I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
I just got diagnosed with ADHD at 38 after being a mom absolutely broke me. My 4 year old might have it too. Please, please, please, keep the exercises and tipps coming, I don't want her to suffer like I did.
Excellent. wish I had this info 32 years ago for my son. I too am ADHD at 72 (I was diagnosed at age 36. ) I love it at times because I tell you the creativity is amazing! My little one (now 6’ 7 ) shared at age 11 -“mom, I know I’m different, but I don’t think I’d wanna be any other way. “ I will never forget him sharing this as he fell asleep. ❤
Thank you for this. I’m a therapist and I work with children. I’m also a mother to a child with ADHD. Can you please do more intervention based videos for each development stages? Like for adolescent, for adult etc? Your daughter is so lucky to have you!
I agree with this, would be really helpful if you can explain how to help a child who isn’t so young! For example, my son may resist wanting to play the sniffle gobler game everyday.
My daughter is seven, she has adhd. This video will help us understand her. She didn’t do her English assignment in school and wanted to play instead, so they gave her a homework. She knew every English word for each picture I showed her, and she explained that the reason to not do the assignment was because “it was boring and I already knew the answers” 😅
I will say that this is a major reason why I homeschool. Our son is 6 and reads at a 3rd grade level. He can’t sit still to save his life lol. Public school in its form just doesn’t work well with his ADHD. We still do activities he doesn’t like to do (writing down the answers) but they’re short and when we get through them fast, he realizes he made a mountain out of a molehill. He just needs a bit more one-on-one to get through the hurdles that a school setting can’t give him.
As a psychiatrist and parent of a neurodivergent child, I totally understand how confusing and challenging an ADHD diagnosis can be. In this video, I’m excited to share some insights about ADHD as a neurodivergent condition and give you practical tips for parenting. From recognizing your child's unique needs to supporting them emotionally and academically, there’s a lot we can do! Also, if you're looking for more resources, check out The ADHD Parenting Guide for Boys by Richard Bass-it’s super helpful!
This is such a valuable perspective! Having the insight of both a psychiatrist and a parent must be so helpful in navigating the complexities of ADHD. It’s great to see more resources like this to support parents in understanding and addressing their child’s unique needs.
Omg... I'm 57 years old and you just pretty much described my childhood except I don't have crazy hyperactivity. I never lost friends because I took their turn on the slide, lol. I've always known I was wired backwards and I've struggled. What you said about extreme emotions and depression is right on the money! 💯💯💯
This description around 26mins of a child who knows the other kids aren't smarter but something is just broken inside of me. Relating so hard to that, even as an adult who got by until their 40s. I really don't want this for my very bright children 😢 I really appreciate you sharing this so openly as I still feel the stigma and can't truly be ok with it. I recognise ADHD as a debilitating mental health condition. I don't ever want my kids to feel that.
You have such an amazing way of explaining things. The way you describe adhd and make it so relatable to me personally as a mom who has a child with most of these symptoms is almost as if you’re looking into my life with my kid. I really do think it’s a gift that you have and I’m just always grateful and feel so optimistic about not only understanding but helping my child. Thank you so much for your content, you’re truly amazing and one of a kind!
Please please keep posting on this channel. Your original channel helped a lot over the last six years and helped me get to a place where i was ready for a longterm relationship and ready to be a parent.
I was diagnosed at 47! And suffered all the long term issues/misdiagnoses you mentioned 😔. My now 3 yr old GD who I’m raising has these issues and I am excited to start implementing these training tips with her.
While I have ADHD inattentive and hyperactive with a son who is on the autism spectrum and ADHD, I know what I went through and want better for my son. Thank you!!
I believe yes, You can absolutely help your child tap into their ADHD and make it their super power. My son was considered disabled with ADHD at age 8. At 15, after years of therapy and his circle of love helping him in almost every aspect of life, he is thriving. I was also diagnosed at age 8, but had a completely different upbringing. I always wondered how much better my life could have been had my parents leanred to parent me differently.
Thank you thank you thank you. We desperately need this. I’m determined that my adhd children do NOT have the same pain and struggle and trauma that my generation did. But we need these teachings to know what to do. Thank you Dr. K. From the bottom of my ❤. Please, please carry on.
I wish I had this 12 years ago. After learning more about myself and child’s neurological disorders, I now see just how much I screwed up raising her and can only hope for a better outcome going forward.
You didn’t screw her up- you’re obviously seeking knowledge and want to do better. That example could help heal any pain she’s felt bc of your previous approach. We’re all human and we all make mistakes. Good luck! ♥️💛
@@Dannniellleee I’ve taken accountability for my actions, so I can confidently say I screwed up on several occasions :) Thankfully, the journey forward has been exactly as you’ve described and thank you.
12 is still young enough. Honestly at 43, if my mom showed any signs of trying to even just apologize for how she was when I was a child, I’d be totally happy about it. Kids are always looking for their parents to connect with them. Even in middle age! So good on you for making that change at 12.
I don't think that is a good idea (if it is the same as before). Dr K's previous videos on that matter were quite poorly received by the autistic community. "He talks as if he was a doctor from 20 years ago" - Some random comment I saw Dr K's video's are *great* on many subjects. But not quite autism (yet).
@@PaperRabbits_ his last video on autism in women was much better but I agree, the previous videos were not very informed at all. I’m hoping this means he was able to do more research.
My son is adhd. thx for this video. sometimes i get frustrated, coz im also struggling with my bipolar 2. so thank you. hope i can be the best caregiver for my son.
The inability to control emotions hits home for me lol. I remember in high school being in the middle of situations and only positive things being said yet for some reason I just start crying and no joke am like why am I crying this makes no sense 😂 i didn't know that it was connected to my ADHD
Thank you for this content! I love your regular channel but the language isn't always family friendly. I'm a QMHP and would like to share some of your videos with the families I work with. This channel is perfect for that. Love both channels!
