The mother isnt even being faced with the police. What a bunch of crap from her mom. She can forgive her "new" famiy for stealing a freaking house but not her own daughter. The mom and step daughter deserve each other.
Yep, and lets not forget that the trauma was not against the police, but a toxic asshole boyfriend who just happened to be a cop. Which apparently wasn't bad enough to turn her off toxic guys with fragile egos by the way, judging on how the stepdad acted.
right?! like what about what happened to OP, do her feelings not matter at all?? what about the step father and daughter's terrible behavior?? is that not gonna be addressed at all with no consequences? lmaoo
The mum was basically the same as her cop ex. Isolation, manipulation, punishment, trading in for a younger model, also never apologised just justified her actions. She doesn’t have room to get upset when she showed she’s the exact same
Let’s be honest this is just mom looking for a reason to drop her. Her mom never liked her. Mom is a joke. The cop thing is more a pattern of mom liking abusive men. Mom is selfish and loves male attention
I think I read or heard this on another channel where her dad actually lives down the street ... so.ething else is supposed to happen but I cannot recall ..help anybody
Not that simple. An ordinary person can change the locks. I did it to my house. Home Depot will gladly rekey a lock when you buy it there so that all your locks have the same keys. Then you replace the fixture on the door and voila ! changed locks. So no company involved. At least that can be sued And tell us all how you would have them very home owners permission when most of the people are related. How would the company deal with related people helping a home owner?
@@Danarchy3 Less than that if you know what you're doing. Unless you're talking about all the locks in a house, in which case 15-20 minutes if you're fast.
@MCBRUCE76 It doesn't matter whether the story is true or not, we give opinion on the situation. There are people who could benefit with ideas on how to handle such a situation.
I agree with you 💯%. Not only should OP go full NO CONTACT with her mother, stepfather, and stepsister, she should also sell her house, move to another state, buy another house, or condo there, and grow her own family that consists of new and supportive friends, a trustworthy therapist, and a warm-hearted man whose family are good people. OP can invite her bio-dad to come visit/hang out with her in her new state, any time she wants. Plus, OP will end up with a big-hearted MIL who's more of a real mother to her than the birth-giver is.
@@MCBRUCE76 It didn't take ANY effort as you posted this in almost every post ..and what is wrong with reading every post? Grasping at straws? Btw answer the question "why"
I can’t wait for the update, where if the OP does find someone she wants to marry, and the mother decides to come back into OP’s life because she’s now “ready” when it’s a big event people might question her absence from.
@@rachelcrawford1977 Same here, guys, and if there's an update on this story, it will be where OP says "TOO MUCH, TOO LITTLE, TOO LATE, SO, GO BACK TO YOUR NEW FAMILY, AND LEAVE ME ALONE" to her mother.
So because the mother once, about a decade ago, had a toxic boyfriend who happened to be a cop, the daughter is supposed to take a crime against herself without calling the police?
I think I can see the big picture. Ever since the divorce, the mother had been jumping to one toxic relationship to another. She probably thought it's already to late for her to fix her relationship with OP, so she stayed long in all those toxic relationships hoping it would become a good family life again like the last one she abandoned, yep....selfish to the end.
Exactly. Speaking of toxic relationships, OP will end up being swept off her feet by/marry a man who's a Prince Charming, one moment, the next, a malevolent fiend who not only lords power over her, but also abuses her (verbally, mentally/emotionally, and physically, to the point where neighbors have to call 911), fall pregnant, when her husband traps her, next, stay at a women's shelter in another town, and file for divorce, then, move to another state, find another job (in order to keep herself and her kid afloat), while staying temporarily with roommates, find a nicer apartment, rely on neighbors as her new support system because she won't have her bio-dad or friends in her new state to help out; all she and her kid will have is each other, and to avoid making the same mistakes her mother has made, OP will need to steer clear of potential SOs, including those with kids of their own, concentrate on her career, her mental health, raising her kid, providing him with a stable and safe home, and being the best single mom he's so proud to have.⚠️
WTF. Who do those people think they are? You are better off sweetheart without those entitled a**holes in your life. Forget them and enjoy your wonderful home and live life to the fullest. That's the best revenge.
The mom says she does not want to be selfish anymore then she CONTINUES TO BE SELFISH! Like bruh, OP was offering an olive branch at the last update. This is like a bad found family fic, where the mom finds a new family and hurts OP cause she only cares about her step golden child now.
I was expecting the mom to have had a bad experience with being arrested not that her ex was a jerk who just happened to be a cop. Kind of ridiculous she's afraid of cops for that reason.
Just what I thought. If the guy had been a bus driver, would she refuse to get on a bus forever after? The ex was just a POS, and you find them in all professions.
So mom moved from an abusive cop boyfriend, who alienated her from her friends and family, to an abusive husband, who is alienating her from her family. Mom needs to learn to find better men to be in her life!
As it has become painfully clear to O.P., it is time to remind mom that biological grandchildren won't be part of her life when they come, but that dad has never rejected her, and will be very happy to accept her as she is. Good-bye, mom.
