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Once a coworker tried to embarrass me in front of a group of people by making a stupid joke. I laughed along with everyone else and, with a smile, I said, "You know , that would have hurt...if I had any repect for you". The smile on his face disappeared and he never tried it again.
I was told at work that I am lazy at age 65 working with 4 men I was the 5th on a team. So I decided to retire and told my boss it is time for me to go because I became a victim and accused of being lazy. Moral of the story..my boss decided to allow me to retire but because I was accused of being lazy..she refused to replace me on their team. Said well you said she was lazy. Do without her..2 years later they still cant manage without me. Walk away if you not appreciated.
Your story is a powerful reminder to value self-respect over unfair treatment. Walking away can sometimes teach others the importance of appreciation. Well done for standing your ground!
I was just joking with a co worker one time. And his response, cut me to the heart. And this was his reply, “ you know I expect that kind of thing from everyone else, but not from you “. I immediately felt like a jerk. And had to apologize. I will never forget it. Made me want to be on a higher level. As the saying goes, bad company corrupts good character.
Thank you for sharing this personal insight. Moments like these, though painful, remind us of the power of our words and the standards we set for ourselves. Growth often starts with such reflections. Well done for using it as motivation to elevate your character!
@ This was not a workplace bully. However the negative attitudes of them, at that time,rubbed off on me. And he handled it well. But when dealing with the work place bullies. This is where you proper stand up to them. So they think twice about it, when they test you, in order to see how far they can push you. They will always test you. Some people will seek to get over on you, any how, any way that they can. It is some sort of mental thing, where they have to do this, in order to feel they have bested you in some way. A kind of score card that proves they are on top. Like always having the last word kind of thing.
When I was 9 months pregnant with my youngest daughter, I went for a walk in the neighborhood and as I waddled past a group of men, one yelled out "Quack, Quack, Quack, waddle, waddle, waddle) and as they were yelling, I looked back and said, "You know, I only waddle for 9 months....you, however, have been and will continue to be ugly for your entire life!" This made his entire group roar with laughter!
Men need other men around to run their mouths. When I was a very young nurse in the mid-late seventies I stopped to pump fuel into my truck, (.56 cents a gallon, I thought that I was being raped if I had to pay .59..) three middle aged men were sitting outside of a Laundromat next to the Bodega where I was pumping fuel and one of them noticed me in my white dress uniform and yelled "hey, I need a nurse." I yelled, " no, you're in need of a veterinarian, I take care of humans." His friends ran him zero slack, it was worth his rudeness to see him humiliated by his friends.
@@johnmcclure4946 Of course it happened....I'm not going to waste my 3 kids' time of having them have to support my comment by letting you know it's true!
I was tangled up with a narcissist for about a year. Every time he tried something to get a rise out of me, i rem a ined calm, cool and collected, not speaking a word. He thought i was stupid but I was making mental note of all his ,what he thought would be, controlling maneuvers. I quietly waited for him to finally back himself into a corner he couldnt get out of. Then with one very short sentence I exited his life. I'll bet he had never come up against a stoic, sigma female before in his life. He did try about a month later to hoover me back in but, again, he got another very short, to the point, sentence. He should never have thought he could pull that off in public, but maybe he thought being in a crowd meant I would be too nice to turn down his request. Wrong, he's the one that had to walk away that time. Now I have a PhD in narcissists. Quite educational!
Your story is a powerful testament to the strength of composure and clarity in the face of manipulation. Remaining calm and measured, even when provoked, is a deeply Stoic approach. It takes courage and wisdom to let actions and silence speak louder than words. Thank you for sharing this inspiring example of resilience and self-respect!
I hear you 100%...... narcissists, as a whole, become fascinating, once you can see straight through them. Partiicularly once you've escaped your own experience with one and can predict what their kind are going to say or do next..... with some other poor soul. The lessons along the way can be brutal, but the education gained, from dealing with these monsters, is priceless. You now can see right through them and spot them a mile away. ...... and all you can see is a spoilt adult child whose parents have never said "no" or a traumatised adult child who has chosen the path to make everyone else pay for their own shitty experiences.
I just underwent a barrage of criticism from my daughter. I responded calmly and have walked away, an action I have found to be difficult. That said, having watched this video, I feel better about my decision to value myself and do what I must do.
Your calm response and decision to walk away show incredible strength and self-respect. It's not easy to prioritize your well-being in tough moments, but valuing yourself is always the right choice. Keep standing firm-you're on the right path!
My Mom and I are slowely trying to reconnect and start a new relationship. We both had to walk away we were both in addiction. She got clean then me and now we are talking here n there after 15 years of barely any communication saw eachother once. So I believe things can change for the better. I had to stop blaming her parent myself work on my trauma and she is doing the same in her own way. I know it's hard but sometimes that space brings us closer. I'm sorry ur going thru that I hope n pray u guys can reconnect.
I experienced something similar with one of my daughters. Her 1st & last try. Of course, we have a choice to forgive as well as not place ourselves in harmful situations. For the sake of family, I allow her to be in my presence. My learned ability to remain calm , speak calmly has been at least part of why she has not done so again.
When a casual group is standing around talking and a new arrival approaches, It is not only inappropriate to ignore their presence, it is ungracious and intentionally offensive . This is not a board meeting. If the conversation is intended to be of a private matter, spend a few minutes in neutral conversation and then say something to the group something to the effect that you would like to meet in classroom number seven in about 10 minutes. Never treat others as though they are an unwelcome annoyance.
Acknowledging someone's presence with kindness and respect costs nothing but means everything. Simple gestures like this foster inclusivity and show genuine character. 🙌
If the person is ignored, it shows that the one ignoring is willing to lose an opportunity that may not be obvious right away. It also shows a closed mindedness set in a one-way direction. Especially if the person being ignored doesn't know why and communication is general/ambiguous rather than direct.
I was humiliated by a Pastor inside the church standing on the pulpit in 2020. God the Holy Spirit covered me with peace ✌🏼 that I couldn't understand. Through his anger 🤬 I saw the demon. I never went to the church again upto date. I prayed to God to forgive him and deliver him from Satan. My bedroom became my private place where I meet the Lord all the time. 💕💕💕
Your strength and faith are truly inspiring. Turning to God and finding peace in prayer despite such a painful experience shows incredible resilience. Your story reminds us that true connection with the divine transcends any physical space. 💕🙏
@petelaufman4359 I bought 180 chairs ox blood each R700 to thank God for providing and protecting me until my retirement age 65 yrs. I told the junior pastor that is for the Lord. The senior pastor came back from UK to insult me that I was stealing his church. I am a old single no children. But the Lord in Sept 2023 told me that He saw everything I have done for Him. He will repay me.
Ditto, but not a pastor, rather a guest teacher. Occurred decades ago. Only recently I was informed by a neighbor & wife of a pastor of a different church in a different city & state that holy spirit revealed to her that guest speaker had an evil motive of wanting to further his ministry. Also, I recently saw it was actually a blessing I left that church. They had false teaching. 🙏💒💕🤲
One of my children was sad that someone had criticized her high levels of confidence. I asked her if she respects him. She said yes, he's a close friend. I said, in that cause you should probably listen to what he's trying to say. She learned that she was coming across as arrogant and she adjusted her tone. A few weeks later another person was criticizing her singing and I asked here again if she respects her. She said no, she's from a different class. I said then her opinion is not important, if it happens again just ask her is she's ok, maybe you can become friends. Now she considers what people say based on how much she respects those people, he respect levels rise and fall with their actions and she doesn't get hurt as much by bullies, or constructive criticism. It's thanks to YT channels like this one, especially this one, for her happier school life. Thank you.
No matter how cold I will always remove my glove to take another’s hand, I find it polite and conveys confidence and respect. Always make eye contact with the handshake and of course stand up and greet with a firm solid grip
Your approach reflects a timeless display of respect and confidence-small gestures like these truly leave a lasting impression. Politeness and strong presence go a long way in building meaningful connections. Well said!
