They are everywhere: in families, workplaces, even exercize classes! They think they're so smart and morally above everyone else. They always have to orchestrate their little cliques, and play cat and mouse games that make you look foolish. Then they cover their evil behaviors with a big jovial laugh so others can't see how mean they are. They monopolize every situation. I'm really so sick of them.
Sometimes it is just a matter of different personalities. Some people just aren't meant to be friends and being standoffish is that person's way of letting you know they are not interested.
I have noticed it is people who are too full of themselves like thinking they are something special. They might be snobby they like thinking they are better than other people. Especially if they have a low opinion of other people and like to talk down to people to boost their big egos. Its not just jealous insecure bullies that are the problem. Its self important people who have high opinions of themselves . And lack respect and are not sympathetic. Its best to smirk if they make snide remarks or are disrespectful. I have noticed it is the smug people that lack respect. They like thinking they are better and perfect than everyone else.
I was friends with two women and one of them was a total user, only contacted me if she needed a favour and ghosted me the rest of the time. The other one seemed ok, but sort of low key always bad mouthed the other one to me behind her back. I never engaged in the gossip and would try to change the subject. I started backing off from the user, then the gossiper met me and was like ' I'm so fed up with her she only ever uses me'. I simply said that I had experienced the same thing with that woman too. Now both of them are like buddies and neither of them even talk to me lol. Some people are best to just avoid avoid avoid LOL
Ditto! That happened to me so many times since childhood. My late mother and I were each others BEST Friends.My mother gave up all her female friends after I was born. Now that I'm about to turn 49. I've followed my mom's lead to depend on oneself.Invest in yourself 1st and NOT to depend on female friends etc. Most of my 2-faced female haters ended up w/STDs/ Single Mom's and substance abusers.
@FlyingMonkies325 Both of them were toxic, and had a toxic relationship with each other too. I'm glad not around them anymore. I'm very wary of people now and don't engage in anything but small talk unless I 100% trust them. Which takes a long time for me now to trust.
I used to do that too. I'm so much happier now that I've realized that they are toxic and I don't need them in my life. I used to blame myself and try to please them. Now, I act like they don't matter, I don't give them the importance. I wish I would have seen this earlier! Thanks for posting.
There are people who I don't like. But that doesn't mean that I want them to feel uneasy or uncomfortable. If I don't like someone I just don't want to be around them. I don't want to talk to them. If I don't like someone it's got nothing to do with anyone they remind me of or who they are friends with. It's usually because they irritate me in one way or another and if they were to ever ask me why I don't like them I would just tell them.
I wish more people were like you. I’d rather someone be honest with me than be fake. Makes it easier for me to not say anything since now there’s no pressure in feeling obligated to acknowledge them. You don’t have to like everybody and it’s totally cool. It would actually be hypocritical of someone to be upset at someone else when they do the same, even if it’s to other people. People are strange
I had to ✂️ CUT OFF a lot family/relatives. Whenever I go on a date I have to explain why I don't have much family/relatives. I even deactivated my Facebook too many was noticing I didn't have any family/relatives listed on FB friends list. And I closed my FB so that my nosey Haters /family etc doesn't know what I'm really up to!!🤣
During the pandemic due to the strict lockdown where I’ve lived , I’ve joined a nice online community but one person has it in for me because I don’t share every exact opinion they have. I feel silly it’s just online, but at the same time why should I be bullied for a platform? It’s very much this kind of passive aggressive approach (like disliking my comments) or arguing about every point I make even very everyday / non topical ones. I tried to state their behaviour and be upfront about it and said they could write to me privately to discuss it but they just acted more passive aggressive. I basically said it’s disrupting the chat and I think the mods are dealing with it now. They have a difficulty in their life which they use as emotional leverage to get out of stuff. It drives me wild, but this video really helps thanks.
I used to share things with family members, I don't anymore. They are all narcissists who love to demean me for everything. I have distanced myself to avoid them. When they try to come back in I am friendly but keep it friendly but do not make plans with them. All my life I have tended to befriend those that others ignore, maybe because I know what they might be going through.
@ericj305 The bridges have already been burned, they burned them. My entire family has contempt for me because I don't want to live the way they do, I hate contention. I am not one of those people who believe I must stay with family no matter what! We choose our friends based on our interests and morals. When family comes against the way we want to live our lives then we must leave them behind to find new friends who do appreciate our choices.
Self focused people usually just like thinking they are above people. It gives them a big ego boost acting better than other people. All these people want is to act like they perfect . It's best to just keep it polite with people like that . Smugness shows a lack of respect.
I’ve moved back to my childhood town, and I remember how rude and condescending the adults were, I genuinely thought it was because of my behavior but now that I’m an adult I’ve realized they’re just random people with a chip on their shoulders and they feel the need to expel those grudges onto others. Now I just smile and laugh when someone gives me a remark. Because it really isn’t about me.
