What To Do When You Have No Friends...
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- Hey guys, welcome back to another video! In this one I explain what I do as well as what you guys should do when you have no friends. I hope this video can be of resource to you guys out there & with that said I will catch you all in the next one, cheers! :)
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Your energy is incredible
So much respect, i honestly thought i was the only one. Thank you for the advice, the wisdom and the support🙌🏼👏👏👏
Nice video I support this keep going
Let's be friends
Omg!!! I was having a really bad day, and after watching your video I just felt a whole lot better. God bless you bro!!!
It really triggers me when I see people with actual friends say “i have no friends” as a joke because it’s a reality for me 😭
Better to have no friends than fake friends. Learned the hard way
@@jddhdjwhhddj1502 you right
@@Mibs-Mibby bro u got snap or sum we can be friends
Can we be friends
Yo let’s be friends. I’m dead serious 😄
I don’t really have friends either. I think it’s because I’d rather make a few really deep connections than have a hundred “aquaintances” who don’t really care about me.
I don't have much friends, but no one really cares about me
This is me,I have people who know me but are really shitty and annoying.They seem not to care.
I can relate.
@@krismanibrahim4632 that’s not true you have family and you need to love yourself
@@redicd6857 ah yes
This is exactly what i said to myself this morning..i would rather be alone than surrounded by the wrong ppl.. this quarantine thing is a blessing. Im getting to know myself again..
That's it man, keep killing it!
"This quarantine thing is a blessing." 👌👌
Me too
I've been feeling the same, quarentine's helped me take a look at the bigger picture and channel my efforts to what actually matters to me
I feel that
There's a lot more friendless people than I thought. In that sense we're not alone.
Yup but it's kinda sad. We're taught that we need friends and if we don't have them, then something is automatically wrong with us. We need to normalize being friendless or alone
@@maebunny5298
As a friendless guy, I say it's depends on person to person, if you're happy being friendless, good. But most people, including me, is a normal human being, a social animals, that's need to have some connection. This a complicated topic but if I'm being honest, I don't think friendless should normalized but rather seen as a issues that needs to be solve.
Well actually we are,get it?bcs we have no friends hahahaha
Probably everyone who watched this video doesn't have any friends..
@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 Great way to put it
Imagine being able to make friends in the first place
Imagine having friends who dont leave you in the 4th month
Right!
Imaging having friends that give a shit
@@mattm2463 RIGHTQ!!!
Imagine being there for them always and them not being there for you
It's hard sometimes, seeing all this people going out in the weekends and partying with friends, it feels like I'm wasting the best years of my life
Same for me
sameeee i wanna change
If you already started your life with 0 friends, those type of party is not for you. You are not going to fit in. Even if you were to get invited, you will only go to a party to compare yourself to other people. Type of parties you need is parties that give you room to be antisocial. Back in the 90s, I was antisocial so therefore, I missed out on all the parties and no regret. Classmates would attempt to shame me. As I get older and going to college and being a transfer student to a university, I took advantage that there is an event where I get to be antisocial to fit in. No invitations required. That event is where a lot of people go by themselves and bring nobody. You have plenty of chances to find a party that fits your lifestyle so you aren't wasting time by staying out of that party. Partying with friends won't work for you if you already have no friends. High school has a tradition where they force people to be social and you don't have much room to be social so don't go to that kind of social party because you don't have room to be yourself.
This quarentine made me realize i have no real friends, i mean i just talked to the same persons i saw every day but they were not friends of mine
same I lost connection with many and I realized I just have acquaintances
same,it made me realize my friendship with them were superficial
same,it made me realize my friendship with them were superficial
i feel the same buddy in the last one year ive spent my days working on myself trying to be a better person and improving my mental health like he said in the video
@@cloud6318 that's me.
I have been dealing with this my entire life. I am 60 years old now and have no friends. I feel like the friends I did have I was there friend but they were really not my friend. I was alone as a child and now I am still alone. I have read books. I have improved myself. Still alone. I do not know what to do now.
The only thing you can. Turn to god
Heaven is a beautiful place for you to be in
lol
stay strong man keep your head up 🥺
You're not alone Jesus loves you, when God created earth He said He wasn't good for the man to be alone and that he would make him a SUITABLE helper. God doesn't want you to be alone, He will provide and He loves you so much that He died for you 2000 years ago.
Psalm 27:10
Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close.
He will help you, He knew you from the beginning and has plans for you, please consider turning to Him ❤
solitude is bliss for the people who are on the path of self development!
