get ready with me and talk about fear of failing
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Tessa you are so inspiring. I've been watching you for a long long time and watching you grow as an artist and speaker always makes me smile. Keep doing what makes you happiest.
if you were talented enough you would have made it by now. you're mediocre at best.
Dicks Out For Harambe why would you say that? She’s doing what she loves and I for one thing she’s very talented. You’re spreading negativity for no reason, why would you do that?
Your name is almost like mine and that weirds me out for some reason but I thought it was cool!
This video is aesthetically very pleasing.
I desperately want to know what settings were used. ITS SO CLEAR AND SHARP!
TheIrishWill She probably just used some color corrections in post, and she has a great camera.
Maša Vilar Stupica so true, the background with the chello, the pretty mirror, the fairy lights... love it
I seem to feel this way about every video she makes. Her style is so attractive.
Oh for sure, although I sometimes use a similar setup (I think!) and cant get it anywhere near this clear!
the title is me lmao. i have a terrible fear of failing.. AHHHHHHH
o and you are my aesthetic. thank you. bye.
TTC a.k.a Jordan //THETNTCHEST same lol
Recently I read Quiet, a book about introversion and extroversion. At the end the author writes "The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some its a Broadway spotlight, for others, a lamplit desk." As someone who navigates both (through touring and writing), what are your thoughts? how do you balance the need to be alone and work with being out in the world/doing things/interacting with people?
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our lil community comes up with the most intellectual and thought provoking questions ahsjjdneidjwixjw i love this
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hi, i like your existance.
thank you for existing.
when you try to talk to your crush 😄
"Remember, failing at something is the first step toward being kinda good at it."
- Homer Simpson
I always thought this was Jake the Dog
I just remember it being Homer and his voice is what I hear it in :P
Ok I checked it, turns out Jake did say that. Homer's quote was "trying is the first step towards failure" which is a lot less inspiring xD
HA
Just for reference, and because I love it, this is the quote: "Dude, suckin' at somethin' is the first step towards being sorta good at somethin'" - Jake the Dog, Adventure Time
That background is so pleasing. And I didn't know there was a dog there until you moved! Surprise doggies are the best. Lovely chat. :)
Right at the end after the song "Woof" starts (haha...woof...dog) in the mirror.
Quiet a keen eye!!
*desperately starts searching for the dog*
ahhh dog!
lol! I noticed this too and was like whaaaat! When did the dog get there xD all you can see is it's reflection in the mirror but it is a nice touch with the woof at the end.
Tessa, I've watched you from just about day one. I am so proud of how far you've come. Now you have 1 million followers! My heart sings for you and your success!
-Grace
this video has the most beautiful aesthetic, all of the colors match with each other so well
You are so naturally gorgeous, I love the feel of this, like we are actually having a chat haha x
Charlotte Hardy honestly, i feel the same way a about all of her videos.
Give me your hair please thank you.
About a movie ikr I'm so jealous
Goodness. The backround in this video is SO gorgeous.
I discovered you this year ( it was a beautiful discovery) and I've been enjoying your videos a lot! I think it's hard to set goals which are achievable on the one hand and on the other hand challenge you to become better- by 'achieving' goals you automatically are excited to reach new ones.
Hope to see you one day touring in Germany!
lots of love your way!
hey tessa i know you wont read this nor answer back but thank you, thank you so much for just being alive and existing and writing music and overall for just talking about your day. I share similar views as you on terms of failing and in all honesty its been a weird year for me ive felt like such a failure and ive excluded myself from a whole lot but watching your videos some how makes me feel part of something. I want to move foreward currently i feel as if im standing still- im not inspired or i feel i lack the creativity i once had. School is draining and time is going by so fast- what do you suggest i do to fuel my goal of being inspired or getting back out there in the world.
there's just somethin bout failing that just puts a damper on every other goal that you set that relates to the one you failed. don't let that consume you, sure you didn't meet it the first time- doesn't mean you're gonna fail it again and again. with that said, don't set higher expectations for goals that you succeed or fail bc you feel like you need to do better. feel comfortable with the things you do and the little tiny things you accomplish ! your vids are lovely and ily
So excited for so much content! I have adored leena's series and watched every single one and am looking forward to yours :) xx
You always make me feel calm and I really appreciate that.
Thank you ♡
I love these types of videos, and I am so proud of you no matter what. What you said is so relatable to me, I'm always afraid of failing and setting goals
I love you're videos! and I love these open conversations that you have about mental health, and insecurities, and motives, and all that jazz! I always feel like you're in my brain, and articulating what I'm thinking better than I could!
congrats on one million! and im so proud of how far you've come and however much content you put out, i will gladly watch it, but admittedly if you do more that would be amazing for viewers like me XD
IM JUST SO GLAD bc honestly tessa ur videos calm me so much like really really really, you talking about stuff and making sense of things and just your voice and yoUR EVERYTHING
Ahh yass Tess! I haven't seen your content in yearssss, I use to binge watch all your videos! What a blast from the past! Love this, all of this and your whole channel.