I would highly urge you to not train your daughter to suppress her reaction to physical boundary violations. There are other ways to train against reactivity that do not involve gamifying uncomfortable physical attention from a loved one.
I want to start by saying I really appreciate this! I also have a few suggestions as an AuDHDer and therapist. If you haven’t already, it may be beneficial to check in with your daughter on how she feels about eye contact. Neurodivergent informed clinicians often frown upon training eye contact as this tends to encourage masking. Maybe instead of having her look at your eyes you can have her look at another spot like your nose/mouth? I’m sure you’ve already done this, but for everyone else, it’s important to make sure kids are ok with being touched/tickled and know that they can tell you to stop at any point. Neurodivergent people tend to have significantly higher rates of abuse and exploitation so it is IMPERATIVE that kids learn they can have boundaries. As for evoking anger, role playing can be really great for this. Asking your kids about a time they felt a certain emotion and supporting them through that can do wonders. I used to do communication groups and use role play bc it evokes the same emotion, but to a lesser degree which allows them to build mastery in a safe supportive environment. Hope this was helpful!
Thank you, i was waiting for the emotional regulation part, the trickyest for young children as well as grown folks. Can't wait to hear more fun exercises to do for these. I work with school age kids and working on their emotion regulation live (like during a game/sport) has been my go to, slowly increasing intensity and coregulating with them...
Thank you for the activity ideas for impulse control and emotional regulation. I can’t wait to do them with my daughter. I look forward to more videos on children with ADHD! 😊
I was diagnosed with ADHD in my middle 40s. About the time m6 life had fallen apart and I was trying to pick up the pieces and rebuild. In many ways these videos help me understand why certain things have been so difficult for me but in other ways they can be depressing because I think about how much easier things would have been had someone in my life recognized this condition and learned some of the techniques or even gotten me on medication when I was a kid
It's also really frustrating to have ADHD and having been a good student because it so happens your hyper focus are topics covered in school. But then people start dating and doing normal people things and you just drift/ignore don't learn how to socialize in that sense. The difference is that our society noticies the kid doing badly in school but not the kid doing well in school that is also neurodiverse
Excellent point! I had very good grades through school and college, but finally learned I have adhd. I have all the iterations except am more than able to pay attention. Frustrating this isn’t better addressed overall.
I have suffered with this all my lkife as i wasnt aware I had it, I wasnt brought up in the best environment although my mum did her best, but circumtances can really trigger this, I sure know this due to my experiences in life, its been horrific if im honest, I survived, im here to tell the tale from a place of peace.. I have various teccniques under my belt.. I f i can heal anyone can ... Thanks for video. great clarity 💟💟💟
I think one of the things that helped me a lot as a (undiagnosed) kid was martial arts. Learning balance and control in a fun, active setting was really good for me. Especially since I sucked at team sports. If you can find a martial arts school that clicks, it may be worth trying out.
My 8 year old grandson has severe adhd. His teacher wants him to be put on meds. We really are against it. I just think it's a bad idea. It's so frustrating and against provoking. I appreciate you discussing it.
My son has ASD, and severe ADHD very severe. I've always been against medication, but after researching extensively I'm torn... I don't know what to do.
I'm 56,v was diagnosed a few years back to my surprise. I must have instinctively over come many symptoms. My alternative school provided a lot of things that made it impossible for anyone to tell. I'm smart so I thought that's why everyone thought I was weird just plowing intro the feeling experience with honesty and security. I still have a hard time believing this is a disorder. The world and the way kids are taught is disordered.
How do I get my ADHD boy to come to school, go to bed, brush his teeth without threats? Right now if doesn't volunteer he doesn't get his daily television moment. I've already heard, this is not the way. But just 'talking with him' simply doesn't work, and it doesn't matter how much time or preparation I put into this. For a while putting up an alarmclock notifying him that the time had come really worked. But now he begins challenging this, and I'm looking out for some new way of doing this without any form of force.
Some very interesting insights. As a Num whi probably has ADHD, I was keen to list but I had to watch on speed 2x. It would be great to have a short visual presentation or a slide.
With regard to impulse control, sniffer gobbler, and wet willy. These sound like fun games, and I don't mean to take away any subjective enjoyment and learning you've had from your experience. But my worry with some of these "training" exercises, that they are not actually "developing" or "improving" the ADHD away out of someone's brain. I would love to believe that the exercises are re-wiring the PFC to improve executive function. But there is also a very good chance that it is simply teaching the subject to "mask" better, or mask at an earlier age. Masking is an essential part of ADHD/ASD, and an essential survival skill in society. Some may think "survival" is a bit dramatic, but I am 100% serious, because if you don't mask, you will have no friends, be less successful at work, and maybe not even find a spouse. In my mind, it is essential, and as such, being taught as a skill (via fun games like sniffer gobbler or wetwilly) is fine. But I would not go so far as to say these games are fixing or improving the ADHD brain, but instead, are fixing the outward behavior exhibited by the ADHD brain. I would never characterize these fun family activities as something as bad as Cognitive Behavior Therapy for autism. But the anecdotal story you told reminded me of CBT, and how it teaches masking rather than curing ASD. At least, that is my understanding. Appologies if I have misunderstood something. Anyway, much love Dr.K, I love all your videos, and the Dante interview blew my fucking mind, so thank you for all your work. Take care.
