I remember being weirded out and also concerned by one of my former neighbors. His wife and daughter used to like to come over and chat. She was a stay at home wife so I assume she was lonely and bored at times. But where ever she and her daughter went they had to tell him where they were going and what time they thought that they would be back. If they didn't come home when they said they would he would get in his truck and drive around the neighborhood looking for them. We all thought that he was super controlling and that she was stuck in an abusive relationship. Turns out no. His wife told us one day that he was married before her and his former wife got kidnapped and murderer while taking a walk one day. So that's why he acted the way he did. It made a lot of sense after learning that. He wasn't abusive he just had major PTSD and worried a lot.
Oh that poor man..I really hope nothing else bad happens to his family and he can live out his life in peace, if even for a little while, he's earned it
Thats why I'm repeating the whole order at the drive thru so that the person in front of me can have a good time at home and not bite into a giant tomato
"When you're strange/people come out of the rain/When you're strange/no one remembers your name"...I've had to learn to say "thank you for your patience" instead of "I'm sorry"... being on spectrum means learning this. Because you ARE strange. Even if you get good enough not to be picked up on radar...
Gerald Ogden Exactly. I am strange too, just in a different way. We all are. 😊 Honestly it's the people who think they are normal I find the most odd. 😂 I love people who know they are strange the most. It's a pretty liberating thing to know about oneself. I don't much understand why so many people only shoot for average in life. Strange people are interesting. 😉
I'm a dude when at home I sit down to piss , my gf thought I was weird at first then she realised my genius. 1 I don't piss on the seat 2 I don't piss on me 3 no after dribble 4 sometimes a stealth shit comes out 5 i can use my phone 6 the seat is always down . Plus if you ever do see piss on the seat you know she had another dude in the house I have converted several of my male friends
I’ve had women and girls tell me that men can’t be raped or experience sexual assault because we live in a patriarchal society that makes it impossible for men to be victims. I have never been so angry in my fucking life. Any human being who thinks “patriarchy” prevents men from getting raped is garbage and deserves no love or decency.
When men are raped/sexually assaulted some people say that they should be happy about it "because she's hot" and don't take them seriously, it honestly makes me so mad
I know. Seriously, these kinds of "MATH" (irony) problems should be given to all junior high schoolers, and then teacher should ask "How do we solve this problem?"...
5:29 made me so sad. I wear hearing aids and got negative attention for them growing up. The fact that she went through the stress of having to constantly figure out what someone has said, every school day, rather than taking the risk of being labelled weird for her disability just makes me want to give them a hug
I have a friend who has a massive fear of blood, like he faints at the sight of it. Turns out he had some trauma with his best friend that involved an attempt and self harm, so learning that made the fear make a lot more sense to me.
I felt grossed out and empathy towards the "45 yr old man knocked up a 15 yr old girl" story. Poor girl got manipulated, and in the worst case scenario, could have been sold as a child bride to the man. She never had a chance.
22.40 It wrenches my heart out. The level of messed up was soo fucking bizarre. She just sold his son every fucking day. Man this is the saddest thing i heard. Bruhh i wish he is doing fine.
I always been awkward person, and I thought I just had strange quirks such as not understanding social queues, coming off as annoying, I do these thing with my fingers (imagine pushing valves down on a trumpet) randomly while walking or shopping in a store. I sometimes have a hard time understanding people and reading emotions. It wasn’t until recently when my mom mother mentioned my Aspergers diagnosed when I was younger. “Excuse me, my what?” Turns out the counselor I went to visit when I was younger was a child psychologist and I was diagnosed and it was never brought up again. I’m 27 and didn’t know why I was strange and had no friends. I always thought I was defected some how but nope. I’m just a little weird.
You’re not weird. Good for you for finally being able to understand yourself better! It definitely would have been helpful to know sooner, but maybe your parents wanted to protect you in some way.... All the best!
I grieve for us both. I was diagnosed on spectrum in the 80's and not told until 30 years later. "Don't give up/you have friends/don't give up/there's a place where we belong"
Similar kinda same I was diagnosed for a few things my parents hid from me that generation right so always struggled growing up turned out I've been disabled all my life but didn't know.
In college, we had a classmate who dressed up like her clothes were from the 70s, she often gets laughed at and bullied. We found out that her old mother sew her clothes, she was not allowed to buy anything for herself and she was also not allowed to entertain suitors as her sole mission on earth is to care for her elderly parents and her severely disabled brother. I didnt see her anymore after I graduated... I hope she got out of that family and had a good life of her own.
Knew a girl in middle and high school that was a little “off”. I just figured that she was slow in developing emotionally and physically and she would catch up. I lost contact with her for a bit when she moved away. When I met up again with her, no changes were apparent. She was bullied unmercifully. She moved again. Go forward about a decade. I attended a memorial service for a person related to some one at wor. I was speaking with this older woman, an she mentioned this girl’s first name. The name is common in my area, so I asked the woman if the girl’s last name was “smith.” It turned out to be the girl I knew back in school. I told the woman that this girl had a hard time in school with bullies. The woman disclosed that this girl was mentally ill with was later diagnosed as schizophrenia. She said it was hard for her to make friends and defend herself against the bullying because, and these were her words, “it is difficult to be a friend to someone who talks to trees the same way we talk to each other.” The bullies bullied her because of her odd behavior. I had no idea she was ill.
Adhd tends to lead to schizophrenia later in life. She might not have had schizophrenia when you knew her. Her odd behavior could have been caused by the bullying and her mentalizing it to. She could have talked to trees originally to just kind of let her feelings out. as that's sometimes how it goes. For instance people with DID don't usually start with DID, Its caused by Post Traumatic Stress. This isn't always the case. But Growing up myself with ADHD, and a curiosity of psychology as well as being heavily bullied myself I just kind of picked up on these things, some things related to psychology I actually just kind of picked up. They were actually part of the way I would just defend myself against bullying. when it came to psychology I probably learned concepts far above what I should have known when it came to my age, This caused me to become a bit guilty in my high school years because towards I was pretty manipulative I even knew how to use what people thought was odd about me to my advantage in other situations. This caused actually quite a little fight, I divided people. I heard from a friend of mine that was held back 2 years there were still people saying shit about me just to see if others could start fights with them. I really really regret the person bullying made me into and what I felt like I had to do to get through it. So I tend to just be more upfront about everything now, and try to reach others about being open and talking it through with people, you can never really know what someone else is going through.
Yeah usually the odd kids are just undiagnosed and have some sort of mental health issue. I say this as someone AuDHD. Even most adults don’t seem to realize that though, so I hope you don’t feel bad that you didn’t understand especially as a kid
Not another person but something I learned about myself. I recently got diagnosed with bipolar disorder and it caused my whole life to suddenly make sense. Generally when the average person thinks of bipolar they think of bipolar I, but I have bipolar II which made it more difficult to figure out what was wrong. Getting on medication, especially mood stabilizers, has been life changing
@TheTabascodragon It was recently suggested to me by my counselor that I may be bipolar. I haven't seen a mental health doctor yet but plan too. It does seem to make some things make sense. Can I ask you what the differences are between 1 and 2 cuz I wasn't aware there are 2 types.
I had that when I learned Dec '19 I had autism. Suddenly everything made SO much more sense about why I think the 'stupid' way I do, being punished for thinking outside the box 5 different ways when I got punished for not thinking outside one and jumping to conclusions and such....! It's relieving but I don't know what to do with this information now, how to improve myself, how to stop hurting people because I've done it so often and more than likely not taken on board whatever they say I've done/said wrong, mostly because I didn't get the time to process it and they've just given up on me because I didn't change in an hour of being yelled at when it can take me months/years to think through things and figure things out, especially Emotionally. I know I'm not alone but...? How do I distinguish what's Autism Mindset and what's How I've Been Treated From Being Physically Disabled Mindset? I don't know anyone else that's disabled AND autistic so it's not like I can ask for help properly. No point asking a professional who is neither disabled nor autistic, they've not lived in my brain for nearly 30 years. I can't figure it out, or maybe it's only been a year and I'm already regretting knowing, because it's been overshadowed by losing 3 of my best friends within 4 months of us all finding out together.
@@cecelastname6362 this is kind of simplifying it a bit but basically bipolar I has longer more intense manic episodes while in bipolar II they're shorter and less intense and the depression is usually the bigger issue
Yeah honestly just knowing I shouldn't take "advantage" of my highs and I can take my time during my lows helps so much. I don't take meds but I'm very carefull about what how much I do everyday.
I think it's safe to say we can't assume everything especially given these situations presented. It makes you realize how common the 'uncommon' truly is.
