Does it hurt because you don't agree oder why ? (I don't want to be mean but my boyfriend is trans (ftm) and we talked a bit about his voice and stuff and I said that I liked his voice but I thought it would make him more comfortable.. Do you think that was wrong ?
@@jean7464 For me, it's very easy to feel like people would like me better if I wasn't trans. So if someone says "you look great as a girl!" my mind interprets it to "you shouldn't transition because then you won't be pretty anymore!" I know that's not their intention, but it's just how it makes me feel. That's just my experience. I'd rather the people in my life show that they want me to move forward with becoming a man, because then I feel like they are choosing the real, happy me.
No dysphoria but hoodies are the best It's like a 32C° summer with the sun kicking my ass on a daily basis but the hoodie looks amazing Update 4/4/23: *Yes dysphoria ;ʌ;*
It's very difficult to explain the severity of dysphoria too. I'm not constantly upset about it, but it's miserable when you're reminded of it. It's tough to explain that to people who are either worried about you or not taking you seriously.
IMO part of what makes it difficult to convey to cis people is that all of the components that make up dysphoria are either trivial or common among cis people; they can understand that being called the wrong name is "annoying," and pretty much everyone knows what it feels like to be unhappy with some aspect of their body. But you really have to zoom out and view it as a whole; it feels as though society has conspired to make sure you constantly live under a small pressure from every single person you meet, each of whom will downplay their individual impact because they only play a small part in it. That in turn reinforces the dysphoria because not only is it a constant oppressive force, but you're constantly told that you're making a bigger deal of it than you are. Everyone you meet adds a single drop of water to the glass tank that you're trapped in and disavows themself of the danger of you drowning as the water rises.
Imagine having a therapist who think body dysmorphia and gender dysphoria are the same thing and not listening to you when you try to explain the difference, and then telling you you're "too angry" for testosterone bc she pisses you off and you need a letter from her stating that you need testosterone in order to not off yourself. This was just a vent bc this happened to me and gender dysphoria needs. A lot more awareness and the differentiation needs to be made. *sigh*
@@Apollo_G An example for body dysmorphia would be not liking your body bc you think you look fat/ugly/gross. And gender dysphoria is not liking certain parts of your body bc it feels wrong, like it shouldn't be there, bc your mind doesn't agree with your biological sex.
I’m totally cis, but it still really pissed me off when someone referred to me by the wrong pronoun as a kid because it’s hard to tell boys and girls apart when they’re super young and wearing gender neutral clothes. I can’t imagine having to live with that everyday.
@@thedumbdog1964 Basically someone thought I was a boy when I had short hair as a kid. I’m a girl, was born a girl (cis), but it still felt bad to be called a boy. Sorta makes you feel inadequate in a way, like you’re not enough to be the gender you feel you are.
@@typicallyusual6984 funny, because when i was little i always loved to be "mistaken" as a boy... didnt know i was trans back then, but always felt it i guess
@@sandhanitizer2796 That's really interesting! I mean it makes sense but I love to hear the stories of people whose experiences differ from mine. I had to get my hair cut short because my grandma messed up my haircut. It felt awful seeing all the other girls getting their hair brushed into cute styles after naptime at kindergarten, while I just had to sit around and watch. I kinda forgot about this, but now that I say it, I think it's a minor source of trauma for me. It was such a relief when my hair grew out long enough for it to be styled. I imagine it was the opposite for you? Hair can play a big part in identity, especially as a kid.
People really be out here getting sons when they asked for daughters Wack Ed: I feel like my comment got misunderstood by a lot of people so I’ll just say trans pride and let y’all figure it out. 🏳️⚧️
I’m 100% a cisgender man, but I apparently look very feminine, because I’ve gotten misgendered before (mainly in my teenage years) and oh wow, it feels BAD. I would never do that to someone else.
I would also add to the shoes metaphore that you look at your feet and see the shoes put on incorrectly but everyone who looks at your feet doesn't see any problem and they think that your shoes are fine
Another addition: You tell everyone that the shoes are on the wrong feet but there are people who are like "No way! That is not possible! [insert other comments and remarks]".
@@terozakikuroshi199 They are worried you’ll regret your decision as being trans has become more of a fad than something people take seriously. It’s upsetting when you realize the amount of people who claim being trans for attention and not because they are actually being genuine with themselves about how they feel.
@@TT35109 social normalisation has made people who have had no signs of gender dysphoria get it almost instantly, it’s actually a really weird phenomenon which is upsetting to see
*Throwback to 3rd grade when I told everyone I'm actually a boy but my mom made me wear girl clothes cause her daughter died when I was born just so the boys wouldn't question me being in the boy's bathroom*
@@cairostation2892 I mean, maybe. Does your mom still make you wear girl clothes? You could probably just bring a pair of more masc clothes to change into at school. I think you would get less questions.
@@theabyss310 lol no I was just joking, my mom’s totally accepting and people say I pass so at least there’s that. Now, the government is the only thing in my way😏 I can deal with that
I like to say that dysphoria is like eating your soup with a pencil. You're fundamentally unequipped for the task at hand, but you don't really have a choice.
Ugggh that sucks! And it’s so widely marketed too - clothes, toys, decorations, hobbies, sports, etc. They really need to start advertising kid toys as more gender neutral. Like at least make that a first step in the right direction. No more cars/dinos = boy and Barbie/baking = girl. Sorry for going off haha. Your comment means a lot to me and I wish more parents weren’t so demanding of gendered stereotypes as if a kid can’t do something just because it’s only “made for” girls/boys.
Phoenix Animations exactly, thank you! That’s why I have a feeling gen z will make good parents. Cause I feel a lot of us are going threw this. I know for a fact if I have children I’ll let them be who they wanna be.
Exactly I can’t wait to support my kids no matter what and my mum is a teacher and she changed the school so that they have pretty much stopped saying words like “boy” and “girl” and separating ppl based on what “gender” they are bc the kids don’t know yet and that’s all right she is teaching them that if one day they want to be called by “she/her” that it’s ok to change and explore, she is obviously still learning but I am so grateful to have someone like that in my life I hope more ppl will learn soon that trans ppl aren’t going anywhere~ a trans ally!
pronouns are like hoodies. there’s a size you feel comfortable in and the size people expect you to wear. the right size will always be the one you want, *not* the one that people think fits you best. other people can’t choose your hoodie
Yeah, but when you want to put your head inside the sleeve, this is when people would find you weird. Wear a hoodie but wear it the way it is supposed to(binary pronouns). Don't invent new ways to wear it (neo-pronouns and they/them).
BIG FRIGGIN MOOD THOUGH. I’m not athletic, and partaking in sports makes me feel bad about myself, so I don’t do them. I used to be a gamer, but it got unhealthy, so I dropped that hobby. Now, I draw and write, and they make me dysphoric, sKSKSSKSK
Hobbies, height, sexuality (guys are expected to be hypersexual and I'm Ace), chest, legs, clothes (not allowed to work and no way to buy male clothes), voice, face, lack of hair on my face and chest, super fast growing hair on my head, my hands also (just figured I'd try and list most of them)
As a person with dysphoria, I don’t have it as extreme as others but it’s still noticeable and uncomfy my heart does go out to those who have it worse tho
@@morganstaker4928 because this video basically sums up gender dysphoria. it's important for ppl to know of this because they shrug gd off as a "phase", but there's actually scientific evidence behind it, which most people don't know
Morgan Penguin Here’s my stance. If you break your leg, you feel pain, which is your body’s way of letting you know something is wrong. If you don’t have the right body, you feel dysphoria, your brain’s why of letting you know something is wrong I don’t think it’s a disorder or condition
Me: * is a closeted non binary and does something masculine forgetting what everyone else sees me as * Mom: YoU kNoW yOuRe a gIrL rIgHt? Me: mhm * Takes 100 psychic damage *
@@sydnie5620 you seem like a nice person so i would rather not say it cause it might make you feel uncomfortable. Plus, my personal opinions should not matter in how someone lives and everyone should just be like they want too
I’m cis but the hoodie and pants thing hits me hard. I consider myself chubby and I try to hide it as much as possible with a thick goodie and pants. Even in summer with a little less thick hoodie. Again I’m cis but this video helped me a lot and helps me understand others point of view, Thank you.
Don’t listen to this ☝️. Beauty is a social construct and not fitting into that is up to you to decide. If you want to care what other people think then start a diet and exercise routine if you want to be happy and comfortable with how are now, learn to stop caring about what other people say and think without forgetting that they are allowed to have thoughts and opinions of their own. Take life into your own hands and be strong because the alternative is a sad spiral of depression and Ben and Jerry’s. Don’t take any lives though cause that’s not ok. 🎉 I have faith in you. 🎉 good luck 👍.
I'm a previously obese person who knows the struggle. Also, I know you'll likely still feel this way, but wearing baggier/thicker clothes makes you look chubbier than you might actually be. (Though most overweight/chubby persons still feel like covering it up is more comfortable, which I totally understand) That said, best thing you can do is find clothes that draw attention away from areas you're not as happy with and to areas you want them to look. So if you have a bigger tummy, shirts that fit looser around that area, but tighter in the chest or create longer lines can help. Same goes for legs. A wider, but still fitted pant leg can help draw attention away if you think your thighs are too big. If you're unhappy with something, you're allowed to change it to feel more comfortable in your own skin. Have you talked to anyone about this? I don't know your age, I also don't know if maybe you also feel chubby, but might actually have body dysmorphia or something, so I'm being careful to suggest that talking to a doctor or medical professional if you are able to about what you can do with your weight. There is lots you can do if you are not happy and you don't have to settle just because. People are wrong in my opinion to suggest that. Anyone should be able to do something to be happier in their own skin provided it doesn't cause harm or risk vs the alternative. Again, I don't know your situation, so I suggest a health professional who would be able to see what is going on and help you discover what you can do about it. If you are chubby, there are plenty of things you can do to help reduce the weight that are appropriate and healthy for whatever conditions you might have or specific things your body might need or do better with. I can however recommend regardless of your situation, that working out is good for everyone, just a walk a few times a week, or dance in your room or whatever you enjoy doing. The body does well with movement and stays stronger longer. Even if working out isn't a key to losing weight, it's good for stability which will help with all kinds of other things in life.
@@Leaftcow I dont wanna be that guy but I see you say basically the same thing in every comment. I know you believe in God so I'm just going to say, I know you are trying to help but your not. You are making things worse, go tell this to your church.
I’ve had some people really confused about gender dysphoria when your gender fluid. I’m gonna add onto the shoe analogy for this. It’s like sometimes having no shoes on, sometimes the shoes are both on the wrong feet, sometimes there’s 2 left shoes, sometimes there’s 2 right shoes and sometimes the shoes are put on correctly. It’s constantly changing.
Most people who claim to be "gender fluid" assign a set of stereotypes to a gender and perform them or think they indicate being fluid. Being a Tom boy doesn't make you gender fluid. Very few women have any idea what it's like to be a man.
@@alexojideagu aha yes when i feel like a manly man i love to wear big manly man clothes and definitely not skirts or dresses no i love gender stereotypes
As I got confused on the analogy I'll try to give perspective as someone goes genderfluid without it: Right off the bat, I'm not dysphoric all the time. It fluctuates. Sometimes I'm content with myself. Sometimes the dysphoria is "This is fine but this would be better". Sometimes it's all out "WHO IS THAT PERSON IN THE MIRROR??". There are other levels in between but you get the picture. It's also worth to vote that what makes me dysphoric one day won't make me the next time my gender scale shifts. I could be having a more masc time and be content with myself. Somewhere along the fem side and be ready to fight god. It depends! Now this is a little unrelated but I would also like to bring to the table that some trans people aren't dysphoric at all! Though you'll find this is more common with non-binary identities (specifically things like agender), it's a thing. A person can be fine with what they have but would be even more content with an upgrade. And I say this because I know a few people who are non-dysphoric enbies and get asked about how dysphoria works with their identities. Which by the way, don't ask people about dysphoria you could remind them it exist! I went off course there but yeah! Gender dysphoria when you're genderfluid.
Im non binary and I remember one time I wore a skirt and a sweatshirt and my mom made me change into this tight fitting shirt. Then proceeded to point out it gave me an hourglass figure and the sweatshirt "didn't show off my curves" which made me immediately go to my room and cry. Small things like pointing out someones body even if you think its a compliment can make people feel like shit.
Thank you for sharing this.. I hope you were able to express how this situation made you feel to your mom. It's sad how often this happens to both those in the LGBTQ2+ community and just cisgender people given very restrictive beauty "standards" and held to such high expectations. You and your feelings are 100% valid
More problems with your mom's "compliment" in case you need them to win an argument or something: 1. A lot of people don't have gender dysphoria, but they have other things like dysmorphia, so it would make them feel uncomfortable to wear something that shows their body. 2. Forcing someone into clothing to show off their physical form, presumably to make them more attractive, is objectifying them. 3. Forcing someone to wear different clothes would be upsetting and potentially traumatic for anyone, and shouldn't be done.
This reminds me of something my own mother did to me. I told her I feel more like a boy than a girl and she pointed at my skinny jeans and said, “Boys wear that?” And I went and cried about it too. In the end, I’m the one who has the last laugh. I ended up with someone who accepts me for me and allows me to dress however I want without making comments about it either. It’s liberating when you finally get out on your own and pick the person you want to be with. You don’t pick family. But you can pick your partner. ✌️
I'm transmasc non binary with major top dysphoria. I'm cursed with a very large chest and get sexual comments from cis men and jealousy comments from cis women all the time. Not only are the sexual comments degrading, not only are the envious comments not taking into account how much physical strain having double Ds can have on your body, but it makes me INCREDIBLY dysphoric. I want these things gone... I loathe my chest, my feminine hips, being called she, being called deadname, and my voice is so close to sounding androgynous but just needs that extra push. I want to wear dresses but the ones I own show my binder. I want my father to proudly introduce me as his child or pride and joy yet I'm hit with daughter. I am not a girl... I want top surgery and to go on T.
I showed this to my mom around a year ago and when I showed her it she actually accepted me better because she didn't know how I felt, so thanks for that
Wowowowowow. I found an LGBT+ comment section with no homophobe or transphobe in it! Beyond shocked. I mean. *Waw.* *I wonder for how long this'll last.*
:\ maybe you could wash your hair by itself and put shampoo and conditioner in it and stuff and then when you get in your shower you focus on only cleaning your body(which will probably make it quicker) and you can put one of those cap things(I forgot the name) on your head while you shower. This could cause more dysphoria since your only focusing on your body but on the bright size you have shorter showers. The goal is for you to shower often but also not get dysphoria, so try experimenting different ways
showering is horrible, especially when people comment on how you look all the time. i cant focus on anything except the comments i’ve heard and that fact that my body is wrong
There’s a difference between having dysphoria and being self-conscious that a lot of people don’t understand. The explanation I came up with was having your brain put into the body of a fish. The problem isn’t that the fish isn’t pretty enough, it’s that you aren’t supposed to be one in the first place.
