Get a protective/restraining order against your step mother because I can guarantee this won't be the end of it. Wouldn't be surpised if Willow is kidnapped in future
I don’t know how the laws are in Italy but OP should inform anyone who looks after Willow not to discuss her with her father nor Tammy and definitely don’t give her to them. This goes for day care, schools, etc.
This! ALL of this! OP needs to make sure that ANYONE who cares for Willow knows the situation and definitely get a protective order. The step mother and ops father (for supporting his wife's ridiculous idea) are creepy AF and I wouldn't put it past step monster dearest to attempt to kidnap Willow.
@@normajoewhat’s the scariest thing after a nuclear devices? An Italian dad with a shovel, gun, and a threatened family. Lol My dad made that joke when he was doing yard work one day. Have to say, it caught everyone off guard.
Story 3: Harold is giving me super creepy vibes. As if he was wishing to have a relationship with OP and since he cannot because he is too old for her, he keeps insulting her and making jokes at her expense. Am I the only one who had this feeling? And how old was she again when they first met? Yuck!
oh you very much aren't alone in thinking that. it was his constantly asking if OP still liked him that clues me into thinking that he wants her. that and he got upset when she said that she didn't. you don't insult and belittle someone like that and care if they like you, unless you are being mean to them like that because you want them and know they don't want you and you want them to be hurt like you are hurting.
I thought the same thing. When he was telling her at 19 that she was a baby, it was almost like he was goading her into "proving" she was an "adult", I guess. The ick started there. He seems pretty fixated on her but knows he's too old for her and that she doesn't like him. It's gross. I wouldn't be surprised if OPs Dad's girlfriend is much younger than her Dad and he doesn't see this as anything more than "teasing".
If my friend openly insulted my daughter any time he was around, he would no longer be my friend. There's no way the dad didn't notice because he was so open about it. He obviously chose his a**hole friend over his daughter and grandchild
I'm 100% certain the dad is in the closet and is in love with Harold, which is the only way I can explain why he sides with Harold and not his own flesh and blood family.
Story 1: "Prove herself"? He already failed as a father, and now he is demanding OP to give them a chance? Bro, you lost your rights as a father ever since you left your wife and OP for another woman. So no, OP is NOT going to give you a chance, not now, not EVER. You have no right to demand for anything, especially after what you did. Stand your ground OP.
Can you believe the audacity of that woman in the first story? Just casually announcing to her step-daughter that she wants split custody of the baby and she already has a nursery ready? How delusional is she?
@@ivorynk752 I guess insanity would be a better word. You would have to be insane to expect split custody with your step daughter's (who doesn't like you) child. She's lucky she even got to visit.
Story 3; yall realized that he made jokes about her being a kid/baby because he wanted her when she was a kid? That guy seriously gives off pedo vibes.
Yeah i was starting to think something along those lines. what the fuck did harold do to op. The father siding with harold too just made me more sick because if he dosent care about that he litterally wouldnt care if harold raped op. Shit gave me spiders in my spine
She does say in the update that she never got that vibe, and tries to shut that line of thinking down but I really can't understand his behavior otherwise. I had a very concerning "friend" who was much older than me when I was like 8 or 9. Long story short, he was told off about me by an ex who threatened to expose him. After that, his behavior was very similar to this guy. Seems like someone very conflicted about their urges and taking it out on OP.
@@hotarubinariko Oh, I get it. Like, his jokes about her being immature and a kid and a brat are his way of trying to convince himself that she's way too young for him. (Or the opposite route: trying to goad OP into "proving" to him how adult she is and making it "ok" for him to make a move.)
The dad in the third story isn't just on the path to not having a relationship with his grandchild, he's practically sprinting down the path. Hopefully, he's able to come to his senses before his daughter does.
@@fdm2155 The third story is about Harold The Jackass being a dick to OP her whole adult life, not Tammy Baby-Grabby Stepmom who needs to “prove herself” as a mother to someone else’s baby.
@@kranberry3318 Oh, they are BOTH part of the problem. If either of them was sane, they'd never have concocted or gone along with such a ridiculous plan. Again, dad likely has no interest in OP or her kid. However, he went along with Tammy's insanity. So they are both terrible.
First Story: Tammy is insane if she thinks OP would just give her baby to her. This reminds me of a story Rslash covered where OP's bestfriend got caught breastfeeding OP's baby behind OP's back and she kept calling the baby "ours". Granted this story isn’t as insane as that one but still, the fact Tammy and OP's dad flew from one country to another to ask for split custody of OP's kid is insane Second Story: Its crazy how OP and his brother basically swapped gfs, it sucks it took Turk and Jen being a cheater for that to happen. Its ironic how Turk ended up getting cheated on by Jen and she ran off with the other guy Brother's Post: Lmao he "accidentally" got his parents uninvited" from a wedding 😂 Third Story: Harold is straight up an asshole and OP's dad is a jackass for letting his friend constantly and blatantly disrespect his own daughter TO HER FACE. The fact that OP's dad called OP to basically argue over this "small fight" speaks volumes of who side he is on and its not OP's Fourth Story: OP's sister sounds like a nightmare to be around. It's crazy how their parents are giving the sister funds for a wedding when she isn’t even engaged; this makes me wonder: where is that money even going? Fifth Story: The level of entitlement is wild. It isn’t petty at all, OP and her husband PAYS for that parking spot; so if this lady thinks she can park their whenever she feels like it OP is well within her rights to get it towed. Good on the son for taking OP's side in this situation Sixth Story: Hmmmm I wonder why they got kicked out of their last home. Hmmmmmmm 🤔. Sarcasm aside, OP's mom and aunt are going to end up homeless if they keep up this behavior up
That last one is a prime example of why I wouldn't let either of my parents move in for any reason. Screw that. My mom runs her mouth usually ending up in my wife crying after we leave, and my dad has zero boundaries. They're divorced almost 40 years now, and that doesn't even scratch the surface of why.
@@undrhil plus it sounds like she wants to play with a baby and not parent a child. Most areas there is a waiting list to adopt a baby because that’s all people seem to want to adopt. And there are background checks and other matters Tammy and OPs dad would need to pass. They may have also interviewed OP as well. Keep in mind I have the US mindset and the rules may be different in England
The brother story: the brothers pov was he told his mom he wasn’t invited and she took it upon herself to threaten to not go. It’s not what he wanted. He tried contacting his brother convince him to let his mom go. He knew he f’d up… though the entitlement does come through. The accident was telling his mom he wasn’t going
@@stephanetheard3081 Nope, what he mentioned about that is that they met like it was love at first sight because their personalities were similar, snuck out and they were found out by Arthur (The OP of the second story here) and Maria and they broke up with them to start officially dating. This is all from Turk's perspective because we already know Arthur's POV of that whole scene and even without Arthur posting his side of the story, people already spotted the red flags of Turk's story.
Story 4: so screw the fact that this is your first wedding, your sisters imaginary engagement is more important because, she had a temper tantrum. Your parents want to let your sister control them and take their money that's their business, but the least they can do is not pretend you're stupid. she's the favorite and she threw a tantrum that's why they're pulling their money out of your wedding to save for the one she's not having.
I wouldn't want to pay for such an awful person's wedding either. That chick left her husband with her child for a woman and pretended it's because she "realized" that she's a lesbian, and then she plays the victim saying her ex "ran for the hills" when she's the one who left him for a woman and then moved to another country with their child. You don't marry someone and have a kid with them and then "realize" that you're actually gay and not into men. She was probably cheating on him with a woman and decided she'd rather be with her than him.
@@Dog_in_tree that doesn't matter. they aren't just paying for her wedding, they are paying for their child's wedding. you snub the in-law like that, you snub your kid worse. they just told their child that they don't even consider her worthy of a wedding or support.
Story 1: tell the deadbeat that anyone willing to be with man that abandoned their child without a second thought clearly isn't fit to be a parent. Especially when they actually believe they have a right to take someone else's child.
