Jay & His Wife Radhi ON: The BIGGEST LIE About Love & 3 Things To Look For In A Partner
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Today, we welcome back a very special guest, one who’s very dear to my heart, my other half, Radhi Devlukia-Shetty. Radhi and I sit down for our yearly check-in as we answer questions about relationships and marriage. Come join us and let’s discover the beauty of open communication, supportive partnership, and setting new goals together this year.
This episode was recorded at The Grove in Hertfordshire, U.K.
What We Discuss:
00:00:00 Intro
00:04:18 What do you love most about each other?
00:08:38 What have you learned along the way?
00:13:25 Are you a parent, child, or partner?
00:20:05 When does your partner become annoying?
00:29:29 Your happiness is your perfection
00:38:05 Be a guru in your relationship
00:47:35 The things you no longer prioritize
00:53:55 Top 3 things you’re looking for in a partner
01:02:05 Going deeper into the relationship in less time
01:05:06 What are your goals this year?
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My wife is 8 months pregnant and as she was driving today, she got involved in a terrible head collision accident. Her car was pushed away 15 metres away while she was inside. I thank God she survived and the baby is okay. God is great.
God is Good. Praying for a healthy delivery.
Praise God!!!!!!
Amen
thank God
Amen!! Our Almighty God
How refreshing to hear a couple where each other give each other credit rather than blame each other. “You’ve always been supportive” “It’s because you’ve always been consistent”. So sweet!!
Er they have plenty of dirty laundry like everyone else and remember it’s a podcast to make them lots of money so they are good actors at play!!
@@drwellbeing2023She’s so gorgeous. Many times, not always, men will put up with more when their wife is extremely beautiful. I had a boyfriend once, who put up with everything from me. It was kind of unfair of me. He has died since then, and I still feel guilty.
@@lisagrimes4801he was blind or ugly probably
Condolences on the loss of your boyfriend, and on the guilt that you are carrying. I wonder if he "knew" in his heart of hearts that behind your "unfair" behaviours, you are really a good person? Otherwise, why would he have put up with it? And why would you be so aware of it yourself now? What are you doing to forgive yourself? Have you tried "talking" to him in your mind, or writing him a letter to express your regret at how you behaved? Perhaps the letter can be symbolically burned in a private little ceremony out in nature where you can send healing love to him, asking him to forgive you. I do hope you can forgive yourself, so that you can heal and live a full and happy life @@lisagrimes4801
Everyone is perfect on social media to make millions.
"I am not telling you to stop crying" - that is actually very powerful. He clearly understands these aspects of the mind :)
I liked when he said: you shouldn't make your partner dependent on you. Rather, you should guide him/her to love themselves.
Indeed, making a person dependent on you showcases our insecurities and alter ego nature.
Same here🤍
I love how in tune Jay is to his wife's emotions. Before she started crying, he picked up that she was getting emotional and immediately put a hand on her leg to bring comfort. I think a lot of men don't know what to do when a woman cries. For me, a simple hug means everything in that moment. It says, "I'm here for you and I've got you!" There is tremendous feeling of safety inside of a husband's arms next to his chest because, of course, that's where his heart is. Women also need to allow their husband to comfort them and be okay with being vulnerable. ❤ Good job, Jay!
I agree men need to gain more emotional intelligence.
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@Danielle M we all are blessed, you just have to patiently wait for the one from God.
Period
You could sense her emotions surfacing. I totally cried when she did! I understood her path and loved how he took care of her. ❤
Jay really loves Radhi, i have never seen any man in this much love in relationship, he notices her single thing and the way he appreciates her and looks at her.
I agree
Radhi is such a beautiful soul inside & out... glad she found someone to cherish her in this lifetime, who is equally as beautiful inside & out. Both are genuine loving people and I can only wish everyone else is as fortunate as them in their lifetime.
“I’m not telling you to stop crying” 25:26 the way he created a safe space for her to feel out her emotions is so godly
I definitely cried when Radhi started crying, I felt that. I have a husband who is everything I am not (which is good) but can be intimidating as his wife. I feel the pressure to have to keep up and just be "perfect" all the time. I appreciated your vulnerability and the rawness of this conversation; you are both so inspiring and amazing.
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This!
I instantly cried as well! Such a great conversation between two beautiful and loving people.
Same 😢
seriously
Please do more of these episodes with Radhika ❤️❤️
Lol yes we love radhika
*such
Yess brother, this is my favorite podcasts of all time, please make more podcasts with radhika!
