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Dating is a waste of time in this modern society. It's better to remain obedient to God by remaining sexually pure and trusting in Him to direct our steps into Godly marriages.
@RickysPlums yea you do go out on dates but when we say dating we mean something different than the world does. So maybe use the word courtship. But yes you can go on dates just don't become like the world. Dating "for fun" and dating dozens of people and still ending up not married. Choose right should be able to get married after first or second person you date
@RickysPlums Dating is like the word proof, different meanings per person. Being a man whore and treating our sisters like meat is wrong, like he said, courting is different than that. Christ unites 2 flesh, im just trying to get out the way.
@RickysPlums Smh, how so Proverbs 3:5, Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. If we learn this from the scriptures then there is no dating in a godly way, as that asserts your relying own game or pickup play. it's simple make yourself enjoyable around everyone this is why I bring uno cards and have 7 girls at the table playing uno with me, it isnt because im trying to date them, it is because im an enjoyable person to be around. Therefore I act as a magnet. Christian men need to strive to be enjoyable people, not this predatory, alpha male that tries to fill his checklist with women he slept with or dated. Once you established your enjoyable to be around, thats where the prayer and fasting and being sexually pure comes in, So then god will send you a wife that is also enjoyable and also believes in god as much as you do. the whole process is faith with works. Because faith without works is dead, James 2:17-26 Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone. So the keyword is to have faith don't rely on your own advice or any other secular advice, The second key step is actually be an active and enjoyable person not just flirt or be this creep actually make friends and make moments with people. Thats how you find a holy and divine wife, the other methods your just gonna find a whore.
Settling? And wife is ok mostly with driving the Honda with 200K,and it will hopefully get you from point A to point B - But the wife, (or husband) would like to drive that Ferrari once in a while too. Lol.
Great video, please pray for all us unmarried brothers, those looking for a woman to marry, those who are not, and that the married oned stay married. It is not easy finding a spouse with the way things are today. Also pray your future wife makes good financial decisions atm
Do you mean that she will be willing to live on her husband's income and strive to be content with less and stay at home and raise a family? I hope so. God can make little go a long way. I hope you find a godly spouse.
@@laceygreenwood Just told my fiancé that our new plans for married life are for her to stay chained up in the kitchen while I work 3 jobs to keep us barely afloat. She's thrilled! Lol
When I was younger, I was an atheist and I had a project manager talk about how God was the center of his relationship. I didn’t get it at the time, but now that I am married, I’m understanding the importance of it.
My husband and I have been married for 37 years. We are very much in Love because God is at the center and we are in Love with Jesus. Going through challenges is hard but also allows us to get closer to God and flex our Faith muscles.
Marriage is really hard when one or both spouses refuses to die to their worldly desires. But when you can take great satisfaction in seeing the other flourish, it becomes a blessing.
@@sitka49 Yes, I think you're correct. But thankfully two people don't have to agree on everything to have a great marriage. They just need to surrender the unimportant things.
@@mchristr And who's the arbiter of what's small, and big? What would be a small thing to one partner may be a big thing to the other? As example , as in sex. For the wife on her top10 things of importance, sex would rank about 20th on her list. So she never really thinks about it, and for the husband its in the top 3 on his list.
@@mchristr And who's the arbiter of what's small, and big? What would be a small thing to one partner may be a big thing to the other? As example , as in s*x. For the wife on her top10 things of importance, s*x would rank about 20th on her list. So she never really thinks about it, and for the husband its in the top 3 on his list.
@@mchristr And who's the arbiter of what's small, and big? What would be a small thing to one partner may be a big thing to the other? As example , as in s*x. For the wife on her top10 things of importance, s*x would rank about 20th on her list and for the husband more likely much higher.
I am Catholic but I find your videos very educational. I am in my early 20s and I can't help but fear nearly every day about if I will be able to have a Godly marriage, but I pray that we all will make it. Hopefully our culture is beginning to rebound in the correct direction
In full agreement with your statements! I'm Catholic myself but love Father Moses's videos. Excellent content. Our culture needs to turn around entirely and become God-centered.
@ my wife and I are married with 6 kids. We had them close together. She stays home and homeschools. Our marriage makes life better in every way. It’s THE constant in our life. Everything else is in a flux but we’re there, God’s gift to each other. For us to workout our salvation in this life via the other in this sacrament. Serve each other always and in all things. Abandon your pride before each other and marriage is a gift to get through life. And to Heaven.
Unfortunately that’s not the case for the younger generation. I believe some marriages make your life even worse. It’s sad, but it’s what I’ve been observing.
Dating is vanity. It’s a slippery slope that often leads to people dehumanizing each other for either selfish sexual pleasure or selfish emotional & sensual comforts. It’s not fulfilling, it’s temporal. Father Moses, you’re right on with this one. Dating culture is training us for divorce. God trains us for commitment (holistic love), just as He was committed to his unfaithful bride, Israel. Men & women are supposed to emulate that divine love & pursuit in marriage (Christ and his church) Dating is not cutting it. I hope & pray I can find a Godly woman who will seek the Lords wisdom over her life.
Speak for yourself buddy. God also view marriage and dating as a positive and reflection of the love he has for us. If you want though I suggest becoming a priest
@@alexraj9436 Bro what are you talking about? Dating hasn’t been a thing till recently if anything it had led to more sin than ever before. I think God would have a low view or opinion of it.
then why does marriage mandate the man provide for the wife? that sounds very material and selfish to me. If you're in a wheelchair she wouldn't marry you. It's shallow any way you cut it
Never understood why these guys marry girls who arent even virgins. Marriage is supposed to be "special" so zero reason to do it for used goods. Divorces happen because these girls sleep around a lot before marriage
We need more people like this priest. The world is in its own fantasy and needs to wake up. Whenever I’m stressed out or paranoid about something I watch your videos and it just snaps me back to reality and I’m absolutely thankful that I found this channel. God bless you all ❤ stay strong
@@theeternalslayer I have no control over how she treats me, only over how I treat her. Not only is this mentality mandatory for love to exist, but husbands are also supposed to lead by example
Im terrified of modern relationships. I’ve decided I’m staying single for the foreseeable future. I’m not losing the stuff I’ve earned just to be married.
@@FireflowerDancerYou're a tattooed belly dancer who is very likely not a virgin and not traditional. Why would a Godly man from a good family (who I assume has some degree of personal success) bring you home to meet Mom and Dad?
Why would you have to choose "stuff" over a great relationship? Persevering in marriage is the best way to an abundant financial future. Just be wise in who you marry.
Perhaps the time is here for more young people to live in godly celibacy and grow closer to God. We’re living in a corrupted age where most of the youth have been exposed to wickedness of modern society. It’s time for a cleansing and healing of the soul, and to regain sanctity before we consider diving into relationships, or else we may project the evil ways which the world has formed in our minds and hearts onto our potential future spouse. God be with us
Plenty of young men do even in this post f - ist age. We need stronger fathers and more virtuous women. Whom are fit, friendly, and feminine. Men today in the west are more traditional and want families. Usually it’s women in the desirable age range begging for commitment throughout the ages.
@@CenturionTheodore There's a lot women in there 20's that are not interested in kids or marriage. - and through the ages women had to relied on fathers/ husbands to proved for them. Now women go to college (there are 2 women for every man in college in a 4 yr degree) and women between the ages of 21 to 28 make more money than they're male counterparts of the same age.
More men are virgins than young women. 90% of girls who come out of college has slept with someone, multiple partners, same 20% of guys. Modern women need to promote modesty and purity.
@@sitka49 yup many have embraced secularism and don’t want to be mothers. As being a mother is touted by their f - ist society as a weaker path. Yes it’s true there are more women in college but they aren’t studying anything important. Like engineering, mathematics etc. And they make more in the workforce for their propped up jobs because it’s in fashion to pander to them. So there is nothing organic about it or nothing to be proud about their accomplishments. Men have really started to notice about this all and checked out. They don’t want the college debt which is mostly owned by females. Funny thing is that they come around when they are old maids (23+) to wanting one man. Everything i said the so called conservative and religious crowd ignores. Its always a message of „man up mate or improve higher yet.” In which many men do yet cannot get a solid woman like their ancestors commonly could throughout the ages. Laughable at best really.
Its a really bad idea because without making love(making god) we will truly lose all hope. Celibacy will purify you, especially cutting out masturbation and pornogoraphy, you will meet and attract purerer matches. But dont become a monk, they are missing out of making love, making love is part of gods plan. So are children
Fathers Moses, thank you. I’ve been married to a wonderful woman for 6 years. Lately we’ve been struggling balancing our life our children, work etc. Your videos are such a blessing to me as I strive to grow in my faith and as a man. Thank you for allowing God to speak through you.
Young people like us prefer not to tie the knot. Father, please pray for us to acquire the wisdom needed to navigate the challenges of the modern world.
Young people are naturally selfish, have been since the beginning of time. Marriage makes you grow up. I am sad that society views something for our greater good collectively as a burden. It won't bode well like we think it will.
