Filipinos are amused to hear the accent of foreigners in Tagalog, it's music to their ears. Once you hear them giggle at the effort, be ready to spend countless hours talking with them :-)
my suggestion is to take the chance to lean over to a female classmate in the seat next to her and say hi with a welcoming smile and ask about the lessons or the assignments or the quiz, just let the classmate take you under her wing :) God bless
Where is your farm? American! - Tropic thunder. but seriously, filipinos are shy people so you should initiate communication with them, once you break the ice, you'll never hear the end from them. I have many foreign friends as well doing this. - Greetings from Italy
Lots of Filipinos are known as shy and hesitate to start the move. Once she start opening even Hi with a smile and be honest. They will welcome her immediately. Majority are sympathetic.
your problem is easy, if people dont talk to you, you better talk to them first. Not all people are outspoken in Phils and mostly are shy. So better you talk first then you meet friends later on.
It's true, Filipino are shy, I wasn't, in my elementary girls south leader always sent me to meet other American girls at George Dewey School in side the USNaval Base. I wasn't shy I was able to communicate even though I can only hear one ear.Just Be brave learn basic Tagalog and smiles😊, that's opening Filipino are kind hearts,hospitable, friendly, sincere more....😊
My son is fluent both English and Filipino but wont interact with people because he's an introvert. But he communicates well with his foreign friends online. The pandemic had a great impact to most of the kids, some healed already and some are still in the process of healing. Filipinos are very shy people but once you get along with them, they can be a good friend to you. I suggest you start a conversation with them coz they won't interact with you unless you start it. And be respectful when you talk, and don't think highly of yourself because some foreigners feels entitled that annoys Filipinos. Hope this helps.
her parents are both filifinos, she is US born that is why her Citizenship is American but by blood is a filifino since her parents come from here, and the reason why she is studying her. It is amusing that probably she is not trying to learn the language when others who are real foreigners by blood who are here, are learning it and adapting the way of life as well...take instance the Canadian, Australian, German vblogger etc....these are real foreigners for me.
If you go to any countries in the world, You need to adapt and learn the basics. Don't expect that they are going to adapt into your liking or talk to you first. Learn(I guess you have some ideas since your parents are filipinos) and ask questions. I'm living in the US now(no other family/relatives when I came 34 yrs ago) half of my life and needed to learn and adjust to their culture. My kids(33 and 26 y/o) who practically born/grew up here in Chicago knew basics tagalog and bicol even though they don't need it in everyday conversation. You practically looked like a filipina anyway so that's an advantage. We like and excelled in embracing people( that's why foreigners liked us esp in healthcare) so don't feel bad. God bless!
that is the sense, she looks very much a Filifina and is amusingly feel na feel ang pagiging American kuno...she has to adapt, it is expected from her esp that her parents are true blooded Filifinos..ito siguro ang catalyst why some people repel her. She has to check and know what is causing it and change.
For sure a lot of Filipino are shy to approach a foreigner espescially if they are freshman, and they are still making their way in a College environment, most of them came from a public High school and a not very exclusive private school.
I’m not the most social guy on the planet 🌏 but when I went to Asia my problem was not a lack of locals wanting to talk to me, but finding quiet spots where I could be occasionally alone in my thoughts (without being rude about it). A smile in the Philippines goes a long way to making friends.
@@Re_Action_Hamster even though, having Tagalog Captions is a big help to those Filipinos having a hard time speaking or understanding English. Although most Filipinos are Bi-Lingual (English + Native Language) or even Polyglots (can speak, read, and listen to three or more languages), some prefer to read and listen to Tagalog rather than English as their second language.
yes I lived here for 55 years, they are among themselves mining their own business. If want something you have to ask. My Am. Husband don't like asking even dirction. Learned Self helps. Like reading map.
@@TravelingTalongs how can you stereotype 335 million people? What kind of ignorance is that. Every American is different plus there are different regions which are know to be more or less friendly. For example if you are in Texas they are more open and friendly than let's say New York City or something. I have known many Americans while living in America who are very hospitable and nice towards me despite being a foreigner there.
When I moved to the Philippines for a period I made it a point not to use English but Tagalog. I'm half but wasn't taught the language. It was a struggle but months went by and I learned. Now I've been fluent for 20 yrs. My daughter now who is 3/4s pinay and dual citizen just doesn't want to speak Tagalog. I told her I'm going to send her to the school in the Philippines to practice the language. I wish I grew up knowing the language.
Learning a language can be very helpful. Being able to experience different cultures is the highest form of education. No language is superior to any. Thanks for your very honest opinion po. I love it! ❤️🇵🇭💫
Filipinos would rather assimilate than retain their language when they go abroad, so kids just lose the ability to speak their mother tongue which is pretty sad.
This is very true that pinoys are usually shy and struggle in opening up and speaking in english. I too struggle speaking in english to an extent that i stutter just trying to speak out the first second word or making a whole sentence. But when it comes to communication via messages or chat, i can easily say things in english. I feel more comfortable that way. My advice is to practice speaking in english and overtime, u will feel more confident talking.
She actually gives me the vibes that she’s not too interested to talk with others, and I feel like she’s the type who is basically a self-centered person and snobbish. She rarely smiled and probably is annoyed by many things about the Philippines. If I was one who tried to talked to her and I picked up those vibes early on, I would not approach her again.
@@Gwenfriespo I was giving my first impression of her based on this video, not judging her. Please learn to distinguish between the two. The other interviewees did not give me that impression/vibe, and they exuded warmth and friendliness. Maybe she is just an introvert and feels awkward in certain social interactions.
Former foreign student (introvert) in the UK and the US here: As a Filipino who grew up in the Middle East in the 80/90's, cultivating small groups of friends is *key*. I've always been the outsider growing up, with little or no other Pinoys around but it never bothered me. Granted, there's no real language barrier (everyone spoke some English at least) but my advice is to form friend groups, or just start out with a friend buddy. Someone who you can relate with, have similar interests or you can just vibe with. It helps to be visibly approachable and friendly. You can join a club (sports/music/geek stuff) and see if you can gel with at least one person. Hopefully, that one classmate or buddy will introduce you to their friend groups etc. But you'll need to start somewhere - I've always loved sports and geek stuff so I formed friends right away when I signed up for those activities. You can volunteer in public-facing gigs or just ask a classmate for schoolwork help or just social tips, like hey, what does this word mean? Joining a church with a youth group might help. I've encountered foreign students here in the Philippines through church, and helped a bit esp. with those who aren't fluent in either English or Filipino. My brother and I, who grew up abroad, tend to be the ones initiating introductions when it comes to foreigners. It's an effort on both sides - my French (and Tagalog) sucks so I know how hard it is when it's a struggle just to communicate - so just use gestures, use humor to your advantage, be humble, and don't be afraid to make mistakes.
