spiritual about it by suppressing your hate and pretending like you are above it already when your current Vibration is actually below it. Love & Peace to all of you.
*TRANSCRIPT* *Introduction/Background* Hello there. In today's episode I'm going to be addressing apathy. We all have doubts in our lives of apathy where we feel hopeless about something. If this is the case, this episode will definitely help you. But I don't like to scratch the surface, I like to swing to the fence, so I'm going to be gearing today's episode toward people for whom apathy is more of a way of being. It's that perpetual prison that you can get out of. Apathy is essentially the absences or suppression of enthuism, excitment passion and inspiration. Even though apathy is seen as lack of emotion, it is in fact anything, but people who are apathetic have plenty of emotion is just early on in life they learn that emotions, both positive and negative are not valid and are not OK and as a result, they rejected their entire emotional side, they disowned, suppressed, and denied their emotional self entirely. One of the problems with apathy as a result of suppressing your emotions. Is it emotions or your guiding system? That what's leads you through your life and tells you what the right way or the wrong way is to go. The minute you dissociate from your emotions or you suppressed them or you deny them, you can no longer know which way to go, it's like your compass has been broken. Also how are you supposed to know what is wanted or unwanted if you can't feel or if you are not listening to your feelings. A monkey in laboratory cage is intrinsically motivated to solve the puzzle the act of doing it feels good. When we were young we have no problem following our feelings and that is intrinsic motivation to the ends of the earth but when someone that our survival depends on makes that selfishness or otherwise wrong, we suppress with emotion as well as the motivation basically the person who struggles with apathy has learned that it is not safe to want. Pretty soon we will have a motivational speakers. We don't know what we want we are lost. If you are struggling with feeling lost with not knowing what you want in my benefit you might take a look in two of my videos on TH-cam. The first is how to cover what you want the second is feeling lost in ten steps to becoming found. I want to peal back apathy for you and have you taken a look at actually what is beneath apathy? The root and its despair, despair being the ultimate state of powerlessness is the absolute absences of hope. It is the ultimate fall of discouragement, look back into your life and try to see when your started to lose hope. Recognise how you were discouraged you decided there was no way to win and there is not way have what you want and so the only option was to give up. Nothing will work. I have yet to meet a person who struggles with apathy whose childhood and teen-hood and then adulthood was not cursed on without the needs. What needs do not get met for you when you were younger better yet, why were you absolutely powerless to meet those needs? These unmet needs are really why people who struggle with apathy can't trust the universe. We're born trusting universe completely we're traumatised into not trusting it and we only begin to trust the universe again when we start to experience our needs being met by the universe but we have to stop denying our needs and own up to them and give ourselves permission to go get them, for that to happen. Here is an example of what type of the situation in childhood might create apathy. Let's say that a child is born into a family that really prioritizes family duty, instead of being born into a family where the children are seen as their own people the children will seen as an extension of the parents, so then lets say that that particular child develops an interest of dancing, but that particular trust is not aligned with the interests of the parents. What will happen is that instead of the parents validating that interest, they will invalidate the interest. They may for example say you're not going to be doing that, I would like you to take math classes instead. So they enroll him in math classes. And if the child protests, they get shamed for the protest as well. They get told things like, you should be glad you have such an amazing family. They get told things like, you should be glad that you have more than most of the children on this planet have. Not only have the parents in that moment made an enemy of the positive emotional state the child had, they also make enemy of negative emotional state that the child has. They can do nothing. Their positive emotion isn't right, their negative emotion isn't right, they have to disown those emotions entirely. As the child cannot literally drive himself to dance class, and cannot put food on his plate, there is no way for him to meet his need. Also his need for love is not being met, and his need for encouragement is not being met, and his need for validation is not being met, and his need for significance is not being met, and his need for certainty is not being met, and his need for growth is not being met. Basically, his only option to try get any of his needs met is to in fact please his parents in any way he can, so he abandons himself completely. He literally lives his life for them, but to do this he must suppress any other emotion within himself, until the only one that remains is in fact despair. But he tries to suppress and deny that final feeling, and when he succeeds in making that feeling a subconscious one, what he feels is a pessimistic numbness, he becomes depressed. This is why apathy is one of the main symptoms of depression. The self abandonment that is also the causal origin of apathy is also why apathy is a symptom of anxiety as well. The apathetic person does not feel safe with himself or herself because, he or she has already demonstrated that they do not have the wrong best interest that hurt. Most people who are apathetic have suppressed all trying and striving within themselves because it was dangerous thing to strive there were either told what they want or what they were striving for was selfish or they were ashamed for having that particular interest, or they were told that they could to achieve it or there is a sought of limit toward what they can achieve and so they would fail, they were raised by discourages, shames and the fittest, so they learned that it was not safe to try and not safe to strive. They learned that itr was safe to conform to what was wanted of you because then good. They also learn that it's safe to not strife because if you never strife, you never have to fail and meet with abandonment, being criticized or being worthless. It also must be said to those of us who struggle with apathy, have an amazing ability to destruct ourselves when life feels hopeless and life feels meaningless and doesn't feel like we can get out of this situation no matter what we do, then we have two options really. The first option is to take our own minds by suicide, the second option is to distract ourselves in our lives that we are really living. We develop addictions, some of these addictions are fairly overt like to drugs, others are covert like to reading, to the internet or to porn. Basically we do whatever we can to sedate the emotion.
7:52 So what should you do if you're apathetic. The very first thing is that we have to decide whether we're more committed to death or more committed to life. The reality is, if we're apathetic, we're actually committing passive suicide. Instead of living our entire life stuck in a state of living death, we honestly have to decide whether we're going to commit a life or not. Let me remind you that death isn't wrong so make this decision based on the truth that you want instead of what you think is right or want. If you decide you want to live then you need to commit your life. Throw all of yourself in that direction. 8:35 *two* Stop 🛑 distracting yourself. Distracting yourself is a form of passive suicide. What you're essentially doing is making your life meaningless, you're not really living it, you're also on an emotional level doing the same thing to yourself, as a parent does when they walk into the other room and get on the internet to distract themselves from a crying baby in the other room who's crying because it needs to be fed or loved or changed. 9:05 When you feel tempted to distract yourself, turn in the opposite direction and give your attention instead to the feeling that you're trying to sedate, that feeling, that pain, needs unconditional love and care and attention. 9:20 Shortcut your habits. If you have a problem getting addicted to watching TV and that's your route of distraction, then disconnect your cable service, do whatever you need to do to make it so that you can't escape yourself and you have to be present with yourself instead. 9:37 *three* The emotional wound which needs help is despair. So all of your psychological work, or a great amount of it, and your emotional processing needs to be around that particular feeling and the belief patterns associated with it which are creating despair. 9:58 *attention* 🚨 The problem with despair, is if you don't deal with the despair directly, then any action you take will still be coming from a place of despair and it will not manifest positive results because of it. 😩😩😩 So if you continue with all these other steps that I'm about to give you without dealing with that root cause of despair, your attempts to solve this apathy issue will in fact result in despair. It will just be one more reason to feel like you can't do it. One more discouragement one more reason that you feel hopeless. 10:31 *four* Anger is your very best friend. You need to get in touch with your anger, you need express your anger, you need to get angry. 😡 😡 😡 Anger is in fact a vibrational improvement upon and as despair is the root cause is the root cause of apathy, and despair being of course powerlessness anger is the from that place. If you want to know more about anger, you can look up my TH-cam video titled, How to deal with anger.
