the art of being alone | in my 20s diaries
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- in my 20s episode 4 - the art of being alone. (an art I know very little about)
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i’m the total opposite- love being alone and have a fear of being with too many people. you’ve inspired me to move out of my comfort zone :)
I know right! Although I'm not scared of being near to too many people I love this sensation of being alone and getting this self contact with yourself.
"Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone"
This phrase already explains everything
SAMMEDEEEEEE
Same!
I absolutely love that you’re fighting through your bad habits and fears! Going to the gym and getting over that anxiety can be hard but pushing yourself makes you better. Love to see you grow and evolve, it definitely helps me do the same 💛
Hey I saw you in the comments of a vidiq video recently haha
i see you in the comments of every video i watch 🤣
Absolutely love this series ✨
omg hi!
I love y’all 💕
Being alone isn’t for everyone and that’s okay- it doesn’t have to be your thing. It doesn’t make you any lesser of a person.
That’s comforting to hear 🥲
I heard this quote from a friend that I think ties into this perfectly: if silence, stillness and loneliness make you uncomfortable its your body’s way of telling you that you need to spend more time in that space. For example: spending time by yourself- if that makes you uncomfortable your body needs more of it
words cannot explain how much I love this series and seeing a young Christian like myself live her life. You are a huge inspiration 💛
Spok is the cutest thing ever! The way he always goes to you is adorable!
He is literally adorable like I just want to scoop him up 🥰🥰🥰🥰
A “silent retreat” really helped me get better at being alone!! You can do any length of time (I did 2 days) where you don’t talk, use your phone, and only read really! No tv either! It really does force you to sit with God, listen to Him, and enjoy being alone!
As I've gotten older (I'm 24) I've become kinder to myself and stoped pushing myself to do things that make me uncomfortable and stoped judging myself for simply being uncomfortable.
If there's something I actually want to do or if I feel limited from living my life I push myself to overcome that discomfort, like going to the gym alone. But if it's something I don't really want to do but feel like I "have to do", like going to a party, I don't push myself to do that anymore. Some things make me uncomfortable and that's okay.
It's been soo nice since I've accepted this. I feel like I've become more respectful towards myself and who I am. We're all different!
I’ve had such bad gym anxiety in the past and the one thing that always helps is telling myself I will just go and walk for 20 mins on the treadmill and then almost every time once I’m there walking I do other exercises because I’m already there but sometimes I’m still too anxious and I just feel proud that I was able to get a 20 min walk in! An emotional support water bottle also helps!
I could watch this series all day! I’m so glad Haley is taking us along on her journey
I have always struggled with being alone. This video makes me feel so safe and understood. Thank you so much for this series, it’s so encouraging.
Wowie this episode was so accurate to my literal daily life. Sometimes I like being alone but sometimes I need people in my presence it’s so weird. Glad I’m not alone!!
the series is so relatable! i’m also in my 20s and navigating life on my own as an ~adult~ for the first time
been writing in my diary for 6 months now and it truly has been changing me for good! just writing everything out of my head& organizing those random thoughts makes me feel so much calmer and at peace afterwards!! can recommend
I appreciate your honesty with not feeling comfortable being alone yet. I think it’s very mature of you to be truthful and self aware with your audience ❤️
part of vlogger culture is always being surrounded by 4+ friends and it's definitely comforting to see you force yourself to go out alone since not everyone has friends to constantly go out with :)
this whole series just gives me so much comfort
I was literally waiting to finish my exam to be able to watch this!
Girl, I love how you were strong and didn't make that car road range driver situation the entire focus of your day and you didn't allow it to ruin your day, you just moved on realizing that this is life and stuff like this happens! That was really motivating to be honest!
Haley saying “ive picked up some groceries” actually made me physically smile. Being part of this journey and seeing how even that was difficult in the first episode is really encouraging to see. Im only 16 but watching these are giving me hope for the future that i will grow into a woman of God.
The first day of my 20s starts tomorrow and I'm so glad there's a series that shows the ups and downs of navigating every day life, especially as a fellow creator
i bought the book and i started reading it a couple of days ago. i am still on around page 40, but i can say confidently it literally changed my way of thinking. honestly thank you for helping me jump on this journey towards becoming better for myself
Haley, I am absolutely loving this series!🥹I really appreciate how authentic you are being and how you’re showing ALL of the process, not just the good stuff. This inspires me😁and good job to you for taking these steps and following through!! It’s not easy, but you’re still out here DOING IT!💕
this video was so comforting to me wow, i didnt know that there were other ppl that felt literally the exact same way i do about going places alone/being alone. ive always felt extremely uncomfortable going places alone and have been trying to push myself out of my comfort zone lately to get better at it, and this video just made me feel so much better and made me want to keep practicing at it. i guess like everything its just gonna take practice :)
I love that she actually reads and responds to some comments!
