the thing dodie said about examining the evidence is something i’ve been doing for a while and it is SO HELPFUL. I get those kind of thoughts basically at some point in every single friendship I’ve had which really sucks but while this is something that doesnt make the thoughts go away completely it allows me to slow them down and nullify them a bit. 11/10 would recommend doing this
It reminds me of Byron Katie's Work, which is pretty much this method but made into a 'protocole', I would very much suggest anyone to take a look at that!
The problem is that my friends do find me annoying because im so hypo, even though they say, 'youre not annoying, you're just weird' so idek what they think of me
I like that approach of testing your self-doubts with evidence! That's learning how to better be comfortable with yourself, and confident. Wholeness such a blessing!
Definitely, and going along with the "gratitude" list they were talking about, I read a quote somewhere that said when you go about your day, change your have-tos to your get-tos. For example, I get to go to work. It really does change your perspective
so simply shot and aesthetically pleasing. the pops of colour of your hair and lipsticks against the white background plus two friends just chatting just makes the video seem really chill.
Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) tend to be repetitive for those that suffer worst from them so confronting them as often as possible is a great way to train yourself to be able to manage them, good chat.
I completely relate to the believing in your rawest form that you are unlikable and that if you have lots of people around you that say otherwise you've just fooled them into liking you and thinking good things about you. I just want to thank you both for having such a good honest conversation online, it's really helpful to hear others talk about these things.
Sam Allen I've noticed that too! It's interesting cause I do the same thing around my American friends too! I'm Australian but occasionally my voice will sound slightly more American around them and I worry because I wonder if they ever notice and think I'm mocking them. 😅
I always remind myself that I'm valuable in such fundamental ways if not liked for a specific reason. Liked can be simple or much deeper. Guess it depends on what is liked. Accepting thoughts and letting then go sounds so much healthier than ignoring them. Facing them head-on. For the past two years, I've done a daily gratitude/free thought journal page for about ten minutes a day. It's wonderful to look back too! I look forward to seeing gratitude things!
I loooove both of your lipstick shades. Dodie's is like a wine red kind of shade, and you Tessa have a more rose-y shade, which is so lovely. The lipstick really compliments the both of you well.
All these years I've found your incredibly attractive Tessa. I always thought it was because your looks. But I see now more then ever the ever that the most attractive thing about you is your attitude toward life and the fact that your videos always make me want to be a better person. Thankyou for everything over these years and I'm so happy to see you post a video again. Hopefully I can make one of your shoes *supposed to be shows*
dylan English ... You make shoes? Anyway, YEAH I know right? Sure Tessa is physically drop dead gorgeous, BUT it’s your spirit, Tessa, that is absolutely lovely! Your mind and your heart are your true beauty (“is your true beauty”??) ... believe it 🙂
I know no amount of convincing evidence will affect your inner belief, but I believe that the overwhelming majority of people who watch your channel like you. You might argue that we're seeing the very best of what you have to offer, and that it's liking the 'video you' and not who you are in private. Hearing that someone believes everyone is fundamentally likable won't do much good either, the thought 'It doesn't apply to me' comes to my mind. Although I don't struggle with wanting to be liked, I have had similar issues where no amount of outside evidence can affect something my experience has proven over and over. Keep at it, and those issues may eventually fade. Keep moving forward, Tessa!
on "liking yourself": i think it's a fucking long trip, but it's definitely worth it. i'm not at the end, i don't know if i'll ever be. maybe the "liking yourself" trip and the "life" trip are both the same... i feel what you're saying, having people like you is like trying to reassure myself that maybe i'm likable if they like me and not bothering with whether i like myself! it's an interesting topic and im happy you made a video about it. love!
aah what you two said about being likeable is something i can relate to so much. i constantly need reassurance that my friends actually like me and dont think im annoying, and i thought maybe it was just my stupid paranoia getting to me that caused these thoughts, but you've shown me that its not just me who feels this way. i feel much less alone knowing other people also feel like this, thank you x♡x (also you picking lipstick off dodies teeth was fricking adorable omg)
Tessa I’m so glad you feel known and that you’re finding vulnerability. I’ve noticed in past videos you seemed to be trying to help dodie, but in this one she seems to be there for you. Intimacy in relationships where you are known and supportive can be so wonderful for everyone, but especially us 2’s :) I hope you’re finding that just because you are vulnerable and admit your weakness doesn’t mean that you are any less loving, kind, and helpful. You needing help doesn’t mean others won’t want you around. I hope you find space to share the growth you’ve been experiencing lately. Not just online for others to benefit, but also with people where the vulnerability is scary and feels more real.
