Sebastián Jácome for me, it's to not do what others do, and have fun at doing the things you love to do, and not care what other people think of it. XD hard to explain...
Hey, if you don't know who you are anymore, then you should try to leave your bussy life (if you have one) (work, relationships, etc.) and get some rest. In this rest stage it's easier to find the tru you, because you're not getting influence from any1 anymore, so it's only you and yourself left.
This is awesome! For me growing up with two narcissistic parents I learned to hide my self to get approval so I keep carrying on with it. Sometimes I think my introversion is a product of not wanting to be fake because it is exhausting.
I too have my thoughts on introversion/extroversion being a coping mechanism. Some people tend to keep to themselves to improve their defenses ...and some people go extroverted for the same reason. You heard "Offense is the best defense" from what i see extroverts are like that. Change the world before it reaches you. But we both have the same fears. Just different strategies to deal with that.
I'm 15 years old and I've had the problem for awhile. This video has really inspired me to better myself more than concentrate on the APPROVAL of others. I've decided now in my life that I need to make a change so that I can be myself. You know that old saying LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH! Thank You so much
Hey , I’m also 15 and this has been a huge problem of mine as well and I’ve always held my self back because I’ve been seeking approval from my teachers , friends , parents and I’ve decided to stop and be myself I hope to get to that point were I can truly be happy and be my authentic self . I hope you get there too 😄
Amarylis Fuentes , did the situation change now you're 19? Do you have a better life now then then. I am 15 now and I am just so curious if I will ever heal from this people pleasin behaviour.
@@harusu8610 I am not. I am watching this one bcoz I wonder why I felt this way now I know. I am expressive and not pleasing others and don't care about the negative opinion of others.
If you liked this video, I highly recommend watching my related videos: 1) How To Be More Confident - A Step-by-Step Process for Becoming Truly Confident 2) How To Overcome Shyness - Transform Yourself Into An Extrovert 3) How To Love Yourself - How To Like Who You Are Right Now 4) How To Be Attractive - The Ultimate Attraction Strategy 5) Self Esteem - Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem
EXACTLY..A movie....its as if I'm being watched...like through a camera. I've never heard anyone describe this, and so well. This has to help others too, great job. This is just how it is for me, now that I can see it. Thanks. J "I am independent of the bad, or good, opinions of others".
Today I just thought ok fuck it, and started to dance as ridiculous as possible to some good ol' 50's music. (By myself) It felt so right, like for the first time in very long I expressed who I really am, lol. This big clown with a lot of humor. Like seeing an old friend. For once not take myself so seriously. I wish I wasn't so afraid to show other people. Feels like even my friends don't really know me. Just so many negative thoughts and a bad self image etc that's in the way. When I'm drunk I like to do ridiculous things because I like to see people's reactions and laughs. But when sober I think they will see me more as a awkward idiot that makes a fool of himself. So I don't feel like I can express it :/ Starting to sound like self-pity which wasn't the point. But yeah maybe try what I wrote in the beginning. It feels very liberating :D I think grown ups in general take things to seriously and forget about that playfulness we had as a child. I'm sure that's one thing you'll never grow out of, and one should try to find the way back to in his/her own way. I know I should.
"When I'm drunk I like to do ridiculous things because I like to see people's reactions and laughs. But when sober I think they will see me more as a awkward idiot that makes a fool of himself. So I don't feel like I can express it " This resonated with me like crazy. It was like what I say to myself or what I say to my close friends when I am drunk. Its so suffocating dude, I really want to get rid of that, forever.
This is helpful, I realize more and more that I live my life with a lot of fear and constant paranoia. Sometimes I am judged for my opinions and feel embarrassed. Later I will revisit the event in my mind and become fustrated that I was reprimanded for being my true self.
"When the student is ready, the teacher appears." I love your channel and videos! Even as a speaker, author, mentor and consultant myself, there were lingering limiting beliefs that hindered me from reaching fulfillment and greater success. I love all the content and your direct style; really authentic and helpful. Keep it coming!
Finding myself has been a journey, especially after feeling lost for so long. This video has given me the clarity I needed to take the next step in being unapologetically me. 🌸
the stuff you said in this video really described me, and i feel so tired and sick of being the fake person trying to get approval from others. thanks for the video.i subscribed.
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@@christopherscottb well you heard it 3 years ago..hope you made changes in these 3 years. Someone who watched the video today will wish they they saw it earlier. In their point of view you are lucky you got to see if years ago.. Do i make any sense?
@@EMILY-xc5ju Yes you do, and I thought that might have been what you meant, but I wasn't sure. Thanks for asking! But actually, by the time I saw that, I was pretty much already done with worrying about others' and society's expectations of me, so I really meant a *very* long time ago. Not to get overly esoteric, but I actually less and less even believe in a "self" anymore, and this allows me to not take my existence so personally. My faults and foibles no longer bother me much at all. From my American society's point of view, I could *easily* be described as a pathetic loser. From my point of view, I could care less; in fact, I'd find such an assessment almost comical now. While people more successful than me are still agonizing over what the neighbors think of them and what they want to materialistically acquire next, I now pretty much chuckle at their inability to ever be truly satisfied with either life or themselves, and simply marvel at the world around me, even though I live in a cheap 1-bedroom apartment, haven't had a girlfriend for many (many!) years, and could easily engage in all sorts of lugubrious woe-is-me-isms. Since I'm no longer so trapped inside my own head, I now sometimes find myself wanting to laugh for no reason in particular. In short, I'm just amazed to be alive, warts and all. (Incidentally, I glanced at your TH-cam channel and I see that you're a progressive thinker, so I applaud you.)