*For anyone wanting to read the entire update in Story 3* "Hey guys! I wasn't going to write an update, but I just got some free time and I figured I'd fill you in. I'll start by addressing the (very frequent) assumption that Harold has feelings for me. I really don't think that's the case. His comments always came out as annoying and condescending, but never sexual. But I will say that your comments scared the shit out of me. And the fact that the general consensus was "fuck Harold" was weirdly heartwarming. I also want to add that, while I did regret what I said a little bit, I never doubted I'd done the right thing. I think most of my regret came from the fact that my eight years of keeping the peace were over. It took some time for the relief to sink in. Truth be told, I've been wanting to do this since the barbecue incident, which was when I went from "I don't like that guy" to "I can't stand that guy." My father called Harold the day after I made my previous post. When confronted about the adoption comment, he tried to twist it as him being "genuinely concerned" about me being a mom so soon, and that he didn't think I knew what I was doing. He did apologize to my father. I don't buy any of that. The next day, my dad told me about the call. He said I should forgive Harold for what he thought was an honest misunderstanding. He also told me I should apologize too, since I'd "overreacted" by telling Harold I hated him for such a small reason. Many of Harold's past comments were made with my father close by. It often happened in the middle of conversations with other people, so he'd be too distracted to register them. He also wouldn't notice them most of the time. My dad doesn't pay enough attention to anything that doesn't either concern or anger him, and he'll most likely forget it until he gets angry at something else later anyway. He's like a meth head goldfish. We also have different definitions of what's offensive, so he'd never think they were a big deal. I told my father I wasn't exaggerating when I said I hated Harold, and that the adoption comment was far from being the only reason. I listed most of the condescending treatment and comments I could remember, including the ones from the party. He didn't remember any of them. I made it very clear that I'd hated Harold for years prior to the party, and that I had nothing to apologize for. I then stated that I'm no longer coming to any events Harold is invited to. My father doesn't need to stop being friends with him, or even stop inviting him to stuff, but he can no longer expect me to show up as well. I will ask him beforehand, and if he lies, I'll leave. My father called me dramatic, but I pointed out that I've been avoiding Harold for six years now and no one even noticed, so it clearly wasn't a problem. I've only seen him a handful of times since the barbecue incident, and only twice for more than a few minutes (the lunch party last week and another party back when I was pregnant). It clearly didn't ruin my father's life. I'm not obliged to like his friends any more than he is to like mine. There was some back and forth, but he agreed to my terms. We spoke yesterday about something else, and he mentioned Harold was upset. I ignored that. I'm not going NC with my father. Yes, I'm very well aware he's an asshole, and I came really close to cutting times with him in the last few years, but I ultimately decided it wouldn't really fix anything. Maintaining my relationship with him has gotten a lot easier since I moved out, as we only see each other a couple times a month. He gets frustrated that I don't call or text much, but doesn't complain about it anymore. I don't see the point in going NC with someone who no longer has any say in how I live my life. I'd rather just take note of what my father did wrong when I was growing up and then make sure to raise my own kid differently. He's on thin ice, though, and has been for some time. He's not allowed to babysit, mostly because I don't trust him to spend more than an hour alone with a baby without falling asleep on the couch. I began pushing for him to start doing therapy back when I got pregnant, and he finally got started back in June. His behavior around me and my younger sister (who still lives between our very divorced parents) has improved a lot since, and I've made it clear to him that he won't be allowed near my son if he stops attending. This is the first time in my life my father has improved his behavior. It's hard to be hopeful, but I'm trying. And if I ever do go NC with my father, it won't be because of fucking Harold. So that's it. Overall, I'm glad I don't have to deceive anyone anymore. My relationship with my father is rocky, but I won't dwell on it. My main responsibilities are my son, my fiancé and my job, and that's not changing anytime soon. And to those who mentioned Jesus Christ Superstar and Blue Öyster Cult in my last post: has anyone told you you're fucking awesome today? Because you are."
Story 3: Geez, this man is insufferable. Condescending jokes, disrespecting boundaries, treating OP like a child. Why is the dad siding with Harold anyway? Like if my friend was making terrible jokes and insulting a relative of mine, they'd no longer be my friend and I'd be immediately kicking them out
@@CloudyNight2156 Have to say that's EXACTLY what I thought. Why else would he allow this 'friend' to be so rude and obnoxious to his daughter for YEARS? Why else defend his indefensible behavior?
W fiancé though, we didn't really get to hear about his interactions with Harold, but he was proud of his wife for being awesome and told her as much, which is good.
My mother had a female best friend exactly like Harold, it was absolutely insufferable with both of them around - but other than that OP, I moved out at age 19 and have cut contact with both of them entirely and am still going strong without contact 20 years later
OP has a lot more self-control and integrity than I do. If I were in her shoes, I would have told this a**hole that I hated him THE FIRST TIME, relationship with my dad be damned, because this douchebag 100% deserves to be hated. Harold is an absolute sack of crap and the only reason I can think of for why the dad would defend and stick up for him is that the dad is secretly gay and has feelings for Harold, which is honestly just AWFUL, putting your crush on someone else ahead of your own daughter's feelings. My response to "I really like you even though you're an impolite brat" would have been "That's fine. I like you too even though you're a condescending judgmental bully." Harold and OP's dad are both MEGA toxic and they can both go to hell. Oh, and Harold is also giving me creepy pedo vibes, which adds another layer of YUCK to this whole story. Harold is already a terrible person, but if he's been perving on OP this whole time and putting her down because he can't get with her, that makes him utterly DISGUSTING.
Last story: who cares if they're crying, I hate when parents do that. You invite them and then they act like since they're older they can do whatever tell your house even though they're not paying anything. Enjoy your new cute tree.
Story 3: you should can't your dad off, no decent parents would let their friend insult their daughter the way he does, and to actually agree with him tells me that your dad already discuss the things with him. So fine, let your dad have his toxic boyfriend, he clearly cares more about the love of his life than his own child or grandchild.
I can see this as the beginning of a horror movie. As a parent who wouldn't want to live in a horror movie, restraining order, block, move. No joke. This woman sounds mentally unsafe
Story 2: I love it because I've heard both stories but I'd actually heard the brother's story (AITA for accidentally getting my parents uninvited) first. Then OP in story 2 posts his story and is like "well, my brother posted his story but let me tell you how it really is..."
it wouldn't have gone that far for me. the second my things started going missing they'd be out. i don't care if you are my mother, you don't steal from family and no fucking way am i letting someone who isn't family stay in my house, especially if they steal from me. also, i think that OP could have evoked treelaw and would have if those bitches didn't buy them a new tree.
@@abiean222 Exactly!!! Like the “this has gone too far and I’m stopping you now” shouldn’t have come this far in. The *very first time* they fuck with your shit like throwing away things _you own_ that _you paid for,_ that is first and final warning. Make it clear it will not be tolerated. You will pay to replace what you stole. If it happens again, you’re *out.* If it happens again, follow through. No hesitation. The ultimatum should have come in a whole lot sooner.
Story 2: well I'll give Turk this much, every had to delete the posts that probably means he didn't lie to you about what happened. You know it's always the worst people that believes not being in someone's life is a punishment, then they get so upset when they realize no one is going to miss them. Have a happy wedding OP, especially now that the trash took itself out.
Story 1 : Tammy is utterly insane. Op needs to get everything close to the kitchen sink and tell everyone who needs it to not give Tammy or the sperm donor any info at all.. Story 2 : The scapegoat / lighting rod of the family finally gets his moment To tell his egg donor to go suck a muffler .. The post was screenssaved from Turk side and he got absolutely smashed by reedit. . Story 3 : op dad is unbelievably guilty even more then harold is because he allowed that jerk to pretty much say whatever disgusting thing he wants to his own daughter.. I can't imagine anyone disrespecting my daughter like that ever or they'll get a size 14 boot up their backside.. Story 4 : Good on op to disinvite all the a holes from the wedding ..now time to go NC with the "parents" who clearly have a favorite.. Story 5 : LOL " I am just gonna take that spot" well ok then I am just gonna Tow your car from the spot.. Update : lol even when her own son pretty much told her " Buzz off lady" .. Story 6 : Easy solution change the locks and dont let them back in..
Story 2 : And yet, even with Turk deleting his post, it was reposted on r/AmITheDevil and the bot even copied and pasted the story, which means the story is on the internet forever.
Story 5: well since she's trespassing on your property it only makes sense to call a tow truck. Her own son even thinks you should do it, if that's not a sign that you are not wrong I don't know what is.
