I am 70 years old and my Vietnamese wife is 66 years old -- and I can say that what you talk about is 100 % true !! Great video for those wanting to date a beautiful Vietnamese lady.
Wow, this is actually the comment I'm looking for. With this video, it took me extra time than normal videos to edit, so thank you for your appreciation in the editing part. (from Trang)
I enjoyed your video and explanations very much. I see this is a 2 year old video so will check for more recent ones. Thank you again and look forward to learning about Vietnamese women and the culture. I also hope to be able to use your tips and suggestions.
Not sure where they are getting the info that a man doesn’t pay for everything in America Women in America are, well I wont say it because YT is very, you know
sorry to tell you at this era you can't survive without money. No one would agree to marry someone who is jobless and homeless unless they are already jobless and homeless too. It's sad but it's the reality back in the day you still have a hut and terrain left by your ancestors to grow vegetables and survive nowdays everything belong to the governement and unless you buy a terrain you can't do that
@@cgigammez5749 Funny you say that I didn't see a single person where I live do that neither men or women. First of all I said both homeless and jobless , there are more homeless men than homeless women you know why ? Women get more help by the governement to find job and a place to live than men, that's a fact. Most jobless ppl are not homeless they live with their parents . I was talking about ppl who have nothing going on in their life no home no job nothing ... Unless you have hero complex I don't see why you would willingly marry someone like that unless you are super rich and can afford take care of an extra person and you really love them which the likehood for that to happen is under 1%. you expect the eprson you marry to contribute in your relationship and not being a burder that's pretty fair
My vietnamese wife (25) says these are generally true but NOT for all like her, so it is best to inquire than to assume. The video sort of touched on this around if they are educated etc. but I think it is more complex than that as not all have access to the education they want and need.
I dated a Vietnamese woman. She was constantly accusing me of cheating. After 5 years with her, I found out that guys on FB were asking her to respond to their texts. They told her she was beautiful and they wanted to get to know her. She never told them she had a boyfriend. It was years before we broke up on an extra FB account she created. So, I'm certain she was the cheater projecting her infidelity on to me. But I'm not jaded. I'm being introduced to a couple of Vietnamese women this weekend.
as always, it depends on each individual, even though most of these are true in my opinion. From my POV: - The guy should pay on the first date. If we plan to meet more often in the future, I'm willing to share. - Privacy: I don't have to know about every little detail of what my partner's doing with their life. If it's being loyal that the woman worries about, then they should find someone better who doesn't make her feel uneasy. It's also more like a person's mindset rather than culture thing. - Family: I dont' agree with this. my partner can form bonds with the family but letting them live under the circumstance of "marrying the whole family" is too much for them and even for me.
What a wonderful video by such lovely ladies! Thank you for helping me avoid these mistakes! Personally, I would have made the mistake of letting the parents pay if they insisted multiple times because I wouldn't want them to feel like I am rejecting their generosity and maybe even making them feel like I think they need my charity. Here in Switzerland, this could be seen as rude. Also, I heard that Vietnamese women like to always check where their boyfriend is and what he is doing and I don't mind that but I didn't know this extended to passwords of all kinds and I thank you for the warning too. I would have nothing to hide from my girlfriend but it would certainly be a bit surprising for me at first, even though I don't mind it and think it's cute. Great job to all of you, your English is marvelous and your enthusiasm is contagious! Liked and subscribed :)
I am not Vietnamese but I am an Asian. I feel guilty if I am not paying for food for my gf. I always pay whenever i go out with my vietnamese gf but my gf she sometimes paid in advance before me... This is not just with gf. Even If I go out with my friends, if I am the one asking them for an outing, normally I will pay or sometimes my friend will insist to pay. The most important thing is mutual respect and understanding.I treasure this culture as long as ones not advantages on each other.
Hello, I have a question, I hope you can provide me an answer! I'm chatting with a vietnamese girl at the moment (I'm in VN and plan on staying long term), but I am the only one initiating communication, her answers are more than just pleasantries, she asks questions back, shares pictures etc. but I have to open the conversation every time. Is it customary or am I wasting my time ? (In the West, I would be seen as clingy and needy, but here I just want to show her that I'm interesting in her well-being.) Please help me, I really don't like the uncertainty of chatting online so it's a bit challenging to be centered. Have a good one!
I just broke up with my Vietnamese girlfriend the main reason is because she put pressure on me to please her family and try to manage my time and I’m someone that has a back bone and not afraid to hold back on my freedom at the same time I was giving her all she needed it and more but basically their relatives want you to hand over to every single thing that their culture demands and of course submit to it without any critical thinking at the end of you go along you will be mentally castrated
Im liking Vietnam more and more everyday. I have the bad habit of always paying for every date and I love to be a gentleman and take the lead. Much better than avg American woman and I live here. Honestly very educational and loved it !
If the girl is pretty she’ll have 7 guys on the payroll. meaning they just call you up for a free meal for them and their friends. And every date they will recommend you take them to a $200 plus a night dinner/date. With a bottle of wine is $300 a night plus and they’ll ask to bring a friend Remember, your NOT a human being, you’re just a walking ATM machine
@@altran1125 very true. I know Vietnamese isn't an easy language to learn but I already know Spanish. I know if I like vietnam then I will start learning it. Thanks to this channel Vietnam has a lot of things I like for southeast Asia.
