I hate to say it, but 12 year olds are old enough to know right from wrong. Consequences are a part of life, both good and bad decisions. Thus it must be done.
I want to add it takes a special kind of sinister, even as a kid, to falsely accuse someone of something like that. And so, regardless of age, they deserve to be punished for ruining lives.
I bet money someone told her to do it, I think someone in the wife family or the dad since he didn't like OP or she learn it from somewhere and the fact OP wfe and mom stell him to drop it, I would told OP divorce the wife and tell mom he going low or no contract with her, cause she choice a 12 years who ruin his life and she see nothing about it, I bet once OP stop talk to his mom for couple of years, she going regret it or worst she going still hang out with the kid and OP now ex wife
I usually agree with these sorts of things, but I do find it hard to criminally charge a 12-year old. Her family, yes, absolutely. But at 12, the brain is not yet developed enough to deal with long term implications or thinking about consequences. In my country, kids only become criminally liable at 14, because that is the age they are determined to be developmentally far enough to understand crime and the effects thereof. Until then, they try to correct the behaviour through therapy, family counceling and education, even in severe cases such as violence, murder, (animal) abuse or similar.
EXACTLY!!!! YES press charges. The damage done by false accusations especially to ACCUAL VICTUMS is majorly bad. Yes what the child did will probably either be ripped out or sealed when said child is 18. Hopefully there will be some paperwork that OP can to post in the small town about them lying. Go full nuclear in the "this kid and family will accuse of of horrible things"
@@Windmelodie In most countries, while the kids may not be criminally liable, the families ARE. As ensuring that the kids don't do anything damaging or illegal fall on their heads, and failing to prevent that is considered as a few things (could be put down as conspirators, criminal neglect, could straight up be charged with the crime itself, etc etc).
@@slimej2202 Yes, which is why I agreed with charging the family in this case :) I simply believe that a 12 year old brain is not developed enough to understand and therefore be punished for the long-term consequences of "lying about being SA'd by an adult" (when, at that age, they're not even old nough to understand and give consent). Her family needs to be charged, but I think she needs councelling/therapy, not to be arrested and brought to court.
@MrDoverfield that Andrew Taint mindset is causing so many problems with teens now that schools breaking rules banning anything to due with that pathetic man
If anybody HIT me while I’m driving, their ass is getting kicked out no matter who they are. Not only is that rude, but also extremely dangerous. If you respect me so little that you feel fine hitting me while I’m driving you somewhere, you don’t get to even sit in my car.
Had a former friend who would not hit me when I was too busy paying attention to the road to respond to what he was saying. Would turn around and start screaming at me while I'm driving! And turn around and act like nothing happened. I pulled over and told him to get out! (We were halfway to his apartment so he could walk). Suddenly he's apologizing. Then he only did that to me when we were on the Highway or I was using the backroads. He only stopped when I started screaming back at him. Damn, why did I ever become friends with him! Glad he's outta my life!
lmao shit if I was OP I would pay the girls to keep bully the stepsister and also I hate OP dad cause instead of help his daughter to stop the bully, he not only date that he married the bully mom, that when OP sister get older for sure she going go no contract with him plus with OP and he going be wonder why his kids don't talk to him
The 💩y thing about the accusations story is that children who are being molested will sometimes blame a "safe" person for the abuse because they're afraid to say it's their dad or brother outright. If she said it, the males closest to her DEFINITELY need to be looked at.
With how the dad way acting before the accusations I wouldn't doubt if he had something to do with it, or even told her to say those things. She obviously never came to visit, and they didn't hang out with the parents. The only form of contact we know of is family functions, and he already said he stayed away from her so no contact there either.
🤷🏾♀️ i understand that that is sometimes the case, but not always. Sometimes these young women use these tactics as a form of manipulation to get men/boys, they're interested in to talk to them. I'm very certain she never expected it to turn out like this or that she would even be found out for the lie
The second to last story makes my blood boil. It DOES NOT MATTER IF SHE'S A KID. She wrongfully accused OP of something terrible resulting in him losing his job, friends, marriage and basic life. OP's (Hopefully soon to be ex) wife, his mother, that brat, the brats family and all the "Friends" who turned their backs on OP can all rot because OP's life was ruined in a irreparable way and can never be the same again.
And they have the balls to say "it's just a prank bro". Yeah. It's just a prank that half of them have shotgun wounds and that the 12 yr old is currently in the hospital with multiple broken bones
And the worst part is is you just know someone's going to pull up the whole tired argument of "Having her face consequences for a false accusation is going to make it harder for people who really went through that to step up and accuse." Honestly, that sort of stuff makes my blood boil.
12 is still a kid but that is hardly what I'd call a child. A 12 year old is smart enough to know the damage they can do with an accusation like that, and this kid's parents should have taught her about the importance of being honest and not lying. So I say absolutely yes. Sue the kid in civil court. Make her parents pay for the legal defense, and for the settlement. That'll be their penalty for not teaching their kid not to lie.
"She's a kid"? To H with that. She purposely ruined the man's life. She deserves the maximum penalty for whatever she can be charged with. She is utterly despicable. 😡
If you as a parent date or marry the parent of your child's bully, forcing them to live together, doing nothing to actually help your child, you're a bad parent
Story 5: I don’t care how old she is, if she old enough to lie for six months and ruin someone’s life, she’s old enough to fight the consequences of it. I have absolutely no sympathy for anyone who would lie about something so serious regardless of their reasoning. And considering she has not confessed, and people are still punishing OP him getting a job back doesn’t mean sh*t. And yes, I agree he should divorce his wife, if not siding with them, then for trying to underplay what happened, because she cares more about protecting her lying family than her innocent husband.
No damage done...? No dam... WHAT?! His life is in ruins, this isn't knocking over a vase, this is freaking Pompeii! The only thing I'd like to know is why she accused him in the first place. Was this an attention grab or is she being hurt by someone else and thought op would be the safest option to blame?
I mean, it is actually like knocking over a delicate vase, shattering it and sometime later reluctantly giving the owner some cheap glue to put it back together themselves. The work rebuilding will be exhausting and the cracks will never disappear. Some bits might even be missing forever. The damage is there, and it will stay there for everyone to see, forever. What the OP needs is the real-life equivalent of Kintsugi. Where the cracks are mended professionally and gilded to make art out of the damage, to add value to what was lost and return some sense of purpose to the item. I believe we call that real-life equivalent for that method of 'repairing' harm: 'making reparations'.
Yeah, it's a common thing that when children are asked, they'll sometimes say a safe person instead because they're scared to say someone close to them like a parent, a grandparent, or a sibling.
@@Shingo-ok1lzthat's all well and good, but how does that get o?P to recoup his lost wages, the cost of his criminal attorney and the irreparable damage to his reputation
@@kp2223 Oh, I was just answering the question because they were wondering why the person had said that he was the one who did it in the first place. Just in case people were genuinely curious.
@@kp2223 @Shingo-ok1lz If OP was the "safe option" for the child to blame, maybe OP's lawsuit could help them both? Maybe it could lead to an investigation where the real abuser is found out and they get a new testimony from the child? I'm not a court expert at all here so idk if that could work. I say OP should go for the lawsuit either way.
2nd story: a prank/joke would have been to wrap everything in gift wrapping and putting bows on them, but duct tape is just so extreme, especially since this "kid" is 22 years old and definitely knows how much a pain it would be for op.
@@ulfruss5636 exactly! ETA: and if it can be tied together with some silly pun/inside joke that can put a smile on the face of the recipient of the prank, it would probably cancel out the annoyance factor
I wonder what she would say if Dilyn wrapped her car in saran rap because it's a prank, but the golden rule of jokes and pranks is "know your audience" it's not funny if nobody but you is laughing
He should be thankful OP just kicked him out when OP could’ve pressed charges for the property damage. I think his wife should move in with Dylan since she won’t still parent her son
@@Josh_the_jester big agree! Pranks only ever work out if it's done so both are smiling when it happens, or at the very least met with an eye roll, a head shake and a smiling, exasperated sigh.
*Last Story:* "Why don't _they_ do it?" I'm willing to bet that OP's parents probably have shit credit themselves and are desperate to get the younger sister out of their home.
Well they did say that OP had the best credit meaning they checked her score behind her back. OP will need to lock her credit because them checking repeatedly can impact her score plus they shouldn’t have access to it
Well, then all the other "Family Members" saying that OP should do b/c "Family helps Family" why don't those Family Members hand over their Credit Cards and pay for the Morage when OP's sister misses a payment? Chances are, they will quickly backtrack and begin coming up with mile-long excuses why they can't!
No it wasn't, unless I missed something. OP didn't parent his child. He wouldn't 'allow that Andrew Tate' crap in his house, so he pawned him off on his ex. At least the kid's mother can teach him properly... OP failed.
For the story about the bully who's OP's step-sister, There's a simple quote that comes to mind: "What goes around, comes around." NTA, I feel so bad for OP's sister though. I'm glad OP is there for her.
Yep. I agree 100%. Actions have consequences. There was a woman I used to know who had two kids, one from each marriage. They were seven years apart in age, with the half-sister being the oldest. The spoiled younger half-brother was treated as if he was the second coming of Christ and was bulletproof. The mother doted on him because she had ’always wanted a boy.’ He got away with everything and as a result of being raised by an extremely self-absorbed mother who treated her kids like they were an extension of herself, at bare minimum, he grew up to have no respect for boundaries, zero regard for the word no being a complete sentence and nothing resembling a sense of accountability. I had warned her, for years, that she wasn't doing her son any favors by not preparing them from the realities of the real world i.e. that the rest of the world wasn't going to put up with his crap and treat him like he could walk on water. Because I'm male, single and adamantly child-free, she just missed everything I had to say as I “didn't know” what I was talking about. I did not accept her response and pointed at her obvious sexism. Being the arrogant waste of space that she is, she refused to accept that a woman can be sexist towards a man. Yes. She's one of those. I chose to let it go and I knew reality would eventually slap both her and her brat son in the face. Well, that came when the daughter, graduated high school then flew the coop by going in the military. This left dear old malingering mommy (who was more concerned with smoking, drinking, getting her nails and hair done) to finally contend with the monster she had raised. Before cutting contact with her, I remember there being two instances where she realized she had screwed up. When her son was about 12 and got his butt beat at school and she flipped out claiming she would sue but was so broke she couldn't even afford to pay attention. You better believe I pointed this all out to her and finished by saying “I told you so.” Then about two years later, when he was 14 and dwarfed her in size, he got kicked out of school for a variety of infractions i.e. truancy, fighting, disrespect towards fellow students as well as staff, vandalism, etc. his mother, naturally pulled focus and made the whole thing about her and not the fact that she had failed her son in every way possible. You may be wondering where his father was in all of this he was an upwardly mobile blue collar worker who is often on the road for months on end. He was the disciplinarian, but unsurprisingly, his wife was the one who constantly undermined at any attempted discipline and thus their lack of communication or agreement on any course of action led to a dichotomy in their marriage. Ask for her son getting kicked out of school, his mother would not shut up wondering “what went wrong” with her life. I waited for her to run out of breath then I asked if she was finished. My response clearly pissed her off because it meant I wasn't taking her seriously. I reiterated what I had told her years earlier, that I had warned her that she wasn't doing her son any favors by not teaching, disciplining or raising him right. A gas that I dared call out her parenting or mothering skills, she decided to go off on me. I just put the phone down and waited for her to finish. Completely ignoring everything she had said I simply thanked her. She was confused. I told her I have thanked her for her dumpster fire of a life being a lesson and reaffirming every reason for a while I was single, probably would never get married and for why I was adamantly child-free. This set her off. She started screaming at me and I hung up while she was in mid-rant. I cut contact with her nearly eleven years ago and haven't heard from her since. I did hear through the grapevine, that her daughter is doing quite well for herself, is now an RN, but tragically, just like her mother, already has one failed marriage behind her. I heard, allegedly, her mother kept treating her daughter like a piggy bank but never paying her back and that led to strife in her daughter's marriage and they ended up in splitsville. I also heard, that that was the last straw for her daughter and she cut her mother off from her only grandchild. I'm sure that part stings like hell. As for the spoiled son? He turned out predictably the way one would expect. I heard, allegedly, he's now and unemployed, arrogant 20-something man-child with no life skills, no respect, no direction in life who totally expects the world to bend over backwards for him while giving him everything he wants through no effort on his part. In other words, he grew up to be just like his garbage mother.
