seems a pretty negative portrayal of parenthood, but i guess that fits into the band's general thematics (not hating or anything i love the song, it just occurred to me that perhaps that line was revealing something of gibbard's internalised attitudes towards family.)
I didn’t get that from this song or that specific lyric I think he is commenting on cath marrying because she is expected to, which makes her unsure and not confident in her decision or choice of husband. So the nervous smile ensues, and that reference is not anti family as much as it is the nervous helplessness of having a crying child in public that produces a nervous smile to a crowd while TRYING to comfort a baby.
indeed the instrumentals in the intro are pure gold.. there's nothing like repeating the whole song and hitting this awesome intro.. drums and guitar are on point
In 2011 I fell in love with a friend. She was in a long-term relationship with a truly good person, but they'd grown apart. After a long and painful breakup, we ended up together, and three kids in, still are. Her name is Cath (though with a 'K'). I remember listening to this during those times when I was far from certain things would work out, and feeling like it was written for me... "Cath, she stands with a well-intentioned man; but she can't relax with his hand on the small of her back..." 13 years in to a relationship, with kids, a mortgage, work... these things put strains on things, but hearing this song again today reminds me of how damned lucky I am that she's in my life.
This takes inspiration from the classic novel Wuthering Heights (1847) by Emily Bronte. "Cath" is Catherine Earnshaw, who marries Edgar, a "well-intentioned" man of prominent social status despite being in love with the lower-class ruffian Heathcliff. The music video, directed by Autumn de Wilde, is set during the wedding ceremony, with Beth Riesgraf playing Cath, the bride, and Lukas Haas playing the unwanted guest, Heathcliff.
That woman will never realize how much I think about her each day and miss her dearly. I hope the man she's with always cherishes how lucky he is to be with someone as lovely as her.
I think I might have listened to this song about 200,000 times by now. Same chills down my spine, same me trying to sing every word and playing air guitar. Same tear on my cheek at the end. If I ever loved a piece of music, this would be it.
"Your heart was dying fast and you didn't know what to do." I'm feeling this at 29. Feels like I should just pick someone before I become completely bitter, depressed and unsalvagable. Guess I'm going to be living this song.
Don't get into a relationship for that reason, you will END UP like the bride. The right person will come along once you start authentically loving yourself. Another person is not the answer and cannot save you. If you struggle to love yourself, consider making healthy changes and that will boost your confidence.
love is just proximity. soul mates don't exist. theyre literally just lies to rationalize the that depressing fact, whether realized consciously or not. but that's okay, being happy doesnt have a solution, there isn't an answer. It's a life long difficult question that you just have to desperately try to power through; decades, seconds, instances, sudden infinitudes of long division and quadratics, 2+2 and imaginary numbers. You don't need the right answer, you just have to show your work. and that will always be enough
Cath... she stands with a well-intentioned man But she can't relax with his hand on the small of her back And as the flashbulbs burst She holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child And soon everybody will ask what became of you 'Cause your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do Cath... it seems that you live in someone else's dream In a hand-me-down wedding dress Where the things that could have been are repressed But you said your vows, and you closed the door On so many men who would have loved you more And soon everybody will ask what became of you 'Cause your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do The whispers that it won't last roll up and down the pews But if their hearts were dying that fast, They'd have done the same as you And I'd have done the same as you
Does anyone else see the parallels between this song and the novel Wuthering Heights? The female lead is called Cath, she marries a man who is well-intentioned although she does not truly love him. It's brilliant. She really only marries Edgar because she thinks her love for Heathcliff won't be accepted by society, therefore, due to the pressures of society, she marries a man she does not love.
My favourite song ever- I’ve only shown three people in my life this song, because I’ve only ever been close enough to trust that many people with something as special as this. Still hits me hard every time I watch this video. Death Cab are really something.
such an amazing song.. actually had a huge impact on my life. a good friend of mine and now my bestfriend/boyfriend showed me this song a week before i was to be engaged to another guy who i def was not supossed to be with...i cancelled the wedding 6 days before and it was the best decision of my life. i had debated it before but didnt have the courage.with the help of my friend and this song i know i made a good decision. so glad that i didnt become "cath" i still cry everytime i hear this song
People still get married? What the fangul would ever posses someone to make such an insane mistake in today’s world? Unless you take a vow serious and your partner takes it as serious then there’s no point. Just harder to separate, more costly and worst of all much worse regarding the pain. I’m Out
This song makes me feel for my parent's marriage, and wonder what my mom Kathy could have gone on to do besides be the most devoted housewife and mother I know. I tear up every time I hear it, wonder if she has regrets, and hope that I am doing something worthwhile that can put a smile on her face for the choices that she made so long ago.
At 1:00 in when you hear the guitar come in overlaying the chord, that’s what Chris walla brought into the dcfc song. Something so subtle, yet so defining, simple, but unexpectedly rock and roll. Chris’ right hand on the guitar is exemplary.
I ran miles and miles late at night with this song blaring in my ears and my feet pounding off pavement when i was in a situation i knew I should no longer be in. After many years and many failures later I'm happy to say I'm finally feel like I'm where I'm supposed to be.
