If he was thinking about you, wouldn't he just call. Why would someone waste their time trying to figure it out. Don't waste your time. He doesn't care. Find a new guy, move on.
Thank you! Inaction is an action. Some people are too scared to take risks with love and those people will miss out. I personally don't understand how someone would be okay with the fantasy of potentially being with someone rather than trying to see if they can make it a reality. I get that they could be scared of the worst case scenario, but to me the worst case is living with regret and wondering about what could have been. "It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" is a famous quote for a reason. It makes more sense to me to take the risk and find out what's there than to live with a fantasy that will never come true due to someone's inaction.
It’s funny our grandmothers knew men are hunters they play with the women that pursue them and pursue the women they want , my grandmother always said that
@@moogification Sorry you are having that experience. At least it’s clarity, even if not handled well. If it’s any consolation, men do have the experience of saying where they stand and then getting ghosted for sharing their truth
Actually, I am speaking broadly, not just for me. Many people are experiencing the same thing. Ghosting is very common these days and I think dating apps facilitate avoidant behaviours such as this. It is not effective to ask men where the connection is going, it's too direct. @@thejackbutler
@@thejackbutler actually, its not just me, ghosting is very common. And I am not criticising men. It does not clarify (in my opinion). Ghosting triggers childhood abandonment wounds. Ghosting experienced by both men and women is a modern phenomenon which is detrimental to mental health. Would you agree? What do you think? Im reposting this because my previous post seems to have disappeared!
@@moogification I don't think ghosting is a great modern/postmodern development. I just think if someone is ghosting you, it clarifies that you wouldn't try to build relationship with them
This gave me so much clarity and confidence in my decision to step away from a guy I had begun to develop feelings for. I was experiencing anxiety in not knowing where he stood and his intentions, one day I just asked him and his inconsistencies and pulling back all came from the fact that he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. As much as I felt like I wasted months of my life, I’m so glad I was upfront and asked because I was able to finally let go and come back to myself. I know that I deserve someone who is sure about me. Thank you for this 🙏🏻
What a timely upload. Recently met someone online, LD and it was really good initially, then came the in and out behaviour. I felt confused and it did undermine my self esteem so I took action last week and expressed my boundaries. I haven't heard from him since but I won't back down and accept that behaviour. I did take my power back as I know that over time it is more destructive. I want someone who can commit and give me the authentic relationship I deserve 💯
Im going through the same you are...but even when I am in pain I won't reach out, I already clearly told him what I wanted and set my boundaries hence is his turn to make a move yet he has done nothing 😢
@user Yes n no and (know) Why get ure emotionsinvolved at all? I wdnt ..not until ur martied orcommutted and happily coupled. Just give ppl opportunuty to be them n be sure to get to know them, find out if u want them n if they r available, then..most men r not jerks, if so avoid, then u need to know whatvthey want in a wman foe perm relationship.., n if u r fittng..if hes not cont to come forward..its a no from him
i love what you said about getting out of our heads what "He" wants and start asking ourselves what do I want. this is so big for me , recovering people pleaser here . I have been conditioned my whole life to think what others want and not asking myself what I need.
@@jillmariaplatteaux6083 Married, living with someone, in a relationship or several relationships. Their emotions, money, and time are not being spent with you. Anyway, If they were with you, they would be stringing along other women on the side without your knowing. They're selfish and hurtful. They need several women chasing them to feel validated, it boosts their ego. Assholes!!
That's sweet of you to make this video and share your insights. But I am so bored with the communication inadequacy, the immaturity, and the games. It's just too much work for a woman. In the old days, men would just go for what they wanted. Nowadays, they are so afraid of everything, they are way too deep in their feminine energy, and I am not the type to step into the masculine to compensate. There are just too many guys now who don't seem to know what a man is supposed to do. If you sit and wait for a woman to reach out and facilitate and initiate, think about it, who is in the lead? My opinion, guys. You have fun. Take care. ;)
Men in the past may have been more masculine. And some of those men do exist still & sound like a good match for you. Some people also may want an integrated man who also say has access to his feelings and can relate to yours
@@thejackbutler a man can be integrated, have access to his feelings, while remaining masculine and taking charge. Just because you are masculine doesn't mean you don't have feelings and can't be emotionally intelligent. Men nowadays are broken and don't have healthy masculine role models. Instead of watching videos and incinerating each other online, they should be encouraged to seek therapy and do some personal growth.
@@joanofarcxxi It goes both ways. Men are less masculine because Women are less feminine and vice versa. Should never blame just 1 sex without taking into account the circumstances. i repeat: Women today are less feminine so it is natural for men to be less masculine and vice versa. Men and their wifes need to teach their daughters in being feminine and men in being masculine. Their is plenty of blame to go around but one cannot simply expect men to act very dominant around less feminine/submissive/nurturing women.
You're an option, he's stringing you along. You'll NEVER be a priority. Do'nt let him waste your time. Youll make an idiot out of yourself trying to "reason" with him.
Listen to me, this problem can be easily solved by dating multiple men at the same time, if you guys arent in a commitment dont be overly invested in one person just go out and enjoy the abundance in this world.
