One theme I’ve been dying to see is: “There’s two sides to every story” The idea being someone posts a story on Reddit and a comment or update from someone mentioned in the story provides insight into the true situation
That guy is 100% on the autism spectrum and has no clue (or perhaps just the gf has no clue.) While the weird ass jokes about banging a teddy bear have zero excuse, there were so many hints imo. The obsession and bond with an inanimate object that he wanted to bring everywhere, the fact he was rubbing parts between his fingers, the fact it was impossible to judge whether he was joking or not (probably due to odd tone of voice and/or facial expressions), etc That’s not me making excuses, the GF should’ve left immediately, but it might explain some of his behaviours.
the fact that there is ANOTHER teddy bear guy mentioned in comments and its not him but its just as dark/weird/crazy is inconceivable, maybe the two teddy guys should go meet in utah!
@@tamrissa Honestly that second guy was on some Chris-Chan tier autism, even down to the ‘putting all the women I don’t like as villains in my comic stories’ level 😂
The one thing they never mentioned about the teddy bear story is that she WROTE “let’s call him Teddy” like she’s protecting the bear’s identity. And don’t tell me it’s because it doesn’t have a name because you KNOW he would have named that thing.
@@yoyohaylilol girrrrl. You’d be quite disgustingly surprised the things some people do, the type of life they live. It entirely does do something it’s to hide his AND her identity, if he’s THAT open and public with the toy, I’m sure his friends, peers family whoever know of it and its name. Her saying it would be directly outing him almost like saying his name.
@@ShayanKhan-i4s6h being the bread winner has literally nothing to do with being curious about what's in the fridge 😂 especially if the sandwiches don't taste right all the time
@@ShayanKhan-i4s6h LMAO point taken but also not really because we don't know their circumstances. Many women also have a job AND still make meals for their husbands. You can still be curious, it doesn't depend on that.
As an autistic person I can imagine how “an uncle/aunt that is very possessive of their space” can be a thing. I also experience this to some degree, like the absence of something in my space can be disturbing if I didn’t prepare for it. From an outside perspective it seems strange, but is a huge thing for neurodivergent folks. And from what he said, it was about the absence of these jelly beans and also the mess, so idk. Something to think about
the uncle being autistic is very likely, especially with his in depth descriptions of mundane details. I didnt even think of that until i saw your comment. if that's the case its hard to say he's the asshole
I was about to make a similar comment. I can imagine how someone (perhaps neurodivergent) who doesn’t typically have kids around, especially in their NEW home, would be upset when their typical routine is upset. Especially when, like they said, nobody even bothered to ASK and it seemed like the sister was immediately defensive rather than apologizing. It’s not OP’s responsibility to anticipate their nephew’s actions, especially when they’ve never had a reason to not leave candy out in their own personal space
the story made me realize I'm that uncle and some family members are very aware of it bc when my brother came by with my nephew he made sure to tell him "all those figures are only for looking!!! no touching!!" which i didn't even think about bc my merch collection doesn't register to me as a potential playground with a lot of "action figures". but also i don't think my nephew would have touched anything without asking, he just walked past it all anyways. at that age i also would always make sure i have permission to use things or take food? meanwhile my other nephew at some point went wild on a box with my stuff at my parents house while my brother watching him didn't say shit. then said i can't be mad bc it's just a kid. well i wasn't mad at the kid, i was mad at you for not stopping the kid that doesn't know better yet!!!! or my mom would just hand my plushies for babies to play with, knowing damn well they're displayed and not laying around to grab for a reason. which feels familiar to this story. even if the kid doesn't know better (though at that age you should) the adults around it should know to first ask. with how they're replying I wouldn't even be suprised if the mom just told him to grab some even lmao
@@angelomordini6779 people should respect other people’s space regardless. There’s a definite increase in caring about other people’s physical boundaries, so I think it’s a reasonable ask
That whole story just seems like a full on horror story to me. Like teddy is going to torment op in her sleep or something. It truly was some Patrick Bateman type shit 🥺 the rest were silly but omg that one gave me the creeps so bad! (Whilst still also being silly because wtf?!?!)
Most if not all decorative candles are also functional, you just choose to not light it so the wax doesn't melt down. I doubt she was saying the candle wasn't made to be lit at all, she was saying that she doesn't light that candle as she's using it decoratively
This is a three month relationship, of which two weeks, she was aware from him. She is honestly trying to get the guy to pick her. If you have to cry and beg him to pick you over a teddy bear… op must have really liked this guy or her self-esteem is trashed. Like he wasn’t just trying the hard f-no of using the bear to do sex things against despite her no’s. But he was negging her. Oh Teddy’s perfect; she is far from it…
@@Coffeegal-g9mI fully agree with you! I’d be checking for hole if I were her. I’m also guessing it’s why the bear is now grey lol. Omg and the fact that he hasn’t washed it in 12 years 🤮 even if teddy boy does believe the bear is real…then it really needs a bath. Imagine not showering for 12 years, you would feel all kinds of nasty, treat the bear to a spa day!
Here’s the thing with the candle. She says it wasn’t meant to be lit. This could easily mean she didn’t buy it with the intent of lighting it. Growing up we had candles in the bathroom they were 100% for decoration on purpose.
39:49 Let me rephrase this story a little. The OP is bringing up the work put into dinner because in they're rush if timing each element of the dish. The jar is a normal placement in his home, it's easy to forget it's even out while preparing an extensive meal for guests. The OP clearly cares about food enough to treat the people they care about. As a parent who refused to have an unruly child, a simple ask would have prevented this whole thing. As a person with a sister who operates just like this, she would have handed me the 5 dollars if it meant that much to me. But also having grown up in the same house, their sister should have been well aware that OP has their weird quirks and could have kept better eye on their child. Everyone is the asshole. SEVEN is not three. Seven year old have sense. They do know better...
My family believe my eight yr old brother doesn’t know better. I’ve seen younger children act more mature. For me it’s all about “that’s my food and you didn’t ask” How is OP an asshole?
It’s stupid that they didn’t put the jar away when they knew some entitled ass brat of a kid was coming to their house. Put your stuff away if you don’t want kids to get to it.
@@AshleyFromTX I agree. If you have people over socially and leave food on your coffee table, EVERYONE is going to assume its out for guests. Period. I think his sister is lame, but this wasn't the hill to die on. Making a big principled stand about respect over fucking cream soda jellybeans is laughable for a grown ass man.
It's wild to me that people seem to think it's ok to let children take other people's things without asking. Regardless of what it is. Do they not understand this child is going to grow into an adult at some point?
@@minkiekittenHonestly, the thirst transferred to Spencer on April 1st. I seen it happen in real time. Since the photos were posted I have seen very little Shayne thirst content.
In any stress situation the shattered expectation is the point. She knew it wasn’t supposed to be lit, so it was distressing to find out it was. It’s not like she sat down and calmly blamed him for not knowing as if that made sense, it’s just the shock of the contrast between her assumptions and what happened, it’s just a basic anxiety response (3C’s of sympathetic nervous system, context connection and choice. wanting to know why, wanting to relate it to your experience, wanting to have agency over the situation. Any of those go away we get anxious, any anxiety we hunt for those to feel comfort)
Just got to the end of that clip, yeah his “i passive agressively left the candle upside down to prove to my gf I was right and she was wrong” yiiikes this narcissist needs to grow up. Imagine almost burning your place down and you’re more worried about one upping someone or someone being wrong and you being right, as if that fucking matters in the slightest. Dude is an insecure mess who needs to feel correct at all times to not lose his mind, run girl
Exactly, I believe you shouldn't go to other people's homes and use things without asking first. Sure, in this case it wasn't that big of a deal, but it wouldn't hurt to ask first 🤷♀️ but I think many people think different too, maybe it's a cultural thing, or it depends on how you were raised
My sister, growing up, would steal all of my things (books, money, etc) and either destroy it or consumme it. It was to the point that I would hide my self-bought treat food under my bed and when she still ate it, my mother would tell me that it was my fault for not buying two of everything because I "knew she liked it". The jellybean story, especially because of how intense this guy feels about something so small, feels like the final straw. Now that she's had a kid, there's another person in his life that feels entitled to his space. Albeit, it's a child and that is normal, but it seems like he's hypersensitive to this sort of thing.
Thank you! I thought I was going insane! It doesn’t matter that it was “just jellybeans”, if your kid eats or takes something that doesn’t belong to them, you replace it. You should also teach your child to ask before just taking things.
I felt bad for OP, and knew it was technically beyond “a kid ate my favourite jellybeans without asking”. The pattern had clearly been set by their unbothered parents and sister with how they grew up together/raised OP, and like you said, now there’s a extra person taught that it’s ok to enter OP’s space and take their things. I wish parents would teach their kids about boundaries, it’s not that hard. The jellybeans aren’t a big deal and I wouldn’t bother asking for a replacement, but it’s just a lack of care from others.
That's what i was thinking too. I feel like it was mostly NTA because he wasnt mad at the kid for eating it, he was mad at the sister for letting her son get into his things while he spends time and money inviting them into his place and cooking them a really nice meal. And then he didnt get mad until the sister refused to replace it. Even if some offers me something at their place i offer to replace it, especially if its the last one of it or if I know they like it.
That's not even hypersensitive, that's normal. The kid both helped himself without asking, and fished through the whole thing for the ones he liked, which is really gross. If you touch it, you eat it. And always ask first.
I felt insane when they started laughing at him.. yeah he never actually got mad at the kid which I think definitely helps his case. I just think he'd be better if he went no contact with how the family reacted..
Parents: you shouldn't leave temptations out for kids >:[ The life-size cardboard cut outs of The Temptations I keep in my living room: ain't too proud to beg :(
I'm a teacher, so I've seen what happens BEYOND the jelly bean story. The kids who are told it's okay to take things that don't belong to them become the most challenging and entitled students to work with who think that the world is only theirs. I've had students who will take their neighbor's snack because "I like it more than the one I have" and think it's totally acceptable. The problem isn't the jelly beans, it's the ripple effect that the validation of this behavior has.
Exactly! I can see why people think he’s the asshole, at the end of the day it’s just jelly beans. But I can’t help but see the bigger picture here lol it’s HIS home, HIS jellybeans. Ofc a child is going to devour candy if they see it, that’s why it’s up to the parents to teach their kids to respect other people’s space and belongings.
In science class once our teacher had a can of coke open on her desk, she left the room for 2 minutes to get something and when got back a kid had skulled the coke. Turned out she was a t1 diabetic and was experiencing hypoglycemia so straight up that kid could've killed her if she didn't have back ups.
On one hand, I get what your saying. It would be polite for the parent to ask if it is okay for the kid to have some jelly beans or encourage the kid to ask before just letting them eat whatever they want. On the other hand, if I invite friends or family over to my house I wouldn't leave candy out on the table if I wasn't willing to share it with anyone I was inviting over.
For the jellybean story, I feel like you guys are missing the point. Spencer even highlighted the fact that he is very upset with over this because it’s most likely has happened over and over again to him. OP stated that his sister was the spoiled one growing up, and he most likely had to suffer with having to either share or give her everything. Now she has a kid that does the exact same thing. He highlighted how hard he worked for the place because he finally has something that is just his that he doesn’t have to share with her. He highlighted the cooking of dinner becausehe he wanted to explain what he was doing and why he didn’t notice his nephew eating them. I know for a fact that if he didn’t highlight that you guys would be asking “what were you doing” or “why didn’t you notice”. This is about respect, plain and simple. And this type of idea has been highlighted in pasted stories involving kids where you guys have agreed that boundaries and respect you need to be taught to kids. You do not just get to go into someone’s house because they have candy you can just eat it. Whether you know them or not. The only exception is if you’ve been told by the owner of the house that if you can come over and treat yourself. Not the first time you’re ever in someone’s house where you don’t know any of the rules or boundaries they have for their home. You need to ask, I mean what if this was like the edible story? OP is not in the wrong here at all,and the sister should replace what her son takes. Because in the real world, he will face consequences for this type of stuff, and he will not be prepared since she failed him. He is just learning that he can get away with it and slowly will move up to bigger things that are not just jellybeans.
“why did you leave the jelly beans out knowing a kid was coming over” its his apartment and its not his fault his sister doesnt know how to teach her kid manners? L video tbh
@@Scoutzen seriously, for once Reddit was not extremely over dramatic, and smosh audience is lol a person can grow up perfectly fine and respectful after taking jelly beans from a jar as a kid.
Kiana should choose the reddit stories more often. This was such an unhinged collection. Usually we get one absolutely insane story per episode.... This one had several! ❤
That jellybean story makes me wonder how often his parents allowed his sister to break his boundaries as a child. Like, I do think he was overreacting a little, but all I can think is how his reaction to the jellybeans is probably a reaction to feeling disrespected in a space that he thought was safe
And he lacks common sense. He had guests over and left a candy dish out in the open for them while he was preparing the meal why would he assume they wouldn't have any?
That’s a stretch. Children literally don’t have developed brains. They literally cannot help themselves sometimes. Adult men can. Also, someone’s body is very different than jelly beans.
@@Hannahgsbut it’s the principle, if the kid isn’t taught boundaries about something as dumb as not taking someone’s jellybeans without permission, how do you know he’ll know how to ask permission when it comes to someone else’s body?
For the Utah's Gay Altitude Story: I think the guy would present Brokeback Mountain to help his case with his ex girlfriend. He'd be like, "SEE?! SEE?! They only became gay ON THE MOUNTAIN. And when they went DOWN, they were STRAIGHT again, and married WOMEN!"