I recently got divorced 4 months ago. She moved on immediately and it hurts so much. I've been going through so much trauma and pain. 13 years down the drain
A great video full of truth. A lot of people would hear this as a hard message because the flesh pursues want is quick and feels good. Yet so few feel the peace, love and security of a lifelong marriage which has been worked and worked for. Keep up God’s work. Bless you.
Fr Moses, the most incredible and sobering talks I have ever listened to were by Fr Kosmas on marriage. I think these should be a requirement for all young Orthodox Christians to listen to. Your blessing!
I was thinking how frustrating it is to want a healthy marriage and today's culture doesn't allow it. Yeah, you are so RIGHT father. Definitely worth reflecting and praying. ❤ God Bless!
Father Moses cooking right now I was just talking with friends on this last night. I’m a 30yoM who hasn’t had a series relationship yet; they all saw it as a red flag. I see it as a Green flag as I haven’t experienced any relationship trauma or bad break ups that has messed up my psyche or perception of woman and dating. Amen Father Moses
Father Moses always comes through with the truth I need to hear at the time I need to hear it. The Holy Spirit is truly working through you! May God Bless you and your family!
Thanks for the tough love encouragement! As a man who wants to be married and a father one day, you said some convicting things that makes me realize I have more maturing to do in my approach to relationships.
Despair is a sin, give it no quarter young men. All things are possible through God, including finding a Godly spouse. Listen to Father and pray. Your spouse will be revealed in the proper time.
You have to find a wife if you want one. Same with a job. Same with a house. Everything. God gave us creation, it’s not on Him to give us more. You have to go after what you want. God doesn’t reward inaction.
It takes alot of maturity to know your not ready, im not. I dont want to harm a woman without being able to BE the man who can take care of the family. Stepping down to build myself up and seek if that is Gods will for my life is the tune this year
Words of wisdom from Father Moses. It's not guidance that youngsters may want to hear, but it's exactly what they need to hear. The recipe for marriage with purpose and meaning, which is fulfilling in its own ways that can be somehat mysterious beforehand.
@@blakeavila4409 Well, I did and I didn't. She was a crucial factor for me to first consider Orthodoxy and then get baptised. So even though I had multiple girlfriends before meeting her, I definitely didn't after my baptism, when according to the Church's teaching, my sins were forgiven.
@@Luhaim Overall I see it as a miracle from God. When I met her I was knee dip in sin (fornication, eastern "spirituality") and going nowhere in life (dead end job, no intention of having a family ). She was Orthodox unlike any other women I had relationships with before. I was attracted to her but was already unfit for marriage due to my past, not willing to commit, doubtful, afraid of losing my "freedom" etc, like typical modern day stuff. But eventually a miracle happened and God almost instantaneously delivered me from these ties, which still is the most intense experience I ever had. Since then everything just went uphill for me. I convinced her to become my wife, went through catechism, great kids, much better job in a different industry etc. So not really sure what it is that I specifically did or am doing that makes it all happen. One thing, that never ceases to amaze me is how wrong the modern idea that "it's too boring to have s*x with the same person for the rest of your life" is. Let's just say it has been the exact opposite in my experience. I wonder how often it works the same way for other married couples that are in church.
@@fedorindoukaev3361 Shoot then you’re lucky. Ya I don’t think it’s a hard rule for the honeymoon phase to end after a few years. If you have realistic expectations then there’s no reason for it to end
We live in a very PIMPISH society. Woman have around 6 guys texting them daily. Men have a plethora of images on the internet and women available to talk. I tried this year to court a woman. But modern women dont want to rely mentally, financially, and physically to one man. Most woman have already gave away their virginity which is going to be even harder for modern man. Goodluck if you are dating today just know its not a matter of IF but when certain things happen. My advice is work hard. Love god so when things are tearing apart you atleast have YOURSELF in the end
Society is post f - ist and eve rules. Give men young wives whom are fit, friendly, and feminine. Then the self abuse among men will largely disappear. As even normie outlets have taken notice of young men checking out. But it’s all disingenuous. As there is always a message of shame for men in modern times. Yet fathers and the church doesn’t hold the same standards for women in the west. There are way more solid men whom want families than there are available women. As like you said they would rather “date” which means getting used. It’s a joke to me.
A few years ago, I was in a transition point in my life, and tried very briefly to redeem my relationship with my ex. I told him that I could try to be with him, but that I did not know if my soul could take another major break up. After a couple weeks I had to accept that only one of us was at all invested in the wellbeing of our relationship. Spending time with the wrong person takes its toll. I just wish someone had told me to be 'the bitch' Christian girl and not the 'nice one' who settled for a lower value man. It's kind of tragic how the purity movement taught me that I didn't deserve a high value man, because I had desire of my own and according to the purity movement, high value women aren't supposed to actually want physical intimacy. They're supposed to do the displeasurable thing repeatedly, as a 'sacrifice' to their husband's flesh urges. These teachings are sooo damaging! Nobody 'deserves' sex and nearly everyone who is interested in love and a family, male and female alike, are going to have those needs.
That is really good advice, btw. I'm sorry if I was rambling, but that part you said about 'having yourself' after things tank, is crucial to one's self-preservation, and it reminded me of my past experience. Very true! God bless you ✝️
@@FireflowerDancerwell everything comes down to one thing and it's sexual desire. A high value woman wants sexy man on the side and or a man with more money than her. We're talking modern relationships. And being a Christian to me has nothing to do with it because alot of marriages in the church are in divorce. And yes. Everyone isn't perfect most people even in relationships are hurting. So loving yourself is the best way to heal.
The last girl I dated literally told me "I don't think it'd work because you love jesus". She couldn't let her wordly desires go and neither could I at the time (addicted to drugs and alcohol) but when the lord spoke to me at my lowest I listened. I love watching the pigeons and birds fly around outside churches, I'm going to buy some feed next time so I can go feed them and pray. I pray somebody see's the kindness and love in my heart but it's all in my heavenly fathers hands. If she does not love Jesus my heavenly father will not let me marry her. Currently trying to refocus my energies on christ, personal health , people that show me love and respect and stacking the bread for my future family.
Amen father Moses, another beautiful sermon. The second best thing that happened to me in highschool is a girl never accepting my invitation for a date. I asked her out in person, she responded she will tell me about the time. She didn't tell about the time 😂 Second best thing that ever happened to me in highschool.
Carl Jung said something to the effect, that romance is the new experience in place of religion, and that a partner simply is not up to the task to contain its numinous nature.
I needed this, 2 women I was interested in, both talking stages ended today. God separated me from both of these women in one day. God has shown me I’m not ready. One woman I messed up with, she saw I’m not ready for marriage or a relationship and cut me off. The other woman we almost got into an ungodly situation so to speak. So I think I need to go back into isolation and get right with God. I feel shame and remorse. Sometimes it’s stressful thinking of it, painful to say the least. thank you for this video
Wow this is powerful. Every man I’ve been pursued by over the past few years has been looking for some crazy spark and for me to make them ‘feel’ completely known automatically without any work. I’m not sure what it says about me that I keep finding these men, but every man needs to see this!! I just want to find a God fearing man who seems capable of leading a family and being my vision partner in life. Marriage is work and not a selfish experience of being served. Well said 👏🏻
I literally just got dumped over this. 6 weeks and he called it quits bc I didn’t blindly trust him, or “submit” and I asked for clarification on some questionable theories he had. I had to explain that trust is built over time and that’s what we’re working towards right? Nope! I guess not. They’ve been lied to by the enemy and they have very unrealistic expectations for who they’re meeting. They don’t want to put in the work required to get to the point in a relationship where they can finish each other’s sentences. A lot of the requirements they have for the women they meet, they don’t even meet themselves and that’s where I have a problem.
Wow me too !!! I keep meeting men that have these unrealistic expectations and want me to make them feel like a king. Definitely trusting God only now from now on. In the meantime, I’m enjoying my time with the lord . Best peace I ever had. Every time I date someone I get further from Christ .
@@kimberlys347omg girl same ! He was mad because I didn’t come cook at his house with heels on. Then questioned if I really loved him smh I’ll let the next chick deal with that !
Thank you so much for this video, father. Not many within the Christian community care to discuss this, and I think that we are worse off for it. You shared a lot of great information in this viseo. Again, thank you
You’re right, but depending on your environment, especially in a collegiate one, dating is an absolute must if you want a future with a spouse. The best thing you can do is find a partner that matches your values, morals, and religion, which gives you the best chance at a steady marriage.
Our culture is so broken. We live in a circus. People's minds are so polluted, I despair to think that I'll ever be able to have a healthy and salvific marriage.
Don't give up. Our society isn't worse off than when the apostles walked the earth, and if our Saints have taught me anything, it is that even the worst sinners can change the most dramatically and live a life pleasing to God.
Forget a Honda Accord. Those are not meant to do the long haul. Marriage is like a Volvo VNL 860. Sometimes you are trucking down the highway at 85 with your typical 80k lb load attached. Sometimes you are givin' it all she's got chugging 45mph up a hill with 200k oversized load onboard. Sometimes you are team driving with your marriage partner, one asleep and one awake. Sometimes you are booking it back home with no trailer attached looking forward to spending time with your marriage partner. No matter what you are doing a few things are true: Maintenance is very expensive and takes longer than you'd expect, and God is there with you to help guide you and carry the load.