Yeah, that’s the best solution to mess up with the right man for you who found out you were dating other men. 🙄 I don’t see where the fun is in dating plenty of men in the same time. If it’s about sex, get a therapy !
Never have a video on TH-cam made me cry. You spoke directly to my soul. Thank you. I’m in the middle of a limerence and I just want it to stop. I’m finally realising a lot of stuff I have put myself through and will be taking ownership.
I’m in the business of taking silence as an answer because although your advise of communication is right if the situation is causing anxiety, it’s very likely that the response if any received, will follow the same avoidance behaviour. Anyone who makes self healing a priority will generally act with honesty, integrity and compassion. We all have a responsibility to be kind. 😁
Wendy _ I totally comprehend everything you feel about your circumstances regarding your love path. I still want you to know that possibilities are infinite. Most ladies feel bad when going through a lot in their relationship especially after a breakup or divorce. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little stalking Lol! But absolutely none of that is helpful. Here is a situation between my lover and I, It's a long story but i will make it brief to your understanding. I was in a relationship with my man for a couple of years and both of us were heading to the altar. We were thrilled about that! One day he returned back from the office and I noticed he was angry & aggressive towards me. I asked him what was wrong, He kept mute. I was so confused about the sudden change of behavior! Then he looked at me and said "I’m not interested anymore" . I almost collapsed and felt heart broken that moment. He moved out of our house to another residential area. I wept bitterly but I had this mindset that everything is going to work out for me someday. I remained optimistic. And one faithful day I came across a video clip on the TH-cam channel tarot reading. I was watching the videos suggestion on a daily basis not knowing that there is a solution to my marital challenges. Later that night while I was sleeping, I received a message and notification on my phone from a lady that lives in Dakota. She said there is an astrologer that can help me with my situation at that moment. I was nervous! She told me everything about this great woman. She shared with me her info. And I should reach out to her on her contact address. I reached out to her, whole & behold my story changed! A few days later my man sent me a text! I was so elated! He apologised and we reconciled. We are back together & getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Ella love guidance. She was the one that helped to bring my man back and resolved my marital issues. If you are still interested in her service, You can hit her up on ｅｌｌａｌｏｖｅｇｕｉｄａｎｃｅ＠ｇｍ ａ Ｉ l
I live in his head rent-free because he is malignant narcissist ho finally met a woman who calls him out on his shit, will not tolerate his controlling behaviour or gaslighting, disrespect, insults, lies or playing the field. I walked away and I deserve way better than that.
I just did this, and he admitted our timing has been off because of my chronic illnesses and his busy schedule. He was appreciative of my thoughts, and said I was classy.
The number of people who doesn’t get the message of this video is alarming. Keep up the good work and do not listen to crickets. Your work really matters. You just earned a follower 🎉
Thank you for the reminder I am broke up no contact with my ex I love the last five minutes. Do you really want to be with a guy like that? So I had to ask myself do you really want to be in that same relationship the way it was and I had to answer NO ! Nothing was changing nothing was getting better. It was just getting worse. Oh, he might come around again in a couple more months, I’ve done my healing and still am in two months and I know he has not done any! The old saying - if they wanted to they would!!! Not wasting my time anymore on people that can’t get their shit together
Out of nowhere, your video popped into my suggestion after about an year. It's been a long time and I was very happy to listen to this video. As always...one of the best teachings ever! Thank you ever so much for your very valuable work! Have a great day Jack! ❤
I agree 1000% with what you’ve said. I would like to add another layer though. SOME PEOPLE WILL ALLOW / WANT YOUR ATTENTION FOCUSED ON THEM, despite their lack of interest.. BECAUSE ITS VALIDATION. I’d say when that happens, your “inner self” WILL clue you in, it’s UP TO YOU to accept what’s being conveyed TO you, FROM you
Thank you. It is hard for me to read someone sometimes and easy at other times and sometimes the answer lies within that space itself. I think humans live in denial for their own protection but that ends up still hurting them. Loved your take on it.
To me, inaction means not interested. No communication and not actually pursuing the person means not interested. Blocking or sabotaging a person is disrespectful and immature, and toxic.
Such uncanny timing. I am LITERALLY dealing with this right now with a guy at work. But I’m tired of playing the games and the analyzing. I’ve started taking a step back and now he’s acting a bit desperate, trying to act in ways to get back into my good graces. But still won’t have the balls to be a man and have a conversation. I’m trying to find ways to ask for clarity but this hot and cold, teasing jokes kind of behavior that he’s doing is getting on my nerves and I might have to call him on his bs once and for all. I’m tired of it.
It's very possible. The very least they can do is communicate that though. It's not hard for a guy to say 'look, I really like you too, & I want to see where things go with you, but right now I don't have XYZ sorted (usually finances/money/job, as I know most masculine guys like to have their ducks in a row before taking their shot), but when I do, I'd like to see where this goes. In the meantime, maybe we can hang out, watch a movie, etc. and not feel any pressure of moving too fast'. - it's not that difficult. A lot of times both parties aren't ready for being in a relationship, but the very least they can do is communicate/clarify why they're breadcrumbing, ignoring your texts, etc. - it's really rude and disrespectful. The guy that I like does this all the time. I just wish he'd communicate and clarify why he's doing it. If he's just stringing me along and playing with my heart, or whether there's a genuine connection but he's not ready to pursue me. It's not that difficult to say the truth and be honest.
