This needs to be shared with every Christian marriage counselor out there who lead so many women astray with trying to lead their unloving husbands from behind with kindness. A.) we don’t lead from behind. And B.) THIS!
Divorcing after 38 years of marriage. I can see how me trying for so long to “Love him into changing” only made things worse. It nearly destroyed me trying to love him according to the 1 Corinthians model. By me getting out and hoping the wake up call will cause him to run to God is probably the most truly loving thing I have ever done to and for him.
Married to a narcissist for 10 years. We are divorced but co-parent 3 children together. Your videos have been so helpful and healing on a daily basis.
Shaneen you are so awesome! Never knew what Narcissism was till I saw your wonderful videos! Biblical comparisons to Narcissism is so insightful! I've learned so much from your knowledge! Thank you so much! God Bless You Always Shaneen!
I believe the three main baseline emotions that narcs actually have inside of them are 1) envy 2)fear(which they don’t face so turns into hatred) 3) shame(which they don’t face which turns into pretenses of all sorts) Anger is not a baseline emotion in the first place. Anger is almost always a mask for a different emotion and in the case of narcs, from my experience, they use it to deflect attention from themselves when they feel threatened that they might be caught in their shame or mask off state. That is when they suddenly fly into a rage.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Absolutely spot on! And this has been my experience too. Envy is the root for all the narcs in my life then envy comes with seething resentment & hatred and then guiltorshame which leads to fear of exposure.
I cannot believe how much this message has hit home! I have tried so hard being the Christian wife allowing this side of love to actually eat away my self estem, by trying to do the right thing in God's eye's. Thank the Lord for your channel an true answer to the many days and nights l have cried out to the Lord believing l will never get this right and constantly blaming myself. My husband no longer to talks to me and all the years past l have asked him why and what have l done wrong? I made up my mind that after several months of yet another episode of the slient treatment that l wasn't going to beg him to talk to me, the pain has been unbearable at times, By these life changing messages l am slowly becoming stronger and less intimidated by his behaviour. Jesus is amazing,. Thank you for channel 🥰
Louise, I'm so glad to hear that God is strengthening you through all this. He has your back and will always take care of you no matter what your husband does. I pray that God would fill you with much peace, wisdom and strength as you navigate these turbulent waters. God bless you. 🙏🏽💕🕊
I’ve been married for 15 years and I’m going through the exact same thing! I am done with the silent treatment, the outbursts of anger, the blame shifting and the lack of EVER taking responsibility! It wasn’t until now that I realize that he’s a narcissist. I don’t know what to do! We have a 10 y/o son.
@@nikimoreno5311 Hi Niki, I feel for you, I have been married 25 years and have have two teenage boys. Sadly l have to say l may have caused them less pain if l walked away when they were younger but it was never that easy so l totally understand when you say, you don't know what to do. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family whenever possible, don't allow him to make you go down to his level of behaviour, keep watching these great videos to help you understand and deal with the situation and pray for your son and for the Lord to strengthen you both through this and to direct your path. I hope this helps even a little. Xx
I just got it today: Love does not delight in [or endorse] evil, but Love rejoices with the Truth. If we truly love people, including the overwhelming number of narcs in society, we won’t subscribe to the mentality of “everyone is a winner”. We will, in gentleness and firmness, address situations that need improvement. Although we cannot control the actions of others, we can be the watchmen who warn them that they need to change.
This is really good. God delivered me from a narcissist. I was stuck there for 20 years. I couldn't take it anymore and got on my knees and begged God for help. He sent my daughter to be my way of escape. The narcissist was trying to force me to abort my daughter and I asked God to protect her. God broke my fear of man and told me to put my trust in Him by giving me Isaiah 41:10. I put my faith in God and He did the rest, thank you Jesus! I have turned the narcissist over to him. God is so good and faithful.
If they haven't yet surrendered to the divine love within them then how can we expect our love to be received by them? Love the One Who IS love and leave the rest to Him. Thank you for this beautiful message 💗🙏🏽
Shaneen! This was amazing!!! I’ve been battling guilt and confusion. I have two Christian narcissists roommates that made me a shell of a person overtime. I tried talking to them and it always ended with me some how ending up apologizing like I’ve wronged them. They talk in circles. Cut you off mid sentence, attack you and call you names and then you’re focused on defending why you’re not those things they are saying, and you start getting confused at how you got there, and why they think you’re expressing something completely different than what you’re trying to say. I even tried getting help with biblical counsel to have a mediator help us, but that blew up in my face and they played the victim and said I was trying to defame their character by talking about sinful behavior that they do that I’m not okay with. I tried to generalize at first but they asked me to go into detail and then they really raged. So I’ve stopped talking to them. I only say hi and greet them. But no conversations. I felt like God was calling me to separate from them and “not even eat with people like these”, but at the same time I was wrestling with how is this is actually Godly and loving. This video answered that for me. I love them from a far. But they don’t love me. They say they do but their actions towards me and compassion towards my feelings don’t show it. I already know they don’t respect what I say or how I think, so that’s why I keep my mouth shut. To avoid blow ups. Keeping the peace is a loving thing. They lack true peace. But I don’t. So I carry on. I feel like Abraham living among the Canaanites and keeping to myself. I bless them because God used them to bless me with such a beautiful awakening to becoming the powerful woman of God I was destined to become, and poured so much wisdom in me. What they meant for evil, God used for GOOD.
Shaneen, you are such an awesome human being, one of those l wish l had as a friend. I don’t know what God did to prepare you so well for your mission, but l am so grateful He did. Your videos are a blessing to us, a source of information, hope and help. Thank you!!
@Shaneen Megji… thank you so much for these videos. This should be taught in churches around the world ! So many people are hurting and broken because they stayed the course in the name of Christ like love. I just found out about Narcissism last September after being blind sided by discard after 3 years. All the while I thought he was everything I could’ve ever hoped, and I just knew I could love him back to health because of his childhood trauma. now I see how many red flags I ignored because I thought God said love was unconditional. But if it is truly demonic oppression there is no amount of love in the world that will save a Narcissist, besides the love of God . Thank you so much God bless
Wow was in the same boat. Then thought hate is the better way if unconditional love doesn't work. But then I realised it is a spiritual war....their souls have been hijacked.... U have love from afar and pray for enemies . And heal our our wounds....to not attract narcs any more.... And focus on love for urself.... No narc's without victims....💓
I think if certain ppl forgive narcs and pray for them and not turn into hate themselves.... Then the spell will be broken. Well something big will happen I know... To break the curse... It's not going happen anymore... A universe if coming without demons ! It is abt time 💓
I want you to know that your videos are really helping. After many years (almost 30) of living in a very frustrating marriage, full of ups and downs, sins and problems, lots and lots of losses, I finally got an answer as to why my wife is the way she is. Life is very difficult and it hurts too much to deal with a narcissist. I'm close to the 30th anniversary of our marriage and she's moved off to her mother's house and is throwing all sorts of long-distance accusations based on her own evangelical interpretation. I'm not sure which direction God is going to lead me in, but now I'm fasting and praying with the certainty that the Lord will lead. Even though eventually your channel is apparently not getting many views, you are reaching people in need, like me and in distant countries like Brazil. God bless you.