list of things i'm grateful for: 1. tessa made a video 2. tessa has new music coming out 3. tessa is going on tour 4. tessa and dodie are so pretty 5. tessa
I'm an NHS therapist and Dodie's technique of "halting" thoughts and weighing up evidence is exactly right. It's called thought challenging aka "Taking the Thought to Court". Only solid evidence -- facts, not opinions -- can stand up in a court of law and this is the same principle. You can then take it a step forward and come up with a balanced and realistic thought that takes account of both sides of evidence e.g. "I did upset this person that one time BUT we solved it and they still like to hang out with me. They told me they forgive it so I can let it go."
Melanie Anne Ahern I got, Pints, Trench and What is Love lol. Probably wrong 😂 Edit: after readings the comments I think it’s bad ideas crush and words ain’t enough
Tessa, thanks so much for making videos. You talking about self compassion and self forgiveness have honestly changed how I treat myself so much for the better and made it so much easier for myself to do tough things that I would ordinarily put a ton of pressure on myself for. I appreciate you a ton, and I'm really looking forward to your new album!
Tessa, you look stunning as usual, as do you dodie, but dodie your TEEETH ARE SOO STRAIIGHT! LIKE STRAIGHTER THAN ME? oh wait they were before too.... ANYWAY, YOU BOTH ARE GORGEOUS
I’ve missed you so much. You’re talks always make me feel good, almost like we’re best friends and you know exactly what to say when I’m not feeling well
This really got me thinking about my daily thoughts. You two are so wise and mesmerizing; grateful for your platform that I can see true vulnerability show on a video.
I grew up watching Tessa at a young age and I grew up watching dodie at a slightly older age and I've learned so so much from the both of you. Seeing you two together makes my heart happy.
casker i think it's chili by mac! she mentioned it in one of her lil tut videos (the one where she has the glasses) and it looks like she put it on like you usually would rather than just dabbing a lil on!
samsara sheerness isnt really a factor, as she could have easily just dabbed it on. it's definitely chili by mac. i've done this with chili many times and gotten this nearly exactly. natural lip color causes slight variations. plus, filters.
Tessa's hair looks like a sunflower in the best way
the thing dodie said about examining the evidence is something i’ve been doing for a while and it is SO HELPFUL. I get those kind of thoughts basically at some point in every single friendship I’ve had which really sucks but while this is something that doesnt make the thoughts go away completely it allows me to slow them down and nullify them a bit. 11/10 would recommend doing this
It reminds me of Byron Katie's Work, which is pretty much this method but made into a 'protocole', I would very much suggest anyone to take a look at that!
s when I try this it just makes things worse hehe
AH TESSA AND DODIE ARE BACK
gerard way lmao i see you everywhere oh my god do you like waterparks and dodie and tessa??????? you're so iconic
sarah loves awsten i live for waterparks, dodie and tessa and i hope it’s not annoying that i’m everywhere haha
ICONIC DUO
Omg two videos with dodie in less than a minute!!!!! I might dieeee!
Sophia Wilson my thoughts exactly!
Sophia Wilson literally me.
Sophia Wilson I know I’ve missed her 😂
Sophia Wilson sorry I'm a bit behind lol , what is the other vid with Dodie ?? Xxx
Beth Kennedy it's on dodie's channel
I love this pillow talk series and I LOVE UR YELLOW HAIR.
my favourite crazy aunts.
yes absolutely 100%
two videos with dodie in one day i dont know if i can handle
What's the other video called?
burned out - original sond on doddleoddle channel 😊
Omggg dodie looks so fucking good here. Like. Damn. Everything's so on point!!
i relate to this video so much because i worry so much about not being liked by my friends or being too annoying
teigan hopkins, yes!!! This video hit so hard
teigan hopkins SAME
this hit me so hard lol
The problem is that my friends do find me annoying because im so hypo, even though they say, 'youre not annoying, you're just weird' so idek what they think of me
Freya Miceli exactly woop
Detect, Reflect, Reject.
