5 UPDATES: Daughter Chooses Her Dad's Side In The Divorce And Starts Calling His Affair Partner...
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- 5 UPDATES: Daughter Chooses Her Dad's Side In The Divorce And Starts Calling His Affair Partner ""Mom"" So I Decide To Spend Her College Fund On THIS One Thing That I Wanted And Now She's Crying Crocodile Tears And Regretting Everything
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I (44F) have an eighteen-year-old daughter Mia and she's supposed to start college in a couple of months. I'm also in the middle of a divorce from my husband of 20 years, Jonathan (45M). He had an affair with his secretary Alicia (34F) and that'd been going on for almost a year before he finally came clean to me about it a couple of months ago. I filed for a divorce as soon as I could, after he told me and I also moved out of our house. I've been living with a friend of mine ever since I left and I'd expected Mia to take my side on this because I'm obviously the victim here but for some reason, she chose to take her father's side. I tried to talk to her a week after the divorce because she hadn't been texting me, not even to find out where I was. She hadn't been at home on the day that Jonathan came clean to me about the affair and I moved out that day, so I never got a chance to say goodbye to her. I waited for her to text me and ask me where I was but that text never came. So after almost a week of waiting, I decided to text her first and told her that I was leaving her father because of his affair. And she told me that she already knew but she didn't care about it much because she felt like this didn't concern her. I thought that it was a bit odd and began to think that maybe I'd made a mistake by letting Jonathan talk to her first. Because that meant that he controlled the narrative and could feed Mia whatever nonsense he wanted to about our marriage and our relationship, so she would side with him over me.
I tried to talk to her many more times afterward, so I could set the record straight but it appeared to me that Jonathan had actually told her the truth and in spite of that, she was on his side. I thought that was insane but she was still my daughter so I tried to convince her to talk to me and put in a lot of effort to get her to spend time with me, even though I was super busy with the divorce and my job.
The girl got what she asked for. She needs to ask her new mom for college money. She made her choice. NTA.
Yes college money should come from dad and step-mom and also she should get that car that was promised to her.
😂😂😂😂😂
No; the mother his horrible petty and you can tell she did not have the best relationship with her daughter; she paints herself as a victim and can’t see that her daughter is trying her best to of a bad situation and the mother wants her to pick sides and what she said to her at the restaurant? You can tell that’s not the first time she’s spoken to her like that; mothers of serial killers have shown more loyalty to their children than this woman
Yes
@@leoalcaraz6153listen stop spanming your incoherent dribble..... She sold her mother for a car..... For a f***** car
Btw looking at your photo gives me serious creeps
I suspect Mia will repeat the behavior again as soon as the prospect of daddy paying for her wedding and/or first home comes into play.
Don't forget that only half of her college is covered now, lol.
OP guard your heart as I don't think Mia is trustworthy as she seems like she is her father's daughter.
And she's her mother's daughter
Exactly this. Even the email showed that money will always be more important to her. One day something will come up again and she'll turn away from OP for something as measly as a car or something worse
@@shanewoody4232not in essence
Let me get this straight: her father asked her to be nicer to his mistress and he'd buy her a car. And her immediate reaction was to cut off her mother and call the mistress "mom" in a public post that everyone could see.
She's absolutely the worst kind of children a person can have and OP is wrong for allowing her back into her life.
Let's see what the daughter would do so her dad pays for her wedding or rent.
Is the behaviour of the trust found kids. I am willing to bet this was the first tine in her life when her action had consequences. From now on daughter's behaviour can go any way
@@radudancoroian5169 I absolutely agree.
The distance between mother and daughter and the quick turn to her father's side. Leads me to believe that she knew about the affair for most of that time and had chosen sides/been coerced way before D day.
It's called emotional incest when a man "confides" in his daughter about his marital troubles and affair(s). I actually pity the girl. She was forced into making life altering decisions when she was too immature to understand the consequences of them.
@@carolsimpson4422 And when a woman "confides" in her sun?
Emotional incest also?
