what they don't tell you about friendship in your 20s | in my 20s diaries
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Making & maintaining friendships in your 20s is hard! BUT really fun & epic. Here's some advice & things I didn't know a few years ago. I hope it blesses you!
this video is so well done and pretty
Hi
You too 👁️👄👁️
@@abdelilahlakhloufi2112 um excuse you he's married to Haley 😐
I love how he supports his wife like he’s just a random fan on the internet
bud, u got an awesome wife
why am I built like a trapezoid lmao
This series is literally more entertaining than a lot of Netflix series! I relate to this series so much and Haley does it in such a fun way!❤️
I love this video so much pooter
hi ryan
Having a solid diverse Christian community friendships has definitely been of one of my prayers, loved watching this! 🤍
Amen, and diverse definitely! In age, ethnicity, walks of life, disabilities and socioeconomically - it would be wonderful to reflect God's kingdom in your community like that 🤍
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hmu? haha. slim chance we are in the same area but I can drop an email! 🤍🦋
the "notice how you feel after you hanged out with friends and if you feel drained or energetic" hit deep. i was currently stuck in a friendship that made me feel drained constantly! and it's so sad to know that you could use this energy on other friends who give you so much more back! thanks for the reminder that i did nothing wrong:)
i know there are so many comments about it already but i’m loving this series - i’m so glad we have a platform in this day and age to go to and remind ourselves everyone is slowly trying to figure things out in this crazy world and you really have to appreciate what’s right in front of you. ty haley
I’m 20 and currently praying for deep Christian friendships ! It seems so unattainable lol but I know it’ll happen one dayyy.
same here girly
hi! :) we prob don’t live near each other, but I can drop an email and we can link if you’d like!! 🤍
Same I have been struggling so much
this one spoke to me. i am 20, turning 21 and am having an extremely difficult time with friendships in my 20s. this is so helpful in realizing that i need to put myself out there! thank you so much!
I felt thissss
This is what I’m struggling with currently. But I also don’t put myself out there I’m naturally an introvert and struggle on first impressions because I overthink. I’m a stay at home wife but I’m thankful for my church community where I have solid friendships that are consistent!!
Being in my 20's (25) I'm definitely finding it difficult to make friends. I've never been one to have a big friend group but it's been a lot harder to keep people around after graduating high school. At this point in my life, like you said, everyone is at different stages of their lives. Some are in school still, some are getting married, moving, so with that it's hard to find time for each other. I hope I get to have my moment like you did where I find a core group of friends who really bring out the best in me and will give me the same feelings that your friend group does. Thank you for another amazing video in this series!
im in highschool right now, year 11, and lowkey all this talk about friendship after graduation made me super anxious before. in australia, its not really a common thing to move far away for university but still change is super scary but this video really made me less anxious about the future :)
Same and I am guessing you just graduated year 12 this year because me too (not to bring back that anxiety..)
Hayley! 🌈 I love the thumbnail!! it's soooo pretty. I've always loved your use of colors in thumbnails. BEAUTIFUL. Can't wait to watch this later ✨
Agreed. 😌😌
I thought I would let you know, it’s so nice how you comment on so many channels!! Love seeing the positivity 😊❤️
You guys should do a mash up !!!! Two of my favorite TH-cams!!!
True! Love your videos so much Natalie
Jesus really does get to us in the most miraculous ways. I’ve been feeling like I’ve been in a slump these past few months lately and this series was HEAVEN-SENT!!! Really inspired me to start taking my devotionals seriously, going out of my way to make time for friends, and just changing my love in general. You are a blessing Hailey.
I love this. I'm a christian too and it has been very hard to find a good community of friends who I can do life with! I'm still in that part of life, but I know that it'll happen sometime and I have to trust God to bring the right people into my life! This episode was awesome Haley, thank you.
this episode was so goooood. if you are reading this and feel alone, just remember to put yourself out there, even if it’s scary. tons of people feel the exact same way you do and who will love you and care about you!! you are never truly alone!
thanks for all the encouragement, haley💕💕
yesterday was my freshmen orientation and it's so true when u get asked "how do you make friends" you literally dont know like it just happens. all i did was pray and hope i can make some friends and it just happens and tbh im grateful for that like it takes so much mental strength to introduce urself to someone but at the same time it kinda feels effortless because that friendship just happens in an instant
Haley I’m so proud that you are sharing your relationship with God on your channel💗💗 I love this series I can’t wait to see you grow even more! Happy Easter weekend love 💐
i’m in a season of being single & trying to figure out how to be alone/do more stuff and this series has been so so encouraging and fun!! i look forward to it every week!
