I’m not aromantic but i agree with the not-getting-why-being-just-friends-is-a-bad-thing point. Friendship rocks. No kisses i suppose, but still great Edit: this was not meant to cover every situation or be seen by many people at all, agh! I totally understand it being extremely painful when someone you have deep romantic feelings for doesn’t share them! I do think sometimes friendships, particularly male-female friendships, aren’t appreciated enough on their own unless they have the possibility of leading to a relationship. I was more trying to refer to that concept, though I realize I didn’t make that clear. I was sort of imagining a low-stakes situation of an acquaintance shooting their shot with another acquaintance (which could also be scary or embarrassing depending on the individual situation of course, but I figure it could also turn into a friendship if the awkwardness was surmountable). If you were rejected by someone you had romantic feelings for, I promise I’m not trying to dismiss that hurt, this comment was not meant to be universally applicable! And ending a friendship because it’s painful or awkward for this reason is absolutely not inherently a bad choice. Edit part 2: rewatching the video, I think I also should have phrased the sentence as understanding a feeling rather than agreeing with a point.
Having a mismatch in the level of care you have for someone hurts, it isn't insurmountable but it is an understanding reason for someone to be unable to maintain a friendship after they have been rejected. (this works for crushes, marriage proposals, friendships, acquaintances and probably many more examples of relationships between people)
I like how a lot of ace/aro people (including myself at one point) are like “What’s wrong with me? Why am I not interested in anyone?” And Jaiden’s entire attitude is “What’s wrong with all of you? Why are you all so ugly?”
To be honest I feel both options! My friends refuse to believe me that I am aroace. Like I was so overwhelmed by this "I need a crush, think" I forced myself to like my favourite fictional character and told he is my crush.... One time I needed to explain that what a crush is... And lemme say... It didn't go well...
Whaaaa no, how dare she not provide details on her intimate life, I'm a long time sub which means we are basically friends! What's a toxic parasocial relation?
Edit 2: Ok please stop giving advice in general actually, I guarantee I’ve already heard it. Edit: This comment is 2 years old. I appreciate all the advice, but I already know about Cupioromanticism. Please stop telling me. Ok, speaking as someone who is in High School and desperate for affection… Jaiden’s story about thinking “man I don’t have a crush on anyone, I guess I keep getting unlucky” really hit close to home… but I don’t think I’m aromantic? Because despite not feeling any romantic attraction I still deeply crave a romantic relationship, because theoretically, it sounds really nice and like something I would enjoy. And at this point I’m not sure if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, keep getting “unlucky”, or am somewhere on the aromantic/demiromantic spectrum.
@@lunalee3021 thinking the romance in certain movies and shows is dumb, and having a very, incredibly big hard time even understanding what romance of romantic love feels like is very different. I too think certain romances in shows are dumb and unnecessary, but I'm not aromantic, if anything I'm a hopeless romantic with my partner, if you're heterosexual, do you feel attraction to your same sex? No? Well imagine there is no person in the world with opposite sex, that's how it feels like to aromantics in a romantic way and to asexuals in a sexual way
@@lunalee3021 I don't think you understand what an identity is, y'know the thing that makes you, you? Being Asexual or Aromantic is part of an identity because it's who you are. The fact you didn't even consider it's existence is exactly why Jaiden' video was so important to the community; it sheds a light on us and tells people: "yeah, we exist, deal with it."
well for me it was different i was a lil gae boi (gae moment lol) and then i always wanted to be interested in the older guys (like 16+ older) and then middle school hit... and uhh... im still obsessing with the same exact guy :-) even though there probably 18 by now... welp rip for me ig lol
As someone who figured out she was demiromantic a few years ago, the scanning your classmates to see if anyone has finally caught your eye hit soooo close to home. As does the picking someone random to have a crush on just to hit that milestone mark.
My last girl friend learned that she was aroace, and didnt have any romantic attraction to me at all. She just saw us as really good friends, similar to that college person. We worked through it, and are now BFFs. I'm so proud of her ❤
I have been saying "I am sure I will feel love and affection if the right person comes along" for like the last 10 years. This kinda makes a lot more sense now.
@@Bella_bumble true that, ever since learning I am an ace, I have felt alone, and feel like nobody would understand me. It doesn't change me as a person, just makes me feel, that this is something my close people should know about, but have never had the confidence to say anything
my best (female) friend is aromatic and asexual and i'm asexual (man). a lot of people asking if we're together/ a couple because we get along very well. some find it weird that we don't want to be a couple, like why don't you try it? you might like it. things like this, i find annoying because i find that these days everything needs to sexualized and romantised
@@Awesomeflame16 with some, maybe. i noticed that it's always with a man - woman relation, never with 2 men or women. so far i know nobody said too 2 men/ women that they should be together because they get along very well.
Figuring out youre aro or ace or both is so hard bc society really teaches you that you need to be in a romantic relationship and be intimate or you'll be sad and die alone.
"I hope you can understand even just a little of what I talked about, and if not, I just hope you can be nice." Standing ovation for that line, honestly. So many people who don't understand something use that as a reason to dismiss or invalidate it, but not fully being able to comprehend something doesn't make it impossible to have compassion for those who do experience it. (As someone who is constantly confused by other people, I have firsthand experience in this.) Also, major kudos for the approach of this video. Using your platform to speak up for those who don't often feel seen is a really admirable thing to do, and maintaining boundaries of your own personal life at the same time is very respectable.
That “wait, they’re *not* joking??” moment is so accurate. This entire video describes what I was trying to figure out up until like a year ago. And the happiness of figuring it out, you’re not broken, this is a thing. It so upsetting in a good way? Relieving almost.
“No one presented to me OTHER options.” Wow, WOW this hit hard. It took me a long time to finally realize I was Ace, it was a revelation that being Ace was a legitimate THING and not just me being indecisive/selfish/weird.
@@Jeejune_Jx America is homophobic-af. I'm gonna be direct as can be and ask: Please help with that by watching and supporting Telltale Atheist, Forrest Valkai and of course also this video here.
At 25 my psychiatrist asked why I never was in a relationship and I countered with "How is that connected to my suicid attempt" His response was going on a long rant about the word of god and me looking up other psychiatrists mid session
It's especially annoying when you do tell someone multiple times that you don't want children or a bf/significant other and they laugh at you and tell you that you'll find someone one day. I want to focus on myself and the thought of being in a romantic relationship or having children grosses me out I want nothing to do with either of those things
It's almost as if we've created stereotypes for relationships and those stereotypes, according to society, MUST be fulfilled!! Otherwise we are absolute nobodies who will go nowhere. And if we go nowhere, we should not be happy. Or something along those lines.
i dont identify as aroace, but as an autistic person, the feeling of "well everyone else is feeling this way now so i should probably start doing it too" without understanding thats not how feelings work is very real
As a fellow autistic one, I can relate to that. I try to but I often struggle with "experiencing feelings". It took me a long time to realize I had feelings for my girlfriend even though I've known her since childhood now because I was never in a relationship before and allways thought I have to instantly fall in love when I see the right one or something. I still have a lot to learn about relationships but I know that my best friend will be there for me, helping me learning about how to love, in a way.
I... Miiiiight be Autistic? I've never been diagnosed but the symptoms exist aaaand.... I used to feel the same way, trying to fit in without even knowing how to emotions I eventually gave up and decided to just give up and just... act like I want to despite everyone else's ideas and time I still wonder what the word "Crush" even means lol
Hi Jaiden! I had never understood your video because I'm Brazilian and I don't know much English, but after they posted a dubbed version I was able to understand the idea of your video and I was even able to identify with it! My whole life I thought I couldn't really understand the feeling of "falling in love", I thought I was being ridiculous or that people were just exaggerating when they talked about it, but now with this video I realized that I am actually aroace! Thank you very much for this video Jaiden❤
As a straight man, I found this video not only informative but helpful to my personal understanding of relationships and whether it is that I want to be in one or I feel pressured to be in one. This is an amazing follow-up to a previous video of yours and I'm glad you were able to talk about things in ways that people don't necessarily do.
I agree, especially the part of “you can be happy on your own”, it’s something so basic but it stills hits really hard hearing it or trying make that sink in
This was literally my aroace awakening. This was the first time I heard of these terms and I was like, “OH. OHHHHH. That’s why everyone is unattractive.”
ok but as someone who is lesbian can we just talk about those people who think if you say you are not straight then your automatically gay..like there’s more than just gay..there are so many different and unique sexualities too also great vid Jaiden!!
True, i guess due to the amount of people that talk about others / they are gay, the people only focus and know about only that one thing I am not sure, one thing that i know is that you are right, and that most people are stupid
Not many people know that.. it’s immature to assume everyone’s supposed to know everything. Many people grew up in households where topics like this aren’t even talked about. Most people don’t even know what LGBTQ+ means.. it’s our jobs to start educating people about these topics.
@ I know I’m just saying, Also cuz I told this one guy i was gay because I didn’t think he knew what lesbian meant and he did and called me stupid so um..🥲🥲
@@olifromsolly6007 imagine being so mad someone does not want children (never even said that) that you make a hate comment. Wait until blind finds out tons of people don’t want kids 💀
@@Sentient-potatoit's perfectly normal to not want to have kids. Some people just aren't meant for that kind of thing. Besides it's not like being a genertic dead end is much of a problem since there are 8 billion people, it's not like humanity will die out?
"It's none of your business" It's shocking how quickly people forget that. They carry on like your (lack of) orientation actually affects them personally. I sincerely hope none of your detractors have scared you away from continuing to make amazing content.
@Bad Editor To help other people who are feeling a similar thing using a large platform can help people to understand themselves if the creator is feeling something similar
@Bad Editor because the content creator chooses to share that info. Anything beyond what the creator chooses to share is nobody's business, that's the point. In Jaiden's case, she's helping to raise awareness about aro/ace, which a lot of people didn't know about (myself included). Jaiden gave a boost to the popularity of Nuzlockes and Mario Kaizo, so this video is sure to raise awareness about being aro/ace.