@@TravelingTalongs Thanks! While in college in the US, I could totally empathize with the other foreign students who had a tougher time since most of them weren't fluent in English at all (Japanese, Korean, Nepalese etc.) and it was their first time abroad. Knowing what it's like to be an outsider, I made sure to reach out or be accessible to other foreigners when they need help with accommodation, transportation or whatever. I also had Japanese, and Malaysian roommates ^_^. Working at the university computer labs and library helped with being visible and gaining more acquaintances/friends! I'm pretty sure there are people who'd love to socialize with foreign students, the challenge is finding them.
Of course, Filipinos will speak their language ...she should learn to adjust. Even Filipinos who are in America will be challenged to speak their language. Filipinos are not afraid to speak the English language; they may just be shy. English is the second, most spoken language here. She should learn basic Filipino. I hate when foreigners ask other foreigners to rate the Philippines.
It's not intended to offend you but just to inform you. Foreigners only have good things to say about the Philippines. So when people ask, they ask for a good reason
Start the conversation... and you will see the magic, especially if you make friends, because even if some Filipino struggle speaking English, they will still talk to you
Filipinos are generally shy, hesitant because most are not fluent yet.... don't give up... be real, talk to them, say Hi, Kumusta with a smile... and their shyness gets lifted...
They did the same to me and my sister. We are Filipino Americans who studied there. Thankfully we are fluent. I am more fluent in Tagalog and Bisaya and I notice they are more likely to talk to me. They talk to her too because over time she learned to initially engage in conversations. In the end of the day if you are in a foreign country and staying long it is best to speak the language and/or be friendly.
I think it all depends on your approach. If you approach people without hesitation then they’ll respond to you the same way. They can tell if you’re a bit apprehensive. You know how small talk is normal in the U.S.? Filipinos respond to small talk very well.
its that feeling of people not wanting to talk in fear of embarrassing themselves from their own english. I talk in broken english and I don't really care as much about the grammar. Problem is, people worry that they might come out as rude.
@@TravelingTalongs I talk to foreigners when assigned to parking area or the road. Sometimes when assisting traffic too. I need to update vocabulary and remember which reply sounds appropriate. Usually my reply is mixed with cebuano because I can't always do speak straight english.
This is exactly why a lot of parents now make English their child’s first language (mostly in the Manila area). A lot of us grew up knowing English but most are not comfortable speaking the language & most especially speaking with a native-English speaker. I remember getting great grades in English, but speaking makes me stutter and become anxious.
In the first place we Filipinos is not afraid to talk to foreigners but actually they will have conversation to foreigners but if you spoke to them and ask something it will be convenient for you to have a conversation with the Filipinos. They will assist you whatever you want to help. We Filipinos have conversation in any nationalities in any kind of form of help...
I think you should initiate a conversation. It’s the same when I came here to North America. I also had to start a conversation to talk to other people. Don’t wait for others to talk to you. Just talk to them. You have an advantage because your parents are from the Philippines, so you already have an understanding of the Filipino culture.
i feel sorry for her, she seems home sick. my wife was shy to even speak english to others and shes filipina, often its hard because of certain 'groups' get formed like 'clicks' or whatever in the US. if you are not in one of these 'clicks' its hard. she needs to spend her free time traveling, even if its only to nearby places, maybe she can meet a neighbor in a brngy, her parents should support her for renting a small apartment to herself, she can make herself feel at home and decorate it her style then when a friend is invited over it will open up her life. not many have their own apt and it will be nice to have her free space to slowly allow others in, be careful to not be taken advantage of or imposed upon as well.
Just be honest to the people around you that you want friends. Tell them "Hello! Hirap pala dito ng walang tropa, adopt niyo na ako" with a smile, and they'll follow through with that
The Filipinos in private schools and colleges mostly are used to have conversation in English. It is just practicing the conversational English. Most are shy because they might not be talking fluently. Filipinos understand English but the conversational English must be practiced.
@fullmindstorm I grew up in private schools and was bullied growing up but compared to the US, Korea, or Japan, I had it very easy. Also I hear public schools are much worse since they get physical, all I got was teasing
Filipinos are often naturally shy, possibly because of the country's conservative values, which are rooted in traditions, religion, and cultural norms. This shyness can be seen in how many Filipinos are reserved in social situations, especially when interacting with strangers or authority figures. However, despite this initial reserve, Filipinos are known for their warmth and hospitality once relationships are established.
It's not that they are afraid to talk to you or they are shy. Mostly, they respect your personal space and privacy and afraid that they will bother you and you might get annoyed by unwanted attention. My advice is to smile or just say hi, believe me they will talk to you and they're actually nice when you get to know them.
communication is like dancing, just like the saying ''it takes two to tango''you have to make friends and open up if you want them to talk to you. try engaging first with the conversation because filipino's value others space and privacy.
I’ve had some experience with foreign students during my high school years and my wife too. After listening from my wife’s experience, it seems that the men have more success in assimilating with the natives because they are more humble, or it is easier for guys to “ride” with others compared to gals who have more differences especially those from the US. Women in the Philippines are generally more conservative compared to the US women and it is not rare to find a lot of virgin 18 year olds and above here in the Phils. In my wife’s experience, the foreign girl classmate told them about her sexual escapades at a very young age and the natives were so shocked that nobody wants to be caught red handed with her! 😂😂😂
Already answered by a filipina student opinion that is true no racism whatsoever just approach them in any school activity . Maybe try to approach them and say teach them the foreigners some tagalog languages .
You bet! Knowing a bit of Tagalog as a European is handy not only in the Philippines 🇵🇭 but in many hospital systems around the world 🌎/ 🌏, where there are Philippines staff. I was taken gravely ill to an Australian hospital. Asked the male nurse if he was a Filipino? He said “Yes”. I said to him: “Ang gwapo mo !” (“You are handsome !”). He was tickled pink by this but, gee, did that guy fight tooth and nail for me. Drove the doctors nuts, but I got great medical attention and lived !!
