you don't need a lot of money to enjoy life actually... and as long as your family shares your values it is fine, it gets a little more tough if family pressures you to get more money
This feeling of feeling behind in life will hit us at times in our life But we must remind ourselves that Life is Unfair. So the best thing to not to had this view, is to act n take action to make changes in our life. Only action will change your life for the better.
Family supports are the most important factors of life ...will.to accept and struggle with you for all big n small.problems are most important ingredients of success and happiness
i definitely agree that it really helps if you dont compare, but sometimes even the loved ones around you contribute to these comparisons and its either u become lonelier or u endure the comparisons. I do think that society wise in singapore it is tough to avoid the comparison sometimes and that may lead to what OP is feeling.
life is like a multiplayer RPG game.. we try to complete as many missions, accumulate as many points as possible against our peers.. we reach the destination first and with no more missions, we end up bored, lack of purpose, having everything in life and nth more to achieve.. and by then we are old at our deathbeds only to realise that these points accumulated might not be that important as how we valued it when we were younger.. and we will these material wealth to our descendants to let then continue this game to be ahead of others.. and of the day just be happy with the process of life be it you are chasing material wealth or some sort of passion
Good Video!!! I am not sure if comparison is bad in itself as it allows us to set goals to meet. But it gets bad when we get distracted so I think we should get captivated with a positive purpose in life.
My friend sis work in KL and her salary is RM 30k a month. The best thing is she has 5 houses and cash 2m. Sometimes i wonder those who came to Singapore for high income but cant even own so many houses. And she has 2 kids also. Singapore is too costly now. Even angmo are leaving now
Agreed with Eric, if you have someone calling you daddy or mummy 100 times a day. You still have time to think so much??! The moment you lay down your bed...sleep lor😅
Imho: Having passion is a good thing, however, passion alone cannot put food on the table. You can't live on just fresh air and sunshine. You need to get your life's priorities in order before chasing your passion(s). There's an old saying: without money, you can still do the things you love.(e.g. hobbies, striving for world peace, etc.) With money, you need not do the things you don't like doing. (e.g. slogging out at work, selling you time for money.) You'll hear people saying that money can't buy happiness, don't compare, be contented with what you have, etc...BS, seriously, hand to heart, then why are we still chasing the dream? Why are we still discussing about achieving our 1st $100k or $1mil at a certain age range? Why are we building our net worth for? Passion? Sorry folks, just being honest. Don't flame me.
It's sad that many young chaps always have the "instant noodle" mindset and think that the pies(high pay jobs) will automatically fall onto their laps once they graduate. So when they can't achieve at that point in life, plus comparing to other peers who have better opportunities, they start to give up or complain about uneven/unfair society, etc. How come you are not comparing to those who are worse off, especially to compare with those who did not have a good headstart like you? Nobody owes you a living, and success does not appear automatically to everyone. Some might have a shorter route to success financially, but others don't. Instead, they could be successful in other aspects of life. So, it's all up to each individual to define what success is in one's life. Ultimately, it's your choices with consequences. Don't blame others for your failures in life, and you'll never be happy in life if you keep comparing and envy others' success. It's just not worth it.
It’s hard to not compare. I’m mid 30s , married with kids. My combined income with my wife is above the median income (high enough to not be eligible for EC). But yet I still feel inferior to my school mates who are all entrepreneurs / working in family businesses. Everybody around can afford condos and cars. With my income, I can barely afford a car. Condos are out of reach for ordinary Singaporeans. I have to think twice about eating out. 😢😢
Have you considered how much risk they took as entrepreneurs to achieve what they have? If you took the safer less risky path, then thats the outcome you get. Before feeling inferior, understand reality, know whats happening so you know your feeling inferior for the right reasons.
@@wearelosingyou thanks for the empathy. Apart from your reply, I think most of the replies here appears to be blaming me for my own feelings somewhat like victim blaming. Granted it’s my own thinking that made me feel inferior, but like I mentioned, it is tough not to compare in a society like Singapore where we have been compared since we were kids. Most kids like me have been placed in this rat race since primary school. After going to a top school in secondary school, the comparison levels up. Now I have to be compared against classmates of higher academic caliber. All I can say is, it’s tough not to compare. And a little empathy in society helps. ❤️❤️
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Always have been
you don't need a lot of money to enjoy life actually... and as long as your family shares your values it is fine, it gets a little more tough if family pressures you to get more money
This feeling of feeling behind in life will hit us at times in our life But we must remind ourselves that Life is Unfair. So the best thing to not to had this view, is to act n take action to make changes in our life. Only action will change your life for the better.
