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  • @waterheaterservices
    @waterheaterservices 4 ปีที่แล้ว +196

    The first thing women notice about me at sixty is I am much too old for them. 😆

    • @waterheaterservices
      @waterheaterservices 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Joking aside my girlfriend is twenty two. Be encouraged.

    • @edmundooliver7584
      @edmundooliver7584 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@waterheaterservices that's to young for me but I notice women either hate me or love me but the one's that hate me secretly like me.

    • @bigpants6121
      @bigpants6121 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Try not looking 60!

    • @Known-unknowns
      @Known-unknowns 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Mate . . . You need more money.

    • @keithdavis6852
      @keithdavis6852 ปีที่แล้ว

      Know what you mean

  • @jamesgeorge65
    @jamesgeorge65 4 ปีที่แล้ว +381

    I think the main thing men over 40 have to be concerned about, when it comes to physical appearance, is to not be overweight. You don't look good in any clothing when you're fat.

    • @dogbarbill
      @dogbarbill 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Guilty as charged.

    • @jamesgeorge65
      @jamesgeorge65 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@dogbarbill Me too, man. But I'm finally losing weight now. Maybe someone can find this helpful. Five weeks ago I started 16/8 fasting. It means I eat in an 8 hour window throughout the day, and eat nothing for 16 hours of the day. Nothing after 7pm and nothing till 11am the next day. I've coupled this method with not going over the number of calories for the weight I'm shooting for. That formula is as follows: Say you want to be at 200 pounds. Take 200 x 12 = 2,400. No more than 2,400 calories. It works. I'm actually shooting for 250 and will re-evaluate once I get there. This works! Been doing this for five weeks. If your appetite is out of control like mine was being on 16/8 will help bring it down as well as eating foods that fill you up like potatoes and apples. Chicken and veges help your appetite too. No salt added tomato sauce helps my appetite as well.

    • @IAMBENNYBLANCO.
      @IAMBENNYBLANCO. 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      And the way they dress.... there are dudes that do not take pride in their appearance.....or how they dress. You don't know the looks I get from married women checking me out because I dress good....while their hubbys don't care how they dress..... come on teammates....gotta do better .

    • @suncookrocks
      @suncookrocks 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@jamesgeorge65 Ditch the potatoes, as well as anything "white' like white rice, white bread, white pasta, etc. Waiting until 11:00 am to eat is also a bad idea. You're much better off to eat several small, snack-sized meals thru out the day rather that 3 large meals. Having more smaller meals keeps you metabolism going all day, and *_that's_* what burns the calories. This is what worked for me. I went from 245lbs down to 162lbs in about 8 months (I'm 5'11").

    • @deekasman5018
      @deekasman5018 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      YES! Especially if you don't like it in a woman. Being the proper weight shows you are knowledgeable and have discipline

  • @LowdenFretter
    @LowdenFretter 4 ปีที่แล้ว +132

    I made up a saying a few years ago while speaking with someone about dressing well. They asked why I always dress well. I replied, "A person should present themselves to the world, rather than inflict themselves upon it."

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Love that Craig, well said!

    • @marjoriemorris5849
      @marjoriemorris5849 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That is 🤯 and 💯 and 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • @johnsonkids3058
      @johnsonkids3058 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Craig D a person should present his or herself .......and people should present themselves.....

    • @raycrook4802
      @raycrook4802 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm stealing that LOL

    • @chadwickdavis1749
      @chadwickdavis1749 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Well said!

  • @45auto82
    @45auto82 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    As my Father used to say to me: “You only have one opportunity to make a First Impression!” By making it a good one, you are showing head and shoulders above 95% of the other men around, which comes across much better to women and makes you more attractive to start…no matter what else you do, good grooming and being one level up on clothing puts you in the circle of champions.

    • @searain1573
      @searain1573 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other.
      Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
      Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
      Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men.
      Women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man.

  • @willisix2554
    @willisix2554 4 ปีที่แล้ว +356

    As my grandfather used to say" when you leave your house, look like somebody"

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Well said!

    • @cristip8931
      @cristip8931 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      your grandfather was a wise man!

    • @t.4684
      @t.4684 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yep, you're right, but not like a tramp or similar.

    • @francinegray9383
      @francinegray9383 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      "....look like somebody..." Love that!

    • @jamminj.b.4005
      @jamminj.b.4005 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Willi six simple but excellent statement. Thx for sharing!