I feel like, as someone with ADHD, recieveing the effort and training dr k puts into helping her would have made my life very much improved if my parents did that but instead they didnt help me and had something against "lableing" children and said its normal to be adhd and whatever else I inherrited. Like he said, if you learn emotional regulation, and people are careful with your self esteem, and you learn impulse control, the risk of ending up with depression would be less and bad experiences with teachers ad classmates made less so it would improve her whole future to learn these skills. And when he is asking her time, and letteing her choose when he comes back , I also feel this would help time blindness! I think his main reason for doing this is to do as much as is possible to keep her from developing depression or her life be harder as a social outcast, and being able to hold a job with the skills he helps form while her brain is young enough to be influenced greatly. If I was taught that stuff by my parents, I likely wouldn't be a depressed janitor with messy house who is struggling to even do that job and can't do any better until I teach myself as an adult all the skills he's teaching his daughter early. I believe it will really set her up for success that he's doing this!
Personally I feel like masking is a different thing, it's more about what people think you are on the outside. Improving theses life skills will mean that she won't have to hide her defiencies behind a mask if she gets them caught up in time. Becaue that would mean her as a person would be capable of regulating emotion, managing time, activelistening, patience, etc and so it would be genuinely her and not a mask.
I am a 44-year-old dog trainer with ADHD. Some refer to me as a dog whisperer. The reason is that I train dogs of any age with any behavioral problem. I study the dogs' behavior, conduct some tests, etc., and prepare a training plan. I have been doing this for some time and can adapt it to children and it works. One big advantage is that I can utilize Trained Dogs to assist. Not only for the Kids attention, but also it brings into perpective the consept of atención, communication, and performance. Is like fooling the kid's selfconscious into another state of mind. And educate the Kid with out him knowing. This will help with the ADHD resistance. I believe I can function as a consultant in this extraordinary and out-of-the-ordinary approach you have explained. Please feel free to contact me.
At 34, I'm just now understanding that I'm not broken, I'm different. I'm nuerodivergent and it went un-noticed. I incurred trauma and addiction-related issues as a result and also got involved with a woman like my overbearing mother (in typical Freudian fashion, right?) Ended up being misdiagnosed as bipolar 2 and suffered for years. Spending all those years working in problems that weren't real, and the real issues growing wholly unchecked, I'm now in a deep hole, and it's very hard to climb out. I'm glad kids today are less likely to experience what I did Edit: I think your hypothesis is correct, or close enough, and certainly worth trying. I'm working on the same experiment with my own brain (tho I'm self taught and may be doing more harm than good)
Quit the diagnosis stuff. People wear this stuff like a badge of honor. It's just a term and it's meaningless. Let it go. Don't care what doctor said what. Just live life.
You are great. I have a 15 year old boy with ADHD and is also a genius but his attention span is either so low or he is laser focused depending on what he is working on.
Your daughters going to love watching this video and hearing you want to “correct her deficits” and have her be “more normal.” If she really has adhd you should teach her to love herself for it and see it as her superpower.
As a 36 year old woman with ADHD I couldn't disagree more with you. I would give anything to have had a video like this of my parents as they talked about the neurodivergence they see in me and the ways they are trying to instill ways for me to function better so I can live a happier and more fulfilled life with BETTER self esteem. He is literally talking about how the deficits lead to low self esteem and that helping to correct them can improve outcomes. No way in hell are my deficits in attention, language and working memory any kind of "super power" and it wouldn't have helped me at all for my parents to pretend they are. The deficits resulting from my neurodivergence have been disabling throughout my life and if I had had this kind of help early on things could've been so much better for me. What kind of parent doesn't want the best for their kids? Pretending that ADHD deficits are "superpowers" would be like saying my brother's permanent paralysis and inability to use his legs ever again is a "superpower". Absolutely ridiculous.
@ my father-in-law, my significant other, my brother, my niece, my cousin my friends all were diagnosed with ADHD at a very young age. My father-in-law is one of the wealthiest people in my state top 1%. My fiancé is one of the greatest skateboarders that has ever lived commended by Tony Hawk. My brother lives in a mansion and is an excellent paramedic and firefighter. My niece is still young and she will learn to use her quirks to get her places neurotypical people would dream of going. If being the victim has helped you get this far in life. There’s nothing wrong with that, but I will teach her that if the system thinks there’s something wrong with her then there’s something wrong with the system. If the test is who can climb up the tree, the best between a monkey, a dog, a cat and a fish the fish isn’t paralyzed, It just doesn’t climb trees. Do what works for you and if using it as an excuse, comforts your mediocrity, I’m happy for you
The world has taught you that you are the problem and that you have trouble paying attention when in reality, the world is the problem. The world has trouble controlling your attention. And for that, they blame you. For that they made you blame yourself. They said it’s your fault. And that you were broken and unfixable. Paralyzed. Well you’re not. You most literally can walk further work harder feel more deeply than most Neurotypical people can stand to in their lifetime literally because of your Neurodivergence and you see that as a deficit? Wake up.
Thank you Dr. K! My daughter is only 2, but I have and struggled with ADHD as a kid and want to be as prepared as possible for my daughter. At what age can these practices be implemented? Can eyes on daddy be taught to a 2 year old?
I’m newly diagnosed ADHD at age 40. In hindsight I can’t believe I didn’t realise I had it (well I did suspect) I just thought everyone struggled like I do, they were just better at coping than me. Anyway, my daughter’s 5 and I can see she’s got it too. She used to be able to focus really well as a baby, and hold eye contact etc. but somewhere around 2.5 to 3 years she lost that ability. Is that typical? I’m glad she won’t go through what I went through. I feel like I’m having an existential crisis on medication now trying to work out what’s me, what’s masking, and what’s the ADHD.