These videos make me feel more okay and your positivity inspires me to try to stay that way
This is the second video I've ever watched of yours and I absolutely love this. And the background.
I like pretty much every song from your album and EP, so I'm definitely looking forward to what you release next year
you're one of the people who has inspired me for years to create. i need to set aside some time to discuss goals with myself, this helped me a lot. can't wait for your daily videos!
I used to have this crushing fear of failure. I wanted absolute perfection, and so when I did something as well as possible I couldn't let myself enjoy it because it's what I expected of myself. I have since had to deal with the self-esteem issues associated with not being perfect. Now I know my limits and I know I won't succeed at everything, and it's freeing to know that and be happy with that.
I'm always so happy when you upload and I love you so much~
this hair is my everything! also i love the topics you discuss and how intelligently you discuss them. lovely
This was such a calm, validating video. Thank you so much for your consistent inspiration, Tessa!!
So glad your back, you make my day and everyone elses so much better!! Magnificent even 🙂 stay beautiful both physically and mentally as always 😇❤
i love the way you speak, you're so eloquent and intelligent x
I am so excited for may now!
I just recently found your channel and I am hooked :3
Fear of failure is definitely something I've been struggling with, and I really needed this video. Thank you Tessa 💛 you're lovely
you're just. such a pleasant person to listen to. your videos leave me in a tranquil, contemplative state that i like a lot.
I understand the fear. I wrestle with it too. Welcome back & thanks for sharing, I am looking forward to all the extra content this year. I hope you meet your goal. Because, it would be good for me, good for you, and good for the world.
Ugh. I needed a Tessa video today ❤️
Goodness, I'm so happy and relieved I'm not the only one thinking of goals during only the spring. The time beforehand (esppppecially New Years) is too stressful. Thank you for the talk, Tessa! This was lovely!
I completely feel you about goals!! I've been thinking a lot about the future recently since apart from easter (which I ever hardly celebrate), nothing special really happens so you can think more objectively I guess?
I really enjoy this style of video, it seems like a pretty relaxed way of making little updates, but at the same time it feels like a discussion about how you're doing
Can't love these videos enough! I identify so well with many of your thoughts and feelings around creating and trying to be organized. As I deal with multiple points of transitioning in my life, and as I try to write my thoughts about my life and feelings, these video essays focus and describe some of these things really well. I've recently been using goals more and more, I think I always had such a vague impression of my future plans, if I had any, but I want to do a lot, and I relate with finding goals useful in directing efforts, I'm not someone who can make a detailed goal or plan and stick to it, but making a plan and recording in outside the mind through writing or otherwise, is just so helpful :)
Omg Tessa THANK YOU, I really really needed to hear this today! I'm trying to get better at accepting my failures and being okay with things not always working out, as long as I tried by best. You've given me so much inspiration
You are inspiring to me especially when it comes to setting up goals and setting yourself up for success. I only just started posting regularly here (only 16 videos so far!) so this was great to watch and listen to because it gave me the impetus to keep going and not be so hard on myself with any kind of 'failure'.
i'm soooo excited to watch your vedim because i love hearing your thoughts!
i dedinitely have changed my mindset on failure lately, especially since ive been learning to drive. you cant learn if you dont fail, i think! i mess up when driving sometimes and i get upset but once i figure out what i did wrong, BOOM. now i understand how to not do that/be better at that in the future. and thats way more helpful i feel. btw ive been watching ur vids for years now and i wanna say i just love how thoughtful and genuine your videos are, especially in the last year or two
Love these chatty get ready with me videos, I want to do more of them on my channel! I think most people have the fear of failure but really failing is how we learn the most. There's nothing wrong with failing as long as you keep trying and learn from it!
I really like hearing Tessa's personal journey, because it helps me in mine in a lot of ways. "Practice Self-Compassion" and "People are doing the best they know how" are phrases I try and keep in mind and think on often.
I LOVE YOUR GRWMS and i can't believe we're gonna be blessed with VEDIM, VEDA, and vlogmas. you are so inspiring ahh
I feel like you're growing and maturing so much this year as a person. Really respect you for being so open and honest about what you're learning about. I really relate to your feelings of being afraid of failure.
And sidenote...OMG NEW MUSIC! YES!
I like the idea of getting rid of the stigma behind failure! I definitely agree that failure can be a stepping stone for growth and betterment and can definitely be super important in that process.
