THE ONLY 3 TIMES I’VE EVER HAD A CRUSH IN 18 YEARS (not) STRAIGHT
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2022
- so it appears all the 'me and your mom' jokes were not very jokes after all
HELLO AXOLOTS well well surprise indeed, instead of your usual 14 day wait, you get a 12 day one instead. What a STEAL indeed.
So today I bring forth you my deepest darkest secrets, my toe dip into the lake of crushes, unrequited and unacknowledged. Here I bring to you my most vulnerable moments in life, where I dare let my body feel these disgusting things called... e m o t i o n s.
ew indeed. But it makes for good #entertainment therefore so it shall be. Pls manifest a bf or gf for me i am on my knees
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all the ‘your mom’ jokes were a hint all along
Edit: i didn’t want to make a whole coming out video because I just wanted this to be a casual mention haha, but since people are asking I like guys and gals 👍 anyone who is pretty and nice I mwah 🙏❤️🔥 thanks for yalls support, I did get some hate and massive sums of people unsubbing within 30 minutes of this video uploading but I’ll take it as a natural filtering process. Thanks y’all B)
Based
real
omg
A very slay hint
Hmm yes
note: nothing is ever *straight* about faline.
Nothing is straight about me either.
Well, except my hair lol
that goes for a whole lotta people
@@captkittypants literally it took me a couple days to realize
@@cherrypickin5548 lol
obviously
“I was my own historian”
ABSOLUTELY SOBBING AT THIS LINE
Criminally underrated
That was easily the best line of the video
FRRRR
Historians call them-
@@iCoralxDoesArt besties, roommates
"if you marry a girl I wont come to your wedding. Anyways lets get you a girlfriend." is just. such a hilarious attitude
when i was 10 i wanted to date a wall
That is sadly very much most of my friends. Laughed at me for being gay, continued to make jokes, found out I had a crush, literally became the best wingman I ever had.
@@theslaycatinahoodie whole lot of that in a psychiatric hospital. def recommend
“She played Minecraft, teaches me how to draw and liked anime.” I mean how could you NOT like her?
That's basically my crush
ikr
That is literally the dream right there
I don’t-
I mean, I don’t play minecraft, my parents won’t let me watch anime so I nav no idea about anime, and about drawing, I already have a friend who was kind enough to teach me. Plus, I’m straight.
@@sarvanaramachandran9882 girl then this isn't about you lmaoo
the only crush that faline has ever had was this random bug in his room that he crushed and killed
Tragic 😭
the immortal snail
@Khalilah D. Very 😭😭
Ah true love indeed
Faline is so successful, bots are raiding her comments
I hated that "what's your crush" question so much, I had to make up someone new every single time. Until I went to uni, discovered that asexuality was a thing, and now everything makes so much more sense.
What does asexuality mean?
@@Selena-bu3ql It means you don't feel sexual attraction.
You mean aromance
@@catsballs9657 you mean aromanticism?
this sounds more like an aromantic experience, rather than an asexual one. asexual means you dont feel any lust/sexual attraction to people and aromantic means you dont feel any romantic attraction to people
Ok but the “neither of us get married and we just live in the same house together as besties” is LITERALLY my dream relationship
Edit: the fact that so many people relate to this gives me hope I might actually one day meet a girl who wants to do this with me 😭
SAME
MY TWO BEST FRIENDS ALL HAD THE DREAM WE WOULD ALL LIVE TOGETHER IN A MANSION JUST US BY OURSELVES AND DOZENS OF PETS
@@uselessgay2341 that sounds like a polycule with dozens of pets
actually, this were excatly my thoughts to my first girl crush in kindergarten kkkkkk
OMG SAME, EXCEPT WITH 6 BESTIES
The "im not gonna go to ur gay wedding but imma help u get there" is kinda wholesome in a young ignorant way, its like "i was taught that this is wrong so im officially not supporting u but since i wanna see u happy im unofficially supporting you"
I remember in school some girls from my class were grilling me to get the name of my crush, and they took turns verbally enunciating the name of every boy in class to see if I would react to one in particular. I felt like I was being questionned by the police about some dangerous criminal activity
(glad to report I was able to maintain poker face tho)
Omg I had a similar experience in primary school we would play this game were someone would name two guys in your class and you have to pick which one you prefer until you go through all the guys and the guy u're left with is ur crush 🙃 turns out I'm asexual
@@ekaterinakuznetsova Lol. I’m aroace, but when I was in high school, we didn’t really have that sort of information yet, and asexuality was still listed as a mental health disorder at the time and there was no information about being aromantic that I could find, so I was just super confused because _something should have been happening by now, right?!_ I still remember girls from my class trying to figure out who I liked and if I was a lesbian or not. They went through every boy in class, and then they’d grill me to see if I liked any celebrities that they considered to be attractive. I didn’t, and they were convinced that I was lying, but at the same time, they couldn’t make sense of the fact that, by my facial expression, I was seemingly genuinely uninterested in all of them, so they came to the conclusion that I was a master at not giving it away. Then, because I felt like something was wrong, I proceeded to look at my classmates, picked the most conventionally attractive one, and thought, “…Yeah, I’ll have a crush on that guy,” and then I proceeded to do nothing with that thought and told nobody and forgot about it in less than a week because it meant nothing to me. It was just like I was ticking off a box on my list of milestones so I felt less weird and left behind. Haha.