@@christopherscottb Hehe😀 thx. It's really great hearing that. I have been on this path for quite some time . But am still fighting with my social anxiety. Am from India by the way
This is amazing. Thank you so much for this video, truly life-changing. I am 19 now, and finally realising all these mental tricks of hiding who I truly am - not standing up to my beliefs, not trusting my judgements, being too nice to people whose approval I don't give a fuck to be honest! I am going to start being me finally, after all these years of teenage drama and 'fitting in', and adapting myself to others, thinking: what is wrong with me? Why haven't I found already the group of people I feel completely comfortable around? Why don't I have, if any, true friends? Why can't I find love? And also career/professional life wise, why are people who I find less hard-working or less suitable for the job than me, still get it and not me? Well now I know: it's because they have let free or never had to deal with issues like this. Well I'm going to do the same. I was addicted to the little rush that 'succeeding' in my acting games brought me. But that's not happiness! As you said, I am going to lift the balance to the other side: more crudeness, brutal honesty, sharing and expressing finally who I really am! I am ready for those costs and I'm excited to see what life will bring me. Thank you again, sir.
The best video I have watched . When I try to be myself I get criticized and made to believe that am bad ,what am doing or my taught are abnormal but after watching this video I have gain a strong confidence to be myself
I always feel like every one is watching me. When I am drinking, reading,thinking, looking at the mirror and even when I am just walking I need help how do I stop feeling like this
Something I've been thinking about recently is the pressure I feel for my authentic self to be definable and obvious- to both myself and others. The truth is that my authentic self is so complicated and deep, that it sometimes feels intangible, and thus more difficult to harness. And really, a "self"? That's just a societal construct! I believe in reality we are all just light and love. There is no personality to attach to that.
I really appreciate this video! Because I feel like I’m half way there, but I’m always self conscious about what people think of me, voicing my opinions and actions, trying to express my true self. Today, I’ll slowly start to change myself and become me. I don’t mind losing. Long as I am my true self and happy. I’ll be wonderful with that and while bringing good energy to everyone. I want to tell everyone how they can be theirselves without having to be boxed. Just being yourself will make you more happy. Thank you so much!
The cost is self hatred. I have learned this myself. Thanks Leo, i would like to dig deeper into techniques of self love and approval to counter balance being more assertive.
Hi I’m 15 and I’ve been trying to put my feelings into words but I couldn’t so thank you for this video because it helped so much to know how I feel and to think it
very true! I feel like when I talk my voice sound timid and I lose respect. maybe this is because my focus is somewhere else then being my authentic self
I've been watching a few of your videos and this is one of my favorites. When I watch other personal development leaders and teachers and they express that they were once timid, shy, or introverted, it's hard for me to see or believe it. With your videos, it's as if you are describing exactly what's in my head so I believe you were once there. Thank you.
I hope that Leo gets to see this; I want to say eight years ago, I was in high school, 14 yo (constantly bullied), and had ongoing domestic violence situations most of my life with no role models or real friends in my life at that time. I always had great potential to grow, but Leo's video helped me become confident in my self-expression and raised my confidence to the point that I never think twice about having it. I have made significant changes as 22 years old and planned a future to help others with their character development. Leo's videos were just a gem for a teenager to have in their darkest times, and I am forever grateful for all I've learnt from here. I hope he continues spreading his knowledge and awareness, and I wish him all the best and incredible blessings in his life for what he gives to the world freely .here are no words to thank people like Leo enough for existing in this world! Much care, Marjan 😊
This video definitely makes sense. I am guilty of being a people-pleaser, as well as putting on an ACT in front of people. The thing is when you put on an act for such a long time it's kind of difficult to know who you really are!
Thats true Damon Bervoets and many people live their who entire lives not know who they are thats why I recommend you watch this video on Self Actualization the teachings are clear and easy to follow-mindset2billions.com/
This is genuinely helping me 😊im acc having so many burdens being taken away from me. By being my self i feel less approval needed and only get approval from myself im more much more happy and happy with who i am as my true self. All this issoo helpful to be ur true self im much more happy😊👍🏽👍🏽
I randomly came across this TH-cam channel and was originally looking for advice on how to become a millionaire , but I would have to honestly Say, that what I've obtained from watching the videos have gave me far more than what I was looking for. I would like to thank this channel for helping people like myself in unlocking the true meaning of wealth, which it starts with your inner self. -Buton
You're a genius! I just discovered your videos and I can only remark that they speak to me in the most genuine and constructive way. I feel like you have identified with me... I have a constant struggle to understand myself... I look for validations and approvals, I always feel the need to defend a situation and I do it so easily it's scary. All this I believe, is because I have an identity problem. I am aware that sometimes I come off fake and pretentious in others' perception almost as though I am dealing with another energy within me so I struggle to adapt etc but in my state of being I am being myself...
I’m a people pleaser I try to hang out with people and act like them and it just comes naturally at this point. Since I’ve been doing this for such a long time I’m myself but I act different to different people.
it's never too late to reverse those effects brother. I've also been through that same struggle for a countless amount of years, only realizing the damage I've done to my inner-self and values. Believe in yourself
Leo, 38 years I was a mother pleaser to my daughter and the last 4.5 years, babysit her sons 3 -4 days a week.. After listening to your video , I got the guts to turn the table and became a * myself * pleaser, Result : My daughter and family cut all contact towards me. My result : ) I became much happier, got back my time to do things that I love and much, much more. though I have to fight everyday with my emotions of missing my grandsons and her too. Does it worth to be a self please? I personally say YESSSSSSSSS , because if we are mother pleaser we kind of gradually turn to be a slave and most slaves are treated disrespectful. So I say Fuck , if friends or family members are disrespectful to us we must pull a stop sign and pay the cost. It's easier to make ourself happier then others.. Thanks Leo , you gave me the guts to do so.
