I’ve known I was into girls since I was a child. I’m in my late 20s now and have never dated a girl or hooked up with a girl. I think because it’s just easier to date guys. Doesn’t mean I’m not bisexual🤷♀️ Anyone I tell doesn’t believe me but I’ve always known how I feel.
Precisely! I’m a man who’s always been into women as far back as I can remember, and it wasn’t until I saw “Chuck and Larry” in high school that I thought about the possibility of being attracted to men in the same way as women. However, I realized that there are many levels of attraction, and I don’t feel comfortable being pressured to be attracted to just one sex or the other
I think it's a common theme for many bisexuals to struggle with imposter syndrome. God knows I did. But hearing this kind of stuff is very reassuring. Btw, I'm very happy to have stumbled on your channel of bi-positivity. The TH-cam algorithm did something right for once
Yes! My situation is almost identical to yours! I think after 5 months I'm just about starting to feel less of an imposter. There's a lot of the rubbish you talk about online but I'm beginning to think that most LGBTQ people, if not all, are actually incredibly supportive if you just reach out to them!💕
Hi Sarah! Thank you for sharing!! You're right - most people are extremely supportive when you're talking to them 1-on-1. I feel like a lot of the stigma I've heard about online hasn't been my experience with actual people, and I hope it stays that way!
My thoughts on this depends on context. I don't identify as bisexual and overall identify as either pan or queer. I am Polyamerous. I have two girlfriends as my primary relationships. However, in certain cirumstsnces I can develop emotionally intimate connections with my partner's partner(s). One of my girlfriends had a long term relationship with another man. He and I were no sexually attracted to each other but were very close friends. So much so there was assumptions we had sex with each other. In very isolated events I can have sexual attraction to men and that is fine. I never had sex with a man. I have had sexual contact with individuals that were transsexual women and men. I was attracted to them as them. Behavior and attraction wise I could easily be considered bisexual. I don't Identify that way because it truly is circumstantial and more emotional/intellectual than physically sexual attraction.
@@wesleybarrett9502 It sounds like what you’re saying is you identify based on what’s right for you. But if someone identifies as bi, they don’t have to have had sex with all the genders they’re attracted to.
Duh, of course yes. Sexual orientation is defined as attraction to a particular gender, which isn't even necessarily exclusively sexual attraction. The are asexual gays/lesbians/bis who don't want to have sex with any gender yet are romantically attracted to a particular gender or set of genders. Are asexual gays not gays because they don't have sex with men? I'd rather think they are. Thanks for the video! :)
I love the concept of the triangle! Definitely helps carve out my own definition ❤️ Short and sweet this week, but an important single question discussed!
I’m glad you found that helpful! I did too. I learned that during a consultation and it was so mind blowing honestly. Thanks as always for watching Michelle! 💜💜💫
What a great topic! I grew up in a religious home so I never really considered being with anyone other than a man. I've been with my husband for about 9 years now and I love him very much. For about a year I've been questioning. A part of me wonders if I'll ever know for sure if I'm bisexual if I never have a chance to be with a woman. Thinking about the points you made is helpful. I think I have a lot more thinking to do about this though, it's a struggle to figure out how to explore this while still being respectful to my husband.
The triangle makes so much sense! If you claim the label bisexual but are in a monogamous relationship you can't really "prove" your bisexuality with behaviours, even if you have dated multiple genders in the past. This would just invalidate bisexuality as a whole (which i don't want!!!)
Thank you so much for your honesty and your work. Because of your internal work, the TH-cam community including myself benefit from feeling loved, seen, and free.