That's how I remember the thought catching thing Dodie explains at the beginning and it is greeeeeeaaaat!
I like that approach of testing your self-doubts with evidence! That's learning how to better be comfortable with yourself, and confident. Wholeness such a blessing!
Love these videos, and this topic is so important. Not everyone will like you but the ones who do are the only ones worth taking notice of
Definitely, and going along with the "gratitude" list they were talking about, I read a quote somewhere that said when you go about your day, change your have-tos to your get-tos. For example, I get to go to work. It really does change your perspective
I think a lot of people need to look at why they aren't liked so they can make themselves better people.
someone I've watched for six years, and someone I just started watching this year: besties. I love youtube with all my heart.
i missed dodie on youtube so much and now they are two dodie video's and one with tessa in it i can't handle omg
I have such a crush on Tessa ❤️The hair, the freckles, the way she talks
TESSA!!!
I love you, oh my stars, I'm so glad you're back!
This really spoke to me today, thank you so much!
You and dodie brightened my day!
Cheers~
so simply shot and aesthetically pleasing. the pops of colour of your hair and lipsticks against the white background plus two friends just chatting just makes the video seem really chill.
you're both so lovely::(
Name a more iconic duo, I’ll wait
Mariana Flores (Intimate years never)
Rick and morty
Seriously nobody is gonna mention Dan and Phil?
Pixi yeah that’s the duo we all need 😂
Pizza and pineapple.
Oh my word. So fun to know all the songs you were referencing at the end of this video!!
Tessa's hair is so pretty, it makes her look like a beautiful sunflower in this video ♡
First dodie, then tessa?! Today is a good day
Tessa oozes charisma I'm gonna die she's so articulate and charismatic and not annoying at all
i love your hair omg
i like your username
Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) tend to be repetitive for those that suffer worst from them so confronting them as often as possible is a great way to train yourself to be able to manage them, good chat.
my favorite duo no lie
I'd want the outro to this video on repeat, the sense of friendship and it being so adorable is what I love about it xx
DODIE, LUCY AND TESSA UPLOADED
THANKS FOR MAKING MY DAY AMIZING
I completely relate to the believing in your rawest form that you are unlikable and that if you have lots of people around you that say otherwise you've just fooled them into liking you and thinking good things about you. I just want to thank you both for having such a good honest conversation online, it's really helpful to hear others talk about these things.
Yas! A new Dodie video and a new Tessa video! Today just turned into a good day 😊
Y'all Doddie's face at 0:28, it's amazing to see how much she really cares for Tessa 🖤
Dodie gets all American when she's around Tessa I love it
Sam Allen I've noticed that too! It's interesting cause I do the same thing around my American friends too! I'm Australian but occasionally my voice will sound slightly more American around them and I worry because I wonder if they ever notice and think I'm mocking them. 😅
I always remind myself that I'm valuable in such fundamental ways if not liked for a specific reason. Liked can be simple or much deeper. Guess it depends on what is liked. Accepting thoughts and letting then go sounds so much healthier than ignoring them. Facing them head-on. For the past two years, I've done a daily gratitude/free thought journal page for about ten minutes a day. It's wonderful to look back too! I look forward to seeing gratitude things!
Tessa is back , yeah :-)
I loooove both of your lipstick shades. Dodie's is like a wine red kind of shade, and you Tessa have a more rose-y shade, which is so lovely. The lipstick really compliments the both of you well.
All these years I've found your incredibly attractive Tessa. I always thought it was because your looks. But I see now more then ever the ever that the most attractive thing about you is your attitude toward life and the fact that your videos always make me want to be a better person. Thankyou for everything over these years and I'm so happy to see you post a video again. Hopefully I can make one of your shoes *supposed to be shows*
dylan English ... You make shoes?
Anyway, YEAH I know right?
Sure Tessa is physically drop dead gorgeous,
BUT it’s your spirit, Tessa, that is absolutely lovely! Your mind and your heart are your true beauty (“is your true beauty”??)
... believe it 🙂
rofl that was supposed to say shows
dodie and tessa together brings me so much joy I'm so happy!!!
I know no amount of convincing evidence will affect your inner belief, but I believe that the overwhelming majority of people who watch your channel like you.