You want Filipino students to talk to you? Modify a Scrabble board to suit the Tagalog or Cebuano language. Set it up in a student canteen or food court. Start playing a game against yourself. Instant crowd. Instant offers for opponents. Or you could set up a chessboard ♟ and start playing a game or chess problem from a chess book. Instant crowd and probably instant offers to play a game. I had the trick of writing brief notes 📝 in foreign languages for things I wanted, with a small accompanying cartoon. Did this in Hong Kong, Vietnam, China and the Philippines. It was a real winner. If all else fails, hand out copious amounts of your business cards.
Learn to adapt to Filipino culture and do not be discouraged easily when it seems there are shy Filipinos you can talk frankly and tell them not to be shy !
Filipinos are generally shy but we deeply welcome foreigners with open arms. Where is she studying in the Philippines, may I know? Maybe she should introduce yourself first with a smile and eventually, they would open up to her automatically and keep her talking for hours.😊 New follower here. Thanks for sharing.
Filipinos in general understand English but there are some who are a bit shy on speaking the language. I had a similar experience when I was a student and had a foreign classmate. I felt like some of my classmates wanted to be friends with that foreign student but they are just too shy to do so, one reason that stands out is that in the Philippines, messing up your English can be so embarrassing because often times, your friends/classmates will most of the time tease you for messing up. I really do think taking the initiative is the best way to go, one good way to start the conversation is to ask your Filipino classmates for help in understanding our native language, I'm sure they will definitely help you.
She says she is from the US but her accent doesn't seem typical American. I lived in the US for a long time and never heard native Americans talk like she does. And well regarding her problems, she just needs to initiate conversation and get involved in activities there like clubs and groups.
Well, she is American. As far as I know, she has an American passport and her parents who are originally Filipinos live in the US and are citizens too. I don't know about the accent
If she wants locals to talk to her, she needs to be friendly...She looks serious , easy to get mad...aside from local sre generally shy, people maybe quite cautious not to upset her if they say something wrong etc...
Filipinos don't wanna invade your personal space.. just initiate conversation by asking something trivial.. also easier to start interactions with the same sex.. then you can increase your acquaintances by friends of friends
English is overrated here. It's just a language like every other one. Not knowing how to speak English doesn't make you unintelligent. But I can understand your point po🇵🇭💯❤️
Most Filipino students probably are shy to talk. Make a first move , introduce yourself and if they realize you are very friendly they come out of their shell. Give them some time. Most of them were very very nice kids.
Theyre shy so you have to make the first move. Learn basic tagalog words to show your effort. Trust me, they will appreciate that and would communicate with you more often.
Fun Fact: Filipinos are good in English EXCEPT in verbal way, they easily get shy, pressured and panic due to accent and first encounter. Dont worry, they are not bad just approach them and your friends journey started.
Im so sorry you have to go through this but simply saying " hi" or " hello" and never hesitate to ask for help when you need one. Im sure you'll get accommodated. Yes, the system here is totally different from US as we are still on the process of being developed country.
Be open. Leave your baggage behind and don't try to demand things you used to receive or understand here locally. Just go with the flow of things and cooperate cheerfully till you get the whole thing in mind. Asking the process of a system from others will help. Don't show off and impatient...
Most Filipinos are not fluent in English so they are shy to talk in with foreigners. But most of us are friendly, so it will be helpful if you try to learn tagalog, that way you can talk taglish like most Pinoy. Taglish is mixed tagalog ang English .
Some Filipinos are rather shy than afraid to speak English. One way to overcome this is to greet them first with a smile to build up their self confidence. Start a conversation yourself and gain a new friend.
I think based on what I see on her, people might get intimidated the way she acts. She need to know how to socialize very well. What makes a good interaction with people. There is a certain way how we get along. Know the topics that Filipino students are into and once you’ve got it, they’ll always include you with every thing. I’m from that university.
I know this can be a solution but should it be a condition for getting respected? I mean she's a foreigner. From a different background and culture. Understandably, she needs time to learn the language and she might be gone back home before she even knows how to fully communicate with the language.
That's true. If the locals see the person's effort in speaking their language, even basic words, then that's just the much needed icebreaker to start a casual conversation. Foreigners speaking Tagalog is music to their ears. They are amused to hear the accent of foreigners in Tagalog and once you hear them giggle at the spoken word delivered with much effort, be ready to be deluded by hundreds of questions ;-)
Try changing sections, cause I too have same experience but not in schools but in sunday schools it was so cold I was with these kids who are super anti social and all of them are the same lols, but in schools you could find sections who are a bit noisy and that's your best shot
Actually that's always the case it's not Filipinos don't talk or speak English but sometimes we are afraid or ashamed 😢😢 😢 especially their English might be wrong grammar etcetera
don't get offended if some are hesitant to talk to you... they might be feeling intimated or just shy... just talk to them, it's fine.. in fact, in some places, you will be surprised how others would just talk to you or greet you even with few English vocab they have.. they just want to practice their English. so it really depends on the person, just talk to them.
I guess you are a serious lady. All you need to do is to smile even if you are a serious type of person. It is because smiling is infectious and it is the only way to start friendship.
Looking sad its not going to win any friends and also complaining, finding crappy things about in the Philippine definitely it’s not going to fail you even in your birth country America. You’re beautiful be happy its all in the head ❤
Because of the accent and kinda have a hard time speaking english with deep accent.pls bare with the pinoys but definitely youll find someone who will be your friend
Some Filipinos are just very conscious of pronouncing english words incorrectly or saying things that are grammatically wrong because growing up they probably only used english during and english subject or people ridicule them from mispronunciations of words and having wrong grammar.
when your facial expression and body language radiates "leave me alone" people will do so. approach people and when you found a few which you think you like, ask them why they didn't approach you, check your non verbal communication
my thoughts exactly! and when the girl said her parents are originally from here means she is also Filipino so, she should just use that story to connect with her kababayan. sometimes there is a misconception among some Filipino balikbayan that speaking in English will make them feel superior. come on dude, meeting locals halfway will not only solve your comms issues but will also be good for your linguistic skills. learn a bit of Tagalog/Filipino or you can choose from the ~180 languages of the Philippines - i bet that would be more than just socially rewarding. wishing her all the best 🎉
Filipinos are usually helpful. But it Does not mean they will be always the first ones to initiate the conversations. Same with Filipinos abroad. If they need help. They initiate first. Ask for help or assistance. Not all are fluent in English . same as foreigners . foreigners extending their stay . proof of hospitality.
I'm not that educated and I have little English vocabulary but I manage to speak to a foreigner because the person is friendly. This girl might have some attitude problem.
It's because of the social/cultural perception that English proficiency is tied to your scholastic success. For short: English good = Smart. English Bad = Dumb. No one wants to look dumb so they avoid speaking english especially in public.