I think you need a part 2 addressing courting vs dating. I agree with the wisdom you gave but this point is a major stumbling block for young men today
You need to make that clear to whoever you are interested in, make it clear you want to court (date to marry) and make sure you tell them you want God at the center of your relationship. That have to be fully on board.
you are blessing, sir! I ended my relationship exactly out of those worldly reasons. this is so empty and it will kill everything inside of you and your partner. I would have needed that information a year ago. thankfully I turned myself to god again. I pray that my family will reunite bevor him.
I'm 66, a lifelong bachelor, not for lack of good faith and concerted effort when I was younger, so it is what it is. Scores of (average) women slapped me down with absolute contempt and impunity back in the day, but the thing is, I'm still above ground and breathing, and I lose virtually no sleep over it. I was born into evangelical Protestantism, and later in life I had a belly full of it, walked away, was received into the Orthodox Church ☦️, and never looked back. My little Antiochian parish in Kansas has been growing exponentially the past 3 years, with young families, but particularly with men, especially young men. I've been away from evangelicalism for 25 years now, but I'm astonished at the complete denial of the perniciousness of many modern women in their ranks, particularly by soft posturing servant leader clergy, and older boomer men like me. There's a reluctance, and even a flat out denial of this, let alone calling it out for what it is. I'll concede some of the more conservative traditional evangelicals push back, but most of this comes from younger men who've had enough, and have exited. To Fr's teaching, I'll submit unequivocally that this western heathen practice of serial dating is a zero sum game, and I agree, is training for the godless family courts. I can't offer much in the way of an anecdote, other than reverting back to more arranged marriages in tight traditional communities, or young men resolving to lead celibate lives.
Good point about the evangelical church ignoring the real issue between the sexes. When was the last time you heard a sermon telling a wife to submit to her husband.
@@spungypizzacakerThings were no cake walk for average men back in the day, but today is a completely different end of the swamp. If I were a young man of 19 today, I'd shun women your age, period. Absolute train wrecks. I'd also advise you to visit with your spiritual father a lot, as with older married men in your parish a lot. I'd wait until you'd be in your 30s and hopefully established in a vocation and secure financially if you changed your mind about celibacy. But please don't beat yourself up like so many young men do because the current crop of broken and dissolute women slap you down or ignore you. You might also visit a monastery and talk to the monks. I wish I could offer more, but in the current age we live in, outside of God's grace and the church, the dating mating game is a roll of the dice.
I made 150k, followed all the rules, good looking, kind, caring, jumped through all the hoops with my marriage. She never balanced her life with mine. It was all a one way street. We did counseling, coaching, etc she never ever contributed. Did I screw up? Absolutely. But I could never stone for anything while she got away with abandonment, abuse, and putting everything and anyone before us. So ultimately she left and I sent her the papers. We have a 2 year old son. I tried really hard to keep her and make it work but she was a wayward woman. Looking back the signs were there but I didn't know how to see them. I didn't see them as severe as they were because of my inexperience.
All my friends despised the woman I was married to at the time.. they knew before I did. Her idea of compromise was my total capitulation to her will. She was in university for 7 years in Europe, turned her into a Marxist feminist. Oh well, you learn through failure.. The divorce went better than the relationship in my case.. That is rare..
Where I live I see more young women than young men so its hard to find a Godly man 😢 I agree we need to improve the ways we raise young people in the church to strengthen our faith (e.g. InspiringPhilosphy videos has some good info) and improve connections between each other (Fascinating Girl/Womanhood books, Man of Steel and Velvet book to help become more feminine/masculine and increase our understanding of the opposite sex)
For the ☦️ it's like that all over I'm afraid. You'll probably have to find someone outside your tradition and hope they convert, just going by the numbers.
Maybe you will have better luck looking for a wife at the church where the odds are in your favor. As a general rule churches attract families and single women, but each church is different.
@@serahloeffelroberts9901*Evangelical churches In churches which don't completely throw men under the bus for everything you'll find it is a ratio with little to zero women.
@@meaningofreason because the Honda - will get you to where you want to go - but after driving it for 15 yrs and 350K on the odometer it get wearisome - But at least the car doesn't stonewall you, and give personal attacks - or lack patience's.
Your videos are absolutley invaluable to my life Father Moses, thank you. I know you probably don't have the time to reply, but I am at odds with the maritial advice my Catholic spiritual father has given me. My girlfirend of about 3 years now (yes, it is a situation of what you described in the video of being married "by acts" without the commitment) - is not a Christian and identifies as Buddhist. Solely through stubborn apathy and the lack of desire to critically think about spirtuality/philosphy. She was born in an Asian country and her family is Buddhist and in turn adheres to that (confusing & polythesitic) religion that starts to fall apart the moment you really analyze it. She has even attended my recent Baptism of all 3 Catholic sacraments, and has been told of Marian apparitions, Eucharistic miracles, and the Shroud of Turin (by me) - but actively says "its not her time to convert as the universe hasn't led her to that stage in her life yet". That being said, I've seen plenty of Christian cirlces online that quote scripture that excplicitly says not to fraternize with women who are unbelievers, and how they will lead your family astray etc. The best we can do is evangelize from afar apparently. Yet when dicussing this with my priest during confession, he stated that because the Vatican has changed the marriage rites after the Vatican II reformations - it is okay to intermarry between faiths. I myself have really had my eyes open to the absurdity of Vatican II, and seen how Bishop Lefebvre was exocommunicated, and how things such as the SSPX society and Orthodox Catholicsm was formed from that fallout in the 1960s. I researched how the marriage rites and processions truely were as holy and God-focused as that of my own Baptism. I beleive that no consuming the Eucharist during your marriage ceremony almost negates the entire purpose, and witholds any blessings that any one desperately needs throughout the trials and tribulations of marriage. So that being said, would you agree that it is still okay for me to marry my girlfriend of whom is my rock in a lot of ways in my life (I am the sole caretaker for my right-side parylyzed and incontinent single father), yet half the time I'm just trying to convert her into seeing the only truth that is in marriage - of which you know is only under God. She even agreed to a wedding in a Catholic church yet she fights for a traditional Buddhist wedding in Vietnam. All while we have our falling outs and I'm in a situation where I need someone to commit in the sense of humble service and sacrifice, but without God - every woman will have that vain and narcsisitic self-centered view of relationships. I truly cannot tell if it is my purpose to evangalize my girlfrined (who truly has a beautiful and kind heart), and God wants me to lead her on the right path - or if I'm just wasting my time with worldliness and in my desperation for a partner to help me carry my personal load in life that I believe can only be solved by Godliness and family. I've even read how Satan can send the wrong people your way, just as St. Simeon the Stylite was tempted by the devil with a false vision of Archangel Gabriel. So do you believe its set in stone not to marry someone outside the faith? Or is it possible to bring your wife to it?
I dated an unbeliever for six years. I tried “saving” her for years with intellectual apologetic arguments for the existence of God. All failed miserably. Hindsight, I realize now that faith comes by hearing, and hearing the Word of God (Romans 10:17), and not by intellectual arguments. Anyway, the relationship pulled me so far away from God and into sin. It took years for my hardened heart to turn back to the Lord, and I remember Him saying to me, “You love her more than you love Me”. That cut to my core, but I knew it was true. To be honest, my life reflected that I didn’t know the Lord, and I didn’t believe the Gospel. My girlfriend was my idol, my god, something that I held as more important than the true and living God in my life. I held the relationship tightly in my hand, not willing to allow God have control. I truly loved her and at the time really wanted to make things work between us, but I ultimately realized I was at a crossroads where Jesus was saying, “You either pick Me or her, you can’t have both”. I decided to break it off. Moments following, I was immensely overwhelmed with the love of God. Like 10,000 pounds had been lifted. Don’t get me wrong. It was a grieving time to say the least. But for the first time, I felt like my eyes had finally been opened. The veil lifted. I felt born again. Because at that moment, I sincerely put my trust in Jesus as my Savior. His Spirit came to reside in me and comforted me. That was three years ago. Now that’s just my story. I will say you are approaching the question from a very “religious” perspective trying to see if it’s within your legal rights to get married. Look at 2 Corinthians 6:14-16. But also ask yourself, does your girlfriend help you grow closer to Jesus or does she hinder your growth? I would think more relationally about it. How is she going to support you in your walk with the Lord? What is on your heart? What are your convictions from the Holy Spirit on this topic? Are you willing to allow God to take control of the relationship for better or for worse? Do you trust that He will provide someone in the future if you choose to end the relationship? What if she never comes to faith? How does that make you feel? I also don’t believe we are called to enter into relationship with unbelievers with the intention and hope of evangelize. That is approaching the relationship trying to “fix”. It puts a lot of burden on you to save, and forgets who actually does the saving in a person’s life. Who actually does the saving is God, the Author of our salvation. And I know, we want all to be saved and to truly know Jesus. But more often than not, these relationships bear little fruit, make you stumble, and turn unbelievers farther from God. Now this isn’t all situations. There are some amazing testimonies out there. But majority of the time, they drag you into sin. Because it takes discipline and obedience to turn from sin, but the barrier to enter into sin is very minimal. And most importantly, your faith should be the most defining thing about your being. It is your identity - child of God, Christian, servant of the Lord. She will never understand the innermost important attribute of you that shapes who you are. Just my 2 cents. Praying for you brother. If you ever want to talk, I’m open!