Nathan Garcia 💯💯
On this path right now. Can say I enjoy my own company so I don't feel lonely at all
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Seeking friendship is a sign of self development tho, those who have spent years alone also long for a good conversation and love
NAILED IT
I have no friends because every single person I've met so far in my life has turned out to either be selfish, psycho, arrogant, ignorant, or boring.
In my experience, if you are a naturally nice and inviting person, you will attract a shit ton of bad people who will want to use you and take advantage of that kindness. It really sucks but all you can do is learn to stand up for yourself and hopefully you'll meet people who don't fit that category of assholes
facts!
Same, its made me cynical..
Sometimes the most boring people are the best people.
Can absolutely relate. Nowadays, I feel terrified when someone approaches to ask even time. Feels frozen Everytime when life shows you what happened during the past years from people who we think are Angels
His voice is so calming, I was crying and now I feel cuddled
I would cuddle with him
Same
Cute profile pic. Hopefully you're doing well
"A friend to all is a friend to none."
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I am a social being like everyone else but no one had the pleasure to be around me. Also bad experiences hurt so much that it's not easy to trust others and believe in real friendship
I can relate. I had very few friends in my life, and as soon as I thought they care about me they left me alone. Since then, when I meet new people I think that I can't trust them. It's so hard this is the worst period of my life. Breaking up with "real" friends is much worse than love break ups
@@danie3787 where are u come from? Are you lonely or you're still having some friends?
@@joel8708 right now I'm lonely but since I started university I met new people, even tho I can't create a bond with them, idk what to do. Btw I'm Italian.
@@danie3787 i'm italian too. I live in Nothern Italy. Are u still young? If you are 20 years old maybe there's still time to make new friends. After 30 it's not easy at all 'cause many people at that age have their stable friendships and they don't care about meeting new people
@@tedkajtalli5392 there are people who are not social beings just because they had bad experiences and they are scared to live again those rejeactions
I used to party and do a shit ton of drugs, eventually I realized I was surrounding myself with toxic people so I cut them all off. Even though I get lonely as shit, my life is more stable now and I wouldn’t trade it for anything else.
same thing with me bro, feels good to have peace, but creating new healthy friendships hopefully in the future
yeah same boat ~ the Christians just pity you & the alcoholics hate you for quitting. It’s lonely for sure but family is way better than their company anyways
Today I read that loneliness is addictive because once you get used to it and find out how good you are at that moment, you won’t want to be with people anymore
@@MPeaches1958 that's amazing. Be safe and happy. #spreading love ❤ and harmony.
I wish I could be comfortable with being alone right now that way I won’t feel so shitty
Oh hi mr hardy
How do you do that? 😂
Truth.
Not sure about anyone else, but Something that pisses me off is when someone says they have no friends, yet they hang out with a bunch of people all the time. It SUCKS when you ACTUALLY don’t have any friends, like me.
Exactly
yesss exactly
@@suziesmith8288 Right. But what I mean is personally, I literally have nobody to hang out with. No friends, no acquaintances, LITERALLY NOBODY. The only “friend” I have is my dog. It really triggers me when people say that, yet they have at least one other person to hang out with. What hurts is when you have something you want to tell somebody, but you have nobody to talk to about it. When I look at my phone, the Lock Screen is completely empty. Not a single notification in site. Also, feeling lonely isn’t just a temporary thing for me. It’s a constant feeling/emotion that I just have to deal with 24/7. Sometimes it just becomes too much and I break down because of it, especially at the end of the day when I come home and reflect on my day. I’ve literally been to the hospital twice last year because I wanted to kill myself because of it.
@@Voicingspy do it for the vine
@@Voicingspy for real bro I'm exactly the same. Always hearing normies saying "I am so lonely" and then going to a party every week like fuck off. I have literally no one to hang out with. No one. I was ONCE at volleyball with 4 people so we had 2v2 matches, i was sitting on the bench first and when it was my time to play they suddenly decided that 3v2 is fine too. And after that I was never invited again. Good to know that everyone treats me like a trash for no fucking reason. Fuck my life
We know that you searched it.
Yep
i dont know what do do leave me alone
Nope it got recommended
@@s.mladenovasiyana4081 lol me too
Lmao, don't attack us like this
I used to have like 2 friends in elementary school but they just then ignored me a year later. Then I only had 1 friend and it was a fake friend ;/ And then they just backed stabbed me. And I would always relie on him. And now I'm just lonely. And also do not relie on just 1 person because someday they might just backstab you and ignore you. I also am a shy quiet kid. So it's literally impossible for me to make friends.