@@jaws2003 Written Vietnamese uses the Latin alphabet, it was created by Portuguese and Spanish priests when they came to Viet Nam as missionaries more than three centuries ago. The written language is phonetic. If you already know Spanish, it will be easier for you. The harder part is the different tonal accents for the same word. For that, it would be useful if you have a musical background. A Canadian friend of mine could do it right away. He was a member of a choir. As for bulking up your vocabulary, it's the same as for learning any new language. Good luck.
Thank you Trang and the team at Duong Global Business Consulting Group. I think it's nice that this channel makes videos on a variety of topics. I feel that the topic of this video is very informative and helpful when it comes to intercultural communication and understanding different cultural dating norms.
These are not the 7 mistakes when dating Vietnamese women, but the 7 problems. Culture is not an excuse to continue adopting bad dating habits. Especially when it's all about money: paying for everything, taking care of her, taking of her family, etc...
There is give and take in this concept of fairness. The same culture promotes positive elements for women in a relationship such as care and family responsibility. Typically in Vietnamese culture the man is given, using your lens of fairness, much more freedom than would be fair, and a disproportionately low level of responsibility in domestic and family care. The point of this video is to try to understand the culture, so in the context of dating in Vietnam, these are indeed mistakes.
Vietnamese culture is very deep and profoundly different from Western culture. Great job of educating Westerners. Being aware and sensitive to those differences is an absolute. Love is love, and if it was meant to be, everyone will be happy.
I fully agreed with you. I know this girl from hcm known her one week she became my gf and tell her huge debts. When i became soft hearted to offer help, i am the one who took up the huge debts. But alot of my friends including my sister told me not to fall into it. I did not help in the end.
Thank you for your kind comment, this is also the first time we do some fun content like this with other team members, I hope you will continue to support us in future videos too. (from Trang)
Forget it! This Vietkieu is NOT marrying a Vietnamese girl if I have to be responsible for her entire family😅😂😂 Take care of your own family problems. Sheesh
@Vietkieu3275 exactly since marriage is transactional why get into a business situation where you take on all liablities! Vietnamese culture has been consistantly poor through history becauuse of this. you have to continually give money to unproductive members of your family and society. Societies based on meritocracy like some in the west end up the richest.
Exactly! My second brother fell for it and now is suffering. My other brothers refuse to marry any girls from Vietnam. Two of my other brothers married a Vietkieu and a Chinese American. They are better off.
@@travysnazzy Let's face the reality here. 1) Most Vietkieu looking for a wife in Vietnam are due to the fact that they cannot afford Vietkieu females in the states, who have emulated their American sisters to be demanding and manipulating the legal system to clean out their soon-to-be exes. It is a mine field when things do not work out. 2) Many Vietkieu, due to their lower socio-economic, cannot find suitable partners among the local population who would meet their required age and look requirements. 3) Many other Vietkieu in their sunset years want to have a much younger wife....twenty to thirty years age gap. Paying for her family welfare is merely a business expense to make up for the age gap especially where they are well off and successful in the States. 4) Marriages in any culture/ethnicity are transactional as you pointed out. It is a contract between two parties. You give up this in order to get that. It is personal and varies from one individual to another. If the contract breaks both sides have their expectations which are not fulfilled either due to misleading and/or dishonest intention right from start.
@@gs2tab Yes, you need to be high value yourself to navigate with the upper class women. I was introduced to and married a lady in a middle class family with a very solid family tradition. Her family tree records have 15 generations of many noble mandarins going back to the middle of the 18th century. I myself am not wealthy but I have a PhD and can speak 3 languages. In the upper social strata, wealth is not the definitive winning criteria. Family tradition upbringing and high level of education are more important.
I met my Vietnamese girlfriend 2 years ago and all is really nice. I hope to go back there very soon, because it's a long time we are separated, because covid. We are really in love and we are hurry to see both again. I hope to go back in Vietnam very soon.
@@patrickrambeaux9796 wow that's so great too hear, me(filo) and my gf(viet) meet online and we plan to meet irl with families too in the future, do you have any suggestions I've already have ways but I want to hear your suggestions
Expectations are never a good thing, they lead to disappointment. Vietnamese feelings of insecurity also don't help, which, in itself, leads to expectations, not to mention jealousy. You cannot go with the flow if you have expectations.
Thank you! I'm Latino and we are very affectionate, and I've noticed the girl that I'm dating she's Vietnamese and she doesn't like public affection she had to explain that to me because I thought that she didn't like me because of that lol
As a vietnamese american raise up in the U.S. and dating my best friend in veitnam and about to get married. Alot of the thing in the video are so true and shocking even to me. Haha
Thank you so much Trang. Your friends did a good job, I hope they will make more appearances in the future. The video was great but I suspect there are a lot more than 7 mistakes foreigners make when dating a vietnamese girl. 😂
Thanks for your kind comment Steady Eddy, Hoa and Ngoc Anh would be very happy to know that you enjoy their contribution to the video, and yes, there are definitely more than 7 mistakes, maybe we will do a part 2 for this topic someday. (From Trang).