I just turned 20 a few months ago and I love this series. It's so informative, especially for someone like me who is living in a dorm and navigating being alone while also cultivating lifelong relationships. This series is exactly what I need right now! Also Spock in the background is adorable
I haven’t watched haleys videos in a long time and after catching up on her in my 20s series I’ve really loved the growth! just the way she talks to the camera is so much more genuine and she just seems completely herself and happy :)
It’s so comforting knowing I’m not dealing with this on my own 🥺 I’m 21 and this series resonates HARD.
Love you Haley been following since your dance days🧡🧡
This series literally make me feel like real life can be a movie and we can enjoy its hurdle and joys, love it💙
its so nice to see im not the only one who gets anxious knowing ur a small women outside ALONE. idk why its so scary but its honestly the paranoia , also this series is so inspiring to watch and im not even in my twentites yet , kEEP GOING HALEY much luv
I am absolutely LIVING for this series. I’m 26 but totally wish this kind of series was around when I was in my early 20’s!
I really love the vibe of you in this!! You talk so calm i could listen to you all day
this series has brought me so much comfort
so happy you finally realised you're an extrovert lmaoo cause I've been watching you for so long and every time you'd say you're an introvert I'd be like girl... no you're not. it's super easy to tell by your videos, especially when you say you don't like being alone cause that's an introvert's paradise
I love youuuuu😭😻and super greatful for someone like you helping people navigate thier 20s in a very genuine and unfiltered way
I love how honest and realistic this vid is! I’ve been watching you since like 2016 and it’s been amazing to see you grow
I turned 20 recently and this videos just make me feel safe, thank you for sharing with us and being so transparent ab your journey 🤍
i love that you focus on how you feel versus how you look
this series is actually giving me life. i have never related to something so freaking much
Bruh this is literally me recently!!! I too am like VERY VERY extroverted, and i feel super drained when I'm alone. i just rlly love being around humans in general, which i feel like is rare nowadays. You have inspired me to try and cope being by myself better ❤
5:10 that melted my heart, how adorable!!
as someone who turned 20 in january... i absolutely love this series. i am going on it with you. thank you.
My favorite series by far. I really enjoyed this episode and last episode because I can relate to them. You are doing amazing Haley, can't wait to see your growth!
ok but 6:34 to 7:10 I relate to so much! When I'm with my favorite people my energy gets boosted through the roof even when I'm pretty tired/annoyed. But some times, (not all the time) when I'm in public alone I get anxious until I've been there a few times/start to know some people there. Idk if that makes sense lol... anyway I frickin love this series & it makes me so happy so thank you for making it + continuing it!! i love youu 💗💗
Instead of thinking you’re losing energy from being alone in public try thinking about the benefits of being alone in public you are able to pick up the energy from being around other people but you don't have to take anything away from your self care. Being an extreme extrovert I love going to a coffee shop by myself and watching other people do the same it leaves me energized.
My day gets so much better with yall girlie ♥️
I know the feeling but I like being alone vs being with people because I feel I am on someone else time. As I watch this I love going to the movies alone. It helps me escape from reality for a minute.
When hayley said she grew up as a lone child and did a lot of hobbies kept herself entertained and just be enough for herself yet enjoy company whenever she got the chance to- that hit home sweety.
Haley thank you for lighting up my day with your happy personality❤❤
This is my favorite series. It's inspiring me too. I'm only like two weeks younger than you so I relate to you a lot. I love this, thank you
This is my fav series on TH-cam rn
I’m literally your age right now and I feel like I can relate to so many of the things you’re going over on this series, love it! 🫶🏻
SPOCK CLIMBING IN YOUR LAP WHILE YOU WERE STRETCHING WAS THE CUTEST THING EVER 🥹
LETS GOOO aahhh i love this series so much haley! so cool to see you grow as a person!!
I used to struggle with this same problem. I believe my biggest problem at the time with being alone in public is that I didn't want to be perceived as "lonely" by other people, and that realization alone made me uncomfortable. Honestly, the best thing that helped me overcome that is what ur doing in this video so hooray!:] but also just romanticizing my life in general. Thank you 4 this video because this is something that more people should talk about.
i absolutely love how your subscribers have gotten to grow up with you i feel like we’re besties even tho we’ve never met 🥲🥲
i so so love this series! 🫶
so cool to see how different everyone is, because i do things alone alllll the time and love it haha. it definitely takes some courage sometimes but it can be so valuable!
Earlier this week I pushed myself to visit a Cafe and eat there by myself! This series is so encouraging 💕🙏
I love this series sm!! and it's so fun having my own journey with these videos keeping me motivated!
I'm going to an airport alone for the first time this morning and was a little anxious about it. This was comforting. Thanks!
Your cinematography and camera choices have gotten SO GOOD! Beautifully done :)
The dog holding the book open!😩so cute!!