  • @michaelgarlickmovies
    @michaelgarlickmovies 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    "Does your appearance command respect?" is how it was explained to me. How you present yourself, weight, grooming, clothing, polished shoes, watch, teeth, manners and so on gives subliminal signals to people.

  • @generally_good_guy
    @generally_good_guy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    This is so true. I have recently pulled back from dating sites and seeking a partner because, after reading the profiles of the women who are not scammers (there are a lot of scammers, stay alert), I realized I have the look but not the foundation. Women want a man who is has his life in control. Make long term plans, be responsible with finances and correspondence, put your adult responsibility to the fore. After this, if you look stylish/smart and have something you're passionate about and hopefully can converse on a few subjects, you are "the real deal". So now I do some work so I can offer a quality woman the man she is hoping for. Not another boy with no sense of self.

    • @Bakerygo
      @Bakerygo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This is spot on. As a woman I agree.

  • @boscokid9524
    @boscokid9524 4 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    I’m 61 and married for 29 years but I still keep my shoes looking polished and clean all the time. I am customer facing in my job and unkept shoes stand out. I was taught early on to dress one level above your audience and that stuck with me. Plus I just like looking put together. It helps me feel good about myself.

    • @merthur88
      @merthur88 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      what a good viewpoint

    • @josepharato262
      @josepharato262 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Well one thing's for sure my mom told me whenever I go outside make sure I got clean underwear on and I'm 68 years old

    • @brownpunk1794
      @brownpunk1794 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@josepharato262 do u shit ur pants frequently?😥

    • @laserleftfootttt7683
      @laserleftfootttt7683 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nice shiny well maintained shoes screams undercover policeman. Some broads like cops.

    • @elephantsmemory3142
      @elephantsmemory3142 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@laserleftfootttt7683 Ironed creases down the front of their jeans mean drug squad in England

  • @tackyman2011
    @tackyman2011 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Rule 1: Be extremely attractive. Rule 2: Don't be unattractive.

  • @calvinsmith1295
    @calvinsmith1295 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Hi John. I've always lived by the adage of "you never get a second chance to make a first impression". That pretty much sums up how I live my life!
    I pay particular attention to my appearance and in particular my personal hygiene. (thanks to you I've picked up some invaluable fashion tips and now have a shoe and wardrobe collection you would be proud of)
    Its certainly paid dividends in most areas of my life which in turn bolsters my confidence.
    I now have a wonderfull partner who I met several months ago and I credit much of your advice on having made this happen.
    Always look forward your videos!
    Hi and best wishes from Australia.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You're the man Calvin! Thank you very much for your comment! You had it in you all along my friend!

  • @beachbum1927
    @beachbum1927 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Always appreciate your videos. This may be my own personal quirk, but I find that the more money I make, the less I want to be noticed or to stand out in any way.

  • @David-wo9un
    @David-wo9un 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you John for all the information in this video. There are so many little things that are easily overlooked which may send and unintended message. I appreciate the easy to apply suggestions all your videos provide.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching and commenting David!

  • @deekasman5018
    @deekasman5018 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Spot on and in the correct order! Be confident, make the best of what you have, show your maturity by understanding how to put an outfit together and how you treat others/everyone. Good shoes are like good tires on an old car, shows this vehicle moves!

    • @andyallen7437
      @andyallen7437 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I like your shoe analogy 👍🏼

  • @Chibster83
    @Chibster83 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I wish my father had this talk with me a long time ago. Amazing advice John!

  • @pstamaria
    @pstamaria 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    True! Even professionally, I've been told that's the first think most business people look at!

  • @garyabrahams7609
    @garyabrahams7609 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great topic John. I couldn’t agree more regarding self presentation. Lacking self confidence? Well half the challenge is overcome when a person is well put together. I also appreciate your comment “making the most with what you have”
    Thank you

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well said Gary! Thanks for watching!

  • @josephgomez1716
    @josephgomez1716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great post thank you, Joseph!!!

  • @eds73100
    @eds73100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    great advice !! I do pay attention to my personal appearance dress well, stay well groomed, and wear age appropriate clothes but always wear what you're comfortable wearing. Yes and always show respect to your fellow humans

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for commenting Edward!

  • @mikehenry1049
    @mikehenry1049 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    John, always enjoy your content and delivery. Great job!

