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I thank you for this! I have for years struggled with imposter syndrome (I left college as a 21 year old high school teacher and did well in the field) that I’ve confused with humility. The question that was most powerful for me is “Is it imposter syndrome or is that the story you’re creating?” THAT HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD! This is my bypass as well. I think it’s connected to fear of failure and also my habit of not wanting to put all my effort into something I’m doing! I think it’s really fear, excuses, and procrastination as well…because everyone else around me uplifts that I’m not an imposter. Thank you so much for these questions and this video! I’m going to work more with these questions! 🙏🏾
@@byatiyaj What a great reflection! Definitely a question worth diving deeper into with some self-coaching time. We recommend watching our video on the 3 Types of Fear & How To Overcome Them ➡ th-cam.com/video/nl2WfNPHZsg/w-d-xo.html. It might help in your journey to finding clarity. Thanks for sharing ❤
Katy Grey 0 seconds ago Thank you Ajit. You have laid this out so well. It has always bugged me when people would say “oh you mean you have imposter syndrome!? ” And I would think “no, it’s not that!” -You are right! It is a psychological term that is way over used! At times I may have felt not ready, and many times it has been fear. But the big take away is that reluctance to do next steps and get fully prepared is more likely holding many back- and certainly confidence issues. All are workable!
I agree completely,recently recognised deeper new parts of myself as I challenge myself to step up. Such as lack of confidence, doubt, critical inner voice, self judgement, procrastination, perfectionism, and other various fear based feelings. They could be classified as imposter syndrome, but i don't want to "have" imposter syndrome, or any other label, illness or story. I have fear, i don't want to be judged or critiqued, or fail or......oh so many things but these are all separate issues. I've tried to describe what's going on for me and for convienience sakes have used the term imposter syndrome, and actually using it, causes me to feel weak and useless, so thanks for the reminder. I am scared, i am doing something new, risky and out of my comfort zone and I'm just being a human....
These are excellent thought prompts, especially the very first of trusting process and not trying to bypass to a fruition state of being a "Master Coach" at some hypothetical time in the future. I've become a collector of certifications and trainings largely out of imposter syndrome fear... I appreciate you offering this quality content for free...cheers!
Brilliant, so refreshing. I started to get tired of constant post and content on “imposter” - like it’s hip to have imposter. So great invitation here to go deeper…😊
I liked this because I really didn’t relate to the imposter syndrome.. then when you asked are we playing it out.. it wasn’t my story, but it is the question of modernism in indigenous cultures and colonialism. The concept process took me through a lot in 15 mins or so. 🙏🏾✨🌹
For me imposter Sysndrom is like a constant voice in my head telling me: No this cant be as easy as you think... and then i start overthinking - slowing down my decission making, struggeling to take daring steps. I barrely ever found any joy in reaching degrees or steps in my career cause it felt like "ok your just some randome dude - nothing achived some have made it further - are you even the right one to do this? What if you fail? It feels like something inside me lurking in a dark corner is taking notes on every misstep just waiting to tell me: I know it all allong. Your just an idiot. A zero. A no one. My way out: Things that impacted my personal habits in a good way have allways been: Do things that you feel naturally attracted to (cause in passion I can switch off my head and get into flow state) Frequently visit places & people that make you feel confident in the way you are (I don't have to wear my fake confidence mask) Meet people who inspire you to question your habits of overthinking by pragmatism and efficency in their life (learn pragmatism and the value of darring to make a misstake) Get aware of your high performance moments & the factors leading you towards them (understanding how I can be the creator of situations i will perform in) Get aware of your negative thoughts and when they accure (understanding of people and situations you should get out of your life or just learning to question if these thoughts are legit) Dont ever try to be someone else cause it wont work anyway (paradoxically wearing a mask to seem confident makes you only fear more cause now you could lose that one live on stage...) Find confidence in your inconfidence Visualization - Create your inner "Napoleon" - I developed a sence of "If things feel easy and undeserved to me - I can push it further". its like creating a inner Picture of possible greatness you can achieve till the point were things wont feel easy anymore. I can hold this picture cause my mission to me feels more important then myself - meaning so what if I fail. Im on the right path. Last Point: Face your fears go to places and face situations that make you nervous and overcome them.