@@pisstakecentral just a bad marriage. Let myself feel trapped because of young kids etc. I was kinda the male Cath. At the time I was giving, giving and receiving little in return. Became emotionally bankrupt and was self aware enough to know I would have either died or completely fallen apart, and when I got a little too close to that I finally broke away. And so I made a promise to myself that I'd never let it get to that point again. Had another failed relationship after that, in which I probably swing too far the other way, not giving enough and being guarded. But now, third time's the charm. I'm finally finding the balance. Less stressful career choice, relationship where both give, less guarded, etc. Took me 44 yrs to figure it out, but the key is being self aware and always trying everyday to be a little bit better than yesterday. Also...knowing your emotional limits...giving but not to that point of bankrupting your emotional reserve.
This song makes me sad brings memories of my mom who has recently passed. My parents were separated since I was 3 and as I grew up , my mom would tell me how this guy that liked my mom was crying when he found out she married my dad. My dad isn't a bad person and I love him. But my mom deserved so much better 😖😭 I miss you mom you were so strong and I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasnt for my mama Ruby Suzette-Rose ❤🌹 my all time fav song of death cab for cutie is what Sarah said . I listened to that song a long time ago, but as I listen to the song again after quite some time has passed and my mom is gone and the love of my life I cant help but have more depth in his lyrics and oh how they strike some innermost parts of my heart and soul to feel again and to bring me to tears. Yes, they are sad , but so very beautiful and his voice is so soothing and I always cry listening to that song especially with the piano . My mom loved piano music 🎶🎵
I would never forget the moment I listened and watched this on MTV for the first time. Man this song, I couldn't even relate but the emotion is there. Forever on my top favorites!
For me, this song is about not only most likely ending up with someone you never truly loved, merely settled with,, but about everything else you settle for in life as well.. career goals are crushed by society who says you can't succeed or that it's impossible, you grieve for the inner child you lost through the process of growing up, you grieve for the past, you grieve for lost loves, lost chances, regrets, you grieve for your dreams. Sometimes I do feel like every year, my heart grows harder and dies a little more. tldr this is a good vent song ahaha,, but also , follow ur heart ! :p
Goosebumps at the passage ..'you said your vows...Your heart was dying fast... you didn't know what to do". How many out there can relate to this? An amazing song in lyric and sonically. Keep writing more!!
I always loved Death Cab, but when I heard this song, one of their deeper cuts, one that you don't hear on the radio often, I was entranced. This is when I really took notice and said to myself that these guys really are something special.
I am Cath. I cried myself to sleep every night for weeks in my last relationship because I consistently felt unloved and invalidated. I was so ready to spend forever with him because I had been assaulted and I felt like no one else would want to love me. He was in the military and we ended things just before his deployment. I am so glad we ended.
This song speaks in rhythms and portrays what we all feel at one point in our lives at least once. A love that we cannot have, for whatever reason, the worst pain of all.
"she holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child" i love how DCFC puts lyrics in their music that no one really understands but at the same time make perfect sense. you can explain it, you just know it. it makes you really listen and think about their lyrics.
Confession time: I always liked Ben's side project, The Postal Service, but haven't listened to them is many, many years now. I've NEVER liked Death Cab, I don't know why, so don't ask. It's probably because I've always been a Hardcore and Metal and Post Hardcore guy, but anyway, tonight on my Pandora radio station for the band now known as Superheaven, previously known as Daylight, Death Cab's song "Cath" came on and i figured I'd just let it play, but as I sat and listened to the lyrics, it jolted me and my heart just broke.....this song describes the last female I had a "relationship" with and it kills me that even though she threw me away and closed the door on me I could never help her. I could never be that special guy for her....because she wouldn't let me. I'm trying to move on now, but a part of me will always wonder what could have been, had she truly let me in. Anyway, thanks for letting me be candid....for whoever might find this.
This sounds word by word like something I wouldve written. Being a hardcore guy I've never liked DCFC although I love bands like future islands. Stat gold dude.
+silenthillvictim that was beautiful man, I wish you find true love. When I heard this song it meant nothing to me until I experienced the pains you did. I watched the best thing in my life leave me for a new path. Much love brother, from another Metal and Post Hardcore guy.
I know exactly what you mean. This song and the OMAM "Love, Love, Love" song break my heart every time I hear them. Except mine was a crush. We were both in on and off relationships with others except every time one party was single the other wasn't. Now it's been years since I've seen or hear anything about him, but I still miss even his presence. I've never had such a gut wrenching ache for someone else after all this time. In saying that, I'm glad I met him because without realizing it at the time he helped me define what I do want in a relationship. He will always hold a special place in my heart.
Cath, it seems that you live in someone else's dream In a hand-me-down wedding dress Where the things that could have been are repressed But you said your vows, and you closed the door On so many men who would have loved you more wow such a great song. so touching and beautiful. i love it!