Family supports are the most important factors of life ...will.to accept and struggle with you for all big n small.problems are most important ingredients of success and happiness
i definitely agree that it really helps if you dont compare, but sometimes even the loved ones around you contribute to these comparisons and its either u become lonelier or u endure the comparisons. I do think that society wise in singapore it is tough to avoid the comparison sometimes and that may lead to what OP is feeling.
life is like a multiplayer RPG game.. we try to complete as many missions, accumulate as many points as possible against our peers.. we reach the destination first and with no more missions, we end up bored, lack of purpose, having everything in life and nth more to achieve.. and by then we are old at our deathbeds only to realise that these points accumulated might not be that important as how we valued it when we were younger.. and we will these material wealth to our descendants to let then continue this game to be ahead of others.. and of the day just be happy with the process of life be it you are chasing material wealth or some sort of passion
Good Video!!!
I am not sure if comparison is bad in itself as it allows us to set goals to meet. But it gets bad when we get distracted so I think we should get captivated with a positive purpose in life.
Nice topic, guys!
My friend sis work in KL and her salary is RM 30k a month. The best thing is she has 5 houses and cash 2m. Sometimes i wonder those who came to Singapore for high income but cant even own so many houses. And she has 2 kids also. Singapore is too costly now. Even angmo are leaving now
Its not what you own. Its how you own.
Almost nothing material is needed for a happy life, for he who has understood existence.
~Marcus Aurelius (121 - 180)
Agreed with Eric, if you have someone calling you daddy or mummy 100 times a day. You still have time to think so much??! The moment you lay down your bed...sleep lor😅
I won’t be surprise if a HDB cost 5-7m in 20 years
So earn below 12k how? Super pathetic? :(
Imho:
Having passion is a good thing, however, passion alone cannot put food on the table. You can't live on just fresh air and sunshine. You need to get your life's priorities in order before chasing your passion(s). There's an old saying: without money, you can still do the things you love.(e.g. hobbies, striving for world peace, etc.) With money, you need not do the things you don't like doing. (e.g. slogging out at work, selling you time for money.)
You'll hear people saying that money can't buy happiness, don't compare, be contented with what you have, etc...BS, seriously, hand to heart, then why are we still chasing the dream? Why are we still discussing about achieving our 1st $100k or $1mil at a certain age range? Why are we building our net worth for? Passion?
Sorry folks, just being honest. Don't flame me.
It's sad that many young chaps always have the "instant noodle" mindset and think that the pies(high pay jobs) will automatically fall onto their laps once they graduate. So when they can't achieve at that point in life, plus comparing to other peers who have better opportunities, they start to give up or complain about uneven/unfair society, etc. How come you are not comparing to those who are worse off, especially to compare with those who did not have a good headstart like you? Nobody owes you a living, and success does not appear automatically to everyone. Some might have a shorter route to success financially, but others don't. Instead, they could be successful in other aspects of life. So, it's all up to each individual to define what success is in one's life. Ultimately, it's your choices with consequences. Don't blame others for your failures in life, and you'll never be happy in life if you keep comparing and envy others' success. It's just not worth it.
It’s hard to not compare.
I’m mid 30s , married with kids. My combined income with my wife is above the median income (high enough to not be eligible for EC).
But yet I still feel inferior to my school mates who are all entrepreneurs / working in family businesses.
Everybody around can afford condos and cars. With my income, I can barely afford a car.
Condos are out of reach for ordinary Singaporeans. I have to think twice about eating out.
😢😢
That's on you
@ clearly it’s people like you who show no empathy that makes sg such a tough country to live in.
Have you considered how much risk they took as entrepreneurs to achieve what they have? If you took the safer less risky path, then thats the outcome you get. Before feeling inferior, understand reality, know whats happening so you know your feeling inferior for the right reasons.
While everyone has their own goals, comparison is really a thief of joy. I hope you find peace.
@@wearelosingyou thanks for the empathy.
Apart from your reply, I think most of the replies here appears to be blaming me for my own feelings somewhat like victim blaming.
Granted it’s my own thinking that made me feel inferior, but like I mentioned, it is tough not to compare in a society like Singapore where we have been compared since we were kids.
Most kids like me have been placed in this rat race since primary school. After going to a top school in secondary school, the comparison levels up. Now I have to be compared against classmates of higher academic caliber.
All I can say is, it’s tough not to compare. And a little empathy in society helps.
❤️❤️