This thread is so relatable as an aroace...I remember the turbulent emotions I went through as a 13 year old when I realized that no matter how hard I try I can't like a guy...I used to take tests on the internet to see whether I am a lesbian,bi,pan . And I concluded that I must be a bisexual because I didn't like any gender 😂😂😂
my best friend that i had been friends with for 4 YEARS shipped me with a boy from our class for 4 YEARS. it was torture and we ended up hating each other bcs of that and i DIDNT EVEN KNOW ABT MY SEXUALITY YET
@@mavis0029 OH SAME!! I wanted to find my sexuality and decided that bisexual fitted me cuz I didn’t care about who I dated.
Turns out I just didn’t care about dating, just finding friendship
My awakening was when the girl next to me in pre calc said "I could probably murder my horrible uncle and get away with it."
My heart fluttered
True romance story right there
Someone make a fanfic of this pls
@@althea7181 fanfic?? Nah we need a series
How to get away with love and murder
was it fear or a crush? we may never know
My friends were homophobic and I came out to them as straight so they were happy.
Little did they know that I am Transgender.
... why would you want to be friends with them?
Do you mean that in your previous gender you were gay but then you became transgender so you were technically straight?
@@PrezReni045 bro thats not a gender
@@PrezReni045 ah yes my favorite gender, gay
slay
the video was 15 minutes long but it felt like I watched a whole ass movie 💀anyways ur presentation was very slay 💅
They finally did it for everyone...TALKED ABOUT EMOTIONS
xD
I didn’t know faline actually had emotions 😱😱😱😞
EMOTIONAL DAMAGE
I know this is irrelevant but your profile picture is the same picture as my phone wallpaper lol
... she doesn't owe anyone her Vulnerability
I feel like Faline is giving us all relationship advice even though we are all hopeless
No wonder we get no bitches, we watch someone who also has none!
I'VE LITERALLY LIKED THE SAME PERSON FOR 5 YEARS NOW (barely sees me as a friend)
I don’t go outside enough to meet people.
Pfft yeah, except I've never even had one crush.
I get bitches lol
I had a crush on my best friend for like a year, ever since I first started talking to me. She was and still is my emotional support bestie. We used to flirt with each other, although I was probably the only one who hoped it wasn't platonic. So after that year of being hopelessly in love with her, she suddenly decided to tell me about this guy who had asked her out. They both shared feelings for each other. But she couldn't say yes, due to several reasons.
Let me tell you, I bawled my eyes out. I felt numb and so depressed.
But as her closest friend, she trusted me with it. I pretended like I was happy for her, and I supported her. Eventually she said yes to him, and they're such a cute couple rn.
It took me a while to get over her, but after a month or so, this guy and I started talking. We both had crushes on each other, and he finally asked me out. I was pretty shocked, as I am an extremely insecure person. But now we've been dating for 2 months
this is so cute bye
This was wild from start to finish ngl
What in the love hexagon-
Oh god I had a crush on a really good friend of mine (we're still friends) and over the course of that he had 2 girlfriends, both of wich I was/am friends with.
I was happy for them but.. it did hurt lmao
We used to text every day pretty much all day and you'd think there'd be something going on on both sides but nah
this is me right now :( sorry you went through this
i was one of the pricks that thought everyone had to have crushes on people
"i have one so you have to have one too!" or sm i was a horrible kid
ive grown as a person since then and learnt that my idea of having a crush was in fact me wanting to ask them to be bestfriends and roommate material
THE LAST PARA IS CUTE THO lmaoo.
Love how they call the crushes by stupid names and shows pictures of the literal definition of the names. 💀
Also I was staring at the suit the whole time, I love it.
wait what are her pronouncs
@@bigtable prefers he/him but any are fine
@@weikoworks when did he say it
@@bigtable u can see on his twitter page
@@rikii264 it's true whoa
Really wish yt made pronouns in bio a feature, even LinkedIn does that
the phase Faline is going through right now screams prime energy!!
like.....optimus prime?
When I was 13 I desperately needed to reassure myself that I'm a "normal" straight girl, so I picked a random boy in a camp. My friends made me confess whatever I felt (or didn't feel) for him. Long story short: it was HELLA awkward, he was HELLA shocked, I was HELLA gay and in the closet. We even held hands and I thought, "Oh wow, there it is, it's butterflies!'', but in reality I was really shy and nervous and the whole thing was quite a mess.
I also didn't know that women could have crushes on each other, so whenever I spotted a beautiful lady I just STARED intensively and one day my mother caught me oggling on scantily clad lingerie models in a magazine so I made an 'amazing' excuse that I just appreciated how neat their underwear was😭
omg 😭
mmmmmmmmmmm meat undies
“Oh wow their underwear is so neat” is the gayest excuse I’ve ever heard and I love it
the picking a random boy from a camp is so real
when i was in middle school, i didn't know that it wasn't "normal" to like other girls, so i just admitted that i liked one of my classmates and thEN SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE WASN'T GAY. i didn't even know what being gay was. but, plot twist, two years later we were kissing on her bed. we broke up a few years ago, but i still think it's really great that my parents raised me to understand that there's nothing wrong with love. 💕
damn.... you've got a main character life bro. hope youre doing well
“My first ever crush was a girl called Sophia”
As a Sophia and hearing faline aggressively simping for someone called Sophia it’s making me feel some sort of nonplatonic feelings 😨
This is gonna be your coming out story now
lol my names robyn and i was like "wait whAaaaAat"
ME.