I have been married to a narcissist for fifty years, but only realized who he is really is within the last year. I have know for a very long time there was a big problem, but didn't have a clear understanding of what I was dealing with. I have been reading and watching TH-cam concerning this topic and found your vlogs most helpful. I struggle daily with bitterness and anger which I know I need to overcome. My desire is to please God and this video gave me insight into how to do that while living with him. Thank you for your godly advise.
Excellent, wish I had found your channel thirty years ago, would've saved me a lot of confusion, illness and frustration not to mention severe illness.
Narc husband fights with EVERY word that comes from my mouth. Originates from his abusive mother ... he's determined I'm going to pay the bill!!!! LOL So i got up 10 days ago and thought ... right, let's see what comes from your mouth, what originates from you?...... nothing, absolutely not one word in 10 days. It's so peaceful and I've so much more energy. Only God's love is infinite.... human love IS exhaustible imho. May God protect and bless us all. Thanks for the video. x
Just my opinion, but my experience in loving narcs just makes them worse, more determined to control/manipulate/hurt you, because they perceive love and kindness as weakness, and they prey on what they perceive as weakness. (parent, aunt, x)
@Jeanne griffin The fact that they are receiving love is “proof” to them of how great they are! They see it as what they are entitled to and therefore feel “safe” to let loose the abuse. Such a sick cycle. I needed this info decades ago.
I also finally realized, Jeanne, that my servant spirit toward my narcissist relatives was primarily feeding their narcissistic mis-behaviors. I have been given the opportunity to 90% remove myself from interacting with them since 2 months ago and feel it is a miracle deliverance! .. The remaining 10% requires someone passing away:(
How about the scripture of not casting pearls before swine? That plays over and over in my mind when I’m dealing with certain people. Thank you so much for your content! You are a God send!
After listening to numerous tapes videos and reading its clear to me you can't be nice to a narcissist..it only fuels their anger and resentment..my son told me when he slammed out the door for the last time after blowing up over nothing and refusing to tell me why.. " Your too nice to me ...you know what you've done.." .unfortunately I believe he really meant.. I made it too hard for him to leave because I fed him well..helped find him a job ..washed his clothes and never asked anything of him..I enabled him....in my ignorance I believed I was helping him..what I was doing was holding him back...for that I'm sorry 😞
I really enjoyed listening to your video, all the video l hear are about the faults of a Narcissist, your video was telling us that we can still apply Christian values to a Narcissist not fear, which is not what Jesus would do!
The therapist told us to get more individual counseling because couples counselling wasn't working. She said we should separate for a week to see if it's still what we want. He won't even get therapy for himself and said if we separate we are done. I'm in therapy for me and it's very hard to be around someone who constantly blames me for everything. I feel so empty and alone and if I tell him how I feel about anything he says this is why I need therapy and he doesn't....
I would advise you to leave the relationship while you still can and continue seeing your therapist for the healing you need. Once you marry this person, it will be more difficult to heal and grow as a healthy individual.
This is how God has been talking to me since the beginning of 2020. Sad, but true for my present "marriage" of 38yrs. Thank you very much for the confirmation. I'm doing as you say and my life is so much better in many ways!
Thanks be to God for the wisdom God has given you, trying to live with a narcissist whether it's through marriage, looking after an elderly parent it is a living nightmare, your video is a true blessing . We can't force a narcissist into believing in God, but we can always pray and dont give up as Jesus says to do in the parable of the persistent widow, because nothing is impossible with God. ( Its a living nightmare putting up with narcissists, God bless you sister in Christ for your ministry .)
Thank you SO much! Ive been battling these Bible verses and it's been making me feel shame and guilt not loving him the way the Bible describes. I feel that I've failed and if I loved harder then he would see Jesus in me. I also felt that it just enabled him, so it was juat confusing. I have a wonderful counselor but your videos have been a great supplement since I cant carry her around in my pocket. I've been asking myself ALL the questions that are topics of your vidoes. So grateful I came along them!❤
Yes God can! God can break you and rebuild. Look to him and have faith. Through God all things are possible no matter what you believe. He makes the path he changes the heart he is love he is light he is Faith he is Glory.
The absolute best video/info on dealing with narcissistic behavior from a Biblical perspective. Thank you for your research and for scriptural references used in context! Love your channel! Blessings to you and your viewers.
Excellent video Shaneen. You hit the nail on the head in describing the dynamics of loving narcissistic people according to 1 Cor 13, even if they profess to be Christians, as if they are actually emotionally, mentally and spiritually healthy people. They aren't, and to love them this way just sets you up for more abuse. I so appreciate this teaching on how Jesus loved the narcissists of His day; He loved them but was not ignorant of their schemes. 'Be as shrewd as snakes but as innocent as doves' Matt 10:16. Thanks so much Shaneen. I'm very appreciative of what God is gifting you to bring to this conversation about narcissism in our day. 😊❤
What a beautiful soul. I appreciate and thank you for this amazing series. There are so many ‘coaches’ on social media focusing on narcissism at the moment, and yes every one isn’t for everybody. I just wanted you to know that your ability to incorporate the teachings/stories of the bible with regards NPD is both necessary and enlightening. May you continue to share your blessings with us - because in this world right now - it’s well and truly needed. 🙏🏾😘☮️
My father passed away January 21st. While helping my mom with funeral plans, my narcissistic husband was angered I did not seek his advice on the planning . Meanwhile our teen son is struggling with depression and all husband is concerned with is son’s grades and missing track practice. I’ve spent 25 years of marriage walking on eggshells, always apologizing. I am praying for strength and guidance and for god to soften husbands heart so he may hear the wisdom of Jesus. I do not want our marriage to fail. I am trying to convince him to try couples counseling. I believe it stems from his childhood and deep rooted resentment of being the forgotten “middle child”. I keep praying to the Lord that husband opens his heart to Jesus Thank you for this channel.
Love this ! Makes things crystal clear and it's fascinating to see the narc traits in so many of our political leaders and others in power positions in society today.
Thank you for this...this affirms my decision which I've been contemplating on for a month. May the Good Lord grant me wisdom, guidance and strength! 🙏💖
This has to be one of the best videos on narcissism I have seen. I just wish I would have known this years ago. Praise God the Holy Spirit and you have been teaching me and my life is different now. I have chosen to stay married but that’s because I have been standing up to him and drawing boundaries. We’re both still learning but my hope is that we would help other marriages make it for His glory!
4:09 “it’s important to look at how God dealt with different types of people throughout scripture” I never heard that before, but I know you’re EXACTLY right!
This was a terrific video. I came to your channel, never saw it before, and I love how biblically based your video's are, while still dealing with the issues at hand. I've been struggling for the next step in my healing journey with several narcissistic people; and your channel is giving me some of the tools I need for this. Other channels took me so far but there were missing links. Your Soul ties video, your forgiveness and cleaing up your heart to honor parents was also helpful and the idea of knowing your threshold of time limitation that you can remain calm, and not be pulled into toxic dynamics. This video does completely goes against what you said in your reframing video; but, at times there is just no way to reframe things in a way the narcissist will accept.
Thank you for sharing your opinion! Very well prsented! Totally agree wiith you. Forgive & love them from the distance! We do not know how dangerous they are!💕
2 Timothy 3:2-5 describes the character of a narcissist and verse 5 says we are to turn away from such people. The way I read 1 Corinthians 13 is that it's describing what the character of a believer should be. Part of the believer's character is that we trust but the verse doesn't say specifically that we are to trust people especially if they are ungodly. Rather, we are to trust God which means not to desire or seek revenge when we are wronged but to trust that God will bring about what's in the best interests for all parties. It's tempting to want revenge on a narcissist but that is a flesh driven desire. To remain loving means that we let go of that instinct and trust that God will use the situation for good (for us as well as the narcissist). In the meantime we distance ourselves from the narcissist but continue to pray for their genuine repentance and to be delivered from the influence of the evil one.