If any of this works, please make this shorter and to the point (because you’re probably talking to parents with ADHD). My parents sucked and I think it’s mostly because they had no idea how to deal with me. After some years, they don’t even care. If they knew at least some things to try, maybe I wouldn’t still be dealing with this shit 30 years later. Honestly can’t believe I’m even still alive. ❤
From another perspective. I have adhd and looking back on my childhood, just because your parents did something it doesn’t mean we should do it. I remember the first time I said “wet Willy”to my daughter and I was laughing and she just looked at me in disgust. I instantly realized she knows what a willy is and how wrong it is to cross out children’s boundaries and by saying “wet Willy” Please think about these games that violate children’s boundaries. A child that doesn’t feel comfortable speaking up and feels not listened too, will be a child that looks back on childhood with an emotional neglected childhood. Simply coming up close and tapping them on the shoulder is enough. With a gentle tone and a smile on the face will be enough.
Last night I cried half an hour. My 6yo has adhd and he always puts himself in danger, every second of every day. I can literally not take any more scares. Ever second my heart jumps, cause he has all sorts of accidents from jumping on window sills and kitchen counters, etc. I also have adhd so fighting with the rage which comes with each time I get scared, is eating me up alive. I have decided to try medication with him because he is also minimally verbal, but I don't know if it will help. I am a single mum and I really hate adhd. I feel so guilty for shouting at my child, and I feel disgusted by myself for having it as well and for reacting sometimes the way I do. Adhd sucks!
I have a 35 year old daughter with ADHD. She’s successful in a profession she loves and is happily married. She credits her ADHD management to meditation and my behavior management methods based on cognitive behavioral psychology. I’m a child psychologist. I don’t use cognitive behavioral psychology in my private practice, but it’s great for training good habits without nagging. It sounds like you’re doing something similar. Hang in there! It works!
I need help. I have a child with ASD and ADHD. It's quite severe ADHD but I'm just so concerned about medicating. Please don't judge me whatever side of the fence you're on, but I'd really appreciate advice. EDIT: I need help with choice re medication not life. My sons my world!!
I suspected my daughter had ADHD, like me, but my husband doesn't believe it, says she just has selective hearing and she needs to be more responsible. I wish he was on board earlier so we could have tried this. Now she's 12 and needs different approach. I would never medicate.
Will these exercises work for adults? I'm almost 47 and I still can't sit in the dark alone, slightest intonation change in talking can send me down a spiral that become rumination and then a month has passed and I don't remember much.
One Dad to another, I was diagnosed with adhd about a year or two ago and since I have seen many similarities between my 4 yo daughter and my diagnosis and how you describe the difference between your two children. I want to do what’s best for her but is 4 too young to tell? Or is there really no harm in trying these things?
Being yelled at sucks. I actually had a cellphone since like 4th grade so i could have been called by anyone that needed me. But they would still yell at me. Even if my door was open they wouldnt come in to get my attention, they woudl yell at me.
Dr. K, have you considered giving your daughter fish oil to support her brain development (in addition to everything else)? That’s what my functional neurologist suggested to me when I was younger.
Can we already stop calling it attention disorder!!! ADHD is a depression response! It’s not that those kids will develop depression because they have difficulty to function in the society, they start off with trauma or brain wiring that causes depression, and ADHD is a motivation disorder. Those kids have no motivation to be focused on one task for long. Games are an exception as they keep the child motivated to go on, by gathering points, treasures and so on. They are capable to focus if they are motivated, and anger is due to grief!!! Kids that grow up without mother in a daycare will not be able to regulate their emotions as the mentioned amygdala is overstimulated due to constant trauma of separation with the mother! Indeed they go by the visual, they do what they see if they are busy with one thing but will notice another they move on the other activity. They move on something else in the search of dopamine (to soothe them). Those kids often bite their nails, need sort of a fidget when they are trying to focus on something demanding effort.
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I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
Please dont stop doing these. These videos have so much worth.
A lot. A lot of worth! Really beneficial if put into practice. I actually take some of those tips and see how they fit into my adult life.
Stay at home dad here. With misty eyes, I wanna say thank you for helping me appreciate my child's quirks and better understand what makes her tick!
I just got diagnosed with ADHD at 38 after being a mom absolutely broke me. My 4 year old might have it too. Please, please, please, keep the exercises and tipps coming, I don't want her to suffer like I did.
Excellent. wish I had this info 32 years ago for my son. I too am ADHD at 72 (I was diagnosed at age 36. ) I love it at times because I tell you the creativity is amazing! My little one (now 6’ 7 ) shared at age 11 -“mom, I know I’m different, but I don’t think I’d wanna be any other way. “ I will never forget him sharing this as he fell asleep. ❤
Your son is so cool. What a healthy way to see yourself at 11. Good job mom and dad. 👍
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Thank you for this. I’m a therapist and I work with children. I’m also a mother to a child with ADHD. Can you please do more intervention based videos for each development stages? Like for adolescent, for adult etc? Your daughter is so lucky to have you!
I agree with this, would be really helpful if you can explain how to help a child who isn’t so young! For example, my son may resist wanting to play the sniffle gobler game everyday.
My daughter is seven, she has adhd. This video will help us understand her. She didn’t do her English assignment in school and wanted to play instead, so they gave her a homework. She knew every English word for each picture I showed her, and she explained that the reason to not do the assignment was because “it was boring and I already knew the answers” 😅
I will say that this is a major reason why I homeschool. Our son is 6 and reads at a 3rd grade level. He can’t sit still to save his life lol. Public school in its form just doesn’t work well with his ADHD.
We still do activities he doesn’t like to do (writing down the answers) but they’re short and when we get through them fast, he realizes he made a mountain out of a molehill. He just needs a bit more one-on-one to get through the hurdles that a school setting can’t give him.
She needs an immediate reward set up for completing boring tasks. The dopamine hit gradually gets linked to completing tasks
As a psychiatrist and parent of a neurodivergent child, I totally understand how confusing and challenging an ADHD diagnosis can be. In this video, I’m excited to share some insights about ADHD as a neurodivergent condition and give you practical tips for parenting. From recognizing your child's unique needs to supporting them emotionally and academically, there’s a lot we can do! Also, if you're looking for more resources, check out The ADHD Parenting Guide for Boys by Richard Bass-it’s super helpful!
