How to Be Instantly Irresistible

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  • @ScienceOfPeople
    @ScienceOfPeople  3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Find out more in our full article on this topic: www.scienceofpeople.com/secrets-of-a-successful-ted-talk/

    • @AR-rn8ok
      @AR-rn8ok 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How do you get into this? What was your major in school?

    • @slashclash21bharat
      @slashclash21bharat 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for the precious insights.

    • @shyahisotalo7826
      @shyahisotalo7826 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I can see this working if i were to smile more and practice hand gesture more with people i know, but what about people that already know me they already have a perceived idea about me if i start using hand gestures when i never really have they'll notice immediately and ask what the hell im doing.

    • @gabedepaul5407
      @gabedepaul5407 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      That is an INSANE study idea. I would do another undergrad just to spend a day in that lab

  • @dannyju
    @dannyju 6 ปีที่แล้ว +847

    1) Focus on non-verbal presentation instead of worrying what you should say
    2) First impressions (7 seconds)
    3) More hand gestures : To show intention and emphasis explanation
    4) Vocal charisma/ variety : say it like you mean it, positive energy
    5) Genuine Smile

  • @Dr.Ryanmd
    @Dr.Ryanmd 6 ปีที่แล้ว +288

    I'm in medical school and I get graded on my interactions with actors who pretend to be patients. After doing this, my ratings skyrocketed. Totally worth trying out!

    • @dianethompson9525
      @dianethompson9525 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Future Dr. Ryan my brother in law is an actor patient!! He loves it! He’s done a lot of theatre, so he’s very believable!!

    • @sweetbeep
      @sweetbeep 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      ..ok well please start thinking about root causes instead of using just drugs, devices, surgery. Thanks !

    • @sk-tx9dr
      @sk-tx9dr 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      cashmeoutside 😂😂😂

    • @summerishere3124
      @summerishere3124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I've never heard of actor patient what a cool job, not as cool as a doctor but still pretty cool.

    • @songsofthecentury3909
      @songsofthecentury3909 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Why do you use the title Dr. when you haven't qualified yet?

  • @sourav_e
    @sourav_e 7 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    I had a paper presentation and it worked completely for me,ended up in first place and also had a great impact on the judges!
    Thanks Vanessa!😄

  • @sammylane21
    @sammylane21 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I'm half Italian, half Irish, so hand gesturing is in grained in my DNA.

  • @chantydiaz3480
    @chantydiaz3480 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I saw one of her videos and been binge watching everything. I love her energy. I think Ive mastered mostly all of these queues , Ive been mindful of behaviors.. my intuition leads. I genuinely care and I am always my authentic self. Whomever has energy that is not on the right frequency I just keep it moving.

  • @jeffcd3559
    @jeffcd3559 8 ปีที่แล้ว +195

    Just because you like someone instantly doesn't mean you should find them credible, believe them or follow them.

    • @jeffcd3559
      @jeffcd3559 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't see the comment

    • @AnimeAddiction666
      @AnimeAddiction666 8 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      +jeff cd we shouldn't, but what she's saying here is that subconsciously, we do.

    • @jeffcd3559
      @jeffcd3559 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Maybe but she is only addressing the effect. I was addressing the desirability of unreflectingly giving over to the effect.

    • @andrews476
      @andrews476 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      jeff cd halo effect

    • @charlesg7926
      @charlesg7926 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Although this is true, most people are low IQ followers

  • @cherisevickery8687
    @cherisevickery8687 8 ปีที่แล้ว +233

    I only came across your videos today, and i have already watched 5 of them. You're amazing and extremely engaging. Thank you for these videos! :D :D

    • @sephizinho
      @sephizinho 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Come to Portugal someday, your advices helped me alot mainly at work

    • @sephizinho
      @sephizinho 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Heidi George yeah?