@Bad Editor This is because Jaiden wants to share this part of her personality to help us better understand her, but she doesn’t want to share more personal information.
Your sexuality, who you love, and the kind of people you are drawn to are deeply personal and beautiful aspects of who you are. They are expressions of your heart, your soul, and your unique experience of the world. You don’t need to explain, defend, or hide them. Love is a gift, in all its forms, and it deserves to be celebrated, not judged. The way you love adds something special to the world-something no one else can replicate. And remember, there’s nothing wrong with being exactly who you are. You’re enough, just as you are. Other people's opinions about your sexuality are their own, not your burden to carry. Let your light shine freely, and surround yourself with those who see and celebrate your worth. The world is brighter when we honor and embrace the love in our hearts-yours included.
I remembered talking about aromantic with a friend and he legit said “How does smelling nice make you LGBTQ?” because he had mistaken aromatic = aromantic 🤦🏻♀️
Dude the “picking a crush out to feel like I’ve reached my emotional quota” is such a mood. I’m autistic and have always struggled feeling left out because I’ve never felt romantic attraction.
Literally SAME! It took me years to realize that my “crushes” on boys at school was really just the gender envy I had of masculine people… turns out I fall under the non-binary umbrella and just wanted to be more masculine. I don’t know if my neurodivergency has anything to do with inability to feel intense romantic attraction towards someone, but the thought of marrying someone and living with them forever just sounds… unpleasant.
12:34 I don't know if this was intentional or not, but I love the idea of an aroace person expressing platonic affection and following it up with "no romo"
some people find it offensive to act like No Homo is just a funny thing to reference but yeah No Romo is very commonly said in the aro community as a joke about things
This might sound a little bit weird, but this video has become somewhat of a comfort point, because it is the only place in all of my life where I feel like someone understands me. My parents are normally really supportive, but when it comes to my being aro, they can't really understand what I mean so they're always telling me "Ah, you'll get married eventually!" I'm kinda hoping that if I click on this video more often TH-cam might find some aroace content for me
I know Jaiden referred this as the cliff notes version but honestly I learnt so much from this. This video is definitely going to help a lot of people out there :)
@Random_gaming_FnAf lmao one kid once called me the f slur for being openly bi and obviously probably more queer than that surface fact so I slapped her and she never insulted me again lol
pleeeeease say aro and not ace when talking about relationships. i’m aro and not ace and asexual meaning aromantic is the biggest misconception that keeps anyone from ever realizing that aro people exist.
The whole “wait you guys weren’t joking???” Is the ace EXPERIENCE JDHDHD i remember the day i learned what asexual meant and instantly i felt so understood!
I'm demi and listen to a lot of country music, about half of all country music is "there was this very attractive girl who I talked to once, and I am now sad she's going away, because I love her" and I was always like "but... why?
It is the weirdest thing to me that people treat being ace as a bad thing, like some kind of evil. I mean, everyone should have the right to choose who to date or who to not date, yet if who to not date just happens to be everyone, then... that makes you somehow bad in the eyes of society? That just seems stupid to me.
@@youcantakemehottogothese people spit offensive garbage for attention, Jacks dad got mocked, Markiplier’s niece got mocked, these trolls are just animals to be ignored as they scream for attention. Don’t let them drag you down. Jaiden Mark and Jack ignore them and so should we.
can relate, i dont think ive found a single person attractive really, i would just look a few times because i liked that some people looked a bit similar to me and move on with my day like nothing happened
"So I made up a crush" is one of the most relatable things I've ever heard. I distinctly remember being in middle school and everyone talking about crushes and when I was asked about mine I just mentioned a close friend, and I did the same thing like a year later with someone else, and then the same when I got into high school, and I kept feeling like I wasn't doing something right. I eventually discovered I was aromantic and asexual but everyone around me was so weird about it. A teacher even told me "how are you going to teach your kids about sex if you've never had it?" Which- no comments honestly. I'm much happier now knowing exactly where I want my relationships to be and not stressing over which I'm expected to have. Great video Jaiden :) thanks a lot!
No but seriously, thinking you're bisexual or pansexual because you feel little to no romantic or sexual attraction to literally ANYONE hit so close to home. I thought for the longest time that I was pan or bi because I've never had any crushes or been in a relationship. "Everyone's equally hot I guess" was what I always thought I felt like. Oh how the turn tables...
@@gerald7780same, trying to figure out if I'm under the aro umbrella after watching this video because I realized it's very difficult for me to tell the difference between what the hell platonic and romantic attraction is or if there's even a difference to me and I just see friends differently than everyone else
No kidding. While I was watching the Owl House, I found out about the charity streams featuring Luz, Hunter, and Lilith from the voice actors. The one featuring Lilith stuck with me the most, when she said on how she felt about not being interested in dating a person at all. It was then I learned that she was an aroace. And not long after I looked into what being an aroace meant I found myself as an aroace as well. Since I never felt interested in dating anyone.
No cause when my friend was telling me abt pan and bi I was like “oh I must be pan cause I like everyone the same amount!” And then now I’m like “I think I might be aro/ace” lol
Separating intimacy and romantic attraction clears things up for me. Also, showing how asexuality can be a spectrum. I've having second thoughts about what I could be. Whatever I decide is staying with me (and partners)
@Logan Roof hey as someone who has and still is struggling with anorexia please don't say these things it can be very hurtful especially since with the way our minds work if we don't do one thing that someone else that has anorexia does we are told by ourselves that it isn't bad because we don't do that one thing. Again, please don't say things like this because it isn't good for our mental health at all and could end up making someone fall deeper into anorexia
God I know this animation is two years old; but having just tried to come out as ace, this is still so comforting to rewatch. It’s nice to know I’m not alone
I had never heard of being “aromantic” before. This makes me wonder if I’m aromantic. Like, I think I crave wanting to be loved, but just haven’t had that feeling of love. I’ve tried having that feeling. I thought I had it once, but then looking back on it, I didn’t really feel anything. I was just trying to convince myself I felt something, when in reality I just really liked hanging with the person. I think most of the “crushes” I had growing up in High School were just physical attraction, so I know for a fact I’m not asexual because I do experience physical attraction. This is confusing. I gotta look more into this to figure out if I actually am aromantic, or if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, lol.
That is perfectly valid! I forget the exact term, but there is a term for people who desire romantic love but do not feel it. You could also just say it’s basically just aromantic but with a certain attitude about it because of societal pressure. Either way hope it goes well, it’s healthy to experiment with your identity and you deserved to be happy and confident no matter what
I like how Jaiden brought up how she doesn't really care who it is, she just offers them to play video games with her I relate to this because whenever someone comes to my house I love to offer for them to play a game of some sort with me. It helps to ease tension and it's an all around fun time
@HBegaming YT "Jaiden Animations Impersonation Reupload"... That's the video where she gloated about sending cops to a child's house. The video also made the kid get doxxed and death threats... "Senator"... God these Jaiden fans are 11.
Honestly idc, you make such good content and positive authentic energy. It’s your soul that matters (pls don’t make me a grim reaper), the good inside you.
I like how you didn't overshare. Like, the entire statement is that we're all strangers that refused to listen to the stranger danger rule really hit me. People use the internet like a diary sometimes, so it's pretty refreshing to have a surface level talk, but not a deep sea dive into the life of someone I really honestly don't know. Jaiden is cool and awesome!
As someone who *finally* came to terms with being asexual, this video was really reassuring to see, especially the "they're not joking?!?" bit. I think that was the thought that finally confirmed being ace for me.
SAME! Well, kind of - I’ve always struggled with deciphering my emotions in general, so in all honesty, I don’t know if I can genuinely say I’m ace/Aro without potentially deteriorating the title somehow. But it is a nice thing to have, just a quiet title to silently hold on the back of my mind, you know? No? Okay great.
Bro I was so confused when I first heard about people that were asexual. At the time, the only context I'd heard it in was asexual reproduction in bacteria, so I thought people were out there just duplicating themselves or something
Same, just in a slightly different way. My mom asked me who my school crush was, after humming and hahing for a bit, I just said who I thought was the prettiest. I had zero inclination of ever dating that person. TBH I still don’t really understand crushes, like are they just the person you find the most attractive or is there something more?
I absolutely cackled when Jaiden began talking about how being AroAce is the coolest orientation. My little sister is Aromantic and she has the exact same energy and makes fun of me for being having mushy bisexual feelings. It's hilarious and I kind of love it.
@@Ivngkt Sorry to reply to your trolling again, but I don't understand this joke you keep making. You've made it before, you've established that you KNOW nobody else is referring to an aroma, but you keep mentioning it.
“Romance and intimacy is what makes someone human.” Well, it’s tough to be a god 😎 Loving the aroace representation! I’m ace myself and love seeing someone I admire being so open with this.
As soon as Jaiden said that she was aro/ace, my mind straight went to the flirting video and thought about her mentioning how two people who didn't have a relationship work out should still be able to be friends and how that makes a lot more sense now knowing that she's aro/ace... AND THEN SHE MENTIONED IT IN THE VID AND I HOWLED LMAO
I really thought that for years too. I know I’m aroace now. But even I still kinda think that, which is bad. I just don’t understand attraction like that.
eh, exes being friends is pretty normal in the queer community, and that's dominated by allosexual people so... I'm not sure that's so much an aro/ace thing.
@@i_a_r_n_a doesnt mean it should be normalized in the world yk. I keep seeing people of your community tryna force that ideal onto bi or straight ppl and its creepy sometimes so i hope you guys can be respectful yk?