This sermon really blessed me, even though I am a Matthew 12 / Law of Grace Christian who prefers the Bible over churches because many add to the scriptures. Thank you!
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I'm not even religious but I agree with you on everything except one thing. Marriage sounds like a tough chore and a heavy cross in your video, but I think it's not necessary to complicate things so that they become insufferable like that. I'm married too, to my first and only man, and yeah, we skipped dating, but I think the optimal way is to understand yourself, know your limits and communicate those things to your spouse. So that you can avoid making decisions that would make your life a heavy cross.
I don’t have hardly any single eligible women in my church. I don’t meet many Christian women. How am I supposed to get married if I’m not dating? Of course I pray about it, but we also have to act on it as well. So what’s your answer?
@@pietero.o6792- well I thought that might be a good idea as well, but the pastor of my church has really been hammering at us about not pursuing non-yoked relationships. So I really don’t know what to do. I appreciate it. Thanks for the advice.
My husband was my 2nd and last "boyfriend". 1st boyfriend was great, proposed but I was 19 and he was a divorce' with a child at age 30. I wanted to grow in that responsibility with a man that didn't have children. Met my husband shortly thereafter in college. My husband has been the greatest gift to me and the world. Over 20 years still going and I am happy I didn't waste my time with dating. Mind body and soul were saved from great pain.
@@AnalysaddictDating is the word women use but don’t realize how loaded it is. It’s either a euphemism for sex or modern prostitution (transactional). Shouldn’t even be used by religious people describing getting to know someone before marriage.
My parents are 74 and 66 years old. I’m 22 now. Everyone’s story is different, but God has been faithful to them in the past and faithful to us in the present. I was raised nondenominational, but will be part of the Catholic Church this coming Easter. Praying for God to bless you with wisdom and perseverance on your journey 🙏
We are not ourselves, as Father put it, “the dopamine kicks in” We may as well be impaired! Things start off looking pretty and can end up looking pretty ugly! The best thing to do is discern, as God for his guidance, and keep praying! Hope that helps. God bless you!
I ended an 8 year relationship after being pulled back into my Orthodox faith. I was engaged but became absolutely miserable over time. I asked God if I should continue the relationship and he made it clear that she wasn't the one. Moved out the next day. 2 days later, after I finished unpacking and moving my things (at my parent's home since I still have a lease to pay for the time being), our Priest shows up to see my mom who had dodged a potentially fatal health crisis. I had no idea he coming. Before he left, I scheduled a confession with him and had my first confession in over a decade. I accept Christ as my Lord and I now know he was there all along, slowly pulling me back to him. I hope one day soon I will find a woman who also loves God, if He wills it. Semi-related but please, if you have children, get them baptized in the Orthodox Church. I firmly believe the grace I received from my baptism helped me.
My theory of tension. When dating, create tension not having sex to build character, so when married the whole experience is satisfying. Silence creates tension that eventually pays off. Waiting creates tension that eventually pays off. Hard working creates tension that eventually pays off. Giving, loving without receiving creates tension that eventually pays off.
25M. Haven’t dated in my 20s. Make 100k, physically fit (run marathons, lift 5x week), go to church. Women don’t seem interested and so I’ve lost interest as well. What am I supposed to do?
If I'm a virgin then the man I'm marrying should be one as well. The problem in the world today is the fickleness, and superficiality of men. Women are just following their lead.
All agreement here, the problem is that women are attracted to the guys that get all the girls🤷♂️. I’ve seen it first hand where there were plenty of Christian dudes that this girl could date, but she went straight for a lost guy. Make it make sense💀
I'm struggling with this topic at the moment, I'm 21 right now in college and everyone around me is dating or just hooking up, I'm maintaing my celibacy until marriage but I don't know how to approach courtship in today's world I thought dating is what I'm supposed to do and naturally transition to marriage. I'm not sure if I should even be focusing on all this now or take my career seriously and get that going. Can someone give me some advice for someone in my position, God bless you all ☦️
This is true. Even though I was in love with this man, I was so turned off by his cohabitation relationships that it soured how I thought of him. I wasn’t bothered by his divorce though.
Father Moses your videos and wisdoms has been very eye opening and I am blessed to have found your page when I did. I’m 25 and just recently married, always been a Christian, but been on my journey getting closer to Christ. God Bless you, your family, and loved ones
Im not a christian, i believe more in a "all is one and one is all" Philosophy. However, this teaching is true , has a lot of wisdom and is very valueable. I wished some has teached me this earlier in life.
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Moses, what do you think of Polygamy? 1 guy multiple women. Is it alright?
@@NathanAmiel Obviously not. Why would you ask such an obvious question?
@@youcantbeatk7006 Exodus 21:10? Abraham, Jacob, David, Moses? They were more righteous than you and I will ever be. And they had multiple wives.
Dating is a waste of time in this modern society. It's better to remain obedient to God by remaining sexually pure and trusting in Him to direct our steps into Godly marriages.
I wish I would've learned this early on, its better to learn late in your early 20s then never I guess.
@RickysPlums yea you do go out on dates but when we say dating we mean something different than the world does. So maybe use the word courtship. But yes you can go on dates just don't become like the world. Dating "for fun" and dating dozens of people and still ending up not married. Choose right should be able to get married after first or second person you date
@RickysPlums Dating is like the word proof, different meanings per person. Being a man whore and treating our sisters like meat is wrong, like he said, courting is different than that. Christ unites 2 flesh, im just trying to get out the way.
@RickysPlums Smh, how so Proverbs 3:5, Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. If we learn this from the scriptures then there is no dating in a godly way, as that asserts your relying own game or pickup play.
it's simple make yourself enjoyable around everyone this is why I bring uno cards and have 7 girls at the table playing uno with me, it isnt because im trying to date them, it is because im an enjoyable person to be around.
Therefore I act as a magnet. Christian men need to strive to be enjoyable people, not this predatory, alpha male that tries to fill his checklist with women he slept with or dated.
Once you established your enjoyable to be around, thats where the prayer and fasting and being sexually pure comes in, So then god will send you a wife that is also enjoyable and also believes in god as much as you do. the whole process is faith with works.
Because faith without works is dead, James 2:17-26 Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone.
So the keyword is to have faith don't rely on your own advice or any other secular advice, The second key step is actually be an active and enjoyable person not just flirt or be this creep actually make friends and make moments with people.
Thats how you find a holy and divine wife, the other methods your just gonna find a whore.
@RickysPlums Beta ?? Struggling for purity and doing Gods will is beta ? So monks are beta ? No red pill nonsense please.
"A relationship is not supposed to be a Ferrari, it's supposed to be a Honda Accord." LOL. Great thought.
Settling? And wife is ok mostly with driving the Honda with 200K,and it will hopefully get you from point A to point B - But the wife, (or husband) would like to drive that Ferrari once in a while too. Lol.
@@sitka49 ????
Fr. Moses is sponsored by Honda hence the shout out. Ha ha
@@azintern2 I guess Ferrari just couldn't afford him.
Maybe Camry would be better for Americans lol
Great video, please pray for all us unmarried brothers, those looking for a woman to marry, those who are not, and that the married oned stay married. It is not easy finding a spouse with the way things are today.
Also pray your future wife makes good financial decisions atm
❤️
And that goes for a husband also - Because he needs a new 88K truck to pull his 10K fishing boat!
Do you mean that she will be willing to live on her husband's income and strive to be content with less and stay at home and raise a family? I hope so. God can make little go a long way. I hope you find a godly spouse.
I pray Christians adopt kids instead of create new ones.
@@laceygreenwood Just told my fiancé that our new plans for married life are for her to stay chained up in the kitchen while I work 3 jobs to keep us barely afloat. She's thrilled! Lol
When I was younger, I was an atheist and I had a project manager talk about how God was the center of his relationship. I didn’t get it at the time, but now that I am married, I’m understanding the importance of it.
My husband and I have been married for 37 years. We are very much in Love because God is at the center and we are in Love with Jesus. Going through challenges is hard but also allows us to get closer to God and flex our Faith muscles.
Love to hear that 🙏
amen
Wow.
God bless you both in abundance
Faith muscles ?
Marriage is really hard when one or both spouses refuses to die to their worldly desires. But when you can take great satisfaction in seeing the other flourish, it becomes a blessing.
What I've come to find out if you have 2 people that agree on everything one them is usually lying. ( or at least not being honest with themselves)
@@sitka49 Yes, I think you're correct. But thankfully two people don't have to agree on everything to have a great marriage. They just need to surrender the unimportant things.
@@mchristr And who's the arbiter of what's small, and big? What would be a small thing to one partner may be a big thing to the other? As example , as in sex. For the wife on her top10 things of importance, sex would rank about 20th on her list. So she never really thinks about it, and for the husband its in the top 3 on his list.
@@mchristr And who's the arbiter of what's small, and big? What would be a small thing to one partner may be a big thing to the other? As example , as in s*x. For the wife on her top10 things of importance, s*x would rank about 20th on her list. So she never really thinks about it, and for the husband its in the top 3 on his list.