Please do these 101's for other neurodivergencies seen in kids and how parents can help make life easier for them :]
This is such a valuable perspective! Having the insight of both a psychiatrist and a parent must be so helpful in navigating the complexities of ADHD. It’s great to see more resources like this to support parents in understanding and addressing their child’s unique needs.
Omg... I'm 57 years old and you just pretty much described my childhood except I don't have crazy hyperactivity. I never lost friends because I took their turn on the slide, lol. I've always known I was wired backwards and I've struggled. What you said about extreme emotions and depression is right on the money! 💯💯💯
This description around 26mins of a child who knows the other kids aren't smarter but something is just broken inside of me. Relating so hard to that, even as an adult who got by until their 40s. I really don't want this for my very bright children 😢
I really appreciate you sharing this so openly as I still feel the stigma and can't truly be ok with it. I recognise ADHD as a debilitating mental health condition. I don't ever want my kids to feel that.
This is by far the best podcast & breakdown on ADHD/ Impulsive behaviors!!!
You have such an amazing way of explaining things. The way you describe adhd and make it so relatable to me personally as a mom who has a child with most of these symptoms is almost as if you’re looking into my life with my kid. I really do think it’s a gift that you have and I’m just always grateful and feel so optimistic about not only understanding but helping my child. Thank you so much for your content, you’re truly amazing and one of a kind!
Please please keep posting on this channel. Your original channel helped a lot over the last six years and helped me get to a place where i was ready for a longterm relationship and ready to be a parent.
I was diagnosed at 47! And suffered all the long term issues/misdiagnoses you mentioned 😔. My now 3 yr old GD who I’m raising has these issues and I am excited to start implementing these training tips with her.
Dr.k, your content is nothing short of an international treasure.
What an excellent explanation!
I actually understand what is being said. Thank you!
You also could be inadvertantly helping her with time blindness! I wish someone taught me how much time, time takes.
Same here… if only I’d had the care.
Same
@@tainoaquarian life makes me have to care, I got so many phone alarms on lol
While I have ADHD inattentive and hyperactive with a son who is on the autism spectrum and ADHD, I know what I went through and want better for my son. Thank you!!
This is so appreciated.
Wow…this was great and right on time for at least two of my children. The third is 18 but I am still going to try.
Thank you for looking out for your kiddos futures :)
I believe yes, You can absolutely help your child tap into their ADHD and make it their super power.
My son was considered disabled with ADHD at age 8. At 15, after years of therapy and his circle of love helping him in almost every aspect of life, he is thriving.
I was also diagnosed at age 8, but had a completely different upbringing. I always wondered how much better my life could have been had my parents leanred to parent me differently.
Thank you thank you thank you. We desperately need this. I’m determined that my adhd children do NOT have the same pain and struggle and trauma that my generation did. But we need these teachings to know what to do. Thank you Dr. K. From the bottom of my ❤. Please, please carry on.
Adult with I-ADHD here. Many key points you made I can start applying my own recovery. Thank you 🙏🔯🙏
Same. ❤
Doc - I need you to make this a series and do regular videos and update us. This is extremely helpful.
I wish I had this 12 years ago. After learning more about myself and child’s neurological disorders, I now see just how much I screwed up raising her and can only hope for a better outcome going forward.
You didn’t screw her up- you’re obviously seeking knowledge and want to do better. That example could help heal any pain she’s felt bc of your previous approach.
We’re all human and we all make mistakes. Good luck! ♥️💛
@@Dannniellleee I’ve taken accountability for my actions, so I can confidently say I screwed up on several occasions :)
Thankfully, the journey forward has been exactly as you’ve described and thank you.
@@ryans6016 ♥️💛
12 is still young enough. Honestly at 43, if my mom showed any signs of trying to even just apologize for how she was when I was a child, I’d be totally happy about it. Kids are always looking for their parents to connect with them. Even in middle age! So good on you for making that change at 12.
PLEEASE make one about autism, or even audhd. Your explanations are excellent.
I don't think that is a good idea (if it is the same as before). Dr K's previous videos on that matter were quite poorly received by the autistic community.
"He talks as if he was a doctor from 20 years ago" - Some random comment I saw
Dr K's video's are *great* on many subjects. But not quite autism (yet).
He said before he thinks he has adhd so I think that's why he's better at talking about it than other diagnosis
@@PaperRabbits_ his last video on autism in women was much better but I agree, the previous videos were not very informed at all. I’m hoping this means he was able to do more research.
My son is adhd. thx for this video. sometimes i get frustrated, coz im also struggling with my bipolar 2. so thank you. hope i can be the best caregiver for my son.
For my kids, a light touch got their attention better than yelling.
The inability to control emotions hits home for me lol. I remember in high school being in the middle of situations and only positive things being said yet for some reason I just start crying and no joke am like why am I crying this makes no sense 😂 i didn't know that it was connected to my ADHD
I also have memories of embarrassing emotional outbursts in junior high / high school as well. Lots of shame afterwards
Same. I thought it was autism but I just might have been adhd this whole time.
Thank you for this content! I love your regular channel but the language isn't always family friendly. I'm a QMHP and would like to share some of your videos with the families I work with. This channel is perfect for that. Love both channels!
thanks for this, I really enjoyed your stories about training your daughter :-)
Appreciate the resources Dr. K! You’re the man!
This video was incredibly helpful. I hope you make more videos on this topic. Thank you
I would highly urge you to not train your daughter to suppress her reaction to physical boundary violations. There are other ways to train against reactivity that do not involve gamifying uncomfortable physical attention from a loved one.