Asked the questions you recommended for clarity. His answer was “Ummmm…if someone were asking I would say we’re good friends with a spiritual connection. “ “ I see you like my big sister.” He’s the eldest and only male ; 3-younger sisters. My reply: I understand. Thank you, dear. Good night.”
Ohhh I wish I'd known all this 6 months ago, could have saved me alot of confusion in a situationship! I ended up telling this person what I wanted and he ended ghosting me. What a horrible way to end something I just thought was a slow burn.
❤Valid points to consider! Sounds like game playing to me! If a relationship is or appears to be defined, honesty is always the best policy! Being afraid to communicate will never strengthen any relationship! People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing!❤❤Trust God & his guidance for your journey❤️🙏❤️🙏
@@johntom5563please do yourself a favor and talk to him because if you don't you might lose the chance for a beautiful relationship with this guy. I am an introvert who didn't reach out to this guy. He still is 5:28 a friend of mine, however, he married someone else while I was busy counting the stars.
a seriously warm hearted perceptive analysis of rhis topic..really articulate..many truths are revealed and i recognised much of what you say, happening or has happened to me
Work on keeping it moving regardless of what an ex is thinking. It will be worth it getting through the difficult breaking all the emotional ties process. You learn resilience and discipline.
Daniela, I totally comprehend everything you feel about your circumstances regarding your love path. I still want you to know that possibilities are infinite. Most ladies feel bad when going through a lot in their relationship especially after a breakup or divorce. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little stalking Lol! But absolutely none of that is helpful. Here is a situation between my lover and I, It's a long story but i will make it brief to your understanding. I was in a relationship with my man for a couple of years and both of us were heading to the altar. We were thrilled about that! One day he returned back from the office and I noticed he was angry & aggressive towards me. I asked him what was wrong, He kept mute. I was so confused about the sudden change of behavior! Then he looked at me and said "I’m not interested anymore" . I almost collapsed and felt heart broken that moment. He moved out of our house to another residential area. I wept bitterly but I had this mindset that everything is going to work out for me someday. I remained optimistic. And one faithful day I came across a video clip on the TH-cam channel tarot reading. I was watching the videos suggestion on a daily basis not knowing that there is a solution to my marital challenges. Later that night while I was sleeping, I received a message and notification on my phone from a lady that lives in Dakota. She said there is an astrologer that can help me with my situation at that moment. I was nervous! She told me everything about this great woman. She shared with me her info. And I should reach out to her on her contact address. I reached out to her, whole & behold my story changed! A few days later my man sent me a text! I was so elated! He apologised and we reconciled. We are back together & getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Ella love guidance. She was the one that helped to bring my man back and resolved my marital issues. If you are still interested in her service, You can hit her up on ｅｌｌａｌｏｖｅｇｕｉｄａｎｃｅ＠ｇｍ ａ Ｉ ｌ
I love the way you articulate and convey this message to us ❤ I could listen to you all day. You have prompted us to know our worth, you validated us, and also gave us harsh truths. Your deliverance chef’s kiss 💋 Thank you so much
I just did this and I’m so glad this popped up to clarify it even more. Thank you. When you do it this way that you are suggesting, you come from a different place. I’ve worked hard to have peace and I just want to add to what I’ve created and to also add value to someone else that invests and want that too. Wishy washy messes with you head and heart! Ty
Wonderful, whish I could have heard this few decades earlier and not learn the hard way. Our time is our biggest treasure and somehow nobody thought us, especially ladies - but it's equally true for men as well. The problem is that for ladies biological clock is a reality and we can run out of time.
This has been the most helpful advice of all. I'm going to start a journal now to keep my focus on what I'm looking for not about on the person I'm dating. Still working on communication skills. Thanks!
I asked the guy that where do I stand. He said you already know. To me very immature I’m not a mind reader because if I was I would know the answer I love the video this made me open my eyes. And just dump him
Old people like us, communication is so helpful for the reason to continue, and it’s such a nice way to pass and spend the time in old age. Mutual communication is so much fun. But others may not like it. Nothing will be done. But little blurbs are so fun. Friends are few and far between in your mid70”s. Keep the good ones and shed the others.
This video helps me as I'm needing to organize my thoughts and feelings in a letter to a man. Our communication has stopped and is causing me stress. I know what i want and how i feel. The trouble is that i have too much to say and need to whittle it down. The questions to ask in this video are informative, and I will use them to help me clarify my own mind first. Thank you.
If a man doesn't give me the positive energy I cant worry and have hope cause Im not trying to change a mans mind But it would be kinder ti say it was lovely to meet you and wish you well xx
I just found this video/channel and I really like your approach & format for sharing your information! I found this quite enjoyable and can’t wait to watch more. Thank you 😊
This is a bunch of baloney. If you don’t know where you stand with a guy that is literally your answer the fact that you have to question him where you stand makes you look really desperate and needy. You need to go with your gut and just walk away from him
Taking too long to answer or pursue is also a sign of not being interested and is just wasting time. If we are in different times, i see it as they are not the right person and relationship.
