funnily enough they both have that same duality, while Amanda seems the nurturing mom and the wine-drinking aunt at the same time Ian is actually a beer guy so he can be considered as the fun beer-drinking uncle, but also a rational, intelligent dad
If anyone's curious about the BIL x sister test, there was an update 7 days ago. In summary: She's much closer to her brother and father now. Mother apologized, and while it seemed genuine, their relationship is strained (no surprises there). Still no contact with sister and BIL and it seems sister is pregnant. BF's family were awesome and they got very close. Also she thinks BF might propose soon.
There was an update 18 days ago. OP and BF are getting married. OP found out the mom was spreading around that OP seduced the sister's husbands and that it was (bold of her fiancee to support her). OP is cutting out mom fully after forgiving her, maintaining no contact with sister and BIL, and trying to maintain a relationship with Dad and brother (they had no idea about the mom spreading lies to family). She said she has gotten really close to her fiancees parents/family too. Crazy stuff.
The “test” story made me feel physically ill. To be sat in a room with your family and have someone you felt was also family treating you that way. No one reacting. You’d feel crazy and disgusted and so confused. To add the insult that this test was basically blaming her for the forced sexualisation she’d already received from the previous husband? Vile. Throw the whole family away
@@belgarath6388 yes I know they weren’t aware of the “test” but I’d still need words with the brother and father about how much they noticed at the time, and about paying more attention in the future. Nothing will change how she felt in the moment when no one else was reacting to his behaviour, I only hope the men in her family genuinely didn’t hear a thing.
@@Tinsroxdid you miss the part where the dad said the son in law was not allowed to step foot in the house and threatened him. The dad needs to leave his wife, she is out right abusive.
That story seems very wattpad if you asked me, the ugly insecure mean sister tricking the traumatized angel of a sister who is the perfect victim. Bruhhh it’s so fake
I have an eating disorder and I’m telling you lying to your partner about slipping something into their food is the most devastating move you could possibly make. Trust dead, relationship dead, and the spiral he was allegedly trying to prevent likely went into full swing after that episode.
i have a genuine question abt this if thats alr, I do most of the cooking for my partner and he has anorexia nervosa, and he gets very tired after eating and is very picky, but im trying to expand his horizions (which is working for some things but not for others),, would I be wrong for purposefully trying to get him to eat things with more calories or making things that are higher nutritionally etc, and if thats okay how should I go about this?
@@reedthefiend as someone with anorexia, it's absolutely fine to present them with these foods, encouraging them to eat it. (Them seeing you eat it might be beneficial). Never ever sneak anything. I cought my mother sneak oil into my food years ago. To this day I don't trust anything I have not seen her prepare and cook myself when I visit.
i too have an ed and this type of scenario is one of my worst nightmares. i could never, ever trust that person or any food item they bring into the home EVER again. i would immediately spiral into panic & paranoia, which would make me intensify restriction because now i can’t trust that everything isn’t contaminated 💔
oh my god yes, my blood was boiling listening to that one. my biggest fear 100% and if my boyfriend ever did that to me i would leave him. not because of the calories or the weight i’d gain, but because of how ignorant it is to think that he was “helping” me by going behind my back and slipping stuff into my food. recovery is 100% on the person affected, you can’t “help” someone recover by fattening them up without their knowledge, it will only make it worse.
dude i saw on reddit that he said later on he was turned on when he humiliated and when she cried thats why he was like yes i abused her DISGUSTINGGGGGG
The whole thing was dumb but once he over powered her there was zero need to continue holding her down for minutes on end, he'd proven his point. She was probably terrified that someone she trusted was pinning her down and not letting her go.
@@devilmikey00 exactly! All he needed to do to prove his point was show her she can't hold him down. He didn't even need to pin her down in the first place. "She knows I'd never hurt her" is inaccurate "She thought she knew I would never heard her but after I held her down for SEVERAL minutes while she was crying, I showed her that I would and could"
@@linooneify what now makes it worse is that he held her down, she was crying and he got turned on. She probably started crying because she FELT he was enjoying it. Man admits he abused her and liked it and wonders if he went too far FFS. He showed her that he could hurt her and would enjoy doing so since he let it go on for several minutes before stopping. Fucking gross
the thing they missed from the boyfriend pinning down his girlfriend story was he admitted in another update that he got "excited" when he was overpowering her and she started crying. He liked seeing the fear in her eyes. She should have been more cautious yeah but imagine how terrified she must have felt to see him enjoy her fear.
I was kind of like "But she *did* agree to this from a very cocky perspective" and from what I heard it seemed like he tried to bring it up about it not being safe and she was just like "I can handle myself" when evidently, she couldn't but to keep going until they cry instead of just being like "Okay, I took you down in seconds and you can't do anything about it, I've proved my point" is already bad enough but to get satisfaction from it? Complete fucking psycho behaviour.
okay so that changes my opinion on the story greatly holy shit. had it been consentually agreed upon that you don't unpin the other until someone cries uncle, I would have seen it as young people doing dumb shit to prove a point. I wish they'd included the comment you're talking about. I understood the cast's perspective, but including that context would have made it make more sense.
Even without that update, the boyfriend said that while he was holding her down (for several minutes!!), he could see the fear in her eyes and that she was crying during that time. Putting your partner through something like that, and not stopping immediately, is sick to me. That update confirms the grossness
That is incredibly messed up and completely changes how I viewed the story. At first, I thought that (while his methods were definitely wrong and over-the-top to say the least) his intentions were at least understandable; wanting her to at least acknowledge that your physical size and cockiness doesn't mean much in a genuinely life threatening situation. However, learning that he got "excited" by it just makes me re-evaluate his motives as being more sinister than out of concern. What a sick bastard.
The mother/sister story doesn't sound like a mother willing to do anything to keep her daughters together. It sounds like a golden child-scapegoat dynamic.
I was thinking that too, but it's probably a mix. That mother was also giving off vibes of "wanting that picture-perfect family," so she just wants to move on and forget it to have that fantasy. That story just made me wish therapy was almost always EVERYONE's first response to scary crap like that.
Yeah I feel like they tell on themselves a little when they comment on stuff like that. “You’re always going to try to blame the other girl” wtf no what’s wrong with you?
@@johnbolen5807i don't think that's how they meant it, it was meant to acknowledge that that is just what a lot of people do because it's easier than to accept the truth and they even said themselves that ppl should stop doing that
I had an aunt who was an alcoholic who peer pressured me into drinking with her at 17 by insulting me until I agreed just to make her shut up. She deliberately tried to get me drunk and I did not want to drink. Having a trusted adult force feed you alcohol is a huge betrayal in my mind.
@@xenohade182 a teenager sneaking a beer and an adult *forcing you to drink alcohol* are two completely different things. This is literal child abuse.
My mum is not an alcoholic but let us drink young at the house. She also would encourage our friends to, even if she knew their parents weren't okay with it. I hated it and even now I'm sickened by those memories. (She was going through a crisis at the time. This behaviour only lasted for a year or two.)
@xenohade182 There were 5 friends at the 'gathering', 18 beers between 5 is a mile away from 9 beers for the kid alone, even if we ignore the fact that it was forced on him.
because needing to keep her family together is a symptom of her need to maintain her self image. firstly she is never wrong and secondly she has a functional family.
A couple years ago we had a anti drug seminar at my school and one of the things they told us about, to deter us from underage drinking, was a news report of parents forcing their kid to drink a bunch of alcohol. Their goal was to scare him from drinking ever again but they killed him. He died from alcohol poisoning and the parents were put in prison for murder. The kid just wanted to try alcohol and they basically killed him for it
That's unbelievably sad. I'm glad they share that though to explain to kids that there are people with psycho parents so even if the kids think they are being safe they might get caught by their psychotic parents and be forced to drink themselves to death
It’s actually wild how the second story is literally the OPPOSITE ED scenario of the Sawdust story and yet has all the same problems as that one. It’s like looking into an alternate reality.
Yeah, the complete lack of communication and understanding is baffling. I just can't understand how anyone could go from "my girlfriend seems to have problems with her body and self esteem (but secretly I just don't like her body, oops)" to "I'll alter her food without telling her and possibly endanger her". Like, what? It's so foreign to me.
The craziest thing is that the sister who's dealing with the mom and her sister new husband made a post that was so focused on "How do I apologize? How do I earn their trust?" when EVERYONE ELSE should be apologizing to HER
That's kind of shitty. Male bosses who are shorter than some women are "funny" ? I know you're just joking but it's these old stereotypes that contribute to toxic masculinity. A person's height doesn't determine their worth or power.
@@Sleve-McDichael i didn’t say anything about gender lol you’re the one who brought gender into it. It’s just funny when your boss is significantly shorter than you
I'm taller than many dudes and it's really interesting to speak down towards old buff dudes. Not in a good or bad way, it just feels weird sometimes. Hard to explain
With the guy pinning down his gf one, they missed the comments the guy had where he said he was turned on by holding her down when she was crying. Actual predator mentality.
@@MrAsmonteroHe said it in a reply on the original post. As soon as he got to the part where he challenged her, I IMMEDIATELY remembered reading this story and reading that comment and feeling my stomach drop.
ian always comes onto this show with a good attitude and so much empathy and understanding, and willingness to learn. amanda comes on this show with a vengeance.
it's honestly a great thing because I'm always really shocked by the depth of his compassion, probably because we just don't get a lot of opportunities to hear it from him.
For the self-defense story, I’m so glad that they referred to Amanda and I definitely noticed how they were intently listening to every word she said. Shayne is very good at listening to his guests, even if he occasionally disagrees with them.
Great host and by all evidence I've seen a very good man. Yeah, these are always better with a diversity of guests. Even well-meaning people have blind spots that can really color their takes on these stories.
I find it really hard to believe the kid actually stole the beer. Eighteen-packs aren't the easiest thing to nab lmao. More likely the gas station sold him the beer and the dumbass got conned.
@@Gumbier_Than fr like you forced your son to get dangerously drunk and your wife is looking after him and that's 'babying' ?? Like no he threw up and kept going, he is in actual danger the wife is probably so worried 😭
For the mom and sister story, it’s also wild that after OP passed their “test”, it should disprove their delusions.. why wouldn’t they apologize at that point? They were proven wrong and they caused a lot of distress in their family and used a lot of deception. The fact that they just became defense feels like they’re not in general treating OP and her feelings with much respect
Because they decided long ago that the first marriage failing was OPs fault. So this test was to see if she could be trusted now. They see this as fair and square.
For some reason that woman can’t just admit that she was undesirable to her first husband. She had to blame her sister instead of the sick bastard that hurt them both.
Ok this is going to depress a few people, but it needs to be said. They think the abuse she suffered from the ex-husband is her fault, they believe that she is a vile temptress not a victim. The test wasn’t about them discovering if they were wrong it was about making sure “she wasn’t going to tempt her new fiancé” because again she is in the wrong categorically for the crime of someone else being a creep to her. Personally speaking I would have advised cutting them off after the first meeting where they told her she passed the test.
"Alcohol is bad for my kids health and they shouldn't drink it, that's why when he tried to drink it whithout my knowledge I made him drink all of it at once, and also bribe the store, to teach him what is good." Not a good plan.
For the guy who's uncomfortable around drunk women, the least he could've done is called them an Uber. If he has a problem, he should pay to get them out of that house, instead of just HOPING they get home safe.
Everyones at fault there simply because noone went into that situation prepared to get out safely. The hosts should be responsible and have someone sober that can handle drunks. The drunks should have had designated drivers. I dont blame the guy for being uncomfortable around drunk women. Had to deal with them as a bouncer all the time. Having a sober supervisor, both sides, would have eliminated the issues.
Like no matter how you feel, you never put other people in danger on purpose. It is so clearly known society-wide how at risk women are among strange people/public at large, how they need secure transport back to a safe location, and how that is amplified by 100-fold if they are intoxicated.
They should’ve gotten them an Uber or something but i 100% agree with him not being comfortable and I don’t believe it’s because “he’s afraid of what he will do” there’s too many times women lie about being SA and it’s not worth it. Cuz you gotta believe the victim….. so so many lied about it to get men in trouble.
@@Pistollovily I agree 100% on that, from what I’ve seen a lot of times is people attribute malice to what could be a trauma response. He could’ve been or known someone who’d been falsely accused of SA or been SAd.
Okay, to add to the olive oils story. I wanna say that at a point in my life, it was recommended for me to add oil into my foods. Although I wasn’t a huge fan of the idea, I ALLOWED my parents to put it in my food. I didn’t want to put it in myself or see it, because… eating issues. This was something we talked about and discussed, and my doctor only prescribed 1-2 tablespoons. That amount was for someone who was eating way below their recommended caloric intake and was very underweight. Having 4-5 tbsp every day is absolutely insane to me. If you are genuinely concerned about someone’s weight and mental issues you go a different route, period.
I agree. It definitely sounds like she has an eating disorder (excessive exercise due to body image is also considered an eating disorder), risking her physical and mental health is not the way to go about it. They have to see it and acknowledge their problem first.
I agree with it and honestly if he had a genuine reason to actually help her then he should’ve communicated better in the first place like ask her to slightly increase in her protein intake instead of adding oil and so much of it sneakily.