@@carolsimpson4422 you do realise we are talking about a 18 year old here, right? At this point people DO know how to distinguish right from wrong. If not than OP and her husband were the ones that did a bad job raising her
@@carolsimpson4422what's it called when a mother does the same with her daughter?
@@FireHeart2829 we re talking about a father and daughter.
OP's daughter stomped on her heart for a car. Who TF thinks like that?
selfish people, people whos heart is only set for themselves and no one else. those people suck really bad, but at least you know to walk away from them.
No one is entitled to a private school education. Mia made her choices and the op made hers. They can always sell that house. The three of them are living in if they really want sacrifices since the Opie actually owns half of that house as well.
I wonder if Dad still bought her the car. Will stepmom pay for her college? Or will Dad still pay for her college?
Who thinks like that 😂😂😂 2 people are getting married. One because of Love. Second for a provider.
The danger of telling someone to "get over it,"
is they might get over you
P.S. Apparently Alicia doesn't realize that if he would cheat _with_ her, he will cheat _on_ her. That day is coming.
But joke's in him. Alicia is going to pop out a baby or two, so child support is in his future.
And Alicia will then go on to ch3at with a younger man.
Sold her mom out for a f*cking car. And that trashy ex really tried to buy his daughter out for his mistress. Wtf, OP’s surrounded by snakes
Right.? Paid her to treat AP better than her own mother and she did it. For a frigging car at that. She has zero right to that college fund. The fact that not only did she not tell the truth but she tried to emotionally manipulate OP after she spent it knowing exactly what she was doing.
Both dad and daughter were easily willing to hurt OP deeply to have something they wanted at her expense.
Right. Daughter is an adult now. Why does dad need to have daughter think of the affair partner as a step mom? Calling her mom on FB. AP didn't have any hand in raising her so how is she more than dad's partner? Why does she need to be? His daughter getting along with her wasn't enough? I don't understand anyone's motivation here. Or the fact that daughter thought OP would just magically get over it after she got her car and was nice again. Who tells anyone, who was JUST cheated on, to "get over it"?
Don't forget the apartment as well!!! Backstabbed her own birth mother for a car & apartment 🤬! Even at that young age never in a million years would I have done my mom like that. I guess I must be evil & vindictive because even if she genuinely apologized, I still would have no contact with her. Because whose to say she wouldn't pull the same shit from before AGAIN! I wouldn't be able to get past it 😞.
I guess I would be considered as that "Ruthless woman". And let the daughter live with the guilt of losing her relationship with her mom because of said trashy ex & his mistress. It just really shows what kind of character the daughter really is when it gets down to the nitty gritty.
He bribe her which is bad but what is worse is that she accepted it.
Op needed a new house anyway, since a new woman was living in her old house. Was she supposed to spend the rest of her life in a crummy apartment just because her husband left her?
Yes! And she was supposed to mourn the marriage 😅...
A fine example of fuck around and find out. The girl treated her mom like shit so what did she expect.
Mia made her bed, now she can lie in it. OP has every right to buy a house with money she had earned. She also needs to write up a will, disowning Mia, and making sure that her assets go where she wants them to go.
Her daughter took the side of a disgusting homewrecker and threw her own mother under the bus for a car. Being young is no excuse. It's a serious character flaw.
My daughter tried something similar to this and I ended up putting her out of my house. Her father is a passive/aggressive misogynistic covert narcissist who was always trying to turn my daughter against me. We are good now; she is in therapy. She finally recognized hm for who he is.
So the daughter knew about the affair and had her eye on the car for 2 years. I would have told her. What's done is done. Get over it. Just like they told op
So Mia can treat her mother like dirt and say things in her life are "none of her business" but mom has to keep all the college money available for her? I don't think so. I would have done the same exact thing.
Tell that ex-"daughter" why don't she get the college money from her new "mom"!
Well said! No power is greater than the power of karma!
Mia doesn’t deserve a second chance. I wish OP had told her “It’s too late. I don’t love you anymore. Never contact me again.” And then mailed the photo album to Mia’s dorm room.
that daughter should be VERY greatful to have a Mother as forgiving and patient as OP
grateful
@@ellamitchell1270 As am i for your correction; thank you.