BS he wants you he comes for you, he speaks and shows that’s it.. how our grandparents hooked up making a effort they was no cell phone 😂 they show up dnt trick your brain to let yourself down.. and move tf on. I’m a sigma
Wise advice Jack. A lot of women would feel uncomfortable being so upfront with a guy. Me included as there is a possibility of rejection. It would require courage. It's best to experience that rejection and focus on the mantra that you are worthy, no matter what.
Just forget the feminine men. But suit yourself if that's what you want. Women get rejected all the time. they get dumped, ghosted, cheated on, abandoned with children, etc. We as women are used to this, and we handle it.
Fantasy! So true and this is what I find men indulging in rather than self improvement and honesty. Porn is readily available and when confronted with a real human,they can't handle it. It's time for men to stop expecting women to serve one purpose for them. I love the honesty in this content. Men want time but women run on different clocks.
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I'll look at this ❤thanks
list does help to bounce these guys against 😂 and 😢
@@diannaantes5262 Happy it’s helpful 🙏
Are you taken?
View him as a zero until he proves he’s a 1, wow this was life changing
I pray we find love, we find intentional men, trust worthy, forgiving, prayerful, understanding, and considerate men, amen.
If he was thinking about you, wouldn't he just call. Why would someone waste their time trying to figure it out. Don't waste your time. He doesn't care. Find a new guy, move on.
Bc men need Time to process feelings!
Women don’t…
That's BS,how many years do they need?!Life is too short for games so don't wait!Real men with real love need a few seconds!,@@Wizard-Girl9
Bullshit. Everyone takes time to process feelings. Men just suppress their feelings more @@Wizard-Girl9
@@Wizard-Girl9not true lmaooooo
@@Wizard-Girl9when men know they know…….. doesn’t take tons of time. That’s ridiculous lol
No response- is a response!
@@brendamackenzie7719 There you go
True
Yep!! I tell people this ALL the time. You choose to respond, you choose not to respond. You made a choice!
Thank you! Inaction is an action. Some people are too scared to take risks with love and those people will miss out. I personally don't understand how someone would be okay with the fantasy of potentially being with someone rather than trying to see if they can make it a reality. I get that they could be scared of the worst case scenario, but to me the worst case is living with regret and wondering about what could have been. "It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" is a famous quote for a reason. It makes more sense to me to take the risk and find out what's there than to live with a fantasy that will never come true due to someone's inaction.
Agree, overthinking is worse than overloving
For me, I wish I had never loved & lost. For me, it was better not to have loved at all.❤
@@LoveFaithLiveMe too! Heartbreak can change your entire life.
@@hikerhobby1204 💔❤🩹Yes! I need a heart restored rather than walking through life with what feels like a never ending mending one.
It's nothing for you to understand. It's not your business lol
It’s funny our grandmothers knew men are hunters they play with the women that pursue them and pursue the women they want , my grandmother always said that
❤
I play with the men that pursue me 😂
@@13DarkMelody oh they love that 😂
Yeah because men like challenges
These days when asked directly about where you stand with them, men will ghost you.
@@moogification Sorry you are having that experience. At least it’s clarity, even if not handled well. If it’s any consolation, men do have the experience of saying where they stand and then getting ghosted for sharing their truth
Actually, I am speaking broadly, not just for me. Many people are experiencing the same thing. Ghosting is very common these days and I think dating apps facilitate avoidant behaviours such as this. It is not effective to ask men where the connection is going, it's too direct. @@thejackbutler
Agreed
@@thejackbutler actually, its not just me, ghosting is very common. And I am not criticising men. It does not clarify (in my opinion). Ghosting triggers childhood abandonment wounds. Ghosting experienced by both men and women is a modern phenomenon which is detrimental to mental health. Would you agree? What do you think? Im reposting this because my previous post seems to have disappeared!
@@moogification I don't think ghosting is a great modern/postmodern development. I just think if someone is ghosting you, it clarifies that you wouldn't try to build relationship with them
This gave me so much clarity and confidence in my decision to step away from a guy I had begun to develop feelings for. I was experiencing anxiety in not knowing where he stood and his intentions, one day I just asked him and his inconsistencies and pulling back all came from the fact that he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. As much as I felt like I wasted months of my life, I’m so glad I was upfront and asked because I was able to finally let go and come back to myself. I know that I deserve someone who is sure about me. Thank you for this 🙏🏻
And we can’t make something happen that’s not going to ! I had to learn that the hard way too ❤
What a timely upload. Recently met someone online, LD and it was really good initially, then came the in and out behaviour. I felt confused and it did undermine my self esteem so I took action last week and expressed my boundaries. I haven't heard from him since but I won't back down and accept that behaviour. I did take my power back as I know that over time it is more destructive. I want someone who can commit and give me the authentic relationship I deserve 💯
Im going through the same you are...but even when I am in pain I won't reach out, I already clearly told him what I wanted and set my boundaries hence is his turn to make a move yet he has done nothing 😢
@@PamelaReyeshis move, is that he has done nothing. You have your answer 😢 even tho it is a painful one.