Can chronic apathy cause you to have negative, emotionless dreams too? I have these every night. Just pictures and sounds of useless nonsense.. waking up feeling exhausted. Also, is it really possible for this to pass? Because in the moment it seems like it really won't.. or maybe that's just negative and pessimistic thinking.. need yalls thoughts on this:-) thanks.
If we're alive that means there is a part that doesn't want to die. So, yeah, all of us are stuck in the middle, fragmented, torn, with parts of us going in separate ways.
I saw this video last year and was in such deep denial about my own apathy that I couldn’t accept it I felt like this isn’t for me and I sent it to my mom because I thought it would help her. I keep pulling the free will card so it made me want to watch and forgot I had done this. However this time it’s sinking in deeper to the point of tears and stopping to write this. I have so much more work to do. I was so arrogant, I have so much more work to do but I somehow feel like this is some sort of benchmark in my journey. Where I can a least see myself at all!I’m so so very grateful for your work all of the books videos post. Teal I don’t even know if I’d be alive rn if I hadn’t discovered your page on YT Thank you.
Emotions are to chaos, as logic is to control. Logic and absolute truths run my life now. I prefer to be rational to my decisions and not base them on emotions since they are not quantifiable and they shift depending on the situation. I find life actually becomes easier and predictable when doing so, one downside is boredom. Since all things are relative, what works for me won't work for the next, and vice versa.
Option #1 no bueno. Addicted to lucid dreaming im grouchy when i dont have one, im angry grrrrr, i feel hoeni alot. Fuck my boss, problem is im my own boss. Symptoms yo. Focus. I lov cbd and nature and mushrooms and los bukis. Beginners mind im going to eat an apple upside down. I want to experience a place on earth that is mortgage free. Patients, pace myself. Teal regardless what jessica said i still think you make hella good videos. Maybe in the future u two could do a video b amigas
Not sure if you’ll see this, but I’m wondering if you could do an episode on mood disorders, specifically BPD. Why they exist and what to do about it, other than medication and therapy.
Some places that some beings like to belong or stay are falsely concluded(or making stupid assumptions about) by them involving about how they feel(emotional identification too high) that they belong into that enviroment(but it's just a selfish/infantile/naive/innocent/blatant want or desire mostly), it doesn't mean that the past place/enviroment will be the best for their: development, evolution or true joy. Nostalgia and melacholia are phantasms to not be too much entertained or else they born out destructive or misleading deceptions and obsessions. Past is a good place to inspire and to learn from, not to let it leaks or invade into the present moment too much(the gift of now restores life, health and happiness by improved doing for the better if pure intent of change), it wise to be driven about recollecting and not identifycation, research and study to improve and to discern. Intuition is feminine, instinct is masculine. Journey and destiny is forged by a sharp mind and a true heart! May the third cometh of the restoration be with the grace of the Light! Light it is more about focused and condensed-comprised energy while darkness is a shallow, thin(or dense) smoke that is flowing and trying to engulf with a much more vulnerability to the penetration of Light, that's why Light is superior and full of grace and purging for the instability of the darkness.
Please - Can anybody tell me the name of the ending song? It would be so nice to be able to listen to the full version And as usual, I love you Teal, you are the BEST ♥♥♥
when I thought about taking a vacation I expected positive emotions but oh boy were those road accident and 30 ways I die in that vacation overthinking for hours scary
Not everything that you are today has to do with how badly "other people in your past" treated you. Our emotional receptiveness to any environmental stimulus is dependent on our own personal inner environment. Blaming everything on your upbringing is also a form of abandoning personal responsibility. If you are apathetic, it's because YOU took signals from the world that invalidated your need for passion…not bc the world actively invalidated you.
i love the part "let me remind you that death is not wrong, make the decision based on what we want instead of what you think is right to want" life is all about decisions, thanks for this amazing vedio .
Hi. So when should an apathetic person start taking actions and moving on ? She says that we should take care of the feeling of despair first and be present to it. I've been apathetic for a long time, and I feel sometimes that I do it on purpose, to hit rock bottom. I'd like the feeling of despair to arise so I can deal with it, but nothing comes... so I disconnect from people completely, I become even more apathetic and I wait for the catharsis to happen... Any advice ?
I have the same thoughts. The thing is, I think we don't want to move on. We have to be honest with ourselves. And then we convince ourselves that we want to want to take actions. I think we want this passive suicide, because it's the best survival technique we found so far. So now I just try to do things out of inspiration instead of out of wanting to want to do things(despair).
The best way I can describe my apathy, is that it feels like my soul has been rocketed into deep space, and sucked into a black hole. I have been withering away for almost 8 years because of it. As she puts it, passive suicide.
Thank you for all that you do. You have no idea of the magnitude that you have helped me and the people I share my experience with lives improve. I can only begin to imagine the quantity of lives that your channel reaches. Thank you
I'm so drained of energy that i don't even have the strength to fight anymore,things will never get better, if anything they'll get worse. I wish i never existed.
I have apathy in periods, and depression. One day i sat down and thought that i did not even feel what i want to do. And i was so up in my relationship, and what he want. That i really have forgot about myself. No i have signed up for the gym. And im starting to think of myself. Yeah i had given up., and needed to find this videos.
I don't think that one with apathy can commit to life. Nor can they commit to death. So starting with that as the first point is notsomething I can agree with. If one can commit to life, they were not apathetic to begin with. Otherwise I think this is brilliant. A core issue for me for sure. I'm just not able to access it yet.
Thank you Teal. Suffered many major depressive periods, had an abusive mother, a life trapped by apathy... thank you for giving me and others the chance of a better life.
This is an amazing video. I'm living my life to it's fullest and loving every minute of it but I have a friend who fits all of those characteristics. I've suggested doing his art, writing, seeing a therapist, meditation, joining a support group but he always comes up with an excuse why he can't. He's worked for the NSA in central America and served in prison. Most of his other friends have long since given up on him but I'm not quite there yet. I've known him for 20 years and he wasn't like that in his youth. You've made some very interesting suggestions which I may give a try on him. Thank you. As always, you are ever inspiring.
Thank you Teal. I don't understand the third step ( 10:00 - 10:30 ). What should I do with my despair? When I am present with it, nothing comes to my mind how to deal with it. I just feel bad. I would rather go play computer games and pass time till I have to go to work. I don't know what I should do instead.
