Sleep, Anxiety, and Insomnia: How to Sleep Better When You're Anxious
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- It can be hard to fall asleep when you're anxious, and insomnia can make anxiety worse. But you can train your brain to worry less and to sleep better when you're anxious by using the skill of deliberate worry.
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The thing I worry is "will i be able to fall asleep or I'll spend another night sleepless"
Same. Because of quarantine my sleeping sched messed up
Hey man I have the same exact thing I'm diagnosed with an Anxiety disorder and I have the same problem as you do u got a snap?
I have that same thought but I don’t worry about and still can’t sleep good
Do you guys go all night without sleep? For me it started a little over a month ago I had a really stressful day and that night I didn't sleep a bit. A few weeks later after I had an ingrown toenail surgery I went two more sleepless nights. Not back to back but a few days in between. The doctor prescribed me Trazodone and I took it for about two weeks at 100 mg but it stopped working as good and I went another sleepless night. They told me to take 200 mg and on the third day of taking that it almost made me pass out within 30 minutes of taking it. I took 100 mg once more and then stopped cold turkey on the Trazodone. Since then I had a few more sleepless nights. I slept good the last three days getting about 7 hours of sleep but last night was another sleepless night. When I go to bed I get feeling all nervous, jittery, shaky, and when I do that I don't fall asleep. I assume it is due to anxiety and worrying about not falling asleep. I worry will I ever fall asleep again, I worry about that fatal insomnia. I know it doesn't help worrying but it makes it hard not to when I can't fall asleep. Do you guys have similar problems or am I just a nutcase?
David Webb Yeah, every damn I time I think too much if I will asleep in 30 minutes or spend the night ‘till midnight.
I actually had a better sleep in the last 5 days by journaling my worries/thoughts/gratefulness and I came back here not journaling for a day and tonight. Currently at 2:12AM. Slept for a min at 1:20AM then woke up 1:27AM with fucking lights on. I hate it my brother turns the light every goddamn time.
When i try falling asleep, my mind brings up everything ive done wrong and diffrent ways i couldve done certain things and this just goes on for a while until i hear the birds chriping and its morning.
Ify
Try to calm your mind ..
And also think of the ways you could stop doing wrong..
@@science-y9209 that require big brain, not everyone so blessed
Then the panic attacks
@@Jason75913 nope it's not like that..
Honestly speakin' , I'm totally filled with guilt.. maybe cuz I'm not doin great in my studies.. infact for the last 4 months i haven't even studied .. just procastinatin..
But i have dreams ... i don't wanna remain a mere daydreamer. .
I'm in junior high school but this guilt .. doesnt let me do anything..
But believe me .. this procedure of calming your mind and thinkin a way out can do miracle..
And it doesn't require a big brain .. friend..
Since I'm at the driver's seat and completely responsible for my deeds. . my destiny depemds on what i choose to be.. where i choose to place myself ..
You can say "don't panic" to yourself.. and just observe your body .. maybe youcan do meditation and if you're finding it real hard .. then you can take a cold shower.. and do a guided meditation. . Cursing yourself isn't gonna help.. a person has two aspects. ..a good side and an evil one...
But doin this will strengthen your good aspect..and you'll come up with solutions to every problem..
I wanted to share my experience and how I overcame sleep anxiety:
I couldn’t sleep well for more than a year. I either slept 3-4 hours per night or I woke up so many times. I had always woke up feeling restless, tired and having a headache. I was having panic attacks out of nothing every often and tight chest and heart beating fast all days. When it came to bed time, I got soo scared. I was thinking ‘ shite, is it something I would live with forever? Am I going to die soon?’ I tried a lot of stuffs like supplements to relax my body, cutting out coffee and tea, no alcohol, eating healthy, doing exercise everyday, and bed hygiene, etc. And nothing helped. I then realized I did all of those with an expectation that I would sleep well at nights. Because I expected I would sleep well, I felt so frustrated and upset when I couldn’t.
This is what learnt:
I have still continued doing those things above but without any expectations that I would sleep well at night
I started to meditation 🧘♀️- life saver!!
I started journaling where I proceed my thoughts and feelings during the day
I learnt acceptance - if I can’t sleep it is ok. I have prepared a list of things I would do if I can’t sleep -journaling, making a cup of warm tea and reading my favorite books.
I tried to make my brain thinking ‘if I don’t sleep i will have more time to do all the things I like which is great!!’
I tried not check the o’clock but also not to stay in the bed too long if I couldn't fall asleep as then later my brain would associate bed with thinking time
The key is Patience - for me it took months to normalise my sleep so please be patient with yourself. Always remember all the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing now won’t stay forever. They will come and go. Believe me! I can do it and you can do it too! :)
Thank you for your comment!! It helped me to realize some things
@@sheggy_sheggy you are welcome 🤗 everything will be alright ☺️
Hey thnks for your comment am so afraid of not sleeping well specially when everyone is slept and I am one who is not sleeping and struggle for some and I am ok for a while and than again after sometime same thing happens after and after
@@adeshpartapsinghbrar4937 I am sorry for what happened to you. I have experienced that as well. I have had so many negative thoughts but what makes me feel so much better is to know how to separate thoughts and mind. I learnt to tell my mind that thoughts are not accurate and right all the times. I learnt so much more but seeing a therapist and signing up for Headspace (a meditation app-no promotion here)
This is literally me! I’m so grateful to see your comment. Will def try these tips
I read all the comments below and it makes me feel super great to know that I don’t feel that alone. We will get through it together. It may not be easy but believe me, we will survive and fall sleep again. Take care!
this made me smile and cry because i thought i would never be able to sleep normal again but when you said at the end that we can do it, it Makes me feel way better
Hello to you who are reading this message, I want to leave this verse for you ❤️
For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Jeremiah 29:11
May God bless you and your family 🙏
Me too I thought I am alone😢
@@user-qc3cy3cb5yyou are not we are here I feel the same way but glad others are with me thank you all
Me too❤ l thought i am alone
i have insomnia and my anxiety is the worse. I start to look at the clock and see the time pass and i start thinking "everybody is asleep and im not" and the worse when I start to hear birds chirp and light to come up, I go crazy.
same :(
You can't overcome or control something which does not exist. Fear does not exist in real. It's just your imagination of what may happen to you. Don't over think.