I say this with understanding and experience.
@user
Yes n no and (know)
Why get ure emotionsinvolved at all? I wdnt ..not until ur martied orcommutted and happily coupled.
Just give ppl opportunuty to be them n be sure to get to know them, find out if u want them n if they r available, then..most men r not jerks, if so avoid, then u need to know whatvthey want in a wman foe perm relationship.., n if u r fittng..if hes not cont to come forward..its a no from him
I went through that, but I am done with love. Done. Done. Done. Period.
@@Empressmanifestor So do I.
You are absolutely correct it all goes back to past trauma and lack of self worth
Asking doesn’t cause, it reveals, that’s great.
@@deed.3230 Glad you picked up on that, seems like an important piece to me
i love what you said about getting out of our heads what "He" wants and start asking ourselves what do I want. this is so big for me , recovering people pleaser here . I have been conditioned my whole life to think what others want and not asking myself what I need.
This is like the dad advice i never got. Super valuable, thank you
You're an option, he's stringing you along. You'll NEVER be a priority.
Players... Only love you when they're playing...
In the meantime they're married and afraid to leave, assholes.
@@jillmariaplatteaux6083 Married, living with someone, in a relationship or several relationships. Their emotions, money, and time are not being spent with you.
Anyway, If they were with you, they would be stringing along other women on the side without your knowing. They're selfish and hurtful. They need several women chasing them to feel validated, it boosts their ego. Assholes!!
That's sweet of you to make this video and share your insights. But I am so bored with the communication inadequacy, the immaturity, and the games. It's just too much work for a woman. In the old days, men would just go for what they wanted. Nowadays, they are so afraid of everything, they are way too deep in their feminine energy, and I am not the type to step into the masculine to compensate. There are just too many guys now who don't seem to know what a man is supposed to do. If you sit and wait for a woman to reach out and facilitate and initiate, think about it, who is in the lead? My opinion, guys. You have fun. Take care. ;)
Well said !!! 🤦♀️👍🏽
Yes preach!!!
Men in the past may have been more masculine. And some of those men do exist still & sound like a good match for you. Some people also may want an integrated man who also say has access to his feelings and can relate to yours
@@thejackbutler a man can be integrated, have access to his feelings, while remaining masculine and taking charge. Just because you are masculine doesn't mean you don't have feelings and can't be emotionally intelligent. Men nowadays are broken and don't have healthy masculine role models. Instead of watching videos and incinerating each other online, they should be encouraged to seek therapy and do some personal growth.
@@joanofarcxxi It goes both ways. Men are less masculine because Women are less feminine and vice versa. Should never blame just 1 sex without taking into account the circumstances. i repeat: Women today are less feminine so it is natural for men to be less masculine and vice versa. Men and their wifes need to teach their daughters in being feminine and men in being masculine.
Their is plenty of blame to go around but one cannot simply expect men to act very dominant around less feminine/submissive/nurturing women.
Just tell such man, ‘I regret I’ve met you’.
I said that! 😅😢
Oooooh! That’s good!
@oldworldwildona550 Ignorant advice, per usual
Hahahaha true!!!!
That is the only thing I wish I had said to him when he dumped me.
*I'm glad you made this video,* it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, $89k biweekly and a good daughter full of love..
Please how ?
Am a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God😞
It's Maria Angelina Alexander doing she's changed my life. A BROKER- like her is what you need.
$356K monthly is something you should feel differently about....
Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!
Excellent content 💖 way too many women are sadly wasting away their precious lifeforce unnecessarily
Wow this video will kill the unhealthy ego we still hold on too that don’t serve us. This was very straight forward and informative
You're an option, he's stringing you along.
You'll NEVER be a priority.
Do'nt let him waste your time.
Youll make an idiot out of yourself trying to "reason" with him.
Listen to me, this problem can be easily solved by dating multiple men at the same time, if you guys arent in a commitment dont be overly invested in one person just go out and enjoy the abundance in this world.
But isnt that cheating? (I'm 17)
Yeah, that’s the best solution to mess up with the right man for you who found out you were dating other men. 🙄 I don’t see where the fun is in dating plenty of men in the same time. If it’s about sex, get a therapy !
Thank you for brining me out of my head. A dose of reality and a different perspective is sobering.
Never have a video on TH-cam made me cry. You spoke directly to my soul. Thank you. I’m in the middle of a limerence and I just want it to stop. I’m finally realising a lot of stuff I have put myself through and will be taking ownership.
@@naomixx177 Thanks for letting this impact you so much and for sharing
I’m in the business of taking silence as an answer because although your advise of communication is right if the situation is causing anxiety, it’s very likely that the response if any received, will follow the same avoidance behaviour. Anyone who makes self healing a priority will generally act with honesty, integrity and compassion. We all have a responsibility to be kind. 😁
Wendy _ I totally comprehend everything you feel about your circumstances regarding your love path. I still want you to know that possibilities are infinite.
Most ladies feel bad when going through a lot in their relationship especially after a breakup or divorce. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little stalking Lol! But absolutely none of that is helpful. Here is a situation between my lover and I, It's a long story but i will make it brief
to your understanding. I was in a relationship with my man for a couple of years and both of us were heading to the altar. We were thrilled about that!