@@taniacummings9207 If we ever meet, let's hope that in the moment I wasn't cleaning my nostril or sneezing into a tissue held by the same hand 🤧 we're about to shake with - yikes 🤢 ! Since you've already made it clear you'd be offended if I suggest any preventive measures, and since I don't want to give a bad first impression, I'll just have to chance putting you at risk, especially if I've been recently exposed to dangerous germs or viruses. We also have to hope you aren't allergic to whatever pathogens I'm passing on to you, afterall, I don't want to upset you now that Elbow Bumps are totally out of the question. In my daily life I come into contact with immune-deficient and immune-compromised persons - c'est la vie 🤷♀️ ! For their sake, that's why I normally maintain a hands-off policy when dealing with the public in general. I sure if you or others dear to you are at-risk persons, you'd be grateful for my annoying preventive measures such as elbow-bumps. I still do these things even if I risk being treated as a pariah by people who feel as you do about “such nonsense.” During the 🇺🇸 Civil War, more people died from infection then from shrapnel and bullet wounds. Heck, even today that we've proven the effectiveness of proper hygiene, most men still won't wash their hands before leaving restrooms (whether public facilities, or at their homes 🤷♀️ - yikes again 🤮 - haha 😆 !
Sometimes you have to look like an "outsider" since the "insiders" follow the same pattern of shame and degradation of others. As a Senior NCO (civ term: Mid Level Manager) in the USAF. I did use some of these techniques even over 30 + years ago. Getting mad, getting even, or acting like a scorpion and "stinging back" only shows you are at the same level as the rude people who do not wish to listen. Everywhere I went--I "taught" humanity skills, to people who only learned their personality traits at the bowling alley. Yes, I did challenge senior NCO's above me, for they did not realize they were teaching the young airmen (proper term) to behave as they did. Your videos help if people will choose to employ what you teach. Yes, I can do it. I agree, with "family" it is harder, since NONE of them were in the US Military. I will use the tools in this video in the future as I continue to help everyone around me. I teach kayaking, Free--to complete strangers all supplies included. I am a natural instructor, tis who I am. I always complement Food service workers, hotel maids, cashiers etc. Those people can "pay it forward". Yes, I can do it, I always do
Your kindness and willingness to uplift others, from mentoring airmen to teaching kayaking, reflect the very principles discussed in the video. Thank you for sharing your story and for continuing to lead by example-your impact truly makes a difference!
I have to say I was treated with far more kindness and respect when I was in the British army than in civvy street. Even during basic training when you're just a name rank and number
Walking away from close family members who have repeatedly used me to improve their own self esteem, so they feel much more important than my self worth, is extremely challenging, but I will learn and I can do it!!
I walked away from my family such as it is and never looked back. Am living a very happy contented life with many friends who support me more than any of my family
@margarethughes7226 & I am in a similar situation nowadays. Quite odd who it is who remains by my side, in fact, regardless of socioeconomic class, political & religious affiliation...some chose to accept me & love me.
That example with Sara happened to me in one of my jobs. I can still see and sense that today- and it still conjures up a very bad vibe. We were talking about a solution to a problem and I suggested an answer. Everyone turned to me, looked and then went on to resuming the discussion. A colleague of mine suggested that same solution and he was given kudos. I felt very useless and just sat there in disbelief. Eventually i left the company but not controlling the situation. I went to anoterh company and was valued. But that story of Sara resonated witlh me even today about 30 years from the episode that bothered me so much. In retrospect, i should have stood up, said that my ideas seem not to make sense so instead of wasting my time and everyone's elses time, I will leave the meeting to all of you. Hindsight is always great. This shoret video brings back some good and bad memories. Highly recommended to all to see.
Thank you for sharing your experience-it’s a powerful reminder of how deeply moments like these can impact us. It’s inspiring to hear how you found value in yourself by moving on to a place where you were truly appreciated. Your story resonates with the message of this video: respect starts with how we stand up for ourselves, even if hindsight reveals the lessons later. Wishing you continued strength and recognition!
Did you see the automated response? It's like AI can't process your point. I too get exasperated by long lead-ups like infomercials that take forever to get to the point.
Thank you. Needed the point bc I gotta get to work today but so wanted to get tips on topic. Also gotta find something for kitty to eat before I go to work. 👍
I’ve had a situation at church for about almost 10 months now, I’ve been praying for an answer. A Christian friend shared with me several scripture and a very similar message to this video. This video gives an awesome understanding and insight into setting boundaries, not demanding but standing up for yourself and four tips how to do so. My dad used to have a saying “manage your emotions and don’t let your emotions manage you“
Your dad’s wisdom is timeless-‘manage your emotions and don’t let your emotions manage you’ is a powerful reminder. I’m glad this video, along with scripture and your friend’s guidance, has helped provide clarity and insight. Setting boundaries with grace is a courageous step toward self-respect. Wishing you strength and peace. ❤
Thank you. It's nice to know that I have done the right things when others went out of their way to insult me. In all five groups, I waited it out until the second insult; then, I quit supporting their efforts and attending their meetings. "No one should ever be taken for granted."
That can be frustrating. Sometimes a calm but assertive approach, like saying, 'Excuse me, I wasn't finished,' can help regain the floor. Staying composed shows confidence, even if others don't acknowledge it right away.
Great video... never play down to someone else putting you down by returning the favor... always treat everyone with respect, even if not everyone deserves it, and it goes a long way to building up your own credibility.
You’re absolutely right-true friends lift each other up, not tear each other down. In Stoicism, respect is built through our character and actions, not at the expense of others. Thank you for sharing this important reminder!
When I first moved to France, I joined in all the local events, including jumping over a fire, but because I'm little, I didn't quite clear it and got burned, that was 10 years ago. Recently at a party someone mentioned that I had jumped into a fire, I replied, thanks very much for reminding me, I need to buy some firelighters .
I wish I would have had this video the last two years of my job before I retired. My wonderful boss died suddenly and the new manager and his team were threatened by my knowledge and experience. They did their best to undercut and diminish me in all the ways described here- and then some. Other people in our workgroup also noticed this and warned me about it. I did my best to carry on and not let them know their constant pinpricks were affecting me. But a couple of incidents were so outrageous that I finally had to call them out. This didn’t shut down the enmity, but it quashed their overt rudeness until I left. My dad’s words also helped: Never let them see you sweat.
Thank you on march 2024 l found disrespect in my company from boss l signed up in the evening so the following morning they waited for me and they missed presence ,then it was too late for them l was called to another job in abroad where they needed me in a week to come ,so that's when l realised when disrespected and walking away it's when they see your worth. This remindend me where l got a good luck👌
I desperately needed to hear this TODAY! I've really been struggling with someone at work. I have never been faced with such rude or crassness in my entire professional career. Taking the high road, letting it pass, it'll blow over isn't working. I am confident in my position and quality of my work and have a lot of respect but if I don't "deal" with this I might blow a gasket not meaning to. My nature is quiet and reserved, unless pushed..... I am going to try some of these techniques.
It’s great that you’re reflecting on how to handle the situation with composure. Staying confident in your work while setting firm boundaries is key. These techniques can help you address the issue without losing your calm or professionalism. Wishing you strength and success in handling it!
It's because yr nature is quiet and reserved, that, that person is jealous of you.... and yr nature... Could be ... they crave to be like you.... they can't.... they then punish you...
💜 Thank you, My Mother shared many of what you suggest here. I say shared,, because she knew my tender heart, and forever tried to instill in me the best decisions in situations that she knew I'd soon face. Wisdom really can't be taken from you, but should be shared to help others. And I belive we are suppose to take care of Each other, and the Earth. Now, I still have a tender heart, and even though,, yes I know,, she felt that of me, I realized she was sharing very important Wisdom. 💜
💜 Your mother’s wisdom and care clearly left a profound impact, and it’s beautiful that you carry her teachings forward. Sharing wisdom and compassion truly helps us grow and connect. Tender hearts have immense strength-thank you for embodying that. 💜
One concept that I consider helpful, is personally redefining the concept of *_"failure"_* to oneself. Failure is commonly associated as negative despite being a compliment, and often predecessor, to success. When we refrain from focusing on our failures as being regretful, it can be easier to maintain calmness when confronted by them unexpectedly. An example might be varying embarassing stories that friends and family bring up from time to time, regarding past undesirable outcomes. When concidering past failures as embarassing, it's easier to lose composure in conversation that mention them. When instead acknowledging such failures as lessons to be learned from, their mention can be far easier to dismiss, and often times even be laughed about by the the proprietor of such moments.