You are such a beautiful woman with such a beautiful soul. Absolutely love your message. It's funny how we humans can be so shallow at times, seeing things with such a narrow and objective vision. We have such less time here. Wish everyone would be nice, to say the least and encourage and assist each other. Amen.
The way you explain things its like you're talking directly to me like you know me. I realized now I'm not alone. It's opened my eyes, my brain, and my heart to more positive and healthier ways of dealing with people in my life and for that I want to thank you. I love you for that. I look forward to listening to everything else you post.
Marie you really help me out because unfortunately I have to deal with a person like this I'm currently trying to get away from this person. I realized and came to the conclusion something about me gets them upset, and there is nothing I can do to change that.
@@mariedubuque Not always. In some cases our own subconscious dislike for someone else shows through. They may pick up on it and return the dislike. Then sometimes we're baffled because we don't recognize how our own negative emotions are contributing to the tension.
This helps. Lost 'friends' when i put up some boundaries while temporarily disabled. Still feels akward when i see them. Do I say a polite hello, or just nod in acknowledgement? They walked away from me when i literally couldn't walk. Now that I can walk again, do I just smile and walk on by? It seems like it would be best 😀
Thanks for the video. Needed this. My father acts passive aggressive to get what he want me to do. For me, I believe in sharing. It doubles happiness and half sadness. Sadly, some people do not like it.
Sometimes it’s a personality clash. Sometimes people just don’t mesh well. Or quite honestly, you might’ve said something perfectly innocent, but they maybe unfortunately took it the wrong way. But you would never know that they took it the wrong way, especially if they gave no indication. I think that is particularly true in this day and age, when people are so easily offended. You know, people will get offended if you say the sky is blue, they will say no it’s green. And then act as though you have three heads. You really can’t (shouldn’t..?) go running after them asking what you did wrong, because either they will not tell you, or it’s so piddly, they realize it’s piddly and I don’t want to talk about it….People are strange. I know in some instances I simply say something like ‘well I hope you have a nice day’ or I say ‘good luck’ to them depending on the circumstance, that sort of thing. But little communication as possible. Simply answer yes or no questions appropriately, and that’s it. As little communication as possible is best, usually. Because unfortunately no matter what you say to them, chances are they’re going to take it the wrong way. So I say as a little as possible to them. Don’t let them know or see that you’re bothered by them, act as though they are not there, and communicate with them as a little as possible/needed. Move on.
What if they took you’re innocent comment the wrong way but you explained to them that you didn’t mean it that way but they STILL don’t like you? Sometimes you have to ask what happened because you were kind of close to this person but when this person keeps rejecting you then it’s better to move on from this person and keep the distance.
I've been wearing an evil eye on my work badge for about a year and it finally broke off. It was picked up by a coworker and I think he doesn't like me- he keeps making passive aggressive comments and jokes. 🧿 Time to replace this evil eye. Thank you for all that it has served in protection of me 🙏
I am amazed at the age of the one who tries this on me. She's over 70 and I have not taken the bait but she keeps it up. It has been more than 5 years now, in a sewing group.
Let's be honest with ourselves here. There are obviously toxic people out there who just ain't gonna like you. It's the way their minds work and the lives they have led up to this point. However, in most cases where people dislike us "for no reason," we often don't recognize in ourselves a flaw or behavior we have that irritates others. It could be humble bragging, it could be self focus, awkwardness, our sense of humor--anything. I have a good friend who incessantly talks about himself. He's basically a good guy but completely oblivious to how he comes across or how others are irritated by this behavior. When I broached the subject with him to try and sincerely be helpful, he couldn't accept it and thought people were knit-picking. He was indignant and thought the problem was with the "overly critical" others. What has been so obvious to others is not obvious to him and some people have an awfully hard time facing up to their own shortcomings.
I’m only here because it’s people in my workplace and it’s so problematic for me. I started bringing a notepad just to document so I can protect my job. I like my job and don’t want to quit but these people make it very difficult. Im 32 and this is the 1st job I’ve had where I’ve had an actual group of people targeting me. I’ve never been envious of someone and tried sabotaging them just because they got the position I wanted. I’ve always congratulated others and boost up their confidence so this is so foreign to me and goes beyond my understanding.
You sound very nice. I hope you’re having a blessed week! I’m having an issue myself with this , but yeah I agree with you. That’s how I’ve been dealing with it, I hope it gets better soon
New subscriber 😊😊 I have done all of these things before watching you ... However I still get dirty stares, then they told me that looked me up online to figure out where I worked and where I lived. They are starting a whole hate me team!!! It's soooo pathetic
The most uncanny thing happening to me right now with some of the videos that Marie uploads, is that they always pop up when I am in that specific state of mind. As if the videos can somehow understand me before I even get to them. It's very strange.
I dealt w this at my last job. It was a supervisor position for Administration. They used to ignore me and exclude me from meetings, never gave me the right training. Everything was done in a condensing matter then they said I was doing everything wrong and not engaging w them. Once I transferred they gave the position to their front desk clerk. They treated him like royalty. He was a two face too, he took the position after saying he was going to leave.