The best thing to do when someone has a problem is to go behind their back and mess with their food. That’s how you show her how much you love her ❤ /s Edit: She’s not a child. She can handle her own diet. I’m sick of people treating those with issues as children who need adults to care for them. Also if you keep making her food more unhealthy, she’s going to be more obsessed with exercise to burn off all the fat
As a woman who’s half pinoy and half Latina. I’ve heard horror stories of women/girls from the Philippines being used or groomed by men that have this mentality. And to hear just a smidge of the disgusting things they say about pinoy women in Manila isn’t surprising but devastating. My people aren’t little dolls to use or married off as ‘trad wives.’ They just want to live and survive.
But some Pinoy Womens also use foreigners and rich people to get a better life. Feel sorry some of them are mistreadt but they are not perfect. Filipino and Filipinas can have both red flags and not always the victim to anything
@@simpayshenaidesthere's nothing in their comment that implies filipinas are perfect. cases of """imperfect"""" filipinas """"using"""" better off usually white guys actually just prove how there's a plague of systematic economic exploitation of filipinas. AMONG OTHER THINGS. crying about white men's hurt feelings is disgusting in the context of the ubiquitous abuse experienced by our people.
I’m born and raised in the US, but I’m half Central European. If he expects to go there and get a submissive wife, he’s in for a huge shock! The toughest people in my family are definitely the women. They have zero problem standing up for themselves. Plus family is huge there, so when a guy acts like an ass, she has her entire pissed off family right there, backing her. My grandmother, aunt, and cousin are three generations of tough women who are scary AF when they’re pissed. Plus, the women there are highly educated. They don’t have to pay massive amounts of money to go to college. When my dad was in the hospital, I asked one of his doctors why I only saw women doctors there. In a week, I didn’t see one male doctor. She just said, “Well, medical school is really academically taxing, and men can be “intellectually lazy.” So women go to med school, but men go to business school to try to make more money. This was fifteen years ago, too.
The first story reads generational trauma like crazy. Definitely grew up around some insane alcohol abuse and definitely didn’t get the right message from his own childhood. Old man’s a pos
You're absolutely right, def seems like generational trauma. He's also the kind of parent that will be like "wonder why my kid doesn't want me to be in their life anymore" 🫠 Then all the commenters saying "you're the problem, dude" and his response being "Well, actually" and doubling down instead seeing that maybe his reaction wasn't appropriate and there is trauma there that needs to be healed. Wild how little emotional maturity he has, feel hella bad for his son. I hope his kid is able to stop the cycle of trauma. Sounds like he didn't want peoples honest opinions, he wanted people to agree with him then when they didn't he was big mad. 🙃
glad I'm not the only one who thought that. heard a lot of stories like that from older generations, all who had some form of substance abuse issues at one point or another
100% agree, no doubt the dads own father treated him like this so in his head he most likely thought that this was the right thing to do because that is what happened to him as a a kid
I love when Ian is on this show so much. Hearing him articulate his thoughts about the situations in these stories and empathizing with it's characters is an unusually comforting break of character from the tropes he plays in other Smosh series. Kinda like finding out your cool, immature uncle is actually very wise and sagely. I would feel very safe with him
It also doesn't matter if it's the first or the 50th time someone drinks. Alcohol is a poison, that's where the word "intoxicated" comes from. He's poisoning his child
As an European the passport bro story made me so extremely mad. The fact that there are such ignorant people thinking that we Europeans are stuck in the past and that every European woman "should be happy to marry an American man" like they are some superior species is so disgusting. The whole thing of minimizing women by how submissive they are in which culture is making me sick and is so scary. These people want servants not wives.
Sorry to hear you got mad about this, but unfortunately this movements so popular online because it works fairly often tbh expcailly in countries like tiawan, I'm I happily married American to a fellow American, my brother was a passport bro though and he moved to Japan and is now happily married himself, he didn't do it because he wanted a more submissive wife or anything like that, but unfortunately we lived in a big city in the northwest, for our generation hook up culture has taken over, he had extreme trouble in finding a partner that he was looking for due to this, so his solution was to move to a culture where hooking up is very frowned upon, within 2 years he'd found himself a wife( been together 5 years now with a kid on the way), he was very open about why he moved and didn't hide it in my view he's still classified as a passport bro, but I don't think he's the same kinda scum as the dude at the redit post just wanted to let ya know that not all Americans who move to look for significant others are duche bags
@@Kstanimal Lmao honestly this, I feel like these idiots have no idea that there's tons of societies more advanced than there's and that they think they're some type of savior...
My mom is an American who married a European man. At this point she’s kinda glad she escaped the whole American mess, and went for full citizenship in her adopted country instead of just the permanent residency. So yeah. And no dad doesn’t hold it over her in the least. Nobody does. We are all very proud of her and her many accomplishments. Like one should be.
That sister story is crazy. Smosh peeps didn't quite go there but the sister whose previous husband was a creep found another creep to replace him, 100%. A guy pretending to convincingly hit on a woman for an entire dinner, while it obviously makes them uncomfortable - that's NOT a thing. That is a psychopath and a creep.
Yep! I’d say the chances of being in a serious relationship with a creep, ignoring a significant need of therapy and ending up getting into a new relationship with a different freak are indeed pretty high.
there was a lot to unpack in that story so i get that they grazed over certain things a little faster but that whole thing about him "ogling" her was a major red flag. its so frustrating that the sister notices that and EVEN THEN, places the responsibility on her sister to be "trustworthy" and not get between their marriage when its literally the husband/brother-in-law who's showing signs of being just as creepy and pervy as the last guy. if anything they should be testing HIM (it would be wrong to do that too, but slightly more justified)
@@naylas3908 could be could be. but at the same time if she was with a creepy guy before and didnt get therapy after, i wouldnt be shocked to see her end up with a similar kind of guy
I remember the "destroyed my girlfriend's confidence" story. You guys missed the worst part, he apparently eventually admitted it gave him, uh, pleasure to overpower her
.... oh no. I defended the situation in a comment I can't find anymore, but that's horrifying. edit: ok guys to be clear I never said he wasnt in the wrong, just that I didnt think he was an unforgivable asshole at first, you can send the firing squad home ffs 😂
@@hadesisbabyyou have to give people the benefit of the doubt sometimes especially when they seemed genuinely remorseful about doing something bad as opposed to just being a bad person. Making a mistake doesn’t mean you’re automatically this horrific person, although he made a pretty bad one. It’s something you learn from as opposed to just calling people bad. (Esp when it’s online, you have no idea their actual intentions and you kind of have to guess based on their writing.)
@@jaden.gracefully i would understand this mindset if he hadn't held her down for "minutes" until he "noticed the fear in her eyes" & still continued until she admitted defeat... for me, that goes beyond one momentary lapse in judgement. he made a continuous choice to keep holding her down, even when he saw how afraid she was & after it was clear to both of them he was stronger. him not immediately stopping & immediately apologising is what i find most messed up about his behaviour.
@@hadesisbaby idk. it seemed like a challenge that she accepted but that he took too far, but i didnt realize he was THAT creepy. i saw the sense in his concern, and felt like he wasnt a complete asshole for how he felt, just an asshole for how he went about showing her his point.
The story with the family sabotaging that poor girl really hit me and brought up some painful memories. Not that I’ve ever experienced anything like that soap opera mess, but this is a family dynamic that’s all too common. There’s the “golden child” and the “scapegoat,” OP’s sister is the first and she’s the latter. One child gets sacrificed to try to neutralize all stress and problems occurring in the family. This kind of stuff doesn’t happen one time or out of nowhere, and I can basically guarantee the OP talking about being a people pleaser is a direct result of spending a lifetime as the family scapegoat. The sister and mother are clearly the ones with serious problems that need to be worked out, but it’s so much easier to exploit the person who did nothing wrong - make them apologize for absolutely no reason - and then when THEY feel better, you’re the one who’s expected to move on. Family dynamics like this are so psychologically damaging. My heart hurts for her and I hope she gets to feel what it’s like to have a family that really supports you. I’m so glad she had her boyfriend and his family to be there for her throughout all of that, can’t even imagine the emotional whiplash.
OP's insistence on wanting to apologize for introducing the previous pervert husband to her sister definitely show's she's been shaped to be a people pleaser. Even after learning about their scheme she's putting her sister above herself. Yes it's an admirable trait being the bigger person but that dynamic was probably instilled in her thru the wrong means.
also i feel every time someone's behaviour is excused they're trying to maintain peace, the maintaining peace is always done by smothering over one side's feelings.
@@EmyNJust so. I also low key wonder if the mother was feeding those anxieties in any way. There are conservative communities where the assumption is that, if a marriage breaks up, the wife must've been failing in some way, and if a man does something sexually inappropriate, the women around him must've invited it. I get the impression that the only way the sister could make her husband's creepy wandering eye not her fault was to cast her sister as an evil seductress, and there are a lot of mothers out there who would low key contribute to that with a lot of harassment because marriage is *the* mark of feminine success in their eyes.
As a daughter of a passport bro, I'll admit it's really weird growing up knowing my parents never loved eachoter and it was all transactional and believing this is how relationships should be
as someone struggling with anorexia, one of my biggest fears is having others touch my food in any way because I'm so afraid of anyone adding something like oil or butters or something without telling me. To mess with food when someone already has a history of disordered eating patterns or negative thoughts about their body/weight is just cruel. If you were so concerned, you talk with them. You don't fuck with their food and risk making any habits worse... just hearing that story made me so anxious, and I feel so bad for her....
For many people, eating disorders can start as a way to try to be in control of some area of their life - if that is the case for this partner I feel sick thinking about the deep psychological trauma this would have caused. 😞
@@Gya.. not sure why you're asking this question on a post regarding eating struggles when you most definitely have access to the internet to research your question ://
Can we also talk about the possible psychological effects of story 1? 16 year old brains are incredibly maliable, ESPECIALLY with a parent. What this dad did could make the son feel like he has to be able to drink a lot and increase his tolerance to be an "actual man". Or that getting sick from drinking NINE BEERS is embarrassing and weak. like whatttt is this dad thinking
Teaching someone to drink irresponsibly and ignore the limits your body is telling you is so scary. A parent should teach their children how to drink responsibly when they old enough to, not force them to drink irresponsibly before they seem like they are ready to. I had friends not wake up after drinking too much in highschool - it's not harmless fun 😞
I think the only things his dad has taught him are: 1. Dad will ignore your boundaries and stomp all over them if he feels like it. 2. Make sure dad doesn't find out next time you break a rule. 3. When you were in pain mum cared for you, dad didn't care about you at all. And a bonus: 4. Forcing someone to drink until alcohol poisoning is an acceptable punishment. That sure is good to know when he's going to college in two years.
You are correct. Thats probably whats gonna happen but I have to say that If that is his take away then he isnt very sharp. The dad is wrong, immature, abusive and really imbecile, and stupid. But if anything should serve the kid to know AND understand that he should not be sneaking up to drink ITS THIS. Why would you want to be drunk after this??
the self defense story reminds me of a story my sibling's old karate teacher would tell each year: (context: he was a big dude who had multiple blackbelts, competed in competitions, and knew how to defend himself. ) he was walking to his car one night and a guy came up behind him and pressed a gun into his back. the guy told him to hand over his wallet, watch, and any other valuables so he did. and every year there was a kid who would go "why didnt you take them down? you show us all the time in class" and he would respond saying that "id rather give him my wallet and my watch rather than risk my life trying to fight him" i think about that a lot
You fight for your life when you can't de-escalate or escape, that's an excellent lesson. Like I heard the advice for women, "Your number one goal is to run away to a safe location. You are making an opening to escape, don't stay there a second longer than you can physically help it." Alongside the advice to, if at all possible for you, get your fitness up such that you can run a mile, or plan around it if you can't.
Or something someone I know who was a martial arts instructor (I forget which) and had a black belt said was “I’ve won every fight I’ve ever been in by 100 metres” talking about avoiding fights whenever possible
Story 4 makes me upset because the older sister should absolutely remember the circumstances that led to her divorce (how it was over her first husband being a creep to her younger sister, to the point she had to get a restraining order) and somehow twisting that into her younger sister was deliberately trying to seduce him is crazy. I’m honestly shocked that she made her new husband deliberately flirt with her younger sister because that’s literally the exact situation of her first divorce. Older sister has some deep insecurities that I hope she works on for the sake of her new husband and her younger sister
trauma can cause actual delusional thinking and delusions make people do inconsistent, paranoid, wild things like that tbh. sister absolutely needs therapy, not a new husband
@rainestar82 Yeah and with the mom feeding into it makes me think they have a old-fashioned mentality of, If the man strays its somehow the woman's fault. And the only way the sister had to not feel like the blame is on her is to paint OP as this evil being. Seems like OP is the only one going to therapy and actually breaking down those generational concepts
@@rainestar82I mean, yeah, but it’s also your responsibility to deal with your trauma, you know? That’s your baggage, not your sister’s, and she chose to throw herself into a new relationship.
I wonder how her new husband dealt with it each time the sister said he was “ogling” OP? Like how did that get turned on OP… did he say “no she was looking at me!”
I'm a dude who's over 300lbs and I know how to throw a punch. I don't even like going in the back yard at night. That being said scaring the crap out of your significant other is some psychopath behavior.
