(in reference to Anti-Social Personality Disorder, ASPD, which is the correct but not very well known term for both 'Psycopath' and 'Sociopath') or *Asocial*(Not liking socializing/being introverted, disliking being around people in general, etc., which is what people usually mean when they say Antisocial)? The difference between the two terms is important, and most people say Anti-Social when they actually mean Asocial. If you're skeptical, absolutely do you own research /pos, but either way you put it can be funny in the context that your comment came from. (lol) Anyways I hope this was helpful in educating you and anyone else who sees this :> /*nm*, /gen /lh
I’m a triple A battery, though I also have a suspicion I might be a quad A battery, I’m aromatic, asexual, ADHD. But might be aromantic, asexual, ADHD, autistic.
0:00 absolutely. Friendship isn’t “less” than romance. This is why I hate a phrase “just a friend” because it insinuates my friends don’t matter as much as my partner!
While I didn’t end up being ace, the ace community absolutely *carried me* with complete compassion and understanding while I used the label. Y’all aros aces and aroaces are Fantastic People
“You need to really experience life and relationships” lmao experiencing life and relationships almost destroyed me and u know who welcomed me when I was sex repulsed and traumatized? FUCKIN ACE PEOPLE 💖
You are always welcome to chill with us and enjoy our garlic bread. We pride ourselves in making sure there is enough garlic bread and yummy cake to go around 😇
For those of y’all who are confused on how ace people can have sex and still be ace, let me put it to you like this. If there’s a bisexual man who’s only ever been with women, is he suddenly not bi? It’s not your actions that determine your sexual/romantic orientation, it’s how you FEEL.
Not to mention, the aroace spectrum is just that! A spectrum! Some people may be completely sex repulsed and hate anything to do with sex, while others (such as demisexual people) may need very specific conditions to be met before sex is appealing to them. Then there’s people like me whose sexual orientation fluctuates! No one is “more” ace than another
Those who crave sex and identify as ace aren't fully ace, but something on the spectrum. The problem is that, instead of using the microlabel that defines their experience, they use the ace label and make everyone confused. No, someone fully ace can't crave sex because we don't feel sexual attraction *at all* . Someone demi (for example) is on the spectrum, but not *fully* ace. Which is why they should just say "im demi my experience is" not "im ace my experience is"
@@mazhiang_dishia_ You should stop trying to decide who can use what term. Ace is a spectrum, and not everyone will be ace the same way. Some ace people have a libido but don’t experience sexual attraction, some ace people expirence sexual attraction but only under very specific circumstances. Some ace people expirence both but don’t have sex for another reason. Trying to be a purist about terms DOESNT help anyone. Not to mention you missed the point of the post. Ace people can have sex for plenty of other reasons. Maybe they experience sexual attraction under specific circumstances, but that’s not the only reason. Maybe they don’t know they’re ace, maybe it’s their job, maybe they have sex with people for another reason other than sexual attraction (it feels good, getting closer to their partners, exercise, etc). Maybe they’re trying for a bio kid. You don’t get to choose who’s “ace enough”. Your identity is your own. Instead of deciding “I’m the most valid and the only real ace person”, you should listen to other people in the community. Deciding people aren’t “ace enough” is what straight people want. They want us to not have community. We might be ace in different ways but you aren’t “more ace” than other ace people. You might be more celibate than others, but you aren’t any more ace. If you want to get specific with it, why don’t you use a microlabel? Apothisexual, fictosexual, Aegosexual, these are all micro labels that might describe you, and even if they don’t there IS one out there that does. Why do Demi people need to use their microlabel and not you? I’m only responding because I don’t believe you were being purposely cruel. I think this was meant genuinely. But you deciding someone else isn’t queer enough is not only cruel but also acephobic. There are billions of people on this earth and not every ace person is going to hate sex. Ace is similar to “nonbinary”. It can be used as an identity itself or an umbrella. Someone being bigender doesn’t make them “less nonbinary” than someone who only identifies as nonbinary. All these identities are equally as “nonbinary”, because it’s an umbrella term.
@goblinguy3103 are you even ace? Because you're quite opinionated on something you barely know anything about or even understand. I'm a sexually and romantically repulsed ace-aro, and I always mention that because it's very important to use the correct terms when talking about your experience, not umbrella terms. Asexual=can't feel any sexual attraction. *at all* . Asexuality is a spectrum, and while there are someone *aspec* people who can feel sexual attraction *ace* people can't. Someone who's demi can. Someone who's graysexual can. Someone who is fully ace, however, can't. What's so hard to comprehend? And nothing I said there contradicts the statement "someone ace people have sex for different reasons". I'm aware there are some fully ace people who've had sex to have biological children, or sacrificed themselves for their partners, but we, fully ace people, don't have sex out of desire because we can't feel sexual attraction. Perhaps you don't know what that is? Sexual attraction=attraction that makes people desire sexual contact or shows sexual interest in another person(s). I'm not policing anyone, but I'm not gonna have no one go around telling people that ace people have sex like heteros do because we don't. Cuz we simply do not have sex out of sexual craving lmfao💀
@@mazhiang_dishia_ it seems you’re still looking through the world in a very heteronormative world view. I do hope you get out of that mindset, as finding true community with other queer people is lovely. And yes, I am ace. Assuming otherwise is again, acephobic my guy
3:24 see this is relatable but what’s worse is that I knew the term asexual. I was just so deep in self loathing for being autistic that I assumed it was another thing ‘broken’ with me. So internalised aphobia is eternally linked with ableism for me.