This video is straight facts. 💯 💯 💯 Real! I am going out with a Vietnamese girl and this is all true. Heed their advice and listen well for they grant the adequate knowledge required for this journey. Happy relationships yall :)
Well i got more éducateurs with you're video.I'm 80 years of age and found you're video very interesting.so i would like to see more videos of how you people live and maybe see more of you're countries beauty dear.😅
Haha.. what the hell? All I hear is pay this pay that, pay pay pay as its for gaining face. oh ok... But what kill me and is a major deal breaker. Your jealous GF need to have access to your smart phone.. and must know your password to your phone, FB, Gmail etc... haha. My financial life and net worth, access to all my stocks and banking is on "MY" phone, so Forget that.. all she get a a boot from me and me on to the next candidate
That's the one rule I think is actually not so common. I don't know any foreign-Vietnamese couples who are like that. But it touches on a major factor for the importance of transparency. Jealousy is wild in Vietnam. Girls are super super jealous. It's probably because cheating (of all kinds!) is so common in the culture. It's also common for 1) Vietnamese men to transition their perception of their wife to simply the mother/carer of the kids, and 2) be sexually inexperienced when marrying. This increases their desire to play around, whether it be paid or not. Divorce is uncommon mostly because of the pressure on Vietnamese women; they are expected to stay loyal and keep the family together. In a divorce, women usually get the blame. They can even be blamed for the infidelity of their husband. So this allows men more freedom to try to fool around. Prostitution is ridiculously common too. It all comes down to proving that you have nothing to hide.
Trang and friends , I have learned so much information from you in the past few months about Vietnamese lifestyle and culture , thanks for great job and informative Videos .
They did very well you could tell they were reading lines, however I started out by reading lines and so does everybody else that has to speak in public as part of transition. And your friends did excellent.
@@stevenfisher2804 Bui Vien is fun to experience, but 1) It has been through some changes during the scamdemic, and may not be the same when you and I are allowed back in, and 2) Unless you're seeking bar girls and "Paid relationships" you'll do far better by looking in other places -- language classes/exchange, international gatherings, and even parks or shopping malls.
Dating sites and girls you meet at bars are rarely quality material. Try NGO's doing charity work, church activity groups or similar organizations where you can meet volunteers. Buddhist temples are best, but you have a serious language and religious barrier unless you are lucky enough to meet somebody who is an English teacher, somebody educated enough to be fluent in English, or who studied abroad. Aim for middle class social strata or higher, instead of bar girls. Or get personal/business introductions into a good family Just be aware you may be dealing with someone (a lot) richer (million+ USD) and more educated than yourself (Masters, PhD). I myself married somebody from an old aristocratic family by introduction. Good luck.
One fact that became clear from the interviews conducted was that the double standard was still very much in operation. I agree if guys make more, they should pay more. But it simply sounds like expectations are set take care of her AND her family members.
That is why I don’t think anyone should marry a Vietnamese girl from Vietnam as they are greedy. I am Vietnamese American and am sooooo different from them. One of my brothers married a girl from Vietnam and is suffering now. They are so greedy.
I'm an American living in the US. There are a lot of Vietnamese girls who have immigrated here and have lived in the US for a number of years. (1) Do you think the expectations outlined in your video are true for expat Vietnamese girls living in the US? Or put another way, do you think they have become "Americanized"? I get the feeling, prior to going out on a 1st date with a lady in whom I'm interested that she still holds on to her native Vietnam values (she's from Saigon) and its customs and she isn't really feeling "Americanized". I want things to go smoothly. Do you have any additional thoughts on the subject matter? (2) I'm a generation older than she is. She's in her 50's and I'm in my 70's. I'm not feeling that the numerical age difference is any big deal with her. Do you have any thoughts about age disparity? (3) We're planning on having a nice dinner at a restaurant that specializes in Thai, Loatian and Vietnamese cuisine (as opposed to a 'fast food' fried rice and sushi place). I'm thinking she'll enjoy that. Any thoughts? (4) After a 1st date, would a kiss goodbye be appropriate? Or is that considered too 'forward'? Thanks.
1) Culture does not change much for an adult expat. Being born and raised in the US is different. Those will behave more like typical Americans. 2) Age difference should not be a factor for people over 50. IMO. 3) Should be OK. 4) No kiss. I don't kiss my Vietnamese wife in public. Once I held her waist walking at a Têt festival and people were staring at us. You are lucky if she let you hold her hand after 3+ dates. Good luck.
as long time here and married for vietnamese i can say : different culture different understandings about life and living you marry viet girl make sure you got a deep pockets will support mother father sisters and brothers every month someone will need money if u cant give money food from the fridge will disappear its not what western belive she will stay home take care house kkkkk BIG NO. all he time she will show off she is married foreigner and she is rich that what it means firegner = unlimited money and this is the best the best scenario worse is she takes money from you and give it to young lover cheating in VN is very common you need buy new SH moto and gold diamands so she get the insurance incase you break up she can resell and keep living good until next carp :))
Learn from your mistakes. Apply your knowledge and experience to your next relationship. A good Vietnamese woman is like a precious gem. You need to discover, polish and cherish them to make them yours. Good luck.
The west was like that back in the 60s men would always pay now they go on dates and split the bill . They don’t get too far in Vietnam doing that ,they would be considered worse then a cheap Charlie. Girls any man that doesn’t pick up the bill run as fast as you can he isn’t worth your time
I live in Hanoi and what they say in this video is pretty true. Their culture is what matters, yours, however, doesn't matter in the slightest. That's why I'm still single 😂
Goodday Trang, Congratulations on your new video & wish you & all the girls all the best going forward. Yes I was in a relationship with a Vietnamese girl for 2 years here in Australia. Very challenging, but also once you understand the Vietnamese culture it was a fantastic relationship with loyalty and honety. Unfortunately her visa ran out & returned to Vietnam & since married & has had 3 children. We are still friends secretly. One big deal about marrying a Westerner is having mixed baby which is highly regarded in Vietnam. Is this still true. Your number 1 Fan in Australia Louis Kats from Melbourne Australia ☺ 👍 ❤
First off, how it is related to global business consulting? Then paying for a girl?? Well, your audience is not all sexpat!! I really feel offended when I see that! And why not a video "dating a vietnamese man?". Oh yeah I forgot... sexpats, right? And yeah, it looks like everything is related to money when it's about dating a girl in your opinion!