Excellent advise, well articulated, takes practice. Tried your lesson's tips this holiday around family gather. Enduring over 69 years of verbally abusive sibling.For me, it takes a ten-count before remembering your advice... but it worked.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s inspiring to see you put the advice into action after so many years. Progress takes patience, God bless you, my friend ! ❤
I find your videos helpful as I am grappling with how to respond to a nasty letter questioning my beliefs, values, and priorities. I am a conservative Christian.
Marcus Aurelius "Meditations" changed my life for the better introducing me to Stoicism.After that is time for Epictetus and Seneca,quite a journey so far! Amazing video btw Subscribed!
"You need to project confidence" So much easier said than done. It's like telling someone who is shy to behave like an extrovert...It's not gonna happen.
Confidence takes time to build. Start small: focus on one thing you’re good at and let that shine. Authenticity often inspires respect more than forced extroversion ever could.
I have dealt with many narcissist over the years in different ways, so called friends relatives etc. With one I would sit and paint after they have been nasty. Another time I just kept quite after hearing a nasty remark but later INNOCENTLY asked question that they were sensitive about yet another time my reply was in the form of quoting someone's ( non flattering) example which was actually what they were. Each time they knew that this was a reply to their own nastiness. It was not to take revenge but to put a stop to their nonsense in order to maintain my own health. * had been * a question
You're absolutely right-handling narcissists in a calm and composed way is key to protecting your mental health. Setting boundaries with a touch of civility is a powerful move. Self-care and maintaining peace of mind always come first. Stay strong and keep prioritizing your well-being! 💪🌟
Thank you. This has changed my perspective so much. I now understand that respect is valuable in any environment. I should not look down upon myself in any situation. I take control.
After working at a company for 14 years without one complaint they hired a new VP of IT and suddenly I was on a PIP along with many others. After enduring a few PIP meetings I confronted the VP and my manager about it and they were speechless. I retired that moment and 6 years later they still can't find someone to stay longer than a few months. So sweet!!!
BTW, a few months after I retired they fired the VP and rolled back all her business systems. (They didn't work.) She made so many enemies they told her to leave. 8)
Good for you for standing up for yourself! It’s satisfying to see how integrity and self-respect ultimately prevail-sounds like you made the right decision. Kudos to you!
When I was a young supervisor with three direct reports, my new manager tried to humiliate one of my direct reports by yelling at her and saying he was the boss, so he could have her report reformatted and issued by another employee. I let him finish off, then I stood up, looked him directly in the eye, and told him firmly and calmly "Your conduct was despicable", I turned to my direct report and told her we're leaving this meeting now. I reported the incident to HR, and I looked and found another much better job at another company.
Your actions demonstrate true leadership-standing up for your team and addressing unacceptable behavior with dignity and composure. You set an inspiring example of integrity and self-respect. Well done! 👏💪
I just happened to stumble upon this channel & I’m glad I did 😊! So many good tips & you also put each one of them in a context & that made it even better! Thank you so much 🙏🏼😊‼️ I will listen to more of your videos! And I’ve subscribed 👍🏼! 😊
I just wish I have read your vlog earlier about the Stoic Phylosophy and learn how to react and project properly in a descriminating situations... Now, after reading your vlog my confidence and my self worth increases... Thank you very much....
No one can make me feel weak.I live knowing my value.I have never lived concerned about other peoples perceptions.We live and die according to our own perceptions and values. " Why am I afraid to tell you who I am? I am Me and there is no one I would rather be.I live with intention and and control myself in thought word deed.Be kind always.😊😊😊😊
Really Good! I actually do this already I have learned it by myself through so many years of being devalued! My Catholic religion and Trust in God has taught me to behave exactly as you said! It took me years!!
Our Lord was/is devalued everyday. Charity, love, patience, perseverance, humility. Choosing to 'cop it' and suffer doesn't make you weak. The stronger one gives in, the smarter one lets others take credit; No-one rebukes quite like God.
I was in a meeting when a rude co- worker tried to talk over me. I smiled, looked her straight in the eye and calmly said: "I'd appreciate it if you let me finish." That did it.
I have been there many times and what’s more it strengthened my character and way of dealing g with situations. I’m married to a narcissist and it’s an uphill struggle but I don’t give up proving myself. Thank for sharing with us your expertise.
Your resilience and determination are inspiring. Strengthening your character in the face of challenges shows true inner strength. Keep standing tall, and thank you for sharing your journey!
I really like your point at 13:21. 🥰I absolutely hate people who gossip. One of my coworkers is like that-constantly nitpicking and putting me down in front of others and behind my back. But in front of me, she always smiles and talks as if nothing happened. I’ve been ignoring it, and it seems to make her even angrier. Haha.🤣🤣 But what should I do if she starts badmouthing me to the boss?😅😅
Thank you for sharing! 😊 You're already handling it well by staying composed-silence often speaks louder than words. If she takes it to your boss, focus on maintaining professionalism. Document key events and ensure your work speaks for itself. Let your actions and calm demeanor show your integrity-that’s the Stoic way. 💪
Perhaps a better way would be for you not to ignore this person. Redirect her criticism by thanking her for pointing out how she would choose to do it, whatever it is. Indicate you will take her suggestion into consideration. This may be enough to throw her off just enough to make her satisfied. And she will move on. She knows she gets under your skin already. Your stoic tolerance of her criticism may be adding fuel to the flame.
Surely I would question someone's standing up, eye contact, full engagement even time his water glass was refilled. Standing up is simply weird, though eye contact and engagement are appropriate.
I find narcissistic people are always insecure and fake! However; the toxic behaviors they exhibit is down right disrespectful. Instead of getting angry I pour out compassion with a dose of silence. If your married to one run 🏃🏾♀️
Wise approach! Compassion paired with silence is a powerful way to disarm toxicity without feeding it. And yes, in a marriage, knowing when to walk away is key to preserving your peace. 💯👏
Excellent tips; I wish I had heard them years ago. My approach was: Staying calm and finding amusement. Thanks for your invaluable pieces of advice 🙏👍👏
I had always been slim. When passing a bus shelter, crowded by people, a person who knew me broke off talking to others and said to me in a loud gleeful voice "Ah a fat Jimmy Hatton". I retorted loud enough for the waiting people to hear." Yes, but I am making an effort to walk it off. It is a side effect of the chemotherapy and I will have it under control soon". The look on the faces of the people who queued with him every day spoke volumes.
Your response was powerful and dignified-a perfect way to turn an insensitive comment into a moment of reflection for everyone. Stay strong and keep walking your path!
I'm dealing with this in my art. I do standup comedy and I definitely have become a stoic in the process of dealing with all kinds of snakes and people who use me. It's made me wake up to so much and these videos confirm my feelings and actions. I'm planning to move to another state, possibly a different country as soon as possible so I can be where I am appreciated.
Your journey sounds both challenging and empowering. Comedy and life can be tough, but it’s clear you’ve grown stronger and more self-aware. Wishing you success and peace in your next chapter-you deserve to be where you're truly valued!
Thank you for creating this new channel and continuing to share Stoic philosophy in such a thoughtful way. Your content is always insightful, and it’s inspiring to see your dedication to teaching these principles in a fresh way.
Thank you for presenting ,"StoicTraining". Your lesson has left a powerful impact on me today. I subscribed to your curriculum and look forward to practicing stoic principles, and gaining more confidence when confronted with difficult situations.
Thank you for your kind words and support! I'm glad the lessons resonated with you. Stay committed to the journey, and Stoic principles will guide you to greater confidence and peace. Welcome to the community!