I'm overcome... with true emotion. MY emotion. I can feel the way I need and want to feel. Because I am good and I am worthy of love and acceptance and understanding and most of all I deserve to live and thrive just the way I am. Thank you Teal.There's no words to say how much your videos are helping me figure my wait out of the confusion and darkness that's been my life since childhood. Youre giving me what I've wanted and needed for as long as my memories began. I love you. Kia
We have to decide whether we're more committed to death or life Will you commit to life? Stop distracting yourself. It's making your life meaningless. When you feel tempted to distract yourself, turn to the feeling you're trying to sedate. Disconnect your thing that makes you distract yourself Treat your despair. And the belief patterns around it. Directly. ............ Anger is your bestfriend. Express your anger. Get angry. Be angry. Allow yourself to get angry. Start feeling your emotions. Tune back into yourself. Whatever it is. Whether it's negative. Check in with yourself while watching stuff. Put words to the way you're feeling. Identify the sensations you're feeling. Write down the sensations and names you're feeling. Make use of situations in your life that evoke powerful emotions. When something extreme happens. Keep a journal. Start following your positive emotions and take actions. You'll have to try new things. If you know things that interest you and feel good- try all types of things. Action makes you feel good. Movement is pretty great. Just try whatever, any change and movement is great. Get a job. Volunteer. Moving. Going on a retreat. Going on a vacation. Take a class. Big shifts. Shake your life up. Notice positivity where ever you can. Remind yourself on things that have value. List your good memories. What made you like that thing? What did you like about that action? What about now? What are big and little things you like. Things you can look forward to. Anything in the future. Look back at the elements you liked and recreate them in your life. Look back at your childhood. Start over from scratch. Start looking at your life as if you've never done it before. Pretend that you're an alien. What would you want to experience? We are starting from square 1. Don't expect yourself to just feel okay like everything is alright. But it's okay. Everything is better than everything It is safe to want. It is okay to want. It's okay. You're okay. You're gonna be experiencing something other than what you're experiencing.
Everything in this video hit me so deep in my soul. I had to watch it 3 times to really take it all in. Thank you so much for this! I'm going to try acting like a space alien .
What if you’re only apathetic to negative emotions because I would say that people view me as an extremely positive and happy person but when it comes to sad things like death I usually don’t cry.
Thank you so much. You uploaded this on my birthday and this was what I've needed help dealing with my whole life. I'll be practicing these steps to help my life even further to make it how I want it to be in 2015.
1. Commit to life
2. Do not distract yourself
3. Deal with feeling of despair directly, it's the root cause
4. Anger is your very best friend
5. Start feeling your emotions
6. Follow your positive emotions and take action on them, routine and monotony are your enemies
7. Notice positivity every day, make a list of positive things in past, present, future
8. How can you facilitate more positivity in my life?
9. Approach this world with a beginner's mind
10. Don't expect yourself that everything is gonna be okay. Do those steps because nothing is worse than this living death.
thank you
7:52
I am a 22 yo guy and I cried at parts while watching this video
dont know why i wanted to share such an embarrassing event
but this video reached somewhere really deep.
I feel lighter from a weight that I never knew existed
Teal Swan , ily
@@khatack it's because of shamers like you that others lose touch with themselves. Stop doing it and it's only human for any man to cry a little.
@@LilFireworkz Good luck for everything dear friend 💓
@@sonalshalom8240 Whaa whaa whaa. Weak people always lose touch with themselves and then blame others for it. Look at yourself for example, you're so estranged from reality that you do not understand the difference between a man and an infant, and you're trying to seek emotional validation by mothering some random loser on youtube. You must be pretty damn lonely.
@@khatack Thank you wise guy. I'd choose to be lonelier than being in the same room with anyone like you every single time. Bye forever🙋
@@LilFireworkz 🤩☺️
passive suicide is exactly the term I described for my existence for years
Your definition and description is very observant. The problem with apathy is that you lose complete interest in everything. I find I have tried so many things to get out of this that I no longer believe anything will work. I find I am half way through trying something new and lose interest as the voice inside my head says 'this won't work'. Each time it gets worse. Its self perpetuating.
Same I relate
How are you doing?
My positive emotion list:
- my blankets
-sleeping
My list: a hot bubble bath, reading a good mystery book, smoking an indian beedie cigarette, eating some yummy food, watching a sci fi movie. Lets list our good things we feel better by.
@@marieb.1810 Seeing a few close friends; Eating yummy food!! The right food would create a braingasm not kidding; Listening to a song or a whole album without doing other things, I did that since I was 14.
Well, the fact that you're able to identify anything at all that you genuinely enjoy is a huge step in the right direction! The only thing I enjoyed at my most apathetic state was playing Call of Duty and listening to music lol, but those things alone were enough to carry me through my darkest times.
@@marieb.1810 all these things to me feel like they are gonna keep me stuck,but I also do some of these and some other stuff when I feel hopeless about not being able to make the change I was trying to.
- chocolate
I cannot tell you how much I needed this right now...
I ask from God , and from u all burn souls ,to cure and recover , and back to the life ,to experience all emotions with joy , and be fully human beings ... An apathetic who thinks she's recovering sends love and support ^^
Apathy was a slow, learned process ever since the day I was born. It wasn't clear to me what-so-ever until it was explained. I appreciate your video and I am looking forward to taking advantage of this world.
Its almost as if I forgot that I am allowed to have fun and excitement in life.
I feel the same say...I hope since this comment you have experienced fun and laughter bc you deserve it.
Wow. My past. All of it
This one knocked my socks off! I'm going to keep listening to it through out the week because each point hit home!
Aleish F, past means trap (from sLOVEnian) ..
my parents often would blame me for for losing interest in things, my Mom would scold me and say "Why don't you do something constructive?!" I asked her what that meant and she'd say "I'm not here to entertain you" and walk away.
and my dad would either watch T.V. go on the internet all day long and be completely distant...
I still blame myself for who I was since their arguments against me were SO FUCKING CONVINCING
so ironically... your dad never did anything constructive... and mum never said anything constructive. lmaooo
Sorry mate . Hope your doing well
I've watched a lot of your videos now and this was clearly the one that I needed, cuz I just busted out in full on sobbing, I'm desperate. I know that you received a lot of criticism for telling people that it's okay to commit to death so I just wanted to say thank you for that. Having a distigmatized makes it a lot easier to not incriminate myself for even thinking it when I have a little girl, it makes me not hate myself quite so much. Because yeah I cry every morning now, and once that's through I just button up for the day and go about my life like any of it ever mattered. She matters. I'm going to dance with her today, we'll see if she likes it. I'm partial to twistin the night away. Thanks.
This video was extremely painful for me to listen to even though I'm aware of why. It's still very hard to hear. The intense emotional pain came back up and it's emotional hell.
As a way to distract myself, I have developped a complex story of daydreams. Whenever I feel bad, I go into these daydreams and let one figure meet a need for another figure. I rarely spend two hours without daydreaming like this. I remember starting this when I was eight.
Love your videos and message, Teal. Thank you so much.
I do the same thing, even living in books and placing myself in a characters position to get my needs met imaginarily so
'Coldplay's - Paradise' phase
Now that you are aware of your state I encourage you to rewrite the lyrics of that song in a positive reality note
Same here. I literally do it so much that it feels like a separate reality.
I do the same since I was a kid, some years ago I got to know that its called "maladaptive daydreaming" which is a coping mechanism. I still do it! I hope one day we actually live our life fully and authentically❤
Omg I do the same thing I remember doing that since I was 6 and maybe earlier... Especially daydreaming about boy since I was 6 till now I still do it at 38 to distract myself and havent been loved by a guy that I daydreamed about
When I open my eyes and wake up in the morning.
I wish the day would end.
I long for night time cuz i don't know WHAT to do with myself during the day.
I know this feeling. Going through the day is that much more tiring because you don't want to.
I know. It's like why do I need keep from dying?