My name is Sophia too 💀
I have had like 4 crushes and all of them were named Sophia, it's kinda like an obsession
faline your powerpoints are so inspiring and educational please make more
I agree
AGREED
especially the green one
they inspired me to create a presentation of my waifus 🤩😍🏳🌈
@@foolishpenguin8190 same
Man, the story about the brazalet was so cute and sweet, don't feel embarrassed. I love that kind of stuff
THE MOST RELATABLE BISEXUAL VIDEO IS THIS I LOVE YOU GALINE
OMG FALINE****
GALINE
galine😨😰😨😨
fal has grown an obsession over his suit it's like the suit is already part of his body
Why she prefers he? She is girl then why?
@@calyxx5164 no she doesnt, im pretty sure faline goes with she/her.
@@calyxx5164 spelling error. Meant to say ‘this’,‘ I’m pretty sure
@@abhya12 actually faline prefers he/him for now. he said so himself on instagram.
@@calyxx5164 Faline said he preferred he/him pronouns, gender doesn't really matter.
Ok but the “Elsa was my gay awakening” is a mood. It’s practically a sexuality at this point /lh
I just love Elsa in a very special way and like if I was in a hot tub with Elsa it might not be 2 feet apart but no homo
elsasexual
My mother's name is Elsa-
@@LesbianPanicIsMe well then, you excited for the amount of co-parents coming in?
elsasexual ah yes
i literally made out with my girlfriends even before middleschool and i never thought of it as weird or anything or that i might be at least a little bit gay and now when i look back i just realise HOW FUCKUNG STUPID I WAS ON GOD
THERE'S NO WAY THIS IS FR LMAOO
Im fr confused if i had a crush on someone or not because i get this ✨WEirD FeEling✨ whenever i see them but i dont think that feeling is the feeling of someone who fell inlove. After hours of studying my feelings, i have concluded that i never had a crush ig.
it's okay me too i relate so much ! i think sometimes as humans we are attracted to someone platonically, we want to be around them all the time and think they are amazing but it doesn't have to be in a romantic or sexual way
The "Sophia" thing was so relatable.
I had a major crush on this girl with the same name as me, and I adored her and everything she did. She was beautiful, she was funny, she was the quite kid, and she liked me as well ( but only as a friend, I think)
And I don't even have the " I didn't know what gay was" excuse because I was talking to my mom about her, and literally said " But I'm not gay mom" ( I was a dumb 8 year old).
I wrote a Valentine's letter to her.
And here comes the funny part: I wrote this passionate love letter saying how I only went to school to see her, and wanted to play only with her at recess, and missed her every time we weren't together ( don't imagine it as sappho level poetry, I was a kid so I didn't really know how to properly express what I felt, but that's s resume of what I felt)
AND HERE COMES THE FUNNY
BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE LETTER
I WROTE
SMALL, IN PARENTESIS, AFTER THE " yours, [deadname]" and after literally writing in caps "I LOVE YOU", I added
( But only as a friend
Damn kids sucks so much (directed at that last part.)
i mean from your profile picture you technically aren't gay
you tried
oh
is Sophia a reference to that Clairo song?
not really surprised he had only three crushes his whole 18 years of life
@whaaa t ok?
He? Do they use he/him pronouns too?
@@arc7200 Faline uses all pronouns but prefers he/him over the others.
@@arc7200 i think it’s he/they/she (preference order)
@@Stuporous Ohh alright thank you!
I'm on the Aro-Ace spectrum. As in both spectrums at once. I've never had any true crushes. I have however, started feeling romantic feelings for one partner after I started dating her. That is my current girlfriend, and we're happy.
But also I have this thing that comes with my aro-ness where when I'm not around her, my feelings kinda fade and I feel insecure in romance, but then I see her again and I'm like, "Awooga, gawd dayum! 😫" then the cycle repeats. But that's how all of my relationships are and how they always have been (with non-men anyways).
Omg I thought I was the only one with the last part! I assume it also comes from my aromantic side, but it's gonna be worse soon because my partner and I might have to be long distance in the upcoming months. Hopefully calling them would help, but I feel you. For me, it's like a wave where the doubt and insecurity crawls in when I don't see them, and then when we start seeing each other again in person it all resets. Glad you and your girlfriend are happy!
The wholesome honestly is what gets me. And the ability to cringe at yourself is such a flex! You’re amazing and cool and I wish you the best in all of your future endeavors. 😊
To all the people that unsubscribed, I don't know how anyone could look at Faline and think they were straight 💀
Wdym, i never subscribed in the first place🤨
@@cooxlpearz6824 congratulations, nobody asked.
@@thesysop4998 ok
@@cooxlpearz6824 it was me, I was the one who asked
Fr
As an aromantic, related so hard to faline not having a crush, and actually picking guys because people wouldn’t leave me alone about having a crush. But I still laughed along when she explains Sophia, lizard, and robin.
me personally i am not entirely sure if i am aro. it just i'm a type of guy who never to consider having a gf. maybe at all. i mean yes i like woman. they can be attractive and sexy. but getting into relationship is something i never actually consider. i maybe too young so idk
@@iputapipebombintoyourmailb6210 You are an akoiromantic
@@iputapipebombintoyourmailb6210 you can still experience romantic attraction but not want to date someone
As an arsonist
Wia t wsit wsit esit wait what?!?! ...