I have been watching too many negative videos these day. So much anti this or hate that videos that point fingers at someone I should dislike. Then I stumble across your video and after watching it, felt like a ton of weight was lifted from my shoulders. I loved philosophy when I was a younger man and feel it is something society no longer values. I see it as more important than everything else. Work or relationships are not as important as knowing how to be in these relationships and succeeding at them. Philosophy teachs you how to think and behave so that you will have the best possible outcomes. Thank you for posting it and you have a new subscriber.
Thank you so much for your kind words! It’s amazing how philosophy can shift our perspective and lighten the load. I’m glad the video resonated with you, and I’m honored to have you as a subscriber. Wishing you continued growth and peace!
Thank you for these three tips. Stoicism is empowering my self worth through calmness in situations that would otherwise allow my human emotions to dominate and potentially devalue my character, through my own words and actions. Silence can be deafening when used at the precise time. Body presentation language has many words, characters and phrases of a proverbial nature already written in the minds of the those present.
Your reflection beautifully captures the essence of Stoicism-empowering self-worth through calm and intentional actions. Using silence and body language as tools of strength and clarity is a true testament to emotional intelligence. Keep embracing this journey!
Thank you for your kind words! It's never too late to grow and apply these principles-what matters is the wisdom you gain along the way. Wishing you continued growth!
Thank you for sharing this information. While listening some instances came to mind. One realization is that some people seek to be around you because they sense the value in your character and want what to have that. The realization of this is appreciated and you may be comfortable trusting this person. Then this same person, in time, whom you are enriching gets frustrated trying to achieve the level of character you possess and despite your being gracious to them, rather than being thoughtful and patient to develop their own character decides to try some of the tactics discussed in the presentation I just watched. You try to be patient with them and help them, but they persist in this behavior. What you have shared brings to mind the realization that a kind and gracious person can be taken advantage of these things and a realization about the importance of maintaining one's character by including the use of the responses you have mentioned. I only wish I had seen this earlier in life. There is no time like the present to make positive adjustments. Thank you for sharing.
Your insight is deeply thoughtful and resonates with the journey many face when navigating relationships and maintaining character. Recognizing these dynamics is a powerful step toward personal growth and setting healthy boundaries. It’s never too late to make positive adjustments-thank you for sharing your experience and reflections!
Absolutely loved this video! The insights from Stoic philosophy are so powerful and practical. Respect is earned, not demanded, and this video highlights exactly how to embody those principles. The focus on inner strength, self-discipline, and authenticity is something we all can apply in our daily lives. Thank you for sharing such valuable wisdom!
My daughter dose that to me often but doesn't really mean anything by it I try to ignore it but I have told her she doesn't respect me she doesn't understand, maybe someday if she experiences it with her daughter
You're handling it with patience and grace, which shows real strength. Sometimes understanding takes time and life experiences. Keep setting boundaries calmly, and know that your efforts will leave an impression, even if it takes a while to sink in.
Could you please issue me information on the calming background music used in this video? Thanks in advance for any help with this question. Great video!
I'm head of a group. A few are collectively intentionally undermining me in front of the group. How do I handle when its in front of the entire body? When to directly address or when to move on?
When someone deliberately tries to undermine you in front of the group, stay calm and composed. If their comments are inaccurate, respond briefly, clearly, and factually to protect your dignity without being defensive or emotional. If the issue is serious, address it privately to set boundaries.
That happened to me once in a Q&A session on mlm. I asked a question about something and the speaker interrupted me. I was completely cool, stood up and said loudly enough for 200 people to hear me,and said, " you interrupted me and then asked my question again. You could have gears a pin drop. No one talks over me.
perhaps you could point out there are many reasons an issue is looked at differently. It can I courage an interesting discussion. But if timing is a concern let the others think about to be a topic for another date
I got a lesson that suites my situation over my colleges in the council, which I often do so, though I was outnumbered I can stand own my own due for respect.
Standing your ground even when outnumbered shows true strength and self-respect. It's inspiring to see someone uphold their principles with confidence. Keep leading by example-respect is earned through integrity and courage!
These are powerful lessons. I’m new to this sight. I save these videos now and keep a notebook for your lessens. I can do it ! I need to teach these to my kids. Thank you.
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how can we remain calm and apply Stoic philosophy to earn respect?
I can do it
I can do it. Thank you for reinforcing these very important principles
I can do it. The best video on TH-cam ❤ Thank you. New Year, new me.🎉😊
Thank I needed session have empowered me🎉🎉
Once a coworker tried to embarrass me in front of a group of people by making a stupid joke. I laughed along with everyone else and, with a smile, I said, "You know , that would have hurt...if I had any repect for you". The smile on his face disappeared and he never tried it again.
That was a sharp and classy way to handle it! Staying composed while setting boundaries is the ultimate power move. Well done! 💪
THE BEST ANSWER I HAVE EVER HEARD. I''AM GOING TO REMBER IT FOR LATER
I can do it
I wish I had been skilled in these technics and understandings year ago. Today is a new day.
Pinching that 🎉😂
I like it when people try to put me down, it means they think I'm better than them
Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤
😂😂😂 true!
Abdo truth. It hurts, but hey.
Insecure people--put others down. Professionals realize friendly advice beats boxing gloves if applied logically
When someone tries to put you down, it means they already feel they are below you. You cannot pull someone down unless they feel they are beneath you.
I was told at work that I am lazy at age 65 working with 4 men I was the 5th on a team. So I decided to retire and told my boss it is time for me to go because I became a victim and accused of being lazy. Moral of the story..my boss decided to allow me to retire but because I was accused of being lazy..she refused to replace me on their team. Said well you said she was lazy. Do without her..2 years later they still cant manage without me. Walk away if you not appreciated.
Your story is a powerful reminder to value self-respect over unfair treatment. Walking away can sometimes teach others the importance of appreciation. Well done for standing your ground!
I did exact same thing
Actually, 2 years without a replacement shows that you were not needed. Looks like they were right
The pay was just limmiting your growth. No one wants to hire seniors ....I would not copy this womans tacticss.
Take your skills and labour elsewhere
I was just joking with a co worker one time. And his response, cut me to the heart. And this was his reply, “ you know I expect that kind of thing from everyone else, but not from you “. I immediately felt like a jerk. And had to apologize. I will never forget it. Made me want to be on a higher level. As the saying goes, bad company corrupts good character.
Lessons learned ❤
Why allow yourself to feel intimidated? What makes you less worthy to speak or be natural?
Thank you for sharing this personal insight. Moments like these, though painful, remind us of the power of our words and the standards we set for ourselves. Growth often starts with such reflections. Well done for using it as motivation to elevate your character!
@ This was not a workplace bully. However the negative attitudes of them, at that time,rubbed off on me. And he handled it well. But when dealing with the work place bullies. This is where you proper stand up to them. So they think twice about it, when they test you, in order to see how far they can push you. They will always test you. Some people will seek to get over on you, any how, any way that they can. It is some sort of mental thing, where they have to do this, in order to feel they have bested you in some way. A kind of score card that proves they are on top. Like always having the last word kind of thing.
@@SukieBeJust because you can say something doesn’t mean you should.
Simple life lesson.
When I was 9 months pregnant with my youngest daughter, I went for a walk in the neighborhood and as I waddled past a group of men, one yelled out "Quack, Quack, Quack, waddle, waddle, waddle) and as they were yelling, I looked back and said, "You know, I only waddle for 9 months....you, however, have been and will continue to be ugly for your entire life!"
This made his entire group roar with laughter!
Now that’s a perfect example of wit and composure! You turned their mockery into your moment-brilliant comeback! 👏👏
Yeah, this never happened
@@johnmcclure4946 this did happen, sir.
Men need other men around to run their mouths. When I was a very young nurse in the mid-late seventies I stopped to pump fuel into my truck, (.56 cents a gallon, I thought that I was being raped if I had to pay .59..) three middle aged men were sitting outside of a Laundromat next to the Bodega where I was pumping fuel and one of them noticed me in my white dress uniform and yelled "hey, I need a nurse." I yelled, " no, you're in need of a veterinarian, I take care of humans." His friends ran him zero slack, it was worth his rudeness to see him humiliated by his friends.