@@TravelingTalongs Not when it comes in handy. Say what you will about it but it's the world's lingua franca. You'll start noticing this when you travel or work abroad. For example people from Mexico or China can only work low paying service jobs in the west and are limited to businesses owned by people who speak Spanish or Mandarin. Filipinos can be dropped anywhere because regardless of proficiency, Filipinos will always be capable of communicating in english.
The first girl interviewed finds it difficult to communicate with Filipino students/classmates because she is shy & seems hesitant to make friends. Filipinos can speak basic english & are very friendly, you just have to initiate the first move, girl.
You have a good point. I think you also need to add why she must be the one who makes the first move. Like her, Filipinos are shy and hesitant to make the first move too.
Life is a struggle for everyone in this country and people tend to despise others who feel entitled to their privilege. Respect is something you earn over here, but it's probably something you may not be familiar with. Here, the opposite of respect is not disrespect but indifference. We won't go out of our way to laugh and call you names or make you suffer, we'll just leave you alone. You're the outsider here, and we have stuff going on with our own lives. So if you want our respect and friendship, you step up. You don't assume that it's our duty to reach out to you. Anyway, of course this is just a generalization and not all Filipinos are like this - some have suggested that middle class kids who are more used to English initiate conversations more freely. But as a lower class person quite familiar with my kind, I assure you that this is something so many of us live by. You're not hated or excluded. This is just the reality of being a stranger in another land.
Talk to her in the comments. She'll be waiting here in the comments for your advice. Thank you❤🇵🇭
Filipinos are amused to hear the accent of foreigners in Tagalog, it's music to their ears. Once you hear them giggle at the effort, be ready to spend countless hours talking with them :-)
@@itrias6696 I have experienced this many times. ❤️🇵🇭💯
my suggestion is to take the chance to lean over to a female classmate in the seat next to her and say hi with a welcoming smile and ask about the lessons or the assignments or the quiz, just let the classmate take you under her wing :) God bless
@@tvnatinto thank you po
Where is your farm? American! - Tropic thunder. but seriously, filipinos are shy people so you should initiate communication with them, once you break the ice, you'll never hear the end from them. I have many foreign friends as well doing this. - Greetings from Italy
The Filipino student who spoke basically gave her the best advice.
True
Lots of Filipinos are known as shy and hesitate to start the move. Once she start opening even Hi with a smile and be honest. They will welcome her immediately. Majority are sympathetic.
That's true po🇵🇭🇵🇭❤️
No it's not 😂 ano gusto mo special sila ? girl pilipino speak English very well.sorry nalang dika special
your problem is easy, if people dont talk to you, you better talk to them first. Not all people are outspoken in Phils and mostly are shy. So better you talk first then you meet friends later on.
@BFdEutschLaNd thank you for pointing this out ❤️💯🇵🇭
Be friendly and introduce yourself, try to make the first move as MAJORITY of the FILIPINO girls are shy at the beginning
You need to initiate the conversation because most Filipinos are shy.
Fact
No we're not lol, its just that these women dont like us to begin with.
This is click bait. Filipinos are quite careful about initiating a conversation with girls because they can be misconstrued as making a pass at her.
Kausapin nyo guys. Don't be shy kahit English carabao pa yan
Well said po
wtf "English carabao"?????
She should start the conversation herself, maybe just to say Kumusta itself, Filipinos are usually shy. So start the conversation herself.
This is very true
It's true, Filipino are shy, I wasn't, in my elementary girls south leader always sent me to meet other American girls at George
Dewey School in side the USNaval Base. I wasn't shy I was able to communicate even though I can only hear one ear.Just
Be brave learn basic Tagalog and smiles😊, that's opening
Filipino are kind hearts,hospitable, friendly, sincere more....😊
Filipinos are shy, but they are shameless
It's very important to have friends and it's also important to have the right friends so choose wisely.
Absolutely!
My son is fluent both English and Filipino but wont interact with people because he's an introvert. But he communicates well with his foreign friends online. The pandemic had a great impact to most of the kids, some healed already and some are still in the process of healing. Filipinos are very shy people but once you get along with them, they can be a good friend to you. I suggest you start a conversation with them coz they won't interact with you unless you start it. And be respectful when you talk, and don't think highly of yourself because some foreigners feels entitled that annoys Filipinos. Hope this helps.
Good point! Thank you bro
They’re not afraid. They are shy. Just be friendly and start the conversation.
Thank you po
Neither shy or afraid lol.
As soon as you make friends, your struggles will go away. ❤
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Learning the language can be difficult but it is probably your best solution to the problem
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What for? Tagalog will soon be a dead language.
@@saviosoaresdesousa3501 How soon?
You don't need to study learning local language you just need be friend with local people and you didn't knew you learning their language bit by bit
her parents are both filifinos, she is US born that is why her Citizenship is American but by blood is a filifino since her parents come from here, and the reason why she is studying her. It is amusing that probably she is not trying to learn the language when others who are real foreigners by blood who are here, are learning it and adapting the way of life as well...take instance the Canadian, Australian, German vblogger etc....these are real foreigners for me.
learning the language and probably adopting filipino culture and sense of humor will go a long way.
I totally agree with you but it's not so easy to learn the language for some
@@TravelingTalongs She is Filifino by blood, that is crazy...
If you go to any countries in the world, You need to adapt and learn the basics. Don't expect that they are going to adapt into your liking or talk to you first. Learn(I guess you have some ideas since your parents are filipinos) and ask questions. I'm living in the US now(no other family/relatives when I came 34 yrs ago) half of my life and needed to learn and adjust to their culture. My kids(33 and 26 y/o) who practically born/grew up here in Chicago knew basics tagalog and bicol even though they don't need it in everyday conversation. You practically looked like a filipina anyway so that's an advantage. We like and excelled in embracing people( that's why foreigners liked us esp in healthcare) so don't feel bad. God bless!
Thank you!!!❤️🇵🇭💯
that is the sense, she looks very much a Filifina and is amusingly feel na feel ang pagiging American kuno...she has to adapt, it is expected from her esp that her parents are true blooded Filifinos..ito siguro ang catalyst why some people repel her. She has to check and know what is causing it and change.
For sure a lot of Filipino are shy to approach a foreigner espescially if they are freshman, and they are
still making their way in a College environment, most of them came from a public High school and a
not very exclusive private school.
I can understand that.