What's incredibly frustrating is when you are in a no win situation. When you are completely logical and another person gives reasons why you are x y z. It's wrong and it's hurtful. Sometimes you just got to take the heat and walk away. Maybe Karma will teach them a lesson one day.
Thanks for this advice!! Get this in my workplace. What would I do in a situation if one of my good friends never reaches out to me, in the end I do. However when I do they talk, but they are definitely a social person.
My Godmother is best friends with my mom. My Godmother hates me always has. I am 45 years old, I am never invited to her house. Whenever I bring this up with my mom she yells at me and says that it's her choice, instead of sticking up for me. I am friends with her daughter, we are like sisters, her mom always gets in the middle, calls my mom and tells my mom to tell me that her daughter is always right and I am wrong. I told my Godsister to stop sharing things with her mom, because then her mom will call my mom and yell at me. I shared some of my problems with my Godsister. She told her mom everything, instead of keeping it to herself, her mom called my mom and said tell your daughter to stop telling my daughter her problems, my mom called yelling at me and told me not to share things with her. Its also hurtful that whenever there is an event I am never invited, my mom always is since she is her best friend, my mom never sticks up for me. When I tell my mom that it hurts that I am never invited to my Godmother house, my moms response was that she doesn't like me that's all. It hurts and bothers me. I always wanted to call my Godmother and tell her off, but I know that would only escalate the situation. Its not fare.
I had a person I actually like be so condescending to me the other day, it just floored me, we do a hobby together and I hadn't seen her for nearly a year, we are acquainted through our hobby, and another friend complemented me on how well I was doing at our hobby, the other person actually said she couldn't believe what she was hearing from the other person and actually said "well you must have vastly improved from the last time I saw you ", I was flabbergasted.....is this person just being mean for the sake of it, or is she just not that self aware,l..I asked how she thought i was getting on before on a previous occasion and she was less than diplomatic either, i was stupid to ask her,as I don't now value her opinion, that's when I decided never to ask her again. This was uncalled for I think. Any thoughts would be helpful, as I certainly did not solicit her opinion this time.....
You're gorgeous. I'd love to see a video on why your friend isn't talking to you anymore. My best friend has suddenly started to ignore me, even though we talked almost everyday, and now I haven't heard from her in a week. I know she could talk to me because she's talking to my other friends. Help?
It sounds like maybe somebody in your group said something to her about something you said-likely a misunderstanding. But when things get rolled around by gossipy people things can get toxic.
Hi Marie, thank you for this advice! I was just wondering, what do you do if this is the situation in a workplace and you are receiving this treatment from a superior or a boss?
That happened to me and I put up with it for too long looking back and I had tried to improve things but with no luck and then there was an incident that was the final blow back in October which had led me to finalise my decision to leave and I wrote to them and handed in my notice and left at the end of November last year and I don't regret it either! I only regret not doing it sooner!
@@chantelforrester8325 I had been planning that exit for many years and I feel that they accidentally did me a favour when they had a go at me in October when they had tried to force me into talking to them about what was wrong and I never did either! One of my friends said what's it to do with them what's wrong and I said not a lot and how it was nothing to do with what was wrong in itself no it was a power trip! I never did tell them and this sealed the deal in my decision to leave so to speak as that had played on my mind for a long time! It was the best thing I could have done for myself!
yesterday on an internship I spoke to one, she sounded very annoyed about something I hadn't done, then I made it clear to her that I don't like her tone, she only says ok, are you going to help? because for an internship you normally stay a little longer. I said no!, nobody is my boss I am not a piece of shit she is clearly jealous because I really do my best there. Thnx for the video i want minimaal contact with her now.
Aghhh there is wife of my co worker. She hate me since forever .. I can feel it, my partner says it's just in my head but I can sense her hate. I tried hard to be friends with her 2-3 times. Invited both of them to dinner, my summer picnic activity... but now I am done with her drama. She can remain in her space forever.
@FlyingMonkies325 Actually we live in the same neighbourhood and her husband tries a lot to join us in our group outings/activities. Thats why I tried 2-3 times. But now I don't disturb her. Like recently I didn't join their anniversary party as I assumed she would dislike my presence. My partner went with a gift as her husband is my partner's good friend now... and the invitation was clearly from his side. But yes... I've learnt my lesson, never invite someone again if they deny your first offer😊
Hi Mrs Dubuque, i want to ask about your oppinion about my problem, i have a friend where i'm interrested in, and they were very close to me, talking was fine and (maybe) i noticed they're interrested in me too, so i got excited plus we're in a same club to begin with But after a couple months they stopped talking, and then they slowly stop attending the club meetings, and they just...dissapeared, and i started to notice that they also avoided me and my close friends When we ask them why you're not with us anymore or hangout anymore since we miss them, they just tells us that they've been busy, but through in their stories from instagram they're with their friends and going out with them and i guess that "buisiness" is not about work or stuff Did i do something worng? I have been asking this to myself for awhile now because i really like the person and i have never seen a person act like this before...