@@DellKaGor well theres a bunch of other things that r kinda bad abt being a cat like throwing up food randomly, people not understanding what you need, parasites and etc. theres a lot of pain about being a cat as well if you have another pet in your house (especially one that can wake you up). then theres also humans bothering you and petting you all the time which most likely will jumpscare you irl. i hope you get what i mean
UGH that sucks! It’s one thing to get misgendered, another for them to do it purposely. I hope it gets better and that you have some friends for support. Stay safe and stay strong.
And it's like you're trapped under what people keep saying, right? 😔 (I am not trans, but I can imagine how it feels to be mistaken as the other gender.) Edit: Nvm I'm non-binary- 😳
"It's just a word!" well if it’s just a word, what would it cost you to say something different? only one word what would it cost us if you said that word over and over and over again? maybe our life
I got called a woman as a "joke" by my bf, and he said he was joking and not to take him serious, even tho i get massive dysphoria. Im nonbinary, my depression got worse when i got more aware i have womanly parts, and that i sound like a woman. Im currently thinking of going on hormones.
omg! thanks so much for doing this!! i was nonbinary for a long time and people using male pronouns really hurt my soul. to anyone reading this PLEASE do this too!! it's really easy to just say "they" or "them" instead of "he/she". assuming genders can really hurt.
0:21 “She looks cute” This may be a tiny detail, but I thought it was a really good example- it shows that misgendering in any form can cause dysphoria, even when it’s meant to be a compliment. A surprising amount of people don’t understand that dysphoria isn’t just about being unhappy with your appearance, it’s a deep-rooted fear that people’s perception of you doesn’t match who you are inside.
Remember just because you don’t feel dysphoric with your assigned gender doesn’t mean that you have to live as that gender. It is whatever makes you the most euphoric
Honesty, everybody liked the “girl” illusion I used before. Some of my friends even had a crush on me before I cut my hair. It would be so much easier for my family if I just played pretty girl. So much easier, less problems in life, less harassment, less money... I’m not good at looking like a decent looking man, but as a girl I can look pretty, do makeup well, pull off outfits. It’s so tempting to just lie and be a doll for the confidence of others, but I just can’t... I’m not a doll, I’m not a girl. Only 1 person knows, and calls me by my name. It’s like the people I know only see a plastic post board version of me in front of me.
I understand that so well. I feel like my family loved me more before I came out. It sucks, because I'm so much happier now. It's like they want me to be depressed and alone just so I can be easy. But our happiness matters more than anyone's opinions of us. You will find people who love you for who you are, but there is no real joy in being loved for what you're not. I wish you the best of luck.
Honestly I wish I had seen this when it came out,I realized I was trans about two years ago,I’ve been struggling with acceptance, and dysphoria, it sucks honestly,my name is jack,I’m a gay man who has had a lover for longer than I’ve known I was transgender,my boyfriend loves me so much and I love him, he’s taught me that no matter what,I’m a man,it doesn’t matter what my chromosomes are,or what’s in between my legs, I am a man, and it’s been a hard journey so far,it’s not over yet either, but at least I have a community and amazing boyfriend to support throughout my journey,and that’s all I need
Hey Jack! It’s really good to hear you have such a great amount of love and support. Stay strong, especially with everything going on in the world right now. Thank you for sharing and happy pride month :)
I made this comment so long ago, my girlfriend is still absolutely incredible, he’s such a sweetheart and has been the biggest help with my confidence, I am so confident in myself and I’m so proud I have someone like her at my side, I never knew how much I needed a good support system until recently, my life is so much better and happier now :)
something that i feel should be said more is: 'i am a trans man' i feel like that would make homophobic people misgender people more since they know youre trans the thing i think people should say instead is literally just 'i am a man' it might feel strange for some people maybe but that should be a more popular opinion
hi is it ok if I ask about how you experience dysphoria? I grew up in a place where boy and girl are the only two options and I'm trying to figure out if I'm just uncomfortable in my body (probs dysmorphia?) or if I might be nonbinary, thanks in advance :)
@@just_foxy35 right for me it’s looking too feminine or masculine,my voice going too high or low and my chest(if your not afab then that may not apply to you sorry 😅)
@@just_foxy35 I get really insecure with my breasts and my face shape, which is why I'm experimenting with different hair styles. But mostly it's social, such as people mistaking me for a girl due to something about my attributes, or my mom using the wrong pronouns
could you please help me understand. At the risk of sounding offensive, I would like to ask you ¿do you know that if you are born a boy, you will always be a boy genetically speaking, but you sometime FEEL like something, and prefer to act and be recognized as such in order to be happy and more comfortable? ¿Is is something you do because you don't agree to the social and cultural standars of male or female? If so ¿Wouldn´t it better to accept being what you really are (scientifically speaking), but just act however you want in order to not be restrained by social and cultural norms? Honestly, I really don´t want to be disrispectfull, but this all seems just too wierd for me, I would really appreciate learning how your thought process goes. Thanks for your time!
@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 I dunno about genderfluid, as I am not, but if it is anything like me, then No. As a MtF transgender, I can say that this would be wrong for me. It's not that I don't want to conform to the gender norms, I just genuinely wish I was born a girl. I want to be a girl and will try my hardest to feel comfortable in my own body.
@@thecolorpurple6401 Ok, so if I got it right, you would be willing to admit or at least respect if someone says you are genetically speaking still a male, BUT... you want to be a female because that makes you happy and fulfills you (as it better represents the way you feel), and thus, you want people to treat you as such and respect your desition as it is the best way to treat the dysphoria and live a happy life. In a way, is it like choosing a career? You know you are not really of that profession from birth, but it is the best way for you to achieve happiness, so why not do it?
I've sent this to my mother as she dosent understand how some days I can ware a dress and other days I have my binder and packer. She's honestly trying her best but some times she just dosent understand. Thankyou
That’s good she’s trying. It definitely takes time... If there are any future video ideas you think I can make that would help, feel free to share them here. Happy Pride Month!
im not sure if youre trans or fluid but i relate cause i like being fem masc and andro depending on my mood, but im fine with dresses and stuff but i dont wear them cause want to be a boy in a dress not a girl in a dress y'know
@@arilovesbingus8626 I get what you mean to a T dude! I love dresses, I'm a man and I love dresses. And that's how I want to be seen. As a man in a dress. But I get called miss and it fucks me up. I own multiple dresses. But I've put them away until I pass better. I still ware make up but it's to make me look more male. I recently found out the joys of kt tape instead of a binder. I can ware shirts buttoned low now and my chest looks flat. I get called sir even when I've put on slightly more fem clothes, or put on a tad more eyeliner than normal. Just know hon, things get better. They get easier and you are worthy valid and loved
Wrist dysphoria Finger dysphoria Nose dysphoria Top dysphoria Buttom dysphoria Chubby cheeks dysphoria Height dysphoria Walk dysphoria Talk dysphoria *Dysphoria of not having enough dysphoria* 🙂
Mine are Chest face Walk Hips Hair Hairline Period Chest Voice pitch Leg cuz i feel like there more fem instead of masc I am FTM havent came out yet my mom will probably accept me but not my siblings or dad Edit:i come from religious background and my mom lets me cross dress im also lucky enough to be able to grow a mustache without hormones i will start transitioning in or when im out of college
Top dysphoria Bottom dysphoria “Didn’t know when I was little so therefore I’m not valid” dysphoria Hip dysphoria Reproductive dysphoria (periods and stuff) Muscle (or lack thereof) dysphoria Voice dysphoria Not having enough dysphoria dysphoria (Luckily I pass 85% of the time, I have a pretty masculine face and I’m really tall)
people used to mistake me for a boy and I still remember how my heart skipped a beat and how wrong it felt to me, so I think I can understand this feeling, how the way people percieve you isn't how you feel about yourself.
@Lovisa Karvanen no dear, it will be okay believe me its gonna be alright you're strong you can handle this, my brother always felt like that in the beginning but now its much better, sending love to you _Virtual hug_
It is quite literally a living hell for me ngl. Sometimes I can forget that my body doesn’t match my mind (usually when I game) until I have to get up or if I talk, but it always aches to remember my fate. Honest to god, I don’t wanna be alive.
I once looked good in a dress and cried. ( wasn’t really a dress? We will jus say really feminine clothes) They thought it was because I thought I looked bad that I cried. But I looked good, nice and feminine, I knew this and that is why I had a mental break down in the change room. Because I looked like a girl and not like a boy. When people say anything relating to the fact of “a girl” I just “haha” it. I’m always finding ways to make it so people wouldn’t see me as a girl. So I mean if that’s considered it but that’s what I think of and I mean since I heard what transgender meant since like grade 7 or 6 i was like “Yup sounds like me!” I guess I’ll research more. But all I know is I’m here getting worse and I’m like “Welllllllllll that’s fun!” also I haven’t talked to my closest friend in like 2 years and I get more and more of losing people I love. But ya know just life I guess, I was going to sort my problems now but I mean...... naw, I’ll leave it for future me ( sorry future me )
Gender dysphoria can be a whole number of things to different people. That sounds like dysphoria to me though. If you need tips on dressing to make yourself look less feminine, button up shirts, preferably oversized, layered over a loose fitting shirt with straight leg jeans could maybe maybe you look more masculine. I have tons of tips if you need help dealing with dysphoria, especially if you live in a house where you're not sure everyone will be accepting if you were to come out. And hey, don't worry. I had no interaction with anyone other than coming downstairs to eat meals or look after my dog for a solid 9 months once because of a few issues I have that got too hard to deal with and all my friends abandoning me. IT was the worst time of my whole life. Eventually though, I ended up with the kindest, strongest, most understanding person I've ever met, my datemate, and I'm doing way better now even if my life is far from perfect. Through my datemate, I've also made a brilliant friend, she's awesome. So even if losing people is really painful, you will eventually find new people who'll come into your life and make it awesome. I hope your situation gets better!
First of all....ignore the guy above me Simple as this.....you are not the gender you think you are You have a real actual problem that you need to worry about You arent the opposite sex as you think you are, you didnt born in the wrong body Talk to this with you parents and an actuall real psichologist
@@alejandrojara9383 - There is nothing wrong with trans people. We exist, we're not sick, we're not going away. If you don't support trans people, why are you on this video?
@@Austin-do8se yes, theres a serious problem with ya....you are not the sex that you claim to be, and no, gender isnt a espectrum patronus and no, its not in your brain and yes you guys exist why you think that i think you didnt exist? And why i cant be here, i got the right to be here....scuse me but im peruvian, how dare you .....you xenophobic racist?
Taro Yamada I totally agree. The most bs statement ive heard trans say “I was born in the wrong body” First of all for those who think that, The is no way u can prove that, like none. Its Impossible because it never was the case. I dont hate trans, I just hate the fact that they keep telling us that if we disagree we are transphobic. Like no, im not transphobic, I just disagree. And they say “we are trans and we exist” well no shit. You guys just have to deal with people that spit facts at your face but some of u are ignorant. Disclaimer: Im not saying all trans are like that. There are some that are chill.
So I have a question... I was assigned female at birth and for a long time, I thought my gender matched that. I've never had a problem with my body, but since I was about 12 I've felt uncomfortable with she/her pronouns, and now that I'm an adult I've also realized I'm very uncomfortable with being called a woman. And the more I really look inside myself, the more I feel genderless. Is this discomfort with feminine terms a kind of dysphoria, and could I be agender or nonbinary?
I'm the same way!! I was fine being AFAB until about a year ago, now every time i get called she/her it gives me a twinge of discomfort. I'd call it dysphoria, and from your description I'd say you're agender :)
Yeah, I'm struggling with that, too. I can't tell if it's actually some form of dysphoria, or if I just hate the idea of what a woman should be being forced upon me. There are some extreme feelings that come up, especially during my period, that make me wonder if it is dysphoria... But I don't know.
Im a cisgender male. Im Bisexual and some ignorant people like to associate non hetero men with femininity. Im fairly masculine and very proud of my gender but some people just loooove to misgender me and treat me like less of a man. It doesnt bother me as much, but dear lord I cant imagine what my other trans friends have and are going through
I'm here for help. I don't think anyone's going to see this, but here I go. I have a friend who has gender dysphoria. He's a great person and I wish him the best, always. But lately I feel like the dysphoria's really been getting to him. He talks more about death and wanting to die, and I take that shit seriously. I don't want to be that friend who ignores these pleas and ends up regretting it later. But, I'm afraid I don't know what to do in this situation. Do I try to talk to him about it? I know next to nothing about what dysphoria feels like and I'm scared I might seriously offend him or underestimate his suffering. Should I really tell an adult? I feel like I'd be giving away a big secret without his permission, like I'm betraying his trust. Do I encourage him to get help? Do I try and console him? I've already said I'd be there for him, and listen to him, but I feel like it's not enough.. I'm just putting this comment out there in case anyone might give me some advice or explain a few things to me. Thank you.
also definitely talk to him about it I’m sure he will appreciate any kind of support. You see When one of my friends tries to help with my dysphoria I want to hug them. There’s like this divine light around them in my eyes lol. Might be because I don’t really get called by my preferred pronouns a lot. He probably won’t be offended. Yeah you probably know him better then I do so do try to figure him out before you act I guess.
Greetings. I may be of help. If I got it right, he is a female to male, correct? I don't know how much you know regarding the subject so I'll introduce even the basics. Transgenderism. If the individual was born a male but identifies as female (mtf), you're gonna need to use the rightful pronouns. She. If it is a born female identifying as male (ftm), it's gonna have to be a "he". It's very, very, *very* important to address these people with their identity. If you're confused, just ask them. And.. of course, treat them accordingly. What such person needs is acceptance, understanding, support, sympathy, patience. Society can be harsh. They don't take them seriously.. and believe me, being the laughingstock of the world is not fun. In the very least, if the outside gets too much, they must have closure on the inside. That is.. friends and family. From time to time they might need a shoulder to cry on, they are only human. Be there for it if needed. Be open. Let him know that, you know what, brother? I'm here for you. However. Try not to make exaggerated attempts to prove to him that he is the gender that he identifies as. Treat him all the same as you would treat any other boy. (Or girl if it's a mtf). They don't wanna stand out; they wanna fit in. Now aside from all that the rest is pretty simple. Nothing is complicated until we make it as such. A clear mind can easily see through the answers. Listen when he needs it, support him when it's time. Love him for what he is. Tell him that you would be sad without his presence.. we do not need to see our friends die. Let them hear the right words at the right time; and that is when they are alive. *Let him know that there is someone willing to take that extra mile for him.* But. Be very wary. I am assuming that you really mean what you say, that honesty will exist within these words. That even in a storm, you'll still be there for him. Even if it gets tiresome.. or repetitive. It's hard. And you must have a will of iron, as much as he does. Friend, my answer may seem simple.. obvious, even, but remember. Nothing needs to be complicated, not unless you have a complicated mind. Simplicity is a golden key to see through the best answers out of most situations. Best of luck, and feel free to reply if this was or wasn't helpful.