She will, only, to find out that OP not only moved states away, had her phone number disconnected, her social media accounts deactivated, but also got married, and started her own family.
Is OP for real? She feels horrible for callung the cops on her step-dad and stepsister? The first thing I would have done was call the cops. OP just needs to go nc with her mother. I did this with my dad years ago, and it was so freeing.
Carson gambled that OP would let him walk all over her, because she'd be too afraid to hurt her mom by calling the cops on them. He sure did lose on that one, but in my opinion, moms mad at the wrong person and is letting her past issues ruin her relationship with her bio kid. Where I come from, you used to be able to sh00t people like Carson, but that was awhile ago.
Stop being your mother's door mat, that's your only problem, you let your mother push you around, if you're lucky maybe she will stop talking to you at all then you will see how peaceful and happy your life is without her.
if we do get another update for this story let us know. This mother is awful, she's talking about how she has a second chance to be a mother yet will use that second chance on the stepdaughter and not try to make up for it with her biological one, even though she's an adult she can still have some sort of relationship. If we do get an Update I hope it's because Vanessa and her husband turned out to be a disaster, that this mother faced karma for now correcting her mistake and her SECOND CHANCE she seem very excited about to be a mother for Vanessa backfired. and she tries crawling back to O.p I would love for O.p to have the opportunity to tell her mother she had a chance to own up for the mistake she did, but chose to continue to give the cold shoulder. And now, it's too late. I want O.p to have that chance of justification to tell her mom there's no chance, she had a second chance she chose the wrong daughter and now she has no one. then slam the door in that poor excuse of a mom's face and see how she likes getting the cold shoulder, only this time there's no chance of reconciliation and O.P can live her life with that chapter closed with justification that karma was on her side.
Mom and stepdad don't want to deal with an adult daughter living at home and expects OP to take her? Wow! Not sure why OP feels she needs to talk to her mom so badly. It would be better to wait and let mom come to her.
The mum managed to get right back in the situation of a controlling, abusing, isolating psychopath, this time instead of a policeman boyfriend it's the stepdaughter. all I can say is when the stepdaughter finishes using her and throw's her away that op doesn't step up to take care of her mother, I have always been a big believer in treat others like you would want to be treated, the mother abandoned op so op doesn't need to look after her. Maybe then the mother will realized what she has done.
I used to work for Child Protective Services, and it never ceases to amaze me how mothers will dump their kids for a man. It's so desperate and pathetic, love yourself more. This mother will call her daughter only when she needs to use her for something else. Some mother's see their children as a resource for their own selfish needs. Sometimes a divorced parent deflect their anger about their ex in their children. They don't even know they are doing it.
The second the step dad told me I wouldn’t call the police because of the previous trauma mom had with police…. I’d took out my phone and said , Then Mom is going to have a few rough hours coming up.
Amen. I see the future where the mother sees pics of OP at her wedding, gender-reveal party, and baby shower with her replacement family (her beau, new friends, therapist, and in-laws), pics of OP with her beau and their new baby, and not only has trouble figuring out why OP went NO CONTACT with her, but also has trouble figuring out why OP left her out of those important events, and chose to include her bio-dad, instead. And the mother's new husband divorces her, kicks her out, and her stepdaughter turns on her, she'll try to contact OP, and beg her to take her in, only, to find out that, OP had sold her house, disconnected her phone number, deleted her social media accounts, and moved states away, ⚠️
Uummm... The mother's previous experience with her ex who happened to be a cop has nothing to do with the situation at hand. If the mom focused more on the person rather than his profession she would have probably avoided marrying someone exactly like him. The stepfather is clearly just as controlling as the cop who ditched her, and is alienating her from her biological daughter. Her mom is a very poor judge of character. 🤦🏾♀️ The OP should do a dance and say thank God her mother and her toxic family is going no contact with her. If this story is true, I'm sure they'll be back though... But I hope OP continues the no contact for her own peace and safety.
When you break into someone's house and try to hijack it from the owner, refusing them entry, it tends to induce police involvement. If mother is going to be mad at anyone for involving LAW ENFORCEMENT, it ought to be with her husband, who BROKE THE LAW. What would mother do if someone evicted her from her own house?
Mom is gaslighting OP. Cops should have been involved and restraining orders ordered. Make sure you also install cameras. Don't back down from pressing charges. Your mom's past is her issue she needs to go get therapy and deal with her own issues. Go NC and live your best life. Get therapy yourself to grieve the loss of your mom. She can't be the mother you need so realize she is dead to you.
After update 1 I have no sympathy for the mom. Yes she had an abusive relationship but she had to know the probable outcome of allowing her step daughter and husband to do what they did. The Mom also sucks for thinking OP was not serious about the SD not moving in and trying to gaslight the OP into thinking they were in the wrong when the mom disrespected and disregarded OP.
Stop feeling terrible about this. They counted on this and you took the bull by the horns. Sorry about the issue with your mom and hers but coercion is coercion no matter what it is or who does it. Go to therapy, mama and start supporting your real child. Good luck, my dear.