I have a problem i had a friend but now he does not like me anymore he does not take me seriusly and im scared to talk to them bc he would probably make fun of me
Vid request: How can i overcome the jealousy of my friends doing exciting stuff while I’m just doing normal boring stuff? ( I’m a teen that’s why I’m asking)
I believe we all go through this. You think other people are leading this exciting life, but in reality, their lives are no more exciting than yours! They just put up this facade. And with social media, it is really easy to do. I know it sounds cliche, but try not to compare your life with someone else's because you don't know what is really going on behind closed doors.And while they may really be living the dream now, everything could turn next year, when it is you who has a huge opportunity and they are merely chugging along.
i think there is no true friends .i was thinking have true friends i had tham only when i was safer from my relationship with my ex.but when i finde my happiness my fake friends was not happy start talk shit all kind different staf.
Try to talk to her a little more, not a lot so that it seems obvious, but show her a little more attention. Approach her and ask her how she is doing. Try to find a time when she is not surrounded by a group of friends so that she can talk more freely. Also you can text her with no specific questions, just wanting to know how she is. But after you do those things, wait until she initiates contact, either through text or in person. Don't keep approaching her if she doesn't respond first. You want to show interest, but subtly!
"High opinion of self, low opinion of others" have spared me from remotely caring about if someone hates me. Or getting super happy bc some loser likes me. Lol. I love myself and that's more than enough. This reeks of conceitedness. But it really isnt. I do enjoy throwing " these people" off though!
You are wrong in thinking people that don’t necessarily connect with you want you to unhappy. They may want you to be happy, they just don’t click with you. I pray for the best for others always whether or not we connect in a deeper way. I do not want to wish evil on anyone or hurt anyone. You are making many assumptions about people and focusing too much on others- Focus on God instead.
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They are insecure and immature and toxic!💙 it's hard when is in the workplace, they will usually sabotage your job.
yep, I made that mistake by trying to get your honey where you make your money!
I have dealt with that everywhere I went. Even at my last job
Yes!!! I've Dealt with that at the last 2 jobs!! It was crazy
They are everywhere: in families, workplaces, even exercize classes! They think they're so smart and morally above everyone else. They always have to orchestrate their little cliques, and play cat and mouse games that make you look foolish. Then they cover their evil behaviors with a big jovial laugh so others can't see how mean they are. They monopolize every situation. I'm really so sick of them.
I’m retired and had no problems at work for 30 years and retired…. It’s family members. As of last Saturday they no longer exist in my life 👉🏽
Your advice is like advice I’d get from my mom. She’s not here anymore so thank you 🙏🏻
You are so kind, thank you. Mine isn't either. It is such a tough loss no matter how old you are or how much time has passed.
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I’m sorry for your loss, my condolences ❤️
I am sorry for your loss. 🙏🏻
But what you've said is so true. 😭
Same here
Sometimes it is just a matter of different personalities. Some people just aren't meant to be friends and being standoffish is that person's way of letting you know they are not interested.
Yep
I have noticed it is people who are too full of themselves like thinking they are something special. They might be snobby they like thinking they are better than other people. Especially if they have a low opinion of other people and like to talk down to people to boost their big egos. Its not just jealous insecure bullies that are the problem. Its self important people who have high opinions of themselves . And lack respect and are not sympathetic. Its best to smirk if they make snide remarks or are disrespectful. I have noticed it is the smug people that lack respect. They like thinking they are better and perfect than everyone else.
Omg, same feelings here, so so true😊
Those are all my coworkers. One day karma will come to them. The wrong new person will flip it on them.
Forget them, they arent worth it anyways, find people who do like you for who you are and won't put you down.
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I was friends with two women and one of them was a total user, only contacted me if she needed a favour and ghosted me the rest of the time.
The other one seemed ok, but sort of low key always bad mouthed the other one to me behind her back.
I never engaged in the gossip and would try to change the subject.
I started backing off from the user, then the gossiper met me and was like
' I'm so fed up with her she only ever uses me'. I simply said that I had experienced the same thing with that woman too.
Now both of them are like buddies and neither of them even talk to me lol.
Some people are best to just
avoid avoid avoid LOL
Ditto! That happened to me so many times since childhood. My late mother and I were each others BEST Friends.My mother gave up all her female friends after I was born. Now that I'm about to turn 49. I've followed my mom's lead to depend on oneself.Invest in yourself 1st and NOT to depend on female friends etc. Most of my 2-faced female haters ended up w/STDs/ Single Mom's and substance abusers.
@FlyingMonkies325
Both of them were toxic, and had a toxic relationship with each other too. I'm glad not around them anymore.
I'm very wary of people now and don't engage in anything but small talk unless I 100% trust them. Which takes a long time for me now to trust.