These are great insights! So much value in building self-awareness and identifying what works for you when situations like this show up. Thanks for sharing ❤
Oh my god !!! This was such a helpful video and how you broke up the concept into well defined questions and clarified this to a deeper greater level. Thanks a lot 😄👌👌👍👍
Thank you Ajit- another gold nugget of a video🙏🏻Was a victim of imposter syndrome when I started Holobody and during my journey too. Still get bouts of it once in a while and just realized I feel it’s my fear kicking in and not the syndrome itself!! 😍 This video is just what I needed to hear once again ❤️🙌🏻
Today I needed to see this! I have been feeling what you described in question 3. Studying, memorising, academia, sports, art, winning in all fields in life came (still comes) easily to me. So for me, it felt like a chance (i don't believe in the concept of luck but as I write this, i realise, what else does chance mean then?) I see people around me, struggle or work very hard and so I for one didnt value my own successes; or if i did, i then put my whole self on this pedestal and now feel like when i begin my journey of coaching - i wont deliver because i didnt really work hard for it. It just came to me. Putting myself on a platform far below on own imaginative pedestal has made me realise, that when you say Im not designed to be God like to cure problems with solutions. I am a conversationalist helping others with my talents like the gift of the gab albeit in a coach like structured way, That is all. Also, the point that the coachees dont care about MY journey and its not about me (not everything should be about me :P) Thanks Ajit! I will have a restful sleep tonight.
What a beautiful reflection and game-changing insight, Dr. Pamela! Truly the first step towards showing up fully and enjoying every step of the way. Thank you for sharing ❤❤
Taking notes while watching this I have some more understanding of this term, but I also have more insight. What I feel is that I have compared myself to others and where they are at in their journey, abilities, and education, which has in the past made me feel less than them. As a coach, I'm sure many of you have helped people who improved their life in many different areas that you helped them to create. While doing so you yourself haven't reached the same or a certain level of outcome in your life that you wish to achieve. So, you can help them, but you haven't been able to help yourself and that is what may also be attributed to your imposter syndrome. But as the saying goes, do as I say, not as I do. That leads me to my next thought. I got this idea at the very beginning of the video as he was explaining that he helped bigger businesses compared to his own which lead to him feeling imposter syndrome. I would like to use my unique empathic, intuitive abilities to help people in relationships and individuals to have a better relationships or to find a relationship. A negative thought improved by changing my thinking is, I may not be in a marriage or a long term relationship at this time of my life like the clients that I want to be coaching, but that doesn't define what I have to offer them in helping them to heal and improve their relationship. What I teach I will then know more about and what I will then achieve in my own life. As he said in the video in my own words, my clients only care about their own journey and challenges and if I can help them. Do they feel that I care for them enough by helping and supporting them with my coaching in their journey to reach the outcomes that they wish to achieve? I'm in the process of taking baby steps. I am seeing my progress throughout the process. The question in the video, if I didn't know about the concept of imposter syndrome, I wrote instead, "How would I act if I didn’t define myself beyond who I am and what I do for myself and others today?" This puts me in the present moment by not comparing myself to others or who I want to be or who I once was (define myself beyond who I am) and my previous failures or accomplishments (what I do for myself and others today). Many of us define ourselves by our past selves and where we want to be in the future within the now moment. Feel your present self, even for a few seconds, and see how you answer that question. Thank you for this video.
You got it! How to boost self-confidence: th-cam.com/video/ll6R2dvD-Xk/w-d-xo.html How to overcome fear: th-cam.com/video/nl2WfNPHZsg/w-d-xo.html We hope you find them valuable! Thanks for sharing ❤
Your guidance always provides a new perspective for me to challenge me! After all, as Rich Litvin says, I am my first client and we have a lifetime membership for continual improvement.
A lot of insight here Coach Ajit. Definitely helping to focus on what my true block is. Fear vs. Imposter Syndrome. Clarity…. Excited for the growth that is coming forth.