I feel you on that. What I fear the most is not being able to sleep for days and that makes me not able to sleep for the whole night, which makes everything worse.
Pleaase me too how to overcome this 😭😭😭
I tell myself all good things in my life. I remember everything i enjoyed in the past and tell myself that this will go away sooner or later. Therapy helps too, im feeling a lot better and my sleep is pretty much fine now. Just know guys you should work for yourselfs. ;))
Does anyone heart goes crazy when they try to sleep ? Like i can hear my heart bumping blood all over my body !! N that shit makes me anxious!
Yes it feels that i cant control my heart my body goes shaky
Currently. So tired I'm falling asleep while commenting this but as soon as I eyes close my heart goes crazy
@@Drew.q same here..
Yep
@@riteshbhujbal5722 I wish you well and I hope you get through this. I had to take off work and drug myself with a benadryl to get sleep today.
I found a perfect way to fall asleep and it has really worked for me. Lie down on your side, whichever side is comfortable for you and consciously relax all your muscles, especially focus on forehead, eyes and jaws. Once you are fully relaxed, tuck in your head slightly my moving your chin closer to your chest. This is a restful posture and helps you to fall asleep easily. Next focus on your breath. Breathe consciously and deeply. As you breathe in, say "in" in your mind and as you breathe out, say "out" in your mind. Keep your full focus and attention on your breath and you will fall asleep in under 2 minutes!! This routine really worked for me and hope it helps other people too...
Omg that works so good I was asleep within seconds
@@luvsarah-roadto420-4 totally duude
When i try it in my head i go "in out in out in and out food place random the amasing world of gumball clip posting this comment realising i will never fall asleep"
Tks for sharing
Ok guys, I’ve been reading through these comments and I feel I gotta share how I overcame this shit. So I had been dealing with depression due to a traumatic event 2.5 years ago. That depression turned to anxiety and that anxiety turned to insomnia. I was having panic attacks over hypothetical situations and just worrying about everything, mainly about what I’ve done wrong in the past and what I should’ve done back then to change that. I got tired of always thinking about that shit so I would constantly just try to push those thoughts out of my mind and try to forget about the situation entirely, since it had been stressing me out like crazy. Out of nowhere, I couldn’t sleep for days so I got fed up and eventually came across this video. A huge thing that I had to realize was that I hadn’t been facing my stress the right way. Even though I was “thinking” about all the stuff that had happened, I wasn’t actually DEALING with it. In a sense I was still running away from my problems and my body was telling me to deal with it through the only way it knew how...insomnia. I wasn’t dealing with my stress during the day, so my body was telling me to deal with it at night. I ended up devoting a time during the day (for me it’s in the shower) to just think about everything that bothers me and to ACCEPT all the bad shit that had happened to me. Throughout these years, I had constantly been praying for peace, and I was finally able to realize that peace is NOT perfection in your life. Peace is your willingness to accept life for all that it truly is: the good AND ESPECIALLY the bad. Once I had accepted that bad things happen and that is OK, I started to do more self care activities like exercising, talking with friends, etc. That night I got in the bed telling myself “I probably won’t fall asleep tonight and that’s OK. Just enjoy life and understand that even though you have gone through so much bullshit in the past, you are STILL HERE”. That night I felt my body get heavy, which actually would have caused me to have a panic attack in the past, but since I had a better outlook on my life, I accepted it and experienced a sense of peace that I had never felt before. I slept a total of 7 hours that night and have been getting a good nights rest ever since.
I was thinking way too much about falling asleep at night, exerting too much effort on thinking and worrying about all sorts of things. I shifted my focus on breathing which calmed me down tremendously. I would suggest shifting your focus on something small that calms you down at night. It could be breathing, a pleasant memory in the past, whatever. Just something other than the shit that stresses you out.
STARDUST just do all you can to keep a positive mindset. I know it will work out in the end!
This is actually a big advice for me I’m still struggling with it some times I worry how I can’t sleep and cried almost every night, then I tried reading, it works for me then it comes again, now I’m researching about it almost every single day worrying abt it and that’s why I came across this vid
DONNA YOUNG u know that I’m still a kid and I can’t buy anything,
My parents are Asian and they are not that easy to be convinced, they’ll just say that I can’t sleep cause of playing too much technology during the day during quarentine
David Johnson IV thank you, for sharing keeping a good mindset is hard to do but at least I know that I’m not a long in having anxiety and that I take medicines but I still worry, and this make me annoyed , but hey remember you’re not alone :) and I feel the way you feel most of the times so knowing that I’m not alone in these situations is good! Keep being strong
I need someone to hug me and sleep
Hug 🤗♥️
I just hug the corner of the blanket..that makes me think im hugging someone and i feel comfortable
Facts if someone hugs me I can sleep knowing I’m safe
Me too! Come here! ✨
You are a boy ,
Right
it always takes me forever to fall asleep, and whenever I wake up my thoughts starts running AUTOMATICALLY. literally. I get never a break from these thoughts.
thoughts such as things I’ve done in the past, how it would’ve ended up if I took a different choice that day, if I ever will wake up after falling asleep, and just painful things. I be thinking non stop all day.
