TESSA, I DIDN'T KNOW THIS FACIAL RECOGNITION THING WAS A THING. I can't tell the difference between Patrick Dempsey and James Marsden. I reintroduce myself to people ALL the time. It's so embarrassing for work. GOOGLING THIS SHIT NOW.
musicalbethan I've always s known I had a problem with faces. Nowadays I'm scared to go to business meetings because I will introduce myself again or I'll not introduce myself thinking they already know me! It's horrible. And when it's over I'll try to remember I'm my mind what that person looked like and I truly can't... I hate this
Okay I have been saying that I think I have partial facial blindness for YEARS. I relate so much to everything you talked about, especially the panic of meeting someone (for possibly the 5th time) and not being able to place how you know them. Also, I recently watched The Departed for the first time and could not FOR THE LIFE OF ME understand what was going on until someone told me that Matt Damon and Leonardo DiCaprio were not the same character. Even then, I had a hard time figuring out who was who anytime they changed clothing. I've never heard anyone else talk about this, so thank you! 💜
I just read a book that had a character with facial blindness!! it's Holding Up the Universe by Jennifer Niven. it was the first time I ever heard of prosopagnosia, and it was super interesting to read part of the book from that perspective!
YES I LOVE THAT BOOK and yeah, it was really interesting! i'm really glad i read the book because otherwise i'd be completely oblivious prosopagnosia is a thing
HOLY CRAP YASSSS. that's how I learned about it too! I was literally obsessed with that book that I even wrote my research paper about prosopagnosia. lol
I admire your honesty so much, it comes from such a raw place and doesn't ever feel like you're saying it for attention, and I just love that about you and your videos.
i watched this while getting ready myself and it was the most pleasant thing ever. i also laughed a lot, despite usually being grumpy in the morning! so thank you
I love these types of videos because it just feels like I'm sitting in the room with you and we're having a legit conversation and we're friends and it makes me so happy.
I don't know why but the story of the facial blindness reminded me of the movie "Memento" (I know facial blindness and short-term memory loss is not the same but it kind of is in a way) so I was picturing you taking polaroids of everyone you've met and writing who they are and where you met them in the back, rude I know... I'm loving these series of videos =) Great content Tessa!
Thank you so much for making a video about this. I am partially face blind too and it's really great to hear someone else who understands talking about it.
That was a really nice thought at 4:10 ish, about recognizing that your facial blindness makes people feel forgotten and people don't like to feel forgotten. At least you are consciousness about it.
I seriously could listen to you chat about stuff like this all day long. I had quite the laugh listening to you talk about the movie The Departed. Good movie, sad story.
The same thing happened to me when I was reading Will Grayson, Will Grayson and it took me half the book to realise that they were seperate plot lines 😂
Damien Buckland Thank God I'm not the only one! I had to read the book twice I was so confused. I was like, are his parents divorced or are they not divorced? Is he lying to all of his friends?
i dont like being forgotten but i also understand people have shitty memories so thats why i try to get them to remember instead of getting mad at them
I have really bad social anxiety, so meeting new people is very very stressful and I spend most of the time trying not to look like a creepO so I just always forget people because of stress and and always reintroducing myself to people over and over. So I feel ya on that.
I relate so much to how you described your partial face blindness. I definitely have some form of face blindness, most of my problem is that I can't picture someone's face in my head in between seeing them, even my family. I recognise people I know well when I do see them but for most people I know, I don't recognise them straight away, it takes me a second and I question it all the time. I also see similarities in people's faces too easily, I will see five people in one day who I think look like another single person I know and I think that comes from not processing faces fully and only processing the general, vague appearance of someone's face. It's really difficult to explain and it is also really frustrating and scary because I'm always worried I won't recognise people when I'm waiting to meet them. I'm sure I walk past so many people each week who know me in college and work but I don't recognise in that second I looked up so they think I ignore them, I worry constantly that the blonde woman I walked past was actually the blonde woman I do know in college. I'm also feeling like I need some sort of diagnosis or medical agreement from someone that this is a real thing because I don't do well without validation on anything... this is a real problem for me, even if it is not like the severe cases of face blindness. I've known about it for a long time and related instantly. I also can't recreate people's voices in my head unless I can remember a sentence word for word that they said within the last couple of hours maybe, that is really frustrating because I can't even recreate my family's voices when I think about them. I wonder it is all linked together? Does anyone else experience this? Either alone or with some form of facial blindness?