So so true 👏🏼 Have been nodding all the the time. I needed to hear this, so thank you, it definitely helped me, I'm going to watch a lot more of your videos 👏🏼
Thank you so much for helping me over my anxiety An caring what people thought me. Keep doing what your doing cause you are helping a lot of other people, I'm sure of it. I've never felt better at what I'm doing with my life rn cause it starts now An for once idc if people don't accept me for me because I do.
I see that it worked for you and how authentically you want to let other people know and benefit from it. Thanks for mastering the game and passing the codes through
Wow! I have never heard it expressed before about acting as though you are being watched. I constantly think about how I am seen by others or would be if people were around and it affects what I do whether or not people are around. It takes up a lot of mental energy and is a huge factor making me feel I need to be valuable by other's standards.
I don’t think he means stop caring about your needs or those you love. It’s just practising being your authentic self without caring what random strangers , co-workers, or even what your own family thinks about your personality or who you are becoming. That doesn’t mean be an asshole, it just means your needs come first and it’s ok to say no. It’s ok to be weird, it’s ok to have your own beliefs even if they are completely different from the stranger your making small talk with to your own family members. Don’t always agree, if you don’t..
@Alexander Supertramp Confidence applies to that, but it is not just that. It is a much brauder term. It simply means that you are convinced about your beliefs and you are very certain about future outcomes in your favor, but you can also be confident about negative things. Also thoughts are based on perception, so if you are saying that you stop worrying about others' perception about you, it also means you stop caring about what they think about you.
I really liked your whole talking. Seriously. I remindid instantly likes and comments on social media when you said about how complimments can become a certain kind of drug. I totally agreed with that. And I felt sick about myself when I realized how I needed likes on my instagram photos to feel a little good. You are so right.
I am having the same issue with constantly seeking attention and compliments to feel good . That's actually making me rediculous because that not how I used to be
I thought I was alone on this subject. You literally explained it perfectly to a T. Honestly it brought a tear to my eye and resonated a tingling sensation in my body! Only part that was different I felt like a narcissist and lacked empathy. I care for people and wanted to please them but I never cared to be around them because ive gave them so much and when I tried to talk they blow it off. Thank you sooo much I'm extremely glad you overcame it and that you are helping the world with this!
Love it!!!! You are soooo right about this, wow , I feel like I have such a better understanding of how "fake" we can be and for what?!?!? Great insight, I am most certainly going to be super aware today of how I might change my initial reactions or responses to things. Thank you Leo!!!!!
Woaa... Its like you read my mind Leo, literally as if u uploaded this vid exclusively for me. Thanks so much brotha this is something I've been pondering and trying to overcome for years now.
I appreciate your perspective - being one's self is what life is all about! I actually define who I am in the last video on my channel - I encourage everyone to do something similar: Define WHO YOU ARE, and then stay committed to stay true to yourself no matter what.
Thank you so much! I've been looking to change and everything I have tried doesn't work. You describe my exact personality type's flaws and it's encouraging to see someone like me that has changed for the better.
You hit the nail on the head. I gasped when you spoke about seeing yourself as a third person because ive always felt this way but no one has ever mentioned this! Thank you!
i got so ***** rage and anger towards other people which makes me suicidal. i can't express myself. i hate it when people go over me, lie or manipulate me. it's a ****** trap.
This is a great video and great advice! It is not always easy to find words which literally reach the listener's ears! But this is so well done! Thank you for that! - As soon as you start being yourself and living yourself, even mental and emotional experiences, as well as the reflection you get from everything around you, will change! Even though it is not specifically mentioned in this particular video, anxiety issues, depression and other uncomfortable emotions as well as thoughts will vanish. If you start being good to yourself, you will simply start to create a very positive relationship to all of your aspects. I was struggling with these kind of problems until I started caring for myself. And that does not mean to be cruel or evil to other people. It just means that you stop trying to adjust other people's thoughts and ideas! Besides, for that.....there is no justification necessary. You do not have to explain yourself everytime you do something that someone else disagrees with!!! It can start with little thing... as for example covering yourself with a blanket when you feeling cold.....or postpone something if you are not in the mood to do it right now. Basically, it is very easy, although it seems a bit odd at the beginning. Anyway, in the long run, you will benefit from it so much more than your mind can imagine right now! Thanks again for the excellent video! Kindest regards from Germany!
You would improve your videos by listing some of the books where we can expand the knowledge about what you are talking about. I like your videos because they help me grow but I need the books too
I Got my awakening in 2019 and Leo you was the first people The universe brought into my life to help me understand myself i actually called my 2 year old after you❤❤❤
Have you ever had a slip of your true self like, out of impulse or like a natural reaction just came out from you and you find it so liberating... I had many..and i'm already aware i'm not being my authentic self all the time so i'm training myself to make a habit of 'not care' I remember i had a spontaneous reaction to a colleague and they bursted to laugh.. but i wasn't offended at all bec at that moment, the words i said and reaction i made was exactly how i felt. We ended up laughing altogether. It felt so real and happy.
I'm a recovering doormat, and I've always thought that behaving based on the need for approval is like prostitution. This is the first time I've heard someone put it that way and it surprises me that no one else has done so before.
I've been searching for how to control my thoughts and feeling.Your Videos are truly a life changing experience ...There is no word to describe how greatful i'am to find your videos...May God Bless YOU!!!!