Location 6:48 That's a test a lot of parents use to test their daughter's boyfriend when they first meet him so never ever fall for that trap. I don't understand this. Isn't the Vietnamese girlfriend supposed to train her foreigner boyfriend upfront in regards to how to act when her parents or elders are around, or whether to pay the entire dinner bill or not and how not to fall in the trap? If I am going to introduce my Vietnamese girlfriend to my parents, I will properly train her beforehand as to how to greet them, how to sit, how to talk and what not to say.
Well, to be honest, number 3 is completely no-go zone, are we westeners cows to be milked or what ? If I marry girl, I marry only her, why should I care for neigboors, or relatives ? Ok, for parents I care, yes, but not for whole family, that is way too much. Or this number 3 is more problem with families wihout education, or living on the village ? I am so confused, please help me out.
Hello everyone. Good video and thanks for the instructions. I am 52 years old and divorced after 29 years of marriage. I would like to meet one such Vietnamese woman with whom I will spend the rest of my life.🙂. Which site can you recommend but that it is not just a scam.
Practically all topics are ok for me. Except for #6 is a BIG contentious topic between my VN girlfriend and I. I tend to be extremely affectionate in public due to my culture & personal upbringing while my GF is reserved when she is outside. Flirting In front of Parents/siblings i can understand that would make her uncomfortable. However I feel no shame with a bit of flirting in public / around acquaintances. So basically I feel sometimes rejected even after all these years.
At the moment, the Vietnamese government has not given permission. The husbands of Vietnamese girls have been abroad for two years, and their wives are with them.
What is the name of the beautiful lady appear @2:49/10:40? Can I date her? just joking....good to share some interesting topics apart from the hardcore business stuff. Good job!
@@duongglobalbusinessconsulting Chao em Trang, thank you for the info. Should I need legal advice in the future, I know who to look for. Looking forward to more interesting contents. :-)
I am 70 years old and my Vietnamese wife is 66 years old -- and I can say that what you talk about is 100 % true !! Great video for those wanting to date a beautiful Vietnamese lady.
Glad you like this video!
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Thank you ladies, you presented professionally and the content was educational
Good editing! Cute!
The ladies did fine.
Wow, this is actually the comment I'm looking for. With this video, it took me extra time than normal videos to edit, so thank you for your appreciation in the editing part. (from Trang)
I enjoyed your video and explanations very much. I see this is a 2 year old video so will check for more recent ones. Thank you again and look forward to learning about Vietnamese women and the culture. I also hope to be able to use your tips and suggestions.
Thanks for watching!
Great video! Thanks! :)😊
I only have a problem with taking care of the family, and giving the girl my social media and email password😂🤦🏿♂️
Very helpful! Thank you!
Be careful. She paid for the first date now I am paying for the rest of my life. 😂
Same here 🤦🏽🤣🤣🤣
@@jervarolburke6315 I am ViettKiue and I know this trap. Do not do it!
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Not sure where they are getting the info that a man doesn’t pay for everything in America
Women in America are, well I wont say it because YT is very, you know
Woaaah same here she paid first date wouldn’t let me??!
Helpful video if Vietnam ever opens back up for regular tourists. Hopefully before I get old...
You all did a great job in my opinion. Keep up the great content.
Sooo... It´s all about money, anytime and anywhere. Having money (as a western guy) is the best way to find the heart of a vietnamese woman
this is the same in every part of the world
Well, in the west, they will divorce you and get half of your house, car and money in the bank.
sorry to tell you at this era you can't survive without money. No one would agree to marry someone who is jobless and homeless unless they are already jobless and homeless too. It's sad but it's the reality back in the day you still have a hut and terrain left by your ancestors to grow vegetables and survive nowdays everything belong to the governement and unless you buy a terrain you can't do that
@@isegard2957 You say "No one" but men do it all the time.
@@cgigammez5749 Funny you say that I didn't see a single person where I live do that neither men or women.
First of all I said both homeless and jobless , there are more homeless men than homeless women you know why ? Women get more help by the governement to find job and a place to live than men, that's a fact. Most jobless ppl are not homeless they live with their parents . I was talking about ppl who have nothing going on in their life no home no job nothing ...
Unless you have hero complex I don't see why you would willingly marry someone like that unless you are super rich and can afford take care of an extra person and you really love them which the likehood for that to happen is under 1%. you expect the eprson you marry to contribute in your relationship and not being a burder that's pretty fair
My vietnamese wife (25) says these are generally true but NOT for all like her, so it is best to inquire than to assume. The video sort of touched on this around if they are educated etc. but I think it is more complex than that as not all have access to the education they want and need.
Correct. Everybody is different, as mentioned in the video.
I dated a Vietnamese woman. She was constantly accusing me of cheating. After 5 years with her, I found out that guys on FB were asking her to respond to their texts. They told her she was beautiful and they wanted to get to know her. She never told them she had a boyfriend. It was years before we broke up on an extra FB account she created. So, I'm certain she was the cheater projecting her infidelity on to me. But I'm not jaded. I'm being introduced to a couple of Vietnamese women this weekend.
hello....no one is cheating.... this is life.... wake up.... if u fear being cheated....dont get involved....find a hobby...keep a pet....hahhahahah
common old school tactics used commonly by them. its like thief calling a thief to setup distraction.
