a week as an *emotional & incapable* female doctor | vlog
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 ธ.ค. 2023
- a week as an emotional & incapable female doctor
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The title is *very* tongue-in-cheek but I want to make something very very clear
My emotion IS what makes me capable. I am emotional AND capable.
PROUDLY emotional 💖
This is probably my my first comment on TH-cam. At the very least my first one as an adult. I just wanted to say I love your story and videos. It has motivated me to do better in my life. I went from being clinically depressed. Doing nothing all day, suffering with addictions. To being back in uni in an accelerated course of study. Looking to finish my degree by may. Not only that, but I’ve started working out daily. Eating better, taking care of both my mental and physical health and SO MUCH MORE. I can’t give you all of the credit, but you definitely had a huge influence on my life. I enjoy reading and writing poetry again ahhh. Sorry for the rant, thanks for your content.
Well done YOU!! You did all of that and if I was a companion along the way then that makes me very very happy, but that is all you.
You should be so so so proud!! ❤️ please please please come back in May and let me know when you finish you course so I can wish you a HUGE well done ✨✨✨✨
Your too hard on yourself Faye. Those who watch your channel love your honesty, transparency, your character and the way that you show a very real side life. You have a professional hat you wear for work and a beautiful, intelligent, creative, fun, neuro diverse hat you wear outside of work.
Never be afraid of being yourself x
Girl, I am a few months into being a brand, new baby, female lawyer, and I was thinking of myself I don’t feel capable of anything. I don’t feel capable as a lawyer, I turn off my light. And I put on TH-cam and your video just popped up. Why are you always in sync with my life I love you.❤❤❤ I don’t know what jewels you’re about to drop, but I know they’re gonna be so helpful
As a medical student very much agree with your reflections on medicine (and PMS). and I think being yourself is most important. Public perceptions of being a doctor have to change. Doctors are humans and don't need to put on a serious persona to become one (or shouldn't have to). Thanks for your vlogs its nice to watch someone doing what I will be doing soon and succeeding at it x
Can I just say as a nurse from New Zealand, I’ve dealt with death for the past 3 years as a nurse and you have to remove your emotion when someone is super unwell and sick otherwise you wouldn’t be able to do your job effectively. Also there is such a difference between sudden and prepared death. Your feels are super normal, but imagine if every healthcare professional was serious and sad, how much more shit would being in hospital be! You need to keep being yourself because you’re touching more lives positively than you realise ❤
As a teenage girl who often gets called emotional thank you so much for this video! You always encourage me to work hard and try my best 💗💗
Our emotions can be our biggest strengths, not our weaknesses 🫶🏼🫶🏼
The little chat segment in the middle of the vlog felt like I was watching myself. I know the premenstrual self-doubt, the existentialism and the overthinking all too well 😅 Thank you for sharing this side of your life online, I think it helps others realise that although you might be a doctor, a scientist, a lawyer, you don’t change fundamentally as a person. You can be emotional, you can be creative, you can be silly, and it doesn’t take away from your ability to be a serious professional. Not saying being creative can’t be professional, but in STEM in particular being creative isn’t valued and it feels like you can’t be both, you’re either scientific or artistic. So nice to see someone do both! ❤
im so sad to hear that you feel like a toe because I think you’re such a naturally beautiful person and it sucks that sometimes we don’t see our own beauty! loving these vlogs they’re so cosy and get me through my boring chores
This was definitely my favourite of all your vlogs and I just felt the need to comment and say that I am so glad you are sharing the realities of your life as a woman and a doctor in such an open and authentic way. It reassures me that there are self-reflective, thoughtful, deeply compassionate doctors like you in our healthcare profession and I believe that the “human” side of the NHS is one that needs to be shown more - it doesn’t make you egotistical or unprofessional in the slightest to share that with us! It only helps improve the relationship of doctors/patients and gives me great confidence, so thank you very much.
Knowing my doctor is a person who has the same struggles as me, or understands how my brain works etc is so beneficial - I connect much better with people like me and to know there are medics who I am able to connect with is absolutely invaluable
The luteal phase is the devil but you are right about trying to recognise and understand emotions that come up :')
My favourite kind of walk is a nature walk. It’s not pointless at all 💙 you can appreciate nature, watch birds fly around, spot cute dogs, take in the sky - might sound stupid but definitely helps me chill out xxx
As a pharmacy student eho is only still in school because of you and your videos where you talk about sharing the same struggles as me, thank you. Thank you for your platform and thank you for you
Faye, please be proud of yourself. You deserve it so so much. Take care of yourself💞
Thank you for talking about PMS I’ve been really struggling today with my PMS and hearing that food and nourishing your body so important has made me realise that my PMS has been worse because I’m hungry
I love how you show what most of us experience on that dreaded time of the month and it's comforting knowing you're not alone. I get the exact same thoughts then next day can feel back to normal.
I also just want to let you know how lovely your new hair is, you really suit it. I know you think you look "boring" but my thoughts on the last few videos is how nice and confident you look without your makeup ( and with of course) which has helped me try to wear less. You're doing these things without realising you're actually helping others. Please keep being you. Love your videos!
You are a very kind and loving human being so I can't see too many people making negative comments about you. Love love love your video's.
Loved this video so much and the message in it❤
Thank you!❤️
Faye is an inspiration to us all
Hey! I'm a young veterinarian and what you said about dealing with death and difficult emotions absolutely made sense.