Very similar thing happened to me, uncanny. Scum are Scum period.
Sooooooooo true!! Thank you so much for your kind advice. Jealous friends are poison.
I used to do that too. I'm so much happier now that I've realized that they are toxic and I don't need them in my life. I used to blame myself and try to please them. Now, I act like they don't matter, I don't give them the importance. I wish I would have seen this earlier! Thanks for posting.
Sometimes its just one of those things when someone doesn't like you when you have done nothing wrong.
Its their problem not yours!
True I realized it's usually the miserable people that don't like me because I usually seem happy.
Just wankers and toxic knobheads with a chip bigger than mccains on there shoulder!
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When they make it obvious, it’s because you’re shining a light on their darkness, of gossip, immaturity, success, or truth!
@@tercial Anem to that man ❣️
There are people who I don't like. But that doesn't mean that I want them to feel uneasy or uncomfortable. If I don't like someone I just don't want to be around them. I don't want to talk to them. If I don't like someone it's got nothing to do with anyone they remind me of or who they are friends with. It's usually because they irritate me in one way or another and if they were to ever ask me why I don't like them I would just tell them.
I wish more people were like you. I’d rather someone be honest with me than be fake. Makes it easier for me to not say anything since now there’s no pressure in feeling obligated to acknowledge them. You don’t have to like everybody and it’s totally cool. It would actually be hypocritical of someone to be upset at someone else when they do the same, even if it’s to other people. People are strange
Thank you
They smile in your face, all the while they want to take your place. They’re back stabbers. (The O’Jays)
Ugh I love that song
But you feel so ostracized, and when you avoid them they think your stuck up or weird.
Omg so true, these kinds of people are so toxic and annoying 🙄
Well they come across as stuck up to you so??? We can’t please everyone.
They r fake nd great actors NVR entertain such people
It’s hard when they’re related to you 😭
I had to ✂️ CUT OFF a lot family/relatives. Whenever I go on a date I have to explain why I don't have much family/relatives. I even deactivated my Facebook too many was noticing I didn't have any family/relatives listed on FB friends list. And I closed my FB so that my nosey Haters /family etc doesn't know what I'm really up to!!🤣
This makes me sad that I don't have true friends. Never had.
You will find them soon.
During the pandemic due to the strict lockdown where I’ve lived , I’ve joined a nice online community but one person has it in for me because I don’t share every exact opinion they have. I feel silly it’s just online, but at the same time why should I be bullied for a platform? It’s very much this kind of passive aggressive approach (like disliking my comments) or arguing about every point I make even very everyday / non topical ones. I tried to state their behaviour and be upfront about it and said they could write to me privately to discuss it but they just acted more passive aggressive. I basically said it’s disrupting the chat and I think the mods are dealing with it now. They have a difficulty in their life which they use as emotional leverage to get out of stuff. It drives me wild, but this video really helps thanks.
This comment is really well stated and captures precisely how some people act. I know the type you speak of.
I used to share things with family members, I don't anymore. They are all narcissists who love to demean me for everything. I have distanced myself to avoid them. When they try to come back in I am friendly but keep it friendly but do not make plans with them. All my life I have tended to befriend those that others ignore, maybe because I know what they might be going through.
Exactly, thank you.
@ericj305 The bridges have already been burned, they burned them. My entire family has contempt for me because I don't want to live the way they do, I hate contention. I am not one of those people who believe I must stay with family no matter what! We choose our friends based on our interests and morals. When family comes against the way we want to live our lives then we must leave them behind to find new friends who do appreciate our choices.
@@gwendolynwehage6336 family isnt always everything. They just make u feel indebted for being born. We are born to be free without familys meddling
Your channel has changed my life. Thank you. God bless
Self focused people usually just like thinking they are above people. It gives them a big ego boost acting better than other people. All these people want is to act like they perfect . It's best to just keep it polite with people like that . Smugness shows a lack of respect.
I’ve moved back to my childhood town, and I remember how rude and condescending the adults were, I genuinely thought it was because of my behavior but now that I’m an adult I’ve realized they’re just random people with a chip on their shoulders and they feel the need to expel those grudges onto others.
Now I just smile and laugh when someone gives me a remark. Because it really isn’t about me.
So true!!!
You are such a beautiful woman with such a beautiful soul. Absolutely love your message. It's funny how we humans can be so shallow at times, seeing things with such a narrow and objective vision.
We have such less time here. Wish everyone would be nice, to say the least and encourage and assist each other.
Amen.
The way you explain things its like you're talking directly to me like you know me. I realized now I'm not alone. It's opened my eyes, my brain, and my heart to more positive and healthier ways of dealing with people in my life and for that I want to thank you. I love you for that. I look forward to listening to everything else you post.
Thank you, you made my day.
Marie you really help me out because unfortunately I have to deal with a person like this I'm currently trying to get away from this person. I realized and came to the conclusion something about me gets them upset, and there is nothing I can do to change that.