Yea honestly even as someone who has like 18+ years of various martial arts experience, that doesn't mean anything when you don't know the circumstances of getting attacked. I get he was trying to potentially deter a perpetrator by it being more than just her there, but like they said, there's always weapons, and it doesn't really matter who you are if someone unsuspectingly punches you in the back of the head then none of that matters; also inducing a traumatic experience into someone and saying "they still trust me" is very delusional.
@@squeezie_b8895 How was it emasculating? She was literally acting like an arrogant hot head and putting herself in dangerous for zero logical reason. You just need it to be about that because you refuse to blame a woman for anything apparently. If he voiced his concern, brushed him off, and then accepted his challenge then mostly its on her for acting like an egomaniac
Lifelong martial artist and self defense nerd, here. The guy should have asked her to take martial arts classes with him. They could've found different partners, and they both would've realized very quickly how they would each fare in a self-defense scenario. All of this while building their own confidence in their ability to defend themselves, and bonding over a new shared hobby and learned skill.
@@radhiadeedou8286 Yes? The first step of learning is realizing how much you don't know... Classes where everyone else there is better than you because they've been doing it longer would serve exactly that purpose
@@radhiadeedou8286Bro, she could’ve used her strength to defend herself? Strength without knowing how to use it can be dangerous. Martial arts are an amazing self defense.
i was thinking this too and they could use it as a bonding thing to both feel more comfortable defending themselves. also, of course along with a deep, civil and genuine conversation about actions, thoughts and feelings.
i find it interesting that the 5'9 guy thinks the problem is that he humiliated his gf and shattered her confidence, and not the fact that he 100% terrified her and made her feel unsafe around her own boyfriend
The aftermath is crucial in that situation. Especially if she was begging him to get up or said ok that’s enough. Otherwise if she just struggled until she got too tired and he got up I don’t think the sole reason to break up with him. She volunteered and she obviously was still super confident in herself to agree to do that in the first place. If she doesn’t want to be with a guy who can overpower her that’s a completely different issue. The only way she was going to understand that was through him overpowering her. If you make sure to communicate that you care for her and were afraid there wasn’t any way you could get through to her then it’s hard not to see it was from love not malice. Even if you switch the genders I expect the man to take that L and agree that they should try not to be so prideful. I’d rather my partner get mad at me for an agreed upon humbling than to get robbed/kidnapped from putting themself in unnecessary danger. Again you can’t just pin someone down to point of traumatizing them, but outside of begging her through tears I don’t see how he was going to open her eyes if he repeatedly communicated his concerns.
Yeah that was so awful, theres a difference btwn sparring and actually trying to like hurt and overpower people and it sounds like he p much wanted to do the latter
Yeah they didn't include the NSFW update on that story. He talked to his gf about it, and she made it clear that her biggest issue was that while he was holding her down, he got hard. Soooo yeah.
For the passport bro story: I remember watching a real on Instagram that had a black woman who was going to school to be a doctor state that “she would rather have her own last name on her degree when she graduates then have her husband’s” The men under the comments called her rude and stated that they’d just date Eastern European, Asian or Arabic women instead because they know how to keep their husbands happy because they are submissive and respectful. But if you scroll down more, you’d see those same woman actually stating the opposite and didn’t know what those men were talking about. Some of them were doctors themselves that also kept their last name instead of changing it for their husbands.
“My mom and sister tricked me” story, honestly if I were the brother or dad in that situation I would feel equally devastated for the sister put through that, and I would set ultimatums as well either way the mom and other sister. I couldn’t live with a family willing to treat other family members I love that way, or anyone else for that matter. Evil despicable unforgivable behaviour.
Is it just me or did Ian match the energy of this video perfectly? He was so thoughtful, collected, and I'd say even knowledgeable about women's experience. I feel like you don't see this side of Ian very often but I really enjoyed it.
The first story made me feel sick. My dad was abusive and in elementary school he used to force me to finish food even when it'd make me throw up afterwards. If you subbed out the alcohol for food or other drinks, I'd still consider it cruel and unusual punishment
Honestly I've heard of family members who've gone through this and laughed about it later. It's not the best choice of punishment but the kid was going to get drunk anyway. I was horribly irresponsible when I was that age at alcohol. I'm not saying the dad was in the right
My (also abusive) dad did that to my sister once - she threw up, still can’t eat that food (it’s been ~20 years), and he never forced any of us to do that again.
I only remember my father doing it to me once. I didn't vomit or even really had stomach ache, but it traumatized me to the point I deliberately get less amount of food than I usually eat on my plate when I have to eat around him. Didn't know why I would always force myself to finish food even when I didn't have to until now, but hearing it done to other people sure puts it in perspective.
I used to work in a gas station and lemme tell ya, no gas station company is pressing charges for an 18 pack of beer. What most likely happened is that the dad offered to pay to avoid them pressing charges preemptively, and the cashier was just like “Uh…yeah sure, whatever, give me $100.” Then pocketed it. He can’t put it in the drawer, because then it’s $100 over and that’s bad and requires a lot of corporate bullshit.
I'm actually tearing up at 38:00. OP sounds like the most generous, loving, and empathetic person ever. The fact that she even put herself in her mom and sister's perspective to justify their actions speaks volumes on its own. GOD that's insane.
@Peoe500I heavily doubt that. just bc it’s “discipline,”doesn’t make it positive or effective. there were plenty of options, plenty of which would involve heavy discipline, that would not involve that behaviour at all
@@childeater319Not agreeing with the dad’s actions, but a parent giving their child alcohol is not a crime. *Forcing* it on him probably is, but minors are allowed to drink alcohol if their parents give it to them in America.
@@nuffyj8614Seriously? Legalising parents giving their underage kids a liquid drug that isnt used for medical purposes is wild to me. What a world we live in 🤦♂️
I can see it now. A hot girl says, "Hey, I'm back by the pool." Once he gets out there, he hears..."Are you Trevor? Come have a seat." He sits on a patio while we watch him roast in the sun and roast his ego. 😂😂😂
I remember a show from 10+ years ago called "from Russia with love" where they actually gave passport bros a spotlight to seek "love" in Eastern european countries for the exact same reason, which is the idea that the women there are pretty and submissive. Some didn't even pretend to have good intentions and just wanted to fuck around it was a disgusting show
I’m not even a woman but that Pinning GF down story legit gave me chills, “Oh you don’t think men are strong? How about I pin you for minutes while I watch you struggle and cry.” Actually fucking mortifying I couldn’t finish it.
It would be like if some dude at the gym was like, there are other men out there stronger than you so you should be AFRAID. Let me demonstrate by holding you down.
While it's not something I'd do personally, I can't help but feel like everyone is being a bit over the top about it because it's a woman involved. Talking shit and getting knocked down a peg when you can't back it up is core to the human experience. If this was a story involving two men, everyone would be laughing at the guy who got easily pinned after crowing about how strong he is. It's not like the dude wrestled her to the ground the first time she bragged about it, it sounds like she kept going off about how swole and capable she is, to the point where she was putting herself in danger, and the guy was finally like... okay then, prove it. He's not a monster, he's just stupid for treating a "strong independent woman" like a man.
Exactly! Some women needs to understand that we are not physically equal to men. Mentally and emotionally we are way stronger but when it comes to physical strength, nothing can be done about it. It's just biology!@@BonkusDonkusSplonkus
Okay for the first story: has that dad ever heard of hazing???????? “Show me one study that shows a 16 year old getting drunk once having brain damage” (paraphrasing here). It happens to 18 year-olds in college too!
56:37 absolutely love getting this advice from Amanda!! I can genuinely appreciate the conversation on the topic of safety in the story of this man’s blatant attempt to humble his girlfriend.
I've been doing jujitsu for 3.5 years, and while I've learned a lot of self-defense techniques that make me feel safer, my instructors have always stressed that the order of operations when confronted with a potential fight is to 1) avoid it, 2) put something between yourself and your attacker, and THEN 3) try to intercept and control the situation physically. It's great to be strong, but it's also important to be smart and to value your safety. Stay safe out there everyone. ❤
Yep. Biggest problem with the girl is that her cockyness could've easily gotten her in a much worse situation with a very different ending. We wouldn't be reading a Reddit post. We'd be reading a damn obituary.
They missed the update on the guy who assaulted his girlfriend because she thought she could handle herself. He admits to getting off on her crying! That he enjoyed having her pinned down and helpless and suffering underneath him! Absolute monster.
When I heard that he held her down for 7 minutes, I instantly went, “The call is inside the house.” People who are overly concerned/angry about a group of bad people tend to be those people.😒It’s like a frat bro swearing up and down he isn’t gay.
Ian is honestly so surprisingly insightful and thoughtful. I love hearing his takes on these stories. And with Amanda there, it's giving dad and his cool older sister 😅
I find that paired up with Amanda he is even more so than say when he is paired up with Anthony. Not saying he is shallow with Anthony, but Amanda seems to inspire him to think on another level. 🙂
@AllieRose1348 I don't necessarily think it depends on who he's paired with. I think everyone does a great job on this series regardless of their opinions/takes. But I feel like in every episode Ian has been in, they have been my favourites just because I feel like he genuinely cares about people. I don't think a lot of people get that vibe from him normally. It's nice to see
I really do enjoy when Ian and Amanda are together on here, they both have very complex ways of looking at things, I feel they just gel well together you know?
once heard someone say that when women stopped needing men, men needed to become more likeable to adapt and that’s what some men struggle with and i think about that daily
Truuue. Its also fair to admit that some women are a little too far out of band and are very capable of leaving some extremely negative experiences and expectations on men
@@Subsistence69 A lot of women. Even men. It's a common thing in society to put blame on men and negative expectations of men. Which is obviously sexist
5:09 Yea the first time my mom caught me drunk I was 17, the next morning she got up really early when I was super hungover slammed my door open and made me do a bunch of loud chores when I had a crazy headache. At the end, she asked if I’d ever drink like that again. I said no and then she made me soup and helped me to feel better and it worked. I didn’t drink like that again. But she would never make me drink NINE beers. That’s just unsafe. Of course most of my family tree (including my dad) has some kind of alcohol problem and I have epilepsy so I pretty much just avoid alcohol entirely now.
honestly, i just really love Ian and i kinda look up to him now because for a guy who has such bummer joke, dirty dark humor and mind he is a very sensitive, thoughtful, intelligent man(idk any other correct adjectives to put here but basically hes a good guy) like even DURING the story is being read and not fully finished, he's quick and present and immediately picks up things that actually speed past me, and he just explains how certain things are so wrong and messed up so well that i wouldnt think of at all much without excessive analyzing some wouldnt expect this trait and character to someone with his, well personality and I JUST LOVE THAT. Its just a great sorta duality to him, hes down to f around and say the wildest, out of pocket stuff but hes a very sound guy and im gonna look up to him now
dude the walk alone at night situation is messed up because after already grounding her he held her down and instated the fear that people get when they're sexually assaulted, she will never ever be the same again mentally
@@GingerOMGgirl, no. was she a little cocky? yeah. but holding his partner down for minutes while she was crying? that’s bound to fuck her up psychologically for a long time. like they said, if she consented to this weird test of physicality, then yeah, show her she can’t ground you and maybe get her in a hold for a couple seconds. minutes? while she’s crying? that’s proving a different point and showing her who she should really be afraid of.
I also think it’s wrong to hold her down several minutes. But I think it‘s good to feel how heavy a body can be on you or how you would react in a difficult situation. My partner and I both train martial arts and it’s really interesting to experience my actions and reactions in a safe environment. Often I was stunned and wasn’t able to react when my partner would hold me in a position I couldn’t get out of. But of course I immediately spoke up and we ended what ever we were doing and talked about the situation and what I could have done. Also I don’t like tasers and pepper spray, because they also give you „false“ confidence if you don’t know how to use them or if for example the attacker uses the same things or unarms you and uses the pepper spray against you (Sry for complicated explanation, English is not my first language)
Literally the opposite. Women who show confidence and courage are way less likely to be attacked, than those who show themselves as weak and vunerable. He did nothing but make her an easier target in the future@@GingerOMG
16:11 remember the guy who called his wife a book keeper when she was an accountant? I wonder if this girlfriend who is "really into fitness" is actually a body builder or fitness model. This sounds like a full-time job for her.
When I was like 7 or 8 I stole one of those spinny propeller candy thingies from a Blockbuster and tried to hide it on my back pocket. It was incredibly obvious of course, and the moment we stepped out of the store my dad noticed and I panicked and confessed to my crime. So he took me back into the Blockbuster, up to the teenager at the register and told her “my kid just stole this candy and she’s here to give it back, but will we have to call the police and send her to jail?” At this point I was panicking and crying cuz I was sure 8 year olds in prison don’t have a good time. Apparently the girl at the register thought it was cute and felt bad and started to say it was okay, but my dad gave her one of those pointed dad looks and she had to go “Well, usually we would call the police and criminals go to jail for a loooong time, but I guess this time we’ll let you off the hook.” And I never stole again.
That guy who pinned his girlfriend down and *saw fear in her eyes* is sick. It's one thing to want to protect your partner, it's another one to want them to be afraid.
@@sophienah4654 The whole fcking idea was for him to show her that he is stronger than her... wth are you talking about? She agreed to it! Thats not the problem with the story lol! The problem is that he kept her locked down for way too long! And should have stopped when he saw she got upset
Story 5: a group of college kids got attacked by one hyena in my city. One got his skull cracked, the other lost an eye and a third a thumb the rest ran like cowards. No matter the self defense training, running like cowards is the best defense.