OP should take this as the gift it is, her mother has freed her to get on with her life and only have loving people in it. However, it does sound like her mother has gotten herself another control freak like the cop was.
OP YOU DID THE RIGHT THING BY CALL THE POLICE ON YOUR STEP-FATHER AND STEP-SISTER THEY HAD NO RIGHT MOVING INTO YOUR HOUSE WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION . YOU ARE THE OWNER OF THE HOUSE AND THEY HAD NO RIGHT BREAKUNG AND ENTRING. ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY HAD NO PERMISSION FROM YOU . TO MOVING IN THE FIRST PLACE AND YOUR MOM DID NOT ASK YOU IF SHE COULD DO THAT AT ALL .
She's too weak and needs to love herself. She needs to stop looking for her mom to validate her. She needs to live her own life and create her own family. Idk why people don't understand that family does not always mean blood. She needs to learn from her mom's mistakes and not repeat them.
OP should have called the cops while she was at work. That way she could obviously say she didn't know WHO had broken in. And her mom's "trauma" wasn't anything to the cops b/c her experience was with a bad BF NOT a bad cop. By the sounds of it he never used his JOB to abuse her and she should feel lucky he moved on. Sounds like OP is better off without her. OP should concentrate on filling her life with those who love her unconditionally. I mean, who goes to a housewarming and tries to foist a total stranger onto them?
Yeah, the Op's mother cheated on her husband which explains how she ended up with someone like Carson, her current lover (note: refuse to acknowledge the Op's mother as a parent despite having daughter) and his immature daughter or how they attempted to steal her home. Hope he enjoys what happens. As for the mother she a piece of work and when the time comes when she needs Op aid she shouldn't be surprised if Op decides to refuse to visit her on her death bed. Op did the right thing and her mother's excuse is just that...an excuse! If op did call her mother she would have dragged her feet with Carson and his brat it forgetting it was OP's home. Update Op shouldn't even bother talking to her she's toxic, manipulative, and had no problem throwing her under the bus for a man and their spawn. Op should stop being nice and her return from her meeting just proven she's a toxic abomination to parents with a sin worthy of damnation twice over. For her last mother's day gift buy her a copy of the Dante Alighieri's "The Divine Comedy" and highlight the circle of hell reserved for betrayers. Or... Stop trying to build a relationship on toxic grounds because her path has already been chosen and should you have children avoid her.
Wtf. She needs therapy her mom fucked her head up. She’s apologizing for her “family” trying to take her house and “punish” Her in her 30s. I’m genuinely sad that she thinks that way
Man dude I hope OP gets help. You can't control nor change people. She'll go mad trying to get validation from her mother. I can just hear the bitterness and the jealously from the post. Please move on OP.
lol I’m beginning to think all the cop did was leave her and with a nasty note. Moms pride could not handle being dumped so started this whole narrative of cops are evil crap to feel better. Mom seems a bit crazy with men and boundaries. Also had a huge hate of op because mom could not party anymore.
The Mum's new husband sounds just as abusive as the ex-cop. Op Mum is manipulative and evil, as well; OP is constantly walking on eggshells and apologising to her.
Some people shouldn't be parents. OP's mom is a lost cause. Better for OP to treat her mom as dead, not deal with her (absolute no contact) and move on . Op should focus more on her own life, her career and probably raising a loving family of her own drawing from her past experiences life lessons from her relationship with her mother and use those as guideposts to be a good person and mother to her would be children.
Hopefully, the Stepfather and his daughter were charged with Criminal Damage (of the door locks) and Criminal Trespass (they knew they had been refused entry).
OP's Mom is a Monster! What mother, in her right mind would expect her own child to put up with emotional & physical abuse for the sake of an entitled, petty, jealous strp-child!? Who does step-dad think he is to just kick OP out of the house she worked for!? Mom enabled this situation!? What is wrong with all these toxic A-holes!!!!??? You past does not entitle you to abuse the people you are supposed to love & protect!
The mom in the story by her own admission failed everyone in her previous marriage. i dont think she could handle seeing OP, a reminder of her failure. Instead of picking up the pieces the mom would rather move on to relationships without that baggage, a truly disgusting person to have become a parent.
Never chase a drama lama as it runes off offended , just enjoy the quiet before they come back wanting something new from you. Moms block means nothing. Its just a self inflicted time out she deserves.
The mother is moving from one abusive relationship to another. She is so afraid upsetting Carson she's willing to let her own daughter go. The mother is a broken person who needs help big time. I foresee that Vanessa will make life a hell for OP's mother and then Carson will kick her out. She's living on borrowed time trying to build the family she will never experience. She squandered her opportunity to reconnect with her real daughter so she has dug her own grave. However, I believe that OP will have the big heart to forgive her mother when she comes knocking on the door. It seems OP would do anything to have her family around her despite their flaws. Vanessa and Carson should be given some punishment by the law for breaking into OP's house and changing the locks. How is it possible they got away with that?
mom is delusional for thinking she is living her own life. she traded an abusive cop bf for a manipulative husband and step daughter. still bending over for other, just in a different form. smh.