I was once that weird person. Always a little different, always a little eccentric. Everyone recognized it, but also realized I was quite intelligent. The world got their we finally get in now when I was 39, and diagnosed with Aspergers. Up at the pointy end of high functioning. When I reflect, everything is explained.
About myself: I was weird as a kid, shy and articulate. Didn't like other children around. Got bullied hard. After adolescence, had crippling anxiety and very paralyzing/hospitalizing panic attacks. Accidentally crossed with a video talking about Asperger's and everything clicked like magic
Thinking this is why I've been weird all my life. Nobody knew about Autism or Aspergers when I was a kid. If you were different it was because you were stupid or lazy. Whatever the problem it was your fault for not working hard enough.
The second story hit close to home. I've had the paranoia drilled into me that no one actually likes me and is pretending to because they feel like they can't get out of the situation. It's caused me to lose a lot of friendships. With therapy and a lot of activities and managing my life better I've gotten way less paranoid. it's the toughest thing ive ever did in my life but im glad it was worth it to put in the effort to get better.
There was this girl I went to high school with. She'd glomp onto somebody and they'd be perfect best friends. Then, after a while, she would break up the friendship over something small. She'd make a huge stink of it, too. This would become a pattern. She went through a bunch of "friends". By the end of high school, everyone had caught onto her pattern and she had no one. Turns out she's recently been diagnosed with either bipolar or BPD. I can't recall which. Either way, it sure explains a lot.
I used to sorta scoff back when school teachers used to say stuff to the class like "you never know what sombody is going through" now that I'm older and listen to stuff like this I realize what they meant and how lucky I had it.
22:40 - that's a whole other kind of messed up. damn, it's crazy when you find out what other kids were going through while you were at school. like how tf did they even manage to come in everyday like they did, y'know? I wanna an update on this story, but obvs it's not like I can just ask 'TheRealAbstractSquid' about it.
I know for a fact I was known as a “weird and annoying kid”. I have ADHD, depression and GAD. I also grew up with my dad being in and out of jails and prisons my entire life growing up until I hit 18 (multiple DWIs), and my birth mom abandoned me and left me with my great aunt and my birth mom has Bipolar Disorder, ADHD and GAD (I hope I never get Bipolar Disorder… 😳 it’s scary how you can get it later in life as well, like in your teens or 20’s). I visited my dad and grandma (my dad lived with his mom until he met my stepmom at 34, then he moved in with her) every other weekend from my great aunts house. When I was a child, my dad had a HUGE temper because of his alcoholism. Him and my poor grandma would fight daily and I was legitimately scared of my dad when he got angry. I’d either run into another room or hide behind my grandma. So yeah, I admit, I’ve never been that good at social interaction… but I’m trying. I just didn’t grow up with the best circumstances. Thankfully my dads a lot better now after he married my stepmom.
These stories at the 20:00 to 24:00 are heart-wrenching. I understand the ones about the mom competing with her daughter too well. I really hope the guy who was being sexually abused finds peace and love.
10:05 As I read this one, and the way they worded it, I was like "yep, that's gotta be autism" and it was. Source: I am an autistic person who also has the same issue, except no one tells me to stop and instead talks behind my back like I can't hear them...yeah that got dark. But it's true, please, if you know we're autistic, and we talk too much (and don't realize it) please politely acknowledge the fact and we'll be happy (because we don't mean to do that, we just love talking about stuff and what we're passionate about.) It's also hard to make friends, generally speaking and because of the harmful stereotypes still prepetuated in society. Which is why most autistic people will not tell you they are, or they'll act normal for the sake of trying to make connections.
In high school, I admitted to a girl that I loved her. After that, she avoided me like the plague. Like, literally avoided me like I had the plague or the most contagious disease known to man. Had she not been interested, that was fine. I’m sure we could’ve been friends or at least been in the same room together. But to her, nope. She couldn’t even be in the same room as me. She would literally run out of the room if she saw me. I never got an answer as to why she behaved like this. Even 20 years later, this is still one of my biggest personal mysteries. I wish I had received that little piece of the jigsaw...
The deaf story is the same with me. I'm 100% sure people in school thought i was stupid for taking ages to respond or asking them to repeat themselves, but really i was trying to rhyme words in my head to figure out a coherent sentence and then respond, as i have a hearing impairment. I'm too embarrassed to tell people and when i told my 'mother' i was looking to get aids she called me stupid and attention-seeking, even going as far as to put on a 'dumb' voice to mock me :/ so now i'm extremely self conscious about hearing aids but i really do need them
Not once but a good few times: why does this kid's father/mother freak out and RAGE if they're so much as a minute late home or if they don't know everyone their kid has so much as looked at? Because they're very experienced police officers. The burden of knowledge...
This makes me really happy. I feel like through my trauma or mental illness, i could be someone on this list? And i always feel so bad for my friends because sometimes I just can’t do things. Or act certain ways that are really hard for me to control in the moment. And the fact that there are so many understanding people makes me feel better!
On an online venue, sort of adopted this grown women as my daughter. Gradually learned she was horribly , horribly abused by family ..all family, lived on the street and was raped a few times. She is in therapy and gradually growing better.. Was very very suicidal for a while . I dont think she will ever be even close to what we would call normal . But I am extremely proud of her progress. We have never met and she lives about a state away . Is pretty much my age. ..but shes my kid and I hope I have been of help in her life..even in a small way
Had a friend in my teens who would randomly start dancing at inappropriate times for example while walking into a school assembly for a teachers memorial. She’d also change her entire style and music preferences to match the boy she liked. I was invited to her house after knowing her 6 years and I was the only person to get asked and I discovered that she had a younger sister that nobody at school knew about who was autistic and very destructive if she got into my friends bedroom, we arrived to a destroyed bedroom and my friend sighed at the sight trying not to cry and saw the torn clothes, smashed cds and makeup and said “I get to replace them again- I can be a different person when I choose something new” Her style changed with every destruction and she got the ideas of what to buy from which boy she liked. when we began cleaning up she started dancing to the one cd that was jammed in the CD player- Britney Spears. I smiled and started dancing as we cleaned too- she danced in times of stress. We also went to the DIY shop and I bought her a lock for high up her door so her sister couldn’t reach it. When we got back her mother smiled at me and showed me where the tool kit was.
I have aspergers. I can tell who has autism since normal people are insane in a different way. My one coworker definitely has it. Despite looking at me like an idiot when hes the one who's actually the term of "slow" in that he's high functioning but all he has is charisma that's lost on those that know him at work. I'm, what would you like to call it, compensated? I'm surprisingly creative as I've learned some people don't even think that far off their own nose.
@@lucyandecember2843 Man hides phone screen everytime she walks in. He's hiding something. Man never hides phone screen when she walks in. Hiding nothing...Comprene? Kid puts her hands behind her back when mother walks in. Hiding something. Kid ISN'T hiding hands behind back. Isn't hiding anything.
My boyfriend actually had that “ah, i get it now” realization with me after a few months of us dating which he recently told me about (we’ve been together for three years now). I have a habit of spouting out misogynistic comments about other women, I’m quite masculine in personality in general, and for a long time hated anything feminine in any way or at least pretended to be. My boyfriend never really minded it but he also didn’t understand it until I explained to him that my dad was very emotionally unavailable because I was born female. He would barely interect with me unless it had to do with sports and video games which led me to being heavily tomboy. I was raised under toxic masculinity despite being female and this led to me having mixed emotions about my own gender and even believing for a long time that I was trans or even bi-gender. It’s taken a lot of therapy for me to realize that the way my father raised me was wrong and that I shouldn’t be ashamed of just being a woman. I’m still working on myself and the ability to openly enjoy more feminine things likes skirts and dresses without making me seem weak. My boyfriend accepts me 100% and I’m so grateful that the universe brought us together.
My Dad was an asshole. Around 20 I drastically turned into a narcissistic asshole. I'm 26 and I'm mostly over the phase now, but holy fuck do I understand his impatience. It comes from our German/Viking gene. When I go into a rage I literally black out.
When I was younger, we would always see this middle aged woman walking down the street when we went to and from school. The way she walked looked like she was angrily marching. Like proper angry military marching. I just assumed that she was an angry person in general. A few kids in school had noticed her and would mock her marching behind her back. One day, we were on the coach coming back from a school trip. I saw the marching woman and pointed her out to my friend. Turns out that my friend's mother actually knew this woman and the reason why she walks the way she does was because she had really bad arthritis. So maybe she was walking like that to make her walks less painful. I stopped laughing at her after that.