Cute video. It was informative 👍
Glad you liked it!
Excellent video. Thank you for helping men understand the cultural differences. This should help mutual respect and communication.
Very helpful video. Im coming this year to Vietnam and wants to dating girls in a serious way, so big thanks for your advices.
Thank you for you advice !
Thank you for the information
Excellent video thanks
You are welcome. Be sure to subscribe!
as always, it depends on each individual, even though most of these are true in my opinion. From my POV:
- The guy should pay on the first date. If we plan to meet more often in the future, I'm willing to share.
- Privacy: I don't have to know about every little detail of what my partner's doing with their life. If it's being loyal that the woman worries about, then they should find someone better who doesn't make her feel uneasy. It's also more like a person's mindset rather than culture thing.
- Family: I dont' agree with this. my partner can form bonds with the family but letting them live under the circumstance of "marrying the whole family" is too much for them and even for me.
This helped me out a lot. Some unresolved closure from a very painful experience
Good video Trang. Good to know the cultural differences. 👍🏼
I have learned a lot i will apply this!😊
The girls interviewed on this video did a great job. I am considering moving to Vietnam and this is extremely valuable information to have. Thank you
Thank you for this informative video
Glad it was helpful!
I can see why Vietnam is Developing faster. Very honest and smart people.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🙏
Thanks for watching!
“Honest” lmfao!!!
ur best video yet. fun and entertaining
I think they both presented well, and have adorable voices.
i made every mistake in this video, but shes still with me after years. guess i got a keeper
What a wonderful video by such lovely ladies! Thank you for helping me avoid these mistakes! Personally, I would have made the mistake of letting the parents pay if they insisted multiple times because I wouldn't want them to feel like I am rejecting their generosity and maybe even making them feel like I think they need my charity. Here in Switzerland, this could be seen as rude. Also, I heard that Vietnamese women like to always check where their boyfriend is and what he is doing and I don't mind that but I didn't know this extended to passwords of all kinds and I thank you for the warning too. I would have nothing to hide from my girlfriend but it would certainly be a bit surprising for me at first, even though I don't mind it and think it's cute. Great job to all of you, your English is marvelous and your enthusiasm is contagious! Liked and subscribed :)
Thank you very informative
Thanks for watching!
I am not Vietnamese but I am an Asian. I feel guilty if I am not paying for food for my gf. I always pay whenever i go out with my vietnamese gf but my gf she sometimes paid in advance before me... This is not just with gf. Even If I go out with my friends, if I am the one asking them for an outing, normally I will pay or sometimes my friend will insist to pay. The most important thing is mutual respect and understanding.I treasure this culture as long as ones not advantages on each other.
Hello, I have a question, I hope you can provide me an answer!
I'm chatting with a vietnamese girl at the moment (I'm in VN and plan on staying long term), but I am the only one initiating communication, her answers are more than just pleasantries, she asks questions back, shares pictures etc. but I have to open the conversation every time. Is it customary or am I wasting my time ?
(In the West, I would be seen as clingy and needy, but here I just want to show her that I'm interesting in her well-being.)
Please help me, I really don't like the uncertainty of chatting online so it's a bit challenging to be centered.
Have a good one!
So, how did you go?
I won't take full responsibility for her family's problems.
I just broke up with my Vietnamese girlfriend the main reason is because she put pressure on me to please her family and try to manage my time and I’m someone that has a back bone and not afraid to hold back on my freedom at the same time I was giving her all she needed it and more but basically their relatives want you to hand over to every single thing that their culture demands and of course submit to it without any critical thinking at the end of you go along you will be mentally castrated
Im liking Vietnam more and more everyday. I have the bad habit of always paying for every date and I love to be a gentleman and take the lead. Much better than avg American woman and I live here. Honestly very educational and loved it !
If the girl is pretty she’ll have 7 guys on the payroll. meaning they just call you up for a free meal for them and their friends. And every date they will recommend you take them to a $200 plus a night dinner/date. With a bottle of wine is $300 a night plus and they’ll ask to bring a friend Remember, your NOT a human being, you’re just a walking ATM machine
Thank you , I learned a lot from your video . 🌺. ❤️.
Glad it was helpful!
Very interesting, your assistants are very informative. Job well done? 😊
Thank you! 😃
I know this would be a hot topic!!! This is good to know. I wonder how learning Vietnamese will help you.
@@altran1125 very true. I know Vietnamese isn't an easy language to learn but I already know Spanish. I know if I like vietnam then I will start learning it. Thanks to this channel Vietnam has a lot of things I like for southeast Asia.
@@jaws2003 Written Vietnamese uses the Latin alphabet, it was created by Portuguese and Spanish priests when they came to Viet Nam as missionaries more than three centuries ago. The written language is phonetic. If you already know Spanish, it will be easier for you. The harder part is the different tonal accents for the same word. For that, it would be useful if you have a musical background. A Canadian friend of mine could do it right away. He was a member of a choir. As for bulking up your vocabulary, it's the same as for learning any new language. Good luck.
@見義 very true and thanks for the encouragement!!
good job thanks
Thank you Trang and the team at Duong Global Business Consulting Group. I think it's nice that this channel makes videos on a variety of topics. I feel that the topic of this video is very informative and helpful when it comes to intercultural communication and understanding different cultural dating norms.
Thank you for your kind comment, we appreciate it.