@@mchristr And who's the arbiter of what's small, and big? What would be a small thing to one partner may be a big thing to the other? As example , as in s*x. For the wife on her top10 things of importance, s*x would rank about 20th on her list and for the husband more likely much higher.
I am Catholic but I find your videos very educational. I am in my early 20s and I can't help but fear nearly every day about if I will be able to have a Godly marriage, but I pray that we all will make it. Hopefully our culture is beginning to rebound in the correct direction
monastic life exists
I pray that we all make it too! 🙏
In full agreement with your statements! I'm Catholic myself but love Father Moses's videos. Excellent content. Our culture needs to turn around entirely and become God-centered.
Same here. I identify and agree with oretty much everything in this comment
I’m 21 in TN, it’s not going to get better. It’s has to get worse before it can get any better at all.
Life is difficult. Our marriage makes life bearable. It makes it so much easier. And better in every way.
Doesnt marriage make life more difficult
@ my wife and I are married with 6 kids. We had them close together. She stays home and homeschools. Our marriage makes life better in every way. It’s THE constant in our life. Everything else is in a flux but we’re there, God’s gift to each other. For us to workout our salvation in this life via the other in this sacrament. Serve each other always and in all things. Abandon your pride before each other and marriage is a gift to get through life. And to Heaven.
@@azintern2 only if you are a selfish, difficult person.
Unfortunately that’s not the case for the younger generation. I believe some marriages make your life even worse. It’s sad, but it’s what I’ve been observing.
@ I’m 33 and my wife is 29. Married 10 years, together 14.
Dating is vanity. It’s a slippery slope that often leads to people dehumanizing each other for either selfish sexual pleasure or selfish emotional & sensual comforts. It’s not fulfilling, it’s temporal. Father Moses, you’re right on with this one. Dating culture is training us for divorce. God trains us for commitment (holistic love), just as He was committed to his unfaithful bride, Israel. Men & women are supposed to emulate that divine love & pursuit in marriage (Christ and his church) Dating is not cutting it. I hope & pray I can find a Godly woman who will seek the Lords wisdom over her life.
Thanks fir that synopsis
Speak for yourself buddy. God also view marriage and dating as a positive and reflection of the love he has for us. If you want though I suggest becoming a priest
@@alexraj9436 marriage is beautiful, modern dating is vanity. Coming from someone who experienced the faults of dating myself, I can attest.
@@alexraj9436 Bro what are you talking about?
Dating hasn’t been a thing till recently if anything it had led to more sin than ever before.
I think God would have a low view or opinion of it.
then why does marriage mandate the man provide for the wife? that sounds very material and selfish to me. If you're in a wheelchair she wouldn't marry you. It's shallow any way you cut it
Dating is training you to get divorced
one of your best talks yet thank you Father Moses
Never understood why these guys marry girls who arent even virgins. Marriage is supposed to be "special" so zero reason to do it for used goods. Divorces happen because these girls sleep around a lot before marriage
We need more people like this priest. The world is in its own fantasy and needs to wake up. Whenever I’m stressed out or paranoid about something I watch your videos and it just snaps me back to reality and I’m absolutely thankful that I found this channel. God bless you all ❤ stay strong
He’s the best
My dad taught me the courtship never ends, you have to love your wife even when shes ugly and at her worst.
Not possible when you “courted” her for the purpose of determining if she would make you happy as your wife
@blakeavila4409 what are you a robot?
@@theeternalslayer No, I just put her happiness above my own
@blakeavila4409 your happiness matters too though. Does she return the favor?
@@theeternalslayer I have no control over how she treats me, only over how I treat her. Not only is this mentality mandatory for love to exist, but husbands are also supposed to lead by example
Im terrified of modern relationships. I’ve decided I’m staying single for the foreseeable future. I’m not losing the stuff I’ve earned just to be married.
Me neither! Unless I can find a man who comes from a good, solid family because family is everything!
@@FireflowerDancerYou're a tattooed belly dancer who is very likely not a virgin and not traditional. Why would a Godly man from a good family (who I assume has some degree of personal success) bring you home to meet Mom and Dad?
@@FireflowerDancerdon’t worry, you as a woman are not losing your stuff, the modern scam is to take men’s stuff
Why would you have to choose "stuff" over a great relationship? Persevering in marriage is the best way to an abundant financial future. Just be wise in who you marry.
@@mchristrbecause he’ll lose all his “stuff” when his wife divorces him
Perhaps the time is here for more young people to live in godly celibacy and grow closer to God. We’re living in a corrupted age where most of the youth have been exposed to wickedness of modern society. It’s time for a cleansing and healing of the soul, and to regain sanctity before we consider diving into relationships, or else we may project the evil ways which the world has formed in our minds and hearts onto our potential future spouse. God be with us
Plenty of young men do even in this post f - ist age. We need stronger fathers and more virtuous women. Whom are fit, friendly, and feminine. Men today in the west are more traditional and want families. Usually it’s women in the desirable age range begging for commitment throughout the ages.
@@CenturionTheodore There's a lot women in there 20's that are not interested in kids or marriage. - and through the ages women had to relied on fathers/ husbands to proved for them. Now women go to college (there are 2 women for every man in college in a 4 yr degree) and women between the ages of 21 to 28 make more money than they're male counterparts of the same age.
More men are virgins than young women. 90% of girls who come out of college has slept with someone, multiple partners, same 20% of guys. Modern women need to promote modesty and purity.
@@sitka49 yup many have embraced secularism and don’t want to be mothers. As being a mother is touted by their f - ist society as a weaker path. Yes it’s true there are more women in college but they aren’t studying anything important. Like engineering, mathematics etc. And they make more in the workforce for their propped up jobs because it’s in fashion to pander to them. So there is nothing organic about it or nothing to be proud about their accomplishments. Men have really started to notice about this all and checked out. They don’t want the college debt which is mostly owned by females. Funny thing is that they come around when they are old maids (23+) to wanting one man. Everything i said the so called conservative and religious crowd ignores. Its always a message of „man up mate or improve higher yet.” In which many men do yet cannot get a solid woman like their ancestors commonly could throughout the ages. Laughable at best really.
Its a really bad idea because without making love(making god) we will truly lose all hope.
Celibacy will purify you, especially cutting out masturbation and pornogoraphy, you will meet and attract purerer matches.
But dont become a monk, they are missing out of making love, making love is part of gods plan. So are children
Fathers Moses, thank you. I’ve been married to a wonderful woman for 6 years. Lately we’ve been struggling balancing our life our children, work etc. Your videos are such a blessing to me as I strive to grow in my faith and as a man. Thank you for allowing God to speak through you.
Always put your wife before the kids! And cultivate your love and closeness on a daily basis.
My 34 year marriage this is totally normal. It is hard especially when exhausted. I wish someone let me know it was normal.
This man is a true gem, not gonna lie. A true gem. Father, I praise you and the Lord. 🍀🙏
Obedience to God is a wonderful thing.
I'm a Roman Catholic. Fr Moses is far and away the best Christian priest on YT for men. Thank you sir.
I totally agree with you. The whole dating scene creates unrealistic ideas of marriage
Young people like us prefer not to tie the knot. Father, please pray for us to acquire the wisdom needed to navigate the challenges of the modern world.
Listen, if you don't want to get married, you can't really call yourself a Christian. 99.999% of Christians are called to be married.
Young people are naturally selfish, have been since the beginning of time. Marriage makes you grow up. I am sad that society views something for our greater good collectively as a burden. It won't bode well like we think it will.
I recently got divorced 4 months ago. She moved on immediately and it hurts so much. I've been going through so much trauma and pain. 13 years down the drain
You deserve better and can find someone better. God bless you brother.
I was there 5 years ago, don't let the demons remain bringing you down further.
Modern Marriage is not biblical marriage. It's prostitution, very expensive prostitution
Take this lesson that Father Moses taught and seek it out. Seek after God brother. Ask Him to give you desires after His own heart. He will bless you.
May God bless you to heal. Please take time to reflect what you had to learn from this. I pray that God sends you real love.
A great video full of truth. A lot of people would hear this as a hard message because the flesh pursues want is quick and feels good. Yet so few feel the peace, love and security of a lifelong marriage which has been worked and worked for. Keep up God’s work. Bless you.
God bless you Father Moses ☦
Fr Moses, the most incredible and sobering talks I have ever listened to were by Fr Kosmas on marriage. I think these should be a requirement for all young Orthodox Christians to listen to. Your blessing!
Word. This is one of the best messages on marriage that I have ever heard.
Agreed 😊
I was thinking how frustrating it is to want a healthy marriage and today's culture doesn't allow it. Yeah, you are so RIGHT father. Definitely worth reflecting and praying. ❤ God Bless!
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I was just talking with friends on this last night.
I’m a 30yoM who hasn’t had a series relationship yet; they all saw it as a red flag. I see it as a Green flag as I haven’t experienced any relationship trauma or bad break ups that has messed up my psyche or perception of woman and dating.
Amen Father Moses
Heart break hits harder in life friend if you've not experienced it young.