  • @michaelmoreton5042
    @michaelmoreton5042 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Don't dress for the job that you have, dress for the job that you want

    • @adrianasilitonga7335
      @adrianasilitonga7335 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Qoq..this is new (to me)..tx man.. Ever since college, if I meet my ex teachers or friends they'd all say "doctor or teacher now?"
      I keep wondering how ppl guess.. Now I'm in my late 40's I have a simple dress code.. One day I decided to try something new..and my son said: " mom, don't change ur style.. It's a bitchy bizniz woman..keep it that way"
      And I was like: OMG I was flattered..
      And now reading ur comment, now I know why I dress the way I do.. I've always wanted to BECOME a business woman.. Hahaha..
      Tx, dude..

    • @mikaelmoss1233
      @mikaelmoss1233 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      There was quite funne meme about man in space suit working in Burger King;)

    • @chadball4526
      @chadball4526 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Great. Now I need to find mandalorian armour.

    • @BooDamnHoo
      @BooDamnHoo 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Doesn't work if you work on a ranch, farm, are a garbage collector, or a plumber. Suits don't go.

    • @jamesryan82
      @jamesryan82 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Mmmm not sure I can go to the Dock yard in an astronaut suit

  • @ninjakris3004
    @ninjakris3004 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    You know, I was talking to a friend a few months ago and he asked how much I spend on clothes and other personal products. I didn’t feel comfortable telling him the truth ,but said I didn’t think $2,000 a year was out of line for him. He freaked out on me like I was on drugs. I stated that $2,000 a year is only $500 every three months. I said…“Dude, you spend that $500 a month easy going out to eat and drinking by yourself and you come home by yourself!” After a long heated heart to heart, we decided he would try it with my help. Proud to say, a woman at his work noticed his change in dress / style and they’ve been dating for a bit now.

  • @Mensdivorcecoach
    @Mensdivorcecoach 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    YES!!! Thank you for addressing this matter. Through the research I've done about dating there's a term in psychology known as "thin slicing". People look at ones posture, facial expressions, gait, appearance, all within a split second. A study was done to determine if someone's initial first impression can be changed. More often than not, it's usually more confirmed than changed. Completely agree with you regarding women looking for a male that looks well put together and it's not being a gold digger. It's more about the choices a man makes that catches a women's attention. One of the top 5 areas a female looks for in a male is grooming and hygiene. We men, we're much easier, we want someone fun. Thank for sharing this.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for watching and commenting!

  • @josephbuttigieg7986
    @josephbuttigieg7986 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Some valuable advice John. Always interesting hearing you. Thanks.

  • @sandeeptripathy1179
    @sandeeptripathy1179 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent points made.

  • @O.Shawabkeh
    @O.Shawabkeh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Excellent advice, well presented in a neutral and relaxed way, short and on point.

  • @ronm6585
    @ronm6585 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks John, great tips.

  • @splksgt019
    @splksgt019 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Very valued advice. In my humble opinion and experience, women first of all notice your shoes first, what you're wearing and how you carry yourself but not necessarily each and every time but for the most part for sure . Your information is bang on and I for one derive much assistance. Thank you, John.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching and for commenting!

  • @ericboes1012
    @ericboes1012 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I can relate to all this. It's not being materialistic, it's showing your best you...will you are. To build confidence after my divorce, I played a game where, if I made eye contact with a woman in passing, I "had" to smile and hello. I found it to really help boost confidence. Great video.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for watching and commenting Eric! Great game!

  • @chanproperties
    @chanproperties 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    If you have a Porsche 911 Carrera, do not take it out on your first date. Drive your Pickup Truck or your 200k Mile Honda instead. Wear Casio and not Rolex, These can wait until your 6th date. Never flaunt your wealth until you know who she is and what her intentions are.

  • @michaelalexander8631
    @michaelalexander8631 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Excellent advice, especially “it’s not all about you” and “care about yourself.” Over the years, I have learned that the majority of women are attractive to men who project a sense of “quiet confidence” and possess genuine listening skills.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Great point Michael! Thanks for commenting!

    • @joebloggs619
      @joebloggs619 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh, the air of quiet confidence is attractive in men, as is ability to listen. But I like guys who tell me about their lives and what they do, what they think or feel etc.I don't want to have to talk about me and my life. That's so boring, to me.