Bit late, but had to add: 10:55, my grandmother was like that. Especially if we get sick. Slightest hint of sniffles and she would panic. She was from an age before widespread vaccination in my country. She lost 3 children, my mother's twin sister at age 4 due to measles and my twin uncles at infancy due to some sort of respiratory infection. She also had a mild anxiety disorder, and those compounded it. My paternal grandmother had it even worse - she had 11 children and lost 6 of them before they were 7, but she was a calmer woman by nature, and my grandfather on that side was a better, more supportive man. Still, you could see the fear in her eyes whenever we sniffle or cough.
10:40 Yeah me too. If I’m not nervous I could talk on and on about all the strange things lurking in the dark ocean or floating in the vast cosmos, but usually I tend to keep to myself and be quiet. I’ve only recently started to open up again, learned a few years ago I’m autistic.
When I started figuring out that I was autistic, turns out, my dad is like text book autistic, and no one realized for nearly 50 years because he's basically a normal dude, he just has a weird obsession with baseball, has watched the same movies and shows for his whole life, has ten of the same shirts and pants and will wear basically the same things everyday, he was apparently really picky before he joined the army, but if you ignore that he's just a regular man? He ended up having two autistic children lol
My BF/fiancé was a certain way. He had these mannerisms, but I brushed it off, because when things were great, he was the most wonderful person. But we got married and I eventually moved in. This was 7 years later (long distance thing), anyways, I realised by moving in, things were not quite right. So I started doing some research - he was not Aspergers, and we finally landed on ADD - this really closely resembles his ways and outcomes. I now understand the impulsiveness, the chaos, the lack of completion. Sometimes I wish I never met him!
yeah sleeping quarters are about the last of your worries as a japanese PoW... or really a PoW of nearly any non western nation... or even occasionally a western PoW...
Hearing these stories told from very compassionate perspectives makes me realize I really need a friend like that... obe that will take the time to understand me
So, my mother explained to me that my dad, who has always been standoffish and hard to handle? Well, his father told him that he should have died of cancer instead of his brother.
This is the best Reddit video I've seen in ages. Hope they will do this again. There's a whole series of potential short stories or novels here, from the height to the depth of human nature and back..
5:29 i get it, and it pains me. I Was born with microtia and had to go through school Without hearing Aids and Without rexonstructive surgery. I endured terrible bullying, and what can i say? some People are the true monsters. If my parents did not care, Who would? They are dead now, i miss them and also resented them but still i do not want to be close to People. Have a pleasant Week people!
10:10 yeah i get that a little. I have ADHD and I'm so gratefull when my friends tell me to shut up. Or tell me I'm talking too fast, much or incoherent. It's especially bad when I talk about something that i love :D
@@fabioribeiro4627 That's not true. Every person is different. Ritalin may not work for you, but it does for others. I have ADHD and I take Adderall. It works for me but I know it doesn't work for everyone.
@@xxlolkirby64xx22 Yes, sure, I meant, it doesn't work for me. Which is bad, because Adderall or any other amphetamine are not available in my country. The only thing I can try now is atomoxetine and possibly other supplements.
9:53 Yes, that is fine to do. Why, because we've had the same experience with other people with autism. I see autism as a separate entity for this reason, our brains don't know any other way so it uses what it thinks it knows. Not so sure where the loyalty comes from but if you ever betray it it's hard to get it back. I've never understood what people actually liked about me but I'm starting to get it.
My father was the second-to-youngest child in his family, and the only boy. His mother and six older sisters were abusive and blazing flamboyant feminists (the most extreme you can think of on borderline criminal towards men; anti-men, pro-lesbian etc. Even their husbands, who gave them children, looked miserable at the reunion), while the youngest child was the only emotional support for him. I totally understand why he wants no part of the lives of my relatives except Aunt Jane, and after having personally met all of them, I prefer to only visit Aunt Jane too. My father always insisted on not crying in front of his family, and is a retired veteran of the US Navy. Retired as a lieutenant commander, nuclear engineer. He was the harshest critic on my brother, but he also did his best to hold back since he learned, over time, that in contrast to his own siblings, I loved my brother. So it makes a lot of sense why my father seemed angry, fearful and distant until I passed the age of 10. If you ever find him, never tell him I shared this story if you please! 😅❤ He's a big softy these days and has mellowed out a lot, but he deserves his privacy.
Yeah.... being raised in a cult is tough socially. I left my entire family and social network. I'm personally and formerly one of Jehovah's Witnesses. Mormons[LDS] and Scientologist are very similar. I've since learned more social skills in general. But most of my friends that are more like family are other cult survivors that understand the effects of being shunned and the shock catastrophic worldview failure. Like an automobile engine locking up...it comes to a halt and goes nowhere. Still...I can say I have a better life now and doing well presently with even good friends that are religious while I'm very much not. I'm completely done with "dogmatic" across the board. Its not *absolutely* necessary to think *exactly alike* to have a mutually beneficial personal relationship with someone. If you think it does.......you *might* be in a member of a cult or conspiracy theorist group. 🤷♂️
Me. I'm autistic with pathological demand avoidance, which makes me have an excessive need for control over everything. I wish more people knew this about me and that I can't control it.
Why would she criticise someone's parent for not forcing their kids to do something they don't want to do? That's good parenting. Someone's hella jealous
This is a bit lightweight but when I was in the 8th grade, I would act completely bizarre and crazy. I literally devoted my day to making stupid jokes at every chance I could. Only two people, my sister and friend, genuinely asked why I acted the way I did, and I told them no problem. I spent alot of the time when I was 13 just sad and overwhelmed by it, so I made the jokes I did in the 8th grade to lighten the mood and try to make things more interesting. As an adult, I realized I crossed the line too much and there were times when instead of lightening the mood, I was just being annoying when serrious things (for a teenager) were happening or needed to get done. But sense then, I've met other people who act similarly and I can just tell they had the same mentality
@ 21:00 "Mentally Retarded" Is not an insult, it's a description. The change needs to be to take back that meaning from those that would use it inappropriately or to offend. We can't pretend words don't mean what they mean but we can call out people who use those words as weapons to hurt others.
Lol I'm christian and my husband atheist. We have been toguether for 12 years and it has never been a problem between us. We just don't talk much about religion and respect each other's beliefs.
Me: mom, i feel different from everyone else Mom: how? Me: I don't know. I mean I can see creative loopholes and I can't focus as well Me: Maybe I have ADHD Mom: yeah, you have ADHD. You didn't know that? Me: NO! You never told me that!!
i found out my friend has ADHD and is on the autistic scale but can manage on his own. He was so weird to me but when he finally explained it. My judgement left the window and i see him as a great friend now.
I was the odd person. A man I worked with did not understand me until he drew Goddess cards for me. The cards he drew in order were. 1) Baba Yaga, who was not John wick in this incarnation but rather someone who loved nature especially forests and" walked on paths she makes herself loves to dance in the rain naked and speaks to animals in their own language" actually fairly accurate. 2) Bastet the Egyptian cat Goddess who in the cards was the incarceration of Play. Who "plays and explores, and can always amuse herself" again accurate. 3) Nut pronounced Noot. The Egyptian Goddess of the night sky "Who is a mystery even to herself" okay bang on. 4) Kwan Yin or Quan Yin there are several spellings. The Goddess of Mercy, Chinese. Who " forgives and nurtures" okay again accurate. Accurate enough that it absolutely stunned me. The reading is incredibly accurate I have a lot of duality in my system. I'll fight to save another person before I fight for myself I always try to negotiate First if it's me. I can be by myself and frequently am and keep myself amused. I am the serious because like I said this is accurate. I love the forest I love animals especially mammals but yes I take time to understand them and their ways and speak to them in their own languages. I show love to cats by feeding them I use a toothbrush in warm water or even in my mouth so that they associate my scent with Mom, and then I brush them with it the toothbrush feels like Mom's tongue. I lay down and cuddle with dogs because the pack sleeps together and that's how they know they're safe. A lot of animals body language is just as viable as their vocal language and just as important. So Baba yaga is bang on. I'm not a pacifist but I do nurture people and try to think the best of everyone. To put it mildly this card draws scared me because of it's accuracy. But he said it made sense why sometimes I act differently in certain occasions
About myself, surprisingly. I was always the odd kid, never really fit in. I was smart, but socially awkward in a lot of ways. It wasn't until I was in my late 30s I was told why it was: I'm neurodivergent, super-high-functioning Asperger's Syndrome. I'd been tested when I was a child, but my mother never told me because she didn't want me to be treated like I was retarded, since, at the time (The 80s and 90s), that's how you got treated. After learning that, I figured a lot of stuff out about myself.