Edit: Oh. It's _"aromantic"_ not arsonist. Woops, misread.
@@iputapipebombintoyourmailb6210 aromantic is a spectrum! there’s demiromantic (needing an emotional connection first) greyromantic (kinda in the middle) and many, many more.
of course, there’s aesthetic attraction; just simply finding someone attractive without being actually attracted to them.
but take your time, know it’s allowed to change and be fluid. you don’t even have to use labels if you don’t want to ^^
(sorry for infodump I just wanted to point these out :)
I’m gay, and I had a hard time at your age figuring out how to be confident and mature about my sexual orientation. I’m so delighted to know that talented and cool person like you do have some common things with me. I love your videos, love your personality, and your humor. I hope one day I could be cool and confident as you are.❤
This was so funny to watch. As someone that's 18 and only had a SINGLE crush(still crushing), this is pretty relatable LOL
As a demisexual. The whole “who’s your crush” destroyed me each time.
wtf is that 😂
hmm I believe it means only feeling sexual attraction once you have developed a bond with the person, like friendship.
Uh oh…
@@FurbyCraftYT so youre like everyone but with morals?
IamHusa I feel like the biggest difference would be that you need the extra step of getting to know the person. So, it’s more likely that a demisexual will have a crush on their friend, and not typically someone they don’t know. I could be wrong though, since I’m ace and not demi. There could be other factors as well, depending on if the person alloromantic or aromantic.
My friends also never accepted the 'I don't have any crush' answer.
They once shipped me , so I made him my brother by tying or more like suffocated his hands with a rakhi. A rakhi is like a friendship band except it marks the boy as tour brother
I DID THE EXACT SAME THING!rakhi is like the end of all shipping and stuff
BRO YESSSS IVE DONE THAT but not with rakhi with a grass on the same day
Omgg same not my friends but a bunch of annoying classmates did.
omggg i did that toooooo
Nobody shipped me with anyone fortunately, but I did have a friend that didnt believe I had a no crush. so I got into a breakdown, google stuff, got into more breakdowns bc my family is queerphobic, got over it, accepted myself as aroace
"The most btchless man to ever exist"
HAH! THAT WAS MY TITLE. I WAS THAT WAY FOR 22 YEARS CHILD
LMFAO WHY IS THIS COMMENT SECTION SO FUNNY
“My first ever crush was a girl called Sophia”
My first crush was Mulan but I had to tell everyone it was Shang to avoid gay suspicion
You're NOT beating the gay allegations 😔
"I am now 18 years old, and I've never even held the hand of someone romantically"
I am 19 years old now. And this is THE MOST ACCURATE sentence that I heard in my WHOLE LIFE-
Well I am 27 years old, and never held a hand romantically >__
Romance isn’t my thing, but I wish y’all the best of luck
thats sad ( i dont relate)
You'll find the one for you! Don't overstress!
I’m 28 so....yeah I think it’s over for me
Faline: but at the time, one of my closest friends told me that if i ever got married to a girl. She would not come to my wedding... *Sad mucic*
Also Faline: and then she proceeded to try and WINGMAN ME WITH ROBIN.
it's shit like this that makes me glad i'm full aromantic lmao crushes and romance sounds exhausting
"I was my own historian" as a malaysian lesbian i cant help myself laughing
bruh it really do be like this tho 💀 am I ghey? No I'm str8 af I'm just aesthetically attracted by women (definitely not)
@@anameig9332 that's what I thought, just aesthetics until I met this girl at school who likes all the same stuff as me, has similar experiences, and is bi 🧍🏿♀️like-
@@anameig9332 i'm a trans dude and i love women so i thought i was a lesbian(pre-transition), but now i have a bf- i love men. But women. But m e n. BUT W O M E N.
I can't see myself dating a girl- but I can- but I cant-
Like idk bruh
@@sknsoul.08 Pansexual? That's regardless of gender. Aka means you don't give a shit if they are a man or a woman or nonbinary.
@@sknsoul.08 same, idk my attraction just changes all the time, thats why im unlabeled because i dont wanna pressure myself to only like a certain gender
Oh God I remember getting asked the whole "Who's your crush?" Question a lot and it never failed to stress me out, especially as someone on the ace spectrum who hadn't experienced attraction the same way my peers had. And after my discovery of me being a fruitcake, it just got WORSE cuz I just started getting turned off by all the hetero bullshiet I was asked.
If it helps, Fal, I'm also 18 and I've never held hands with someone romantically. And I'm also hella confused between platonic and romantic attraction, srsly someone help a sis out here-
Omg your name lol
I have the same name as you!
that questions stresses me toooo
cause like IK my friends and people around me would be supportive of me being aroace, but I just don't want to identify openly as it! idk why...I just want people to look at me as me, don't perceive my sexuality, just *m e*
dont make assumptions _(my aroace friend thinks I'm lesbian)_ about what I am, just let me beeeee pleaseeee
Lord I felt this.