    • @bellavita2005
      @bellavita2005 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Oh Yes! listening skills are important! I can not tell you how many coffee dates I have had with a man that has asked me out, but then does not asked me a single question. He will just talk and talk and talk some more. And talk. When we say good bye, many times he will know nothing more about me then when he did upon saying hello. Literary, it's that bad! What that tells me is that he has no interest in me. All he is interested in is himself.

    • @BRIANDER100
      @BRIANDER100 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@joebloggs619 what makes up quiet confidence ?

    • @peterredit9556
      @peterredit9556 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      L

  • @evansowino5672
    @evansowino5672 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks.An eye opener there.

  • @mbeenz
    @mbeenz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great Video! Many Thanx

  • @philippecollard1716
    @philippecollard1716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I genuinely love your videos. Always some excellent advice and you're such a classy man!

  • @BobsCreativeDays
    @BobsCreativeDays 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Start by liking yourself. Care about yourself and what you project to the outside world. A little self-care goes a long way to being happy. Thanks for another great video John!👍

  • @philipbarrick4149
    @philipbarrick4149 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for your calm demeanor and really good advice on what to wear An how to act in confidence/ Body language

  • @coalroller9482
    @coalroller9482 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    She is right I always were running shoes because I'm running to get things done and loving every minute of it ,plus they are comfortable

  • @pro275
    @pro275 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I’m 39 coming up to 40 in a few months, and I love dressing my age, no label clothing, just good fitting clothes, and shoes 👞. Every time I dress up, I feel a Million Dollars and can confidently talk to any/most women. Get compliments of looking late 20s to early 30s. Good dress sense and a good Fade haircut and a tidy moustache and beard go a long way. Take care of yourself Lads

    • @bluemoon2934
      @bluemoon2934 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      If you still gettin compliments from the ladies when you over 65 years old,let me know

    • @lmp9256
      @lmp9256 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      39 is barely beyond 32. If you get late 20s guesses in your 50s then bother telling someone.

  • @RobinsWatchJourney
    @RobinsWatchJourney 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    I sent this video to a female co-worker who sent back this response: “That is 100% spot on accurate. Every word.”

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ha! Nice. Thanks Robin!

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Today it's 100% correct and tomorrow it's 0% correct. Dress well for yourself first -- if others appreciate it, that's great. Women are whimsical and capricious by nature and change like the moon. If you dress to please them you're insecure.

    • @marjoriemorris5849
      @marjoriemorris5849 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      J Williams women change like the moon? The moon is constant. Sometimes you just don’t see all of it.

    • @beetleything1864
      @beetleything1864 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      1 swallow doesn't mean spring is here....

    • @RobinsWatchJourney
      @RobinsWatchJourney 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Beetleything Very clever. Did you make that up yourself?

  • @marcelfoto1
    @marcelfoto1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing. Thanks for the tips you've provided in this video...

  • @jonasis22
    @jonasis22 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    great video John!!!

  • @carmelolebron7918
    @carmelolebron7918 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is my first video I see from this Chanel and I really loved it. Thank you! Greetings from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Greetings! Thanks for watching and commenting!

  • @deegee3195
    @deegee3195 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Really good content, great tips, I agree pretty much with everything u said in the vid. Not many Brits follow this advice!! Good for u - keep it going, I enjoy your channel.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you very much for watching and commenting!

  • @raymond4u100
    @raymond4u100 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great stuff man,thank you

  • @the3cl3ctic
    @the3cl3ctic 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Spot on regarding the excuses and rationalizations. As soon as you let go of these you free up a lot of mental energy. Energy which can be spent a lot better!

  • @allyburg7145
    @allyburg7145 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    My school headmaster told be once you can tell a man by his shoes, I never forgot those words , I am now 68 and have never Been without female friends !!

    • @prestonrobert2625
      @prestonrobert2625 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      It just so funny spit shined my shoes just don't do it while drinking a root beer.

    • @polycrase
      @polycrase 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      "Friend Zoned" or friends you have boned?

  • @gilshuga1970
    @gilshuga1970 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Great points, John. Even when you have a woman in your life. Caring how you look and act shows you have respect for her. And they like it when other women are envious! 😉

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very true! Thank you for commenting!