Second story, everything about that screams 'Turk is the golden child'. That aside, good OP and Maria found actual happiness while Turk got bit by 'marry/date the mistress and a position opens up' . Also, I think everyone would be happy to know that someone got a snapshot of Turk's post before he deleted it and put it on the internet archives meaning you get to see him whining and playing the big victim card for a few paragraphs. It's pathetic.
"The age gap is unhealthy for a child to grow up with" And she would know how? She's not a child of an age gap relationship. And you know freaking what? I benefited from having an older father. It was a second family for both of my parents (adult/nearing adult children) and I learned skills from him, such as critical thinking skills, scientific theory, and good social and language skills, I otherwise wouldn't have and that was BEFORE we started schooling. Tammy can DIAF.
The way I audibly gasped about that magnolia tree. I know firsthand how espensive trees can be, I usually buy saplings to avoid the costs, even then they're £30-£60. Even just a 3ft olive cost me £45. A 6 ft magnolia cut at the base is more than intentional, and wouldve had them out instantly.
Anyone else think Harold has a thing for OP? Like maybe he’s using “oh you’re so young” as a cover for it, to act like he only sees her as a child, but he’s actually been perving on her this whole time? And the insults are just him negging her, because he thinks he can wear her down or something?
Yeah OP in the first story needs to legally protect herself, there’s no way this ends nicely because I’ve no doubt Tammy will attempt to kidnap her baby.
Dude, the brother's story is a doozy with how entitled he is. Basically, he waives away the cheating by saying while they were all hanging out, he found his personality best matched Jen's, and they started getting close, and claimed a moment of weakness, that then turned to them sneaking behind their SO's backs, and then claims they broke off their relationships to date each other. Then, surprise surprise, Jen cheats on him and leaves him for another guy after 6 months. So then he realizes how good Maria was to him, and wants to get back together with her, only to find out that she's now dating Arthur (his brother and the OP of the other story.) Now it's 4 years later and he hears from his parents that they're getting married, and he feels hurt that he didn't get an invite, bringing up the whole "I know stuff happened between us, but we're brothers, we're FaMiLy." So he tells his parents he didn't get an invite, and they start going after Arthur to get him to invite his brother, which lead to OP uninviting his parents, so the brother then tries to call Arthur to get them reinvited, as well as himself, but Arthur won't answer his calls. And now he thinks his parents are mad at him for getting them uninvited. And then he ends it with the title, "am I wrong for accidentally getting my parents uninvited from my brother's wedding?"
you know, on one hand, he did accidentally got his parents uninvited to the wedding. an accident is something that you didn't intend to happen. turk didn't complain to his parents about him not being invited with the end goal of them being uninvited, that was an accident. but on the other hand, he shouldn't have been surprised that he wasn't invited to his ex's, who he cheated on, and the ex of the chick he cheated with wedding.
Last story, theres absolutely no way that mother "threw out" those expensive suishi knives. More likely she stole them, and resold them or is keeping them stashed away somewhere
Story 2: Harold is a creeper who has had a crush on OP for a looong time. He's a man-baby who doesn't know how to express that, so he thinks it'll work like in the movies where if he annoys her enough, she's going to realize she loves him. Not sure about the dad's man crush on Harold, but it sure does not sound like a healthy friendship.
You need to get a protection order against Tammy. You need to move from where you live. She knows where you live and if she's THAT crazy, a piece of paper won't stop her. Move and go NO CONTACT, change you number and block on socials. Even make new ones You need to protect this child at all costs. Provide the picture to any and all childcare/schools the child will attend and WARN THEM EXTENSIVELY to call the police if she is spotted. Crazy women like this NEVER STOP.
Hope grandpa got enough memory of Willow because he blew his chance to see her ever again. As others have said, I hope OP takes safeguards on social media if she posts about or show pics of Willow. Tammy will definitely use any pics to create her narrative.
I’d shame the sister HARD , and that marriage won’t last long because shes a entitled golden child wholl cheat when she see someone better and trade up
Story1: Wow.........just wow 😳 The parking spot story: Are they sure the crazy lady didn't steal the car and damage it just so she would have a place to park?
"Stop breastfeeding your literally newborn and give her to me, so I can fly to another county and raise her as my own! I'll even allow you and your husband who is in a similar age group as you are to come and visit. It's what I desire after all." *Leans into a microphone that I somehow magically own *B**** WHAT THE FU-*
The 3rd Story about Dad’s Friend…In my opinion, the dad’s friend has a crush on OP. The same way young guys pick on girls they like, I think this is what the dad’s friend is doing and it’s super creepy. Especially since he’s been doing this since she was 19 and made comments about her breasts when she went to breast feed her baby. I feel like he wants a valid reason to constantly talk to OP and decided on this obnoxious way of doing it. Since OP’s dad won’t stand up to him, I hope OP’s fiancé puts Harold in his place. If OP does it herself it won’t work because Harold is looking for any reason to have a heated exchange with OP. That excites him.
My theory about Harold and the father is that they are that kind of people who refuse to get old or assume their age. So Harold treats OP like a teen ( and a teen mom) because in their world, they're still young fresh men and she cannot be older than that.
Op needs to get a restraining order against Tammy, a protective order for Willow to keep her safe from Tammy and needs to go no contact and maybe even move houses. Not leave the area but definitely leave the house so they don't know the address anymore
I feel like the deadbeat was going to abandon his grandkid with the stepmom and not tell anyone about it if OP were to give the deadbeat her kid (which OP likely wouldn’t)
OMG, the entitled Karen in the first story is absolutely unhinged. If you were so willing to take someone else's baby, why don't you, you know, ADOPT from someone who is ACTUALLY willing to give up their baby?????
The second story had me in disbelief first of all ops brother cheats on his gf with ops gf and then his family don’t understand why he’s upset about it and then the whole parents wanting ops brother to be allowed at the wedding where did they get the audacity
@@lorilancaster5917 right? I love the stories where the stepparent asks the kid(s) about marrying their parent. I know it’s not something they HAVE to do, but it’s nice to see them take their feelings into account. And just the thought of them asking the young kids permission to propose is so cute ya know?
About the third story: to this day, I'm not exactly sure what "cheeky" means, and here's why. My Dad was a self-loathing drunk, and the only thing he hated more than himself was everybody else. He put EVERYONE down, and tried to make out like he was joking. Fairly young, I learned to defend myself in a joking way, so I wouldn't appear so rude that I would anger him to violence. His retort - every time - was, "There are two things in this world I can't stand; cheeky kids and disobedient dogs." His friends would denigrate me, and I would jokingly make fun of them. I'd be told not to be cheeky. So when I hear someone use the word "cheeky," I can't help but assume that they are telling a child that they should not defend themselves against verbal, emotional or mental abuse, or they will be counted as equal to a disobedient dog. And Dad grew up around working dogs and farms, where disobedient dogs were shot.
It's perfectly fine, it just means something impish, but otherwise endearing or amusing. That AH just doesn't like kids or animals. Hope you're doing better
Story 3: Harold the Moron. I have a weird feeling about this one. I can't tell which way is right though. Either Harold wants to get with OP, or OP's husband is another race. Maybe both? Just something about the way Harold is acting makes me think the first, while the dad being okay with the baby being given up makes me think the second...
Last story, sounds like they need to Turner & Hooch the mother and aunt. Walk them around every room and space of the property repeatedly saying... "These are the simple rules. No removing anything. No adding anything. No moving anything. You will interfere with our things. This is not your house!"
Golly that story with the magnolia is painful. Magnolias can be awfully fragile when it comes to pruning. Yet this lady didn't kill it by cutting off a branch in the wrong season and leaving it to bleed to death without knowing. she just straight up murdered it! Tho tbh I'd get them to also dig up and remove the stump as well as pay for a new tree
Disgusting. For every desparate woman who would take another person's child without consent, because they can't create their own, another kid is staring out the window of a foster home waiting to be adopted.
That last story made me mad, if someone I took in started rearranging my home and throwing stuff out they'd be gone, no if buts or maybes, you made that choice when you didn't have to do now hit the road...especially if the things tossed out were expensive
“Harold” doesn’t even have custody of his own kid. Also, OPs father wasn’t that great of a parent either. He is in therapy at the request of OP because she doesn’t want him around her own child until he works on his issues. I saw this on another channel (by accident I would never watch another Reddit channel).