Yes
Isn’t her name simply Radhi? Just curious🤓
Omg she is so vibrant... I find her so invigorating and wise. Don´t even know how Jay knew she was about to cry. Must be so hard to be put under the spotlight and accept to be part of the whole teaching and sharing wisdom that Jay does. Radhi is by far the most genuine person on social media right now. So vulnerable, so honest, so imperfectly perfect, and full of energy... Just inspiring to see and hear.
I agree!! I think she's so confident but adorably feminine at the same time!
He saw her. (But our camera was on him at that moment.)
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Time stamp when she got emotional?
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That expression of raw emotion was so beautiful...no shame or ridicule. Jay even made sure to reiterate that she doesn't need to stop crying. Very refreshing to see especially since it's often looked down upon being highly sensitive 🥺 💞
Being vulnerable is valid. I love Jay and how he encourages people to be genuine.
Wha to do if you have caffeine right before bed
The way they understand eachother ❤️ the way he comforted his wife when she started crying . DIVINE LOVE
When Radhi started crying🥹🥹 how Jay jumped into action awwww🫶🏼 Same girl! I cry about everything ✨✨
same 🥲
Me too :)❤
I’m 72 years old now. I spent 34 years in 3 different marriages and I’ve been reflecting my part in those relationships as I’m listening to you both share. Interestingly I wonder if my last 10 years alone haven’t been so good because I’m in a relationship with myself. I’m experiencing many of the same things I would with a partner but with just myself. I grew up in the 1950s and 60s when the ideas you talk about were very rare in our society and especially in my family.
Thank you for giving me more love and depth and understanding in my own relationship with myself.
I feel women should not even consider getting married until they have had some time on their own. Thats when you learn how to survive on your own and can appreciate when that special one comes along.
I understand you so well as I am doing the same and I'm so happy to be alone and build my own reality and realize what I want, its so satisfying! a big hug
We bring ourselves and our "stuff" into any relationship...so, if we haven't worked that out, it'll be reflected back and create more ongoing issues, until we compassionately heal.
We contain all of it inside...so relationship with others or self, it'll be there.
We most often blame others for hurting us....when the truth is, they are merely triggering the pain we already contain within.
Be mindful to how your internal dialogue is. If you are self critical, saying a lot of "shoulds" to yourself, and so on, you will continue to have problems in relation to yourself and others.
When we deeply heal our core wounds, question our narratives, challenge our cognitive distortions and biases...we open up the possibility to show up for ourselves fully, having our own back, self efficacy. We then attract others who will reflect that back.
May you be well 💫
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I really wish I could hear you say what you wrote hear over a cup of tea. I feel there's so much I'd like to hear from you from all the experiences you have gathered over the years sorely in your marriages. you sound wise.❤
24:32 he saw the lip twitch and knew right away she was going to cry. I love that he's that perceptive of his partner and wish more people, including myself, were that in tune with the people in their lives to pick up on these things and respond in a healthy way.
I ve never seen someone more beautiful and grateful for being loved and accepted. You are both beautiful soul’s and that is wonderful. That’s takes a huge amount of wisdom ❤ Her tears are gold.
O Jay...I don't think you could have a partner more perfect than Radhi, you are so wonderful together❤️
When she started to cry, I did too. She is beautiful and I loved that you two are willing to share your relationship with us. It gives such a real and relatable image of what love could be. Thank you for this.
Time
I started crying too
His realization she loved him for who he is, not for how he’s doing, hit deep. It’s the difference between unconditional vs conditional love. One of them is evergreen, whereas the other floats like a leave in the wind. Keep on lovin 💚
I got married to my husband a couple of months after I turned 18. He was 24. We literally knew each other 3 months before saying I do. It felt so natural and as though we were meant for each other. Almost 22 years and 2 kids later he is still my best friend. This is not to say our relationship is perfect but to us it’s right..like we were literally created for one another…to learn and grow with. We are definitely soul mates. After all this time we are still learning things about each other and our relationship. It’s a beautiful thing. Never stop learning about each other and taking interest in each other. That’s such a key part. Committing yourself to a life partner is a journey. Sometimes that journey seems smooth and easy and sometimes the journey is bumpy and difficult. And it is lifelong. You have to embrace all the seasons. Partners teach us a lot about ourselves also. It can be messy and beautiful all at the same time. We get this one life..make the most of it no matter who or where you are. Love and be loved ❤
I was just telling my boyfriend how Radhi makes me feel so normal with my emotions 🥺👉🏼👈🏼 normalizing people who feel deeply about every experience ❤️✨
❤Absolutely
Summary
00:00 Loving someone means making them fall more in love with themselves
05:30 Relationship survived major life changes
15:41 Helping someone find their own voice takes patience and is more valuable than fixing them.