Cath, she stands with a well-intentioned man But she can't relax with his hands on the small of her back And as the flash bulbs burst She holds a smile Like someone would hold A crying child And soon everybody will ask what became of you 'Cause your heart was dying fast And you didn't know what to do Cath, it seems That you live in someone else's dream In a hand-me-down wedding dress Where the things that could have been are oppressed You said your vows And you closed the door On so many men Who would have loved you more And soon everybody will ask what became of you And your heart was dying fast And you didn't know what to do The whispers that it won't last roll up and down the pews But if their hearts were dying that fast They'd have done the same as you And I'd have done the same as you
Brings me back to the fall/winter of 2008. Junior year of high school. Such good memories. I sure wish I had known I was in the good times then. I suppose it's nice to have the memories though.
+Darth Vader This has been my favourite band for the last 5 years. I'm glad people are still discovering them the way I first did! Cool profile pic btw
This song reminds me of when I was depressed 3 years ago, and I'd go to bed at 7pm and wake up at 11pm or midnight and watch music videos till 3am and wake up at 6pm and they'd always play Death Cab for Cutie and they'd always make me feel better about life and brought me off my feet
If you guys love the song so much, read the book. The song is based on Wuthering Heights and describes the relationship between Cath(erine) Earnshaw and a man named Heathcliff, who was below her social status. She decided to marry another man, which provoked Heathcliff to leave his class behind and become a "gentleman". However, in the process he leaves behind his morals and only seeks revenge for what she did.
"Read the book" that's that's all I hear from people who have nothing better to do with their time. "The Book was better" No! The book is not ever better than someone else spending millions of dollars visualization the words written on a page. Sure imagination can be a magical place, but do you really think sitting with a book for what could be days, weeks trying to imagine the visual effects movies provide in 90 minutes?!
In all honesty, I read the book around the same time I first heard this song, and I hated the book, but adore this song. Maybe it's because of the second half of the book, but there was no redemption, no lesson, it was just...everyone sucked at the end. I don't like the Bronte sister's writing as a whole after also reading Jane Eyre, which I found better than Wuthering Heights, but still quite vapid compared to other books of the same time. This song, though, vastly surpasses the book in my opinion.
This song is so written about my big sister kath , who passed away in 2015 of heart problems, and married a guy who was a piece of crap, so this song hits home for me extremely!R.I.P SISSY
Cath, she stands With a well-intentioned man But she can't relax With his hand on the small of her back And as the flashbulbs burst She holds a smile Like someone would hold A crying child And soon everybody will ask What became of you 'Cause your heart was dying fast And you didn't know what to do Cath, it seems That you lived in someone else's dream In a hand-me-down wedding dress Where the things that could have been are oppressed But you said your vows And you closed the door On so many men Who would have loved you more And soon everybody will ask What became of you 'Cause your heart was dying fast And you didn't know what to do The whispers that it won't last Roll up and down the pews But if their hearts were dying that fast They'd have done the same as you And I'd have done the same as you
At 11 years old 8 years ago I had no idea what this song was about. Now that I'm living it I know it far too well. I'm crying as I... as I unfortunately have to type this.
Lost my fiance at 21 after 7 years together... Now I'm 30 and finally got my act together. Just closed on a nice house with a woman who accepts me besides my faults. Even got a puppy now too! The pain you and I feel will never go away, but it gets easier brother. Manageable at least.
My dad introduced me to death cab. I heard the band name, and I was like ten so I thought anything with death in the name would be like death metal. My bad. I heard them and they were so slow and different and at first I thought I hated them. I came back to them when I was 13, and the first song I fell in love with was a lack of color. Listened to it all night. I decided that nobody could write as poetically as Ben Gibbard
She holds a smile.... because as we know we are always told to smile... This song at my age has hit alot of points...... I am from an older generation, my son put this on my ipod and I had the pleasure to listen to it..... I can so relate, and I guess when the lyrics come up : what became of you, I have to really question that.... Dont always live someone's dream...... always put yourself first.... Thanks for listening,.... different kinda night and felt the need to vent :)
this is actually my favorite song off of narrow stairs and i'm really glad they made a video for it. i love the whole concept for the video. support deathcab for cutie and buy their albums!
I watched the love of my life move on and marry an NHL hockey player. Early on in their marriage, she would still come over and hang out with me and we would cuddle and watch his hockey game. We still both clearly cared for each other. We both finally moved on and we didnt speak for years. I just found out she passed a couple of years ago and it absolutely floored me. This one is for you Morgan Blair. I will always love ya! This song will always remind me of her.
I listened to this back in high school and I just enjoyed the feeling the music brought me. Now years later actually reading over all the lyrics I discover another layer of complexity and story.
Man I just want to get my shit together. Just tired of being alone, its just like I want to find girl who has substance and that has a soul someone that you could talk too about anything. Well I know that I will never know the plan for my life, I just try to make the best of it and have fun.
That's exactly what you should do... enjoy life, and have fun. Do you! All will fall into place...Try not to focus on the girl thing. It'll happen. Don't be shy!! Happy Holiday's!!
Alright. I'm saying it now so I don't forget. If I ever get married, I want to get married at this church because death cab always means the world to me for different reasons. The main reasoning for being because when I was in a toxic relationship, I would listen to death cab nightly and ask the universe if I could meet a softie like Ben gibbard who would like me for me 100% inside and out. And it happened.