Same here! I was always the shy nerdy bookworm into fantasy and video games. Never been diagnosed with anything but I suspect I have a personality disorder or depression. Definitely anxiety though.
Usually for me it's been that they are high-functioning on the spectrum, have been abused, or are a recovering addict (noticed that they never went out with us as at all).
This is wrong. Oliver North was not a General in the Army, he was a Lieutenant Colonel in the Marine Corps. Iran-Contra was dealing arms to Iran to free American hostages in Lebanon, and using the proceeds to fund the freedom fighting contra rebels in Nicaragua.
I never understand why card counting is so shunned. It seems to be a genuine skill. Only thing I can think of is Casino’s hating it cus people like that are impervious to making them revenue
At a camp I went to, i knew a girl that thought she could see demons I asked her about it and she said that she couldn’t tell me why because it would change my life or something. Said ok and let her just wander around the campus. I just assumed that she was a bit wack in the head. I didn’t want to judge her because her room mates would laugh at her and run away from her when ever they saw her, so she already was having trouble just existing. I didn’t see her a lot but on the last day asked her to sit with us at lunch because she sat alone. We ate. She got up said thank you then left, she’s a kind girl honestly, a bit quiet, but just troubled. I wonder how she is doing some times.
7:47 Frankly, having a baby at 15 would normally PROPEL someone into maturity, not hold them back. That woman has a brick or two short of a whole pallet. Which is probably why she was attracted to a "father figure". His issues obviously go the other way. He wants someone he can intellectually dominate, if not also emotionally. If a man has self esteem issues based on "superiority" the ideal way to solve that is to hook up with someone his "inferior" so that his shortcomings are way less obvious.
I agree with you, but I also feel like when you're a young mom you either go two ways. You get your act together and do your best OR you regress and can't keep up
Most moms I know who had kids as a teenager are stuck at that age emotionally. Like they can work and pay bills but they get jealous and pouty like a little girl.
I'm the only person in my life who deserves and demands very, very little human interaction. So much so that everyone who tries to be my friend gets excuse after excuse from me so that they stay away. If they ask questions, I tell them to quit prying. I don't want friends and want privacy. 24/7. I have a cat. Smiling is pointless unless I'm with her. People are worthless, and have never been trustworthy and never will be.
I feel the same most days. But in my case I think its because I was always shy and introverted and never understood other people, possibly also partly due to my upbringing. But I prefer solitude. There's nothing better than getting up in the morning and making a cup of tea and enjoying time with yourself. I like going out wit friends too, just not crowds and clubs.
0:30 My doctor told me to sleep on my stomach as it would help stretch out my hip flexors as well as other muscles. I've done it the entire night a couple of times now and it's such an awkward position.
I went to school with a girl who had severe dyscalculia - like to the point that she could not grasp numbers higher than 9. Ten would be 'one-zero' to her, then one-one, one-two, one-three and so on. But she had a brilliant way to describe it to people if they made remarks like "you must be stupid". She took out a card where something was written with a foreign alphabet (arabic or something, I can't remember) then asked them to read what it said. When people said "I have no clue" she would tell them "Would you know if I showed you tomorrow? Or every day the next month? No....? THAT'S how my brain is with numbers. Every day. Always!"
In the transgender one, the reply was made "5 hours ago" and said April 1st this year. I'm in Australia rn st 3:30am... When did you record/screenshot these?
"She also quite Christian with a big fascination with Israel" Correct me if I'm wrong.. but doesn't that apply to *ALL* Christians? That would be like saying Asatru followers have a big fascination with places like Norway or Sweden...
Funny story, so this recently happened to me, I was in a very emotionally low place. I don't really remember what the conversation was exactly, but I started listing the things I thought were wrong with me (I tend to space out really easily if I'm not interested in the topic, I have a hard time taking some things seriously, I tend to overwhelm people with information on topics I like/am interested in, etc.). Now my friend Lucy is on the spectrum and has a pretty mild degree of autism, and when I said that she just looked at me and said "yeah that sounds like autism and some ADHD" so I took the AQ10 test to see if I possibly had autism, did some research and I got a 6 (which means possible). Then it all just sort of clicked into place, it kinda made sense. Sadly, when I tried to get my parents to get me an assessment, they just laughed at me and said I was just overreacting and exaggerating (they never checked me for it, so we are not sure, I still think it's autism). TDLR: I thought there were several things wrong with my personality and felt like crap, turns out it was probably just autism and ADHD. Still no diagnose cause my parents don't want to get it checked out.
I was the really really quiet kid in school, and I had the usual learning problems, always a few steps behind in learning, and just a slow learner. The first legit friend I made, I told her a while later that I had severe anxiety (social), ADD and Asperger’s. It made better sense
I had a friend exactly like 11:44. The only reason I know one of my friends didn’t write this about her is because her grandma was a nun and her grandpa was a monk who both became fundamentalists lolll
I remember being weirded out and also concerned by one of my former neighbors. His wife and daughter used to like to come over and chat. She was a stay at home wife so I assume she was lonely and bored at times. But where ever she and her daughter went they had to tell him where they were going and what time they thought that they would be back. If they didn't come home when they said they would he would get in his truck and drive around the neighborhood looking for them. We all thought that he was super controlling and that she was stuck in an abusive relationship. Turns out no. His wife told us one day that he was married before her and his former wife got kidnapped and murderer while taking a walk one day. So that's why he acted the way he did. It made a lot of sense after learning that. He wasn't abusive he just had major PTSD and worried a lot.
Poor dude, no one should go through what he did.
@@beastmaster0934 yeah agreed it made us all understand his standoffish nature and why he was so reclusive a lot better
Oh that poor man..I really hope nothing else bad happens to his family and he can live out his life in peace, if even for a little while, he's earned it
this is the saddest & sweetest explanation to controlling husband behaviour I have ever read.
@@humixmusic4lyf I know right?!
It's the most reasonable explanation for it.
....Actually, it's the ONLY reasonable explanation for it!
The Grinch.
The older i get, the more i understand why he chose to live with his dog far away from civilzation.
I know, right? yet everyone seems to think Covid lockdowns are AWFUL...lol.
#Relatable
@@Kayenne54 its not even about covid though, most people are just in for themselves and would gladly crush anybody in their path
So true but in my case a cat
Yup
When people are weird, there's often a good reason. It's why we need empathy.
There's not much of it around right now.
Thats why I'm repeating the whole order at the drive thru so that the person in front of me can have a good time at home and not bite into a giant tomato
"When you're strange/people come out of the rain/When you're strange/no one remembers your name"...I've had to learn to say "thank you for your patience" instead of "I'm sorry"... being on spectrum means learning this. Because you ARE strange. Even if you get good enough not to be picked up on radar...
Gerald Ogden It's a damn good song with a damn good message. 😊 That one had quite an influence on me too.
People are strange...
@@ThePinkBinks right? I AM strange... just glad someone can understand...
Gerald Ogden Exactly. I am strange too, just in a different way. We all are. 😊
Honestly it's the people who think they are normal I find the most odd. 😂
I love people who know they are strange the most. It's a pretty liberating thing to know about oneself. I don't much understand why so many people only shoot for average in life. Strange people are interesting. 😉
I'm a dude when at home I sit down to piss , my gf thought I was weird at first then she realised my genius.
1 I don't piss on the seat
2 I don't piss on me
3 no after dribble
4 sometimes a stealth shit comes out
5 i can use my phone
6 the seat is always down .
Plus if you ever do see piss on the seat you know she had another dude in the house
I have converted several of my male friends
This actually is pure genius. Especially the last part.
@@jordanmchighlander9365 luckily in current relationship no random piss of seat left up 😉
" a stealth shit." 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😁😁😁
It only makes sense... Problem: I'm 6'5" it's a whole to-do to sitdown and get back up. 🤷🏾♂️
Can you tell the men in my family about this, thanks 🤣🤣
22:30
Remember: when men are victims, oftentimes they are treated as if it doesn't matter
Be nice to male victims
I’ve had women and girls tell me that men can’t be raped or experience sexual assault because we live in a patriarchal society that makes it impossible for men to be victims.
I have never been so angry in my fucking life. Any human being who thinks “patriarchy” prevents men from getting raped is garbage and deserves no love or decency.
@@kimmiewise1044 as a girl that make me furious, it just makes me so mad people think like that.
When men are raped/sexually assaulted some people say that they should be happy about it "because she's hot" and don't take them seriously, it honestly makes me so mad
@@kimmiewise1044 It's horrible. It reminds me of the stupid argument that you can't be racist to white people.
“She’s 25”
Ok
“Husband is 50”
Not...unusual but sure.