Jesus Christ just the first story alone made my anxiety and heart rate go high. OP, please put a restraining order against Tammy and tell your father that until his wife can accept that she's never getting willow, you'll go NC or VERY LOW CONTACT with him.
For Story 3, if my father was endorsing Harold's opinion that I'm not fit to raise my own child he simply wouldn't be seeing my child anymore. Maybe that would be the wakeup call OP's dad so desperately needs.
Story 3 - I think Dad is "more than friends" with Harold, which is why he's taking his side. I can't think of any other explanation of why he'd support someone who mistreats his child like that. Well, unless OP isn't really his child. 🤔 Story 6 - What did OP's mother and aunt do, come in with police or weapons to force OP to take them in? Why wait to kick them out? If they wait too long, they might have to do a legal eviction process, and who knows how much more of their property will "disappear" or be destroyed?
I don't necessarily read it as them being something other than friends. Some people have a blind spot when it comes to the behaviour of a close friend, especially if you've been 'best mates' for years. There can be a lot of emotional dependence so you don't WANT to see or admit that your mate's an asshole.
Imagine having so little care for your own daughter that you side with your friend after he continually harasses her, even after she's just become the mother of your first(?) grandchild. Even if they're inseparable friends, at the very least apologize and then tell your friend off. If they're such good friends, then he should able to take the criticism. What a joke of a man.
It is so insane how often I hear these stories about people asking for a twin or you already have one so give me the one you're pregnant with.. The audacity of people are just ridiculous! I would laugh in people's face if someone ever told me they would take my baby.. I would have kicked her TF out of my house!! I would throw her ass out like Uncle Phil did Jazz on Fresh Prince of Bel-Aire 🤣🤣
I misunderstood and thought Harold was the dad’s partner so you can imagine my confusion when the dad’s girlfriend was mentioned. I didn’t even question my initial assumption because I was like “i guess that makes sense, too many parents go the shit route of choosing their spouse over their kids” SO YOU CAN IMAGINE MY SURPRISE WHEN I FIND OUT HES JUST SOME GUY THATS FRIENDS WITH THE DAD. I can’t imagine choosing a garbage “friend” over your own kid.
for that last story, i wouldve already tossed them out saying "oh, so THATS why you got kicked out of your last place. maybe you learn your lesson this time. bye"
Oh my goodness that first story is absurd and terrifying. Totally agree with the person who said to get a restraining order. I'd go right to the police and show them the nursery photos and any texts you have to back you up. She's seriously going to try something and I'm so scared for you.
Bruh I read the brothers post for the second one. He spent the entire time justifying it . Saying things like “I was IBVIOUSLY more fit for Jen” he even implied he only dated Maria as a second prize
Story 5: I am absolutely sure the "passes it on" is referring to Noa being gay, some people believe that it's a disease (it's not). As for the main portion of the post, I don't like how the parents aren't really doing anything to stop Kate's ignorance and nasty comments. OP and Noa are definitely better off without them
No one is "forced" to take in anyone, and I guarantee that OP's mom and aunt will pull some other stunt, and when they do, they should be tossed as OP threatened to do.
2:07 "...could provide a much calmer and more stable home..." I find it hilarious that this chick can say that with a straight face. Living with Charles Manson and his looney crew would be more calm and stable then with those two.
Harold story: shame on OPs Father, but also shame on her fiancee. If that had been my partner and I over heard Harold say those th8bgs Id have flattwned him and knocked him senseless.
I would say that Turk calling it an accident makes sense. He's not saying the cheating is an accident, he's saying getting his parents uninvited from his brother's wedding is an accident, which he had by no means intended to do As for the last story TREE LAW! TREE LAW! TREE LAW!
The story with Harold. This is a predatory technique, and he wants op. The point of his bullying is to manipulate her into feeling worthless until he can come in end save the day so to speak. This is a very sick individual andim glad she cut ties with him
I was half asleep while listening to this, and woke up fully when I heard Dabney say my name. I then looked at the screen to see that this woman spells it the same way! I just think that's neat. Edited to add: OP's parents and sister are such jerks.
Get a protective/restraining order against your step mother because I can guarantee this won't be the end of it. Wouldn't be surpised if Willow is kidnapped in future
I don’t know how the laws are in Italy but OP should inform anyone who looks after Willow not to discuss her with her father nor Tammy and definitely don’t give her to them. This goes for day care, schools, etc.
@@lorilancaster5917exactly cover all your bases because you never know when the step mum is "in the area" and op isn't around.
@@shadowmewfred09or even her father. She should be good but maybe she could check Italys laws regarding grandparent rights if any.
This! ALL of this! OP needs to make sure that ANYONE who cares for Willow knows the situation and definitely get a protective order. The step mother and ops father (for supporting his wife's ridiculous idea) are creepy AF and I wouldn't put it past step monster dearest to attempt to kidnap Willow.
Can you get a restraining order against someone in another country? Legitimate question, haven't thought of it before.
Trying to take away a little baby girl of an Italian dad is quite a bold move, I have to admit.
I have an uncle who's 100% Italian ( he's my godfather too ), that's also what I thought, lol
Yeah, because of his Ferrari, right!!?
Can you explain?
@@normajoeitaliens have the reputation to be realy protective of their family
@@normajoewhat’s the scariest thing after a nuclear devices? An Italian dad with a shovel, gun, and a threatened family. Lol
My dad made that joke when he was doing yard work one day. Have to say, it caught everyone off guard.
Story 3: Harold is giving me super creepy vibes. As if he was wishing to have a relationship with OP and since he cannot because he is too old for her, he keeps insulting her and making jokes at her expense. Am I the only one who had this feeling? And how old was she again when they first met? Yuck!
oh you very much aren't alone in thinking that. it was his constantly asking if OP still liked him that clues me into thinking that he wants her. that and he got upset when she said that she didn't. you don't insult and belittle someone like that and care if they like you, unless you are being mean to them like that because you want them and know they don't want you and you want them to be hurt like you are hurting.
At the very beginning of the post OP says she was 18 and in college when she met him.
Yeah, creepy pedo vibes for sure
I thought the same thing. When he was telling her at 19 that she was a baby, it was almost like he was goading her into "proving" she was an "adult", I guess. The ick started there. He seems pretty fixated on her but knows he's too old for her and that she doesn't like him. It's gross. I wouldn't be surprised if OPs Dad's girlfriend is much younger than her Dad and he doesn't see this as anything more than "teasing".
Your not the only one who thought this
If my friend openly insulted my daughter any time he was around, he would no longer be my friend. There's no way the dad didn't notice because he was so open about it. He obviously chose his a**hole friend over his daughter and grandchild
I'm 100% certain the dad is in the closet and is in love with Harold, which is the only way I can explain why he sides with Harold and not his own flesh and blood family.
Agreed. It's weird that Harold has the confidence to be a pratt to her in front of the father, and even weirder that the dad accepts it.
@@thundermothstudio5446 Yeah I was thinking the same. They’re totally a couple and her dad has shit taste in men.
Story 1: "Prove herself"? He already failed as a father, and now he is demanding OP to give them a chance? Bro, you lost your rights as a father ever since you left your wife and OP for another woman. So no, OP is NOT going to give you a chance, not now, not EVER. You have no right to demand for anything, especially after what you did. Stand your ground OP.
No, no, you don't understand. Only Tammy needs to, not him, he's fine being awful /s
They're just delusional coo coo people
You know that's how wifes end up getting murdered?
@@thedesensitizedsympathizer5307huh..?
Can you believe the audacity of that woman in the first story? Just casually announcing to her step-daughter that she wants split custody of the baby and she already has a nursery ready? How delusional is she?
Audacity, insanity, tomayto-tomahto
@@ivorynk752 I guess insanity would be a better word. You would have to be insane to expect split custody with your step daughter's (who doesn't like you) child. She's lucky she even got to visit.
What else would you expect from the woman who took OP’s dad and now wants OP’s child
shes not delusional, she just has a severe lack of braincells and any sort of intelligent thought
Story 3; yall realized that he made jokes about her being a kid/baby because he wanted her when she was a kid? That guy seriously gives off pedo vibes.