My god the man spoked to me and basically categorized my entire life I've always been scared of consequences going to jail etc I've let people walk all over me out of fear thank you to this man for potentially finally getting me too realize the price sometimes your gonna pay to be yourself
you are an angel sent form heaven. I have been struggling with being myself for the past 11 years. Your lectures are life saving to me. Thanks and keep the good work
I was waiting till I'm 15 years old and 9 months to be be myself which is on the 25th of May 2018, but this video has completely changed me and now I won't care what people think or say about me and I will be myself. Thank you !
Leo, from the moment I first came across your video (on Meditation), I subscribed to your channel right away. The following day, I asked my husband for an hour of his time a day to spend with me, half of which to watch one of your videos, and 20 minutes to meditate. He agreed to give me this time every day. We have watched a handful of your videos and have meditated and our relationship has grown stronger because of it...AND THEN WE GOT THIS VIDEO. It seems to make sense and be empowering, but he seemed to take it a whole new way. He's seemed to regress because of it and in his defense, he's telling me he's being his "authentic self" and that he's not going to whore himself anymore. He identifies his authentic self somewhat of being an a**hole who bottles up his true thoughts to please others. So, I don't get it. I feel like people like he and I search for videos like yours to watch because obviously we needed help to become the better versions of ourselves. But here, it seems you are giving permission to be whatever your true self is and he took it as if he's opinionated and negative that it's OK. Please help. I feel like we took 2 steps forward and 10 steps back.
I love how you give justifications and outcomes on both sides of the coin...I had say "know when to be aggressive and when to be patient, with that been said, know when to be yourself and when to be who people deserve"
My crux with being authentic: If I would be authentic, people would see that I am depressed. I am already a very lonesome person and thus can't afford to lose the last ones I have. And then there is this vicious circle, that I am depressed because I got no purpose in life. Leo explains that one has to be authentic and explore the world to find her purpose. This is difficult when one got no reason to get up in the morning - only her duties. Without a reason there cannot be motivation. In Leo's video about motivation there is again a life purpose and a vision necessary to be motivated. I already watched a lot of Leo's videos but it seems as if I am walking in a circle.
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"You act as if you're being watched."
Dude, I didn't think it was normal that I felt that way. Thought I was the only one.
Tori D'Nae So did I!
So me its crazy 😐
I always feel this way.
Tori D'Nae exactly...
yeah even when I'm alone I am constantly watching my expressions in third person mode
I fucking love these videos! These videos should be a part about what children learn in school!! THAT WOULD CHANGE THE WORLD!!!
:)
TheFirefly71
its true should be taught in school....
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Shootman999 EXACTLYYYYYYYY
how is it wtf?
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
I'm the next Hokage sorry😎
what is to be yourself? For me is to have fun in the world.
Sebastián Jácome for me, it's to not do what others do, and have fun at doing the things you love to do, and not care what other people think of it. XD hard to explain...
is it Ralph :P
Hokage Minato Pls
your better than my therapist
I swear to god this guy is better compared to a therapist
Oof, true. I love this guy
I've been so fake for so long, I'm not sure who I even am anymore. I'm not sure if I ever knew and I doubt I'll figure it out.
I'm about to release a video on how to understand what your authentic self is. It will be powerful. Stay tuned!!
I watched it, life is somehow even worse now.
EvilReptiles Lol
Yeap, lol.
Hey, if you don't know who you are anymore, then you should try to leave your bussy life (if you have one) (work, relationships, etc.) and get some rest. In this rest stage it's easier to find the tru you, because you're not getting influence from any1 anymore, so it's only you and yourself left.
This is awesome! For me growing up with two narcissistic parents I learned to hide my self to get approval so I keep carrying on with it. Sometimes I think my introversion is a product of not wanting to be fake because it is exhausting.
I never thought of that last thing you mention :O Totally males sense
Right ugh I feel you
Exactly
I too have my thoughts on introversion/extroversion being a coping mechanism. Some people tend to keep to themselves to improve their defenses ...and some people go extroverted for the same reason. You heard "Offense is the best defense" from what i see extroverts are like that. Change the world before it reaches you. But we both have the same fears. Just different strategies to deal with that.
I'm 15 years old and I've had the problem for awhile. This video has really inspired me to better myself more than concentrate on the APPROVAL of others. I've decided now in my life that I need to make a change so that I can be myself. You know that old saying LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH! Thank You so much
Amarylis Fuentes wow 15 years old i am sure u will get succes if u keep watching this video
Hey , I’m also 15 and this has been a huge problem of mine as well and I’ve always held my self back because I’ve been seeking approval from my teachers , friends , parents and I’ve decided to stop and be myself I hope to get to that point were I can truly be happy and be my authentic self . I hope you get there too 😄
Hell yeah
Oh snap you're about 19 right now.
Amarylis Fuentes , did the situation change now you're 19? Do you have a better life now then then. I am 15 now and I am just so curious if I will ever heal from this people pleasin behaviour.
Had to listen to this on repeat. I have been going through an identity crisis for 3 years now 😅 Thank you for the enlightenment!
Lol the last time u was "myself" was in like 3rd grade
So true
bitchh sameee
7th grade
default felt this. I know exactly what you mean
bro same
I struggled with this so much.. I really thought I was alone; thank you so much for this video!
Me too!!!
Seconded
Same
Am still going through it
@@harusu8610 I am not. I am watching this one bcoz I wonder why I felt this way now I know. I am expressive and not pleasing others and don't care about the negative opinion of others.