@@ttintagel I mean a literal hyena. They're usually small and unassuming and do silly things like laugh like old ladies and waddle about on their hind legs but are _the worst!_ But fun fact, the Swahili word "mafisi" (hyenas) means dangerous goofy and harmless looking men so a nice guy.
@@availanila That use of "hyena" makes so much sense it should be adopted worldwide. There are too many hyenas (in the non-literal sense) running around.
as someone with a restrictive eating disorder who has had people in my life do similar things to push me towards recovery when i was not mentally prepared for it at all, doing that could genuinely make her restriction worse. in my own experience it definitely made me relapse even more when i was heading towards a healthy recovery. it also might make her develop a fear of letting others cook for her. disordered eating isn't rational or just "eating habits". the mental damage deceiving a disordered person into eating more calories can have if it is found out is immense. by the sounds of it as well, she may have been just... doing a cut. its possible she was in a healthy-ish mindset while cutting, but this sort of behavior could 100% bring her back to harmful thinking.
As someone still in active recovery from bulimia, I can see his mindset. However, he went about it all wrong. Admittedly, there are times I cannot be rationalized with, in regards to food. If that was truly the case he should have contacted her therapist.
The scariest part to me is he's convinced himself that it was okay to tamper with her food for months - he didn't just do it once or twice and regretted it. 😢
The fact that he was putting the amount of olive oil that he was putting into her food and protein shakes is insane too. He was pretty much poisoning her. 4 table spoons PER MEAL is downright dangerous and scary. Jail. Straight to jail.
Reminds me of the story on two hot takes podcast where a guy was doing similar things to his girlfriend/fiancée but was adding to her food and drinks /shakes sawdust!!!!
@@cassandramalfoy that story was actually on Smosh pit too. Is it the story where the girlfriend has been "gaining weight" due to her depression and so to help her with her self confidence, he started putting sawdust in her food to help her lose weight?
Agreed. The mother is just as bad as the sister, if not worse because she didn't personally go through that and she still went along with this and refused to apologise
I've been binge watching this on my time off for mental health reasons and I'm so absolutely convinced Shayne is gonna be such a good dad. A ton of things we go over in group I re-hear him say and I'm just glad other people see this too and hopefully learn from it.
Amanda's advice on being aware and getting knowledge hit me like a wake up call. I tend to avoid negative news and dark stories because it messes with me mentally and makes me paranoid. It's easier to just assume nothing bad would happen to me because so far life hasn't been cruel to me. As a result, I haven't been taking my safety seriously. Im now motived to at least pay full attention whenever I'm traveling alone, and remember to carry pepper spray or a taser at least. I appreciate the topic is what I'm trying to say. Great episode!
Poisoned teenage son is the one of I'd consider most unsafe. -He can't leave the relationship/situation. - His immediate and long-term health was endangered. -Many red flags that the dad will continue inappropriate and unsafe behaviour towards him.
@@Jack_Ss It is likely we are to some extent reading too much, or projecting, into the situation; We only know very little about any situation we haven't lived so we as people do generally infer what else is going on.
Seriously. They waayy underreacted to that story. They’re not even old where that would at least make sense. And the cops making you pour out your beer when you’re caught is IN NO WAY the same as forcing the minor to drink it.
I seriously cried listening to that 'husband-test'-story. I understand the sister having trust issues after what the ex-husband put her through, but she needs therapy to deal with her trauma and trust issues, just like OP, and she's not ready for this relationship... but then the mom?? How can anyone condone this behaviour, and support it, when it's even hurting their other child? I understand wanting to solve any conflicts between your kids, but this mom joined to start a conflict, or well, a trauma! Toxic mom and I feel so sad for OP! I would have understood if the mom and sister would have tested the new husband instead. It would have been wrong too, but I could understand the thought process of it. Seriously, a guy that OP thought was her friend stole her underwear, A LOT of them even, and also broke her sisters heart, and then she gets blamed for it and tested by her own sister AND mother. So awful. I wish OP all the best 🥺
The father in the fourth story was such a badass. He's a fantastic and healthy male connection for OP to have, and him downright threatening the brother-in-law was such a deserved move only he could've delivered.
I love how they call the Mother a “Peace Maker” as if that’s what’s she wanted.. she clearly has a favorite child and wanted “peace” for her favorite.. 35:00 called it..
No I agree I think the sister was the favorite child and OP was just kind of there. What got me was the mom completely taking the sisters side and disregarding the OP’s
The ‘test’ story: no the mom does not want to keep the sisters together. She wants her first born to be happy no matter the cost. She doesn’t give a damn about OP.
45:30 This story was a lot. I agree with Shayne that nobody should walk alone at night. Even Amanda, who knows martial arts, is cautious. You don't put yourself in dangerous situations to prove you can handle yourself. It's like trying to prove you're a good driver by driving as close as possible to a cliff edge without falling off, it's insane! Stay away from that cliff 😂. But for real, make safe decisions even if you think you can handle danger
That's so American. It's safe to walk alone at night in most developed nations. I love when I'm in Japan. You can literally go anywhere safely in the middle of the night.
@@jamer2010I've played Like a Dragon I know there's bikers and guys hiding in trash bags waiting to hop out and fight you around every corner in Japan
Love the juxtaposition of Amanda being concerned when Courtney says her mom made her stand in a corner for a long time, and Amanda having zero issue with forcing a 16 year old to drink 7 beers in a row. Boston, man
I was thankful for Shayne's comments on that one. If CPS were involved, it would be pretty black and white. I love the dialogue in these episodes because even if some of them seem to miss what the viewers catch, or vice versa, it tells you a lot about who you are and where you've come from. Like in a personal growth kinda way (most of the time).
"My son (a teenager) wanted beer. I got MAD. I wasn't scared for my kid's health or thought about talking to him about why he did what he did, because he spent MY money. And after bribing the store to not press charges, which in and of themselves are literally the punishment for this crime, I decided because he spent MY money I got MAD and so I instead tricked him into drinking with him and poisoned him until he threw up over and over while my wife and his mother begged me to stop I also sat and drank with him to prove he can't take drink like *I* can. A MAN." Jesus Christ
Everyone keeps saying that Amanda is "nurturing mom" energy, but tbh she gives me more "favorite wine-drinking aunt" vibes
Yeah the more we learn about her, the more she shifts from Mommy to Auntie 😂
Amanda is the former college party animal who got super mentally healthy then had to adopt her niece and nephew because of a bad parent situation.
The people she knows personally say she has mom vibes, so I trust their judgement.
yes!
funnily enough they both have that same duality, while Amanda seems the nurturing mom and the wine-drinking aunt at the same time
Ian is actually a beer guy so he can be considered as the fun beer-drinking uncle, but also a rational, intelligent dad
If anyone's curious about the BIL x sister test, there was an update 7 days ago.
In summary:
She's much closer to her brother and father now.
Mother apologized, and while it seemed genuine, their relationship is strained (no surprises there).
Still no contact with sister and BIL and it seems sister is pregnant.
BF's family were awesome and they got very close. Also she thinks BF might propose soon.
Thank you very much
Thank goodness she’s getting some happiness, poor girl deserves it!
Thank you for sharing!
Oh thanks for the extra update 🎉❤
There was an update 18 days ago. OP and BF are getting married. OP found out the mom was spreading around that OP seduced the sister's husbands and that it was (bold of her fiancee to support her). OP is cutting out mom fully after forgiving her, maintaining no contact with sister and BIL, and trying to maintain a relationship with Dad and brother (they had no idea about the mom spreading lies to family). She said she has gotten really close to her fiancees parents/family too. Crazy stuff.
The “test” story made me feel physically ill. To be sat in a room with your family and have someone you felt was also family treating you that way. No one reacting. You’d feel crazy and disgusted and so confused. To add the insult that this test was basically blaming her for the forced sexualisation she’d already received from the previous husband? Vile. Throw the whole family away
Not the whole family, just the mother and sister. Her brothers and father are cool.
@@belgarath6388 yes I know they weren’t aware of the “test” but I’d still need words with the brother and father about how much they noticed at the time, and about paying more attention in the future. Nothing will change how she felt in the moment when no one else was reacting to his behaviour, I only hope the men in her family genuinely didn’t hear a thing.
@@Tinsroxdid you miss the part where the dad said the son in law was not allowed to step foot in the house and threatened him.
The dad needs to leave his wife, she is out right abusive.
First story is not eu proof
That story seems very wattpad if you asked me, the ugly insecure mean sister tricking the traumatized angel of a sister who is the perfect victim. Bruhhh it’s so fake
I have an eating disorder and I’m telling you lying to your partner about slipping something into their food is the most devastating move you could possibly make. Trust dead, relationship dead, and the spiral he was allegedly trying to prevent likely went into full swing after that episode.
i have a genuine question abt this if thats alr,
I do most of the cooking for my partner and he has anorexia nervosa, and he gets very tired after eating and is very picky, but im trying to expand his horizions (which is working for some things but not for others),, would I be wrong for purposefully trying to get him to eat things with more calories or making things that are higher nutritionally etc, and if thats okay how should I go about this?
@@reedthefiend communicate, probably! that was the main thing missing from that reddit story...
@@reedthefiend as someone with anorexia, it's absolutely fine to present them with these foods, encouraging them to eat it. (Them seeing you eat it might be beneficial). Never ever sneak anything. I cought my mother sneak oil into my food years ago. To this day I don't trust anything I have not seen her prepare and cook myself when I visit.
i too have an ed and this type of scenario is one of my worst nightmares. i could never, ever trust that person or any food item they bring into the home EVER again. i would immediately spiral into panic & paranoia, which would make me intensify restriction because now i can’t trust that everything isn’t contaminated 💔
oh my god yes, my blood was boiling listening to that one. my biggest fear 100% and if my boyfriend ever did that to me i would leave him. not because of the calories or the weight i’d gain, but because of how ignorant it is to think that he was “helping” me by going behind my back and slipping stuff into my food. recovery is 100% on the person affected, you can’t “help” someone recover by fattening them up without their knowledge, it will only make it worse.
Shayne: So we had this guy who was putting sawdust.
Ian: Yeah that's what I'm thinking about-
Amanda: HE WHAT
I love how they skimmed past her
Can't wait for the day they find the slug story
Yup as soon as Ian and I heard the title...I knew where it was going and smh
Oh no! Not the slug story! That story messed me up for at least a few weeks. I get the shivers just thinking about it 😖
@@meghanhenderson8417 Ha, yeah, that was my first thought too
The fact of the matter is that that man didn't humiliate his girlfriend. He scared her. That's why she cried
dude i saw on reddit that he said later on he was turned on when he humiliated and when she cried thats why he was like yes i abused her DISGUSTINGGGGGG
The whole thing was dumb but once he over powered her there was zero need to continue holding her down for minutes on end, he'd proven his point. She was probably terrified that someone she trusted was pinning her down and not letting her go.
@@devilmikey00 exactly! All he needed to do to prove his point was show her she can't hold him down. He didn't even need to pin her down in the first place. "She knows I'd never hurt her" is inaccurate "She thought she knew I would never heard her but after I held her down for SEVERAL minutes while she was crying, I showed her that I would and could"
@@linooneify what now makes it worse is that he held her down, she was crying and he got turned on. She probably started crying because she FELT he was enjoying it. Man admits he abused her and liked it and wonders if he went too far FFS. He showed her that he could hurt her and would enjoy doing so since he let it go on for several minutes before stopping. Fucking gross
@@j.a.r.5974I mean, pinning her down is not exactly “hurting” her. It’s just restraining her
"My ex-husband sexually harassed my sister, so OF COURSE my new husband has to sexually harass my sister!" That's a new one on me.
I literally can’t with people 😭😭
That’s one reason I’m single
Seriously!!!! At least dad and brother were supportive
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No fr, why did she feel the need to test her, it's not like she caused the issue with her ex husband
Every time Shayne says, "There's an update" it makes me feel like I'm watching Maury about to give out test results
😂😂😂 this almost took me out.
You can drink if your parents allows it at home. Unless that law has changed. And the boy wanted to countiue so his fault
@@tylerferrand8786 wgat
@@Blindkoreishereehe prob meant to reply to another comment but struggles with microwaves. Look at his pfp. All the context you need.
ROFL 🤣
the thing they missed from the boyfriend pinning down his girlfriend story was he admitted in another update that he got "excited" when he was overpowering her and she started crying. He liked seeing the fear in her eyes. She should have been more cautious yeah but imagine how terrified she must have felt to see him enjoy her fear.
I was kind of like "But she *did* agree to this from a very cocky perspective" and from what I heard it seemed like he tried to bring it up about it not being safe and she was just like "I can handle myself" when evidently, she couldn't but to keep going until they cry instead of just being like "Okay, I took you down in seconds and you can't do anything about it, I've proved my point" is already bad enough but to get satisfaction from it? Complete fucking psycho behaviour.
okay so that changes my opinion on the story greatly holy shit. had it been consentually agreed upon that you don't unpin the other until someone cries uncle, I would have seen it as young people doing dumb shit to prove a point. I wish they'd included the comment you're talking about. I understood the cast's perspective, but including that context would have made it make more sense.
