I was randomly thinking about you two and this book by Kevin and Melissa Frederick's called Marriage Be Hard. I want to know if you guys agree with the topics in the book since you've been married a while.
@@RoodianneTide I just ordered it on Amazon so I don't know all the details but it's supposed to talk about getting married and the transition from single to married, raising kids, communication, possible attraction to people beyond your spouse etc. I hear it's good.
I understand the guy being upset because you were leaving him to be with Roody a friend he'd had since grade school.....that would be hard on anyone even if they don't have a huge ego......I mean if iu had to be dumped, you'd prefer it if u lost a partner to someone you don't know .....The "handing you over" comment was probably his way of trying to save face and act as if he had some control or choice in the matter when he really did not.....I think he should have said "I'll step aside" instead of acting like you were an inanimate object or gift without a will, thoughts and feelings that he was giving to Roody....... He's talking like you are a possession and not a person which is messed up....I think he just couldn't deal with being rejected by a woman......For some reason respecting a woman's right to set boundaries and say I don't want this situation anymore seems to be difficult on some guys that hold themselves in high esteem and simultaneously view a woman as belonging to them in a certain sense.....they tend to engage in revisionist history to soothe their bruised pride.....Roody saved. u from a covert misogynist.....Look at God looking out for you!
Look at God! 🙌🏽 Also, all he ever did was talk about his ex. It was very obvious that he was still in love with her. We were never exclusive. I only saw him 4 times in the 30 days we were a “thing.” So yeah, I found someone else who would actually appreciate me! At least I was honest about it 🤷🏽♀️
I know what Roody means when he says love at second sight but it's not accurate because the phrase isn't cumulative......you are not counting the number of times you felt romantic love for the person...Love at first sight (or second sight in this case) means that u knew you wanted to build a life with that person romantically the second time you laid eyes on them.....Though I don't know if love at second sight is appropriate either because u saw him more than twice in person before you fell in love with him....if I understand things correctly......please correct me if not...I love relationships that start off with honest conversation rather than a physical attraction because it seems to foster a deeper connection and more substantive relationship.........
I was trying to explain it to Roody again last night-seeing him again after we had stopped talking felt brand new. It was a second version of him to me because I was seeing him differently. Hence, love at “second” sight. Lol it makes sense in my head! 😆
@@RoodianneTide I don't think it was a new version of him, I think it was a new version of you......He was likely always that guy you just didn't see the benefit in it enough to appreciate it at the time......until you did see and appreciate it..... Thank God for enlightenment.....I used to love bad boys too but I never acknowledged it as that.....even though that's what it was....I had a bad case of the broken bird syndrome where I would want to be with a guy that had made questionable choices in life (some illegal) because he was tall, hot an amazing sketch artist, complicated and mysterious,.....I wanted to show him the love and support that I believed no one else had ever shown him but the reality is that he was shown that love and support by others.....he just didn't appreciate it.....He was very impulsive and selfish in the sense that he wasn't reliable.....He would drop out of my life for a period and then reappear like he had been gone only a few days......Looking back, God protected me from my own vanity and naïveté even though I gave Him a hard time for it....... Conversely, there was this other guy....very nice.....tall....white guy with glasses like me and beautiful blue eyes......I felt like we could talk about everything and I could even be a little bossy and pushy with him and he wouldn't take offense.....Not in a mean way.....but sometimes he wouldn't do his assignments for advanced comp and I would be irritated with him.......free to express it without him getting mad or feeling emasculated by my slight nagging 🤣He was always interested in my classes while in college, always asking me to go out to dinner after class, always eager to spend time with me and I wasn't really interested....too hung up on the first guy.....I'm single now at 36 and I am very content but if I had it to do over again I would have appreciated his effort more than I did.....He showed me that I mattered with the level of effort he put into trying to see me whereas the first guy made me beg for his time and for meaningful info about him.....Real conversations always make me spill my guts 🙄🤣 I promise I didn't mean for the post to be this LONG.......
You never know what you have until it’s gone! I feel like we all go through our bad boy phase until we realize that they’re not the best for us. Well, hopefully we realize. Right? Because some girls get trapped and end up miserable. But like you said, thank God for enlightenment!
The fact that you kept the message is super sweet.