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I thank you for this! I have for years struggled with imposter syndrome (I left college as a 21 year old high school teacher and did well in the field) that I’ve confused with humility. The question that was most powerful for me is “Is it imposter syndrome or is that the story you’re creating?” THAT HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD! This is my bypass as well. I think it’s connected to fear of failure and also my habit of not wanting to put all my effort into something I’m doing! I think it’s really fear, excuses, and procrastination as well…because everyone else around me uplifts that I’m not an imposter. Thank you so much for these questions and this video! I’m going to work more with these questions! 🙏🏾
@@byatiyaj What a great reflection! Definitely a question worth diving deeper into with some self-coaching time. We recommend watching our video on the 3 Types of Fear & How To Overcome Them ➡ th-cam.com/video/nl2WfNPHZsg/w-d-xo.html. It might help in your journey to finding clarity. Thanks for sharing ❤
Katy Grey
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Thank you Ajit. You have laid this out so well.
It has always bugged me when people would say “oh you mean you have imposter syndrome!? ” And I would think “no, it’s not that!” -You are right! It is a psychological term that is way over used! At times I may have felt not ready, and many times it has been fear. But the big take away is that reluctance to do next steps and get fully prepared is more likely holding many back- and certainly confidence issues. All are workable!
Everything is, Katy! Thanks for sharing ❤
I agree completely,recently recognised deeper new parts of myself as I challenge myself to step up. Such as lack of confidence, doubt, critical inner voice, self judgement, procrastination, perfectionism, and other various fear based feelings. They could be classified as imposter syndrome, but i don't want to "have" imposter syndrome, or any other label, illness or story. I have fear, i don't want to be judged or critiqued, or fail or......oh so many things but these are all separate issues. I've tried to describe what's going on for me and for convienience sakes have used the term imposter syndrome, and actually using it, causes me to feel weak and useless, so thanks for the reminder. I am scared, i am doing something new, risky and out of my comfort zone and I'm just being a human....
So much power and courage in this share! It's all about our mental chatter and making it empowering. Thanks for sharing this beautiful reflection ❤
These are excellent thought prompts, especially the very first of trusting process and not trying to bypass to a fruition state of being a "Master Coach" at some hypothetical time in the future. I've become a collector of certifications and trainings largely out of imposter syndrome fear...
I appreciate you offering this quality content for free...cheers!
What an amazing insight! What matters next is what you do with this information. We're so glad you found this valuable! Thanks for sharing ❤
Brilliant, so refreshing. I started to get tired of constant post and content on “imposter” - like it’s hip to have imposter. So great invitation here to go deeper…😊
So true, Renate! It's time to change that ;) Thanks for sharing ❤
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you Ajit for sharing this piece of information 😇😌
We're so happy it got to you at the right time. Thanks for sharing ❤
I liked this because I really didn’t relate to the imposter syndrome.. then when you asked are we playing it out.. it wasn’t my story, but it is the question of modernism in indigenous cultures and colonialism. The concept process took me through a lot in 15 mins or so. 🙏🏾✨🌹
That's great, Suki! We're glad you resonated with that message. Thanks for sharing ❤
Thank you so much for sharing. Insights lands here🙏🏻
We're so happy they did, Hanne! Thanks for sharing ❤
For me imposter Sysndrom is like a constant voice in my head telling me: No this cant be as easy as you think... and then i start overthinking - slowing down my decission making, struggeling to take daring steps. I barrely ever found any joy in reaching degrees or steps in my career cause it felt like "ok your just some randome dude - nothing achived some have made it further - are you even the right one to do this? What if you fail? It feels like something inside me lurking in a dark corner is taking notes on every misstep just waiting to tell me: I know it all allong. Your just an idiot. A zero. A no one.