  • @jessebradford3900
    @jessebradford3900 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Just be alive with confidence. Simply, truly being yourself and comfortable with it

  • @liseeyap1274
    @liseeyap1274 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Quick summary 3 things:
    1. Hand gesture - intentional ones.
    2. Your tone
    3. You find something particular will make you smile genuinely.

  • @laurastdeleon
    @laurastdeleon 8 ปีที่แล้ว +286

    I was only watching her hands after she mentioned the hand gestures topic...

    • @euniceemmanuel6363
      @euniceemmanuel6363 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      laurastdeleon me too

    • @In_time
      @In_time 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      laurastdeleon Same lol😂

    • @Bhiladpy-up9uy
      @Bhiladpy-up9uy 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I just turned off the sound. This would train me on how to read people.

    • @Itz_THEFUNNYKIDS
      @Itz_THEFUNNYKIDS 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You think you’re not but the hand gestures made a big part of her conversation which means she’s using hand gestures just right. If hand gestures is all you see that means the person is over doing it and you’re probably not focus on what they’re saying.

    • @mjslanguageworld5997
      @mjslanguageworld5997 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are not the only one 😂

  • @EmbodiedLoveLounge
    @EmbodiedLoveLounge 8 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    This is the first time I see you Vanessa! You are gorgeous, savvy, sassy, and fun. I'm a speaker/leader/advocate who has TED on my horizons... so I loved the feedback. I enjoy talking more when I can be passionate (and funny, especially if the topic is heavy). You rock!

    • @mftripz8445
      @mftripz8445 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't be fooled, any "non-normie" can easily tell that this ain't actually who she really is

  • @Ashley-ye6yt
    @Ashley-ye6yt 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love love! I watch about 15-20 hours a week of motivation/inspiring TH-cam clips a week. I am a John Maxwell instructor and I will use these tips for my next class!

  • @junemckenzie5405
    @junemckenzie5405 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You rock, Vanessa! I had the privilege of seeing you at the Youngevity convention in Salt Lake. You have really made me think about body language, hands and micro-expressions. Thank you for your imparting some of your incredible knowledge. Thank you to you and your team for all your hard work!!!

  • @Resurge2023
    @Resurge2023 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Simple and to the point. Thanks for sharing !

  • @9inchnailsthrougheachoneof790
    @9inchnailsthrougheachoneof790 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I saw a documentary on the Queen Elizabeth's hand gestures and searched for powerful hand gestures; luckily, stumbled across a video of yours.
    I've been binge watching for an hour and i absolutely love what you are teaching.
    Great techniques.
    Your way of explaining is also very understandable and ofcourse very focused hand gestures too.
    Good job and thankyou💚

  • @dimplestv2510
    @dimplestv2510 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Absolutely love this video. I’m currently researching how I can do better at group interviews and connect with people more quickly. This video has made me realized the important stuff of body language, how I say things and my expressions. Super thrilled to try these tips out in my next video.

    • @tonyaclaybaugh1474
      @tonyaclaybaugh1474 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have been following your programs for awhile now, and am constantly learning and taking notes. My daughter also follows you. Is Body Language 101 still available? I'm saving up to get all your books.👍

  • @chaprijohnson2555
    @chaprijohnson2555 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Vanessa Van Edward's is my NEW FAVORITE person!! I have been studying people ALL MY Life!! Learning about people and what causes them to "tick" is my jam. I have her two books CAPTIVATE and just recently received. CUES. LOVE LOVE LOVE the content. Maybe one day I'll be on her team...LOL!!

  • @Idlecodex
    @Idlecodex 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Seriously, great job! I'll be provably obessed with your videos for the next couple of week, it's a great discovery for me! Thanks for sharing!

  • @MorgulDemonVegeta
    @MorgulDemonVegeta 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Well the best thing about this info.. is that is not just... for public speaking.. or for sales... it can ACTUALLY change-your-life! I mean... implement it everywhere and you can get a girlfriend easier, you can get a raise, you can get more "high quality" friends etc :D
    Thanks for sharing it! I will look for your book here in Greece

  • @just-Banks
    @just-Banks 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is some of the best stuff on youtube.
    Or on the whole Internet, for that matter!