I couldn't Sleep for past 3-4 days. But, this video has acted like a ray of hope in my life. Really thanks for such a beautiful video.
Me finding out that not everyone's brain torture them before sleep: 👁👄👁
same like wtf
Ever since I was young it would always take me at least 2 hours to fall asleep. I’m so jealous of the people that can just close their eyes and they’re already sleeping.
@@Adele5554 2 years ago I would fall asleep before I could even count to 20 but now it takes me an hour or 2. Last night I was up till like 4 when I went to be at 12 lmao
I went to bed at 9 pm and didnt go to sleep until 4 am
@@Adele5554 and I take 79 hrs to :(
Me being anxious but not knowing what I’m anxious about 👁👄👁 why am I like this
Ikr- my brain can come up with a random reason to panic- but cant tell me what the heck it is??
@@salamii_jpg that's normal! Don't think of it as strange or something, it happens to most of us, just find a spot where you are by yourself or (if you wanna be alone) a trusted person, then remind yourself that you aren't gonna be hurt, in danger, and that its a false alarm. Like a fake fire drill in school, if u wanna focus on something else, close your eyes and imagine, 3 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 3 things you can smell, and 3 things you can see, just remember that it'll be okay and that its normal!
Yeah, like I know a main part of it is racing thoughts but half the time I don't think of anything and I just feel it. I feel the chest tightness and heart beating and breathing being faster or harder to do and like that general feeling but no thoughts in my head and it's even worse because there's no thoughts to stop. It's just there.
I can relate
I have ADHD and severe anxiety, so sleeping has always been a huge struggle for me. but the sleep routine is CRUCIAL!!! I found a way to force myself to fall asleep on command and it may be helpful to some of y’all. A long time ago, when I was trying to distract myself from worrying so that I could fall asleep, I started watching history videos. I found that their voices were super calming and I enjoyed learning about it but it was slow paced enough to allow myself to stay calm if I focused on the content and not on my thoughts, and I quickly fell asleep. Over the years I kept doing this, at first, when I started to feel tired, I immediately went to the channel that makes me feel calm and sleepy so that I gave my brain a paired association with those videos and sleep. Now, years later, when I watch that content I am asleep within five minutes. I’m not sure if anyone else does this, but it has worked for me so well, and being that I have ADHD, it’s hard for me to stick to habits but I kind of forced myself to have this one and it really helps. The times I allow myself to keep scrolling or do unproductive ways of distracting myself from anxious thoughts, it takes me way longer to fall asleep. I hope this is helpful for some of you, I just need to start doing it earlier so that I am able to get a full 8 hours. Good luck to everyone on their journey. And thank you to this content creator for putting information like this out there and making it accessible to people like me who can’t afford therapy at the moment ❤
I'm here trying to fall asleep. My anxiety is so bsd right now and I can't stop crying. Life sucks.
exactly how i feel every night dont worry you’re not alone
Fr it's 2am and I've slept only an hour idk wtf to do
I want to sleep like a normal person when I used to sleep without worrying about those corna stuff and other stuff, this anxiety sucks broo
Fear of death is the wrost😭
Turn off the media, and you'll sleep.
When I try to sleep I start questioning the existence of the universe
Just Dont Think About Ghosts If You do Then you will not get sleep
I have been looking threw the comments to see if they are experiencing what im having and I cant sleep cause I saw this video that scared me and made me have a fear of death I can’t get it out of my head as soon as I lay me on the bed my heart started beating and now I can’t sleep rn. At least I now know that it can happen to other people 🥺
AB isGamer me too!
my anxiety literally never stop, i’m always thinking about the things that are wrong and it on repeat throughout the day and night. i cant escape them and ive tried everything
Hey don't worry! Maybe since you believe everything was wrong its stressing you out more, we all make mistakes so take deep breaths,, count to a number, and leave it in the past like it never happened, its okay!
May be u need medicines. Consult a psychiatrist
Welcome to reality. There is no cure. Anxiety is eternal
You can retrain your brain..look into DNRS
@@sheelanair6753 You're kidding right?
Experiencing loss or traumatic experience could affect sleep and it happens to me even though I consciously feel happy but underneath I still have that ongoing anxiety about what the future holds. Watching your videos really helps me to realize I have these mini anxieties around a lot of things that keep me awake at night. I will definitely try to follow your recommendation. Thank you!
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I have been practising the Mindfulness of Breathing technique th-cam.com/users/postUgkxIIDVgnLN8pF_fPOyoZ1nTjbLvvZcib6r as taught in this CD for about 2 years having read about it in Paramananda's Change Your Mind book and taken a real liking to it. However at times I struggle to remain focused on the breathing and thought that at such times this guided version might suit me. So after two years I finally decided to buy it! The first 7'24 of Track 1 of the CD is a body relaxtion which I do not use: I don't like body relaxation techniques and I find 27' just a little too long for meditation. The remaining 20' of gentle, guided meditation helps me tremendously to relax and stay focused. I find him's voice very soothing and whilst he is present to guide you through the 4 stages of the meditation, his presence is not intrusive or distracting. For the past two years I have tried to follow this technique as best I can with gentle meditation music despite music not being recommended. Having used this CD a couple of times I think I will try from now on to adopt a new routine of no music and just this CD as I find it so helpful. I realise now that the music really is distracting and I have enjoyed listening to the ambient sounds around me which I am normally unaware of. I can not comment on the other 2 tracks of Metta or Walking Meditation as I bought the CD solely to help me with the Mindfulness of Breathing and it does just that - very effectively. In my opinion this CD is money very well spent as it will guide you through a thoroughly useful and beneficial meditation technique and I don't think you can put a price on that.