Jelly bean story is one of the few times I grew truly annoyed at smosh crew. Teach your 7-year-old not to eat or touch people's stuff! Childless people don't always childproof their homes. If you want your kid to be able to exist in non childproof spaces, watch and teach them. Be a parent. If my son went to my brothers place and ate his favorite candy, I would DEFINITELY replace it even if it was cheap. It's not my brother's fault my son lacks boundaries. I think this may be a smosh commentaters dont have kids thing... but i seriously hope they would not raise their kids to think they can just stick their grimy unwashed germy kid hands in someone else's candy jar without even asking.
Yeah as a mother, I would be MORTIFIED if my kids went to someone’s house and just started helping themselves to whatever was around. My Mum had a bowl full of chocolates on her coffee table atm, just there, as it’s Christmas and my kids can have as many as they want, as long as they ask. It’s called being polite and respectful. Something that’s clearly lots on an absolute ton of people on this planet.
I think it's a bit more nuanced, or maybe it varies culturally or for each family because yes, helping yourself to things around the house or kitchen is rude as hell, things left in a coffee table are usually /for/ guests and it's more unusual to ask for each item. (Although its usually stated to the guests that they're welcome to do so)
It reminds me of the Reddit story that a kid got into edibles. As a parent, you literally have to teach kids boundaries and to ask for permission. I disagree with their logic of it not being a big deal. Edit: Also people who don’t have kids aren’t automatically thinking to child proof their house. You have to watch your own kids because they are your responsibility.
THANK YOU someone said it. Listening to them talk about it was making me SO mad because it’s NOT about the jelly beans; OP states in the post that the nephew didn’t ask
It’s not like it was in a bowl and they were wrapped candies, the kid genuinely shoved his sticky hands, cuz kids hands remain sticky until they’re like 10 for some reason, all through the bag of jellybeans and she just let it happen. No, jellybeans aren’t expensive but when your kid eats all of someone’s food, even if it’s just candy, you replace it
Right?! My nieces are 5 and 3 and know to ask, and have known since being able to freaking talk to ask. Like. Why the hell are kids just allowed to do literally anything. My grandmother used to leave candy out in jars, we weren't allowed to touch them unless we asked. What is fucking happening?!
for the jelly bean story, i was raised to never touch, let alone eat something, without permission. clearly he is coming from a place where his sister was always spoiled so maybe he never had something of his own until his own condo and “his” jelly beans. if it was my kid i’d replace them instead of starting a fight
Or he could just teach the kid himself. Kids don’t automatically know shit. Now if the sis starts a fight over teaching the kid boundaries, then that’s worth starting a fight over.
@@lizziewahlwhy should _he_ teach a child who's not his??? That's literally his sister's responsibility. If his sister can't be the adult here and parent her own child, why the hell does he have to do her job for her???
@@lizziewahlit's no his kid, it's his nephew. The sister needs to be the adult and parent her child. She doesn't care to discipline him and let's him do whatever he wants. And he's 7, he should know better. But he doesn't because he's spoiled and never hears the word "No".
To me, this is the perfect vibe for reddit stories!!! I love it when the guests are allowed to interupt the stories a bit to make jokes! Spencer is also just always funny! A lot of the time everyone just sits silently, waiting until they can speak, but I love it when they allow themselves to joke around more and interject with reddit stories❤
@thatperson7077 A girl was watching her brothers children and she said her brother can be a silly goose. One of the kids told their dad and he flipped a swore at her for calling him a silly goose.
"Teddy was red, and now he's gray" is the new "get your pancakes out" Seriously though, put everything else about Teddy aside for a moment, and JUST the fact that she's asked him to stop making her kiss Teddy, but he keeps doing it, is dealbreaker territory for me. If somebody can't respect your boundaries for "silly" things, they're not going to respect your boundaries for serious things.
Exactly, this is about basic respect for other people's boundaries. If you respect me so little that you continue to touch my face with some filthy thing even if I have repeatedly said not to do that, we're done. This guy needs some serious therapy IMO
The last guy is 100% trying to avoid responsibility for what he did. He's trying to convince himself and her that she is dumping him for being "temporarily gay" so he can play it off as her being homophobic/ bigoted, instead of admitting that the reason she's dumping him is because he cheated on her.
It could still be twofold like they were saying. Yeah he's probably feeling guilty and making excuses. But he was so focused on the gay thing that he's probably just trying to convince himself he's not gay.
I like how they are questioninging decorative candles in the story....with 3 orange candles in their background to a studio set.... where they would never be lighting candles.
37:02 OK, there is a WHOLE subtext re: the apartment, the carbonara, not just the jelly beans. He is clearly the scapegoat, sister is the golden child. He is looking for validation, a prize, something, because his parents treated the differently. He thought that if he put all this work in, suddenly they would SEE him - “oh my god, you’re amazing, well done for buying an apartment! The pasta is AWESOME! No one should damage anything that is yours!”. I’m sorry to say he’s going to be waiting a long time for this dynamic to change. He’s clearly put up with a lot - thinking HE needed to be better, achieve more, etc etc. I’m going to call it. He needs to go to a therapist, explain the family dynamic, and go low contact. I know sounds bonkers, but iykyk.
THAT'S GOOOD... Even though I think there are multiple personalities/stories that could result in that behavior. He reminds me more of some narcistic personalities who I know, because of the self importance behind thinking that explaining the pasta process and how "good" of a chef he is makes him deserve extra special respect even from a 7 year old. I love your analysis though you sound like you'd be a blast to watch The Bear with lol.
@Plusmax78 - I just don't think that's true. There's a ton of insight/ info here. Different people have different experiences, and different backgrounds. That post might mean nothing to you but the bare facts. For a lot of people it says a while lot more, and that's OK.
I think it says a lot when he has to stress on even the smallest effort he makes in details. Shayne said, OP puts a lot of attention on other things he did, but he didn't clock why someone would do that? The person would either be a narcissist who is me,me,me or someone who feels his efforts would not be seen unless he spells it out to the other person. The OP is obviously the second kind and and I feel bad for him as a child who felt unseen growing up. Hope he ditches the family bc they'll hardly change the life they have lived for almost 3 decades now.
Jelly bean one kinda pissed me off, my grandparents used to always leave a big, ornate bowl of m&ms out (my fav) and encouraged everyone to eat them but me and other grandkids were still polite and asked every time bc that’s how parents/aunts and uncles raised us? children aren’t feral, they can be taught to not treat everything like it’s theirs lmao
Hey so a child sometimes is still learning the fundamentals of respecting boundaries. We don't know the age of this child. Regardless, IT IS A CHILD A TODDLER. Not all are the same and you'll be incredible arrogant to believe that a child would understand boundaries especially over something like candy.
@ and that’s great, if they’re actually learning, the sister seems to not have any interest in actually teaching small boundaries like that if she herself brushed it off. It is a silly thing, kids will eat candy, but it’s on sister to teach him to ask first, family or not. Also 7 is not a toddler lol
@@RokkaBilliea 7 year old is not a toddler. a seven year old is an elementary schooler who has been in school for 2 years. a 7 year old can absolutely be taught boundaries
Personally, the fact that a single flavour was picked out would be my issue. In addition to that, a mess was left behind. And they're not that expensive so the sister should have no problem replacing those.
Early childhood education teacher here and I disagree with ya’ll take with the jelly bean story. We always know the students who weren’t taught manners and boundaries. They usually take others food, toys, push friends out the way to get to the slide. It’s hard to work with them because at home they get to do whatever they want with no consequences and expect everyone else to treat them that way. Trying to tell those parents this is even harder because usually those parents usually have the SAME outlook on life. 7 year olds and 100% capable of self-control and respecting boundaries. Heck my pre-k students (4 year old) know to ask if they want something this is a lack of respect and teaching on the sister part
if you leave jelly beans out on the coffee table when guests come over to me it would be obvious that they are for everyone. At least that’s how everyone I’ve ever known operates. Food left out in the sitting area during time that guests are over was always something left out for people to snack on while they waited for food or after dinner. Idk I just found that story really odd, maybe my family is weird?
As a parent to a spicy brained 7 year old, she knows to ask if she can have something. Food, toys, whatever. If we are not in our own house, she asks. We don't know the rules in everyone's lives and these people invited us in. We go by their rules. Ask before we take, not hard, even for an ADHD 7 year old
shayne STANDING UP during the jelly bean felt like a fourth wall being broken. The couch gone? Seeing the set a little bit when shayne ran? The lamp is looking weird...
The jellybean story reminds me of when my great grandmother died and she left me with her art supplies. We bonded over art and a lot of the supplies were expensive for professional artists. My parents forced me to share my art supplies with my siblings which just resulted in expensive supplies getting wasted or broken. Not going to lie, I’m still bitter about that. It’s not about the jelly beans or the pasta. He put in incredible effort to impress his family and felt walked over in his own home. He mentioned at the beginning that sister was spoiled with no boundaries, similar to his nephew. He just wants to be seen, heard and appreciated by his family.
Your story about art supplies and your bitterness about it has nothing to do with this guy leaving a jar of jellybeans and crying when his favorite ones were eaten (not all of them, which he mentioned. There were still cream soda jellybeans in the jar) Art supplies that were passed down from your great grandma are NOTHING like goddamn jellybeans you can just buy at any candy store. You're not going to die if someone eats it. The world will continue to spin. Wah, wah, my family never gave me attention, so I better go cry to Reddit about it, hyping my house and cooking skills so everyone can admire me. Poor you dude, cry me a river and stop inviting people you don't like and feel like don't respect you, because he CLEARLY doesn't like his sister. Glad Reddit didn't give him the attention he desperately wants.
@@valerial9081 Yeah exactly, I don't know how the jelly beans even compare. They are replacable unlike expensive art supplies with sentimental value. He is allowed to be upset about it but he could simply go buy some more and prevent it from happening next time by not inviting them or hiding the beans.
I think they find the story silly because of one single point: you invite people over, you leave treats on the table, you expect people to have it. Yes, asking for permission is the way to do it, but as Shayne says if he is at his grandparents', your family, normally you wouldn't ask. You expect people to leave the treats on purpose. The guy is also sour over his cream soda only. If the kid ate randomly, will he get angry? I don't know. But what he kept specifying is the cream soda. If that's your favorite, maybe the owner should just have some saved in his personal stash? For me personally, I think the OP built up some pent up anger over his nephew and this is the last straw. And also having the first experience of hosting a party. Maybe this incident would make him aware that not everyone is built the same and some people are rude or not self aware. That few cream soda jelly beans is a cheap fee to learn the lesson in my opinion. But sorry for your expensive art supplies though. That is way different than these jelly beans in my opinion 😅
That's what I thought too - I feel like the guy was being purposefully dense! Everyone also seems to be ignoring the fact that it's not his candle to light, this was in her apartment - I would never light a candle in someone else's home without asking first!
@@Itmustbe_bunnies Agree. Yeah like at least asked first? Not sure what possesses someone to look at something and be like “I’ll light this up without asking first :) “
That's what I assumed too, not that she meant it literally couldn't be lit. Like she definitely just meant she bought it as decor and just didn't want it lit cause once you light a candle it does look less nice
At this point, I care less about the lighting of the candle and more about leaving the candle lit and leaving the house. That's like starting to cook on the oven and leaving to go buy something at the corner store. It might be fine, but there's a high chance you'll come back to a hazardous mess.
I have two bears from my childhood ,had both for over 40 years but they live on top of my big book case in the bedroom I share with my husband. one to keep them away from our cat and two I have had my husband to cuddle in bed for the past 20 years.
And she still was like "I need to have this man, I cry for this man, I let his crusty unwashed for 12 years was red now gray teddy bear" like come on, girl, get up!
As someone autistic, I sometimes have specific plans and routines around things. If I had jellybeans and someone went through and took my favourites I might cry because of how it would completely upset my feeling of safety and boundaries. I was always told to ask before taking anything that isn’t mine, so the idea of someone just taking shit seems so rude I can’t fathom allowing that behaviour.
as another autistic person- my mind went there was well. not gonna diagnose this random guy ofc but i don't think he's the asshole here bc you should teach your kids not to take other peoples things, even if they're just jellybeans. it's a personal boundary, that's the issue here. especially with someone who so clearly values his space and has a system working for him that he clearly depends on, even if that's not autism that should still be valued and respected. replace the jellybeans! if they're "just jellybeans" then it shouldn't be a big deal to replace them?
Tbh, if you don't want people to eat your jelly beans you shouldn't keep them out in the open for everyone when you have a 7 year old coming over. Keeping a candy bowl out is essentially an invite to take some. And at the end of the day..... It's literally just jelly beans. If they had moved the beans to their room and the kid went in there and took all their favorite, then the story would be different. I host a lot of stuff and if I have candy out I expect that it'll be eaten!
39:29 to be honest that kid is probably taking a lot more from that guy than just a jellybeans. It sounds like he lived with his parents and his sister and her kid for a while and nobody ever treated his stuff like it was his. I also lived with people who had kids and nothing of mine was ever actually mine. The kids would always take my stuff and anytime. I asked their parents if I could get it back it was always “but they’re kids!!!!” Not about them being kids though, it’s about that personal boundary of stuff. He invited them into his home and the kid didn’t ask, just took. It’s not a big deal, but the fact that his sister adamantly refused to replace something that cost at most five bucks shows that this is something that’s been happening for a while and he asked her to replace stuff before and she’s given that same response. Not to mention the fact that most people don’t have that much sugar much sugar. We’re a family gathering now that I’m an adult, anytime a kid wants any kind of candy or sugary thing they have to ask first! Especially when it comes to things like dinners where bedtime is right after that, you don’t want your kid all hopped up and crazy. It kind of shows that she’s a little neglectful of her children she’s neglectful of other peoples boundaries. Tbh that sister is the AH. It might not seem like a big deal, but this is probably probably the final straw in a long list of boundary pushing
I was thinking the same thing. Candy is a small and petty thing to truly be concerned about. He felt violated and disrespected after inviting his family over to his new home as well as spending a lot of time to prepare a nice dinner for them. I think the issue, unfortunately, is that he poorly articulated his story and communication towards his sister.