@@mickbowe4252 You CAN............ it's a choice. PERIOD... That's not being unsympathetic to your cause... it's just a what is...... It's your life & if you can't or won't make the necessary changes to make your life fulfilling then TAKE it... WHO says that's right or wrong........ it's YOUR life.
1. Will you commit to life? Death is not wrong so commit to what you actually want
2. Decide to stop distracting yourself. When you feel like distracting yourself, turn toward what you want to distract from
3. Address despair ❤️ do this before anything else
4. Anger is your best friend. Express your anger.
5. Get in touch with your feelings and body sensations. Carry a feelings journal & check in throughout the day.
6. Follow your positive emotions. Take action on those positive emotions. Shake your life up.
7. Notice positivity every day. List your good memories. List things about now you love. List things you can look forward to.
8. Look back at these positive lists and figure out ways now you can facilitate those positive things in your life now.
9. Approach the world with a beginner’s mind.
10. Don’t expect yourself to believe that everything is going to work out and everything’s going to be good. Do these things not because they might work out but because any movement is good right now.
Dear Teal, I've been fighting with depression for so long and I've tried many things but nothing helped. People told me to be more cheerful, to get up, to realize that my problems were not that serious. And then I accidentally found this video. Idk, I feel so different now. I didn't understand earlier that I was ashamed of my emotions because of my surrounding. And yes, I am totally going to do all those things that you suggested. I choose life. Thank you!
ya most people are just retarded when it comes to "helping" with depression
Teaking Tiles Indeed. If it was just a matter of "cheering up" we wouldn't be in this crap to begin with.
Another nuisance are those who overreact and think that if you have a bad day you're depressed. Delegitimizes people who are suffering for real.
Still better feeling in 2018?
How are you feeling now?
How did it go?
Truly amazing!! WOW you are an inspiration and a pure truth vibration, much appreciated!
***** Religious nut job alert.
***** The new age movement was co opted by the illuminati trying to make it look bad - the new age movement is about love, and empowerment to better yourself and the world. Don't let anyone tell you to be powerless in the name of being a good religious minion - the divine should empower you. And I besides she's not even talking new age quantum physics - she's talking about love.
***** Why does everything get a pet label, why can't a simple thing like a video be looked at and judged on it's individual merits.
This comment goes out to RebelThoughts82 as well.
+James George the truth hurts but it shall set you free lol
RebelThoughts82 was my last chance you could call yuyyt u
And by the wat...those of you who are shocked by her stand on suicide, I have to say that I was incredibly relieved when she mentioned this. I lost a parent to suicide. There's not a single day I have given a thought to following her steps. But I'm not allowed to even mention it. Felt good to be understood , to hear someone say "it's ok". It's very unlikely I'll ever do it. Just felt relieved about hearing it.
Marcela Aguilar Oh my God yes...yes. True understanding and acceptance.
For those of us that have been told our whole lives how we should and shouldn't feel. Or love would be withheld.
exactly!! no one is entitled to tell you how YOU should feel
This breaks my heart. I'm sorry that you have to find hope in this way because getting to live your life with a parent was taken from you.
I feel you
I think her greatest point on how to dislodge the apathy from our selves is when she says, what did you like to do as children? For sure im thinking how much i liked sports n exercise and outdoors, playing with friends. I think this is on the money. Whenever i cancel my gym or stop goin for walks everythin goes down. Causes of me not being able to gym are being overworked for one. I think we all have this problem at work as we are expected to work like hell for less and cut off our feelings. Well how draining is that?
This video truly hit me right on! As with alot of your other videos, this is very inspirational. I feel motivated to change my ways of life. I feel excited also. The problem i have is alot of the time i get this feelings where i am really motivated and inspired to changing myself for the better, its almost like it all goes away through a nights sleep. I might feel this after work sometimes and sit down and meditate a little, take some time to just do whatever i feel like doing and trying to just follow my emotions. But then next day i wake up completely in a dark place, where i feel like my life is not worth to live, i feel lonely, powerless to control my own life and just really demotivated to really do anything with it. This cycle goes pretty much on and on 1-2 days at a time for me.
Thanks alot for videos you put out, Teal. They sure do make my days brighter and make me wanting to get my life together again :)
Much love
Hope you’re doing better
I've struggled hard with this too. It takes a lot of effort to leave it behind for good and not giving up on yourself when those feelings creep back in. It's like a subconscious emotional habit. And habits take time to break, even the emotional ones! Be easy on yourself, and I hope things are better now!!
I wrote this on my wall 2 yrs ago: "Just glimpses of happiness - for a split second. Is that what normal people feel most of the time?"
This video made me realize that I've literally never had anyone tell me that it's okay to want, and I'm 20. Not a single time.
As a gay guy who grew up in the Bible Belt in an extremely homophobic family, you can probably fill in the blanks. Coming out meant getting kicked to the streets or worse, so I had no other option but to completely detach from myself and just survive until I turned 18 and could finally legally move out. I almost committed physical suicide many times, but even after the hell that my family had put me through, I still didn't want to traumatize them with a suicide because I knew how desperately they needed a change of worldview and that my coming out was the only thing that could do it. They really were just as miserable as I was in retrospect.
So basically, I willingly sacrificed my entire childhood and rotted from the inside out for 18 years so my family and the world at large could have a brighter future. It kinda sucks to be a real life sacrificial lamb, but it's also really nice to know how much purpose my life has because of it.
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❤ to you, such a brave child you were
May God bless you dear one. 🙏🏻
A path I once walked... Good luck to the one's trying to live again...!!! Thanks Teal you're awesome...
Never has one of your videos helped me more than this one. Thank you, thank you for what you do to help people, and thank you just for the amazing person you are.
I cried at the end of this video, this video has spoken to me. Thank you.
You need to learn to cry and feel grief , than you will move up from grief to fear, desire, anger, pride... ( book power vs force) this is the only way out from apathy and to transcend..
Apathy in a person is largely in part due to people having so much on their plate that their mind is traumatized to the point where they cant think straight and also can only focus on self healing. Then there is the others that dont have a heart at all. Those are called psychopaths.
wow I feel like I have distracted myself with self healing for the past 2 years and it's a hard pill to swallow.
Christrulesall2 I have nothing on my plate and I suffer from apathy. Long term chronic boredom and repetition is a major trigger of apathy as well.
Not in my case, it was created by bein raised in a hostile home, where my needs did not matter. I learned to become needless and want-less.... she nailed my childhood.
Who else cried at the end of the video
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Teal, Your clarity of expression is always a fresh breath of air, and you have provided valuable life guidance and helping people like me to get our grooves back. Thank you. People like Jessica Schab who criticize you or call you a dangerous person are themselves deluded and dangerous. The negative experiences of one person she chose to elaborate over 5 hours of videos, does not constitute a legitimate condemnation of you by any rational yardstick. Keep up the fine work.
I feel you've tailored a lot of videos to people in my state of body and mind, I wanted to personally thank you for taking the time and energy to do that. It's the first spiritual teacher who not only had an understanding of what many of us are, but also stuck with us long enough to help. I say us as I understand fully many people are stuck in this, exactly what you are talking about now is virulent in the population. (I also understand how heavy it must weigh on your frequency to look at it)
Dealing with despair could be a video, as you say it's so important, I could personally use a step by step guide to help with despair, I am sure others could too. Although I know it would share some common ground with this video, is anger the only way, because my anger tends to be very blunt and nasty, like my father. We argued every day for about 10 years, and that is not an exaggeration by much.