Thank you so much for your awesome videos! I've been discovering my bisexuality within the last few months in spite of being in a "straight", monogamous relationship. Your content makes me feel less alone and helps me embrace my full magical self :) Sending love! 💜
Thank you sooooo much, this video sounds like you made it just for me ❤ I am also in commited monogamy relationship with a man (I am a woman), I was always biromantic, (i just didn't know untill I learned there's a term for it) and I do have some level of sexual desire for woman, which means that I am also bisexual (even thou I never had a relationship with a woman, but I still have one-sided 'romance' with my best and only female friend... So there it is, I am bi enought to identify as a bisexual, thank you sooo much 💖💜💙🌈
I feel like an imposter saying I’m straight, but also when I say I’m bi - I recently tried “mostly straight” and it felt super natural and also is true given my lean. I don’t know the extent of the lean because I recognize that I am socially conditioned. I think besides avoiding erasure, it’s important for me to understand what’s happening when I’m attracted to a man. Like you described as butterflies in the stomach - that can be really confusing if you don’t know it’s attraction. I used to find beautiful men really off-putting and I didn’t know why. Like, they made me feel weird like I was in the presence of a psychic vampire. I think it would’ve been easier to recognize being gay than it was bi in a society where I was expected to be straight I think I also hardcore resisted same sex attraction in part because I grew up doing theater and people already thought I was gay - which is super frustrating because they presumed to know me better than I knew myself. I think I remember thinking at night, “don’t end up gay. Don’t give them the satisfaction!” Living a bi lifestyle probably would have been a more fun way to show them These videos have been helpful. Seeing a monogamous bisexual own the label. Sorry to unload- I’m seeking therapy for my anxiety/ADHD and might discuss this when I get a therapist
thank you for sharing. i think it’s so valuable for people to see bi men speak up about this too. and everything you shared makes so much sense. it took me a while to realize how harmful it was when i assumed people were gay too (also in my theatre upbringing). i definitely encourage talking to a therapist about this just from my own experience. it really helped me organize my thoughts and emotions more and lessen their intensity a bit.
This vid was really helpful for me. I've always been into women, but I've also had moments where I felt attracted to men. I've come to see my sexuality as a spectrum. I remember feeling aroused watching a scene from "Commando" with Arnold Schwarzenegger. Looking back, I realize that was normal for me
How about if your suppose partner got pregnant for a guy and you're jealous, does that mean you're a lesbian or bisexual or bicurious? Just want to know
Thanks I didn't know it was possible when I was in 3rd grade I wondered if I could like females on day and 6 months later I wondered if it was possible I could like males then in sixth grade I thought I might and worried about it with people saying around me liked both I figured out I liked females but was to scared to check to see if I liked males also then in 8th grade I found out I liked both after a teacher and close friend said it on Valentine's day when I asked I kind of asked the close friend in front of the teacher but both responded and they were the first people to find out after I liked a guy but was still confused and was having to move schools for other reasons
@@jennicahill getting ready for senior year of high school and I have wanted to if I like males or females more but don't want to make decisions that will haunt me later and have been asked out a few times but have thought about waiting till after high school to date but have curious about how to tell if I like both and what it is like to be with either but only want to be in closed relationships if I choose to date
@@johnathanballard1304 Sounds like you're very thoroughly considering your values and feelings and desires, and that is so impressive. I wish you all the best!!
The thing about sexual freedom is the boundary is always expanding. So how would you handle an individual who wants to have sex with your young child? It’s what they identify with should it be acceptable to?
Without trying being rude to you, I have to say that is a ridiculous question. Healthy sexual relationships between consenting adults is a totally different thing than a sexual relationship with a young child, which is illegal and inherently not consensual. Your question seems inherently homophobic and biphobic to me, so I would invite you to take a look at why you are comparing sexual orientation with dangerous pedophilia. It doesn't make logical sense and is very harmful to those within then LGBTQIA2S+ community.
Maybe! If that is true for you, hell yeah! But also - just because you haven't had sex with anyone... doesn't mean you are asexual. (Maybe you were making a joke - just want to make sure you feel validated no matter what is true for you.)