Oh. And, no, do not tell anyone about a thing. This can easily trigger chaos if that someone holds a transphpbic view. People are total bigots when it comes to LGBT, and especially for trans individuals. But, feel free to talk to him about it. Ask first. "Do you think it would help if we told someone?" "Are your parents transphobic? Should we try to find out?" I also can suggest something I left out. If you can, find out more about what it means to be a trans. Why, how do you know, how must it feel, etc. You can always ask your friend but not everyone likes to talk about it. Depends on the person. To say the least? Never hesitate to ask. There's also the internet.. you can read people's stories or listen to some transgender TED-talk. You can find it here on youtube. Or.. if you think it can be too much of an effort, you can ask me directly. It'll be better if he knows you're informed on the subject, and better for you too. Acceptance is needed but so is understanding.
As the other comments above said, it's important to talk directly with him about this first. As long as he doesn't give you direct permission or something like this, you shouldn't tell anyone about this at first, especially not people who you don't completely trust. If the situation gets worse though, you should convince him to seek more help and maybe talk with a doctor or therapist about his feelings. Depression should never be ignored, it just makes things worse and gets built up inside until all hell breaks loose, if you know what I mean. I've experienced this on myself, but I had Noone to talk to for years. Your friend can be glad to have such a good friend like you ❤️
My dad once introduced me to some of his colleagues and before he could get the word “daughter” out, they blurted out, “Oh, your son?” And I just stood kinda smug lol while he “corrected” her lmao. XD
the other day i told my dad about how i felt i was transgender. my dad said he accepted me all the way. i was happy, literally crying tears of joy. then the next day my mom came in my room with my phone. I was excited to tell her about my sexuality until she told me she saw the texts. It made me mad that she even went through my phone anyway. I was mad because she didn’t have to find out through text, i could’ve told her and could’ve came out to her myself. She made me delete all social media because she thinks that i’m being “influenced” by other people to “pretend” to be trans. She told me that god made me a girl and i shouldn’t change that. She’s always made me feel bad about my self and try’s to make me what i’m not.
Yikes. I'm glad your dad accepts you though! Your mom can like, piss off if she doesn't accept you. I still hope that she eventually grows to accept you though.
yeah. i dont understand why parents go through their childrens texts. honestly if you think theyre lying or hiding something FxCKING ASK THEM. if they're comfortable telling you, they will, and if not, wait until theyre ready
I hate it so much when people call me a "young woman", or call me "miss", it just makes me SO uncomfortable and I think this video helped me find out why..
I'm uncomfy with miss and young lady and ma'am ... but fine with girl and she/her ... I'm a Demigirl with she/they pronouns ... and I've always been uncomfortable with my chest (well not always, but since it developed and became TOO large)... I try to hide my boobs, stop them from bouncing, wear baggy clothes, hoodies etc...
I just Wanna Be a boy Edit: a year later I'm still getting responses. Thank you guys for making me feel valid. I know the wording isn't perfect and it makes it seem like I am not but I've always been bad with words and often how I felt would transcript into my writing. I know who I am now more than I did so thank you guys for being so kind.
You already are a boy. Adjust your look.. don't look at your body. Look where you know you'll find yourself. Also, please be careful. Confusion can be a thing.. make sure to sort it out. Don't try to convince yourself for what you're not. Maybe you wanna stand out.. maybe you feel lonely and in need of some attention. Maybe a lot. Only take a decision once you know for sure who it is that you are.
@wonter birb I don't think they were talking to you directly... I think what the person above wanted to say is that in many cases the"dysphoric" feeling or feeling trans can often be a sign of lack of attention. There are a lot of kids nowadays that think they're transgender, when in real they're doing it only to stand out. That's nothing bad to do, but it's best to re think what you actually feel like and not jump into conclusions all of a sudden.
@@stein9073 I agree^ Especially in ftm. There was a sudden rise in ftm, and its sometimes due to them(ftm) feeling like they fit more of a tomboy and not feminine. (Ofc this can happen in mtf, too!) Since dysphoria is a serious issue, I like people to be sure they're not just doing it to stand out or because they think they can't be a masculine or feminine while being the opposite gender before supporting them on fully. I was trans for about a week, until I realized I just wasn't fitting in with a super feminine type of gal. (This isnt directed towards the person who said they were trans they very well might be im just speaking in general uvu)
I've never had dysphoria and I can't understand what it feels like but wtf I'll use any pronouns u wish because lol it's as easy as calling a person by their name I'll never tell a person what to wear or how to act because it's not my damn business
Thinking back, my gender dysphoria had made a HUGE impact on my life during my late high school years. I'd wear jeans and hoodies and never liked dresses. My grandma used to always buy me jackets and jeans/ripped jeans as well. I wonder if she knew of the term gender dysphoria, or she was just genuinely a sweet, caring grandma who accepted me for who I was. 😭😭
Well I absilutly wunt to be a boy but I never can be I look at myself every freaking morning and think wut I'm I it hauntes me I'm afraid to tell my parents TMT
I mean, isn’t it good to have some good healthy amount of criticism? Not toward the people who are suffering with it. But to the people who aren’t actually helping the situation and making things worse? If we gave the benefit of the doubt to EVERYONE that’s a problem too. Obviously don’t go around calling people names for no reason. But asking questions, getting more information or even being critical of comments that seem like they are doing more harm than good? None of those things are bad. Stay safe everyone! ✌️
for me, before puberty i’ve always just hated my name. i loathed hearing it, i felt like i was being punished or laughed at whenever someone said it, it just felt wrong. like an AI generated image that isn’t quite right. i looked in the mirror and thought of my name and it just wasn’t right. it was awful. i just thought everyone felt like that. now i realize that’s not the case. i go by a different name now and, while people still call me by my deadname, it doesn’t bother me as much because i have people that call me by my new name. i don’t mind my parents calling me deadname too much though, but everyone else doing it still kinda sucks. i feel kind of ashamed of my new name, cause it sounds like a nickname instead of a name. imagine a teacher calling a kid “xem” but, i like when people call me that, so i dunno.
Hello hello haha. Thank you :) yeah of course. This channel is OLD. I cringe when I look at that first video I ever made haha, but I’m also hella proud to see how far I’ve come. Thanks for commenting! I hope you have a great day/night
I really want to be a Girl ! I hate my voice I hate my flat chest I hate being called a boy I hate my lack of curves I hate having to act all masculine I hate how short my hair is I (somewhat) hate my size I hate having to wear boys clothes Why can't i just be a girl ?! Answer: I don't have acces to girls clothes and im scared people might make fun of me ! (But im looking for a psychiatrist, so i can at least get hormones and maybe in the near future i will also be able to wear girls clothes)
@@parrotdoesasploot2381 if feeling a certain way MAKES you that way, because you dont wanna be who you are, then I am a 8 foot tall NBA player with my gender being batman
@@leunamreyo3663 Pinnacle of comedy right here, get this man a medal because I'm sure nobody's ever made this joke ever, it's completely original and so very funny.
First of all, I'm just going to say that I'm a dumb ass straight white male so take this with a grain of salt. Alright now this is what I want to say: I don't think things considered "boy actions" or "girl actions". Sexuality and Gender don't matter when it comes to how you act. If a Straight male guy wants to put on makeup and put on a dress, that's all good with me. If a straight girl wants to put on a muscle shirt and get ripped, that's great. I just feel like our society today reduces ourselves to our gender and sexuality. You shouldn't expect someone to act a certain way based on their gender. I only say this because your dad seems like the kind of guy that says "guys should act like this and girls should act like that" (Referring to straight people)
@@aidanmetz1308 just to let you know being white literally has nothing to do with it. Obviously being white gives you privilege compared to to other minorities but when talking about gender identity it practically doesn't matter
@@aidanmetz1308 Thats okay. I've just always found it weird when people continue to put the white race on labels even when they aren't talking about race(for example, white veganism). I don't think its a matter of having fragility. Even if people mainly see white people doing a certain thing or acting a certain way doesn't mean minorities can't do it either.
I liked that comment about how for some it's just there and how others can be debilitating. I've recently found out I'm gender fluid because I always gaslit myself into thinking my dysphoria was so minor it would be unfair to say I'm not cis
I don’t understand dysphoria because I am blessed to be born in the body I feel I identify with, but this is such an awesome metaphor and it helped! To all my trans/non-binary brothers, sisters, and siblings, I see you and i love you!!!
I have dysphoria Edit: woah.. it’s been a whole year since I’ve commented this?! I honestly don’t even remember watching this video.. Occasionally I’ll get a notification or two from replies, thanks for all of you who are nice :)
I've had suicidal thoughts coupled to my dysphoria, when I realised that I was just like: this shit's real. Nobody and nothing can change that. It's how I got 100% confirmation that I wasn't a girl. (On the inside at least...) Having dysphoria actually felt good for once I guess? But then I was reminded that the reason I had dysphoria was that I was still physically female. And that stung worse than the one second of blissful idiotic relief.
I was forced to play a woman for a children's play, and one unsatisfied with her body at that. It felt so _wrong_ that I cried until I was given a different role. Can't imagine how that'd be like every day all day long.
One time I was crying into my pillow for not being a cis boy and crying just made me feel more feminine, I also hate my legs, lips, chest, hips, genitals, laugh, smile, face shape, I love art and singing but it makes me feel I am being seen as female sorry for ranting
@BigMood AllTheTime Hey there! Fellow Trans guy here, I know exactly how you are feeling. I also experience Gender dysphoria in similar places, it's... not fun. I used to struggle with thinking that crying or letting out any type of emotion was weak or feminine, so I tried my best to "tough it out" whenever I felt emotional. But I've gotten better with realizing that crying ISN'T just a feminine thing nor does it make you weak. Crying is COMPLETELY normal for everyone, so don't feel ashamed for letting out your emotions. And singing and art? Those are amazing hobbies! I also enjoy singing from time to time, there are many other men in the world who sing, it's certainly not just a feminine thing. You don't have to have the same features a cis boy may have, it doesn't make you any less Trans or less of a man either. I wish you the best on your journey and hope it gets better for you in the near future! Stay strong man, you got this. :)
I think a big part of dealing with dysphoria for ftms is not letting toxic masculinity get the better of you. Crying is perfectly acceptable for a guy to do. So are art and music! I understand that singing could be hard because of your voice (I have the same problem) but there are lots of guys who are artists and musicians. Try to focus on feeling like a guy. Tell yourself "boys can cry!" or "I am a man who paints!" or whatever will help you. Just remind yourself in those moments that you are a boy doing all those things.
"Dysphoria" comes from a Greek word meaning ‘hard to bear’. So y'all might be interested to know this means there's more than one kind. For example, there's also Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). RSD is an extreme emotional sensitivity and emotional pain triggered by the perception (not necessarily the reality) that a person has been rejected, teased, or criticized by important people in their life. RSD may also be triggered by a sense of failure or failing to meet either their own high standards or others’ expectations. So like, sometimes I'll mess up and then become acutely aware that I need to get hit by a truck. The air feels like poison. It didn't occur to me that I might have this kind of dysphoria until I realized that I've shaped my life around avoiding failure. TL;DR: There's different types of dysphoria! It is all shit.
"Dysphoria feels like being unable to get warm, no matter how many layers you put on. It feels like hunger without appetite. It feels like getting on an airplane to fly home, only to realize mid-flight that this is it: You’re going to spend the rest of your life on an airplane. It feels like grieving. It feels like having nothing to grieve." - Andrea Long Chu
Anyone else probably have gender dysphoria? I’m- genetically female, but I DESPERATELY want to be non-binary/a guy I can’t stand my period or the fact I’m a women I hate my breasts I hate how long my hair is
T- wh- There's nothing wrong about being a girl at all! I hope that's not what we're implying I'm sorry :[ It's not that we hate girls its just that our brains decided they wanted to be something else, and we can't help it. There's nothing so bad about being a girl at all, and more power to the people who are! Also, I just realized you said "Most people who wants to be transgender" I think there is a misunderstand here? It's not a want, we don't decide for ourselves. Just like how people don't choose their sexuality, it's just what it is for them. Hopefully this cleared some things up for you
as a asian boy, i don't ask my parents about transgender stuff because they feel uncomfortable around this stuff, i asked my parent about their feeling about trans, gay, and these special people indirectly just to see what they think and... mom dislike them didn't ask my dad because he would think i'm mentally ill my cousins hate it so i just avoid this topic as much as possible my personality, interests, and the way people treat me just doesn't feel right to me i am very clumsy and unlucky so i get in trouble quite often, which sounds normal for girls, but when a boy has that problem suddenly it's their problem, one of the tiny amount of sports i actually enjoy back then was badminton and someone told me that's a female sport so now i don't have any interest in sports anymore edit : it's been 2 years since i made this comment, want to say a few things, I'm not trans, I'm not gay, nor am I in the LGBTQ community, however, I did mean everything I've said, society shouldn't be divided into genders when it comes to interests or expectations, everyone should be able to enjoy the same sports, hobbies, games, media. it NEVER should've been, guys can't do this, girls can't do that, or that guys should be a certain strength, girls should be a certain beauty, everyones a human,so treat everyone like a human
One day you will get what you want. You will become the person you want to be. Nothing will be able to stop you, not even your family. Keep pushing to be yourself unless it puts you in danger. Stay strong and push through because as bad times come to pass, good ones follow :)
@@skylight2944 bro were same i also want to become a girl but cuz i'm a muslim so our god don't allow it Guess i have to wait to go to the heaven i have to hold this feeling till i get there you are the first person i talk about this problem
@@NerfedOnGod And I'm furious when I read "Badminton is a female sport" Like wth, it's my favorite, and a lot of my friends both male and female likes it too and even good at it.
honestly that's really unfortunate i don't know what your circumstances are, but i hope you're pushing through and also no matter what sport it is or what art you do, it is NEVER specific to a stereotype or a gender you can draw guys all you like but are feminine, or you could do gymnastics and still be immensely masculine anyways, hope you're doing well nowadays, and take care
As soon as I saw this, I sent it to mom. She doesn't understand these things, but wants to, so she can better understand and help me. She said it was a good video and that it helped her know there was a name for my feelings and that it helped her understand what I feel and that she can now also do research on what this is herself.
dysphoria is one of the worst pains I've ever felt. it turns into a literal pain and I always have a panic attack during it when it's at its worst. cisgender people really don't get it. it isn't wanting to be the opposite gender. it's like claustrophobia, you're trapped in your own body. it's not a simple want. it's a need, a need to be someone entirely different, a need to feel valid, a need to look and feel and be accepted as what you are. it hurts to look in the mirror.
@@rchaelk2319it’s a health condition..why do sober people have lung and liver cancer? Why do people have autism? Why do some people have depression and anxiety ? It’s just that complex to answer…
HOLY SHIT THE SHOE REFERENCE HIT ME IN THE FACE i’m a trans guy and this hit hard. The hoodie and pants thing too- all of it actually. There are three types of people in this world when you come out as trans, nonbinary, etc. “you’re accepted and perfect for who you are!” “you’re a sinner/you are disgusting/you’re a girl/boy.” “you’re too young to know what you mean.” I wish more people were the first type compared to the alarming amount of second and third types.