Father Moses always comes through with the truth I need to hear at the time I need to hear it. The Holy Spirit is truly working through you! May God Bless you and your family!
Thanks for the tough love encouragement! As a man who wants to be married and a father one day, you said some convicting things that makes me realize I have more maturing to do in my approach to relationships.
Despair is a sin, give it no quarter young men. All things are possible through God, including finding a Godly spouse. Listen to Father and pray. Your spouse will be revealed in the proper time.
You have to find a wife if you want one. Same with a job. Same with a house. Everything. God gave us creation, it’s not on Him to give us more. You have to go after what you want. God doesn’t reward inaction.
It takes alot of maturity to know your not ready, im not. I dont want to harm a woman without being able to BE the man who can take care of the family.
Stepping down to build myself up and seek if that is Gods will for my life is the tune this year
I agree marriage is very difficult but its also the most rewarding and it expands ones growth
Words of wisdom from Father Moses. It's not guidance that youngsters may want to hear, but it's exactly what they need to hear. The recipe for marriage with purpose and meaning, which is fulfilling in its own ways that can be somehat mysterious beforehand.
I don't know what's wrong with me, but I'm still emotionally and uhm physically very much in love with my wife after almost 10 years of marriage.
Good for you, how did you made it happen and last?
Maybe you didn’t pair bond with 10 women before her
@@blakeavila4409 Well, I did and I didn't. She was a crucial factor for me to first consider Orthodoxy and then get baptised. So even though I had multiple girlfriends before meeting her, I definitely didn't after my baptism, when according to the Church's teaching, my sins were forgiven.
@@Luhaim Overall I see it as a miracle from God. When I met her I was knee dip in sin (fornication, eastern "spirituality") and going nowhere in life (dead end job, no intention of having a family ). She was Orthodox unlike any other women I had relationships with before. I was attracted to her but was already unfit for marriage due to my past, not willing to commit, doubtful, afraid of losing my "freedom" etc, like typical modern day stuff. But eventually a miracle happened and God almost instantaneously delivered me from these ties, which still is the most intense experience I ever had. Since then everything just went uphill for me. I convinced her to become my wife, went through catechism, great kids, much better job in a different industry etc. So not really sure what it is that I specifically did or am doing that makes it all happen.
One thing, that never ceases to amaze me is how wrong the modern idea that "it's too boring to have s*x with the same person for the rest of your life" is. Let's just say it has been the exact opposite in my experience. I wonder how often it works the same way for other married couples that are in church.
@@fedorindoukaev3361 Shoot then you’re lucky. Ya I don’t think it’s a hard rule for the honeymoon phase to end after a few years. If you have realistic expectations then there’s no reason for it to end
We live in a very PIMPISH society. Woman have around 6 guys texting them daily. Men have a plethora of images on the internet and women available to talk. I tried this year to court a woman. But modern women dont want to rely mentally, financially, and physically to one man. Most woman have already gave away their virginity which is going to be even harder for modern man. Goodluck if you are dating today just know its not a matter of IF but when certain things happen.
My advice is work hard. Love god so when things are tearing apart you atleast have YOURSELF in the end
Society is post f - ist and eve rules. Give men young wives whom are fit, friendly, and feminine. Then the self abuse among men will largely disappear. As even normie outlets have taken notice of young men checking out. But it’s all disingenuous. As there is always a message of shame for men in modern times. Yet fathers and the church doesn’t hold the same standards for women in the west. There are way more solid men whom want families than there are available women. As like you said they would rather “date” which means getting used. It’s a joke to me.
A few years ago, I was in a transition point in my life, and tried very briefly to redeem my relationship with my ex. I told him that I could try to be with him, but that I did not know if my soul could take another major break up. After a couple weeks I had to accept that only one of us was at all invested in the wellbeing of our relationship. Spending time with the wrong person takes its toll. I just wish someone had told me to be 'the bitch' Christian girl and not the 'nice one' who settled for a lower value man. It's kind of tragic how the purity movement taught me that I didn't deserve a high value man, because I had desire of my own and according to the purity movement, high value women aren't supposed to actually want physical intimacy. They're supposed to do the displeasurable thing repeatedly, as a 'sacrifice' to their husband's flesh urges. These teachings are sooo damaging! Nobody 'deserves' sex and nearly everyone who is interested in love and a family, male and female alike, are going to have those needs.
That is really good advice, btw. I'm sorry if I was rambling, but that part you said about 'having yourself' after things tank, is crucial to one's self-preservation, and it reminded me of my past experience. Very true! God bless you ✝️
@@FireflowerDancerwell everything comes down to one thing and it's sexual desire. A high value woman wants sexy man on the side and or a man with more money than her. We're talking modern relationships. And being a Christian to me has nothing to do with it because alot of marriages in the church are in divorce. And yes. Everyone isn't perfect most people even in relationships are hurting. So loving yourself is the best way to heal.
The last girl I dated literally told me "I don't think it'd work because you love jesus". She couldn't let her wordly desires go and neither could I at the time (addicted to drugs and alcohol) but when the lord spoke to me at my lowest I listened. I love watching the pigeons and birds fly around outside churches, I'm going to buy some feed next time so I can go feed them and pray.
I pray somebody see's the kindness and love in my heart but it's all in my heavenly fathers hands.
If she does not love Jesus my heavenly father will not let me marry her.
Currently trying to refocus my energies on christ, personal health , people that show me love and respect and stacking the bread for my future family.
Amen father Moses, another beautiful sermon. The second best thing that happened to me in highschool is a girl never accepting my invitation for a date. I asked her out in person, she responded she will tell me about the time. She didn't tell about the time 😂
Second best thing that ever happened to me in highschool.
Carl Jung said something to the effect, that romance is the new experience in place of religion, and that a partner simply is not up to the task to contain its numinous nature.
I needed this, 2 women I was interested in, both talking stages ended today. God separated me from both of these women in one day. God has shown me I’m not ready. One woman I messed up with, she saw I’m not ready for marriage or a relationship and cut me off. The other woman we almost got into an ungodly situation so to speak. So I think I need to go back into isolation and get right with God. I feel shame and remorse. Sometimes it’s stressful thinking of it, painful to say the least.
thank you for this video
Everyone's going through this bro. Even me. Hug yourself. We will all be gone soon.
What was the ungodly situation?
Been talking to few women i get signs im not ready a lot cus these girls all do drugs or are selfish in relationships like 40% of em
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Wow this is powerful. Every man I’ve been pursued by over the past few years has been looking for some crazy spark and for me to make them ‘feel’ completely known automatically without any work. I’m not sure what it says about me that I keep finding these men, but every man needs to see this!! I just want to find a God fearing man who seems capable of leading a family and being my vision partner in life. Marriage is work and not a selfish experience of being served. Well said 👏🏻
I literally just got dumped over this. 6 weeks and he called it quits bc I didn’t blindly trust him, or “submit” and I asked for clarification on some questionable theories he had. I had to explain that trust is built over time and that’s what we’re working towards right? Nope! I guess not. They’ve been lied to by the enemy and they have very unrealistic expectations for who they’re meeting. They don’t want to put in the work required to get to the point in a relationship where they can finish each other’s sentences. A lot of the requirements they have for the women they meet, they don’t even meet themselves and that’s where I have a problem.
Wow me too !!! I keep meeting men that have these unrealistic expectations and want me to make them feel like a king. Definitely trusting God only now from now on. In the meantime, I’m enjoying my time with the lord . Best peace I ever had. Every time I date someone I get further from Christ .
@@kimberlys347omg girl same ! He was mad because I didn’t come cook at his house with heels on. Then questioned if I really loved him smh I’ll let the next chick deal with that !
You're pursuing high value men and then not living up to their expectations. You're punching above your weight.
Thank you so much for this video, father. Not many within the Christian community care to discuss this, and I think that we are worse off for it. You shared a lot of great information in this viseo. Again, thank you
You’re right, but depending on your environment, especially in a collegiate one, dating is an absolute must if you want a future with a spouse. The best thing you can do is find a partner that matches your values, morals, and religion, which gives you the best chance at a steady marriage.
Thank you, Fr. Moses!
Our culture is so broken. We live in a circus. People's minds are so polluted, I despair to think that I'll ever be able to have a healthy and salvific marriage.
Freud was a judeo-mason in his philosophy is bs
Don't give up. Our society isn't worse off than when the apostles walked the earth, and if our Saints have taught me anything, it is that even the worst sinners can change the most dramatically and live a life pleasing to God.
Forget a Honda Accord. Those are not meant to do the long haul. Marriage is like a Volvo VNL 860. Sometimes you are trucking down the highway at 85 with your typical 80k lb load attached. Sometimes you are givin' it all she's got chugging 45mph up a hill with 200k oversized load onboard. Sometimes you are team driving with your marriage partner, one asleep and one awake. Sometimes you are booking it back home with no trailer attached looking forward to spending time with your marriage partner. No matter what you are doing a few things are true: Maintenance is very expensive and takes longer than you'd expect, and God is there with you to help guide you and carry the load.
God be forever praised!. Thank you for the divine sword (truth and word of God) that you are empowering us with in this timeline on earth!