Married to one for 30 years. Thought I was going insane with the gaslighting, arrogance lies and deceit. And this man and his whole family were “Christians”?? Oh my word. My ex narcissist wouldn’t even get baptized yet he told me he was supposed to lead me to Christ when I had given my life to Christ 45 years ago. What a horrid waste of half my life hoping and praying things would get better.
@@calmcalm6203 - many “Christians” are Christian as opposed to being Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu, etc; their definition is parallel to “American”. If you study what the Bible describes as sin, and a person who lives a lifestyle that the Bible describes as sin says that they are a Christian, walk away - that first lie will lead to many more. Don’t take their bait.
Shaneen. Thank you so much for these videos. Such great content! And, you obviously the wisdom of someone who has been through it, as well as a great gift for integrating psychology, common sense, and spiritual/biblical wisdom. I thought that my love could heal my narcissistic husband. I thought I was taking the high road by not lashing back in anger at his abuse, and going the extra mile for him. I see that I let myself down by not having good boundaries and expressing my feelings. I think if I had done so, it would have ended things even sooner. I wish I had had your videos back then (nine years ago). It would’ve helped with a lot of my confusion. Keep up the good work. There are a lot of people who need this, especially within Christendom. We Christians can unwittingly fall into “spiritual bypassing“ false/premature forgiveness, and pathological altruism…. Thank you for your clarity. 🌞🤩❤️🤗👍
Thank you for this teaching Ms Megji. While it was necessary for me to discard my N and with considerable relief, I've had no contact for some 6- 7 weeks now. However I am full of compassion and sorrow for her on account of the traumatic early childhood absence of love which I have pretty much identified and which resulted in this beautiful person being cursed with these demons and this regrettable condition. David's reaction to Shimei's cursing and betrayal was to let him alone because this was the will of God. It was the will of God also for us two to have been connected and also for her to be discarded which apparently hurt her. Humans can withstand almost anything and so my prayer is along the lines that you say namely that the shock of the discard would give rise to self reflection and healing to head off an otherwise grim future. She has to come to the end of herself. Meanwhile I love her intensely but... NO CONTACT. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Your teachings are most helpful. Every blessing to you in your ministry Ms Megji.
Ms. Megji. Lately I was intensely annoyed, outraged in fact, at your repeated inclusion of clips of homosexual couples in your videos. You are an authentic Christian no doubt but if you have control of your own videos, does it glorify God by including those cameos? I think not. Please review your policy on this as it is 1) wrong in the eyes of God and 2) your ministry seems to be stuck at around 20,000 subscribers and not being blessed with the thousands more you otherwise deserve. Fact is you are the only Christian with this expertise on TH-cam and YOU ARE GOOD... but... you've got to sort this out Ms. Megji. Meanwhile I'm going to give you another chance and SUBSCRIBE again. If I come accross these homosexual inserts in your new releases, I'm going to give you over to the fate of somebody who condones these shameful vile passions. What a pity because you have so much to give. In Jesus name. Andrew Boyd - Ireland
Another beautiful full of wisdom message 💘 it gives me so much joy to see your channel growing. May God continue to shine favor on your life. Thank you for all the life changing messages you share. God bless you abundantly.
@@ShaneenMegji more than well thank you.. God is good been going 4 months with no contact now. I feel like a different woman. I've been Praying, fasting, forgiving, releasing, and feeding myself knowledge through your channel on days I felt weak. I thank the Lord for putting you in my path. I hope you're doing well also. 💗
Excellent! I love how you explain that 1 Cor 13 is what love is, and how we use love when operating the gifts of the Spirit in love, it is not the only passage about love! That is very freeing!
I watched this after tge one where you recommended it. I think thst one was about if you must ( or are called to) stay in SOME sort of contact with the narcissist. This was so spiritually heavy (and RICH) for me that I am going to eat, TAKE A NAP and get up REFRESHED by the Holy Spirit to do the work that I need to - am CALLED to. Thank you Shaneen for being a conduit for delivering the wisdom that comes from above!
I love, love, love, love, LOVE ur videos. So, calm, rational, and reasonable. Some other channels seem like they are bitter and angry. Teaching that God has written all narcs off. I know that's not true. As long as people are alive there is hope especially if they want to be free.
Thank you so much for this video , it all makes complete sense to me. Wish I had known these things years ago , could have saved myself a ton of trauma ..God bless you and thank you 🙏🏼
super teaching i am living with a toxic hardhearted narcist man named my husband never loved me but hurt me mentaly physicaly spiritualy. ur speech gave me ideas.
10:10, or so: they need a head-on confrontation… is that why the Bible has something like 366 verses that say “do not be afraid”? It takes courage for that confrontation. It takes strength to respond calmly - or not respond. It takes wisdom to say the right thing in the right way. May God give me courage, strength, and wisdom, mixed with patience, compassion, and grace as I prepare to institute boundaries for the situation that I face currently. All prayers appreciated! I’m curious if God tells anyone something specific for which He says to pray…
@@ShaneenMegji thanks much! I have an imminent conflict of a situation that began with me attempting to overcome evil with good, and I realized how easily the person twisted my intentions to what suits her, if I don’t say what I should, in the right way.
I decided to watch and learn about my ex but instead i learned that i may be one ! Im not sure but ive been ugly and it stops now. Thanks for your show - I dont have to stay one because GOD with transform me.
My husband has PTSD and has been in a PTSD episode for 16 months now. He's very Narcissistic right now. Everything is my fault, he doesn't want to be married to me anymore, he's lied to me a lot, totally not who he typically is. It's very sad, but I know God is going to heal him soon through the holy spirit.
Prayers to help and do not give up. Also abuse,trauma and injuries can be open door for demons to attack while he is weak. th-cam.com/play/PLPNQdAefzkSNenmX0clUUdyZEr7m2AYte.html
A verse God gave me in a similar situation I faced was “overcome evil with good”. Another was “the light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it.” Think about how a candle doesn’t do much to help during daylight, but how powerful it is in a pitch dark night. May God bless you with wisdom, patience, and creativity in being the wife your husband needs. 🕯
thete are so many women that are lie to everyday all there life by there husband and it's all ok with them why becaues of money they dont care at all as long as they get that money now that's a fact folk that's truth of life
are goverment lie about everything and schools lie about history and churches lie about gods holy bible and none of it is right and no one going to fix it ever
If my narcissists sees me reading my Bible or praying or listening to sermons it totally sets him off. He wears a cross, he values his little statue of the Divino Nino. He does not believe in eternal life. He says when we die we die. His mother follows some Indian guru and doesn't believe in eternal life. I am seeing damage and confusion to my husband that I thought the father was the narc but maybe I'm wrong and it his mom.
Thank you so much for the video and the information is amazing I didn't understand that the Pharisees and Sadducees were narcissist but it makes perfect sense. I have a question do you know how that Spirit of narcissist works with poverty??