I could just listen to you talk about anything for hours! WE NEED A PODCAST
She use to have one with Lilly Anne and it was so good but sadly they stoped it
literally almost cried because i feel like im trying to mentally prepare myself for what adulting has to offer. i'm about to graduate in about a month and i've been so overwhelmed with who i should keep in my life and who i know i have to let go of. thank you for this video haley :,)
I dont know if this advice will help you but i can Tell you you will be surprised what people will stay in your life after graduation. Just take your time and try to accept that there will naturally be people you cannot stay in touch with and there are sooooo many more peoole to come into your life. So many great people you dont know yet. Wish you all the best for your future!
Wow, this series was an answer to prayer. I'm currently taking a gap semester and am back home from college where I don't have but one close friend nearby. It's hard to put myself out there knowing that I'll be back on campus with my friends in the fall, but this video has encouraged me to put myself out there. Praying everyone who reads this finds uplifting community
I CANT HALEY AND RYAN HOLDING HANDS IS LITERALLY EVERYTHING
As someone who is only a few months older than you, it is so refreshing to see someone so close to my age that I can actually relate to on so many levels. I am also recently married, and also a Christian. As someone who is pretty introverted, making new strong friendships is a struggle for me. I’m so inspired by, and loving this new series of yours :)
i'm actually in my 22 this year, and i've only started making an actual bond with my friends. i don't have many friends yet, but the friend I currently have makes me feel more better. i like when someone makes this type of videos bc it's very relatable, helpful for realizations and self improvements. love u haley!
this series, but this episode in general was literally stunning haley omgggg. i’m so happy that you’re finding a christian community, it’s something i continue to pray for, and now that i’m moving i’ll have the opportunity! so proud of you girl, love you🤍
It is so nice to see Haley so genuinely happy and so herself
I've been really struggling with friendships lately (my best friends moved to a different country in January), and this was really encouraging. Thank you Haley!
This is honestly one of the most encouraging series on youtube.
loving the "in my 20s" series. everytime you post, u make my day, your so inspiring and positive. your smile warms my heart:) i can watch u all day
really gonna try praying for friends that have the same interests of me in my local area because i have online friends in different countries but it’s still kinda lonely not having much friends locally. thanks haley!!💕💕
I literally love this series 😭🤍 especially this episode, it is on repeat !! If God blessed you with such amazing friends I know He will for me because He is faithful 😌🎉🙌🏾💗
This series is literally incredible. thank you so much for sharing all of this it truly means a lot.
i truly love this series! it’s so inspiring and comforting. It just feels like a warm hug honestly 🤍
going through friendship changes is SO hard, especially when growing up 💔
Wow, this was so encouraging to watch. I've also prayed for Christian community and it's awesome to see how God answered your prayer. Gotta keep waiting! ❤
I started praying for good community and close friends about a year ago and shortly after I met my best friend. I’m now working on building a community and this series is so encouraging to me 💗🥲
same! o my gosh! God is so good ! literally am making plans to take prom pics without a prom with my friends
@@user-mh1ym4nz7i that’s so fun!!
@@kenzielynn4549 yeah !!
One of the most important things in the age of 20's and all ages is the religion
The truth,true way is ISLAM
@@rmo1295 Jesus is the way
Honestly, making friends is harder when you're older ( even when in college or at a job ! ) it's not as easy as when you were a kid though. ( I still know my best friend from when I was 13, I'm 37 now. )
Haley, I've been only watching this channel for a few days and I can already tell that I will be watching it for years!! thanks so much for making the internet a happier place 😊
I too am praying for some Godly friends, or even one or two really great friend. THANK YOU for this video, its so hard to find friendships in your 20's. They are so important and i believe God places everyone in your life and the most perfect times. I am loving this series haley!
This has to be my favorite video you've ever made. It was emotional and raw and relatable. Not to mention the beautiful shots and editing and music. Loved it
Hey Haley, I'm also 21 and married and a Christian, and this video made me think more about praying for the kind of friends i want in my life and the kind of friend i want to be. thank you, Making friends out of high school is hard and maintaining relationships is hard, i really appreciated that line from your friend "just because you don't have contact with your friends for a while, doesn't mean they don't value you" I needed to hear that. Thank you!