Household chores are like the bare minimum of human basic life skills, how the f**k is teaching your kid basic life skill is a "dick move"? OP really needs to find new friends for the next christmas.
Agreed. I am always so triggered by the "friends" who side against someone who's in the right. A true friend would at least see our side in a conflict, perhaps offer some advice for future issues, but let it go. Real friends/family members should see both sides but still have our back. If not, cut them off. I had to cut off my own MOTHER for seeing a "friend's" betrayal of me. It took a while, but eventually Mom saw her error because the friend was trashy and a liar.
When my father was in the Navy, he had to do basic life skills, including sewing. No one is gonna clean your own uniforms and shoes except for yourself.
Story 5:) NTA; honestly, imo, YTA if you don't press charges. She might be 12, but she literally ruined op's life for seemingly no reason and deserves to be punished for it (her directly or through her parents). Brats like her contribute to actual victims not being believed or taken seriously.
Not almost, it did ruin someone’s life, because if he goes to apply for a job in the future, his employers might look at his criminal history and see the p*do accusations and still not hire him just in case he was guilty
@@Mud.lemonshe literally lost his entire life and was treated cruely in holding for 6 months 12 is damn well old enough to understand how bad that is I don’t give a fuck if she’s a kid I hope she gets over a year and a half MINIMUM of community service
The girl in the accusation story really needs to face consequences. "She's just a kid." and "It was just a mistake." are just bs excuses. False accusations, especially in cases with minors are life altering. Just as OP has described it. And the dad needs to pay every single penny of broken property and then some. Get outta there, start over and find people that support you and will not jump to conclusions so easily.
And who bets she did this for the stupidest reasons whatsoever? Either “I dunno”, “I was bored”, or some other reason that doesn’t justify nuking OPs life. Only silver lining I see, and I’m putting lipstick on a pig, is that OP sees his wife and mother for who they really are and that they don’t have his back.
@@lorilancaster5917I bet she had a crush on op. He said she clung to him. She probably thought if she accused him he’d come crawling to her or some delusional thinking of a kid.
the 4th story isn't an asshole move , that's called parenting . good on the ex wife for agreeing with it as well. when the kid moves out what is he gonna do ? what if he doesn't get married right away and become rich like he thinks he will . all of those 'woman's jobs' are basic household needs that you need in life.
Ha! A Marine taught me how to iron, cook, laundry, mop, dishes, carpentry, electrical, plumbing, shooting, hunting, fishing, butchery, and how to respect one's elders
The dad in the first story is a MONSTER. How can there be an incident so bad that the school intervened and you decide, yah, I’m gonna make that kid bullying my child part of the family. Gross.
For the last story - Dont you ever in your life let someone with no credit , or bad credit tell you what to do with your good credit. Also don't ever co sign for someone whose already in debt or has money trouble . You will absolutely be left with the consequences if/ when they cant pay . Credit is nothing to play with. It takes decades to fix and is the only bit of information that tells banks if you're worth helping or not.
False accusations are the worst... it destroys lives and hurts everyone involved... it even hurts the cause of people who have been assaulted... I say send a message.
Exactly what I was gonna say. Being a Vic of child SA myself going through everything is tough, it literally tears families apart. Then to hear someone else falsely accuse another of the same thing is just disgusting. Op has my full support, throw everything you have at her, her family and everyone else who publicly accused you too and he needs cut ties with anyone who doesn't support him.
Exactly what I was thinking!!! Most accusations are true, but as long as people lile that 12 year old keep falsely accusing someone, it will make it so much harder for real victims to be believed and to get justice.
Store 3. Oh my fucking God hitting someone that's drives is so fucking dangerous not to mention hitting him in the first place was so uncalled for what the hell is wrong with her
Apparently she still has the same mental age as when she had OP. Pointing, screaming, and slapping is something we’re told as toddlers to don’t do to try and get what we want
My mom was similar. She wouldn't hit, but she would abruptly scream in an ear shattering way. The ride could be dead silent until she let out an ear piercing scream before saying "I thought I saw a dog in the road" or something. Almost got into multiple accidents. My first girlfriend also tried to grab the wheel while I was driving because she was afraid I would hit a squirrel. I slapped her hand away and the squirrel ran off (like they always do). We got in a huge argument because apparently she would rather kill the both of us than risk hurting a squirrel.
@@megaspit I would get a little bit being like oh my God a dog on the road but really a squirrel bruh. I do not think I could date someone who did shit like that
I used to know someone just like the mother. She never had gas in her car or her license would be suspended because she was so financially illiterate and beyond irresponsible that she never had any money for life's necessities. She burned through every connection she had with friends and family because she was nothing but a leech. I remember one time I was driving her somewhere and she was smoking in my car. I instructed her to put it out because I didn't allow smoking in my car. This was the type of person who never had money for necessities or utilities, but seemingly always had her hair done, her nails done, a full pack of cigarettes and booze in the fridge. Naturally, she didn't like being told what to do but complied and flick the cigarette out the window. Her son, who was approximately seven years old at the time, was bouncing around and acting up in the car. Far too old to be behaving that way and not know that you must sit still and stay seatbelt it in while in a moving vehicle. For the record, he was not neurodivergent or on the spectrum in any way shape or form he was just a very spoiled brat who had never been disciplined or ever had any follow through after receiving an idle threat from his mother. Well, he kept distracting me and I nearly got in a car accident. I used some choice words to tell him to sit down, put his seatbelt on and surprisingly he listened. His mother started yelling at me and slapping my arm. I pulled into a parking lot, slammed on and told them both to get the hell out of my car. She laughed like an idiot as if I was kidding. I reiterated my order and told them to get out. The brat had the nerve to yell at me “don't you talk to my mama like that.” I yelled at him and used more choice words and told him to get out. He immediately band crying. Whether or not he was scared or was simply turning on the waterworks, much like his mother taught him, because he wasn't getting his way, is anybody's guess..The fun part is she, because she was so broke she couldn't even afford to pay attention, she had guilt tripped me into going and buying groceries for her. Well, my trunk was full of groceries for her house that I was now keeping. The brat son was standing in the parking lot crying, his mother was screaming at me as I threw her purse out the window and it emptied all over the parking lot. She then had the nerve to yell at me “what about my groceries?” I told her: “I paid for them. They're my groceries.” As I was driving away, I hollered out the window to have her neighbor, who was a stay-at-home mom, come get her. Will dear old malingering mommy didn't waste any time and took to social media to bad-mouth me to anyone who would listen. Once I told the truth, people generally agreed that that “sounded like something she would do.” Even her upwardly mobile husband, who was working out in the midwest, contacted me and asked me what happened. I told him everything. He believed me because he knew how his wife was and how she let her son run roughshod all over everyone by not teaching him right. I told the husband, that I didn't want to see or hear from his wife again until she learned how to respect other people and teach their son that he can't be a total butthole who thinks he walks on diamonds and gold. Her husband totally understood. I also added that if he didn't drive home the point that if his wife didn't stop harassing me in the form of slander and libel, that I would sue the family. That got is attention. Unsurprisingly, my friendship with this woman didn't last much longer.
My dad slapped me when he was teaching me to drive because I forgot to stop at a stop sign thats not the only reason why he isn't in my life but slapping someone while driving is dangerous
You NEVER distract the driver. When I am a passenger and for example see a deer a safe distance away and want to show the driver, I always start with "There are deer in the meadow there" never shout "DEER" and point because my expectation as a driver is that you as a passenger see a danger that they haven't seen and therefore apply the emergency brake. If the one sitting next to me says an animal's name, I will apply the emergency brake
Story 4: openly saying that cooking and cleaning is a woman's job, is so transparent, and people who say that really mean "I have no idea how to adult and rely on the other people to feed and clothe me"
Story 2: Dude got off easy. Those kinds of pranks can get your teeth knocked out real fast when(not if) you do it to the wrong person. Good on OP for showing him upfront that it can’t be tolerated. Let’s hope Dylan learns before he does it to someone who is already at their breaking point
Story 1: There's a certain word for this but I can't remember what it is. Oh it's on the tip of my tongue. What is it? Oh yeah. *KARMA!!* Story 2: "Duh! It's just a prank bro!" Can get you so far in life. Honestly OP's wife is asking for a divorce if this is how she acts with Dylan. Story 3: As someone who doesn't drive even my dumb a knows it's extremely dangerous to do stuff like that to someone who's driving. Story 4: NTA. His son is walking down an extremely toxic pathway. Story 5: She's 12. She needs to learn actions have consequences, along with her family, OP's mom and his soon to be ex. My God, if I got accused of something like that and my wife took their side off the bat without giving me a chance, I'd immediately file for divorce. Story 6: Typically AITA is one of my lesser favorite subreddits on this channel but hearing Dabney go "Then why don't they do it!!!" is why I always tune in to these. It's a nice treat like the occasions when he starts a story normally and he evolves into his Karen voice, or when he talks from across the room. 😂
Accusations story: IT DOES NOT MATTER IF SHE’S A KID!!! As a matter of fact, this is a very good lesson she needs to learn that actions have consequences!!! My God, I hate stories of false accusations ruing a person’s life and the accusers hiding behind the excuses of “it was a long time ago” or “they’re just a kid”!!