I keep obsessively listening to this song and thinking about her. I've known "Cath" for over 10 years now. A few years back we discovered an unmistakable spark that's only intensified over the years, even though we can barely speak. I know she isn't happy, and I know she doesn't know what to do, but it's not a decision I get to make for her. With or without me, I hope she finds her way. I only want to see her happy...
So the music is what drew me to this song years ago, but this is the first time I've actually listened to the lyrics and oh my god...it is incredible. This song means A LOT more to me now.
I weep from the masterful storyline , lyrics, melody . Moreover, the lyric "she can't relax with his hand on the small of her back" and the metaphor of holding a smile like a crying child - tears shed from this lovely lovely song
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"but you said your vows, and you close the door, on so many men, that would have loved you more"
Gosh what a powerful lyrics :(
I read this a those lyrics played..
It’s not who loves you but who you love I learned that
ALL of his songs could easily be considered poems in the near future
Ben is full of them!
@@nickm4874 Ben writes stories not just songs! One of the best songwriters ever in my opinion!
"She holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child,"
That lyric hits me every time. This song is so beautifully written. Go DCFC!
I picture that face everytime.
how would someone hold a crying child?
@@KitCalder with a nervous smile....
seems a pretty negative portrayal of parenthood, but i guess that fits into the band's general thematics (not hating or anything i love the song, it just occurred to me that perhaps that line was revealing something of gibbard's internalised attitudes towards family.)
I didn’t get that from this song or that specific lyric I think he is commenting on cath marrying because she is expected to, which makes her unsure and not confident in her decision or choice of husband. So the nervous smile ensues, and that reference is not anti family as much as it is the nervous helplessness of having a crying child in public that produces a nervous smile to a crowd while TRYING to comfort a baby.
The guitar on the intro is simply just life...
Nathaniel Girma i like the drums too, they rly hit right for some reason.
indeed the instrumentals in the intro are pure gold.. there's nothing like repeating the whole song and hitting this awesome intro.. drums and guitar are on point
Kath
Idore
I K R..wish I could make it my Ring tone or something!
This and Push by the Cure. Wholly unappreciated.
In 2011 I fell in love with a friend. She was in a long-term relationship with a truly good person, but they'd grown apart. After a long and painful breakup, we ended up together, and three kids in, still are. Her name is Cath (though with a 'K'). I remember listening to this during those times when I was far from certain things would work out, and feeling like it was written for me... "Cath, she stands with a well-intentioned man; but she can't relax with his hand on the small of her back..." 13 years in to a relationship, with kids, a mortgage, work... these things put strains on things, but hearing this song again today reminds me of how damned lucky I am that she's in my life.
This takes inspiration from the classic novel Wuthering Heights (1847) by Emily Bronte. "Cath" is Catherine Earnshaw, who marries Edgar, a "well-intentioned" man of prominent social status despite being in love with the lower-class ruffian Heathcliff. The music video, directed by Autumn de Wilde, is set during the wedding ceremony, with Beth Riesgraf playing Cath, the bride, and Lukas Haas playing the unwanted guest, Heathcliff.
Heathcliff is a villain. He would never have attended Catherine's wedding without shutting the whole thing down.
Wow..great book. Youe right on.:)
What’s the meaning of the song?
That woman will never realize how much I think about her each day and miss her dearly. I hope the man she's with always cherishes how lucky he is to be with someone as lovely as her.
hope you’re doing great and found someone who wants to be with you man. keep your head up
You are your own soul man. Hope you are doing good
I like this song for people who relate to Cath but for people who relate to the narrator it seems kind of unhealthy tbh.
@@thechannelofultimatedestiny that's in you bro.
@@thechannelofultimatedestiny “Indispensable to the lover is his unrequited love, which I would at no price relinquish for a state of indifference.”
This song needs to be 10 hours long.
Right click, press loop. Problem solved.
You are correct
@@michaelouzts4290agreed
honestly one of the best songs by Death Cab
Their best in my opinion
Yes
@kJ. I second that. Best song by far I think
Agreed! Also I love your videos @TheMusicNarrative
I don't think a lot of people know how truly romantically fantastic this band was.
Such a great song.
is*
Was? Just saw them in Knoxville and they were great.
Absolutely an ace teir top notch band I'd say
Is . Still amazing
I think I might have listened to this song about 200,000 times by now. Same chills down my spine, same me trying to sing every word and playing air guitar. Same tear on my cheek at the end. If I ever loved a piece of music, this would be it.
First he died of cancer and joined the Black Parade, then he had to watch the woman he loves marry someone else? This dude can't catch a break.
Oh man, I thought the same thing!
and also what happened to him in Inception....Poor guy.
@@oaksantino2329 I know 😭
He eventually is a best man at Andre 3000s wedding so there is that
It's wuthering. It can be a bummer. Could be worse.
"Your heart was dying fast and you didn't know what to do." I'm feeling this at 29. Feels like I should just pick someone before I become completely bitter, depressed and unsalvagable. Guess I'm going to be living this song.
Don't get into a relationship for that reason, you will END UP like the bride. The right person will come along once you start authentically loving yourself. Another person is not the answer and cannot save you. If you struggle to love yourself, consider making healthy changes and that will boost your confidence.