@@LastKnightKaname exactly this. OP written it probably in the middle of his angry thoughts and didn't really articulate that the problem was never about the beans. Everyone here is too focused on the beans. The real problem is that he let people into his home and there was no ounce of common courtesy to just ask if it is okay to touch/grab/eat that just because they are family. Hypothetically, as a parent, would you not be wary of your own kids simply taking any food item at someone else's house not knowing if your kid is allergic to it or what the food item actually is even if it LOOKS safe to eat? The fact OP's sister does not seem to care shows she also has does not care for her own child let alone care for or have any respect for anyone else but herself. It also sounds like her parents feed into and enable this behavior as well.
@@LastKnightKaname i mean unfortunately if that is the situation (and the family has had this dynamic his whole life) then no matter how well he articulates himself, they will still discount his feelings. Because they have decided that his feelings and boundaries are silly (to them) and therefore don't deserve to be respected, and if he gets upset then HE needs to grow up (not them). It's such a frustrating and exhausting position to be in. I think he'd be amazed how much better he would've handled the situation with another child if he was coming from a place not surrounded by this feeling of being disenfranchised and disrespected. We really become better people when we distance ourselves from the influences (sadly, sometimes these are family) that make us feel so powerless and unheard.
For the jellybean story, I just imagine myself in the sister’s shoes. If my kid ate something my sibling clearly cared about enough to confront me over, I would definitely replace it and have a word with my kid to tell them not to eat things at someone else’s house without asking. Like, yes, they’re cheap and it is a little silly, but it’s still their food and their house. edit: to be clear, I don’t really mean this as a criticism of their response to the story-more so as an observation of how the view of this story changes when I swap whose viewpoint I’m taking. Because in the carbonara-makers shoes, if my sisters kid ate all of my special (but cheap) dessert, I would personally just shrug and remember to put the jar up next time. I get why they thought OP’s response was a little silly (especially with the carbonara creative writing journey OP went on), because from our POV, it is a little sillygoofy. But by shifting the POV, we can see that the sister’s response is also a little unreasonable, too, especially considering how cheap they would be to replace and the fact the kid needs to be better parented.
Exactly! OP is a bit of a silly goose, but the sister was clearly the AH of the story. This doesn't even touch the fact that they were about to eat DINNER and she's letting her kid fill up on pure sugar beforehand.
100%. It may not mean much to you, but it means a lot to them, so it’s not the jellybeans that matter, it’s the fact that it upsets your sibling. I would buy two packets to replace it.
I definitely see this side as someone from a big family. But as someone from a big family, I know to hide it before they show up. Especially if I know the child is spoiled.
As a person who still owns my childhood teddy bear. It does not smell- it does not have a colour change, yes it's worn but WHAT THE HELL HOW IS HIS SO NASTY
I was going to comment the same thing. I have a teddy bear that plays a lullaby. He was gifted to me when I was a baby, about 27 years ago. He lives on my bed or on a chair. He is worn in places (his nose especially has lost some color because when I was a kid, I used to rub it for good luck lmao) and his color is slightly faded (from beige to lighter beige), but to go from red to gray??? And to smell?? Yikes. I think we can all imagine what that guy is doing to his teddy bear....
The fact that he’s potentially done freaky stuff w the bear but HASN’T CLEANED IT IN 12 YEARS!! So gross! And he would rub it on her face and mouth? absolutely unhinged
I think Kiana needs to be the primary person who picks the reddit stories because holy crow, this has been my absolute favorite reddit stories video ever.
36:50 the thing is tho..its HIS. Imagine his kid stole food that his sister didnt want them to touch. Its about asking, kids dont ask. Thats why you TEACH them but obviously she didnt. His sister needs to learn boundaries and how to parent. Its also weird how the commenters didnt notice no one asked to take food. Js bc ur family doesnt mean u dont ask
I agree. I wouldn't necessarily be angry at the kid, he's a kid. Old enough to know better, but unfortunately, he has a shitty parent that didn't TEACH him to know better. I would be BEYOND angry at any of my siblings if I were in that position. Luckily, they are all good parents, mostly.
@@TheMaddgodd81 thats what the OP said ! She (his sister) was also spoiled so she doesnt know how to take no for an answer either. Thats why she took the kids side instead of admitting its her fault
crazy they act like it's acceptable for kids to take other people's food without asking and not be taught manners. you would have thought a 7 year old would have learnt that through tv or school or somehow if not his parents
just googled the mermaid shimmer candle, it’s gorgeous hahaha. I’m thinking she meant “you’re not supposed to light it” bc she was saving it or something but who knows lol
Honestly, for the Jelly Bean guy, I completely understand. My mother taught me from a young age to ask before taking/eating someone else's property. Like he said, it's not the jelly beans that are the problem, it's the fact that his sister hasnt taught a 7 year old a very important lesson in life. Frankly, I think he just had trouble expressing those feelings to his sister and came off as harsh.
@beccaran Exactly this. What everyone seems to be overlooking here is that children who are taught that it's okay to take other people's things without asking turn into adults who take other people's things without asking. If his whole childhood is spent excusing his behaviour with the justification of "He's just a kid" then exactly when is he supposed to learn boundaries? Childhood IS when you are supposed to instill these lessons.
I would NEVER have grabbed candy from a relative's house without asking for permission first. But I cared A LOT about not being in trouble or not doing anything that would get me in trouble (I still do). They just shouldn't let those family members back over at the house until they learn to at least ask first. I have set boundaries in my house and would not change them for someone else. This is why I don't mess with other family member's. I'm not going to parent your children, but i also don't want to deal with your lack of parenting in my house.
Holy shit, it's a child. You'd be the idiot for leaving TEMPTATIONS right on the table for everyone to see! If you don't want your items touched then hide them considering the fact ITS A CHILD. Not every child is the same and some are very curious. Especially if it's candy! They don't understand the concept of boundaries and you don't seem as if you would tell them verbally not to touch anything so what's the point of getting upset if it's all on you? You seem incredibly insufferable and super controlling over your own materials and I hope you get over it and yourself as well.
Yeah I was always taught to ask first. Although the aunties (typically only saw aunties do this) were usually pretty lax once you asked. Although it would also be considered rude to take all of one flavor/too many. Maybe it's a cultural thing...
@@Bri-lk7re this is just a bad example of the kid taking what he wants tho. OP leave the jar on the coffee table in the living room, where he invited guests to sit and wait, it's not like the kid barge into his bedroom and take it
Okay but the jellybean story is absolutely valid imo. It's not just about the jelly beans, it's more about boundaries. You don't just let your kids take whatever they want wherever they want, they need to learn how to ask for things. If it was an open jar next to some other snacks the host had put out then yeah, that's free for all, but if it's closed and standing somewhere a bit away from the socializing you should probably ask.
bro its on a coffee table which means its sitting out in the open, presumably next to a couch. Yeah its a dick move to eat all of them but its a child, they dont follow social conventions
@ShadowSlith789 and the kid's mom is 35 and isn't any more mature than her 7 year old. Seriously. The problem isn't the jelly beans. It's the useless Karen who doesn't teach her kid anything and whines to her parents when called out on her incompetence as a parent, and disrespect for her brother. This woman is obviously the golden child and she's raising her child the same way. She is absolutely a Karen in public.
Agreed! Idk if I would’ve demanded my sister replace them but I definitely would’ve said hey next time could you have your son ask or I would’ve flat out told my nephew he needs to ask before. However, it’s normal in my family to all “parent” each others kids and more often then not we respect the rules and boundaries other adults lay out. In my opinion I think there’s likely been a history of disrespect towards the OP and he’s more mad about that rather than the actual jellybeans and like Amanda said just chose the wrong issue to lash out on.
As someone who has been around spoiled kids and forced to babysit them by family members, the jelly bean jar isn’t the first issue he’s had with this kid. He has more of a problem with his sister than the kid. I think he should’ve put the jelly beans away if he knew this kid and his mother don’t have boundaries or just don’t invite them to dinner. If it hadn’t been the jelly beans it would have been something else. He would have had more of a case for making the mom pay for the jelly beans if he had put some kind of barrier between the kid and the candy. Or told his sibling that the kid shouldn’t be allowed to eat them.
I laughed more, especially at the different voices, references, & accents they randomly throw out! All 3 of them are very realistic & sensible (for the most part, LOL) & I enjoy/appreciate that too!
The guy talking about carbonara is so funny because all that old-world traditional artisan ingredient collection took place…when carbonara is traditionally made with guanciale (not pancetta) and pecorino romano cheese (sometimes also with parmesan but usually not *only* parm) so those vendors would probably think his carbonara was wrong lol That op should write a food blog tho he’s got a way with words
My god, I was waiting for this comment. Anyone who just reads the carbonara recipe KNOWS it's made with guanciale and pecorino!!! What a douche ! I hope someone pointed this in the comments on the reddit post
This is what I was thinking the whole time too lmaooo. You should also technically use dry pasta not fresh pasta for carbonara. It's more traditional plus an egg based sauce on fresh egg pasta can be too much!
49:20 my sister actually did something similar when I broke my foot. My cousins, aunt and uncle were over so we were all in her room. I had jumped up and landed on a sickled foot while we were making up a dance, and crawled to her room to sleep it off (I thought it was sprained) and my sister whispered in my ear “fat bitch” or something like that. I was 16 and she was 13/14, we’re good now about 5 years later lol
37:16 carbonara aside, because he sounds pretentious. But my child asks every time if he could eat something, even if it was offered first. It is the cutest, sweetest thing. “Are you sure I can have that? Oh wow! Thank you!”
As a child I never took something without permission at the guests house, doesn't mean I wasn't tempted, but to just go and eat 1/3 of a jar is kinda weird for me
THIS. Seven is old enough to have at least learned that in someone else’s house, it’s best to ask before just randomly eating a snack that’s laid out. I always did at my grandparent’s house growing up because I was taught that boundary in elementary school 🥲
Yeah. That’s the only thing that really leans me towards the OP. I feel like if anything he asked his mom (doubtful) and she let him. If the OP would have framed his post differently I might feel more for him, but do agree you go over to someone’s house, you ask if you can eat XYZ. Even at a grandmas house.
Maybe they changed it so guests that don’t work for Smosh don’t feel like they have to share a small couch with someone they barely know? Totally just a guess
Spencer said in the beginning his neck is hurting, so sitting on a couch with Amanda so much taller than him would have aggravated it. I’m going to take that at face value and not read anything crazy in it.
Candle - oh man... He's missing the point that it's her house, her candle and she has it there for decoration and therefore wasn't meant to be burned ... That convo is gonna go well 😂
Yeah, absolutely bonkers for him to think she genuinely thinks there are candles you aren't allowed to burn by law or somethin 🤣 bro it's HER candle and she's telling you she didn't buy it to burn it!! He honestly sounds like he's always a bit of a prick.
@@coalvarner1813 How about don't put an obviously scented candle meant to be lit on the bathroom and pretend is basic decoration, it is not. Have a better idea, buy a candle meant to be decoration or just cut the wicks so it's unusable. They both need better communication, he can't read minds, she can fault him for using the candle for the item intended use, tho he should have asked aswell if he can use the candle. And obviously he is in the wrong for living the candle unsupervised.
I looked up the mirmaid shimmer candle and there is a cardboard insert around the wick that sits flush with it that you're supposed to remove. He either didn't see it or didn't pay attention and absolutely lit the wick that sticks up through it and set a little fire in his bathroom lmao. EDIT: Why is dude sleeping with a backyardigan?????
@annabelledrake2027 this is true but he mentioned a "plastic cover" which is odd because there is no lid on these candles from what I can see and the insert is cardboard
i get their take on the jelly bean sitch but like, i feel it is a breach of boundaries- like i was taught as a kid to ALWAYS ask permission before taking/eating other people’s things, and the mom seemed absolutely indifferent that her child does whatever they want to other people’s stuff
Yeah I was shocked they took the family's side since on previous stories (like the weed cookies one) Shayne was like "As a kid I would never take things without permission"
Yeah I was super surprised because they definitely had stories on here before were things like hygiene and germs were taken very seriously but somehow they glossed over the fact that it may be unbelievably gross for a kid to pick and choose which Jelly Bean out of a jar they wanted
This!!! The mother should have told her son to ask OP first! They were literally in OP's house. Its like if someone robbed a car off someone's driveway and said, "Well you left it there so I took it" like huh? If you are invited into someone else's house you always ask first.
Same! I was taught to ask and be mindful. I have familymembers whom were more energetic and they'd ask too. Frankly it's also a lil scary. Even if you're visiting a home of someone you know, there might be dangerous things. I watch kids in my own home( as does the parent), though I know I don't have dangerous things. Just in case.
Growing up is realizing that my previous relationship (m19 and m29) was pretty fvcked up, even tho I didn't mind the age gap 💀 And thanks to comments like these, I realize it even more! You know. The real problem about these age gaps is that the younger are mostly really insecure and latch on to the older ones for security and a sense of "home". The problem is, most of these older ones are actual children in their minds. Most of them are very very immature and even insecure (they have to look for younger people because it is easier to impress them).
@solidagold115 you're so right! I had the same issue with an ex and a 10 year age gap. I was crazy insecure and he was the most immature boyfriend I've ever been with!