@@johnmcclure4946 Of course it happened....I'm not going to waste my 3 kids' time of having them have to support my comment by letting you know it's true!
I was tangled up with a narcissist for about a year. Every time he tried something to get a rise out of me, i rem a ined calm, cool and collected, not speaking a word. He thought i was stupid but I was making mental note of all his ,what he thought would be, controlling maneuvers. I quietly waited for him to finally back himself into a corner he couldnt get out of. Then with one very short sentence I exited his life. I'll bet he had never come up against a stoic, sigma female before in his life. He did try about a month later to hoover me back in but, again, he got another very short, to the point, sentence. He should never have thought he could pull that off in public, but maybe he thought being in a crowd meant I would be too nice to turn down his request. Wrong, he's the one that had to walk away that time. Now I have a PhD in narcissists. Quite educational!
Congratulations my friend, and congratulations on your achievement. ❤
Your story is a powerful testament to the strength of composure and clarity in the face of manipulation. Remaining calm and measured, even when provoked, is a deeply Stoic approach. It takes courage and wisdom to let actions and silence speak louder than words. Thank you for sharing this inspiring example of resilience and self-respect!
Awesome 💯
Glad you got away
I hear you 100%...... narcissists, as a whole, become fascinating, once you can see straight through them. Partiicularly once you've escaped your own experience with one and can predict what their kind are going to say or do next..... with some other poor soul. The lessons along the way can be brutal, but the education gained, from dealing with these monsters, is priceless. You now can see right through them and spot them a mile away. ...... and all you can see is a spoilt adult child whose parents have never said "no" or a traumatised adult child who has chosen the path to make everyone else pay for their own shitty experiences.
Wish I had TH-cam 20 years ago. This would have helped me tremendously.
it's ok my friend. it's never too late if we change. I believe you will be a much better version in the future. ❤
My son who is 33 was very reactive for several years. Then I think he became stoic without instruction. I still shared this.
I just underwent a barrage of criticism from my daughter. I responded calmly and have walked away, an action I have found to be difficult. That said, having watched this video, I feel better about my decision to value myself and do what I must do.
Your calm response and decision to walk away show incredible strength and self-respect. It's not easy to prioritize your well-being in tough moments, but valuing yourself is always the right choice. Keep standing firm-you're on the right path!
My Mom and I are slowely trying to reconnect and start a new relationship. We both had to walk away we were both in addiction. She got clean then me and now we are talking here n there after 15 years of barely any communication saw eachother once. So I believe things can change for the better. I had to stop blaming her parent myself work on my trauma and she is doing the same in her own way. I know it's hard but sometimes that space brings us closer. I'm sorry ur going thru that I hope n pray u guys can reconnect.
Yes difficult, but likely the best manner in which you cld respond, giving you the control in the situation!
I experienced something similar with one of my daughters. Her 1st & last try. Of course, we have a choice to forgive as well as not place ourselves in harmful situations. For the sake of family, I allow her to be in my presence. My learned ability to remain calm , speak calmly has been at least part of why she has not done so again.
That's not what this video is about. If your daughter has issues with you you as parent should address it
When a casual group is standing around talking and a new arrival approaches, It is not only inappropriate to ignore their presence, it is ungracious and intentionally offensive . This is not a board meeting. If the conversation is intended to be of a private matter, spend a few minutes in neutral conversation and then say something to the group something to the effect that you would like to meet in classroom number seven in about 10 minutes. Never treat others as though they are an unwelcome annoyance.
Acknowledging someone's presence with kindness and respect costs nothing but means everything. Simple gestures like this foster inclusivity and show genuine character. 🙌
If the person is ignored, it shows that the one ignoring is willing to lose an opportunity that may not be obvious right away. It also shows a closed mindedness set in a one-way direction. Especially if the person being ignored doesn't know why and communication is general/ambiguous rather than direct.
I was humiliated by a Pastor inside the church standing on the pulpit in 2020. God the Holy Spirit covered me with peace ✌🏼 that I couldn't understand. Through his anger 🤬 I saw the demon. I never went to the church again upto date. I prayed to God to forgive him and deliver him from Satan. My bedroom became my private place where I meet the Lord all the time. 💕💕💕
Your strength and faith are truly inspiring. Turning to God and finding peace in prayer despite such a painful experience shows incredible resilience. Your story reminds us that true connection with the divine transcends any physical space. 💕🙏
@StoicTraining Thanks
Pastor asked only me within the crowd, "Are you sure you want to do this?". (Communion) I did the same thing you did fer batom.
@petelaufman4359 I bought 180 chairs ox blood each R700 to thank God for providing and protecting me until my retirement age 65 yrs. I told the junior pastor that is for the Lord. The senior pastor came back from UK to insult me that I was stealing his church. I am a old single no children. But the Lord in Sept 2023 told me that He saw everything I have done for Him. He will repay me.
Ditto, but not a pastor, rather a guest teacher. Occurred decades ago. Only recently I was informed by a neighbor & wife of a pastor of a different church in a different city & state that holy spirit revealed to her that guest speaker had an evil motive of wanting to further his ministry. Also, I recently saw it was actually a blessing I left that church. They had false teaching. 🙏💒💕🤲
Silence, absence from uncomfortable environment provide the inner peace ✌️
Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤
One of my children was sad that someone had criticized her high levels of confidence. I asked her if she respects him. She said yes, he's a close friend. I said, in that cause you should probably listen to what he's trying to say. She learned that she was coming across as arrogant and she adjusted her tone.
A few weeks later another person was criticizing her singing and I asked here again if she respects her. She said no, she's from a different class. I said then her opinion is not important, if it happens again just ask her is she's ok, maybe you can become friends. Now she considers what people say based on how much she respects those people, he respect levels rise and fall with their actions and she doesn't get hurt as much by bullies, or constructive criticism.
It's thanks to YT channels like this one, especially this one, for her happier school life. Thank you.
I'm glad this channel could play a small part in her happier school life. Thank you for sharing such a heartwarming story!
I've done number 5 twice and it's a game changer for sure. walking away isn't weakness it takes courage and strength to do
Well done for taking that courageous step!
So.much.strength.
No matter how cold I will always remove my glove to take another’s hand, I find it polite and conveys confidence and respect. Always make eye contact with the handshake and of course stand up and greet with a firm solid grip
Your approach reflects a timeless display of respect and confidence-small gestures like these truly leave a lasting impression. Politeness and strong presence go a long way in building meaningful connections. Well said!
That's the way to respect another and how I was taught. 😊😊😊
That's the way to touch germs. Enjoy
Thank goodness we've moved on from the absurd elbow-bumping.
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If we ever meet, let's hope that in the moment I wasn't cleaning my nostril or sneezing into a tissue held by the same hand 🤧 we're about to shake with - yikes 🤢 !
Since you've already made it clear you'd be offended if I suggest any preventive measures, and since I don't want to give a bad first impression, I'll just have to chance putting you at risk, especially if I've been recently exposed to dangerous germs or viruses.
We also have to hope you aren't allergic to whatever pathogens I'm passing on to you, afterall, I don't want to upset you now that Elbow Bumps are totally out of the question.
In my daily life I come into contact with immune-deficient and immune-compromised persons - c'est la vie 🤷♀️ !
For their sake, that's why I normally maintain a hands-off policy when dealing with the public in general. I sure if you or others dear to you are at-risk persons, you'd be grateful for my annoying preventive measures such as elbow-bumps. I still do these things even if I risk being treated as a pariah by people who feel as you do about “such nonsense.”
During the 🇺🇸 Civil War, more people died from infection then from shrapnel and bullet wounds. Heck, even today that we've proven the effectiveness of proper hygiene, most men still won't wash their hands before leaving restrooms (whether public facilities, or at their homes 🤷♀️ - yikes again 🤮 - haha 😆 !