Even without that update, the boyfriend said that while he was holding her down (for several minutes!!), he could see the fear in her eyes and that she was crying during that time. Putting your partner through something like that, and not stopping immediately, is sick to me. That update confirms the grossness
That is incredibly messed up and completely changes how I viewed the story. At first, I thought that (while his methods were definitely wrong and over-the-top to say the least) his intentions were at least understandable; wanting her to at least acknowledge that your physical size and cockiness doesn't mean much in a genuinely life threatening situation. However, learning that he got "excited" by it just makes me re-evaluate his motives as being more sinister than out of concern. What a sick bastard.
@@JoeyMarshallshe agreed to a little wrestling match with her partner not the same as sparring with a stranger who wants to harm her.
The mother/sister story doesn't sound like a mother willing to do anything to keep her daughters together. It sounds like a golden child-scapegoat dynamic.
I was thinking that too, but it's probably a mix. That mother was also giving off vibes of "wanting that picture-perfect family," so she just wants to move on and forget it to have that fantasy. That story just made me wish therapy was almost always EVERYONE's first response to scary crap like that.
Yeah I feel like they tell on themselves a little when they comment on stuff like that. “You’re always going to try to blame the other girl” wtf no what’s wrong with you?
@@johnbolen5807i don't think that's how they meant it, it was meant to acknowledge that that is just what a lot of people do because it's easier than to accept the truth and they even said themselves that ppl should stop doing that
Yeah, they were giving the mother way too much grace in this story
Thiss. Mother willing to do anything to avoid consequences for her golden child, herself, and the family dynamic she's enjoying
I had an aunt who was an alcoholic who peer pressured me into drinking with her at 17 by insulting me until I agreed just to make her shut up. She deliberately tried to get me drunk and I did not want to drink. Having a trusted adult force feed you alcohol is a huge betrayal in my mind.
I mean the son was planning on drinking it. Could have been a good lesson the dad just took it too far.
@@xenohade182 a teenager sneaking a beer and an adult *forcing you to drink alcohol* are two completely different things. This is literal child abuse.
My mum is not an alcoholic but let us drink young at the house. She also would encourage our friends to, even if she knew their parents weren't okay with it. I hated it and even now I'm sickened by those memories. (She was going through a crisis at the time. This behaviour only lasted for a year or two.)
@xenohade182 There were 5 friends at the 'gathering', 18 beers between 5 is a mile away from 9 beers for the kid alone, even if we ignore the fact that it was forced on him.
I can assure you he wasn't planning on drinking NINE bottles of beer ☠️
The Mother/Sister story made me cry. Being guilt trip and gaslight into family situations that aren't your fault really hit home.
40:00 "She'll do anything to keep the family together." Except apologize. She won't do that.
because needing to keep her family together is a symptom of her need to maintain her self image. firstly she is never wrong and secondly she has a functional family.
Yea or sympathize with her daughter that was "tested"
A couple years ago we had a anti drug seminar at my school and one of the things they told us about, to deter us from underage drinking, was a news report of parents forcing their kid to drink a bunch of alcohol. Their goal was to scare him from drinking ever again but they killed him. He died from alcohol poisoning and the parents were put in prison for murder. The kid just wanted to try alcohol and they basically killed him for it
Oh my god
oh my god
OMFG!!!😱😭
That's unbelievably sad. I'm glad they share that though to explain to kids that there are people with psycho parents so even if the kids think they are being safe they might get caught by their psychotic parents and be forced to drink themselves to death
Hardcore
It’s actually wild how the second story is literally the OPPOSITE ED scenario of the Sawdust story and yet has all the same problems as that one. It’s like looking into an alternate reality.
Yup, both are "I like my girlfriends body a certain way so I did dangerous things to her food while faking concern for her health!"
Yeah, the complete lack of communication and understanding is baffling. I just can't understand how anyone could go from "my girlfriend seems to have problems with her body and self esteem (but secretly I just don't like her body, oops)" to "I'll alter her food without telling her and possibly endanger her". Like, what? It's so foreign to me.
That fact alone suggests it's a troll
I actually thought for a fraction that it was the sawdust one resurfacing.
Mirror dimension! 😂 There are lots of things that are best handled by professionals, and that's just one of the many.
The craziest thing is that the sister who's dealing with the mom and her sister new husband made a post that was so focused on "How do I apologize? How do I earn their trust?" when EVERYONE ELSE should be apologizing to HER
obsessed with Ian looking up at Amanda and Amanda looking down at Ian😭 funniest possible employer/employee dynamic
I love their Redacted and Sarah Christ performances together. They have amazing acting chemistry.
Ian being pissed from these stories is great
That's kind of shitty. Male bosses who are shorter than some women are "funny" ? I know you're just joking but it's these old stereotypes that contribute to toxic masculinity. A person's height doesn't determine their worth or power.
@@Sleve-McDichael i didn’t say anything about gender lol you’re the one who brought gender into it. It’s just funny when your boss is significantly shorter than you
I'm taller than many dudes and it's really interesting to speak down towards old buff dudes. Not in a good or bad way, it just feels weird sometimes. Hard to explain
With the guy pinning down his gf one, they missed the comments the guy had where he said he was turned on by holding her down when she was crying. Actual predator mentality.
When did he say that?
@@MrAsmonteroHe said it in a reply on the original post. As soon as he got to the part where he challenged her, I IMMEDIATELY remembered reading this story and reading that comment and feeling my stomach drop.
This guy should be locked up or something
WHAT THE FUCK
Hey...This is not good a thing. They're leaving out some stuff and judging these people? 🤔
ian always comes onto this show with a good attitude and so much empathy and understanding, and willingness to learn. amanda comes on this show with a vengeance.
it's honestly a great thing because I'm always really shocked by the depth of his compassion, probably because we just don't get a lot of opportunities to hear it from him.
Like batman 😼🦇
It's because everywhere else, he needs to be the CEO of Comedy.
But here, it's just him, his friends, and his opinions.
Amanda is so ready to kick some toxic people's asses XD
Ian is one of my favorite guests on Reddit Stories
For the self-defense story, I’m so glad that they referred to Amanda and I definitely noticed how they were intently listening to every word she said. Shayne is very good at listening to his guests, even if he occasionally disagrees with them.
Great host and by all evidence I've seen a very good man. Yeah, these are always better with a diversity of guests. Even well-meaning people have blind spots that can really color their takes on these stories.
I find it really hard to believe the kid actually stole the beer. Eighteen-packs aren't the easiest thing to nab lmao. More likely the gas station sold him the beer and the dumbass got conned.
Omg good point, the kid could have lied to
Oh the dad 100% got played by the gas station guy. He's an idiot to truly belive the gas station wouldn't press charges because of $100.
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What kind of had me pissed was his attitude towards his wife saying she "babied" him. 🙄🤬
@@Gumbier_Than fr like you forced your son to get dangerously drunk and your wife is looking after him and that's 'babying' ?? Like no he threw up and kept going, he is in actual danger the wife is probably so worried 😭
For the mom and sister story, it’s also wild that after OP passed their “test”, it should disprove their delusions.. why wouldn’t they apologize at that point? They were proven wrong and they caused a lot of distress in their family and used a lot of deception. The fact that they just became defense feels like they’re not in general treating OP and her feelings with much respect
Sometimes you go so deep into your own narrative that you convince yourself that you're right, no matter what others tell you.
Its rlly sad
Because they decided long ago that the first marriage failing was OPs fault. So this test was to see if she could be trusted now. They see this as fair and square.
For some reason that woman can’t just admit that she was undesirable to her first husband. She had to blame her sister instead of the sick bastard that hurt them both.
Ok this is going to depress a few people, but it needs to be said. They think the abuse she suffered from the ex-husband is her fault, they believe that she is a vile temptress not a victim. The test wasn’t about them discovering if they were wrong it was about making sure “she wasn’t going to tempt her new fiancé” because again she is in the wrong categorically for the crime of someone else being a creep to her. Personally speaking I would have advised cutting them off after the first meeting where they told her she passed the test.
"Alcohol is bad for my kids health and they shouldn't drink it, that's why when he tried to drink it whithout my knowledge I made him drink all of it at once, and also bribe the store, to teach him what is good."
Not a good plan.
The worst plan to teach your kids something. And I haven’t even watched the video yet
The scariest part is that a lot of families think this is the right way to educate their kids lol
@avaaminos yes! Absolutely unhinged I can't believe this shit is still normal lol
thats when you buy non alcoholic beer and make them down em
So dangerous too.
For the guy who's uncomfortable around drunk women, the least he could've done is called them an Uber. If he has a problem, he should pay to get them out of that house, instead of just HOPING they get home safe.
Everyones at fault there simply because noone went into that situation prepared to get out safely. The hosts should be responsible and have someone sober that can handle drunks. The drunks should have had designated drivers.
I dont blame the guy for being uncomfortable around drunk women. Had to deal with them as a bouncer all the time. Having a sober supervisor, both sides, would have eliminated the issues.
Like no matter how you feel, you never put other people in danger on purpose. It is so clearly known society-wide how at risk women are among strange people/public at large, how they need secure transport back to a safe location, and how that is amplified by 100-fold if they are intoxicated.
They should’ve gotten them an Uber or something but i 100% agree with him not being comfortable and I don’t believe it’s because “he’s afraid of what he will do” there’s too many times women lie about being SA and it’s not worth it. Cuz you gotta believe the victim….. so so many lied about it to get men in trouble.
@@Pistollovilythat’s how I took it too. Women’s lies are believed easier than men’s truths when these things are concerned.
@@Pistollovily I agree 100% on that, from what I’ve seen a lot of times is people attribute malice to what could be a trauma response. He could’ve been or known someone who’d been falsely accused of SA or been SAd.
Okay, to add to the olive oils story. I wanna say that at a point in my life, it was recommended for me to add oil into my foods. Although I wasn’t a huge fan of the idea, I ALLOWED my parents to put it in my food. I didn’t want to put it in myself or see it, because… eating issues. This was something we talked about and discussed, and my doctor only prescribed 1-2 tablespoons. That amount was for someone who was eating way below their recommended caloric intake and was very underweight. Having 4-5 tbsp every day is absolutely insane to me. If you are genuinely concerned about someone’s weight and mental issues you go a different route, period.
I agree. It definitely sounds like she has an eating disorder (excessive exercise due to body image is also considered an eating disorder), risking her physical and mental health is not the way to go about it. They have to see it and acknowledge their problem first.
I agree with it and honestly if he had a genuine reason to actually help her then he should’ve communicated better in the first place like ask her to slightly increase in her protein intake instead of adding oil and so much of it sneakily.
The best thing to do when someone has a problem is to go behind their back and mess with their food. That’s how you show her how much you love her ❤ /s
Edit: She’s not a child. She can handle her own diet. I’m sick of people treating those with issues as children who need adults to care for them. Also if you keep making her food more unhealthy, she’s going to be more obsessed with exercise to burn off all the fat
As a woman who’s half pinoy and half Latina. I’ve heard horror stories of women/girls from the Philippines being used or groomed by men that have this mentality. And to hear just a smidge of the disgusting things they say about pinoy women in Manila isn’t surprising but devastating. My people aren’t little dolls to use or married off as ‘trad wives.’ They just want to live and survive.
But some Pinoy Womens also use foreigners and rich people to get a better life. Feel sorry some of them are mistreadt but they are not perfect. Filipino and Filipinas can have both red flags and not always the victim to anything
@@simpayshenaides ew. That's so not it. One problem does not negate the other, it's not tit for tat.
@@simpayshenaidesthere's nothing in their comment that implies filipinas are perfect. cases of """imperfect"""" filipinas """"using"""" better off usually white guys actually just prove how there's a plague of systematic economic exploitation of filipinas. AMONG OTHER THINGS. crying about white men's hurt feelings is disgusting in the context of the ubiquitous abuse experienced by our people.
I’m born and raised in the US, but I’m half Central European. If he expects to go there and get a submissive wife, he’s in for a huge shock! The toughest people in my family are definitely the women. They have zero problem standing up for themselves. Plus family is huge there, so when a guy acts like an ass, she has her entire pissed off family right there, backing her. My grandmother, aunt, and cousin are three generations of tough women who are scary AF when they’re pissed. Plus, the women there are highly educated. They don’t have to pay massive amounts of money to go to college. When my dad was in the hospital, I asked one of his doctors why I only saw women doctors there. In a week, I didn’t see one male doctor. She just said, “Well, medical school is really academically taxing, and men can be “intellectually lazy.” So women go to med school, but men go to business school to try to make more money. This was fifteen years ago, too.
@@simpayshenaidesthey can also be gold diggers too
The first story reads generational trauma like crazy. Definitely grew up around some insane alcohol abuse and definitely didn’t get the right message from his own childhood. Old man’s a pos
You're absolutely right, def seems like generational trauma. He's also the kind of parent that will be like "wonder why my kid doesn't want me to be in their life anymore" 🫠
Then all the commenters saying "you're the problem, dude" and his response being "Well, actually" and doubling down instead seeing that maybe his reaction wasn't appropriate and there is trauma there that needs to be healed. Wild how little emotional maturity he has, feel hella bad for his son. I hope his kid is able to stop the cycle of trauma.
Sounds like he didn't want peoples honest opinions, he wanted people to agree with him then when they didn't he was big mad. 🙃
glad I'm not the only one who thought that. heard a lot of stories like that from older generations, all who had some form of substance abuse issues at one point or another
He wasn't even mad that the son drank alcohol. Just that he stole it
I would not be surprised if the father was also abused as a teen.