    • @joebloggs619
      @joebloggs619 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, it does show your respect for her. But, no, they don't like other women ogling their man. They get very jealous and angry about it, actually.... You hear comments like: I saw her looking you over and how you were lapping it all up, looking back at her....We won't ever be anywhere she is likely to be ever again! And, if you look at other women one more time, I'm outta here. I'll be looking out for a better man myself. Plenty of nice juicy male fish in the sea for me...You can have her. And I'll take my pick of the best ones..."

    • @luiznazario4628
      @luiznazario4628 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@joebloggs619 Gil is saying the truth fortunately, when your guy/bf/husband is not envied by others women, your current woman will leave without thinking a second, because she knows she will broke you down, you will cry or even begging her to stay, and therefore the place will be vacant after her,but if she knows that as soon as she goes, another woman will replaces her in the 5s following her departure, she will think twice before leaving you.

  • @tonyphibbs479
    @tonyphibbs479 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great message. I can honestly say that this advice applies in business as well. If you want to make an impression to a client or prospect you have to pay attention to this exact same advice.

  • @amelmatt5641
    @amelmatt5641 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video, thanks !

  • @dariodeagostini5176
    @dariodeagostini5176 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I didn't have high expectations for this video but it was a very pleasant surprise! thank you for creating this

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you very much for watching, and commenting!

  • @markg.4246
    @markg.4246 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    Our feet are literally the foundation for how we present ourselves. I even keep my work boots clean, and people notice. Both men and women.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for commenting Mark!

    • @merthur88
      @merthur88 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I noticed a guy yesterday that had on cool boots and I told him I liked them

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Mike D I do get some good natured ribbing from some of my coworkers, but at 63, you have to take care of yourself!💪😉

    • @willaphillips5771
      @willaphillips5771 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      People notice your shoes! Keep them clean and take care of them. One of the things I remind my 9 year old son of often! When going in public, try to look your best.

  • @johnsuzy98
    @johnsuzy98 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great stuff!👍🏻😎

  • @greggraham9785
    @greggraham9785 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Good evening John, how are you? Thank you once again for the information. I will take it under advisement. Have a great night brother!

  • @mikewoodson6930
    @mikewoodson6930 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Gentlemen, without a doubt, Confidence is the number 1 thing women are attracted to, your welcome. Great video!

  • @sterlingmarshel6299
    @sterlingmarshel6299 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Posture, eye contact and listening skills.
    Be confident not arrogant. Be well read but not a know it all. Wear clothes that fit. ( labels are BS). Well groomed is key. Good info

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you very much Sterling!

    • @willisix2554
      @willisix2554 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You say arrogant like it's a bad thing

    • @bellavita2005
      @bellavita2005 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@willisix2554 It depends on if you want a partner or not.

    • @willisix2554
      @willisix2554 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bellavita2005 never had that problem hahaha...

  • @nickbarahona2989
    @nickbarahona2989 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very good advice , i did none of these , but i got lucky and the girl changed me , starting with the way I dressed, i must say that it doesn’t happen often ,where the girl will look at you, and take on the job to dress you up .

  • @michaelmallal9101
    @michaelmallal9101 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good advice.

  • @Thebreadedfurflinger
    @Thebreadedfurflinger 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    As I commented on a previous video,starting over at 62 years old,after losing my spouse to a stroke, appearance is the first thing they notice,but if you come off arrogant or self centered,then appearance goes out the window,find a balance between the 2 dress & how you come off,great video & great advice 🤟

    • @joebloggs619
      @joebloggs619 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes, it is hard to start again at 62, for a widower. But, if you look after your health and look as if you still care about life and yourself, you will be in luck because there are so many lonely widows who would love such a man. Hint: Don't look like you are managing very well alone as a man eg cooking, dressing too well etc. Because older women like to think a man needs them to help him cope with certain things women know how to handle best eg clothes, cooking etc. Basically, unlike younger women, the old girls want a man they can love and take care of, help him with things he is not too good at eg colour coordinating his clothes. Leave them something they can do to feel wanted, useful, necessary to your life and wellbeing as a man. Because that gives meaning to their own lives as older women. Though they may complain about your atrocious dress style, inability to figure out how to even boil an egg and other such things certain older males are notorious for not knowing. It is kind of quaint and cute and appealing about them and older women can feel needed by them. So longer as you can handle some of the traditional male stuff many women feel overwhelmed by eg things mechanical or involving directions. We can never figure out where North is, but men seem to know such things instinctively. We marvel at such male attributes. I can stare at some minor mechanical matter for hours trying to fix it. Then along comes some male and just clicks something and it's fixed in a second and I'm thing "What on earth...This must be some sort of magic!". Meanwhile, kind man smiles, says "Noworries, mate!" and just walks away and I'm thinking "Hey, I like you, mate, come back... I'll break a few more gizmos or garnets, so you can fix them for me, just to see you again...Hey, I'll even cook you a nice meal, take up the legs of those disgusting too long trousers I see you in..."