Yeah i was starting to think something along those lines. what the fuck did harold do to op. The father siding with harold too just made me more sick because if he dosent care about that he litterally wouldnt care if harold raped op. Shit gave me spiders in my spine
i'm glad i wasn't the only one who get the "harold wants to bang OP" vibes.
I was waiting for this comment its so obvious he is trying to cover his pedo behavior!
She does say in the update that she never got that vibe, and tries to shut that line of thinking down but I really can't understand his behavior otherwise. I had a very concerning "friend" who was much older than me when I was like 8 or 9. Long story short, he was told off about me by an ex who threatened to expose him. After that, his behavior was very similar to this guy. Seems like someone very conflicted about their urges and taking it out on OP.
@@hotarubinariko Oh, I get it. Like, his jokes about her being immature and a kid and a brat are his way of trying to convince himself that she's way too young for him. (Or the opposite route: trying to goad OP into "proving" to him how adult she is and making it "ok" for him to make a move.)
The dad in the third story isn't just on the path to not having a relationship with his grandchild, he's practically sprinting down the path. Hopefully, he's able to come to his senses before his daughter does.
And most of the family, if not everyone else but OPs dad, also find Harold to be insufferable. OPs reality check for Harold was long overdue.
I mean doubt it due to how up his own arse is on the Harold support but we can only hope
I'm assuming the dad doesn't actually give a damn about OP or her kid. He's only doing this to back his crazy gf/wife.
@@fdm2155 The third story is about Harold The Jackass being a dick to OP her whole adult life, not Tammy Baby-Grabby Stepmom who needs to “prove herself” as a mother to someone else’s baby.
@@kranberry3318 Oh, they are BOTH part of the problem. If either of them was sane, they'd never have concocted or gone along with such a ridiculous plan. Again, dad likely has no interest in OP or her kid. However, he went along with Tammy's insanity. So they are both terrible.
Don't ask people for their babies, people. That's just not right. 🤫
And I'm over here thinking it's common sense 💀
@ArbitraryApril
Common sense is sadly not that common.
Baby rabies does that to one.
Yeah if they haven’t put the baby up for adoption, good chance they want to keep the baby.
@@lorilancaster5917Yeah, agree. Wait for the auctions!
First Story: Tammy is insane if she thinks OP would just give her baby to her. This reminds me of a story Rslash covered where OP's bestfriend got caught breastfeeding OP's baby behind OP's back and she kept calling the baby "ours". Granted this story isn’t as insane as that one but still, the fact Tammy and OP's dad flew from one country to another to ask for split custody of OP's kid is insane
Second Story: Its crazy how OP and his brother basically swapped gfs, it sucks it took Turk and Jen being a cheater for that to happen. Its ironic how Turk ended up getting cheated on by Jen and she ran off with the other guy
Brother's Post: Lmao he "accidentally" got his parents uninvited" from a wedding 😂
Third Story: Harold is straight up an asshole and OP's dad is a jackass for letting his friend constantly and blatantly disrespect his own daughter TO HER FACE. The fact that OP's dad called OP to basically argue over this "small fight" speaks volumes of who side he is on and its not OP's
Fourth Story: OP's sister sounds like a nightmare to be around. It's crazy how their parents are giving the sister funds for a wedding when she isn’t even engaged; this makes me wonder: where is that money even going?
Fifth Story: The level of entitlement is wild. It isn’t petty at all, OP and her husband PAYS for that parking spot; so if this lady thinks she can park their whenever she feels like it OP is well within her rights to get it towed. Good on the son for taking OP's side in this situation
Sixth Story: Hmmmm I wonder why they got kicked out of their last home. Hmmmmmmm 🤔. Sarcasm aside, OP's mom and aunt are going to end up homeless if they keep up this behavior up
@@tomcarey4442LMAOO
@@tomcarey4442ugh u again, bro go somewhere else
@@tomcarey4442u are the same pathetic troll from 2 videos ago, go somewhere else
You might wanna read the repost of OP's brother's post in r/AmITheDevil, which I think rSlash probably should've read just for this.
@@spydersoup8447I think Rslash covered it in a r/bestofredditorupdates video
That last one is a prime example of why I wouldn't let either of my parents move in for any reason. Screw that. My mom runs her mouth usually ending up in my wife crying after we leave, and my dad has zero boundaries. They're divorced almost 40 years now, and that doesn't even scratch the surface of why.
First story: if Tammy wants to prove to everyone that’s she’s a good caregiver why doesn’t she adopt a child?
Or be a caring stepmom to OP?
Probably because no one would let her adopt with that kind of attitude.
Probably because she's too cheap to actually pay for the adoption
@@undrhil plus it sounds like she wants to play with a baby and not parent a child. Most areas there is a waiting list to adopt a baby because that’s all people seem to want to adopt. And there are background checks and other matters Tammy and OPs dad would need to pass. They may have also interviewed OP as well. Keep in mind I have the US mindset and the rules may be different in England
@@lorilancaster5917 The waiting list is also to help weed out psycho's like Tammy
The brother story: the brothers pov was he told his mom he wasn’t invited and she took it upon herself to threaten to not go. It’s not what he wanted. He tried contacting his brother convince him to let his mom go. He knew he f’d up… though the entitlement does come through. The accident was telling his mom he wasn’t going
@@stephanetheard3081 Nope, what he mentioned about that is that they met like it was love at first sight because their personalities were similar, snuck out and they were found out by Arthur (The OP of the second story here) and Maria and they broke up with them to start officially dating. This is all from Turk's perspective because we already know Arthur's POV of that whole scene and even without Arthur posting his side of the story, people already spotted the red flags of Turk's story.
Story 4: so screw the fact that this is your first wedding, your sisters imaginary engagement is more important because, she had a temper tantrum. Your parents want to let your sister control them and take their money that's their business, but the least they can do is not pretend you're stupid. she's the favorite and she threw a tantrum that's why they're pulling their money out of your wedding to save for the one she's not having.
And I hope her parents remember this for whenever or if ever Kate marries and she’s exhausted any funds they can provide and think to ask OP for help.
I wouldn't want to pay for such an awful person's wedding either. That chick left her husband with her child for a woman and pretended it's because she "realized" that she's a lesbian, and then she plays the victim saying her ex "ran for the hills" when she's the one who left him for a woman and then moved to another country with their child. You don't marry someone and have a kid with them and then "realize" that you're actually gay and not into men. She was probably cheating on him with a woman and decided she'd rather be with her than him.
@@Dog_in_tree that doesn't matter. they aren't just paying for her wedding, they are paying for their child's wedding. you snub the in-law like that, you snub your kid worse. they just told their child that they don't even consider her worthy of a wedding or support.
@@abiean222 who they marry really does matter, and they didn't say that they're not worthy of a wedding.
I don’t often advocate for people to go NC with parents, but OP in the first story absolutely should for the safety of her daughter.
go NC and get a restraining order.
I get the feeling Tammy would have no qualms about kidnapping “her” baby
If Tammy isn't adopting, there is probably a reason why she can't adopt, so Willow is not safe near Tammy.
??You mean for the safety of BOTH of them?
Story 1: tell the deadbeat that anyone willing to be with man that abandoned their child without a second thought clearly isn't fit to be a parent. Especially when they actually believe they have a right to take someone else's child.
*For anyone wanting to read the entire update in Story 3*
"Hey guys! I wasn't going to write an update, but I just got some free time and I figured I'd fill you in.
I'll start by addressing the (very frequent) assumption that Harold has feelings for me. I really don't think that's the case. His comments always came out as annoying and condescending, but never sexual. But I will say that your comments scared the shit out of me. And the fact that the general consensus was "fuck Harold" was weirdly heartwarming.
I also want to add that, while I did regret what I said a little bit, I never doubted I'd done the right thing. I think most of my regret came from the fact that my eight years of keeping the peace were over. It took some time for the relief to sink in. Truth be told, I've been wanting to do this since the barbecue incident, which was when I went from "I don't like that guy" to "I can't stand that guy."
My father called Harold the day after I made my previous post. When confronted about the adoption comment, he tried to twist it as him being "genuinely concerned" about me being a mom so soon, and that he didn't think I knew what I was doing. He did apologize to my father. I don't buy any of that.
The next day, my dad told me about the call. He said I should forgive Harold for what he thought was an honest misunderstanding. He also told me I should apologize too, since I'd "overreacted" by telling Harold I hated him for such a small reason.