@@HernandezEstrada-sh5rs no I mean like in the pass when I’ve tried to understand it no one really explained it very well. I think jaidens video is really well put together for someone who isn’t asexual to understand
As someone who is ace, having videos of people I look up to expressing their feelings or being aro/ace would have saved me years of inner conflict, confusion, and dismissing myself. Even now knowing that there are other people who grew up with the same antics that I did makes me feel validated. I just know that this video has helped at least one person who wandered the things things out there and that’s amazing. Thank you Jaiden! You’re amazing :)
I’ve felt the “man I really want to be friends with that person” feeling SO MANY TIMES and it’s like “do you like them or do you just really want to be their friend” and it doesn’t help that I’m basically a Pikmin when i have friends and just follow them around cause I don’t really have anything else to do ever So it’s nice to know I’m not the only one though But I am gay… like… pretty heckn gay… Update: the very first person I had romantic interest in... found out he's straight, transphobic, homophobic, AND has a girlfriend
Its a play on the dad joke where the kid says "I'm (insert condition here like bored, hungry, etc)" Then the dad goes "Hi (insert the thing from above here), I'm Dad" but in this case its replacing dad with mom
I've always been afraid I might be aromantic. I want a connection that goes deeper than just being mates that hang together every once in a while. But after this video maybe I'm not so afraid to start exploring if I'm maybe aromantic
I’m aro-ace and get that (I’m a hopeless romantic when it comes to fiction, rom-coms are my jam). It might be worth asking them if they’d be interested in that. Even if it’s just little things like texting each other more, venting more personal stuff, being more vulnerable. I asked a friend once if they were comfortable with me saying “love you” as a goodbye, like I do with family, and it turned out really well for me.
I’ve never heard someone articulate, how I’ve felt about being on the Ace spectrum before. The absolute - not lack of awareness, but the trouble processing that people actually feel an emotion you have never experienced. It’s really nice to hear it vocalized. Because while i’ve said it before to my friends, when someone isn’t Ace or Aro, it’s hard to understand you just exist without something society deems so important - It can be kind of isolating, existing in a world where you’re one of the odd people out? You’re the minority. It’s really amazing to see you make a video about this! And like epic pog for discovering what makes you feel comfortable with yourself! Watching this video made me just really warm and happy!! Thank you Jaiden! Congrats on finding yourself
It can be so hard to explain! The amount of times I've been told "You just haven't met the right person yet" has been so frustrating. The worst part being how that lack of understanding can make you second-guess yourself.
"wait, do people actually feel these emotions for each other" Is actually something I though about song lyrics until I legitimately found someone that made me feel all that mushy stuff. Honestly to a bit of an extreme extent. I thought all the lovey dovey stuff was just things people said to each other to keep getting laid consistently (cause I absolutely understood that aspect). But then I met that guy and suddenly I'm an emotional disaster. I'd never experienced that feeling before and didn't know what to do with it. This isn't to say "oh, you just have to wait for the right person." Just describing my experience.
You might just be young or have never really done a relationship, honestly, because same lol. I tried to make myself relatable to lyrics when I ent through this stuff, but when I ACTUALLY related to the mushy gushy soft stuff (which I always thought was weird and boring), I was like, “w- woah. WOAH. WOAH LOVE EXISTS :O”
"We're all pretending to be adults here," is one of the best things I've heard in a while. That aside, it is lovely to see a video covering these topics. (:
Right?? We're all just Children at heart whether we live to be 90 or not. The difference is that, some folks that they're Children and LIVE life full of Vitality 'n all WHILE most pretend to be adults and get all bitter/grumpy due to responsibilities and "old age." It's anyone's pick honestly 🤣🤣
Oh my goodness "zero is equal to zero" is EXACTLY the reason I thought I was bi/pan for the longest time in highschool. I am also aro/ace and just thought everyone was doing the checklist thing too! Thank you so much for a well thought out video that is entirely relatable. I got a little teary eyed at the end!
I read somewhere that aromantics and asexuals were once accepted into the bisexual community before they had their own terms and definitions for that very reason!! The bis were like, "yup 0=0 so I guess you're one of us!" And thus began the vehement bi/ace/aro solidarity that persists today 🤝
Fun fact, back before asexual wasn't it's own sexuality because no one knew that that could happen, bisexuals actually welcomed asexuals into their community as their own because of this understanding.
Update: I sent this to my cousin, who has been trying to be supportive with me being aro/ace (the most supportive out of my family) and she immensely appreciated this video, as it explained things perfectly for her! Thank you again Jaiden for making this video.
I think as a society we need to stop pushing this idea that you need to be in a relationship to be happy and let people discover and be themselves without pushing agendas. Im not aroace but as someone whos pan I hate the pushing of the "straight" and "romantic" agendas. Like just let people be themselves and discover this stuff for themselves and not push what we think "happiness" or what love is. When i have kids i want them to discover themselves and not let anyone tell them how they should or shouldn't feel and if they have questions obviously ill answer them as best as i can without pushing an agenda. I feel this aswell about "gender norms" and this why i dont want to push any of that on future kids and just let them like what they like and be who they are. As long as youre not hurting yourself or anyone else you should be yourself and not be pressured to fit a "box" then society puts you in. We as people really need to stop putting people in boxes. Ps sorry for the long rant but this is something i hate watching people feeling like something is wrong with them cause they cant fit in societies boxes. You are valid and you shouldn't be pressured to fit in. Fitting in is boring anyways❤❤❤
This video was how I first learned about asexuality and it CHANGED MY LIFE! I’m so grateful to you Jaiden, I came out to my mom yesterday and I’ve never been so confident in my skin!
Congrats, and same! This video is the thing that opened my eyes and got me to look into asexuality. Now I've fully accepted that I'm aroace and have come out to everyone close to me, and my life has never made more sense.
@@snicko22 I love people that FEEL THE NEED to post hate comments Like, go ahead homie, the algorithm will just recommend the video to other people, and recommend more videos like that to you
@@Witheld this is not an hate comment, this is just being realistic and logical. The problem of people like you is that you confuse hate speech with speeches that you hate. This video talks about nonsense and it’s really dangerous, because there are so many kids who watch this and believe that being “aromantic” and “asexual” (things that do not exist) is enlightening.
@@snicko22 Being realistic and logical how? By trying to lie to young minds saying you are required to find a partner and have children? To tell them they don't have a choice on love? Stop living in a fairytale and join us in the real world sometime, there are plenty of the 8 billion people on this rock that will never love, marry, have a partner, or kids, and I think you're one of them.
For the first 17 years of my life I thought "I really want you to be my friend” = "I have a crush on you" and I legitimately didn't understand the concept of romantic attraction...
yessssss like i was like trying to pretend wanting to be friends with someone to a crush because like idk just didn’t understand what i was but now AROACE AND JAIDEN HELPED ME LEARN THAT
I’m a lesbian and in elementary I used to have crushes on the transfer boys because they didn’t speak English very well so I really had no idea what they were actually like, I just said I had a crush on them 💀 then I dated one of them in 6th grade, and 6th grade was also when I got my first actual crush on a girl, and my ex best friend told him about it. Turns out he was homophobic and he broke up with me because of it 👎 it was for the best though, considering we would have broken up anyway once I figured out I’m gay.
What’s kinda funny, I was rewatching the video where she played random romance video games, and kept thinking “wow- she’s not really playing these right- she’s not really romancing them but more acting as if their friends- which is funny but- confusing- but it’s her game I dunno” now watching this, makes so so much more sense-
"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE?!" You're fantastic. I really relate to all of this -- like, in a way that has me thinking "Okay maybe I do need to reevaluate some things I thought I knew about myself" -- and I really appreciate that you made the video even though it opens the door to a lot of people speculating and making assumptions about your personal life.
When she said that she didn’t know people were actually drawn to others who they think are attractive, I thought: what? THAT’S A RANDOM PERSON WHY WOULD YOU DATE THEM?! JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK THEY LOOK GOOD? I’m demisexual, and I was today years old when I realized that some people would go on a date with a stranger if they thought they looked hot.
As a demisexual/demirromantic person its still baffles me people actually do that. Or maybe they are already kissing in the second date lol My mom still points at a random guy in the street and asks "doesn't he look cute?" And I'm just like "....I guess??" 😂 my brain just goes "it's a guy" and thats it
@@strawberrymilk174 oh for sure, I was talking about in the sense my mother obviously expects to act like I feel sexual attraction to strangers 😅 appearences is not something i pay much attention to I do admit for a while i thought i had crushes on girls because I found them pretty, but that only happened with certain hairstyles or when wearing more men like clothes- turns out it was gender admiration/gender envy; I love the aesthetic and I wish I could look as cool as them lol
I remember watching this when it first came out, and it helped me learn about the LGBTQ+ community. I now identify as a non-binary cupioromantic panromantic asexual 🏳️⚧️ 🏳️🌈
As an asexual person, the whole “oh 0 = 0 so I must be bi” thing is a complete mood, especially because I happen to be biromantic, so my attraction to people was extremely confusing until I found out that romantic attraction =/= intimate attraction and realized that I can have crushes but not desire anything more than cuddles :D
I felt no attraction to anyone for YEEARS and only now am I actually in a relationship with someone, and even that took like several months of talking to them and hanging out
@@psychomanatee3459 YEEEEPPPP My GF and I were completely Demi until each other lmao Was pretty funny when we discussed the feelings we felt for each prior to the Confession™️
apologies if the audio sounds different, my mic exploded during recording
It’s fine!