I laughted soooooo much! And thank you for this amazing/crazy non-tutorial about dying your hair pink, I mean, you are way better than me at this, so you can imagine my bathroom at the end of the "pink session" ! I cannot believe i never saw your videos before, you are a gem! Have a lovely day!
Tessa I've been watching you for like 4+ years and ur def one of the most likeable people I know of :)) I think it's so silly u think ur not!! (I'm the same way tho so))
Omg Tessa! I met you last May (I sold your merch in Pittsburgh on your Transatlantic Tour) and then I went to your Cleveland show in October AND YOU RECOGNIZED ME! It seriously made my year!! I look up to you so much and they were both fantastic shows!!
You're a grower Tessa. When I first watched your videos I didn't dislike them but I wasn't immediately 'in love' like I am with most youtubers, and I think that's really good. You're a 'grower' because you're a complex person, and I appreciate you putting your complexity on the web
there's this really great book by Oliver Sacks called "The Man Who Mistook His Wife For A Hat" about neuroscience cases like prosopagnosia!!! It's pretty interesting!!
I also got that facial blindness problem and it sucks. I think there is nothing hurting more than feeling not important enough to be rememberd and I constantly give that feeling to everyone. (sorry if my english sucks I'm not a native speaker)
Tessa, I am catching up on lots of videos, and I remember you mentioning this before, but I want to say: I feel extra special knowing you remembered me when I came to your concert last Mother's Day on Pittsburgh. Hope you are having the best year. xo
Oh my goodness, Tessa! I definitely don't mean to feel better knowing that other people have difficult times remembering faces, but it makes me feel less alone. I don't think I have facial blindness, but I kept getting anxious thinking about not remembering the face of this girl I volunteer with every week. Whenever I see her around campus I don't want to dismiss her, but I have a difficult time remembering faces, especially when I meet them only once. I've been thinking about this all week because I was trying to figure out how to remember her face so that when I see her I say hi to her instead of writing her off as just a stranger. Definitely, doesn't happen all the time, but on occasion, it happens, and I feel just better knowing that I'm not the only one feeling like this
Hearing you talk about facial blindness actually made me feel loads better (and who doesn't like feeling better and validated?!). We met at SitC and I felt like we had a pretty wonderful conversation and then we met again later on and it was like strangers! Haha. But to be fair my hair was styled totally differently. You're absolutely right, it feels wonderful to be remembered. I wouldn't let this stop you, though! And being honest about it helps a lot I think. Like I struggle with names, and as soon as I tell people this, the unspoken tension breaks. Anywayyy Just wanted to pop in and say hi! Kim xo (The crochet flower crown craft fair lady at Sitc 2016)
Things I would say: ~ "Take 'I am not good with faces.' And square it. Yeah." ~ "It's like facial recognition dyslexia. Literally. And when *I* say, 'literally' I mean, 'literally'." ~ "Don't take it personally. It can't be personal because I do not recognise the countenance part of your '*person*'." ~ "Hey! The cool thing is that you can make a new first impression every time we bump into each other! Yeah? Cool!" ~ "But it's cool, because, man - if you commit a crime and I'm the only witness, I'm no good. Couldn't pick you out of a lineup or anything. So, you wouldn't have to kill me! See? See? See how that works? Nicccce."
Damn. I just started watching your videos and you are just adorable, and honest and have a beautiful personality. Like I'm 23 and technically an adult but I want to be you when I grow up.