Most relatable thing I have ever heard!
Can relate so much. My best friend leave me with a ton of problem when he promised the support
trust me bro you dont need friends they dont care about you even if they say they do stay strong man and stay on the grind👌
You and me are similar😥
You can Be online freinds with me. If you wanna at least talk. Because I know loneliness. 😐
FB: Mitu Rahman
I am the same 3 frnds to now 0
Lol the sunlight gets brighter when you get that flashback
Nicholas Miranda hahah god works in mysterious ways
I can relate. 🥰
Been a loner for far too long and prefer it that way. But today I've been feeling exactly same about not having friends. Watching you fidgeting made me think this guy knows how I feel today.
Vaibhav Puranik 👍👍
I’m the loser in my class and its really depressing... no friends 😢
I only had people come up to me when they needed my help with studies. That kind of sums up that I grew up without friends. But it was my own fault. I wanted to have deep talks with people but all my classmates were very superficial.
Now I'm enjoying my time alone. If I meet someone who I can connect, I will gladly let them in my life
This video hits me literally I’m going through the same thing it’s so comforting to hear that I’m not the only one working on themselve instead of fake stimulation from people that are not true to you. I’m better off alone but one day want to meet people like minded that is like me it’s hard but I’m just focusing on myself and my life but sometimes it’s fucking hard but I’m not giving up I know I’m doing the right things to nurture myself and love who I authentically am
Yesss same with me. I know I’m only 15 but almost all my friends that I had in the past used to ignore me, cyber bully me, and done a lot more worst and now I have low self esteem, trust issues, not knowing myself cause I’ve been faking it for them, depressed, and rlly anxious. It’s rlly hard for me to make new friends now cause of the past and how they treated me so I get Extremely shy around new people and not rlly open to not get hated. I have rlly big passions and try reaching my goal cause doing that is so much better than finding friends and people who would basically waste ur time Lol. I’m posting TH-cam videos and do what I love even tho Idk what my talents or hobbies are yet but I just wanna reach a lot of views and stuffs to show proof to those people that I do not need them. Especially my unsupportive teachers Lol
am going threw the same thing ugh
Amen girl, keep growing and thats where you'll find meaning. I hope i someday will too
I RELATE SO MUCH :\\
@@me-hk4ro idk if ur gonna see this but wanna be friends I think we’re the same age :)
I literally have 0 friends
While I appreciate and understand a lot of the points made, I still think that as humans and social species, we crave human connection sooner or later. And there is nothing wrong in wanting to talk to somebody and crave a deeper connection. That doesn't always mean we are not able to do self care and reflexion.
Actually loneliness is as deadly as smoking 3 cigs a day
Exactly
Anyone wanna be friends
@@BrianBloop well i think it depends if your suffering or not. People suffer when they dont accept the loneliness and fight against the feeling. Knowing that feelings cant hurt you if you dont let them helps. its just troughs they cant hurt you. Just sit in them til they pass.
@@Lightflames85 I think it rather depends on the person and the environment.
Some people are just okay feeling isolated, but that's rare.
And the environment matters because you'll feel much more lonely if, lets say, your colleagues at work seem to have vibrant social lifes and are interacting with each other in a friendly playful manner but you're just not fitting in, and the managers pretend like it's a family when on the surface nobody gives a shit about you.
If you work alone or you have clearly distant relationships at work, I like to imagine that it's much easier. But it doesn't really help if you have experienced the first scenario already, because you know that you're the odd one out. At least you don't get reminded every five minutes working isolated.
Avoiding social media isn't really helping at that point either, and nowadays I'd argue it's rather counter-productive if you don't play the game that everyone else is playing.. Speaking from my experience.
Thank You man. I have no friends, but this past year I know in my heart and soul that I have grown and developed as a person. It wasn't easy to let go of fake friends and social media. But I did.
ahh yes it's true it hurts 😢 but them friends were fake🤮
yeh same recently i had to do that
On that journey of self improvement right now. Started out with setting serious boundaries with everyone to allow myself the space I needed to elevate.