My way out:
Things that impacted my personal habits in a good way have allways been:
Do things that you feel naturally attracted to (cause in passion I can switch off my head and get into flow state)
Frequently visit places & people that make you feel confident in the way you are (I don't have to wear my fake confidence mask)
Meet people who inspire you to question your habits of overthinking by pragmatism and efficency in their life (learn pragmatism and the value of darring to make a misstake)
Get aware of your high performance moments & the factors leading you towards them (understanding how I can be the creator of situations i will perform in)
Get aware of your negative thoughts and when they accure (understanding of people and situations you should get out of your life or just learning to question if these thoughts are legit)
Dont ever try to be someone else cause it wont work anyway (paradoxically wearing a mask to seem confident makes you only fear more cause now you could lose that one live on stage...)
Find confidence in your inconfidence
Visualization - Create your inner "Napoleon" - I developed a sence of "If things feel easy and undeserved to me - I can push it further". its like creating a inner Picture of possible greatness you can achieve till the point were things wont feel easy anymore. I can hold this picture cause my mission to me feels more important then myself - meaning so what if I fail. Im on the right path.
Last Point: Face your fears go to places and face situations that make you nervous and overcome them.
These are great insights! So much value in building self-awareness and identifying what works for you when situations like this show up. Thanks for sharing ❤
Totally stuck in the story cycle! Thank you for these questions. It’s definitely not I.S. with me - it’s fear. On to the next video! :)
Amazing insight, Colleen! Great step forward. Thanks for sharing ❤
Oh my god !!! This was such a helpful video and how you broke up the concept into well defined questions and clarified this to a deeper greater level. Thanks a lot 😄👌👌👍👍
We're so happy it was, Shraddha! Thanks for sharing ❤
Thank you Ajit- another gold nugget of a video🙏🏻Was a victim of imposter syndrome when I started Holobody and during my journey too. Still get bouts of it once in a while and just realized I feel it’s my fear kicking in and not the syndrome itself!! 😍
This video is just what I needed to hear once again ❤️🙌🏻
Such a great reminder, KJ! Thanks for sharing ❤
This resonates so deeply ..I've struggles with imposter syndrome for the longest time .. am tired 😫.
Happens to all of us! Did you try going through the self-coaching questions? What came up for you? ❤
Thank you for this video
You're most welcome, Dona! Glad you found it valuable ❤
Excellent video, thank you for sharing your experience… Have a nice day 👋🏻
So glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for sharing ❤
Today I needed to see this! I have been feeling what you described in question 3. Studying, memorising, academia, sports, art, winning in all fields in life came (still comes) easily to me. So for me, it felt like a chance (i don't believe in the concept of luck but as I write this, i realise, what else does chance mean then?) I see people around me, struggle or work very hard and so I for one didnt value my own successes; or if i did, i then put my whole self on this pedestal and now feel like when i begin my journey of coaching - i wont deliver because i didnt really work hard for it. It just came to me. Putting myself on a platform far below on own imaginative pedestal has made me realise, that when you say Im not designed to be God like to cure problems with solutions. I am a conversationalist helping others with my talents like the gift of the gab albeit in a coach like structured way, That is all. Also, the point that the coachees dont care about MY journey and its not about me (not everything should be about me :P) Thanks Ajit! I will have a restful sleep tonight.
What a beautiful reflection and game-changing insight, Dr. Pamela! Truly the first step towards showing up fully and enjoying every step of the way. Thank you for sharing ❤❤
Brilliant video, quality questions!
Thank you so much, Judd! So glad you found it useful
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Taking notes while watching this I have some more understanding of this term, but I also have more insight. What I feel is that I have compared myself to others and where they are at in their journey, abilities, and education, which has in the past made me feel less than them. As a coach, I'm sure many of you have helped people who improved their life in many different areas that you helped them to create. While doing so you yourself haven't reached the same or a certain level of outcome in your life that you wish to achieve. So, you can help them, but you haven't been able to help yourself and that is what may also be attributed to your imposter syndrome. But as the saying goes, do as I say, not as I do. That leads me to my next thought. I got this idea at the very beginning of the video as he was explaining that he helped bigger businesses compared to his own which lead to him feeling imposter syndrome.