Firstly 12 is not “just a child” with regard to understanding the huge significance of accusing someone of that. My daughter is 13 and knows what happens to people who do that to kids. It doesn’t matter that he wasn’t put on trial - there will always be people who turn around and say there is no smoke without fire. If you don’t sue that will be worse. The 12 year olds consequences won’t be huge (and she absolutely needs to have some) and the family SHOULD be held accountable for their actions. That is the worst thing you can ever accuse anyone of and it doesn’t sound as though the girl came clean - just that the police found no evidence. That leaves doubt there and suing them reflects what he will have to live with. Having had something happen to me at not much older than that girl,I can’t understand how or why anyone would make that up. It’s a horrible situation where she decided to ruin somebody’s life because she felt like it. People like her make it harder on those of us who actually go through it to believed. The same is true when it’s children or adults making it up and I fully believe there need to be big consequences for that.
Story #5: This reminds me of a similar story of a false accusation. Basically a guy tried to frame their preacher for being a p word. At first his plan worked when the police seized the preachers laptop as part of their investigation, and the guy who made the false accusations made sure that everyone knew why. Suddenly everyone who had previously loved the preacher wanted him gone. A few days later the police publicly cleared the preacher of any wrongdoing and arrested the guy who planted the evidence. But even that STILL wasn't enough to change people's minds, they still thought the preacher was a p word and wanted him gone even though he had done nothing wrong and been publicly cleared by law enforcement. The preacher had to ask to be reassigned to another church at least 6+ hours away where no one had ever heard of the false accusations against him. So yeah, OP in story #5 should file the lawsuit and move somewhere far away.
The last story about op's family who wanted her to co-sign for her loser of a sister is that op needs to get to the bank and setup a password and then lock down her credit so that her deadbeat family can't take advantage of her just to help her deadbeat sister
And may need to freeze or lock her credit since they likely will or have checked OPs credit score behind her back which can also hinder her chances of getting a home loan. Sister also needs to understand that the whole point of going to grad school is to get a job to earn money to buy a house. Not use school as an excuse for someone to buy one for you.
*First OP:* OP's "dad" must not like OP's sister to subject her to the b|ullying at home as well as at school. At least OP had his sister's back. OP is NTA. Let his dad and stepmom take care of the stepsister since they practically picked her over OP's sister. *Second OP:* The prank could've worked if Dylan and his friend used something that wasn't of high importance (like a coffee mug). *Or as someone else pointed out, if Dylan wrapped the items with material that would've been easy for OP to unwrap.* OP did the right thing by sticking to his guns. Dylan needed to know that some "pranks" were not acceptable. OP is NTA. *Third OP:* Just from the title alone, I'm saying NTA. After reading the story, I'm sticking with my verdict. Nice touch on OP's mom's part by taking OP's brother out of the car with her to guilt trip him. /s 🙄 *Fourth OP:* Another one where I'm saying NTA based on the title. And I'm keeping my verdict again. Hopefully, OP's son will stop listening to those clowns with microphones. Besides, assuming OP's son is straight, a lot of women prefer men who cook and clean. *Sixth OP:* Ah, the ol' "But we're fAmIlY" defense. Say it with me: "Okay, then why don't _you_ do it?!" Why don't _they_ co-sign OP's sister's loan? This story makes no dang sense. If this wasn't AI generated, I'm shocked. OP is NTA.
Story one: I’m a horrible person, but if I were OP I would tell that brat’s bullies about the crap she pulls. They’ll have a real reason for their hate. Second story: Dylan should be thankful he only got kicked out of the house. OP could’ve pressed charges for the destruction of property. Story three: I hope OP reads the comments and understands the manipulative bs his mom tries to pull. She should never be in a vehicle with him until she pulls a 180 with her attitude. Story four: at first I worried about OP sending his son to his mom’s possibly making her a servant but I’m glad she was on board. No woman wants a guy who won’t do chores. Story five: I hope OP listens to what the top commenter RSlash showed. That kid is old enough to know what she did was wrong and needs to face the consequences along with everything trashing OP. Story six: so they think OP has throwing around house money while she doesn’t have a house? If family helps family, what are they doing for her?
@@lorilancaster5917 Re. Story One: I guess we're both horrible people because I like the idea. The older kids might even protect OP's sister from their stepsister once she enters high school.
@@lorilancaster5917 Story 4: I think he's sent him to her because it'll probably have more of an impact having a woman in charge to teach him he isn't shit if he can't look after himself.
Story 4: If you and your wife agree on your son's punishment, your friends can go pound sand. I'm glad you two are on the same page with this and a reasonable punishment was enacted
I have been a victim of SA, so i know how serious it is. Because it is a serious crime so is accusing men who are innocent. I am a firm believer in that if a woman accuses a man & he is innocent, then she needs to go to prison for it. In this case the kid is 12 & it makes the accusation that much worse. Being a r*pist is one thing, but being a child r*pist is on another level.
Agree. I see it as attempted 'ending of life' to falsely accuse someone of SA or worse the P-word. Your life is over, regardless of whether you are innocent or not because everyone will see you as a g*pist or the P-word bc. "No smoke without fire"
In this situation, it was probably one of the family members that put her up to it. So I still agree, but someone else should probably get the jail time and her... a lot of therapy and help. It's really gross how many false accusations like that are kids being used/forced for personal reasons.
Last story: I have a family and we all love each other, but none of them would even think of doing something so selfish, entitled and stupid. To this day, I don’t think I’ve ever gotten better financial advice from my father than this simple sentence. “ never tell anyone especially your family about your financial status”, you think you can trust your family, but then they’re the main ones demanding handouts. The only kind of people that have any right to know a fraction of your financial status or the people you have financial ties with, and even then it will always be on the need to know basis.
If the mom wants to defend a 22-year-old who destroys other people's property with pranks, she can join her son and move out, effective immediately. This level of disrespect from a stepson and his mother isn't worth sharing a bed with the mother. Also, about the son who doesn't want to do household chores because "it's a woman's job", he can always hire a maid when he's grown up, but then he'll have to work a good paying job in order to afford one. Having an Andrew Tate lifestyle does require money.
Gender roles: Good that both parent agree that the son needs to unlearn this misogynistic chauvinistic crap yesterday. The world is rough enough without those kinds of attitudes.
It is nice both parents after being freed from their marriage became amicable and work well as a team especially for moments like the one in this story.
Yeaaaah I'm with the first OP, don't care if it'll get much worse for her, that spoiled brat is on her own. Edit: As for the OP that got accused... If The Hunt has taught me anything, it's that even if your name's cleared, just leave and start over. There will ALWAYS be 'what iffers' in that town
I’m just going to say it: Rslash thank you for posting the title of your stories and usernames. It makes them way easier to find and I appreciate it so much!
I heard that last story on another channel, all I could think of in the end was I wish Dabney/r/Slash could read it so he would say my favorite line...."Why don't THEY do it"!! Thanks for reading this!
Yeah but you’re missing the point, they can’t just make it o.p.’s problem especially when they already did offer to put their names down and to chip in fir a down payment And if they told the sister they were gonna get someone to and ran to o.p. Asking him to do it then that’s even worse O.p. Is not the A.H here, they never sat down and discussed it properly
Is there anyone else here wondering where the 12 year old got the idea of accusing the uncle? I don't believe he did it i just think someone put that idea in her head.
Exactly. He should sue them all then leave town. He should definitely divorce his wife. There's no need to tie his life up to those horrible people in any way.
@@jdangel6892 Someone brought up the idea that the 12 year old had some kind of crush/interest in op since tried to be around him a lot. Don't know if it's true, but it seemed interesting.
It's still a big leap from having a crush, and something happening. There's gotta be something going on in her house, or she's got something wrong in her brain.
it’s because it’s obviously a fake story. if you’re on reddit a lot then you’ll notice that about 10-20 of almost this exact same story get posted in AITAH alone per day. across all of Reddit hundreds of these chat gpt written bait stories are posted daily. it’s obvious once you spend any amount of time on there.
When one of my friends was a freshman in college her anxiety was SUPER bad and my ex was driving us somewhere and she was so panicked that he’d miss the turn that she literally screamed and scared him. I whipped around and told her “you do NOT scream at him like that!” She’s better now but in that moment I thought ‘if you scaring him makes him crash, that’s your fault’
Slapped story - OP, NTAH!!! You should have told her to leave your little brother and made her walk!!! Slapping your arm is kinda acceptable, but she slapped you in the back of your head!!!! WTF!?
my sister once flashlighted me with her phone while i drive, because shes mad that i ignored her. i was trying to switch lanes on highway in high speed. she put me, her, and our mom at risk just because she was upset about it. thankfully i just froze and didnt swerve. and shes not even apologizing for it.
Also the story about the 12 year old girl: I don't care if her life won't get ruined over the lawsuit. OP should do it anyway to everyone and see how it feels to be accused of something. All men and women should sue the person accuses them of some like the situation in this story. People really do lose everything over those accusations.
Her life might probably be ruined by the lawsuit and I don't mean her reputation or future.I mean her actual money situation . Her parents may have put money aside for college.That now has to go to pay back o p and lost wages from getting fired from his job. They made it to downgrade their house in order to pay back o.P property damage. If she goes to a private school, they may need to downgrade to public in order to pay for op's attorneys and their own attorneys
12 year olds know how damaging those accusations are. When I was 12, I knew how damaging they were and how that accusation is only for people who are actually predators. My parents taught me that and other kids around me knew the same thing.
Here at 33 seconds! Edit to add: Wrapping supplies in Christmas wrapping paper, thats a prank. Wrapping supplies in duct tape is meant to be an asshole. At 22 he knows the difference between duct tape and scotch tape. NTA. Pranks are supposed to be funny.
Marrying your kids bully's parent is not the smartest thing to do. Wow, just wow. That girl was 12 and knew what she said would have serious consequences. OP needs to sue to get a semblance of his reputation back. But he does need to move away.
Is it possible OPs mom in the third story is dyslexic? I find it funny because my girlfriend and I are the exact opposite when it comes to directions. She's dyslexic, and absolutely stresses out when I tell her to turn "right" or "left." It confuses her. So when i'm giving directions, I have to put my hand out close to the windshield, and very clearly point to where she needs to turn, and say "At the next light, you're going to turn that way." So much smoother, ironically.
Press charges and sue. This is not ok, and lessons must be learned early or they'll never be learned. Women and girls need to learn that false accusations are NOT OK.
I’m retired and I do “women’s work,” if you count dishes, sweeping, and laundry as womens work. I can cook, but my wife is a vegetarian and I am not. I can cook meat, pasta, and brinner. My experience ends there. I don’t feel emasculated by doing these things.
Speaking as a highly productive 50 year-old male, I can tell you that I iron I do dishes. I also feed all the farm animals and I work sometimes 120 hours in a pay period at my job. Successful men have multiple discernible life skills.
Dylan’s mom is thinking as a parent protecting her baby instead of an adult teaching her adult child that sometimes when you’re old enough to vote, drink, and go to jail and you still choose to fuck around, you eventually find out. The accusation story: NTA, false crimes claims are a rung bell that cannot be un-rung. Like op said, his life was ruined over a lie and if he stays where he lives, he’ll have to deal with people thinking he did something that he had irrefutable evidence he didn’t do. This is why actual victims don’t get believed.