@@TimSmith-db1iu superb advice
Why do you think relationships are the be all end all on life Carmen?
love is just proximity. soul mates don't exist. theyre literally just lies to rationalize the that depressing fact, whether realized consciously or not. but that's okay, being happy doesnt have a solution, there isn't an answer. It's a life long difficult question that you just have to desperately try to power through; decades, seconds, instances, sudden infinitudes of long division and quadratics, 2+2 and imaginary numbers. You don't need the right answer, you just have to show your work. and that will always be enough
When my daughter died my heart was dying fast and I didn’t know what to do.
The drums are exactly why I love this song.
Cath...
she stands with a well-intentioned man
But she can't relax with his hand on the small of her back
And as the flashbulbs burst
She holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child
And soon everybody will ask what became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do
Cath...
it seems that you live in someone else's dream
In a hand-me-down wedding dress
Where the things that could have been are repressed
But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more
And soon everybody will ask what became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do
The whispers that it won't last roll up and down the pews
But if their hearts were dying that fast,
They'd have done the same as you
And I'd have done the same as you
I went to a Death Cab concert once, it rained the entire time and the set list was so magical I cried the entire time too. Lol.
Does anyone else see the parallels between this song and the novel Wuthering Heights? The female lead is called Cath, she marries a man who is well-intentioned although she does not truly love him. It's brilliant. She really only marries Edgar because she thinks her love for Heathcliff won't be accepted by society, therefore, due to the pressures of society, she marries a man she does not love.
K Collins nice literary insight!
***** same with you dude, nice!
***** I didn't know that!! Now I have something to look into :)
andrew lacsina Thank you!!
I am reading this book because I love this song and I am loving Wuthering Heights.
I know Cath... since 2009 just now I am reading the book.
My favourite song ever- I’ve only shown three people in my life this song, because I’ve only ever been close enough to trust that many people with something as special as this. Still hits me hard every time I watch this video. Death Cab are really something.
I will follow you into the dark
such an amazing song.. actually had a huge impact on my life. a good friend of mine and now my bestfriend/boyfriend showed me this song a week before i was to be engaged to another guy who i def was not supossed to be with...i cancelled the wedding 6 days before and it was the best decision of my life. i had debated it before but didnt have the courage.with the help of my friend and this song i know i made a good decision. so glad that i didnt become "cath" i still cry everytime i hear this song
iugirlie very easy to marry the wrong man, a lot harder to divorce him and deal with damage done. I’m learning..
People still get married? What the fangul would ever posses someone to make such an insane mistake in today’s world? Unless you take a vow serious and your partner takes it as serious then there’s no point. Just harder to separate, more costly and worst of all much worse regarding the pain. I’m
Out
Madmok128 yessss I learned this the hard way and some people like to make the process even more difficult than divorcing already can be
Wow! That's amazing.
Are you two still together 8 years later?
Still a beautiful song .... nuff respect from Jamaica!.🇯🇲🙏🏾👍🏾
This song makes me feel for my parent's marriage, and wonder what my mom Kathy could have gone on to do besides be the most devoted housewife and mother I know. I tear up every time I hear it, wonder if she has regrets, and hope that I am doing something worthwhile that can put a smile on her face for the choices that she made so long ago.
At 1:00 in when you hear the guitar come in overlaying the chord, that’s what Chris walla brought into the dcfc song. Something so subtle, yet so defining, simple, but unexpectedly rock and roll. Chris’ right hand on the guitar is exemplary.
I ran miles and miles late at night with this song blaring in my ears and my feet pounding off pavement when i was in a situation i knew I should no longer be in. After many years and many failures later I'm happy to say I'm finally feel like I'm where I'm supposed to be.
What was the situation
@@pisstakecentral just a bad marriage. Let myself feel trapped because of young kids etc. I was kinda the male Cath. At the time I was giving, giving and receiving little in return. Became emotionally bankrupt and was self aware enough to know I would have either died or completely fallen apart, and when I got a little too close to that I finally broke away. And so I made a promise to myself that I'd never let it get to that point again. Had another failed relationship after that, in which I probably swing too far the other way, not giving enough and being guarded. But now, third time's the charm. I'm finally finding the balance. Less stressful career choice, relationship where both give, less guarded, etc. Took me 44 yrs to figure it out, but the key is being self aware and always trying everyday to be a little bit better than yesterday. Also...knowing your emotional limits...giving but not to that point of bankrupting your emotional reserve.
@@gprich82 thanks so much for sharing with me man, insightful and interesting stuff. Glad to hear things are going better for you now aswell
This is beautiful. I'm happy for you. Loving yourself is a journey all its own. Lessons and memories pave that path.
This song makes me sad brings memories of my mom who has recently passed. My parents were separated since I was 3 and as I grew up , my mom would tell me how this guy that liked my mom was crying when he found out she married my dad. My dad isn't a bad person and I love him. But my mom deserved so much better 😖😭 I miss you mom you were so strong and I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasnt for my mama Ruby Suzette-Rose ❤🌹 my all time fav song of death cab for cutie is what Sarah said . I listened to that song a long time ago, but as I listen to the song again after quite some time has passed and my mom is gone and the love of my life I cant help but have more depth in his lyrics and oh how they strike some innermost parts of my heart and soul to feel again and to bring me to tears. Yes, they are sad , but so very beautiful and his voice is so soothing and I always cry listening to that song especially with the piano . My mom loved piano music 🎶🎵
Incredible song "Cath" --but all these comments r 10 and 15 years old? Wow 😮😢😅
I would never forget the moment I listened and watched this on MTV for the first time. Man this song, I couldn't even relate but the emotion is there. Forever on my top favorites!