10:41 it’s weird that nobody’s pointed out that they are sitting in front of three orange decorative candles, saying it’s weird that decorative candles exist
I think the point isn’t that people use candles decoratively. It’s that there are *allegedly* candles that CAN’T be lit. They’re purely decorative and cannot be functional.
But.. they are probably real candles that COULD be lit if needed. AND it's a set... everything is basically decorative... even the stuff that would have a use in real life
Whether the candle was meant to be lit or not I wouldn’t feel comfortable lighting someone’s brand new candle or probably a candle in their house in general. It’s one of those things that kinda are like a luxury item (I grew up very poor) and when you light it you’re using it up. And leaving it lit?!? Crazy work.
@@Monicaliai think they meant more so like you wouldn’t ask to use the febreeze in someone’s bathroom or open a new roll of toilet paper if it was out lol. i do agree that a candle is different though, especially a nice looking one.
24:36 This man needs therapy. While there is nothing wrong with holding onto your childhood teddy bear (I have mine still as well), the attachment that he is showing to this bear is a whole new level of unhealthy. I’m not a psychiatrist or psychologist, but I would say that there are some serious attachment issues.
The Utah guy 1:03:50 is most certainly trying his darnest to stay in the closet and throw away the guilt of infidelity at the same time 😂 kudos to the girl for being so incredibly respectful as she keept composure while facing that A-hole.
Jellybeans: I do agree he went overboard with the description of the dinner he cooked, but it had some relevance. It explains why he didn't notice or put the jar away immediately after nephew got into them.
I have to disagree with the argument about the candy. My mom taught me from a very young age that you don’t touch or take things that don’t belong to you-period. It is NOT the brother’s job to eliminate temptations or micromanage someone else’s behavior. Placing the blame on him, especially coming from the parents, reflects a lack of accountability in raising children. Teaching kids to take responsibility for their own actions isn’t just possible-it’s necessary. If my mom managed to instill these values in me, there’s no excuse for others not to do the same.
I agree, I feel like regardless of other context of the story the parents saying OP needs to “remove temptations” is insane bc like maybe teach your kid that you can’t just have things bc you want them?
Exactly like the comments made me feel insane our parents taught us not to touch anything that didn’t belong to us and suddenly everyone forgets that lesson
I dont know man. It's important for kids to know boundaries, but also to take liberties and feel comfortable to some degree. That is also a part of loving in the world with other people. Eating candy from the coffe table of a family member seems reasonable.
43:51 you guys are saying that it’s normal just to let kids pretty much go wild, but I only know kids that know how to ask before getting into anything and he’s old enough to know better
The parent allowing their child to go ham on the jelly beans is the asshole, op maybe going too far but at the end of the day you dont just go to someones home and allow your child to eat their shit. Even as an adult i'll ask. A child is gonna child its up to the parents to discipline them, simply tell the kid to go and ask their uncle.
Tbh I think it depends on the person. If I know my nephews were coming over I'd probably leave out cookies and snacks or something with the hopes they get some. If it wss like hidden in a cabnite sure I hope my house is welcoming enough to my nieces and nephews they feel like they can take a snack without asking. Cause to me that's a sign they feel like a second home. If it wss a cousins house or someone not as close yeah I'd definitely ask. But a house you feel very comfortable in asking feels wierd.
@@nero294 If the kid just took one or two candies off the top without asking, I doubt OP would have minded. But the mother letting him stick his grubby hands in and fish around for every piece of one particular flavor is way over the top.
I completely understand the jellybean story. It’s not about the jelly beans. It’s about 1. The kid didn’t ask (was obviously not taught basic manners, as a child, I was taught to always ask in someone else’s home) 2. The kid ate ALL of them (having been a child before, I can say that as much as I love a certain candy, if there was a limited amount and they weren’t mine to begin with, i wouldn’t even consider eating more than half, let alone ALL of them) 3. Instead of trying to understand and just make amends by saying she’ll get him more jelly beans, she mocked and belittled him then got their parents to side with her further invalidate his feelings. 4. It’s his home and it was a proud moment for him and it was spoiled by his sisters’ kid behaviour because SHE didn’t want to take accountability for the lack of BOUNDARIES and MANNERS her kid has. Saying “well you shouldn’t leave candy out where a kid can see them, it’s your fault” is literally the equivalent of “well she shouldn’t have been wearing that in a room full of men” and that child is going to grow up with that kind of entitled sentiment. NTA His family needs to learn boundaries. He had his, he tried to reinforce and communicate them, they mocked and invalidated him. Only thing he could’ve done differently is find another situation to prove a point that his boundaries need to be respected and not use “jellybeans” cause nobody who’s already not taking you seriously is going to take you seriously when Theres a problem involving jellybeans. He would’ve been in the wrong if she said she would replace them and he continued to be upset about it.
Yeah, the "he's just a kid" thing always pisses me the hell off. If/when a child isn't old enough to control themself, THAT'S WHEN IT'S TIME FOR THE PARENT TO GET OFF THEIR ASS AND BE A PARENT. How else is a child supposed to learn? If you're never taught how to act in public/in someone else's home, you don't just wake up on your eighteenth birthday automatically knowing how to behave and having a sense of self-control. It's like those "radical unschooling" parents who think that if they never teach their kid to read it'll just come to them somehow.
@@ttintagel I actually marginally disagree unschooling your child at least kinda makes sense 9 times out of 10 you're trying to get them out of some level of abuse or bad learnings stimuli but this story makes even less sense because this actively teaching the kid the wrong thing you can go up and take whatever the f*** is not yours because it seems like you could and your family is going to die on that Hill for you
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The mother should have told the son that if he wants jelly beans he needs to ask his uncle if he can have any. That's how you teach kids respect and manners. To use the excuse of "what did you expect a seven year old to do" is lazy parenting.
The lack of couch is so disturbing I didn't realise it added so much to the show lmao. Give it a raise
hashtag bring back the couch
Abso freaking lutley
100%! The separate wheely chairs makes it feel like theyre giving Shayne a surprise performance review, but someone stole the table.
Give it a raise made me lol that was so good
Also.. why is the foot rest still there.😂
The chairs make it look like they're doing couple's councelling
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wdym? thats exactly what's going on. he finally gets to put his psych degree to work
They are.
4:07 counseling is not going well :(
One theme I’ve been dying to see is: “There’s two sides to every story”
The idea being someone posts a story on Reddit and a comment or update from someone mentioned in the story provides insight into the true situation
This is such a good idea
dudeeeeee this is such a good idea i’d LOVE to watch this
oooh, thats a spicy one ;]
knowing the theme would kind of spoil the stories but hey reddit is crazy and anything can happen so i would want to see that
i think they did a similar one with plot twist stories?
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Amanda " also whats the point of decorative candles" with 3 decorative candles over her head that have been there forever is just amazing!
Me and my custom stitched decorative hand towels just decided to ignore the jabs 😂
The increasingly horrified expressions on Spencer and Amanda as Shayne read the teddy bear story were absolutely hysterical. What an insane story.
Shayne was maybe the most uncomfortable he’s been reading a story.
That guy is 100% on the autism spectrum and has no clue (or perhaps just the gf has no clue.) While the weird ass jokes about banging a teddy bear have zero excuse, there were so many hints imo. The obsession and bond with an inanimate object that he wanted to bring everywhere, the fact he was rubbing parts between his fingers, the fact it was impossible to judge whether he was joking or not (probably due to odd tone of voice and/or facial expressions), etc
That’s not me making excuses, the GF should’ve left immediately, but it might explain some of his behaviours.
the fact that there is ANOTHER teddy bear guy mentioned in comments and its not him but its just as dark/weird/crazy is inconceivable, maybe the two teddy guys should go meet in utah!
@@Vin_Venture896I thought the exact same thing and went to the comments to search and see if anyone else thought this also.
@@tamrissa Honestly that second guy was on some Chris-Chan tier autism, even down to the ‘putting all the women I don’t like as villains in my comic stories’ level 😂
The one thing they never mentioned about the teddy bear story is that she WROTE “let’s call him Teddy” like she’s protecting the bear’s identity. And don’t tell me it’s because it doesn’t have a name because you KNOW he would have named that thing.
😂😂😂 That’s so true! Maybe it was just a really distinctive name and the ex boyfriend would have found it on Reddit
Could also be in case anyone she knows finds the story, but like.. I don't think it would help much
no it’s genuinely like a horror movie plot I got scared
I...I can't imagine that there are many guys doing these exact things with a teddy bear out there. The hiding of the name would do NOTHING.
@@yoyohaylilol girrrrl. You’d be quite disgustingly surprised the things some people do, the type of life they live. It entirely does do something it’s to hide his AND her identity, if he’s THAT open and public with the toy, I’m sure his friends, peers family whoever know of it and its name. Her saying it would be directly outing him almost like saying his name.
“your man lacks curiosity” banger from spencer straight out the gate
He's completely right tho lol
@@mabuixa ofc he's not gonna have curiosity about a sandwich. he is out there being the bread winner and the wife is playing with jams at home
And then the "I'm gonna go sleep next to my girlfriend" 😂 banger after banger
@@ShayanKhan-i4s6h being the bread winner has literally nothing to do with being curious about what's in the fridge 😂 especially if the sandwiches don't taste right all the time
@@ShayanKhan-i4s6h LMAO point taken but also not really because we don't know their circumstances. Many women also have a job AND still make meals for their husbands. You can still be curious, it doesn't depend on that.
As an autistic person I can imagine how “an uncle/aunt that is very possessive of their space” can be a thing. I also experience this to some degree, like the absence of something in my space can be disturbing if I didn’t prepare for it. From an outside perspective it seems strange, but is a huge thing for neurodivergent folks. And from what he said, it was about the absence of these jelly beans and also the mess, so idk. Something to think about
Same here. Im worried I will become the jelly bean guy when my sister has kids lmao
the uncle being autistic is very likely, especially with his in depth descriptions of mundane details. I didnt even think of that until i saw your comment. if that's the case its hard to say he's the asshole
I was about to make a similar comment. I can imagine how someone (perhaps neurodivergent) who doesn’t typically have kids around, especially in their NEW home, would be upset when their typical routine is upset. Especially when, like they said, nobody even bothered to ASK and it seemed like the sister was immediately defensive rather than apologizing. It’s not OP’s responsibility to anticipate their nephew’s actions, especially when they’ve never had a reason to not leave candy out in their own personal space
the story made me realize I'm that uncle and some family members are very aware of it bc when my brother came by with my nephew he made sure to tell him "all those figures are only for looking!!! no touching!!" which i didn't even think about bc my merch collection doesn't register to me as a potential playground with a lot of "action figures". but also i don't think my nephew would have touched anything without asking, he just walked past it all anyways. at that age i also would always make sure i have permission to use things or take food? meanwhile my other nephew at some point went wild on a box with my stuff at my parents house while my brother watching him didn't say shit. then said i can't be mad bc it's just a kid. well i wasn't mad at the kid, i was mad at you for not stopping the kid that doesn't know better yet!!!! or my mom would just hand my plushies for babies to play with, knowing damn well they're displayed and not laying around to grab for a reason. which feels familiar to this story. even if the kid doesn't know better (though at that age you should) the adults around it should know to first ask. with how they're replying I wouldn't even be suprised if the mom just told him to grab some even lmao
@@angelomordini6779 people should respect other people’s space regardless. There’s a definite increase in caring about other people’s physical boundaries, so I think it’s a reasonable ask
"I was gay because of the altitude" 😂 broke back mountain finally makes sense! They were just altitude gay 😂😂😂
"They were just altitude gay" is officially being adopted into my permanent vocabulary 🤣
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It's not gay if you're a ways away from the equay
Omg that comment killed me 😂😂😂
meanwhile @ alex jones: "THE MOUNTAIN AIR IS MAKING THE BIGHORN SHEEP AND MOUNTAIN GOATS GAY!!"
25:16 "Teddy was red and now he is grey" sounds like a horror movie tag line haha
“ I don’t feel good about that” lmaoo
The teddy guy sounds like chris chan
That whole story just seems like a full on horror story to me. Like teddy is going to torment op in her sleep or something. It truly was some Patrick Bateman type shit 🥺 the rest were silly but omg that one gave me the creeps so bad! (Whilst still also being silly because wtf?!?!)
Sounds like spoken word lol
Teddy was red, but at high altitudes he is gay
Is no one talking about the plot twist of Teddy not even being a bear in the first place, that’s clearly a damn MOOSE
It's not even cute, lol 😂
I was thinking hippo!
How was that red initially and turned so fully grey???? This is so confusing?!?!?!
THANK YOU
i'm guessing it's cause british people call any plushies 'teddies' so she was giving it a generic name
Most if not all decorative candles are also functional, you just choose to not light it so the wax doesn't melt down. I doubt she was saying the candle wasn't made to be lit at all, she was saying that she doesn't light that candle as she's using it decoratively
That’s what I was thinking
Women can’t be wrong ay it’s literally impossible
Never have I ever been mortified by a Teddy Bear story. The progression and pivots were WILD.
This is a three month relationship, of which two weeks, she was aware from him. She is honestly trying to get the guy to pick her. If you have to cry and beg him to pick you over a teddy bear… op must have really liked this guy or her self-esteem is trashed.
Like he wasn’t just trying the hard f-no of using the bear to do sex things against despite her no’s.
But he was negging her. Oh Teddy’s perfect; she is far from it…
There's definitely a hole in the bear. I don't believe he was joking 😂
@@Coffeegal-g9mI fully agree with you! I’d be checking for hole if I were her. I’m also guessing it’s why the bear is now grey lol. Omg and the fact that he hasn’t washed it in 12 years 🤮 even if teddy boy does believe the bear is real…then it really needs a bath. Imagine not showering for 12 years, you would feel all kinds of nasty, treat the bear to a spa day!