I don't remember where I gave up hope it was very young. I asked my mother about how I was when I was a kid. This is the second time around i've done that (at least), I had to keep asking her to try and get back before obvious signs of trying to please others came in.
For me it's before the age of 5, so it's really down to other people to tell me, or unless my own higher self has some insight to let me know. I am trying to get to some things I enjoyed before this type of invalidation happened, and it isn't easy. The two earliest memories she had was me never wanting to leave the group of kids I was playing with, whereas everyone else cried on being put with other kids and leaving their parents, I loved it, same with swimming and getting in the water (I cried when I left them or the water, rather than the other way around). The other memory was standing at a door, really young, handing out gifts to people as they left, she said I was proud and didn't want to leave until everyone had got a gift. Previous to this she has told me I was trying to climb everywhere to get away from being stuck in one place, always active with who I was with.
Aside from that it was several different physical activities, pick any of them as long as I achieved in them, but I think many of them came from the need to achieve something for others, same with cub scout badges, where she said I loved having these badges on my arm. It's not the activity itself, so that wound happened, the need to please really, really young.
Anyway I committed again, for the nth time, to have another go towards life, after new year I will try things again, but not knowing what my purpose in life was or is (i've been seeking that since I was 12, now 34), it's a shot in the dark like you say, but more I hope this push doesn't just become one more thing to do because I don't know what else to do.
Anyway hope that rambling helped others, as I like to share :)
Take care
Thank you for letting us know that it's okay to feel this way too :), thank you, said thank you alot but needs to be said.
PPS :) loved the if you've given up, give up and start over, making that okay is a big deal and a crucial step in moving forward that people had not linked the dots up on.
I was reading through your comment and got mixed up now I'm confused but I do think I understand enough and I do also feel like her video's are for me because I relate to almost all of them (I actually can't remember the when it didn't apply to me)
Andrew Bryner I know looking back not one thing, including intense spiritual study, intense exercise, intense desire to be successful in business, internet addictions etc they were all to avoid unconscious apathy, and when I failed in them for whatever reason dropping back into apathy it was one more excuse to stay in that state.
Much of the world is in a state of unconscious apathy, much of it isn't but you can see vast sways that are, and more now I can see many kinds of unconscious emotion in people. I can see around me people invalidating how others feel all day, I do myself sometimes still sadly but I catch it a lot more. It's beginning to hurt to see it in parents doing that to their kids and their faces as they walk on by, because I know that kid is going to end up like me more or less with their emotional guidance system completely fried.
Much of my comment was trying to find things before my emotions were invalidated, so finding out exactly what I was like when I was born and naturally inclined to do, before my need to please others (to avoid apathy) set in at about age 5. I was giving you my very early life experience :)
All the best,
Mark
Whoa...Not really sure how I feel about this video....Its Hopeful and dark at the same time.....
True. I wish teal emphasized the"getting rid of despair" bit, and the being patient with getting out of apathy. The darkness of the video also comes from the pressure we put on ourselves to solve it all, and the realization about how far away from the light we are.
same
This is the yin/yang. There cannot be light without the dark. The dark is not a "bad" thing. Life comes from the dark; we need to go into the dark for sleep. Balance is the key~~or at least I think so
I agree with Valerie. There is information, most of it sounds like good information except for mentioning suicide. This could be really dangerous for people who feel at the brink... But what does give her away: No warmth, no smile, not even the empathy any doctor or counselor will have with you.
But most importantly: it's BULLSHIT!!!!
teal, this was brilliant. thank you dear dear woman.
How about people who protest injustices in America being told, "You've got it so much better here in America than in most other countries.(If not all)". What I like to think to myself and I should probably say this out loud is, "So that means that because someone is getting whipped more that me, I should be glad that I am getting whipped less? How about no one gets whipped?"
this will cure cancer. ty teal for following your heart and intuition. namaste
Feedback after 3 Years?
Feedback after 6 years?
cried my eyes out through the whole video. from all the relatable videos teal has this seems like it was made for me. thank you teal, you have no idea what you already have done for me. I will forever be grateful for you!
And I thought that I didn't have any trauma..
This brought up extreme fear to the point that I was scared half to death and wasn't sure why?
Does this work for anhedonia and emotional detachment too? I'm pretty sure the apathy, anhedonia and detachment I've been experiencing is caused by repressed pain that I'm scared to look at. Repressing one emotion repressed them all. This also cuts off awareness to the point I lose awareness of my surroundings.
The anhedonia and apathy came on for me recently after an ayahuasca ceremony in which I experienced exorcism type symptoms, and since possession has been my worst fear since I was a kid, I suppose the apathy is due to my need for safety not being met.
Did you get better? I have anhedonia from an antidepressant
I am more apathetic that I ever was in my life. I searched "Apathy" and saw that video. I thought "Wow, Teal Swan about apathy, this will be interesting!" I am at 08:49 and I really like it so far! Thank you!
I love you Teal. I think your teachings are wondreful and so are you. Thank you so much!
And at the end...when you validated my Despair...the feeling! Gosh...just Thankyou
This explains everything. Sometimes my mom told me that I need to be send to army so they would shake me up. I want to laugh, but mostly all I can do is to give a smile. I feel strongly but I can’t express them. Thank you, Teal 🙏🏻✨
Apathy is something that impacts not only the individual but families and society as a whole.
Such good material, so grateful for your work Teal. I've fluctuated through apathy and depression for about five months following three experiences which surfaced as I was beginning to experience kundalini activity, the first characterized by despair, the second by fear and shock, and the third by anxiety. After cocooning myself in my room for a month, I entered a tedious pattern of coasting and sabotage, during which I experienced exactly what you're talking about of not trusting oneself due to a bad track record and unwillingness (really a fear) to change. Things are shifting now, I just listed several things I enjoyed as child and then paired each with an adult version of those activities, and feel more motivated! Thanks for the light :)
That really got me crying but also felt released to know it, things are making more sense now, it feels like the first step to healing, thank you so much.
wow. so many tears after hearing you speak about this topic. it's so utterly painful for me and hard to bear the feelings of what I've been through. I've forgiven the parent figures in many ways, though one is still alive and has not been nurturing to me for most of my life. I grew up with my aunt and uncle as my dad was a deadbeat absentee and my mom had to raise 4 kids alone. she was and still is a pretty negative Jekyll hyde of a person. it is hard to do this 'self love' by one's self. I go to counseling and have been working on it for years. all because of narcissistic parents who did not encourage me much - an aunt and uncle who discouraged me and did not show up for my interests - and I'm still trying to stay above the water breathing. I saw other kids get what they wanted, get their needs met and have a hard time getting past this. how can I get past feeling like only others deserve good lives? I find myself losing interest in things periodically and have been told 'you're too emotional' by family. I want to not need family anymore, but I find myself wanting what is not realistic - a loving and present family and siblings too! It's not happening unfortunately. I've told them my needs and they get ignored or not acknowledged. I am a musician and have to put my feelings into songs or I will go crazy. some people want to hear my music which is good, but I battle with thinking that my emotions in song or in dialogue with others are not valid. ugh. I'm so tired of this f-d up dysfunctional family life so I have avoided family in a large way. I have no choice as they are toxic for me going forward due to such a difficult childhood.