I've never had a crush either and always had to give some random boys name to be a part of the friend group. Soon I realized I was into girls and not guys because I can't see myself in a relationship with a guy but THEN I realized after getting a girlfriend that I only had a sexual attraction to girls but not wanting to get into a relationship with girls or anyone. Yet I still hope that one day I will want to hold someone's hand romantically and have a relationship even though I'm terrified because I have no idea what it means to see some romantically or platonically.
Plz save my confused ass
Well if you can imagine a whole entire future w/ em its probably a crush. Or if you'll feel comfrtable being extremely close w/ physical attraction then its probably a crush.
Actually should i even be saying this i've have no crushes in my entire life and having a mild case of questioning my romantic attractions .-.
(Im so sorry this is so long 😭)
Hello! So I absolutely can't guarantee that I can explain this in a way that can be understood, but I hope my experience w/ crushes of both guys and girls can offer some insight or a form of clarity!💛
So in my personal experience, I would describe a crush in general as a fluttering, nervousness and adoration when I think of the person's qualities, such as their appearance (their kind smile, their expressions, style, overall energy, etc.) and their personhood (such as talents, capabilities, aspirations, empathy, sociability, etc.) As I got to know them more, these qualities would heighten one another and influence e/o - for ex., if I liked someone's ability to bring positivity to their peers, I would associate that attribute with their smile and like that physical characteristic even more. This would make me wish I could be around them more often, share fond memories together, be allowed in their personal world and space (holding hands, leaning on e/o, hugging, etc.) and being someone who held a unique and special place in their lives that was different from that of a friend, best friend, or family friends.
The crush can vary based off of which side of the attraction spectrum you lean towards, whether you mostly only have visual information about the person you have a crush on, or whether internal qualities are the main thing you find in your crush.
You can take this a step further - I recently experienced my first love, and the reason why I wanted her to be in my life forever was because she simultaneously gave me a sense of security and healthy challenge in my personhood, she uplifted me and we tried to influence positive development in e/o, we made future plans far out into our adulthood as a couple and being integrated as partners, and (I felt at least) we brought out the best in e/o. This can also be mirrored platonically, but I think the major difference is that you land in the middle of the attraction spectrum mentioned earlier, and you more importantly want to hold the special place of life partner in their world, not limited to friends (you'll feel limited with the title of "friendship" alone, and you'll feel the desire to be considered something more).
I hope this helps on some level, and it's okay if your journey to finding yourself continues on, there's no rush to self recognition! ^-^
I'm 19 and I think I've had one serious crush in my life. She was my straight af ex bestie. Honestly her forgetting about me as a friend still hurts way fucking worse than any of my crushed dreams about her being my gf
i dont knw why.. but we are 100% in the same situation
@@arahabakiikuya1111 oh no :( update though I think I'm on the aromantic spectrum hence the one and only crush ever
So there's this uh human in our art class who is enby and lesbian, they're two years older than me, they like anime, they write for fun, and many more things we have in common BUT idk how to become more friends with them
I kinda suggest maybe starting small by asking what they're doing (if they're drawing, writing, or whatnot). And build a convo about it right there. Kinda worked for me.
@@pastelquartz6857 ok I'll try
Ok, hear me out
If u go talk to them directly u may feel nervous so I recommend taking to their friends first getting some info about them and then taking to them, works for me
Asking questions is always the easiest way to get to know someone, everyone likes to talk about themselves. So be interested in them and show it to them and if they're nice they'll show this interest back in you
@🌸 flowerblossom 🌸 right, sorry. thanks for correcting me
“I was my own historian”
“who did the barest of bare minimums, but managed to woo me, because my bar was lower than my intelligence”
“I had SENTIENCE”
Your punchlines always get me lmaoo
And the CAPTIONS oml (“💅#slay person”, “🧢I don’t care🧢” but with all the caps instead of no cap)
“Why did you keep staring at me”
FATALITY HOLY SH*T
Also, Lizard apologizing and putting his hand over yours on the mouse to reopen your tab for you isn’t a bad “oh I have a crush” moment, I’d consider it more valid than me going crazy over being kabedonned by my friend lol
Agreed, it was cute af
kabeddon is not that crazy, it's so sexy and cool! (tho if one one my girl firls would try to kabeddon i may feel kinda upset, cause i'm demiromantic and i don't think of them that way. tho it's really fun to talk about girls with my best friend XD)
I'm a straight man but I can relate so hard to the "why is it so difficult for me to form and maintain having a crush". I've only had one crush in my entire life and didn't take long for me to lose interest. Glad I'm not the only one lol
you may be what is called an Aromantic. Or at least on the 'spectrum' of it. ( You don't feel romantic attraction towards anyone) Demiromantic is when you only get crushes on people you become really good friends with. Hope this helped.
I am a straight dude who struggles to get crushes as well, though not when I was younger.
Basically, I felt lust, so I'd just date a girl and be romantic for her, then get my sex out of it.
There was one time I did end up falling in love, hard. I spoke with a cute coworker I specifically did not want to try to date, but in our first meeting she just seemed to really agree with views I hadn't even realized I had, and had similar interests. Without even trying to be smooth, I told her, "I really have to go, but I would keep talking to you if I could. Can I have your number?"