@@jennicahill It was a joke but I'm really glad that you care so much about making sure everyone is validated. We need more people like you in the world!
that triangle was to.the.point. I m also in a monogamous straight relationship which I am not planning on changing, and have been thinking of those things, and that triangle. man... when I tell you I am relating. it is. to. another. level. I am sO GLAD the algorithm brought you to me. a godsend. that is my last comment for the day. lol, I am so sorry for spamming you xD
The triangle was such a game changer for me! Sorry - somehow I didn't get to see this comment for a while. I'm so glad the algorithm brought us together!
I’ve known I was into girls since I was a child. I’m in my late 20s now and have never dated a girl or hooked up with a girl. I think because it’s just easier to date guys. Doesn’t mean I’m not bisexual🤷♀️ Anyone I tell doesn’t believe me but I’ve always known how I feel.
Yes!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🏳️🌈🙌🏼
Agreed 👏👏
Agreed 100%👏
If you’ve always felt that you’re bi… then you are bi
Precisely! I’m a man who’s always been into women as far back as I can remember, and it wasn’t until I saw “Chuck and Larry” in high school that I thought about the possibility of being attracted to men in the same way as women. However, I realized that there are many levels of attraction, and I don’t feel comfortable being pressured to be attracted to just one sex or the other
I think it's a common theme for many bisexuals to struggle with imposter syndrome. God knows I did. But hearing this kind of stuff is very reassuring.
Btw, I'm very happy to have stumbled on your channel of bi-positivity. The TH-cam algorithm did something right for once
💗💜💙 🌟🌟🌟
There was a time when I felt like I was an imposter
Yes! My situation is almost identical to yours! I think after 5 months I'm just about starting to feel less of an imposter. There's a lot of the rubbish you talk about online but I'm beginning to think that most LGBTQ people, if not all, are actually incredibly supportive if you just reach out to them!💕
Hi Sarah! Thank you for sharing!! You're right - most people are extremely supportive when you're talking to them 1-on-1. I feel like a lot of the stigma I've heard about online hasn't been my experience with actual people, and I hope it stays that way!
I'm part of The Diva Community on Facebook and I've talked about this with a couple of times. They've been really nice. You should join us!!😆
@@sarahsings1291 The Diva Community?! Sounds fabulous.
My thoughts on this depends on context. I don't identify as bisexual and overall identify as either pan or queer. I am Polyamerous. I have two girlfriends as my primary relationships. However, in certain cirumstsnces I can develop emotionally intimate connections with my partner's partner(s). One of my girlfriends had a long term relationship with another man. He and I were no sexually attracted to each other but were very close friends. So much so there was assumptions we had sex with each other. In very isolated events I can have sexual attraction to men and that is fine. I never had sex with a man. I have had sexual contact with individuals that were transsexual women and men. I was attracted to them as them. Behavior and attraction wise I could easily be considered bisexual. I don't Identify that way because it truly is circumstantial and more emotional/intellectual than physically sexual attraction.
@@wesleybarrett9502 It sounds like what you’re saying is you identify based on what’s right for you. But if someone identifies as bi, they don’t have to have had sex with all the genders they’re attracted to.
Duh, of course yes. Sexual orientation is defined as attraction to a particular gender, which isn't even necessarily exclusively sexual attraction. The are asexual gays/lesbians/bis who don't want to have sex with any gender yet are romantically attracted to a particular gender or set of genders. Are asexual gays not gays because they don't have sex with men? I'd rather think they are.
Thanks for the video! :)
Yes!!! Thank you 🙌🏼💜
I love the concept of the triangle! Definitely helps carve out my own definition ❤️ Short and sweet this week, but an important single question discussed!
I’m glad you found that helpful! I did too. I learned that during a consultation and it was so mind blowing honestly. Thanks as always for watching Michelle! 💜💜💫
"Twitterpated," is my new (old) word of the day! Thank you.