Emma's voice is so soothing, i play her videos to relax and fall asleep.
her breasts are beautiful too
I cried watching this. Someone finally gets it. I’ve been fighting with my head for years and no one gets it. Thank you
in GOD'sgrace i feel u...GOD bless
Pls wish me luck I can't sleep right now.and I been crying about it I hope now you can sleep,and I hate the feeling too
I just had this feeling of sleeplessness last week and I'm so frustrated hoping everything will pass
@@ervinapelado3309 girl same.I feel u.I hope that too for u wish the best and I know it’s so freaking frustrating.
@@tiffanytan467 In GOD'sgrace, hws u ? GOD bless
I was sleeping and then I woke up at 2am to racing thoughts and discomfort in my dream, does anyone get that 😫 it’s the worst feeling ever.
I hate that I just wish you could go to sleep with none of this nonsense all I want to do I sleep comfortable
Same here
This is called a nightmare and we all get it once in a while. It's as if what you experienced in the dream appears to be real. This is quite normal if it happens once in a while. Take care!
Always wake up between 1 and 3 am, have trouble falling asleep at bedtime
Same here
When I told my mom , I can't sleep
I literally can't sleep
and they just got mad at me for not sleeping early .
but
I can't really sleep ?
I want to cry but Im numb
Thats me when i was a kid
having trouble to rest ? feeling restless ? check us out and hope it help❣️
Now , I can sleep for hours , unfortunately my shingles got activate because of my immune system was weak for those days of lack of sleep .
Thank you! Will try this. Watching this at 6:30 am on a Monday after a night of no sleep. Haven't been able to sleep well in months. Will need to call in sick for work again because there is no way I will actually get work done today. Insomnia is affecting my life too much.
Same here but be strong dear we shall overcome
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I wish to share mine and please let me know if it can be solved.... My dad was an alcoholic...so whenever he came home i used to get so scared...my body would shiver and hands and legs would be sweaty and this happened for many years... However he became sober but this reaction used to come whenever I had some stressor or perceived threat.. just a month ago I got the news I have to move out of my house for a job ever since this reaction was coming and this took away my sleep and now when I'm sleeping my mind becomes so hypervigilant and is feeling unsafe . I'm trying to build capacity however it's quite hard...is this solvable...in the long run...also sleeping pills don't seem to work for me... when I go to bed my body wakes up with a stress response like sensations throughout the body and i barely get 1-2 hrs of sleep per night but i lie in the bed all day.. because I feel tired
Keep hanging in there love, I hope you've gotten better
I can’t sleep at night and keep thinking about the stupid things I did years ago and it stresses me. I keep blaming myself.
I blame myself for getting overwhelmed and lost control for no obvious reason.
I am very emotional and cries real easy and fast which embarrasses me.
I know there are people out there like me by looking at the views of these type of videos but I never met any of them.
Same 🥺
Just try to remember things that happened in the past have already happened and you can’t change them now.
Same here💔
same here :(
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Every night I can’t fall asleep because I worried or scared about something.
And I’m watching this to help.
same every night i feel nervous and i don't know why and I'm concious if i can sleep or not
icy hot!! ❄️🔥. also same *sry abt the first part lmao-*
same
Thinking i will never fall asleep
Same
I’m so glad I’m not alone with sleep anxiety
Same here
Me too 😢
Yes ❤️
Me too
i literally cant stop thinking about how i breathe and my heart starts going really fast and then i get this tight feeling in my chest and i end up freaking out and it’s hella mentally exhausting and it’s so hard to sleep ugh
"You need to face your crap during the day" love it!
My anxiety at night is more about thinking about past bad relationships, bad things in my past, embarrassing moments , etc ,
@michael bato If she could, I think she wouldn't be here
Remorse is a kind reminder. Just ask it to bro, calm down
Try to be as forgiving to yourself as you are to others.
@michael bato tryinggg
@@timlouter5061 yes ugh :(
I came upon this video by accident while searching for information on bed risers at 1:00am. Needless to say, I was wide awake and needing to sleep. I am profoundly grateful to have found this video which addressed my sleep/wake issues. Thank you for putting the pieces together for me to finally solve my sleepless nights. I have subscribed and will be looking at your other videos.
I typed out the steps for myself to practice. Here they are. Hope this helps everyone 🙂
Long term fix
Schedule a time each day to address your current worries or stresses
(this tells your brain that you will be taking care of what needs addressing so it can stop triggering thoughts of the worries)
Should only take a few minutes. Don’t do it just before bed
Step 1: Make a list of your current worries - write them down
Step 2: Sort through your worries - highlight the ones that are actionable (as opposed to the hypothetical ones)
Step 3: Create a plan - write down the next smallest actionable step you can take to tackle each highlighted worry. Use verbs. Then set a reminder or the next day when you will do it
Step 4: Acceptance - for the problems that can’t be solved right away, set them aside wholeheartedly. Say to yourself: I can’t do everything at once / I can’t control everything
Step 5: Shifting your focus - shift focus to things that are going well, your successes, what you are grateful for
Quick fix - brain dump: if you’re in bed, worrying - get up and write all your thoughts down then set the paper aside and say out loud: I’m gonna face this tomorrow. Go Back to bed and read, meditate, think of other things
If only there was an actual switch for the brain to stop worrying or thinking😞
Yeah I always think this. Like a switch and a timer you can set for how long you wanna sleep lol
You're not alone on that one, I really wish there was, but seeing this video you can retrain your brain and just knowing that is already helpful.