    • @jimc7320
      @jimc7320 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@joebloggs619 Thank you, great advice from this widower who lost his beautiful wife 2 years ago. Your keen insight is very much what I have experienced most recently. This 10 minute video goes into a unique direction that ties many well need and critical life lessons together. Great Job!

  • @tenob905
    @tenob905 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    In the past I have disagreed with you on certain things but with this vid you are 1000% right. I love the humor..Nice vid & great job

  • @tedwilliams765
    @tedwilliams765 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great video!!

  • @rogerhansen1314
    @rogerhansen1314 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    clean polished topsiders

  • @nvmbrsky
    @nvmbrsky 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    A well fitted button down shirt with sleeves rolled up a little and a nice watch! So handsome! Also just a touch of cologne, neatly groomed hair and facial hair. A nice smile with a twinkle in his eyes & I will notice him! It's an understated but confident look.

    • @BRIANDER100
      @BRIANDER100 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      instead of a button down shirt what about a long sleeve shirt with no buttons ?

    • @BRIANDER100
      @BRIANDER100 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      what if the guy wears a basic watch ?

    • @lawrencebeck1144
      @lawrencebeck1144 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      couple of things. throw the watch in a drawer, you will soon realize you are looking at that thing way more than you should. instead look around and enjoy the scene being a lawn, a forest, or the city skyline. second, wear what you are comfortable in, being uncomfortable will be reflected in your mannerisms, your walk, your confidence.

  • @spectre5x5
    @spectre5x5 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great list! Women DO notice your shoes. I caught a couple of ladies noticing my wingtips the other day. One even told me that they looked very nice. Something about the shoes.

  • @ayodelesylvester929
    @ayodelesylvester929 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you

  • @hypersports4796
    @hypersports4796 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your information is on point. I used to dress like you dress minus the pattern pants, and women seem to always flirt with me from 9 yrs and 21 years younger and since I walked away from my company I have dressed down because I lost my confidence due to my epic mistakes women don’t approach me anymore

  • @paullucas7053
    @paullucas7053 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Excellent video and advice. Women have told me they notice three things about a man right away: his shoes, his fingernails and his smile.....so true.....shined shoes, clean fingernails and a smile go a long way. Keep up the good work 😁

  • @MTobin1000
    @MTobin1000 4 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Clean and polished dress shoes, casual shoes, wingtips, brogue, oxford, derby, loafer....shoes, shoes, shoes.....get some quality shoes !!!!

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you!

    • @ramaarbaird4137
      @ramaarbaird4137 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don't forget about the sexiest mens shoe available "DOUBLE MONK STRAP SHOES "!!!!!!!

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I regularly clean and shine my work boots. People notice, especially when you work at an international airport.

    • @harrycojones4273
      @harrycojones4273 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      MTobin1000 ..flip-flops

    • @hemisuperzee1287
      @hemisuperzee1287 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My Husky wears nice booties when its below zero..........the lady dogs been checkin' him out a lot more.

  • @kikon88
    @kikon88 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This knowledge is gold
    Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @sec1rxg
    @sec1rxg 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Preach my dude. This video speaking the truth.

  • @keithosorio8598
    @keithosorio8598 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Excellent video. I am absolutely amazed at how little effort many men put into their appearance. Also, I get more compliments on my shoes than anything else I wear and I don’t own any $400 shoes.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too Keith! Thanks for commenting my friend!

    • @billycarter1911
      @billycarter1911 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      What kind of shoes do you have?

    • @keithosorio8598
      @keithosorio8598 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Billy Carter I have so many different shoes. Cole Hahn are probably my favorite inexpensive brand. I also really like Bull Boxer for cheap but good looking shoes and boots. My shoes need to be comfortable and stylish. I won’t wear uncomfortable shoes. Also like New Republic Chelsea boots.