20:30 Sharing ups and downs of a relationship to show imperfection
29:46 Perfection doesn't equal happiness, focus on what makes you happy
34:46 Investing time and energy in relationships is crucial for meaningful connections.
44:29 Celebrating others' success is important
49:17 Building connection through shared experiences
58:36 Regular check-ins and quality time are crucial for a strong relationship.
1:03:11 Investing time in relationships is crucial
Thank you
Watching Radhi getting emotional and teary and then owning it and not apologising - so appreciate that. Also, appreciate Jay supporting Radhi in that moment and helping her calm down.
I personally struggle a lot with expressing when I’m emotional infront of even closest of people. If at all I do tear up, I find myself apologising again and again.. as I feel that I’m embarrassing people around me. Watching Radhi made me realise that it’s so ok to cry and not feel bad about it. I’m encouraged to be more vulnerable around loved ones.
Yes Radha has no idea the impact she just made by crying on camera. I’m a crier too when it comes to feeling many emotions and I always try to hide it for the fear of embarrassing others. Crying in public should be more normalized.
It’s so interesting, I have been a coach for 32 years. I have had, basically strangers, tell me in their first session their deepest and darkest. I play my cards so close to my vest, personally. I mean, I share with my family, friends and clients antidotally, when appropriate, in order to help them. But I don’t really show vulnerability much. I am extremely successful in helping others. I could be even more so probably if I allowed myself to be more vulnerable… not “in control “…
Lots to ponder 😊
@@wendylbranchfield7959 I so agree with you! I ain’t a coach and yet I find myself wanting to put up a strong front all the time! And even when I do end shedding tears - I immediately try to hide it as I think I’m being weak and that’s not how I want the people to view me. Being vulnerable takes courage and more than that a really safe environment - ain’t that easy to find.
@@shailydilse , indeed. To show vulnerability shows trust. And that is scary sometimes. Sending good energy your way.🙌🏽🙌🏽
Give her space to feel what she is feeling without trying to fix it right off
Episodes with Radhika are amazing 💖 please more
I have learned so much about myself in this podcast, this was so GOOD!!!! Not many people talk about the downs in relationships in the ups and downs. I loved both authentic perspectives.
How wonderful it must be to have such honest, open and KIND communication.
I have not ever experienced this level of love/respect/honesty with any of my relationships. This is beautiful to witness.
Cute you two. Love supportive & playful best friends in a married couple.
Thank you for not editing out when Radhi got tearful. There's so much video content where people DO want to appear perfect. Perfect house, perfectly in shape, perfect relationship. There's a difference when someone offers something from the heart vs a facade. I felt the ❤ in this podcast. Thank you. :)
Love the part where he said if you love someone try to make them fall in love with themselves. Yup, you're absolutely right, its extremely hard to do that in so many ways. I love how in tune you guys are and the admiration for one another is so beautiful to see. Cheers!
Amazing guys that’s how couples should talk and find solutions to any misunderstanding. Thank you for sharing with us
Jay I just finished your book a few days ago and it was life changing honestly I’m so grateful I’m not even sure how to put into words how thankful I am for all your wisdom then to see you and your wife together and see the love and teaching and Guru in action is so inspiring! I truly hope to be part of your Genius group soon in the meantime I am watching every video I can to gain knowledge and insight in all areas of your teachings!
Thank you for your teachings and inspiration truly a blessing 🙏
I cried with Radhi.. ❤ she is a beautiful person ❤
I was waiting for this episode for 2 years!!! I'm so grateful with both of you❤️🙏
Watching Jay sense/feeling what was going on with his partner brought tears to my eyes because I literally felt it. I never had a guy be able to do that or be/feel that. It just beautiful. Men...take notes.
This is one of the most refreshing podcast that I’ve watched in a long time! Considering that Jay and Rahdi have been together 10 years, the love and respect they show freely in front of each other is amazing!
So great to hear each of them explain how the other has impacted their lives clearly.
It’s obvious that to have this type of conversation we need to know ourselves extremely well…
Wow I felt this episode so much. I learned so much. I feel the same when it comes to what she was saying about striving for being perfect and the reality is we will never be. Jay sharing his experiences and her not liking to over share because of what others may perceive is so true. I feel she had a paradigm shift. I did. There’s so many things I will change. When she said sometimes your not ready for what your hearing it so spot on. Until your aware of the information being giving to you, you will not understand it, you have to be ready for it. Amazing episode. I will rewatch again!
I love how their both great listeners and give each other the space to express their views.
Thank you for sharing this. It is so good to see two genuine humans sharing their life experiences. I cry all the time too. I am glad to know that there are others like me in the world. I used to feel bad about it because it was seen as weakness by people around me at the time. But now i cry whenever I feel emotional (Happy, Sad, excited, or upset).