OP’s mom needs to see a freakin therapist because her universally unhealthy view of police is dangerous af. And the fact she seems to choose unhealthy relationships and punish her daughter is the real problem.
One time I dated a carpenter and he was jealous, petty, controlling and insecure. He cheated on me and left me. To this day I'm absolutely terrified of carpenters.and can't go into Home Depot because they swarm there! Last year my house caught fire and when I saw the builders using wood to fix it I had a panic attack. I don't believe in Jesus or Harrison Ford because they were carpenters.....
Op needs to go no contact with mom. Mom seems to actively look for abusive partners, treats her own daughter like crap and does not deserve to ruin OPs life. Go no contact
having the stepfather and stepsister charged is a must but so is forever cutting you mother out of your life, her betrayal is unforgivable, sue them for damages and also sue the company that changed your locks without your permission. block all their numbers and SM and get restraining orders on all of them, never have any form of contact with your mother again and keep any future children you might have away from them
Forget your mother's past "trauma" with the cops. Carson and Vanessa broke into your house, changed the locks. Did they actually expect that what they did was going to persuade her to let Vanessa live with her after OP explicitly told them no from the get-go? So crazy
Most police are either corrupt or shielding a corrupt coworker and thus corrupt. However, there are times that they are needed. Op was completely within her rights to call them and her mom is unhinged.
It doesn’t matter what kind of trauma your mom had with the police, your stepdad and his daughter were the ones that caused you to have to call them…. They knew how she would feel, they knew this you need to just move on and go no contact you4 mom will either miss you and wake up to the treatment you got from from you steps and want to talk or she won’t care.
I thought if any House Alarm🚨 is "Triggered" that Police👮🏽♂ is Automatically called📞? Op should have Gotten ahead of this and Contacted her Family and Friends and Made a post about them and then Cut them Off. Please Do Not do, what Op did in this Post, if you're going through Anything Serious.
OP was a moron for not calling the police from work. Mom is beyond redemption
OP was a moron for apologizing to mom.
So you really thought this story was true. LMAO
@@MCBRUCE76it could literally be my mom
@@MCBRUCE76, funny how you spend so much time in the comment section of these stories you sneer at. I wonder why that is.🤔
@@ladyv5655 He thinks it makes him a hero, because he thinks we would all say "oh lord, we would never see the light w/o your greatness" 🤣🤣🤣
The mother isnt even being faced with the police. What a bunch of crap from her mom. She can forgive her "new" famiy for stealing a freaking house but not her own daughter. The mom and step daughter deserve each other.
Yep, and lets not forget that the trauma was not against the police, but a toxic asshole boyfriend who just happened to be a cop. Which apparently wasn't bad enough to turn her off toxic guys with fragile egos by the way, judging on how the stepdad acted.
There trauma is drug related .
So you really thought this story was true. LMAO
@@MCBRUCE76 great point lol
right?! like what about what happened to OP, do her feelings not matter at all?? what about the step father and daughter's terrible behavior?? is that not gonna be addressed at all with no consequences? lmaoo
The mum was basically the same as her cop ex. Isolation, manipulation, punishment, trading in for a younger model, also never apologised just justified her actions. She doesn’t have room to get upset when she showed she’s the exact same
Let’s be honest this is just mom looking for a reason to drop her. Her mom never liked her. Mom is a joke. The cop thing is more a pattern of mom liking abusive men. Mom is selfish and loves male attention
waiting for the 6 update where things go wrong with the moms new marriage and she comes crying to op ☺
Exactly
And you know it will happen.
I think I read or heard this on another channel where her dad actually lives down the street ... so.ething else is supposed to happen but I cannot recall ..help anybody
She needs a restraining order and to ho not contact.
So you really thought this story was true. LMAO
Also - sue the company that changed the locks without the home-owner's permission.
Not that simple. An ordinary person can change the locks. I did it to my house. Home Depot will gladly rekey a lock when you buy it there so that all your locks have the same keys. Then you replace the fixture on the door and voila ! changed locks. So no company involved. At least that can be sued And tell us all how you would have them very home owners permission when most of the people are related. How would the company deal with related people helping a home owner?
So you really thought this story was true. LMAO
People do it all the time @@MCBRUCE76
You don't need a company to change the locks in a home. You need a screwdriver and about 15 minutes
@@Danarchy3 Less than that if you know what you're doing. Unless you're talking about all the locks in a house, in which case 15-20 minutes if you're fast.
They should have been arrested for breaking and entering! The cops should have been called as soon as the security company contacted her!
Yes
The security company should’ve handled it and called the police themselves. That’s their bloody jobs and the reason why they even exist.
So you really thought this story was true. LMAO
@MCBRUCE76 It doesn't matter whether the story is true or not, we give opinion on the situation. There are people who could benefit with ideas on how to handle such a situation.
@@thehawkseye3412 I give my opinion whether you are speaking about reality or delusion.
Should have had the alarm company call the police. Stop being nice.