3:50 and even if their identity did change (which is normal!), that doesn’t mean they aren’t actually ace. People change. All the time. Maybe one day they won’t identify as ace, but they do now, so why hurt the present just for the POSSIBILITY of the future?
Sexuality isn’t a choice, it’s something you’re born with that doesn’t change. People might be confused about their sexuality and change labels, but they ultimately do have a single sexuality that is unchanging over time. Otherwise, it’s a preference, not a sexuality. Asexuals didn’t choose their sexuality, nor can anyone “turn” asexual. It’s a real sexuality people are born with
@kdog3334 Yeah, I get that, but I think what they were trying to say was really just that you can identify as ace right now even if later you realize you're actually not, and no one shoukd tell you that you're for example too young to know Just my interpretation if what they were saying btw and you are correct, being ace is something you're hardwired with, sexuality isn't a choice
0:08 is funny to me, because I remembered this one comment I left on a video discussing some teen drama show. In it I wrote that it's almost like the people writing felt like they couldn't write meaningful relationships unless they were romantic. They paired a twenty something cop with a teenager and were like "this is cool. this is okay", like bro... I can write so many meaningful and impactful relationships without them being romantic or sexual while real show writers choose pedophilia, because this teen can't have a supportive adult figure in their life until they are in a relationship.
Shout out to all the people in qprs (I don’t know if I’m in one) (in March someone asked if we’ve been in one for a while and I kinda shrugged and said I love them) (it’s never been mentioned since) (help)
I had a panic attack when I realized I'm actually fully aroace. I freaked out. It made me feel so bad, because I was in relationships before I realized. Don't feel like you have to apologize for being who you are. I felt that need and it felt like shit. Just because you dated someone and you had no idea romance wasn't just Friends+ doesn’t mean you did anything wrong, or that you're not aroace. Promise.
I relate to not being attracted, but wanting people to be attracted to you. I feel bad, because every time I’ll turn someone down, but it makes me feel good that someone’s attracted to me, like it’s Pokémon and you want to see how many you can catch.
i swear one day i will make the AM hate montolith from ihnmaims and have it in my window because that is how i feel about humans as a whole which explains very well what type of aroace i am, i also think i might be a theriotype but i have no idea which one because i keep getting several phantom limbs that all make no sense together (if anyone want to help figure it out i keep getting multiple [8-10] arms on my back, a tail that wags when im happy and sometimes antenna when notice something)
Something that should have made me realize I was aroace was only wanting to be like, friendly with my romantic partners. If they wanted to be romantic with me I would feel a little weird about it (though it wasn't that bad cuz i had a platonic crush on them)
I relate to not being attracted, but wanting people to be attracted to you. I feel bad, because every time I’ll turn someone down, but it makes me feel good that someone’s attracted to me, like it’s Pokémon and you want to see how many you can catch.
took me 7 years to realize i’m a quadruple a battery: aromantic, asexual, agender, and autistic
i'm a quadruple a battery too!
Lolol, me too, Aromantic, Asexual, Agender, and ADHD for me /pos
Am aromatic, asexual, gender and anti social😂
(in reference to Anti-Social Personality Disorder, ASPD, which is the correct but not very well known term for both 'Psycopath' and 'Sociopath')
or *Asocial*(Not liking socializing/being introverted, disliking being around people in general, etc., which is what people usually mean when they say Antisocial)?
The difference between the two terms is important, and most people say Anti-Social when they actually mean Asocial.
If you're skeptical, absolutely do you own research /pos, but either way you put it can be funny in the context that your comment came from. (lol)
Anyways I hope this was helpful in educating you and anyone else who sees this :>
/*nm*, /gen /lh
I’m a triple A battery, though I also have a suspicion I might be a quad A battery, I’m aromatic, asexual, ADHD. But might be aromantic, asexual, ADHD, autistic.
0:00 absolutely. Friendship isn’t “less” than romance. This is why I hate a phrase “just a friend” because it insinuates my friends don’t matter as much as my partner!
You put my exact thoughts into words!