SILLYYYYY
@@justinecorrington4106… what
5:12 "Naughty husbands get the sad jam" mad me snort
the swivel chairs add such a silly gooseness
Geeseness
Don't call them silly geese.
Dont call them geese, silly
Right. It was perfect. 😂😂
They made the right choice on them if the couch had to go on vacation.
Here’s the thing with the candle. She says it wasn’t meant to be lit. This could easily mean she didn’t buy it with the intent of lighting it. Growing up we had candles in the bathroom they were 100% for decoration on purpose.
I can’t believe they got Shayne to read the entirety of that godawful Teddy story 🤢 give that man a raise
Athena I love your Wild Kratts vid. You did so well 👏
Also, I agree with you. Martin was my favorite brother💕
@@speakingtoflowersoh my gosh thank you so much!!!!!! YES MORE BLUE BROTHER APPRECIATION 🤌
Dude are we getting smosh lore? Is this research?
omg the legend appears in the comments!!
Seeing your comment here got me excited. One of my many worlds colliding.
Couch? C-c-couch? Where did the couch go….?
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Spencer pulled a Shane Dawson on the couch lol
Trevor
@vocasoti different couch
I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT WHERE TF IS THE COUCH???? 😂😂😂
Bro the teddy story genuinely scares me and the fact that there's TWO OF THEM?!?!? this is NOT silly lmao
I assure you, there are more than two.
That freak of a guy never grew up.
Frfr that dude is a literal man baby!! Why is this girl with that guy wtf?!?!
I was genuinely creeped out. Amanda is right, new fear unleashed !
Definitely more disturbing than silly
39:49 Let me rephrase this story a little. The OP is bringing up the work put into dinner because in they're rush if timing each element of the dish. The jar is a normal placement in his home, it's easy to forget it's even out while preparing an extensive meal for guests. The OP clearly cares about food enough to treat the people they care about.
As a parent who refused to have an unruly child, a simple ask would have prevented this whole thing. As a person with a sister who operates just like this, she would have handed me the 5 dollars if it meant that much to me. But also having grown up in the same house, their sister should have been well aware that OP has their weird quirks and could have kept better eye on their child. Everyone is the asshole. SEVEN is not three. Seven year old have sense. They do know better...
My family believe my eight yr old brother doesn’t know better. I’ve seen younger children act more mature. For me it’s all about “that’s my food and you didn’t ask”
How is OP an asshole?
It’s stupid that they didn’t put the jar away when they knew some entitled ass brat of a kid was coming to their house. Put your stuff away if you don’t want kids to get to it.
@@AshleyFromTX I agree. If you have people over socially and leave food on your coffee table, EVERYONE is going to assume its out for guests. Period. I think his sister is lame, but this wasn't the hill to die on. Making a big principled stand about respect over fucking cream soda jellybeans is laughable for a grown ass man.
It's wild to me that people seem to think it's ok to let children take other people's things without asking. Regardless of what it is. Do they not understand this child is going to grow into an adult at some point?
They knew putting Amanda in a couch with Spencer was way too dangerous, even with adult supervision lol.
I'm dying 😂😂
Spencer is the heart throb of the channel 😝❤
@@drea7421 heart and everything else...
@@drea7421Considering Shayne is right there, that’s high praise indeed
@@minkiekittenHonestly, the thirst transferred to Spencer on April 1st. I seen it happen in real time. Since the photos were posted I have seen very little Shayne thirst content.
for the candle one, its very plausible that she meant youre not meant to light this one as in "i didnt want this to be used, its decorative TO ME"
Then she should have made him aware of that. He can't read her mind. He did nothing wrong for lighting it, only for leaving it unattended.
In any stress situation the shattered expectation is the point. She knew it wasn’t supposed to be lit, so it was distressing to find out it was. It’s not like she sat down and calmly blamed him for not knowing as if that made sense, it’s just the shock of the contrast between her assumptions and what happened, it’s just a basic anxiety response (3C’s of sympathetic nervous system, context connection and choice. wanting to know why, wanting to relate it to your experience, wanting to have agency over the situation. Any of those go away we get anxious, any anxiety we hunt for those to feel comfort)
Just got to the end of that clip, yeah his “i passive agressively left the candle upside down to prove to my gf I was right and she was wrong” yiiikes this narcissist needs to grow up. Imagine almost burning your place down and you’re more worried about one upping someone or someone being wrong and you being right, as if that fucking matters in the slightest. Dude is an insecure mess who needs to feel correct at all times to not lose his mind, run girl
@@Xanderj89 Yeah, for sure, that was crazy petty and childish.
Exactly, I believe you shouldn't go to other people's homes and use things without asking first. Sure, in this case it wasn't that big of a deal, but it wouldn't hurt to ask first 🤷♀️ but I think many people think different too, maybe it's a cultural thing, or it depends on how you were raised
My sister, growing up, would steal all of my things (books, money, etc) and either destroy it or consumme it. It was to the point that I would hide my self-bought treat food under my bed and when she still ate it, my mother would tell me that it was my fault for not buying two of everything because I "knew she liked it".
The jellybean story, especially because of how intense this guy feels about something so small, feels like the final straw. Now that she's had a kid, there's another person in his life that feels entitled to his space. Albeit, it's a child and that is normal, but it seems like he's hypersensitive to this sort of thing.
Thank you! I thought I was going insane! It doesn’t matter that it was “just jellybeans”, if your kid eats or takes something that doesn’t belong to them, you replace it. You should also teach your child to ask before just taking things.
I felt bad for OP, and knew it was technically beyond “a kid ate my favourite jellybeans without asking”. The pattern had clearly been set by their unbothered parents and sister with how they grew up together/raised OP, and like you said, now there’s a extra person taught that it’s ok to enter OP’s space and take their things. I wish parents would teach their kids about boundaries, it’s not that hard. The jellybeans aren’t a big deal and I wouldn’t bother asking for a replacement, but it’s just a lack of care from others.
That's what i was thinking too. I feel like it was mostly NTA because he wasnt mad at the kid for eating it, he was mad at the sister for letting her son get into his things while he spends time and money inviting them into his place and cooking them a really nice meal. And then he didnt get mad until the sister refused to replace it. Even if some offers me something at their place i offer to replace it, especially if its the last one of it or if I know they like it.
That's not even hypersensitive, that's normal. The kid both helped himself without asking, and fished through the whole thing for the ones he liked, which is really gross. If you touch it, you eat it. And always ask first.
I felt insane when they started laughing at him.. yeah he never actually got mad at the kid which I think definitely helps his case. I just think he'd be better if he went no contact with how the family reacted..
“Everyone at a certain altitude is gay” overall was one of my favorite bits in all of ever.
Parents: you shouldn't leave temptations out for kids >:[
The life-size cardboard cut outs of The Temptations I keep in my living room: ain't too proud to beg :(
This is incredible
I adore this comment
this is the greatest thing i’ve ever read
LMAO
I absolutely love this comment. You have a damn fine taste in music to think of a joke like this on the fly
I think a Reddit potluck could be fun, where cast and crew bring their favorite Reddit post/story.
That would be awesome!
This comment needs more likes!!
Omg this!!!! They really need to do this!!!
I'm a teacher, so I've seen what happens BEYOND the jelly bean story. The kids who are told it's okay to take things that don't belong to them become the most challenging and entitled students to work with who think that the world is only theirs. I've had students who will take their neighbor's snack because "I like it more than the one I have" and think it's totally acceptable. The problem isn't the jelly beans, it's the ripple effect that the validation of this behavior has.
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I work at Disney world and I second this lol
Exactly! I can see why people think he’s the asshole, at the end of the day it’s just jelly beans. But I can’t help but see the bigger picture here lol it’s HIS home, HIS jellybeans. Ofc a child is going to devour candy if they see it, that’s why it’s up to the parents to teach their kids to respect other people’s space and belongings.
In science class once our teacher had a can of coke open on her desk, she left the room for 2 minutes to get something and when got back a kid had skulled the coke. Turned out she was a t1 diabetic and was experiencing hypoglycemia so straight up that kid could've killed her if she didn't have back ups.
On one hand, I get what your saying. It would be polite for the parent to ask if it is okay for the kid to have some jelly beans or encourage the kid to ask before just letting them eat whatever they want. On the other hand, if I invite friends or family over to my house I wouldn't leave candy out on the table if I wasn't willing to share it with anyone I was inviting over.
For the jellybean story, I feel like you guys are missing the point. Spencer even highlighted the fact that he is very upset with over this because it’s most likely has happened over and over again to him. OP stated that his sister was the spoiled one growing up, and he most likely had to suffer with having to either share or give her everything. Now she has a kid that does the exact same thing. He highlighted how hard he worked for the place because he finally has something that is just his that he doesn’t have to share with her. He highlighted the cooking of dinner becausehe he wanted to explain what he was doing and why he didn’t notice his nephew eating them. I know for a fact that if he didn’t highlight that you guys would be asking “what were you doing” or “why didn’t you notice”. This is about respect, plain and simple. And this type of idea has been highlighted in pasted stories involving kids where you guys have agreed that boundaries and respect you need to be taught to kids. You do not just get to go into someone’s house because they have candy you can just eat it. Whether you know them or not. The only exception is if you’ve been told by the owner of the house that if you can come over and treat yourself. Not the first time you’re ever in someone’s house where you don’t know any of the rules or boundaries they have for their home. You need to ask, I mean what if this was like the edible story? OP is not in the wrong here at all,and the sister should replace what her son takes. Because in the real world, he will face consequences for this type of stuff, and he will not be prepared since she failed him. He is just learning that he can get away with it and slowly will move up to bigger things that are not just jellybeans.
“why did you leave the jelly beans out knowing a kid was coming over” its his apartment and its not his fault his sister doesnt know how to teach her kid manners? L video tbh
You perfectly stated what I was thinking as I heard their opinions about OP. Thank you!
If any of that is true and not an assumption you’ve made, he should have expressed all of that like an adult to his sister.
This gotta be the jelly bean guys alt account, it ain’t that deep lmao
@@Scoutzen seriously, for once Reddit was not extremely over dramatic, and smosh audience is lol a person can grow up perfectly fine and respectful after taking jelly beans from a jar as a kid.
Kiana should choose the reddit stories more often. This was such an unhinged collection. Usually we get one absolutely insane story per episode.... This one had several! ❤
Kiana is a great curator! Loved the episode of Smoshmouth where she chose the topics to talk about too
That jellybean story makes me wonder how often his parents allowed his sister to break his boundaries as a child. Like, I do think he was overreacting a little, but all I can think is how his reaction to the jellybeans is probably a reaction to feeling disrespected in a space that he thought was safe
Exactly 💯
And he lacks common sense. He had guests over and left a candy dish out in the open for them while he was preparing the meal why would he assume they wouldn't have any?
@@yourgrammarisnotverygood1827yeah if someone is hosting I would assume food left out in the open like that is for anyone
Its good manners to ask, not assume. If you assume things, then assuming wrong is 100% on you
When you're in someone elses home, you don't assume. You ask, it takes literal seconds to ask and avoids so many problems.
"NAUGHTY HUSBANDS GET THE SAD JAM!"
*wheeeeeeeze*
“Know better than to have temptations out around kids” turns into “well, what were you wearing?” And “you know men can’t help themselves”
😣 🤮 Yeah. I wish that wasn’t true, but… yuck.
wait you’re actually so right and so smart and i genuinely appreciate you so much for coming to this conclusion but sharing it too
That’s a stretch. Children literally don’t have developed brains. They literally cannot help themselves sometimes. Adult men can. Also, someone’s body is very different than jelly beans.
Thats quite the slippery slope
@@Hannahgsbut it’s the principle, if the kid isn’t taught boundaries about something as dumb as not taking someone’s jellybeans without permission, how do you know he’ll know how to ask permission when it comes to someone else’s body?
The flirter and the flirtee, we'll see how this goes lmao
Who is who, in this dynamic?
a minute in and they are not disappointing aha
@@hernameispekka_Rebeccaboth are both
About how you would expect 4:06 😆
They WOULD if they COULD😂😂😂
58:57 Girl, *HE* threw the relationship away when he made the conscious decision to cheat.
“Turning gay” does not mean you are forced to have sex.
Lmao 😂😂😂
For the Utah's Gay Altitude Story: I think the guy would present Brokeback Mountain to help his case with his ex girlfriend. He'd be like, "SEE?! SEE?! They only became gay ON THE MOUNTAIN. And when they went DOWN, they were STRAIGHT again, and married WOMEN!"
Lord of the Rings as well, higher they climb gayer they get.
There is a scene where they kiss at his house and a guy's wife see's them... So if anything, it would worsen his case lol
he just caught a case of a the SSA the Mormons are contagious
It was just a gaycation, come on, guys!
I thought this as soon as heard the story, it explains so much
Jelly bean story is one of the few times I grew truly annoyed at smosh crew. Teach your 7-year-old not to eat or touch people's stuff! Childless people don't always childproof their homes. If you want your kid to be able to exist in non childproof spaces, watch and teach them. Be a parent. If my son went to my brothers place and ate his favorite candy, I would DEFINITELY replace it even if it was cheap. It's not my brother's fault my son lacks boundaries.
I think this may be a smosh commentaters dont have kids thing... but i seriously hope they would not raise their kids to think they can just stick their grimy unwashed germy kid hands in someone else's candy jar without even asking.
Yeah as a mother, I would be MORTIFIED if my kids went to someone’s house and just started helping themselves to whatever was around. My Mum had a bowl full of chocolates on her coffee table atm, just there, as it’s Christmas and my kids can have as many as they want, as long as they ask. It’s called being polite and respectful. Something that’s clearly lots on an absolute ton of people on this planet.