No drugs, no alcohol, meditation and nofap are working amazingly. Keep spreading the message my dude. As usual, loving the message. 🙏🏾 Peace
Sir Tristrem peace my bro. Let’s get it. In this together my man. 🔥❤️👊
Try out calisthenics workouts
nofap is bad for your prostate.
while setting boundaries is a good thing you can't make people respect them. You can however control how you react and what you want to deal with. The best thing you can do in any relationship is the willingness to walk away. Be a free spirit and let those who want to go go. Dont hold on to them. Let them do there thing. Knowing you will be fine either way is what sets you apart from everyone else.
i just take being alone a time to self improve & get to know myself better .
RainXRain that’s it 🤟🙏
I can kind of relate to that, I started my “spiritual journey” freshman year, and noticed my friends kind of ignoring me and using my simply for me presents. I’ve kicked them to the curb due to them not being a good habit for me
Joel Luna that’s it man. Growth over everything. Anything not of our best service is not useful. 🙏
I sometimes just wonder why people are so afraid to be alone.
I mean what sort of relationship or friendship is that if you have to be clingy and trying to fit in . if you cant find good people who value you,just fuck them.
WE NEED TO LEARN TO LIVE ON OUR OWN.
am i really this unlikeable? im always being left out and even my best friend always cancels and isn't interested in meeting up at all. i hate the weekends and i hate my life it's so boring
Hello i relate to you
Just feeling a bit lonely for few days and your video came, it's a massive help
Nitin Negi 🙏🙏🙏
👍 same reason I'm here
6:05 Thats a mexican saying, “mejor estar sola que mala acompañada/o.” 🥂💯💜👑
In Brazil we saying that too!! I think everywhere!!👍😊
I'm honestly incapable of making friends and it frustrates me. Whenever someone tries talking to me, I don't know how to respond so I force a laugh and act super awkward around them. It makes me pretty sad because I remember when I was younger, making friends was so easy. I wasn't shy and was able to join any conversation I wanted to. Now that's not the case. I'm so insecure around others. I overthink about how others perceive me and in many cases, I was a people pleaser.
Being alone isnt always bad for me, being in a crowded room with people laughing and joking around feels shitty. When it's at home or outside of school, I love being alone. I hate it when I'm in school because I'm an obvious outcast.
EXACTLY. Im in 8th grade, barely any friends since 5th grade, in 4th grade i was literally in a good, smart friend group, interacting with everyone. Now im just the guy who eats in the bathroom stalls and no one remembers, forgot i was alone until I realised whenever there were group activities, id have no one to turn to, just stare as people select and laugh with their friends, id be the awkward one who has to find the group with only one person left 😔.
Jesus manipulates people like you
I've spent years alone and it only hurts more. I'm not motivated to work on myself when there's no support system to help me through my depressive-suicidal episodes. Self-love doesn't sustain me, I hate the idea I have to have all my shit together to be worth anyone's time even though nobody else fully does.
How old are u?
@@someone-by5tq no matter how old I say I am you're going to respond the same way, whether I'm in my mid-20s or 50s.
@@john70jake i'm sorry, i only asked cause i feel the same way as you but i am young
I know exactly what your talking about and can relate. “It takes nothing to stand with the crowd, Takes everything to stand alone”. Being alone will take you and strengthen you in places you never knew you needed. Head high my kings💪👑
Fuli Kupa bang on bro yes. Keep it up. 💯👍
My twin sister has loads of friends I hang out with her at school so I’m not sat alone awkwardly but she doesn’t like me hanging out with her and her friends. She goes out with them a lot after school and at the weekend and doesn’t let me go with her. That made me realise I literally have no friends or anyone to talk to and I don’t have good relationship with my parents. The reason I don’t have friends is because of anxiety my parents don’t understand what anxiety is. They don’t even try to understand!
ANXIETY SUCKS!!!!😫😢
Anyway idk why I commenting this big paragraph that probably doesn’t even make sense I just felt like getting it all out and telling strangers about what’s happening in my life right now
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Hope your life is going ok 👋
I feel you ,you can talk to me on social media if you want. Reply me,,I will drop me ig
love and prayers to you 💕
What if the happiest days of your life was with a friend group that you went out with everyday and experienced life with? Because they have left me for another group and now the happiest days of my life are gone. And i am sad :( What if throughout your life you have realised that you are someone who is very quiet but their favourite thing to do
Is go out and enjoy life with friends.
Alot of times friends get tired of each other. Once they have enough of you, they go out and find new ones. Going out with them everyday, they’ll eventually get bored of you and they go after the new friend
Gasp can relate to the last part
@@keith2o9 I would never leave anyone like that. That just ain’t right.