“10 year old daughter”
....huh?
Wait that’s illegal.
@Daniel Downs you know what, I love you too
Bless ffs
I know. Seriously, these kinds of "MATH" (irony) problems should be given to all junior high schoolers, and then teacher should ask "How do we solve this problem?"...
@@Kayenne54 If Mr. X is 50 and Ms. X is 25, and their daughter is 10 years old, how many years should Mr. X spend in jail?
@@lemax6865 That sounds like something interesting to be included in the SAT's and/or ACT's.
5:29 made me so sad. I wear hearing aids and got negative attention for them growing up. The fact that she went through the stress of having to constantly figure out what someone has said, every school day, rather than taking the risk of being labelled weird for her disability just makes me want to give them a hug
I have a friend who has a massive fear of blood, like he faints at the sight of it. Turns out he had some trauma with his best friend that involved an attempt and self harm, so learning that made the fear make a lot more sense to me.
I felt grossed out and empathy towards the "45 yr old man knocked up a 15 yr old girl" story. Poor girl got manipulated, and in the worst case scenario, could have been sold as a child bride to the man. She never had a chance.
@Vincent Major @Francis Hayden lmaoooo, nice try buddy. It's so clear both accounts are owned by the same person.
@@illyGalSloth these are the new breed of bots and i hate it
@@thisyoutubehandleisdumbasfuck Me too :/ I just hope all of them are as obvious as these bots
Yeah. As someone who was taken advantage of as a child, I feel her pain as my own.
@Vincent Major no one does
22.40 It wrenches my heart out. The level of messed up was soo fucking bizarre. She just sold his son every fucking day. Man this is the saddest thing i heard. Bruhh i wish he is doing fine.
I always been awkward person, and I thought I just had strange quirks such as not understanding social queues, coming off as annoying, I do these thing with my fingers (imagine pushing valves down on a trumpet) randomly while walking or shopping in a store. I sometimes have a hard time understanding people and reading emotions. It wasn’t until recently when my mom mother mentioned my Aspergers diagnosed when I was younger. “Excuse me, my what?” Turns out the counselor I went to visit when I was younger was a child psychologist and I was diagnosed and it was never brought up again. I’m 27 and didn’t know why I was strange and had no friends. I always thought I was defected some how but nope. I’m just a little weird.
You’re not weird. Good for you for finally being able to understand yourself better! It definitely would have been helpful to know sooner, but maybe your parents wanted to protect you in some way.... All the best!
shit. she really kept that from you. like just said nothing for years. geez Mum.
I grieve for us both. I was diagnosed on spectrum in the 80's and not told until 30 years later. "Don't give up/you have friends/don't give up/there's a place where we belong"
Bruh... I was diagnosed at like 6-7 but it wasn't brought to my attention until a few years later ( I think still in elementary school)
Similar kinda same I was diagnosed for a few things my parents hid from me that generation right so always struggled growing up turned out I've been disabled all my life but didn't know.
In college, we had a classmate who dressed up like her clothes were from the 70s, she often gets laughed at and bullied. We found out that her old mother sew her clothes, she was not allowed to buy anything for herself and she was also not allowed to entertain suitors as her sole mission on earth is to care for her elderly parents and her severely disabled brother. I didnt see her anymore after I graduated... I hope she got out of that family and had a good life of her own.
I mean most of the clothes I wear are more in line with the early 1900s but that is by choice...
Knew a girl in middle and high school that was a little “off”. I just figured that she was slow in developing emotionally and physically and she would catch up. I lost contact with her for a bit when she moved away. When I met up again with her, no changes were apparent. She was bullied unmercifully. She moved again. Go forward about a decade. I attended a memorial service for a person related to some one at wor. I was speaking with this older woman, an she mentioned this girl’s first name. The name is common in my area, so I asked the woman if the girl’s last name was “smith.” It turned out to be the girl I knew back in school. I told the woman that this girl had a hard time in school with bullies. The woman disclosed that this girl was mentally ill with was later diagnosed as schizophrenia. She said it was hard for her to make friends and defend herself against the bullying because, and these were her words, “it is difficult to be a friend to someone who talks to trees the same way we talk to each other.” The bullies bullied her because of her odd behavior. I had no idea she was ill.
Still pretty impressive that she learned Vietnamese.
Adhd tends to lead to schizophrenia later in life. She might not have had schizophrenia when you knew her. Her odd behavior could have been caused by the bullying and her mentalizing it to. She could have talked to trees originally to just kind of let her feelings out. as that's sometimes how it goes. For instance people with DID don't usually start with DID, Its caused by Post Traumatic Stress.
This isn't always the case. But Growing up myself with ADHD, and a curiosity of psychology as well as being heavily bullied myself I just kind of picked up on these things, some things related to psychology I actually just kind of picked up. They were actually part of the way I would just defend myself against bullying. when it came to psychology I probably learned concepts far above what I should have known when it came to my age, This caused me to become a bit guilty in my high school years because towards I was pretty manipulative I even knew how to use what people thought was odd about me to my advantage in other situations. This caused actually quite a little fight, I divided people. I heard from a friend of mine that was held back 2 years there were still people saying shit about me just to see if others could start fights with them. I really really regret the person bullying made me into and what I felt like I had to do to get through it. So I tend to just be more upfront about everything now, and try to reach others about being open and talking it through with people, you can never really know what someone else is going through.
Same LoL 😂😭 I talk to trees 💀💀☠️
Yeah usually the odd kids are just undiagnosed and have some sort of mental health issue. I say this as someone AuDHD. Even most adults don’t seem to realize that though, so I hope you don’t feel bad that you didn’t understand especially as a kid
Why are my TH-cam comments always being deleted 😭
Not another person but something I learned about myself. I recently got diagnosed with bipolar disorder and it caused my whole life to suddenly make sense. Generally when the average person thinks of bipolar they think of bipolar I, but I have bipolar II which made it more difficult to figure out what was wrong. Getting on medication, especially mood stabilizers, has been life changing
@TheTabascodragon It was recently suggested to me by my counselor that I may be bipolar. I haven't seen a mental health doctor yet but plan too. It does seem to make some things make sense. Can I ask you what the differences are between 1 and 2 cuz I wasn't aware there are 2 types.
I had that when I learned Dec '19 I had autism. Suddenly everything made SO much more sense about why I think the 'stupid' way I do, being punished for thinking outside the box 5 different ways when I got punished for not thinking outside one and jumping to conclusions and such....!
It's relieving but I don't know what to do with this information now, how to improve myself, how to stop hurting people because I've done it so often and more than likely not taken on board whatever they say I've done/said wrong, mostly because I didn't get the time to process it and they've just given up on me because I didn't change in an hour of being yelled at when it can take me months/years to think through things and figure things out, especially Emotionally.
I know I'm not alone but...? How do I distinguish what's Autism Mindset and what's How I've Been Treated From Being Physically Disabled Mindset? I don't know anyone else that's disabled AND autistic so it's not like I can ask for help properly. No point asking a professional who is neither disabled nor autistic, they've not lived in my brain for nearly 30 years. I can't figure it out, or maybe it's only been a year and I'm already regretting knowing, because it's been overshadowed by losing 3 of my best friends within 4 months of us all finding out together.
@@cecelastname6362 this is kind of simplifying it a bit but basically bipolar I has longer more intense manic episodes while in bipolar II they're shorter and less intense and the depression is usually the bigger issue
I appreciate your input. I'm gonna look into it more cuz from your definition I seem to fit 2 a little more. Thank you!
Yeah honestly just knowing I shouldn't take "advantage" of my highs and I can take my time during my lows helps so much. I don't take meds but I'm very carefull about what how much I do everyday.
This one was really good because it had me guessing as to what would cause those behaviours.
Me too!
I think it's safe to say we can't assume everything especially given these situations presented. It makes you realize how common the 'uncommon' truly is.
I’m just trying to spot the autistic people.
I was once that weird person. Always a little different, always a little eccentric. Everyone recognized it, but also realized I was quite intelligent. The world got their we finally get in now when I was 39, and diagnosed with Aspergers. Up at the pointy end of high functioning. When I reflect, everything is explained.
About myself: I was weird as a kid, shy and articulate. Didn't like other children around. Got bullied hard. After adolescence, had crippling anxiety and very paralyzing/hospitalizing panic attacks.
Accidentally crossed with a video talking about Asperger's and everything clicked like magic
Thinking this is why I've been weird all my life. Nobody knew about Autism or Aspergers when I was a kid. If you were different it was because you were stupid or lazy. Whatever the problem it was your fault for not working hard enough.