Oh, how much I love listening to you guys!! Please do this more often. The love and the chemistry between you too is so beautiful and makes me hopeful that one day I'll be able to experience that too.
These two are so in tune despite their obvious independence, a fantastic example of a great couple .
They are the biggest fans of each other. Loved this interview. Thank you for setting bar high and for setting an example of a healthy relationship between two people that truly care about each other ❤
Love love love this so much. I needed this conversation - thanks so much to both of you for sharing ❤️
This was such a blessing and great example to see! Thank you for being transparently human and real and allowing people to see what honest, intentional relating with another can look like!
Thank you for being so authentic. I honestly hate when people are expected to be happy and perfect all the time. I think there is nothing wrong with knowing your strengths and weaknesses and being ok with that!
I absolutely LOVED this episode! Felt like I was right in the room with you too and feel inspired by your beautiful connection! Wishing both of you eternal happiness.. & grateful for all the work that you both do!
Magically navigated to this out of the blue to learn lots of golden nuggets about relationships. Thank you for being vulnerable, honest and open. Rock the world!
This was such a great listen. I honestly love listening to this podcast because it broadens my perspective and helps me understand so much more than I’ve came in with.
I love when a wife and husband can sit and properly 😍 communicate together ❤️ . It shows, true ❤ is possible.
This was an excellent session to listen, learn & enlighten (appreciated), thank you both❤️
❤❤❤!!! All the Feels! This chat between you two was so helpful and enlightening for all, but especially for those of us who are in newer relationships & trying to do our absolute best to finally get this 'relationship thing' right. Thanks so much to you both! Life can be wonderful single, but it's so much more amazing when taking the journey with the right partner, who's 'perfectly imperfect' for you 💞
I loved watching this!! Thank so much for your openness and honesty! May God continue to bless your relationship!!
What a great Valentine’s gift, love is in the air. Love this for you guys ❤️❤️❤️
I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. th-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!
So beautiful to see the love, respect, sensitivity, and admiration they have for one another. I loved hearing how they seem to have a shared desire to work through issues, support each other, and embrace their own personal growth journey! Continued blessings! ❤
Omg, what an excellent podcast! I’ve learned so much both of you on how to be a more supportive partner and I love that you encourage partners to do things together outside of the typical “date night”! Yes, please do more relationship videos together ❤️
I always learn so much from both of you, the way you interact and support each other, it’s truly amazing.
I just LOVE these two .. I love witnessing the tenderness between the two of them
so nice to listen to you two. Such a good podcast on relationships and how to make it work especially if you want a genuine and uplifting relationship. Sometimes is hard to see the toxic traits we have ourselves from previous relationship or from our relationship with the parents and we end up judging our other half. A lot of work take place through difficult time and no relationship is perfect and you two are so genuine and sweet 🙏❤️
I believe more of us know and understand how much effort it takes to show up as our best self. I appreciate when people show up happy and cheerful and set things aside. It brings energy and hope and sends love out. We are in a marathon so we are already our best self in that day!
You guys are literally role models to me in terms of relationships, you are both so in tuned with each other’s emotions ❤️
your love is healing to see 🧡 the space you held for her emotions was so beautiful.
I love Radhika’s words on perfection. It is SO true that things that are considered “perfect” don’t make us happy. What makes me happy right now is my self-exploration and schedule I made of things that I love to do and some new things that I’m trying. This isn’t something anyone would probably view as perfect or even valuable yet has made me happier than I’ve been in a long time.
Love these convos! So DEEP and AUTHENTIC! Thank you for honest conversations! MUCH required!
Love the transparency and the true beauty between you two. It's so real and if I could speak for the community, we can all feel it.
Thanks you guys! This was very helpful to hear. So many of my shadows and wounds are rearing their head in my relationships and I feel shame, guilt, and self judgement about it. Many of them were mentioned here, but I feel better about them now that I know I'm not alone in what I feel at times. I feel better also knowing it's all a journey and we get to just roll with it. Wishing you many more quality years of love together
Radhi has changed my life through being herself. Her wisdom always comes when I need to hear it the most! She is so awesome! I miss her presence on youtube, but I too am a private person so I understand. Thank you Radhi for sharing, it’s truly so so helpful and touching!
I just love watching and listening to these two! Such a beautiful dynamic 😍😍 An inspiring pair 🙏🏼
You both inspire me and my hubby so much! I love your emotionally mature and aware you both are. So much love to be spread since energy transfers and it’s contagious. Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable with us.