I relate to the facial blindness SO much. I always thought that I was just bad at remembering people's names, but when you look up techniques for remembering names, it's often to relate the name to a facial feature (big eyes etc.). I realized that I just don't record the facial features of someone when meeting them for the first time/a short while. I don't know how many times I have had to look someone up on facebook before meeting them so that I have an image to compare with when trying to find someone in a crowd, and I have so many strategies for pretending like I remember people and keeping a conversation. As you said I'm scared of coming off as cold for not remembering people, but it's either never introducing myself anyone or ending up reintroducing myself a bunch! 😳
You and Dodie both vlogging every day is like a dreaam, you really put me at ease and it's just the nicest friendliest chat every night.
Fiona Blackmoore so true.
couldn't agree more!
Fiona Blackmoore yess they're both so lovely
Fiona Blackmoore oh my god, right!!!
yes!
TESSA, I DIDN'T KNOW THIS FACIAL RECOGNITION THING WAS A THING.
I can't tell the difference between Patrick Dempsey and James Marsden.
I reintroduce myself to people ALL the time. It's so embarrassing for work. GOOGLING THIS SHIT NOW.
+musicalbethan welcome
This sounds a lot like prosopagnosia.
musicalbethan I've always s known I had a problem with faces. Nowadays I'm scared to go to business meetings because I will introduce myself again or I'll not introduce myself thinking they already know me! It's horrible. And when it's over I'll try to remember I'm my mind what that person looked like and I truly can't... I hate this
We need a whole video of Tessa talking like "Juhn Sno".
Okay I have been saying that I think I have partial facial blindness for YEARS. I relate so much to everything you talked about, especially the panic of meeting someone (for possibly the 5th time) and not being able to place how you know them. Also, I recently watched The Departed for the first time and could not FOR THE LIFE OF ME understand what was going on until someone told me that Matt Damon and Leonardo DiCaprio were not the same character. Even then, I had a hard time figuring out who was who anytime they changed clothing. I've never heard anyone else talk about this, so thank you! 💜
+MissFenderr welcome to the club!
living for ur hair, luv
Hey
Yes
Holy crap, that hair flip was cool. Either you're a wizard, or you're a master editor. I'm guessing wizard.
(really wanted to say "all white people look the same" which is not a thing I believe but it is, in fact, a funny thing to think)
+Smoothiefreak hahaha my life tho
I am LIVING for you and Dodie both doing VEDIF it's so calming and wholesome and lovely to watch xxx
Same!!
Tessa, please make a video about songwriting.
i see u comment this on all of her vids #dedication
annieinjuly im learning song writing rn and I'd appreciate some tips too 🤘🏼
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I just read a book that had a character with facial blindness!! it's Holding Up the Universe by Jennifer Niven. it was the first time I ever heard of prosopagnosia, and it was super interesting to read part of the book from that perspective!
interesting!!
YES I LOVE THAT BOOK
and yeah, it was really interesting! i'm really glad i read the book because otherwise i'd be completely oblivious prosopagnosia is a thing
I was just going to comment about that, Tessa you should totally read it!! Such a good book 💕
HOLY CRAP YASSSS. that's how I learned about it too! I was literally obsessed with that book that I even wrote my research paper about prosopagnosia. lol
AccioMaggie i just purchased this book and did not know that's what it's about! wow!
Tessa: (hair flip, eyebrows done) ✨
Me: HOW DID SHE DO THAT?! 😍
i rewatched this portion like 10 times trying to spot the jump cut like wtf so good
I love this so much & miss you so much.
Haha oh man, I hope I didn't sound as heartless IRL as I did when you just quoted me. I meant it tenderly! with love! :P
N O. You are not heartless and I did not take it that way! (sorry if it sounded like that).
just opened the video and the first thing i noticed was "aaccents" at 0:01
i'm so proud of you tessa
I admire your honesty so much, it comes from such a raw place and doesn't ever feel like you're saying it for attention, and I just love that about you and your videos.
i watched this while getting ready myself and it was the most pleasant thing ever. i also laughed a lot, despite usually being grumpy in the morning! so thank you
I love these types of videos because it just feels like I'm sitting in the room with you and we're having a legit conversation and we're friends and it makes me so happy.
i found you through dodie and only watched a few of your videos so far, but i'm in love and will definitely stay :)
I don't know why but the story of the facial blindness reminded me of the movie "Memento" (I know facial blindness and short-term memory loss is not the same but it kind of is in a way) so I was picturing you taking polaroids of everyone you've met and writing who they are and where you met them in the back, rude I know...