I have had that happen too. In this case, it really is them, not you.
@@mariedubuque Not always. In some cases our own subconscious dislike for someone else shows through. They may pick up on it and return the dislike. Then sometimes we're baffled because we don't recognize how our own negative emotions are contributing to the tension.
You give the best advice. I wish you were my mother... I needed to hear these things when I was younger
This helps. Lost 'friends' when i put up some boundaries while temporarily disabled. Still feels akward when i see them. Do I say a polite hello, or just nod in acknowledgement? They walked away from me when i literally couldn't walk. Now that I can walk again, do I just smile and walk on by? It seems like it would be best 😀
Thanks for the video. Needed this. My father acts passive aggressive to get what he want me to do. For me, I believe in sharing. It doubles happiness and half sadness. Sadly, some people do not like it.
Consider it a gift if that person doesn’t like you!
Thank you so much for your every advice. Each video of yours is so specific and yet so general that everyone can link one's self to it.
will try to listen to this EVERY DAY!!!!!!
Sometimes it’s a personality clash. Sometimes people just don’t mesh well. Or quite honestly, you might’ve said something perfectly innocent, but they maybe unfortunately took it the wrong way. But you would never know that they took it the wrong way, especially if they gave no indication. I think that is particularly true in this day and age, when people are so easily offended. You know, people will get offended if you say the sky is blue, they will say no it’s green. And then act as though you have three heads.
You really can’t (shouldn’t..?) go running after them asking what you did wrong, because either they will not tell you, or it’s so piddly, they realize it’s piddly and I don’t want to talk about it….People are strange. I know in some instances I simply say something like ‘well I hope you have a nice day’ or I say ‘good luck’ to them depending on the circumstance, that sort of thing. But little communication as possible. Simply answer yes or no questions appropriately, and that’s it. As little communication as possible is best, usually. Because unfortunately no matter what you say to them, chances are they’re going to take it the wrong way. So I say as a little as possible to them. Don’t let them know or see that you’re bothered by them, act as though they are not there, and communicate with them as a little as possible/needed. Move on.
What if they took you’re innocent comment the wrong way but you explained to them that you didn’t mean it that way but they STILL don’t like you? Sometimes you have to ask what happened because you were kind of close to this person but when this person keeps rejecting you then it’s better to move on from this person and keep the distance.
I've been wearing an evil eye on my work badge for about a year and it finally broke off. It was picked up by a coworker and I think he doesn't like me- he keeps making passive aggressive comments and jokes. 🧿 Time to replace this evil eye. Thank you for all that it has served in protection of me 🙏
Great advice, and good timing! I hadn't seen people like this in a long time, but the past few days, they sure have been showing up!
You're absolutely right when you say, "There's nothing you can do," but for some reason, it's still hard to stop trying.
You are spot on and great advice 😉 thanks
thank u for being my online mom,love u marie
Great advice Marie. Thank you!
I am amazed at the age of the one who tries this on me. She's over 70 and I have not taken the bait but she keeps it up. It has been more than 5 years now, in a sewing group.
Have you tried, "Stop talking to me" every time she utters a sentence in your direction?
So glad you're back, Marie!
I just want to say you have a gorgeous hair
She is a beautiful person inside and out!
Marie, you're fabulous, thank you :)
Thanks for your daily advice!!! It motivates me to do better throughout the day !!
Thank you so much for your kind words. Glad it helped.
Really needed this for today! Thank you always for the best advices!
Happy to help!
Let's be honest with ourselves here. There are obviously toxic people out there who just ain't gonna like you. It's the way their minds work and the lives they have led up to this point. However, in most cases where people dislike us "for no reason," we often don't recognize in ourselves a flaw or behavior we have that irritates others. It could be humble bragging, it could be self focus, awkwardness, our sense of humor--anything. I have a good friend who incessantly talks about himself. He's basically a good guy but completely oblivious to how he comes across or how others are irritated by this behavior. When I broached the subject with him to try and sincerely be helpful, he couldn't accept it and thought people were knit-picking. He was indignant and thought the problem was with the "overly critical" others. What has been so obvious to others is not obvious to him and some people have an awfully hard time facing up to their own shortcomings.
I’m only here because it’s people in my workplace and it’s so problematic for me. I started bringing a notepad just to document so I can protect my job. I like my job and don’t want to quit but these people make it very difficult. Im 32 and this is the 1st job I’ve had where I’ve had an actual group of people targeting me. I’ve never been envious of someone and tried sabotaging them just because they got the position I wanted. I’ve always congratulated others and boost up their confidence so this is so foreign to me and goes beyond my understanding.
Very simple advice, but also very wise. A person who can do this and be okay with it is truly strong 💪🏼
Saving this! Thank you ❤️
You sound very nice. I hope you’re having a blessed week! I’m having an issue myself with this , but yeah I agree with you. That’s how I’ve been dealing with it, I hope it gets better soon
Once again you give excellent advice! That helps me and so many others. I ❤ it! Have a wonderful and great weekend ahead Marie! ☺
Thank you so much, you too!