I used to have a lot of “friends” or people I was always cool with but i moved away and got into some trouble I was locked up for seven months which really made me get socially awkward because I barely ever talked and once I got home there was no one and It was just me I had a job had good convos with people that came in n out but at school I can’t I get bad anxiety and I can only talk when people talk to me cuz I can’t start conversations , school has been on since August and till this day people ignore me so I don’t try I still have zero friends but I’m okay with it but sometimes (not as bad as it used to be ) i get lonely and it be gettin to me
I have none
Except my dad .....
People ruined me
And situations lost me....
I feel being alone is more better
Than being fake around ppl
If you're connected with your self you wont force unhealthy relationships into your life because usually you can feel an authentic interaction, but desperation could lead to bad decisions.
And my sister is making a lot of friends but not me:(
Just want you to know this you're not alone Jesus loves you, when God created earth He said He wasn't good for the man to be alone and that he would make him a SUITABLE helper. God doesn't want you to be alone, He will provide and He loves you so much that He died for you 2000 years ago.
Psalm 27:10
Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close.
He gave friends to your sister, he also has friends for you :) God cares about every single being on this earth including you ❤
Im glad i dont have friends, when i become wealthy ill know that i wont have to worry about my back being stabbed, Family also. Yes i know ill have to worry about others but im willy to take that risk by myself.
Bro, I have 2 real friends, for more than 8 years and the other for 7 years. I never had many friends, only true friends. I speak to them every day and we laugh about stupid shit we did together. You don't need many friends, you need real friends! Much love for you and your channel
Lucky you. Every time I think I can trust a friend, he leaves me. Right now this is a year without a friend. It's the worst moment of my life. The only people that wishes me happy birthday is my family
@@danie3787 don't underestimate the power of your family bro. Family will always be there for you if you have a good family
@@dotsolution2357 thats the problem, the only people I love are my grandma and my mother, my life is so lonely, I spend most of my time in my room doing nothing
@@danie3787 it hurts me, I'm sorry mate. Try to find some online friends. That's way easier and they won't judge you as other people will do. It may sound weird, but maybe you can find someone on the internet with the same interests as you and spend some time online with them.
@@dotsolution2357 thank you for your words I really appreciate them.
I got jealous of Some friends in school-...Because I'm always lonely..My anxiety, Shyness, depression and stress made it difficult for me to communicate..And No one actually asks about these or understood me..So idek
We all know that we searched this video up
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Great video, in these past few months where i've started meditating, going to the gym, doing NoFap I have never been happier and haven't felt lonely / depressed anymore. This Truly Works!!!
shashaank srivastava amazing man so glad to hear keep killing it bro!! 😁🔥🙌
Yeah, works for me as well. Keep crushing ❤
@James Cottingham M. don't shit your self talk here
I'm a loner 46 now I have moved around a lot as I was a forces child. I was bullied by my last friend she was always pulling me down in front if another friend. But now I'm doing my own thing it can get lonely but hey better to be alone then with people who pull you down.
I just realized that I'm very lonely
If you have yourself, no. Youre not alone.
I just want you to know this you're not alone, Jesus loves you. When God created earth He said it wasn't good for the man to be alone and that he would make him a SUITABLE helper. God doesn't want you to be alone, He will provide and He loves you so much that He died for you 2000 years ago.
Psalm 27:10
Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close.
If you ever need someone to talk to I'm here ❤
I feel like I always get forgotten. But idk why? I’m such a beautiful person. Maybe not having friends is God cleansing your life from people who aren’t meant to be in your life. 🤷♀️ and being alone is a test. It’s hard being alone, but it can be the most rewarding part of an individuals life.
I think God I've read this. It made me feel a lot better knowing that it's okay to not have a ton of friends. I feel like I'm always alone cause God is trynna protect me.
@2025 Hey yeah she's absolutely right for the first time of my life I don't really have friends and I'm so thankful to God now because it brought me closer to Him, and made me stronger and wiser 💃🏿
Is hard to find a good person to talk to because are very busy with their life like friends.
Alone and loneliness is not the same thing and this guy explains it pretty well
To be honest , I am loner and didn't have even a single friend for eight years . I am happy this way. No pleasing people , no sharing my stuff , no drama and no dealing egotistical people etc . Just me , myself, and I soul ride till I die cause I got me for life , I needn't a hand to hold even when the night is cold cause I got that fire 🔥 in my soul 🥰😍🤩😛
there is a difference between injoying your own company and running away from your own issues. If we don't handle our stuff then we will suffer sooner or later. The difference is how much we suffer.