  • @chibuzorchime7820
    @chibuzorchime7820 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks a lot! Hand gestures, facial expressions, modulations and genuine smiles. You're a great teacher. Love you

  • @gjlj7861
    @gjlj7861 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Fantastic job, Vanessa, as always! In fact, I also used your suggestions from a previous video in a devotional that I gave at church and the positive comments received were many!

  • @ruhannamm432
    @ruhannamm432 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    U r the only person who can spend with a boring person. Proved to be a brave girl.

  • @lakshmicecelia1078
    @lakshmicecelia1078 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Me too Ted talks on lunch! You have a new huge fan. You're brilliant.

  • @BonfiglioSergio
    @BonfiglioSergio 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Vanessa, you're simply great. These observations are so sharp.
    My compliments.

  • @oriolez555
    @oriolez555 8 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I liked this video, she's making it simple and short and sweet in a scientific way

    • @jonskunator
      @jonskunator 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      There is still an other side to this. Should we teach people these hand tricks and other stuff, or should we rather teach them to listen what other people say instead of paying attention to tricks.

  • @juliebuzzelli3634
    @juliebuzzelli3634 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love your video's! I have always paid very close attention to body language because so much can be revealed - and when I watch you're video's I always learn something new! And your explanations are very understandable and "user friendly". Thanks Vanessa!

  • @lollilafayette
    @lollilafayette 8 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Sounds like most Italians have always known this. Thanks for posting. This is true.

    • @lorenzodelitala1556
      @lorenzodelitala1556 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm italian but probably I'm bugged

    • @lidiatamburrini9044
      @lidiatamburrini9044 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hai ragione

    • @Xxtina1111
      @Xxtina1111 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I lived in Italy for 4 months and realized the Italians understood me much better saying the same thing in broken Italian but using the hands - really improved my Italian!!

    • @Entropy106
      @Entropy106 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lorenzodelitala1556 wym bugged like ur a rat?

  • @theemperor2506
    @theemperor2506 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Vanessa you are Awesome
    Best thing about you is that in such a short time you give us load of information . Thank You a Lot.

  • @veganchris1933
    @veganchris1933 8 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Yes! The world needs to learn this stuff :)

    • @marti5183
      @marti5183 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No they shouldn't, it will just create these wannabe alphas who fail miserably :D

  • @jameskennedy4377
    @jameskennedy4377 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just stumbled across your channel the other day and I'm really enjoying your videos. They're informative, entertaining, and most are brief and to-the-point.

  • @copperredd
    @copperredd 8 ปีที่แล้ว +345

    hahahahahaha xD....she just threw shade on the kardashians

    • @cosmocelli
      @cosmocelli 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Hahaha i know right? Although what they said was and is true 😂

    • @EnnoJekyll
      @EnnoJekyll 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      haha "The Kardashian Klan"

    • @mansondevil33
      @mansondevil33 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      The Kim Kardashian Klan.

    • @WindWipper
      @WindWipper 8 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      You mean the KarTrashians..

    • @babauranai
      @babauranai 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      ITS THE KRUSTY KOMEDY KLASSIC!

  • @t.kayoung5304
    @t.kayoung5304 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    So brief but Educative Mrs Vanessa Van Edwards. ..I am a Southern Cameroonian, Africa following from U.A.E

  • @MrAjusog
    @MrAjusog 8 ปีที่แล้ว +771

    How to be irresistable: 1-Be Vanessa Van Edwards. 2-Smile

  • @nataliamvr6194
    @nataliamvr6194 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    The best Chanel on youtube. I always learn a lot with you Vanessa. Thank you so much to share with passion your job.