Oh lol it’s okay lol
It's ok We love you
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its perfectly fine 🙂
I’m not aromantic but i agree with the not-getting-why-being-just-friends-is-a-bad-thing point. Friendship rocks. No kisses i suppose, but still great
Edit: this was not meant to cover every situation or be seen by many people at all, agh! I totally understand it being extremely painful when someone you have deep romantic feelings for doesn’t share them! I do think sometimes friendships, particularly male-female friendships, aren’t appreciated enough on their own unless they have the possibility of leading to a relationship. I was more trying to refer to that concept, though I realize I didn’t make that clear. I was sort of imagining a low-stakes situation of an acquaintance shooting their shot with another acquaintance (which could also be scary or embarrassing depending on the individual situation of course, but I figure it could also turn into a friendship if the awkwardness was surmountable). If you were rejected by someone you had romantic feelings for, I promise I’m not trying to dismiss that hurt, this comment was not meant to be universally applicable! And ending a friendship because it’s painful or awkward for this reason is absolutely not inherently a bad choice.
Edit part 2: rewatching the video, I think I also should have phrased the sentence as understanding a feeling rather than agreeing with a point.
well as she said its an emotional thing, if you really like someone an they reject you it can feel crushing it makes it hard to be around them
What are you kidding me kisses suck hugs all the way
virgin gang lit af
Especially if those hugs last longer than 20 seconds and feel actually genuine instead of weak!
Having a mismatch in the level of care you have for someone hurts, it isn't insurmountable but it is an understanding reason for someone to be unable to maintain a friendship after they have been rejected. (this works for crushes, marriage proposals, friendships, acquaintances and probably many more examples of relationships between people)
I like how a lot of ace/aro people (including myself at one point) are like “What’s wrong with me? Why am I not interested in anyone?” And Jaiden’s entire attitude is “What’s wrong with all of you? Why are you all so ugly?”
I share Jaidens sentiment. Unfortunately there aren't any good songs about them so we're just stuck with 2 upbeat songs, the rest are just depressing
To be honest I feel both options!
My friends refuse to believe me that I am aroace. Like I was so overwhelmed by this "I need a crush, think" I forced myself to like my favourite fictional character and told he is my crush....
One time I needed to explain that what a crush is... And lemme say... It didn't go well...
"We're all pretending to be adults here!"
jaiden has perfectly summed up the internet experience
And the life experience
You like beef bro
@@Radioactive-Braincell88 yeah it's alright, minced beef good in Bolognese
and the comment section experience on this video
7 year olds setting their age to 100 setting up their account on anything
When I was younger I thought a crush was someone you hated because you wanted to crush them 💀
💀
Oh god 💀
That is one of the most aroace thing I have ever heard
💀
tsundere /j
*”In the nicest way possible, its none of your business”* is literally the most understandable thing I’ve ever heard
READ MY NAME!!!!!
!!!!!!!!
Ok ash
For reall XD
Whaaaa no, how dare she not provide details on her intimate life, I'm a long time sub which means we are basically friends! What's a toxic parasocial relation?
@@SpiritOfHugs thats what im sayin, these chronically online kids istg 💀💀💀😭😭
4:02 “WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE?” got me😭😭😭
Ooh look at this baby comment 1 day old comment dhdhhdjufjfoqpkxc qdjxnxjzkzjx
Edit 2: Ok please stop giving advice in general actually, I guarantee I’ve already heard it.
Edit: This comment is 2 years old. I appreciate all the advice, but I already know about Cupioromanticism. Please stop telling me.
Ok, speaking as someone who is in High School and desperate for affection… Jaiden’s story about thinking “man I don’t have a crush on anyone, I guess I keep getting unlucky” really hit close to home… but I don’t think I’m aromantic? Because despite not feeling any romantic attraction I still deeply crave a romantic relationship, because theoretically, it sounds really nice and like something I would enjoy. And at this point I’m not sure if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, keep getting “unlucky”, or am somewhere on the aromantic/demiromantic spectrum.
THISSS ^^^^^^^^^
same but tbh you prolly just at an ugly school like me 😭
A lot of effort into this single comment
@SoundFoodist omg??
I'm 13 luckily I don't have to worry about that :)
Man, highschool and even college were such a weird time to me. Your "fake developing crushes on people" is resonating with me so much right now.
One of us?
@@lunalee3021 thinking the romance in certain movies and shows is dumb, and having a very, incredibly big hard time even understanding what romance of romantic love feels like is very different. I too think certain romances in shows are dumb and unnecessary, but I'm not aromantic, if anything I'm a hopeless romantic with my partner, if you're heterosexual, do you feel attraction to your same sex? No? Well imagine there is no person in the world with opposite sex, that's how it feels like to aromantics in a romantic way and to asexuals in a sexual way
Relatable
@@lunalee3021 I don't think you understand what an identity is, y'know the thing that makes you, you? Being Asexual or Aromantic is part of an identity because it's who you are. The fact you didn't even consider it's existence is exactly why Jaiden' video was so important to the community; it sheds a light on us and tells people: "yeah, we exist, deal with it."
@@lunalee3021 did you even watch the video
"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE"
Literally the best line in the whole video.
“We’re all strangers not listening to ‘stranger danger’”
and
“We’re all pretending to be adults”
have their moments, but yea
also relatable for fellow aroace folks
well for me it was different
i was a lil gae boi (gae moment lol)
and then i always wanted to be interested in the older guys (like 16+ older)
and then middle school hit...
and uhh...
im still obsessing with the same exact guy :-)
even though there probably 18 by now...
welp rip for me ig lol
exactly 😂
I heard that once
Ok twice
Three times
+
Im lonely
Not Jaiden’s video being the catalyst to me realizing I’m aromantic 😭
You got brainwashed.
@@NewJerseyMilitia1488 Bruh it's a organic chem joke
Same bro
real 😂
@@NewJerseyMilitia1488 excuse me?
If someone ever passes you a note that says "do you like me yes or no" just just tell them I'm not registered to vote
I saw that meme and it made me laugh like a lunatic
I get it
Dude yes
I would just do
A: Tell them they made a mistake
Or
B: Just rip it up
Or eat the paper 😏
Jaiden thinking she's bi or pan because she was equally disinterested in everyone is the funniest thing to me.
Seems to be a common aro-ace experience, I had the same thing happen to me. Thought I was pan for at least a year. 😂
yeah i started thinking i was bi for the same reason and then lockdown hit and i started using my brain lmao
no I feel it so bad though
I thought I was bi and greyro UNTIL NOW am I just aro wtf I am having a crisis
i've read somewhere (so cmiiw) that long ago bi people included ace in the label because of the same thing, being 'equally unintrested'
That's how me discovering my aromanticism worked 🤣
Some asexuals: "I don't feel anything, something is wrong with me"
Chad Jaiden: "I don't feel anything... You all are ugly"
Honestly I resonate with Jaiden with the ugly part. Don't take it personally tho.
I agree
No Sigma Jaiden
I call people gross when they ask if I have a crush
Fr as an ace I can confirm 😅
As someone who figured out she was demiromantic a few years ago, the scanning your classmates to see if anyone has finally caught your eye hit soooo close to home. As does the picking someone random to have a crush on just to hit that milestone mark.
!!!NIAGA THGIARTS SNOITAMINANEDIAJ NRUT LLIW SOEDIV YM
,.,,,,
Demon lol
@@JaydenSupport probably the only time i respect jayden for
My last girl friend learned that she was aroace, and didnt have any romantic attraction to me at all. She just saw us as really good friends, similar to that college person. We worked through it, and are now BFFs. I'm so proud of her ❤
Thank you for being so supportive of your friend!
This is so cute!
Yooo good for you and your friend
I love stories like this, because it’s how I made one of my best friends. Hope you guys are doing great!
The world needs more people like you 🤍💜
“WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE”
Literally the best one liner in the video
It's a question I ask many a minute
Lol
4:01
dang ppl are still commenting on this this was 7 months ago-
lol
I have been saying "I am sure I will feel love and affection if the right person comes along" for like the last 10 years. This kinda makes a lot more sense now.
If you mean you're in love with jaiden it's just pixels but if it's otherwise then it's fine
@@Edward_Dusk bruh what 💀
LITERALLY SAME! I've been sad and feeling left behind too, its nice to realise im not alone (:
@Logan Floor {UTTP} They were just saying their experience
@@Bella_bumble true that, ever since learning I am an ace, I have felt alone, and feel like nobody would understand me. It doesn't change me as a person, just makes me feel, that this is something my close people should know about, but have never had the confidence to say anything
"Whats you sexuality?"
"Gamer"
my best (female) friend is aromatic and asexual and i'm asexual (man). a lot of people asking if we're together/ a couple because we get along very well. some find it weird that we don't want to be a couple, like why don't you try it? you might like it. things like this, i find annoying because i find that these days everything needs to sexualized and romantised
Man, exactly!!!
Are they completely unaware of the concept of friendship or platonic relationships?
@@Awesomeflame16probably
Also I will say very similar experience lok
@@Awesomeflame16 with some, maybe. i noticed that it's always with a man - woman relation, never with 2 men or women. so far i know nobody said too 2 men/ women that they should be together because they get along very well.
Figuring out youre aro or ace or both is so hard bc society really teaches you that you need to be in a romantic relationship and be intimate or you'll be sad and die alone.
@Logan dude ur WEAK lmao
@Logan You don't even have a gf. So shut it.
That's because it's true. Just take the L and stop making it into a label
@@NobleTitty you're so outdated that even boomers won't say crap like this lol
Literally
"I hope you can understand even just a little of what I talked about, and if not, I just hope you can be nice." Standing ovation for that line, honestly. So many people who don't understand something use that as a reason to dismiss or invalidate it, but not fully being able to comprehend something doesn't make it impossible to have compassion for those who do experience it. (As someone who is constantly confused by other people, I have firsthand experience in this.)
Also, major kudos for the approach of this video. Using your platform to speak up for those who don't often feel seen is a really admirable thing to do, and maintaining boundaries of your own personal life at the same time is very respectable.
you're soy
By evidence with how other react negatively about this for odd reasons,it's really suck tbh
Honestly, I can’t understand all of the hate Jaiden got for this video. She is by far one of the sweetest and least problematic you tuber out there.
Queerphobia
It’s the age old human nature of hating to hate.