  • @rimidalV_2020
    @rimidalV_2020 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Simple yet beautiful & helpful tips Sir. Thank you for this relevant video. More Power to your channel! 👍🙌

  • @brucedelaney9606
    @brucedelaney9606 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Useful advise, every point.

  • @mujunialbert84
    @mujunialbert84 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are a good coach. Thanks.

  • @ralphaldana
    @ralphaldana 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    There is not a second chance for a first good impression..!!
    I've found a cheap excuse about that guys not taking care about how their look.
    Look smart, well dressed and groomed is wellbeing for ourselfves and our Ladies.
    Great video Mate!
    Cheers.

    • @adrianasilitonga7335
      @adrianasilitonga7335 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      True, man.. I don't understand how a 45-47y.o. man can dress like a manchild..baggy shorts, oversized tee..omg.. And that's on daily bases, not going to the gym!!

    • @ralphaldana
      @ralphaldana 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@adrianasilitonga7335 📌👍

  • @agr8fulson
    @agr8fulson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    loved this, and if i may add just one thing, most guys over 40 are not seeing as well as they used to! you look in the bathroom mirror; everything looks cool so out the door you go. i bought 1% readers at Walmart and - whoa! - the brows, the ear hair, the dry skin ... it all jumps out. 40+? readers. highly recommended. US$7.99

    • @billycarter1911
      @billycarter1911 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Great point that gray hair grows out over night in all the wrong places.

  • @TonyMilanoOfficial
    @TonyMilanoOfficial 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good info. Just subbed!

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Tony! Glad you're here!

  • @maxduhamel4310
    @maxduhamel4310 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love what you’re doing keep it up brother cheers from Australia

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks, will do!

  • @zeeshanansari939
    @zeeshanansari939 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    John, great advice. Even for someone like married, settled folks not looking for relationship.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes, maintaining yourself doesn't stop once you're married.

    • @marjoriemorris5849
      @marjoriemorris5849 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      40 Over Fashion yup, so many guys (and gals) think they don’t need to try anymore once they caught their fish. But it always matters. It’s an element of respect.

  • @jobro524
    @jobro524 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Awesome Video see you next time

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching and commenting!

  • @ibdam1
    @ibdam1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    GREAT video🙏🏽

  • @kevinm5612
    @kevinm5612 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    All good reminders!

  • @chardo24
    @chardo24 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    We are billboards of ourself(s), even when we think no one can see.

  • @jamminj.b.4005
    @jamminj.b.4005 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    That shade thrown re: some guys just don’t care about their appearance.” Truth, but harsh. Nonetheless great points John ty

    • @drizzle452
      @drizzle452 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      What a simp! Women love rich dudes and men that are confident. Good luck with your grooming/fashion tips.

  • @yeildo1492
    @yeildo1492 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The introduction of this is spot on. The guys who refuse to wear adult clothing and shoes, groom, and bathe regularly are the same guys who wonder why the hot chicks are not interested.
    What are you really telling her when you act like this? "You are not important to me."

  • @adrianasilitonga7335
    @adrianasilitonga7335 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Man, i just found your channel.. This is my first.. You're good, man.. Different from other channels.. Always saying the women are only into older men because of their money..that's not it.. What u say is so true..
    Finally...a real gentleman.. TQ

  • @kandkhudson
    @kandkhudson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Sir, I am married but everything you talked about I do to help my marriage stay in check. Good stuff. I have a brio from one of your other videos, Good stuff.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes! This is great point! Thanks for commenting!

    • @KUROSHURA
      @KUROSHURA 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m married also and staying properly groomed keeps my Wife in her feminine energy.

  • @designyourlifepodcast5613
    @designyourlifepodcast5613 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey John,
    Great video and I like most of your advices. On the one thing I disagree with you is in the dressing part. I dress well and always try my best to represent myself the best way possible, but I do that for me. I like to look good and dress well for me. In my 42 years on this earth I realized that that 99% of women don’t care about that. The majority of good looking women I know and I see on the streets, date/marry guys with no since of style. Guys that make all the style mistakes you talk about. Women are attractive to attitude, swag, sense of humor and then of course the shallow stuff like power and good looks(not in all cases) but it is a factor. The reality is that dressing well is not an indicator for attracting women, that is in my humble opinion. Love the content, and I look forward to having this discussion with you in person at mensfluential.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for the feedback and your perspective.