It took some digging, but I found it! 🥰
U follow ur heart larianne and it paid off
It sure did! ❤️
😂😂😂There was no love at second sight if there wasn’t a first🤭
💖💖💖You Guys are So Cute together 💖💖💖💖
Thank you 🥰
Larianne tha was me....... so similar experience i had with my very love of my life
Amazing! It’s funny how things work out and we find our way to the one we’re meant to be with ❤️
😂😂😂😂😂
I was randomly thinking about you two and this book by Kevin and Melissa Frederick's called Marriage Be Hard. I want to know if you guys agree with the topics in the book since you've been married a while.
I haven’t read their book. What topics do they discuss specifically?
@@RoodianneTide I just ordered it on Amazon so I don't know all the details but it's supposed to talk about getting married and the transition from single to married, raising kids, communication, possible attraction to people beyond your spouse etc. I hear it's good.
I have the audio book saved in my library, so I might listen to it soon and share my opinion!
I understand the guy being upset because you were leaving him to be with Roody a friend he'd had since grade school.....that would be hard on anyone even if they don't have a huge ego......I mean if iu had to be dumped, you'd prefer it if u lost a partner to someone you don't know .....The "handing you over" comment was probably his way of trying to save face and act as if he had some control or choice in the matter when he really did not.....I think he should have said "I'll step aside" instead of acting like you were an inanimate object or gift without a will, thoughts and feelings that he was giving to Roody....... He's talking like you are a possession and not a person which is messed up....I think he just couldn't deal with being rejected by a woman......For some reason respecting a woman's right to set boundaries and say I don't want this situation anymore seems to be difficult on some guys that hold themselves in high esteem and simultaneously view a woman as belonging to them in a certain sense.....they tend to engage in revisionist history to soothe their bruised pride.....Roody saved. u from a covert misogynist.....Look at God looking out for you!
Look at God! 🙌🏽
Also, all he ever did was talk about his ex. It was very obvious that he was still in love with her. We were never exclusive. I only saw him 4 times in the 30 days we were a “thing.” So yeah, I found someone else who would actually appreciate me! At least I was honest about it 🤷🏽♀️
I know what Roody means when he says love at second sight but it's not accurate because the phrase isn't cumulative......you are not counting the number of times you felt romantic love for the person...Love at first sight (or second sight in this case) means that u knew you wanted to build a life with that person romantically the second time you laid eyes on them.....Though I don't know if love at second sight is appropriate either because u saw him more than twice in person before you fell in love with him....if I understand things correctly......please correct me if not...I love relationships that start off with honest conversation rather than a physical attraction because it seems to foster a deeper connection and more substantive relationship.........
I was trying to explain it to Roody again last night-seeing him again after we had stopped talking felt brand new. It was a second version of him to me because I was seeing him differently. Hence, love at “second” sight. Lol it makes sense in my head! 😆
@@RoodianneTide I don't think it was a new version of him, I think it was a new version of you......He was likely always that guy you just didn't see the benefit in it enough to appreciate it at the time......until you did see and appreciate it.....
Thank God for enlightenment.....I used to love bad boys too but I never acknowledged it as that.....even though that's what it was....I had a bad case of the broken bird syndrome where I would want to be with a guy that had made questionable choices in life (some illegal) because he was tall, hot an amazing sketch artist, complicated and mysterious,.....I wanted to show him the love and support that I believed no one else had ever shown him but the reality is that he was shown that love and support by others.....he just didn't appreciate it.....He was very impulsive and selfish in the sense that he wasn't reliable.....He would drop out of my life for a period and then reappear like he had been gone only a few days......Looking back, God protected me from my own vanity and naïveté even though I gave Him a hard time for it.......
Conversely, there was this other guy....very nice.....tall....white guy with glasses like me and beautiful blue eyes......I felt like we could talk about everything and I could even be a little bossy and pushy with him and he wouldn't take offense.....Not in a mean way.....but sometimes he wouldn't do his assignments for advanced comp and I would be irritated with him.......free to express it without him getting mad or feeling emasculated by my slight nagging 🤣He was always interested in my classes while in college, always asking me to go out to dinner after class, always eager to spend time with me and I wasn't really interested....too hung up on the first guy.....I'm single now at 36 and I am very content but if I had it to do over again I would have appreciated his effort more than I did.....He showed me that I mattered with the level of effort he put into trying to see me whereas the first guy made me beg for his time and for meaningful info about him.....Real conversations always make me spill my guts 🙄🤣 I promise I didn't mean for the post to be this LONG.......
You never know what you have until it’s gone! I feel like we all go through our bad boy phase until we realize that they’re not the best for us. Well, hopefully we realize. Right? Because some girls get trapped and end up miserable. But like you said, thank God for enlightenment!
@@RoodianneTide thank you for indulging my longwinded self....have a good one....