If you liked this video, I highly recommend watching my related videos:
1) How To Be More Confident - A Step-by-Step Process for Becoming Truly Confident
2) How To Overcome Shyness - Transform Yourself Into An Extrovert
3) How To Love Yourself - How To Like Who You Are Right Now
4) How To Be Attractive - The Ultimate Attraction Strategy
5) Self Esteem - Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem
EXACTLY..A movie....its as if I'm being watched...like through a camera.
I've never heard anyone describe this, and so well. This has to help others too, great job. This is just how it is for me, now that I can see it. Thanks. J
"I am independent of the bad, or good, opinions of others".
hi man. i know its been a long time but did you get over it? if so how?
Today I just thought ok fuck it, and started to dance as ridiculous as possible to some good ol' 50's music. (By myself)
It felt so right, like for the first time in very long I expressed who I really am, lol. This big clown with a lot of humor.
Like seeing an old friend. For once not take myself so seriously.
I wish I wasn't so afraid to show other people. Feels like even my friends don't really know me.
Just so many negative thoughts and a bad self image etc that's in the way.
When I'm drunk I like to do ridiculous things because I like to see people's reactions and laughs. But when sober I think they will see me more as a awkward idiot that makes a fool of himself. So I don't feel like I can express it :/
Starting to sound like self-pity which wasn't the point.
But yeah maybe try what I wrote in the beginning. It feels very liberating :D
I think grown ups in general take things to seriously and forget about that playfulness we had as a child.
I'm sure that's one thing you'll never grow out of, and one should try to find the way back to in his/her own way.
I know I should.
"When I'm drunk I like to do ridiculous things because I like to see people's reactions and laughs. But when sober I think they will see me more as a awkward idiot that makes a fool of himself. So I don't feel like I can express it "
This resonated with me like crazy. It was like what I say to myself or what I say to my close friends when I am drunk. Its so suffocating dude, I really want to get rid of that, forever.
"A shiny beacon inside yourself"
I don't know why but I almost cried....
This is helpful, I realize more and more that I live my life with a lot of fear and constant paranoia. Sometimes I am judged for my opinions and feel embarrassed. Later I will revisit the event in my mind and become fustrated that I was reprimanded for being my true self.
Honestly tho
I feel like he’s talking directly to me omg
"When the student is ready, the teacher appears."
I love your channel and videos! Even as a speaker, author, mentor and consultant myself, there were lingering limiting beliefs that hindered me from reaching fulfillment and greater success. I love all the content and your direct style; really authentic and helpful. Keep it coming!
Finding myself has been a journey, especially after feeling lost for so long. This video has given me the clarity I needed to take the next step in being unapologetically me. 🌸
the stuff you said in this video really described me, and i feel so tired and sick of being the fake person trying to get approval from others. thanks for the video.i subscribed.
Kindly tell about how to get back ex girlfriend
six months of marriage councelling and I didn't get these kinds of pearls..very inspirational!!
Chuck Norris
Where were you when we were in our twenties?!!! Great video, really hit home.
I was probably studying my ass off in school, busily growing a big brain ;)
The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable
The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine
You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not
JUST you are FINE
The world Needs You
Because There is Only One You
And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do
LOVE from Cappadocia!
"Being your authentic self has costs." This is something I wish I'd heard a long goddamned time ago.
You heard it 3 years ago
@@EMILY-xc5ju Meaning what?
@@christopherscottb well you heard it 3 years ago..hope you made changes in these 3 years. Someone who watched the video today will wish they they saw it earlier. In their point of view you are lucky you got to see if years ago.. Do i make any sense?
@@EMILY-xc5ju Yes you do, and I thought that might have been what you meant, but I wasn't sure. Thanks for asking! But actually, by the time I saw that, I was pretty much already done with worrying about others' and society's expectations of me, so I really meant a *very* long time ago. Not to get overly esoteric, but I actually less and less even believe in a "self" anymore, and this allows me to not take my existence so personally. My faults and foibles no longer bother me much at all. From my American society's point of view, I could *easily* be described as a pathetic loser. From my point of view, I could care less; in fact, I'd find such an assessment almost comical now. While people more successful than me are still agonizing over what the neighbors think of them and what they want to materialistically acquire next, I now pretty much chuckle at their inability to ever be truly satisfied with either life or themselves, and simply marvel at the world around me, even though I live in a cheap 1-bedroom apartment, haven't had a girlfriend for many (many!) years, and could easily engage in all sorts of lugubrious woe-is-me-isms. Since I'm no longer so trapped inside my own head, I now sometimes find myself wanting to laugh for no reason in particular. In short, I'm just amazed to be alive, warts and all. (Incidentally, I glanced at your TH-cam channel and I see that you're a progressive thinker, so I applaud you.)
@@christopherscottb Hehe😀 thx. It's really great hearing that. I have been on this path for quite some time . But am still fighting with my social anxiety. Am from India by the way
Your videos depress me in a good way. They make me see the person I really am. I need to drop these habits. Your work is amazing thank you.
This is amazing. Thank you so much for this video, truly life-changing. I am 19 now, and finally realising all these mental tricks of hiding who I truly am - not standing up to my beliefs, not trusting my judgements, being too nice to people whose approval I don't give a fuck to be honest! I am going to start being me finally, after all these years of teenage drama and 'fitting in', and adapting myself to others, thinking: what is wrong with me? Why haven't I found already the group of people I feel completely comfortable around? Why don't I have, if any, true friends? Why can't I find love? And also career/professional life wise, why are people who I find less hard-working or less suitable for the job than me, still get it and not me? Well now I know: it's because they have let free or never had to deal with issues like this. Well I'm going to do the same. I was addicted to the little rush that 'succeeding' in my acting games brought me. But that's not happiness! As you said, I am going to lift the balance to the other side: more crudeness, brutal honesty, sharing and expressing finally who I really am! I am ready for those costs and I'm excited to see what life will bring me. Thank you again, sir.