Same!
For me, this song is about not only most likely ending up with someone you never truly loved, merely settled with,, but about everything else you settle for in life as well.. career goals are crushed by society who says you can't succeed or that it's impossible, you grieve for the inner child you lost through the process of growing up, you grieve for the past, you grieve for lost loves, lost chances, regrets, you grieve for your dreams.
Sometimes I do feel like every year, my heart grows harder and dies a little more.
tldr this is a good vent song ahaha,, but also , follow ur heart ! :p
ahah me saying that as i DON'T follow my heart 💀
Damn 😢 this was beautiful. I can relate.
Beautifully stated... ❤ I agree.
I totally forgot about this song until I heard my brother playing it on his guitar yesterday. Love it.
Goosebumps at the passage ..'you said your vows...Your heart was dying fast... you didn't know what to do". How many out there can relate to this? An amazing song in lyric and sonically. Keep writing more!!
DAmn its been over 10 Years, I love this song. 2018 is almost over.
My favorite song 🎶 reminds me to always follow my heart ♥️. Love this band.
I always loved Death Cab, but when I heard this song, one of their deeper cuts, one that you don't hear on the radio often, I was entranced. This is when I really took notice and said to myself that these guys really are something special.
I dont think i've ever cried like this before. With so much understanding. This song always gets me. The video fits perfectly.
There is something very honest about this song that I really like. One of the band's best for me.
I am Cath. I cried myself to sleep every night for weeks in my last relationship because I consistently felt unloved and invalidated. I was so ready to spend forever with him because I had been assaulted and I felt like no one else would want to love me. He was in the military and we ended things just before his deployment. I am so glad we ended.
10 years ago. I was a teenager boy who loves to watch MTV every night and this song always on at that time. And I still listen to this until now.
How the in the holy fuck is this song eight years old.
Well, we;re all old as fuck man.
HOLY FUCK, you look like a degenerate!
We got a winner.....A degenerate in the mist.
Still my favorite DCfC song
now its 13 years old @_@
This song speaks in rhythms and portrays what we all feel at one point in our lives at least once. A love that we cannot have, for whatever reason, the worst pain of all.
this by far, has to be my favorite song by them.
"she holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child" i love how DCFC puts lyrics in their music that no one really understands but at the same time make perfect sense. you can explain it, you just know it. it makes you really listen and think about their lyrics.
She holds a smile ...like someone would hold...a crying child. Most beautiful analogy in the world. Thanks DC4C.
Confession time: I always liked Ben's side project, The Postal Service, but haven't listened to them is many, many years now. I've NEVER liked Death Cab, I don't know why, so don't ask. It's probably because I've always been a Hardcore and Metal and Post Hardcore guy, but anyway, tonight on my Pandora radio station for the band now known as Superheaven, previously known as Daylight, Death Cab's song "Cath" came on and i figured I'd just let it play, but as I sat and listened to the lyrics, it jolted me and my heart just broke.....this song describes the last female I had a "relationship" with and it kills me that even though she threw me away and closed the door on me I could never help her. I could never be that special guy for her....because she wouldn't let me. I'm trying to move on now, but a part of me will always wonder what could have been, had she truly let me in. Anyway, thanks for letting me be candid....for whoever might find this.
This sounds word by word like something I wouldve written. Being a hardcore guy I've never liked DCFC although I love bands like future islands. Stat gold dude.
+silenthillvictim that was beautiful man, I wish you find true love. When I heard this song it meant nothing to me until I experienced the pains you did. I watched the best thing in my life leave me for a new path. Much love brother, from another Metal and Post Hardcore guy.
I know exactly what you mean. This song and the OMAM "Love, Love, Love" song break my heart every time I hear them. Except mine was a crush. We were both in on and off relationships with others except every time one party was single the other wasn't. Now it's been years since I've seen or hear anything about him, but I still miss even his presence. I've never had such a gut wrenching ache for someone else after all this time. In saying that, I'm glad I met him because without realizing it at the time he helped me define what I do want in a relationship. He will always hold a special place in my heart.
silenthillvictim just the tip, eh bro!?
silenthillvictim Superheaven is my jam
Beautiful song with a beautiful music video. I’m not sure why this song didn’t have more lasting power it has really stuck with me for years
Cath, it seems that you live in someone else's dream
In a hand-me-down wedding dress
Where the things that could have been are repressed
But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more
wow such a great song. so touching and beautiful. i love it!
they are absolutely amazing live...
intro guitar riff gives me chills!