These are not the 7 mistakes when dating Vietnamese women, but the 7 problems.
Culture is not an excuse to continue adopting bad dating habits. Especially when it's all about money: paying for everything, taking care of her, taking of her family, etc...
There is give and take in this concept of fairness. The same culture promotes positive elements for women in a relationship such as care and family responsibility. Typically in Vietnamese culture the man is given, using your lens of fairness, much more freedom than would be fair, and a disproportionately low level of responsibility in domestic and family care. The point of this video is to try to understand the culture, so in the context of dating in Vietnam, these are indeed mistakes.
@@gs2tab I'm Vietnamese and I don't believe this is good culture. It's both retrograde and reductive.
@@KelGhu Perhaps you meant "reactive" instead of "reductive"?
I'm in NY, my fiance is in CT, and she's not like this. I often pay but on many occasions she has said, no, I'll pay
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Maybe because she’s American?!!
What happens if i dont help them out? i dont even help out my own family except my sister/mother
You are right it’s both entertaining and challenging 😂😂😂
Interesting, thanks.
Thanks for watching!
They did a great job! 👍🏽
Vietnamese culture is very deep and profoundly different from Western culture. Great job of educating Westerners. Being aware and sensitive to those differences is an absolute. Love is love, and if it was meant to be, everyone will be happy.
until she ask you to buy her parents a house, then you say " do you want to leave through the door or the window "😂
I fully agreed with you. I know this girl from hcm known her one week she became my gf and tell her huge debts. When i became soft hearted to offer help, i am the one who took up the huge debts. But alot of my friends including my sister told me not to fall into it. I did not help in the end.
i never expected this channel to have content like this. interesting video 🙌
Thank you for your kind comment, this is also the first time we do some fun content like this with other team members, I hope you will continue to support us in future videos too. (from Trang)
NO MONEY, NO HONEY PERIOD ! : )
Hahaha yeah right!
No money no honey, no **
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well, then try to improve your sex skills and you'll see you won't have to pay.
Thanks for all tgat info4mqtion . Some a learn for my next viet nam trip.
Glad it was helpful!
Forget it! This Vietkieu is NOT marrying a Vietnamese girl if I have to be responsible for her entire family😅😂😂 Take care of your own family problems. Sheesh
@Vietkieu3275 exactly since marriage is transactional why get into a business situation where you take on all liablities! Vietnamese culture has been consistantly poor through history becauuse of this. you have to continually give money to unproductive members of your family and society. Societies based on meritocracy like some in the west end up the richest.
Exactly! My second brother fell for it and now is suffering. My other brothers refuse to marry any girls from Vietnam. Two of my other brothers married a Vietkieu and a Chinese American. They are better off.
How about a girl from a wealthy Vietnamese family? But you have to be high value already, especially in wealth.
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Let's face the reality here.
1) Most Vietkieu looking for a wife in Vietnam are due to the fact that they cannot afford Vietkieu females in the states, who have emulated their American sisters to be demanding and manipulating the legal system to clean out their soon-to-be exes. It is a mine field when things do not work out.
2) Many Vietkieu, due to their lower socio-economic, cannot find suitable partners among the local population who would meet their required age and look requirements.
3) Many other Vietkieu in their sunset years want to have a much younger wife....twenty to thirty years age gap. Paying for her family welfare is merely a business expense to make up for the age gap especially where they are well off and successful in the States.
4) Marriages in any culture/ethnicity are transactional as you pointed out. It is a contract between two parties. You give up this in order to get that. It is personal and varies from one individual to another. If the contract breaks both sides have their expectations which are not fulfilled either due to misleading and/or dishonest intention right from start.
@@gs2tab Yes, you need to be high value yourself to navigate with the upper class women. I was introduced to and married a lady in a middle class family with a very solid family tradition. Her family tree records have 15 generations of many noble mandarins going back to the middle of the 18th century. I myself am not wealthy but I have a PhD and can speak 3 languages. In the upper social strata, wealth is not the definitive winning criteria. Family tradition upbringing and high level of education are more important.
I met my Vietnamese girlfriend 2 years ago and all is really nice. I hope to go back there very soon, because it's a long time we are separated, because covid. We are really in love and we are hurry to see both again. I hope to go back in Vietnam very soon.
Hows life with your lover now?
@@Atto9o5 Now i live in Vietnam, i'm maried, i'm enjoying my time with my wife, it's amazing 👍🇻🇳
@@patrickrambeaux9796 wow that's so great too hear, me(filo) and my gf(viet) meet online and we plan to meet irl with families too in the future, do you have any suggestions I've already have ways but I want to hear your suggestions
@@Atto9o5 Ok, what kind of suggestions ?
@@patrickrambeaux9796 like Vietnam gifts or food suggestions so I can cook and impressed her parents
Expectations are never a good thing, they lead to disappointment. Vietnamese feelings of insecurity also don't help, which, in itself, leads to expectations, not to mention jealousy. You cannot go with the flow if you have expectations.
Nice video!
Glad you enjoyed it
Thank you! I'm Latino and we are very affectionate, and I've noticed the girl that I'm dating she's Vietnamese and she doesn't like public affection she had to explain that to me because I thought that she didn't like me because of that lol
Thanks for sharing, I invite I pay.
Thanks for the video. :)
As a vietnamese american raise up in the U.S. and dating my best friend in veitnam and about to get married. Alot of the thing in the video are so true and shocking even to me. Haha
Xin chao! Thank you a lot to made this video ,you know I'm a Pilipino so I have vetnamis friend that's why I learned a little vetnamis language
Glad it was helpful!