I think it's a bit more nuanced, or maybe it varies culturally or for each family because yes, helping yourself to things around the house or kitchen is rude as hell, things left in a coffee table are usually /for/ guests and it's more unusual to ask for each item. (Although its usually stated to the guests that they're welcome to do so)
It reminds me of the Reddit story that a kid got into edibles. As a parent, you literally have to teach kids boundaries and to ask for permission. I disagree with their logic of it not being a big deal.
Edit: Also people who don’t have kids aren’t automatically thinking to child proof their house. You have to watch your own kids because they are your responsibility.
THANK YOU someone said it.
Listening to them talk about it was making me SO mad because it’s NOT about the jelly beans; OP states in the post that the nephew didn’t ask
It’s not like it was in a bowl and they were wrapped candies, the kid genuinely shoved his sticky hands, cuz kids hands remain sticky until they’re like 10 for some reason, all through the bag of jellybeans and she just let it happen. No, jellybeans aren’t expensive but when your kid eats all of someone’s food, even if it’s just candy, you replace it
Right?! My nieces are 5 and 3 and know to ask, and have known since being able to freaking talk to ask. Like. Why the hell are kids just allowed to do literally anything. My grandmother used to leave candy out in jars, we weren't allowed to touch them unless we asked. What is fucking happening?!
for the jelly bean story, i was raised to never touch, let alone eat something, without permission. clearly he is coming from a place where his sister was always spoiled so maybe he never had something of his own until his own condo and “his” jelly beans. if it was my kid i’d replace them instead of starting a fight
Or he could just teach the kid himself. Kids don’t automatically know shit. Now if the sis starts a fight over teaching the kid boundaries, then that’s worth starting a fight over.
@@lizziewahlwhy should _he_ teach a child who's not his??? That's literally his sister's responsibility. If his sister can't be the adult here and parent her own child, why the hell does he have to do her job for her???
@@lizziewahlit's no his kid, it's his nephew. The sister needs to be the adult and parent her child. She doesn't care to discipline him and let's him do whatever he wants. And he's 7, he should know better. But he doesn't because he's spoiled and never hears the word "No".
Same! If it's not yours, don't touch it! Even with family!
@@lizziewahl Why should he have to teach the kid?
BEGGING for you guys to do a smosh theatre where you recreate silly AITA posts
yes yes yes! would love that so much 🖤
YES
At least, use the premises
YES!
To me, this is the perfect vibe for reddit stories!!!
I love it when the guests are allowed to interupt the stories a bit to make jokes! Spencer is also just always funny!
A lot of the time everyone just sits silently, waiting until they can speak, but I love it when they allow themselves to joke around more and interject with reddit stories❤
Cant believe Shayne called them Silly Gooses. Probably the worst thing he could have called them
Lmaooo great callback
@@queenemmersomg I cant remember what is it a callback to
Would have been the perfect story for this episode. @@queenemmers
@thatperson7077 A girl was watching her brothers children and she said her brother can be a silly goose. One of the kids told their dad and he flipped a swore at her for calling him a silly goose.
@@thatperson7077 It was in the wholesome episode with Thomas Sanders
"Teddy was red, and now he's gray" is the new "get your pancakes out"
Seriously though, put everything else about Teddy aside for a moment, and JUST the fact that she's asked him to stop making her kiss Teddy, but he keeps doing it, is dealbreaker territory for me. If somebody can't respect your boundaries for "silly" things, they're not going to respect your boundaries for serious things.
Yeah, exactly! The doing something that someone asked you to stop doing but don't listen and keep doing it, pisses me off so much 😠
Exactly, this is about basic respect for other people's boundaries. If you respect me so little that you continue to touch my face with some filthy thing even if I have repeatedly said not to do that, we're done. This guy needs some serious therapy IMO
The last guy is 100% trying to avoid responsibility for what he did. He's trying to convince himself and her that she is dumping him for being "temporarily gay" so he can play it off as her being homophobic/ bigoted, instead of admitting that the reason she's dumping him is because he cheated on her.
the mental gymnastics/circus is crazyyyy.
It could still be twofold like they were saying. Yeah he's probably feeling guilty and making excuses. But he was so focused on the gay thing that he's probably just trying to convince himself he's not gay.
This is what I thought. He's not out maybe, not accepting, and is now being quite awful to try and protect his own ego that he's at least bi.
I like how they are questioninging decorative candles in the story....with 3 orange candles in their background to a studio set.... where they would never be lighting candles.
37:02 OK, there is a WHOLE subtext re: the apartment, the carbonara, not just the jelly beans. He is clearly the scapegoat, sister is the golden child. He is looking for validation, a prize, something, because his parents treated the differently.
He thought that if he put all this work in, suddenly they would SEE him - “oh my god, you’re amazing, well done for buying an apartment! The pasta is AWESOME! No one should damage anything that is yours!”. I’m sorry to say he’s going to be waiting a long time for this dynamic to change. He’s clearly put up with a lot - thinking HE needed to be better, achieve more, etc etc. I’m going to call it. He needs to go to a therapist, explain the family dynamic, and go low contact. I know sounds bonkers, but iykyk.
THAT'S GOOOD... Even though I think there are multiple personalities/stories that could result in that behavior. He reminds me more of some narcistic personalities who I know, because of the self importance behind thinking that explaining the pasta process and how "good" of a chef he is makes him deserve extra special respect even from a 7 year old.
I love your analysis though you sound like you'd be a blast to watch The Bear with lol.
These are not characters from a book or tv show, you really can't know what the situation is beyond what is told in the reddit post
@tolely00 - I think that might be one of the best compliments LOL!
@Plusmax78 - I just don't think that's true. There's a ton of insight/ info here. Different people have different experiences, and different backgrounds. That post might mean nothing to you but the bare facts. For a lot of people it says a while lot more, and that's OK.
I think it says a lot when he has to stress on even the smallest effort he makes in details. Shayne said, OP puts a lot of attention on other things he did, but he didn't clock why someone would do that? The person would either be a narcissist who is me,me,me or someone who feels his efforts would not be seen unless he spells it out to the other person. The OP is obviously the second kind and and I feel bad for him as a child who felt unseen growing up. Hope he ditches the family bc they'll hardly change the life they have lived for almost 3 decades now.
Jelly bean one kinda pissed me off, my grandparents used to always leave a big, ornate bowl of m&ms out (my fav) and encouraged everyone to eat them but me and other grandkids were still polite and asked every time bc that’s how parents/aunts and uncles raised us? children aren’t feral, they can be taught to not treat everything like it’s theirs lmao
Hey so a child sometimes is still learning the fundamentals of respecting boundaries. We don't know the age of this child. Regardless, IT IS A CHILD A TODDLER. Not all are the same and you'll be incredible arrogant to believe that a child would understand boundaries especially over something like candy.
@ and that’s great, if they’re actually learning, the sister seems to not have any interest in actually teaching small boundaries like that if she herself brushed it off. It is a silly thing, kids will eat candy, but it’s on sister to teach him to ask first, family or not. Also 7 is not a toddler lol
Yes we do... the kid's 7. Thats old enough to understand boundries @RokkaBillie
@@RokkaBilliea 7 year old is not a toddler. a seven year old is an elementary schooler who has been in school for 2 years. a 7 year old can absolutely be taught boundaries
Personally, the fact that a single flavour was picked out would be my issue. In addition to that, a mess was left behind. And they're not that expensive so the sister should have no problem replacing those.
Early childhood education teacher here and I disagree with ya’ll take with the jelly bean story. We always know the students who weren’t taught manners and boundaries. They usually take others food, toys, push friends out the way to get to the slide. It’s hard to work with them because at home they get to do whatever they want with no consequences and expect everyone else to treat them that way. Trying to tell those parents this is even harder because usually those parents usually have the SAME outlook on life. 7 year olds and 100% capable of self-control and respecting boundaries. Heck my pre-k students (4 year old) know to ask if they want something this is a lack of respect and teaching on the sister part
Yeah, perhaps people forget that Reddit isn’t the judiciary, most opinions are the common ones, which are often the flawed ones
I was waiting for this comment as an ECE as well!
I agree, their take was not ok for this one. Your child takes too much of something then REPLACE IT and teach them that's not ok
if you leave jelly beans out on the coffee table when guests come over to me it would be obvious that they are for everyone. At least that’s how everyone I’ve ever known operates. Food left out in the sitting area during time that guests are over was always something left out for people to snack on while they waited for food or after dinner. Idk I just found that story really odd, maybe my family is weird?
As a parent to a spicy brained 7 year old, she knows to ask if she can have something. Food, toys, whatever. If we are not in our own house, she asks. We don't know the rules in everyone's lives and these people invited us in. We go by their rules. Ask before we take, not hard, even for an ADHD 7 year old
13:51 the sassy comment followed by the straight face and arm cross SLAYED ME!!!! Why is Spencer such a savage?!😂😂😂
shayne STANDING UP during the jelly bean felt like a fourth wall being broken. The couch gone? Seeing the set a little bit when shayne ran? The lamp is looking weird...
Omg the lamp is looking weird!
Holy shit, this is a DEEP reference!
The jellybean story reminds me of when my great grandmother died and she left me with her art supplies. We bonded over art and a lot of the supplies were expensive for professional artists. My parents forced me to share my art supplies with my siblings which just resulted in expensive supplies getting wasted or broken. Not going to lie, I’m still bitter about that.
It’s not about the jelly beans or the pasta. He put in incredible effort to impress his family and felt walked over in his own home. He mentioned at the beginning that sister was spoiled with no boundaries, similar to his nephew. He just wants to be seen, heard and appreciated by his family.
Absolutely, idk everyone’s reaction was pissing me off
Your story about art supplies and your bitterness about it has nothing to do with this guy leaving a jar of jellybeans and crying when his favorite ones were eaten (not all of them, which he mentioned. There were still cream soda jellybeans in the jar)
Art supplies that were passed down from your great grandma are NOTHING like goddamn jellybeans you can just buy at any candy store. You're not going to die if someone eats it. The world will continue to spin.
Wah, wah, my family never gave me attention, so I better go cry to Reddit about it, hyping my house and cooking skills so everyone can admire me. Poor you dude, cry me a river and stop inviting people you don't like and feel like don't respect you, because he CLEARLY doesn't like his sister. Glad Reddit didn't give him the attention he desperately wants.
That comment was meant for Valeri idk why it didn’t let me tag them
@@valerial9081 Yeah exactly, I don't know how the jelly beans even compare. They are replacable unlike expensive art supplies with sentimental value. He is allowed to be upset about it but he could simply go buy some more and prevent it from happening next time by not inviting them or hiding the beans.
I think they find the story silly because of one single point: you invite people over, you leave treats on the table, you expect people to have it.
Yes, asking for permission is the way to do it, but as Shayne says if he is at his grandparents', your family, normally you wouldn't ask. You expect people to leave the treats on purpose.
The guy is also sour over his cream soda only. If the kid ate randomly, will he get angry? I don't know. But what he kept specifying is the cream soda. If that's your favorite, maybe the owner should just have some saved in his personal stash?
For me personally, I think the OP built up some pent up anger over his nephew and this is the last straw. And also having the first experience of hosting a party. Maybe this incident would make him aware that not everyone is built the same and some people are rude or not self aware. That few cream soda jelly beans is a cheap fee to learn the lesson in my opinion.
But sorry for your expensive art supplies though. That is way different than these jelly beans in my opinion 😅
"your man lacks curiosity" unbelievable start Spencer ilu
the way both of their expressions switched SO QUICK at 21:04 I can't stop laughing
The candle story - she could have meant that she didn't mean for them to be lit, not necessarily that it was manufactured to be burned
That's what I thought too - I feel like the guy was being purposefully dense!
Everyone also seems to be ignoring the fact that it's not his candle to light, this was in her apartment - I would never light a candle in someone else's home without asking first!
Exactly! The candle could be for decor
@@Itmustbe_bunnies Agree. Yeah like at least asked first?
Not sure what possesses someone to look at something and be like “I’ll light this up without asking first :) “
That's what I assumed too, not that she meant it literally couldn't be lit. Like she definitely just meant she bought it as decor and just didn't want it lit cause once you light a candle it does look less nice
At this point, I care less about the lighting of the candle and more about leaving the candle lit and leaving the house. That's like starting to cook on the oven and leaving to go buy something at the corner store. It might be fine, but there's a high chance you'll come back to a hazardous mess.
The teddy bear story is absolutely terrifying
Even worse there's a movie for it. Two of them. LOL Yes the TED movies.
I have a favorite teddy bear that I’ve had since I was 2 days old but I know he’s not a person lol
I have two bears from my childhood ,had both for over 40 years but they live on top of my big book case in the bedroom I share with my husband. one to keep them away from our cat and two I have had my husband to cuddle in bed for the past 20 years.
And she still was like "I need to have this man, I cry for this man, I let his crusty unwashed for 12 years was red now gray teddy bear" like come on, girl, get up!
That's what I think too ! He will be in my nightmares for sure. I feel like I lost some of my innocence with that story !
As someone autistic, I sometimes have specific plans and routines around things. If I had jellybeans and someone went through and took my favourites I might cry because of how it would completely upset my feeling of safety and boundaries. I was always told to ask before taking anything that isn’t mine, so the idea of someone just taking shit seems so rude I can’t fathom allowing that behaviour.
as another autistic person- my mind went there was well. not gonna diagnose this random guy ofc but i don't think he's the asshole here bc you should teach your kids not to take other peoples things, even if they're just jellybeans. it's a personal boundary, that's the issue here. especially with someone who so clearly values his space and has a system working for him that he clearly depends on, even if that's not autism that should still be valued and respected. replace the jellybeans! if they're "just jellybeans" then it shouldn't be a big deal to replace them?