Hope you're doing well now my frend🙏🙏🙏
Step 1: Make a list
Step 2: Sort through your worries
Step 3: Create a plan
Step 4: Acceptance
Step 5: Shifting your focus
Extra: brain dump
The most important part is to regularly do this before bedtime
Excellent, Angel, thank you, for the summary.
I usually take a dump after waking up
Blazers Goat TEN LOL
Try listen music in my channel. To solve insomnia.
I'm glad I came across this channel. You're doing great job , Emma and I like your soothing presentation style. ❤️
This is one of the best videos I've seen to tackle this issue. Thank you so soooo much!
Who else here have trouble breathing all day everyday because of anxiety? Sometimes you also feel it even you're not anxious.
This is literally happening to me right now ☠️
Yes anxiety makes me hold my breath without even realising it. Try the 4,4,4 breathing technique, breath in for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 4 and breath out slowly for 4. Practicing this will calm your anxiety and focus your attention on the breath
Simply Relax with some calming relax videos
Same and I hate it
Me. It's so uncomfortable and I really hope it's something I can learn to manage one day.
Im scared of silence darkness and loneliness. Thats why i realy need to sleep. And im scared my phone will die, so i overthink and again again i have a competition tommorrow.. wish me luck!
hope it went well :)
This video has helped me more than two years of therapy. This has been a big issue for me for a long time and has contributed to my burnout but your clear explanation and tips has finally given me something constructive. Thank you!
I really appreciate Emma presenting her advice and therapies in a easy to understand and structured program. I take her advice into practice, but my comfort is cuddling my puppy close. She is my security and joy. I highly recommend even cuddling a soft, stuffed puppy will bring on a restful sleep.
Hello to you who are reading this message, I want to leave this verse for you ❤️
For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Jeremiah 29:11
May God bless you and your family 🙏
Im just tired of being anxious all the damn time. Every single day I have a fear that I’ll have a panic attack and make a fool out of myself, I hate it. During the day I’m anxious but busy thank god so it helps me distract myself. But at night, oh man. My chest tightens up, my breathing is shallow, and I feel tense. I feel as if I’m about to have a panic attack but I try my best to distract myself with my phone but it’s hard. I’m tired of living like this. I’m jealous of the people that don’t feel anxious and sleep whenever they feel like it. It’s been almost 3 years, since 2018. I wanna feel good. I just wanna enjoy life.😢
Hug🤗
@@KiwiMike sending my prayers over to you buddy😣🤜🏽🤛🏽
I'm going through the same situation. It's 3AM and I am still awake
ER knows my name
Hello to you who are reading this message, I want to leave this verse for you ❤️
For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Jeremiah 29:11
May God bless you and your family 🙏
*At **9:00*
*Sleeps For 40 Seconds*
Brain: Ok That's all the sleep your getting
Lol more like 5.... at 1:00 in le morning because anxiety, sleep paralysis, paranoia, etc.Like if you agree .-.
Seriously I always sleep for 2-3 hrs only everyday like it just feels Im gonna die early
@@lloydrenzereyes2062 look into The Sleep Academy....devin burke.....his program has solide results ..
I used to be like that, and I was worst cause my eyes will stay open all days, I prayed and I found help in prayers from friends, and a friend of mine told me about a natural stuff...I am not 💯 perfect yet, but I can not complain anymore
Try listen music in my channel. To solve insomnia.
So so good! Thank you! No guilt or shame, only solutions and simple changes.
My therapist told me to do just this. Your videos and therapy is helping me a lot thanks for such a good work❤️
Me go to bed in 8 pm:
Also me in bed still awake at 1 am:
Ughhhhhh im so tired why cant i sleep mg heart is beating so fast and im shaking
How do you feel now?
@@emilyromero3337 omg exactly what i'm having now. 😪 the moment I fall to sleep my breath stop and I'm awake.
I do feel exactly like you...it started years back when I would usually wake up at 10 and then stay awake till 3...I don't know why..it seems to have started...no matter how much I try...I get up often ..the maximum sleep I get is 1 and half hour and after that it's like interval..I wake up with my heart beating so fast..and sometimes feet numb..
same my heart beat is so fast too that i cant sleep
@@emilyromero3337 yes it’s happening to me right now I woke up because I was breathing too slow it felt like I stopped breathing 😭😔
Who else has been staying up all week cuz they can’t sleep
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I sometimes go 73vhours without sleep
Dark Anarchy same sometimes I go even more than that
Me
It's very hard
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Just what I needed to hear! I had started recording soothing sounds to help but focussing on relieving anxiety is just what I needed! Thank you!
OMG THANK YOU. I feel like this video was made specifically for me. I can’t wait to try all these things. I’m literally watching this while doing the dishes and realizing I am totally one of those perpetually distracted people! And I never sort out my worries during any part of the day. I’m starting a worry journal TODAY.
Who’s watching late at night and need to wake up tommorow
I have online school in 3 hours and i can't sleep
Meeh I’m 10 it 11 or 12. And watching his
It's 4;30, I'm trying to sleep from 10. I just want to make a working schedule but my morning schedule is turning into sleep, sleep, sleep then wake up at 1 pm...