The second story hit close to home. I've had the paranoia drilled into me that no one actually likes me and is pretending to because they feel like they can't get out of the situation. It's caused me to lose a lot of friendships. With therapy and a lot of activities and managing my life better I've gotten way less paranoid. it's the toughest thing ive ever did in my life but im glad it was worth it to put in the effort to get better.
Much love for you achieving this bro 👌👌 good job
The one with the scarred child had me nearly crying.
@Anonymous Person think the 3rd one.
He fought the men rapeing him.
There was this girl I went to high school with. She'd glomp onto somebody and they'd be perfect best friends. Then, after a while, she would break up the friendship over something small. She'd make a huge stink of it, too. This would become a pattern. She went through a bunch of "friends". By the end of high school, everyone had caught onto her pattern and she had no one. Turns out she's recently been diagnosed with either bipolar or BPD. I can't recall which. Either way, it sure explains a lot.
sounds more like BPD... unstable relationships.
Me as an adult, just found out and there’s dissociation features now. I lose so much time.
I used to sorta scoff back when school teachers used to say stuff to the class like "you never know what sombody is going through" now that I'm older and listen to stuff like this I realize what they meant and how lucky I had it.
Lady Gaga's mentor is Elton John, to the point that Gaga is the godmother to his kids.
22:40 - that's a whole other kind of messed up. damn, it's crazy when you find out what other kids were going through while you were at school. like how tf did they even manage to come in everyday like they did, y'know? I wanna an update on this story, but obvs it's not like I can just ask 'TheRealAbstractSquid' about it.
When my classmates learned that I have ADHD they were all like "Ooooohhhhhhh"
Mentat.
I know for a fact I was known as a “weird and annoying kid”. I have ADHD, depression and GAD. I also grew up with my dad being in and out of jails and prisons my entire life growing up until I hit 18 (multiple DWIs), and my birth mom abandoned me and left me with my great aunt and my birth mom has Bipolar Disorder, ADHD and GAD (I hope I never get Bipolar Disorder… 😳 it’s scary how you can get it later in life as well, like in your teens or 20’s).
I visited my dad and grandma (my dad lived with his mom until he met my stepmom at 34, then he moved in with her) every other weekend from my great aunts house. When I was a child, my dad had a HUGE temper because of his alcoholism. Him and my poor grandma would fight daily and I was legitimately scared of my dad when he got angry. I’d either run into another room or hide behind my grandma.
So yeah, I admit, I’ve never been that good at social interaction… but I’m trying. I just didn’t grow up with the best circumstances. Thankfully my dads a lot better now after he married my stepmom.
These stories at the 20:00 to 24:00 are heart-wrenching. I understand the ones about the mom competing with her daughter too well.
I really hope the guy who was being sexually abused finds peace and love.
10:05 As I read this one, and the way they worded it, I was like "yep, that's gotta be autism" and it was.
Source: I am an autistic person who also has the same issue, except no one tells me to stop and instead talks behind my back like I can't hear them...yeah that got dark. But it's true, please, if you know we're autistic, and we talk too much (and don't realize it) please politely acknowledge the fact and we'll be happy (because we don't mean to do that, we just love talking about stuff and what we're passionate about.) It's also hard to make friends, generally speaking and because of the harmful stereotypes still prepetuated in society. Which is why most autistic people will not tell you they are, or they'll act normal for the sake of trying to make connections.
I call it spectrum radar for lack of a better term...
In high school, I admitted to a girl that I loved her. After that, she avoided me like the plague. Like, literally avoided me like I had the plague or the most contagious disease known to man. Had she not been interested, that was fine. I’m sure we could’ve been friends or at least been in the same room together. But to her, nope. She couldn’t even be in the same room as me. She would literally run out of the room if she saw me.
I never got an answer as to why she behaved like this. Even 20 years later, this is still one of my biggest personal mysteries. I wish I had received that little piece of the jigsaw...
The deaf story is the same with me. I'm 100% sure people in school thought i was stupid for taking ages to respond or asking them to repeat themselves, but really i was trying to rhyme words in my head to figure out a coherent sentence and then respond, as i have a hearing impairment. I'm too embarrassed to tell people and when i told my 'mother' i was looking to get aids she called me stupid and attention-seeking, even going as far as to put on a 'dumb' voice to mock me :/ so now i'm extremely self conscious about hearing aids but i really do need them
Not once but a good few times: why does this kid's father/mother freak out and RAGE if they're so much as a minute late home or if they don't know everyone their kid has so much as looked at?
Because they're very experienced police officers.
The burden of knowledge...
I don’t get it
This makes me really happy. I feel like through my trauma or mental illness, i could be someone on this list? And i always feel so bad for my friends because sometimes I just can’t do things. Or act certain ways that are really hard for me to control in the moment. And the fact that there are so many understanding people makes me feel better!
On an online venue, sort of adopted this grown women as my daughter. Gradually learned she was horribly , horribly abused by family ..all family, lived on the street and was raped a few times. She is in therapy and gradually growing better.. Was very very suicidal for a while . I dont think she will ever be even close to what we would call normal . But I am extremely proud of her progress. We have never met and she lives about a state away . Is pretty much my age. ..but shes my kid and I hope I have been of help in her life..even in a small way
Had a friend in my teens who would randomly start dancing at inappropriate times for example while walking into a school assembly for a teachers memorial. She’d also change her entire style and music preferences to match the boy she liked.
I was invited to her house after knowing her 6 years and I was the only person to get asked and I discovered that she had a younger sister that nobody at school knew about who was autistic and very destructive if she got into my friends bedroom, we arrived to a destroyed bedroom and my friend sighed at the sight trying not to cry and saw the torn clothes, smashed cds and makeup and said “I get to replace them again- I can be a different person when I choose something new”
Her style changed with every destruction and she got the ideas of what to buy from which boy she liked. when we began cleaning up she started dancing to the one cd that was jammed in the CD player- Britney Spears. I smiled and started dancing as we cleaned too- she danced in times of stress. We also went to the DIY shop and I bought her a lock for high up her door so her sister couldn’t reach it. When we got back her mother smiled at me and showed me where the tool kit was.
I have aspergers. I can tell who has autism since normal people are insane in a different way. My one coworker definitely has it. Despite looking at me like an idiot when hes the one who's actually the term of "slow" in that he's high functioning but all he has is charisma that's lost on those that know him at work. I'm, what would you like to call it, compensated? I'm surprisingly creative as I've learned some people don't even think that far off their own nose.
13:10 She lusts for his soul and he gets a thrill from the chase.
1:30 this guy epitomizes the saying "A man with nothing to hide, hides nothing".
i don't get it lol
@@lucyandecember2843 Man hides phone screen everytime she walks in. He's hiding something. Man never hides phone screen when she walks in. Hiding nothing...Comprene? Kid puts her hands behind her back when mother walks in. Hiding something. Kid ISN'T hiding hands behind back. Isn't hiding anything.
Schizophrenia sucks, my 12 year old thinks everyone hates her too. I hope a cure is found
My boyfriend actually had that “ah, i get it now” realization with me after a few months of us dating which he recently told me about (we’ve been together for three years now). I have a habit of spouting out misogynistic comments about other women, I’m quite masculine in personality in general, and for a long time hated anything feminine in any way or at least pretended to be. My boyfriend never really minded it but he also didn’t understand it until I explained to him that my dad was very emotionally unavailable because I was born female. He would barely interect with me unless it had to do with sports and video games which led me to being heavily tomboy. I was raised under toxic masculinity despite being female and this led to me having mixed emotions about my own gender and even believing for a long time that I was trans or even bi-gender. It’s taken a lot of therapy for me to realize that the way my father raised me was wrong and that I shouldn’t be ashamed of just being a woman. I’m still working on myself and the ability to openly enjoy more feminine things likes skirts and dresses without making me seem weak. My boyfriend accepts me 100% and I’m so grateful that the universe brought us together.
My Dad was an asshole. Around 20 I drastically turned into a narcissistic asshole. I'm 26 and I'm mostly over the phase now, but holy fuck do I understand his impatience. It comes from our German/Viking gene. When I go into a rage I literally black out.
9:30 I am the same way. I have Autism and yeah it is very hard judging when to shut up.
When I was younger, we would always see this middle aged woman walking down the street when we went to and from school. The way she walked looked like she was angrily marching. Like proper angry military marching. I just assumed that she was an angry person in general. A few kids in school had noticed her and would mock her marching behind her back.
One day, we were on the coach coming back from a school trip. I saw the marching woman and pointed her out to my friend. Turns out that my friend's mother actually knew this woman and the reason why she walks the way she does was because she had really bad arthritis. So maybe she was walking like that to make her walks less painful. I stopped laughing at her after that.