THIS!!!
Tbh, if you don't want people to eat your jelly beans you shouldn't keep them out in the open for everyone when you have a 7 year old coming over. Keeping a candy bowl out is essentially an invite to take some. And at the end of the day..... It's literally just jelly beans.
If they had moved the beans to their room and the kid went in there and took all their favorite, then the story would be different. I host a lot of stuff and if I have candy out I expect that it'll be eaten!
I see that but, it being in the coffee table IT looks like a treat for everyone, if you don’t want to share, keep them somewhere else.
Agree. I’d just put them away and ask if they would want them
I love the "work mom and dad" relationship that Spencer and Amanda have. It is honestly S tier.
"what is this, r/candle ????" was the funniest reaction hahahahahaha
39:29 to be honest that kid is probably taking a lot more from that guy than just a jellybeans. It sounds like he lived with his parents and his sister and her kid for a while and nobody ever treated his stuff like it was his. I also lived with people who had kids and nothing of mine was ever actually mine. The kids would always take my stuff and anytime. I asked their parents if I could get it back it was always “but they’re kids!!!!”
Not about them being kids though, it’s about that personal boundary of stuff. He invited them into his home and the kid didn’t ask, just took. It’s not a big deal, but the fact that his sister adamantly refused to replace something that cost at most five bucks shows that this is something that’s been happening for a while and he asked her to replace stuff before and she’s given that same response.
Not to mention the fact that most people don’t have that much sugar much sugar. We’re a family gathering now that I’m an adult, anytime a kid wants any kind of candy or sugary thing they have to ask first! Especially when it comes to things like dinners where bedtime is right after that, you don’t want your kid all hopped up and crazy. It kind of shows that she’s a little neglectful of her children she’s neglectful of other peoples boundaries. Tbh that sister is the AH. It might not seem like a big deal, but this is probably probably the final straw in a long list of boundary pushing
I was thinking the same thing. Candy is a small and petty thing to truly be concerned about. He felt violated and disrespected after inviting his family over to his new home as well as spending a lot of time to prepare a nice dinner for them. I think the issue, unfortunately, is that he poorly articulated his story and communication towards his sister.
@@LastKnightKaname exactly this. OP written it probably in the middle of his angry thoughts and didn't really articulate that the problem was never about the beans. Everyone here is too focused on the beans. The real problem is that he let people into his home and there was no ounce of common courtesy to just ask if it is okay to touch/grab/eat that just because they are family. Hypothetically, as a parent, would you not be wary of your own kids simply taking any food item at someone else's house not knowing if your kid is allergic to it or what the food item actually is even if it LOOKS safe to eat? The fact OP's sister does not seem to care shows she also has does not care for her own child let alone care for or have any respect for anyone else but herself.
It also sounds like her parents feed into and enable this behavior as well.
@@LastKnightKaname i mean unfortunately if that is the situation (and the family has had this dynamic his whole life) then no matter how well he articulates himself, they will still discount his feelings. Because they have decided that his feelings and boundaries are silly (to them) and therefore don't deserve to be respected, and if he gets upset then HE needs to grow up (not them). It's such a frustrating and exhausting position to be in. I think he'd be amazed how much better he would've handled the situation with another child if he was coming from a place not surrounded by this feeling of being disenfranchised and disrespected. We really become better people when we distance ourselves from the influences (sadly, sometimes these are family) that make us feel so powerless and unheard.
For the jellybean story, I just imagine myself in the sister’s shoes. If my kid ate something my sibling clearly cared about enough to confront me over, I would definitely replace it and have a word with my kid to tell them not to eat things at someone else’s house without asking. Like, yes, they’re cheap and it is a little silly, but it’s still their food and their house.
edit: to be clear, I don’t really mean this as a criticism of their response to the story-more so as an observation of how the view of this story changes when I swap whose viewpoint I’m taking. Because in the carbonara-makers shoes, if my sisters kid ate all of my special (but cheap) dessert, I would personally just shrug and remember to put the jar up next time. I get why they thought OP’s response was a little silly (especially with the carbonara creative writing journey OP went on), because from our POV, it is a little sillygoofy. But by shifting the POV, we can see that the sister’s response is also a little unreasonable, too, especially considering how cheap they would be to replace and the fact the kid needs to be better parented.
Exactly! OP is a bit of a silly goose, but the sister was clearly the AH of the story. This doesn't even touch the fact that they were about to eat DINNER and she's letting her kid fill up on pure sugar beforehand.
Agreed
100%. It may not mean much to you, but it means a lot to them, so it’s not the jellybeans that matter, it’s the fact that it upsets your sibling. I would buy two packets to replace it.
I definitely see this side as someone from a big family. But as someone from a big family, I know to hide it before they show up. Especially if I know the child is spoiled.
If I was OP, id be pissed. The kid could've asked, AND OP is making food for them already.
Can we always have Spencer on the Reddit stories
The way his brain works really makes me laugh
As a person who still owns my childhood teddy bear. It does not smell- it does not have a colour change, yes it's worn but WHAT THE HELL HOW IS HIS SO NASTY
I was going to comment the same thing. I have a teddy bear that plays a lullaby. He was gifted to me when I was a baby, about 27 years ago. He lives on my bed or on a chair. He is worn in places (his nose especially has lost some color because when I was a kid, I used to rub it for good luck lmao) and his color is slightly faded (from beige to lighter beige), but to go from red to gray??? And to smell?? Yikes. I think we can all imagine what that guy is doing to his teddy bear....
We know how...
...you know how.
I've still got the one I was given at birth i turned 37 this Wednesday it's 37 ish yrs old
The fact that he’s potentially done freaky stuff w the bear but HASN’T CLEANED IT IN 12 YEARS!! So gross! And he would rub it on her face and mouth? absolutely unhinged
I think Kiana needs to be the primary person who picks the reddit stories because holy crow, this has been my absolute favorite reddit stories video ever.
36:50 the thing is tho..its HIS. Imagine his kid stole food that his sister didnt want them to touch. Its about asking, kids dont ask. Thats why you TEACH them but obviously she didnt. His sister needs to learn boundaries and how to parent. Its also weird how the commenters didnt notice no one asked to take food. Js bc ur family doesnt mean u dont ask
I agree. I wouldn't necessarily be angry at the kid, he's a kid. Old enough to know better, but unfortunately, he has a shitty parent that didn't TEACH him to know better. I would be BEYOND angry at any of my siblings if I were in that position. Luckily, they are all good parents, mostly.
Thank youuuuu
@@TheMaddgodd81 thats what the OP said ! She (his sister) was also spoiled so she doesnt know how to take no for an answer either. Thats why she took the kids side instead of admitting its her fault
crazy they act like it's acceptable for kids to take other people's food without asking and not be taught manners. you would have thought a 7 year old would have learnt that through tv or school or somehow if not his parents
"Don't leave temptations out for kids" how about you teach your kids boundaries?! Like ffs.
WAIT, you guys are linking the reddit stories on the description!? That is amazing!
When did it start? It's quite the work.
just googled the mermaid shimmer candle, it’s gorgeous hahaha. I’m thinking she meant “you’re not supposed to light it” bc she was saving it or something but who knows lol
It makes me wonder if her bathroom is ocean or mermaid themed. If so, she definitely bought it as a decoration.
4:06 SPENCER?!?!?! This is gonna be a BANGER of an episode. Spencer literally chose violence this day 😭😂
I'm crying laughing at the "cat behavior" 😭😭
My jaw dropped LOLLL
I like to search for these timestamped comments and wait for the moment to pop up in the video but this one somehow still caught me off guard 😭😂
Honestly, for the Jelly Bean guy, I completely understand. My mother taught me from a young age to ask before taking/eating someone else's property. Like he said, it's not the jelly beans that are the problem, it's the fact that his sister hasnt taught a 7 year old a very important lesson in life. Frankly, I think he just had trouble expressing those feelings to his sister and came off as harsh.
Same, even then if I was offered sweets as a kid my mother drilled into me to only take one or two
This kid is getting set up to be the type of roommate that eats your food without asking
Exactly. For all they know the jelly beans couldve been edibles.
Thank you I thought I was crazy that it’s apparently OK to everyone to walking to people’s homes and just steal.
@beccaran Exactly this. What everyone seems to be overlooking here is that children who are taught that it's okay to take other people's things without asking turn into adults who take other people's things without asking. If his whole childhood is spent excusing his behaviour with the justification of "He's just a kid" then exactly when is he supposed to learn boundaries? Childhood IS when you are supposed to instill these lessons.
44:17 this has become my new favorite reddit story on the internet I’m OBSESSED
The southern accent is so funny!
9:50 “What’s the point of decorative candles?”
Sounds like the mantle candles are going to be gone next episode 😂
Those don't look decorative though? Those look like regular colored tapered candles that you can light that just haven't been yet
It's a set, though, not a home.
@dimsufferer9951 yea but they aren't lit so they're decorative
I would NEVER have grabbed candy from a relative's house without asking for permission first. But I cared A LOT about not being in trouble or not doing anything that would get me in trouble (I still do). They just shouldn't let those family members back over at the house until they learn to at least ask first. I have set boundaries in my house and would not change them for someone else. This is why I don't mess with other family member's. I'm not going to parent your children, but i also don't want to deal with your lack of parenting in my house.
Holy shit, it's a child. You'd be the idiot for leaving TEMPTATIONS right on the table for everyone to see! If you don't want your items touched then hide them considering the fact ITS A CHILD. Not every child is the same and some are very curious. Especially if it's candy! They don't understand the concept of boundaries and you don't seem as if you would tell them verbally not to touch anything so what's the point of getting upset if it's all on you? You seem incredibly insufferable and super controlling over your own materials and I hope you get over it and yourself as well.
Yeah I was always taught to ask first. Although the aunties (typically only saw aunties do this) were usually pretty lax once you asked. Although it would also be considered rude to take all of one flavor/too many. Maybe it's a cultural thing...
@@RokkaBillie A seven-year-old can definitely understand boundaries if their parents bother to teach them any. Sounds like new-gen soft parenting.
@@RokkaBillie WOW you are hard-up about this. Are you the sister? Cause he's not mad at your son, he's mad at you
@@Bri-lk7re this is just a bad example of the kid taking what he wants tho. OP leave the jar on the coffee table in the living room, where he invited guests to sit and wait, it's not like the kid barge into his bedroom and take it
Okay but the jellybean story is absolutely valid imo. It's not just about the jelly beans, it's more about boundaries. You don't just let your kids take whatever they want wherever they want, they need to learn how to ask for things. If it was an open jar next to some other snacks the host had put out then yeah, that's free for all, but if it's closed and standing somewhere a bit away from the socializing you should probably ask.
That’s my thought! I think by now a 7 year old should know “lid = off limits unless you have permission.” It’s a super simple lesson!
bro its on a coffee table which means its sitting out in the open, presumably next to a couch. Yeah its a dick move to eat all of them but its a child, they dont follow social conventions
@ShadowSlith789 and the kid's mom is 35 and isn't any more mature than her 7 year old. Seriously. The problem isn't the jelly beans. It's the useless Karen who doesn't teach her kid anything and whines to her parents when called out on her incompetence as a parent, and disrespect for her brother. This woman is obviously the golden child and she's raising her child the same way. She is absolutely a Karen in public.
@@ShadowSlith789 but the parent should have been paying attention. mom is responsible for her kids' actions.
Agreed! Idk if I would’ve demanded my sister replace them but I definitely would’ve said hey next time could you have your son ask or I would’ve flat out told my nephew he needs to ask before. However, it’s normal in my family to all “parent” each others kids and more often then not we respect the rules and boundaries other adults lay out. In my opinion I think there’s likely been a history of disrespect towards the OP and he’s more mad about that rather than the actual jellybeans and like Amanda said just chose the wrong issue to lash out on.
43:25 Spencer is such a King! This is so awesome!
As someone who has been around spoiled kids and forced to babysit them by family members, the jelly bean jar isn’t the first issue he’s had with this kid. He has more of a problem with his sister than the kid. I think he should’ve put the jelly beans away if he knew this kid and his mother don’t have boundaries or just don’t invite them to dinner. If it hadn’t been the jelly beans it would have been something else. He would have had more of a case for making the mom pay for the jelly beans if he had put some kind of barrier between the kid and the candy. Or told his sibling that the kid shouldn’t be allowed to eat them.
This video just solidified my opinion that the Shayne-Amanda-Spencer trio is my absolute favourite
hard agree. their TNTL podcast lives rent free in my mind
I laughed more, especially at the different voices, references, & accents they randomly throw out! All 3 of them are very realistic & sensible (for the most part, LOL) & I enjoy/appreciate that too!
Yasssssss but my personal fave dynamic is Damien-Angela-Shayne
The guy talking about carbonara is so funny because all that old-world traditional artisan ingredient collection took place…when carbonara is traditionally made with guanciale (not pancetta) and pecorino romano cheese (sometimes also with parmesan but usually not *only* parm) so those vendors would probably think his carbonara was wrong lol
That op should write a food blog tho he’s got a way with words
My god, I was waiting for this comment. Anyone who just reads the carbonara recipe KNOWS it's made with guanciale and pecorino!!! What a douche ! I hope someone pointed this in the comments on the reddit post
This is what I was thinking the whole time too lmaooo. You should also technically use dry pasta not fresh pasta for carbonara. It's more traditional plus an egg based sauce on fresh egg pasta can be too much!
that entire story read like it was the long-winded preamble on a recipe page for that carbonara LOL
He clearly doesn't know carbonara, it doesn't take more than 30 mins to make it wtf is he doing
Exactly this! Did he even mention using black pepper?