Perhaps this is due to the fact that some people grew up in homophobic conditions and that LGBT people should not be encouraged (By the way, so am I)
Perhaps this is due to the fact that some people grew up in homophobic conditions and that LGBT people should not be encouraged (by the way, I also)
Perhaps this is due to the fact that some people grew up in homophobic conditions and that LGBT people should not be encouraged (by the way, I also)
That “wait, they’re *not* joking??” moment is so accurate. This entire video describes what I was trying to figure out up until like a year ago. And the happiness of figuring it out, you’re not broken, this is a thing. It so upsetting in a good way? Relieving almost.
She did a great job on the video and you're valid.
everyone is valid mate
Fr I was so emotional watching this, means a lot just to feel seen
Demi was like this except when I found someone I liked and was suddenly like "oh that is feelings that happen' hm".
I just watched that part 😨
“No one presented to me OTHER options.” Wow, WOW this hit hard. It took me a long time to finally realize I was Ace, it was a revelation that being Ace was a legitimate THING and not just me being indecisive/selfish/weird.
“At the end of the day, we are all just strangers ignoring the stranger danger rule.”
Its true lol
@@Jeejune_Jx America is homophobic-af. I'm gonna be direct as can be and ask:
Please help with that by watching and supporting Telltale Atheist, Forrest Valkai and of course also this video here.
S tier quote
@@nenmaster5218 the fuck does this have to do with anything?
Lol true
jaiden you literally changed my mind and understanding towards people for the better, thank you. I love your animations keep it up.
Legit one of the best comments I've ever seen
Rewatching this after the ADHD video. She perfectly describes hyper-fixating on a person and misinterpreting it as a crush lol.
no fucking way, I just found this channel through the ADHD video (on account of having ADD myself) today and then saw this video right afterward lol
Neurodivergent LGBTQIA people, arise.
@NJMilitia so true, it's just an illusion
@NJMitilia it is a real thing because I have it
OMG YES FR
You see, I'm not aroace, but holy shit do I relate to "Society expects you to be in a relationship."
Tell 'em, always annoyed with people badgering me about it.
Especially now when my friends try to ship me with people when it's not their business in the first place
At 25 my psychiatrist asked why I never was in a relationship and I countered with "How is that connected to my suicid attempt" His response was going on a long rant about the word of god and me looking up other psychiatrists mid session
It's especially annoying when you do tell someone multiple times that you don't want children or a bf/significant other and they laugh at you and tell you that you'll find someone one day. I want to focus on myself and the thought of being in a romantic relationship or having children grosses me out I want nothing to do with either of those things
It's almost as if we've created stereotypes for relationships and those stereotypes, according to society, MUST be fulfilled!! Otherwise we are absolute nobodies who will go nowhere. And if we go nowhere, we should not be happy. Or something along those lines.
i dont identify as aroace, but as an autistic person, the feeling of "well everyone else is feeling this way now so i should probably start doing it too" without understanding thats not how feelings work is very real
As a fellow autistic one, I can relate to that.
I try to but I often struggle with "experiencing feelings". It took me a long time to realize I had feelings for my girlfriend even though I've known her since childhood now because I was never in a relationship before and allways thought I have to instantly fall in love when I see the right one or something.
I still have a lot to learn about relationships but I know that my best friend will be there for me, helping me learning about how to love, in a way.
As someone also on the Autism Spectrum, I also can relate to finding feelings for someone even though I’m not Aroace.
I remember having “crushes” while not understanding that you actually FEEL something
I’m also autistic 😊
I... Miiiiight be Autistic? I've never been diagnosed but the symptoms exist
aaaand.... I used to feel the same way, trying to fit in without even knowing how to emotions
I eventually gave up and decided to just give up and just... act like I want to despite everyone else's ideas and time
I still wonder what the word "Crush" even means lol
Hi Jaiden! I had never understood your video because I'm Brazilian and I don't know much English, but after they posted a dubbed version I was able to understand the idea of your video and I was even able to identify with it! My whole life I thought I couldn't really understand the feeling of "falling in love", I thought I was being ridiculous or that people were just exaggerating when they talked about it, but now with this video I realized that I am actually aroace! Thank you very much for this video Jaiden❤
"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" would be an awesome senior quote
I’m stealing it.
I think I'll try setting that as my senior quote
@@carlbrutanawanadelwski7026 Ok sure bud, none of us believe your crap. Go get a job freak, instead of framing a youtuber because of your jealousy.
@@TheDerplox no lmao
That's the one I'm going to be using in two years
As a straight man, I found this video not only informative but helpful to my personal understanding of relationships and whether it is that I want to be in one or I feel pressured to be in one. This is an amazing follow-up to a previous video of yours and I'm glad you were able to talk about things in ways that people don't necessarily do.
damn respect bro
i agree
I agree, especially the part of “you can be happy on your own”, it’s something so basic but it stills hits really hard hearing it or trying make that sink in
This was literally my aroace awakening. This was the first time I heard of these terms and I was like, “OH. OHHHHH. That’s why everyone is unattractive.”
Same
Why, sad that have to poke fun at others instead of looking at your sad, miserable life?@noname-lf8yr
@noname-lf8yr You're cringe. Next question.
@noname-lf8yryour life must be pretty sad if you don’t have anything better to do other than hating on others because of their sexuality
no, it wasn't. you're 12-16 years old and you spend too much time on the internet
ok but as someone who is lesbian can we just talk about those people who think if you say you are not straight then your automatically gay..like there’s more than just gay..there are so many different and unique sexualities too
also great vid Jaiden!!
True, i guess due to the amount of people that talk about others / they are gay, the people only focus and know about only that one thing
I am not sure, one thing that i know is that you are right, and that most people are stupid
Not many people know that.. it’s immature to assume everyone’s supposed to know everything. Many people grew up in households where topics like this aren’t even talked about. Most people don’t even know what LGBTQ+ means.. it’s our jobs to start educating people about these topics.
@ I know I’m just saying, Also cuz I told this one guy i was gay because I didn’t think he knew what lesbian meant and he did and called me stupid so um..🥲🥲
James: Has a girlfriend
Jaiden: Is aroace
Fanfiction artists: Let's go ahead and ignore that
oh no you had to remind me (vietnam war flashbacks)
@@Marionetteanimates ah yes, the fall of our beautiful motherland...
Oh dear....
That's because majority.
More is power
she can love people just not in romantic ways
_"You don't have to be in a romantic relationship to be happy"_
Based Jaiden
there is nothing based about being a genetic dead end
@@olifromsolly6007 Imagine reducing people to their ability to produce offspring.
@@olifromsolly6007 imagine being so mad someone does not want children (never even said that) that you make a hate comment. Wait until blind finds out tons of people don’t want kids 💀
She did say she does not want kids in a different video tho
@@Sentient-potatoit's perfectly normal to not want to have kids. Some people just aren't meant for that kind of thing. Besides it's not like being a genertic dead end is much of a problem since there are 8 billion people, it's not like humanity will die out?
"It's none of your business"
It's shocking how quickly people forget that. They carry on like your (lack of) orientation actually affects them personally. I sincerely hope none of your detractors have scared you away from continuing to make amazing content.
thats nice
@Bad Editor To help other people who are feeling a similar thing using a large platform can help people to understand themselves if the creator is feeling something similar
@Bad Editor because the content creator chooses to share that info. Anything beyond what the creator chooses to share is nobody's business, that's the point.
In Jaiden's case, she's helping to raise awareness about aro/ace, which a lot of people didn't know about (myself included). Jaiden gave a boost to the popularity of Nuzlockes and Mario Kaizo, so this video is sure to raise awareness about being aro/ace.
@Bad Editor This is because Jaiden wants to share this part of her personality to help us better understand her, but she doesn’t want to share more personal information.
@@colanaxis I don't think it's so much about helping us understand her, more likely it's helping us understand what it means to be aro/ace.
Your sexuality, who you love, and the kind of people you are drawn to are deeply personal and beautiful aspects of who you are. They are expressions of your heart, your soul, and your unique experience of the world. You don’t need to explain, defend, or hide them.
Love is a gift, in all its forms, and it deserves to be celebrated, not judged. The way you love adds something special to the world-something no one else can replicate. And remember, there’s nothing wrong with being exactly who you are. You’re enough, just as you are.
Other people's opinions about your sexuality are their own, not your burden to carry. Let your light shine freely, and surround yourself with those who see and celebrate your worth. The world is brighter when we honor and embrace the love in our hearts-yours included.
Extremely Based
I remembered talking about aromantic with a friend and he legit said “How does smelling nice make you LGBTQ?” because he had mistaken aromatic = aromantic 🤦🏻♀️
Made my day. Will make that joke for now on
it is scientifically correct that all aromantics smell nice
LMAO
Why are people like this
I find it hard to believe the creator of the world couldn't have noticed that.
Dude the “picking a crush out to feel like I’ve reached my emotional quota” is such a mood. I’m autistic and have always struggled feeling left out because I’ve never felt romantic attraction.
right? same with dating people because i wanted to like upgrade them from friend to like best friend / dedicated friend
Literally SAME! It took me years to realize that my “crushes” on boys at school was really just the gender envy I had of masculine people… turns out I fall under the non-binary umbrella and just wanted to be more masculine. I don’t know if my neurodivergency has anything to do with inability to feel intense romantic attraction towards someone, but the thought of marrying someone and living with them forever just sounds… unpleasant.
feels bad man
Dude, same here! Does Asperger Syndrome ring a bell?
yeah this def feels like the autism experience right here
12:34 I don't know if this was intentional or not, but I love the idea of an aroace person expressing platonic affection and following it up with "no romo"
Dude. You just got me the new phrase ill say every day of my lofe, thank u
the new aroace trump card
Aramco ?