That egg donor showed zero accountability
I agree with you 💯%. Not only should OP go full NO CONTACT with her mother, stepfather, and stepsister, she should also sell her house, move to another state, buy another house, or condo there, and grow her own family that consists of new and supportive friends, a trustworthy therapist, and a warm-hearted man whose family are good people. OP can invite her bio-dad to come visit/hang out with her in her new state, any time she wants. Plus, OP will end up with a big-hearted MIL who's more of a real mother to her than the birth-giver is.
OP should marry a cop just for giggles.
If you don't own a house (in the US), you can't change the locks of a house. They would be arrested for trespassing.
Breaking and entering theft by conversion for changing the locks.
So you really thought this story was true. LMAO
@@francissobotka8725And destruction of private property.
Unfortunately there is squatters rights in the US
@@grobanite4ever85 Only if you allow them to break in, there is also Gun laws in our country, which is called "Castle Doctrine."
The mother is a really toxic person in many ways. You should never abandon your own child in favour of someone else's. So sad for OP.
So you really thought this story was true. LMAO
@@MCBRUCE76 I was just commenting on a character in a story. It may be true. It may not be true. Does it matter?
@@MCBRUCE76 trolly ,,
@@robertx8020 Do you keep sniffing and snooping for my comments. LMAO.
@@MCBRUCE76 It didn't take ANY effort as you posted this in almost every post ..and what is wrong with reading every post?
Grasping at straws?
Btw answer the question "why"
OP needs a good therapist. Someone who can help her protect herself if Mom’s new life goes South.
When not if
Well said. Not only that, OP should also sell her house, move to another state, and buy another house therein.
If my house alarm went off, I'd call the cops before even standing up. I'm not putting myself in danger.
I can’t wait for the update, where if the OP does find someone she wants to marry, and the mother decides to come back into OP’s life because she’s now “ready” when it’s a big event people might question her absence from.
Or kids i want to be a grandma
@@rachelcrawford1977 Same here, guys, and if there's an update on this story, it will be where OP says "TOO MUCH, TOO LITTLE, TOO LATE, SO, GO BACK TO YOUR NEW FAMILY, AND LEAVE ME ALONE" to her mother.
So because the mother once, about a decade ago, had a toxic boyfriend who happened to be a cop, the daughter is supposed to take a crime against herself without calling the police?
lol right and let’s be honest if it was not the cop thing it’s something else
Soo the mom was ok with them taking over your house. And Your the bad guy. Disown your mom.
you're
@@ninaappelt9001 incorrect
To me, it sounds like her mother is in a controlling and abusive relationship again.
The mother is abusive
thats the impression i got i have a feeling it was the cop who ran away from her @@romonagauthier2611
I dont feel sorry for her
I think both are true
@@romonagauthier2611 and her husband is abusing her
I think I can see the big picture.
Ever since the divorce, the mother had been jumping to one toxic relationship to another.
She probably thought it's already to late for her to fix her relationship with OP, so she stayed long in all those toxic relationships hoping it would become a good family life again like the last one she abandoned, yep....selfish to the end.
I thought I was the only one who was screaming this mom is crap run away. Stop trying to keep crazy
Exactly. Speaking of toxic relationships, OP will end up being swept off her feet by/marry a man who's a Prince Charming, one moment, the next, a malevolent fiend who not only lords power over her, but also abuses her (verbally, mentally/emotionally, and physically, to the point where neighbors have to call 911), fall pregnant, when her husband traps her, next, stay at a women's shelter in another town, and file for divorce, then, move to another state, find another job (in order to keep herself and her kid afloat), while staying temporarily with roommates, find a nicer apartment, rely on neighbors as her new support system because she won't have her bio-dad or friends in her new state to help out; all she and her kid will have is each other, and to avoid making the same mistakes her mother has made, OP will need to steer clear of potential SOs, including those with kids of their own, concentrate on her career, her mental health, raising her kid, providing him with a stable and safe home, and being the best single mom he's so proud to have.⚠️
WTF. Who do those people think they are? You are better off sweetheart without those entitled a**holes in your life. Forget them and enjoy your wonderful home and live life to the fullest. That's the best revenge.
That’s what I’m screaming at the phone.
The mom says she does not want to be selfish anymore then she CONTINUES TO BE SELFISH! Like bruh, OP was offering an olive branch at the last update. This is like a bad found family fic, where the mom finds a new family and hurts OP cause she only cares about her step golden child now.
So you really thought this story was true. LMAO
@@MCBRUCE76how is it false?
@MCBRUCE76. If you don't believe it why are you here listening to this story and commenting everywhere.
OP move on. Your mother is toxic. Stop the pick me dance.
I was expecting the mom to have had a bad experience with being arrested not that her ex was a jerk who just happened to be a cop. Kind of ridiculous she's afraid of cops for that reason.
it’s just excuses she makes. She probably hid her own purse, and wasn’t there when cops were called on Carson and Vanessa
Right? That seemed like such a cop out on the moms end.
Just what I thought. If the guy had been a bus driver, would she refuse to get on a bus forever after? The ex was just a POS, and you find them in all professions.
So mom moved from an abusive cop boyfriend, who alienated her from her friends and family, to an abusive husband, who is alienating her from her family. Mom needs to learn to find better men to be in her life!