@@duongglobalbusinessconsulting absolutely!
I’d like to meet my girlfriend’s family 😂😅. I wasn’t expecting Duong global to give dating advice
I’m thinking this video was the girls’ idea as a PSA. 😆
Thank you. I'm dating a vietnamese woman and trying to learn customs.
Thank you so much Trang. Your friends did a good job, I hope they will make more appearances in the future. The video was great but I suspect there are a lot more than 7 mistakes foreigners make when dating a vietnamese girl. 😂
Thanks for your kind comment Steady Eddy, Hoa and Ngoc Anh would be very happy to know that you enjoy their contribution to the video, and yes, there are definitely more than 7 mistakes, maybe we will do a part 2 for this topic someday. (From Trang).
This video is straight facts. 💯 💯 💯 Real! I am going out with a Vietnamese girl and this is all true. Heed their advice and listen well for they grant the adequate knowledge required for this journey. Happy relationships yall :)
Well i got more éducateurs with you're video.I'm 80 years of age and found you're video very interesting.so i would like to see more videos of how you people live and maybe see more of you're countries beauty dear.😅
Haha.. what the hell? All I hear is pay this pay that, pay pay pay as its for gaining face. oh ok... But what kill me and is a major deal breaker. Your jealous GF need to have access to your smart phone.. and must know your password to your phone, FB, Gmail etc... haha. My financial life and net worth, access to all my stocks and banking is on "MY" phone, so Forget that.. all she get a a boot from me and me on to the next candidate
That's the one rule I think is actually not so common. I don't know any foreign-Vietnamese couples who are like that. But it touches on a major factor for the importance of transparency. Jealousy is wild in Vietnam. Girls are super super jealous. It's probably because cheating (of all kinds!) is so common in the culture. It's also common for 1) Vietnamese men to transition their perception of their wife to simply the mother/carer of the kids, and 2) be sexually inexperienced when marrying. This increases their desire to play around, whether it be paid or not. Divorce is uncommon mostly because of the pressure on Vietnamese women; they are expected to stay loyal and keep the family together. In a divorce, women usually get the blame. They can even be blamed for the infidelity of their husband. So this allows men more freedom to try to fool around. Prostitution is ridiculously common too. It all comes down to proving that you have nothing to hide.
Trang and friends , I have learned so much information from you in the past few months about Vietnamese lifestyle and culture , thanks for great job and informative Videos .
Thank you very much for watching this video.
Shit! I'm a vietnamese man researching how to date a vietnamese girl
They did very well you could tell they were reading lines, however I started out by reading lines and so does everybody else that has to speak in public as part of transition. And your friends did excellent.
Where in Vietnam can one find single Vietnamese women? What about dating sites? Which ones are reliable? Very good video!
HCMC, district 1 bui vien
@@wtzan Thanks!
@@stevenfisher2804 Bui Vien is fun to experience, but 1) It has been through some changes during the scamdemic, and may not be the same when you and I are allowed back in, and 2) Unless you're seeking bar girls and "Paid relationships" you'll do far better by looking in other places -- language classes/exchange, international gatherings, and even parks or shopping malls.
@@dalexplym4882 Yes, I agree! Thanks for the info!
Dating sites and girls you meet at bars are rarely quality material. Try NGO's doing charity work, church activity groups or similar organizations where you can meet volunteers. Buddhist temples are best, but you have a serious language and religious barrier unless you are lucky enough to meet somebody who is an English teacher, somebody educated enough to be fluent in English, or who studied abroad. Aim for middle class social strata or higher, instead of bar girls. Or get personal/business introductions into a good family Just be aware you may be dealing with someone (a lot) richer (million+ USD) and more educated than yourself (Masters, PhD). I myself married somebody from an old aristocratic family by introduction. Good luck.
One fact that became clear from the interviews conducted was that the double standard was still very much in operation. I agree if guys make more, they should pay more. But it simply sounds like expectations are set take care of her AND her family members.
That is why I don’t think anyone should marry a Vietnamese girl from Vietnam as they are greedy. I am Vietnamese American and am sooooo different from them. One of my brothers married a girl from Vietnam and is suffering now. They are so greedy.
The exchange is that Vietnamese women are expected to take great care of men and the man's family. For many women, it's practically slave level.
I'm an American living in the US. There are a lot of Vietnamese girls who have immigrated here and have lived in the US for a number of years. (1) Do you think the expectations outlined in your video are true for expat Vietnamese girls living in the US? Or put another way, do you think they have become "Americanized"? I get the feeling, prior to going out on a 1st date with a lady in whom I'm interested that she still holds on to her native Vietnam values (she's from Saigon) and its customs and she isn't really feeling "Americanized". I want things to go smoothly. Do you have any additional thoughts on the subject matter? (2) I'm a generation older than she is. She's in her 50's and I'm in my 70's. I'm not feeling that the numerical age difference is any big deal with her. Do you have any thoughts about age disparity? (3) We're planning on having a nice dinner at a restaurant that specializes in Thai, Loatian and Vietnamese cuisine (as opposed to a 'fast food' fried rice and sushi place). I'm thinking she'll enjoy that. Any thoughts? (4) After a 1st date, would a kiss goodbye be appropriate? Or is that considered too 'forward'? Thanks.
Be natural. Go with the flow. You got 70+ years of experience. Be courteous, be nice, be yourself.