What a great topic! I grew up in a religious home so I never really considered being with anyone other than a man. I've been with my husband for about 9 years now and I love him very much. For about a year I've been questioning. A part of me wonders if I'll ever know for sure if I'm bisexual if I never have a chance to be with a woman. Thinking about the points you made is helpful. I think I have a lot more thinking to do about this though, it's a struggle to figure out how to explore this while still being respectful to my husband.
I understand. I know you will figure it out the way that works best for you. I'm so glad you're figuring this out and loving yourself for who you are.
@@jennicahill you're so sweet, thanks for the kind words!
@@strawberrypie7933 of course!!!
The triangle makes so much sense! If you claim the label bisexual but are in a monogamous relationship you can't really "prove" your bisexuality with behaviours, even if you have dated multiple genders in the past. This would just invalidate bisexuality as a whole (which i don't want!!!)
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💗💜💙
Thank you so much for your honesty and your work. Because of your internal work, the TH-cam community including myself benefit from feeling loved, seen, and free.
thank you for this. means so much 💜
If you are bi you can not change just accept it and live your life
I can't tell you how much this made me feel better today ♡
Thank you so much for your awesome videos! I've been discovering my bisexuality within the last few months in spite of being in a "straight", monogamous relationship. Your content makes me feel less alone and helps me embrace my full magical self :) Sending love! 💜
Thank you so much for this!!! It means a crazy amount to me. Sending love right back and am so happy you’re continuing to embrace who you are!!! 💜💜💜
You are amazing, thank you so much for this video!! 👏🏼😊😋
Oh my! Thank YOU so much for watching!!! 😍
I have been doing research about me being bi and this video really helped me ❤
I'm so glad! Thank you for telling me that!
Sooooo relatable ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Thank you!! I’m so glad! 🌸💜💙
Thank you sooooo much, this video sounds like you made it just for me ❤
I am also in commited monogamy relationship with a man (I am a woman), I was always biromantic, (i just didn't know untill I learned there's a term for it) and I do have some level of sexual desire for woman, which means that I am also bisexual (even thou I never had a relationship with a woman, but I still have one-sided 'romance' with my best and only female friend...
So there it is, I am bi enought to identify as a bisexual, thank you sooo much 💖💜💙🌈
I feel like an imposter saying I’m straight, but also when I say I’m bi - I recently tried “mostly straight” and it felt super natural and also is true given my lean. I don’t know the extent of the lean because I recognize that I am socially conditioned.
I think besides avoiding erasure, it’s important for me to understand what’s happening when I’m attracted to a man. Like you described as butterflies in the stomach - that can be really confusing if you don’t know it’s attraction. I used to find beautiful men really off-putting and I didn’t know why. Like, they made me feel weird like I was in the presence of a psychic vampire. I think it would’ve been easier to recognize being gay than it was bi in a society where I was expected to be straight
I think I also hardcore resisted same sex attraction in part because I grew up doing theater and people already thought I was gay - which is super frustrating because they presumed to know me better than I knew myself. I think I remember thinking at night, “don’t end up gay. Don’t give them the satisfaction!” Living a bi lifestyle probably would have been a more fun way to show them
These videos have been helpful. Seeing a monogamous bisexual own the label. Sorry to unload- I’m seeking therapy for my anxiety/ADHD and might discuss this when I get a therapist
thank you for sharing. i think it’s so valuable for people to see bi men speak up about this too. and everything you shared makes so much sense. it took me a while to realize how harmful it was when i assumed people were gay too (also in my theatre upbringing).
i definitely encourage talking to a therapist about this just from my own experience. it really helped me organize my thoughts and emotions more and lessen their intensity a bit.
This vid was really helpful for me. I've always been into women, but I've also had moments where I felt attracted to men. I've come to see my sexuality as a spectrum. I remember feeling aroused watching a scene from "Commando" with Arnold Schwarzenegger. Looking back, I realize that was normal for me
Miss you and your content, Jennica. ❤️
thank you 🧡 maybe one day
This is real helpful, thank you so much! You’re amazing
hey back at ya.