Thanks for your contribution po❤️🇵🇭💯
I’m not the most social guy on the planet 🌏 but when I went to Asia my problem was not a lack of locals wanting to talk to me, but finding quiet spots where I could be occasionally alone in my thoughts (without being rude about it).
A smile in the Philippines goes a long way to making friends.
I can totally agree with you. I have made a lot of friends unknowingly here😁🇵🇭❤️
All I can say is enjoy the paradise sir.❤❤❤
Thank you po❤️💯🇵🇭
Wow! You are the first foreign vlogger I watched who has Tagalog caption! I love it! 🥰
Thank you po💯🇵🇭❤️
Just a Google translate 😅👍
@Re_Action_Hamster makes sense haha
@@Re_Action_Hamster even though, having Tagalog Captions is a big help to those Filipinos having a hard time speaking or understanding English. Although most Filipinos are Bi-Lingual (English + Native Language) or even Polyglots (can speak, read, and listen to three or more languages), some prefer to read and listen to Tagalog rather than English as their second language.
Your new subscriber from Switzerland and from the philipines
Thank you and welcome to the family🍆🇵🇭💯❤️🇨🇭
Here in the USA! The Americans are not friendly at all!!
That's true!
Americans are not a friendly set of people. Everyone is to themselves.
Then you are meeting wrong Americans.
Yes, yes,yes most lonely place in the planet as the rest except
Philippines 😊. 🇵🇭
yes I lived here for 55 years, they are among themselves mining their own business. If want something you have to ask. My Am. Husband don't like asking even dirction. Learned
Self helps. Like reading map.
@@TravelingTalongs how can you stereotype 335 million people? What kind of ignorance is that. Every American is different plus there are different regions which are know to be more or less friendly. For example if you are in Texas they are more open and friendly than let's say New York City or something. I have known many Americans while living in America who are very hospitable and nice towards me despite being a foreigner there.
When I moved to the Philippines for a period I made it a point not to use English but Tagalog. I'm half but wasn't taught the language. It was a struggle but months went by and I learned. Now I've been fluent for 20 yrs. My daughter now who is 3/4s pinay and dual citizen just doesn't want to speak Tagalog. I told her I'm going to send her to the school in the Philippines to practice the language. I wish I grew up knowing the language.
Learning a language can be very helpful. Being able to experience different cultures is the highest form of education. No language is superior to any. Thanks for your very honest opinion po. I love it! ❤️🇵🇭💫
Filipinos would rather assimilate than retain their language when they go abroad, so kids just lose the ability to speak their mother tongue which is pretty sad.
Yes talo pa kayo ni Kuya Jake, a vblogger, a true blooded American by looks and heritage...but fluent in two languages..
This is very true that pinoys are usually shy and struggle in opening up and speaking in english. I too struggle speaking in english to an extent that i stutter just trying to speak out the first second word or making a whole sentence. But when it comes to communication via messages or chat, i can easily say things in english. I feel more comfortable that way. My advice is to practice speaking in english and overtime, u will feel more confident talking.
Thank you for being honest and pointing out a fact. A lot of people have ignored this part of the discussion. 🇵🇭❤️💯
Maybe they want to talk to her, it's just that filipinos are shy especially when talking to a foreigner, maybe she need to start the conversation
I think this is it. This is the solution. Initiate a conversation. Filipinos usually won't be the first to talk to you. 🇵🇭❤️
She actually gives me the vibes that she’s not too interested to talk with others, and I feel like she’s the type who is basically a self-centered person and snobbish. She rarely smiled and probably is annoyed by many things about the Philippines. If I was one who tried to talked to her and I picked up those vibes early on, I would not approach her again.
@@loraqgui ummm I think because she's not used to camera....
And ma'am you can't judge her by watching this one video
@@Gwenfriespo I was giving my first impression of her based on this video, not judging her. Please learn to distinguish between the two. The other interviewees did not give me that impression/vibe, and they exuded warmth and friendliness. Maybe she is just an introvert and feels awkward in certain social interactions.
Former foreign student (introvert) in the UK and the US here: As a Filipino who grew up in the Middle East in the 80/90's, cultivating small groups of friends is *key*. I've always been the outsider growing up, with little or no other Pinoys around but it never bothered me. Granted, there's no real language barrier (everyone spoke some English at least) but my advice is to form friend groups, or just start out with a friend buddy. Someone who you can relate with, have similar interests or you can just vibe with. It helps to be visibly approachable and friendly.
You can join a club (sports/music/geek stuff) and see if you can gel with at least one person. Hopefully, that one classmate or buddy will introduce you to their friend groups etc. But you'll need to start somewhere - I've always loved sports and geek stuff so I formed friends right away when I signed up for those activities. You can volunteer in public-facing gigs or just ask a classmate for schoolwork help or just social tips, like hey, what does this word mean?
Joining a church with a youth group might help. I've encountered foreign students here in the Philippines through church, and helped a bit esp. with those who aren't fluent in either English or Filipino. My brother and I, who grew up abroad, tend to be the ones initiating introductions when it comes to foreigners. It's an effort on both sides - my French (and Tagalog) sucks so I know how hard it is when it's a struggle just to communicate - so just use gestures, use humor to your advantage, be humble, and don't be afraid to make mistakes.
Best advice so far in my opinion❤️❤️❤️🇵🇭💯
@@TravelingTalongs Thanks! While in college in the US, I could totally empathize with the other foreign students who had a tougher time since most of them weren't fluent in English at all (Japanese, Korean, Nepalese etc.) and it was their first time abroad.
Knowing what it's like to be an outsider, I made sure to reach out or be accessible to other foreigners when they need help with accommodation, transportation or whatever. I also had Japanese, and Malaysian roommates ^_^. Working at the university computer labs and library helped with being visible and gaining more acquaintances/friends!
I'm pretty sure there are people who'd love to socialize with foreign students, the challenge is finding them.
Of course, Filipinos will speak their language ...she should learn to adjust. Even Filipinos who are in America will be challenged to speak their language. Filipinos are not afraid to speak the English language; they may just be shy. English is the second, most spoken language here. She should learn basic Filipino. I hate when foreigners ask other foreigners to rate the Philippines.
It's not intended to offend you but just to inform you. Foreigners only have good things to say about the Philippines. So when people ask, they ask for a good reason
@@TravelingTalongs FYI i was not offended lol.. just read my comment again.
I'm very sorry for her, hope she gets more Filipino friends after this video.
I hope so too. We've had some students from her college reacting to the video
@@TravelingTalongs good for her, just be yourself and enjoy your stay here.