Now that that's over, I don't know if I'll ever fall in love or get a proper crush again. Being honest about who I am while maintaining the actions of a good person is effective enough to get me a girlfriend with mutual trust, though.
I had 3 crushes over the entirety of my life, and all 3 flopped kind of nonchalantly because I am going to assume both of us didn't really want to potentially ruin the friendship we've already built together, so all 3 of my crushes stayed friends. And then the one time I actually wanted to commit into a romantic relationship and so did he, he just went poof from discord and we never got in touch ever again. But hey, at least that guy made me realize that I was bi, so there's that
@@poisonivory6017 he just mentioned he's straight lmao. Also u can be perfectly off the spectrum and still struggle with maintaining crushes. I havent had a crush in years, that doesnt make me aromantic because i know I'm not.
Crushes are crushes for a reason, they are _meant_ to go away. Its only when crushes develop into smth more than a crush that you actively want more with that person. Otherwise its perfectly normal to lose interest in a crush.
Media and kids play it out like crushes are the holy grail and be all end all of things when its just a silly concept of temporary attraction.
@@mcbedo6568 I was making a suggestion based off of my own experience. It's completely fine if you yourself don't feel that way, I really don't care.
And from what I have seen at my high school, people tend to get a crush and want to be with the person even without it developing into 'something else' whatever that something else is. Other than that I can't say much else because I haven't experienced romantic attraction to anyone. I don't believe that crushes are the be all and end all as an Aromantic Asexual person, it is quite the opposite.
As a pansexual female, I absolutely get this.
I always had female crushes but I couldn't even get myself to go and ask them out; probably because I am in Asia and everybody doesn't like the idea of THE GAYS.
Until now I still have this problem approaching females that I get to like. I think it's terrifying and I don't think I'll ever be the one to say to a girl that I like her 😭
The Only way out of this is to raise awareness in some way, so there's communication between the LGBT and "normal" people. How will you go out with someone or even have friends that respect you for who you are if you can't talk abt who you are? They usually have some kind of political group in those homophobic countries. Maybe theres some little things that you can do to help?
You can always use dating apps. That's where you will find your people who want the same thing as you. But dating in general is messy regardless whether you are straight or not.
Kay these are my tips :
If when speaking to the person in question romantically (what I mean by this is them asking about your love life, or flirting with you) you get butterflies this is a sign! If you do you probably just feel very strongly about that person and respect them. I found out I liked girls when i started getting nervous when speaking to girls who I knew were gay. Just because I wanted to be with them. I hope this helped lol 😰
In an Asian household, once you have a crush you will never see the light of day ever again
Damn.
true true. mainly south asian countries. you even mention the idea of liking someone you start getting whooped. unlike focking non Asian countries they are so lucky
unless they’re a doctor
@@Meyasaurus or an engineer
finally, a rare occurrence of an INTP discussing emotions. everyone congratulate Faline this was a big step and we’re happy for her👏🏼👏🏼
She is intp?!?!?!? We are the sameee
@@cassandranerezzablack Me too! Well, initially I was typed as an INTJ but everyone has indefensible weak spots in their chess play of life, so I accepted my true INTP self. Thank you for listening to my TedTalk™
Oh no, I guess birds of the same feather flock together 😰
@@user-dg3ug7ny5d np it was nice
She's intp
Woah heckk now it's miracle for intp to tell their feelings literally in this much public
💀💀Salute to her then
I’m so dumb why did I think Faline was holding a pink wineglass 💀💀✋🏽
YOU PROBABLHY JUST SOLVED 50% OF US ISSUES THAT ARE DEALING WITH RELATIONSHIPS TYSM
Being in love with the idea of love has been my downfall so many times 😭😭 so glad I’m not the only one lol
frfr
For real! I'm still struggling with this concept
No but same, is that an aromantic thing or it's just confusion that some people have?
@@alexpane3405 well idk if I'm aromatic or not but I'm asexual and I never really cared about being in love I loved the idea of love I loved looking at happy couples and reading/watching romance books/movies but I never felt the need to actually be in a relationship myself this is just my experience I've never met another asexual person (in person) so I can't say how it's like for others everyone's experience is different
OMG IKR
She never fails to make me laugh and make my day better
@Dante Toshiro64 is that a hate comment
@@missviktoriya Why would you think that? I think it just refers to Faline's flirting attempts.
lmao fr
Yall stupid? I've seen this same comment posted on a thousand videos
faline is serotonin
I don't know, but as an aromantic lesbian, the questions of "who is your CRUSH" invaded me a lot in elementary school, I identified a lot with Faline at first kskskd
My bi awakening hapened when I was 10- ah yes, elemetary school love..-
It was summer and me and my bestfriend went to a 1 week camp together that was very epic, very epic indeed.
So it was the day we were leaving the camp and our parents were to come pick us up.
The camp was about an hour and 30 minutes away from where the both of us lived.
(Keep in mind that I knew her for 4 years, since first grade. )
So every kid, boy or girl, was in this cabin that was only open space that had log benches everywhere in rows. We were watching a movie on one of the benches and suddenly I look over and saw she was trying to find something to rest her head on. She was twisting and turning since there wasn't really anything she could put her head on.
I just looked at her and said quitely, "You can rest your head on my shoulder if that is more comfortable." She just gave me a soft smile, rested her head on my shoulder and said, "Thanks."