Wow , I needed this today thank you 😊
I JUST had someone tell me otherwise a few days ago so I need to watch my own video 😓 💜💜
Yes thank you it was so helpful. Love your energy 😊
thank you
Love your outfit (and the vid of course)!❤️
Thank you so much!! ☺️
😀 Tell em’!! 🥰👏👏💫🌈💚🌟
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Knew I like boys younger, came out as 27 after repressing it. People are hottt
Lol very true!
Dear vloger, what's the difference between desire and passion, attraction and obsession/addiction?
My friend, I believe these are questions for a much bigger conversation, potentially for a therapist. I can only speak to my own experiences!
I am sexually attracted to both genders, but I prefer to be with women.
Dude preach 🙌🏾🌈
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How about if your suppose partner got pregnant for a guy and you're jealous, does that mean you're a lesbian or bisexual or bicurious? Just want to know
I don't know! I'm not an expert in sexuality by any means. Everyone's situation is so different, right?
@@jennicahill Okay. Thanks
Thanks I didn't know it was possible when I was in 3rd grade I wondered if I could like females on day and 6 months later I wondered if it was possible I could like males then in sixth grade I thought I might and worried about it with people saying around me liked both I figured out I liked females but was to scared to check to see if I liked males also then in 8th grade I found out I liked both after a teacher and close friend said it on Valentine's day when I asked I kind of asked the close friend in front of the teacher but both responded and they were the first people to find out after I liked a guy but was still confused and was having to move schools for other reasons
That sounds like a lot to be dealing with at a young age! How is it now for you? Sending you love!
@@jennicahill getting ready for senior year of high school and I have wanted to if I like males or females more but don't want to make decisions that will haunt me later and have been asked out a few times but have thought about waiting till after high school to date but have curious about how to tell if I like both and what it is like to be with either but only want to be in closed relationships if I choose to date
@@jennicahill thanks hope your doing well
@@johnathanballard1304 Sounds like you're very thoroughly considering your values and feelings and desires, and that is so impressive. I wish you all the best!!
@@johnathanballard1304 Doing well thank you
The thing about sexual freedom is the boundary is always expanding. So how would you handle an individual who wants to have sex with your young child? It’s what they identify with should it be acceptable to?
Without trying being rude to you, I have to say that is a ridiculous question. Healthy sexual relationships between consenting adults is a totally different thing than a sexual relationship with a young child, which is illegal and inherently not consensual. Your question seems inherently homophobic and biphobic to me, so I would invite you to take a look at why you are comparing sexual orientation with dangerous pedophilia. It doesn't make logical sense and is very harmful to those within then LGBTQIA2S+ community.
Person "How can you identify as bisexual if you haven't experienced sex with [insert gender here]?"
Me: I haven't had sex with anyone so...
Asexual??
Maybe! If that is true for you, hell yeah! But also - just because you haven't had sex with anyone... doesn't mean you are asexual. (Maybe you were making a joke - just want to make sure you feel validated no matter what is true for you.)
@@jennicahill It was a joke but I'm really glad that you care so much about making sure everyone is validated. We need more people like you in the world!
@@johnk3223 aww thank you!
So twitterpated
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that triangle was to.the.point. I m also in a monogamous straight relationship which I am not planning on changing, and have been thinking of those things, and that triangle. man... when I tell you I am relating. it is. to. another. level.
I am sO GLAD the algorithm brought you to me. a godsend.
that is my last comment for the day. lol, I am so sorry for spamming you xD
The triangle was such a game changer for me! Sorry - somehow I didn't get to see this comment for a while. I'm so glad the algorithm brought us together!
@@jennicahill haha that's alright ^^ it is understandable with the amount of comments I made to miss one :P
@@DanaePap_official but I love your comments so I was sad 😢
@@jennicahill
100 % relate