I'm loving these series of videos =) Great content Tessa!
tessa! you're beautiful! I love your music! I hope you're having a great day!
erin this photo is my Instagram profile photo and I keep getting confused when people have this profile picture
Imagine how it is for Dodie.
Becky S is my exact picture your profile picture? because I made it lol
Bacchus Leto true lol
erin it's basically the same thing tbf
I absolutely love this daily vids. I learn new things everyday. It maybe hard trying to keep it up but I really appreciate them and love them. ^^
I am a huge lover of makeup and a huge fan of yours so these are my favorite videos. Please don't stop making them!
Thank you so much for making a video about this. I am partially face blind too and it's really great to hear someone else who understands talking about it.
that transition is so freaking smooth!! (you guys know which part i'm talking!!)
I love watching these while I do my makeup in the morning
you are always so honest and great and I love you tessa freaking violet !
before i've even watched this i want to say, THE THUMBNAIL IS SO PRETTY
I feel you on the face blindness, I've had so many conversations with people and had no idea who they were the whole time
That was a really nice thought at 4:10 ish, about recognizing that your facial blindness makes people feel forgotten and people don't like to feel forgotten. At least you are consciousness about it.
loooove these videos! it's weird how you having a little chat while getting ready can seem more personal and authentic in a way, idek but i like it xx
Saw you in Manchester last night! I had to hold back tears when you introduced make me a robot. Thank you Tessa. Stay great.
you're voice is just so relaxing to listen to
your skin is so beautiful
i felt like like i was with you
come back 2 me my angel of music
+Autumn Andersen ANGEL OF MUSIC, SPEAK. I LISTEN
I love these videos so much and I love the format!!
that brow pencil deserves BROWnie points
good one
Tessa Violet your freckles are beautiful
Please please please Tessa could you make a video showing us how you make your curls all the time?? I love them
I seriously could listen to you chat about stuff like this all day long. I had quite the laugh listening to you talk about the movie The Departed. Good movie, sad story.
I am such a fan of these videos. And I admire anyone willing to put makeup on while on camera 💪🏼
I'm really enjoying these videos in February, Tessa! :) (not that I don't enjoy every other video!) :) Have a lovely day! x
tessa is GORGEOUS
ok but, to be fair, Leo and Matt looked kinda similar hahah
It's all goooood
haha thank
The same thing happened to me when I was reading Will Grayson, Will Grayson and it took me half the book to realise that they were seperate plot lines 😂
Damien Buckland Thank God I'm not the only one! I had to read the book twice I was so confused. I was like, are his parents divorced or are they not divorced? Is he lying to all of his friends?
Emily White I feel like John should have included a PSA before the book started hahaha
First time I watched it I 100% thought they were the same character too, lol
okay but did you end up going to the party i need to know
I DID
Well done
Oded Gvaram hi your'e from my country B-)
Great to see you over in London. I'm loving the Halloway CD (signed no less) Where was the party? Have a great time over here.
Your videos make me feel I am chatting with you over coffee at the kitchen table. Very relaxing.
aaauch that end screen. Yes more compassion seems a good idea. Also super interested in any further thinking on hooded eyes and eyeliner. Same ish.
i dont like being forgotten but i also understand people have shitty memories so thats why i try to get them to remember instead of getting mad at them
your hair flip transitions are my favorite oh my goodness
Eyebrow filling hair flip was so seamless I gasped. I'm people, I love you, Tessa.
but can we talk about how smooth that hair flip transition was?? SO GOOD!
your outro is my aesthetic
I have really bad social anxiety, so meeting new people is very very stressful and I spend most of the time trying not to look like a creepO so I just always forget people because of stress and and always reintroducing myself to people over and over. So I feel ya on that.
I am OBSESSED with your outro!