She had her head rested on my shoulder the rest of the time until her mom arrived.
I openly came out to her, telling her I liked her this year. Yeah--.. I was rejected. :,)
Though she gave me the nicest paragraph of how she felt really bad and still wanted to be bestfriends. She said that if her family wasn't homophobic and she wasn't straight, if there were any girl she would date, it woulbe be me. Honestly that made me happy enough and we forgot completely about this moment and are the best bestfriends we could be.
SORRY TO MAKE YOU READ A PARAGRAPH-
don't be sorry about it, this is one of the best and most cute love story i heard in a time.
omgg this is so cute🥹do you want me to invade her house and give her the gay potion
@@sournois90 😂 That's really sweet, but not necessary 🫶 Thank you anyways! ^^
You might be on the aromantic spectrum!! I’ve had a lot of similar experiences to you, not being able to differentiate platonic and romantic feelings, being in love with the idea of love, getting over “crushes” quickly and not even having many crushes at all. I literally dated someone for like two years and got over our breakup in a week or two
Hey I'm asexual but idk where I lie on the romantic spectrum I've never had a crush but I'm still only 16 is there someway to differentiate between romantic attraction?
@@ekaterinakuznetsova idk you wanna hold hands and other stuff with someone like ppl do? Or is that gross or something
Do you often feel wanting to be with other ppl or do they just evoke 'oh that person is considered good looking. Huh'
@@SharkSalesman90 well I hold hands with my friends haha but I never had the need to be in a relationship 🤷🏼♀️ so uh idk I might be aromantic too still not sure tho
@@ekaterinakuznetsova I think at the end of the day it’s really just up to personal discretion! Don’t feel bogged down by labels, I identify as being on the aro ace spectrum but at the end of the day what I really identify most as is queer, because I don’t feel like fully defining myself. I still get confused about romantic and platonic feelings, but what really matters at the end of the day is what you personally want to do. Aro ppl can want romantic relationships and Allo people can not! Esp cause ur 16 I think just focus on exploration and doing what makes you happy in the end :)
5:29
Angry “I could be a better boyfriend than him” noises, very relatable 😭
When I was 12 I had a crush on a boy from another class and we never even interacted prior and I was too shy to talk to him-
Is my bar that low? 😂
5:24
*I could be a better boyfriend than him*
-faline san
I could do the shit that he never did~
Up all night~ I won't quit~
thinking I’m gonna steal you from him!
Plus all my clothes would fit
@@thewindwillsway i could be such a gentlemen
"It's not like I was young and homophobic"
Ugh same. Internalized homophobia sucks. It took me until i was 20 to accept that I am bi
my whole family is extremely homophobic and transphobic so i have no idea how i realized i’m both trans and lesbian
@@pangolinh played on hardcore difficulty and still won 💀
@@pangolinh same here, i didnt realize i was queer and transfem nonbinary until i was like 16-17
i'm crying
your sense of humour aligns peRFECTLY with mine ;A;
i love it
and as a hopeless bisexual, gosh
You’r videos actually make me laugh.
Thanks fellow human!
you’re one of the only youtubers that ACTUALLY make me laugh, and that’s hard to find. you’re awesome
Yeah
Yeah ^^
Ikr :)
My dad has always tried to initiate some sort of "girl talk" with me by asking who I'm attracted to and it always fails because my only answer is some variation of "no"
As someone who still can't tell the difference between romantic love, platonic love, and have never held hands with someone, I know how you feel. new sub btw :D
I am 23 and have never held hands with someone romantically :') I wish you a better future than mine
I didn't realize I was part of the rainbow until fairly recently though, so that probably has something to do with it. I live in a very.. conservative area, but I'm glad your friends are supportive, and I hope things go well for you moving forward 💕
Just wanted to say as an aroace person I am incredibly happy to see you being so open about your identity, it is wonderful to see and I'm so glad that you're comfortable sharing this with your community. You've brought me and so many others a ton of laughs and joy with your content and I know the ones that truly matter will support you regardless of whether you're straight or not, so please, be yourself and don't let anyone stop you. Take care dude 💕
as another aroace person...
I agree with you
as an aromantic person, i can confirm this is the correct opinion.
As another one of us, I am in an agreeable state with this comment
As another aromantic asexual, I concur with your sentiment!
As a person, I completely agree with you.
I actually figured out I was Aro/Ace when I found out that I never really had the idea of love, not did I ever feel lonely for not having a romantic partner in my life. I never had a crush in my life either and I went down a rabbit hole of research and found out my sexuality.
It was cool and funny to laugh along your presentation, Faline 💖
Yooo I‘m also aroace :D
Neither did i and i think i might be somewhere on that spectrum as well!
ayy aroace friends
im aromanic (not asexual tho) and its nice to see someone who relates to me
samee :DD
Hey I’ve been going through a hard time recently after having breakup with someone I really liked, and you never fail to cheer me up. Thank you, Faline San, for being a ray of happiness.