Excellent video because Christianity that is misunderstood traps a person in narcissistic abuse….wives submit to your husbands, children obey your parents, honor your father and your mother. The church as a whole needs to recognize cluster B abusers and kick them out of the church congregations while carefully supporting those in marriage bondage. It would help if Jesus law of love was taught instead of their laws of false marriages and religious works were exposed.
Shaneen it’s been two months since I had divorce my husband . As I was in a toxic relationship and found out that my ex had narcissistic personality. Though I’m out of that but I find myself watching videos related to this Topic. I wonder why ? Should I still be watching? I’m asking God to help me . Can you give your input on this please .
Loving or trying to love a narc is trowing your pearls for swines..They indeed become full nlown narcs when they discover your generous love, kindness, care..and patience with their evil temper tantrums or their silent treatments which you forgive over and over..Not only romantic relations..I had women friends who appeared to be horrible scary narcs..In the beginning i thought their air od pride and haugthiness was a way to protect them selfs due to their childhood trauma's.. But the more i cared the more arrogance and pride came to the surface..And some of them where chfistians whom i met after converting to christianty. One of them was even born into a christian family and an elder in the church....My friendship opened my eyes that narcism stands in the way of diliverance ..and not the other way around..Satans is not seeking for diliverance..but worship and power over people aspecially Gods people..Satans felt he was entiteled to be worshipped..Narcs are full of anger about what has happened to them because they believe that are only worthy and deserving of worship snd service..while we are here to serve them and be abused ..mocked.. laught at..tossed away when it pleases them..Diva and pharoah behaviour..they see them selves as gods..trust me the only love you can give a narc..by asking gods mercy on their soul..and stay away from them and save your sound mind and heart before it is destroyed as you start to doubt your worth and mind.. My ex almost succeeded in making me believe that i did not not how to love, no matter what i tried..Once , while we where dating, he called me up completly upset ..it was around eight in the evening..Whe talked for a while and i comforted him and suggested he might go and visit his friend and neighbour. But he started to scream telling at me for being an evil being ..I lived two and half hours away from him..I would have to take the train and bus risking i would strand on a station because it was the last train that evening.. Long story short..i went..it was cold rainy and stormy weather..the station is known for its many drugaddicts late at night..I was lucky to catch the last bus to his house and as i rang his bell he left me standing outside..after a long time he opened the door and with a big nasty smurck on his face he turned around a went to bed leaving me standing in the l hallway of his appartement. Wenn i asked him why he was doing this..he screamed..pulled my arm and pushed me to the door to trow me outside...I told him i would call the police if he would dare to leave outside..He pulled into the house and went to bed..i stayed up waiting for the first train back home... After we broke up he later text me in an sms that only god and the stars would know how much he loved me..😂.This was just one of a long, long list off horrible attitudes he manifested...Once a was paying tribute to the father of a friend who had diied..he called me up in the middle of the service..and in rage after the service .. i left the dinner after the burial and took the train to him..guess what he opened the door gave me the key because he was having a drink at his neighbours house ..more than 2 hours later he came looking at je with that smurck again..it would be the last time he would smurck...The fact that he could not allow me to say goodby to a human who had passed on made me realize that if he could even feel envy towards a dead person, i was dealing with a more than scary being
The problem with a spiritual narcissist is that they will use a video like this one to defend why they are attacking YOU, making you believe that you are the one that needs confrontation and doesn’t deserve to be treated like mentioned in 1 Corinthians 13.
Sheneen, you confirm what I have tried to explain to friends who are in these kind of relationships - you think you are ‘loving’ someone, but you are actually bowing down to an idol.
This needs to be shared with every Christian marriage counselor out there who lead so many women astray with trying to lead their unloving husbands from behind with kindness. A.) we don’t lead from behind. And B.) THIS!
Divorcing after 38 years of marriage. I can see how me trying for so long to “Love him into changing” only made things worse. It nearly destroyed me trying to love him according to the 1 Corinthians model. By me getting out and hoping the wake up call will cause him to run to God is probably the most truly loving thing I have ever done to and for him.
Praise God you had the courage to do that! May God guide your every step, fill you with His peace and provide for your every need. God bless you! 🙏🏽💕🕊
Yes you sound like me only I waited 49 years! He got worse for me too. God bless you.
Married to a narcissist for 10 years. We are divorced but co-parent 3 children together. Your videos have been so helpful and healing on a daily basis.
I’m so glad to hear that! God bless you Mercedes. 🙏🏽💕
Hi Mercedez,
I’m interested to know how go-parenting is going with you and your ex. Is it a true shared parenting situation or parallel parenting?
Shaneen you are so awesome! Never knew what Narcissism was till I saw your wonderful videos! Biblical comparisons to Narcissism is so insightful! I've learned so much from your knowledge! Thank you so much! God Bless You Always Shaneen!
@cece yes!!!
I believe the three main baseline emotions that narcs actually have inside of them are
1) envy
2)fear(which they don’t face so turns into hatred)
3) shame(which they don’t face which turns into pretenses of all sorts)
Anger is not a baseline emotion in the first place. Anger is almost always a mask for a different emotion and in the case of narcs, from my experience, they use it to deflect attention from themselves when they feel threatened that they might be caught in their shame or mask off state. That is when they suddenly fly into a rage.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Absolutely spot on! And this has been my experience too. Envy is the root for all the narcs in my life then envy comes with seething resentment & hatred and then guiltorshame which leads to fear of exposure.
I cannot believe how much this message has hit home!
I have tried so hard being the Christian wife allowing this side of love to actually eat away my self estem, by trying to do the right thing in God's eye's.
Thank the Lord for your channel an true answer to the many days and nights l have cried out to the Lord believing l will never get this right and constantly blaming myself.
My husband no longer to talks to me and all the years past l have asked him why and what have l done wrong?
I made up my mind that after several months of yet another episode of the slient treatment that l wasn't going to beg him to talk to me, the pain has been unbearable at times,
By these life changing messages l am slowly becoming stronger and less intimidated by his behaviour.
Jesus is amazing,.
Thank you for channel 🥰
Louise, I'm so glad to hear that God is strengthening you through all this. He has your back and will always take care of you no matter what your husband does. I pray that God would fill you with much peace, wisdom and strength as you navigate these turbulent waters. God bless you. 🙏🏽💕🕊
I’ve been married for 15 years and I’m going through the exact same thing!
I am done with the silent treatment, the outbursts of anger, the blame shifting and the lack of EVER taking responsibility!
It wasn’t until now that I realize that he’s a narcissist.
I don’t know what to do! We have a 10 y/o son.
@@nikimoreno5311
Hi Niki,
I feel for you, I have been married 25 years and have have two teenage boys.
Sadly l have to say l may have caused them less pain if l walked away when they were younger but it was never that easy so l totally understand when you say, you don't know what to do.
Surround yourself with supportive friends and family whenever possible, don't allow him to make you go down to his level of behaviour, keep watching these great videos to help you understand and deal with the situation and pray for your son and for the Lord to strengthen you both through this and to direct your path.
I hope this helps even a little.
Xx
That's amazing,dear. May I ask if u are still married to him? That has also been the scripture that kept me grounded for lack of knowledge
Same!! I've wasted so many years trying to love him with all the shame and guilt.
I just got it today: Love does not delight in [or endorse] evil, but Love rejoices with the Truth.
If we truly love people, including the overwhelming number of narcs in society, we won’t subscribe to the mentality of “everyone is a winner”. We will, in gentleness and firmness, address situations that need improvement. Although we cannot control the actions of others, we can be the watchmen who warn them that they need to change.
This is really good. God delivered me from a narcissist. I was stuck there for 20 years. I couldn't take it anymore and got on my knees and begged God for help. He sent my daughter to be my way of escape. The narcissist was trying to force me to abort my daughter and I asked God to protect her. God broke my fear of man and told me to put my trust in Him by giving me Isaiah 41:10. I put my faith in God and He did the rest, thank you Jesus! I have turned the narcissist over to him. God is so good and faithful.
If they haven't yet surrendered to the divine love within them then how can we expect our love to be received by them? Love the One Who IS love and leave the rest to Him. Thank you for this beautiful message 💗🙏🏽
You're so welcome. God bless you! 🙏🏽💕
Shaneen! This was amazing!!! I’ve been battling guilt and confusion. I have two Christian narcissists roommates that made me a shell of a person overtime. I tried talking to them and it always ended with me some how ending up apologizing like I’ve wronged them. They talk in circles. Cut you off mid sentence, attack you and call you names and then you’re focused on defending why you’re not those things they are saying, and you start getting confused at how you got there, and why they think you’re expressing something completely different than what you’re trying to say. I even tried getting help with biblical counsel to have a mediator help us, but that blew up in my face and they played the victim and said I was trying to defame their character by talking about sinful behavior that they do that I’m not okay with. I tried to generalize at first but they asked me to go into detail and then they really raged. So I’ve stopped talking to them. I only say hi and greet them. But no conversations. I felt like God was calling me to separate from them and “not even eat with people like these”, but at the same time I was wrestling with how is this is actually Godly and loving. This video answered that for me. I love them from a far. But they don’t love me. They say they do but their actions towards me and compassion towards my feelings don’t show it. I already know they don’t respect what I say or how I think, so that’s why I keep my mouth shut. To avoid blow ups. Keeping the peace is a loving thing. They lack true peace. But I don’t. So I carry on. I feel like Abraham living among the Canaanites and keeping to myself. I bless them because God used them to bless me with such a beautiful awakening to becoming the powerful woman of God I was destined to become, and poured so much wisdom in me. What they meant for evil, God used for GOOD.
Shaneen, you are such an awesome human being, one of those l wish l had as a friend. I don’t know what God did to prepare you so well for your mission, but l am so grateful He did. Your videos are a blessing to us, a source of information, hope and help. Thank you!!
@Shaneen Megji… thank you so much for these videos. This should be taught in churches around the world ! So many people are hurting and broken because they stayed the course in the name of Christ like love. I just found out about Narcissism last September after being blind sided by discard after 3 years. All the while I thought he was everything I could’ve ever hoped, and I just knew I could love him back to health because of his childhood trauma. now I see how many red flags I ignored because I thought God said love was unconditional. But if it is truly demonic oppression there is no amount of love in the world that will save a Narcissist, besides the love of God . Thank you so much God bless
Wow was in the same boat. Then thought hate is the better way if unconditional love doesn't work. But then I realised it is a spiritual war....their souls have been hijacked.... U have love from afar and pray for enemies . And heal our our wounds....to not attract narcs any more.... And focus on love for urself.... No narc's without victims....💓
You're so welcome! Thank you for sharing and God bless you. 🙏🏽💕🕊
The first narc was Yahweh. Not Jesus father. So many Christians are narcs. U must pray from a far. For our enemies. Forgive yahweh
I think if certain ppl forgive narcs and pray for them and not turn into hate themselves.... Then the spell will be broken. Well something big will happen I know... To break the curse... It's not going happen anymore... A universe if coming without demons ! It is abt time 💓
I want you to know that your videos are really helping. After many years (almost 30) of living in a very frustrating marriage, full of ups and downs, sins and problems, lots and lots of losses, I finally got an answer as to why my wife is the way she is. Life is very difficult and it hurts too much to deal with a narcissist. I'm close to the 30th anniversary of our marriage and she's moved off to her mother's house and is throwing all sorts of long-distance accusations based on her own evangelical interpretation. I'm not sure which direction God is going to lead me in, but now I'm fasting and praying with the certainty that the Lord will lead. Even though eventually your channel is apparently not getting many views, you are reaching people in need, like me and in distant countries like Brazil. God bless you.
I am in similar situation. How does one fast n pray?
I have been married to a narcissist for fifty years, but only realized who he is really is within the last year. I have know for a very long time there was a big problem, but didn't have a clear understanding of what I was dealing with. I have been reading and watching TH-cam concerning this topic and found your vlogs most helpful. I struggle daily with bitterness and anger which I know I need to overcome. My desire is to please God and this video gave me insight into how to do that while living with him. Thank you for your godly advise.
Excellent, wish I had found your channel thirty years ago, would've saved me a lot of confusion, illness and frustration not to mention severe illness.
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. I pray you are stronger and healed more than ever. God bless you. 🙏🏽💕
Nothing is wasted when we give it to God❤
The confusion! I feel ya. That's an understatement. This woman has taken God's word and just laid it out plainly; there's NO confusion in this.
Narc husband fights with EVERY word that comes from my mouth. Originates from his abusive mother ... he's determined I'm going to pay the bill!!!! LOL So i got up 10 days ago and thought ... right, let's see what comes from your mouth, what originates from you?...... nothing, absolutely not one word in 10 days. It's so peaceful and I've so much more energy. Only God's love is infinite.... human love IS exhaustible imho. May God protect and bless us all. Thanks for the video. x
Just my opinion, but my experience in loving narcs just makes them worse, more determined to control/manipulate/hurt you, because they perceive love and kindness as weakness, and they prey on what they perceive as weakness. (parent, aunt, x)
I agree! It’s no need to keep praying for them, they have been turned over to a reprobate mind!
@Jeanne griffin The fact that they are receiving love is “proof” to them of how great they are! They see it as what they are entitled to and therefore feel “safe” to let loose the abuse. Such a sick cycle. I needed this info decades ago.
I also finally realized, Jeanne, that my servant spirit toward my narcissist relatives was primarily feeding their narcissistic mis-behaviors. I have been given the opportunity to 90% remove myself from interacting with them since 2 months ago and feel it is a miracle deliverance! ..
The remaining 10% requires someone passing away:(
How about the scripture of not casting pearls before swine? That plays over and over in my mind when I’m dealing with certain people.
Thank you so much for your content! You are a God send!
Yes that is a great scripture for dealing with certain types of people. And thank you for your kind words. God bless you Nick! 🙏🏽
Praise God 🙏for hearing the truth. About a narcissist.
After listening to numerous tapes videos and reading its clear to me you can't be nice to a narcissist..it only fuels their anger and resentment..my son told me when he slammed out the door for the last time after blowing up over nothing and refusing to tell me why.. " Your too nice to me ...you know what you've done.." .unfortunately I believe he really meant.. I made it too hard for him to leave because I fed him well..helped find him a job ..washed his clothes and never asked anything of him..I enabled him....in my ignorance I believed I was helping him..what I was doing was holding him back...for that I'm sorry 😞
I really enjoyed listening to your video,
all the video l hear are about the faults of a Narcissist,
your video was telling us that we can still apply Christian values to a Narcissist not fear, which is not what
Jesus would do!
The therapist told us to get more individual counseling because couples counselling wasn't working. She said we should separate for a week to see if it's still what we want. He won't even get therapy for himself and said if we separate we are done. I'm in therapy for me and it's very hard to be around someone who constantly blames me for everything. I feel so empty and alone and if I tell him how I feel about anything he says this is why I need therapy and he doesn't....
I would advise you to leave the relationship while you still can and continue seeing your therapist for the healing you need. Once you marry this person, it will be more difficult to heal and grow as a healthy individual.
Thank you, ❤️
If he won't go to therapy for himself and said you're already done if you separate then you don't have a relationship to loose any way.
This is how God has been talking to me since the beginning of 2020. Sad, but true for my present "marriage" of 38yrs.
Thank you very much for the confirmation. I'm doing as you say and my life is so much better in many ways!
I’m finding that God gives me the Grace, Wisdom and Strength I need with my narcissistic.
Praise God! Bless you! 🙏🏽😊
12 years of going threw this and sometimes I almost feel defeated ☹️
same. 12.5 years. It's such a rollercoaster. I want to get off.
Thanks be to God for the wisdom God has given you, trying to live with a narcissist whether it's through marriage, looking after an elderly parent it is a living nightmare, your video is a true blessing .
We can't force a narcissist into believing in God, but we can always pray and dont give up as Jesus says to do in the parable of the persistent widow, because nothing is impossible with God.
( Its a living nightmare putting up with narcissists, God bless you sister in Christ for your ministry .)
Thank you. God bless you too James! 🙏🏽🕊
I feel for you because I can relate although I don't live with mine.
I have to keep my distance.
I appreciate you, Shaheen. God's work through you is awesome!
Thank you SO much! Ive been battling these Bible verses and it's been making me feel shame and guilt not loving him the way the Bible describes. I feel that I've failed and if I loved harder then he would see Jesus in me. I also felt that it just enabled him, so it was juat confusing. I have a wonderful counselor but your videos have been a great supplement since I cant carry her around in my pocket. I've been asking myself ALL the questions that are topics of your vidoes. So grateful I came along them!❤
My Narcissist broke every vow he made to me when we married. Heartbreaking!
Yes God can! God can break you and rebuild. Look to him and have faith. Through God all things are possible no matter what you believe. He makes the path he changes the heart he is love he is light he is Faith he is Glory.
The absolute best video/info on dealing with narcissistic behavior from a Biblical perspective. Thank you for your research and for scriptural references used in context! Love your channel! Blessings to you and your viewers.
Thank you so much! God bless you too Cynthia. 🙏🏽💕
Excellent video Shaneen. You hit the nail on the head in describing the dynamics of loving narcissistic people according to 1 Cor 13, even if they profess to be Christians, as if they are actually emotionally, mentally and spiritually healthy people. They aren't, and to love them this way just sets you up for more abuse. I so appreciate this teaching on how Jesus loved the narcissists of His day; He loved them but was not ignorant of their schemes. 'Be as shrewd as snakes but as innocent as doves' Matt 10:16. Thanks so much Shaneen. I'm very appreciative of what God is gifting you to bring to this conversation about narcissism in our day. 😊❤
You're so welcome and thank you for the encouraging words! God bless you Kerrin! 🙏🏽💕
Ditto!
Thank you for your ministry. Validated so much for me in walking away from my narcissistic boyfriend. God Bless you.
I'm so glad the video was helpful. God bless you too Cindy! 🙏🏽💕
What a beautiful soul. I appreciate and thank you for this amazing series. There are so many ‘coaches’ on social media focusing on narcissism at the moment, and yes every one isn’t for everybody.
I just wanted you to know that your ability to incorporate the teachings/stories of the bible with regards NPD is both necessary and enlightening. May you continue to share your blessings with us - because in this world right now - it’s well and truly needed. 🙏🏾😘☮️
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words! God bless you! 🙏🏽😊💕
My father passed away January 21st. While helping my mom with funeral plans, my narcissistic husband was angered I did not seek his advice on the planning . Meanwhile our teen son is struggling with depression and all husband is concerned with is son’s grades and missing track practice. I’ve spent 25 years of marriage walking on eggshells, always apologizing. I am praying for strength and guidance and for god to soften husbands heart so he may hear the wisdom of Jesus. I do not want our marriage to fail. I am trying to convince him to try couples counseling. I believe it stems from his childhood and deep rooted resentment of being the forgotten “middle child”. I keep praying to the Lord that husband opens his heart to Jesus
Thank you for this channel.
The message in this video brings so much healing. Its necessary to watch this numerous times because its so powerful.
Thank you for your brilliant video. Praise God for giving you such wonderful insight! 🕊
Love this ! Makes things crystal clear and it's fascinating to see the narc traits in so many of our political leaders and others in power positions in society today.
Love needs to be equipped with prayer
Thank you for this...this affirms my decision which I've been contemplating on for a month. May the Good Lord grant me wisdom, guidance and strength! 🙏💖
I'm so glad to hear that! I agree with you in your prayer--May the Lord grant you much wisdom, guidance and strength in Jesus' name. 🙏🏽😊🕊
So good Shaneen
Thank you
You're welcome!
This has to be one of the best videos on narcissism I have seen. I just wish I would have known this years ago. Praise God the Holy Spirit and you have been teaching me and my life is different now. I have chosen to stay married but that’s because I have been standing up to him and drawing boundaries. We’re both still learning but my hope is that we would help other marriages make it for His glory!
4:09 “it’s important to look at how God dealt with different types of people throughout scripture”
I never heard that before, but I know you’re EXACTLY right!
This was a terrific video. I came to your channel, never saw it before, and I love how biblically based your video's are, while still dealing with the issues at hand. I've been struggling for the next step in my healing journey with several narcissistic people; and your channel is giving me some of the tools I need for this. Other channels took me so far but there were missing links. Your Soul ties video, your forgiveness and cleaing up your heart to honor parents was also helpful and the idea of knowing your threshold of time limitation that you can remain calm, and not be pulled into toxic dynamics. This video does completely goes against what you said in your reframing video; but, at times there is just no way to reframe things in a way the narcissist will accept.
Thank you for sharing your opinion! Very well prsented! Totally agree wiith you. Forgive & love them from the distance! We do not know how dangerous they are!💕
2 Timothy 3:2-5 describes the character of a narcissist and verse 5 says we are to turn away from such people. The way I read 1 Corinthians 13 is that it's describing what the character of a believer should be. Part of the believer's character is that we trust but the verse doesn't say specifically that we are to trust people especially if they are ungodly. Rather, we are to trust God which means not to desire or seek revenge when we are wronged but to trust that God will bring about what's in the best interests for all parties. It's tempting to want revenge on a narcissist but that is a flesh driven desire. To remain loving means that we let go of that instinct and trust that God will use the situation for good (for us as well as the narcissist). In the meantime we distance ourselves from the narcissist but continue to pray for their genuine repentance and to be delivered from the influence of the evil one.
God bless you! This is incredibly helpful as I struggle with guilt from removing myself from a narcissistic parent.
I'm so glad it was helpful! God bless you Tenell. 🙏🏽💕
Married to one for 30 years. Thought I was going insane with the gaslighting, arrogance lies and deceit. And this man and his whole family were “Christians”?? Oh my word. My ex narcissist wouldn’t even get baptized yet he told me he was supposed to lead me to Christ when I had given my life to Christ 45 years ago. What a horrid waste of half my life hoping and praying things would get better.