I really love these 'get ready chat' videos
I relate so much to how you described your partial face blindness. I definitely have some form of face blindness, most of my problem is that I can't picture someone's face in my head in between seeing them, even my family. I recognise people I know well when I do see them but for most people I know, I don't recognise them straight away, it takes me a second and I question it all the time. I also see similarities in people's faces too easily, I will see five people in one day who I think look like another single person I know and I think that comes from not processing faces fully and only processing the general, vague appearance of someone's face. It's really difficult to explain and it is also really frustrating and scary because I'm always worried I won't recognise people when I'm waiting to meet them. I'm sure I walk past so many people each week who know me in college and work but I don't recognise in that second I looked up so they think I ignore them, I worry constantly that the blonde woman I walked past was actually the blonde woman I do know in college. I'm also feeling like I need some sort of diagnosis or medical agreement from someone that this is a real thing because I don't do well without validation on anything... this is a real problem for me, even if it is not like the severe cases of face blindness. I've known about it for a long time and related instantly. I also can't recreate people's voices in my head unless I can remember a sentence word for word that they said within the last couple of hours maybe, that is really frustrating because I can't even recreate my family's voices when I think about them. I wonder it is all linked together? Does anyone else experience this? Either alone or with some form of facial blindness?
Your outro is the best thing I have ever ever ever seen and it makes me insanely happy. Lots of love from Germany :)
Love the video! Really enjoying these videos so far can't wait for the next one!
I laughted soooooo much!
And thank you for this amazing/crazy non-tutorial about dying your hair pink, I mean, you are way better than me at this, so you can imagine my bathroom at the end of the "pink session" ! I cannot believe i never saw your videos before, you are a gem!
Have a lovely day!
Tessa I've been watching you for like 4+ years and ur def one of the most likeable people I know of :)) I think it's so silly u think ur not!! (I'm the same way tho so))
Had the exact same experience with the departed, and I relate to the reintroduction thing too.
OMG you should check out the movie Faces in the Crowd! It's like, a thriller about a woman losing her ability to recognize faces.
Omg Tessa! I met you last May (I sold your merch in Pittsburgh on your Transatlantic Tour) and then I went to your Cleveland show in October AND YOU RECOGNIZED ME! It seriously made my year!! I look up to you so much and they were both fantastic shows!!
Hey tessa, has anyone ever told you how relaxing the "woof" and music at the end of your videos is? I just realised how relaxed it makes me
i appreciate your existence so dearly
your top is so cute!! do you remember where you got it??
Ahhh the end screen has been UPDATED yasss I am living for these AESTHETICS
I can't get over the "John Snoeh" at the end
I love the way you act and talk, it's so relaxing, I'd love to have a friend like you 😍
You're a grower Tessa. When I first watched your videos I didn't dislike them but I wasn't immediately 'in love' like I am with most youtubers, and I think that's really good. You're a 'grower' because you're a complex person, and I appreciate you putting your complexity on the web
honestly, tessa is too good for this world, protect her. we are so similar, i wish we could be friends
Watching you put the bronzer on killed me it took forever to even get some color and you were working so hard at it lol
This was wonderful ! It felt like we had a warm & nice chat. Thanks Xx
that facial blindness thing is really strange, I've actually never heard of it. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you
sketcheton the technical name is prosopagnosia, if you're curious :)
Mollie Lee thank you!! Might do some research on it, it's really interesting!
I think I know someone with it because she said she has trouble reading people's expressions but I'm not sure if that's the same thing
there's this really great book by Oliver Sacks called "The Man Who Mistook His Wife For A Hat" about neuroscience cases like prosopagnosia!!! It's pretty interesting!!
it is so good i have it and also all of his books are wonderful
Honestly i love your hair so much! i would love to see how you style it? D:
I also got that facial blindness problem and it sucks. I think there is nothing hurting more than feeling not important enough to be rememberd and I constantly give that feeling to everyone. (sorry if my english sucks I'm not a native speaker)
love your face and every mannerism! you're as smart as you are kind and just as easy on the eyes!
that hair flip transition was so smooth
TESSA.