🤣🤣 *triple slay hand* “part of the community” absolutely sent me- Good luck in your endeavors
This presentation was very informative. I'd say you have a promotion in your near future🕴🏾
Lmfaoo definitely
Finally, I've found someone I can totally relate to😭 I can never differentiate between platonic or romantic love, and my crushes lasted for a week, at most, before ultimately finding out that they were, unfortinately, already in a relationship. This happened three times too
this is way too relatable (I have not had a real crush in years... and even then I don't think it was an actual crush I just liked the idea of someone seeing me in a positive light lmao)
I- relate super hard rn and u look like me explaining to my parents how I cant push myself to like ppl-
my only "crush" was when this one guy in my class was nice to me. yeah. bullying was just character building, i swear guys.
This video taught me that that annoying guy that kept turning off my computer in 6th grade was flirting with me 😐 I'm sorry but I did not like him at all 😂
watched this with my boyfriend and we both thought your story-telling was very well done!! thanks for being so open and sharing with us your vulnerable side. we wish nothing but the best for you and support you always!!! also just wanted to let you know that being 'not straight' is totally ok and its always important to just be yourself. proud of you faline!!! thanks for making us entertained with your videos :) much love ♥
I get you bro, as an 18yo who never dated and barely ever liked anyone but those who I liked went wrong hurt a lot I say we should just burn the world and watch it fade already 😔✊
I had been watching every one of your videos but suddenly TH-cam stopped giving them to me, on the upside now I can binge a couple months with
Ah yes, the LGBTQ awakening in the form of fictional characters
Mine was raven from ttg (the bad one) 😭😭😭
Mine is super embarrassing. Zoe Trent from Littlest Pet Shop 😭
All my crushes are fictional HELP
Also did anyone also fall in love with Eclipsa from STVFOE because ELEGANT GOTH LADY
@@step2bakeit mine too! God and I loved Starfire's sister
I've not had a single crush in my life so far, only these "That person is cool, would be pretty cool if we were friends" kinds of thoughts
Faline is one of them because of how insanely relatable she is, like I can pick at least 7.4 things per video that I can relate to
not sure but i think faline's pronouns are he/him
@@_stayberries_ Are they now
@@_stayberries_ they dont mind other terms, although he does prefer he/him
are you aromantic by chance? :o
@@air_hum No idea but I wouldn't be too surprised if I was
I love your channel... you always make me smile
to be honest i don't think i've fully realized what a crush is yet? i've probably had one-three real crushes, and the other times where just me really wanting to be friends with them💀
YOU LOOK AMAZING FALINE 💗
THEY LOOK SO GOOD ONG💞
@@tamberverse HE DOES SO TRUE
@@aug3842 IK IK AA
I'm still in process of figuring out my aromantic tendencies, but so far I'm pretty sure I am 100% aromantic. I've had my fair share of "crushes", but they turned out to be me wanting closure as friends on a platonic level. Now I'm an adult and I've never wanted to date anyone.
I have also never wanted to date anyone and am happy in my single life(I'm an aromantic asexual person)
her choice of slides was amazing, as well as the one that has the EPIC transition
I have personally never had a crush (yet) but not for lack of trying. I relate to most of what you said. Like the "being wired different". I get that on a real level.
14:30 “How do you tell if your feelings for someone is romantic or platonic? How do you form and maintain a crush for a long period of time? My maximum was like two weeks.”
Why do you sound like me that’s exactly what I’ve been trying to figure out too
Same!
through all my 14 years of life, I’ve had like 10 crushes 💀 anyways the way I figure out which is and isn’t platonic is whenever I have fake scenarios, his face is in like every single one 😭 anyways whenever ur around them, you start to feel nervous, get scared whenever u gotta talk to them, heart rate picks up, and that weird feeling appears in your stomach. You will probably start having dreams/fake scenarios w them
And for platonic feelings, fake scenarios start again and you just so badly wanna be their bestie
idk If y’all should be taking advice from a struggling sophomore girl with ADD, Ive never actually been close friends with any of my crushes 🧍♀️
bro you should look up "quoiromantic"
"And she draws anime, what more could anyone ask for in a woman" made him sound Irish 💀💀💀
Her*
@@Randoo-sh i think theyre alright with any pronouns rn if im remembering correctly :))
@@reallyreallycoolgirl ah yes sorry I forgot :,)
I just found your channel and I am in love your personality, totally subbing for more your stuff! Along with you falling love with the only person who loves minecraft and watches/draws anime literally the same gay awakening for me when I was in middle school, unfortunately I'm pretty sure he was straight while I was a limp wrist.
Whatever Failne's sexuality is, I support her 'cause I like her content. And even if it's not about the content I'll still support her B) ✌
I'm pretty sure their pronounce are he/they. But I'm not sure so don't quote me on that.
@@spela7332 they use he/she/they!! ^^
faline is a true giga chad
@@lovieheart981 oh okay thank you
Dang Robin could've dated a TH-camr :/
13:25
the "okay" -
the amount of shock that formed on my face when i heard her say my OWN name as her crush 😭😭💀
i'm currently sobbing, peeing, crying, shitting and pooping. 😍
*'My next crush is located in your mirror'* OMG!!
0:58 exact same experience here. These kids were actually so manipulative.
fr
naur because after i said it they shouted it out to the whole class, but the guy I named knew exactly what I was doing and was like "yea okay" and i was just "aight cool" and we never dated thank god
Yea exactly! I too experienced this a lot and then I had to make up a crush and tell them
@@jiayitan1767 aww that was nice he knew what u were doing and ugh i hate kids/people
yes
faline being a kdrama side character for 15 minutes (not) straight: