I don’t care for this word league. Date who you’re attracted to your not doing anyone a favor dating someone you are not attracted to. People can feel when the chemistry isn’t there and that’s what makes the ugly guy cheat no one what’s to be what someone settled for.
@@godivainc4593 leagues are real in that the world uses them against you, whether or not you want them to exist. You're not uniquely bohemian here: I would like the world to be this way as well. In fact, it's my natural impulse. But changing the world is wasting your time.
Don't date a guy you're unattracted to, because when the mask comes off and he starts treating you like 💩 and you decide to leave, he will use you on his resume to get the next woman. He will show your picture to the next woman and she'll think she hit the jackpot. You basically raised his value to the world
Not really...if I see he dated a prettier woman than me and I know he's unattractive to me...I'm gonna think she's slow or something or I know he was cashing her so he gotta cash me too 😂
@RedRose01289 or they may be trying the same thing...thinking he may treat her better...because I know that if I'm stooping down in the looks department for him...I know for a fact, a woman who is prettier than me is...super-ultra stooping down 😂
When I came to the realization that women are constantly told to “give unattractive men a chance”, but men are always told to go after the most attractive women, that’s when I stopped giving men I’m not physically attracted to a chance.
You never GIVE anyone, hot or not, a "chance". Make every single one of them earn your affection, time, and consideration. If he wants the opportunity to be next to you and know you, make him EARN YOUR GOOD WILL. He should not only be kind, considerate, and empathetic, but he should also spend money on you. If he doesn't spend money on you, regardless of his appearance, he does not like you. Period. Men ONLY respect you if you make them earn the pleasure of your company on YOUR terms. DO NOT COMPROMISE YOUR STANDARDS FOR ANYONE EVER. Fuck that shit. The second you give them ANY ground, they take that as permission to go hog wild. Keep them strictly restrained and make for DAMN SURE he's earning the reward of your company.
Yup and still remember, you can do that and they can still go hog wild. There is absolutely nothing you can do that will stop him from being who he truly is at the end of the day.
@@Cynophileandavianenthusiastyesss my heart is like the city that needs to be conquered, a man has to win me. He has to earn me. I'm the prize If a man doesn't put an effort to win me, if he has not have any strategies to win my heart in a way that really aligns with me, i don't want him. I rather die single
I love the video where the young lady talked about how girls are trained to love the monster or the beast in these movies. How many movies ask males to do the same?????
1) theyll be insecure and treat you like shit to humble you. 2) they dont have better personalities just because theyre ugly. 3) if all men aint shit, they might as well be good looking. I learned my lesson, married the "nice guy" and he behaved in ways i couldnt have imagined. Divorced him and now dating someone im hella attracted to and turns out, he is also a really good person!
#3 is my favorite! My friends used to make fun of me for being very superficial about looks and penis size but at the end of the day, they were getting mistreated by men who look like Shrek and can’t make them orgasm. Sounds like a far worse situation than mine 😂😂😂
I am one of those who prioritizes looks in men. I am autistic and being touched by men I don't like is one of my worst nightmares. I require sexual attraction and good treatment.
Btw as an ugly woman who can’t afford to spend hundreds of dollars for the upkeep, I can testify “ugly” guys will not treat you well even if you’re in their league. They won’t show you off to their buddies. You won’t get the romantic gestures or the effort and energy they’d gleefully give good looking women at the opportunity. They don’t see you as an ego boost, but they may see you as a burden keeping them from scoring with better looking women. They resent you for being yourself and being authentic with them, even though they were griping about no one giving them a chance beforehand. Because they never saw you as a partner or even as a hookup. Just a placeholder for something they don’t yet have. It’s far better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn’t even respect you much less find you attractive.
Everything you said IS true. However, you are probably not ugly, and even if you are it does not take hundreds of dollars to tighten up. You can still be a babe on a budget. I don't spend $100s of dollars on upkeep. You don't have to. Don't ever look to them to have mercy on perceived unattractiveness. They won't. Eliminate anything from your style that you don't like. You don't need to buy all that high priced junk either. Remember. You are a babe on a budget.
I'll never be with someone i contempt, I'll never be with someone i can't respect And I'll certainly will never give myself to the person that don't respect mr
The most recent guy I dated was medium ugly with a fun personality and he went out his way to tell me he didn't want a serious relationship with me but to also tell me I'm not going anywhere. They may not have the looks but they have the audacity 😤
I gave an unattractive man a chance, and he kept trying to make me jealous of other attractive women. He knew that he was dating out of his league, so he tried to drop my self esteem down to his level.
@@Asia-yt3cg Girl, same ! 😭😭 Not by attractiveness, but he compared me to his friend's wife, because I happened to know her. 'What a woman she is !!' - feeling that I was a bit insecure about not being the homemaker type - a homemaker was his dream. He kept negging me and his ex before me about what he could find, not taking us out so that we can feel unworthy etc etc. Now he put a baby inside a woman after just 6 months of dating (going out in his car and buying just a coffee is his 'dating') and they married JUST because he wanted to have everything in order by 30 :)) This guy scared me s**tless of dating again
@@CassiE.86_ Girl, sameee ! And some of these even try to get us pregnant 🤢 Mine was finishing (in the condom) while inside me AND was willing to keep going afterwards ! In his extended family, even the children were ugly.. and I never liked him that way
I dont know why so many women do it. When I dont find him attractive I dont even like when he touches me or my things, not even as friends. What’s happening to yall
Girls and teens get pressured into this so much! “Give him a chance!” “He’s a nice guy!” “You guys are such great friends!” “You guys look good together!”
When you give your average "nice-guy" uggo a chance, you just inflate their ego and they then think they can probably do even better than you, especially if you start developing feelings for them. Lol. Don't give them a chance thinking they'll appreciate being with you.
100%...that's exactly what happened to me...but he found out that the upgrade was actually a downgrade...and tried to come back and propose...but I made him live with that decision and moved on...
fr, once they get a hot girl, they think they rule the world and could get anyone. Don't give uglies and dusties the time of day, they'll think they deserve even better and leave you
The ugly guy judged me because I wore makeup heels hair extensions. I got me a new man who dress nice and handsome I sent him pics and he laughed at us He is now online begging for a lady
Do you see them dating for “personality”? No, not unless they are using her for something. Stop being nice to men for no good reason. They do not return the favor or show a lick of gratitude for it. A man not on your level looks wise, financially, or emotionally will let you down in the end
Ladies, you be as “visual” as you like. Let’s not call it shallow bc you’ll never hear it referred to that when it comes to men. Ask yourself, how many men overlook a woman’s “looks” when they pursue them & focus on the inside?! Yeah, less than 1% I’d say… if you see a heavy set girl or a girl who isn’t that attractive with a good looking dude, chances are the woman was an 8 when they met, then they had babies or moved in together and all the problems he’s given her or his laziness has caused her to do everything around the house & her cortisol levels multiplied by 1000 and she’s now 30 lbs heavier. When men focus on looks we all say they’re “visual” but if women do it, we’re shallow! Nope, we’re visual creatures too. Don’t hesitate to choose what you like and if a man EVER calls you shallow or vain, say “no baby, I’m just visual like 99% of men”! Boom 💥
I've also heard stories where the woman has declined for YEARS, and the entire time he built resentment for the years she rejected him, and then punishes her for it. From what I gathered, their persistance in wanting a chance appears to be for revenge for rejecting him for those years.
Do not give these guys a chance! You will just inflate his ego. Do not make men more delusional than they already are. I dealt with a guy like this but I refused to give him a chance because I love beautiful men (I value other qualities as well because I want it all). We need to raise the bar collectively, we deserve the dream guy as well.
exactly, we can and should be picky, we decide who gets to pass on their genes and create the next generation. Why continue a lineage of poverty and ugliness, when you can choose the best for yourself and (potential) future children.
I dated an ugly guy and the attention and clout he got being seen with me was a huge ego boost… he started thinking if I got her, who else can I get… chile, he started treating me like I was the ugly one.
I dated an ugly guy. People were shocked I was dating him but we had a lot of mutual interests so I tried to look past it. He would pick on me “joked”, and if I stopped reacting he would ramp it up till he got reaction. One time he was so cruel, I started crying and he was surprised that I’m so sensitive. I dumped him.
My last serious boyfriend was a not so attractive nerdy guy. I have a history of dating attractive "bad boys" and thought this time it will be different. He ended up being the worst relationship and I felt sooooo dehumanized. He would treat me like a trophy one minute, try to humble me the next then always psychoanalyzing me. He made me so uncomfortable and had ZERO respect for my needs, feelings and boundaries.
Omg welcome to the club i gave a nerdy guy a chance cuz apparently tthey are better than hot bad boys 😂 .... Spoiler they are not, worse relationship i ever had, they have manipulative treats and they are Even more misogynistic than """bad boys" ....jesus if those ugos could cheat they would, is not that they dont want to, They CAN NOT do it cuz they are not charming not hot
When the ugly guy dump you ,😢 it hurts because you tried with them and they behave they can do better than you.And when they fail they want to come back .
The worst relationship I've had was with an uggo, a guy I wasn't even attracted to, but I decided to go out with him to give him a chance and because he was a friend of a friend. I was never that hot, but I am not ugly and at the time quite a few guys were after me. Well, I left this guy because he was an a-hole and aggressive; for some reason he thought that if he bagged me, he will be able to go out with other prettier women. Guess what? They were not interested and he ended up being single for years and years. LOL It was hilarious the way he tried to get back together with me for months and months. I was like, nah, I am not having this sh*t in my life.
Me and my daughter talk about this often. We both agree that it’s no guarantee he is going to be a good man. Giving them a chance because you’re trying not to be shallow, but when you give them a chance, they blow it, so don’t think it would be better.
Yep, they aways blow it. Like if you want to see what self sabotage looks like... 😂🤷🏻♂️ The audacity is truly shocking. They do come back to beg (and fail) so I guess it sort of equalises things with their stupidity and ego, but I rather not go through this pony show.
Get yourself a loyal protective dog. That’s one of the best things I’ve done. I have been able to feel safer traveling, walking/exercising, just going out in the world in general he’s up for it all and ready to protect me at a moments notice.
My tall, attractive, 6-figure earning man is the only one who's actually treated me right. Literally the hottest guy I've dated. Explain that to me, men.
I dated a man who's one eye was looking at me, but the other was looking at his nose. That mother freaker played me 🤣🤣🤣. He was giving me pretty privilege, but cheated on me with someone who made more money and was willing to settle because she had 3 children with from a previous relationship. He dated and married his match that he left me for, so it's all good. The lesson I learned: Why settle for less when you can have the best? I definitely settled because I thought he would be cool, but the whole time he was trying to humble me. I forgive him because God knew what I would be up against if I have settled.
Hi, I have three kids and am a single mom. I'm not a "match" for someone like that just because I have three individuals related to me in a certain way. Don't come after single moms. We get the same treatment. I'm absolutely beautiful and was cheated on as well and he thinks I'll put up with it because of this stigma of single moms having low self esteem. Everyone hates us even our fellow women. It's so disheartening.
@@rubinfeuerherz3799 🤣 I'm not sure because freak him hahaha. I will say that when I last saw him, I lost a lot of weight. I was at GameStop to find a game and he happened to work there . He was bothered that I showed up because he went in the back room with his sassy self. I didn't acknowledge him, except when I told him and another worker to have a good day and they said "you too." The fact that he was bothered was enough for me because I can walk past former lovers and friends as if I never knew them with ease.
I dated multiple uggos and broke men in my past n let me tell ya, they all treated me like crap and cheated and even owe me money. Thank god i came to my senses and now am married to a super loving handsome man
Guys will never tell other guys to date for personality. They will never tell another guy to settle. They will ridicule a guy who’s dating someone they feel isn’t attractive. They will use the excuse that they’re visual beings, as if women don’t have eyes too.
To be fair, some guys do date for personality and you see them around. I saw a guy recently who was very fit, at least 6ft 6 and looked like a viking god. The girl he was with was nice however, not normally what you'd see with a guy like him. They had a daughter together.. All guys aren't shallow, it's that some of us come across the wrong people. They guys that try to use women as a stepping stone to another woman could well be narcissistic.
Especially that there are no reverse stories like that. It's always beautifull maidens accepting ugly, deformed men but reverse doesn't exist. There are no stories about ugly/ monster girls finding beautiful princes who accept and love them as they are. Literally zero.
@baybeecakes450 Shrek wasn't handsome. They made Fiona go from pretty to ugly. From that message I got man will bring you up to his level or down to his level. Fiona went from being an attractive princess to green swamp monster with lipstick.
Ugh, been there done that and won't do it again. Wasn't attracted to him physically at first, but the charming personality that he faked in the beginning made me fall for him anyway. Time revealed that he was truly terrible inside and out: lazy, a liar, pushy, inconsiderate, deeply insecure, absolutely disgusting and a complete slob with his a$$ crack always hanging out of his pants. 🤢 And he was so jealous of my energy, he never loved me, but he definitely loved sucking the life out of me until I dumped him. Should have never let anyone like that touch me.
my personally opinion is the unattractive ones are SOMETIMES the biggest players because they go under the radar when it comes to threat wise. we put our guard down because we think they won't harm us. we think who would want them anyways. they'll be grateful to have me but unfortunately that's not an uncommon thought/opinion. there are plenty of women who think this way. we it's to becoming an enventor. it's saturated out here. someone already came up with this before you. we need to stop pretending we're special too because the reason it backfires is because we're playing each other. it's karma. the intention of dating them wasn't good. if anything it's insecurity on our part.
Yes, be mistreated by somebody hotter than you! You don't lose anything when you leave. Imagine the humiliation of being rejected by the town dumpster. Being rejected by Mr Darcy is cool.
Add broke men, men you out earn, men who don't have a college degree, and men who have a degree below yours (i.e you have w Master's and he has a Bachelors) to the list. If you're doing better than him in any way, don't date him. It can become a safety risk.
This! Exactly my experience. Rejected an ugly male friend for years, because I saw him as my friend. When I finally gave him a change, because he threatened to end the friendship, he changed overtime and started to show his true horrible self. I really needid him as a friend at that time in my life, but he wanted to destroy me. He peeled away my self esteem successfully and it took a long time to heal. I learned this lesson the hard way.
That's terrible. I feel for you. I do think it's character and their personality whomever the person is. Looks can be deceiving and there are genuinely good people out there, whatever they look like
Back in school i notice that all the guy's who were unattractive were mean and nasty and bullies and always getting into trouble. This is why i only gave changes to attractive guy's but unfortunately so did many other women
Everything explained about the psychology of ugly men is true! I'll also add the self proclaimed "geeks" behave VERY similarly. I've dated both and they treated me horribly. I realize now that they gained the audacity to treat me badly from my insecurities--I settled for them and it gave them a confidence boost to treat me how they "claimed" other women treated them.
Literally JUST escaped an abusive relationship with the ugly "nice guy" LAST NIGHT. Two years of torment finally over and am now grieving all the loss. Finances, energy, emotion, mentality, my home, almost ALL of my belongings, relationships, time, sense of self... all gone for nothing. I can only blame myself for staying so long.
Same.. my ex was abusive.. I left after 4 years.. and I regret it. HARD. Like why? I should have just said no. Bye. Sigh I wish I could go back... but you'll be okay! You are amazing and don't let what he did keep you down.
@@KitanaDenton thank you for the kind words. I'm sorry you also went through having to survive a similar ordeal. We get stronger when we learn to walk away. I'm excited that I finally get to meet my new (stronger) self and what life has for me now that I'm free.
Nope. I am not sleeping with someone I find unattractive. I remember my dentist tried to set my up with some guy that was noticebly overweight...I was pissed but politely declined. Guy was probably trying to hit on her.🙄
Right I had a guy that was so attractive everyone thought I begged him and he didn’t treat me right and I had 2 ugly friends people thought treated me good so they would say pick 1 of them they forgot my bday I was def arm candy etc the sexy one was very romantic got me flowers never forgot my bday stop thinking ugly men are better
If you’re decades into a long term relationship and you run into some big problems, which usually happens at some point, the attraction can be the only glue holding you together. You don’t want to go the whole relationship relying on attraction but in those really hard times it’s very important.
I went on two dates with one guy and he was pressuring me to hug and kiss him by the end of date two even though I told him I’m demisexual. I could tell he thought i was totally into him but really I was just in a fawn response (like fight or flight) to get out of there… there is nothing more repulsive to me than a guy who wants to do things to my body without my consent. At first I thought since he acted nice I could grow attraction but first the niceness was faked just to get laid and second I’m not going to feel attraction for most guys because most of them only want s*x and I can sense that. So why waist time on someone less conventionally attractive? Those ones tend to be worse anyway because they are desperate!
@@MyDuckSaysFucc The attraction does NOT grow if it's not there from the beginning. Please tell other women this, too ! As some women told me that it would grow and I played myself - I usually just like really attractive men (with just 1 exception, whom I at least find cute). I don't know why women believe that. You shall be happy when you wake up and see your cute guy in bed next to you, not to be 'meh' about his looks. Also, he'd make you ugly kids
Always talk to the exes. The ex wives and girlfriends know who he is and will be more than willing to give you the tea. Every job requires references from past jobs, dating is the same way. Get those references.
I haven’t dated a man I was physically attracted to at first in years. It’s literally bc I just don’t think I like men as much anymore, but the women nearby are either awful, straight, or both. So I just keep trying to find that supposed gold. It was much better getting verbally abused by attractive men though, since we literally have to only pick the lesser of two evils when dating. Best to stay alone honestly,
Yes! Dated someone I wasn't attracted to at first. Became the worst narcissistic nightmare. Had to get an order of protection last year and he is still stalking my family to try and get to me. Still trying to smear my name. Unbelievable! Makes me never want to date again.
I dated a gargoyle who was a midget at 5ft2 and I'm 5ft 7, had crooked teeth and I was repulsed by him but friends wanted me to stop looking at appearances, I thought he'd atleast have a good personality as he surely could not possibly attract anything with those looks but it turned out his personality matched his external appearance. Never again!!
@melanie70345 I thank God I didn't listen to my friends. One got annoyed I was too choosy. I came to the realization, they want me to lower my standards so they can feel better
It’s not about ugly it’s about broke and stingy men! Money can make anyone look good hence Jayz but being broke and stingy is just disgusting to be trying to date a woman lik go get some bread first sir❤
I have a recent ex who lives out his car has an under the table job and when I asked him to help me with rent not even half of it because he's been here for three months. He got pissed off and broke things off with me!
So so true. Ugly men always treated me like I was less (I was not in a relationship with them) while handsome men always were super cute. My bf is above average and oh my god, he is giving me the world ..♥️ I used to think that if I dated down, the relationship would be more secure/they wouldn’t cheat on me, that’s why when I first met my now bf, I was super insecure
I dated a fat ugly guy and that was the worst mistake I ever did. He sobatage and destroy every part of my life. I had had a glow down then he discarded me when I was no longer shiny. He now returns every so often in the last 5 years since we parted ways just to tell me how happy he is. Don’t date down ladies unless you want to ruin your life.
A guy I dated recently and was my first bf was only 160cm tall with a decent face. He constantly made fun of his own size and I assured him that he was handsome. He acted nice and very warm but once he got me hooked he was avoidant af. I felt so worthless. And after breaking up, he just went chasing this ‘she-is-just-sister girl’. He used to say she was more his type than I did. I felt so ugly. But many months past I just realized that I was played af 😂😂 Apparently, you give a short guy with avoidant issues money and pretty women like me, it boosts their ego through the roof.
I noticed this sht as well with shorter guys. I'm ashamed of myself for even looking at him or considering him. Had to have a session apologizing to myself
Ugly doesn't equal nice! I made that mistake. It sucked. In my experience, handsome guys are nicer. The "hit guys" have extreme insecurities and the whole time the dude was tryna ruin my self-esteem to keep me. Date men, you are attracted to whatever that means for you.
They will set out to destroy you with their own insecurities. They won't be nice or grateful. It'll be way worse then what you were avoiding to begin with.
never ever give xys a chance and base everything off their looks.....uno reverse! remember they would never do the same for you as an xx and most defitnitly base everything and anything off your looks! also VERY happy girls and women have started doing this!
I am celibate and safe❤ my ex was slightly below average and ended up being my worst nightmare. It took over a year to regain myself and I am still healing everyday. I realized that I am comfortable "alone" and people can judge me all they want for being single and celibate but I am thriving loving me and being the best version of me and just doing my best to love my family and friends that love me for me❤
UGH. All these stories that apply to me nowadays. I did this back in the late 90's and early 2000's. All it did was make them think they were better than they actually were AND start treating me like I was less than (such as walking ahead of me instead of with me). Just don't do it. Either you're attracted to them or you're not. Don't date to be nice or for potential.
I forgot about 2017... smh I also did it in 2017 to an overweight man when I wasn't overweight. I helped him lose weight, and his confidence shot up. Next, he treated me like I was the one who was obese and he was above me (at that time, I wasn't obese). smh.
Alot of his friends were like always telling him how beautiful and successful I am. I always felt like I was settling in a way. When we got into a relationship, he would always try to make fun of me, he was also weirdly competitive, we went to a nice fancy restaurant in a hotel which he didn't even wash his car it was so dusty, also talk about private convos we had to other people even bringing it up when I was there and asking for other people's opinion, he would also try shame me for things sensitive topics I opened to him about, then he started liking all these insta models pics when we were on vacation together and it just gave me the ick. This guy always presented himself as the "nice guy", he would always warn me about other guys and how he's different speech. Anyways I was out of there.
I've been with both hot and ugly, when you are with the hot guys you lose long time friends because they get jealous of you attracting hot guys because they want the hot guys... but when you're with ugly guys, the ugly guy develops an ego problem and they start thinking they can get better than YOU and you start to question your own looks because of all the mind games they play! AND then they will isolate you from everyone, because they don't want you talking to their better looking friends, and your own friends because you're friends are likely to tell you that you can do better, which has happened before. I'm so ready to be single for the rest of my life LOL
So in short don’t get with the unattractive guy thinking he’s a good guy but don’t go after the handsome guy thinking he’s going to get over on you. JUST FIND A DECENT/GOOD GUY!!
I considered shorter guys because of their good personality. Stupidest mistake and waste of energy. I still regret not buying that beautiful boots with heels not to look taller than them.
@@hassanas.benjamin3818 yess samee i wish i knew this when i was 18 last year but after the trauma of dating these 3 men i healed a lot and learned so much now at 19. I felt like my frontal lobe developed and i will keep improving ❤
I'll always honor my nature and be true to my nature and myself If that guy is not my type, if I'm not attracted to that guy, there is zero chance, ain't no way am i going to give myself to the man that my body finds no attractive. I'm too precious for that I'll give myself to the person who's made just for me, who's compatible, right, healthy and created just for me, 100% my type.
2:06 yes.. My ExN was SUCH a jerk: VERY INSECURE and being a Narc ( hence ExN) did NOT help and he wasn't my typical guy I date, short among other things. I just liked him for what I thought was him but it was a mask. I WILL NEVER GO for this type of person again UNLESS HIS ACTIONS MATCH HIS WORDS
I learn this lesson late, my ex though he could do better 😅 he tried to come back to me but i hate him now.He joked about me being ugly and he said i wasn't smart. He had a college education, i didn't but he doesn't like women who is independent .
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Last unattractive guy I dated, was constantly trying to “humble” me.
Same. I dated an ugly guy and ALL he wanted to do was humble me.
You'd think someone who looked like a Klingon would be grateful. Never again.
Usual scenario that’s why u don’t date them , they have a chip on their shoulders
Narcissism detected
(I’m talking about him, of course)
i hope you humbled him.
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If you date below your league, they'll think you're IN their league.
Yes!
So f@cking true
I don’t care for this word league. Date who you’re attracted to your not doing anyone a favor dating someone you are not attracted to. People can feel when the chemistry isn’t there and that’s what makes the ugly guy cheat no one what’s to be what someone settled for.
@@godivainc4593 leagues are real in that the world uses them against you, whether or not you want them to exist. You're not uniquely bohemian here: I would like the world to be this way as well. In fact, it's my natural impulse. But changing the world is wasting your time.
@@godivainc4593it’s time you grow up
Don't date a guy you're unattracted to, because when the mask comes off and he starts treating you like 💩 and you decide to leave, he will use you on his resume to get the next woman. He will show your picture to the next woman and she'll think she hit the jackpot. You basically raised his value to the world
Not for me. A guy tried to pull that one on me and I was thinking: "why did she leave you, Im guessing youre more than just ugly💀"
And I was right. 🥱😂
@ARS-fn6px 😸😸💯💯
Not really...if I see he dated a prettier woman than me and I know he's unattractive to me...I'm gonna think she's slow or something or I know he was cashing her so he gotta cash me too 😂
@@kayjeffs3741Right. I just assume the women have low standards.
@RedRose01289 or they may be trying the same thing...thinking he may treat her better...because I know that if I'm stooping down in the looks department for him...I know for a fact, a woman who is prettier than me is...super-ultra stooping down 😂
No f'n lie! I dated an ugly man and because he finally got a woman like me...he started trying to treat me like I was the ugly one 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂 Welcome to the club 😢😂
Ain’t that some 💩
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Please tell me you didn't fall for this shit
what in the world, he lives in the land of delusion
The uglier, the more audacious. FACT. And the sheer audacity to judge, dissect and analyse every woman's flaw they can pick.... Unbelievable.
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True
What a shallow, transphobic video. Y'all need to work on yourselves, because...good fucking G-D.
When I came to the realization that women are constantly told to “give unattractive men a chance”, but men are always told to go after the most attractive women, that’s when I stopped giving men I’m not physically attracted to a chance.
You never GIVE anyone, hot or not, a "chance". Make every single one of them earn your affection, time, and consideration. If he wants the opportunity to be next to you and know you, make him EARN YOUR GOOD WILL. He should not only be kind, considerate, and empathetic, but he should also spend money on you. If he doesn't spend money on you, regardless of his appearance, he does not like you. Period. Men ONLY respect you if you make them earn the pleasure of your company on YOUR terms. DO NOT COMPROMISE YOUR STANDARDS FOR ANYONE EVER. Fuck that shit. The second you give them ANY ground, they take that as permission to go hog wild. Keep them strictly restrained and make for DAMN SURE he's earning the reward of your company.
Exactly how I feel. We're the prize.
Yes ma'am ❤
Period ❤
Yup and still remember, you can do that and they can still go hog wild. There is absolutely nothing you can do that will stop him from being who he truly is at the end of the day.
@@Cynophileandavianenthusiastyesss my heart is like the city that needs to be conquered, a man has to win me. He has to earn me. I'm the prize
If a man doesn't put an effort to win me, if he has not have any strategies to win my heart in a way that really aligns with me, i don't want him. I rather die single
I love the video where the young lady talked about how girls are trained to love the monster or the beast in these movies. How many movies ask males to do the same?????
That is true since there is no movie like that with the male is the protagonist
At the end of the movie the ugly girl turns pretty by removing her glasses and dressing sexy.
Wow, so true!!!
Damn. That’s deep. I have never thought of that 🧐
Good point 🎯
1) theyll be insecure and treat you like shit to humble you.
2) they dont have better personalities just because theyre ugly.
3) if all men aint shit, they might as well be good looking.
I learned my lesson, married the "nice guy" and he behaved in ways i couldnt have imagined. Divorced him and now dating someone im hella attracted to and turns out, he is also a really good person!
#3! Or just be single. I'm liking the single choice for myself.
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high school films tell them hot men are jerks so they think they'll be hotter if they act like that
Same. Don’t do it. Your gut will let you know, ladies. Listen to your intuition!
#3 is my favorite! My friends used to make fun of me for being very superficial about looks and penis size but at the end of the day, they were getting mistreated by men who look like Shrek and can’t make them orgasm. Sounds like a far worse situation than mine 😂😂😂
I am one of those who prioritizes looks in men. I am autistic and being touched by men I don't like is one of my worst nightmares. I require sexual attraction and good treatment.
I feel you!!
SO relatable!
Same here. I’m autistic and 44 years old and never dated an ugly man. If the attraction isn’t there from the start there’s no chance.