100% agree, no doubt the dads own father treated him like this so in his head he most likely thought that this was the right thing to do because that is what happened to him as a a kid
I love when Ian is on this show so much. Hearing him articulate his thoughts about the situations in these stories and empathizing with it's characters is an unusually comforting break of character from the tropes he plays in other Smosh series. Kinda like finding out your cool, immature uncle is actually very wise and sagely. I would feel very safe with him
"What source is there that one time drunkeness balhablahbalha??! Hurr durr!!"
HAZING. KIDS HAVE DIED FROM HAZING IN THEIR FIRST YEAR AT COLLEGE. DUDE.
No fr i literally said out loud to myself "does death count as brain damage? What about TBIs from drunk driving accidents?"
It also doesn't matter if it's the first or the 50th time someone drinks. Alcohol is a poison, that's where the word "intoxicated" comes from. He's poisoning his child
As an European the passport bro story made me so extremely mad. The fact that there are such ignorant people thinking that we Europeans are stuck in the past and that every European woman "should be happy to marry an American man" like they are some superior species is so disgusting. The whole thing of minimizing women by how submissive they are in which culture is making me sick and is so scary. These people want servants not wives.
Sorry to hear you got mad about this, but unfortunately this movements so popular online because it works fairly often tbh expcailly in countries like tiawan, I'm I happily married American to a fellow American, my brother was a passport bro though and he moved to Japan and is now happily married himself, he didn't do it because he wanted a more submissive wife or anything like that, but unfortunately we lived in a big city in the northwest, for our generation hook up culture has taken over, he had extreme trouble in finding a partner that he was looking for due to this, so his solution was to move to a culture where hooking up is very frowned upon, within 2 years he'd found himself a wife( been together 5 years now with a kid on the way), he was very open about why he moved and didn't hide it in my view he's still classified as a passport bro, but I don't think he's the same kinda scum as the dude at the redit post just wanted to let ya know that not all Americans who move to look for significant others are duche bags
Also isn’t it a given that Europeans, on average, are way smarter than Americans??? Lmfao
@@Kstanimal Lmao honestly this, I feel like these idiots have no idea that there's tons of societies more advanced than there's and that they think they're some type of savior...
My mom is an American who married a European man. At this point she’s kinda glad she escaped the whole American mess, and went for full citizenship in her adopted country instead of just the permanent residency. So yeah.
And no dad doesn’t hold it over her in the least. Nobody does. We are all very proud of her and her many accomplishments. Like one should be.
@aliabugz The British have always been islanders, and a bit separate from the rest of Europe. It’s just cultural.
That sister story is crazy. Smosh peeps didn't quite go there but the sister whose previous husband was a creep found another creep to replace him, 100%. A guy pretending to convincingly hit on a woman for an entire dinner, while it obviously makes them uncomfortable - that's NOT a thing. That is a psychopath and a creep.
Yep! I’d say the chances of being in a serious relationship with a creep, ignoring a significant need of therapy and ending up getting into a new relationship with a different freak are indeed pretty high.
there was a lot to unpack in that story so i get that they grazed over certain things a little faster but that whole thing about him "ogling" her was a major red flag. its so frustrating that the sister notices that and EVEN THEN, places the responsibility on her sister to be "trustworthy" and not get between their marriage when its literally the husband/brother-in-law who's showing signs of being just as creepy and pervy as the last guy. if anything they should be testing HIM (it would be wrong to do that too, but slightly more justified)
@@nicolekoii, the ‘ogling’ may have been the sister’s paranoia. She’s clearly mentally unwell.
if you ask me, the sister is the biggest creep
@@naylas3908 could be could be. but at the same time if she was with a creepy guy before and didnt get therapy after, i wouldnt be shocked to see her end up with a similar kind of guy
8:37 I think the whole message of don’t steal was lost, as the kid got so drunk he can’t possibly remember any of that week
Sorry mom, I can’t talk right now, Shayne is reading Reddit stories
I miss you professor 🥺😭
Crossover episode when
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@@cobainsguitarss I like that your pic reflects the emotion in your comment 💖
I remember the "destroyed my girlfriend's confidence" story. You guys missed the worst part, he apparently eventually admitted it gave him, uh, pleasure to overpower her
.... oh no. I defended the situation in a comment I can't find anymore, but that's horrifying. edit: ok guys to be clear I never said he wasnt in the wrong, just that I didnt think he was an unforgivable asshole at first, you can send the firing squad home ffs 😂
@@play-foolyou defended it…? jesus. shit like this always comes from a creepy ass place.
@@hadesisbabyyou have to give people the benefit of the doubt sometimes especially when they seemed genuinely remorseful about doing something bad as opposed to just being a bad person. Making a mistake doesn’t mean you’re automatically this horrific person, although he made a pretty bad one. It’s something you learn from as opposed to just calling people bad. (Esp when it’s online, you have no idea their actual intentions and you kind of have to guess based on their writing.)
@@jaden.gracefully i would understand this mindset if he hadn't held her down for "minutes" until he "noticed the fear in her eyes" & still continued until she admitted defeat... for me, that goes beyond one momentary lapse in judgement. he made a continuous choice to keep holding her down, even when he saw how afraid she was & after it was clear to both of them he was stronger. him not immediately stopping & immediately apologising is what i find most messed up about his behaviour.
@@hadesisbaby idk. it seemed like a challenge that she accepted but that he took too far, but i didnt realize he was THAT creepy. i saw the sense in his concern, and felt like he wasnt a complete asshole for how he felt, just an asshole for how he went about showing her his point.
The story with the family sabotaging that poor girl really hit me and brought up some painful memories. Not that I’ve ever experienced anything like that soap opera mess, but this is a family dynamic that’s all too common. There’s the “golden child” and the “scapegoat,” OP’s sister is the first and she’s the latter. One child gets sacrificed to try to neutralize all stress and problems occurring in the family.
This kind of stuff doesn’t happen one time or out of nowhere, and I can basically guarantee the OP talking about being a people pleaser is a direct result of spending a lifetime as the family scapegoat. The sister and mother are clearly the ones with serious problems that need to be worked out, but it’s so much easier to exploit the person who did nothing wrong - make them apologize for absolutely no reason - and then when THEY feel better, you’re the one who’s expected to move on. Family dynamics like this are so psychologically damaging.
My heart hurts for her and I hope she gets to feel what it’s like to have a family that really supports you. I’m so glad she had her boyfriend and his family to be there for her throughout all of that, can’t even imagine the emotional whiplash.
This, by the end of the story I'm just here wondering what else OP most likely has been going through
Exactly, the mother wasn’t “peacemaking” she was siding with the sister, period
OP's insistence on wanting to apologize for introducing the previous pervert husband to her sister definitely show's she's been shaped to be a people pleaser. Even after learning about their scheme she's putting her sister above herself. Yes it's an admirable trait being the bigger person but that dynamic was probably instilled in her thru the wrong means.
also i feel every time someone's behaviour is excused they're trying to maintain peace, the maintaining peace is always done by smothering over one side's feelings.
@@EmyNJust so. I also low key wonder if the mother was feeding those anxieties in any way. There are conservative communities where the assumption is that, if a marriage breaks up, the wife must've been failing in some way, and if a man does something sexually inappropriate, the women around him must've invited it. I get the impression that the only way the sister could make her husband's creepy wandering eye not her fault was to cast her sister as an evil seductress, and there are a lot of mothers out there who would low key contribute to that with a lot of harassment because marriage is *the* mark of feminine success in their eyes.
As a daughter of a passport bro, I'll admit it's really weird growing up knowing my parents never loved eachoter and it was all transactional and believing this is how relationships should be
as someone struggling with anorexia, one of my biggest fears is having others touch my food in any way because I'm so afraid of anyone adding something like oil or butters or something without telling me. To mess with food when someone already has a history of disordered eating patterns or negative thoughts about their body/weight is just cruel. If you were so concerned, you talk with them. You don't fuck with their food and risk making any habits worse... just hearing that story made me so anxious, and I feel so bad for her....
I have a question; the guy was totally the asshole, but is olive oil really that bad? I'm asking because I use it A LOT.
1000%.
@@Gya.. Large amounts like that, yes.
For many people, eating disorders can start as a way to try to be in control of some area of their life - if that is the case for this partner I feel sick thinking about the deep psychological trauma this would have caused. 😞
@@Gya.. not sure why you're asking this question on a post regarding eating struggles when you most definitely have access to the internet to research your question ://
Can we also talk about the possible psychological effects of story 1? 16 year old brains are incredibly maliable, ESPECIALLY with a parent. What this dad did could make the son feel like he has to be able to drink a lot and increase his tolerance to be an "actual man". Or that getting sick from drinking NINE BEERS is embarrassing and weak. like whatttt is this dad thinking
Teaching someone to drink irresponsibly and ignore the limits your body is telling you is so scary. A parent should teach their children how to drink responsibly when they old enough to, not force them to drink irresponsibly before they seem like they are ready to.
I had friends not wake up after drinking too much in highschool - it's not harmless fun 😞
I think the only things his dad has taught him are:
1. Dad will ignore your boundaries and stomp all over them if he feels like it.
2. Make sure dad doesn't find out next time you break a rule.
3. When you were in pain mum cared for you, dad didn't care about you at all.
And a bonus:
4. Forcing someone to drink until alcohol poisoning is an acceptable punishment. That sure is good to know when he's going to college in two years.
@@DanDanDoe man i wish all parents would critically analyze their actions like this, maybe we wouldn't have so many messed up people in the world
Yes, nothing about what he did seemed like it could possibly lead to what he hoped it would. It was just all around destructive.
You are correct. Thats probably whats gonna happen but I have to say that If that is his take away then he isnt very sharp. The dad is wrong, immature, abusive and really imbecile, and stupid. But if anything should serve the kid to know AND understand that he should not be sneaking up to drink ITS THIS. Why would you want to be drunk after this??
I love how Shayne’s Australian accent jumps back and forth from Australian to Micheal Caine. 😂
It was basically Billy Butcher with a little bit of Michael Caine. So, not Australian at all 😅
the self defense story reminds me of a story my sibling's old karate teacher would tell each year:
(context: he was a big dude who had multiple blackbelts, competed in competitions, and knew how to defend himself. ) he was walking to his car one night and a guy came up behind him and pressed a gun into his back. the guy told him to hand over his wallet, watch, and any other valuables so he did. and every year there was a kid who would go "why didnt you take them down? you show us all the time in class" and he would respond saying that "id rather give him my wallet and my watch rather than risk my life trying to fight him" i think about that a lot
this is the only story from a karate teacher that I actually believe 100%
You fight for your life when you can't de-escalate or escape, that's an excellent lesson. Like I heard the advice for women, "Your number one goal is to run away to a safe location. You are making an opening to escape, don't stay there a second longer than you can physically help it." Alongside the advice to, if at all possible for you, get your fitness up such that you can run a mile, or plan around it if you can't.
Or something someone I know who was a martial arts instructor (I forget which) and had a black belt said was “I’ve won every fight I’ve ever been in by 100 metres” talking about avoiding fights whenever possible
Story 4 makes me upset because the older sister should absolutely remember the circumstances that led to her divorce (how it was over her first husband being a creep to her younger sister, to the point she had to get a restraining order) and somehow twisting that into her younger sister was deliberately trying to seduce him is crazy. I’m honestly shocked that she made her new husband deliberately flirt with her younger sister because that’s literally the exact situation of her first divorce. Older sister has some deep insecurities that I hope she works on for the sake of her new husband and her younger sister
trauma can cause actual delusional thinking and delusions make people do inconsistent, paranoid, wild things like that tbh. sister absolutely needs therapy, not a new husband
@rainestar82 Yeah and with the mom feeding into it makes me think they have a old-fashioned mentality of, If the man strays its somehow the woman's fault.
And the only way the sister had to not feel like the blame is on her is to paint OP as this evil being. Seems like OP is the only one going to therapy and actually breaking down those generational concepts
@@rainestar82I mean, yeah, but it’s also your responsibility to deal with your trauma, you know? That’s your baggage, not your sister’s, and she chose to throw herself into a new relationship.
I wonder how her new husband dealt with it each time the sister said he was “ogling” OP? Like how did that get turned on OP… did he say “no she was looking at me!”
I'm a dude who's over 300lbs and I know how to throw a punch. I don't even like going in the back yard at night. That being said scaring the crap out of your significant other is some psychopath behavior.
That’s bc it wasn’t about her safety - it was bc he felt emasculated by her and wanted to show her how much he could potentially hurt her.
Yea honestly even as someone who has like 18+ years of various martial arts experience, that doesn't mean anything when you don't know the circumstances of getting attacked. I get he was trying to potentially deter a perpetrator by it being more than just her there, but like they said, there's always weapons, and it doesn't really matter who you are if someone unsuspectingly punches you in the back of the head then none of that matters; also inducing a traumatic experience into someone and saying "they still trust me" is very delusional.
@@MattriarcYeah, especially when it’s someone you trust. I would bet money that she could beat his ass if he wasn’t her boyfriend.
@@Mattriarc And in the end, the person who attacks first has the advantage. The predator in an everyday situation has the advantage, weapon or not.