WTH? THAT IS WHAT YOU CALL FORGIVING?'
I am personally not so forgiving. I would have cut her off due to the fact that the trust is gone and will never get it back. I will tell her go ask Alicia!
Stepmother is "Mom", now; let "Mom" pay for her college!😤
She sold her mother for a car. Wow what a selfish girl.
Yeah I call BS on Mia's little crocodile tear party. She just realized she'd screwed herself out of free money, if she's upset about anything it's that.
Like Father like daughter. OP is better off wiping the slate clean and starting over. No one that can be “bought” so easily is not worth having
It's her daughter too
@@shanewoody4232 she gave up her own mother for an AP, and only crawled back when her OP used her college fund
@@shanewoody4232The daughter's affections are cheaply bought by a cheater. And only felt bad when she lost half of her college fund. Daughter is a backstabbing selfish snake.
@@christinaburney5935
The mom is also a snake.. guess the daughter learned from both her parents
@@shanewoody4232She's a gold digger. Let her "mom" pay for her now. OP is done with her.
Knew it had to be something material that her dad offered her. It wasn't worth it cause she paid the price financially and emotionally. Her mom was a boss and got the respect she deserved.
She sold her own mother for a car, literally. I feel sick to my stomach.
Car against college fund😂 good trade.
Even at the end I can see the daughter asking for the college fund on the drive to school because she still sees mom as nothing but a piggy bank.
I won't trade my own relationship with my parents for a vehicle or an apartment. Even though I have ups and downs with my own father at the end of the day, we have a good understanding.
Hmmm, depends on the car. That said, I'm not really close with my dad anyway, and only talk to him 2 or 3 times a year regardless.
People are looking over the fact that OP moved, never told her daughter and waited a week to finally contact her. There is way more going on here than what OP is saying.
Even though.... OP doesn't need to pay her anything at all. She is an vindictive adult.
Yeah I was thinking the same. She also expected her daughter to contact her first? Wtf? You moved out without an explanation! You abandoned her and then expect her to come running after you?
Can you read? OP wrote that her daughter has already distanced herself from OP. She knew of the affair, took dads bribe at the expence of her mother.
NTA, the daughter was old enough to know that what she was doing was terrible and not only she was unrepetent, she was extremly rude and disrespectful, giving her money only would enable cruel and destructive behavior, much better invest the money on a house than give it to a young woman who would verbally abuse you and leave you to die alone without a second though, that is very sad anyways, a new house doesn't heals the pain of losing a daughter and realize that she is a horrible human being like her ex-husband....but it helps.
Yea, I get she was bribed to be nice to the step mom, but was she bribed to be a b!tch to OP as well or did she just throw that in for free? There was no reason to talk to her mom that way.
Well she can always join the Army.
The Army has standards.
@@carolcarol9982 that's debatable, they'll overlook a lot.
The Army is riddled with gang activity now, and no one knows how to deal with it.@@carolcarol9982
With the daughters 'attitude' she would probably end up with a B.C.D.
@@carolcarol9982 Five points!
Jonathan must had never thought that buying out Mia affection for Alicia would be backfired where OP cut off Mia including the college fund.
Mia must had finally snap at Jonathan and blamed him for everything that had happen, that's why he stop fighting the divorce fearing it might make Mia hate him even more.
Yep, sucks to be them. I imagine that the half of the college fund they lost because of this is a lot more than whatever car he was going to buy.
Enjoy the consolation prize, kid!
Teenage brains aren't fully developed and affects their decision making. That said, I can't fathom willfully treating a parent like that over a CAR. It sounds like her father's stipulation was only to make his GF feel welcome, not to actually reject her own mother. She could have discussed it with her mom and explained that she was only being friendly and not replacing her. Instead she chose to be cruel and vicious. The fact that she didn't bother to apologize until AFTER her college fund was gone is very telling.
She did apologise after a while in the email.