I have no friends hahah and I’m in college help
Thats ok, focus on yourself and your goals, trust me
These friends will come automatically then, through your charisma
Same here :(
Same here
@@getafterit3959is really hard to make friends and will only getting harder as an adult adult
I want to share. About Jesus.
John 6: 35 And Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life. He who comes to Me shall never hunger, and he who believes in Me shall never thirst.
Philippians 4: 8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy-meditate on these things. 9 The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 He who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He spoke of the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 21: 24 This is the disciple who is testifying to these things and wrote these things, and we know that his testimony is true. 25 And there are also many other things which Jesus did, which if they *were written in detail, I suppose that even the world itself *would not contain the books that *would be written.
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Where can one start reading The Bible?
In The New Testament: The Gospel of John and/or Acts.
Instagram is the worst. seeing all these friendship groups out having a good time at bars, clubs, houses etc.. makes me so sad because i dont ever have that and I always see people talk about their friends and all the fun times they have. feels bad. :(
I feel kind same but then I remember that in social media ppl are showing just the good stuff
@@suciueduard661 hey this is odd because I wrote this comment 2 years ago but so much has changed since then. I now have a group of amazing friends around me that I consider as family. Time really does change. I also have given my life to Christ and He has helped me tremendously
This didn’t exactly helped. All my friends replaced me and left me alone. I feel like a replaceable idiot. I’m in 8th grade and even my mom thinks that I’m not normal
Man, thank you for that! It hit right in the feels. Bawled my eyes out. I swear I used to be very sociable when I was young but things happened and it’s like I built a really thick wall. I’m gonna sound cheesy but I have to tear down that wall of insecurity myself.
it’s good to know that I’m not alone and that there are other people that don’t have friends. I never really liked anyone & always preferred being by myself.
He said he’s introverted I never would have known
I lost all my friends after I moved to America and now I am just busy with life it’s really hard to keep up with friends. Only 2 friends I made was through playing video games on Xbox that I haven’t met in real life whom I still talk to through Instagram and now as I am getting more busy with life I can’t even keep up with them either. That’s why I still live with my parents just so I could talk to somebody after a long day of work. 😔
Thanks for the advice but I have to be honest, for everyone’s sake:
Focusing on yourself is all fine and dandy until a certain point. I chose to focus on myself back in 2017. I focused too much and for too long on myself to the point I don’t have any social outings. I had 52 texts in February (incoming and outgoing). So all I am trying to say is don’t make my mistake. Work on yourself but don’t shut everything out for a long time.
Best of luck to everyone :)
I have friends maybe were I went wrong is morals/boundaries bc I want close friends that I talk to once/twice a week. I get tired/annoyed of always having to initiate, good friends it will be 50/50 .hate it how no one ever messages me to see how I'm doing, being appreciated would be nice. The friends who text once every 3 yrs frustrates me , remember : no one is ever to busy to call/text back or plan to go out with. I stay busy but I don't use it as a fckin excuse .
I’m very happy on my own. I’m picky who I let in my life. I don’t want negativity or strife . I’m very happy and secure by myself.
Thank you so much for this
I sorta get how you feel/felt David. I always had friends in school, but I never got invited to parties or anything like that, which made me sad at the time. I came back from a year in Japan recently where I made some good friends (one guy in particular became my best friend), so now I feel quite lonely sometimes without those people, but I’m dealing with it in my own way. Even though you made that saying up at the end, I definitely agree!
LOVE this message. Growing up I was always the social butterfly and was involved in many friend groups as an “extrovert”. Every free hour was spent with friends. It wasn’t until college that it hit me how uncomfortable I felt sitting alone with myself, and then much later how I noticed I never quite really found out who i am to the core, which as you know started a whole trickle of other issues because I never looked internally for peace and happiness. The message you’re sharing is very true and amazing. Going back, I would’ve changed that and done what you did knowing what I know now.
You just made me cry. Ah fuck.
YEP THAT JUST MEANS YOU HAVE A GREAT HEART ANYWAYS ARE YOU SAVED RID97527 ? HAVE YOU ACCEPT JESUS AS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOR AND RECEIVE ETERNAL LIFE I COULDN'T IMAGINE HEAVEN WITHOUT YOU
I thought people would make fun of me I have no friends for real. I just had the wrong company and fake friends... I rather be alone it was draining my energy 👍💯
I also don't have any friends, but they didn't exclude me, I excluded them, mostly, and deliberately, for reasons unknown to me
That's me. No friends.I find sometimes that the more friendly I am and the more I try the more I seem to push people away. I think maybe because people perceive that as neediness. Not sure. I think it's good to take some time to work on yourself though.