Wow!! My past, my present and how I see my future. Apathy, despair, depression, suicidal thoughts 😭 Teal is changing my life, I have never found anyone like her, she read emotions like a map so she gives the way out! So many thanks ❤️
I have Huntington's Disease and was diagnosed 3 years ago.I have had Apathy for over 20+ years, as I am 42 and starting to develop some facial twitches, anxiety and I have already lived with the depression. All these symptoms are also side effects of the disease in neurological state. Long story... shortened is My childhood sucked because of all the millions of wrong choice I made around every corner of my life. My father making me work along side him as a mechanic yelling constantly at me for every mistake I made and how I should have known better and lacked common sense. Now I am a basket case with Huntington's, and can hardly concentrate on anything I wan't to do in life. Can never hold a job and been on social security since the age of 20. Every medication out there for depression and anxiety did nothing if not make my mood or symptoms worse!! Now I have a felony from when I was 19 and haunts me for life as well... I think I should have been killed many years ago. The only reason I am here today I think is my new found love in my life and the fact my parents pulled my bail to release me from jail the same day I was going to get a beat down from 5 men in jail. or possible gang raped. That tragic event was sort of life changing and gave me a mental reason to think God or something knew I didn't belong in prison and somebody watched over me that day!!
Todd Gilmore www.greenmedinfo.com/blog/6-ways-drumming-heals-body-mind-and-soul
Your a brave one
how's it going Todd ?
Has absolutely nothing to do with childhood upbringing
May god guide u
Wow this was a truly holistic explanation of the matter!
I would like to share my journey with anyone who seeks empathy:
I actually experienced childhood exactly the way you described it.
And the fucked up thing is that when I turned 18 and found new hope and started to dream big again my parents showed me again that they didn't believe in me and that was the deepest rooted believe of my old self.
Moving into my new Self I now welcome my ANGER and HATE toward them for doing this to me. Justifications like "You should be grateful that we give you so much" and "Look at Joe's parents they give him even less than we are giving you". With this bullshit trying to justify what shitty parents they were in this regards.
I love'em now and understand that they we're only afraid of me failing because then they would feel feeling ashamed in front of others. But that Anger and Hate is very crucial to me to understand what they did was wrong and fucked up and absolutely not an acceptable trait for any parent who is actually committed to being a real parent who is meeting all the needs of a child that are so god damn crucial for their development!
Dream Big!
Recognize that is right to feel anger toward those that took your dreams from you!
Take your dreams back and hold that middle finger high until you naturally find that calm untouchable state. But don't try to be all spiritual about it by suppressing your hate and pretending like you are above it already when your current Vibration is actually below it.
Love & Peace to all of you.
*TRANSCRIPT*
*Introduction/Background*
Hello there.
In today's episode I'm going to be addressing apathy.
We all have doubts in our lives of apathy where we feel hopeless about something.
If this is the case, this episode will definitely help you.
But I don't like to scratch the surface, I like
to swing to the fence, so I'm
going to be gearing today's episode
toward people for whom apathy
is more of a way of being.
It's that perpetual prison that you can get out of.
Apathy is essentially the absences
or suppression of enthuism, excitment passion and inspiration.
Even though apathy is seen as
lack of emotion, it is
in fact anything, but people who
are apathetic have plenty of emotion
is just early on in life
they learn that emotions, both positive
and negative are not valid
and are not OK and as
a result, they rejected their entire
emotional side, they disowned,
suppressed, and denied their emotional self entirely.
One of the problems with apathy
as a result of suppressing your emotions.
Is it emotions or your guiding system?
That what's leads you through your
life and tells you what
the right way or the wrong way is to go.
The minute you dissociate from your
emotions or you suppressed them
or you deny them, you can
no longer know which way
to go, it's like your compass has been broken.
Also how are you
supposed to know what is
wanted or unwanted if you
can't feel or if you are not listening to your feelings.
A monkey in laboratory cage
is intrinsically motivated to solve
the puzzle the act of doing it feels good.
When we were young we have no
problem following our feelings and
that is intrinsic motivation to the
ends of the earth but when
someone that our survival depends on makes that selfishness or otherwise wrong, we
suppress with emotion as well as the motivation basically the person who struggles with apathy has learned that it is not safe to want.
Pretty soon we will have a motivational speakers.
We don't know what we want we are lost.
If you are struggling with feeling lost
with not knowing what you want in my benefit you might take
a look in two of my videos on TH-cam.
The first is how to cover what you want the
second is feeling lost in ten steps to becoming found.
I want to peal back apathy for you and have you taken a look at actually what is beneath apathy?
The root and its despair, despair being the
ultimate state of powerlessness is
the absolute absences of hope.
It is the ultimate fall of
discouragement, look back
into your life and try to see when your started to lose hope.
Recognise how you were discouraged
you decided there was no way to win and there is not way have what you want
and so the only option was to give up.
Nothing will work.
I have yet to meet a person who struggles with apathy whose childhood and teen-hood and then adulthood was not cursed on without the needs.
What needs do not get met for you when you were younger better yet, why were you
absolutely powerless to meet those needs?
These unmet needs are really why people who struggle with apathy can't trust the universe.
We're born trusting universe completely
we're traumatised into not trusting it and we only begin to trust the universe again when
we start to experience our needs being met by the universe but we have to stop denying our needs and own up to them and give ourselves permission to go get them, for that to happen.
Here is an example of what type of the situation in childhood might create apathy.
Let's say that a child is born into a family that really prioritizes family duty, instead of
being born into a family where the children are seen as their own people the children will
seen as an extension of the parents, so then lets say that that particular child develops an interest of dancing, but that particular trust is not aligned with the interests of the parents.
What will happen is that instead of the parents validating that interest, they will invalidate the interest.
They may for example say you're not going to be doing that, I would like you to take math classes instead.
So they enroll him in math classes.
And if the child protests, they get shamed for the protest as well.
They get told things like, you should be glad you have such an amazing family.
They get told things like, you should
be glad that you have more than most of the children on this planet have.
Not only have the parents in that moment made an enemy of the positive emotional state the child had, they also make enemy of negative emotional state that the child has.
They can do nothing.
Their positive emotion isn't right, their negative emotion isn't right, they have to disown those emotions entirely.
As the child cannot literally drive
himself to dance class, and cannot put food on his plate, there is no way for him to meet his need.
Also his need for love is not being met, and his need for encouragement is not
being met, and his need for validation is not being met, and his need for
significance is not being met, and his need for certainty is not being met, and his need for growth is not being met.
Basically, his only option to try get any of his needs met is to in fact please his parents in any way he can, so he abandons himself completely.
He literally lives his life for them, but to do
this he must suppress any other emotion within himself, until the only one that remains is in fact despair.
But he tries to suppress and deny that final feeling, and when he succeeds in making
that feeling a subconscious one, what
he feels is a pessimistic numbness, he becomes depressed.
This is why apathy is one of the main symptoms of depression.
The self abandonment that is also the causal origin of apathy is also why apathy is a symptom of anxiety as well.