Yeah, no! That's a common thing! Very much a joke at the 'no homo' crowd, but yeah. Definitely a thing in the aro community, and I love it so much!
some people find it offensive to act like No Homo is just a funny thing to reference but yeah No Romo is very commonly said in the aro community as a joke about things
This might sound a little bit weird, but this video has become somewhat of a comfort point, because it is the only place in all of my life where I feel like someone understands me. My parents are normally really supportive, but when it comes to my being aro, they can't really understand what I mean so they're always telling me "Ah, you'll get married eventually!"
I'm kinda hoping that if I click on this video more often TH-cam might find some aroace content for me
I know Jaiden referred this as the cliff notes version but honestly I learnt so much from this. This video is definitely going to help a lot of people out there :)
I have 24 kids in my basement
@@rohitbhattarai2243 Wha-
@@rohitbhattarai2243 ;-;
@@rohitbhattarai2243 help me some guy kidnapped me and 23 others
@@rohitbhattarai2243 OMG SAME!!!!
Glad that picking fake crushes in order to fit in is a universal ace experience
@Random_gaming_FnAf lmao one kid once called me the f slur for being openly bi and obviously probably more queer than that surface fact so I slapped her and she never insulted me again lol
pleeeeease say aro and not ace when talking about relationships. i’m aro and not ace and asexual meaning aromantic is the biggest misconception that keeps anyone from ever realizing that aro people exist.
To me it feels more like a female aroace thing cause I'm aroace but I never thought I needed a crush
I pretended that I had a crush when I was younger because I thought that I was supposed to when I was literally in second grade.
@@Mr_Noob-jp8nvmaybe it might be slightly more female, but I'm male and before I knew I was Aroace I assumed I needed a crush.
The whole “wait you guys weren’t joking???” Is the ace EXPERIENCE JDHDHD i remember the day i learned what asexual meant and instantly i felt so understood!
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I'm demi and listen to a lot of country music, about half of all country music is "there was this very attractive girl who I talked to once, and I am now sad she's going away, because I love her" and I was always like "but... why?
It is the weirdest thing to me that people treat being ace as a bad thing, like some kind of evil.
I mean, everyone should have the right to choose who to date or who to not date, yet if who to not date just happens to be everyone, then... that makes you somehow bad in the eyes of society? That just seems stupid to me.
"We're all strangers not listening to the stranger danger rule"
Yeah that's the Jaiden we know, classic sense of humor too, good start!
@SoundFoodist wtf dude that's horrible
@@youcantakemehottogothese people spit offensive garbage for attention, Jacks dad got mocked, Markiplier’s niece got mocked, these trolls are just animals to be ignored as they scream for attention. Don’t let them drag you down. Jaiden Mark and Jack ignore them and so should we.
@SoundFoodist What is wrong with you? What if you were in her shoes?? You wouldn't like being told this!
@UCf8J8NnXkq7L54lUSeyjtPA again, what the hell dude
What the fuck happened there?
I love the combo of the terms. like, areoace flows so well. Me and my husband refer to ourselves as pandemics(pansexual and demisexual).
I audibly laughed at "pandemics"; that's relationship goals right there 😂
Pandemics sounds like Pandemia help (btw i love it)
I believe it’s spelled aroace, as it has nothing to do with air
Nah not covid starting like this
PANDEMIIIIIICCCCCCSSSSSSSSSSSSS
"That's not gay what the hell is that"
That line was too funny
Owlhouse amphibia yes amazing marcy best character
@Jack Wrath uhm no
Ayyy my gang
Amphibia 4 life
It was pretty funny
this comment section makes me want to rip my hair out lmao
same
that's literally so real
Everyone else: I'm not in a relationship because I'm not attractive
Jaiden: I'm not in a relationship because everyone else isn't attractive
can relate, i dont think ive found a single person attractive really, i would just look a few times because i liked that some people looked a bit similar to me and move on with my day like nothing happened
True
also jaiden: *walks into a room screaming* WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE
Cringe af!
...why does the make sense lol
"So I made up a crush" is one of the most relatable things I've ever heard. I distinctly remember being in middle school and everyone talking about crushes and when I was asked about mine I just mentioned a close friend, and I did the same thing like a year later with someone else, and then the same when I got into high school, and I kept feeling like I wasn't doing something right.
I eventually discovered I was aromantic and asexual but everyone around me was so weird about it. A teacher even told me "how are you going to teach your kids about sex if you've never had it?" Which- no comments honestly.
I'm much happier now knowing exactly where I want my relationships to be and not stressing over which I'm expected to have. Great video Jaiden :) thanks a lot!
READ MY NAME!!!!!!!!
A teacher said that? Who says that to a student wtf-
Wait what? How are you gonna have kids to talk to in the first place? Not only was that inappropriate but it doesn't even make sense.
That teacher really didn't think that through huh
That teacher…… is a real weirdo
Oh my God the "why are none of you attractive?!" being yelled in the room full of people killed me 😂😂😂😂😂
@Savetion (KING OF YT) I know you're a bot, but come on, you couldn't think of anything more clever than "gaymations"?
@Savetion (KING OF YT) I shouldn't be saying this, but you missed the *obvious* opportunity to say "Gayden Animations."
Hey look at that TH-cams report system worked.
Yeah same lol
I know this is supposed to be an at least semi-serious video, but that made me laugh out loud.
"Why are none of you attractive?" I can relate
No but seriously, thinking you're bisexual or pansexual because you feel little to no romantic or sexual attraction to literally ANYONE hit so close to home. I thought for the longest time that I was pan or bi because I've never had any crushes or been in a relationship. "Everyone's equally hot I guess" was what I always thought I felt like. Oh how the turn tables...
Was fun for me especially cause I'm aromantic AS WELL AS bisexual, so it was very confusing for a while.
@@gerald7780same, trying to figure out if I'm under the aro umbrella after watching this video because I realized it's very difficult for me to tell the difference between what the hell platonic and romantic attraction is or if there's even a difference to me and I just see friends differently than everyone else
No kidding. While I was watching the Owl House, I found out about the charity streams featuring Luz, Hunter, and Lilith from the voice actors. The one featuring Lilith stuck with me the most, when she said on how she felt about not being interested in dating a person at all. It was then I learned that she was an aroace. And not long after I looked into what being an aroace meant I found myself as an aroace as well. Since I never felt interested in dating anyone.
No cause when my friend was telling me abt pan and bi I was like “oh I must be pan cause I like everyone the same amount!” And then now I’m like “I think I might be aro/ace” lol
Wait... If you were a pan before, did anyone fry an egg on you
Separating intimacy and romantic attraction clears things up for me. Also, showing how asexuality can be a spectrum. I've having second thoughts about what I could be. Whatever I decide is staying with me (and partners)
They are two completely different things Aro is about romantic attraction Asexual is about Sexual attraction
@Logan Roof hey as someone who has and still is struggling with anorexia please don't say these things it can be very hurtful especially since with the way our minds work if we don't do one thing that someone else that has anorexia does we are told by ourselves that it isn't bad because we don't do that one thing. Again, please don't say things like this because it isn't good for our mental health at all and could end up making someone fall deeper into anorexia
So you're falling deeper into your anorexia because of a TH-cam comment?
@@lophuranycthemera1755 no I'm saying it could happen to someone
God I know this animation is two years old; but having just tried to come out as ace, this is still so comforting to rewatch. It’s nice to know I’m not alone
I am I fellow bisexual. Hello!
Congrats!! Realizing you're ace can be so freeing. I wish you happiness, fellow ace! ^_^
You're not alone!
I'm considering being straight/aromantic, and it's nice to see everyone else in this comment section.
Welcome to the ace club! Always feels good to know we're not alone
I AM STARIGHT BUT I STILL SUPPORTS YOU
OMG YAY AN ALLY (unlike 90% of the recent comments 😂)
Based.
I had never heard of being “aromantic” before. This makes me wonder if I’m aromantic. Like, I think I crave wanting to be loved, but just haven’t had that feeling of love. I’ve tried having that feeling. I thought I had it once, but then looking back on it, I didn’t really feel anything. I was just trying to convince myself I felt something, when in reality I just really liked hanging with the person. I think most of the “crushes” I had growing up in High School were just physical attraction, so I know for a fact I’m not asexual because I do experience physical attraction. This is confusing. I gotta look more into this to figure out if I actually am aromantic, or if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, lol.
You can try looking into the many microlabels that exist under the aromantic umbrella!
If you can't find an identity just invent another one.
@@bewawolf19 stop trolling
That is perfectly valid! I forget the exact term, but there is a term for people who desire romantic love but do not feel it. You could also just say it’s basically just aromantic but with a certain attitude about it because of societal pressure. Either way hope it goes well, it’s healthy to experiment with your identity and you deserved to be happy and confident no matter what
@@jaefast5684 cupioromantic?
12:20 No we all know what makes us human is correctly identifying the squares with traffic lights in them.
select all images with bicycles in them
I had to try that 7 times in a row to get it right once… there must be something wrong with me
@@Chroma10008 well i mean you are a computer
@QUEEN1997. It’s ok I did that too lol 🥲
When I get them wrong and they think I'm a bot....m
I like how Jaiden brought up how she doesn't really care who it is, she just offers them to play video games with her
I relate to this because whenever someone comes to my house I love to offer for them to play a game of some sort with me. It helps to ease tension and it's an all around fun time
"Romantic attraction? Naw, they potential party member"
I feel the same
@HBegaming YT "Jaiden Animations Impersonation Reupload"... That's the video where she gloated about sending cops to a child's house. The video also made the kid get doxxed and death threats... "Senator"... God these Jaiden fans are 11.
@@cheesuscrustthegratelord788 Link?
Omg same
Honestly idc, you make such good content and positive authentic energy. It’s your soul that matters (pls don’t make me a grim reaper), the good inside you.
Ok I do care, just does not affect the image of you.
👌
Grim reaper...what?