I would like to use my unique empathic, intuitive abilities to help people in relationships and individuals to have a better relationships or to find a relationship. A negative thought improved by changing my thinking is, I may not be in a marriage or a long term relationship at this time of my life like the clients that I want to be coaching, but that doesn't define what I have to offer them in helping them to heal and improve their relationship. What I teach I will then know more about and what I will then achieve in my own life. As he said in the video in my own words, my clients only care about their own journey and challenges and if I can help them. Do they feel that I care for them enough by helping and supporting them with my coaching in their journey to reach the outcomes that they wish to achieve?
I'm in the process of taking baby steps. I am seeing my progress throughout the process. The question in the video, if I didn't know about the concept of imposter syndrome, I wrote instead, "How would I act if I didn’t define myself beyond who I am and what I do for myself and others today?" This puts me in the present moment by not comparing myself to others or who I want to be or who I once was (define myself beyond who I am) and my previous failures or accomplishments (what I do for myself and others today). Many of us define ourselves by our past selves and where we want to be in the future within the now moment. Feel your present self, even for a few seconds, and see how you answer that question.
Thank you for this video.
What a beautiful reflection, Aaron! So many powerful nuggets to remind ourselves on a daily basis. Thank you for sharing and we're rooting for you ❤❤
Thank you so much Ajit I would like to see the videos on fear and confidence
You got it!
How to boost self-confidence: th-cam.com/video/ll6R2dvD-Xk/w-d-xo.html
How to overcome fear: th-cam.com/video/nl2WfNPHZsg/w-d-xo.html
We hope you find them valuable! Thanks for sharing ❤
Wow this hit home. 👏 I felt put on the spot 🤦♀️ so, Thank you.
You're most welcome, Sugar! We're happy it was valuable ❤❤❤
That question: Do you feel like an imposter, or are you afraid? Do you lack confidence?
Mindblowing revelation.
Spot on, Stephanie! A true game-changer. Thanks for sharing ❤
@@mindvalleycoach Thank YOU for bringing that to our attention. Half the battle is identifying the problem, right?
@@stephanie6339 You got that right ;) ❤
To all reading this, all of our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them! 👊🏻
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Your 2016 is happening today to me. Exactly same thoughts before my first coaching call. Your video is a life saver 🙂
We're so happy this video came at the right time, Kunal! Thanks for sharing ❤
Your guidance always provides a new perspective for me to challenge me! After all, as Rich Litvin says, I am my first client and we have a lifetime membership for continual improvement.
Love that quote, Marnye! Thanks for sharing ❤
Absolutely profound questions! Yes, #4 did during a little, as it should.
So glad you enjoyed this, Lucy! Thanks for sharing :)
You've made me question the flip side of the outcome orientation so present in corporate world. Thank you for your video and the great insights.
Great observation, Daniel! Thanks for sharing ❤
You are so awesome! Love your content. I need to put this video on repeat! Bravo for sharing your valuable knowledge! Thank you!
Thank you so much for your kind words, Veronique! We're so happy you found this valuable ❤❤❤
A lot of insight here Coach Ajit. Definitely helping to focus on what my true block is. Fear vs. Imposter Syndrome. Clarity…. Excited for the growth that is coming forth.
We're so happy you enjoyed this video, Danielle! Thanks for sharing ❤
Thank you🤍
You're so welcome, Laura! Thanks for sharing ❤
Great insights throughout this video! Thank you Coach Ajit!
So glad you enjoyed it, Maria! Thanks for sharing ❤
Amazing 🤩 thank you for your lovely inspiring videos!
We're so glad you enjoy them, Elsa! Thanks for sharing ❤
EEvercoach,useful shots,🤚
So glad you enjoyed this video! ❤
I really needed to hear this. I have strong goals for 2022 and that's exactly the little push I needed! 😇😌
YES!!! We're rooting for you, Shai!! ❤❤❤
POWERFUL VIDEO! I’m going to journal and work this month with these questions! 🙏🏾
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really helpful...thanks a ton
Thanks for sharing, Seema! ❤
amazing help, thank you ajit!
We're so happy it was, Stefany! Thanks for sharing ❤
I needed this
We're so glad it was valuable, Laura ❤
thank you
You're most welcome, Nicola! We're glad this was useful :)
Phenomenal video
We're so glad you resonated with it! Thanks for sharing 💜
Love it!
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