@@mamadoom9724I have always wondered why I’m so rigid when it comes to looks. Maybe that’s my reason as well
Yeeeeah, me too... ;)
Btw as an ugly woman who can’t afford to spend hundreds of dollars for the upkeep, I can testify “ugly” guys will not treat you well even if you’re in their league. They won’t show you off to their buddies. You won’t get the romantic gestures or the effort and energy they’d gleefully give good looking women at the opportunity.
They don’t see you as an ego boost, but they may see you as a burden keeping them from scoring with better looking women. They resent you for being yourself and being authentic with them, even though they were griping about no one giving them a chance beforehand. Because they never saw you as a partner or even as a hookup. Just a placeholder for something they don’t yet have.
It’s far better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn’t even respect you much less find you attractive.
You’re not ugly, you’re a beautiful and good woman ❤
Everything you said IS true. However, you are probably not ugly, and even if you are it does not take hundreds of dollars to tighten up. You can still be a babe on a budget. I don't spend $100s of dollars on upkeep. You don't have to. Don't ever look to them to have mercy on perceived unattractiveness. They won't. Eliminate anything from your style that you don't like. You don't need to buy all that high priced junk either. Remember. You are a babe on a budget.
You need to be your types' type.. don't date men you're not physically attracted to. Men don't. Women should do the same
Fun date idea: expensive fun date
Dumb date idea: "tHeY nEvEr GiVe Me A cHaNcE"
I'll never be with someone i contempt, I'll never be with someone i can't respect
And I'll certainly will never give myself to the person that don't respect mr
The most recent guy I dated was medium ugly with a fun personality and he went out his way to tell me he didn't want a serious relationship with me but to also tell me I'm not going anywhere. They may not have the looks but they have the audacity 😤
Damn so sorry
@@Coco-nq3vg you got that right! The nerve of them??
They have more audacity than the attractive ones. Maybe it is an act to mask their insecurities.
Holy sht i experienced this 3 times in 2023 with 3 different men in the dating scene they were all UGLY
They're true to their own nature and they won't be afraid to use women. So women must be true to their own nature
Unhealed broken men create broken women. Men are so emotional
To be fair, unhealed broken women date on healed broken men. If you are a healed woman, you don't tolerate No fuckary
And together they raise dysfunctional children
Ikr Men always say women are emotional they have to look in the mirror
They don't think frustration, rage, hurt egos, jealousy or lust are emotions 🙄
@@purdyculliz they're even more emotional than women
Men NEVER give uggo women a chance because of their “personality” so why should women love uggo men?
Exactly the ugly women I come across are insecure and sad because men treat them bad
I gave an unattractive man a chance, and he kept trying to make me jealous of other attractive women. He knew that he was dating out of his league, so he tried to drop my self esteem down to his level.
@@Asia-yt3cg Girl, same ! 😭😭 Not by attractiveness, but he compared me to his friend's wife, because I happened to know her. 'What a woman she is !!' - feeling that I was a bit insecure about not being the homemaker type - a homemaker was his dream. He kept negging me and his ex before me about what he could find, not taking us out so that we can feel unworthy etc etc. Now he put a baby inside a woman after just 6 months of dating (going out in his car and buying just a coffee is his 'dating') and they married JUST because he wanted to have everything in order by 30 :)) This guy scared me s**tless of dating again
@@di7787 married by 30, divorced by 40
the unattractive man I dated beat me up, even while pregnant and left me to raise children alone
same thing happened to my friend ..him being treated bad his whole life he took his anger out on her because she was way out of his league
Me too babe. Hang in there. You did right by leaving❤
I'm so sorry ladies. Wishing yall healing ❤
Same thing I'm happy my kids didn't look like them
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Never because then your kids will look like them and u will be stuck 😂
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Thank God i dodged that bullet 😂
That was one of my biggest fears dating an unattractive man...because I seen some of them kids in his family...and uh...they had nice shoes...
@@CassiE.86_ Girl, sameee ! And some of these even try to get us pregnant 🤢 Mine was finishing (in the condom) while inside me AND was willing to keep going afterwards ! In his extended family, even the children were ugly.. and I never liked him that way
Thanks mom 😢.
I dont know why so many women do it. When I dont find him attractive I dont even like when he touches me or my things, not even as friends. What’s happening to yall
Girls and teens get pressured into this so much! “Give him a chance!” “He’s a nice guy!” “You guys are such great friends!” “You guys look good together!”
lol that's funny!
"Don't touch my things!"😂😂😂
@@jaytaylor2090 lmfaoooo
Because not every woman is attractive either so she may not have all the options she wants. So she gives someone in her league a chance
Worst relationship and trauma I ever experienced was with a smart uggo. Don’t do it.
They’re the worst.
The nards are the worst
@@hanatirk4375the broke and ugly ones are the worst!