It's not exactly the same but I also have to deal with the emotions that come up when losing patients and performing euthanasias on top of that. There were many times when I cried on my way home from work, but after a year in vet med it doesn't really happen anymore.
I allow myself to feel all the difficult emotions, but it's important to not let them consume your whole life. You're a whole human being not just a doctor!
It's a fine balance and I'm still working on it.😊
As an RN who works ICU/Tele, I absolutely love working under our female internists. I've noticed such a massive difference in the quality of care and communication. I am so thankful that women are doctors, because it's saved many lives in my little corner of the world.😊
your hair looks so nice! I'm also a blond thats going dark blond as I get older. All my family memers are like that and i need to always repeat to myself that darker blond and healthy hair will look nicer than bleached blond hair thats damaged. Plus I HATE the feeling of damaged hair. Good job on sticking to it!! Hair looks fab and soft and bouncyyy
love Love LOVEEEEEEEEE the vlogs Faye :)
Cant believe that in this day and age where the world is so ahead ...people still have the mentality that women are mere objects .....what stops them from thinking of us as just humans
Love your content faye keep it up dont let these useless comments affect you💞💞
Great vlog !!! Can you show more of the town / country side when you guys are out? Keep up the great work.
The QUEEN has posted!! 👑👑👑👑👑👑
I also hate walking for the sake of walking most of the time. PMD is rubbish. I feel for you. I also love how open you are about your ADHD, maybe I can aspire to be as open about having autism one day.
Your awesome Faye ❤
Totally get how you feel not being blonde. My hair was definitely quite damaged and is much better now for not bleaching it but I do miss it!
I love your videos xx
Always really enjoy your videos 🙌
Thank you! 🫶🏼
Can you peeeaaase stop saying that youre egotistic. Of course your channel is about you and of course your talk about your emotions. But by doing so you are helping so many people!!
I am a medical student and i love love love your content so much!! Not for the beautiful montages, or the tips and tricks but for those real moments!! Thank you so much for sharing and please keep it up! I think you are underestimating the positive impact youre having on the mental health of a lot of medical girlies (or boys of course), that are struggling with the same thoughts and feelings. Thanks girl!!
❤️❤️😇i love your vlog.. You always inspire me to do Bestt in my life I'm currently preparing for medical entrance exam (NEET) in India.. And you're reallyy.. Inspiration for me.. ❤️❤️😇lots of love from India(Gujarat)
This is me I can’t go for a walk without a purpose till now it doesn’t make sense to me 😂😂 thanks I love your vlogs
As someone who's been very sick for most of my life (24F), I much much prefer doctors who aren't masking their personalities to be "professional". Even the doctors who are a bit grumpy or depressed- you can still tell. Having a doctor that masks makes ME feel exhausted for them.
Try la Roche posay cicaplast for your dry bits before bed. I have the exact same and its amazing
I work with an entire group of female RNs and Drs and they are all AMAZING CAPABLE INTELLGIENTS HUMANS. KEY POINT we are all human!
I can't believe you get those comments it's Wild! People are silly
love your butterfly earrings and you!!! where are they from?? xx
"wht happened u used to be fit , u used to have it together , u used to not look like trash all the time " lit wht i say to myslef after looking at my OWN damn pics from year \2 yrs ago . i feel like idc how i look anymore... its both good and bad at the same time : good as it releases the burden of caring and it saves time and effort of getting dolled up evrymorning and bad as it shows that we can't put our best foot forward . i think the key is finding balance , in fear of not getting obssessed of how we look and yeah open the insecuritie's book back AGAIN .
Sophie sounds like a good mate 🙏
Gosh so relatable
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19:30 it is all about you and that is what we are here for
We want to see YOU and not any doctor or any other person
i can hear perfectly fine idk bout the others
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I’m so exhausted by the narrative that women are incapable because they have normal human emotions. You know who else has those normal, human emotions? Men. But for some reason society has decided men can only feel one emotion (anger) (and it’s ok to feel anger, because it’s a very Manly Emotion) and women can feel everything else, BUT it’s BAD that they feel everything else.
Emotions don’t make us weak, they make us human.
I think sometimes people like to feed off putting people down when they are insecure so the best way to respond it too let them watch while you just carry on being exactly who you are - capable nuanced and emotionally intelligent. No one wants an unemotional doctor, we need someone to care about the patients enough to be diligent in looking for proper diagnoses, treatments etc. We all know what medical misogyny leads
When did you start wearing glasses and what's your prescription?😢
Have you read ‘this is going to hurt’ by Adam Kay? If so, id love to hear what you think of his book, and if not, I’d highly recommend:)
What is it about?
@@lidah6765 It’s basically just the diaries of a doctor in the UK in the 2010s, he talks about the trauma and the funny stuff, and the exhaustion.
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You ebook link is not working.
I have audio
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Enjoy!! 💖💖💖
I cant hear the audio either !!!!
Oh no 🥲🥲 is it ok now?!
@@FayeBateYESS !!!! thank u so so excited to watch thiss
Why dont you get a heated gilet? Also M and S do thermal leggings / vest tops ❤
No audio
Oh no!! Is it working now??
12:03 What is vegan chicken?
it's proteins (often soy ones) that taste and look a bit like chicken, so you can use it the same way
Also the audio is not coming for some reason tf
🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲 is it working now?
It is! ❤ @@FayeBate
@@FayeBateyes it is!!!! and i love the video 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