1) Culture does not change much for an adult expat. Being born and raised in the US is different. Those will behave more like typical Americans. 2) Age difference should not be a factor for people over 50. IMO. 3) Should be OK. 4) No kiss. I don't kiss my Vietnamese wife in public. Once I held her waist walking at a Têt festival and people were staring at us. You are lucky if she let you hold her hand after 3+ dates. Good luck.
as long time here and married for vietnamese i can say : different culture different understandings about life and living you marry viet girl make sure you got a deep pockets will support mother father sisters and brothers every month someone will need money if u cant give money food from the fridge will disappear its not what western belive she will stay home take care house kkkkk BIG NO. all he time she will show off she is married foreigner and she is rich that what it means firegner = unlimited money and this is the best the best scenario worse is she takes money from you and give it to young lover cheating in VN is very common you need buy new SH moto and gold diamands so she get the insurance incase you break up she can resell and keep living good until next carp :))
I’ve already made several mistakes that are unrecoverable 😫
Learn from your mistakes. Apply your knowledge and experience to your next relationship. A good Vietnamese woman is like a precious gem. You need to discover, polish and cherish them to make them yours. Good luck.
Thank you so much for the help!!
The west was like that back in the 60s men would always pay now they go on dates and split the bill .
They don’t get too far in Vietnam doing that ,they would be considered worse then a cheap Charlie.
Girls any man that doesn’t pick up the bill run as fast as you can he isn’t worth your time
I live in Hanoi and what they say in this video is pretty true. Their culture is what matters, yours, however, doesn't matter in the slightest. That's why I'm still single 😂
Is there any vietnamese girl here in Kuala Lumpur Malaysia? i would like to meet.
If you're a gentleman you'll do just fine 🕴
Agree!
Hello
How are you doing thank you for the update
Am coming to Vietnam hopefully we shall meet
Goodday Trang,
Congratulations on your new video & wish you & all the girls all the best going forward.
Yes I was in a relationship with a Vietnamese girl for 2 years here in Australia.
Very challenging, but also once you understand the Vietnamese culture it was a fantastic relationship with loyalty and honety.
Unfortunately her visa ran out & returned to Vietnam & since married & has had 3 children.
We are still friends secretly.
One big deal about marrying a Westerner is having mixed baby which is highly regarded in Vietnam.
Is this still true.
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First off, how it is related to global business consulting? Then paying for a girl?? Well, your audience is not all sexpat!! I really feel offended when I see that! And why not a video "dating a vietnamese man?". Oh yeah I forgot... sexpats, right?
And yeah, it looks like everything is related to money when it's about dating a girl in your opinion!
I know a man with cerebral palsy who married a Vietnamese-American woman and has a 12 year old son together.
Of course, why not? His physical condition should not define his persona.
Location 6:48 That's a test a lot of parents use to test their daughter's boyfriend when they first meet him so never ever fall for that trap.
I don't understand this. Isn't the Vietnamese girlfriend supposed to train her foreigner boyfriend upfront in regards to how to act when her parents or elders are around, or whether to pay the entire dinner bill or not and how not to fall in the trap?
If I am going to introduce my Vietnamese girlfriend to my parents, I will properly train her beforehand as to how to greet them, how to sit, how to talk and what not to say.
This is quite accurate. It definitely doesn't apply to all Vietnamese girls, but it's good to apply as a general rule.
Can I date a divorced Vietnamese woman or widow?
Yes, you can.
Thank you
huge respect to your nation people...god bless Vietnam .
Same in Brazil, the man pay all costs on a date days ... at home when u merried still the same ... sometimes both combine to share monthly expenses
if im paying for everything, is she going to be obedient?
no
Great Duong Team . Great video and insight
Well, to be honest, number 3 is completely no-go zone, are we westeners cows to be milked or what ? If I marry girl, I marry only her, why should I care for neigboors, or relatives ? Ok, for parents I care, yes, but not for whole family, that is way too much. Or this number 3 is more problem with families wihout education, or living on the village ? I am so confused, please help me out.
Hello everyone. Good video and thanks for the instructions. I am 52 years old and divorced after 29 years of marriage. I would like to meet one such Vietnamese woman with whom I will spend the rest of my life.🙂. Which site can you recommend but that it is not just a scam.
you can find vietnamcupid
But which one from the North or the South? In most cases different mentality
Practically all topics are ok for me.
Except for #6 is a BIG contentious topic between my VN girlfriend and I.
I tend to be extremely affectionate in public due to my culture & personal upbringing while my GF is reserved when she is outside.
Flirting In front of Parents/siblings i can understand that would make her uncomfortable.
However I feel no shame with a bit of flirting in public / around acquaintances.
So basically I feel sometimes rejected even after all these years.
I like the video choreography planing
At the moment, the Vietnamese government has not given permission. The husbands of Vietnamese girls have been abroad for two years, and their wives are with them.
I think that i’m going to stay single. It’s all the same everywhere.
Wow, so true! My Viet girlfriend wanted to check 2 hours my phone after the 3rd date!
good because I'm looking for a wife!
Very helpful video. Thanks
im in love with a Vietnamese girl she’s pure wifey material very respectful very mature
HOW MUCH DID YOU GET AS A LEADER OF THE SCAMMERS? MY VN GIRLFRIEND DOES NEVER ASK ME THINGS...AND I LIVE IN USA
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What is the name of the beautiful lady appear @2:49/10:40? Can I date her? just joking....good to share some interesting topics apart from the hardcore business stuff. Good job!
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