Alicia can fund her college, Mother can still leave her house to Mia in her will, parents don't owe their children anything but support growing up etc
OP should have emailed back a final email, stating, "I hope you're happy with your new car and apartment." Then block her daughter for life.
easier said than done when its your own flesh and blood and you carried it 9 months inside you
@@arpitapaul9527 "own flesh and blood"? That's not what the traitorous daughter was thinking.
@@maskednil not talking about the daughter... talking about the mom. do you have kids? you would understand only then how mother's love works
@@arpitapaul9527I have excommunicated with one of my kids and it was for good reason. I have never been so at peace. My kid made life hell growing up but once an adult, there were no excuses. I’m in the business of being at peace and leaving shit behind me if it doesn’t enrich my life in some way. You CANNOT put a price on peace!
Clearly she didn’t get either because her mom drove her to college. 🤣 I would have cut ties too. I have. Poison doesn’t get better with time.
The daughter is only upset because, Op spent the money saved for her. If Op didn't post the pic would she have ever called? Ah no! Not until she needed said money for college. Once she got the money she probably would have blocked op again.
Wow, it’s like actions have consequences. NTA
It's sad when kids have to take either side.
Now you have proof to sue for parental interference
Children shouldn't have to take sides.
It’s strange how people are always sorry once they realize they lost money.
OP NTA. Your daughter is spoiled and entitled and just wants her college fund.
OP did the right thing. I'm sure their relationship will get better and stronger over time. I believe her daughter is really sorry. The father is a real jerk though, using his daughter to make his girlfriend feel comfortable. That's just disgusting.
A new house, so at least 250 to 300k, and that's supposedly only Half of a college fund. Mia's dad didn't make a college fund, too, as was agreed?
Oh, well, as Mia said, she didn't owe OP anything, and that sort of thing goes both ways...OP no longer owes MIa anything, either.
No child is 'owed' a collage fund! Yes, it is nice to be able to do it for your children.
But the disrespect that daughter showed her mother. She learnt that actions have conseqeunce.
Depends on where you live there are places where homes cost a whole lot less
It sounded like Op put that money on a large down payment, not the entire cost of the house.
Yea, what happened to the dad's half of the tuition? That's like half, right. So she had the first half of college paid for? She can get a job too and help pay for her own education. She's got more going into college than a lot of other kids who have to get loans for the whole thing.
My guess he spent most of it on the mistress @debl3063
Mia’s Mom had saved plenty of money for a car as well as college.
The one issue I have with the mother is that she expected her daughter to pick sides. And basically left the home without saying goodbye to her daughter first. That left the father with the power of the roof over his daughter's head as well as the financial carrots he was waving under his (18 y.o.?) daughter's nose. But yes, the daughter did terribly hurt her mother and I can understand the reaction her rejection caused. So I agree therapy is the best for both of them because mistakes happened on both sides, and they both have abandonment & anger issues to work through.
He actually told her the truth which in my eyes honorable thing to do, He do bribe her which is bad but still not out of line as people often gave gifts to make other people on their side in case like divorce but daughter, She betrayed her own flesh and blood, She even accepted a bribe.
The daughter will have a rude awakening once Alicia has a ring on her finger 😅or once a man like daddy let's her have the same treatment once she gets older 😂😂😂.
1. She's her father's daughter and likely knew about the affair. She is bio-related and nothing more OP. Go low contact with that traitor and formulate a new life for yourself, OP. A golden retriever is quite loyal. Wait until Mia gets married OP.
#1. This lady just left and waited for her daughter to call her? She's got some serious issues. Doesn't sound like they had much of a relationship to start with.
I would say this is an ESH situation. The Dad being the worst by actively trying to bribe his daughter. And I would agree, it sounds like there were mother-daughter problems already & mom didn't have much thought or consideration for her daughter, either, before the daughter's hurtful behaviour.
you think the dad offering a car in exchange for her being nice to his girlfriend is worse then the mom draining the daughters college fund?
This. And wanting her to take her side? Why not try to make it as painless as possible on her child? I think they are both the a.
One day Mia will feel the sting in her heart and will remember how her mom felt!!