Me, and it is 6AM already.
@@brhh I wake up at 5PM 😐
You are such an elegant and graceful sweet soul. You are so dearly appreciated. 💝
Try listen music in my channel. To solve insomnia.
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Thank you
2:53 am and I'm awake as usual. Some of the best advice I've had over the past decade. Thank you.
I'm watching this at 330am because I randomly woke up thinking about things that were worrying me. Thanks for the great content, you've got a soothing voice too.
I don't know if anyone has this but when I'm falling asleep I start getting scared. My brain starts thinking of scary things and every few seconds I have to open my eyes because I'm scared something will get me...?? if anyone else has this please help!! thank you
This happens to me aswell, if I try to think about something like a dog to get rid of it, my mind will just make it scary. Don’t know how to fix it, but I’ve been trying to listen to music, or history videos on youtube to get my mind focused on something else.
same
When I try to sleep I start having mind chatter stressful racing thoughts and panic attack worrying and I will stay awake till morning
I’m the same way! What usually helps me is falling asleep to relaxing music or podcasts. Another thing you can try is telling yourself “I’m safe”, closing your eyes for as long as you can, and reminding yourself that you’ve made it through all of these nights and you’re still alive and okay :)Best of luck 💕
Very relatable
At night I just feel anxious, tired, lonely and sad all in one. At this point I've kinda lost hope because I feel like nobody really understands what I'm going through even tho they say they do, and I'm too scared to go to a therapist so I'm lost at this point.
edit: so I've realized from another comment that I really just have a fear of being alone and being on the internet helps me feel better, I don't think depending on my phone is healthy though.
I know it’s none of my business but I do think you should go to a therapist. It’s okay to be scared, and I hope you get better soon✋💕✨
@@mariaibrahim463 Tyy, I'm trying to find a good therapist now I'm still scared but It's worth trying❤️
Same
mood rn
I found exercising helps a lot. Also one of the doctors I was seeing told me that i had to change my entire life style to feel better. Which I did and saw some improvement. Not easy though.
You are the best. I play some of your classic vids on here to feel gratitude in abundance and really gets me into sleep in like 5-10 min just by playing it in my phone while trying to relax. Thanks so much!
This video is so helpful. Only after listening to what she suggest, already feeling lots more calm and peaceful.
I felt the worries are able to mange or just accept. I just wrote down all my worries on the phone, and I am going to turn it off now and tell myself "Everything will be fine. There is nothing I could do right now right before going to bed. I am gonna face this tomorrow. " I hope everyone watched this have a good sleep too.
Im just worried that everyone will go to sleep before i can and i'll be lonley :(
litterly ;(
• T e e n i e • you have to except the difference between being lonely and being alone. You are worrying too much about what others are doing or thinking about you. We all will be alone at times. This is good. Being alone is time to develop skills such as drawing,creating, meditation or listening to calm music. Start loving you. You are tremendously valuable with or without others.
Your not the only one, this is exactly why I can’t sleep at sleepovers. Let alone in my own room
I feel exactly the Same
Bruh iipinkish im having the same problem i dont want ppl to sleep before me cause me lonely lo
Does anyone else feel their body and eyes getting really weary and heavy but there’s just something that doesn’t let you sleep? And even the slightest sound is enough to wake you up
Me rn
Us
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This is so insightful. Never thought it this way. And that actually happens.
What a beautiful, soft, soothing voice! It's relaxing just hearing this lady!
Ever since my mom and I caught covid, I started having trouble falling asleep. Most nights, I would find myself staring at the dark ceiling and then suddenly sitting up, desperately trying to breathe. When I was being treated for covid, I had occasional shortness of breath and would often stop breathing despite consciousness. I stopped sleeping during nights since I was afraid I would stop breathing in my sleep. After recovering from covid, I now have to battle with anxiety and fear of losing my loved ones. I would get intense panic attacks that wouldn't let me sleep and breathe. I just hate it when night comes, I just want to go back to the strong-minded me who never lets anxiety get better of me. I want to be able to sleep normally again, especially since my classes are gonna be starting soon. :(
Try listen music in my channel. To solve insomnia.
Reading a good story before bed helps me to relax...
Deep sleep music th-cam.com/video/rfrfREqQHgY/w-d-xo.html
I don’t have any advice for you but I’m almost in the same boat as you. I tested negative for COVID but I’ve been having migraine symptoms along with insomnia, I hope it gets better before school starts. I hope you’re doing better by the way!!
Follow the dip diet
This video is amazing and very helpful. But I have to say that reading these comments has been more beneficial for me than this video. Seeing that other people are experiencing anxiety for no reason before bed and not being able to sleep because they are scared that they wont get enough rest that night actually puts me at ease. It's a pretty common issue and it does resolve.
Always a reason
The thing about depression and anxiety is that the harder you try to improve the worse it gets.
Great video. Loving your videos, you explain everything so clearly. I learn so much everytime!
I was about to sleep but I feared that I would not wake up the next day In the dark I become paranoid and I can’t sleep
Zur Apa same omg I think I might die or a robber would enter my house etc... it’s so annoying because I sleep around 4am like now it’s 3am, and wake up at 2pm I missed breakfast for month and miss a lot of events
I endured with insomnia for more than two years and considered there was no cure for my situation. Not until a psychological behavioral therapist offered this specific method *4InsomniaCure. Com* It really helped me find out more about sleep. I`m at this point sleeping perfectly again each night. I absolutely love sleeping in the bed again.. .
I feel you bro
I start getting scared and ill open my eyes every few seconds cuz I'm scared there's something there or whatever. idk where this is coming from like past trauma? idk I'm just tired 😭
@@ramzeisqueen2974 Fr I can’t fall to sleep right now it’s 4:23 am for me I just get stressed a lot
Glad I’m not alone at least! Thanks comment section - sending out positive vibes to you all.
one of the ways I calm myself from anxiety and panic attacks because I get them so often it’s annoying and scary but I basically lay down or if I’m out I sit down and shake my leg or foot I’ve done this my whole life and it helps me a lot if I focus on my food and it’s movement my mind is distracted from the negative thoughts and the anxiety when it comes from nothing. it helps me tire myself out and keeps me calm.
I want everyone reading this to know they are strong and it is okay to not be okay. May you heal in time, spreading love throughout the universe.
I keep making scary problems in my head over and over again at night
Think about something u like doing or u having superpowers doing whatever u want like becoming invisible, it just distracts the brain with loads of thoughts
How are you now?? Help, I thought I'm just the only one like this
I thought it was just me
same. like me having to lose the eye i got stabbed in wit a pencil or something seriously wrong wit my ear even tho da doctors cant see ANYTHING it HURTS or me dying in my sleep and cant finish my anime. also anyone else abt to fall asleep and u get that jerk in ur body that make it feel like u abt to fall but u laying flat? that happens to me ALL the time. lol sorry for typing to much. have a nice night for whoever reads this comment while watching this vid. be safe! 💙
Anxiety hits me hard on the night before finals. And it makes sense now, I'm busy though out the day and I'm getting bombarded with worries at night.
Just say like a Mantra over and over, I am calm ,I am strong ,I am safe , and then add Relax , this will tell your mind to relax, must repeat it, it’s one technique that interrupts the worrying , no need to write you worries,no sorting ,that extends the problem.
The only person to give a clarity on why I'm not able to sleep so thanks for that
Me at 3 am trying to sleep
My brain: no it’s time to let your heart beat as if you’re running for your dear life
It's not funny at all, but this has been me so many times when I least expect it! My insomnia started when I was 19, and no doctors had ever seen someone so young go for 3-4 days with no sleep, then sleep 3-4 hours, and start the cycle all over again. I am finally healing my brain and my body, and I finally have hope. I do now that our bodies are truly designed to heal, but I have been running from the multiple life traumas for far too long now. I am ready to make this happen. :)
@@friendtostfrancis That is amazing! I’m proud of you! I was not making fun of anyone because I’m struggling as most of people on this comment section!
When i try falling asleep, my mind always brings up my family's deaths or any worse case as possible. It keeps me awake at night because i dont want to loose them. And sometimes i feel like someones watching me but theres none.. it creeps me out and keeps me awake. And i dont know what to do. Axienity doesnt help at all. Tho deppression doesnt too. I might not show it, thats all i have to say..
im passing through the same too, nobody knows and my mom says i cant sleep because i do nothing during the day, the thing is, no matter what i do, anxiety and creep thoughts always hits me. I hope you get better soon :)
HeartBreak Weather you need to pray to Lord Jesus to cure your problem
@@21pilotos thank you ;w; i hope you are getting better too
Last night i was struggling im so grateful this helped me fall asleep
Thank you! It really hits home for me! And your voice is so soothing!
I get sleep anxiety i have a fear of dieing in my sleep ..not one day does it not cross my mind. How do i get over this . it disrupts my sleeping pattern and daily schedule .
Stop thinking about death !
You will die in sleep only if you are having some disease that will kill u in sleep
If You are ok no need to care abt
I feel the same way I feel like im going to fall when im about to sleep and my body become alert
Listen to your breathe, and focus so you won't think of anything
I feel the exact same. And people just tell me “stop thinking about death and you’ll be fine” but its easier said than done
I’m having the same thing too! I always ask people for advice and they just say “ close your eyes “ :/
Some nights when i lay in bed, i keep thinking about when the time comes and my parents pass away, how am i going to ever handle that and live normal afterwards, i end up escaping to TH-cam to forget these thoughts, at least for the night.
Shit when your parents decide it's their time, you never really feel better about it.. you just get used to it
sameee, it’s so annoying, i honestly thought i was the only one who experienced this
I’m having the same exact thoughts daily my mom has dementia so I’m always worried that I’m running outta time with her it’s very heartbreaking. But it’s only so much your mind can take just gotta take it day by day and practice breathing exercises to help
Shift your thoughts 🙏🏾❤️
this helped me a lot thank you so much i was not able to sleep alone because i kept worrying and these days i remove some time to think about all the worries and make a timetable for the whole day. now i sleep well all night long thanks to you for giving me a solution
I like the "wins" for the day. We forget those and pile on too much negative.
Last night I kept worrying about school and I was up all night and I can’t sleep
While me worrying abt my driving classes for tomorrow..i feel so pressure when my driving teacher always saying like i couldn't make it..im feeling so down😭😭😭
I did the “brain dump” intuitively a couple times and it really helps! One time it took me 2 whole hours to write down all of my worries, but after that I was sleeping like a baby. Also helps to highlight main points and solutions after, makes me calm knowing that those won’t go anywhere tomorrow and I can start from the highlights in the morning.
what is brain dump. like what do i even write down?
@@sdawg573 write down all of your thoughts. Whatever comes to mind until nothing comes to mind anymore
@@soulstylista then I'll never sleep 😂
@@sdawg573 trust me, you will. Also you can highlight the most important thoughts after. This way your brain is relaxed knowing the thoughts are on paper, you won't forget them and can come back to them tomorrow
this
Thank you so much for putting this video out. I will try my best to do this.
Sometimes , i just wish that my brain had an off button. During the day, i encourage myself to be brave, to not worry and I'll fall asleep. Then night comes, and especially when bed time comes, i feel my anxiety rising and i pretty much cry myself to sleep each and every night...
same😢
@@killuazoldyck4344 but isn't reading the comment section, somewhat a relief for you? It is really the worst feeling to be awake when everyone you know ii sleeping that time. But when i realised that there were so many people like me out there, i don't feel THAT alone anymore. Even some recovery stories are keeping me optimistic. What about you?
me too
i m 19 and now in my free time
same thought came in my mind
i hope we all pass through this stage
and may god help us
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I had a nocturnal panic attacks at night out of nowhere, since that day I couldn't sleep well. I would wake up too early and my anxiety would just makes things worse. But watching this video gives me hope. I'll try my best ❤️❤️❤️
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hey how are you same is happening with me plzz tell me the solution
Me trying to sleep
Brain: Oh no we don’t do that here get on that phone right now
So many of us deal with worried based insomnia! Good tips on sleep routine.
This better work because I haven’t slept for almost 3 days. I feel so tired, frustrated, and sad-I just want to sleep
5am waking up all the sudden because throughout the day I’ve been worrying about work tasks which I must face on coming Monday. Just like you said because I consistently thinking and worrying about it, and while I do not have an action to solve that concern so my brain just train it self to also worrying the problem during my sleep, which gives me poor sleeping quality, and worsen my health. I am only 38 and I have gain more grey hair more than my 70 year old father, due to this years of continuous worrying habit. My client the one that gave me the work pressure also say to me “you need to relax, you have a family”, but I simply can’t. Now laying on my bed, unable to stop my brain from triggering the work problem, I decided I must do something to shift my concentration so I came across your video. I watch the entire clip, processing each and every word you said, and all the sudden it occurs to me that you’re right. The problem I have with work isn’t happening started today but for few weeks now. I was able to sleep throughout other night is because I did something about the problem before I sleep during those nights, but that same action which I did for all other night isn’t performing today because it’s weekend and I know have no way of doing that until Monday. While I was unable to end the tasks I am facing, this is why my brain constantly thinking about it, and sadly during my sleep too. Therefore, with the help from your advice, Instead of looping my brain back to the problem, I decided to write this long comment about my problem, and placed a solution in my mind that the problem I have can be solve on Monday so stop worrying about it. And zzzzzz........
You have restored my faith in human beings Emma. Thanks for all your videos. You are the best counsellor I have ever connected with even just through your videos. You have kept me sober ever since I met you and your videos a few days ago. My anxiety panic and depression have gone down 10 fold since watching your videos. I feel hope again, so thank you very much Emma.
This was so helpful. I was able to fall asleep shortly after watching this and I feel lighter.
Thank you for the tips! I will apply them to my habits. I love the writing down part
When i'm about to sleep my mind always think creepy things that i know and it scares me enough to not sleep since its gonna give me a nightmare
Edit: Guys This Never Happens Anymore :D i just fight through it and i sleep and dont think about it and i end up sleeping.
same :(
Try focus on the things u want to happen in life and make up fantasys about ur dreams it might work
same
Im scared lol of darked
Same!!
So timeless and yes, there’s no quick fix...I’ve had to change a lot of my behavior, implement new routines and be very conscious of several items to get over my insomnia. Journaling and a consistent routine have helped me a lot. I also love listening to something calming before bed to distract me from my own thoughts and talk me to sleep. So much that I’ve started my own podcast to help others feeling similarly. Listening to my own voice won’t work for me but I now got my list of podcasts that I love listening to when getting ready to sleep.
What is the name of your podcast
I have been resting badly for over Ten years, at a time not of my choosing. Within a week of having this sleep plan *4InsomniaCure. Com* I had been resting Eight hours on schedule a night every night. I am sleeping very well that I haven`t even finished the plan. My insomnia is eventually gone due to this program.?
I watched this video months ago and did all the recommended steps, it had helped me fall asleep without worrying. Now facing the same issue, I’ll do it all over again. Hopefully it won’t take too many days (I forgot how long it took last time😂)
Thank you so much!
OMG Emma, Thanks!, this is brilliant. I've never thought of this angle. It makes so much sense to set time aside in the day to worry purposely.
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You have the most relaxing and peaceful voice and I want to thank you for making this video and shedding insight on why this happens and what we can do to manage it. I've been a long time insomnia sufferer due to anxiety and it's always the constant worrying that keeps me up at night. Who knew it might help to worry during the day?! Amazing. Thank you for putting this out there, it makes me (and others I'm sure) feel not so alone! ❤️
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I am really thankful for the existence of this channel. Had severe anxiety attacks for two weeks, but now I am able to manage and reduce it. But I am still having trouble sleeping, I took notes of this video and will try to use the knowledge now. I love her method because it feels like she encourages us to try to make peace with ourself. Please continue your amazing work, I believe your work helps a lot of people struggling with their life.
I fall asleep at 10pm just to wake up 3 or 4 hours later to pee and then my brain starts thinking of endless worries and things I have to get done. Before I know it I’m wide awake staring at the time and how the hours go by. It’s been like this for a week now and I don’t know why? I used to go back to sleep so comfortable for the whole night and now I can’t 😔 I feel so drained throughout the day now.
Thank you for this video ❤️🙏