While I didn’t end up being ace, the ace community absolutely *carried me* with complete compassion and understanding while I used the label. Y’all aros aces and aroaces are Fantastic People
“You need to really experience life and relationships” lmao experiencing life and relationships almost destroyed me and u know who welcomed me when I was sex repulsed and traumatized? FUCKIN ACE PEOPLE 💖
Some of my best friends are asexual / asexual spectrum 💜🖤🩶🤍 I also identify as aspec (demisexual)
If you ever need help again the Aroace community will always be here for you 👍
You are always welcome to chill with us and enjoy our garlic bread.
We pride ourselves in making sure there is enough garlic bread and yummy cake to go around 😇
For those of y’all who are confused on how ace people can have sex and still be ace, let me put it to you like this. If there’s a bisexual man who’s only ever been with women, is he suddenly not bi? It’s not your actions that determine your sexual/romantic orientation, it’s how you FEEL.
Not to mention, the aroace spectrum is just that! A spectrum! Some people may be completely sex repulsed and hate anything to do with sex, while others (such as demisexual people) may need very specific conditions to be met before sex is appealing to them. Then there’s people like me whose sexual orientation fluctuates! No one is “more” ace than another
Those who crave sex and identify as ace aren't fully ace, but something on the spectrum. The problem is that, instead of using the microlabel that defines their experience, they use the ace label and make everyone confused. No, someone fully ace can't crave sex because we don't feel sexual attraction *at all* . Someone demi (for example) is on the spectrum, but not *fully* ace. Which is why they should just say "im demi my experience is" not "im ace my experience is"
@@mazhiang_dishia_ You should stop trying to decide who can use what term. Ace is a spectrum, and not everyone will be ace the same way.
Some ace people have a libido but don’t experience sexual attraction, some ace people expirence sexual attraction but only under very specific circumstances. Some ace people expirence both but don’t have sex for another reason. Trying to be a purist about terms DOESNT help anyone.
Not to mention you missed the point of the post. Ace people can have sex for plenty of other reasons. Maybe they experience sexual attraction under specific circumstances, but that’s not the only reason. Maybe they don’t know they’re ace, maybe it’s their job, maybe they have sex with people for another reason other than sexual attraction (it feels good, getting closer to their partners, exercise, etc). Maybe they’re trying for a bio kid. You don’t get to choose who’s “ace enough”.
Your identity is your own. Instead of deciding “I’m the most valid and the only real ace person”, you should listen to other people in the community. Deciding people aren’t “ace enough” is what straight people want. They want us to not have community. We might be ace in different ways but you aren’t “more ace” than other ace people. You might be more celibate than others, but you aren’t any more ace.
If you want to get specific with it, why don’t you use a microlabel? Apothisexual, fictosexual, Aegosexual, these are all micro labels that might describe you, and even if they don’t there IS one out there that does. Why do Demi people need to use their microlabel and not you?
I’m only responding because I don’t believe you were being purposely cruel. I think this was meant genuinely. But you deciding someone else isn’t queer enough is not only cruel but also acephobic. There are billions of people on this earth and not every ace person is going to hate sex.
Ace is similar to “nonbinary”. It can be used as an identity itself or an umbrella. Someone being bigender doesn’t make them “less nonbinary” than someone who only identifies as nonbinary. All these identities are equally as “nonbinary”, because it’s an umbrella term.
@goblinguy3103 are you even ace? Because you're quite opinionated on something you barely know anything about or even understand.
I'm a sexually and romantically repulsed ace-aro, and I always mention that because it's very important to use the correct terms when talking about your experience, not umbrella terms.
Asexual=can't feel any sexual attraction. *at all* . Asexuality is a spectrum, and while there are someone *aspec* people who can feel sexual attraction *ace* people can't. Someone who's demi can. Someone who's graysexual can. Someone who is fully ace, however, can't. What's so hard to comprehend? And nothing I said there contradicts the statement "someone ace people have sex for different reasons". I'm aware there are some fully ace people who've had sex to have biological children, or sacrificed themselves for their partners, but we, fully ace people, don't have sex out of desire because we can't feel sexual attraction. Perhaps you don't know what that is? Sexual attraction=attraction that makes people desire sexual contact or shows sexual interest in another person(s).
I'm not policing anyone, but I'm not gonna have no one go around telling people that ace people have sex like heteros do because we don't. Cuz we simply do not have sex out of sexual craving lmfao💀
@@mazhiang_dishia_ it seems you’re still looking through the world in a very heteronormative world view. I do hope you get out of that mindset, as finding true community with other queer people is lovely.
And yes, I am ace. Assuming otherwise is again, acephobic my guy
3:41 I AM BEGGING YOU DONT DO THIS TREND MIXING ANY TYPE OF HOUSEHOLD CHEMICALS TOGETHER CAN BE EXTREMELY DANGEROUS
Okay but why did it look so delicious?