I think you need a part 2 addressing courting vs dating. I agree with the wisdom you gave but this point is a major stumbling block for young men today
You need to make that clear to whoever you are interested in, make it clear you want to court (date to marry) and make sure you tell them you want God at the center of your relationship. That have to be fully on board.
@ Intentions don’t matter. Dating is still using another person to gratify yourself as long as they’re convenient
@@blakeavila4409 Not true
@@JobeCourtney So you married your first girlfriend?
@@blakeavila4409"dating" doesn't mean "sleep with" why is your mind even going there
you are blessing, sir! I ended my relationship exactly out of those worldly reasons. this is so empty and it will kill everything inside of you and your partner. I would have needed that information a year ago. thankfully I turned myself to god again. I pray that my family will reunite bevor him.
that honda accord line hurt 😭God bless you for this video
Wow! Another much needed reality check, from Blessed Father Moses! Glory to God!☦
I'm 66, a lifelong bachelor, not for lack of good faith and concerted effort when I was younger, so it is what it is. Scores of (average) women slapped me down with absolute contempt and impunity back in the day, but the thing is, I'm still above ground and breathing, and I lose virtually no sleep over it.
I was born into evangelical Protestantism, and later in life I had a belly full of it, walked away, was received into the Orthodox Church ☦️, and never looked back.
My little Antiochian parish in Kansas has been growing exponentially the past 3 years, with young families, but particularly with men, especially young men.
I've been away from evangelicalism for 25 years now, but I'm astonished at the complete denial of the perniciousness of many modern women in their ranks, particularly by soft posturing servant leader clergy, and older boomer men like me. There's a reluctance, and even a flat out denial of this, let alone calling it out for what it is.
I'll concede some of the more conservative traditional evangelicals push back, but most of this comes from younger men who've had enough, and have exited.
To Fr's teaching, I'll submit unequivocally that this western heathen practice of serial dating is a zero sum game, and I agree, is training for the godless family courts.
I can't offer much in the way of an anecdote, other than reverting back to more arranged marriages in tight traditional communities, or young men resolving to lead celibate lives.
Good point about the evangelical church ignoring the real issue between the sexes. When was the last time you heard a sermon telling a wife to submit to her husband.
Any tips for a 19 year old wanting to be celibate for life?
Women are leaving the church and men coming in under some ulterior motive or pretense looking for a godly wife. Lol
@@spungypizzacakerThings were no cake walk for average men back in the day, but today is a completely different end of the swamp.
If I were a young man of 19 today, I'd shun women your age, period. Absolute train wrecks. I'd also advise you to visit with your spiritual father a lot, as with older married men in your parish a lot. I'd wait until you'd be in your 30s and hopefully established in a vocation and secure financially if you changed your mind about celibacy. But please don't beat yourself up like so many young men do because the current crop of broken and dissolute women slap you down or ignore you.
You might also visit a monastery and talk to the monks.
I wish I could offer more, but in the current age we live in, outside of God's grace and the church, the dating mating game is a roll of the dice.
@tubalcain7864 any advice for a 44 yo celibate?
Thanking God for my God fearing husband. Thank you for sharing this message. This was needed.
Excellent this is what I didn't know I needed to hear. Thank you father Moses. God bless you❤
Thank you Father
I made 150k, followed all the rules, good looking, kind, caring, jumped through all the hoops with my marriage. She never balanced her life with mine. It was all a one way street. We did counseling, coaching, etc she never ever contributed. Did I screw up? Absolutely. But I could never stone for anything while she got away with abandonment, abuse, and putting everything and anyone before us. So ultimately she left and I sent her the papers. We have a 2 year old son. I tried really hard to keep her and make it work but she was a wayward woman. Looking back the signs were there but I didn't know how to see them. I didn't see them as severe as they were because of my inexperience.
I want 150k
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Did nobody tell you? Like, did your parents or friends never pull you to the sidLookd said anything?
Now you’re wiser and more experienced
Who was the girl before you get married? That's the real question to ask
All my friends despised the woman I was married to at the time.. they knew before I did. Her idea of compromise was my total capitulation to her will. She was in university for 7 years in Europe, turned her into a Marxist feminist. Oh well, you learn through failure.. The divorce went better than the relationship in my case.. That is rare..
This was a profound teaching on marriage and the trials that come along with it !!!
Father, please pray that the younger generations can become chaste and worthy of marriage
Thank you for this solid preaching/teaching. I wish I heard this sooner
Glory to God. thank you Father
I wish our parishes were better connected to help those of us who are single to connect. My church has a great imbalance of many men but few women.
Where I live I see more young women than young men so its hard to find a Godly man 😢 I agree we need to improve the ways we raise young people in the church to strengthen our faith (e.g. InspiringPhilosphy videos has some good info) and improve connections between each other (Fascinating Girl/Womanhood books, Man of Steel and Velvet book to help become more feminine/masculine and increase our understanding of the opposite sex)
For the ☦️ it's like that all over I'm afraid. You'll probably have to find someone outside your tradition and hope they convert, just going by the numbers.
@@andrear4954 Let's be the change, then. Send me an email and let's connect our parishes. lol
Maybe you will have better luck looking for a wife at the church where the odds are in your favor. As a general rule churches attract families and single women, but each church is different.
@@serahloeffelroberts9901*Evangelical churches
In churches which don't completely throw men under the bus for everything you'll find it is a ratio with little to zero women.
Nothing like Insta ,this is really life and we need God for it to work .We homeschool too ,4 kids it’s no joke for both of us .Holding on to God
Thank you for your wisdom!
I feel like you know my life and know when to post the right video
Father Moses, thank you for this gerat exposure!
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😂 Fr please! I love the Honda accord comparison. Very fuel efficient and reliable.
And sometimes complacency breeds contempt?
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With what life has thrown at me I feel like a Land Rover. Still blazing trails across the wilderness.
@@meaningofreason because the Honda - will get you to where you want to go - but after driving it for 15 yrs and 350K on the odometer it get wearisome - But at least the car doesn't stonewall you, and give personal attacks - or lack patience's.
Your videos are absolutley invaluable to my life Father Moses, thank you. I know you probably don't have the time to reply, but I am at odds with the maritial advice my Catholic spiritual father has given me.
My girlfirend of about 3 years now (yes, it is a situation of what you described in the video of being married "by acts" without the commitment) - is not a Christian and identifies as Buddhist. Solely through stubborn apathy and the lack of desire to critically think about spirtuality/philosphy. She was born in an Asian country and her family is Buddhist and in turn adheres to that (confusing & polythesitic) religion that starts to fall apart the moment you really analyze it. She has even attended my recent Baptism of all 3 Catholic sacraments, and has been told of Marian apparitions, Eucharistic miracles, and the Shroud of Turin (by me) - but actively says "its not her time to convert as the universe hasn't led her to that stage in her life yet".
That being said, I've seen plenty of Christian cirlces online that quote scripture that excplicitly says not to fraternize with women who are unbelievers, and how they will lead your family astray etc. The best we can do is evangelize from afar apparently.
Yet when dicussing this with my priest during confession, he stated that because the Vatican has changed the marriage rites after the Vatican II reformations - it is okay to intermarry between faiths.
I myself have really had my eyes open to the absurdity of Vatican II, and seen how Bishop Lefebvre was exocommunicated, and how things such as the SSPX society and Orthodox Catholicsm was formed from that fallout in the 1960s.
I researched how the marriage rites and processions truely were as holy and God-focused as that of my own Baptism. I beleive that no consuming the Eucharist during your marriage ceremony almost negates the entire purpose, and witholds any blessings that any one desperately needs throughout the trials and tribulations of marriage.
So that being said, would you agree that it is still okay for me to marry my girlfriend of whom is my rock in a lot of ways in my life (I am the sole caretaker for my right-side parylyzed and incontinent single father), yet half the time I'm just trying to convert her into seeing the only truth that is in marriage - of which you know is only under God.
She even agreed to a wedding in a Catholic church yet she fights for a traditional Buddhist wedding in Vietnam. All while we have our falling outs and I'm in a situation where I need someone to commit in the sense of humble service and sacrifice, but without God - every woman will have that vain and narcsisitic self-centered view of relationships.
I truly cannot tell if it is my purpose to evangalize my girlfrined (who truly has a beautiful and kind heart), and God wants me to lead her on the right path - or if I'm just wasting my time with worldliness and in my desperation for a partner to help me carry my personal load in life that I believe can only be solved by Godliness and family.
I've even read how Satan can send the wrong people your way, just as St. Simeon the Stylite was tempted by the devil with a false vision of Archangel Gabriel.
So do you believe its set in stone not to marry someone outside the faith? Or is it possible to bring your wife to it?