Favorite TH-cam series rn
I relate to this video so much 💗 especially being an avoider and only wanting positive emotions
You new series has absolutely inspired me in a time of my life when I was feeling hopeless. I not set up a new system for my mornings :)
It's so cool you're making this series, it feels like we're learning together
Spock coming to sit on your lap was the cutest thing ever!!
i recently discovered both of your channels and now i completely adore your videos you've become my favourite youtuber your videos are so entertaining and wonderful to watch, especially your book videos (btw, you have such good recommendations!). ahhh love you!!
aw yes i agree!! also i recently started my own channel if ya wanna check it out~~i just posted a what i eat in a weekend !! 🦋
thankn you for making us who feels alone "okay"
I really relate to this video so much. I think a lot of us don’t enjoy being alone a lot but I do believe god puts us in this position so we can get to know ourselves more. I started going to dance class alone once a week, aswell as going for nature walks with my dog. One of my irrational fears is my husband passing away young which comes down to being alone again 😂❤️ This is the push I needed to learn how to love being alone again too, and to start working out again! Thanks beautiful!
It is so awesome to watch you grow and be honest to yourself by watching your youtube videos! P.S. your style has been on point lately!
I related to this so muchhhh!! Thank you ♡ this helped me realise that I was doing the same, avoiding feelings that make me feel uncomfortable ♡♡ thank you for opening up!! It really helped me alot 🌈
Spock coming to lay in your lap when you were stretching was the cutest thing ever🥺 I love him in his little nest😂🤍
I struggle with this too, like I enjoy alone time but I get so anxious inside of a coffee shop if I’m alone because everyone else is with people or staring at me but I like going through the drive thru alone
Immediately clicked on this video because I STRUGGLE with being alone! Thank you for this series, I love it so much!
Do not pressure yourself to be someone you are not. If you like being with people then be with people, what is important is to be flexible enough so if you have to be alone is not a terrible experience. You don’t have to enjoy being alone, you just have to deal with it in a positive way. Truly, don’t feel so bad if you can’t fully enjoy being alone, if it is not part of you
Loving this series! They are so inspiring and I leave them wanting to work on myself. As I get older, the more I love being alone! Also you asked for our irrational fears and mine is that I’m going to back over someone in my car 😅
stop your videos are inspiring me so much to improve myself! i have never been this excited to watch a video! thanks for sharing your journey and never being scared to be yourself. i think its super hard to find a good christian youtuber like you but wow you are such a blessing in my and so many others lives. (also please bring back the to do list on ig)
loving this series
friday’s are my new favorite day
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Me too, last night I told my boyfriend “tomorrows Pham phriday” 😂❤️
@@LovingGodLovingOthers stoppp that’s so cute
haley ur such an inspiration:) this is lik the realest shit eva and its so relatable which makes this series so special and enjoyable 😁
This is such a relatable and inspiring series! 🤍
AHHHHH I LOVE THIS SERIES SOOO MUCH ILYYY❤️❤️❤️
i love this series so much
loved this video even more than the last! I felt so much of what you said. it's tough facing that discomfort.
oke i just have to say i love this series even though i am in my teenage years, it still pushes me to do more and learn new skills. i was literally waiting for a new video today. thank you so much for sharing your jouney with us, in such a fun and inspiring way!!
same, that's me! also i recently started my own channel if ya wanna check it out~~i just posted a what i eat in a weekend !! 🦋
@@oliviaclairexo yeah sure I will check it out!
I've been getting used to going to the gym by myself and doing things by myself as well! And I'm 21 so this is definitely relatable haha. I also got married at 19, so I usually do things with my husband, but im trying to do things by myself now!
I’m in LOVE with this series?!
Same with me and the “gym fear” but you just motivated me to go there today! 💙
No way!!!! Good job that’s so crazy!
ANOTHER BOMB VIDEOOOO💙💙 I love you girlyyy💙
omg i totally feel that singing your heart out and being afraid your phone is gonna go on live. for almost two years now i dont know where this fear came from or where it started but its def consumed my life in a way. i am so afraid to go on instagram because i am so terrified that im accidentlaly gonna post something on my story or my feed and i have to reload my instagram for like 10 min to make sure i havent posted anything and this happens like 10 times a day. its such an irrational fear and i do not know where it came from
I love this series so much❤It is inspiring❤
For me sunny days are just a no no but when it gets cloudy and gloomy my mood picks up quickly 🥰
I love your transparency 💓
omg yes journal everyday.. im a big promoter of that. so fun to look back on and/or painful
yess this! also i recently started my own channel if ya wanna check it out~~i just posted a what i eat in a weekend !! 🦋
I like being with people girl
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This is so relatable. I’m an extrovert that literally FEARS being alone. It allows me too much time to get in my own head. I’m about to leave for college (I’ve been at a JC for 2 years) and I’m so scared to be alone.
Both you and Kennedy uploading a video about being alone *Chefs kiss*
2:05 Thank you Haley Didi, this advice really works!!