I am baffled as to how Carson got into the house the next day enabling him to change the locks.
Probably drilled out the back door lock, once inside it's pretty easy to change a lock if you brought new ones with you
As it has become painfully clear to O.P., it is time to remind mom that biological grandchildren won't be part of her life when they come, but that dad has never rejected her, and will be very happy to accept her as she is.
Good-bye, mom.
Um, not sure of the jurisdiction, but I wonder if OP filed trespass and felony (entry into a domicile) complaints against the steps?
OP’s mom is a lost cause
Imagine calling the police because your house was invaded by mom's new family and being worried about mom's feelings. Nuts!
Give it a few years and mom will come crying back to her daughter because of husband and stepdaughter threw her out for some reason.
She will, only, to find out that OP not only moved states away, had her phone number disconnected, her social media accounts deactivated, but also got married, and started her own family.
Is OP for real? She feels horrible for callung the cops on her step-dad and stepsister? The first thing I would have done was call the cops. OP just needs to go nc with her mother. I did this with my dad years ago, and it was so freeing.
Carson gambled that OP would let him walk all over her, because she'd be too afraid to hurt her mom by calling the cops on them. He sure did lose on that one, but in my opinion, moms mad at the wrong person and is letting her past issues ruin her relationship with her bio kid. Where I come from, you used to be able to sh00t people like Carson, but that was awhile ago.
Stop being your mother's door mat, that's your only problem, you let your mother push you around, if you're lucky maybe she will stop talking to you at all then you will see how peaceful and happy your life is without her.
if we do get another update for this story let us know. This mother is awful, she's talking about how she has a second chance to be a mother yet will use that second chance on the stepdaughter and not try to make up for it with her biological one, even though she's an adult she can still have some sort of relationship. If we do get an Update I hope it's because Vanessa and her husband turned out to be a disaster, that this mother faced karma for now correcting her mistake and her SECOND CHANCE she seem very excited about to be a mother for Vanessa backfired. and she tries crawling back to O.p I would love for O.p to have the opportunity to tell her mother she had a chance to own up for the mistake she did, but chose to continue to give the cold shoulder. And now, it's too late. I want O.p to have that chance of justification to tell her mom there's no chance, she had a second chance she chose the wrong daughter and now she has no one. then slam the door in that poor excuse of a mom's face and see how she likes getting the cold shoulder, only this time there's no chance of reconciliation and O.P can live her life with that chapter closed with justification that karma was on her side.
Tell mom she is not allowed to come back to you. Ever. Especially if she is old and alone.
Mom and stepdad don't want to deal with an adult daughter living at home and expects OP to take her? Wow!
Not sure why OP feels she needs to talk to her mom so badly. It would be better to wait and let mom come to her.
The mum managed to get right back in the situation of a controlling, abusing, isolating psychopath, this time instead of a policeman boyfriend it's the stepdaughter. all I can say is when the stepdaughter finishes using her and throw's her away that op doesn't step up to take care of her mother, I have always been a big believer in treat others like you would want to be treated, the mother abandoned op so op doesn't need to look after her. Maybe then the mother will realized what she has done.
Damn this OP is sad. Fighting for love from her OWN mother? What does the mother have to do to show she loves the stepdaughter more?
OP NTA. Mom/Carson/ Vanessa/ locksmith YTA and in extreme need of mental help. Who squats in someone's house? Total criminals no excuses.
Mom has bad choices in men. Carlson sounds just like the policeman
I used to work for Child Protective Services, and it never ceases to amaze me how mothers will dump their kids for a man. It's so desperate and pathetic, love yourself more. This mother will call her daughter only when she needs to use her for something else. Some mother's see their children as a resource for their own selfish needs. Sometimes a divorced parent deflect their anger about their ex in their children. They don't even know they are doing it.
Ridiculous.
7:07 dont, you did the right thing.
Absolutely not the jerk. It doesn’t matter what her trauma is. She has no right to let her new family traumatize YOU.
Op do not give in to your narcissist mom and step father.
The second the step dad told me I wouldn’t call the police because of the previous trauma mom had with police…. I’d took out my phone and said , Then Mom is going to have a few rough hours coming up.
Amen. I see the future where the mother sees pics of OP at her wedding, gender-reveal party, and baby shower with her replacement family (her beau, new friends, therapist, and in-laws), pics of OP with her beau and their new baby, and not only has trouble figuring out why OP went NO CONTACT with her, but also has trouble figuring out why OP left her out of those important events, and chose to include her bio-dad, instead.
And the mother's new husband divorces her, kicks her out, and her stepdaughter turns on her, she'll try to contact OP, and beg her to take her in, only, to find out that, OP had sold her house, disconnected her phone number, deleted her social media accounts, and moved states away, ⚠️
Uummm... The mother's previous experience with her ex who happened to be a cop has nothing to do with the situation at hand. If the mom focused more on the person rather than his profession she would have probably avoided marrying someone exactly like him. The stepfather is clearly just as controlling as the cop who ditched her, and is alienating her from her biological daughter. Her mom is a very poor judge of character. 🤦🏾♀️
The OP should do a dance and say thank God her mother and her toxic family is going no contact with her. If this story is true, I'm sure they'll be back though... But I hope OP continues the no contact for her own peace and safety.