  • @lorenavincent7546
    @lorenavincent7546 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Amazing information and tips! Thank you so much. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❤️❤️❤️

    • @lorenavincent7546
      @lorenavincent7546 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Vanessa Van Edwards Hello! I have been following you and has subscribed to your channel. Indeed,you are making an impact to the world. Sincerely,you're doing a fantastic job with your calling. Wishing you blessings,happiness and much success. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @thesacredprofaneco
    @thesacredprofaneco 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's amazing to hear what people have told me I do naturally that builds rapport with them. Thank you for breaking this down so I know how to share these secrets with friends and others...and for helping me understand​ myself so much better too!

  • @dimaryl1658
    @dimaryl1658 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    That gossip about Kardashians killed me 😂👊

  • @ceciliagranados6989
    @ceciliagranados6989 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I liked the video because Vanessa, you are a perfect example of charisma, thanks

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Cecilia granados, you look stunning 💓💓💓❤

  • @confluenceify
    @confluenceify 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This hand gesture skill is Eureka kinda thing for me . Never thought that the simple hand movements can bring in profound change in the impressions I leave on audience.

    • @RS-ep2ry
      @RS-ep2ry 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same here!

  • @tomasrodrigo1199
    @tomasrodrigo1199 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Extraordinary video. Thank you Vanessa!

  • @mokeeffe500
    @mokeeffe500 6 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Hi Vanessa, just found you today in an interview with Tom Bilyeiu.I love your work.Subscribed to your website and social media :)

    • @MartitaBlackCat99
      @MartitaBlackCat99 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same! Obsessed

    • @datther
      @datther 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Vanessa: You are so excited a man loves YOUR work, and hope he finds it in him to give you money!
      Oh shit...i wont get a little love ❤️ from you eh?

  • @royjones5216
    @royjones5216 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing insight thanks mrz edwards...keep up the great worl👍💪

  • @visceralfate6803
    @visceralfate6803 8 ปีที่แล้ว +321

    why are we so obsessed with people liking us...thats what i would like to find out.

    • @interestingcommentbut....7378
      @interestingcommentbut....7378 8 ปีที่แล้ว +127

      Because we are social creatures

    • @AnimeAddiction666
      @AnimeAddiction666 8 ปีที่แล้ว +96

      +visceral fate Because when people like you, they're more likely to do/give you what you want. That's the sad, selfish truth. It's advantageous to be liked.

    • @rachellykins49
      @rachellykins49 6 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      Studies show that we are happier and live longer with healthy relationships. They're important for our well being in the big picture.

    • @msbulloangkhaaqc-ma6-025
      @msbulloangkhaaqc-ma6-025 6 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Because good networking equals good business

    • @karagraham9764
      @karagraham9764 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      People pleasing syndrome. Check it out

  • @leviawomi7922
    @leviawomi7922 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    OMG such a high quality teaching
    I subscribed on first of ur video.
    It like attending class in expensive college/institution

  • @MrKen11589
    @MrKen11589 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Very interesting, I'm going to try some of these and practice.

  • @KillaLogeFTW
    @KillaLogeFTW 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    CAPTIVATING, gorgeous and pristine as always! thank you!!!

  • @DeadManRising36
    @DeadManRising36 8 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I love watching your videos!
    keep up the great work Venessa!

    • @ruthcummings7745
      @ruthcummings7745 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I like this.

    • @katiekat4457
      @katiekat4457 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love this videos too but I wish the older lady would stop making all those weird noises while the younger lady is speaking. It's very distracting to me. Does anyone else notice it? Or is it me?

    • @katiekat4457
      @katiekat4457 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Btw I'm asking because I really, really want to hear what Vanessa has to say. Does she have videos without the two older people that are usually in the videos distracting and interrupting her?