The apathetic person does not feel safe with himself or herself because, he or she has already demonstrated that they do not have the wrong best interest that hurt.
Most people who are apathetic have
suppressed all trying and striving within themselves because it was dangerous thing to strive there were either told what they
want or what they were striving for was selfish or they were ashamed for having that
particular interest, or they were told that they could to achieve it or there is a sought of limit toward what they can achieve and so they
would fail, they were raised by discourages, shames and the fittest, so they learned that it was not safe to try and not safe to strive.
They learned that itr was safe
to conform to what was wanted
of you because then good.
They also learn that it's safe
to not strife because if you
never strife, you never have
to fail and meet with abandonment,
being criticized or being worthless.
It also must be said to
those of us who struggle with
apathy, have an amazing
ability to destruct ourselves when
life feels hopeless and life
feels meaningless and doesn't feel
like we can get out of
this situation no matter what
we do, then we have two options really.
The first option is to
take our own minds by suicide,
the second option is to
distract ourselves in our lives that we are really living.
We develop addictions, some of
these addictions are fairly overt
like to drugs, others are covert like to reading, to the internet or to porn.
Basically we do whatever we can to sedate the emotion.
7:52
So what should you do if you're apathetic.
The very first thing is that we have to decide whether we're more committed to death or more committed to life.
The reality is, if we're apathetic, we're actually committing passive suicide.
Instead of living our entire life stuck in a state of living death, we honestly have to decide whether we're going to commit a life or not.
Let me remind you that death isn't wrong so make this decision based on the truth that you want instead of what you think is right or want.
If you decide you want to live then you need to commit your life.
Throw all of yourself in that direction.
8:35
*two*
Stop 🛑 distracting yourself.
Distracting yourself is a form of passive suicide. What you're essentially doing is making your life meaningless, you're not really living it, you're also on an emotional level doing the same thing to yourself, as a parent does when they walk into the other room and get on the internet to distract themselves from a crying baby in the other room who's crying because it needs to be fed or loved or changed.
9:05
When you feel tempted to distract yourself, turn in the opposite direction and give your attention instead to the feeling that you're trying to sedate, that feeling, that pain, needs unconditional love and care and attention.
9:20
Shortcut your habits.
If you have a problem getting addicted to watching TV and that's your route of distraction, then disconnect your cable service, do whatever you need to do to make it so that you can't escape yourself and you have to be present with yourself instead.
9:37
*three*
The emotional wound which needs help is despair.
So all of your psychological work, or a great amount of it, and your emotional processing needs to be around that particular feeling and the belief patterns associated with it which are creating despair.
9:58
*attention* 🚨
The problem with despair, is if you don't deal with the despair directly, then any action you take will still be coming from a place of despair and it will not manifest positive results because of it. 😩😩😩
So if you continue with all these other steps that I'm about to give you without dealing with that root cause of despair, your attempts to solve this apathy issue will in fact result in despair.
It will just be one more reason to feel like you can't do it. One more discouragement one more reason that you feel hopeless.
10:31
*four*
Anger is your very best friend.
You need to get in touch with your anger, you need express your anger, you need to get angry. 😡 😡 😡
Anger is in fact a vibrational improvement upon and as despair is the root cause is the root cause of apathy, and despair being of course powerlessness anger is the from that place.
If you want to know more about anger, you can look up my TH-cam video titled, How to deal with anger.
Can chronic apathy cause you to have negative, emotionless dreams too? I have these every night. Just pictures and sounds of useless nonsense.. waking up feeling exhausted. Also, is it really possible for this to pass? Because in the moment it seems like it really won't.. or maybe that's just negative and pessimistic thinking.. need yalls thoughts on this:-) thanks.
Well, this little nugget is about 40 years overdue.
Talk about the nick-of-time.
It's close.
Real close.
Why not?
I just watched this video, thinking maybe being apathetic isnt just the way I am. You basically just read me like a book, I'm amazed. Thank you Teal.
What if the things that used to bring you joy no longer Do?
This is exactly how i feel now. Things of joy in the past don't touch me now. I feel nothing. I feel empty inside.
This video exactly describe my childhood😶 It's really hard to get excited about life
Anyone else feeling like it's too hard to commit to life, yet the other way is no option?
that's why we do the passive suicide thing eh
@@katenka_ana3997 Thanks
If we're alive that means there is a part that doesn't want to die. So, yeah, all of us are stuck in the middle, fragmented, torn, with parts of us going in separate ways.
I saw this video last year and was in such deep denial about my own apathy that I couldn’t accept it I felt like this isn’t for me and I sent it to my mom because I thought it would help her. I keep pulling the free will card so it made me want to watch and forgot I had done this. However this time it’s sinking in deeper to the point of tears and stopping to write this. I have so much more work to do. I was so arrogant, I have so much more work to do but I somehow feel like this is some sort of benchmark in my journey. Where I can a least see myself at all!I’m so so very grateful for your work all of the books videos post. Teal I don’t even know if I’d be alive rn if I hadn’t discovered your page on YT Thank you.
Emotions are to chaos, as logic is to control. Logic and absolute truths run my life now. I prefer to be rational to my decisions and not base them on emotions since they are not quantifiable and they shift depending on the situation. I find life actually becomes easier and predictable when doing so, one downside is boredom.
Since all things are relative, what works for me won't work for the next, and vice versa.
I'd love to hear an "absolute truth"
@@informitas0117 can logic be emotions 2.0?
love the backgroud, very relaxing.
Option #1 no bueno. Addicted to lucid dreaming im grouchy when i dont have one, im angry grrrrr, i feel hoeni alot. Fuck my boss, problem is im my own boss. Symptoms yo. Focus. I lov cbd and nature and mushrooms and los bukis. Beginners mind im going to eat an apple upside down. I want to experience a place on earth that is mortgage free. Patients, pace myself. Teal regardless what jessica said i still think you make hella good videos. Maybe in the future u two could do a video b amigas
Not sure if you’ll see this, but I’m wondering if you could do an episode on mood disorders, specifically BPD. Why they exist and what to do about it, other than medication and therapy.
Some places that some beings like to belong or stay are falsely concluded(or making stupid assumptions about) by them involving about how they feel(emotional identification too high) that they belong into that enviroment(but it's just a selfish/infantile/naive/innocent/blatant want or desire mostly), it doesn't mean that the past place/enviroment will be the best for their: development, evolution or true joy. Nostalgia and melacholia are phantasms to not be too much entertained or else they born out destructive or misleading deceptions and obsessions. Past is a good place to inspire and to learn from, not to let it leaks or invade into the present moment too much(the gift of now restores life, health and happiness by improved doing for the better if pure intent of change), it wise to be driven about recollecting and not identifycation, research and study to improve and to discern. Intuition is feminine, instinct is masculine. Journey and destiny is forged by a sharp mind and a true heart! May the third cometh of the restoration be with the grace of the Light! Light it is more about focused and condensed-comprised energy while darkness is a shallow, thin(or dense) smoke that is flowing and trying to engulf with a much more vulnerability to the penetration of Light, that's why Light is superior and full of grace and purging for the instability of the darkness.