One day he returned back from the office and I noticed he was angry & aggressive towards me. I asked him what was wrong, He kept mute. I was so confused about the sudden change of behavior! Then he looked at me and said "I’m not interested anymore" . I almost collapsed and felt heart broken that moment. He moved out of our house to another residential area. I wept bitterly but I had this mindset that everything is going to work out for me someday. I remained optimistic.
And one faithful day I came across a video clip on the TH-cam channel tarot reading. I was watching the videos suggestion on a daily basis not knowing that there is a solution to my marital challenges. Later that night while I was sleeping, I received a message and notification on my phone from a lady that lives in Dakota. She said there is an astrologer that can help me with my situation at that moment. I was nervous! She told me everything about this great woman. She shared with me her info. And I should reach out to her on her contact address. I reached out to her, whole & behold my story changed! A few days later my man sent me a text! I was so elated! He apologised and we reconciled. We are back together & getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Ella love guidance. She was the one that helped to bring my man back and resolved my marital issues.
If you are still interested in her service,
You can hit her up on
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Yes.. not participating in situationship. Maintaining self-esteem.
wow this was MIND BLOWING. this is making me check myself my boundaries and protecting my life energy. thank you and looking forward to other videos
@@MultiGemini617 I like hearing that!
I live in his head rent-free because he is malignant narcissist ho finally met a woman who calls him out on his shit, will not tolerate his controlling behaviour or gaslighting, disrespect, insults, lies or playing the field. I walked away and I deserve way better than that.
Hands down, the best and clearest view of what I needed to hear. You just flipped the script on my head. Thank you.
Love that. Thanks for sharing
I just did this, and he admitted our timing has been off because of my chronic illnesses and his busy schedule. He was appreciative of my thoughts, and said I was classy.
Happy you got positive reinforcement for sharing your truth
The number of people who doesn’t get the message of this video is alarming. Keep up the good work and do not listen to crickets. Your work really matters. You just earned a follower 🎉
Thank you for the reminder I am broke up no contact with my ex
I love the last five minutes. Do you really want to be with a guy like that?
So I had to ask myself do you really want to be in that same relationship the way it was and I had to answer NO ! Nothing was changing nothing was getting better. It was just getting worse.
Oh, he might come around again in a couple more months, I’ve done my healing and still am in two months and I know he has not done any!
The old saying - if they wanted to they would!!!
Not wasting my time anymore on people that can’t get their shit together
Out of nowhere, your video popped into my suggestion after about an year. It's been a long time and I was very happy to listen to this video. As always...one of the best teachings ever!
Thank you ever so much for your very valuable work!
Have a great day Jack! ❤
This is the absolute BEST video I've EVER watched on this topic! Thank you. 🙏🏽
@@gachaglitchtragedies1358 Appreciate that 🙏
I agree 1000% with what you’ve said. I would like to add another layer though. SOME PEOPLE WILL ALLOW / WANT YOUR ATTENTION FOCUSED ON THEM, despite their lack of interest.. BECAUSE ITS VALIDATION. I’d say when that happens, your “inner self” WILL clue you in, it’s UP TO YOU to accept what’s being conveyed TO you, FROM you
Thank you. It is hard for me to read someone sometimes and easy at other times and sometimes the answer lies within that space itself. I think humans live in denial for their own protection but that ends up still hurting them. Loved your take on it.
If he is not reaching out...as in my case for 2 years...he's not ever going to. Moving on was in my best interest
To me, inaction means not interested. No communication and not actually pursuing the person means not interested. Blocking or sabotaging a person is disrespectful and immature, and toxic.
Such uncanny timing. I am LITERALLY dealing with this right now with a guy at work. But I’m tired of playing the games and the analyzing. I’ve started taking a step back and now he’s acting a bit desperate, trying to act in ways to get back into my good graces. But still won’t have the balls to be a man and have a conversation. I’m trying to find ways to ask for clarity but this hot and cold, teasing jokes kind of behavior that he’s doing is getting on my nerves and I might have to call him on his bs once and for all. I’m tired of it.
If he won't have a convo, you have your answer. Happy this video came up in right timing!
inaction is an action. that’s your answer.
Yes. But let’s be real. Some guys really do love you or have deep feelings but too shy to admit it. Or they have desires to be with you. But not ready
Yep I think that can happen. And in both instances you would likely want to have a clarifying convo or downshift?
True
but ask yourself, would you rather be with someone who’s communicating with you or someone that can settle making you confused?
It's very possible. The very least they can do is communicate that though. It's not hard for a guy to say 'look, I really like you too, & I want to see where things go with you, but right now I don't have XYZ sorted (usually finances/money/job, as I know most masculine guys like to have their ducks in a row before taking their shot), but when I do, I'd like to see where this goes. In the meantime, maybe we can hang out, watch a movie, etc. and not feel any pressure of moving too fast'. - it's not that difficult.