The first narc was Yahweh. Not Jesus father. So many Christians are narcs. U must pray from a far. For our enemies. Forgive yahweh
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. 😔 I pray your next 30 would be far brighter than your last 30 years in Jesus' name. 🙏🏽💕🕊
@@calmcalm6203 - many “Christians” are Christian as opposed to being Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu, etc; their definition is parallel to “American”.
If you study what the Bible describes as sin, and a person who lives a lifestyle that the Bible describes as sin says that they are a Christian, walk away - that first lie will lead to many more. Don’t take their bait.
Me to
Will be divorced on the 7th March all the prayers could not stop 🙏it hope God can touch her heart in his own way and she returns to him as well.
The first narc was Yahweh. Not Jesus father. So many Christians are narcs. U must pray from a far. For our enemies. Forgive yahweh
Shaneen. Thank you so much for these videos. Such great content! And, you obviously the wisdom of someone who has been through it, as well as a great gift for integrating psychology, common sense, and spiritual/biblical wisdom. I thought that my love could heal my narcissistic husband. I thought I was taking the high road by not lashing back in anger at his abuse, and going the extra mile for him. I see that I let myself down by not having good boundaries and expressing my feelings. I think if I had done so, it would have ended things even sooner. I wish I had had your videos back then (nine years ago). It would’ve helped with a lot of my confusion. Keep up the good work. There are a lot of people who need this, especially within Christendom. We Christians can unwittingly fall into “spiritual bypassing“ false/premature forgiveness, and pathological altruism…. Thank you for your clarity. 🌞🤩❤️🤗👍
Thank you for this teaching Ms Megji. While it was necessary for me to discard my N and with considerable relief, I've had no contact for some 6- 7 weeks now. However I am full of compassion and sorrow for her on account of the traumatic early childhood absence of love which I have pretty much identified and which resulted in this beautiful person being cursed with these demons and this regrettable condition. David's reaction to Shimei's cursing and betrayal was to let him alone because this was the will of God. It was the will of God also for us two to have been connected and also for her to be discarded which apparently hurt her. Humans can withstand almost anything and so my prayer is along the lines that you say namely that the shock of the discard would give rise to self reflection and healing to head off an otherwise grim future. She has to come to the end of herself. Meanwhile I love her intensely but... NO CONTACT. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Your teachings are most helpful. Every blessing to you in your ministry Ms Megji.
Thank you so much Andrew! I love what you shared, "Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind." So well said. God bless you! 🙏🏽🕊
Ms. Megji. Lately I was intensely annoyed, outraged in fact, at your repeated inclusion of clips of homosexual couples in your videos. You are an authentic Christian no doubt but if you have control of your own videos, does it glorify God by including those cameos? I think not. Please review your policy on this as it is 1) wrong in the eyes of God and 2) your ministry seems to be stuck at around 20,000 subscribers and not being blessed with the thousands more you otherwise deserve. Fact is you are the only Christian with this expertise on TH-cam and YOU ARE GOOD... but... you've got to sort this out Ms. Megji. Meanwhile I'm going to give you another chance and SUBSCRIBE again. If I come accross these homosexual inserts in your new releases, I'm going to give you over to the fate of somebody who condones these shameful vile passions. What a pity because you have so much to give. In Jesus name.
Andrew Boyd - Ireland
Thank you for this video ,it is a confirmation that I'm on the right track concerning my close relative that I refuse to give up on .💜🕊
I'm so glad the video was helpful Kate. God bless you! 🙏🏽💕
Another beautiful full of wisdom message 💘 it gives me so much joy to see your channel growing. May God continue to shine favor on your life. Thank you for all the life changing messages you share. God bless you abundantly.
Thank you so much miztruth! 😊💕. I appreciate you! hope that you are doing well. 🙏🏽😊
@@ShaneenMegji more than well thank you.. God is good been going 4 months with no contact now. I feel like a different woman. I've been Praying, fasting, forgiving, releasing, and feeding myself knowledge through your channel on days I felt weak. I thank the Lord for putting you in my path. I hope you're doing well also. 💗
Excellent! I love how you explain that 1 Cor 13 is what love is, and how we use love when operating the gifts of the Spirit in love, it is not the only passage about love! That is very freeing!
I'm so glad it was freeing. God bless you! 🙏🏽🕊
I watched this after tge one where you recommended it. I think thst one was about if you must ( or are called to) stay in SOME sort of contact with the narcissist.
This was so spiritually heavy (and RICH) for me that I am going to eat, TAKE A NAP and get up REFRESHED by the Holy Spirit to do the work that I need to - am CALLED to.
Thank you Shaneen for being a conduit for delivering the wisdom that comes from above!
6:20 Matthew 15:8 ♥️
I really needed to hear it today. Thank you so much.
I love, love, love, love, LOVE ur videos. So, calm, rational, and reasonable. Some other channels seem like they are bitter and angry. Teaching that God has written all narcs off. I know that's not true. As long as people are alive there is hope especially if they want to be free.
Thank you for these words! I can see Christ in you! Bless you ❤️
Aw...thank you! God bless you too! 🙏🏽😊
Thank you so much for this video , it all makes complete sense to me. Wish I had known these things years ago , could have saved myself a ton of trauma ..God bless you and thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you so much for your work. This is so eye and heart opening. So healing. God Bless You
super teaching i am living with a toxic hardhearted narcist man named my husband never loved me but hurt me mentaly physicaly spiritualy. ur speech gave me ideas.
Thank you. They just use your love against you as a weapon.
Thank you for this!
You’re so welcome! God bless! 🙏🏽
Very well said sister!!! Thank you!
Phenomenal! I have been struggling with a narcissistic parent. This message was spot on!
I'm so glad it was helpful! God bless you Thomas. 🙏🏽😊
Rarely do the die soon enough nor can they do anything other than become WORSE...
This is so good!!
This is so well done. So much wisdom. Precious teaching, Shaneen. Thanks so much!
Thank you so much for your insight and revelation knowledge. Your videos have helped me tremendously.
your videos are so precious to me
Thank uou so much
I am so grateful for these videos. Thank you and God bless you.
I cannot thank you enough. I feel like this video has set me free❤❤
It took a very long time to learn this lesson, and thank you for the in-depth the video about it.
You're so welcome! God bless you Eric. 🙏🏽
I was really blessed by this
God bless you sis
Thank you
I feel like my questions & prayers are finally being answered by your videos. Thank you for making them.
Your video is excellent 🙏🙏. Helping me navigate my nac relationship
I'm so glad to hear that. God bless you Asare! 🙏🏽💕
I have hope. Thank you
I’m so glad! God bless you. 🙏🏽
My biggest take home point: I CAN'T CHANGE HIM!!!
This is clarifying
10:10, or so: they need a head-on confrontation… is that why the Bible has something like 366 verses that say “do not be afraid”?
It takes courage for that confrontation.
It takes strength to respond calmly - or not respond.
It takes wisdom to say the right thing in the right way.
May God give me courage, strength, and wisdom, mixed with patience, compassion, and grace as I prepare to institute boundaries for the situation that I face currently. All prayers appreciated!
I’m curious if God tells anyone something specific for which He says to pray…
Agreeing with you for courage, strength, wisdom, patience, compassion, grace and much more in Jesus' name. God bless you! 🙏🏽😊🕊
@@ShaneenMegji thanks much!
I have an imminent conflict of a situation that began with me attempting to overcome evil with good, and I realized how easily the person twisted my intentions to what suits her, if I don’t say what I should, in the right way.