A reminder. "Don’t mistake youthful selfishness for genuine malice. No one isn’t kind of an asshole in their early 20's"
A person's frontal lobe isnt finished developing until their mid 20's, the part of the brain most responsible for considering the consequences of your actions before you start.
Thats not to say the young cant be malicious, they absolutely can. But they are more likely to act before they think and thus easier to manipulate as the daughter was. Take your time with them, hold them accountable for their actions, learn why they did what they did, correct any flaws in their thinking and so ling as they were honest with you they should grow into more responsible, respectful adult
U read that study and it is not without its flaws. Too many lay people are taking it too seriously. Young adults make life and death decisions and mature, difficult decisions all the time. Some are not held accountable, and there you have the excuse that their frontal lobes aren't developed.
Daughter's a great manipulator. Too bad it didn't work. The mistress can pay for the college tuition.
No one and I mean no one can hurt you more than your child/children
Forgiving her is one thing.
Ever trusting someone who thinks like this is a another
Even if it was just a gesture to make the other woman more comfortable ignoring the fact shes a cheater.
She couldve explained that to her mom the day she called her up and asked about it.
I think shes lying about the reason.
I think she knew about the affair the whole time and had to downplay how bad it was to make herself feel better. Affair? "No big deal, Mom. Move on with your life." Well, mom moved on with her life alright. Right into a new house.
@@debl3063reminds me Brexit. She didn't know what was exactly signing for
Let me get this straight -
A chance of a car and an apartment were enough for her to hurt her own mother so much?
….She is an adult. Old enough to college and literally choose materialistic over this.
Shame. Shame on her. Shame on Op‘s Ex (like he felt guilty for an affair but not so guilty to manipulate his own kid for his own sake?)
Screw that let her new mom pay for it
Sounds like jr high behavior that you posted a photo of new house bought with college fund. It would have been better for them to find out on their own.
OP you are not the Ahole! You set boundaries after seeing your husband and daughter actions which is good. You forgave you daughter after she told you the truth which is good. You are willing to go to counseling with your daughter which is good. Now be aware you may need to continue to set boundaries with your daughter to prevent her using you for her advantage. Good job mom!!!
True dat. It's a sad fact that some abusive people who go to therapy..while they may stop the physical abuse, they just switch tactics to verbal and emotional abuse and manipulation. They twist what they learn in therapy for their own gain. Hopefully op's daughter will become a better person, but I'd hold her at arm's length for a while.
100% chance she knew beforehand
It was stated "she already knew"
Mia probably thought her dad will be sponsoring her college fees. Shes selfish. You are not an asshole. Give her time to own up to an apology.
and will dad have enough cash to keep his promises, the estate has still to be divided, and dad + Alicia will need to pay alimony/compensation !
Correct...
But op bought the house before the divorce was finalized..
so depending on where they're from her new house could be part of the settlement..
And a judge might not like that she used the college fund to pay for it..
I mean men are forced to pay child support for a child that isn't theres cause it's in the best interests of the child..
Buying a house with your kids college fund isn't doing what's best for the child..
I'd laugh my butt off if op gets alimony but the college fund gets subtracted from it... 🤣 🤣 🤣
I really hope OPs daughter comes to realize how shallow and materialistic her father and 304 are. they aren't good role models for anybody living.
Frankly, Mia is selfish and possibly also a narcissist.She really is her father's daughter.
Also that she sold her love at the cost of one car and her mother's love and respect shows how she is someone that cares not for relationships unless she has something to gain from it.
She will have a miserable life if this is how she see relationships...
After update 4 I'd say stay away from Mia seriously OP was right about her daughters morals OP should definitely keep that arms length.
At first I thought OP was being too harsh, but hearing the daughter got bribed with a car and apartment for college, OP was NTA at all.
I suspect that the bribing has been going on for a lot longer than the daughter has let on. A car and an apartment out of the blue? Nah, he's been doing this for a while.
So glad she chose you, dear.
I’m happy you ended up forgiving each other and fixed things
Far from being weak, you are being VERY strong, dear. Go see her off . . .