Being with someone who brings the best out of you while loving the core of who you are is goals. I can tell even though you guys aren’t “perfect” you are perfect for each other.
Love what Jay said about not hindering people by doing things for them, instead showing them how to be better.
Also I love his wife’s personality. We are all on a growth path but confidently owning who you are and where you are in life without distortions is gold. ❤
I completely agree with you! When you're with someone who brings out the best in you and accepts you for who you are at your core, that's truly the ultimate goal in a relationship. Nobody is perfect, but finding someone who is perfect for you makes all the difference.
The kind of Love I want to spend the rest of my days.
Beautiful…simply amazing. I love the fact that even though a partner can be critical of you because they want the best for you and yet there is no element of judging from the other person. That positive mindset and confidence on your partner’s critical remarks is so relaxing.
Thanks for saying that you cry with every emotion. That's so me and I would always feel like why am I crying all the time and its just so hard to explain to people that -- that's how I release my emotions and the fact that it helps me ❤
This episode was intense and very inspiring. Relationships are difficult and too familiar however with awareness and respect it can work. Your wife is so amazing, wow. Thank you for being fully authentic and to share your relationship and your growth wisdom. I love how connected you both are and the care you both reflect. I’m so emotional about this episode and I am improving in myself and relationships as well. This came to me at the right time. Again thank you
Love seeing the both of you on the podcast. So open and honest with your emotions and love for each other it's just very admirable. 🥰
I love that you both emphasized how quality should be spent. Thank you so much! You are inspiring in many ways. 💕
Love this! Love them both together and as individuals for there transparency and openness. I appreciate her emphasis on perfection, and not being peoples expectations of her. So much humility.❤❤❤
This is such a soulful podcast- thank you for showing us the most raw form
You’re the best couple I’ve ever seen! Thank you for sharing your stories, feelings and REAL emotions with us !
❤❤❤ this chat. One day, I’ll have an amazing relationship like that. Transparency, love, communication, a reflection of how much one invested we both will be. ❤
I just love the energy, the Love and the friendship you have and how engaging you are to your audience. Your eyes' color, just beautiful!
The chemistry is so real, so deep & so strong what you guys have is so special 💯💖
Two flames kindled in sync each radiating in support for the other, they both shine together so brilliantly, this was marvelous to watch and truly listen to! 🥰
I am in a relationship with myself, and this still was so beneficial for me. I love seeing this example of just being yourself....always.
Yes! Jay, I listen to you all the time. I did not always agree with you. Love this! Just ordered your book!❤
I can’t stop thanking you guys for your honesty transparency and cuteness & love. I have tears in my eyes couple of times during this interview. Thank you ❤️
Love both of them and their energy. Such an inspiration to the world.
I have been waiting for this podcast for 2 years. I enjoyed your honest and meaningful conversation. Can't wait to see what you two bring in the future. Thank you for sharing your personal relationship bits with the world to help people learn or at least see a different side.
This is beautiful. It must be hard to keep all the vulnerable moments in the video. You guys are amazing! Sending lots of love from Dublin
I absolutely love this podcast. Best one ever. Love you guys so much. Such great energy. Peaceful souls. 🙏 ❤
This... much needed much appreciated. Y'all are so beautiful and human!
I love hearing the authenticity, vulnerability, and honesty around their relationship.
i love this podcast and to see you both interact with each other ❤Thank you for this! These were so great topics to discuss.
What an enlightening conversation….I need to buy your new book! I can’t wait to see what Radhi has lined up as I enjoyed the TH-cam videos on diet and meditation whilst in LA. Thank you for sharing ❤
An hour flew by listening to Jay and his wife speak about love 🥰 I love their connection and their relationship, it's so inspiring!
I really relate to her strong emotions. I am definitely a crier too and there's nothing wrong with that. I really admire her continuing the discussion and showing that raw emotion. This was absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
So many great pieces of the puzzle that is relationships. Love how you nature Rhadi's feelings and allowed her expression❤
Creating experiences....instead of waiting for live to happen, you direct it into growth and discovery of the other in your partner. Love this lesson.
This was amazing to watch. You two have such a deep loving connection for all the right reasons. What an inspiration. You both have wonderful genuine personalities, love it!
I really admire how you both as individuals in a connection express and respect the way you feel, still letting others grow in the way they wished . . . I really feel grateful to hear to this podcast , it changes the thought process of an individual . . . Thank you !
So much of what you and your wife talk about, resonates with how me and my partner are in our relationship ❤
What an amazing episode. Thank you both for sharing yourselfs with the world. So inspiring and insightfull 🙏❤️❤️❤️ Have a beautiful 2023 ✨