3:24 see this is relatable but what’s worse is that I knew the term asexual. I was just so deep in self loathing for being autistic that I assumed it was another thing ‘broken’ with me. So internalised aphobia is eternally linked with ableism for me.
Sameee
Ayyyyyyyyy love aroace folks (I'm aroace)
3:50 and even if their identity did change (which is normal!), that doesn’t mean they aren’t actually ace. People change. All the time. Maybe one day they won’t identify as ace, but they do now, so why hurt the present just for the POSSIBILITY of the future?
Sexuality isn’t a choice, it’s something you’re born with that doesn’t change. People might be confused about their sexuality and change labels, but they ultimately do have a single sexuality that is unchanging over time. Otherwise, it’s a preference, not a sexuality. Asexuals didn’t choose their sexuality, nor can anyone “turn” asexual. It’s a real sexuality people are born with
@kdog3334 Yeah, I get that, but I think what they were trying to say was really just that you can identify as ace right now even if later you realize you're actually not, and no one shoukd tell you that you're for example too young to know
Just my interpretation if what they were saying btw and you are correct, being ace is something you're hardwired with, sexuality isn't a choice
the "who says there's only one way to be human?" HIT ME IN MY DARN FACE OMG WHAT THE HELL
Aroace people are pretty cool
0:08 is funny to me, because I remembered this one comment I left on a video discussing some teen drama show. In it I wrote that it's almost like the people writing felt like they couldn't write meaningful relationships unless they were romantic. They paired a twenty something cop with a teenager and were like "this is cool. this is okay", like bro... I can write so many meaningful and impactful relationships without them being romantic or sexual while real show writers choose pedophilia, because this teen can't have a supportive adult figure in their life until they are in a relationship.
Shout out to all the people in qprs (I don’t know if I’m in one) (in March someone asked if we’ve been in one for a while and I kinda shrugged and said I love them) (it’s never been mentioned since) (help)
maybe bring it up again. it kinda sounds like you are but that's between you and them.
shoutout to my ex bf who upon breaking up with me forced me to realize i am aromantic and acespec.
omg samee
@@SkellyGraves twinning fr
Thank you for this, finally some aroace content again💖
9:21, was it like a villager hmm sound? That's what it sounded like to me.
LOL I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING
I had a panic attack when I realized I'm actually fully aroace. I freaked out. It made me feel so bad, because I was in relationships before I realized.
Don't feel like you have to apologize for being who you are. I felt that need and it felt like shit. Just because you dated someone and you had no idea romance wasn't just Friends+ doesn’t mean you did anything wrong, or that you're not aroace. Promise.
I love seeing aroace content man
0:01 yeah, almost everyone just sexualize everything, but we don't even think about that
missed oppurtunity to make the title "aroace tiktoks to eat garlic bread to" 😔🙏
I relate to not being attracted, but wanting people to be attracted to you. I feel bad, because every time I’ll turn someone down, but it makes me feel good that someone’s attracted to me, like it’s Pokémon and you want to see how many you can catch.
Timestamp 2:32 for my sister and I’s friend, 💚💜
Saving this to my "Videos to eat grilled cheese to" list
i swear one day i will make the AM hate montolith from ihnmaims and have it in my window because that is how i feel about humans as a whole which explains very well what type of aroace i am, i also think i might be a theriotype but i have no idea which one because i keep getting several phantom limbs that all make no sense together (if anyone want to help figure it out i keep getting multiple [8-10] arms on my back, a tail that wags when im happy and sometimes antenna when notice something)
I need a grilled cheese now
sameee
Me tooooo
1:19 My rule of thumb for my buddies is “don’t date someone you wouldn’t be friends with.”
Im gonna steal the grilled cheese thing for a playlist lol
9:30
At the end, if their not imitating a Minecraft villager, I have no ides
They were obviously a Minecraft villager. No doubt about it!
6:57 now i wanna write down queerplatonic pickup lines
6:56 just bookmarking this, seems fitting for allromantic asexuals as well
The asexual rizz was goooodd
Welp. I’m a AAA battery. Aroace, anxiety and ADHD! Yayyyyy…
I think I’m aroace?🫶🏻🤷🏻♂️
Something that should have made me realize I was aroace was only wanting to be like, friendly with my romantic partners. If they wanted to be romantic with me I would feel a little weird about it (though it wasn't that bad cuz i had a platonic crush on them)
I would recommend looking into queer-platonic relationships if you’re curious about how that can work
@@riftryn ty!!
Cheers to the first clip 🍻🥂
I relate to not being attracted, but wanting people to be attracted to you. I feel bad, because every time I’ll turn someone down, but it makes me feel good that someone’s attracted to me, like it’s Pokémon and you want to see how many you can catch.