What @@rocksteadyone23
I like how you didn't overshare. Like, the entire statement is that we're all strangers that refused to listen to the stranger danger rule really hit me. People use the internet like a diary sometimes, so it's pretty refreshing to have a surface level talk, but not a deep sea dive into the life of someone I really honestly don't know.
Jaiden is cool and awesome!
Hearing other Aces say "...wait they're not joking?" about sex songs is the most validating phrase
Lmfao same!!!
Mood
Ikr haha
XD truu
Agreed m8
“At the end of the day we are all strangers not listening to the stranger danger rule” -Jaiden
This is a fantastic quote and I need it on a t-shirt
I'm rewatching this video after 2 years, I'm in highschool now and I literally relate to everything you just said
That sounds more like you're just trying to fit in or trying to be special.
As someone who *finally* came to terms with being asexual, this video was really reassuring to see, especially the "they're not joking?!?" bit. I think that was the thought that finally confirmed being ace for me.
SAME!
Well, kind of - I’ve always struggled with deciphering my emotions in general, so in all honesty, I don’t know if I can genuinely say I’m ace/Aro without potentially deteriorating the title somehow. But it is a nice thing to have, just a quiet title to silently hold on the back of my mind, you know?
No?
Okay great.
Bruh, the delimema when your parents start to think you are Gay cause you don't have a love interest.
And your like no
I'm just not INTERESTED
Bro I was so confused when I first heard about people that were asexual. At the time, the only context I'd heard it in was asexual reproduction in bacteria, so I thought people were out there just duplicating themselves or something
felt this HHHAAAAARRDDDDD i was scared to call myself asexual because people said it was just no sex until i realised the spectrum of it
Same I knew that I was ace for like a month before this
Jaiden:Love is supposed to have emotions and not…a business exchange.
Spy x Family:Let us introduce ourselves
Lmao
@@ky55thmainaccountfan85 where it’s warm :)
@@ky55thmainaccountfan85 yes, because we’re all so HOT!
lmao
No just no.
I relate so much to her talking about her childhood "crushes". This video is literally the perfect explanation of what it is to be aroace
though i ended up being mostly gay i can relate too because i used to have "crushes" on girls in the exact same way 😭
ikr right it basically feels like she told my own life story
Same, just in a slightly different way. My mom asked me who my school crush was, after humming and hahing for a bit, I just said who I thought was the prettiest. I had zero inclination of ever dating that person. TBH I still don’t really understand crushes, like are they just the person you find the most attractive or is there something more?
@@evilemuempire9550 i can feel your confusion sis/bro….. it’s such a strange concept for me
girl who had a crush on bowser is valid tho
I absolutely cackled when Jaiden began talking about how being AroAce is the coolest orientation. My little sister is Aromantic and she has the exact same energy and makes fun of me for being having mushy bisexual feelings. It's hilarious and I kind of love it.
She's aromatic? Does she smell like flowers or like mud? Be specific.
@@Ivngkt Sorry to reply to your trolling again, but I don't understand this joke you keep making. You've made it before, you've established that you KNOW nobody else is referring to an aroma, but you keep mentioning it.
@@kwingle it’s because aromatic sounds like aromantic I guess. Still, a joke stops being funny when you endlessly repeat it.
@@scootermcpeanuts6699 of course, but youre right, it just becomes stale.
"why is no one attractive" is hella relatable. I'm learning more about myself as well because of this video.
Ooop
@SoundFoodist nice bait bro no one cares
I’m ace but I still experience aesthetic attraction. So people look nice, but there’s no emotion.
I have the opposite problem, "why is everybody attractive"
@:D same
“Romance and intimacy is what makes someone human.” Well, it’s tough to be a god 😎
Loving the aroace representation! I’m ace myself and love seeing someone I admire being so open with this.
Good for you.
@QueenJulica [BEST VlDEOS ON YT] after looking at your other comments, it's so obvious you're a troll, as a troll myself, that's embarassing
@QueenJulica [BEST VlDEOS ON YT] i defy the bible and your lord. what now?
It's tough to be a god, tread where mortals have not trod.
@QueenJulica [BEST VlDEOS ON YT] It’s not a sin to not like anyone. I’ve been to many sermons and have never heard any bullshit like that.
As soon as Jaiden said that she was aro/ace, my mind straight went to the flirting video and thought about her mentioning how two people who didn't have a relationship work out should still be able to be friends and how that makes a lot more sense now knowing that she's aro/ace... AND THEN SHE MENTIONED IT IN THE VID AND I HOWLED LMAO
I really thought that for years too. I know I’m aroace now. But even I still kinda think that, which is bad. I just don’t understand attraction like that.
@@Magical8eing same thing here but I'm demiromantic
eh, exes being friends is pretty normal in the queer community, and that's dominated by allosexual people so... I'm not sure that's so much an aro/ace thing.
@@i_a_r_n_a doesnt mean it should be normalized in the world yk. I keep seeing people of your community tryna force that ideal onto bi or straight ppl and its creepy sometimes so i hope you guys can be respectful yk?
@@they_fw_lei You say that like there is something wrong with exes being friends. There isn't. You come across kind of...hateful in that comment.
"They're just a friend." Sorry, you have just been level 80 friend-zonedb
As someone who isn’t asexual or aromantic it always confused me and no one really explained it to me. This was such a good video to help me understand
I have a question: Does it support both proverbs or does it not support both proverbs? I do not understand
@@Palestine-ly8ks what do you mean
@@ssupermarlo I don't know if she is gay or not, and I want to know
I mean like, you probably never had a reason to know
@@HernandezEstrada-sh5rs no I mean like in the pass when I’ve tried to understand it no one really explained it very well. I think jaidens video is really well put together for someone who isn’t asexual to understand
As someone who is ace, having videos of people I look up to expressing their feelings or being aro/ace would have saved me years of inner conflict, confusion, and dismissing myself. Even now knowing that there are other people who grew up with the same antics that I did makes me feel validated. I just know that this video has helped at least one person who wandered the things things out there and that’s amazing. Thank you Jaiden! You’re amazing :)
Wdym *as someon is ace?*
@@pugg5ter542 it means Asexual. It’s just a nice way to shorten it.
@@liviwaslost ah ok
Whenever i see comments like these seeing the person admitting their ace makes me feel happy knowing i'm not the only one who feels this way
@@kyojurorengoku385 TH-camr 'The Take' made Videos on Asexuality
I’ve felt the “man I really want to be friends with that person” feeling SO MANY TIMES and it’s like “do you like them or do you just really want to be their friend” and it doesn’t help that I’m basically a Pikmin when i have friends and just follow them around cause I don’t really have anything else to do ever
So it’s nice to know I’m not the only one though
But I am gay… like… pretty heckn gay…
Update: the very first person I had romantic interest in... found out he's straight, transphobic, homophobic, AND has a girlfriend
HI PRETTY HECKING GAY IM MOM
I absolutely love your comparison to a Pikmin, I'm going to adopt it, okay thanks byeeee~
@@lefloys4590 mom's nutz
@@lefloys4590 also who the fu#$ called they're kid mom
Its a play on the dad joke where the kid says "I'm (insert condition here like bored, hungry, etc)"
Then the dad goes "Hi (insert the thing from above here), I'm Dad" but in this case its replacing dad with mom
I've always been afraid I might be aromantic. I want a connection that goes deeper than just being mates that hang together every once in a while. But after this video maybe I'm not so afraid to start exploring if I'm maybe aromantic
you may have to ask yourself, maybe you have always een queerplatonic with this friend? Feeling friendly but never sexual feelings
Dont feel like your possible aromaticsm is a curse. Just think of every moment you have not to think about dram,
inplace you can live as you want
I’m aro-ace and get that (I’m a hopeless romantic when it comes to fiction, rom-coms are my jam). It might be worth asking them if they’d be interested in that. Even if it’s just little things like texting each other more, venting more personal stuff, being more vulnerable. I asked a friend once if they were comfortable with me saying “love you” as a goodbye, like I do with family, and it turned out really well for me.
“We’re all just strangers refusing to listen to the stranger danger rule”
THAT IS THE REALEST THING I HAVE HEARD IN A WEEK!!!
I’ve never heard someone articulate, how I’ve felt about being on the Ace spectrum before. The absolute - not lack of awareness, but the trouble processing that people actually feel an emotion you have never experienced. It’s really nice to hear it vocalized. Because while i’ve said it before to my friends, when someone isn’t Ace or Aro, it’s hard to understand you just exist without something society deems so important - It can be kind of isolating, existing in a world where you’re one of the odd people out? You’re the minority. It’s really amazing to see you make a video about this! And like epic pog for discovering what makes you feel comfortable with yourself! Watching this video made me just really warm and happy!! Thank you Jaiden! Congrats on finding yourself
It can be so hard to explain! The amount of times I've been told "You just haven't met the right person yet" has been so frustrating. The worst part being how that lack of understanding can make you second-guess yourself.
@@itsjustme6334 like telling a color blind person they're just not looking hard enough 🤣🤣
"wait, do people actually feel these emotions for each other"
Is actually something I though about song lyrics until I legitimately found someone that made me feel all that mushy stuff. Honestly to a bit of an extreme extent. I thought all the lovey dovey stuff was just things people said to each other to keep getting laid consistently (cause I absolutely understood that aspect). But then I met that guy and suddenly I'm an emotional disaster. I'd never experienced that feeling before and didn't know what to do with it.
This isn't to say "oh, you just have to wait for the right person." Just describing my experience.
same
Your gonna wing it gurl go get em (pun intended)
You might just be young or have never really done a relationship, honestly, because same lol. I tried to make myself relatable to lyrics when I ent through this stuff, but when I ACTUALLY related to the mushy gushy soft stuff (which I always thought was weird and boring), I was like, “w- woah. WOAH. WOAH LOVE EXISTS :O”
Jesus loves you!