A lot of times both parties aren't ready for being in a relationship, but the very least they can do is communicate/clarify why they're breadcrumbing, ignoring your texts, etc. - it's really rude and disrespectful. The guy that I like does this all the time. I just wish he'd communicate and clarify why he's doing it. If he's just stringing me along and playing with my heart, or whether there's a genuine connection but he's not ready to pursue me. It's not that difficult to say the truth and be honest.
@@notadoormatanymore2024 Appreciate the sample language, it’s good. Curious if you have shared your truth with him?
This is the first and only video I've watched from you but wow, was it ever profound for me. Thank you!
Asked the questions you recommended for clarity. His answer was “Ummmm…if someone were asking I would say we’re good friends with a spiritual connection. “ “ I see you like my big sister.”
He’s the eldest and only male ; 3-younger sisters.
My reply: I understand. Thank you, dear. Good night.”
Wise counseling ... I've been through enough to hear what you are saying is true and good advise.
Only give your personal self
after he gives of himself.
Ohhh I wish I'd known all this 6 months ago, could have saved me alot of confusion in a situationship! I ended up telling this person what I wanted and he ended ghosting me. What a horrible way to end something I just thought was a slow burn.
I hear you. I'm sorry for that. Hope slow burn in the right context can still serve you well
Any updates? Did he reach out or apologize?
this was so spot on! i love the different talk tracks and scenarios!
@@OsiyoWado yay!
❤Valid points to consider! Sounds like game playing to me! If a relationship is or appears to be defined, honesty is always the best policy! Being afraid to communicate will never strengthen any relationship! People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing!❤❤Trust God & his guidance for your journey❤️🙏❤️🙏
But it's true this guy is on my mind but I'm too shy to talk to him. I think he likes me too but not sure due to his job...
@@johntom5563please do yourself a favor and talk to him because if you don't you might lose the chance for a beautiful relationship with this guy. I am an introvert who didn't reach out to this guy. He still is 5:28 a friend of mine, however, he married someone else while I was busy counting the stars.
a seriously warm hearted perceptive analysis of rhis topic..really articulate..many truths are revealed and i recognised much of what you say, happening or has happened to me
@@persephonewatts2262 Glad it was making sense to you
Work on keeping it moving regardless of what an ex is thinking. It will be worth it getting through the difficult breaking all the emotional ties process. You learn resilience and discipline.
You are so well spoken and give great advice. Thank you❤
Daniela, I totally comprehend everything you feel about your circumstances regarding your love path. I still want you to know that possibilities are infinite.
Most ladies feel bad when going through a lot in their relationship especially after a breakup or divorce. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little stalking Lol! But absolutely none of that is helpful. Here is a situation between my lover and I, It's a long story but i will make it brief
to your understanding. I was in a relationship with my man for a couple of years and both of us were heading to the altar. We were thrilled about that!
One day he returned back from the office and I noticed he was angry & aggressive towards me. I asked him what was wrong, He kept mute. I was so confused about the sudden change of behavior! Then he looked at me and said "I’m not interested anymore" . I almost collapsed and felt heart broken that moment. He moved out of our house to another residential area. I wept bitterly but I had this mindset that everything is going to work out for me someday. I remained optimistic.
And one faithful day I came across a video clip on the TH-cam channel tarot reading. I was watching the videos suggestion on a daily basis not knowing that there is a solution to my marital challenges. Later that night while I was sleeping, I received a message and notification on my phone from a lady that lives in Dakota. She said there is an astrologer that can help me with my situation at that moment. I was nervous! She told me everything about this great woman. She shared with me her info. And I should reach out to her on her contact address. I reached out to her, whole & behold my story changed! A few days later my man sent me a text! I was so elated! He apologised and we reconciled. We are back together & getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Ella love guidance. She was the one that helped to bring my man back and resolved my marital issues.
If you are still interested in her service,
You can hit her up on
ｅｌｌａｌｏｖｅｇｕｉｄａｎｃｅ＠ｇｍ ａ Ｉ ｌ
Clarity is a healthy boundary on the high road
This is beautifully said!
“Most guys who interact with you are zero’s.” Brilliant understatement!
I love the way you articulate and convey this message to us ❤ I could listen to you all day. You have prompted us to know our worth, you validated us, and also gave us harsh truths. Your deliverance chef’s kiss 💋 Thank you so much
Aww! Thank you. Appreciate the chef's kiss, never had that feedback!
I just did this and I’m so glad this popped up to clarify it even more. Thank you. When you do it this way that you are suggesting, you come from a different place. I’ve worked hard to have peace and I just want to add to what I’ve created and to also add value to someone else that invests and want that too. Wishy washy messes with you head and heart! Ty
That felt like a total bait and switch but it’s EXACTLY what I needed to hear! Thank you ❤
@@liss725 Tnx for the authentic feedback 🙏
Wonderful, whish I could have heard this few decades earlier and not learn the hard way.
Our time is our biggest treasure and somehow nobody thought us, especially ladies - but it's equally true for men as well.
The problem is that for ladies biological clock is a reality and we can run out of time.
This has been the most helpful advice of all. I'm going to start a journal now to keep my focus on what I'm looking for not about on the person I'm dating. Still working on communication skills. Thanks!