Start the conversation... and you will see the magic, especially if you make friends, because even if some Filipino struggle speaking English, they will still talk to you
That's true
Make a friend with your classmates for start. English is not a problem. Pilipinos are friendly to any foreigner.
Absolutely true
Filipinos are generally shy, hesitant because most are not fluent yet.... don't give up... be real, talk to them, say Hi, Kumusta with a smile... and their shyness gets lifted...
I think this will definitely work. Thank you po
learn the local language, tagalog! its the endof it all! adjust to us and notus to you guys!
Perfect solution❤️🇵🇭
use taglish
They did the same to me and my sister. We are Filipino Americans who studied there. Thankfully we are fluent. I am more fluent in Tagalog and Bisaya and I notice they are more likely to talk to me. They talk to her too because over time she learned to initially engage in conversations. In the end of the day if you are in a foreign country and staying long it is best to speak the language and/or be friendly.
Thank you po
This is a good advice
God bless! 🇵🇭❤️💯
Atleast you take an effort to study the language unlike other fil-am kids whose entitled as hell
as a filipino, i get shy when talking to foreigners in diffrent countries from their diffrent culture, sorry.
Thank you po for being honest. You should not feel shy. Foreigners are humans like you.
I think it all depends on your approach. If you approach people without hesitation then they’ll respond to you the same way. They can tell if you’re a bit apprehensive. You know how small talk is normal in the U.S.? Filipinos respond to small talk very well.
Well said❤️🇵🇭💯
its that feeling of people not wanting to talk in fear of embarrassing themselves from their own english. I talk in broken english and I don't really care as much about the grammar. Problem is, people worry that they might come out as rude.
English is overrated here
@@TravelingTalongs I talk to foreigners when assigned to parking area or the road. Sometimes when assisting traffic too. I need to update vocabulary and remember which reply sounds appropriate. Usually my reply is mixed with cebuano because I can't always do speak straight english.
This is exactly why a lot of parents now make English their child’s first language (mostly in the Manila area). A lot of us grew up knowing English but most are not comfortable speaking the language & most especially speaking with a native-English speaker. I remember getting great grades in English, but speaking makes me stutter and become anxious.
Thank you for being honest about this discussion. God bless 💯🇵🇭❤️
In the first place we Filipinos is not afraid to talk to foreigners but actually they will have conversation to foreigners but if you spoke to them and ask something it will be convenient for you to have a conversation with the Filipinos. They will assist you whatever you want to help. We Filipinos have conversation in any nationalities in any kind of form of help...
From my personal experience, I have enjoyed talking to Filipinos. I am also a foreigner with a lot of Filipino friends. Very kind people 💯🇵🇭❤️
make a friend with one... then start from there. i think its also true to non-filipinos. dont push.. be patient.
Thank you po❤️🇵🇭💯
I think you should initiate a conversation. It’s the same when I came here to North America. I also had to start a conversation to talk to other people. Don’t wait for others to talk to you. Just talk to them. You have an advantage because your parents are from the Philippines, so you already have an understanding of the Filipino culture.
Good point!
i feel sorry for her, she seems home sick.
my wife was shy to even speak english to others and shes filipina, often its hard because of certain 'groups' get formed like 'clicks' or whatever in the US. if you are not in one of these 'clicks' its hard.
she needs to spend her free time traveling, even if its only to nearby places, maybe she can meet a neighbor in a brngy, her parents should support her for renting a small apartment to herself, she can make herself feel at home and decorate it her style then when a friend is invited over it will open up her life. not many have their own apt and it will be nice to have her free space to slowly allow others in, be careful to not be taken advantage of or imposed upon as well.
Good point po
Thank you! 💯❤️
Just be honest to the people around you that you want friends. Tell them "Hello! Hirap pala dito ng walang tropa, adopt niyo na ako" with a smile, and they'll follow through with that
Can she keep up with the Tagalog after this first speech?
She must be very introvert and the kids are shy too specially this is outside Manila. Kids in Cavite are way shy than from Manila.
I think you are right
@@TravelingTalongs my niece and nephews lives in Cavite and when they became teenagers they became shy to new people they see.
The Filipinos in private schools and colleges mostly are used to have conversation in English. It is just practicing the conversational English. Most are shy because they might not be talking fluently. Filipinos understand English but the conversational English must be practiced.
Understood
Thanks for pointing out this important part of the discussion
Lol, you haven't been around many private schools and colleges, many can speak straight English but many are also not that comfortable in it
Theres a lot of bullying in private schools in the Philippines.
@fullmindstorm I grew up in private schools and was bullied growing up but compared to the US, Korea, or Japan, I had it very easy. Also I hear public schools are much worse since they get physical, all I got was teasing
@@nenabunena teasing? 😂
I haven't experienced bullying here though
Good video ❤
Thank you
Filipinos are often naturally shy, possibly because of the country's conservative values, which are rooted in traditions, religion, and cultural norms. This shyness can be seen in how many Filipinos are reserved in social situations, especially when interacting with strangers or authority figures. However, despite this initial reserve, Filipinos are known for their warmth and hospitality once relationships are established.
I love how detailed your contribution is. You touched all the keep points. Very intelligent and precise. Thank you ❤️🇵🇭💯
It's not that they are afraid to talk to you or they are shy. Mostly, they respect your personal space and privacy and afraid that they will bother you and you might get annoyed by unwanted attention. My advice is to smile or just say hi, believe me they will talk to you and they're actually nice when you get to know them.
I truly believe this is true. Good point! ❤️🇵🇭
communication is like dancing, just like the saying ''it takes two to tango''you have to make friends and open up if you want them to talk to you.
try engaging first with the conversation because filipino's value others space and privacy.
Noted!
Thank you 🇵🇭💯❤️
I’ve had some experience with foreign students during my high school years and my wife too. After listening from my wife’s experience, it seems that the men have more success in assimilating with the natives because they are more humble, or it is easier for guys to “ride” with others compared to gals who have more differences especially those from the US. Women in the Philippines are generally more conservative compared to the US women and it is not rare to find a lot of virgin 18 year olds and above here in the Phils. In my wife’s experience, the foreign girl classmate told them about her sexual escapades at a very young age and the natives were so shocked that nobody wants to be caught red handed with her! 😂😂😂
Wow😂😂😂
Interesting! I can totally understand your point. 🇵🇭❤️💫
Most filipinos are shy to speak English especially filipinos from the province
That's correct. But she isn't in the province. She is enrolled in one of the most prestigious schools in the Philippines.
Already answered by a filipina student opinion that is true no racism whatsoever just approach them in any school activity . Maybe try to approach them and say teach them the foreigners some tagalog languages .