When you break into someone's house and try to hijack it from the owner, refusing them entry, it tends to induce police involvement.
If mother is going to be mad at anyone for involving LAW ENFORCEMENT, it ought to be with her husband, who BROKE THE LAW.
What would mother do if someone evicted her from her own house?
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So mom has been playing victim to stop her daughter from calling the police for years?!
OP should have just blocked her egg donor and her horrible family!
Mom is gaslighting OP. Cops should have been involved and restraining orders ordered. Make sure you also install cameras. Don't back down from pressing charges. Your mom's past is her issue she needs to go get therapy and deal with her own issues. Go NC and live your best life. Get therapy yourself to grieve the loss of your mom. She can't be the mother you need so realize she is dead to you.
After update 1 I have no sympathy for the mom. Yes she had an abusive relationship but she had to know the probable outcome of allowing her step daughter and husband to do what they did. The Mom also sucks for thinking OP was not serious about the SD not moving in and trying to gaslight the OP into thinking they were in the wrong when the mom disrespected and disregarded OP.
Stop feeling terrible about this. They counted on this and you took the bull by the horns. Sorry about the issue with your mom and hers but coercion is coercion no matter what it is or who does it. Go to therapy, mama and start supporting your real child. Good luck, my dear.
So she just had them kicked out of her house? Didn't have them charged with B&E, trespassing, nothing?
Doormats be like that.
OP should take this as the gift it is, her mother has freed her to get on with her life and only have loving people in it. However, it does sound like her mother has gotten herself another control freak like the cop was.
she wasnt there , so i fail to see on how the police could her traumatized her...puse BS
Thats crazy, OP is no longer a kid. Shes a 32 yr old adult. And she bought the house herself.
Sounds like OP's mom learned some tools of the trade from her abusive ex boyfriend.
OP YOU DID THE RIGHT THING BY CALL THE POLICE ON YOUR STEP-FATHER AND STEP-SISTER THEY HAD NO RIGHT MOVING INTO YOUR HOUSE WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION . YOU ARE THE OWNER OF THE HOUSE AND THEY HAD NO RIGHT BREAKUNG AND ENTRING. ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY HAD NO PERMISSION FROM YOU . TO MOVING IN THE FIRST PLACE AND YOUR MOM DID NOT ASK YOU IF SHE COULD DO THAT AT ALL .
Leave this toxic mother behind.
She's too weak and needs to love herself. She needs to stop looking for her mom to validate her. She needs to live her own life and create her own family. Idk why people don't understand that family does not always mean blood. She needs to learn from her mom's mistakes and not repeat them.
Op is a doormat for mom.
OP should have called the cops while she was at work. That way she could obviously say she didn't know WHO had broken in. And her mom's "trauma" wasn't anything to the cops b/c her experience was with a bad BF NOT a bad cop. By the sounds of it he never used his JOB to abuse her and she should feel lucky he moved on. Sounds like OP is better off without her. OP should concentrate on filling her life with those who love her unconditionally. I mean, who goes to a housewarming and tries to foist a total stranger onto them?
Yeah, the Op's mother cheated on her husband which explains how she ended up with someone like Carson, her current lover (note: refuse to acknowledge the Op's mother as a parent despite having daughter) and his immature daughter or how they attempted to steal her home. Hope he enjoys what happens.
As for the mother she a piece of work and when the time comes when she needs Op aid she shouldn't be surprised if Op decides to refuse to visit her on her death bed.
Op did the right thing and her mother's excuse is just that...an excuse!
If op did call her mother she would have dragged her feet with Carson and his brat it forgetting it was OP's home.
Update
Op shouldn't even bother talking to her she's toxic, manipulative, and had no problem throwing her under the bus for a man and their spawn.
Op should stop being nice and her return from her meeting just proven she's a toxic abomination to parents with a sin worthy of damnation twice over.
For her last mother's day gift buy her a copy of the Dante Alighieri's "The Divine Comedy" and highlight the circle of hell reserved for betrayers.
Or...
Stop trying to build a relationship on toxic grounds because her path has already been chosen and should you have children avoid her.
The mom is with her REAL family.
But when she gets sick, Vanessa and Carson better be the ones to take care of her.
You have a bad history with the cops? |then don't piss people off to the point where they call them.
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Wtf. She needs therapy her mom fucked her head up. She’s apologizing for her “family” trying to take her house and “punish”
Her in her 30s. I’m genuinely sad that she thinks that way
Man dude I hope OP gets help. You can't control nor change people. She'll go mad trying to get validation from her mother. I can just hear the bitterness and the jealously from the post. Please move on OP.
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and because on boyfriend treats her badly, she is traumatized with cops......logical...
lol I’m beginning to think all the cop did was leave her and with a nasty note. Moms pride could not handle being dumped so started this whole narrative of cops are evil crap to feel better. Mom seems a bit crazy with men and boundaries. Also had a huge hate of op because mom could not party anymore.