And would the mom act this way with an uber driver? While in a taxi? No? Then don’t act this way to your own son because being blood doesn’t entitle you to a free punching bag
Never wrap things in duct tape. Use cling film. My brother's housemate wrapped everything he owned in Christmas wrapping paper when he was at Uni. Some stuff was still wrapped in June.
Last story: I know why the parents don't do it. OP said as much, OP's credit is better than theirs. Why don't any of the rest of them do it? I don't know, but it is probably because they already know the obvious: Sis is a credit liability.
Actually if you check the original, the girl who posted is adopted. The sister is the bio child of the parents, so it's a lot worse than it seems in that story, seems the parents like to use her to benefit their bio child. She spills how this was always the case.
Story 1: Wow, there's actually a meme where the a kid gets bullied and when the dad goes to talk to the hot mom, they end up making out while in the background the bullying continues.
In the last story, an important bit of information (I read the original post and the update), is that OP is adopted. OP's parents struggled to have a baby, adopted OP, and a few years later, had the sister naturally. So, in the post the sister is very much the "Golden Child" while OP is used by the parents to financially support the sister irrespective of OP's wishes and boundaries.
I honestly think falsely accusing someone of SA should be punishable, to even get the title of SA or the P-word is life-destroying. It doesn't matter if you are found not guilty because people will never trust you because "no smoke without fire".
As someone who learned how to cook from his father, I have a massive amount of respect to the OP in the fourth story. Learning how to cook and clean doesn't make you any less of a man. If anything, you're more of a man for showing how willing you are to undertake new responsibilities. Anyone who thinks cooking is only for women or weak men is pathetic. Love you, Dad. I'll be sure to make one of your favorites next time you come over for dinner.
1:I understand why OP wouldn’t want to help stop the bullying happening to the bully who bullies his sister. Yes he should do the bare minimum but to do nothing is kinda rude. 2:Seriously he destroyed some of your stuff because of the duct tap stunt and when your wife defends this, what happens if he decides to step it up. 3:God that would annoy me not getting clear instructions then she had the gawl to slap you while driving, she put all of you in danger. You in no way are the bad person. 4:GOD your child sounds so sexist saying choirs are women’s work, choirs should be split equally. Seriously where the heck did your child learn this view point. 5:What a monster, seriously she could have completely destroyed your life and almost did. Simply stating or accusing you can completely destroy your life. They want you let it go because she is a kid soooo..she almost got you arrested and put in jail for years. You need to hold them accountable. 6:I in no way would co sign anything no matter who the person is just in case they don’t make the payments or start to slip and expect you to cover everything so it doesn’t look bad on you, not the bad person
When my Mom was a teenage farm girl she was given the job of taking the kids near their farm into town for Sunday school. She told them that if they behaved she would get them ice cream for the trip back. On the way home one of them dropped his Popsicle down her back and she put the car in the ditch. No one was seriously injured but the car's frame was bent and they could never get it fully straightened.
Story 3: When I was a teen still learning to drive, my dad made me drive us home after doing some errands. I struggled with staying in my lane and my dad just kept yelling, at one point he straight up punched me in the face. When I told my mom, she told me he said that I had fallen asleep on the wheel.
Story 3: the thing I wanna focus on is OP feeling bad. Honestly, because I wonder if the only reason he feels so bad is because that was his mom. Like, he has no reason to be sorry, and if it was anyone else he probably wouldn’t be or at least wouldn’t be quick to feel guilty about it. Whether intentional or not parents usually have his way of making their kids feel guilty for calling them out, and it’s because you’re the kid they’re the parent you’re not supposed to call them out. Or at least not so blatantly you have to tiptoe around calling them out otherwise it’s disrespectful. But OP is 21, meaning he’s coming into the milestone where he’s going to once and need his parents to see him laugh at their kid and more as an adult. And I don’t mean he can start disrespecting his mother and in salt or anything like that. But he shouldn’t have to tiptoe to get his point across, and his mother can’t just call him, disrespectful for not letting her say or do whatever she wants to him. I’ve been through something similar with my mom. She doesn’t do intentionally, but that doesn’t make any less annoying.
uprooting a life is a permenent action, dude only sent his son to a very calm and very simple "bootcamp" 2 hours away where he had to do household chores, and is planning on having him stay for what, a month at best. thats not uprooting, thats called a punishment.
He said it! I heard him Say it! That was the best "WHY DON"T THEY DO IT"!?!? I was laughing so hard. Thanks for making my day rSlash. That is most definitely a signature Catchphrase. I would so buy a I shirt from rSlash that had that; "Then why don't you DO IT"!?
Here is another surprise. RSlash, whose job is to read reddit stories, AGAIN skips updates that we want to hear. Sitting and reading is just too hard for Karens even if it is their job
The first story: As someone who once had three toxic stepsisters, and an equally toxic stepmother, this one really hits home. I was the bullied kid and the sad part, my own blood brother fell right in line while turning a blind eye and a deaf ear watching it all happen. He often joined in on the bullying. Even worse, all of his friends at school were my bullies. I suppose I got a little bit of schadenfreude after he had a falling out with the ringleader of his group and they got in a fight to where my brother got his butt kicked. I wouldn't give him any sympathy. It got to the point that I was getting an ulcer midway through my first year of middle school. Naturally, my dad and my stepmom didn't believe but my mom took me to a doctor and it was confirmed I had was developing an ulcer. I remember being grilled by my stepmom and my dad like I was a hostile witness in a criminal case and they were the D.A. Because my mom was the one to take me to the doctor, my stepmom and dad acted like I had been overreacting. I guarantee you if my father was the one who had taken me to the doctor, he would have treated like it was a federal case and then blames my mom for not taking care of me right. Long story short, my dad eventually realized that my stepmom was a total psycho who would flip out if the throw pillows on the couch were crooked, that her daughter with a chip off the same narcissistic block and the two older stepdaughters were no better but at least they were finally grown and out of the house. The last straw, came for him when he walked in on my stepmom threatening to hit me and then bringing back her hand to slap me. Apparently it wasn't okay for anyone else to hit his kids but him. And getting her away from me and her eyes were bugging out of her head like a Felix the Cat clock. Adding some backstory, my stepmom had been beaten and brutalized by her first husband yet she came full circle and went from being a victim to an abuser herself.
Gender Roles story: I know rSlash has a strict 0-5 ratings, but I'm sure we can we all agree that OP and the Mom is both *Negative* Five out of Five (-5/5 Buttholes), or 5/5 Awesome. We NEED more parents like them. Their example should be the stranded.
Re accusations: also sue the employer for unfair dismissal and sue the dad for damages over the stuff he broke. If it were me, he'd one day come home to all of his stuff broken.
People who falsely accuse others of SA are just as bad as actual abusers. You can literally ruin somebody's life like that. I would go no contact with that piece of garbage. Minor or not, that is inexcusable.
Story 5 not only do you press charges against her you press it against every single person involved that kid has to learn she cant do this frankly put this is light compared to her doing it to someone who would be willing to crash out and trully ruin her life
Story 1: NTA. OP’s “ dad “ and stepsister are just the worst! The stepsister for hurting OP’s sister, and the “ dad “ for even marrying the mother of the person who’s hurting that poor girl are just awful! Story 2: NTA. It’s not a prank if it isn’t funny! The “ prank “ was horrible. Dude, he’s 22, and his mommy dearest is saying he’s “ just a kid, and didn’t know better “? No! He knew what he was doing because he’s a 22 year old adult!!
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seriously lol
@@FanStoryVideoStudios insert *USSR anthem* here
Morning paper for you, but bedtime stories for me
I hate to say it, but 12 year olds are old enough to know right from wrong. Consequences are a part of life, both good and bad decisions. Thus it must be done.
And if she doesn’t know then that’s on her parents. However, like you’ve said, this doesn’t absolve her from learning consequences
I want to add it takes a special kind of sinister, even as a kid, to falsely accuse someone of something like that. And so, regardless of age, they deserve to be punished for ruining lives.
@@lorilancaster5917she does, she’s 12 and she’s aware diddling is wrong and is like the worst thing one can do.
I bet money someone told her to do it, I think someone in the wife family or the dad since he didn't like OP or she learn it from somewhere and the fact OP wfe and mom stell him to drop it, I would told OP divorce the wife and tell mom he going low or no contract with her, cause she choice a 12 years who ruin his life and she see nothing about it, I bet once OP stop talk to his mom for couple of years, she going regret it or worst she going still hang out with the kid and OP now ex wife
agreed, what would have them say something like that and think it's ok? Now the man has to start over elsewhere
Accusations story: Uh, yes, absolutely sue, press charges - do not stop until they’re ruined. This nonsense needs to stop.
I usually agree with these sorts of things, but I do find it hard to criminally charge a 12-year old. Her family, yes, absolutely. But at 12, the brain is not yet developed enough to deal with long term implications or thinking about consequences. In my country, kids only become criminally liable at 14, because that is the age they are determined to be developmentally far enough to understand crime and the effects thereof. Until then, they try to correct the behaviour through therapy, family counceling and education, even in severe cases such as violence, murder, (animal) abuse or similar.
EXACTLY!!!! YES press charges. The damage done by false accusations especially to ACCUAL VICTUMS is majorly bad. Yes what the child did will probably either be ripped out or sealed when said child is 18. Hopefully there will be some paperwork that OP can to post in the small town about them lying. Go full nuclear in the "this kid and family will accuse of of horrible things"
@@Windmelodie In most countries, while the kids may not be criminally liable, the families ARE. As ensuring that the kids don't do anything damaging or illegal fall on their heads, and failing to prevent that is considered as a few things (could be put down as conspirators, criminal neglect, could straight up be charged with the crime itself, etc etc).
@@Windmelodiethat is a dangerous mindset to have. She’s 12, yes, but actions have consequences no matter what age. She needs to pay the piper.
@@slimej2202 Yes, which is why I agreed with charging the family in this case :)
I simply believe that a 12 year old brain is not developed enough to understand and therefore be punished for the long-term consequences of "lying about being SA'd by an adult" (when, at that age, they're not even old nough to understand and give consent). Her family needs to be charged, but I think she needs councelling/therapy, not to be arrested and brought to court.
*Alpha Male Son:* You can't kick me out! This is blasphemy! This is madness!
*OP:* Madness? THIS! IS! CONSEQUENCES! _[Spartan kick]_
OP and his mom forced him to do chores? Ohhhhh the humanity… that’s the worst form child abuse -Entitled people
@@MrDoverfieldI think the grandparents mindset rubbed off on him
@@lorilancaster5917 I assumed it was toxic online groups negatively influencing the son because he called his father a beta
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@MrDoverfield that Andrew Taint mindset is causing so many problems with teens now that schools breaking rules banning anything to due with that pathetic man
If anybody HIT me while I’m driving, their ass is getting kicked out no matter who they are. Not only is that rude, but also extremely dangerous. If you respect me so little that you feel fine hitting me while I’m driving you somewhere, you don’t get to even sit in my car.