    • @unicumsdiaries5907
      @unicumsdiaries5907 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      lol you just made my day and i woke up too early and at bad mood :p

    • @katiekat4457
      @katiekat4457 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lassi Vainio lol your video just made me smile because I was just about to finally fall asleep for the night and my two Great Danes started barking at the front door so I had to get up and make sure there was no kind of danger. Which there wasn't. Idk where you are but it's 2:00AM here. So I just went from a bad mood back to a good mood because of you. Thank you. Have a nice day and I hope you won't be tired all day.

  • @NicholasKramas
    @NicholasKramas 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel like this woman came out of left field. I watched her video with Ryan Holiday this morning regarding warmth and competence, and I've been devouring her content since then.
    Just bought her book Captivate on audible. Also she's so beautiful.

  • @mikejones6863
    @mikejones6863 8 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    so content doesnt matter, only style

    • @MuttFitness
      @MuttFitness 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mike Jones when appealing to the masses

  • @ameljerbi6224
    @ameljerbi6224 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're amazing Vanessa. Your studies, your books as well as your videos are very helpful. I discovered you thanks to my brother who is working on the last part of his MBA in Tunisia. Love from Germany😍

  • @sagenosnibor9173
    @sagenosnibor9173 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love that when she's interrupted by the host, she's very sweet and continues to speak any way. The host justs stops and submits lol

    • @jackieflynt995
      @jackieflynt995 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes...I noticed that...
      It's a great lesson in itself. And, she keeps smiling.

  • @louisegabriela9293
    @louisegabriela9293 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Grateful, an Deep Thank You. Vanessa Your beauty shine's brightly.

  • @truthprevails8836
    @truthprevails8836 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    That Kardashian imitation was awesome..

  • @SUNILKUMAR-gh5yl
    @SUNILKUMAR-gh5yl 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Vanessa , I just watched your only 2 videos than I feel strongly "you have got or something have" , that was I finding last so manny years.
    Thanks & love you 💐

  • @Dbulkss
    @Dbulkss 8 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    in reality these statistics are not congruent to how your upbringings are and character. charisma comes from the energy and vibe you portray that's eternal from the chore emotions you feel while expressing yourself. mimicry is what human thrive on naturally and when you try to do something that's no in aline to your perception then it will not come off as charismatic.

    • @vandedda
      @vandedda 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      it's called manipulation. learn to use it or get used by it.

    • @Dbulkss
      @Dbulkss 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +loslobos I use it all the time :)

    • @hasach01
      @hasach01 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Right that's what I'm saying and because sometimes some people say hang gestures are bad. So it's like what do I do it's like some or everything contradict the things that their talking about that suppose to work,be good,etc

    • @Dbulkss
      @Dbulkss 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Kenny Harrison it's all starts from your self actualization standpoint.

    • @hasach01
      @hasach01 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Harold “Dominicanbulk” Tavarez I don't want to keep living up to everyone expectations and just because a lot of people may agree with it doesn't make it right

  • @jorgejgleandro
    @jorgejgleandro 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Vanessa, I love your videos, your tips and your true smile. You do have a smile in your eyes. Salute from Brazil.

  • @Aniguidon
    @Aniguidon 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love this!

  • @krich064
    @krich064 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great advise, I will try it. I usually don't know what to talk about, so I usually ask them about themselves.

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Kathy Rich, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓💓💓💓❤and I will be glad to know you

  • @yesreneau
    @yesreneau 8 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    Lol, the Kardashians.

    • @bupechikumbi3082
      @bupechikumbi3082 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I love you and your channel

    • @greenleaf8226
      @greenleaf8226 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      waste of time people...sadly tapped in to many peoples insecurities and hopeful secret wishes...made a tonne of money excercising empty pointless nonsense, with a hint of intelligence, and greedy monster mom manouvering.