Hello Jack...Sounds like you are from... Down Under... Nice to finally hear what men think. A long time coming!
I asked the guy that where do I stand. He said you already know. To me very immature I’m not a mind reader because if I was I would know the answer I love the video this made me open my eyes. And just dump him
Old people like us, communication is so helpful for the reason to continue, and it’s such a nice way to pass and spend the time in old age. Mutual communication is so much fun. But others may not like it. Nothing will be done. But little blurbs are so fun. Friends are few and far between in your mid70”s. Keep the good ones and shed the others.
@@patriciadoyle7330 Appreciate the share
This applies to everything in life, and it would be so nice that everyone learns it, discerning just discerning.
Yep, deffo wider application on this and valuable in and of it itself
Jack thank you so much you have really clarified what has been driving me a little crazy ❤
@@MarianneFlynn-z1f Happy for your clarity 🙏
This video was so much better and ended up being something different than I expected. Great conversation
Happy for this feedback - and thanks for staying through the end
Where was this 6 years ago? Hard to hear, but so needed. Thank you for the advice. I'll be using this moving forward.
Reality and all it's broken faulty pieces is so much more beautiful to me than any fantasy. ❤
@@CL-333 love that
I appreciate you and your supportive understanding of how we, each as individual beings, interact in relationships
This helped me so much, thank you
Yes, you are lifting us up to drop us right back in the hole. You say positive and end with negative
This video helps me as I'm needing to organize my thoughts and feelings in a letter to a man. Our communication has stopped and is causing me stress. I know what i want and how i feel. The trouble is that i have too much to say and need to whittle it down. The questions to ask in this video are informative, and I will use them to help me clarify my own mind first. Thank you.
Great advice Jack, thanks😊🌸✨️
The only reason he would be thinking about you is to want to destroy you because he did not destroy you enough. Grow up.
“Shared reality” ❤
Jack. Thank you so much for your insightful advice. 😊
You’re welcome 🙏
Clarity is good even if you can't do anything to change a situation.
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If a man doesn't give me the positive energy I cant worry and have hope cause Im not trying to change a mans mind But it would be kinder ti say it was lovely to meet you and wish you well xx
Yep, like that
Love this, thank you. I was learning about attachment styles yesterday, and I now understand more what is meant by the preoccupation.....
Thank you, this 💯 my situation and I just needed this reassurance, in a kind way but firm way!
@@DavidaMatthews-y9n Happy this was reassuring
Two thumbs up for an insightful, resolute video
Brilliant, Jack!
I just found this video/channel and I really like your approach & format for sharing your information! I found this quite enjoyable and can’t wait to watch more. Thank you 😊
@@ShopgirlNY182 Welcome & thanks!
Well that was deceptive.
This title is misleading. Didn't ask for a lecture, wanted to know what your title offered.
I think the answer was to ask him.
Great thoughts. Ty for sharing! Luv that hat! 😊
Only you decide how long you wait for anyone. You are not obliged to wait for anyone.
Hi Jack! 🤗. Thank you so much for this video, l really needed to hear this. Just so you know, l am a Male that dates Men 😱😱😱🤷🏼♂️
This is a bunch of baloney. If you don’t know where you stand with a guy that is literally your answer the fact that you have to question him where you stand makes you look really desperate and needy. You need to go with your gut and just walk away from him
I disagree it’s not baloney it’s very insightful and intelligent advice he has given women !!
Excellent points Jack! I'm really glad I watched this video, thank you! ❤
You're welcome, thanks for watching
Thank you, I really needed this
Awesome, happy for that
In other words, he's not into you... and we need to accept that once and for all.
I wasn’t dealing with a human being. I was dealing with a narcissist
Taking too long to answer or pursue is also a sign of not being interested and is just wasting time. If we are in different times, i see it as they are not the right person and relationship.
Very thorough piece; sensible. Grateful I am to have e come upon your page.
Welcome!
Thank you 💜🌟✨😎
This is confirmation for what I have been considering for myself.
BS he wants you he comes for you, he speaks and shows that’s it.. how our grandparents hooked up making a effort they was no cell phone 😂 they show up dnt trick your brain to let yourself down.. and move tf on. I’m a sigma
Wise advice Jack. A lot of women would feel uncomfortable being so upfront with a guy. Me included as there is a possibility of rejection.
It would require courage. It's best to experience that rejection and focus on the mantra that you are worthy, no matter what.
Just forget the feminine men. But suit yourself if that's what you want. Women get rejected all the time. they get dumped, ghosted, cheated on, abandoned with children, etc. We as women are used to this, and we handle it.
Fantasy! So true and this is what I find men indulging in rather than self improvement and honesty. Porn is readily available and when confronted with a real human,they can't handle it. It's time for men to stop expecting women to serve one purpose for them. I love the honesty in this content. Men want time but women run on different clocks.
Big epidemic right now. They get the fantasy of 10s they would never have the guts to go for in real life
Thank-you for this. It is very helpful.
This is really good!
Hello Jack...Sounds like you are from down under. Very refreshing to finally hear how men think. Its been a long time coming.
@@donnavallee8023 Born in UK but my accent has been a bit Americanized. Glad this was refreshing!