Sometimes you have to look like an "outsider" since the "insiders" follow the same pattern of shame and degradation of others. As a Senior NCO (civ term: Mid Level Manager) in the USAF. I did use some of these techniques even over 30 + years ago. Getting mad, getting even, or acting like a scorpion and "stinging back" only shows you are at the same level as the rude people who do not wish to listen. Everywhere I went--I "taught" humanity skills, to people who only learned their personality traits at the bowling alley. Yes, I did challenge senior NCO's above me, for they did not realize they were teaching the young airmen (proper term) to behave as they did. Your videos help if people will choose to employ what you teach. Yes, I can do it. I agree, with "family" it is harder, since NONE of them were in the US Military. I will use the tools in this video in the future as I continue to help everyone around me. I teach kayaking, Free--to complete strangers all supplies included. I am a natural instructor, tis who I am. I always complement Food service workers, hotel maids, cashiers etc. Those people can "pay it forward". Yes, I can do it, I always do
Your kindness and willingness to uplift others, from mentoring airmen to teaching kayaking, reflect the very principles discussed in the video. Thank you for sharing your story and for continuing to lead by example-your impact truly makes a difference!
I have to say I was treated with far more kindness and respect when I was in the British army than in civvy street. Even during basic training when you're just a name rank and number
Walking away from close family members who have repeatedly used me to improve their own self esteem, so they feel much more important than my self worth, is extremely challenging, but I will learn and I can do it!!
For me, you are a winner. Wish you best, my friend! ❤
Agree. I have a half brother always gives personal digs in our conversations.
I walked away from my family such as it is and never looked back. Am living a very happy contented life with many friends who support me more than any of my family
@margarethughes7226 & I am in a similar situation nowadays. Quite odd who it is who remains by my side, in fact, regardless of socioeconomic class, political & religious affiliation...some chose to accept me & love me.
Easy peasy when we stand on higher ground - God is my Rock!
That example with Sara happened to me in one of my jobs. I can still see and sense that today- and it still conjures up a very bad vibe. We were talking about a solution to a problem and I suggested an answer. Everyone turned to me, looked and then went on to resuming the discussion. A colleague of mine suggested that same solution and he was given kudos. I felt very useless and just sat there in disbelief. Eventually i left the company but not controlling the situation. I went to anoterh company and was valued. But that story of Sara resonated witlh me even today about 30 years from the episode that bothered me so much. In retrospect, i should have stood up, said that my ideas seem not to make sense so instead of wasting my time and everyone's elses time, I will leave the meeting to all of you. Hindsight is always great. This shoret video brings back some good and bad memories. Highly recommended to all to see.
Thank you for sharing your experience-it’s a powerful reminder of how deeply moments like these can impact us. It’s inspiring to hear how you found value in yourself by moving on to a place where you were truly appreciated. Your story resonates with the message of this video: respect starts with how we stand up for ourselves, even if hindsight reveals the lessons later. Wishing you continued strength and recognition!
Had that happen in social groups when I was young.
Very flowery presentation. Go directly to the point. Stay calm, silence , eye contact, compose yourself & behavior is more powerful than words.
Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤
Did you see the automated response? It's like AI can't process your point. I too get exasperated by long lead-ups like infomercials that take forever to get to the point.
Thank you. Needed the point bc I gotta get to work today but so wanted to get tips on topic. Also gotta find something for kitty to eat before I go to work. 👍
Much needed, right on time. Keep sending us ❤, harmony and the "bestest" advice. Truly appreciate it.
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I’ve had a situation at church for about almost 10 months now, I’ve been praying for an answer. A Christian friend shared with me several scripture and a very similar message to this video. This video gives an awesome understanding and insight into setting boundaries, not demanding but standing up for yourself and four tips how to do so. My dad used to have a saying “manage your emotions and don’t let your emotions manage you“
Your dad’s wisdom is timeless-‘manage your emotions and don’t let your emotions manage you’ is a powerful reminder. I’m glad this video, along with scripture and your friend’s guidance, has helped provide clarity and insight. Setting boundaries with grace is a courageous step toward self-respect. Wishing you strength and peace. ❤
@@StoicTraining Thank you for your feedback. I’ve tried to share this also with my clients. Great video.
Thank you. It's nice to know that I have done the right things when others went out of their way to insult me. In all five groups, I waited it out until the second insult; then, I quit supporting their efforts and attending their meetings. "No one should ever be taken for granted."
Thank you so much, I believe you will be a much better version in the future. ❤
Yeah, I tried that looking at the person who interrupted me, they just didn’t look back at me, but kept talking away looking at everybody else.
That can be frustrating. Sometimes a calm but assertive approach, like saying, 'Excuse me, I wasn't finished,' can help regain the floor. Staying composed shows confidence, even if others don't acknowledge it right away.
That’s exactly how I’ve always approached that situation, “ I wasn’t finished, but as soon as I am, we can hear your point.”
"...how you carry yourself..." wise words from my grandfather.
Thank you so much, I believe you will be a much better version in the future. ❤
Great video... never play down to someone else putting you down by returning the favor... always treat everyone with respect, even if not everyone deserves it, and it goes a long way to building up your own credibility.
Well said!
YES! That has been my opinion for years it’s generally a loser that try’s to bring you down. Just ignore them as if they were just an annoying fly
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I found the phrase. Excuse me did you say something.
Cuts right to the bone.
Someone who mocks another seeking to humilate them is not a true friend.😊😊😊
Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤
I can do it
Agree
You’re absolutely right-true friends lift each other up, not tear each other down. In Stoicism, respect is built through our character and actions, not at the expense of others. Thank you for sharing this important reminder!
True, it’s an attempt to make them feel better about themselves
I just thank God for showing me humility. I don't need respect from people.
Excellent
the most important point in this narrative is to show respect to others.
When I first moved to France, I joined in all the local events, including jumping over a fire, but because I'm little, I didn't quite clear it and got burned, that was 10 years ago. Recently at a party someone mentioned that I had jumped into a fire, I replied, thanks
very much for reminding me,
I need to buy some firelighters .
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I wish I would have had this video the last two years of my job before I retired. My wonderful boss died suddenly and the new manager and his team were threatened by my knowledge and experience. They did their best to undercut and diminish me in all the ways described here- and then some. Other people in our workgroup also noticed this and warned me about it. I did my best to carry on and not let them know their constant pinpricks were affecting me. But a couple of incidents were so outrageous that I finally had to call them out. This didn’t shut down the enmity, but it quashed their overt rudeness until I left. My dad’s words also helped: Never let them see you sweat.
It's never too late my friend, I believe you will be much better.❤
By God's grace, I can do it!!😊
For me, you are a winner, my friend! ❤
YES! That has been my opinion for years it’s generally a loser that try’s to bring you down.
Thank you on march 2024 l found disrespect in my company from boss l signed up in the evening so the following morning they waited for me and they missed presence ,then it was too late for them l was called to another job in abroad where they needed me in a week to come ,so that's when l realised when disrespected and walking away it's when they see your worth. This remindend me where l got a good luck👌
Thank you, God bless you, my friend ! ❤
Absolutely, putting ones energy where it is respected and valued is very important.
Thank you, God bless you, my friend ! ❤
I desperately needed to hear this TODAY! I've really been struggling with someone at work. I have never been faced with such rude or crassness in my entire professional career. Taking the high road, letting it pass, it'll blow over isn't working. I am confident in my position and quality of my work and have a lot of respect but if I don't "deal" with this I might blow a gasket not meaning to. My nature is quiet and reserved, unless pushed..... I am going to try some of these techniques.
It’s great that you’re reflecting on how to handle the situation with composure. Staying confident in your work while setting firm boundaries is key. These techniques can help you address the issue without losing your calm or professionalism. Wishing you strength and success in handling it!
It's because yr nature is quiet and reserved, that, that person is jealous of you.... and yr nature...
Could be ... they crave to be like you.... they can't.... they then punish you...
💜 Thank you,
My Mother shared many of what you suggest here.
I say shared,, because she knew my tender heart, and forever tried to instill in me the best decisions in situations that she knew I'd soon face.
Wisdom really can't be taken from you, but should be shared to help others.
And I belive we are suppose to take care of Each other, and the Earth.
Now, I still have a tender heart, and even though,, yes I know,, she felt that of me, I realized she was sharing very important Wisdom.