Poem: The answer seems so simple, Yet so hurtful When you know the true then you just want to still living a lie Not liying to anyone but yourself And that's the most hurtful thing of all When you realize it's temporary, That you're temporary, Everything, is temporary, Just then you really apreciate things Just when you're about to lose something, you realize its true meaning The peace that comes when being near it is.. amazing It's almost refreshing Knowing a certain future is the truly true It's scary But the true of releaving suffering is what pushes you Keeps pushing Like a discomfort in the heart That you know it's not gonna go, Until you stop Stop.. Do we really need to stop? Isn't there really another way? That and a million more questions ran through my mind But with the more i think about it I become more hesitant.. So, Tell me, Please, tell me Is there something more hurtful Than keep keeping the pain? Please make the pain go away Please make it go away I.. don't wanna keep rushing anymore.
I just want to be nonbinary in peace, why is it so hard...? edit: this comment is legitimately 5 years old, please stop replying 💀 still nonbinary btw, i was 13 when i wrote this and am now 18 and on HRT
@@Leaftcow Look buddy. It's people exactly like you who I'm talking about. I don't give a crap what you say God wants me to do. I know what God wants from me. Do everyone a favor and get out of the comments of this video.
Dysphoria is like a deep pain that is unlike any other pain because when you feel it you already know it will come back soon. It's like a monster that lives inside of you and comes out to stab your heart with pangs of sadness, wrongness and hopelessness. It's a pain that if you haven't felt it you probably won't ever understand
I’m cis, so this really helps to explain what it’s like to me for my non-bi/gender fluid (they’re still figuring it out)sibling, since I don’t feel it. My parents keep calling them “she” and I wish they would just respect their pronouns or try to make the slightest effort to be respectful and I just feel really bad since neither of us can do anything. Everyone in the comments though, have an amazing day and all of you are valid!
Gender Dysphoria has been the cause of the worst pain I have ever had in my life. For me it can be completely debilitating, causing myself to lock up and be stuck in my head while my body is overcome with pains and aches. It’s a horrible feeling, and not something I’d wish on anyone. But I haven’t felt it that bad since going on hormones about 15 months ago
Ah I'm sorry I didn’t see this comment sooner... Thank YOU so much for the kind words. Hopefully the analogy is still accurate and I hope you are doing well since posting this!!
no one: well-meaning but :// cis allies: you're still a SOFT BOY even though you're STILL a GIRL. you were BORN a FEMALE and have a FEMALE BODY, but you're still a BOY. me, crying: pls stop im man.,.,.,.,
“And you’re a handsome man.” Then when she gets up to try and spank you for that smarty comment, run away! Cuz they hate when you call them the wrong things and don’t even get it when you don’t want to be called things you feel are wrong. 🤦
@@Spooksq if you got called a beautiful girl and didn’t have the option of correcting them on the fact that ur a guy how would you feel? They would go on thinking you’re a girl and you would just have to deal with it. Would you take being called a beautiful women a compliment if you aren’t one?
@@Spooksq I've said it once I'll say it again *CIS PEOPLE DON'T EXPERIENCE THE PAIN TRANS PEOPLE GO THROUGH SO WHY SHOULD THEY GET TO MAKE FUN OF SAID PAIN??*
So I'm closeted trans female and I plan on coming out to my family very soon. I have a finalised note ready on my iPad to read out and everything. I already know that all my family are really supportive of LGBTQIA+ people, and I'm really glad they are. Others are unlucky and have transphobic, biphobic or homophobic friends or family... No one should be that person. Respect people, and learn to accept them for who they are.
@@sir.monday1443 i think the reason is because this video and channel is centered around trans men because it was made by a trans men. A place with way more trans women then men is r/traaa for example.
Actually, I’ve been going through this for like years now, and having parents that you can’t talk to NEVER helps. What I can recommend is talking to a friend or someone you’re familiar that you know, heck even a psychiatrist can help. Just remember you’re never alone during this. And it’ll be hard to remember, but just know people are there for you
This video really helped me. I’m lucky enough to identify as my birth gender, and I will never know the hardship others face, but now I can at least know how to sympathise
@@PhoenixAnimations i hate that the height dysphoria example was someone being insecure about being tall. Short people are way more insecure and have it harder
So sad that people go through this every day. Finding fulfillment in being a man/woman is such a blessing, and I'm glad I don't have to struggle with such a thing
“Let’s wear a hoodie and pants all year long” omg don’t call me out like that lmfao
honestly I'd end up still doing that anyway because I get cold very easily lmao
Samee
IKR??? 😂 I LITERALLY DID THIS HALF MY JUNIOR AND SENIOR YEARS OF HIGHSCHOOL DUJKM
Bro me I have like 16 lol
Same
The “ But you look great” actually hurts. But like a lot
Does it hurt because you don't agree oder why ? (I don't want to be mean but my boyfriend is trans (ftm) and we talked a bit about his voice and stuff and I said that I liked his voice but I thought it would make him more comfortable.. Do you think that was wrong ?
@@jean7464 for me at least its more that I can agree that I probably look good or at least ok, but I don't look like me if that makes sense.
@@jean7464 For me, it's very easy to feel like people would like me better if I wasn't trans. So if someone says "you look great as a girl!" my mind interprets it to "you shouldn't transition because then you won't be pretty anymore!" I know that's not their intention, but it's just how it makes me feel. That's just my experience. I'd rather the people in my life show that they want me to move forward with becoming a man, because then I feel like they are choosing the real, happy me.
@Lovisa Karvanen he isn't the type of person who talks much about it when someone said anything that hurt him or something
@@X606 yeah I think I know what you mean, thank you
"Let's wear a hoodie and pants all year round!" What is this a personal attack?
Maybe... haha nah I attack myself in this too
I was dying of heat today but my dysphoria said I cannot remove my hoodie so I suffered. ;w;
i try to wear my hoodie at all times in school.
RIGHT
No dysphoria but hoodies are the best
It's like a 32C° summer with the sun kicking my ass on a daily basis but the hoodie looks amazing
Update 4/4/23: *Yes dysphoria ;ʌ;*
It's very difficult to explain the severity of dysphoria too. I'm not constantly upset about it, but it's miserable when you're reminded of it. It's tough to explain that to people who are either worried about you or not taking you seriously.
IMO part of what makes it difficult to convey to cis people is that all of the components that make up dysphoria are either trivial or common among cis people; they can understand that being called the wrong name is "annoying," and pretty much everyone knows what it feels like to be unhappy with some aspect of their body. But you really have to zoom out and view it as a whole; it feels as though society has conspired to make sure you constantly live under a small pressure from every single person you meet, each of whom will downplay their individual impact because they only play a small part in it. That in turn reinforces the dysphoria because not only is it a constant oppressive force, but you're constantly told that you're making a bigger deal of it than you are. Everyone you meet adds a single drop of water to the glass tank that you're trapped in and disavows themself of the danger of you drowning as the water rises.
understandable, sometimes i just don’t feel like being a damn girl
I'm here to remind you about your dysphoria. Hope I made you sad!
@@foxnight_122I hope someday you can grow beyond the festering thing you've let yourself become.
@@GALL0WSHUM0Rwhat does cis means?
*looks down*
ew I forgot I had those
SAME SAME SAME SAME I CAN'T RELATE TO THAT MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:,)
this works for ftm and mtf (teehee hit comment)
@@deviltowerstar true, I'm ftm but i can see how that works for mtf
The backwards shoes..? 😂
BUT PLEASE DON'T GET BODY DYSMORPHIA MIXED WITH BODY DYSPHORIA OR MENTAL DYSPHORIA OR WHATEVER THERE IS A DIFFERENCE
Sebastian the service dog my mum did that when I came out to her as enby afab with top dysphoria... this vid really helped her understand tho
Imagine having a therapist who think body dysmorphia and gender dysphoria are the same thing and not listening to you when you try to explain the difference, and then telling you you're "too angry" for testosterone bc she pisses you off and you need a letter from her stating that you need testosterone in order to not off yourself. This was just a vent bc this happened to me and gender dysphoria needs. A lot more awareness and the differentiation needs to be made. *sigh*
Hey dude, that sounds pretty hard I hope you get through this
What's dysmorphia? I've seen the term but idk what it means
@@Apollo_G An example for body dysmorphia would be not liking your body bc you think you look fat/ugly/gross. And gender dysphoria is not liking certain parts of your body bc it feels wrong, like it shouldn't be there, bc your mind doesn't agree with your biological sex.
Me goes into shower:
My thoughts: DONT LOOK DOWN IF U FRIGGEN LOOK DOWN ISTG DONT LOOK DOWN DONT LOOK DOWN DONT LOOK DOWN
Hmm maybe that’s why I don’t shower often... hmmmmmm
Same...
when at night i shower with the lights off and its actually comforting
*accidentally looks down* AHHHHH
Same
I’m totally cis, but it still really pissed me off when someone referred to me by the wrong pronoun as a kid because it’s hard to tell boys and girls apart when they’re super young and wearing gender neutral clothes. I can’t imagine having to live with that everyday.
Huh
@@thedumbdog1964 Basically someone thought I was a boy when I had short hair as a kid. I’m a girl, was born a girl (cis), but it still felt bad to be called a boy. Sorta makes you feel inadequate in a way, like you’re not enough to be the gender you feel you are.
@@typicallyusual6984 funny, because when i was little i always loved to be "mistaken" as a boy... didnt know i was trans back then, but always felt it i guess
@@sandhanitizer2796 now it's you mistaking yourself as a boy
@@sandhanitizer2796 That's really interesting! I mean it makes sense but I love to hear the stories of people whose experiences differ from mine. I had to get my hair cut short because my grandma messed up my haircut. It felt awful seeing all the other girls getting their hair brushed into cute styles after naptime at kindergarten, while I just had to sit around and watch. I kinda forgot about this, but now that I say it, I think it's a minor source of trauma for me. It was such a relief when my hair grew out long enough for it to be styled. I imagine it was the opposite for you? Hair can play a big part in identity, especially as a kid.
My parents: Our daughter
Me, internally: **gags**
AAAAAAAAAAAH
yes
Mood
People really be out here getting sons when they asked for daughters
Wack
Ed: I feel like my comment got misunderstood by a lot of people so I’ll just say trans pride and let y’all figure it out. 🏳️⚧️
@@pokaay3163 I'm actually both so my parents got nothing to whine for
*chuckles* I'm in danger.
0:53 the “let’s wear a hoodie and pants all year around” is literally me.
A big oof
Oh yeah, once I asked if I could borrow one of my friend’s hoodie at school. It was something like 80°-90° outside, but it was worth it for me.
same. i have been doing this since 5th grade. it friggin sucks but it is worth it so that i dont have to worry about dysphoria (temporarily)...
@@removed7790 yeah same but i used my own hoodie lol
I’m just “let’s dress how I like and wear pretty skirts” *but people will perceive me as a girl*
Dad: "I don't understand why you feel uncomfortable, you're beautiful!"
Me:
That’s an oof
You're only beautiful once you are comfortable in your body and happy. Even if it'll have a few scars, you'll be beautiful because you are happy.
@@vixymix101 What if you are just ugly? Can you be ugly beautiful?
@@JohnSmith-kt3yy I mean, beauty is subjective so yeah
OH man that hits hard
I’m 100% a cisgender man, but I apparently look very feminine, because I’ve gotten misgendered before (mainly in my teenage years) and oh wow, it feels BAD. I would never do that to someone else.
see , this is what it feels likr
Bruh why the fuck did I say “mainly in my teenage years” I was 19 at the time
this has happened to me when i had long hair but it never bothered me, i thought it was funny when people make mistakes
Take it less seriously, that would have helped
wtf is this trend of saying “cis gendered” like bro ur just a male or female or maybe trans this cis word is unnecessary
I would also add to the shoes metaphore that you look at your feet and see the shoes put on incorrectly but everyone who looks at your feet doesn't see any problem and they think that your shoes are fine
Great addition, yeah!
Another addition: You tell everyone that the shoes are on the wrong feet but there are people who are like "No way! That is not possible! [insert other comments and remarks]".
Also, you have to get a letter from a therapist that says that you won't regret changing them. Like, why is it so difficult to change my shoes? ;-;
@@terozakikuroshi199 They are worried you’ll regret your decision as being trans has become more of a fad than something people take seriously. It’s upsetting when you realize the amount of people who claim being trans for attention and not because they are actually being genuine with themselves about how they feel.
@@TT35109 social normalisation has made people who have had no signs of gender dysphoria get it almost instantly, it’s actually a really weird phenomenon which is upsetting to see
*Throwback to 3rd grade when I told everyone I'm actually a boy but my mom made me wear girl clothes cause her daughter died when I was born just so the boys wouldn't question me being in the boy's bathroom*
Dude 3rd grade you was smart af
I wonder if that would work if I tried it as a tenth grader
@@cairostation2892 I mean, maybe. Does your mom still make you wear girl clothes? You could probably just bring a pair of more masc clothes to change into at school. I think you would get less questions.
@@theabyss310 lol no I was just joking, my mom’s totally accepting and people say I pass so at least there’s that. Now, the government is the only thing in my way😏 I can deal with that
That was a smart move
I don't have dysphoria, but the "shoes on the wrong feet analogy" is perhaps the BEST way I have EVER heard to describe it.
Aww thank you for the kind comment! I'm glad I was able to give you a good way to better describe dysphoria :) thanks for watching!
That's how I explained to my Mum why it made me so uncomfortable when she uses my Dead name. she understood way better that way
Yeah it makes a lot more sense to me now. I don't have Dysphoria myself but I know plenty online friends who do.
yeah, that feeling when reality tries to tell you you're not a girl.
I really, really think that the analogy falls terribly short of describing the huge _pain_ most people have when they have Gender Dysphoria.
I like to say that dysphoria is like eating your soup with a pencil. You're fundamentally unequipped for the task at hand, but you don't really have a choice.
Reminding me of a time in school when a friend happily ate his Ramen with 1 pencil, it was a magical moment
life is soup and you are fork
@@blokvader8283any yet it was magical because it’s weird and not what pencils are actually made for..
Bruh I hate when my mom is talking like “this is boy stuff this is girl stuff” like shuttttt upppp
Ugggh that sucks! And it’s so widely marketed too - clothes, toys, decorations, hobbies, sports, etc. They really need to start advertising kid toys as more gender neutral. Like at least make that a first step in the right direction. No more cars/dinos = boy and Barbie/baking = girl. Sorry for going off haha. Your comment means a lot to me and I wish more parents weren’t so demanding of gendered stereotypes as if a kid can’t do something just because it’s only “made for” girls/boys.
Phoenix Animations exactly, thank you! That’s why I have a feeling gen z will make good parents. Cause I feel a lot of us are going threw this. I know for a fact if I have children I’ll let them be who they wanna be.