Maybe you were a demi
Dude, you just opened my eyes. My only "crushes" have been people who wanted to be nice to me, for a certain reason.
now that her fanbase can't ship her with anyone she's become too powerfull
edit: i... i was wrong... i was terribly wrong...
Have you seen Reddit
she's too powerful to be kept alive
jk she deserves to live but you get the joke I was making
They will still do it..
@@ItsLFH LMAO
They will ship her anyway :/
"We're all pretending to be adults here," is one of the best things I've heard in a while.
That aside, it is lovely to see a video covering these topics. (:
Right?? We're all just Children at heart whether we live to be 90 or not. The difference is that, some folks that they're Children and LIVE life full of Vitality 'n all WHILE most pretend to be adults and get all bitter/grumpy due to responsibilities and "old age."
It's anyone's pick honestly 🤣🤣
*some folks have accepted that they are CHILDREN and...
I am a child
I agree, but on a sidenote, why do you do (: for a smiley face instead of :)??? Random thought lol
“Teens are just big children, and adults are even bigger children.”
Oh my goodness "zero is equal to zero" is EXACTLY the reason I thought I was bi/pan for the longest time in highschool. I am also aro/ace and just thought everyone was doing the checklist thing too! Thank you so much for a well thought out video that is entirely relatable. I got a little teary eyed at the end!
I read somewhere that aromantics and asexuals were once accepted into the bisexual community before they had their own terms and definitions for that very reason!! The bis were like, "yup 0=0 so I guess you're one of us!" And thus began the vehement bi/ace/aro solidarity that persists today 🤝
Fun fact, back before asexual wasn't it's own sexuality because no one knew that that could happen, bisexuals actually welcomed asexuals into their community as their own because of this understanding.
Update: I sent this to my cousin, who has been trying to be supportive with me being aro/ace (the most supportive out of my family) and she immensely appreciated this video, as it explained things perfectly for her! Thank you again Jaiden for making this video.
I think as a society we need to stop pushing this idea that you need to be in a relationship to be happy and let people discover and be themselves without pushing agendas. Im not aroace but as someone whos pan I hate the pushing of the "straight" and "romantic" agendas. Like just let people be themselves and discover this stuff for themselves and not push what we think "happiness" or what love is. When i have kids i want them to discover themselves and not let anyone tell them how they should or shouldn't feel and if they have questions obviously ill answer them as best as i can without pushing an agenda. I feel this aswell about "gender norms" and this why i dont want to push any of that on future kids and just let them like what they like and be who they are. As long as youre not hurting yourself or anyone else you should be yourself and not be pressured to fit a "box" then society puts you in. We as people really need to stop putting people in boxes.
Ps sorry for the long rant but this is something i hate watching people feeling like something is wrong with them cause they cant fit in societies boxes. You are valid and you shouldn't be pressured to fit in. Fitting in is boring anyways❤❤❤
Today I learned what Aromantic means and the last three decades are starting to make a lot more sense. Thank you for making this video.
It's never too late to get to know yourself
@@yasminechoerryscherry3701 I completely agree! I am so excited for my future now that I understand myself better.
@@fergerj I’m not exited
@@bill1357 exited?
I honeslty thought that aromantic was part of being asexual and this is the first time i have heard the term. Good to know.
Jaiden: *comes out*
Companies making pride quizzes: it’s free real estate
Actually though💀
And their always about “ARE YOU GAY”
To make it even more clear that the companies don’t really care abt aroace, most of the questions on the quizzes are like “what is your partner like”
TOP TEN TH-camRS YOU DIDN'T KNOW WERE LGBT 😱💯 🤪
@Op-gogo basically “you’re gay or be shot at”
This video was how I first learned about asexuality and it CHANGED MY LIFE! I’m so grateful to you Jaiden, I came out to my mom yesterday and I’ve never been so confident in my skin!
Congrats, and same! This video is the thing that opened my eyes and got me to look into asexuality. Now I've fully accepted that I'm aroace and have come out to everyone close to me, and my life has never made more sense.
same with me! and yeah, this video helped me learn I was a heteroromantic asexual :)
Me to
It's good to be a Muslim and realize how much filth you Americans tolerate.
@He_is_coming... I'm non-bianry but I'm also aromantic :)
how the hell does Jaiden make a legitimately funny video whilst enlightening people about romance
“Enlightening” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 this is just being deluded
@@snicko22 I love people that FEEL THE NEED to post hate comments
Like, go ahead homie, the algorithm will just recommend the video to other people, and recommend more videos like that to you
thats just. Jaiden. The answer is yes
@@Witheld this is not an hate comment, this is just being realistic and logical. The problem of people like you is that you confuse hate speech with speeches that you hate.
This video talks about nonsense and it’s really dangerous, because there are so many kids who watch this and believe that being “aromantic” and “asexual” (things that do not exist) is enlightening.
@@snicko22 Being realistic and logical how? By trying to lie to young minds saying you are required to find a partner and have children? To tell them they don't have a choice on love? Stop living in a fairytale and join us in the real world sometime, there are plenty of the 8 billion people on this rock that will never love, marry, have a partner, or kids, and I think you're one of them.
For the first 17 years of my life I thought "I really want you to be my friend” = "I have a crush on you" and I legitimately didn't understand the concept of romantic attraction...
yessssss like i was like trying to pretend wanting to be friends with someone to a crush because like idk just didn’t understand what i was but now AROACE AND JAIDEN HELPED ME LEARN THAT
FRRR
relatable
Facts , relatable
Same
I didn't realize "choosing random people to "crush" on because it seems like the thing to do" was a universal thing lmaoo
Stream Young Loud
Not aro and/or ace, but the choosing a random person to "develop a crush on" is pretty relatable in high school 🥲
I’m a lesbian and in elementary I used to have crushes on the transfer boys because they didn’t speak English very well so I really had no idea what they were actually like, I just said I had a crush on them 💀 then I dated one of them in 6th grade, and 6th grade was also when I got my first actual crush on a girl, and my ex best friend told him about it. Turns out he was homophobic and he broke up with me because of it 👎 it was for the best though, considering we would have broken up anyway once I figured out I’m gay.
Maybe I am
Oh shit I did that
Ok, so let me get this straight, you dont develop crushes and I get crushes on everyone... *cries in bisexual*
so real
That is called pan from my knowlege
@timohara7717 it can be both
What’s kinda funny, I was rewatching the video where she played random romance video games, and kept thinking “wow- she’s not really playing these right- she’s not really romancing them but more acting as if their friends- which is funny but- confusing- but it’s her game I dunno” now watching this, makes so so much more sense-
@NJMilitia what
Jaiden won-
"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE?!" You're fantastic. I really relate to all of this -- like, in a way that has me thinking "Okay maybe I do need to reevaluate some things I thought I knew about myself" -- and I really appreciate that you made the video even though it opens the door to a lot of people speculating and making assumptions about your personal life.
Even as a gay man I related to that part. Just replace everyone with girls lol.
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Time stamp 4:03
When she said that she didn’t know people were actually drawn to others who they think are attractive, I thought: what? THAT’S A RANDOM PERSON WHY WOULD YOU DATE THEM?! JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK THEY LOOK GOOD?
I’m demisexual, and I was today years old when I realized that some people would go on a date with a stranger if they thought they looked hot.
As a demisexual/demirromantic person its still baffles me people actually do that. Or maybe they are already kissing in the second date lol
My mom still points at a random guy in the street and asks "doesn't he look cute?" And I'm just like "....I guess??" 😂 my brain just goes "it's a guy" and thats it
I am bi but I would never go on a date with a stranger.
I have the same mindest. Am I demisexual?
@@VI_VA. don't you experience aesthetic attraction? Like you can tell if someone is objectively cute
@@strawberrymilk174 oh for sure, I was talking about in the sense my mother obviously expects to act like I feel sexual attraction to strangers 😅 appearences is not something i pay much attention to
I do admit for a while i thought i had crushes on girls because I found them pretty, but that only happened with certain hairstyles or when wearing more men like clothes- turns out it was gender admiration/gender envy; I love the aesthetic and I wish I could look as cool as them lol
I remember watching this when it first came out, and it helped me learn about the LGBTQ+ community.
I now identify as a non-binary cupioromantic panromantic asexual 🏳️⚧️ 🏳️🌈
Wait they can stack?
@@Jamman516 LOLLLLLLLL but yeah they can
Just identify yourself as autistic at that point
@@Somnius1488 Autism and being queer are two very different things.
@@Somnius1488Adding more to your bigotry repertoire?
As an asexual person, the whole “oh 0 = 0 so I must be bi” thing is a complete mood, especially because I happen to be biromantic, so my attraction to people was extremely confusing until I found out that romantic attraction =/= intimate attraction and realized that I can have crushes but not desire anything more than cuddles :D
READ MY NAME!!!!!!!
@QueenJulica [BEST VlDEOS ON YT] oh yes the gacha kid knows everything there is to know about sexuality! Shush everyone let’s at the gacha kid speak 🎤
@QueenJulica [BEST VlDEOS ON YT] You're just shitting on other people's stuff, you aren't valid.
@QueenJulica [BEST VlDEOS ON YT] dude your a troll on the internet don’t flatter yourself
@@Ivuxoxo they're a troll replying to every comment to piss people off
As someone who isn't aro nor ace nor both, I have to say that the whole "WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" bit hit suprisingly hard lol 😂
Bro I know, but also 6:43, “I got math involved somehow…”🤣 so good.
READ MY NAME!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!
I felt no attraction to anyone for YEEARS and only now am I actually in a relationship with someone, and even that took like several months of talking to them and hanging out
Demisexual?
@@psychomanatee3459
YEEEEPPPP
My GF and I were completely Demi until each other lmao
Was pretty funny when we discussed the feelings we felt for each prior to the Confession™️