@@squeezie_b8895 How was it emasculating? She was literally acting like an arrogant hot head and putting herself in dangerous for zero logical reason. You just need it to be about that because you refuse to blame a woman for anything apparently. If he voiced his concern, brushed him off, and then accepted his challenge then mostly its on her for acting like an egomaniac
Lifelong martial artist and self defense nerd, here. The guy should have asked her to take martial arts classes with him. They could've found different partners, and they both would've realized very quickly how they would each fare in a self-defense scenario. All of this while building their own confidence in their ability to defend themselves, and bonding over a new shared hobby and learned skill.
That would only make the problem worse, shes already delusional about her strength, and you wanna add martial arts classes to that?
@@radhiadeedou8286 Yes? The first step of learning is realizing how much you don't know... Classes where everyone else there is better than you because they've been doing it longer would serve exactly that purpose
@@radhiadeedou8286Bro, she could’ve used her strength to defend herself? Strength without knowing how to use it can be dangerous. Martial arts are an amazing self defense.
i was thinking this too and they could use it as a bonding thing to both feel more comfortable defending themselves. also, of course along with a deep, civil and genuine conversation about actions, thoughts and feelings.
@@radhiadeedou8286shut up
Hearing Shane do a horrendous accent of an Aussie then Ian and Amanda clap in amazement, lol you guys are hilarious!
New Zealand accent, I believe.
It sounded like Jason Statham trying and failing to do an Aussie accent 😂
i find it interesting that the 5'9 guy thinks the problem is that he humiliated his gf and shattered her confidence, and not the fact that he 100% terrified her and made her feel unsafe around her own boyfriend
The aftermath is crucial in that situation. Especially if she was begging him to get up or said ok that’s enough. Otherwise if she just struggled until she got too tired and he got up I don’t think the sole reason to break up with him. She volunteered and she obviously was still super confident in herself to agree to do that in the first place. If she doesn’t want to be with a guy who can overpower her that’s a completely different issue. The only way she was going to understand that was through him overpowering her. If you make sure to communicate that you care for her and were afraid there wasn’t any way you could get through to her then it’s hard not to see it was from love not malice. Even if you switch the genders I expect the man to take that L and agree that they should try not to be so prideful. I’d rather my partner get mad at me for an agreed upon humbling than to get robbed/kidnapped from putting themself in unnecessary danger. Again you can’t just pin someone down to point of traumatizing them, but outside of begging her through tears I don’t see how he was going to open her eyes if he repeatedly communicated his concerns.
Yeah that was so awful, theres a difference btwn sparring and actually trying to like hurt and overpower people and it sounds like he p much wanted to do the latter
@@TheXxKingSlayrxXfacts
Yeah they didn't include the NSFW update on that story. He talked to his gf about it, and she made it clear that her biggest issue was that while he was holding her down, he got hard. Soooo yeah.
@@spiffylady9465 jezzzz
Amanda the nurturing mother figure vs. Ian the chaotic questionable father figure 😂😂😂😂
Horse momma
Mother figure and stepdad energy
Norturing? She agreed with the dude poisoning his son
@@sammadrid7214 I posted that before I finished story 1
I mean personally I was surprised how empathetic Ian was and how rational Amanda was
For the passport bro story: I remember watching a real on Instagram that had a black woman who was going to school to be a doctor state that “she would rather have her own last name on her degree when she graduates then have her husband’s”
The men under the comments called her rude and stated that they’d just date Eastern European, Asian or Arabic women instead because they know how to keep their husbands happy because they are submissive and respectful. But if you scroll down more, you’d see those same woman actually stating the opposite and didn’t know what those men were talking about. Some of them were doctors themselves that also kept their last name instead of changing it for their husbands.
The gag is that in many Asian cultures (some of which I think are Arab) it's the norm for women to keep their own surnames lol
@@ActuallyAnanyain Middle Eastern cultures a lot of names are patronymic, and of course getting married doesn’t mean you have new parents, does it
“My mom and sister tricked me” story, honestly if I were the brother or dad in that situation I would feel equally devastated for the sister put through that, and I would set ultimatums as well either way the mom and other sister. I couldn’t live with a family willing to treat other family members I love that way, or anyone else for that matter. Evil despicable unforgivable behaviour.
Is it just me or did Ian match the energy of this video perfectly? He was so thoughtful, collected, and I'd say even knowledgeable about women's experience. I feel like you don't see this side of Ian very often but I really enjoyed it.
He agreed with sexist rhetoric towards men so there's that
its like he went to boot camp somewhere, where is "thats not so bad, no one tried to shoot anyone" ian? I like this guy.
@@baconscoobysnacks3135Sexist rhetoric towards men? 😂 Please tell us your opinions on women
@@tessaelto1472 you don't think it's sexist to say someone is a predator because theyre a man and they don't want drunk women to sleep over? Lmao
@@baconscoobysnacks3135 youre exhausting
The first story made me feel sick. My dad was abusive and in elementary school he used to force me to finish food even when it'd make me throw up afterwards. If you subbed out the alcohol for food or other drinks, I'd still consider it cruel and unusual punishment
My father did this to me, too. Once he even made me eat the vomit because there was "too much wasted food in the world"
Jesus Christ my guy. Hope you’re doing better ❤️
Honestly I've heard of family members who've gone through this and laughed about it later. It's not the best choice of punishment but the kid was going to get drunk anyway. I was horribly irresponsible when I was that age at alcohol. I'm not saying the dad was in the right
My (also abusive) dad did that to my sister once - she threw up, still can’t eat that food (it’s been ~20 years), and he never forced any of us to do that again.
I only remember my father doing it to me once. I didn't vomit or even really had stomach ache, but it traumatized me to the point I deliberately get less amount of food than I usually eat on my plate when I have to eat around him. Didn't know why I would always force myself to finish food even when I didn't have to until now, but hearing it done to other people sure puts it in perspective.
I used to work in a gas station and lemme tell ya, no gas station company is pressing charges for an 18 pack of beer. What most likely happened is that the dad offered to pay to avoid them pressing charges preemptively, and the cashier was just like “Uh…yeah sure, whatever, give me $100.” Then pocketed it. He can’t put it in the drawer, because then it’s $100 over and that’s bad and requires a lot of corporate bullshit.
I'm actually tearing up at 38:00. OP sounds like the most generous, loving, and empathetic person ever. The fact that she even put herself in her mom and sister's perspective to justify their actions speaks volumes on its own. GOD that's insane.
That first story is straight up abuse. I’d call cps if I knew someone was doing that.
No no show me the study first😒 this man is out of his mind
@Peoe500I heavily doubt that. just bc it’s “discipline,”doesn’t make it positive or effective. there were plenty of options, plenty of which would involve heavy discipline, that would not involve that behaviour at all
@Peoe500 Hurting your children is not "discipline". His kid could have died. Alcohol poisoning is a thing.
@@childeater319Not agreeing with the dad’s actions, but a parent giving their child alcohol is not a crime. *Forcing* it on him probably is, but minors are allowed to drink alcohol if their parents give it to them in America.
@@nuffyj8614Seriously? Legalising parents giving their underage kids a liquid drug that isnt used for medical purposes is wild to me. What a world we live in 🤦♂️
I’m sorry but “to catch a passport bro” would be a 10/10 show. Would watch
lmaooo yaaaaasss i would watch that XD
right i was like someone better pitch this to a network asap
I can see it now. A hot girl says, "Hey, I'm back by the pool." Once he gets out there, he hears..."Are you Trevor? Come have a seat."
He sits on a patio while we watch him roast in the sun and roast his ego. 😂😂😂
I remember a show from 10+ years ago called "from Russia with love" where they actually gave passport bros a spotlight to seek "love" in Eastern european countries for the exact same reason, which is the idea that the women there are pretty and submissive. Some didn't even pretend to have good intentions and just wanted to fuck around it was a disgusting show
sounds like a good idea for a sketch
Sorta glad they didn’t see that the BF in the fifth story was TURNED ON by her crying and being scared while he held her down. Literally horrifying.
Yeah exactly. Felt like he was "finally getting one up on her"... Literally.
That was the scariest and most unsettling part of that story. Thier responses would have been drastically different if they heard it.
"threw up screaming out my friends door while driving" Same Amanda 🤣🤣
Amazing cast on this one wow!!! Ian from Smosh, Amanda from Boston Cooking and Shayne from iCarly. Mexican Salsa yes!!!
Ian is mostly known as being Chumbawumba's no°1 fan, Smosh is secondary to him
😂
Don't you dare disrespect Ian like that. He wants to be known as Chumba Wumba's #1 fan!
I’m not even a woman but that Pinning GF down story legit gave me chills, “Oh you don’t think men are strong? How about I pin you for minutes while I watch you struggle and cry.” Actually fucking mortifying I couldn’t finish it.
shouldn't be fearing men only, women too. don't trust anyone
What makes it worse is that the dude posted an updated saying he got off on it :/ absolutely sickening
It would be like if some dude at the gym was like, there are other men out there stronger than you so you should be AFRAID. Let me demonstrate by holding you down.
While it's not something I'd do personally, I can't help but feel like everyone is being a bit over the top about it because it's a woman involved. Talking shit and getting knocked down a peg when you can't back it up is core to the human experience. If this was a story involving two men, everyone would be laughing at the guy who got easily pinned after crowing about how strong he is.
It's not like the dude wrestled her to the ground the first time she bragged about it, it sounds like she kept going off about how swole and capable she is, to the point where she was putting herself in danger, and the guy was finally like... okay then, prove it. He's not a monster, he's just stupid for treating a "strong independent woman" like a man.
Exactly! Some women needs to understand that we are not physically equal to men. Mentally and emotionally we are way stronger but when it comes to physical strength, nothing can be done about it. It's just biology!@@BonkusDonkusSplonkus
Okay for the first story: has that dad ever heard of hazing???????? “Show me one study that shows a 16 year old getting drunk once having brain damage” (paraphrasing here). It happens to 18 year-olds in college too!
Yeah they literally die liiike
56:37 absolutely love getting this advice from Amanda!! I can genuinely appreciate the conversation on the topic of safety in the story of this man’s blatant attempt to humble his girlfriend.
“I better put the cigarette out and the meatloaf in!” Instant spit take.
This is why Amanda’s one of my absolute favorites.
For real like I want that on my gravestone
Another thought on the crazy sister story. Re: the mom controlling. The OP talks to her mother *every day*. Or talked. That’s not gonna happen now.
I've been doing jujitsu for 3.5 years, and while I've learned a lot of self-defense techniques that make me feel safer, my instructors have always stressed that the order of operations when confronted with a potential fight is to 1) avoid it, 2) put something between yourself and your attacker, and THEN 3) try to intercept and control the situation physically. It's great to be strong, but it's also important to be smart and to value your safety. Stay safe out there everyone. ❤
Yep. Biggest problem with the girl is that her cockyness could've easily gotten her in a much worse situation with a very different ending. We wouldn't be reading a Reddit post. We'd be reading a damn obituary.
They missed the update on the guy who assaulted his girlfriend because she thought she could handle herself. He admits to getting off on her crying! That he enjoyed having her pinned down and helpless and suffering underneath him! Absolute monster.
Oh My GOD I hope she dumps him and gets FAR away. What an awful person
Not surprising if true after his "DiSpArItY bEtWeEn ThE sTrEnGtH oF mEn AnD wOmEn" comment which they glossed over
What? No way? It's one thing for him to be a monster and feel that way but to openly say it? That's wild, got a link?
I have looked around a lot and cannot find any comments the OP made like this, can you link?
When I heard that he held her down for 7 minutes, I instantly went, “The call is inside the house.” People who are overly concerned/angry about a group of bad people tend to be those people.😒It’s like a frat bro swearing up and down he isn’t gay.
15:25 she also said she was on a "cut" following a "bulk". It is a fitness/ body building term! He is not safe whatsoever
Cutting/bulking isn't inherently bad though.
Ian is honestly so surprisingly insightful and thoughtful. I love hearing his takes on these stories. And with Amanda there, it's giving dad and his cool older sister 😅
I find that paired up with Amanda he is even more so than say when he is paired up with Anthony. Not saying he is shallow with Anthony, but Amanda seems to inspire him to think on another level. 🙂
@AllieRose1348 I don't necessarily think it depends on who he's paired with. I think everyone does a great job on this series regardless of their opinions/takes. But I feel like in every episode Ian has been in, they have been my favourites just because I feel like he genuinely cares about people. I don't think a lot of people get that vibe from him normally. It's nice to see
I really do enjoy when Ian and Amanda are together on here, they both have very complex ways of looking at things, I feel they just gel well together you know?
once heard someone say that when women stopped needing men, men needed to become more likeable to adapt and that’s what some men struggle with and i think about that daily
Shit, now I'll be thinking about that too
Truuue. Its also fair to admit that some women are a little too far out of band and are very capable of leaving some extremely negative experiences and expectations on men
wise words
@@Subsistence69 A lot of women. Even men. It's a common thing in society to put blame on men and negative expectations of men. Which is obviously sexist
It seems women have been getting more unlikable and entitled these days... I don't blame men for just not caring anymore
“ It’s amazing how far the lengths men will go instead of just going to therapy” Shayne Topp, mental health king 👑
King 👑💖💖💖
5:09 Yea the first time my mom caught me drunk I was 17, the next morning she got up really early when I was super hungover slammed my door open and made me do a bunch of loud chores when I had a crazy headache. At the end, she asked if I’d ever drink like that again. I said no and then she made me soup and helped me to feel better and it worked. I didn’t drink like that again.