NTA NTA NTA mia just after what she can get she is no different than her dad she wants money did she know about the affair beforehand block her. SHE BLOCKED YOU FIRST a car was more important than you
You shouldn't make your kids pick a side, or spend funds for education . You put yourself first , and that's what you taught her to do.
She is so lucky that u r speaking with her anyways am happy u guys r working out on your relationship
Mia posts the Affair of her father as MOM for a fancy car and an Appartment to have fun with her friends not expecting her Mom to be hurt and already told her to get over it I would not trust her as we in Germany say from Noon to Lunch.
If her father can make so expensive gifts he can pay college in ful or what a shoking idea she can work for it.
NTA, something tell me the dad was paying her to keep quiet and praise the new woman, and the one time she calls and cry you want to feel bad no. You have zero reason to feel bad, she didn't care when she hurt you, she didn't care when she blocked you, she didn't care when she cut contact, she only cared once the money she knew she was getting from you was gone, cause she didn't cry and tell you anything about being sorry, she cried cause she was in shock all that money is now gone. It's too late now, it will take you a while to re sell that house, and you might not get that money back.
And the promised car won't materialize😂😂😂 she got played. Just wait until she gets bridezilla 😅😅😅 she will use OP again and totally destroy everything for "her day".
She'd have to decline the car and hold dad and mistress accountable for nuking her family before I could forgive her.
At college age, she should be aware enough and intelligent enough to understand the situation for what it is, empathise with mothers position and make informed, moral choices about what she does and who she associates with, not choices driven by money or bribes.
But, that's just me.
This woman needs a restraining order against both the ex husband and the daughter
She shit on her mother for a car. She deserves no forgiveness.
Hope OPs daughter is happy with new mommy.
That's why you never put "College Funds" in the little idiots names.
Not sure if daughter is remorseful. Seems like she decided to go with the parent who provides the most financial support. The cost of college is more than that of a car so she chose you in the end.
The daughter can have a relationship with her but she'll be in debt lol i love natural consequences
OP ran off without telling her daughter what was going on, then waited a week for her daughter to come chasing after her but was shocked she didn’t. Then took revenge on her daughter when she started distancing herself? Maybe the last couple updates were true, but I don’t think so. That first post sounded like the ranting of a narcissist whose family was tired of their BS. I might be wrong but it doesn’t sound like this woman had the healthiest relationship skills to begin with, maybe there was a reason her ex and child moved on without her so easily…
The mom is pretty manipulative here. Seems like her daughter has borrowed some basic principles from her. I wonder why do many people fail to notice the similarity.
I don't see how the daughter can be so mad that OP bought a house instead of giving her the money. She has a great mom like Alicia now. She can ask her and her dad for money, but OP needs not have anything to do with that selfish brat anymore.
Using your kid as a pawn in a contentious divorce is cruel and immoral. Shouldn't have dragged her into it in the first place.
Tell Mia to go fly a kite if she can afford one
WELL DONE, OP!!!👏👏👏
Don't give her a nickel. Let her get a job.
Yuck, terrible mom; obvious that she left huge chunks out, and glossed over some big points, one in particular that she left her daughter when she left the home; tf; you’re never supposed to leave the kids; you think they don’t feel the impact of that?? This mom sounds super ignorant to her own contributions to the estrangement, just calling herself a victim over and over, and putting out that the daughter is supposed to pick sides; just gross
Sounds like mom and daughter never really had a great relationship from the beginning. What mother leaves their child for almost a week without explanation? And then expects the child to reach out first? No. That tells me this was a brewing pot and the respect was gone a long time ago.
I agree. I’m sure the daughter was pretty upset about her Mom leaving with no explanation. The husband is garbage for what he did, but it seems like the OP was upset because her daughter did not respond the way she wanted. It probably was awkward enough for her daughter, OP sounds very controlling, and her daughter the fact her daughter wasn’t upset says a lot. She probably saw her Dads GF as a new friend and not a mom. Mom should have had a conversation with her about how it made her feel, but she instead acted like a spoiled brat. I think she was looking for a reason to spend that money. Sorry for the rant on your comment. 😂
When daughter's husband cheats on her, she'll understand. Especially if her own daughter takes her father's side in exchange for a car.