Bit late, but had to add:
10:55, my grandmother was like that. Especially if we get sick. Slightest hint of sniffles and she would panic.
She was from an age before widespread vaccination in my country. She lost 3 children, my mother's twin sister at age 4 due to measles and my twin uncles at infancy due to some sort of respiratory infection. She also had a mild anxiety disorder, and those compounded it.
My paternal grandmother had it even worse - she had 11 children and lost 6 of them before they were 7, but she was a calmer woman by nature, and my grandfather on that side was a better, more supportive man. Still, you could see the fear in her eyes whenever we sniffle or cough.
10:40 i am the same way, I'd like to be told if I'm being annoying or boring so that I can just shut up and go away
Being a the odd one in your group is very hard, especially some time when they go “I get you now” 24/7 the whole day
I wish sobriety was as normal as drinking.
I'm straight edge and proud of it! And yet people think I'm the weird one! I never liked to drink alcohol simply bc I don't like the taste of it.
"I live hearing how old people stayed together for so long when everything says they wouldn't make it."
It's called physical abuse
10:40 Yeah me too. If I’m not nervous I could talk on and on about all the strange things lurking in the dark ocean or floating in the vast cosmos, but usually I tend to keep to myself and be quiet. I’ve only recently started to open up again, learned a few years ago I’m autistic.
Oh no
I dont like it it sounds way to familiar 😂
Meeting a bully’s shitty parents at a parent’s event at school made us pity him, which I think probably made him hate everyone more.
When I started figuring out that I was autistic, turns out, my dad is like text book autistic, and no one realized for nearly 50 years because he's basically a normal dude, he just has a weird obsession with baseball, has watched the same movies and shows for his whole life, has ten of the same shirts and pants and will wear basically the same things everyday, he was apparently really picky before he joined the army, but if you ignore that he's just a regular man? He ended up having two autistic children lol
My BF/fiancé was a certain way. He had these mannerisms, but I brushed it off, because when things were great, he was the most wonderful person. But we got married and I eventually moved in. This was 7 years later (long distance thing), anyways, I realised by moving in, things were not quite right. So I started doing some research - he was not Aspergers, and we finally landed on ADD - this really closely resembles his ways and outcomes. I now understand the impulsiveness, the chaos, the lack of completion. Sometimes I wish I never met him!
Hold up, it isn't normal to NOT put rum in pancake batter?!?
LOL, that gave me pause too - I've never heard of it!
@@parisgreen4600 Rum goes well with everything.
Be it pancake batter, fruit salad, rotisserie chicken or vodka, there's always room for rum.
@@parisgreen4600 neither have I? I have heard of putting an egg or some milk in it but never rum?
I don't put rum in pancake batter either.
@@michaelbujaki2462 I have never even heard of that?
First one resonates with me, my great grandpa was captured by the Japanese Army and got horrible cramped sleeping quarters for 4 years.
yeah sleeping quarters are about the last of your worries as a japanese PoW... or really a PoW of nearly any non western nation... or even occasionally a western PoW...
Hearing these stories told from very compassionate perspectives makes me realize I really need a friend like that... obe that will take the time to understand me
So, my mother explained to me that my dad, who has always been standoffish and hard to handle? Well, his father told him that he should have died of cancer instead of his brother.
This is the best Reddit video I've seen in ages. Hope they will do this again. There's a whole series of potential short stories or novels here, from the height to the depth of human nature and back..
5:29 i get it, and it pains me. I Was born with microtia and had to go through school Without hearing Aids and Without rexonstructive surgery.
I endured terrible bullying, and what can i say? some People are the true monsters. If my parents did not care, Who would? They are dead now, i miss them and also resented them but still i do not want to be close to People.
Have a pleasant Week people!
10:10 yeah i get that a little. I have ADHD and I'm so gratefull when my friends tell me to shut up. Or tell me I'm talking too fast, much or incoherent. It's especially bad when I talk about something that i love :D
Shout out to female adhders! Diagnosed at 35, just thought I was weird AF. Hooray for ritalin
Too bad ritalin does not work
@@fabioribeiro4627 That's not true. Every person is different. Ritalin may not work for you, but it does for others. I have ADHD and I take Adderall. It works for me but I know it doesn't work for everyone.
@@xxlolkirby64xx22 Yes, sure, I meant, it doesn't work for me. Which is bad, because Adderall or any other amphetamine are not available in my country. The only thing I can try now is atomoxetine and possibly other supplements.
9:53
Yes, that is fine to do. Why, because we've had the same experience with other people with autism.
I see autism as a separate entity for this reason, our brains don't know any other way so it uses what it thinks it knows. Not so sure where the loyalty comes from but if you ever betray it it's hard to get it back.
I've never understood what people actually liked about me but I'm starting to get it.
My father was the second-to-youngest child in his family, and the only boy. His mother and six older sisters were abusive and blazing flamboyant feminists (the most extreme you can think of on borderline criminal towards men; anti-men, pro-lesbian etc. Even their husbands, who gave them children, looked miserable at the reunion), while the youngest child was the only emotional support for him. I totally understand why he wants no part of the lives of my relatives except Aunt Jane, and after having personally met all of them, I prefer to only visit Aunt Jane too.
My father always insisted on not crying in front of his family, and is a retired veteran of the US Navy. Retired as a lieutenant commander, nuclear engineer. He was the harshest critic on my brother, but he also did his best to hold back since he learned, over time, that in contrast to his own siblings, I loved my brother. So it makes a lot of sense why my father seemed angry, fearful and distant until I passed the age of 10.
If you ever find him, never tell him I shared this story if you please! 😅❤ He's a big softy these days and has mellowed out a lot, but he deserves his privacy.
Yeah.... being raised in a cult is tough socially.
I left my entire family and social network.
I'm personally and formerly one of Jehovah's Witnesses.
Mormons[LDS] and Scientologist are very similar.
I've since learned more social skills in general.
But most of my friends that are more like family are other cult survivors that understand the effects of being shunned and the shock catastrophic worldview failure.
Like an automobile engine locking up...it comes to a halt and goes nowhere.
Still...I can say I have a better life now and doing well presently with even good friends that are religious while I'm very much not.
I'm completely done with "dogmatic" across the board.
Its not *absolutely* necessary to think *exactly alike* to have a mutually beneficial personal relationship with someone.
If you think it does.......you *might* be in a member of a cult or conspiracy theorist group. 🤷♂️
Me. I'm autistic with pathological demand avoidance, which makes me have an excessive need for control over everything. I wish more people knew this about me and that I can't control it.
Why would she criticise someone's parent for not forcing their kids to do something they don't want to do?
That's good parenting. Someone's hella jealous
This is a bit lightweight but when I was in the 8th grade, I would act completely bizarre and crazy. I literally devoted my day to making stupid jokes at every chance I could.
Only two people, my sister and friend, genuinely asked why I acted the way I did, and I told them no problem. I spent alot of the time when I was 13 just sad and overwhelmed by it, so I made the jokes I did in the 8th grade to lighten the mood and try to make things more interesting.
As an adult, I realized I crossed the line too much and there were times when instead of lightening the mood, I was just being annoying when serrious things (for a teenager) were happening or needed to get done.
But sense then, I've met other people who act similarly and I can just tell they had the same mentality
@ 21:00 "Mentally Retarded" Is not an insult, it's a description. The change needs to be to take back that meaning from those that would use it inappropriately or to offend. We can't pretend words don't mean what they mean but we can call out people who use those words as weapons to hurt others.
at this point I seriously doubt it will ever be a "medical" term again, I think they should just bring back "slow" instead...
@@tateranus4365 That's also a good, and probably a lot more pragmatic solution.
I sleep like a body in a coffin. No childhood trauma to explain it though. Just feels more comfortable.
Lol I'm christian and my husband atheist. We have been toguether for 12 years and it has never been a problem between us. We just don't talk much about religion and respect each other's beliefs.
Me: mom, i feel different from everyone else
Mom: how?
Me: I don't know. I mean I can see creative loopholes and I can't focus as well
Me: Maybe I have ADHD
Mom: yeah, you have ADHD. You didn't know that?
Me: NO! You never told me that!!
Rum in the pancake batter OP maybe has a drinking problem…
i found out my friend has ADHD and is on the autistic scale but can manage on his own. He was so weird to me but when he finally explained it. My judgement left the window and i see him as a great friend now.