    • @priestblack22
      @priestblack22 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@greenleaf8226 How is it pointless when it produces results? 🤔

    • @TUSHARGUPTA-mh8kf
      @TUSHARGUPTA-mh8kf 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂

    • @nz7780
      @nz7780 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not saying I disagree with what these ladies said or not, but holy ish they just ran over them with their words lmfaooo, no hesitation. Was not expecting that 🤣

  • @elhadjdiallo7533
    @elhadjdiallo7533 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    to be straight forward with you're being transparent which's spectacular .... you're an angel indeed ...... I wish you well baby girl .......

  • @pattyray8784
    @pattyray8784 8 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Ooow, this is good material. Thanks so much!

    • @mohamedsesaynaken2963
      @mohamedsesaynaken2963 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Vanessa Van Edwards you now my lovel friends I like the way tense

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Patty Ray, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓💓❤

  • @canadianhotbod1
    @canadianhotbod1 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just found your videos today and this is my third in a row that I've watched. I have a customer(s) of mine that have given me a nick name because I smile a lot (smiley) and act ( quite honestly excited) about what ever they are doing or winning. example: winning a free coffee or lottery. I want to let you know that I think you are awesome and to keep up these great videos.

  • @AllThatKazz
    @AllThatKazz 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I use hand gestures. Probably a habit picked up when I lived with an Italian family for two years as a teenager. One thing that happens a lot though, is that I smash a lot of wine glasses! I drink wine out of stemless glasses whenever possible.

  • @jeannebirch3293
    @jeannebirch3293 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fascinating information - I really enjoyed the presentation!

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jeanne Birch,I love your pretty smile ☺ ❤❤and I will be glad to know you

  • @heatherfinch8661
    @heatherfinch8661 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    lovely very informative.....not intimidating at all, well thought out....

  • @lorenab.6385
    @lorenab.6385 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love all your Interviews with Lewis Howes!! I watched all his interviews, but loves as well everything you thought and your energy, subscribe and buying your book! Congratulations and Thank you Vanessa!

  • @justinbosley692
    @justinbosley692 8 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I didn't notice her hand gestures until she started talking about it.

    • @YD8189
      @YD8189 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +Justin Bosley Actually, the most-important part of you did. Depending on who you listen to, the brain can process between 2,000,00,000 and 4,000,000,000 bits of information a second but only 2,000 or so make it into conscious awareness. The remainder are either filtered out or go directly into the subconscious and since hands can convey threat you can be certain that your brain is aware of them even if you did not consciously ATTEND to them.

    • @justinbosley692
      @justinbosley692 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Good point

  • @children1722
    @children1722 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you , I am feeling exciting to follow your new video

  • @lizcorbett2587
    @lizcorbett2587 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I'm going to try this ^^ thanks Vanessa!

  • @bleon333
    @bleon333 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    There are times when we want to be irresistible. This video has inspired me to be my best at a job interview next week ;-) Thank you Vanessa!

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Barb Leon, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓❤❤and I will be glad to know you

  • @SONZOFGUNZ37
    @SONZOFGUNZ37 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    shes irresistible

  • @akiaariell3846
    @akiaariell3846 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    So glad to have come across your channel!!! Your videos are not only helpful but they’re interesting to watch and listen to as well💙

  • @DrLecter369
    @DrLecter369 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    ur the best vanessa

  • @aslamsaa14
    @aslamsaa14 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really appreciate you have said and try to apply when ever I speak..
    Thank you Venessa..

  • @Wooist
    @Wooist 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    She's fantastic. Leave your hands out :) We can all do it.

  • @MujahidOmer
    @MujahidOmer 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Every one of your videos are so thoughtful & practical. I've been on a streak. Thank You so much.

  • @andreamartin2953
    @andreamartin2953 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The hosts never uses her hand gestures and the guest uses her constantly, lol

  • @octavianinurhasanah6586
    @octavianinurhasanah6586 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was searching for Alyssa Edwards and your channel came up. I don’t regret it!