It can cure cancer
Cath, she stands with a well-intentioned man
But she can't relax with his hands on the small of her back
And as the flash bulbs burst
She holds a smile
Like someone would hold
A crying child
And soon everybody will ask what became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast
And you didn't know what to do
Cath, it seems
That you live in someone else's dream
In a hand-me-down wedding dress
Where the things that could have been are oppressed
You said your vows
And you closed the door
On so many men
Who would have loved you more
And soon everybody will ask what became of you
And your heart was dying fast
And you didn't know what to do
The whispers that it won't last roll up and down the pews
But if their hearts were dying that fast
They'd have done the same as you
And I'd have done the same as you
does anyone else cry their eyes out when watching this video? 😭
I just did
Very much yes
I don’t cry but this video does push the emotional buttons. It’s so beautifully done.
Heard this song for the first time today. Have never really listened to this band but this song is amazing.
I don't ever cry at weddings but this video, song and lyric nails it. Always makes me think about that one girl that got away. Damn.
Brings me back to the fall/winter of 2008. Junior year of high school. Such good memories. I sure wish I had known I was in the good times then. I suppose it's nice to have the memories though.
Music is the closest we have to memories. I was 21 in 2008 but had no idea how great it was back than.
It seems you live someone else's dream. In a hand-me-down wedding dress,
Where the things that could have been are repressed.
This is one of those bands that really grows on me - the more I listen to their songs and style, the more I really enjoy their sound and messages.
Great song, great band! "Cath" stabs you right in the heart!
One of the best songs ever.
I never get tired of this song. So deep. Great sound & lyrics.
This is my new favorite band, they are just so amazing
+Darth Vader This has been my favourite band for the last 5 years. I'm glad people are still discovering them the way I first did!
Cool profile pic btw
+shendriksza same! I've never even found a band close to death cab
TheLOAAD Try The Postal Service and Fleet Foxes
I've never heard of Fleet Foxes. I'll give them a listen too
I've never heard of Fleet Foxes. I'll give them a listen too
Absolutely awesome Drummer.. completely ridiculous how much he brings it on this. The heartbeat of the song
Right?? So incredibly good
This song reminds me of when I was depressed 3 years ago, and I'd go to bed at 7pm and wake up at 11pm or midnight and watch music videos till 3am and wake up at 6pm and they'd always play Death Cab for Cutie and they'd always make me feel better about life and brought me off my feet
I've been through similar periods of life and discovered some of the most awesome music during those times. I hope you are doing well these days ✌🏻💖🎶
If you guys love the song so much, read the book. The song is based on Wuthering Heights and describes the relationship between Cath(erine) Earnshaw and a man named Heathcliff, who was below her social status. She decided to marry another man, which provoked Heathcliff to leave his class behind and become a "gentleman". However, in the process he leaves behind his morals and only seeks revenge for what she did.
I'm a Heathcliff... Story of my life...
OneFifthNative what song? I've dabbled in some Kate Bush, but am not familiar with most of her material. I would appreciate a song name.
"Read the book" that's that's all I hear from people who have nothing better to do with their time. "The Book was better" No! The book is not ever better than someone else spending millions of dollars visualization the words written on a page. Sure imagination can be a magical place, but do you really think sitting with a book for what could be days, weeks trying to imagine the visual effects movies provide in 90 minutes?!
In all honesty, I read the book around the same time I first heard this song, and I hated the book, but adore this song. Maybe it's because of the second half of the book, but there was no redemption, no lesson, it was just...everyone sucked at the end. I don't like the Bronte sister's writing as a whole after also reading Jane Eyre, which I found better than Wuthering Heights, but still quite vapid compared to other books of the same time. This song, though, vastly surpasses the book in my opinion.
I have read it. :) I love Wuthering Heights.
This song is so written about my big sister kath , who passed away in 2015 of heart problems, and married a guy who was a piece of crap, so this song hits home for me extremely!R.I.P SISSY
That being said, the video does nothing compared to being high at the gym in your own head listening to the song on it's own.
your high all right ! stay at the gym...
Kinda always liked deathcab from afar but never delved into the lyrics until recently. This is deep and cuts like a knife, beautiful song!
Cath, she stands
With a well-intentioned man
But she can't relax
With his hand on the small of her back
And as the flashbulbs burst
She holds a smile
Like someone would hold
A crying child
And soon everybody will ask
What became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast
And you didn't know what to do
Cath, it seems
That you lived in someone else's dream
In a hand-me-down wedding dress
Where the things that could have been are oppressed
But you said your vows
And you closed the door
On so many men
Who would have loved you more
And soon everybody will ask
What became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast
And you didn't know what to do
The whispers that it won't last
Roll up and down the pews
But if their hearts were dying that fast
They'd have done the same as you
And I'd have done the same as you
At 11 years old 8 years ago I had no idea what this song was about. Now that I'm living it I know it far too well. I'm crying as I... as I unfortunately have to type this.
Hang in there my brother, it always ALWAYS gets better.
Lost my fiance at 21 after 7 years together... Now I'm 30 and finally got my act together. Just closed on a nice house with a woman who accepts me besides my faults. Even got a puppy now too! The pain you and I feel will never go away, but it gets easier brother. Manageable at least.