I was the odd person. A man I worked with did not understand me until he drew Goddess cards for me. The cards he drew in order were. 1) Baba Yaga, who was not John wick in this incarnation but rather someone who loved nature especially forests and" walked on paths she makes herself loves to dance in the rain naked and speaks to animals in their own language" actually fairly accurate. 2) Bastet the Egyptian cat Goddess who in the cards was the incarceration of Play. Who "plays and explores, and can always amuse herself" again accurate. 3) Nut pronounced Noot. The Egyptian Goddess of the night sky "Who is a mystery even to herself" okay bang on. 4) Kwan Yin or Quan Yin there are several spellings. The Goddess of Mercy, Chinese. Who " forgives and nurtures" okay again accurate. Accurate enough that it absolutely stunned me. The reading is incredibly accurate I have a lot of duality in my system. I'll fight to save another person before I fight for myself I always try to negotiate First if it's me. I can be by myself and frequently am and keep myself amused. I am the serious because like I said this is accurate. I love the forest I love animals especially mammals but yes I take time to understand them and their ways and speak to them in their own languages. I show love to cats by feeding them I use a toothbrush in warm water or even in my mouth so that they associate my scent with Mom, and then I brush them with it the toothbrush feels like Mom's tongue. I lay down and cuddle with dogs because the pack sleeps together and that's how they know they're safe. A lot of animals body language is just as viable as their vocal language and just as important. So Baba yaga is bang on. I'm not a pacifist but I do nurture people and try to think the best of everyone. To put it mildly this card draws scared me because of it's accuracy. But he said it made sense why sometimes I act differently in certain occasions
Am I the only one who can’t imagine marrying someone with different beliefs as you?
Always had a habit of scratching or combing my hair back when im in an awkward talk with someone or being generally nervous
I did this in middle school ALL day, only stopped after this girl came up to me and asked me why i was always touching my hair ( had no reply )
About myself, surprisingly. I was always the odd kid, never really fit in. I was smart, but socially awkward in a lot of ways. It wasn't until I was in my late 30s I was told why it was: I'm neurodivergent, super-high-functioning Asperger's Syndrome. I'd been tested when I was a child, but my mother never told me because she didn't want me to be treated like I was retarded, since, at the time (The 80s and 90s), that's how you got treated. After learning that, I figured a lot of stuff out about myself.
Same here! I was always the shy nerdy bookworm into fantasy and video games. Never been diagnosed with anything but I suspect I have a personality disorder or depression. Definitely anxiety though.
Usually for me it's been that they are high-functioning on the spectrum, have been abused, or are a recovering addict (noticed that they never went out with us as at all).
I see myself in a lot of these posts. Makes me want to lock myself away.
run away instead.
6:23 I don't get how his parents being disabled explains his suicide jokes.
Made me question myself.
21:01 for the last sentence (pause the video) “intellectually challenged”
That second one is just Jerry Gergich from Parks & Rec.
Aw
@Daniel Downs i did not expect anyone to say that 😂
2:20 holy shit that one hit home
This is wrong. Oliver North was not a General in the Army, he was a Lieutenant Colonel in the Marine Corps. Iran-Contra was dealing arms to Iran to free American hostages in Lebanon, and using the proceeds to fund the freedom fighting contra rebels in Nicaragua.
Kid's parents are disabled so he makes suicide jokes to "help him get along" ? Lol man no
for the man suffering extreme levels of depression, please investigate transcranial magnetic stimulation. It could make a real difference in his life.
I never understand why card counting is so shunned. It seems to be a genuine skill. Only thing I can think of is Casino’s hating it cus people like that are impervious to making them revenue
At a camp I went to, i knew a girl that thought she could see demons I asked her about it and she said that she couldn’t tell me why because it would change my life or something. Said ok and let her just wander around the campus. I just assumed that she was a bit wack in the head. I didn’t want to judge her because her room mates would laugh at her and run away from her when ever they saw her, so she already was having trouble just existing. I didn’t see her a lot but on the last day asked her to sit with us at lunch because she sat alone. We ate. She got up said thank you then left, she’s a kind girl honestly, a bit quiet, but just troubled. I wonder how she is doing some times.
Devout Christians believe in angels and demons, but if anyone tells them they can see them they tell them their crazy.
7:47 Frankly, having a baby at 15 would normally PROPEL someone into maturity, not hold them back. That woman has a brick or two short of a whole pallet. Which is probably why she was attracted to a "father figure". His issues obviously go the other way. He wants someone he can intellectually dominate, if not also emotionally. If a man has self esteem issues based on "superiority" the ideal way to solve that is to hook up with someone his "inferior" so that his shortcomings are way less obvious.
And to contribute to it all, she was groomed and is still in such a toxic relationship.
I agree with you, but I also feel like when you're a young mom you either go two ways. You get your act together and do your best OR you regress and can't keep up
Most moms I know who had kids as a teenager are stuck at that age emotionally. Like they can work and pay bills but they get jealous and pouty like a little girl.
Also perspectives. A mature 15 yr old is an immature 23 yr old
I'm the only person in my life who deserves and demands very, very little human interaction. So much so that everyone who tries to be my friend gets excuse after excuse from me so that they stay away. If they ask questions, I tell them to quit prying. I don't want friends and want privacy. 24/7. I have a cat. Smiling is pointless unless I'm with her. People are worthless, and have never been trustworthy and never will be.
I feel the same most days. But in my case I think its because I was always shy and introverted and never understood other people, possibly also partly due to my upbringing. But I prefer solitude. There's nothing better than getting up in the morning and making a cup of tea and enjoying time with yourself. I like going out wit friends too, just not crowds and clubs.
0:30 My doctor told me to sleep on my stomach as it would help stretch out my hip flexors as well as other muscles. I've done it the entire night a couple of times now and it's such an awkward position.
I went to school with a girl who had severe dyscalculia - like to the point that she could not grasp numbers higher than 9. Ten would be 'one-zero' to her, then one-one, one-two, one-three and so on.
But she had a brilliant way to describe it to people if they made remarks like "you must be stupid". She took out a card where something was written with a foreign alphabet (arabic or something, I can't remember) then asked them to read what it said. When people said "I have no clue" she would tell them "Would you know if I showed you tomorrow? Or every day the next month? No....? THAT'S how my brain is with numbers. Every day. Always!"
In the transgender one, the reply was made "5 hours ago" and said April 1st this year. I'm in Australia rn st 3:30am...
When did you record/screenshot these?
In the future obviously?
@@alexbernier7903 _talk about backlog_
@@alexbernier7903 _yeah..._
Sorry I was trying to do that saying thing where someone says "talk about "_______" ", y'know?
@@alexbernier7903 ok. So from what I found, frontlogging is when you do something ahead of time
@@lochiegriffiths4712 Oooh, that's an actual term? Thank you!
"She also quite Christian with a big fascination with Israel"
Correct me if I'm wrong.. but doesn't that apply to *ALL* Christians? That would be like saying Asatru followers have a big fascination with places like Norway or Sweden...
Alot of these hit home
Funny story, so this recently happened to me, I was in a very emotionally low place. I don't really remember what the conversation was exactly, but I started listing the things I thought were wrong with me (I tend to space out really easily if I'm not interested in the topic, I have a hard time taking some things seriously, I tend to overwhelm people with information on topics I like/am interested in, etc.). Now my friend Lucy is on the spectrum and has a pretty mild degree of autism, and when I said that she just looked at me and said "yeah that sounds like autism and some ADHD" so I took the AQ10 test to see if I possibly had autism, did some research and I got a 6 (which means possible). Then it all just sort of clicked into place, it kinda made sense. Sadly, when I tried to get my parents to get me an assessment, they just laughed at me and said I was just overreacting and exaggerating (they never checked me for it, so we are not sure, I still think it's autism).
TDLR: I thought there were several things wrong with my personality and felt like crap, turns out it was probably just autism and ADHD. Still no diagnose cause my parents don't want to get it checked out.
Im the odd person
I have adhd...
@Daniel Downs °^° thank you~¿?
5:25 omg nicaragua again?, im fascinated that these threads have mentioned my country more than once!
@Daniel Downs ?
I love you too
@@JustinTimeForParties wut
@Daniel Downs🤝
9:40 literally described me
I was the really really quiet kid in school, and I had the usual learning problems, always a few steps behind in learning, and just a slow learner. The first legit friend I made, I told her a while later that I had severe anxiety (social), ADD and Asperger’s. It made better sense
I had a friend exactly like 11:44. The only reason I know one of my friends didn’t write this about her is because her grandma was a nun and her grandpa was a monk who both became fundamentalists lolll
I do that follow-up--follow-up--follow-up joke thing in my head too. Can't hold a real conversation for the life of me :P