You are an absolute inspiration, so open, and know who you are. I have been watching since I was in high school, and while some TH-camrs I've stopped watching as I grew u, I am very glad that I have stayed watching you and Nanalew.What advice would you have to live a beautiful, positive,life. ❤❤Thanks so much!
I was so excited to see this video in my sub box!! I've missed you loads!!
We're daily vloggers, and we edit the day after. That way it allows you to work on the edit throughout the day, but it also lets your relive the day before! you've got this Tessa!
"And I definitely didn't like to tell people goals out loud. If I were to do anything, I'd do it internally, so if I did fail, nobody would know."
This is one of the most relateable things I've heard in a while. Every time I watch one of your vids, and I've only seen a couple, you say something that hits me oddly close to home. It felt amazing hearing somebody else say that. I never know quite how I want to explain it to people, and it's embarrassing in it's own right to try and verbalize it without the person/people you're talking to think it's silly when they don't have the same problem as you.
I love how everytime I have a negative feeling in my life Tessa is posting a video about it. It happened again, talking about the fear of failure. I really love you Tessa, you are inspiring me ❤
YES. Love this. I feel the same about setting goals.
I'm so in love with your content, Tessa
Can I just say that I love the idea of Spring Cleaning your mind and setting goals a bit later in the year after adjusting to last years changes and revelations for a bit. Deciding to move forward with a better understanding of where you are and where you want to be, and *how* to get there. As opposed to setting your sights too soon (in January) and ultimately end up stumbling and wandering around, aimlessly. I want to start trying to incorporate this in my life because I think it would help me. Thank you for sharing
Just rewatched this video, and I am realizing just how gorgeous your style is. I've noticed it before, but especially in this video, seeing your background (which I'm assuming is your room), it's just so beautiful. You have some great style girl, in your room, clothes and hair. It is all fabulous. You are fabulous.
I love listening to you talk. It's so calm and relaxing to me. They way you sort of think out loud so we can all follow your train of thought is nice. But, on topic, I think we all fear failing but you seem like you've hit a point of accepting that failing something isn't as big of a disaster as your fear makes it out to be. It's all about learning and growing.
YAAAAS, I WAS WAITING FOR YOUR NEW VIDEO FOR SO LONG AND I JUST HAD A SHOWER AND BANG,NEW VIDEO FROM TESSA (sorry for the caps, i am excited)
Your freckles are coming in more with the spring season!!
Mine are also really coming out! c:
Have a good day Tessa!
OMG I've missed these videos! I'm totally on board with the fear of failing for sure. I've stopped telling other people about my goals and things I'm trying so that my fear is completely self involved and I don't have the added fear of disappointing someone other than myself, because I can barely handle disappointing myself as is.
your room is so gorgeous! I'm nearly speechless, wow
Tessa, once again you changed my views with a single video. You always make everything so clear and simple. You take these problems I have and don't solve them for me but give me a new way to view them and sort them out. Thank you for existing and being such an amazing human. Also I freaking ADORE your new room can you do like a room tour or something of that nature. I know it's not really your style to do those types of videos but your room is so pretty I just need to see how to achieve such an aesthetically pleasing room.
THANKS, THAT'S SO NICE.
I really appreciate how you are willing to process so much out loud on TH-cam. Many times it has helped me find words or help me towards my own words for what I have been thinking or feeling.
Question: Who do you go to first when you need advice and what about them makes them a ideal person to go to?
I MISSED YOUR VIDEOS IM SO GLAD YOU'RE BACK💜
edit: oh my gooDNESS CONGRATS ON 1 MIL! I've only started watching you in the last two or three months, but I love your content and I'm so happy for you! keep creating :)
aw I'm so glad you saw this, that made my night (,:
3:02 Past Tessa would be so proud of Present Tessa ❤❤❤❤❤ this is so inspiring. 🎉
Credit to a t-shirt from dftba.com for this quote. "every failure is a chance to get it right" has become integral in my life. I love the attitude of positivity around it. I now have that saying on a plaque on my desk at work as a reminder to be positive for us next attempt after any failures.
Yay, a video every day in my birth month! (August.) I look forward to all of these.
this video was perfect timing for me. glad to see ya
part of me tells people my goals to try to say "well now they know i have to succeed or else i'll let them down" and it's terrifiying when they see what happens but this video has honestly helped me thank you!
I loved watching your VEDIF videos so much! The topics you covered were really interesting to think about and I felt like I could relate to a lot of what you said. That advice that Dodie and you got from your therapist--the one about if you check, you'll find usually find something--is something that I took to heart and has been really helpful to me.
Honestly, your videos are like therapy to me.They help me to just sit down at the end of the day and unwind while listening and thinking and working through whatever I have on my mind. I always feel more at peace with myself after watching your videos and your voice is also very calming lol if you decided to make a podcast i would jump on that so quick.