I love Bella! I've been watching your videos since you were a freshman in high school (throwback to the tippy days) and I remember seeing Bella in your videos. I'm glad you guys are still friends!
Your friend Saige is gorgeous and spitting facts. If you know you're busy and your friend is busy then its totally justified to not talk for a few weeks or even months. If they are a true genuine friendship then its a mutual understanding that y'all still love each other but can't hang at the moment :) Also love this series!
I love how you’re editing this series! It’s the perfect mix of like tv and vlog!
Also, ik you’re getting a lot of stuff for your kitchen to help you in cooking more, I highly recommend getting a meat thermometer! I am so worried about eating undercooked meat, the thermometer puts my mind at ease. They usually come with a guide to know what meats need to be what temperatures.
friendships are so essential. Making friends in yours 20s is so difficult. A year ago I moved to a new town, and I still don't have friends here which is a struggle because I thrive off connections. I find it very difficult to put myself out there, and the friend dates I have gone on, weren't those instant click connections. Back home, I do have friends and long distant friendships are also difficult. I've never felt like I belong in a group of friends, I was always an outsider or floated around different groups. It filled my heart seeing you have fun with friends and I hope someday I can do the same.
I’m also 21, watching this series really inspired me to be more conscious of how I want to spend my 20s ❤️
No, because Saige had it RIGHT. As someone with BPD, it can feel SO personal and like abandonment when people don't reach out for a while, but it's just simply not true - 99.9% they love you no matter where they are, who they're with, etc. Their love for you doesn't just disappear randomly when they aren't with you, and that's something I've had to really truly grasp. I'm STILL learning to accept that. Their love doesn't disappear along with their physical presence. Just like if you love art, but it doesn't mean you hate it every second you're NOT actively being artistic. Simply untrue and silly. You don't stop existing to other people, and you don't stop being loved just because you aren't physically present with someone.
loving this series so much. Feels so comforting to feel like I'm working on myself with someone else if that makes sense?? Thank you
this is so so important. praying for community is such a remarkable and faith-filled experience. thank you for making this video
update: very much shedding very much a tear
literal life goals 🥲
I love how this series, that feels so weird for me to say because it’s your life 😂😂, makes me love myself and those that surround me!! I don’t know if that makes a lot of sense but I’m here for it
I don't have many friendships as im still 15 and still have my whole future ahead of me to make more, but watching this made me realise how many beautiful friendships I have with people at the moment and made me think about each person individually. I really love you haley as you make me a better person. thank you really!!!! 🤍🤍
I love how you said that if you want to make friends you have to be uncomfortable and put in the effort but it just so happens that I hate being uncomfortable and putting effort
completely unrelated but you have the best voice like it’s so calming
I have never felt more seen and not alone. I think this series is so beautiful and shows that we all don’t know what we are doing sometimes and that we all kind of fake it until we make it. I feel so frustrated in the friendship aspect at my college and it makes me want to cry to know that other people feel the same way as me and that I’m not alone in that feeling. Thank you Haley for this series❤️
love this haley, thank u for your vulnerability. friendships outside of structured organizations (school/sports) can be hard but so worth it!!!!!
i’m just loving this serious, it’s so genuine it makes me so happy
Dudddeee I’m in love with this series. It’s relating to my life so much rn. Thanks Haley for another good video
You’ve been killing these videos lately! I appreciate your honesty and insight to your prayers. It makes me feel more connected to you. :)
i loveee that u talk ab this bc I’m so curious about friendships etc and I dream of having a TIGHT friendgroup once I’m in my 20s
This episode was so inspiring. I absolutely love this series. I like that u interviewed some of your friends abt friendships, it was a nice addition to the vlog. Keep up the good work Haley
i actually love this video so so so much
I like that you were facing each other instead of facing the camera while having the conversation
Wait I love seeing Haley's growth of her growing out of her anxiety 🥺
Okay, I LOVE Saige's voice. its so calming and happy
lol that’s where the iced coffee hour podcast used to be filmed with the book poster!
Not technically 20 until next week haha but I needed this series so much. Been feeling like my life has had no structure but I had no idea where to begin to fix it. This series is so real and has already helped me so much
Omg coffee, oversized shirts, “let’s hang out on the beach guys!!”, “wanna grab a smoothie?”
such a wholesome episode 🥺🥺 thank you for your vulnerability in this series, absolutely loving this journey!