How are things?
The best video I have watched . When I try to be myself I get criticized and made to believe that am bad ,what am doing or my taught are abnormal but after watching this video I have gain a strong confidence to be myself
I always feel like every one is watching me. When I am drinking, reading,thinking, looking at the mirror and even when I am just walking I need help how do I stop feeling like this
Wow. I’m terrible at saying things. That’s why I can’t tell people what I’m going through. This is exactly what.
@@seline1435 lmao thanks this actually changed my perspective
Something I've been thinking about recently is the pressure I feel for my authentic self to be definable and obvious- to both myself and others. The truth is that my authentic self is so complicated and deep, that it sometimes feels intangible, and thus more difficult to harness. And really, a "self"? That's just a societal construct! I believe in reality we are all just light and love. There is no personality to attach to that.
Wish I had a friend as uplifting, inspiring and enlightening as Leo! Keep doing what you do to help others! God bless!
Thank you so much this 21 minute video changed my life . I feel more confident and comfortable around people thank you so so much 😁
what changes did u adopt? may i know?
I really appreciate this video! Because I feel like I’m half way there, but I’m always self conscious about what people think of me, voicing my opinions and actions, trying to express my true self. Today, I’ll slowly start to change myself and become me. I don’t mind losing. Long as I am my true self and happy. I’ll be wonderful with that and while bringing good energy to everyone. I want to tell everyone how they can be theirselves without having to be boxed. Just being yourself will make you more happy. Thank you so much!
stay at it Turtles Bruh i recommend you also watch this video on self actualization the teacher makes really clear-mindset2billions.com/
No matter how many times I watch this, I learn something new.
The cost is self hatred. I have learned this myself. Thanks Leo, i would like to dig deeper into techniques of self love and approval to counter balance being more assertive.
Hi I’m 15 and I’ve been trying to put my feelings into words but I couldn’t so thank you for this video because it helped so much to know how I feel and to think it
very true!
I feel like when I talk my voice sound timid and I lose respect. maybe this is because my focus is somewhere else then being my authentic self
Trying to be someone else sucks, it drains and leaves you void and unaccomplished.
I've been learning and doing personal development for about 8 years
I find your contents amazing, there's so much to learn from you, it's crazy!!!
Basically be yourself and say what's on your mind
When I'm alone with someone I'm myself but in a crowd I'm not. I talk to myself when I'm alone and I seem like I'm crazy. Im not crazy
i feel like this too. people say im weird ! it used to offed me but now im trying to own the weirdness ! and be my true weird self
I feel you I do the same self talk is a good thing sometimes there is no one to judge you
" Happiness comes from inside-out and not from outside-in "
Truly Wise Words .
I've been watching a few of your videos and this is one of my favorites. When I watch other personal development leaders and teachers and they express that they were once timid, shy, or introverted, it's hard for me to see or believe it. With your videos, it's as if you are describing exactly what's in my head so I believe you were once there. Thank you.
I hope that Leo gets to see this; I want to say eight years ago, I was in high school, 14 yo (constantly bullied), and had ongoing domestic violence situations most of my life with no role models or real friends in my life at that time. I always had great potential to grow, but Leo's video helped me become confident in my self-expression and raised my confidence to the point that I never think twice about having it. I have made significant changes as 22 years old and planned a future to help others with their character development. Leo's videos were just a gem for a teenager to have in their darkest times, and I am forever grateful for all I've learnt from here. I hope he continues spreading his knowledge and awareness, and I wish him all the best and incredible blessings in his life for what he gives to the world freely .here are no words to thank people like Leo enough for existing in this world! Much care, Marjan 😊
This video definitely makes sense. I am guilty of being a people-pleaser, as well as putting on an ACT in front of people. The thing is when you put on an act for such a long time it's kind of difficult to know who you really are!
Thats true Damon Bervoets and many people live their who entire lives not know who they are thats why I recommend you watch this video on Self Actualization the teachings are clear and easy to follow-mindset2billions.com/
Fr. I don't who Iam or what I want in life anymore 🙁
I hope this guy never stops putting out content, he's a saviour.
I'm 11, and I keep going from girly to hipster to Goth and everything in between and honestly I want to stop and be myself but it's so hard!!!!
thank you so much, that really helped
I hope you find yourself and become happy
Just do it honey, Be yourself! Yourself is new and there's no one in the world like u. There is only one you and your awesome! Your God's Light.
You’re going to hate this comment when you get older just know that it’s okay and made you who you are today
@@xXxtroublebehindxXx hell I wish I found out about Leo when I was 11
This is genuinely helping me 😊im acc having so many burdens being taken away from me. By being my self i feel less approval needed and only get approval from myself im more much more happy and happy with who i am as my true self. All this issoo helpful to be ur true self im much more happy😊👍🏽👍🏽
I randomly came across this TH-cam channel and was originally looking for advice on how to become a millionaire , but I would have to honestly Say, that what I've obtained from watching the videos have gave me far more than what I was looking for. I would like to thank this channel for helping people like myself in unlocking the true meaning of wealth, which it starts with your inner self.
-Buton
Goooooood! :)
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Millionaire in the mind 🧠
You're a genius! I just discovered your videos and I can only remark that they speak to me in the most genuine and constructive way. I feel like you have identified with me... I have a constant struggle to understand myself... I look for validations and approvals, I always feel the need to defend a situation and I do it so easily it's scary. All this I believe, is because I have an identity problem. I am aware that sometimes I come off fake and pretentious in others' perception almost as though I am dealing with another energy within me so I struggle to adapt etc but in my state of being I am being myself...