I want to start by saying I really appreciate this! I also have a few suggestions as an AuDHDer and therapist. If you haven’t already, it may be beneficial to check in with your daughter on how she feels about eye contact. Neurodivergent informed clinicians often frown upon training eye contact as this tends to encourage masking. Maybe instead of having her look at your eyes you can have her look at another spot like your nose/mouth? I’m sure you’ve already done this, but for everyone else, it’s important to make sure kids are ok with being touched/tickled and know that they can tell you to stop at any point. Neurodivergent people tend to have significantly higher rates of abuse and exploitation so it is IMPERATIVE that kids learn they can have boundaries. As for evoking anger, role playing can be really great for this. Asking your kids about a time they felt a certain emotion and supporting them through that can do wonders. I used to do communication groups and use role play bc it evokes the same emotion, but to a lesser degree which allows them to build mastery in a safe supportive environment. Hope this was helpful!
Thank you, i was waiting for the emotional regulation part, the trickyest for young children as well as grown folks. Can't wait to hear more fun exercises to do for these. I work with school age kids and working on their emotion regulation live (like during a game/sport) has been my go to, slowly increasing intensity and coregulating with them...
Thank you for the activity ideas for impulse control and emotional regulation. I can’t wait to do them with my daughter. I look forward to more videos on children with ADHD! 😊
I was diagnosed with ADHD in my middle 40s. About the time m6 life had fallen apart and I was trying to pick up the pieces and rebuild. In many ways these videos help me understand why certain things have been so difficult for me but in other ways they can be depressing because I think about how much easier things would have been had someone in my life recognized this condition and learned some of the techniques or even gotten me on medication when I was a kid
Definitely keep us updated on this. I'm going to try some of these techniques with my son
I wish my parents had known this for me.
Best I can do is train my daughter. 🤯🤯🤯🤯
Superb helpful advice. Will share with someone who’s child has ADHD (and as parents in denial)
It's also really frustrating to have ADHD and having been a good student because it so happens your hyper focus are topics covered in school. But then people start dating and doing normal people things and you just drift/ignore don't learn how to socialize in that sense. The difference is that our society noticies the kid doing badly in school but not the kid doing well in school that is also neurodiverse
Excellent point! I had very good grades through school and college, but finally learned I have adhd. I have all the iterations except am more than able to pay attention. Frustrating this isn’t better addressed overall.
Thank you so much. This video is very informative and helpful.
DrK., thank you for your life changing content. You are a modern day hero.
I have suffered with this all my lkife as i wasnt aware I had it, I wasnt brought up in the best environment although my mum did her best, but circumtances can really trigger this, I sure know this due to my experiences in life, its been horrific if im honest, I survived, im here to tell the tale from a place of peace.. I have various teccniques under my belt.. I f i can heal anyone can ... Thanks for video. great clarity 💟💟💟
This was like time traveling to my past. I definitely had / have adhd myself.
I think one of the things that helped me a lot as a (undiagnosed) kid was martial arts. Learning balance and control in a fun, active setting was really good for me. Especially since I sucked at team sports. If you can find a martial arts school that clicks, it may be worth trying out.
The best ADHD I’ve seen so far!
My 8 year old grandson has severe adhd. His teacher wants him to be put on meds. We really are against it. I just think it's a bad idea. It's so frustrating and against provoking. I appreciate you discussing it.
I regret not putting my 14 year old on meds earlier.
My son has ASD, and severe ADHD very severe. I've always been against medication, but after researching extensively I'm torn... I don't know what to do.
That was really helpful from the point of understanding as well as by the practical Tipps. Thank you.
I'm 56,v was diagnosed a few years back to my surprise. I must have instinctively over come many symptoms. My alternative school provided a lot of things that made it impossible for anyone to tell. I'm smart so I thought that's why everyone thought I was weird just plowing intro the feeling experience with honesty and security. I still have a hard time believing this is a disorder. The world and the way kids are taught is disordered.
How do I get my ADHD boy to come to school, go to bed, brush his teeth without threats? Right now if doesn't volunteer he doesn't get his daily television moment. I've already heard, this is not the way. But just 'talking with him' simply doesn't work, and it doesn't matter how much time or preparation I put into this. For a while putting up an alarmclock notifying him that the time had come really worked. But now he begins challenging this, and I'm looking out for some new way of doing this without any form of force.
Some very interesting insights. As a Num whi probably has ADHD, I was keen to list but I had to watch on speed 2x. It would be great to have a short visual presentation or a slide.
With regard to impulse control, sniffer gobbler, and wet willy. These sound like fun games, and I don't mean to take away any subjective enjoyment and learning you've had from your experience. But my worry with some of these "training" exercises, that they are not actually "developing" or "improving" the ADHD away out of someone's brain. I would love to believe that the exercises are re-wiring the PFC to improve executive function. But there is also a very good chance that it is simply teaching the subject to "mask" better, or mask at an earlier age.
Masking is an essential part of ADHD/ASD, and an essential survival skill in society. Some may think "survival" is a bit dramatic, but I am 100% serious, because if you don't mask, you will have no friends, be less successful at work, and maybe not even find a spouse. In my mind, it is essential, and as such, being taught as a skill (via fun games like sniffer gobbler or wetwilly) is fine. But I would not go so far as to say these games are fixing or improving the ADHD brain, but instead, are fixing the outward behavior exhibited by the ADHD brain.
I would never characterize these fun family activities as something as bad as Cognitive Behavior Therapy for autism. But the anecdotal story you told reminded me of CBT, and how it teaches masking rather than curing ASD. At least, that is my understanding. Appologies if I have misunderstood something.
Anyway, much love Dr.K, I love all your videos, and the Dante interview blew my fucking mind, so thank you for all your work. Take care.