I’m loving this series so much because a bunch of us are in this same boat rn and everything your posting is super relatable. Thank you!!!
haley, i know you probably wont read this but i just wanted to thank you. this video is exactly what i needed rignt now.
im about to enter my 20s, and im in a stage in my life where i feel like im getting further and further away from my highschool friendships, the ones ive had my entire life.
i was full of anxiety, sadness and fear of never finding my people,
but this video, this video showed me that everything is gonna be ok
:)
thank u
I just found you through this series and I love it. I can relate so much and it helps 😊🫶🏼
I never realised how much I love friends and I’m really grateful for them ❤️❤️
This video just encouraged me to text a friend from university whom I haven‘t heard from in weeks and she responded that she wanted to text me too. I have so much self doubt when it comes to reaching out to friends and I am very proud of myself for just doing it. I need to remind myself that just because I don‘t see certain friends that often or don‘t talk to them for a while doesn‘t mean that they don‘t like me.
Have been praying for this till this day I know god will make it happen ♥️
i really needed this! i have been struggling with making friends. and recently my best friend of 7 years just moved on and suddenly stopped talking to me. its a whole thing I'm sorting out but this has really encouraged me so thank you so much!!!!
These videos are getting me through the last few weeks of school!💖
i love this series, please never stop
I’ve been trying to make friends. It’s so hard when you’re out of school but I’ve been joining groups and communities of random interests I have and I’ve been hanging out with people more often and trying to talk to people at work and really just try to go past my anxiety and do it. It’s so hard but I feel like I’m getting there and I can feel it making me happier
to be honest, this episode did make me cry because after gruaduating highschool and going to college and not knowing anyone makes me feel so lonely and ive been wanting to have such a fun friendgroup for so long.
But i guess ill just keep praying for it and wait for Gods timing :)
Haley this is an awesome series! I hope you are enjoying your early 20s :)
Love this perspective Hayley! I’ve been praying for a Christian community as well! It’s been so cool to see a little peek of your journey in this 🌼☺️ thanks for sharing xx
Haley made me fall back in love with myself and i can't thank her enough for that i love you so much
besties for the absolute resties 🤞🤞 new phrase i’m gonna use thanks haley
this series is really helping me change my life for the better thank you so much haley!! ♥️
i'm glad you included the college view. it's hard out here and this video made me feel better.
this series is very inspiring for me to make good habits and get rid of bad ones, thank you haley for inspiring me to change my way of living (for the better)
I love the songs from the backgrounds it brings a certain vibe and it is all so well tied together!
Y’all are so pretty I love Mary’s smile☺️
I have pure excitement each second of these videos!
The way you found your soul family is so beautiful
haley posting on my birthday is the best gift i could ask for
Happy birthday!
ohmygoodness i’m not sure you’ll read this haley… but if you do i just wanted to say that i have a very similar situation with my friendships. last year i was in need of some close friends who loved Jesus, because i didn’t really have many at the time. i started praying for a good friend group and that summer i decided to work at a summer camp. i happened to meet some of the most wonderful, Godly friends there and now i never feel alone in the friendship department. lol. God is literally so awesome like that. He knew i needed friends and he provided them for me! so cool. but anywho, unfortunately those friends are also long distance which… kind of sucks. but it’s ok. rip. anywho i just really related to everything you said about friendship and i really enjoy your videos. have a good dayyy! :)
Thank you for this video Haley!!!! its beautiful, and I feel so much more encouraged to go out of my comfort zone
I came across this video and just wanna say thanks for making this video! Honestly, no one really tells you how friendship will be like in your 20s. It's something that I'm struggling to get the hang of especially not seeing my friends often and making new ones!! So appreciate you making this video, it means a lot
Thank you so much for this! I'm a freshman in an out of state college and so this is going to be amazing as I continue on this college journey! This is helping me so much!
These vlogs are so chill. Absolutely love em. Keep it up!
I love this series
im still searching for more friends with my interests always of course but right now I can safely say in my first year of uni I have a really good small group. we call ourselves our family away from our family and I love them so dearly. together we all feel so in the moment and we have like no photos together cause we never want to take out our phones when were togetherrrr. this group is all I could've asked for for my first year.