@@mariedubuque you're welcome! Thank you as well! ☺
Such great advice! Thank you so much! Just what I needed!
New subscriber 😊😊 I have done all of these things before watching you ... However I still get dirty stares, then they told me that looked me up online to figure out where I worked and where I lived. They are starting a whole hate me team!!! It's soooo pathetic
It's called "mobbing."
Thank you for this ❤
Thank you for this video. It was honeslty so helpful.
This was helpful, thank you!
So glad!
Love the color of the lipstick
I am just seeing this video today and I like it but I wish I would have found it last year because I was lost.
Great advice!!
Thank you so much. Been going through this for 2 months now.
The most uncanny thing happening to me right now with some of the videos that Marie uploads, is that they always pop up when I am in that specific state of mind. As if the videos can somehow understand me before I even get to them. It's very strange.
You are like a big sister to me 😊
Thank you, that means a lot.
I dealt w this at my last job. It was a supervisor position for Administration. They used to ignore me and exclude me from meetings, never gave me the right training. Everything was done in a condensing matter then they said I was doing everything wrong and not engaging w them. Once I transferred they gave the position to their front desk clerk. They treated him like royalty. He was a two face too, he took the position after saying he was going to leave.
What's incredibly frustrating is when you are in a no win situation. When you are completely logical and another person gives reasons why you are x y z. It's wrong and it's hurtful. Sometimes you just got to take the heat and walk away. Maybe Karma will teach them a lesson one day.
It's also more of a window into the way they perceive or think than it is a statement about you.
Thanks for this advice!! Get this in my workplace. What would I do in a situation if one of my good friends never reaches out to me, in the end I do. However when I do they talk, but they are definitely a social person.
You are like the cool aunt I wish I had, I love your videos 💖
That makes my day. Thank you!
My Godmother is best friends with my mom. My Godmother hates me always has. I am 45 years old, I am never invited to her house. Whenever I bring this up with my mom she yells at me and says that it's her choice, instead of sticking up for me. I am friends with her daughter, we are like sisters, her mom always gets in the middle, calls my mom and tells my mom to tell me that her daughter is always right and I am wrong. I told my Godsister to stop sharing things with her mom, because then her mom will call my mom and yell at me. I shared some of my problems with my Godsister. She told her mom everything, instead of keeping it to herself, her mom called my mom and said tell your daughter to stop telling my daughter her problems, my mom called yelling at me and told me not to share things with her. Its also hurtful that whenever there is an event I am never invited, my mom always is since she is her best friend, my mom never sticks up for me. When I tell my mom that it hurts that I am never invited to my Godmother house, my moms response was that she doesn't like me that's all. It hurts and bothers me. I always wanted to call my Godmother and tell her off, but I know that would only escalate the situation. Its not fare.
I had a person I actually like be so condescending to me the other day, it just floored me, we do a hobby together and I hadn't seen her for nearly a year, we are acquainted through our hobby, and another friend complemented me on how well I was doing at our hobby, the other person actually said she couldn't believe what she was hearing from the other person and actually said "well you must have vastly improved from the last time I saw you ", I was flabbergasted.....is this person just being mean for the sake of it, or is she just not that self aware,l..I asked how she thought i was getting on before on a previous occasion and she was less than diplomatic either, i was stupid to ask her,as I don't now value her opinion, that's when I decided never to ask her again. This was uncalled for I think. Any thoughts would be helpful, as I certainly did not solicit her opinion this time.....
@ericj305 Thanks Eric, that's really helpful, that's what I'll do with all future interactions with her.... I appreciate you taking the time.😊
She’s JEALOUS
Brilliant 🙏🏼♥️🌹
Exactly, I stopped using words with those ppl I just smile at them and leave hehe
You're gorgeous. I'd love to see a video on why your friend isn't talking to you anymore. My best friend has suddenly started to ignore me, even though we talked almost everyday, and now I haven't heard from her in a week. I know she could talk to me because she's talking to my other friends. Help?
Don't become so attached go find other friends.
It sounds like maybe somebody in your group said something to her about something you said-likely a misunderstanding. But when things get rolled around by gossipy people things can get toxic.
Hi Marie, thank you for this advice! I was just wondering, what do you do if this is the situation in a workplace and you are receiving this treatment from a superior or a boss?
That happened to me and I put up with it for too long looking back and I had tried to improve things but with no luck and then there was an incident that was the final blow back in October which had led me to finalise my decision to leave and I wrote to them and handed in my notice and left at the end of November last year and I don't regret it either!
I only regret not doing it sooner!
@@chantelforrester8325 I had been planning that exit for many years and I feel that they accidentally did me a favour when they had a go at me in October when they had tried to force me into talking to them about what was wrong and I never did either!