TheChickenRiceBowl fuck you
@@jamesstokley6476 who hurt you
This is one of the songs that no matter how much years pass always pops up in your head 😭
That moment after she puts her hands back in his and the shot where she looks back up at her husband (to be) never ceases to give me chills
always been my favorite death cab song
Yeah, the combination of lyrics and visuals is quite poignant and powerful! Amazing!
One of my absolute favorites.
I truly love this song. Very close to my heart.
My dad introduced me to death cab. I heard the band name, and I was like ten so I thought anything with death in the name would be like death metal. My bad. I heard them and they were so slow and different and at first I thought I hated them. I came back to them when I was 13, and the first song I fell in love with was a lack of color. Listened to it all night. I decided that nobody could write as poetically as Ben Gibbard
wow - my dad introduced me to them around the same time in my life and a lack of colour is my favourite song of theirs. ha
that is so true. it is just amazing how poetic and meaningful his songs are
Purple Kiss fuck you
James Stokley ?
MY FAVE SONG FROM EM...😥
She holds a smile.... because as we know we are always told to smile... This song at my age has hit alot of points...... I am from an older generation, my son put this on my ipod and I had the pleasure to listen to it..... I can so relate, and I guess when the lyrics come up : what became of you, I have to really question that.... Dont always live someone's dream...... always put yourself first.... Thanks for listening,.... different kinda night and felt the need to vent :)
this is actually my favorite song off of narrow stairs and i'm really glad they made a video for it.
i love the whole concept for the video.
support deathcab for cutie and buy their albums!
A power jam for sure that's got that iconic sound!
I watched the love of my life move on and marry an NHL hockey player. Early on in their marriage, she would still come over and hang out with me and we would cuddle and watch his hockey game. We still both clearly cared for each other. We both finally moved on and we didnt speak for years. I just found out she passed a couple of years ago and it absolutely floored me. This one is for you Morgan Blair. I will always love ya! This song will always remind me of her.
My ex tried so hard to get me into Death Cab and I never budged...till we broke up. Now this is all I have left.
Same guy from the "Welcome To The Black Parade" video by My Chemical Romance
+Gabriel Metcalf Oh my god was he hospitalized after leaving the wedding?
+Gabriel Metcalf hes from inception too.
Lukas Haas..... he's in many many things....
Gabriel Metcalf thank you! i could've remember where i recognized him from.
@@onesonsmom he's even a groomsmen in the UGK song with OutKast lmao.
There are just so many different ways to interpret this song. It suits many different circumstances...
Bitterness, regret, sadness...
Still rocking this in 23’.. I love
You Brittany
I listened to this back in high school and I just enjoyed the feeling the music brought me. Now years later actually reading over all the lyrics I discover another layer of complexity and story.
Still solid after all these years. My band used to cover this all the time and I miss it.
The ending gets me still ):
Man I just want to get my shit together. Just tired of being alone, its just like I want to find girl who has substance and that has a soul someone that you could talk too about anything.
Well I know that I will never know the plan for my life, I just try to make the best of it and have fun.
That's exactly what you should do... enjoy life, and have fun. Do you! All will fall into place...Try not to focus on the girl thing. It'll happen. Don't be shy!! Happy Holiday's!!
You’ll find her. Just live your life and focus on working on you. She’ll come surprisingly.
gotdirt66 bro did you ever find anyone. It’s 4-25-18 just read your comment. Interested to see
Ruben Ponce Jr agreed!! Here 7/7/18
gotdirt66 how about now!?
I love how the guitar and drums work so much in unison
It's 2018 and this is still one of my favorite songs ever. Wether you like the band how could anyone not like this song? Classic.
An absolute masterpiece ❤
One can always count on DCFC for interesting lyrics and sound.
This song is amazing. Spent all fall and winter just listening to DCFC. 😌
Alright.
I'm saying it now so I don't forget. If I ever get married, I want to get married at this church because death cab always means the world to me for different reasons.
The main reasoning for being because when I was in a toxic relationship, I would listen to death cab nightly and ask the universe if I could meet a softie like Ben gibbard who would like me for me 100% inside and out. And it happened.
I keep obsessively listening to this song and thinking about her. I've known "Cath" for over 10 years now. A few years back we discovered an unmistakable spark that's only intensified over the years, even though we can barely speak. I know she isn't happy, and I know she doesn't know what to do, but it's not a decision I get to make for her. With or without me, I hope she finds her way. I only want to see her happy...
the bride is on Leverage. I LOVE that show. and she is my favorite character.
So the music is what drew me to this song years ago, but this is the first time I've actually listened to the lyrics and oh my god...it is incredible. This song means A LOT more to me now.
You grew up
Can't believe it's been 10 years now.
That beginning guitar rift is absolutely incredible.
I weep from the masterful storyline , lyrics, melody . Moreover, the lyric "she can't relax with his hand on the small of her back" and the metaphor of holding a smile like a crying child - tears shed from this lovely lovely song
first time i heard it, loved it
🙂
That speaks volumes, I shouldn't have settled!
the wedding scene reminds me of the Graduate a bit..awesome Song. love it!!!
Great song, and a pleasant surprise to see Lukas Haas playing one of the roles.
This randomly popped up on Spotify and the memories just came rushing back. I felt 18 again for a short while.