Thank you so much for this I’m just a kid who feel so depressed and lonely thank you so much
You know in crime scene, cleaners, when they clean up the bodies that have deteriorated into the couches, or even into the floors. They always say that they were alone, nobody called on them. Nobody checked on them. Nobody went to see if they’re doing OK. Nobody visited them. That’s gonna be my future when I die. No one is going to know I have past away only my landlord weeks and weeks later, either one his runs or the neighbour complains of smell
When you die, the CSI will only investigate your dead body because it will be there job. They most likely may not cry about it or feel sorry for you since they barely know you. CSI only check on dead bodies because it is there job. So you might have neighbors and landlords that look down at you but if you die and crime scene investigating comes, your dead body will be checked so there is no such thing as claiming nobody will check. CSI will check it if your dead body were to relate to a crime. Only way your dead bodies do not get checked is if if your enemy were to dump your dead body somewhere where the CSI cannot find. If nobody covers up the crime, then CSI will have to check no matter what.
Most incredible video mate, amazing. I spend so much time on my own, and recently started to feel lonely and like i am loosing friends whilst building my business and self developing. Now i understand it is just part of the process of becoming!
I have a lot of friends but only out side or in work place I quit from 2019 In The middle of The pandemic I was thinking it is The end of The world and I should stay at home but now after like 2 year's feel so lonely and empty because you can't do anything to stop The pandemic especially when you are boxer like me I can't go to gym so how ican make my dreams + I don't have job to have money to go to gym that's sucks don't waste your Time told me I should get a job or work online because I am live in Iraq there is no credit card support here or PayPal
Shit making me tear up cuz I feel like I’m going thru this right now
I had a weird case when it came to my friendships in my youth. Even though I was somewhat of an outsider, kind of quiet, and even fucked with quite a bit, I always had a friend or some kind of circle or network of friends that all knew each other one way or another. Despite this, I still felt like a loser and that the majority of people thought less of me. I came to realize, I was actually choosy who I would socialize with. With me being somewhat of an "outsider" so to speak, I saw how people were nasty; they'd stab each other in the back, be petty and gossip all the damn time, treat others like shit for perceived social status, and behave like complete sheep. As an introvert who gets energy from having time alone, I didn't need any of that, so I was very choosy. I had people call me "stuck up" or think I'm "too shy", but really I could give a damn about most people, I wasn't needy.
The explanation certainly helps but I still feel lost and trying to figure out what my true purpose is.
God has a purpose for every single human being He created. He's the one who can give you the answer to this question. Jeremiah 1:5
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."
This is something that God told Jeremiah a prophet in the Bible who was extremely lonely, I relate to Him because I don't really have friends anymore 🤷🏿♀️. It was hard for him to trust God because of all he had to go through but at the end God was always by His side. Same goes for us today, anyone can just leave us like this overnight...but Jesus is faithful and will never forsake you. I didn't know what was my purpose too and felt like my life was so useless and insignificant... Seek Him and you'll know your purpose because He created you He's the one who knows it. 🙌🏾
I wouldn’t go down the whole purpose route it ended awful for me. No one has a “purpose”, we’re just alive. You just gotta make the most out of living I guess
I find it so weird, I make friends very easily but I can't help but get left everytime. Then when quarantine hit, I pretty much lost all of my friends, I had no connection to anybody else all throughout the prime of quarantine. Ever since I noticed this, I haven't had any friends because I didnt believe that people really wanted me and I wouldn't trust anything people said to me and I would be distant. It felt like I was living the best life, but when I looked at the other kids, I started to question it.
Although I began to question my thoughts, I couldn't stop thinking that way because of how long I had that concept. But, randomly out of the blue I found a new friend. She texted me and I was like "hmm, let's see what she wants." But, she just wanted to talk to me. I didn't believe it at the start but she stayed consistent, she texted me every single day and it felt different. I could sense that she was genuine with anything she said, I never felt this feeling, it was love. The love part is another story, everyday I wondered why she talked to me and I always thought she'd just leave me one day, but she didn't. She taught me that having friends didn't have to be a temporary and disheartening thing. People say it's weird that I have little friends, but I'd rather be with just her than a whole group that will leave me.