49:20 my sister actually did something similar when I broke my foot. My cousins, aunt and uncle were over so we were all in her room. I had jumped up and landed on a sickled foot while we were making up a dance, and crawled to her room to sleep it off (I thought it was sprained) and my sister whispered in my ear “fat bitch” or something like that. I was 16 and she was 13/14, we’re good now about 5 years later lol
37:16 carbonara aside, because he sounds pretentious. But my child asks every time if he could eat something, even if it was offered first. It is the cutest, sweetest thing. “Are you sure I can have that? Oh wow! Thank you!”
Awwe that is very sweet
As a child I never took something without permission at the guests house, doesn't mean I wasn't tempted, but to just go and eat 1/3 of a jar is kinda weird for me
THIS. Seven is old enough to have at least learned that in someone else’s house, it’s best to ask before just randomly eating a snack that’s laid out. I always did at my grandparent’s house growing up because I was taught that boundary in elementary school 🥲
Yeah. That’s the only thing that really leans me towards the OP. I feel like if anything he asked his mom (doubtful) and she let him. If the OP would have framed his post differently I might feel more for him, but do agree you go over to someone’s house, you ask if you can eat XYZ. Even at a grandmas house.
@@breakingout0wolfbin 4 is young enough! It's one of my first memories (that I can remember now) and my niece, currently 4, literally just ASKS.
"teddy was red and now he's grey" god i love that halsey song
lmaooo
No stop 😭
THE COUCH WHERE DID IT GO
Maybe they changed it so guests that don’t work for Smosh don’t feel like they have to share a small couch with someone they barely know? Totally just a guess
They need a sectional 😅
They said it was for Spencer's neck, so he can more easily turn to face Amanda
Spencer said in the beginning his neck is hurting, so sitting on a couch with Amanda so much taller than him would have aggravated it. I’m going to take that at face value and not read anything crazy in it.
@@Gaingarthey said the couch would be back next week so i wouldn’t think so but maybe
These 3 are my favourite for redit stories. I need 20 of em per week, please
Candle - oh man... He's missing the point that it's her house, her candle and she has it there for decoration and therefore wasn't meant to be burned ... That convo is gonna go well 😂
Yeah she might've meant to just not burn her candles period, why didn't he ask her?
I mean, if you put a scented candle in a bathroom I feel like the clear implication is that it's to mask smell.
Honestly, both the bf and gf should've communicated better.
Yeah, absolutely bonkers for him to think she genuinely thinks there are candles you aren't allowed to burn by law or somethin 🤣 bro it's HER candle and she's telling you she didn't buy it to burn it!! He honestly sounds like he's always a bit of a prick.
@@coalvarner1813 How about don't put an obviously scented candle meant to be lit on the bathroom and pretend is basic decoration, it is not. Have a better idea, buy a candle meant to be decoration or just cut the wicks so it's unusable.
They both need better communication, he can't read minds, she can fault him for using the candle for the item intended use, tho he should have asked aswell if he can use the candle. And obviously he is in the wrong for living the candle unsupervised.
I looked up the mirmaid shimmer candle and there is a cardboard insert around the wick that sits flush with it that you're supposed to remove. He either didn't see it or didn't pay attention and absolutely lit the wick that sticks up through it and set a little fire in his bathroom lmao.
EDIT: Why is dude sleeping with a backyardigan?????
this is definitely what happened
Something about a decorative candle behind a toilet seems so confusing. It's still negligence on the BF tho.
Or the girlfriend removed it
the candle may also just have been dusty. if she didn’t plan on lighting it, it might’ve been sitting there for a long time before he lit it.
@annabelledrake2027 this is true but he mentioned a "plastic cover" which is odd because there is no lid on these candles from what I can see and the insert is cardboard
i get their take on the jelly bean sitch but like, i feel it is a breach of boundaries- like i was taught as a kid to ALWAYS ask permission before taking/eating other people’s things, and the mom seemed absolutely indifferent that her child does whatever they want to other people’s stuff
Yeah I was shocked they took the family's side since on previous stories (like the weed cookies one) Shayne was like "As a kid I would never take things without permission"
Yeah I was super surprised because they definitely had stories on here before were things like hygiene and germs were taken very seriously but somehow they glossed over the fact that it may be unbelievably gross for a kid to pick and choose which Jelly Bean out of a jar they wanted
OP was a bit of a jerk, but OMG that kid's mom was the AH of that story, period.
This!!! The mother should have told her son to ask OP first! They were literally in OP's house. Its like if someone robbed a car off someone's driveway and said, "Well you left it there so I took it" like huh? If you are invited into someone else's house you always ask first.
Same! I was taught to ask and be mindful. I have familymembers whom were more energetic and they'd ask too. Frankly it's also a lil scary. Even if you're visiting a home of someone you know, there might be dangerous things. I watch kids in my own home( as does the parent), though I know I don't have dangerous things. Just in case.
The perfect trio, it exists. The silly levels are off the charts and I can't stop laughing. Absolutely love this one!
37 y/o dating a 28y/o for 7 years is honestly a wild start, ngl.
I had to double take at that to make sure I heard it correctly
Growing up is realizing that my previous relationship (m19 and m29) was pretty fvcked up, even tho I didn't mind the age gap 💀
And thanks to comments like these, I realize it even more!
You know. The real problem about these age gaps is that the younger are mostly really insecure and latch on to the older ones for security and a sense of "home". The problem is, most of these older ones are actual children in their minds. Most of them are very very immature and even insecure (they have to look for younger people because it is easier to impress them).
@solidagold115 you're so right! I had the same issue with an ex and a 10 year age gap. I was crazy insecure and he was the most immature boyfriend I've ever been with!
10:41 it’s weird that nobody’s pointed out that they are sitting in front of three orange decorative candles, saying it’s weird that decorative candles exist
I think the point isn’t that people use candles decoratively. It’s that there are *allegedly* candles that CAN’T be lit. They’re purely decorative and cannot be functional.
But.. they are probably real candles that COULD be lit if needed. AND it's a set... everything is basically decorative... even the stuff that would have a use in real life
ive actually seen plastic candles with a fake wick before so it is entirely possible a werid object sure but a object nun the less
Came to the comments to say the same thing 😂
This is a set, not an actual room
Whether the candle was meant to be lit or not I wouldn’t feel comfortable lighting someone’s brand new candle or probably a candle in their house in general. It’s one of those things that kinda are like a luxury item (I grew up very poor) and when you light it you’re using it up. And leaving it lit?!? Crazy work.
Exactly. Also weird take that ''why would you ask for every little thing?'' Well it's not your item to touch, that's why.
@@Monicalia Agreed like it called always ask before touching anyone's stuff like wtf??? Even if it's a candle.
I can't imagine walking back into the room and not telling the other person that I set an object they bought on fire.
@@Monicaliai think they meant more so like you wouldn’t ask to use the febreeze in someone’s bathroom or open a new roll of toilet paper if it was out lol. i do agree that a candle is different though, especially a nice looking one.
Yeah she's wrong in saying it wasn't meant to be lit, but he's the asshole for lighting it
We really needed a Spencer and Amanda episode 😂
43:12 SPENCER PLEASE!
These damn “He’s dead” bits never fail to surprise me, even though there’s at least 1 EVERY EPISODE
The sad part is some updates include death. I feel bad for wanting that to happen on camera.
24:36 This man needs therapy. While there is nothing wrong with holding onto your childhood teddy bear (I have mine still as well), the attachment that he is showing to this bear is a whole new level of unhealthy. I’m not a psychiatrist or psychologist, but I would say that there are some serious attachment issues.
I would bet MONEY there was some kind of child abuse tied up with that Teddy for him growing up
@ Possible.
The Utah guy 1:03:50 is most certainly trying his darnest to stay in the closet and throw away the guilt of infidelity at the same time 😂 kudos to the girl for being so incredibly respectful as she keept composure while facing that A-hole.
Jellybeans: I do agree he went overboard with the description of the dinner he cooked, but it had some relevance. It explains why he didn't notice or put the jar away immediately after nephew got into them.
I have to disagree with the argument about the candy. My mom taught me from a very young age that you don’t touch or take things that don’t belong to you-period. It is NOT the brother’s job to eliminate temptations or micromanage someone else’s behavior. Placing the blame on him, especially coming from the parents, reflects a lack of accountability in raising children. Teaching kids to take responsibility for their own actions isn’t just possible-it’s necessary. If my mom managed to instill these values in me, there’s no excuse for others not to do the same.
And clearly the parents never taught the sister boundaries either
I agree, I feel like regardless of other context of the story the parents saying OP needs to “remove temptations” is insane bc like maybe teach your kid that you can’t just have things bc you want them?
Exactly like the comments made me feel insane our parents taught us not to touch anything that didn’t belong to us and suddenly everyone forgets that lesson
I dont know man. It's important for kids to know boundaries, but also to take liberties and feel comfortable to some degree. That is also a part of loving in the world with other people. Eating candy from the coffe table of a family member seems reasonable.
I disagree. You can't get angry about someone eating the food that you left out. I'm 26 and I would 100% eat the jelly beans
Spencer smacking Amanda's fingers at 4:08 and her subsequent reaction has killed me. 🤣
2:54 the caption saying [Sharks] when Amanda is speaking SENT me
This ✨
43:51 you guys are saying that it’s normal just to let kids pretty much go wild, but I only know kids that know how to ask before getting into anything and he’s old enough to know better
The parent allowing their child to go ham on the jelly beans is the asshole, op maybe going too far but at the end of the day you dont just go to someones home and allow your child to eat their shit. Even as an adult i'll ask.
A child is gonna child its up to the parents to discipline them, simply tell the kid to go and ask their uncle.
it's an ESH
@@mousestripedgrass2123I don’t think OP was in the wrong. Boundaries were crossed, disrespect was shown so I think OP had every right to be upset.
Tbh I think it depends on the person. If I know my nephews were coming over I'd probably leave out cookies and snacks or something with the hopes they get some. If it wss like hidden in a cabnite sure I hope my house is welcoming enough to my nieces and nephews they feel like they can take a snack without asking. Cause to me that's a sign they feel like a second home. If it wss a cousins house or someone not as close yeah I'd definitely ask. But a house you feel very comfortable in asking feels wierd.
@@nero294 If the kid just took one or two candies off the top without asking, I doubt OP would have minded. But the mother letting him stick his grubby hands in and fish around for every piece of one particular flavor is way over the top.
@@nero294 i understand, maybe its a culture thing because i'm from Trinidad. even in places i feel comfortable i'd ask tbh.
I completely understand the jellybean story. It’s not about the jelly beans.
It’s about
1. The kid didn’t ask (was obviously not taught basic manners, as a child, I was taught to always ask in someone else’s home)
2. The kid ate ALL of them (having been a child before, I can say that as much as I love a certain candy, if there was a limited amount and they weren’t mine to begin with, i wouldn’t even consider eating more than half, let alone ALL of them)
3. Instead of trying to understand and just make amends by saying she’ll get him more jelly beans, she mocked and belittled him then got their parents to side with her further invalidate his feelings.
4. It’s his home and it was a proud moment for him and it was spoiled by his sisters’ kid behaviour because SHE didn’t want to take accountability for the lack of BOUNDARIES and MANNERS her kid has. Saying “well you shouldn’t leave candy out where a kid can see them, it’s your fault” is literally the equivalent of “well she shouldn’t have been wearing that in a room full of men” and that child is going to grow up with that kind of entitled sentiment.
NTA
His family needs to learn boundaries. He had his, he tried to reinforce and communicate them, they mocked and invalidated him. Only thing he could’ve done differently is find another situation to prove a point that his boundaries need to be respected and not use “jellybeans” cause nobody who’s already not taking you seriously is going to take you seriously when Theres a problem involving jellybeans. He would’ve been in the wrong if she said she would replace them and he continued to be upset about it.
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@@megiimegalodon8544 i wish i could like a comment more than once
Yeah, the "he's just a kid" thing always pisses me the hell off. If/when a child isn't old enough to control themself, THAT'S WHEN IT'S TIME FOR THE PARENT TO GET OFF THEIR ASS AND BE A PARENT. How else is a child supposed to learn? If you're never taught how to act in public/in someone else's home, you don't just wake up on your eighteenth birthday automatically knowing how to behave and having a sense of self-control. It's like those "radical unschooling" parents who think that if they never teach their kid to read it'll just come to them somehow.
@@ttintagel I actually marginally disagree unschooling your child at least kinda makes sense 9 times out of 10 you're trying to get them out of some level of abuse or bad learnings stimuli but this story makes even less sense because this actively teaching the kid the wrong thing you can go up and take whatever the f*** is not yours because it seems like you could and your family is going to die on that Hill for you
I’m so glad I’m seeing so many comments agreeing nta, it was feeling so wrong when they were talking about it
I recently found out that I'm pregnant and I have had a rough time with it. Smosh is one of the only things that keeps me calm and brings my anxiety down. Love you guys so much.
Omg good luck I hope everything works out for you 💕
@orangeants thank you kind soul 💕
Maybe getting together with other women in your area who are also expecting and talking about your worries could help? There might be some Facebook groups or something you could join. I really hope you find someone to talk to or maybe some activity that is relaxing and calming for you. Wishing you all the best ❤😊
@katie18976 i will definitely try that! Thank you so much 💕 its getting easier every day and kind words from an internet stranger always helps ❤️
The mother should have told the son that if he wants jelly beans he needs to ask his uncle if he can have any. That's how you teach kids respect and manners. To use the excuse of "what did you expect a seven year old to do" is lazy parenting.