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💜 Your mother’s wisdom and care clearly left a profound impact, and it’s beautiful that you carry her teachings forward. Sharing wisdom and compassion truly helps us grow and connect. Tender hearts have immense strength-thank you for embodying that. 💜
One concept that I consider helpful, is personally redefining the concept of *_"failure"_* to oneself. Failure is commonly associated as negative despite being a compliment, and often predecessor, to success. When we refrain from focusing on our failures as being regretful, it can be easier to maintain calmness when confronted by them unexpectedly.
An example might be varying embarassing stories that friends and family bring up from time to time, regarding past undesirable outcomes. When concidering past failures as embarassing, it's easier to lose composure in conversation that mention them. When instead acknowledging such failures as lessons to be learned from, their mention can be far easier to dismiss, and often times even be laughed about by the the proprietor of such moments.
Well said! Thanks for sharing this valuable perspective!
Excellent advise, well articulated, takes practice.
Tried your lesson's tips this holiday around family gather. Enduring over 69 years of verbally abusive sibling.For me, it takes a ten-count before remembering your advice... but it worked.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s inspiring to see you put the advice into action after so many years. Progress takes patience, God bless you, my friend ! ❤
I find your videos helpful as I am grappling with how to respond to a nasty letter questioning my beliefs, values, and priorities. I am a conservative Christian.
Thank you, God bless you, my friend ! ❤
Marcus Aurelius "Meditations" changed my life for the better introducing me to Stoicism.After that is time for Epictetus and Seneca,quite a journey so far! Amazing video btw Subscribed!
Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤
"You need to project confidence" So much easier said than done. It's like telling someone who is shy to behave like an extrovert...It's not gonna happen.
Confidence takes time to build. Start small: focus on one thing you’re good at and let that shine. Authenticity often inspires respect more than forced extroversion ever could.
I have done it . I have left a table . Thank you for this confirmation blessings to you ❤
Thank you, God bless you, my friend ! ❤
I have dealt with many narcissist over the years in different ways, so called friends relatives etc. With one I would sit and paint after they have been nasty. Another time I just kept quite after hearing a nasty remark but later INNOCENTLY asked question that they were sensitive about yet another time my reply was in the form of quoting someone's ( non flattering) example which was actually what they were. Each time they knew that this was a reply to their own nastiness. It was not to take revenge but to put a stop to their nonsense in order to maintain my own health. * had been * a question
You're absolutely right-handling narcissists in a calm and composed way is key to protecting your mental health. Setting boundaries with a touch of civility is a powerful move. Self-care and maintaining peace of mind always come first. Stay strong and keep prioritizing your well-being! 💪🌟
Wish I had known these points in my childhood. Pass this on to those that could use this valuable advice.
It's never too late my friend, I believe you will be much better.❤
Thank you. This has changed my perspective so much. I now understand that respect is valuable in any environment. I should not look down upon myself in any situation. I take control.
Thank you so much, I believe you will be a much better version in the future. ❤
Will listen again and practice using these tips
Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤
After working at a company for 14 years without one complaint they hired a new VP of IT and suddenly I was on a PIP along with many others. After enduring a few PIP meetings I confronted the VP and my manager about it and they were speechless. I retired that moment and 6 years later they still can't find someone to stay longer than a few months. So sweet!!!
BTW, a few months after I retired they fired the VP and rolled back all her business systems. (They didn't work.) She made so many enemies they told her to leave. 8)
Good for you for standing up for yourself! It’s satisfying to see how integrity and self-respect ultimately prevail-sounds like you made the right decision. Kudos to you!
@@StoicTraining Thank you! 8)))
When I was a young supervisor with three direct reports, my new manager tried to humiliate one of my direct reports by yelling at her and saying he was the boss, so he could have her report reformatted and issued by another employee. I let him finish off, then I stood up, looked him directly in the eye, and told him firmly and calmly "Your conduct was despicable", I turned to my direct report and told her we're leaving this meeting now. I reported the incident to HR, and I looked and found another much better job at another company.
Your actions demonstrate true leadership-standing up for your team and addressing unacceptable behavior with dignity and composure. You set an inspiring example of integrity and self-respect. Well done! 👏💪
Awesome advice! I will definitely keep playing this video? Until I master it. Thanks for sharing this video 👍💯
Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤
I just happened to stumble upon this channel & I’m glad I did 😊! So many good tips & you also put each one of them in a context & that made it even better! Thank you so much 🙏🏼😊‼️ I will listen to more of your videos! And I’ve subscribed 👍🏼! 😊
I just wish I have read your vlog earlier about the Stoic Phylosophy and learn how to react and project properly in a descriminating situations... Now, after reading your vlog my confidence and my self worth increases... Thank you very much....
Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤
silence is power
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Most certainly!
It's also COWARD.
I take it like they would think “ha! I embarrassed her , that’s why she’s quiet..I shocked her!”
No one can make me feel weak.I live knowing my value.I have never lived concerned about other peoples perceptions.We live and die according to our own perceptions and values. " Why am I afraid to tell you who I am? I am Me and there is no one I would rather be.I live with intention and and control myself in thought word deed.Be kind always.😊😊😊😊
Thank you, God bless you, my friend ! ❤
@@StoicTraining God Bless you always also.Your words of wisdom are beyond wise..
They reflect you my friend.Thank you.Lorenzo.
Yes... be always kind.
I liked your pacing & specific stories. Thanks. 😊
My pleasure 😊
Really Good!
I actually do this already I have learned it by myself through so many years of being devalued! My Catholic religion and Trust in God has taught me to behave exactly as you said! It took me years!!
Thank you, God bless you, my friend ! ❤
Our Lord was/is devalued everyday. Charity, love, patience, perseverance, humility. Choosing to 'cop it' and suffer doesn't make you weak. The stronger one gives in, the smarter one lets others take credit; No-one rebukes quite like God.
That was a brilliant comeback! Quick, confident, and totally disarming-classic example of handling disrespect with poise. Kudos to you!
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So so good! Thank you! You have a soothing calm voice!❤
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I was in a meeting when a rude co- worker tried to talk over me. I smiled, looked her straight in the eye and calmly said: "I'd appreciate it if you let me finish." That did it.
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BRILLIANT! Thank you…I have SUBSCRIBED!!!
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I have been there many times and what’s more it strengthened my character and way of dealing g with situations. I’m married to a narcissist and it’s an uphill struggle but I don’t give up proving myself. Thank for sharing with us your expertise.
Your resilience and determination are inspiring. Strengthening your character in the face of challenges shows true inner strength. Keep standing tall, and thank you for sharing your journey!
I really like your point at 13:21. 🥰I absolutely hate people who gossip. One of my coworkers is like that-constantly nitpicking and putting me down in front of others and behind my back. But in front of me, she always smiles and talks as if nothing happened. I’ve been ignoring it, and it seems to make her even angrier. Haha.🤣🤣 But what should I do if she starts badmouthing me to the boss?😅😅
Thank you for sharing! 😊 You're already handling it well by staying composed-silence often speaks louder than words. If she takes it to your boss, focus on maintaining professionalism. Document key events and ensure your work speaks for itself. Let your actions and calm demeanor show your integrity-that’s the Stoic way. 💪
Perhaps a better way would be for you not to ignore this person. Redirect her criticism by thanking her for pointing out how she would choose to do it, whatever it is. Indicate you will take her suggestion into consideration. This may be enough to throw her off just enough to make her satisfied. And she will move on. She knows she gets under your skin already. Your stoic tolerance of her criticism may be adding fuel to the flame.
Ask your boss if he prefers to listen to gossip or let actions/work speak for themselves.
This piece is worth hearing every now and then
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Surely I would question someone's standing up, eye contact, full engagement even time his water glass was refilled. Standing up is simply weird, though eye contact and engagement are appropriate.