I feel like, as someone with ADHD, recieveing the effort and training dr k puts into helping her would have made my life very much improved if my parents did that but instead they didnt help me and had something against "lableing" children and said its normal to be adhd and whatever else I inherrited. Like he said, if you learn emotional regulation, and people are careful with your self esteem, and you learn impulse control, the risk of ending up with depression would be less and bad experiences with teachers ad classmates made less so it would improve her whole future to learn these skills. And when he is asking her time, and letteing her choose when he comes back , I also feel this would help time blindness! I think his main reason for doing this is to do as much as is possible to keep her from developing depression or her life be harder as a social outcast, and being able to hold a job with the skills he helps form while her brain is young enough to be influenced greatly. If I was taught that stuff by my parents, I likely wouldn't be a depressed janitor with messy house who is struggling to even do that job and can't do any better until I teach myself as an adult all the skills he's teaching his daughter early. I believe it will really set her up for success that he's doing this!
Personally I feel like masking is a different thing, it's more about what people think you are on the outside. Improving theses life skills will mean that she won't have to hide her defiencies behind a mask if she gets them caught up in time.
Becaue that would mean her as a person would be capable of regulating emotion, managing time, activelistening, patience, etc and so it would be genuinely her and not a mask.
I am a 44-year-old dog trainer with ADHD. Some refer to me as a dog whisperer. The reason is that I train dogs of any age with any behavioral problem. I study the dogs' behavior, conduct some tests, etc., and prepare a training plan. I have been doing this for some time and can adapt it to children and it works. One big advantage is that I can utilize Trained Dogs to assist. Not only for the Kids attention, but also it brings into perpective the consept of atención, communication, and performance. Is like fooling the kid's selfconscious into another state of mind. And educate the Kid with out him knowing. This will help with the ADHD resistance.
I believe I can function as a consultant in this extraordinary and out-of-the-ordinary approach you have explained. Please feel free to contact me.
Thank you so much, this is so helpful. I've been thinking lately of creating a program for my 4 year old but I'm no professional. Thanks again.
Interesting and useful!
At 34, I'm just now understanding that I'm not broken, I'm different.
I'm nuerodivergent and it went un-noticed. I incurred trauma and addiction-related issues as a result and also got involved with a woman like my overbearing mother (in typical Freudian fashion, right?)
Ended up being misdiagnosed as bipolar 2 and suffered for years.
Spending all those years working in problems that weren't real, and the real issues growing wholly unchecked, I'm now in a deep hole, and it's very hard to climb out.
I'm glad kids today are less likely to experience what I did
Edit: I think your hypothesis is correct, or close enough, and certainly worth trying. I'm working on the same experiment with my own brain (tho I'm self taught and may be doing more harm than good)
Quit the diagnosis stuff. People wear this stuff like a badge of honor. It's just a term and it's meaningless. Let it go. Don't care what doctor said what. Just live life.
@@Joe-ti7qdhe lived life; it was impaired by his dissability. F off.
Yes keep experimenting ay trying to find what works for you! I'm doing th same thing, trying to teach myself skills to improve my deficiencies :)
Thank you Dr K!
❤️ thank you for all you do.
So clear and exact understanding ...thank u so much
Much ❤ Doctor ! You do amazing work for alot of people 👏👏👏
Thank you for this!
Very valuable content!!! Thank you ❤
You are great. I have a 15 year old boy with ADHD and is also a genius but his attention span is either so low or he is laser focused depending on what he is working on.
I wish I learned some of this when my kid was little! Any good tips for tweens/teens? PLEASE!
Your daughters going to love watching this video and hearing you want to “correct her deficits” and have her be “more normal.” If she really has adhd you should teach her to love herself for it and see it as her superpower.
As a 36 year old woman with ADHD I couldn't disagree more with you. I would give anything to have had a video like this of my parents as they talked about the neurodivergence they see in me and the ways they are trying to instill ways for me to function better so I can live a happier and more fulfilled life with BETTER self esteem. He is literally talking about how the deficits lead to low self esteem and that helping to correct them can improve outcomes.
No way in hell are my deficits in attention, language and working memory any kind of "super power" and it wouldn't have helped me at all for my parents to pretend they are. The deficits resulting from my neurodivergence have been disabling throughout my life and if I had had this kind of help early on things could've been so much better for me. What kind of parent doesn't want the best for their kids? Pretending that ADHD deficits are "superpowers" would be like saying my brother's permanent paralysis and inability to use his legs ever again is a "superpower". Absolutely ridiculous.
@ my father-in-law, my significant other, my brother, my niece, my cousin my friends all were diagnosed with ADHD at a very young age. My father-in-law is one of the wealthiest people in my state top 1%. My fiancé is one of the greatest skateboarders that has ever lived commended by Tony Hawk. My brother lives in a mansion and is an excellent paramedic and firefighter. My niece is still young and she will learn to use her quirks to get her places neurotypical people would dream of going. If being the victim has helped you get this far in life. There’s nothing wrong with that, but I will teach her that if the system thinks there’s something wrong with her then there’s something wrong with the system. If the test is who can climb up the tree, the best between a monkey, a dog, a cat and a fish the fish isn’t paralyzed, It just doesn’t climb trees. Do what works for you and if using it as an excuse, comforts your mediocrity, I’m happy for you
The world has taught you that you are the problem and that you have trouble paying attention when in reality, the world is the problem. The world has trouble controlling your attention. And for that, they blame you. For that they made you blame yourself. They said it’s your fault. And that you were broken and unfixable. Paralyzed. Well you’re not. You most literally can walk further work harder feel more deeply than most Neurotypical people can stand to in their lifetime literally because of your Neurodivergence and you see that as a deficit? Wake up.
We all need education, correction, adjustment, discipline, shaping.
Thank you Dr. K! My daughter is only 2, but I have and struggled with ADHD as a kid and want to be as prepared as possible for my daughter. At what age can these practices be implemented? Can eyes on daddy be taught to a 2 year old?