Exactly I can’t wait to support my kids no matter what and my mum is a teacher and she changed the school so that they have pretty much stopped saying words like “boy” and “girl” and separating ppl based on what “gender” they are bc the kids don’t know yet and that’s all right she is teaching them that if one day they want to be called by “she/her” that it’s ok to change and explore, she is obviously still learning but I am so grateful to have someone like that in my life I hope more ppl will learn soon that trans ppl aren’t going anywhere~ a trans ally!
yeah i know right, my mom immediately assumed i was lesbian when i told her i didn’t like skirts and dresses like wtf
My mom wouldn't let me get a hoodie in a boy store because it was for "boys" like idc I just want to wear what I want :((
pronouns are like hoodies. there’s a size you feel comfortable in and the size people expect you to wear. the right size will always be the one you want, *not* the one that people think fits you best. other people can’t choose your hoodie
Ah that’s a great comparison!! Thank you for sharing :)
That's a great association
this comment deserves more attention
Yeah, but when you want to put your head inside the sleeve, this is when people would find you weird. Wear a hoodie but wear it the way it is supposed to(binary pronouns). Don't invent new ways to wear it (neo-pronouns and they/them).
@@blastoxic9992 this is the most embarrassing comment i’ve ever read in my entire life
*gets dysphoria from my hobbies*
*gets dysphoria from existing*
*FROM SPEAKING*
BIG FRIGGIN MOOD THOUGH. I’m not athletic, and partaking in sports makes me feel bad about myself, so I don’t do them. I used to be a gamer, but it got unhealthy, so I dropped that hobby. Now, I draw and write, and they make me dysphoric, sKSKSSKSK
Hobbies, height, sexuality (guys are expected to be hypersexual and I'm Ace), chest, legs, clothes (not allowed to work and no way to buy male clothes), voice, face, lack of hair on my face and chest, super fast growing hair on my head, my hands also (just figured I'd try and list most of them)
I have dysphoria on everything
As a person with dysphoria, I don’t have it as extreme as others but it’s still noticeable and uncomfy my heart does go out to those who have it worse tho
THIS. NEEDS. MORE. VIEWS.
@@morganstaker4928 because this video basically sums up gender dysphoria. it's important for ppl to know of this because they shrug gd off as a "phase", but there's actually scientific evidence behind it, which most people don't know
@@morganstaker4928 y e s 👏😤
Morgan Penguin Here’s my stance.
If you break your leg, you feel pain, which is your body’s way of letting you know something is wrong.
If you don’t have the right body, you feel dysphoria, your brain’s why of letting you know something is wrong
I don’t think it’s a disorder or condition
omg ur pfp is cursed- midoriya mixed with All Might Xddd
THANK YOU IZUKU
Me: * is a closeted non binary and does something masculine forgetting what everyone else sees me as *
Mom: YoU kNoW yOuRe a gIrL rIgHt?
Me: mhm * Takes 100 psychic damage *
damn i felt this... mothers am i right
What is considered girly and boyish? Why can't people just understand that not all girls are girly?! I say it as a cis tomboy
@@not.monika.w ikr... gen z and millenials are going to be the generations that hopefully abolish gender stereotypes
*looks at gender stereotypes* pftttttt this can piss off
i just wish society accepted people as they are, i dont understand why thats so hard.
I support trans and non binary people 100%, you are all so strong!
Update:
2 years later I realized I'm not cis
thank you🤧🤙🏽
thank you💗
I also used to support them....used to
Kay Lender why not anymore?
@@sydnie5620 you seem like a nice person so i would rather not say it cause it might make you feel uncomfortable. Plus, my personal opinions should not matter in how someone lives and everyone should just be like they want too
I’m cis but the hoodie and pants thing hits me hard. I consider myself chubby and I try to hide it as much as possible with a thick goodie and pants. Even in summer with a little less thick hoodie. Again I’m cis but this video helped me a lot and helps me understand others point of view, Thank you.
u are beautiful regardless of your body type and i hope u know that
Don’t listen to this ☝️. Beauty is a social construct and not fitting into that is up to you to decide. If you want to care what other people think then start a diet and exercise routine if you want to be happy and comfortable with how are now, learn to stop caring about what other people say and think without forgetting that they are allowed to have thoughts and opinions of their own. Take life into your own hands and be strong because the alternative is a sad spiral of depression and Ben and Jerry’s. Don’t take any lives though cause that’s not ok. 🎉 I have faith in you. 🎉 good luck 👍.
@@vonKasa nikocado avocado is beautiful
“Cis” doesn’t exist. It’s just another label. Say normal instead
I'm a previously obese person who knows the struggle. Also, I know you'll likely still feel this way, but wearing baggier/thicker clothes makes you look chubbier than you might actually be. (Though most overweight/chubby persons still feel like covering it up is more comfortable, which I totally understand) That said, best thing you can do is find clothes that draw attention away from areas you're not as happy with and to areas you want them to look. So if you have a bigger tummy, shirts that fit looser around that area, but tighter in the chest or create longer lines can help. Same goes for legs. A wider, but still fitted pant leg can help draw attention away if you think your thighs are too big.
If you're unhappy with something, you're allowed to change it to feel more comfortable in your own skin. Have you talked to anyone about this? I don't know your age, I also don't know if maybe you also feel chubby, but might actually have body dysmorphia or something, so I'm being careful to suggest that talking to a doctor or medical professional if you are able to about what you can do with your weight. There is lots you can do if you are not happy and you don't have to settle just because. People are wrong in my opinion to suggest that. Anyone should be able to do something to be happier in their own skin provided it doesn't cause harm or risk vs the alternative.
Again, I don't know your situation, so I suggest a health professional who would be able to see what is going on and help you discover what you can do about it. If you are chubby, there are plenty of things you can do to help reduce the weight that are appropriate and healthy for whatever conditions you might have or specific things your body might need or do better with.
I can however recommend regardless of your situation, that working out is good for everyone, just a walk a few times a week, or dance in your room or whatever you enjoy doing. The body does well with movement and stays stronger longer. Even if working out isn't a key to losing weight, it's good for stability which will help with all kinds of other things in life.
Thank you for making this video! I'm ftm and my sister has a hard time understanding why dysphoria can be so difficult, this helped a lot.
No problem! I’m so glad it helped your sister :)
Wtf is wrong with me I thought sister said spider
I hope you get help you poor female child. You are a female child that god creayed and you need to be embraced. You can be helped.
@@Leaftcow ...
@@Leaftcow I dont wanna be that guy but I see you say basically the same thing in every comment. I know you believe in God so I'm just going to say, I know you are trying to help but your not. You are making things worse, go tell this to your church.
I’ve had some people really confused about gender dysphoria when your gender fluid. I’m gonna add onto the shoe analogy for this. It’s like sometimes having no shoes on, sometimes the shoes are both on the wrong feet, sometimes there’s 2 left shoes, sometimes there’s 2 right shoes and sometimes the shoes are put on correctly. It’s constantly changing.
I love this! Nice addition, thank you
Most people who claim to be "gender fluid" assign a set of stereotypes to a gender and perform them or think they indicate being fluid. Being a Tom boy doesn't make you gender fluid. Very few women have any idea what it's like to be a man.
That sounds so chaotic...
@@alexojideagu aha yes when i feel like a manly man i love to wear big manly man clothes and definitely not skirts or dresses no i love gender stereotypes
As I got confused on the analogy I'll try to give perspective as someone goes genderfluid without it:
Right off the bat, I'm not dysphoric all the time. It fluctuates. Sometimes I'm content with myself. Sometimes the dysphoria is "This is fine but this would be better". Sometimes it's all out "WHO IS THAT PERSON IN THE MIRROR??". There are other levels in between but you get the picture. It's also worth to vote that what makes me dysphoric one day won't make me the next time my gender scale shifts. I could be having a more masc time and be content with myself. Somewhere along the fem side and be ready to fight god. It depends!
Now this is a little unrelated but I would also like to bring to the table that some trans people aren't dysphoric at all! Though you'll find this is more common with non-binary identities (specifically things like agender), it's a thing. A person can be fine with what they have but would be even more content with an upgrade. And I say this because I know a few people who are non-dysphoric enbies and get asked about how dysphoria works with their identities. Which by the way, don't ask people about dysphoria you could remind them it exist!
I went off course there but yeah! Gender dysphoria when you're genderfluid.
Im non binary and I remember one time I wore a skirt and a sweatshirt and my mom made me change into this tight fitting shirt. Then proceeded to point out it gave me an hourglass figure and the sweatshirt "didn't show off my curves" which made me immediately go to my room and cry. Small things like pointing out someones body even if you think its a compliment can make people feel like shit.
Thank you for sharing this.. I hope you were able to express how this situation made you feel to your mom. It's sad how often this happens to both those in the LGBTQ2+ community and just cisgender people given very restrictive beauty "standards" and held to such high expectations. You and your feelings are 100% valid
More problems with your mom's "compliment" in case you need them to win an argument or something:
1. A lot of people don't have gender dysphoria, but they have other things like dysmorphia, so it would make them feel uncomfortable to wear something that shows their body.
2. Forcing someone into clothing to show off their physical form, presumably to make them more attractive, is objectifying them.
3. Forcing someone to wear different clothes would be upsetting and potentially traumatic for anyone, and shouldn't be done.
This reminds me of something my own mother did to me. I told her I feel more like a boy than a girl and she pointed at my skinny jeans and said, “Boys wear that?” And I went and cried about it too.
In the end, I’m the one who has the last laugh. I ended up with someone who accepts me for me and allows me to dress however I want without making comments about it either. It’s liberating when you finally get out on your own and pick the person you want to be with.
You don’t pick family. But you can pick your partner. ✌️
I'm transmasc non binary with major top dysphoria. I'm cursed with a very large chest and get sexual comments from cis men and jealousy comments from cis women all the time. Not only are the sexual comments degrading, not only are the envious comments not taking into account how much physical strain having double Ds can have on your body, but it makes me INCREDIBLY dysphoric. I want these things gone... I loathe my chest, my feminine hips, being called she, being called deadname, and my voice is so close to sounding androgynous but just needs that extra push. I want to wear dresses but the ones I own show my binder. I want my father to proudly introduce me as his child or pride and joy yet I'm hit with daughter. I am not a girl... I want top surgery and to go on T.
My mom has also pointed out how I'm getting an hourglass figure and stuff like that she makes me feel body dysmorphia AND gender dysmorphia
I showed this to my mom around a year ago and when I showed her it she actually accepted me better because she didn't know how I felt, so thanks for that
Wowowowowow. I found an LGBT+ comment section with no homophobe or transphobe in it! Beyond shocked.
I mean. *Waw.* *I wonder for how long this'll last.*
*NOT LONG PROBABLY BUT HEY AT LEAST THERE ARE MORE ALLIES AND LGBTQ+ PEEPS HERE THAN THERE ARE HOMOPHOBES AND TRANSPHOBES*
Im actually transphobe , yall posessed frfr
@@mehmasaulat3532 cEaSe YoUr PrEsEnCe
Teeth X 😂
I mean, I'm a "transphobe", but I don't feel the need to shout it to the world. 👌
i sometimes can’t leave the house or walk because of my dysphoria lol. or shower, that’s the hardest part
u should shower with the lights off, it helps me a little bit
:\ maybe you could wash your hair by itself and put shampoo and conditioner in it and stuff and then when you get in your shower you focus on only cleaning your body(which will probably make it quicker) and you can put one of those cap things(I forgot the name) on your head while you shower. This could cause more dysphoria since your only focusing on your body but on the bright size you have shorter showers. The goal is for you to shower often but also not get dysphoria, so try experimenting different ways
Why?
showering is horrible, especially when people comment on how you look all the time. i cant focus on anything except the comments i’ve heard and that fact that my body is wrong
@@letsstartariot7982 :/ sorry about that. I hope that soon in whatever way possible you feel better
There’s a difference between having dysphoria and being self-conscious that a lot of people don’t understand. The explanation I came up with was having your brain put into the body of a fish. The problem isn’t that the fish isn’t pretty enough, it’s that you aren’t supposed to be one in the first place.
thats a great analogy even tho im not sure i understand it
I suddenly felt the urge to be a fish with a human brain.
I want to be a cat. No work, no school, just meow meow
@@DellKaGor well theres a bunch of other things that r kinda bad abt being a cat like throwing up food randomly, people not understanding what you need, parasites and etc. theres a lot of pain about being a cat as well if you have another pet in your house (especially one that can wake you up). then theres also humans bothering you and petting you all the time which most likely will jumpscare you irl. i hope you get what i mean
Clownfish can change sex
I’m going to click the Newest comment section. First, I will prepare my radiation protection suit.
lol thats exactly what im doing rn
Same
I'm transgender and I get purposely misgendered and I get dysphoric and they say " it's just a word" if they knew what it felt like
UGH that sucks! It’s one thing to get misgendered, another for them to do it purposely. I hope it gets better and that you have some friends for support. Stay safe and stay strong.
And it's like you're trapped under what people keep saying, right? 😔
(I am not trans, but I can imagine how it feels to be mistaken as the other gender.)
Edit: Nvm I'm non-binary- 😳
@@sushicat3576 yes
"It's just a word!"
well if it’s just a word, what would it cost you to say something different?
only one word
what would it cost us if you said that word over and over and over again?
maybe our life
I got called a woman as a "joke" by my bf, and he said he was joking and not to take him serious, even tho i get massive dysphoria. Im nonbinary, my depression got worse when i got more aware i have womanly parts, and that i sound like a woman. Im currently thinking of going on hormones.
this is why i call people i just met “they” instead of assuming gender
it might be a bit weird but it really helps people feel more comfortable!
omg! thanks so much for doing this!!
i was nonbinary for a long time and people using male pronouns really hurt my soul.
to anyone reading this PLEASE do this too!! it's really easy to just say "they" or "them" instead of "he/she". assuming genders can really hurt.
I do this too, it’s become like a habit calling strangers they/them
Well, not just strangers. I’ve started calling everyone they/them
*cries in Italy where they/them is used for objects and not for people*
@@jaiden8529 *cries with you in French*
0:21 “She looks cute”
This may be a tiny detail, but I thought it was a really good example- it shows that misgendering in any form can cause dysphoria, even when it’s meant to be a compliment. A surprising amount of people don’t understand that dysphoria isn’t just about being unhappy with your appearance, it’s a deep-rooted fear that people’s perception of you doesn’t match who you are inside.
No.
@HiddenDraco yes.
@HiddenDraco unlike trans people.
@@yurigagarine6998 who hurt you
@@bandamani The democrats.
Remember just because you don’t feel dysphoric with your assigned gender doesn’t mean that you have to live as that gender. It is whatever makes you the most euphoric
Honesty, everybody liked the “girl” illusion I used before. Some of my friends even had a crush on me before I cut my hair. It would be so much easier for my family if I just played pretty girl. So much easier, less problems in life, less harassment, less money... I’m not good at looking like a decent looking man, but as a girl I can look pretty, do makeup well, pull off outfits. It’s so tempting to just lie and be a doll for the confidence of others, but I just can’t... I’m not a doll, I’m not a girl. Only 1 person knows, and calls me by my name. It’s like the people I know only see a plastic post board version of me in front of me.