ANYWAY, a question I have is: how do you tell friends/family/loved ones that you have a mental disorder?
your room looks soo good! .. makes me happy to just look at it! :P
also.. you are really freaking pretty tessa! :P love your smile, love how your hair is fading .. kinda love everything
okay im done creeping... Have a lovely day! :D
Yesss a continuation of Leena's lent project is exactly what I need! Question: What is your approach on time-management, how do you get stuff done?
Everyone says you've introduced them to the enneagram of personalities, could you talk about that? Your type and the system in general, maybe your opinions on personality classifications. Pleease it's so interesting!! Also, very glad to have so many videos to look forward to!
Fiona Blackmoore yea this!!
I really liked Anna Akana's video on failure; she talked about the importance of separating your identity/self worth from failure, and how it's just a process that everyone has to go through to get better! Easy to say, hard to do.
Really looking forward to your video every day in may! Here are some questions: How did you handle exam stress as a teenager and what life lessons did you learn from being in school?
Your room is so beautiful. Oh my goodness. I was a bit worried about you when you didn't post much because I know you put your worth in what you make and you weren't making much (that we know of). I'm glad that you're back and I can't wait for May.
everyone's questions are so deep! to throw something lighter and easier in there, what was teenage tessa like? what kinds of subjects did you do in high school? what's the first piece of advice that comes to mind to give your teenage audience? I'm super excited to watch 100 of your vids!! xx
It's been so long Tessa!! (: I'm so glad you're back (:
I absolutely love your hair. The colour is gorgeous! :)
Dang, Tessa, you've been saying a lot of things I really connect with. In particular, the "not setting goals, but when you do not telling anyone" thing. I still don't tell anyone if something feels important to me but I know I have the potential for failure. I keep it in until it seems either doable or I've forgotten about it so it's moot anyway. Though I kind of think there's some stuff I wouldn't pursue at all if I didn't have that secret time where it's just mine to play with at the beginning.
I love love loooooove your Get Ready With Me videos, Tessa!
Such a cool concept with answering questions!
This made me think deeply about what kind of question would be interesting and I could only think of this: emotions.
They get the best of us sometimes but, they also allow us to be compassionate and care about others or allow us to become destructive and blind to logic and reason.
How can someone have a healthy way of dealing with their own emotions? And how can we decipher when our emotions are getting the best of us or are actually a correct response?
For some reason, I feel like you have gotten wiser over the years and I know a lot of young girls watch you so, I thought your insight would be much appreciated ☺️ Long time viewer and first time commenter! Keep up the good work, Tessa 💕
hihihi I just wanted to say that I missed you so much and I am so happy to see that you uploaded another video
Pausing five seconds in because HOLY COW, WALL ART!!! The background is so flippin pretty
Thank you so much for posting ❤
Talk about identity!! and how sometimes maybe the right thing to do doesn't necessarily go with our identity (example: knowing i should confront someone about sth but not doing so because im just the kind of person that avoids conflict, etc)
1. Your room aesthetic is goals holy shit
2. I have an exam in 2 hours
3. This was really helpful in calming my nerves for aforementioned exam. you da best
I'm seriously dying😭👌🏻💕 your background!!
does anyone else feel so calm and happy just listening to Tessa's outro and wanna listen to it on repeat for like 9 hours
That's called a "growth mindset", and it's the best way to approach any goal in life, I think! I've been reading up on it, related to artists and athletes (I'm a roller derby player) and I've found it extremely helpful, especially in dealing with failure. Now, I try to think of it as a stepping stone to reaching that goal, like Lena said in one of her videos, "collecting data". I take a step back analyze why I couldn't do it yet and regroup. Maybe I need more time, a different plan, whatever it is, I can only go up, right?. Super stoked to have so much content from you to look forward to, I always find your videos to be thoughtful, insightful and kind, they make me feel at peace with my brain and all it's emotions.
"failure is a stepping stone for improvement" i love this
Tessa your hair curled always looks lovely! It would be so amazing if you please did a tutorial on it!
YOUR ROOM IS LITERALLY GOALS😍❤️😍❤️
video every day in may???? oh my goodness, any content from you tessa is such a blessing
EDIT: also, my question is: what drives you to keep going on "off-days" and what has your progression of self-care looked like throughout your life? (and today was my birthday!! it was a great present to see your upload)
What is a memory (good or bad) that you think truly defined who you are now - your characteristics etc. So much love for your content! xx
Going through a lonely time right now. The only person in my family who accepts my coming out is now dying and I found out my 'friends' always slag me off behind me back. Thank you Tessa, and to TH-cam in general. Tessa, your videos help me to live. Thank you.
Yay you're back!
"failure is a stepping stone to being better at stuff"