Excellent info ... Thanks a tonne ❤
Please do a video on young teen girls aged 12/13 symptoms with ADD.and ADHD
I’m newly diagnosed ADHD at age 40. In hindsight I can’t believe I didn’t realise I had it (well I did suspect) I just thought everyone struggled like I do, they were just better at coping than me.
Anyway, my daughter’s 5 and I can see she’s got it too. She used to be able to focus really well as a baby, and hold eye contact etc. but somewhere around 2.5 to 3 years she lost that ability. Is that typical?
I’m glad she won’t go through what I went through. I feel like I’m having an existential crisis on medication now trying to work out what’s me, what’s masking, and what’s the ADHD.
Medication? It's meth. Why get diagnosed? 😕
I swear it's like people do not want to be normal.
If any of this works, please make this shorter and to the point (because you’re probably talking to parents with ADHD). My parents sucked and I think it’s mostly because they had no idea how to deal with me. After some years, they don’t even care. If they knew at least some things to try, maybe I wouldn’t still be dealing with this shit 30 years later. Honestly can’t believe I’m even still alive. ❤
From another perspective.
I have adhd and looking back on my childhood, just because your parents did something it doesn’t mean we should do it.
I remember the first time I said “wet Willy”to my daughter and I was laughing and she just looked at me in disgust.
I instantly realized she knows what a willy is and how wrong it is to cross out children’s boundaries and by saying “wet Willy”
Please think about these games that violate children’s boundaries.
A child that doesn’t feel comfortable speaking up and feels not listened too, will be a child that looks back on childhood with an emotional neglected childhood.
Simply coming up close and tapping them on the shoulder is enough.
With a gentle tone and a smile on the face will be enough.
What would my life have been like w this type of guidance at age 5? At age 63 there is little to nothing for adults w ADHD.
Last night I cried half an hour. My 6yo has adhd and he always puts himself in danger, every second of every day. I can literally not take any more scares. Ever second my heart jumps, cause he has all sorts of accidents from jumping on window sills and kitchen counters, etc. I also have adhd so fighting with the rage which comes with each time I get scared, is eating me up alive. I have decided to try medication with him because he is also minimally verbal, but I don't know if it will help. I am a single mum and I really hate adhd. I feel so guilty for shouting at my child, and I feel disgusted by myself for having it as well and for reacting sometimes the way I do. Adhd sucks!
I have a 35 year old daughter with ADHD. She’s successful in a profession she loves and is happily married. She credits her ADHD management to meditation and my behavior management methods based on cognitive behavioral psychology. I’m a child psychologist. I don’t use cognitive behavioral psychology in my private practice, but it’s great for training good habits without nagging. It sounds like you’re doing something similar. Hang in there! It works!
Thank you ❤🙏🏾
Dr K, can I ask please? Are there any other genetic conditions that result in behavioural problems in a similar way to ADHD?
I need help. I have a child with ASD and ADHD. It's quite severe ADHD but I'm just so concerned about medicating. Please don't judge me whatever side of the fence you're on, but I'd really appreciate advice. EDIT: I need help with choice re medication not life. My sons my world!!
I suspected my daughter had ADHD, like me, but my husband doesn't believe it, says she just has selective hearing and she needs to be more responsible. I wish he was on board earlier so we could have tried this. Now she's 12 and needs different approach. I would never medicate.
Thank you❤
Where could I find more games for ADHD kids to learn emotion regulating, control impulsees?
Wow, so powerful
my daughter got diagnosed with dyspraxia . . she also has poor regulatory issues
Can you train for time blindness??
Amazing dad 😮❤❤
“FASCINATING” says the special education teacher who is a mother with ADHD and has a daughter with ADHD
What does it do in adult life?
great stuff
Will these exercises work for adults? I'm almost 47 and I still can't sit in the dark alone, slightest intonation change in talking can send me down a spiral that become rumination and then a month has passed and I don't remember much.
Children with ADHD which is left unrecognised and unsupported also notoriously burn teachers and other children out.
One Dad to another,
I was diagnosed with adhd about a year or two ago and since I have seen many similarities between my 4 yo daughter and my diagnosis and how you describe the difference between your two children. I want to do what’s best for her but is 4 too young to tell? Or is there really no harm in trying these things?
Sure Dad,The earlier the better.
Talking for 28 minutes straight without even goofing off once - you did very well. Who is a good psychiatrist? YOU ARE... ;)
Being yelled at sucks. I actually had a cellphone since like 4th grade so i could have been called by anyone that needed me. But they would still yell at me. Even if my door was open they wouldnt come in to get my attention, they woudl yell at me.
Dr. K, have you considered giving your daughter fish oil to support her brain development (in addition to everything else)? That’s what my functional neurologist suggested to me when I was younger.
Every such product on the shelf is rancid...
@@Baptized_in_Fire. Except for the ones that aren’t...
@@DennisBolanos which don't exist
@@Baptized_in_Fire. Maybe in your world.
Overdiagnzoed adhd and underdiagnosed addictions.
Can we already stop calling it attention disorder!!! ADHD is a depression response! It’s not that those kids will develop depression because they have difficulty to function in the society, they start off with trauma or brain wiring that causes depression, and ADHD is a motivation disorder. Those kids have no motivation to be focused on one task for long. Games are an exception as they keep the child motivated to go on, by gathering points, treasures and so on. They are capable to focus if they are motivated, and anger is due to grief!!! Kids that grow up without mother in a daycare will not be able to regulate their emotions as the mentioned amygdala is overstimulated due to constant trauma of separation with the mother!
Indeed they go by the visual, they do what they see if they are busy with one thing but will notice another they move on the other activity. They move on something else in the search of dopamine (to soothe them). Those kids often bite their nails, need sort of a fidget when they are trying to focus on something demanding effort.
the burp on the mic made my stomach turn