Tessa, I am catching up on lots of videos, and I remember you mentioning this before, but I want to say: I feel extra special knowing you remembered me when I came to your concert last Mother's Day on Pittsburgh. Hope you are having the best year. xo
can you show a video where you do your eyeliner in depth? I also have super hooded eyes and other eyeliner tutorials just don't seem to work
Can anyone tell me what is that brush she uses to blend out her concealeeeerrrrrr? Pleaseeeeee?
I love your videos and music😍❤
Oh my goodness, Tessa! I definitely don't mean to feel better knowing that other people have difficult times remembering faces, but it makes me feel less alone. I don't think I have facial blindness, but I kept getting anxious thinking about not remembering the face of this girl I volunteer with every week. Whenever I see her around campus I don't want to dismiss her, but I have a difficult time remembering faces, especially when I meet them only once. I've been thinking about this all week because I was trying to figure out how to remember her face so that when I see her I say hi to her instead of writing her off as just a stranger. Definitely, doesn't happen all the time, but on occasion, it happens, and I feel just better knowing that I'm not the only one feeling like this
I loved your show yesterday sm I met you twice w my friend and you referred to you as 'the drawing girls' haha you were so nice thank you tessa
THAT HAIR FLIP WAS SO SMOOTH
Hearing you talk about facial blindness actually made me feel loads better (and who doesn't like feeling better and validated?!). We met at SitC and I felt like we had a pretty wonderful conversation and then we met again later on and it was like strangers! Haha. But to be fair my hair was styled totally differently. You're absolutely right, it feels wonderful to be remembered. I wouldn't let this stop you, though! And being honest about it helps a lot I think. Like I struggle with names, and as soon as I tell people this, the unspoken tension breaks. Anywayyy Just wanted to pop in and say hi!
Kim xo (The crochet flower crown craft fair lady at Sitc 2016)
Things I would say:
~ "Take 'I am not good with faces.' And square it. Yeah."
~ "It's like facial recognition dyslexia. Literally. And when *I* say, 'literally' I mean, 'literally'."
~ "Don't take it personally. It can't be personal because I do not recognise the countenance part of your '*person*'."
~ "Hey! The cool thing is that you can make a new first impression every time we bump into each other! Yeah? Cool!"
~ "But it's cool, because, man - if you commit a crime and I'm the only witness, I'm no good. Couldn't pick you out of a lineup or anything. So, you wouldn't have to kill me! See? See? See how that works? Nicccce."
Tessa!! You look so pretty in this video, I'm jealous of your flawless skin!! Counting down the days until I see you & Bry in Birmingham yay xo
Great to see you over in London. I'm loving the Halloway CD (signed no less) Where was the party? Have a great time over here.
Damn. I just started watching your videos and you are just adorable, and honest and have a beautiful personality. Like I'm 23 and technically an adult but I want to be you when I grow up.
what is that top your wearing, i love it 😍😍😍
I was wondering too, it's so cool!
Lazy Oaf!
One of my university professors has facial blindness, she always joked about it our lectures. Also god damn I'm super jealous of your hair Tessa!!
YO THE HAIR FLIP EYEBROWS HAD ME AMAZED
I'm in love with your outro music
I love your outro so much
Omg I have the same problem! But I have the added problem of never remembering anyone's names.
I relate to the facial blindness SO much. I always thought that I was just bad at remembering people's names, but when you look up techniques for remembering names, it's often to relate the name to a facial feature (big eyes etc.). I realized that I just don't record the facial features of someone when meeting them for the first time/a short while. I don't know how many times I have had to look someone up on facebook before meeting them so that I have an image to compare with when trying to find someone in a crowd, and I have so many strategies for pretending like I remember people and keeping a conversation. As you said I'm scared of coming off as cold for not remembering people, but it's either never introducing myself anyone or ending up reintroducing myself a bunch! 😳
"aaccents". lol.
i love this style of video tessa💜
omg that eyebrow transformation was so COOL
I love these little chatty videos!
I love these videos ahh