I dated an unbeliever for six years. I tried “saving” her for years with intellectual apologetic arguments for the existence of God. All failed miserably. Hindsight, I realize now that faith comes by hearing, and hearing the Word of God (Romans 10:17), and not by intellectual arguments. Anyway, the relationship pulled me so far away from God and into sin. It took years for my hardened heart to turn back to the Lord, and I remember Him saying to me, “You love her more than you love Me”. That cut to my core, but I knew it was true. To be honest, my life reflected that I didn’t know the Lord, and I didn’t believe the Gospel. My girlfriend was my idol, my god, something that I held as more important than the true and living God in my life. I held the relationship tightly in my hand, not willing to allow God have control. I truly loved her and at the time really wanted to make things work between us, but I ultimately realized I was at a crossroads where Jesus was saying, “You either pick Me or her, you can’t have both”. I decided to break it off. Moments following, I was immensely overwhelmed with the love of God. Like 10,000 pounds had been lifted. Don’t get me wrong. It was a grieving time to say the least. But for the first time, I felt like my eyes had finally been opened. The veil lifted. I felt born again. Because at that moment, I sincerely put my trust in Jesus as my Savior. His Spirit came to reside in me and comforted me. That was three years ago.
Now that’s just my story. I will say you are approaching the question from a very “religious” perspective trying to see if it’s within your legal rights to get married. Look at 2 Corinthians 6:14-16. But also ask yourself, does your girlfriend help you grow closer to Jesus or does she hinder your growth? I would think more relationally about it. How is she going to support you in your walk with the Lord? What is on your heart? What are your convictions from the Holy Spirit on this topic? Are you willing to allow God to take control of the relationship for better or for worse? Do you trust that He will provide someone in the future if you choose to end the relationship? What if she never comes to faith? How does that make you feel?
I also don’t believe we are called to enter into relationship with unbelievers with the intention and hope of evangelize. That is approaching the relationship trying to “fix”. It puts a lot of burden on you to save, and forgets who actually does the saving in a person’s life. Who actually does the saving is God, the Author of our salvation. And I know, we want all to be saved and to truly know Jesus. But more often than not, these relationships bear little fruit, make you stumble, and turn unbelievers farther from God. Now this isn’t all situations. There are some amazing testimonies out there. But majority of the time, they drag you into sin. Because it takes discipline and obedience to turn from sin, but the barrier to enter into sin is very minimal. And most importantly, your faith should be the most defining thing about your being. It is your identity - child of God, Christian, servant of the Lord. She will never understand the innermost important attribute of you that shapes who you are.
Just my 2 cents.
Praying for you brother. If you ever want to talk, I’m open!
Thanks. Definitely never ending work, definitely hard.
This sermon really blessed me, even though I am a Matthew 12 / Law of Grace Christian who prefers the Bible over churches because many add to the scriptures. Thank you!
We are redeemed into a community. Together, in fellowship with others, we make up the body of Christ. Find a meeting place with faithful believers and dive in.
Thanks for reminding me ill never be married father. I only get reminded of that EVERYWHERE I go.
Glory to God ❤
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Amazing video. thanks father moses. Hope you had a blessed thanksgiving weekend
I'm not even religious but I agree with you on everything except one thing.
Marriage sounds like a tough chore and a heavy cross in your video, but I think it's not necessary to complicate things so that they become insufferable like that.
I'm married too, to my first and only man, and yeah, we skipped dating, but I think the optimal way is to understand yourself, know your limits and communicate those things to your spouse. So that you can avoid making decisions that would make your life a heavy cross.
Thanks Father Moss. Really needed this one. You da man , big love.
Good speech, amen. Greetings from the lowlands a Honda Accord driver 😊
I don’t have hardly any single eligible women in my church. I don’t meet many Christian women. How am I supposed to get married if I’m not dating? Of course I pray about it, but we also have to act on it as well. So what’s your answer?
Try a dating site
I think the truth lies in the middle. No over-dating but also not giving-up.
@@Vlogbobb- yes but I don’t meet many Christian women in dating sites. It’s very difficult.
@@tubularbillyou can pursue non believers as long as they are open and curious about the faith. Beautiful things can come of this.
@@pietero.o6792- well I thought that might be a good idea as well, but the pastor of my church has really been hammering at us about not pursuing non-yoked relationships. So I really don’t know what to do. I appreciate it. Thanks for the advice.
All dating achieved for me was baggage. I wish I only knew my wife.
My husband was my 2nd and last "boyfriend". 1st boyfriend was great, proposed but I was 19 and he was a divorce' with a child at age 30. I wanted to grow in that responsibility with a man that didn't have children. Met my husband shortly thereafter in college. My husband has been the greatest gift to me and the world. Over 20 years still going and I am happy I didn't waste my time with dating. Mind body and soul were saved from great pain.
So you met your wife and proposed on the spot then, no dating for you?
But how are you gonna meet her if you don’t date?
@@MrFeelsGo0d-YT what I mean is I wish I never dated casually. I dated people with no intention of marrying them. It’s a horrible mistake.
@@AnalysaddictDating is the word women use but don’t realize how loaded it is. It’s either a euphemism for sex or modern prostitution (transactional). Shouldn’t even be used by religious people describing getting to know someone before marriage.
Thank you for your obedience. God bless you and your family.🙏🏾 I just subscribed!
Very well said, and so true!!
Pray for me. I am getting married late in life (I am 36) and plan on having children. Neither one of us is Orthodox, but I am inquiring.
My parents are 74 and 66 years old. I’m 22 now.
Everyone’s story is different, but God has been faithful to them in the past and faithful to us in the present.
I was raised nondenominational, but will be part of the Catholic Church this coming Easter. Praying for God to bless you with wisdom and perseverance on your journey 🙏
You don't need a sign that says othodox, you need to know Jesus christ the true messiah ❤
Dating is a misconception.
It’s a modern thing in post f - ist realms. Modernists mistake it every time for courtship.
What do you mean bro
We are not ourselves, as Father put it, “the dopamine kicks in” We may as well be impaired! Things start off looking pretty and can end up looking pretty ugly! The best thing to do is discern, as God for his guidance, and keep praying! Hope that helps. God bless you!
@@tomjay5471 Nah. Don’t date
And sadly, it often leads to 'accidental conception.'
I ended an 8 year relationship after being pulled back into my Orthodox faith. I was engaged but became absolutely miserable over time. I asked God if I should continue the relationship and he made it clear that she wasn't the one. Moved out the next day.
2 days later, after I finished unpacking and moving my things (at my parent's home since I still have a lease to pay for the time being), our Priest shows up to see my mom who had dodged a potentially fatal health crisis. I had no idea he coming. Before he left, I scheduled a confession with him and had my first confession in over a decade. I accept Christ as my Lord and I now know he was there all along, slowly pulling me back to him.
I hope one day soon I will find a woman who also loves God, if He wills it. Semi-related but please, if you have children, get them baptized in the Orthodox Church. I firmly believe the grace I received from my baptism helped me.
Beautiful!
Thank you so much!! ☦️🙏🏻
❤💪👩❤️👨🙏✝ GOD BE WITH US AGAINST EVIL AND TEMPTATIONS ✝🙏⛪️💍🕊
Thank you for this video.
My theory of tension. When dating, create tension not having sex to build character, so when married the whole experience is satisfying.
Silence creates tension that eventually pays off.
Waiting creates tension that eventually pays off.
Hard working creates tension that eventually pays off.
Giving, loving without receiving creates tension that eventually pays off.
Great message thank you
Great video about dating! Thank you!
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Thanks father!
25M. Haven’t dated in my 20s. Make 100k, physically fit (run marathons, lift 5x week), go to church. Women don’t seem interested and so I’ve lost interest as well. What am I supposed to do?
She will come, at the right time ❤
If I'm a virgin then the man I'm marrying should be one as well. The problem in the world today is the fickleness, and superficiality of men. Women are just following their lead.
All agreement here, the problem is that women are attracted to the guys that get all the girls🤷♂️. I’ve seen it first hand where there were plenty of Christian dudes that this girl could date, but she went straight for a lost guy. Make it make sense💀
I'm a 31 year old male virgin, there are tons of us out there. I'd love to meet a woman who was chaste.
Women who sleep around are just as guilty as the men. Choosing to be promiscuous isn’t “just following their lead.”
Dating apps have proven that it is women who are the superficial ones
"I'm a woman, it's all the man's fault"
No need to repeat yourself sweety
I'm struggling with this topic at the moment, I'm 21 right now in college and everyone around me is dating or just hooking up, I'm maintaing my celibacy until marriage but I don't know how to approach courtship in today's world I thought dating is what I'm supposed to do and naturally transition to marriage. I'm not sure if I should even be focusing on all this now or take my career seriously and get that going. Can someone give me some advice for someone in my position, God bless you all ☦️
This is true. Even though I was in love with this man, I was so turned off by his cohabitation relationships that it soured how I thought of him. I wasn’t bothered by his divorce though.
Thank you sir
God bless you!!
Father Moses your videos and wisdoms has been very eye opening and I am blessed to have found your page when I did.
I’m 25 and just recently married, always been a Christian, but been on my journey getting closer to Christ.
God Bless you, your family, and loved ones
Beautiful🙏❤
Father Moses with another banger video.
Father Moses speaks based truth
Im not a christian, i believe more in a "all is one and one is all" Philosophy.
However, this teaching is true , has a lot of wisdom and is very valueable. I wished some has teached me this earlier in life.
Proverbs is a book of wisdom, full of gems written by King Solomon. The Queen of Sheba traveled the world with an envoy of kingly gifts for Solomon just to hear his wisdom i person. I highly recommend reading it in its entirety, my friend!