I hope you one day feel comfortable in your body
VixyMix 101 I’m definitely hoping...
I understand that so well. I feel like my family loved me more before I came out. It sucks, because I'm so much happier now. It's like they want me to be depressed and alone just so I can be easy. But our happiness matters more than anyone's opinions of us. You will find people who love you for who you are, but there is no real joy in being loved for what you're not. I wish you the best of luck.
Rose Lalonde I wish you luck to, thank you!
How do you know what it's like to be a man if you've never been one?
Honestly I wish I had seen this when it came out,I realized I was trans about two years ago,I’ve been struggling with acceptance, and dysphoria, it sucks honestly,my name is jack,I’m a gay man who has had a lover for longer than I’ve known I was transgender,my boyfriend loves me so much and I love him, he’s taught me that no matter what,I’m a man,it doesn’t matter what my chromosomes are,or what’s in between my legs, I am a man, and it’s been a hard journey so far,it’s not over yet either, but at least I have a community and amazing boyfriend to support throughout my journey,and that’s all I need
Hey Jack! It’s really good to hear you have such a great amount of love and support. Stay strong, especially with everything going on in the world right now. Thank you for sharing and happy pride month :)
Your boyfriend sounds amazing, I feel so happy that you have such a strong support system
I made this comment so long ago, my girlfriend is still absolutely incredible, he’s such a sweetheart and has been the biggest help with my confidence, I am so confident in myself and I’m so proud I have someone like her at my side, I never knew how much I needed a good support system until recently, my life is so much better and happier now :)
i just wanted to point out my name is also jack but yes this is so cute im happy for u
something that i feel should be said more is:
'i am a trans man'
i feel like that would make homophobic people misgender people more since they know youre trans
the thing i think people should say instead is literally just
'i am a man'
it might feel strange for some people maybe but that should be a more popular opinion
as a nonbinary person, it really sucks when people invalidate me and say its not a real thing, when i experience dysphoria too:/
You're valid as a nonbinary person here!
Same here. I'm also bisexual, and people always tell me that my sexuality means my gender doesn't exist.
hi is it ok if I ask about how you experience dysphoria? I grew up in a place where boy and girl are the only two options and I'm trying to figure out if I'm just uncomfortable in my body (probs dysmorphia?) or if I might be nonbinary, thanks in advance :)
@@just_foxy35 right for me it’s looking too feminine or masculine,my voice going too high or low and my chest(if your not afab then that may not apply to you sorry 😅)
@@just_foxy35 I get really insecure with my breasts and my face shape, which is why I'm experimenting with different hair styles. But mostly it's social, such as people mistaking me for a girl due to something about my attributes, or my mom using the wrong pronouns
ALL MY TRANS HOMIES I LOVE Y'ALL
@@SmartCreeper i also hate sex ‼‼🔥🔥
Why do you love people you don’t know???
@caldercockatoo2234
Don’t you love your dad?
@@SpaceViperShorts Are you trying to imply that I don't know my dad? Why? I in fact do know him, though I usually don't care as much about him.
@@SpaceViperShorts You dropped this👑
_I'm not a Girl_
_I'm not a Boy_
_I'm not Nonbinary_
_I'm..._
*_Ditto_*
*_Because,,, I van be whatever what I want everytime_*
Soooo, genderfluid?
could you please help me understand. At the risk of sounding offensive, I would like to ask you ¿do you know that if you are born a boy, you will always be a boy genetically speaking, but you sometime FEEL like something, and prefer to act and be recognized as such in order to be happy and more comfortable? ¿Is is something you do because you don't agree to the social and cultural standars of male or female? If so ¿Wouldn´t it better to accept being what you really are (scientifically speaking), but just act however you want in order to not be restrained by social and cultural norms?
Honestly, I really don´t want to be disrispectfull, but this all seems just too wierd for me, I would really appreciate learning how your thought process goes. Thanks for your time!
@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 I dunno about genderfluid, as I am not, but if it is anything like me, then No. As a MtF transgender, I can say that this would be wrong for me. It's not that I don't want to conform to the gender norms, I just genuinely wish I was born a girl. I want to be a girl and will try my hardest to feel comfortable in my own body.
@@thecolorpurple6401 Ok, so if I got it right, you would be willing to admit or at least respect if someone says you are genetically speaking still a male, BUT... you want to be a female because that makes you happy and fulfills you (as it better represents the way you feel), and thus, you want people to treat you as such and respect your desition as it is the best way to treat the dysphoria and live a happy life.
In a way, is it like choosing a career? You know you are not really of that profession from birth, but it is the best way for you to achieve happiness, so why not do it?
@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 y-yeah. That's pretty much on the dot. Nice.
I've sent this to my mother as she dosent understand how some days I can ware a dress and other days I have my binder and packer. She's honestly trying her best but some times she just dosent understand. Thankyou
That’s good she’s trying. It definitely takes time... If there are any future video ideas you think I can make that would help, feel free to share them here. Happy Pride Month!
im not sure if youre trans or fluid but i relate cause i like being fem masc and andro depending on my mood, but im fine with dresses and stuff but i dont wear them cause want to be a boy in a dress not a girl in a dress y'know
@@arilovesbingus8626 I get what you mean to a T dude! I love dresses, I'm a man and I love dresses. And that's how I want to be seen. As a man in a dress. But I get called miss and it fucks me up. I own multiple dresses. But I've put them away until I pass better. I still ware make up but it's to make me look more male. I recently found out the joys of kt tape instead of a binder. I can ware shirts buttoned low now and my chest looks flat. I get called sir even when I've put on slightly more fem clothes, or put on a tad more eyeliner than normal. Just know hon, things get better. They get easier and you are worthy valid and loved
@@greytreestump fem means feminine, masc means masculine, and andro means androgynous (gender neutral)
Wrist dysphoria
Finger dysphoria
Nose dysphoria
Top dysphoria
Buttom dysphoria
Chubby cheeks dysphoria
Height dysphoria
Walk dysphoria
Talk dysphoria
*Dysphoria of not having enough dysphoria* 🙂
THAT LAST ONE THO
Leg dysphoria
Face dysphoria
Top dysphoria
Bottom dysphoria
Voice dysphoria
Hand dysphoria
Eyebrow dysphoria
Mine are
Chest face
Walk
Hips
Hair
Hairline
Period
Chest
Voice pitch
Leg cuz i feel like there more fem instead of masc
I am FTM havent came out yet my mom will probably accept me but not my siblings or dad
Edit:i come from religious background and my mom lets me cross dress im also lucky enough to be able to grow a mustache without hormones i will start transitioning in or when im out of college
@@friendsdodumbstufftogether6083 just hang on buddy, it will better with time and acceptance. Stay strong little boy❤
Top dysphoria
Bottom dysphoria
“Didn’t know when I was little so therefore I’m not valid” dysphoria
Hip dysphoria
Reproductive dysphoria (periods and stuff)
Muscle (or lack thereof) dysphoria
Voice dysphoria
Not having enough dysphoria dysphoria
(Luckily I pass 85% of the time, I have a pretty masculine face and I’m really tall)
people used to mistake me for a boy and I still remember how my heart skipped a beat and how wrong it felt to me, so I think I can understand this feeling, how the way people percieve you isn't how you feel about yourself.
If they mistake you, sometimes it’s not their fault (some) because they don’t know that
work on your self steem, you need to become tougher to overcome simple stuff and face the world.
@@B-Cat100 your correct though I dont think they were trying to say it is their fault
@@B-Cat100ye. Its usually not on purpose. If they know what you identify as however and then still proceed to misgender then it is on purpose.
It's more than uncomfortable
It's torture sometimes.
This comment speaks volumes...
ikr like you wanna cut that body part yourself sometimes
@Lovisa Karvanen no dear, it will be okay believe me its gonna be alright you're strong you can handle this, my brother always felt like that in the beginning but now its much better, sending love to you
_Virtual hug_
It is quite literally a living hell for me ngl. Sometimes I can forget that my body doesn’t match my mind (usually when I game) until I have to get up or if I talk, but it always aches to remember my fate. Honest to god, I don’t wanna be alive.
I once looked good in a dress and cried. ( wasn’t really a dress? We will jus say really feminine clothes)
They thought it was because I thought I looked bad that I cried. But I looked good, nice and feminine, I knew this and that is why I had a mental break down in the change room. Because I looked like a girl and not like a boy. When people say anything relating to the fact of “a girl” I just “haha” it. I’m always finding ways to make it so people wouldn’t see me as a girl.
So I mean if that’s considered it but that’s what I think of and I mean since I heard what transgender meant since like grade 7 or 6 i was like “Yup sounds like me!” I guess I’ll research more. But all I know is I’m here getting worse and I’m like “Welllllllllll that’s fun!” also I haven’t talked to my closest friend in like 2 years and I get more and more of losing people I love.
But ya know just life I guess, I was going to sort my problems now but I mean...... naw, I’ll leave it for future me ( sorry future me )
Gender dysphoria can be a whole number of things to different people. That sounds like dysphoria to me though. If you need tips on dressing to make yourself look less feminine, button up shirts, preferably oversized, layered over a loose fitting shirt with straight leg jeans could maybe maybe you look more masculine. I have tons of tips if you need help dealing with dysphoria, especially if you live in a house where you're not sure everyone will be accepting if you were to come out.
And hey, don't worry. I had no interaction with anyone other than coming downstairs to eat meals or look after my dog for a solid 9 months once because of a few issues I have that got too hard to deal with and all my friends abandoning me. IT was the worst time of my whole life. Eventually though, I ended up with the kindest, strongest, most understanding person I've ever met, my datemate, and I'm doing way better now even if my life is far from perfect. Through my datemate, I've also made a brilliant friend, she's awesome. So even if losing people is really painful, you will eventually find new people who'll come into your life and make it awesome. I hope your situation gets better!
First of all....ignore the guy above me
Simple as this.....you are not the gender you think you are
You have a real actual problem that you need to worry about
You arent the opposite sex as you think you are, you didnt born in the wrong body
Talk to this with you parents and an actuall real psichologist
@@alejandrojara9383 - There is nothing wrong with trans people. We exist, we're not sick, we're not going away. If you don't support trans people, why are you on this video?
@@Austin-do8se yes, theres a serious problem with ya....you are not the sex that you claim to be, and no, gender isnt a espectrum patronus and no, its not in your brain and yes you guys exist why you think that i think you didnt exist?
And why i cant be here, i got the right to be here....scuse me but im peruvian, how dare you .....you xenophobic racist?
Taro Yamada I totally agree. The most bs statement ive heard trans say “I was born in the wrong body”
First of all for those who think that, The is no way u can prove that, like none. Its Impossible because it never was the case. I dont hate trans, I just hate the fact that they keep telling us that if we disagree we are transphobic. Like no, im not transphobic, I just disagree. And they say “we are trans and we exist” well no shit. You guys just have to deal with people that spit facts at your face but some of u are ignorant. Disclaimer: Im not saying all trans are like that. There are some that are chill.
So I have a question... I was assigned female at birth and for a long time, I thought my gender matched that. I've never had a problem with my body, but since I was about 12 I've felt uncomfortable with she/her pronouns, and now that I'm an adult I've also realized I'm very uncomfortable with being called a woman. And the more I really look inside myself, the more I feel genderless. Is this discomfort with feminine terms a kind of dysphoria, and could I be agender or nonbinary?
I'm the same way!! I was fine being AFAB until about a year ago, now every time i get called she/her it gives me a twinge of discomfort. I'd call it dysphoria, and from your description I'd say you're agender :)
its a kind of dysphoria yes. dysphoria is being uncomfortable with at least one gender defining body part
that sounds like gender dysphoria. gender dysphoria isn't always just hating your body.
*this except replace "female" with "male" and you have my case.*
Yeah, I'm struggling with that, too. I can't tell if it's actually some form of dysphoria, or if I just hate the idea of what a woman should be being forced upon me. There are some extreme feelings that come up, especially during my period, that make me wonder if it is dysphoria... But I don't know.
Im a cisgender male. Im Bisexual and some ignorant people like to associate non hetero men with femininity. Im fairly masculine and very proud of my gender but some people just loooove to misgender me and treat me like less of a man. It doesnt bother me as much, but dear lord I cant imagine what my other trans friends have and are going through
I'm here for help. I don't think anyone's going to see this, but here I go.
I have a friend who has gender dysphoria. He's a great person and I wish him the best, always. But lately I feel like the dysphoria's really been getting to him. He talks more about death and wanting to die, and I take that shit seriously. I don't want to be that friend who ignores these pleas and ends up regretting it later. But, I'm afraid I don't know what to do in this situation. Do I try to talk to him about it? I know next to nothing about what dysphoria feels like and I'm scared I might seriously offend him or underestimate his suffering. Should I really tell an adult? I feel like I'd be giving away a big secret without his permission, like I'm betraying his trust. Do I encourage him to get help? Do I try and console him? I've already said I'd be there for him, and listen to him, but I feel like it's not enough..
I'm just putting this comment out there in case anyone might give me some advice or explain a few things to me.
Thank you.
I think you should encourage him to get help... I don’t know about telling an adult that’s a bit risky
also definitely talk to him about it I’m sure he will appreciate any kind of support. You see When one of my friends tries to help with my dysphoria I want to hug them. There’s like this divine light around them in my eyes lol. Might be because I don’t really get called by my preferred pronouns a lot. He probably won’t be offended. Yeah you probably know him better then I do so do try to figure him out before you act I guess.
Greetings. I may be of help.
If I got it right, he is a female to male, correct?
I don't know how much you know regarding the subject so I'll introduce even the basics.
Transgenderism.
If the individual was born a male but identifies as female (mtf), you're gonna need to use the rightful pronouns. She.
If it is a born female identifying as male (ftm), it's gonna have to be a "he".
It's very, very, *very* important to address these people with their identity. If you're confused, just ask them. And.. of course, treat them accordingly.
What such person needs is acceptance, understanding, support, sympathy, patience. Society can be harsh. They don't take them seriously.. and believe me, being the laughingstock of the world is not fun. In the very least, if the outside gets too much, they must have closure on the inside. That is.. friends and family.
From time to time they might need a shoulder to cry on, they are only human. Be there for it if needed.
Be open. Let him know that, you know what, brother? I'm here for you.
However. Try not to make exaggerated attempts to prove to him that he is the gender that he identifies as. Treat him all the same as you would treat any other boy. (Or girl if it's a mtf). They don't wanna stand out; they wanna fit in.
Now aside from all that the rest is pretty simple.
Nothing is complicated until we make it as such. A clear mind can easily see through the answers.