Yes, I am dealing with my daughter albeit one step removed. It is a safe place to be for me. Thanks for responding -it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
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I find narcissistic people are always insecure and fake! However; the toxic behaviors they exhibit is down right disrespectful. Instead of getting angry I pour out compassion with a dose of silence. If your married to one run 🏃🏾♀️
Wise approach! Compassion paired with silence is a powerful way to disarm toxicity without feeding it. And yes, in a marriage, knowing when to walk away is key to preserving your peace. 💯👏
Excellent tips; I wish I had heard them years ago. My approach was: Staying calm and finding amusement. Thanks for your invaluable pieces of advice 🙏👍👏
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I will follow this guidance to be a better person Amen
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thank you for making me realize that self respect is strength and needs to be protected
Thank you, my pleasure if this knowledge helps you. ❤
Know you value ❤ stoics
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I had always been slim. When passing a bus shelter, crowded by people, a person who knew me broke off talking to others and said to me in a loud gleeful voice "Ah a fat Jimmy Hatton". I retorted loud enough for the waiting people to hear." Yes, but I am making an effort to walk it off. It is a side effect of the chemotherapy and I will have it under control soon". The look on the faces of the people who queued with him every day spoke volumes.
Your response was powerful and dignified-a perfect way to turn an insensitive comment into a moment of reflection for everyone. Stay strong and keep walking your path!
Very helpful and powerful message
I'm honestly impressed
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I'm dealing with this in my art. I do standup comedy and I definitely have become a stoic in the process of dealing with all kinds of snakes and people who use me. It's made me wake up to so much and these videos confirm my feelings and actions. I'm planning to move to another state, possibly a different country as soon as possible so I can be where I am appreciated.
Your journey sounds both challenging and empowering. Comedy and life can be tough, but it’s clear you’ve grown stronger and more self-aware. Wishing you success and peace in your next chapter-you deserve to be where you're truly valued!
Thank you for creating this new channel and continuing to share Stoic philosophy in such a thoughtful way. Your content is always insightful, and it’s inspiring to see your dedication to teaching these principles in a fresh way.
Thank you so much. Wish you best! ❤
Merry 🎄Christmas 🎁🌟🎊
I have done this, only ever look back to see how far you' ve come .
For me, you are a winner, my friend! ❤
Wonderful post.
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Thank you for presenting ,"StoicTraining". Your lesson has left a powerful impact on me today. I subscribed to your curriculum and look forward to practicing stoic principles, and gaining more confidence when confronted with difficult situations.
Thank you for your kind words and support! I'm glad the lessons resonated with you. Stay committed to the journey, and Stoic principles will guide you to greater confidence and peace. Welcome to the community!
Thanks for tips.
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I have been watching too many negative videos these day. So much anti this or hate that videos that point fingers at someone I should dislike. Then I stumble across your video and after watching it, felt like a ton of weight was lifted from my shoulders. I loved philosophy when I was a younger man and feel it is something society no longer values. I see it as more important than everything else. Work or relationships are not as important as knowing how to be in these relationships and succeeding at them. Philosophy teachs you how to think and behave so that you will have the best possible outcomes. Thank you for posting it and you have a new subscriber.
Thank you so much for your kind words! It’s amazing how philosophy can shift our perspective and lighten the load. I’m glad the video resonated with you, and I’m honored to have you as a subscriber. Wishing you continued growth and peace!
Absolutely wonderful, l can do it!
For me, you are a winner, my friend! ❤
Thank you for these three tips. Stoicism is empowering my self worth through calmness in situations that would otherwise allow my human emotions to dominate and potentially devalue my character, through my own words and actions. Silence can be deafening when used at the precise time. Body presentation language has many words, characters and phrases of a proverbial nature already written in the minds of the those present.
Your reflection beautifully captures the essence of Stoicism-empowering self-worth through calm and intentional actions. Using silence and body language as tools of strength and clarity is a true testament to emotional intelligence. Keep embracing this journey!
Sage advice. Thanks.
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I can do it. Thank you.
For me, you are a winner, my friend! ❤
I've listened intensively and agree 100% .. I'll be trying these responses later tonight when I meet my "Friends", Thanks
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Love this dude man spot on videos keep it up man your doing great
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Amazing 👏
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I can do it too
Mind-blowing, highly informative and educative video.
Thanks a lot for such wonderful video.
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Insults are only effective when feelings are at present Captain!
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Very clearly explained. I wish I could have seen this earlier in my life. It would have help me act more maturely at times following these principals.
Thank you for your kind words! It's never too late to grow and apply these principles-what matters is the wisdom you gain along the way. Wishing you continued growth!
Great video! Peace out
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Thank you for sharing this information. While listening some instances came to mind. One realization is that some people seek to be around you because they sense the value in your character and want what to have that. The realization of this is appreciated and you may be comfortable trusting this person. Then this same person, in time, whom you are enriching gets frustrated trying to achieve the level of character you possess and despite your being gracious to them, rather than being thoughtful and patient to develop their own character decides to try some of the tactics discussed in the presentation I just watched. You try to be patient with them and help them, but they persist in this behavior. What you have shared brings to mind the realization that a kind and gracious person can be taken advantage of these things and a realization about the importance of maintaining one's character by including the use of the responses you have mentioned. I only wish I had seen this earlier in life. There is no time like the present to make positive adjustments. Thank you for sharing.
Your insight is deeply thoughtful and resonates with the journey many face when navigating relationships and maintaining character. Recognizing these dynamics is a powerful step toward personal growth and setting healthy boundaries. It’s never too late to make positive adjustments-thank you for sharing your experience and reflections!
I’m going to do it. Haven’t done it yet.. ❤
Thank you so much, I believe you will be a much better version in the future. ❤
Go for it. You'll never look back! Seriously it's amazing and makes you feel reborn
Absolutely loved this video! The insights from Stoic philosophy are so powerful and practical. Respect is earned, not demanded, and this video highlights exactly how to embody those principles. The focus on inner strength, self-discipline, and authenticity is something we all can apply in our daily lives. Thank you for sharing such valuable wisdom!
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My daughter dose that to me often but doesn't really mean anything by it I try to ignore it but I have told her she doesn't respect me she doesn't understand, maybe someday if she experiences it with her daughter
You're handling it with patience and grace, which shows real strength. Sometimes understanding takes time and life experiences. Keep setting boundaries calmly, and know that your efforts will leave an impression, even if it takes a while to sink in.
I can do it. Thanks.
For me, you are a winner, my friend! ❤
Thank you! This is helpful to my journey!
You're so welcome!
Thank you very much!🙏 😇
But, please, can you tell me the name of the beautiful song that can be heard in the background?🤔 🙏😍
Thank you, my friend ! ❤. it's a spanish song, and i don't know the name.
@ Oh...so sorry!.. 😢
But I will survive, thank you anyway!😄🙏 😇
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Could you please issue me information on the calming background music used in this video? Thanks in advance for any help with this question. Great video!
It's a spanish song and I don't remember the name of it, I'm sorry, my friend.
Wonderful teaching this morning I have learned a valuable life lesson..
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I'm head of a group. A few are collectively intentionally undermining me in front of the group. How do I handle when its in front of the entire body? When to directly address or when to move on?
When someone deliberately tries to undermine you in front of the group, stay calm and composed. If their comments are inaccurate, respond briefly, clearly, and factually to protect your dignity without being defensive or emotional. If the issue is serious, address it privately to set boundaries.
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That happened to me once in a Q&A session on mlm. I asked a question about something and the speaker interrupted me. I was completely cool, stood up and said loudly enough for 200 people to hear me,and said, " you interrupted me and then asked my question again.
You could have gears a pin drop.
No one talks over me.
perhaps you could point out there are many reasons an issue is looked at differently. It can I courage an interesting discussion. But if timing is a concern let the others think about to be a topic for another date
I got a lesson that suites my situation over my colleges in the council, which I often do so, though I was outnumbered I can stand own my own due for respect.
Standing your ground even when outnumbered shows true strength and self-respect. It's inspiring to see someone uphold their principles with confidence. Keep leading by example-respect is earned through integrity and courage!
These are powerful lessons. I’m new to this sight. I save these videos now and keep a notebook for your lessens. I can do it ! I need to teach these to my kids. Thank you.
For me, you are a winner, my friend! ❤