So good Shaneen. Thank you!
You're so welcome! God bless you Llona. 🙏🏽💕
Thank you dear Shaneen! This video clarified my doubts on this topic 🌹
I'm so glad the video was helpful. God bless you Mini! 🙏🏽💕
I decided to watch and learn about my ex but instead i learned that i may be one ! Im not sure but ive been ugly and it stops now. Thanks for your show - I dont have to stay one because GOD with transform me.
Amen. 🙏🏽 God bless you Elizabeth! 🙏🏽💕
Thank you Shaneen!👍🏻😊❤️🌹🙏🏻
You’re so welcome! God bless! 🙏🏽😊
AMEN SISTER!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌❣️
❤️😊🤗🙏🏽
My husband has PTSD and has been in a PTSD episode for 16 months now. He's very Narcissistic right now. Everything is my fault, he doesn't want to be married to me anymore, he's lied to me a lot, totally not who he typically is. It's very sad, but I know God is going to heal him soon through the holy spirit.
Sending a big hug. May the Lord fill your spirit with so much strength. May you recognize the value God has in you as well.
Prayers to help and do not give up. Also abuse,trauma and injuries can be open door for demons to attack while he is weak.
th-cam.com/play/PLPNQdAefzkSNenmX0clUUdyZEr7m2AYte.html
I agree with you for God's healing for your husband. 🙏🏽💕🕊 May the God of all comfort comfort you, and fill you with His peace in Jesus' name. 🙏🏽🕊🌺
A verse God gave me in a similar situation I faced was “overcome evil with good”.
Another was “the light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it.”
Think about how a candle doesn’t do much to help during daylight, but how powerful it is in a pitch dark night.
May God bless you with wisdom, patience, and creativity in being the wife your husband needs. 🕯
Very eye opening×!!!!
I’m so glad! Bless you. 🙏🏽😊
Thank you! Your videos are so helpful. 🙏🏼
I’m so glad! God bless you Lisa. 🙏🏽💕
thete are so many women that are lie to everyday all there life by there husband and it's all ok with them why becaues of money they dont care at all as long as they get that money now that's a fact folk that's truth of life
are goverment lie about everything and schools lie about history and churches lie about gods holy bible and none of it is right and no one going to fix it ever
what's my point what I just said the truth is my point women house what they want ok and so does men ok and it's up to them to fix it if they want ok
now if your mothers is a lieyer do you stop being with her or stop lovering her hell no ok or your father or brother
If my narcissists sees me reading my Bible or praying or listening to sermons it totally sets him off. He wears a cross, he values his little statue of the Divino Nino.
He does not believe in eternal life. He says when we die we die. His mother follows some Indian guru and doesn't believe in eternal life. I am seeing damage and confusion to my husband that I thought the father was the narc but maybe I'm wrong and it his mom.
Ding!
Teaching to help.
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Thank you so much for the video and the information is amazing I didn't understand that the Pharisees and Sadducees were narcissist but it makes perfect sense. I have a question do you know how that Spirit of narcissist works with poverty??
The first narc was Yahweh. Not Jesus father. So many Christians are narcs. U must pray from a far. For our enemies. Forgive yahweh
Excellent way 1 Corinthians 13 is illustrated in view of the narcissist.
Excellent video because Christianity that is misunderstood traps a person in narcissistic abuse….wives submit to your husbands, children obey your parents, honor your father and your mother. The church as a whole needs to recognize cluster B abusers and kick them out of the church congregations while carefully supporting those in marriage bondage. It would help if Jesus law of love was taught instead of their laws of false marriages and religious works were exposed.
Yes preach it! 🙏🏽👌🏼💯
People like that can ruin a Christian soul, run! Pray GOD deal in a way that won’t hurt you and the kids,
Thank you
Thank you so much!!!
You’re so welcome! God bless you Jason. 🙏🏽😊
Shaneen it’s been two months since I had divorce my husband . As I was in a toxic relationship and found out that my ex had narcissistic personality. Though I’m out of that but I find myself watching videos related to this Topic. I wonder why ?
Should I still be watching? I’m asking God to help me . Can you give your input on this please .
life was not meet to be easy but with gods bible word one can live and be with are true fath am I love what you do jc
Another great message
🙌Thank you 🙌
You're so welcome 😊
Loving or trying to love a narc is trowing your pearls for swines..They indeed become full nlown narcs when they discover your generous love, kindness, care..and patience with their evil temper tantrums or their silent treatments which you forgive over and over..Not only romantic relations..I had women friends who appeared to be horrible scary narcs..In the beginning i thought their air od pride and haugthiness was a way to protect them selfs due to their childhood trauma's.. But the more i cared the more arrogance and pride came to the surface..And some of them where chfistians whom i met after converting to christianty. One of them was even born into a christian family and an elder in the church....My friendship opened my eyes that narcism stands in the way of diliverance ..and not the other way around..Satans is not seeking for diliverance..but worship and power over people aspecially Gods people..Satans felt he was entiteled to be worshipped..Narcs are full of anger about what has happened to them because they believe that are only worthy and deserving of worship snd service..while we are here to serve them and be abused ..mocked.. laught at..tossed away when it pleases them..Diva and pharoah behaviour..they see them selves as gods..trust me the only love you can give a narc..by asking gods mercy on their soul..and stay away from them and save your sound mind and heart before it is destroyed as you start to doubt your worth and mind..
My ex almost succeeded in making me believe that i did not not how to love, no matter what i tried..Once , while we where dating, he called me up completly upset ..it was around eight in the evening..Whe talked for a while and i comforted him and suggested he might go and visit his friend and neighbour.
But he started to scream telling at me for being an evil being ..I lived two and half hours away from him..I would have to take the train and bus risking i would strand on a station because it was the last train that evening..
Long story short..i went..it was cold rainy and stormy weather..the station is known for its many drugaddicts late at night..I was lucky to catch the last bus to his house and as i rang his bell he left me standing outside..after a long time he opened the door and with a big nasty smurck on his face he turned around a went to bed leaving me standing in the l hallway of his appartement. Wenn i asked him why he was doing this..he screamed..pulled my arm and pushed me to the door to trow me outside...I told him i would call the police if he would dare to leave outside..He pulled into the house and went to bed..i stayed up waiting for the first train back home... After we broke up he later text me in an sms that only god and the stars would know how much he loved me..😂.This was just one of a long, long list off horrible attitudes he manifested...Once a was paying tribute to the father of a friend who had diied..he called me up in the middle of the service..and in rage after the service .. i left the dinner after the burial and took the train to him..guess what he opened the door gave me the key because he was having a drink at his neighbours house ..more than 2 hours later he came looking at je with that smurck again..it would be the last time he would smurck...The fact that he could not allow me to say goodby to a human who had passed on made me realize that if he could even feel envy towards a dead person, i was dealing with a more than scary being
The problem with a spiritual narcissist is that they will use a video like this one to defend why they are attacking YOU, making you believe that you are the one that needs confrontation and doesn’t deserve to be treated like mentioned in 1 Corinthians 13.
It can be extremely difficult to discern what is actually going on, if you have been gaslighted by a narcissist for years.
Sheneen, you confirm what I have tried to explain to friends who are in these kind of relationships - you think you are ‘loving’ someone, but you are actually bowing down to an idol.
I am married to one, going on 13 years. Criminal and so much more. He is reaping his actions with sickness etc now