I’m a people pleaser
I try to hang out with people and act like them and it just comes naturally at this point. Since I’ve been doing this for such a long time I’m myself but I act different to different people.
it's never too late to reverse those effects brother. I've also been through that same struggle for a countless amount of years, only realizing the damage I've done to my inner-self and values. Believe in yourself
Acceptance is a strong emotion. How often people give up themselves to be accepted. "To thyself be true." Shakespeare
Leo, 38 years I was a mother pleaser to my daughter and the last 4.5 years, babysit her sons 3 -4 days a week..
After listening to your video , I got the guts to turn the table and became a * myself * pleaser,
Result : My daughter and family cut all contact towards me.
My result : ) I became much happier, got back my time to do things that I love and much, much more.
though I have to fight everyday with my emotions of missing my grandsons and her too.
Does it worth to be a self please?
I personally say YESSSSSSSSS , because if we are mother pleaser we kind of
gradually turn to be a slave and most slaves are treated disrespectful.
So I say Fuck , if friends or family members are disrespectful to us we
must pull a stop sign and pay the cost.
It's easier to make ourself happier then others..
Thanks Leo , you gave me the guts to do so.
Be polite, but stay true to your opinions - do what makes you happy. I like having this awareness in the back of my mind.
So so true 👏🏼 Have been nodding all the the time. I needed to hear this, so thank you, it definitely helped me, I'm going to watch a lot more of your videos 👏🏼
Wow his voice is so soothing to me right now. Thank you for the insight Leo.
Wooooooooo. This one carried me away! You told the truth in the most profound way. Life changing!
This guy's videos are so incredible. They touch at the core of a tension.
I'm at 12min and 9 seconds into the video and I'm close to crying at every example you make of ways I didn't act as myself
yeah me too
I love you bc u understand … “ you have to start moving onto that side of the scale dont worry you wont let yourself be too heartless” 🥺 ….. thank you
Thank you so much for helping me over my anxiety An caring what people thought me. Keep doing what your doing cause you are helping a lot of other people, I'm sure of it. I've never felt better at what I'm doing with my life rn cause it starts now An for once idc if people don't accept me for me because I do.
I see that it worked for you and how authentically you want to let other people know and benefit from it. Thanks for mastering the game and passing the codes through
You deserve a subscribe.
Wow! I have never heard it expressed before about acting as though you are being watched. I constantly think about how I am seen by others or would be if people were around and it affects what I do whether or not people are around. It takes up a lot of mental energy and is a huge factor making me feel I need to be valuable by other's standards.
How does one stop caring tho
Jakosei 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I don’t think he means stop caring about your needs or those you love. It’s just practising being your authentic self without caring what random strangers , co-workers, or even what your own family thinks about your personality or who you are becoming. That doesn’t mean be an asshole, it just means your needs come first and it’s ok to say no. It’s ok to be weird, it’s ok to have your own beliefs even if they are completely different from the stranger your making small talk with to your own family members. Don’t always agree, if you don’t..
I can answer this with one word: confidence
@Alexander Supertramp Confidence applies to that, but it is not just that. It is a much brauder term. It simply means that you are convinced about your beliefs and you are very certain about future outcomes in your favor, but you can also be confident about negative things. Also thoughts are based on perception, so if you are saying that you stop worrying about others' perception about you, it also means you stop caring about what they think about you.
For me not much worked till one day I said enough 'cause I didn't have the stamina to keep caring. So I just didn't
is about being, talk and dress the way you like. People may not like it sometimes but as long as you are not offending anyone is the way to go
This honesty helped me out thank you...
From now on, I will stop being fake, and I will be my authentic self💚
That good to hear Huda, I recommend you watch Wesley Virgin his teaching on the law of attraction very clear-mindset2billions.com/
I really liked your whole talking. Seriously. I remindid instantly likes and comments on social media when you said about how complimments can become a certain kind of drug. I totally agreed with that. And I felt sick about myself when I realized how I needed likes on my instagram photos to feel a little good. You are so right.
I am having the same issue with constantly seeking attention and compliments to feel good . That's actually making me rediculous because that not how I used to be
I thought I was alone on this subject. You literally explained it perfectly to a T. Honestly it brought a tear to my eye and resonated a tingling sensation in my body! Only part that was different I felt like a narcissist and lacked empathy. I care for people and wanted to please them but I never cared to be around them because ive gave them so much and when I tried to talk they blow it off. Thank you sooo much I'm extremely glad you overcame it and that you are helping the world with this!
Love it!!!! You are soooo right about this, wow , I feel like I have such a better understanding of how "fake" we can be and for what?!?!? Great insight, I am most certainly going to be super aware today of how I might change my initial reactions or responses to things. Thank you Leo!!!!!
Woaa... Its like you read my mind Leo, literally as if u uploaded this vid exclusively for me. Thanks so much brotha this is something I've been pondering and trying to overcome for years now.
You know what you just made my day and made me realize who i am now and i just had to say thanks for aspiring me😇🤭🤓🙏
I appreciate your perspective - being one's self is what life is all about! I actually define who I am in the last video on my channel - I encourage everyone to do something similar: Define WHO YOU ARE, and then stay committed to stay true to yourself no matter what.
I’m too scared to be myself because I haven’t be it since forever. I don’t even know how I am when I’m myself
Thank you so much! I've been looking to change and everything I have tried doesn't work. You describe my exact personality type's flaws and it's encouraging to see someone like me that has changed for the better.