This may be the longest comment I've ever written.
I had that same experience with a girl I met online from the Philippines who lived in Texas, only difference is she eventually left me just like my friends. I genuinely thought I had finally found love, but that went nowhere.
Introvert and had a couple of girlfriends😵😂
Jk
I getting positive vibes after seeing many people like me..
I used have many friends.. In college .. now no one is there with me not even a single person I have a boy friend but i never share anything sometimes I feel I want one gud friend just to cry... And hug..
im having to fake smile everyday
i’m in my second year of college and all my friends either dropped out, are about to graduate, or are fake. i just want people to go out with on weekends and hang out with. i used to go to parties and hung out with friends a lot but now i just work or play 2k :(
for me, i feel like I would have to be an entirely different person to get someone to like me.
Hey, I don't have any friends but just know we're all friends! ^^
That’s what I needed to hear but being by yourself all alone is not that great of an experience
I make friends easily people are drawn to ME but where do I go is the problem
What's problem? And can I be your friend:)? It's fine if you don't want to
its hard seeing the pepole you most love go away
Ngl this sounds like really good advice. And I can relate to ur highschool experience cuz I’m experiencing the exact same thing now. I was just curious so I kinda just came across this video becaUse recently my friends don’t really take me into account anymore cuz they all got gfs or bfs within the group and I’m kinda left alone like a third wheel
Like i have literally no friends and i'm so lonely. I will work on ms🌱
I somehow don't easily trust people and prefer being comfortable alone;.;
Dude I totally agree with you I also feel like I was kicked to the curb beginning of this school year, like not being invited to parties and being ignored/ bullied by former friends. Only the ones who still stuck up for me and stood by me remain and I am grateful for the. I unfortunately had low confidence due to being a benchwarmer for my school's jv basketball team but a little self improvement like you said goes a long way as I was named Captain, won an all tournament trophy, and made some game winning free throws. And just months back I was finally invited to something. Yo I really like what you are promoting with self development keep it up my G.
Nice, great job 👍🏻
i could make friends, i could relate to people but the shit is i can't keep up sometimes, feel mad left behind, shit i haven't felt the same since march of last year, it's like i keep waiting to feel back like myself, it's like i wanna do the same shit from the past to feel the love or feel the same mentally. sigh i just pray to god all of this gets better.
This man is on nofap & relationship. What else do you need you already have a company.
Dont worry I was talking about relative things just to ensure how that works
I’ve got no friends just now what should I do about it just now I feel like crying just now
My phone used to ring throughout the day, they all wanted or needed something. My marriage had gone into a dark place I couldn't understand. I stopped being available to others and got acquainted with NO. My phone no longer rang. Became a talking buddy with a homeless dude that strolls through the alley behind my house. Then my lips were shut and my mind was open. Ideas came and went. I had answers, but most people out there have opinions and "you know what you should do's". In TH-cam I learned to listen, to watch, to notice, to learn more. I see for instance the pain, the hurt in David's memories. I thought of mine, but those moments were filed behind my jokes and laughter which is my coping mechanism. I'm old now by most standards, but one thing I have learned. Everything around us, the people, pandemia, politics and songs are just events that mean nothing to one and a lot another. And that is it. You see or live an event and then place a value to it, a meaning, and based on that value we react. The beautiful thing is that once you know this, you get to chose whether or not to place value on anything that surrounds you, and chose who you become. A car crash. You can either watch and walk away, get involved and call 911, or help the victims in the cars. You get to chose. A break up, the death of your father, the arrival of a child, the BS of those you know. The value you chose, determines your level of suffering. If you end up in a wheelchair and I don't know you, it's just an event. If it happens to me, it's just an event until I decide to place value on it and be miserable. Thanks for the space Dave, and thank you for sharing the light, the word, the thoughts that come to your receptive mind. Who knows where they come from, but you're willing to listen and share, and that's the ultimate form of selflessness.
Lol I thought you would say something I can actually have fun without friends
I like storytime. I'm having the same experience. in high school right now. Great vid!
Jon Doe will definitely incorporate more here and there. Cheers my man! 🤟👊
i only have 2 friends and i cant really vent to either of them and i usually do my venting in a vent channel in a discord server but i left that server because they kept getting mad at me for doign the smallest things and now i have no one to talk to and whenever i dont tell anyone how im feeling it all builds up and i havea huge breakdown after a few months and its not healthy