I agree with you po
She made a good point.
Learn to speak Filipino or tagalog, when filipinos go to other countries,.we learn their language
That's basic! ❤️💯🇵🇭
You bet! Knowing a bit of Tagalog as a European is handy not only in the Philippines 🇵🇭 but in many hospital systems around the world 🌎/ 🌏, where there are Philippines staff. I was taken gravely ill to an Australian hospital. Asked the male nurse if he was a Filipino? He said “Yes”. I said to him: “Ang gwapo mo !” (“You are handsome !”). He was tickled pink by this but, gee, did that guy fight tooth and nail for me. Drove the doctors nuts, but I got great medical attention and lived !!
Were just very kind to foreigners thats why
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You want Filipino students to talk to you? Modify a Scrabble board to suit the Tagalog or Cebuano language. Set it up in a student canteen or food court. Start playing a game against yourself. Instant crowd. Instant offers for opponents.
Or you could set up a chessboard ♟ and start playing a game or chess problem from a chess book. Instant crowd and probably instant offers to play a game.
I had the trick of writing brief notes 📝 in foreign languages for things I wanted, with a small accompanying cartoon. Did this in Hong Kong, Vietnam, China and the Philippines. It was a real winner.
If all else fails, hand out copious amounts of your business cards.
This sounds like a great idea.
I can already see it working to great effect. Thank you po ❤️🇵🇭💯
Learn to adapt to Filipino culture and do not be discouraged easily when it seems there are shy Filipinos you can talk frankly and tell them not to be shy !
Very good comment
Filipinos are generally shy but we deeply welcome foreigners with open arms. Where is she studying in the Philippines, may I know? Maybe she should introduce yourself first with a smile and eventually, they would open up to her automatically and keep her talking for hours.😊 New follower here. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for subscribing and welcome. She studies at De La Salle Dasmarinas. Thanks for your contribution po
@@TravelingTalongs Keep on sharing informative content like this. I'm glad to help.
Filipinos in general understand English but there are some who are a bit shy on speaking the language. I had a similar experience when I was a student and had a foreign classmate. I felt like some of my classmates wanted to be friends with that foreign student but they are just too shy to do so, one reason that stands out is that in the Philippines, messing up your English can be so embarrassing because often times, your friends/classmates will most of the time tease you for messing up.
I really do think taking the initiative is the best way to go, one good way to start the conversation is to ask your Filipino classmates for help in understanding our native language, I'm sure they will definitely help you.
I think this is a brilliant suggestion. Thank you po❤️🇵🇭💯
She says she is from the US but her accent doesn't seem typical American. I lived in the US for a long time and never heard native Americans talk like she does. And well regarding her problems, she just needs to initiate conversation and get involved in activities there like clubs and groups.
Well, she is American. As far as I know, she has an American passport and her parents who are originally Filipinos live in the US and are citizens too. I don't know about the accent
If she wants locals to talk to her, she needs to be friendly...She looks serious , easy to get mad...aside from local sre generally shy, people maybe quite cautious not to upset her if they say something wrong etc...
Maybe or maybe not😁
There are really young people afraid to talk to foreigners they feel ashamed to make mistake .
This is true
Filipinos don't wanna invade your personal space.. just initiate conversation by asking something trivial.. also easier to start interactions with the same sex.. then you can increase your acquaintances by friends of friends
Cool suggestion
Good point po
Thank you! ❤️💯🇵🇭
Even in Australia, I initiated to talk but unfortunately, the person I want to talk with is not interested in conversing to me.
Introverts everywhere. Maybe a game invite will do
Im sorry to say some of em are shy and afraid to talk to english if they have wrong grammar
English is overrated here. It's just a language like every other one. Not knowing how to speak English doesn't make you unintelligent. But I can understand your point po🇵🇭💯❤️
Most Filipino students probably are shy to talk. Make a first move , introduce yourself and if they realize you are very friendly they come out of their shell. Give them some time. Most of them were very very nice kids.
This is so true❤️🇵🇭💯
I can talk to you all day🤓🤓🤓
Let's set a place and time😁
I think having an foriegn friend is interesting
I mean what could be more interesting?
I think the person meant interesting because you learn about other culture.
I agree with the filipino student
Me too
Theyre shy so you have to make the first move. Learn basic tagalog words to show your effort. Trust me, they will appreciate that and would communicate with you more often.
I totally agree with you po
Fun Fact: Filipinos are good in English EXCEPT in verbal way, they easily get shy, pressured and panic due to accent and first encounter.
Dont worry, they are not bad just approach them and your friends journey started.
This is true❤️🇵🇭💯
Just make a first step. For sure you will have many friends
I totally agree with you kuya
I think shes shy and the filipinos she interact with are also shy. The only solution here is to listen to Supershy by NewJeans.
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Oh my G haha i just realized that the place looks familiar. That’s my college!
College Name?
@@TravelingTalongsDe La Salle University- Dasmariñas. I’m a college student. Civil Engineer
Im so sorry you have to go through this but simply saying " hi" or " hello" and never hesitate to ask for help when you need one. Im sure you'll get accommodated. Yes, the system here is totally different from US as we are still on the process of being developed country.
Thank you po💯🇵🇭❤️
Don't worry most Filipinos won't talk to any strangers, but if you initiate conversations you might find one
True 💯❤️
Be open. Leave your baggage behind and don't try to demand things you used to receive or understand here locally. Just go with the flow of things and cooperate cheerfully till you get the whole thing in mind.
Asking the process of a system from others will help.
Don't show off and impatient...
I totally agree with you 👍 💯 👏 👌
Best advice is to gradually learn the local language
Best but a difficult task
Thank you po
Be friendly
First step! 💯🇵🇭❤️
learn the local language. filipinos like to talk mixed local/english
Thank you po❤️🇵🇭
That’s correct. Speak English but drop in the occasional Tagalog word. It goes a long way in the Philippines …
Most Filipinos are not fluent in English so they are shy to talk in with foreigners. But most of us are friendly, so it will be helpful if you try to learn tagalog, that way you can talk taglish like most Pinoy. Taglish is mixed tagalog ang English .
Taglish sounds like a good solution and makes it easier to get going with the locals. Nice idea po💯🇵🇭❤️
You should try and learn tagalog girl so that you can communicate and have friends to them. If you really wants to stay and study here. God bless ❤🙏
God bless you too po. Wishing her all the best
Some Filipinos are rather shy than afraid to speak English. One way to overcome this is to greet them first with a smile to build up their self confidence. Start a conversation yourself and gain a new friend.