Amen to that! I refuse to drive anyone anywhere who's unbuckled, FAFO with abusing the driver, I ain't an underpaid chauffeur, name not Jeeves. XD
Had a former friend who would not hit me when I was too busy paying attention to the road to respond to what he was saying. Would turn around and start screaming at me while I'm driving! And turn around and act like nothing happened. I pulled over and told him to get out! (We were halfway to his apartment so he could walk). Suddenly he's apologizing.
Then he only did that to me when we were on the Highway or I was using the backroads. He only stopped when I started screaming back at him.
Damn, why did I ever become friends with him! Glad he's outta my life!
@@LilDevyl17 Ouf. That's awful. With friends like that, who needs enemies, yeah? :(
Hope things are doing better for you. :)
Story 1 : honestly, I expected too that OP would go "You know what, I'll take you as example Dad and date one of Step-sis's bullies." as a clap back.
He should do that, pick the worst bully to be his girlfriend and bring her around every single day.
@Azulakayes ikrr. And introduce her to his parents. "This is the love of my life and now apart of the family!" Oh that'd be just golden
lmao shit if I was OP I would pay the girls to keep bully the stepsister and also I hate OP dad cause instead of help his daughter to stop the bully, he not only date that he married the bully mom, that when OP sister get older for sure she going go no contract with him plus with OP and he going be wonder why his kids don't talk to him
The 💩y thing about the accusations story is that children who are being molested will sometimes blame a "safe" person for the abuse because they're afraid to say it's their dad or brother outright. If she said it, the males closest to her DEFINITELY need to be looked at.
Its natural for woman to want to lie to hurt people, starts at a young age
Don't discount sister, mother or even grandmother. There have been instances, just saying.
With how the dad way acting before the accusations I wouldn't doubt if he had something to do with it, or even told her to say those things. She obviously never came to visit, and they didn't hang out with the parents. The only form of contact we know of is family functions, and he already said he stayed away from her so no contact there either.
Its probably just a dumb tiktok trend thing she saw or sth
🤷🏾♀️ i understand that that is sometimes the case, but not always. Sometimes these young women use these tactics as a form of manipulation to get men/boys, they're interested in to talk to them. I'm very certain she never expected it to turn out like this or that she would even be found out for the lie
The second to last story makes my blood boil. It DOES NOT MATTER IF SHE'S A KID. She wrongfully accused OP of something terrible resulting in him losing his job, friends, marriage and basic life. OP's (Hopefully soon to be ex) wife, his mother, that brat, the brats family and all the "Friends" who turned their backs on OP can all rot because OP's life was ruined in a irreparable way and can never be the same again.
And they have the balls to say "it's just a prank bro". Yeah. It's just a prank that half of them have shotgun wounds and that the 12 yr old is currently in the hospital with multiple broken bones
Yeah I need an update
And the worst part is is you just know someone's going to pull up the whole tired argument of "Having her face consequences for a false accusation is going to make it harder for people who really went through that to step up and accuse."
Honestly, that sort of stuff makes my blood boil.
12 is still a kid but that is hardly what I'd call a child. A 12 year old is smart enough to know the damage they can do with an accusation like that, and this kid's parents should have taught her about the importance of being honest and not lying. So I say absolutely yes. Sue the kid in civil court. Make her parents pay for the legal defense, and for the settlement. That'll be their penalty for not teaching their kid not to lie.
"She's a kid"? To H with that. She purposely ruined the man's life. She deserves the maximum penalty for whatever she can be charged with. She is utterly despicable. 😡
If you as a parent date or marry the parent of your child's bully, forcing them to live together, doing nothing to actually help your child, you're a bad parent
Story 5: I don’t care how old she is, if she old enough to lie for six months and ruin someone’s life, she’s old enough to fight the consequences of it. I have absolutely no sympathy for anyone who would lie about something so serious regardless of their reasoning. And considering she has not confessed, and people are still punishing OP him getting a job back doesn’t mean sh*t. And yes, I agree he should divorce his wife, if not siding with them, then for trying to underplay what happened, because she cares more about protecting her lying family than her innocent husband.
No damage done...? No dam... WHAT?! His life is in ruins, this isn't knocking over a vase, this is freaking Pompeii! The only thing I'd like to know is why she accused him in the first place. Was this an attention grab or is she being hurt by someone else and thought op would be the safest option to blame?
I mean, it is actually like knocking over a delicate vase, shattering it and sometime later reluctantly giving the owner some cheap glue to put it back together themselves. The work rebuilding will be exhausting and the cracks will never disappear. Some bits might even be missing forever.
The damage is there, and it will stay there for everyone to see, forever. What the OP needs is the real-life equivalent of Kintsugi. Where the cracks are mended professionally and gilded to make art out of the damage, to add value to what was lost and return some sense of purpose to the item.
I believe we call that real-life equivalent for that method of 'repairing' harm: 'making reparations'.
Yeah, it's a common thing that when children are asked, they'll sometimes say a safe person instead because they're scared to say someone close to them like a parent, a grandparent, or a sibling.
@@Shingo-ok1lzthat's all well and good, but how does that get o?P to recoup his lost wages, the cost of his criminal attorney and the irreparable damage to his reputation
@@kp2223 Oh, I was just answering the question because they were wondering why the person had said that he was the one who did it in the first place. Just in case people were genuinely curious.
@@kp2223 @Shingo-ok1lz If OP was the "safe option" for the child to blame, maybe OP's lawsuit could help them both? Maybe it could lead to an investigation where the real abuser is found out and they get a new testimony from the child? I'm not a court expert at all here so idk if that could work. I say OP should go for the lawsuit either way.
2nd story: a prank/joke would have been to wrap everything in gift wrapping and putting bows on them, but duct tape is just so extreme, especially since this "kid" is 22 years old and definitely knows how much a pain it would be for op.
Giftwrap, tinfoil, even toilet paper. Basically, anything that, while kind of annoying, is easy to remove.
@@ulfruss5636 exactly!
ETA: and if it can be tied together with some silly pun/inside joke that can put a smile on the face of the recipient of the prank, it would probably cancel out the annoyance factor
I wonder what she would say if Dilyn wrapped her car in saran rap because it's a prank, but the golden rule of jokes and pranks is "know your audience" it's not funny if nobody but you is laughing
He should be thankful OP just kicked him out when OP could’ve pressed charges for the property damage. I think his wife should move in with Dylan since she won’t still parent her son
@@Josh_the_jester big agree! Pranks only ever work out if it's done so both are smiling when it happens, or at the very least met with an eye roll, a head shake and a smiling, exasperated sigh.
*Last Story:* "Why don't _they_ do it?" I'm willing to bet that OP's parents probably have shit credit themselves and are desperate to get the younger sister out of their home.
Well they did say that OP had the best credit meaning they checked her score behind her back. OP will need to lock her credit because them checking repeatedly can impact her score plus they shouldn’t have access to it
Well, then all the other "Family Members" saying that OP should do b/c "Family helps Family" why don't those Family Members hand over their Credit Cards and pay for the Morage when OP's sister misses a payment?
Chances are, they will quickly backtrack and begin coming up with mile-long excuses why they can't!
11:28 NTA. This is EXCELLENT parenting on both of their parts.
Absolutely! I love this and I love that op and the ex wife were on the same page!
No it wasn't, unless I missed something.
OP didn't parent his child.
He wouldn't 'allow that Andrew Tate' crap in his house, so he pawned him off on his ex.
At least the kid's mother can teach him properly... OP failed.
For the story about the bully who's OP's step-sister,
There's a simple quote that comes to mind:
"What goes around, comes around."
NTA, I feel so bad for OP's sister though. I'm glad OP is there for her.
I’m horrible but I think OP should spread the truth about his stepsister to her bullies.
Yep. I agree 100%. Actions have consequences. There was a woman I used to know who had two kids, one from each marriage. They were seven years apart in age, with the half-sister being the oldest. The spoiled younger half-brother was treated as if he was the second coming of Christ and was bulletproof. The mother doted on him because she had ’always wanted a boy.’ He got away with everything and as a result of being raised by an extremely self-absorbed mother who treated her kids like they were an extension of herself, at bare minimum, he grew up to have no respect for boundaries, zero regard for the word no being a complete sentence and nothing resembling a sense of accountability. I had warned her, for years, that she wasn't doing her son any favors by not preparing them from the realities of the real world i.e. that the rest of the world wasn't going to put up with his crap and treat him like he could walk on water. Because I'm male, single and adamantly child-free, she just missed everything I had to say as I “didn't know” what I was talking about. I did not accept her response and pointed at her obvious sexism. Being the arrogant waste of space that she is, she refused to accept that a woman can be sexist towards a man. Yes. She's one of those.
I chose to let it go and I knew reality would eventually slap both her and her brat son in the face. Well, that came when the daughter, graduated high school then flew the coop by going in the military. This left dear old malingering mommy (who was more concerned with smoking, drinking, getting her nails and hair done) to finally contend with the monster she had raised.
Before cutting contact with her, I remember there being two instances where she realized she had screwed up. When her son was about 12 and got his butt beat at school and she flipped out claiming she would sue but was so broke she couldn't even afford to pay attention. You better believe I pointed this all out to her and finished by saying “I told you so.” Then about two years later, when he was 14 and dwarfed her in size, he got kicked out of school for a variety of infractions i.e. truancy, fighting, disrespect towards fellow students as well as staff, vandalism, etc. his mother, naturally pulled focus and made the whole thing about her and not the fact that she had failed her son in every way possible.
You may be wondering where his father was in all of this he was an upwardly mobile blue collar worker who is often on the road for months on end. He was the disciplinarian, but unsurprisingly, his wife was the one who constantly undermined at any attempted discipline and thus their lack of communication or agreement on any course of action led to a dichotomy in their marriage.
Ask for her son getting kicked out of school, his mother would not shut up wondering “what went wrong” with her life. I waited for her to run out of breath then I asked if she was finished. My response clearly pissed her off because it meant I wasn't taking her seriously. I reiterated what I had told her years earlier, that I had warned her that she wasn't doing her son any favors by not teaching, disciplining or raising him right. A gas that I dared call out her parenting or mothering skills, she decided to go off on me. I just put the phone down and waited for her to finish. Completely ignoring everything she had said I simply thanked her. She was confused. I told her I have thanked her for her dumpster fire of a life being a lesson and reaffirming every reason for a while I was single, probably would never get married and for why I was adamantly child-free. This set her off. She started screaming at me and I hung up while she was in mid-rant. I cut contact with her nearly eleven years ago and haven't heard from her since.
I did hear through the grapevine, that her daughter is doing quite well for herself, is now an RN, but tragically, just like her mother, already has one failed marriage behind her. I heard, allegedly, her mother kept treating her daughter like a piggy bank but never paying her back and that led to strife in her daughter's marriage and they ended up in splitsville. I also heard, that that was the last straw for her daughter and she cut her mother off from her only grandchild. I'm sure that part stings like hell. As for the spoiled son? He turned out predictably the way one would expect. I heard, allegedly, he's now and unemployed, arrogant 20-something man-child with no life skills, no respect, no direction in life who totally expects the world to bend over backwards for him while giving him everything he wants through no effort on his part. In other words, he grew up to be just like his garbage mother.