You might argue that we're seeing the very best of what you have to offer, and that it's liking the 'video you' and not who you are in private.
Hearing that someone believes everyone is fundamentally likable won't do much good either, the thought 'It doesn't apply to me' comes to my mind.
Although I don't struggle with wanting to be liked, I have had similar issues where no amount of outside evidence can affect something my experience has proven over and over. Keep at it, and those issues may eventually fade. Keep moving forward, Tessa!
Two true masters of the modern music and video arts. My hat is off, ladies. Wow.
FIRST DODIE
THEN LUCY
THEN TESSA???
I WAS HAVING A CRAPPY NIGHT BUT THANK U QUEENS
on "liking yourself": i think it's a fucking long trip, but it's definitely worth it. i'm not at the end, i don't know if i'll ever be. maybe the "liking yourself" trip and the "life" trip are both the same... i feel what you're saying, having people like you is like trying to reassure myself that maybe i'm likable if they like me and not bothering with whether i like myself! it's an interesting topic and im happy you made a video about it. love!
LOVE U BOTH
I love Tessa's hair, she looks like a sunflower and it's amazing
ok but hazel in the background your guys' laughs are basically what i live for
this video honestly saved me because its made me realise i'm not the only one who gets those thoughts of someone/no one liking them
Dodie, Lucy, and Tessa on the same day wow 😭❤️👌🏻
aah what you two said about being likeable is something i can relate to so much. i constantly need reassurance that my friends actually like me and dont think im annoying, and i thought maybe it was just my stupid paranoia getting to me that caused these thoughts, but you've shown me that its not just me who feels this way. i feel much less alone knowing other people also feel like this, thank you x♡x
(also you picking lipstick off dodies teeth was fricking adorable omg)
A new dodie song and a dodie and tessa colab in one day?!
you two are just soooo beautiful
not only your looks but like the atmosphere you both create???
amazing
THE EYEBROW WIGGLE IM DEAD
I wish you’d do this more often. These talks are quite insightful and deeply meaningful.
makeup goals
dude tessa looks like a sunflower and its an aesthetic im living for
These honestly brighten my day so much also i am loving the yellow 💛
Nothing is important, might as well love urself, no need to change for anyone
Tessa looks like a beautiful face in the middle of the sun 🌞 and Dodie looks beautiful too but idk how to make it sound cool too ok
KaraIsabella The moon and the sun!!!
Tessa I’m so glad you feel known and that you’re finding vulnerability. I’ve noticed in past videos you seemed to be trying to help dodie, but in this one she seems to be there for you. Intimacy in relationships where you are known and supportive can be so wonderful for everyone, but especially us 2’s :) I hope you’re finding that just because you are vulnerable and admit your weakness doesn’t mean that you are any less loving, kind, and helpful. You needing help doesn’t mean others won’t want you around. I hope you find space to share the growth you’ve been experiencing lately. Not just online for others to benefit, but also with people where the vulnerability is scary and feels more real.
omg i love your pillow talks there so inspiring
list of things i'm grateful for:
1. tessa made a video
2. tessa has new music coming out
3. tessa is going on tour
4. tessa and dodie are so pretty
5. tessa
you know you overdosed stranger things if even dodies hair reminds you of joe keery
Ewa OOMGGGG
I can not unsee that
Why must show meh deeesssseee
Yes yes yes yes
Overdosing on Stranger Things?!? impossible
But thanks I can’t unsee that now
I'm an NHS therapist and Dodie's technique of "halting" thoughts and weighing up evidence is exactly right. It's called thought challenging aka "Taking the Thought to Court". Only solid evidence -- facts, not opinions -- can stand up in a court of law and this is the same principle. You can then take it a step forward and come up with a balanced and realistic thought that takes account of both sides of evidence e.g. "I did upset this person that one time BUT we solved it and they still like to hang out with me. They told me they forgive it so I can let it go."