Great tip! Thank you po❤️🇵🇭
@@TravelingTalongs Greetings !!! " Smile and the world smiles with you." The Filipinos are a happy bunch......❤️❤️❤️
I think based on what I see on her, people might get intimidated the way she acts. She need to know how to socialize very well. What makes a good interaction with people. There is a certain way how we get along. Know the topics that Filipino students are into and once you’ve got it, they’ll always include you with every thing. I’m from that university.
Good point!
Learn Tagalog you'll earn their Respect!
I know this can be a solution but should it be a condition for getting respected? I mean she's a foreigner. From a different background and culture. Understandably, she needs time to learn the language and she might be gone back home before she even knows how to fully communicate with the language.
That's true. If the locals see the person's effort in speaking their language, even basic words, then that's just the much needed icebreaker to start a casual conversation. Foreigners speaking Tagalog is music to their ears. They are amused to hear the accent of foreigners in Tagalog and once you hear them giggle at the spoken word delivered with much effort, be ready to be deluded by hundreds of questions ;-)
San po ang School. This is the first I here that Pilipinos are like that.
Filipinos are naturally shy. Not the most confident people I have ever met. Even when they smile, they will cover their face and mouth 😂💯🇵🇭
@@TravelingTalongssome are shy but generally friendly. Its super easy to do small talks here.
Try changing sections, cause I too have same experience but not in schools but in sunday schools it was so cold I was with these kids who are super anti social and all of them are the same lols, but in schools you could find sections who are a bit noisy and that's your best shot
Hopefully this works. Thank you po
Actually that's always the case it's not Filipinos don't talk or speak English but sometimes we are afraid or ashamed 😢😢 😢 especially their English might be wrong grammar etcetera
True!
don't get offended if some are hesitant to talk to you... they might be feeling intimated or just shy... just talk to them, it's fine.. in fact, in some places, you will be surprised how others would just talk to you or greet you even with few English vocab they have.. they just want to practice their English. so it really depends on the person, just talk to them.
I love this comment❤️🇵🇭💯
@@TravelingTalongs thank you
I guess you are a serious lady. All you need to do is to smile even if you are a serious type of person. It is because smiling is infectious and it is the only way to start friendship.
I totally agree with you
"It's our country, so you (foreigners) should adjust, not us. You should learn to speak Tagalog."
Looking sad its not going to win any friends and also complaining, finding crappy things about in the Philippine definitely it’s not going to fail you even in your birth country America. You’re beautiful be happy its all in the head ❤
Thank you po❤️🇵🇭💯
@@TravelingTalongs good luck love to your silly smile 😀
Because of the accent and kinda have a hard time speaking english with deep accent.pls bare with the pinoys but definitely youll find someone who will be your friend
True 👍
Some Filipinos are just very conscious of pronouncing english words incorrectly or saying things that are grammatically wrong because growing up they probably only used english during and english subject or people ridicule them from mispronunciations of words and having wrong grammar.
Fact!
when your facial expression and body language radiates "leave me alone" people will do so. approach people and when you found a few which you think you like, ask them why they didn't approach you, check your non verbal communication
Brilliant comment! ❤️🇵🇭💯
@@TravelingTalongs ty! :)
my thoughts exactly! and when the girl said her parents are originally from here means she is also Filipino so, she should just use that story to connect with her kababayan. sometimes there is a misconception among some Filipino balikbayan that speaking in English will make them feel superior. come on dude, meeting locals halfway will not only solve your comms issues but will also be good for your linguistic skills. learn a bit of Tagalog/Filipino or you can choose from the ~180 languages of the Philippines - i bet that would be more than just socially rewarding. wishing her all the best 🎉
She should have a “smiley button” 🙂 pinned on her. Maybe add the words: friendly girl.
i think the difference between the two foreign students interviewed is the personality.
just my opinion.
I think you are right.
Filipinos are usually helpful. But it Does not mean they will be always the first ones to initiate the conversations. Same with Filipinos abroad. If they need help. They initiate first. Ask for help or assistance. Not all are fluent in English . same as foreigners . foreigners extending their stay . proof of hospitality.
You have a good point
She should learn tagalog words , and ask her classmates to teach her how to use it , im sure theyll be there for her
I can 100% trust they will be there for her
I'm not that educated and I have little English vocabulary but I manage to speak to a foreigner because the person is friendly. This girl might have some attitude problem.
I'm not sure about that. Maybe she's also shy.
It's because of the social/cultural perception that English proficiency is tied to your scholastic success. For short: English good = Smart. English Bad = Dumb. No one wants to look dumb so they avoid speaking english especially in public.
Sadly, English is just a language that is overrated.
@@TravelingTalongs Not when it comes in handy. Say what you will about it but it's the world's lingua franca. You'll start noticing this when you travel or work abroad.
For example people from Mexico or China can only work low paying service jobs in the west and are limited to businesses owned by people who speak Spanish or Mandarin.
Filipinos can be dropped anywhere because regardless of proficiency, Filipinos will always be capable of communicating in english.
Waaaaaait waaait up! It's my school 😂😂😂 I JUST REALIZED MID VID 😂
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DLSU_D
The first girl interviewed finds it difficult to communicate with Filipino students/classmates because she is shy & seems hesitant to make friends. Filipinos can speak basic english & are very friendly, you just have to initiate the first move, girl.
You have a good point. I think you also need to add why she must be the one who makes the first move. Like her, Filipinos are shy and hesitant to make the first move too.
Start the conversation. Talk to your classmates first and don't wait for them to talk to you.
Good advice
Life is a struggle for everyone in this country and people tend to despise others who feel entitled to their privilege. Respect is something you earn over here, but it's probably something you may not be familiar with. Here, the opposite of respect is not disrespect but indifference. We won't go out of our way to laugh and call you names or make you suffer, we'll just leave you alone. You're the outsider here, and we have stuff going on with our own lives. So if you want our respect and friendship, you step up. You don't assume that it's our duty to reach out to you.
Anyway, of course this is just a generalization and not all Filipinos are like this - some have suggested that middle class kids who are more used to English initiate conversations more freely. But as a lower class person quite familiar with my kind, I assure you that this is something so many of us live by. You're not hated or excluded. This is just the reality of being a stranger in another land.
Thanks for this insightful perspective.❤️💯🇵🇭
Initiate the first move talk to them and that will be okay.
A lot of people have said this but my question is, can she also be excused for not being someone who makes the first move?