Karma is a beautiful warrior goddess...
@@lorilancaster5917 thats taking a real risk though. the bullies might turn on OP's sister or even worse, team up with the step-sister.
Household chores are like the bare minimum of human basic life skills, how the f**k is teaching your kid basic life skill is a "dick move"? OP really needs to find new friends for the next christmas.
Agreed. I am always so triggered by the "friends" who side against someone who's in the right. A true friend would at least see our side in a conflict, perhaps offer some advice for future issues, but let it go. Real friends/family members should see both sides but still have our back. If not, cut them off. I had to cut off my own MOTHER for seeing a "friend's" betrayal of me. It took a while, but eventually Mom saw her error because the friend was trashy and a liar.
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Chores are something children do. For adults, it is called adulting and basic living skills.
Dollars to donuts, based on o p's age.All these guys are friends with no kids, no partners and probably still living with their own moms
When my father was in the Navy, he had to do basic life skills, including sewing. No one is gonna clean your own uniforms and shoes except for yourself.
Story 5:) NTA; honestly, imo, YTA if you don't press charges.
She might be 12, but she literally ruined op's life for seemingly no reason and deserves to be punished for it (her directly or through her parents).
Brats like her contribute to actual victims not being believed or taken seriously.
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Not to mention there's a lot of men who have unalived themselves over the false accusations that ruined their lives
Absolutely not! Charge the kid! Guarantee it won't be the last time she does that. You could potentially be saving another guy's life.
And hers if she continues this downward spiral with her bs.
Protect the next guy.
13:39 “It was a stupid mistake” right, a ‘mistake’ that almost RUINED someone’s life. she should be old enough to know that stuff is wrong
Not almost, it did ruin someone’s life, because if he goes to apply for a job in the future, his employers might look at his criminal history and see the p*do accusations and still not hire him just in case he was guilty
not almost
just flat out did
men have alt-f4 from life over this shit
@@Mud.lemonshe literally lost his entire life and was treated cruely in holding for 6 months
12 is damn well old enough to understand how bad that is
I don’t give a fuck if she’s a kid I hope she gets over a year and a half MINIMUM of community service
The girl in the accusation story really needs to face consequences. "She's just a kid." and "It was just a mistake." are just bs excuses. False accusations, especially in cases with minors are life altering. Just as OP has described it.
And the dad needs to pay every single penny of broken property and then some. Get outta there, start over and find people that support you and will not jump to conclusions so easily.
And who bets she did this for the stupidest reasons whatsoever? Either “I dunno”, “I was bored”, or some other reason that doesn’t justify nuking OPs life.
Only silver lining I see, and I’m putting lipstick on a pig, is that OP sees his wife and mother for who they really are and that they don’t have his back.
@@lorilancaster5917I bet she had a crush on op. He said she clung to him. She probably thought if she accused him he’d come crawling to her or some delusional thinking of a kid.
@@kelsmisterthis exactly
the 4th story isn't an asshole move , that's called parenting . good on the ex wife for agreeing with it as well. when the kid moves out what is he gonna do ? what if he doesn't get married right away and become rich like he thinks he will . all of those 'woman's jobs' are basic household needs that you need in life.
guys with that kind of attitude and thinking don't get women.
The kid's mother was the only actual parent I saw in that story. The OP failed miserably.
Ha! A Marine taught me how to iron, cook, laundry, mop, dishes, carpentry, electrical, plumbing, shooting, hunting, fishing, butchery, and how to respect one's elders
The dad in the first story is a MONSTER. How can there be an incident so bad that the school intervened and you decide, yah, I’m gonna make that kid bullying my child part of the family. Gross.
For the last story -
Dont you ever in your life let someone with no credit , or bad credit tell you what to do with your good credit. Also don't ever co sign for someone whose already in debt or has money trouble . You will absolutely be left with the consequences if/ when they cant pay . Credit is nothing to play with. It takes decades to fix and is the only bit of information that tells banks if you're worth helping or not.
Not to mention it would likely make it harder to use their own credit to purchase a home.
False accusations are the worst... it destroys lives and hurts everyone involved... it even hurts the cause of people who have been assaulted... I say send a message.
Exactly what I was gonna say. Being a Vic of child SA myself going through everything is tough, it literally tears families apart. Then to hear someone else falsely accuse another of the same thing is just disgusting. Op has my full support, throw everything you have at her, her family and everyone else who publicly accused you too and he needs cut ties with anyone who doesn't support him.
Exactly what I was thinking!!! Most accusations are true, but as long as people lile that 12 year old keep falsely accusing someone, it will make it so much harder for real victims to be believed and to get justice.
Store 3. Oh my fucking God hitting someone that's drives is so fucking dangerous not to mention hitting him in the first place was so uncalled for what the hell is wrong with her
Apparently she still has the same mental age as when she had OP. Pointing, screaming, and slapping is something we’re told as toddlers to don’t do to try and get what we want
My mom was similar. She wouldn't hit, but she would abruptly scream in an ear shattering way. The ride could be dead silent until she let out an ear piercing scream before saying "I thought I saw a dog in the road" or something. Almost got into multiple accidents.
My first girlfriend also tried to grab the wheel while I was driving because she was afraid I would hit a squirrel. I slapped her hand away and the squirrel ran off (like they always do). We got in a huge argument because apparently she would rather kill the both of us than risk hurting a squirrel.
@@megaspit I would get a little bit being like oh my God a dog on the road but really a squirrel bruh. I do not think I could date someone who did shit like that
I used to know someone just like the mother. She never had gas in her car or her license would be suspended because she was so financially illiterate and beyond irresponsible that she never had any money for life's necessities. She burned through every connection she had with friends and family because she was nothing but a leech.
I remember one time I was driving her somewhere and she was smoking in my car. I instructed her to put it out because I didn't allow smoking in my car. This was the type of person who never had money for necessities or utilities, but seemingly always had her hair done, her nails done, a full pack of cigarettes and booze in the fridge. Naturally, she didn't like being told what to do but complied and flick the cigarette out the window. Her son, who was approximately seven years old at the time, was bouncing around and acting up in the car. Far too old to be behaving that way and not know that you must sit still and stay seatbelt it in while in a moving vehicle. For the record, he was not neurodivergent or on the spectrum in any way shape or form he was just a very spoiled brat who had never been disciplined or ever had any follow through after receiving an idle threat from his mother. Well, he kept distracting me and I nearly got in a car accident. I used some choice words to tell him to sit down, put his seatbelt on and surprisingly he listened.
His mother started yelling at me and slapping my arm. I pulled into a parking lot, slammed on and told them both to get the hell out of my car. She laughed like an idiot as if I was kidding. I reiterated my order and told them to get out. The brat had the nerve to yell at me “don't you talk to my mama like that.” I yelled at him and used more choice words and told him to get out. He immediately band crying. Whether or not he was scared or was simply turning on the waterworks, much like his mother taught him, because he wasn't getting his way, is anybody's guess..The fun part is she, because she was so broke she couldn't even afford to pay attention, she had guilt tripped me into going and buying groceries for her. Well, my trunk was full of groceries for her house that I was now keeping. The brat son was standing in the parking lot crying, his mother was screaming at me as I threw her purse out the window and it emptied all over the parking lot. She then had the nerve to yell at me “what about my groceries?” I told her: “I paid for them. They're my groceries.” As I was driving away, I hollered out the window to have her neighbor, who was a stay-at-home mom, come get her.
Will dear old malingering mommy didn't waste any time and took to social media to bad-mouth me to anyone who would listen. Once I told the truth, people generally agreed that that “sounded like something she would do.” Even her upwardly mobile husband, who was working out in the midwest, contacted me and asked me what happened. I told him everything. He believed me because he knew how his wife was and how she let her son run roughshod all over everyone by not teaching him right. I told the husband, that I didn't want to see or hear from his wife again until she learned how to respect other people and teach their son that he can't be a total butthole who thinks he walks on diamonds and gold. Her husband totally understood. I also added that if he didn't drive home the point that if his wife didn't stop harassing me in the form of slander and libel, that I would sue the family. That got is attention. Unsurprisingly, my friendship with this woman didn't last much longer.
My dad slapped me when he was teaching me to drive because I forgot to stop at a stop sign thats not the only reason why he isn't in my life but slapping someone while driving is dangerous
You NEVER distract the driver. When I am a passenger and for example see a deer a safe distance away and want to show the driver, I always start with "There are deer in the meadow there" never shout "DEER" and point because my expectation as a driver is that you as a passenger see a danger that they haven't seen and therefore apply the emergency brake. If the one sitting next to me says an animal's name, I will apply the emergency brake
Never hit a family member/friend in the face. Unless it's life or death in which you have a lot more to worry about.
You are correct about all of this, but you could have also done some serious damage to someone by running that stop sign
@kp2223 I understand that but at the same time this is a small town and there weren't as many people as there are now plus I was brand new at driving
Story 4: openly saying that cooking and cleaning is a woman's job, is so transparent, and people who say that really mean "I have no idea how to adult and rely on the other people to feed and clothe me"
Story 2: Dude got off easy. Those kinds of pranks can get your teeth knocked out real fast when(not if) you do it to the wrong person. Good on OP for showing him upfront that it can’t be tolerated. Let’s hope Dylan learns before he does it to someone who is already at their breaking point
Don't validate him by calling him a kid. He is an adult and deserves the consequences of one, even if that means being homeless.
@@miniman649 Ah, I missed his age first time around. Edited comment to call him Dude instead of kid
He’s 22. When I was 22, I was married with a kid.
@@mkgearhead5151 Good for you. Not everyone can do that though.
@ Yeah, but at 22, he can act like an adult.
Story 1: There's a certain word for this but I can't remember what it is. Oh it's on the tip of my tongue. What is it? Oh yeah. *KARMA!!*
Story 2: "Duh! It's just a prank bro!" Can get you so far in life. Honestly OP's wife is asking for a divorce if this is how she acts with Dylan.
Story 3: As someone who doesn't drive even my dumb a knows it's extremely dangerous to do stuff like that to someone who's driving.
Story 4: NTA. His son is walking down an extremely toxic pathway.
Story 5: She's 12. She needs to learn actions have consequences, along with her family, OP's mom and his soon to be ex. My God, if I got accused of something like that and my wife took their side off the bat without giving me a chance, I'd immediately file for divorce.
Story 6: Typically AITA is one of my lesser favorite subreddits on this channel but hearing Dabney go "Then why don't they do it!!!" is why I always tune in to these. It's a nice treat like the occasions when he starts a story normally and he evolves into his Karen voice, or when he talks from across the room. 😂
Just deserts would be what I'd call it.
A good prank is “no harm no foul”. Both physically, fiscally, and emotionally.
Exactly. And both parties walk away laughing.
I once wrote you've been egged on every single egg in the house
that’s 3 things gang
Accusations story: IT DOES NOT MATTER IF SHE’S A KID!!!
As a matter of fact, this is a very good lesson she needs to learn that actions have consequences!!!