  • @MovieLover549872
    @MovieLover549872 7 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    THE KARDASHIANS GOT DRAAAAGEDDD HAHAHAHAHA

  • @dianethompson9525
    @dianethompson9525 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are amazing!! You practice what you preach cause you always put energy and and real emotion in your talks! You are just vibrant!

  • @cemyoung9514
    @cemyoung9514 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey Venessa, my question is; How the participants who watched it on mute gave credit to intelligence without hearing the ideas and thoughts? Can only smile tell about how intelligence the person is? Thank you

  • @euniceemmanuel6363
    @euniceemmanuel6363 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is really helpful.. It took me a hard times to literally talk in good terms way with people but for now I have finally know what to do while I'm communicating with someone. Thank u so madam.

  • @pravinlal3765
    @pravinlal3765 8 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    She is doing lots of hand gestures herself....

    • @MrGeo-EmitFodrol
      @MrGeo-EmitFodrol 8 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      yeah it seems forced tho

    • @omars.3021
      @omars.3021 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      +Mr. Geo actually, this is the norm for Vanessa. Always full of energy, always using "body language" as well as words to express herself.

    • @sinnoaar
      @sinnoaar 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      meta

    • @Niphredyl
      @Niphredyl 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Her hand gestures seem so meticulously curated it's almost parodying sign language translators... Don't get me wrong I like hand gestures and I personally had been accused of using too much, but hers are a bit unnatural...

    • @whosaid2
      @whosaid2 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      She's Puerto Rican, she can't stop, it's innate....... No seriously I don't think I'll ever understand people, unless she offers 1 on 1 help. No therapy has helped. She should teach counsellors and therapists etc.
      W

  • @michaelpedone9489
    @michaelpedone9489 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Vanessa is awesome! Thanks for sharing.

  • @lukediafrica9619
    @lukediafrica9619 8 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Vanessa got a lot of charisma, she is very interesting

  • @clarissaspeaks7196
    @clarissaspeaks7196 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg thank you. I had this friend that would always say that people never think of her as intelligent and yet they think of me as quite smart even though we were both equally as smart. Now I know why.

  • @samarneson9475
    @samarneson9475 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    when u read the book and know the TED talk example 💃🏼🙈

  • @matt21093
    @matt21093 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Vanessa. I am becoming a fan of your videos. I find they are helpful. Sometimes I get anxious about self-help and self-improvement stuff. I appreciate how you make it direct and simple. And I feel confident in myself from your teaching style.

  • @leonthesleepy
    @leonthesleepy 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    what a .... HANDY video
    *i'll leave the room*

  • @bjhurley-shank9579
    @bjhurley-shank9579 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just love this info.❤️ Thank you So... Much!!I am so excited to use several of your techniques, just in my daily life.

  • @kapilbhatt2489
    @kapilbhatt2489 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are brilliant ma'am.. thumbs up to the work that you are doing👍

  • @64Magick
    @64Magick 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "Smiling with your eyes" is sincere.
    "Smiling with your entire face appears like a front or that its forced.

  • @christinasfeir17
    @christinasfeir17 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I usually never finish these kinds of videos and get bored very fast, but this one I finished, so Vanessa, you're great!

  • @niraku321
    @niraku321 8 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    people lose their common sense in these over analysing of the obvious.

  • @andrewmarman9655
    @andrewmarman9655 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Vanessa you are a great find! Your videos are awesome, very helpful, and you're an intelligent lady. Subscribed!

  • @Th0ughtf0rce
    @Th0ughtf0rce 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Somehow I'm reminded of a Seinfeld episode

  • @samfdsd2134
    @samfdsd2134 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    i am hooked after watching and listening to her videos.

  • @DiegoGonzalez-go2qy
    @DiegoGonzalez-go2qy 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    So why does this video only have 72000 views instead of 20 million ? (evil, muhahaha)

    • @mdtaylor67
      @mdtaylor67 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Diego Gonzalez sssshhh don’t tell anyone about it!