Please - Can anybody tell me the name of the ending song? It would be so nice to be able to listen to the full version
And as usual, I love you Teal, you are the BEST ♥♥♥
when I thought about taking a vacation I expected positive emotions but oh boy were those road accident and 30 ways I die in that vacation overthinking for hours scary
Not everything that you are today has to do with how badly "other people in your past" treated you. Our emotional receptiveness to any environmental stimulus is dependent on our own personal inner environment. Blaming everything on your upbringing is also a form of abandoning personal responsibility. If you are apathetic, it's because YOU took signals from the world that invalidated your need for passion…not bc the world actively invalidated you.
i love the part "let me remind you that death is not wrong, make the decision based on what we want instead of what you think is right to want" life is all about decisions, thanks for this amazing vedio .
Hi. So when should an apathetic person start taking actions and moving on ? She says that we should take care of the feeling of despair first and be present to it. I've been apathetic for a long time, and I feel sometimes that I do it on purpose, to hit rock bottom. I'd like the feeling of despair to arise so I can deal with it, but nothing comes... so I disconnect from people completely, I become even more apathetic and I wait for the catharsis to happen... Any advice ?
its good to be free Yoann ignorance is bliss
I have the same thoughts. The thing is, I think we don't want to move on. We have to be honest with ourselves. And then we convince ourselves that we want to want to take actions. I think we want this passive suicide, because it's the best survival technique we found so far. So now I just try to do things out of inspiration instead of out of wanting to want to do things(despair).
I dont know if im Apathetic? I might just adapt to the people around me. Or its Projecting. Who knows? I don't
The best way I can describe my apathy, is that it feels like my soul has been rocketed into deep space, and sucked into a black hole.
I have been withering away for almost 8 years because of it. As she puts it, passive suicide.
Thank you for all that you do. You have no idea of the magnitude that you have helped me and the people I share my experience with lives improve. I can only begin to imagine the quantity of lives that your channel reaches. Thank you
29 and still live with parents gonna feel a lot better when I take your advice today.
I'm so drained of energy that i don't even have the strength to fight anymore,things will never get better, if anything they'll get worse.
I wish i never existed.
I have apathy in periods, and depression. One day i sat down and thought that i did not even feel what i want to do. And i was so up in my relationship, and what he want. That i
really have forgot about myself. No i have signed up for the gym. And im starting to think of myself. Yeah i had given up., and needed to find this videos.
I don't think that one with apathy can commit to life. Nor can they commit to death. So starting with that as the first point is notsomething I can agree with. If one can commit to life, they were not apathetic to begin with. Otherwise I think this is brilliant. A core issue for me for sure. I'm just not able to access it yet.
Thank you again for providing the exact video I needed right now ;)
not sure if I even want to cure anything.. what are we doing? expanding the universe? Feeling pain for source? This seems stupid
The only thing I care about is getting rid of apathy.
So then you aren't so apathetic after all!
+Talking Tiles Not true.
Thank you Teal. Suffered many major depressive periods, had an abusive mother, a life trapped by apathy... thank you for giving me and others the chance of a better life.
Most of the time I don't really know what I'm feeling I only know that I'm feeling it....
This is an amazing video. I'm living my life to it's fullest and loving every minute of it but I have a friend who fits all of those characteristics. I've suggested doing his art, writing, seeing a therapist, meditation, joining a support group but he always comes up with an excuse why he can't. He's worked for the NSA in central America and served in prison. Most of his other friends have long since given up on him but I'm not quite there yet. I've known him for 20 years and he wasn't like that in his youth. You've made some very interesting suggestions which I may give a try on him. Thank you. As always, you are ever inspiring.
Thank you Teal.
I don't understand the third step ( 10:00 - 10:30 ). What should I do with my despair? When I am present with it, nothing comes to my mind how to deal with it. I just feel bad. I would rather go play computer games and pass time till I have to go to work.
I don't know what I should do instead.
Ahead of your time Teal - this is what that Disney movie is about.
Wow That just explained everything to me .... Understanding is the key to resolution
Now Freeking Words, This Clicked I Got It Now.
I NEED HELP THANK YOU TEAL BUT IM STILL STUCK MY HEART IS BROKEN
Hi. How are you doing?
I feel apathy toward career/job stuff
I expected a useless video. This was actually enlightening
I'm overcome... with true emotion. MY emotion. I can feel the way I need and want to feel. Because I am good and I am worthy of love and acceptance and understanding and most of all I deserve to live and thrive just the way I am. Thank you Teal.There's no words to say how much your videos are helping me figure my wait out of the confusion and darkness that's been my life since childhood. Youre giving me what I've wanted and needed for as long as my memories began. I love you.
Kia
I don't care much about doing any of this because I don't see the point of doing it.
Thank you so much... what would one do without you Teal✨❤️
Nothing will work🤔 unmet needs, all said clearly
Take the mass of my ship, and follow my own North Star. Thank you Teal, your teachings are both raw and beautiful. Truly inspiring.
We have to decide whether we're more committed to death or life
Will you commit to life?
Stop distracting yourself. It's making your life meaningless.
When you feel tempted to distract yourself, turn to the feeling you're trying to sedate.
Disconnect your thing that makes you distract yourself
Treat your despair. And the belief patterns around it. Directly.
............
Anger is your bestfriend. Express your anger. Get angry. Be angry. Allow yourself to get angry.
Start feeling your emotions. Tune back into yourself. Whatever it is. Whether it's negative. Check in with yourself while watching stuff. Put words to the way you're feeling. Identify the sensations you're feeling. Write down the sensations and names you're feeling. Make use of situations in your life that evoke powerful emotions. When something extreme happens. Keep a journal.
Start following your positive emotions and take actions. You'll have to try new things. If you know things that interest you and feel good- try all types of things. Action makes you feel good. Movement is pretty great. Just try whatever, any change and movement is great. Get a job. Volunteer. Moving. Going on a retreat. Going on a vacation. Take a class. Big shifts. Shake your life up.
Notice positivity where ever you can. Remind yourself on things that have value. List your good memories. What made you like that thing? What did you like about that action? What about now? What are big and little things you like. Things you can look forward to. Anything in the future.
Look back at the elements you liked and recreate them in your life. Look back at your childhood.
Start over from scratch. Start looking at your life as if you've never done it before. Pretend that you're an alien. What would you want to experience? We are starting from square 1.
Don't expect yourself to just feel okay like everything is alright. But it's okay. Everything is better than everything
It is safe to want.
It is okay to want.
It's okay.
You're okay.
You're gonna be experiencing something other than what you're experiencing.
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YOU READ MY MIND!! I was going to ask for a vid about this I really need to get over this :,) thank u
Teal is so wise and great this video opened my eyes to my problems . Thanks teal
This is my whole life
Everything in this video hit me so deep in my soul. I had to watch it 3 times to really take it all in. Thank you so much for this! I'm going to try acting like a space alien .
i am emotionally numb and foggy which makes me confused, i dont know what is what i need go heal or what should i do anymore
What if you’re only apathetic to negative emotions because I would say that people view me as an extremely positive and happy person but when it comes to sad things like death I usually don’t cry.
I like the idea of pretending being a space alien taking vacation on earth, basically become like Mr. Bean.
Thank you so much. You uploaded this on my birthday and this was what I've needed help dealing with my whole life. I'll be practicing these steps to help my life even further to make it how I want it to be in 2015.