One of my friends said what's it to do with them what's wrong and I said not a lot and how it was nothing to do with what was wrong in itself no it was a power trip!
I never did tell them and this sealed the deal in my decision to leave so to speak as that had played on my mind for a long time!
It was the best thing I could have done for myself!
I was this way until my mid-20's. I could care less now.
What if they're a sibling?
yesterday on an internship I spoke to one, she sounded very annoyed about something I hadn't done, then I made it clear to her that I don't like her tone, she only says ok, are you going to help? because for an internship you normally stay a little longer. I said no!, nobody is my boss I am not a piece of shit she is clearly jealous because I really do my best there. Thnx for the video i want minimaal contact with her now.
Now that I’m older I don’t care looking back it was jealousy or racism
Great advice
Can you help me. How can I stop having crush on every random guys I've meet?
Any advice if it's your family member and you are required to be around each other?
Aghhh there is wife of my co worker. She hate me since forever .. I can feel it, my partner says it's just in my head but I can sense her hate. I tried hard to be friends with her 2-3 times. Invited both of them to dinner, my summer picnic activity... but now I am done with her drama. She can remain in her space forever.
@FlyingMonkies325
Actually we live in the same neighbourhood and her husband tries a lot to join us in our group outings/activities. Thats why I tried 2-3 times. But now I don't disturb her.
Like recently I didn't join their anniversary party as I assumed she would dislike my presence.
My partner went with a gift as her husband is my partner's good friend now... and the invitation was clearly from his side.
But yes... I've learnt my lesson, never invite someone again if they deny your first offer😊
Hi Mrs Dubuque, i want to ask about your oppinion about my problem, i have a friend where i'm interrested in, and they were very close to me, talking was fine and (maybe) i noticed they're interrested in me too, so i got excited plus we're in a same club to begin with
But after a couple months they stopped talking, and then they slowly stop attending the club meetings, and they just...dissapeared, and i started to notice that they also avoided me and my close friends
When we ask them why you're not with us anymore or hangout anymore since we miss them, they just tells us that they've been busy, but through in their stories from instagram they're with their friends and going out with them and i guess that "buisiness" is not about work or stuff
Did i do something worng? I have been asking this to myself for awhile now because i really like the person and i have never seen a person act like this before...
Thanks mom...
I have a problem i had a friend but now he does not like me anymore he does not take me seriusly and im scared to talk to them bc he would probably make fun of me
Did y’all ever make up since it’s been 5 months
My bfs little sister just completely hates me. And it honestly drives me crazy
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Hi Marie if I have a question where can I send it to ?thanks xxxxx
You can email me at a2dvoices@gmail.com. Or ask here and I will answer right away.
They just pretend to be your friend fake there niceness
Vid request: How can i overcome the jealousy of my friends doing exciting stuff while I’m just doing normal boring stuff? ( I’m a teen that’s why I’m asking)
I believe we all go through this. You think other people are leading this exciting life, but in reality, their lives are no more exciting than yours! They just put up this facade. And with social media, it is really easy to do. I know it sounds cliche, but try not to compare your life with someone else's because you don't know what is really going on behind closed doors.And while they may really be living the dream now, everything could turn next year, when it is you who has a huge opportunity and they are merely chugging along.
It terrible people are like that
No hate or anything I love your videos but your videos are just a little bit quiet? don’t get me wrong I love your vids 💖💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you for letting me know. Got a new mic. Hope that fixes it.
You are so Wonderful and so Amazing You Are Excellent
Lol this made me laugh. So true 👍
TELL THEM OFF!! Tell them they're heads are twisted and to go get professional help!
i think there is no true friends .i was thinking have true friends i had tham only when i was safer from my relationship with my ex.but when i finde my happiness my fake friends was not happy start talk shit all kind different staf.
I love u 🍸
How can I get the girl I like notice that I like her??
Try to talk to her a little more, not a lot so that it seems obvious, but show her a little more attention. Approach her and ask her how she is doing. Try to find a time when she is not surrounded by a group of friends so that she can talk more freely. Also you can text her with no specific questions, just wanting to know how she is. But after you do those things, wait until she initiates contact, either through text or in person. Don't keep approaching her if she doesn't respond first. You want to show interest, but subtly!
@@mariedubuque Thank you Marie! We can always count on your advice 👍
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U look nice in this lipstick ❤️
"High opinion of self, low opinion of others" have spared me from remotely caring about if someone hates me. Or getting super happy bc some loser likes me. Lol. I love myself and that's more than enough. This reeks of conceitedness. But it really isnt. I do enjoy throwing " these people" off though!
but she's family, holidays suck
It's there problem and noone
They r miserable so need drama.
🎤 please
You are wrong in thinking people that don’t necessarily connect with you want you to unhappy.
They may want you to be happy, they just don’t click with you.
I pray for the best for others always whether or not we connect in a deeper way.
I do not want to wish evil on anyone or hurt anyone.
You are making many assumptions about people and focusing too much on others-
Focus on God instead.