Listen when he needs it, support him when it's time. Love him for what he is. Tell him that you would be sad without his presence.. we do not need to see our friends die. Let them hear the right words at the right time; and that is when they are alive. *Let him know that there is someone willing to take that extra mile for him.*
But. Be very wary. I am assuming that you really mean what you say, that honesty will exist within these words. That even in a storm, you'll still be there for him. Even if it gets tiresome.. or repetitive. It's hard. And you must have a will of iron, as much as he does.
Friend, my answer may seem simple.. obvious, even, but remember.
Nothing needs to be complicated, not unless you have a complicated mind. Simplicity is a golden key to see through the best answers out of most situations. Best of luck, and feel free to reply if this was or wasn't helpful.
Oh. And, no, do not tell anyone about a thing. This can easily trigger chaos if that someone holds a transphpbic view. People are total bigots when it comes to LGBT, and especially for trans individuals. But, feel free to talk to him about it. Ask first. "Do you think it would help if we told someone?"
"Are your parents transphobic? Should we try to find out?"
I also can suggest something I left out.
If you can, find out more about what it means to be a trans. Why, how do you know, how must it feel, etc.
You can always ask your friend but not everyone likes to talk about it. Depends on the person. To say the least? Never hesitate to ask.
There's also the internet.. you can read people's stories or listen to some transgender TED-talk. You can find it here on youtube. Or.. if you think it can be too much of an effort, you can ask me directly.
It'll be better if he knows you're informed on the subject, and better for you too. Acceptance is needed but so is understanding.
As the other comments above said, it's important to talk directly with him about this first. As long as he doesn't give you direct permission or something like this, you shouldn't tell anyone about this at first, especially not people who you don't completely trust. If the situation gets worse though, you should convince him to seek more help and maybe talk with a doctor or therapist about his feelings. Depression should never be ignored, it just makes things worse and gets built up inside until all hell breaks loose, if you know what I mean. I've experienced this on myself, but I had Noone to talk to for years. Your friend can be glad to have such a good friend like you ❤️
Me, as a cis female, I feel bad for anyone, who has gender dysphoria.
Same. Couldn’t be them
Same
Same
thank you! its nice to find strong allys who will try their best to be empathic
:D
@@mollybearrr Of course, that's the way things should be, ^^
Dad: "You're my daughter alright! :)"
Me: Aha, yeah, *daughter.*
My dad once introduced me to some of his colleagues and before he could get the word “daughter” out, they blurted out, “Oh, your son?”
And I just stood kinda smug lol while he “corrected” her lmao. XD
The shoes on the wrong feet is a very good analogy.
agreed
I’ve always felt bad about my chest ever since puberty. I just bought a binder and it’s arriving around June 30- July 8
Congratulations!! And happy pride month :) perfect time to get a binder
We can change chests... If u want :3 xd
(I wish it was that easy)
@@ninthoperamusic1431 same
Congrats. And I guess I was having the same problem as you :))))
that's awesome! wish i could get one but my mother won't understand :")
the other day i told my dad about how i felt i was transgender. my dad said he accepted me all the way. i was happy, literally crying tears of joy. then the next day my mom came in my room with my phone. I was excited to tell her about my sexuality until she told me she saw the texts. It made me mad that she even went through my phone anyway. I was mad because she didn’t have to find out through text, i could’ve told her and could’ve came out to her myself. She made me delete all social media because she thinks that i’m being “influenced” by other people to “pretend” to be trans. She told me that god made me a girl and i shouldn’t change that. She’s always made me feel bad about my self and try’s to make me what i’m not.
Omg that must be awful 🥺 I’m a trans girl and we got this! You’ll always be a boy, and your body or parents can’t change that
Yikes. I'm glad your dad accepts you though! Your mom can like, piss off if she doesn't accept you. I still hope that she eventually grows to accept you though.
yeah. i dont understand why parents go through their childrens texts. honestly if you think theyre lying or hiding something FxCKING ASK THEM. if they're comfortable telling you, they will, and if not, wait until theyre ready
When you become an adult, PROVE HER WRONG!!
Because for some reason parents would only listen to you if you were an adult 🙄
I hate it so much when people call me a "young woman", or call me "miss", it just makes me SO uncomfortable and I think this video helped me find out why..
Hi @Venomous , I’m glad the video was helpful :) sometimes it’s difficult to find the words to describe how you’re feeling
Worst one of all is “bitch” tbh. XD
Yeah me too
I would do anything to be called miss in real life 😭
I'm uncomfy with miss and young lady and ma'am ... but fine with girl and she/her ... I'm a Demigirl with she/they pronouns ... and I've always been uncomfortable with my chest (well not always, but since it developed and became TOO large)... I try to hide my boobs, stop them from bouncing, wear baggy clothes, hoodies etc...
every day i have to wake up and put on my costume, pretending to be something that disgusts me. i cant go on much longer like this
I just
Wanna
Be a
boy
Edit: a year later I'm still getting responses. Thank you guys for making me feel valid. I know the wording isn't perfect and it makes it seem like I am not but I've always been bad with words and often how I felt would transcript into my writing. I know who I am now more than I did so thank you guys for being so kind.
You already are a boy. Adjust your look.. don't look at your body. Look where you know you'll find yourself.
Also, please be careful. Confusion can be a thing.. make sure to sort it out. Don't try to convince yourself for what you're not. Maybe you wanna stand out.. maybe you feel lonely and in need of some attention. Maybe a lot. Only take a decision once you know for sure who it is that you are.
@wonter birb I don't think they were talking to you directly...
I think what the person above wanted to say is that in many cases the"dysphoric" feeling or feeling trans can often be a sign of lack of attention. There are a lot of kids nowadays that think they're transgender, when in real they're doing it only to stand out. That's nothing bad to do, but it's best to re think what you actually feel like and not jump into conclusions all of a sudden.
@@stein9073 I agree^ Especially in ftm. There was a sudden rise in ftm, and its sometimes due to them(ftm) feeling like they fit more of a tomboy and not feminine. (Ofc this can happen in mtf, too!) Since dysphoria is a serious issue, I like people to be sure they're not just doing it to stand out or because they think they can't be a masculine or feminine while being the opposite gender before supporting them on fully. I was trans for about a week, until I realized I just wasn't fitting in with a super feminine type of gal.
(This isnt directed towards the person who said they were trans they very well might be im just speaking in general uvu)
Same????
You are.
*trans man screaming* using the shoes to explain it is A V E R Y GOOD WAY TO EXPLAIN TO LITTLE KIDS, THANK YOU.
Exactly!! Glad it can help :)
Or unsupported grandparents!
@@xash_unamedx2932 what
youlll never be a man ever. it is scientifically impossible
@@sick4127 at least my parents wanted me and still love me, but keep trying to make yourself feel better :)
I'm pleasantly surprised with that like to dislike ratio, considering how prevalent transphobia is online these days
Right! It's a bit comforting to see not too many dislikes to likes
It’s because TH-cam tracks you and tailors videos to your liking to put you down a rabbit hole that supports your views.
@@haroldinho9930 having gender dysphoria isn’t a “view” but ok
@@marleykenjic7485 I mean like it won’t recommend it to transphobes.
@@haroldinho9930 True. It's the filter bubble.
I've never had dysphoria and I can't understand what it feels like but wtf I'll use any pronouns u wish because lol it's as easy as calling a person by their name I'll never tell a person what to wear or how to act because it's not my damn business
My respect : 📈📈📈📈📈
Thank you. This helped my parents comprehend my gender dysphoria
Thinking back, my gender dysphoria had made a HUGE impact on my life during my late high school years. I'd wear jeans and hoodies and never liked dresses. My grandma used to always buy me jackets and jeans/ripped jeans as well. I wonder if she knew of the term gender dysphoria, or she was just genuinely a sweet, caring grandma who accepted me for who I was. 😭😭
your grandmother is so kind omg 😭
@@abby-lz4fo she was amazing 🥺
RIP :(
@@vicho5960 thanks for making me laugh the night before my grandma's passing away anniversary 😂😂😂💀
@@kevintrang3007 yeah, it's gonna be two years starting tomorrow since she's been gone..
o h
my height
my voice
beingfemaleingeneral
it's "f u n"
If you feel male you are not female. Unless you're referring to your body,but still.
I hope one day you can express your gender in a way that makes you happy♥️
i like your profile pic
Well I absilutly wunt to be a boy but I never can be I look at myself every freaking morning and think wut I'm I it hauntes me I'm afraid to tell my parents TMT
@Jackson Storm ok thx for the information well I'm tell them
This genuinely helped me gain a little understanding of something I never thought I would/ could. Thank you.
It’s honestly sad that people are surprised there aren’t any hate comments :(
That’s how it’s supposed to be
There are hate comments. You just need to search for them.
Cry Baby correction:
There are hate replies.
*Way too many of them.*
*O H G O D .*
Sadly that's not how it used to be
s o r t b y n e w
I mean, isn’t it good to have some good healthy amount of criticism? Not toward the people who are suffering with it. But to the people who aren’t actually helping the situation and making things worse? If we gave the benefit of the doubt to EVERYONE that’s a problem too. Obviously don’t go around calling people names for no reason. But asking questions, getting more information or even being critical of comments that seem like they are doing more harm than good? None of those things are bad.
Stay safe everyone! ✌️
there's a difference between *dysphoria* and *dysmorphia* !!!
What is dysmorphia?
@@angelkawaii5art Search it up. Essentially, you perceive your body as worse than it actually is, seeing your body through a disfigured lense.
@@_saphrogy_9623 Thank you
when u have both❤️
grape soda cos
I'm late to the "fuck my body" club meeting!
*OH NO*
One of my trans friends described it as the feeling you get when you stare at yourself in the mirror too long or say the same word too many times.
for me, before puberty i’ve always just hated my name. i loathed hearing it, i felt like i was being punished or laughed at whenever someone said it, it just felt wrong. like an AI generated image that isn’t quite right. i looked in the mirror and thought of my name and it just wasn’t right.
it was awful. i just thought everyone felt like that. now i realize that’s not the case.
i go by a different name now and, while people still call me by my deadname, it doesn’t bother me as much because i have people that call me by my new name. i don’t mind my parents calling me deadname too much though, but everyone else doing it still kinda sucks.
i feel kind of ashamed of my new name, cause it sounds like a nickname instead of a name. imagine a teacher calling a kid “xem”
but, i like when people call me that, so i dunno.
Bro really is named a Half-Life 2 creature.
@@flintfrommother3gaming haven’t played half life so i don’t get that reference sadly
It's so nice how, 2 years later, you're still answering people's questions and engaging with the comment section.
Hello hello haha. Thank you :) yeah of course. This channel is OLD. I cringe when I look at that first video I ever made haha, but I’m also hella proud to see how far I’ve come. Thanks for commenting! I hope you have a great day/night
I really want to be a Girl !
I hate my voice
I hate my flat chest
I hate being called a boy
I hate my lack of curves
I hate having to act all masculine
I hate how short my hair is
I (somewhat) hate my size
I hate having to wear boys clothes
Why can't i just be a girl ?!
Answer: I don't have acces to girls clothes and im scared people might make fun of me !
(But im looking for a psychiatrist, so i can at least get hormones and maybe in the near future i will also be able to wear girls clothes)
stay strong!!❤️❤️
You are a girl even if you don't look the way you want. I wish you the best
@@parrotdoesasploot2381 if feeling a certain way MAKES you that way, because you dont wanna be who you are, then I am a 8 foot tall NBA player with my gender being batman
💕💕💕💕💕💜💜❣💜❤💙💙💖💝💝💜💖💜💝😔💝❤💝❣💝💜💝❣💞💝❣💝❣💞💞💝❣💝💕💕💝💞💝💞❣💖❣💝💞💝💞❣
@@leunamreyo3663 Pinnacle of comedy right here, get this man a medal because I'm sure nobody's ever made this joke ever, it's completely original and so very funny.
Father : "You are a boy why are you doin things like this?"
Inside Me : "But imma girl inside"
First of all, I'm just going to say that I'm a dumb ass straight white male so take this with a grain of salt. Alright now this is what I want to say: I don't think things considered "boy actions" or "girl actions". Sexuality and Gender don't matter when it comes to how you act. If a Straight male guy wants to put on makeup and put on a dress, that's all good with me. If a straight girl wants to put on a muscle shirt and get ripped, that's great. I just feel like our society today reduces ourselves to our gender and sexuality. You shouldn't expect someone to act a certain way based on their gender. I only say this because your dad seems like the kind of guy that says "guys should act like this and girls should act like that" (Referring to straight people)
@@aidanmetz1308 just to let you know being white literally has nothing to do with it. Obviously being white gives you privilege compared to to other minorities but when talking about gender identity it practically doesn't matter
@@deeznuts8659 I said I was white for the purpose of saying I haven't experienced being a minority, that's all.
@@aidanmetz1308 Thats okay. I've just always found it weird when people continue to put the white race on labels even when they aren't talking about race(for example, white veganism). I don't think its a matter of having fragility. Even if people mainly see white people doing a certain thing or acting a certain way doesn't mean minorities can't do it either.
@@aidanmetz1308 agreed
I liked that comment about how for some it's just there and how others can be debilitating. I've recently found out I'm gender fluid because I always gaslit myself into thinking my dysphoria was so minor it would be unfair to say I'm not cis
Yea
I cried so bad JUST BCS OF BEING BORN A GIRL.
I see you in a lot of ftm videos
Xxxtentacion xX
U know what I’m saying 😂
Did i must care to you ?
Btw i cried too, why i'm not born be bill gates son :(
i wouldnt phrase it like that, but big mood
I don’t understand dysphoria because I am blessed to be born in the body I feel I identify with, but this is such an awesome metaphor and it helped! To all my trans/non-binary brothers, sisters, and siblings, I see you and i love you!!!
Yesss! Thank you for your support :) I’m so glad to hear the metaphor helped. Have a great day/night!
thank you so much for the genuine love and support
Aww, we love a good ally, thank you for your support
Update: oops. genderqueer now. still love ya’ll tho
@@ejalvarez4114 hahaha welcome to the community 🌟🏳️⚧️
I have dysphoria
Edit: woah.. it’s been a whole year since I’ve commented this?! I honestly don’t even remember watching this video.. Occasionally I’ll get a notification or two from replies, thanks for all of you who are nice :)
Same
Ditto
ArticBear So do I, I feel sad almost all the time... 😥
I've had suicidal thoughts coupled to my dysphoria, when I realised that I was just like: this shit's real.
Nobody and nothing can change that.
It's how I got 100% confirmation that I wasn't a girl. (On the inside at least...)
Having dysphoria actually felt good for once I guess?
But then I was reminded that the reason I had dysphoria was that I was still physically female.
And that stung worse than the one second of blissful idiotic relief.
Shayé the Enby Yeah, tell me about it!
I was forced to play a woman for a children's play, and one unsatisfied with her body at that. It felt so _wrong_ that I cried until I was given a different role.
Can't imagine how that'd be like every day all day long.
Extreme weakness
@@franpp257 I'm sorry you were forced to play with a broom up your ass
@kk12ie Ignore them, they have the Maximilanmus pfp, they only want attention.