My God, I hate stories of false accusations ruing a person’s life and the accusers hiding behind the excuses of “it was a long time ago” or “they’re just a kid”!!
Firstly 12 is not “just a child” with regard to understanding the huge significance of accusing someone of that. My daughter is 13 and knows what happens to people who do that to kids. It doesn’t matter that he wasn’t put on trial - there will always be people who turn around and say there is no smoke without fire. If you don’t sue that will be worse. The 12 year olds consequences won’t be huge (and she absolutely needs to have some) and the family SHOULD be held accountable for their actions. That is the worst thing you can ever accuse anyone of and it doesn’t sound as though the girl came clean - just that the police found no evidence. That leaves doubt there and suing them reflects what he will have to live with. Having had something happen to me at not much older than that girl,I can’t understand how or why anyone would make that up. It’s a horrible situation where she decided to ruin somebody’s life because she felt like it. People like her make it harder on those of us who actually go through it to believed. The same is true when it’s children or adults making it up and I fully believe there need to be big consequences for that.
Story #5: This reminds me of a similar story of a false accusation. Basically a guy tried to frame their preacher for being a p word. At first his plan worked when the police seized the preachers laptop as part of their investigation, and the guy who made the false accusations made sure that everyone knew why. Suddenly everyone who had previously loved the preacher wanted him gone. A few days later the police publicly cleared the preacher of any wrongdoing and arrested the guy who planted the evidence. But even that STILL wasn't enough to change people's minds, they still thought the preacher was a p word and wanted him gone even though he had done nothing wrong and been publicly cleared by law enforcement. The preacher had to ask to be reassigned to another church at least 6+ hours away where no one had ever heard of the false accusations against him. So yeah, OP in story #5 should file the lawsuit and move somewhere far away.
The last story about op's family who wanted her to co-sign for her loser of a sister is that op needs to get to the bank and setup a password and then lock down her credit so that her deadbeat family can't take advantage of her just to help her deadbeat sister
The mom can also use that 'wedding money' she claims to have to offset a couple of mortgage payments while at it.
And may need to freeze or lock her credit since they likely will or have checked OPs credit score behind her back which can also hinder her chances of getting a home loan.
Sister also needs to understand that the whole point of going to grad school is to get a job to earn money to buy a house. Not use school as an excuse for someone to buy one for you.
@@Azulakayesthere is definitely no wedding money and if it does exist, it's for the sister, not o.P
*First OP:* OP's "dad" must not like OP's sister to subject her to the b|ullying at home as well as at school. At least OP had his sister's back. OP is NTA. Let his dad and stepmom take care of the stepsister since they practically picked her over OP's sister.
*Second OP:* The prank could've worked if Dylan and his friend used something that wasn't of high importance (like a coffee mug). *Or as someone else pointed out, if Dylan wrapped the items with material that would've been easy for OP to unwrap.* OP did the right thing by sticking to his guns. Dylan needed to know that some "pranks" were not acceptable. OP is NTA.
*Third OP:* Just from the title alone, I'm saying NTA.
After reading the story, I'm sticking with my verdict. Nice touch on OP's mom's part by taking OP's brother out of the car with her to guilt trip him. /s 🙄
*Fourth OP:* Another one where I'm saying NTA based on the title.
And I'm keeping my verdict again. Hopefully, OP's son will stop listening to those clowns with microphones. Besides, assuming OP's son is straight, a lot of women prefer men who cook and clean.
*Sixth OP:* Ah, the ol' "But we're fAmIlY" defense. Say it with me: "Okay, then why don't _you_ do it?!" Why don't _they_ co-sign OP's sister's loan? This story makes no dang sense. If this wasn't AI generated, I'm shocked. OP is NTA.
Story one: I’m a horrible person, but if I were OP I would tell that brat’s bullies about the crap she pulls. They’ll have a real reason for their hate.
Second story: Dylan should be thankful he only got kicked out of the house. OP could’ve pressed charges for the destruction of property.
Story three: I hope OP reads the comments and understands the manipulative bs his mom tries to pull. She should never be in a vehicle with him until she pulls a 180 with her attitude.
Story four: at first I worried about OP sending his son to his mom’s possibly making her a servant but I’m glad she was on board. No woman wants a guy who won’t do chores.
Story five: I hope OP listens to what the top commenter RSlash showed. That kid is old enough to know what she did was wrong and needs to face the consequences along with everything trashing OP.
Story six: so they think OP has throwing around house money while she doesn’t have a house? If family helps family, what are they doing for her?
@@lorilancaster5917 Re. Story One: I guess we're both horrible people because I like the idea. The older kids might even protect OP's sister from their stepsister once she enters high school.
@@lorilancaster5917 Story 4: I think he's sent him to her because it'll probably have more of an impact having a woman in charge to teach him he isn't shit if he can't look after himself.
Story 4: If you and your wife agree on your son's punishment, your friends can go pound sand. I'm glad you two are on the same page with this and a reasonable punishment was enacted
Or OP can send their parasite to them
Story 5: It doesn't matter if she's 12. If you're gonna make an adult accusation, be prepared to face adult consequences.
I have been a victim of SA, so i know how serious it is. Because it is a serious crime so is accusing men who are innocent. I am a firm believer in that if a woman accuses a man & he is innocent, then she needs to go to prison for it. In this case the kid is 12 & it makes the accusation that much worse. Being a r*pist is one thing, but being a child r*pist is on another level.
Agree. I see it as attempted 'ending of life' to falsely accuse someone of SA or worse the P-word. Your life is over, regardless of whether you are innocent or not because everyone will see you as a g*pist or the P-word bc. "No smoke without fire"
In this situation, it was probably one of the family members that put her up to it. So I still agree, but someone else should probably get the jail time and her... a lot of therapy and help. It's really gross how many false accusations like that are kids being used/forced for personal reasons.
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People like the 12 year old also contribute to actual victims being called liars or not being taken seriously.
Last story: I have a family and we all love each other, but none of them would even think of doing something so selfish, entitled and stupid. To this day, I don’t think I’ve ever gotten better financial advice from my father than this simple sentence. “ never tell anyone especially your family about your financial status”, you think you can trust your family, but then they’re the main ones demanding handouts. The only kind of people that have any right to know a fraction of your financial status or the people you have financial ties with, and even then it will always be on the need to know basis.
If the mom wants to defend a 22-year-old who destroys other people's property with pranks, she can join her son and move out, effective immediately. This level of disrespect from a stepson and his mother isn't worth sharing a bed with the mother. Also, about the son who doesn't want to do household chores because "it's a woman's job", he can always hire a maid when he's grown up, but then he'll have to work a good paying job in order to afford one. Having an Andrew Tate lifestyle does require money.
Gender roles: Good that both parent agree that the son needs to unlearn this misogynistic chauvinistic crap yesterday. The world is rough enough without those kinds of attitudes.
Amen!
It is nice both parents after being freed from their marriage became amicable and work well as a team especially for moments like the one in this story.
Yeaaaah I'm with the first OP, don't care if it'll get much worse for her, that spoiled brat is on her own.
Edit: As for the OP that got accused... If The Hunt has taught me anything, it's that even if your name's cleared, just leave and start over. There will ALWAYS be 'what iffers' in that town
And there is still that record. By pressing charges and getting his name cleared, it will help him moving forward.
I’m just going to say it: Rslash thank you for posting the title of your stories and usernames. It makes them way easier to find and I appreciate it so much!
The only thing that makes my coffee taste better is when I listen to a new episode of rSlash
Not even sugar?
I heard that last story on another channel, all I could think of in the end was I wish Dabney/r/Slash could read it so he would say my favorite line...."Why don't THEY do it"!!
Thanks for reading this!
16:40 Because she has better credit than her parents
Yeah but you’re missing the point, they can’t just make it o.p.’s problem especially when they already did offer to put their names down and to chip in fir a down payment
And if they told the sister they were gonna get someone to and ran to o.p. Asking him to do it then that’s even worse
O.p. Is not the A.H here, they never sat down and discussed it properly
@ I never said that justified their actions; i just think it’s funny RSlash was like “Why don’t you do it” and there’s an actual answer
Is there anyone else here wondering where the 12 year old got the idea of accusing the uncle? I don't believe he did it i just think someone put that idea in her head.
Exactly. He should sue them all then leave town. He should definitely divorce his wife. There's no need to tie his life up to those horrible people in any way.
@@jdangel6892 Someone brought up the idea that the 12 year old had some kind of crush/interest in op since tried to be around him a lot. Don't know if it's true, but it seemed interesting.
It's still a big leap from having a crush, and something happening. There's gotta be something going on in her house, or she's got something wrong in her brain.
it’s because it’s obviously a fake story. if you’re on reddit a lot then you’ll notice that about 10-20 of almost this exact same story get posted in AITAH alone per day. across all of Reddit hundreds of these chat gpt written bait stories are posted daily. it’s obvious once you spend any amount of time on there.
When one of my friends was a freshman in college her anxiety was SUPER bad and my ex was driving us somewhere and she was so panicked that he’d miss the turn that she literally screamed and scared him. I whipped around and told her “you do NOT scream at him like that!” She’s better now but in that moment I thought ‘if you scaring him makes him crash, that’s your fault’
Slapped story - OP, NTAH!!!
You should have told her to leave your little brother and made her walk!!!
Slapping your arm is kinda acceptable, but she slapped you in the back of your head!!!! WTF!?
8:01 it’s only a woman’s job if a woman chooses to do it
my sister once flashlighted me with her phone while i drive, because shes mad that i ignored her. i was trying to switch lanes on highway in high speed. she put me, her, and our mom at risk just because she was upset about it. thankfully i just froze and didnt swerve. and shes not even apologizing for it.
Also the story about the 12 year old girl: I don't care if her life won't get ruined over the lawsuit. OP should do it anyway to everyone and see how it feels to be accused of something. All men and women should sue the person accuses them of some like the situation in this story. People really do lose everything over those accusations.
Her life might probably be ruined by the lawsuit and I don't mean her reputation or future.I mean her actual money situation . Her parents may have put money aside for college.That now has to go to pay back o p and lost wages from getting fired from his job. They made it to downgrade their house in order to pay back o.P property damage. If she goes to a private school, they may need to downgrade to public in order to pay for op's attorneys and their own attorneys
@@kp2223 Op lost everything so that’s deserved 🤷♀️
@@kp2223actions have consequences. Tough shit lol
12 year olds know how damaging those accusations are. When I was 12, I knew how damaging they were and how that accusation is only for people who are actually predators. My parents taught me that and other kids around me knew the same thing.
Here at 33 seconds!
Edit to add: Wrapping supplies in Christmas wrapping paper, thats a prank. Wrapping supplies in duct tape is meant to be an asshole. At 22 he knows the difference between duct tape and scotch tape. NTA.
Pranks are supposed to be funny.
Dang, you're speedy! I felt early at 2 mins. lol
Plastic wrap exists. Duct tape is malicious.
Story 2: Wow, "just a kid"? He's 22! That's not a kid, that's very much an adult.
Marrying your kids bully's parent is not the smartest thing to do. Wow, just wow.