CAN ANYONE READ LIPS I NEED TO KNOW WHAT THOSE SONG TITLES WERE CALLED
Melanie Anne Ahern I got, Pints, Trench and What is Love lol. Probably wrong 😂 Edit: after readings the comments I think it’s bad ideas crush and words ain’t enough
i can't read lips almost at all, but the second one could be 'crutch' and the third one 'work yourself'
i got bass and crutch but i’m not that sure!! x
Melanie Anne Ahern oh and i’m pretty sure it was “what is love” but i’m really not sure x
it could be work yourself as some mentioned above though
Tessa, thanks so much for making videos. You talking about self compassion and self forgiveness have honestly changed how I treat myself so much for the better and made it so much easier for myself to do tough things that I would ordinarily put a ton of pressure on myself for. I appreciate you a ton, and I'm really looking forward to your new album!
My favorite people in one video!!!
I always love these videos because they’re so loose and chatty and it feels like we’re just hanging out!
Tessa, you look stunning as usual, as do you dodie, but dodie your TEEETH ARE SOO STRAIIGHT! LIKE STRAIGHTER THAN ME? oh wait they were before too.... ANYWAY, YOU BOTH ARE GORGEOUS
I’ve missed you so much. You’re talks always make me feel good, almost like we’re best friends and you know exactly what to say when I’m not feeling well
Notification Squad! I love you Tessa! So glad that you're back on TH-cam.
You are both so beautiful and you look so comfortable with each other just speaking about real things awww lovely
YAY YOU’RE BACK I MISSED YOU
also I love your hair
I've never noticed how American Tessa sounds.
Also shining bright like a sun with the beautiful orange/yellow hair, LOVE IT
yes!!!! a new video!!!! and yes!!! with dodie!!!! and yes!!! tour!!!!!
This really got me thinking about my daily thoughts. You two are so wise and mesmerizing; grateful for your platform that I can see true vulnerability show on a video.
Tessa I miss u please make more videos plz and announce the date of your album release alreadyyyyy
AS SOON AS I KNOW THE ALBUM RELEASE DATE I WILL LET YOU KNOW. very excited! Thanks for being excited too, Virginia
I needed this so much. I've constantly been having the little devil on my shoulder telling me that no one likes me and it's really getting to me.
I wish this was a podcast lol - Tessa and Dodie Pillow Talk
CRUSH AND WORDS AIN'T ENOUGH ARE TWO OF THE SONGS SHE MENTIONED
MYSTERY SOLVED what's the other one tho
YES TESSA IS BACK
1:05 that’s good advice 👍 except in my case most of the time it turns out I’m right and they do think I’m annoying 😢
But it isn’t called pillow talkkkkkk!!!!!!
What's understood doesn't need to be explained.
Elle Keener
that was deep
Im obsessed with this video and im obsessed with this hair
I’ve missed you so much
I grew up watching Tessa at a young age and I grew up watching dodie at a slightly older age and I've learned so so much from the both of you. Seeing you two together makes my heart happy.
LOOK AT ALL THOSE CHICKENS
I love you both so much
You two have great hair. Just watching that washed "i have my life under control" hair is very peaceful. ty
Ashley Dun?? Josh Dun’s Sister?? (Ashley’s book is really good btw)
WHAT SHE WROTE A BOOK
I need to know!
you two are such light. thank you for that.
NAME A MORE ICONIC DUO, ILL WAIT
teigan hopkins Liza Koshy and David Dobric
tessa and dodie are both very good at makeup
YOU'RE BAAAAAAAAACKKK
I could never look good from this angle. You guys are queens
YALL RADIANT HERE please share what lipstick ur wearing dodie
yes!!!!! yes!!!!!!!!!! whatever shes wearing is so beautiful on her and rosy and omg.. she looks so stunning
casker i think it's chili by mac! she mentioned it in one of her lil tut videos (the one where she has the glasses) and it looks like she put it on like you usually would rather than just dabbing a lil on!
omg thank u so much!!!
fun story - i googled "chili mac" and got recipes instead of lipstick lolol
Looks too sheer/pink to be chili by mac?
samsara sheerness isnt really a factor, as she could have easily just dabbed it on. it's definitely chili by mac. i've done this with chili many times and gotten this nearly exactly. natural lip color causes slight variations. plus, filters.
I love these two so much, it hurts.
What's that outro music? :D so chill
That thing about holding onto your thought and like questioning it actually really helps me lol
Anyone know that outro music?? It was so nice
I’m loving Tessa’s look rn
No video with shawna 😔
Everything about this is so aesthetically pleasing I’m shooketh