Crybaby
Crybaby
So my mum just asked me why I feel dysphoria and I tried to explain that I can’t control it?? Uhh, imma just send her this...
I hope she’s better understanding now! Best of luck
@@PhoenixAnimations mm... Kinda? Last week I asked if she could use my preferred pronouns and she said no 🙃
Hm, dang. Well just remember you are valid regardless what she says or thinks :)
Stay safe and stay you
@@PhoenixAnimations thanks
One time I was crying into my pillow for not being a cis boy and crying just made me feel more feminine, I also hate my legs, lips, chest, hips, genitals, laugh, smile, face shape, I love art and singing but it makes me feel I am being seen as female sorry for ranting
@BigMood AllTheTime Hey there! Fellow Trans guy here, I know exactly how you are feeling. I also experience Gender dysphoria in similar places, it's... not fun. I used to struggle with thinking that crying or letting out any type of emotion was weak or feminine, so I tried my best to "tough it out" whenever I felt emotional. But I've gotten better with realizing that crying ISN'T just a feminine thing nor does it make you weak. Crying is COMPLETELY normal for everyone, so don't feel ashamed for letting out your emotions. And singing and art? Those are amazing hobbies! I also enjoy singing from time to time, there are many other men in the world who sing, it's certainly not just a feminine thing. You don't have to have the same features a cis boy may have, it doesn't make you any less Trans or less of a man either. I wish you the best on your journey and hope it gets better for you in the near future! Stay strong man, you got this. :)
I think a big part of dealing with dysphoria for ftms is not letting toxic masculinity get the better of you. Crying is perfectly acceptable for a guy to do. So are art and music! I understand that singing could be hard because of your voice (I have the same problem) but there are lots of guys who are artists and musicians. Try to focus on feeling like a guy. Tell yourself "boys can cry!" or "I am a man who paints!" or whatever will help you. Just remind yourself in those moments that you are a boy doing all those things.
I think most people agree that sensitive and creative men are attractive.
there's nothing to do with your gender! boys can like delicate things!
Hey man
Boys can cry
It’s not feminine at all
"Dysphoria" comes from a Greek word meaning ‘hard to bear’. So y'all might be interested to know this means there's more than one kind.
For example, there's also Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). RSD is an extreme emotional sensitivity and emotional pain triggered by the perception (not necessarily the reality) that a person has been rejected, teased, or criticized by important people in their life. RSD may also be triggered by a sense of failure or failing to meet either their own high standards or others’ expectations.
So like, sometimes I'll mess up and then become acutely aware that I need to get hit by a truck. The air feels like poison. It didn't occur to me that I might have this kind of dysphoria until I realized that I've shaped my life around avoiding failure.
TL;DR: There's different types of dysphoria! It is all shit.
"Dysphoria feels like being unable to get warm, no matter how many layers you put on. It feels like hunger without appetite. It feels like getting on an airplane to fly home, only to realize mid-flight that this is it: You’re going to spend the rest of your life on an airplane. It feels like grieving. It feels like having nothing to grieve." - Andrea Long Chu
What an amazing quote, the airplane thing so perfectly describes it
Anyone else probably have gender dysphoria?
I’m- genetically female, but I DESPERATELY want to be non-binary/a guy
I can’t stand my period or the fact I’m a women
I hate my breasts
I hate how long my hair is
I can understand, being a girl must be hard
I feel the same way :3
I remember when I first got my hair cut, I felt some sort of new freedom. If you're able to, I suggest it, it's an amazing start
Can someone explain to me what's SO bad about being a girl? Most people who wants to be transgender are girls, why???
T- wh-
There's nothing wrong about being a girl at all! I hope that's not what we're implying I'm sorry :[ It's not that we hate girls its just that our brains decided they wanted to be something else, and we can't help it. There's nothing so bad about being a girl at all, and more power to the people who are!
Also, I just realized you said "Most people who wants to be transgender"
I think there is a misunderstand here? It's not a want, we don't decide for ourselves. Just like how people don't choose their sexuality, it's just what it is for them. Hopefully this cleared some things up for you
as a asian boy, i don't ask my parents about transgender stuff because they feel uncomfortable around this stuff, i asked my parent about their feeling about trans, gay, and these special people indirectly just to see what they think and...
mom dislike them
didn't ask my dad because he would think i'm mentally ill
my cousins hate it
so i just avoid this topic as much as possible
my personality, interests, and the way people treat me just doesn't feel right to me
i am very clumsy and unlucky so i get in trouble quite often, which sounds normal for girls, but when a boy has that problem suddenly it's their problem, one of the tiny amount of sports i actually enjoy back then was badminton and someone told me that's a female sport so now i don't have any interest in sports anymore
edit : it's been 2 years since i made this comment, want to say a few things, I'm not trans, I'm not gay, nor am I in the LGBTQ community, however, I did mean everything I've said, society shouldn't be divided into genders when it comes to interests or expectations, everyone should be able to enjoy the same sports, hobbies, games, media.
it NEVER should've been, guys can't do this, girls can't do that, or that guys should be a certain strength, girls should be a certain beauty, everyones a human,so treat everyone like a human
One day you will get what you want. You will become the person you want to be. Nothing will be able to stop you, not even your family. Keep pushing to be yourself unless it puts you in danger. Stay strong and push through because as bad times come to pass, good ones follow :)
@@skylight2944 bro were same i also want to become a girl but cuz i'm a muslim so our god don't allow it Guess i have to wait to go to the heaven i have to hold this feeling till i get there you are the first person i talk about this problem
Just because someone told you badminton is a female sport doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy it
@@NerfedOnGod And I'm furious when I read "Badminton is a female sport"
Like wth, it's my favorite, and a lot of my friends both male and female likes it too and even good at it.
honestly that's really unfortunate
i don't know what your circumstances are, but i hope you're pushing through
and also no matter what sport it is or what art you do, it is NEVER specific to a stereotype or a gender
you can draw guys all you like but are feminine, or you could do gymnastics and still be immensely masculine
anyways, hope you're doing well nowadays, and take care
I feel more than uncomfortable. It feels like torture. Like I’m trapped in my body and can’t escape. 😔
I hope however it happens that feeling goes away, please stay safe and no matter what u are valid
As soon as I saw this, I sent it to mom. She doesn't understand these things, but wants to, so she can better understand and help me. She said it was a good video and that it helped her know there was a name for my feelings and that it helped her understand what I feel and that she can now also do research on what this is herself.
dysphoria is one of the worst pains I've ever felt. it turns into a literal pain and I always have a panic attack during it when it's at its worst. cisgender people really don't get it. it isn't wanting to be the opposite gender. it's like claustrophobia, you're trapped in your own body. it's not a simple want. it's a need, a need to be someone entirely different, a need to feel valid, a need to look and feel and be accepted as what you are. it hurts to look in the mirror.
Why
@@rchaelk2319 human brains & bodies r weird & sometimes do unhelpful things
@@rchaelk2319it’s a health condition..why do sober people have lung and liver cancer? Why do people have autism? Why do some people have depression and anxiety ? It’s just that complex to answer…
@@rchaelk2319 your mind rejects your body so it makes you depressed until you fix it
Yea
HOLY SHIT THE SHOE REFERENCE HIT ME IN THE FACE
i’m a trans guy and this hit hard. The hoodie and pants thing too- all of it actually.
There are three types of people in this world when you come out as trans, nonbinary, etc.
“you’re accepted and perfect for who you are!”
“you’re a sinner/you are disgusting/you’re a girl/boy.”
“you’re too young to know what you mean.”
I wish more people were the first type compared to the alarming amount of second and third types.
Sup homegirl
@@funkinfunkhead. hes a trans guy. Stop being a dick
@Gnoškolk Galunga transphobes are hit with a rebuttal and just refuse to listen lmao. Youre delusional
My mind repeats all 3 of them to me constantly.
...constantly.
Once you're older, that third type of person gets replaced with "I'm trying, but it's hard for me to understand"
I like how the people were in the nonbinary flag I'm nonbinary
Same
Ditto
Same.
Lmao I thought I was the only one who noticed that
Yeee
Poem:
The answer seems so simple,
Yet so hurtful
When you know the true then you just want to still living a lie
Not liying to anyone but yourself
And that's the most hurtful thing of all
When you realize it's temporary,
That you're temporary,
Everything, is temporary,
Just then you really apreciate things
Just when you're about to lose something, you realize its true meaning
The peace that comes when being near it is.. amazing
It's almost refreshing
Knowing a certain future is the truly true
It's scary
But the true of releaving suffering is what pushes you
Keeps pushing
Like a discomfort in the heart
That you know it's not gonna go,
Until you stop
Stop..
Do we really need to stop?
Isn't there really another way?
That and a million more questions ran through my mind
But with the more i think about it
I become more hesitant..
So,
Tell me,
Please, tell me
Is there something more hurtful
Than keep keeping the pain?
Please make the pain go away
Please make it go away
I.. don't wanna keep rushing anymore.
I just want to be nonbinary in peace, why is it so hard...?
edit: this comment is legitimately 5 years old, please stop replying 💀 still nonbinary btw, i was 13 when i wrote this and am now 18 and on HRT
@@Leaftcow Look buddy. It's people exactly like you who I'm talking about. I don't give a crap what you say God wants me to do. I know what God wants from me. Do everyone a favor and get out of the comments of this video.
@@Leaftcow Okay let me put it bluntly then.
Screw.
Off.
@@whimsicalwyvern2851 I
Was
Just
Trying
To
Help.
@@Leaftcow I get you think you're doing the right thing. But you're not. Do some research about this.
Ay bro same. I'm nonbinary as well and my mom thinks I'm confused so she refuses to call me by my name and pronouns. It hurts
Dysphoria is like a deep pain that is unlike any other pain because when you feel it you already know it will come back soon. It's like a monster that lives inside of you and comes out to stab your heart with pangs of sadness, wrongness and hopelessness. It's a pain that if you haven't felt it you probably won't ever understand
Couldn't have said it any better myself, fellow Basil enjoyer.
Depression, Anxiety, OCD. Etc.
Pains are pains unless you allow them to be so. Falling into your delusion is the worst way to end it.
Basically almost every parent ever
As someone that doesnt have gender dysphoria, this is true. I don’t understand it, but I don’t think I ever will.
I’m cis, so this really helps to explain what it’s like to me for my non-bi/gender fluid (they’re still figuring it out)sibling, since I don’t feel it. My parents keep calling them “she” and I wish they would just respect their pronouns or try to make the slightest effort to be respectful and I just feel really bad since neither of us can do anything. Everyone in the comments though, have an amazing day and all of you are valid!
Gender Dysphoria has been the cause of the worst pain I have ever had in my life. For me it can be completely debilitating, causing myself to lock up and be stuck in my head while my body is overcome with pains and aches. It’s a horrible feeling, and not something I’d wish on anyone. But I haven’t felt it that bad since going on hormones about 15 months ago
Anime avatar, no surprise at all.
@@AK-cp6br How so? Could you elaborate upon your vague claim?
@@AK-cp6brWhy are you pointing this out and how does it relate to their comment lol
That’s exactly how I feel rn. Life is soup and I am a fork :/
As someone with Dysphoria, this analogy is a brilliant representation of what it feels like to have Dysphoria. Thank you so much for this.
Ah I'm sorry I didn’t see this comment sooner... Thank YOU so much for the kind words. Hopefully the analogy is still accurate and I hope you are doing well since posting this!!
no one:
well-meaning but :// cis allies: you're still a SOFT BOY even though you're STILL a GIRL. you were BORN a FEMALE and have a FEMALE BODY, but you're still a BOY.
me, crying: pls stop im man.,.,.,.,
They're not real allies
I'm a soft boy, but not because I'm trans. That's just me.
I'm sorry but your a female and you cant change that.
@@alumilynn man your name says a lot about you
The Idiot down the street fuck off transphpbe
My mom “you’re such a beautiful girl” Me: *smiles and leaves room akwardly* *goes to room to cry
“And you’re a handsome man.”
Then when she gets up to try and spank you for that smarty comment, run away!
Cuz they hate when you call them the wrong things and don’t even get it when you don’t want to be called things you feel are wrong. 🤦
bro you know this generation is messed up wehn people cry over getting called the "wrong" gender. like imagine crying over a compliment.
@@Spooksq if you got called a beautiful girl and didn’t have the option of correcting them on the fact that ur a guy how would you feel? They would go on thinking you’re a girl and you would just have to deal with it. Would you take being called a beautiful women a compliment if you aren’t one?
@@TT35109 I feel the same, when they call me "you are a really handsome boy". Its really umconfortable that
@@Spooksq I've said it once I'll say it again *CIS PEOPLE DON'T EXPERIENCE THE PAIN TRANS PEOPLE GO THROUGH SO WHY SHOULD THEY GET TO MAKE FUN OF SAID PAIN??*
So I'm closeted trans female and I plan on coming out to my family very soon. I have a finalised note ready on my iPad to read out and everything. I already know that all my family are really supportive of LGBTQIA+ people, and I'm really glad they are. Others are unlucky and have transphobic, biphobic or homophobic friends or family... No one should be that person. Respect people, and learn to accept them for who they are.
good luck!!!
Best of luck!
You will N E V E R be a woman. You will A L W A Y S be male. Never female.
@@thehonorablereverendaddiso1943You will N E V E R get bitches. You will A L W A Y S be hoeless.
@@thehonorablereverendaddiso1943ok
This is... Oof
As a trans girl I appreciate this was made.
Finally a transgirl. The amount of trans men, it's crazy
@@melondoesyoutube yeah seriously, theres alot
It's because it's easier to hide vurves then make one. Also I think less people would want to be a girl
@@sir.monday1443 i think the reason is because this video and channel is centered around trans men because it was made by a trans men. A place with way more trans women then men is r/traaa for example.
Me being non-binary AMAB: Finally someone like me
Actually, I’ve been going through this for like years now, and having parents that you can’t talk to NEVER helps.
What I can recommend is talking to a friend or someone you’re familiar that you know, heck even a psychiatrist can help. Just remember you’re never alone during this.
And it’ll be hard to remember, but just know people are there for you
Thank you, I felt like I really needed to hear this right now. I hope your shoes are on the right foot and you can walk proudly :D
I also have transphobic parents that I can’t talk to, and no friends that I can talk to either 🥲
This video really helped me. I’m lucky enough to identify as my birth gender, and I will never know the hardship others face, but now I can at least know how to sympathise
Thank you for watching and listening! Really appreciate it :) i hope you have a great rest of your day/night!
Same
Identifying with your birth gender isn’t lucky, if more than 95% of people on earth identify with their birth gender.
@@PhoenixAnimations i hate that the height dysphoria example was someone being insecure about being tall. Short people are way more insecure and have it harder
@@rest1585 I think they mean "lucky" as in "lucky that I never had to go through that feeling."
So sad that people go through this every day. Finding fulfillment in being a man/woman is such a blessing, and I'm glad I don't have to struggle with such a thing