    • @marjoriemorris5849
      @marjoriemorris5849 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Woman here. I find a man with style to be more attractive than a man who doesn’t care about how he dresses. Doesn’t need to be flashy, but appropriate and good quality. The shoes are important. My guy loves high quality dress shoes and to me the fact that he cares about that is sexy.

  • @Trunk874
    @Trunk874 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    A very clean and mature video. Well done man. Thanks for sharing with us. God bless you.

  • @Redmallard
    @Redmallard 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good tips.

  • @robmckinley5475
    @robmckinley5475 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This totally depends on the type of women you're into. I like hippy type sporty chicks who really aren't too bothered about they're own appearance most of the time. But can glam up as and when it's required. Most important is to meet them through a shared interest not because ur wearing the correct footwear.

    • @davidcopson5800
      @davidcopson5800 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      *their own appearance.

    • @robmckinley5475
      @robmckinley5475 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@davidcopson5800 yeah sorry, auto type on my new phone 🤦‍♂️

  • @geneswiech4381
    @geneswiech4381 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love the content of your videos... big fan.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Gene!

    • @geneswiech4381
      @geneswiech4381 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      40 Over Fashion I work in sales and I apply your tips and it help a lot .
      😉
      Keep up the amazing videos
      Thanks
      Gene from Pittsburgh

  • @mikenorthern1024
    @mikenorthern1024 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great advice.

  • @saidtadros3422
    @saidtadros3422 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Spot on...👍
    All the respect to you.

  • @user-bp3ux4xo3q
    @user-bp3ux4xo3q 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Great video John! Agree with everything. The older I get (50+) the more I see how it's just not too difficult to stand out from other men. I went into my barber yesterday wearing a nice pair of Levi's, Allen Edmond boots and a retro cycling sweater and got loads of complements. My barber went on and on - "dude you always look so GQ and stylish" - Really? Jeans and a sweater? With the "casualization" of men in America, a little effort in your appearance goes a long way.

    • @40OverFashion
      @40OverFashion  4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Well said! This is so true! It takes so little effort these days to look a step above the rest.

    • @andyallen7437
      @andyallen7437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Here in England a 'casual' is a lad or guy who loves football ,proberbly is involved in a firm but wears nice italian or other European clothing like c.p company for instance, always looking at one upmanship regarding wearing something no one else has, in fact its more about getting an approving nod from another casual than impressing women 🤣 , it started as a sub-culture but you see the look everywhere now , just thought id comment on how things differ , its held me in good sted since my youth, all the best .....

    • @bignose16
      @bignose16 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@andyallen7437 Smart casual like a full tracksuit is a clean and accomplished look. Like a footballer in training or a young Dad taking his kid to the shop. Always reminds me of PE teachers.

    • @andyallen7437
      @andyallen7437 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bignose16 its the designer that singles a casual out , FILA and Sergio Tacchini for instance based on 80s tennis stars Bjorn Borg and John McEnroe ...

  • @johncoll4456
    @johncoll4456 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Invest in a good pair of shoes and make sure they're polished. Invest in a good tailor for your important clothes.

    • @clintfalk
      @clintfalk 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't think you really need to "invest" much money in nice clothing. You can be on a budget and still be discerning. I am very particular about my clothing, how well it fits and the color as appropriate to my complexion. I get a lot of my clothes off of Ebay, actually. The biggest investment has been the time in finding clothes that fit me well, and the styles that look good on me, and how I want to present myself.

    • @jonclarkson5911
      @jonclarkson5911 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Macy's Ralph Lauren suits fit me like they're tailored. 100% summer wool or winter wool. It does it for me.

  • @selenajarv8763
    @selenajarv8763 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh nooooo this is the first video i watch of you and im already IN LOVE !!!!!!!!!

  • @notellyearight1
    @notellyearight1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Interesting topic...couldn't quit listening! 😁

  • @deegee3195
    @deegee3195 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    By the way John - hair looking sharp!

  • @rickyfrancis4150
    @rickyfrancis4150 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Awesome tips, much appreciated, encouraging and fortifying lot...am just about rebooting myself at 48 now ...thanks a ton 👈🙋‍♂️🙂

  • @msp459
    @msp459 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Be yourself, but always your better self! Thats all ! Thats about what your channel is!! Sorry for my bad writing ... i just learn english by my self !

  • @michaelmcmanus5320
    @michaelmcmanus5320 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i have just ordered a new pair have 3 already love them very comfortable