But she would never make me drink NINE beers. That’s just unsafe. Of course most of my family tree (including my dad) has some kind of alcohol problem and I have epilepsy so I pretty much just avoid alcohol entirely now.
honestly, i just really love Ian and i kinda look up to him now
because for a guy who has such bummer joke, dirty dark humor and mind he is a very sensitive, thoughtful, intelligent man(idk any other correct adjectives to put here but basically hes a good guy)
like even DURING the story is being read and not fully finished, he's quick and present and immediately picks up things that actually speed past me, and he just explains how certain things are so wrong and messed up so well that i wouldnt think of at all much without excessive analyzing
some wouldnt expect this trait and character to someone with his, well personality and I JUST LOVE THAT. Its just a great sorta duality to him, hes down to f around and say the wildest, out of pocket stuff but hes a very sound guy
and im gonna look up to him now
dude the walk alone at night situation is messed up because after already grounding her he held her down and instated the fear that people get when they're sexually assaulted, she will never ever be the same again mentally
She thought she was invincible, now she doesn't. Maybe he even saved her from future danger.
@@GingerOMGgirl, no. was she a little cocky? yeah. but holding his partner down for minutes while she was crying? that’s bound to fuck her up psychologically for a long time. like they said, if she consented to this weird test of physicality, then yeah, show her she can’t ground you and maybe get her in a hold for a couple seconds. minutes? while she’s crying? that’s proving a different point and showing her who she should really be afraid of.
I also think it’s wrong to hold her down several minutes. But I think it‘s good to feel how heavy a body can be on you or how you would react in a difficult situation. My partner and I both train martial arts and it’s really interesting to experience my actions and reactions in a safe environment.
Often I was stunned and wasn’t able to react when my partner would hold me in a position I couldn’t get out of. But of course I immediately spoke up and we ended what ever we were doing and talked about the situation and what I could have done.
Also I don’t like tasers and pepper spray, because they also give you „false“ confidence if you don’t know how to use them or if for example the attacker uses the same things or unarms you and uses the pepper spray against you
(Sry for complicated explanation, English is not my first language)
Literally the opposite. Women who show confidence and courage are way less likely to be attacked, than those who show themselves as weak and vunerable. He did nothing but make her an easier target in the future@@GingerOMG
@@chloepeifly He went WAY too long. Multiple minutes? Crying? He should have let her up way way way quicker.
16:11 remember the guy who called his wife a book keeper when she was an accountant? I wonder if this girlfriend who is "really into fitness" is actually a body builder or fitness model. This sounds like a full-time job for her.
Fr tho
When I was like 7 or 8 I stole one of those spinny propeller candy thingies from a Blockbuster and tried to hide it on my back pocket. It was incredibly obvious of course, and the moment we stepped out of the store my dad noticed and I panicked and confessed to my crime. So he took me back into the Blockbuster, up to the teenager at the register and told her “my kid just stole this candy and she’s here to give it back, but will we have to call the police and send her to jail?” At this point I was panicking and crying cuz I was sure 8 year olds in prison don’t have a good time. Apparently the girl at the register thought it was cute and felt bad and started to say it was okay, but my dad gave her one of those pointed dad looks and she had to go “Well, usually we would call the police and criminals go to jail for a loooong time, but I guess this time we’ll let you off the hook.” And I never stole again.
amanda and ian are slowly becoming my favorite underrated duo, sarah christ and redacted 😂
Monkey Brainnnnn \o/
So we have spencer agnew(the chosen), redacted and sarah christ in one video and i didnt even realize that
That guy who pinned his girlfriend down and *saw fear in her eyes* is sick. It's one thing to want to protect your partner, it's another one to want them to be afraid.
What's worse: Smosh missed the part where he admitted that he *enjoyed* it... yes, to *that* degree.
Right? She thought they were playfighting and he was using it as an excuse to prove he's stronger than her
I think he really just proved that she's only safe as long as he allows her to be.
@@sophienah4654 The whole fcking idea was for him to show her that he is stronger than her... wth are you talking about? She agreed to it! Thats not the problem with the story lol! The problem is that he kept her locked down for way too long! And should have stopped when he saw she got upset
It’s also presupposing that men aren’t mugged, robbed, or killed when out alone when they most definitely are.
Story 5: a group of college kids got attacked by one hyena in my city. One got his skull cracked, the other lost an eye and a third a thumb the rest ran like cowards. No matter the self defense training, running like cowards is the best defense.
A literal hyena? Or is that a slang term for a kind of person?
@@ttintagel I'm assuming a literal hyena. I don't see a person taking a thumb and an eye.
@@ttintagel I mean a literal hyena. They're usually small and unassuming and do silly things like laugh like old ladies and waddle about on their hind legs but are _the worst!_
But fun fact, the Swahili word "mafisi" (hyenas) means dangerous goofy and harmless looking men so a nice guy.
Unless it's a mountain lion or a tiger or something. Then you back away slowly
@@availanila That use of "hyena" makes so much sense it should be adopted worldwide. There are too many hyenas (in the non-literal sense) running around.
22:09 ughh this whole story about the family has me LIVID why are they treating her that way I really hope she gets to heal from this situation!
as someone with a restrictive eating disorder who has had people in my life do similar things to push me towards recovery when i was not mentally prepared for it at all, doing that could genuinely make her restriction worse. in my own experience it definitely made me relapse even more when i was heading towards a healthy recovery. it also might make her develop a fear of letting others cook for her. disordered eating isn't rational or just "eating habits". the mental damage deceiving a disordered person into eating more calories can have if it is found out is immense. by the sounds of it as well, she may have been just... doing a cut. its possible she was in a healthy-ish mindset while cutting, but this sort of behavior could 100% bring her back to harmful thinking.
As someone still in active recovery from bulimia, I can see his mindset. However, he went about it all wrong. Admittedly, there are times I cannot be rationalized with, in regards to food. If that was truly the case he should have contacted her therapist.
Olive oil guy isn’t being a partner, partners make decisions together. He’s being controlling!
The scariest part to me is he's convinced himself that it was okay to tamper with her food for months - he didn't just do it once or twice and regretted it. 😢
The fact that he was putting the amount of olive oil that he was putting into her food and protein shakes is insane too. He was pretty much poisoning her. 4 table spoons PER MEAL is downright dangerous and scary. Jail. Straight to jail.
Well said
Reminds me of the story on two hot takes podcast where a guy was doing similar things to his girlfriend/fiancée but was adding to her food and drinks /shakes sawdust!!!!
@@cassandramalfoy that story was actually on Smosh pit too. Is it the story where the girlfriend has been "gaining weight" due to her depression and so to help her with her self confidence, he started putting sawdust in her food to help her lose weight?
If mom wasn’t willing to apologize, family togetherness is not the goal. The mom is getting too much credit
Agreed. The mother is just as bad as the sister, if not worse because she didn't personally go through that and she still went along with this and refused to apologise
I really valued hearing Amanda’s safety advice for real. Thank you
The olive oil story reminds me SO MUCH of the sawdust story, and I cannot believe so many peiple think like this
Yep. Two sides of the same coin. I can easily see Olive Oil Guy suddenly deciding his girlfriend has gotten TOO curvy and switching to sawdust.
I still remember the slugs story. I was so outraged for OP. 🤬
Story 1: This is quite literally an example of a situation for my job as a mandated reporter of when to call CPS
literally. Abuse.
Shayne's Australian accent is as close to Billy Butcher as he gets, an English character, played by a New Zealand actor 😂
Was thinking the exact same thing.
Reminds me of a couple of times on TNTL when he said in the accent “I’m an offensive stereotype!”
I've been binge watching this on my time off for mental health reasons and I'm so absolutely convinced Shayne is gonna be such a good dad. A ton of things we go over in group I re-hear him say and I'm just glad other people see this too and hopefully learn from it.
Amanda's advice on being aware and getting knowledge hit me like a wake up call. I tend to avoid negative news and dark stories because it messes with me mentally and makes me paranoid. It's easier to just assume nothing bad would happen to me because so far life hasn't been cruel to me. As a result, I haven't been taking my safety seriously. Im now motived to at least pay full attention whenever I'm traveling alone, and remember to carry pepper spray or a taser at least. I appreciate the topic is what I'm trying to say. Great episode!
Poisoned teenage son is the one of I'd consider most unsafe.
-He can't leave the relationship/situation.
- His immediate and long-term health was endangered.
-Many red flags that the dad will continue inappropriate and unsafe behaviour towards him.
All of this! And it sounds like the father is probably abusing alcohol himself, but will never ever admit it’s a problem
@@themaddiemads It is also possible the father was also abused as a kid/teen and he grew up to be an adult who sees abuse as trivial.
You people read so much into everything lol
@@Jack_Ss It is likely we are to some extent reading too much, or projecting, into the situation; We only know very little about any situation we haven't lived so we as people do generally infer what else is going on.
Seriously. They waayy underreacted to that story. They’re not even old where that would at least make sense.
And the cops making you pour out your beer when you’re caught is IN NO WAY the same as forcing the minor to drink it.
I seriously cried listening to that 'husband-test'-story. I understand the sister having trust issues after what the ex-husband put her through, but she needs therapy to deal with her trauma and trust issues, just like OP, and she's not ready for this relationship... but then the mom?? How can anyone condone this behaviour, and support it, when it's even hurting their other child? I understand wanting to solve any conflicts between your kids, but this mom joined to start a conflict, or well, a trauma! Toxic mom and I feel so sad for OP!
I would have understood if the mom and sister would have tested the new husband instead. It would have been wrong too, but I could understand the thought process of it. Seriously, a guy that OP thought was her friend stole her underwear, A LOT of them even, and also broke her sisters heart, and then she gets blamed for it and tested by her own sister AND mother. So awful. I wish OP all the best 🥺
33:39 It always catches me off guard when they miss a bleep 😂
The father in the fourth story was such a badass. He's a fantastic and healthy male connection for OP to have, and him downright threatening the brother-in-law was such a deserved move only he could've delivered.
I love how they call the Mother a “Peace Maker” as if that’s what’s she wanted.. she clearly has a favorite child and wanted “peace” for her favorite.. 35:00 called it..
No I agree I think the sister was the favorite child and OP was just kind of there. What got me was the mom completely taking the sisters side and disregarding the OP’s
OP asking if the mom loves her as much as her sister. And the mom just not answering
The ‘test’ story: no the mom does not want to keep the sisters together. She wants her first born to be happy no matter the cost. She doesn’t give a damn about OP.
I just wanna say im really glad yall linked the reddit articles in the description. No one does that and Im *always* loving the comment section
45:30 This story was a lot. I agree with Shayne that nobody should walk alone at night. Even Amanda, who knows martial arts, is cautious. You don't put yourself in dangerous situations to prove you can handle yourself. It's like trying to prove you're a good driver by driving as close as possible to a cliff edge without falling off, it's insane! Stay away from that cliff 😂. But for real, make safe decisions even if you think you can handle danger
That's so American. It's safe to walk alone at night in most developed nations. I love when I'm in Japan. You can literally go anywhere safely in the middle of the night.
@@jamer2010it just takes one psycho, i could be in the safest place on earth and I wouldnt dare to walk alone at night unless it was my only option
@@jamer2010 I'm willing to bet I could find at least 5 stories that say the opposite.
@@jamer2010I've played Like a Dragon I know there's bikers and guys hiding in trash bags waiting to hop out and fight you around every corner in Japan
@@SuperSanity1 It's a trope in most Japanese media I can't imagine that its never happened there
Love the juxtaposition of Amanda being concerned when Courtney says her mom made her stand in a corner for a long time, and Amanda having zero issue with forcing a 16 year old to drink 7 beers in a row. Boston, man
I was thankful for Shayne's comments on that one. If CPS were involved, it would be pretty black and white.
I love the dialogue in these episodes because even if some of them seem to miss what the viewers catch, or vice versa, it tells you a lot about who you are and where you've come from. Like in a personal growth kinda way (most of the time).
"My son (a teenager) wanted beer. I got MAD. I wasn't scared for my kid's health or thought about talking to him about why he did what he did, because he spent MY money. And after bribing the store to not press charges, which in and of themselves are literally the punishment for this crime, I decided because he spent MY money I got MAD and so I instead tricked him into drinking with him and poisoned him until he threw up over and over while my wife and his mother begged me to stop I also sat and drank with him to prove he can't take drink like *I* can. A MAN."
Jesus Christ
You wanna steal beer huh? THEN HERE!! HAVE A WHOLE CARTON OF CIGARETTES!!
That's basically what he did in a nutshell
This episode is absolutely insane, dude
I'll never get over how insanely slay Amanda's hair looks
Ian’s*
@@refrigerated-films both*
@@MoonMoonTM and shayne’s*
@@refrigerated-films i think the fuck NOT
You could see Ian immediately recall sawdust guy as Shayne started on olive oil man
We’ve got daddy, mother and father in a Reddit stories video together!!!
But who’s daddy and who’s father? 👀
I read your comment during the ad and immediately knew you were referring to Shayne, Amanda, and Ian. Hahaha
@@bluishbirdIan is father, Shayne is daddy.
Shit! You're so right 😂
Never comment on a video again.
I love watching these reddit videos with Amanda in them. she is so well spoken and knows her shit. wise gal