Daughter is old enough to make such grossly hurtful decisions that affect Mom then she is old enough to work for college money...or ask Alicia - mom 2.0 for the money!
I notice everyone in the comments accepts the mother's slant on the events without question. I have never been in favor of parents weaponizing children against each other. Why does she need a child's validation? Wonder how she will feel if the daughter decides to truly cut her off for hurting her child's college career. No interaction with grandchildren, not wedding invite, nothing. You will be very lonely watching that from afar. You owe your children; they do not owe you. The telling part is asking the child to "Take her side" and "have her back." Can't you be enough of a human to decide to leave the child out of the divorce? You love as a mother is very conditional and saying that they are immoral is quite funny since children learn their morals from parents. You will be VERY lonely later in life, since everything is entirely about you. You got your way for now with your emotional manipulation, but you have damaged your relationship with your daughter long term. You think you have fixed things, but I don't think that the damage will be as easily fixed as you seem to think.
She wanted her DAUGHTER'S validation, not some random child. And somehow I don't think Op will be lonely in the future. Lots of older people never had kids, or their kids don't keep in touch, and they have very full lives. And who's to say she doesn't marry some widower or long divorced man with grown children who will be happy to have a bonus mom?
I was thrown out of my home at 17,by an angry,nasty,greedy mother...I barely survived and graduated high school.never had money for college,I have paid my way for the last 40 years, couldn't afford children,I'm female.that daughter isn't owed anything.period. the reality of life is that it isn't easy.
It's her daughter, that she loved and raised all her life but hey, If her daughter throw people under the bus for a car and an apartment, adopt her. She's an adult now and it's daddy who was weaponising her grees
Better lonely than sold for a car and an apartment from an adulterer
Hmmm....she's sweet to you now? What's the motive? Your house and money? Well..."beware of the greeks who came bearing gifts".
The mom acted childish ............she's mad at her ex and has just ruined not only her daughter's future by not paying for her college out of vindictiveness, not to mention any relastionship she might have in the future with her daughter......There is a reason her daughter wants to have NOTHING to do with her.....we're not hearing evetything....
Get her new mom to pay college 😂😂
I don't think your weak, love for our children is strong, so is the love for our mother. Sometimes we take each other for granted and make mistakes but asking for forgiveness and being remorseful is a start to healing as well as forgiving. I wish you the best, in the end this might bring you closer to your daughter. She almost lost you and your love it was a lesson she needed to learn.
Boohoo!!!! Your daughter betrayed you and didn’t care about your feelings. Blubbering to get her way would just make me double down. Do not give her a dime. The ex and his new spicy new bedroom playmate can pay for your nasty little daughter’s college. That is if they don’t pop out a few adorable siblings for Mia. NTA. You are a legend OP. Please don’t turn back. She chose her dad and affair partner. I think she has been involved in daddy’s affair long before you knew. Change your phone number not your mind. Good luck OP.
And yet she decided in the end to work on her relationship with her so-called daughter. If you tell me that your father's AP is your mom now, especially because you just want a car and an apartment, you're most certainly not my child anymore and most likely never will be again.
My only question is why did OP think that her daughter wouldn’t be swayed by her ex husband? She moved out without telling the daughter a thing, and then “waited” a week for her text first when she was the one that abandoned her daughter. She was a teenager and can’t understand her mom abandoning her due to her husband’s infidelity clearly. She only saw her mom abandoned her first.
The daughter was swayed for at least two YEARS before that incident. And Mia understood very well her mother's devastation. She just didn't give a damn.
Her daughter is an adult that chose an well known adulterer's side. OP didn't abandoned her
I feel like there is more going on here, maybe the mom isn't as innocent as she makes it sound.
She is the one who needs to get over it!
Yo block your own mother in this awful time she’s going through is, absolutely heartless! She doesn’t want you so why should she have your money?