Many of Harold's past comments were made with my father close by. It often happened in the middle of conversations with other people, so he'd be too distracted to register them. He also wouldn't notice them most of the time. My dad doesn't pay enough attention to anything that doesn't either concern or anger him, and he'll most likely forget it until he gets angry at something else later anyway. He's like a meth head goldfish. We also have different definitions of what's offensive, so he'd never think they were a big deal.
I told my father I wasn't exaggerating when I said I hated Harold, and that the adoption comment was far from being the only reason. I listed most of the condescending treatment and comments I could remember, including the ones from the party. He didn't remember any of them. I made it very clear that I'd hated Harold for years prior to the party, and that I had nothing to apologize for.
I then stated that I'm no longer coming to any events Harold is invited to. My father doesn't need to stop being friends with him, or even stop inviting him to stuff, but he can no longer expect me to show up as well. I will ask him beforehand, and if he lies, I'll leave.
My father called me dramatic, but I pointed out that I've been avoiding Harold for six years now and no one even noticed, so it clearly wasn't a problem. I've only seen him a handful of times since the barbecue incident, and only twice for more than a few minutes (the lunch party last week and another party back when I was pregnant). It clearly didn't ruin my father's life. I'm not obliged to like his friends any more than he is to like mine.
There was some back and forth, but he agreed to my terms. We spoke yesterday about something else, and he mentioned Harold was upset. I ignored that.
I'm not going NC with my father. Yes, I'm very well aware he's an asshole, and I came really close to cutting times with him in the last few years, but I ultimately decided it wouldn't really fix anything. Maintaining my relationship with him has gotten a lot easier since I moved out, as we only see each other a couple times a month. He gets frustrated that I don't call or text much, but doesn't complain about it anymore. I don't see the point in going NC with someone who no longer has any say in how I live my life. I'd rather just take note of what my father did wrong when I was growing up and then make sure to raise my own kid differently.
He's on thin ice, though, and has been for some time. He's not allowed to babysit, mostly because I don't trust him to spend more than an hour alone with a baby without falling asleep on the couch. I began pushing for him to start doing therapy back when I got pregnant, and he finally got started back in June. His behavior around me and my younger sister (who still lives between our very divorced parents) has improved a lot since, and I've made it clear to him that he won't be allowed near my son if he stops attending.
This is the first time in my life my father has improved his behavior. It's hard to be hopeful, but I'm trying. And if I ever do go NC with my father, it won't be because of fucking Harold.
So that's it. Overall, I'm glad I don't have to deceive anyone anymore. My relationship with my father is rocky, but I won't dwell on it. My main responsibilities are my son, my fiancé and my job, and that's not changing anytime soon.
And to those who mentioned Jesus Christ Superstar and Blue Öyster Cult in my last post: has anyone told you you're fucking awesome today? Because you are."
Story 3: Geez, this man is insufferable. Condescending jokes, disrespecting boundaries, treating OP like a child.
Why is the dad siding with Harold anyway? Like if my friend was making terrible jokes and insulting a relative of mine, they'd no longer be my friend and I'd be immediately kicking them out
I think the dad is in the closet and has feelings for Harold.
@@CloudyNight2156 Have to say that's EXACTLY what I thought. Why else would he allow this 'friend' to be so rude and obnoxious to his daughter for YEARS? Why else defend his indefensible behavior?
W fiancé though, we didn't really get to hear about his interactions with Harold, but he was proud of his wife for being awesome and told her as much, which is good.
My mother had a female best friend exactly like Harold, it was absolutely insufferable with both of them around - but other than that OP, I moved out at age 19 and have cut contact with both of them entirely and am still going strong without contact 20 years later
OP has a lot more self-control and integrity than I do. If I were in her shoes, I would have told this a**hole that I hated him THE FIRST TIME, relationship with my dad be damned, because this douchebag 100% deserves to be hated. Harold is an absolute sack of crap and the only reason I can think of for why the dad would defend and stick up for him is that the dad is secretly gay and has feelings for Harold, which is honestly just AWFUL, putting your crush on someone else ahead of your own daughter's feelings. My response to "I really like you even though you're an impolite brat" would have been "That's fine. I like you too even though you're a condescending judgmental bully." Harold and OP's dad are both MEGA toxic and they can both go to hell. Oh, and Harold is also giving me creepy pedo vibes, which adds another layer of YUCK to this whole story. Harold is already a terrible person, but if he's been perving on OP this whole time and putting her down because he can't get with her, that makes him utterly DISGUSTING.
Last story: who cares if they're crying, I hate when parents do that. You invite them and then they act like since they're older they can do whatever tell your house even though they're not paying anything. Enjoy your new cute tree.
Story 3: you should can't your dad off, no decent parents would let their friend insult their daughter the way he does, and to actually agree with him tells me that your dad already discuss the things with him. So fine, let your dad have his toxic boyfriend, he clearly cares more about the love of his life than his own child or grandchild.
I hope after OPs confrontation with Harold, other family and friends step up and give Harold and OPs dad a piece of their minds
I can see this as the beginning of a horror movie.
As a parent who wouldn't want to live in a horror movie, restraining order, block, move. No joke.
This woman sounds mentally unsafe
That first story is insane, the announcement about the step mother taking willow was completely out of left field!
It's scary enough that this isn't the first story like story 1 we've heard here, but the fact that they don't even live in the same COUNTRY is nuts
Story 2: I love it because I've heard both stories but I'd actually heard the brother's story (AITA for accidentally getting my parents uninvited) first. Then OP in story 2 posts his story and is like "well, my brother posted his story but let me tell you how it really is..."
With that last story I thought we were about to take a abrupt right turn into treelaw territory.
Same here. Honestly i would’ve threatened to kick them out the moment they touched my possessions. However I’m not OP.
@@lorilancaster5917 I agree with you.
I was honestly hoping it was going to go into treelaw.
it wouldn't have gone that far for me. the second my things started going missing they'd be out. i don't care if you are my mother, you don't steal from family and no fucking way am i letting someone who isn't family stay in my house, especially if they steal from me.
also, i think that OP could have evoked treelaw and would have if those bitches didn't buy them a new tree.
@@abiean222 Exactly!!! Like the “this has gone too far and I’m stopping you now” shouldn’t have come this far in. The *very first time* they fuck with your shit like throwing away things _you own_ that _you paid for,_ that is first and final warning.
Make it clear it will not be tolerated. You will pay to replace what you stole. If it happens again, you’re *out.*
If it happens again, follow through. No hesitation. The ultimatum should have come in a whole lot sooner.
Story 2: well I'll give Turk this much, every had to delete the posts that probably means he didn't lie to you about what happened. You know it's always the worst people that believes not being in someone's life is a punishment, then they get so upset when they realize no one is going to miss them. Have a happy wedding OP, especially now that the trash took itself out.
Except the trash forever lives on in r/AmITheDevil where Turk will continued to be bashed at.
Story 1 : Tammy is utterly insane. Op needs to get everything close to the kitchen sink and tell everyone who needs it to not give Tammy or the sperm donor any info at all..
Story 2 : The scapegoat / lighting rod of the family finally gets his moment To tell his egg donor to go suck a muffler .. The post was screenssaved from Turk side and he got absolutely smashed by reedit. .
Story 3 : op dad is unbelievably guilty even more then harold is because he allowed that jerk to pretty much say whatever disgusting thing he wants to his own daughter.. I can't imagine anyone disrespecting my daughter like that ever or they'll get a size 14 boot up their backside..
Story 4 : Good on op to disinvite all the a holes from the wedding ..now time to go NC with the "parents" who clearly have a favorite..
Story 5 : LOL " I am just gonna take that spot" well ok then I am just gonna Tow your car from the spot..
Update : lol even when her own son pretty much told her " Buzz off lady" ..
Story 6 : Easy solution change the locks and dont let them back in..
Story 2 : And yet, even with Turk deleting his post, it was reposted on r/AmITheDevil and the bot even copied and pasted the story, which means the story is on the internet forever.
@spydersoup8447 yup .. such a dofus .. doesn't the idioit know once something is posted on the internet you can't delete it..
Story 5: well since she's trespassing on your property it only makes sense to call a tow truck. Her own son even thinks you should do it, if that's not a sign that you are not wrong I don't know what is.
And not just her. Tow anyones vehicle that’s in your designated spot.
Second story, everything about that screams 'Turk is the golden child'. That aside, good OP and Maria found actual happiness while Turk got bit by 'marry/date the mistress and a position opens up' . Also, I think everyone would be happy to know that someone got a snapshot of Turk's post before he deleted it and put it on the internet archives meaning you get to see him whining and playing the big victim card for a few paragraphs. It's pathetic.
"The age gap is unhealthy for a child to grow up with"
And she would know how? She's not a child of an age gap relationship.
And you know freaking what? I benefited from having an older father. It was a second family for both of my parents (adult/nearing adult children) and I learned skills from him, such as critical thinking skills, scientific theory, and good social and language skills, I otherwise wouldn't have and that was BEFORE we started schooling.
Tammy can DIAF.
What’s DIAF?
Die In A Fire?
Idk just guessing
kinda hypocritical of her to say that, when she's married to OP's dad, who is probably older than her too
The way I audibly gasped about that magnolia tree. I know firsthand how espensive trees can be, I usually buy saplings to avoid the costs, even then they're £30-£60. Even just a 3ft olive cost me £45. A 6 ft magnolia cut at the base is more than intentional, and wouldve had them out instantly.
Second story proves the famous adage:
If they cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you.
Anyone else think Harold has a thing for OP? Like maybe he’s using “oh you’re so young” as a cover for it, to act like he only sees her as a child, but he’s actually been perving on her this whole time? And the insults are just him negging her, because he thinks he can wear her down or something?
Yeah OP in the first story needs to legally protect herself, there’s no way this ends nicely because I’ve no doubt Tammy will attempt to kidnap her baby.
I was expecting some treelaw in that last story. They disrespected your place multiple times and cut down a tree that takes years to grow.
Dude, the brother's story is a doozy with how entitled he is. Basically, he waives away the cheating by saying while they were all hanging out, he found his personality best matched Jen's, and they started getting close, and claimed a moment of weakness, that then turned to them sneaking behind their SO's backs, and then claims they broke off their relationships to date each other. Then, surprise surprise, Jen cheats on him and leaves him for another guy after 6 months. So then he realizes how good Maria was to him, and wants to get back together with her, only to find out that she's now dating Arthur (his brother and the OP of the other story.) Now it's 4 years later and he hears from his parents that they're getting married, and he feels hurt that he didn't get an invite, bringing up the whole "I know stuff happened between us, but we're brothers, we're FaMiLy." So he tells his parents he didn't get an invite, and they start going after Arthur to get him to invite his brother, which lead to OP uninviting his parents, so the brother then tries to call Arthur to get them reinvited, as well as himself, but Arthur won't answer his calls. And now he thinks his parents are mad at him for getting them uninvited. And then he ends it with the title, "am I wrong for accidentally getting my parents uninvited from my brother's wedding?"
you know, on one hand, he did accidentally got his parents uninvited to the wedding. an accident is something that you didn't intend to happen. turk didn't complain to his parents about him not being invited with the end goal of them being uninvited, that was an accident. but on the other hand, he shouldn't have been surprised that he wasn't invited to his ex's, who he cheated on, and the ex of the chick he cheated with wedding.
@@abiean222 BuT FaMiLy!?
Story 4: for those who want the update, they got married in Ireland without the sister or parents :)
Yaaaaay
Last story, theres absolutely no way that mother "threw out" those expensive suishi knives. More likely she stole them, and resold them or is keeping them stashed away somewhere
Story 2: Harold is a creeper who has had a crush on OP for a looong time. He's a man-baby who doesn't know how to express that, so he thinks it'll work like in the movies where if he annoys her enough, she's going to realize she loves him. Not sure about the dad's man crush on Harold, but it sure does not sound like a healthy friendship.
You need to get a protection order against Tammy.
You need to move from where you live. She knows where you live and if she's THAT crazy, a piece of paper won't stop her.
Move and go NO CONTACT, change you number and block on socials. Even make new ones
You need to protect this child at all costs.
Provide the picture to any and all childcare/schools the child will attend and WARN THEM EXTENSIVELY to call the police if she is spotted.
Crazy women like this NEVER STOP.
Story 1 nta obviously and never let those psychos back in your house or around your kid.
Hope grandpa got enough memory of Willow because he blew his chance to see her ever again. As others have said, I hope OP takes safeguards on social media if she posts about or show pics of Willow. Tammy will definitely use any pics to create her narrative.
I was REFRESHING to get this video to pop up. I cannot function without my daily rSlash
I’d shame the sister HARD , and that marriage won’t last long because shes a entitled golden child wholl cheat when she see someone better and trade up
Or hubby will bail when hey finally realized the monster he married.
@@lorilancaster5917 I don’t think the bf is “afraid to ask” for the normal reasons. More like he’s afraid of the consequences of marrying _that._
“She has everything set up already”
Me: what she hasn’t set up, is her brain.
Story1: Wow.........just wow 😳
The parking spot story: Are they sure the crazy lady didn't steal the car and damage it just so she would have a place to park?
Reddit makes me question people’s ability to make decisions.
First story: can some get an international restraining order? Because I think OP needs an international restraining order!
"Stop breastfeeding your literally newborn and give her to me, so I can fly to another county and raise her as my own! I'll even allow you and your husband who is in a similar age group as you are to come and visit. It's what I desire after all."
*Leans into a microphone that I somehow magically own *B**** WHAT THE FU-*
The 3rd Story about Dad’s Friend…In my opinion, the dad’s friend has a crush on OP. The same way young guys pick on girls they like, I think this is what the dad’s friend is doing and it’s super creepy. Especially since he’s been doing this since she was 19 and made comments about her breasts when she went to breast feed her baby. I feel like he wants a valid reason to constantly talk to OP and decided on this obnoxious way of doing it. Since OP’s dad won’t stand up to him, I hope OP’s fiancé puts Harold in his place. If OP does it herself it won’t work because Harold is looking for any reason to have a heated exchange with OP. That excites him.
My theory about Harold and the father is that they are that kind of people who refuse to get old or assume their age. So Harold treats OP like a teen ( and a teen mom) because in their world, they're still young fresh men and she cannot be older than that.
I think that is more plausible than Harold wanting OP and is trying the neg her to compliance. Other members of the family can’t stand him either.
Op needs to get a restraining order against Tammy, a protective order for Willow to keep her safe from Tammy and needs to go no contact and maybe even move houses. Not leave the area but definitely leave the house so they don't know the address anymore
I feel like the deadbeat was going to abandon his grandkid with the stepmom and not tell anyone about it if OP were to give the deadbeat her kid (which OP likely wouldn’t)
And then Tammy would take some Instagram pics with Willow in her designer nursery but freak out the moment Willow cries.
@@lorilancaster5917 ya that makes sense
OMG, the entitled Karen in the first story is absolutely unhinged. If you were so willing to take someone else's baby, why don't you, you know, ADOPT from someone who is ACTUALLY willing to give up their baby?????
The second story had me in disbelief first of all ops brother cheats on his gf with ops gf and then his family don’t understand why he’s upset about it and then the whole parents wanting ops brother to be allowed at the wedding where did they get the audacity
10:26 So I know the story’s probably gonna go downhill, but that’s adorable that OP got Lena’s blessing to propose to her mama 🥹
I’m glad OP and Noa took her feelings into consideration. You hear so many stories where step kids are an afterthought
@@lorilancaster5917 right? I love the stories where the stepparent asks the kid(s) about marrying their parent. I know it’s not something they HAVE to do, but it’s nice to see them take their feelings into account. And just the thought of them asking the young kids permission to propose is so cute ya know?
I still chuckle at "Passionate Hugging" every time haha.
I feel like the reason the Dad is defending Harold because he's secretly in love with him.
Harold is crearly in love/have the hots for OP so jokes on him
@@Defi_Jones That's gross on many levels
@@RedrumZombiesagree!!!that’s disgusting 🤮
About the third story: to this day, I'm not exactly sure what "cheeky" means, and here's why.
My Dad was a self-loathing drunk, and the only thing he hated more than himself was everybody else. He put EVERYONE down, and tried to make out like he was joking. Fairly young, I learned to defend myself in a joking way, so I wouldn't appear so rude that I would anger him to violence. His retort - every time - was, "There are two things in this world I can't stand; cheeky kids and disobedient dogs."
His friends would denigrate me, and I would jokingly make fun of them. I'd be told not to be cheeky.
So when I hear someone use the word "cheeky," I can't help but assume that they are telling a child that they should not defend themselves against verbal, emotional or mental abuse, or they will be counted as equal to a disobedient dog. And Dad grew up around working dogs and farms, where disobedient dogs were shot.
It's perfectly fine, it just means something impish, but otherwise endearing or amusing. That AH just doesn't like kids or animals. Hope you're doing better
Story 1 - If OP was a baby when Tammy met her, I would bet that Tammy would try to become the new mother of OP.
Black Tulip Magnolia trees are beautiful, no wonder OP was pissed.
And he got it as a blossoming tree and not a sprout. I’m heartless but OP still should’ve kicked them out of his place
Story 3: Harold the Moron. I have a weird feeling about this one. I can't tell which way is right though. Either Harold wants to get with OP, or OP's husband is another race. Maybe both? Just something about the way Harold is acting makes me think the first, while the dad being okay with the baby being given up makes me think the second...
Last story, sounds like they need to Turner & Hooch the mother and aunt. Walk them around every room and space of the property repeatedly saying...
"These are the simple rules. No removing anything. No adding anything. No moving anything. You will interfere with our things. This is not your house!"
Take a shot every time someone says 'literally'. You'll get alcohol poisoning half way through.
Golly that story with the magnolia is painful. Magnolias can be awfully fragile when it comes to pruning. Yet this lady didn't kill it by cutting off a branch in the wrong season and leaving it to bleed to death without knowing. she just straight up murdered it!
Tho tbh I'd get them to also dig up and remove the stump as well as pay for a new tree
Gonna give sis money because this will be her "First and ONLY wedding" HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Disgusting. For every desparate woman who would take another person's child without consent, because they can't create their own, another kid is staring out the window of a foster home waiting to be adopted.
That last story made me mad, if someone I took in started rearranging my home and throwing stuff out they'd be gone, no if buts or maybes, you made that choice when you didn't have to do now hit the road...especially if the things tossed out were expensive
“Harold” doesn’t even have custody of his own kid. Also, OPs father wasn’t that great of a parent either. He is in therapy at the request of OP because she doesn’t want him around her own child until he works on his issues. I saw this on another channel (by accident I would never watch another Reddit channel).
I want an update so bad on that first story
About the dad’s friend story: seems like the dad and his friend are the type of friends that send letters to each other
First story sounds like post-lockdown insanity, which is a big problem that effects people who aren't introverts.
Harold is either Dad's BF, or he wants to be OP's BF.
First one Tammy isn’t an entitled parent, she’s not a parent, never has been, and judging by current attitude that was for the best.
I think OP's father here is the entitled parent here because not only did be abandoned OP, but was even on Tammy's side with trying to get OP's child.
Jesus Christ just the first story alone made my anxiety and heart rate go high. OP, please put a restraining order against Tammy and tell your father that until his wife can accept that she's never getting willow, you'll go NC or VERY LOW CONTACT with him.
Last story: “I may not know my flowers, but I know a b*tch when I see one!”
Ah, something to do while I slowly die from a stomach bug lol
Story5: it's nice to see the neighbour support OP rather than blindly supporting family.
You have NO IDEA HOW MUCH I NEEDED THIS! Just got my high school, and I'm already exhausted and ready to leave 😭
I really don't understand people! Children are *NOT* property to just be given away, sold or traded like Pokemon cards! WHAT IS THE DEAL?
For Story 3, if my father was endorsing Harold's opinion that I'm not fit to raise my own child he simply wouldn't be seeing my child anymore. Maybe that would be the wakeup call OP's dad so desperately needs.
Story 3 - I think Dad is "more than friends" with Harold, which is why he's taking his side. I can't think of any other explanation of why he'd support someone who mistreats his child like that. Well, unless OP isn't really his child. 🤔
Story 6 - What did OP's mother and aunt do, come in with police or weapons to force OP to take them in? Why wait to kick them out? If they wait too long, they might have to do a legal eviction process, and who knows how much more of their property will "disappear" or be destroyed?
I don't necessarily read it as them being something other than friends. Some people have a blind spot when it comes to the behaviour of a close friend, especially if you've been 'best mates' for years. There can be a lot of emotional dependence so you don't WANT to see or admit that your mate's an asshole.
Imagine having so little care for your own daughter that you side with your friend after he continually harasses her, even after she's just become the mother of your first(?) grandchild. Even if they're inseparable friends, at the very least apologize and then tell your friend off. If they're such good friends, then he should able to take the criticism. What a joke of a man.
Nah, if someone touches my plants and throws away my things. Kicked out immediately
It is so insane how often I hear these stories about people asking for a twin or you already have one so give me the one you're pregnant with.. The audacity of people are just ridiculous! I would laugh in people's face if someone ever told me they would take my baby.. I would have kicked her TF out of my house!! I would throw her ass out like Uncle Phil did Jazz on Fresh Prince of Bel-Aire 🤣🤣
"Give me your baby, I deserve it"
I'm sorry, I missed the part where you earned the right to raise your step-daughter's child as your own.
I misunderstood and thought Harold was the dad’s partner so you can imagine my confusion when the dad’s girlfriend was mentioned. I didn’t even question my initial assumption because I was like “i guess that makes sense, too many parents go the shit route of choosing their spouse over their kids” SO YOU CAN IMAGINE MY SURPRISE WHEN I FIND OUT HES JUST SOME GUY THATS FRIENDS WITH THE DAD. I can’t imagine choosing a garbage “friend” over your own kid.
"You, like, a professional asshole or what?"
Harold: "Yeah, pretty much a pro."
for that last story, i wouldve already tossed them out saying "oh, so THATS why you got kicked out of your last place. maybe you learn your lesson this time. bye"
Oh my goodness that first story is absurd and terrifying. Totally agree with the person who said to get a restraining order. I'd go right to the police and show them the nursery photos and any texts you have to back you up. She's seriously going to try something and I'm so scared for you.
Bruh I read the brothers post for the second one. He spent the entire time justifying it . Saying things like “I was IBVIOUSLY more fit for Jen” he even implied he only dated Maria as a second prize
Yay! Entitled people stories. We rarely get those these days and they are my favorite!
Story 5: I am absolutely sure the "passes it on" is referring to Noa being gay, some people believe that it's a disease (it's not).
As for the main portion of the post, I don't like how the parents aren't really doing anything to stop Kate's ignorance and nasty comments. OP and Noa are definitely better off without them
And I don’t see Kate getting married any time soon since I wouldn’t be surprised if her boyfriend dumps her. I hope OP had a beautiful wedding.
No one is "forced" to take in anyone, and I guarantee that OP's mom and aunt will pull some other stunt, and when they do, they should be tossed as OP threatened to do.
I've always assumed that there was a fine line between entitled people and karens, but then I see stories like these that just blur said line...
2:07 "...could provide a much calmer and more stable home..." I find it hilarious that this chick can say that with a straight face. Living with Charles Manson and his looney crew would be more calm and stable then with those two.
regarding the evil stepmother story: IF YOU WANT A BABY THAT BAD JUST ADOPT
I wouldn’t doubt they tried that route and were found to be not “compatible” to put it nicely.
Harold story: shame on OPs Father, but also shame on her fiancee. If that had been my partner and I over heard Harold say those th8bgs Id have flattwned him and knocked him senseless.
I would say that Turk calling it an accident makes sense. He's not saying the cheating is an accident, he's saying getting his parents uninvited from his brother's wedding is an accident, which he had by no means intended to do
As for the last story
TREE LAW! TREE LAW! TREE LAW!
The story with Harold. This is a predatory technique, and he wants op. The point of his bullying is to manipulate her into feeling worthless until he can come in end save the day so to speak. This is a very sick individual andim glad she cut ties with him
I was half asleep while listening to this, and woke up fully when I heard Dabney say my name. I then looked at the screen to see that this woman spells it the same way! I just think that's neat.
Edited to add: OP's parents and sister are such jerks.