The Mum's new husband sounds just as abusive as the ex-cop. Op Mum is manipulative and evil, as well; OP is constantly walking on eggshells and apologising to her.
This mom is such a weak human. No relationship ever goes before your kid
Seems like the mom has a type, people who like to cut her off from her family
The whole family seems awful, including the mother. Leave them all in your rear view and have concentrate on your future
OP is a HUGE doormat.
Why is OP more worried about her mother's distorted logic?
OP needs to go NC with her mom and step family.
Some people shouldn't be parents. OP's mom is a lost cause. Better for OP to treat her mom as dead, not deal with her (absolute no contact) and move on . Op should focus more on her own life, her career and probably raising a loving family of her own drawing from her past experiences life lessons from her relationship with her mother and use those as guideposts to be a good person and mother to her would be children.
Her mom needs to go to therapy not all cops are abusive a holes.
Agreed.
Most are just working a job, and the egg donor's trauma isn't a get out of jail free card.
Hopefully, the Stepfather and his daughter were charged with Criminal Damage (of the door locks) and Criminal Trespass (they knew they had been refused entry).
NTA, your mother is a horrible person! Get a Restraining Order on ALL of them and prosecute the Step Father for breaking in!
OP's Mom is a Monster!
What mother, in her right mind would expect her own child to put up with emotional & physical abuse for the sake of an entitled, petty, jealous strp-child!? Who does step-dad think he is to just kick OP out of the house she worked for!? Mom enabled this situation!? What is wrong with all these toxic A-holes!!!!???
You past does not entitle you to abuse the people you are supposed to love & protect!
Just go no contact with your mother, she isn’t good to you!
The mom in the story by her own admission failed everyone in her previous marriage. i dont think she could handle seeing OP, a reminder of her failure. Instead of picking up the pieces the mom would rather move on to relationships without that baggage, a truly disgusting person to have become a parent.
Never chase a drama lama as it runes off offended , just enjoy the quiet before they come back wanting something new from you. Moms block means nothing. Its just a self inflicted time out she deserves.
Hope OP never tells her if she ever has kids
The mother is moving from one abusive relationship to another. She is so afraid upsetting Carson she's willing to let her own daughter go. The mother is a broken person who needs help big time.
I foresee that Vanessa will make life a hell for OP's mother and then Carson will kick her out. She's living on borrowed time trying to build the family she will never experience. She squandered her opportunity to reconnect with her real daughter so she has dug her own grave.
However, I believe that OP will have the big heart to forgive her mother when she comes knocking on the door. It seems OP would do anything to have her family around her despite their flaws.
Vanessa and Carson should be given some punishment by the law for breaking into OP's house and changing the locks. How is it possible they got away with that?
mom is delusional for thinking she is living her own life. she traded an abusive cop bf for a manipulative husband and step daughter. still bending over for other, just in a different form. smh.
Carson deserved some crosshairs
OP’s mom needs to see a freakin therapist because her universally unhealthy view of police is dangerous af. And the fact she seems to choose unhealthy relationships and punish her daughter is the real problem.
One time I dated a carpenter and he was jealous, petty, controlling and insecure. He cheated on me and left me. To this day I'm absolutely terrified of carpenters.and can't go into Home Depot because they swarm there! Last year my house caught fire and when I saw the builders using wood to fix it I had a panic attack. I don't believe in Jesus or Harrison Ford because they were carpenters.....
Op needs to go no contact with mom. Mom seems to actively look for abusive partners, treats her own daughter like crap and does not deserve to ruin OPs life. Go no contact
having the stepfather and stepsister charged is a must but so is forever cutting you mother out of your life, her betrayal is unforgivable, sue them for damages and also sue the company that changed your locks without your permission. block all their numbers and SM and get restraining orders on all of them, never have any form of contact with your mother again and keep any future children you might have away from them
Forget your mother's past "trauma" with the cops. Carson and Vanessa broke into your house, changed the locks. Did they actually expect that what they did was going to persuade her to let Vanessa live with her after OP explicitly told them no from the get-go? So crazy
It seems like the mom has awful decision making and now those awful choices are affecting her daughter. NTA.
So the mothers trauma is most likely related to drug use.
Your rite for what you did you should have called the police
Most police are either corrupt or shielding a corrupt coworker and thus corrupt. However, there are times that they are needed. Op was completely within her rights to call them and her mom is unhinged.
Just give her a court paper removing her from your family registry and tell her good luck
It doesn’t matter what kind of trauma your mom had with the police, your stepdad and his daughter were the ones that caused you to have to call them…. They knew how she would feel, they knew this you need to just move on and go no contact you4 mom will either miss you and wake up to the treatment you got from from you steps and want to talk or she won’t care.
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Op should have Gotten ahead of this and Contacted her Family and Friends and Made a post about them and then Cut them Off.
Please Do Not do, what Op did in this Post, if you're going through Anything Serious.
OP get yourself into therapy and forget your Mom. She is toxic and will not change.