That girl was 12 and knew what she said would have serious consequences. OP needs to sue to get a semblance of his reputation back. But he does need to move away.
Is it possible OPs mom in the third story is dyslexic? I find it funny because my girlfriend and I are the exact opposite when it comes to directions. She's dyslexic, and absolutely stresses out when I tell her to turn "right" or "left." It confuses her. So when i'm giving directions, I have to put my hand out close to the windshield, and very clearly point to where she needs to turn, and say "At the next light, you're going to turn that way." So much smoother, ironically.
Press charges and sue. This is not ok, and lessons must be learned early or they'll never be learned. Women and girls need to learn that false accusations are NOT OK.
I’m retired and I do “women’s work,” if you count dishes, sweeping, and laundry as womens work. I can cook, but my wife is a vegetarian and I am not. I can cook meat, pasta, and brinner. My experience ends there. I don’t feel emasculated by doing these things.
Speaking as a highly productive 50 year-old male, I can tell you that I iron I do dishes. I also feed all the farm animals and I work sometimes 120 hours in a pay period at my job. Successful men have multiple discernible life skills.
Dylan’s mom is thinking as a parent protecting her baby instead of an adult teaching her adult child that sometimes when you’re old enough to vote, drink, and go to jail and you still choose to fuck around, you eventually find out.
The accusation story: NTA, false crimes claims are a rung bell that cannot be un-rung. Like op said, his life was ruined over a lie and if he stays where he lives, he’ll have to deal with people thinking he did something that he had irrefutable evidence he didn’t do. This is why actual victims don’t get believed.
*3rd Story:* This is why when you need a ride somewhere, it's better to just give the driver an address and let them figure out the rest.
I wonder if she would’ve slapped an Uber driver? A bus driver? No? Then don’t throw hands on your own child
And would the mom act this way with an uber driver? While in a taxi? No? Then don’t act this way to your own son because being blood doesn’t entitle you to a free punching bag
Ain't any embarrassment in having to look to TH-cam to learn how to cook and clean. It's admirable to learn how to do things you took for granted
Never wrap things in duct tape. Use cling film. My brother's housemate wrapped everything he owned in Christmas wrapping paper when he was at Uni. Some stuff was still wrapped in June.
love it when rslash encounters a "WHY DONT THEY DO IT" story. he looses his mind every time he says it.
Last story: I know why the parents don't do it. OP said as much, OP's credit is better than theirs. Why don't any of the rest of them do it? I don't know, but it is probably because they already know the obvious: Sis is a credit liability.
Actually if you check the original, the girl who posted is adopted. The sister is the bio child of the parents, so it's a lot worse than it seems in that story, seems the parents like to use her to benefit their bio child. She spills how this was always the case.
Plus the sister isn’t employed and likely won’t get a job while I school so it will be expected for OP to handle the financial burden
In the 5 story i give the girl who falsely accused the guy 5/5 bad guy what she did could have end the dude life
Stories like the false accusation upset me. It makes it harder for real victims to be believed. And ruins lives
Story 1: Wow, there's actually a meme where the a kid gets bullied and when the dad goes to talk to the hot mom, they end up making out while in the background the bullying continues.
In the last story, an important bit of information (I read the original post and the update), is that OP is adopted. OP's parents struggled to have a baby, adopted OP, and a few years later, had the sister naturally. So, in the post the sister is very much the "Golden Child" while OP is used by the parents to financially support the sister irrespective of OP's wishes and boundaries.
"Now I know redditors always go directly to divorce, but you should get rid of the wife"
Rslash, you should consider making a shirt that says “Why don’t YOUUUU do it?” I would buy it
I honestly think falsely accusing someone of SA should be punishable, to even get the title of SA or the P-word is life-destroying. It doesn't matter if you are found not guilty because people will never trust you because "no smoke without fire".
As someone who learned how to cook from his father, I have a massive amount of respect to the OP in the fourth story. Learning how to cook and clean doesn't make you any less of a man. If anything, you're more of a man for showing how willing you are to undertake new responsibilities. Anyone who thinks cooking is only for women or weak men is pathetic.
Love you, Dad. I'll be sure to make one of your favorites next time you come over for dinner.
The story of the kid having to learn house hold chores. Let the kid learn the hard way
1:I understand why OP wouldn’t want to help stop the bullying happening to the bully who bullies his sister. Yes he should do the bare minimum but to do nothing is kinda rude. 2:Seriously he destroyed some of your stuff because of the duct tap stunt and when your wife defends this, what happens if he decides to step it up. 3:God that would annoy me not getting clear instructions then she had the gawl to slap you while driving, she put all of you in danger. You in no way are the bad person. 4:GOD your child sounds so sexist saying choirs are women’s work, choirs should be split equally. Seriously where the heck did your child learn this view point. 5:What a monster, seriously she could have completely destroyed your life and almost did. Simply stating or accusing you can completely destroy your life. They want you let it go because she is a kid soooo..she almost got you arrested and put in jail for years. You need to hold them accountable. 6:I in no way would co sign anything no matter who the person is just in case they don’t make the payments or start to slip and expect you to cover everything so it doesn’t look bad on you, not the bad person
Story 6: AWW. HELL. NO. Being a doormat is NOT a family value.
The 12yo...well if she's old enough to make up that kind of story and go through with it..then she's old enough for consequences
When my Mom was a teenage farm girl she was given the job of taking the kids near their farm into town for Sunday school. She told them that if they behaved she would get them ice cream for the trip back. On the way home one of them dropped his Popsicle down her back and she put the car in the ditch. No one was seriously injured but the car's frame was bent and they could never get it fully straightened.
Story 3: When I was a teen still learning to drive, my dad made me drive us home after doing some errands.
I struggled with staying in my lane and my dad just kept yelling, at one point he straight up punched me in the face.
When I told my mom, she told me he said that I had fallen asleep on the wheel.
Story 3: the thing I wanna focus on is OP feeling bad. Honestly, because I wonder if the only reason he feels so bad is because that was his mom. Like, he has no reason to be sorry, and if it was anyone else he probably wouldn’t be or at least wouldn’t be quick to feel guilty about it. Whether intentional or not parents usually have his way of making their kids feel guilty for calling them out, and it’s because you’re the kid they’re the parent you’re not supposed to call them out. Or at least not so blatantly you have to tiptoe around calling them out otherwise it’s disrespectful.
But OP is 21, meaning he’s coming into the milestone where he’s going to once and need his parents to see him laugh at their kid and more as an adult. And I don’t mean he can start disrespecting his mother and in salt or anything like that. But he shouldn’t have to tiptoe to get his point across, and his mother can’t just call him, disrespectful for not letting her say or do whatever she wants to him.
I’ve been through something similar with my mom. She doesn’t do intentionally, but that doesn’t make any less annoying.
uprooting a life is a permenent action, dude only sent his son to a very calm and very simple "bootcamp" 2 hours away where he had to do household chores, and is planning on having him stay for what, a month at best. thats not uprooting, thats called a punishment.
He said it! I heard him Say it! That was the best "WHY DON"T THEY DO IT"!?!? I was laughing so hard. Thanks for making my day rSlash. That is most definitely a signature Catchphrase. I would so buy a I shirt from rSlash that had that; "Then why don't you DO IT"!?
Here is another surprise. RSlash, whose job is to read reddit stories, AGAIN skips updates that we want to hear. Sitting and reading is just too hard for Karens even if it is their job
My ex was notorious for pointing, rather than saying "turn left/right", WHILE DRIVING AT NIGHT. Yup. Put him out of the car the last time.
The first story: As someone who once had three toxic stepsisters, and an equally toxic stepmother, this one really hits home. I was the bullied kid and the sad part, my own blood brother fell right in line while turning a blind eye and a deaf ear watching it all happen. He often joined in on the bullying. Even worse, all of his friends at school were my bullies. I suppose I got a little bit of schadenfreude after he had a falling out with the ringleader of his group and they got in a fight to where my brother got his butt kicked. I wouldn't give him any sympathy.
It got to the point that I was getting an ulcer midway through my first year of middle school. Naturally, my dad and my stepmom didn't believe but my mom took me to a doctor and it was confirmed I had was developing an ulcer. I remember being grilled by my stepmom and my dad like I was a hostile witness in a criminal case and they were the D.A.
Because my mom was the one to take me to the doctor, my stepmom and dad acted like I had been overreacting. I guarantee you if my father was the one who had taken me to the doctor, he would have treated like it was a federal case and then blames my mom for not taking care of me right.
Long story short, my dad eventually realized that my stepmom was a total psycho who would flip out if the throw pillows on the couch were crooked, that her daughter with a chip off the same narcissistic block and the two older stepdaughters were no better but at least they were finally grown and out of the house. The last straw, came for him when he walked in on my stepmom threatening to hit me and then bringing back her hand to slap me. Apparently it wasn't okay for anyone else to hit his kids but him. And getting her away from me and her eyes were bugging out of her head like a Felix the Cat clock. Adding some backstory, my stepmom had been beaten and brutalized by her first husband yet she came full circle and went from being a victim to an abuser herself.
Gender Roles story: I know rSlash has a strict 0-5 ratings, but I'm sure we can we all agree that OP and the Mom is both *Negative* Five out of Five (-5/5 Buttholes), or 5/5 Awesome. We NEED more parents like them. Their example should be the stranded.
Re accusations: also sue the employer for unfair dismissal and sue the dad for damages over the stuff he broke. If it were me, he'd one day come home to all of his stuff broken.
Step-sister is finding out what karma tastes like, and it's nasty.
"Selfish!" is the cry of the wild narcissist.
People who falsely accuse others of SA are just as bad as actual abusers. You can literally ruin somebody's life like that. I would go no contact with that piece of garbage. Minor or not, that is inexcusable.
OP: She cheated on me so I divorced her
Son" SIMP!
Dude, being a man means you can take care of yourself so learn how to cook and cleaning
Refusing to co sign is a no brainer. Let your parents co sign.
The gender roles story: NTA, the kid effed around and found out
Story 5 not only do you press charges against her you press it against every single person involved that kid has to learn she cant do this frankly put this is light compared to her doing it to someone who would be willing to crash out and trully ruin her life
The dad with the son who didn’t want to do housework, WHY did you leave such a good woman and mom? She sounds wonderful!
I believe he explained that in the story, bro. They were toxic for each other, and she cheated on him.
That last story has “Do it for Dan!” all over it.
Speaking of which, I’m sure there are updates to that post in particular.
Story 3: my brother lost his best friend when his girlfriend yanked the steering wheel when he was on the highway.
Story 1: NTA. OP’s “ dad “ and stepsister are just the worst! The stepsister for hurting OP’s sister, and the “ dad “ for even marrying the mother of the person who’s hurting that poor girl are just awful!
Story 2: NTA. It’s not a prank if it isn’t funny! The “ prank “ was horrible. Dude, he’s 22, and his mommy dearest is saying he’s “ just a kid, and didn’t know better “? No! He knew what he was doing because he’s a 22 year old adult!!