Wow dude uve got amazing videos. This its great for me thank you!
You hit the nail on the head. I gasped when you spoke about seeing yourself as a third person because ive always felt this way but no one has ever mentioned this! Thank you!
i got so ***** rage and anger towards other people which makes me suicidal. i can't express myself. i hate it when people go over me, lie or manipulate me. it's a ****** trap.
This is a great video and great advice! It is not always easy to find words which literally reach the listener's ears! But this is so well done! Thank you for that!
- As soon as you start being yourself and living yourself, even mental and emotional experiences, as well as the reflection you get from everything around you, will change! Even though it is not specifically mentioned in this particular video, anxiety issues, depression and other uncomfortable emotions as well as thoughts will vanish. If you start being good to yourself, you will simply start to create a very positive relationship to all of your aspects. I was struggling with these kind of problems until I started caring for myself. And that does not mean to be cruel or evil to other people. It just means that you stop trying to adjust other people's thoughts and ideas! Besides, for that.....there is no justification necessary. You do not have to explain yourself everytime you do something that someone else disagrees with!!!
It can start with little thing... as for example covering yourself with a blanket when you feeling cold.....or postpone something if you are not in the mood to do it right now. Basically, it is very easy, although it seems a bit odd at the beginning. Anyway, in the long run, you will benefit from it so much more than your mind can imagine right now!
Thanks again for the excellent video!
Kindest regards from Germany!
best video ive seen in my life period
Thank you for that gift - the all important reminder -- of the importance of being authentic. The message never gets old.
You would improve your videos by listing some of the books where we can expand the knowledge about what you are talking about. I like your videos because they help me grow but I need the books too
Miguel Lara go on actualized,. Com there you can find book rewiews
I Got my awakening in 2019 and Leo you was the first people The universe brought into my life to help me understand myself i actually called my 2 year old after you❤❤❤
I'M SCARED TO BE THE REAL ME! there said it I feel so much better
Pop Top no, the fake you is scared to let go. You've been convinced that you're scared go be yourself.
dÜo he’s in prison
Daz lmaooo
Have you ever had a slip of your true self like, out of impulse or like a natural reaction just came out from you and you find it so liberating...
I had many..and i'm already aware i'm not being my authentic self all the time so i'm training myself to make a habit of 'not care'
I remember i had a spontaneous reaction to a colleague and they bursted to laugh.. but i wasn't offended at all bec at that moment, the words i said and reaction i made was exactly how i felt. We ended up laughing altogether. It felt so real and happy.
I'm a recovering doormat, and I've always thought that behaving based on the need for approval is like prostitution. This is the first time I've heard someone put it that way and it surprises me that no one else has done so before.
I've been searching for how to control my thoughts and feeling.Your Videos are truly a life changing experience ...There is no word to describe how greatful i'am to find your videos...May God Bless YOU!!!!
😂😂😂😂 I love the direct simple communication he's got! 👍
My god the man spoked to me and basically categorized my entire life I've always been scared of consequences going to jail etc I've let people walk all over me out of fear thank you to this man for potentially finally getting me too realize the price sometimes your gonna pay to be yourself
"You may know people who just don't give a f*ck about what other people think of them."
*Me: "Hi. That's me."* 😂
you are an angel sent form heaven. I have been struggling with being myself for the past 11 years. Your lectures are life saving to me. Thanks and keep the good work
great video!
I was waiting till I'm 15 years old and 9 months to be be myself which is on the 25th of May 2018, but this video has completely changed me and now I won't care what people think or say about me and I will be myself. Thank you !
Idek wtf my “real” self is 😭
Thank you
Leo, from the moment I first came across your video (on Meditation), I subscribed to your channel right away. The following day, I asked my husband for an hour of his time a day to spend with me, half of which to watch one of your videos, and 20 minutes to meditate. He agreed to give me this time every day. We have watched a handful of your videos and have meditated and our relationship has grown stronger because of it...AND THEN WE GOT THIS VIDEO. It seems to make sense and be empowering, but he seemed to take it a whole new way. He's seemed to regress because of it and in his defense, he's telling me he's being his "authentic self" and that he's not going to whore himself anymore. He identifies his authentic self somewhat of being an a**hole who bottles up his true thoughts to please others. So, I don't get it. I feel like people like he and I search for videos like yours to watch because obviously we needed help to become the better versions of ourselves. But here, it seems you are giving permission to be whatever your true self is and he took it as if he's opinionated and negative that it's OK. Please help. I feel like we took 2 steps forward and 10 steps back.
Watch my other video on this issue: Understanding The Authentic Self.
I love how you give justifications and outcomes on both sides of the coin...I had say "know when to be aggressive and when to be patient, with that been said, know when to be yourself and when to be who people deserve"
I can tell this is the day my life will change ❌ 🧢
My crux with being authentic:
If I would be authentic, people would see that I am depressed. I am already a very lonesome person and thus can't afford to lose the last ones I have.
And then there is this vicious circle, that I am depressed because I got no purpose in life.
Leo explains that one has to be authentic and explore the world to find her purpose. This is difficult when one got no reason to get up in the morning - only her duties. Without a reason there cannot be motivation.
In Leo's video about motivation there is again a life purpose and a vision necessary to be motivated.
I already watched a lot of Leo's videos but it seems as if I am walking in a circle.
Ur videos are so influential u look like voldemort but u are amazing!
browneyedS HAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA U KILLED THAT :DDDDXDDDDDDDDD
I'm ded
In this world where unconditional love doesn't excists, being yourself will cost you almost all.