@@hanatirk4375fr
When you give your average "nice-guy" uggo a chance, you just inflate their ego and they then think they can probably do even better than you, especially if you start developing feelings for them. Lol. Don't give them a chance thinking they'll appreciate being with you.
Truth
100%...that's exactly what happened to me...but he found out that the upgrade was actually a downgrade...and tried to come back and propose...but I made him live with that decision and moved on...
fr, once they get a hot girl, they think they rule the world and could get anyone. Don't give uglies and dusties the time of day, they'll think they deserve even better and leave you
They will try and humble you. Never again
Any men who try to humble you, leave. A man in love will lift you up
The last ugly guy I dated was so convinced I'd leave him that he made himself a paranoid rage monster. Ladies, stick to your level and above.
EXACTLY ITS THAT CHIP ON THEIR SHOULDER
The ugly guy judged me because I wore makeup heels hair extensions. I got me a new man who dress nice and handsome I sent him pics and he laughed at us
He is now online begging for a lady
Don’t tolerate abuse from anyone regardless of what they look like.
Periodt. 💯
Do you see them dating for “personality”? No, not unless they are using her for something. Stop being nice to men for no good reason. They do not return the favor or show a lick of gratitude for it. A man not on your level looks wise, financially, or emotionally will let you down in the end
That’s what I said after my ex boyfriend, “if you are going to f*ck me over like that, AT LEAST be good looking!”
Right 😮getting f&d by ugly men hurt a lot deeper.
Burn lol
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To the redpillers lurking : we didn’t make this economy, by the way. We just live here
Just call them by their real name. Misogynists
Hahah 😂🍀
Ladies, you be as “visual” as you like. Let’s not call it shallow bc you’ll never hear it referred to that when it comes to men. Ask yourself, how many men overlook a woman’s “looks” when they pursue them & focus on the inside?! Yeah, less than 1% I’d say… if you see a heavy set girl or a girl who isn’t that attractive with a good looking dude, chances are the woman was an 8 when they met, then they had babies or moved in together and all the problems he’s given her or his laziness has caused her to do everything around the house & her cortisol levels multiplied by 1000 and she’s now 30 lbs heavier.
When men focus on looks we all say they’re “visual” but if women do it, we’re shallow! Nope, we’re visual creatures too. Don’t hesitate to choose what you like and if a man EVER calls you shallow or vain, say “no baby, I’m just visual like 99% of men”! Boom 💥
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cortisol fat exactly hence divorce glow ups
These ones are even worse; bitter, insecure, jealous, controlling, fake, entitled and take pride in humbling women.
the term is gamma male personality for all that
realized this years ago when a cute-ish, chubby "nice guy" cheated in me. thought he was a safe choice.
Girl I feel your pain ,my ex was hard to look on 😢 not even distancing help .
@@dantayhylton9938 what were you doing you're ice hot
I've also heard stories where the woman has declined for YEARS, and the entire time he built resentment for the years she rejected him, and then punishes her for it.
From what I gathered, their persistance in wanting a chance appears to be for revenge for rejecting him for those years.
Yep that happened to me, it's real
1000% true.
That's why blocked and go no contact. Men are so emotional
Yes, happened!
I second that
Do not give these guys a chance! You will just inflate his ego. Do not make men more delusional than they already are. I dealt with a guy like this but I refused to give him a chance because I love beautiful men (I value other qualities as well because I want it all). We need to raise the bar collectively, we deserve the dream guy as well.
You bring up a good point: they think they DESERVE a luxury. That's greed. Men are the leaders, right? Oops, we got lead here. 🤷♀️
exactly, we can and should be picky, we decide who gets to pass on their genes and create the next generation. Why continue a lineage of poverty and ugliness, when you can choose the best for yourself and (potential) future children.
@@taigalou lookism is real, ugly kids have a worse life across the board
"dream guy" this phrase MUST become more popular
I dated an ugly guy and the attention and clout he got being seen with me was a huge ego boost… he started thinking if I got her, who else can I get… chile, he started treating me like I was the ugly one.
fr
I dated an ugly guy. People were shocked I was dating him but we had a lot of mutual interests so I tried to look past it. He would pick on me “joked”, and if I stopped reacting he would ramp it up till he got reaction. One time he was so cruel, I started crying and he was surprised that I’m so sensitive. I dumped him.
The ugly guy I dated started getting really besides himself. No lies told
Uggos are the worse
No one mistreated me more than the ugly guy I gave a chance.
Amen
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My last serious boyfriend was a not so attractive nerdy guy. I have a history of dating attractive "bad boys" and thought this time it will be different. He ended up being the worst relationship and I felt sooooo dehumanized. He would treat me like a trophy one minute, try to humble me the next then always psychoanalyzing me. He made me so uncomfortable and had ZERO respect for my needs, feelings and boundaries.
Omg welcome to the club i gave a nerdy guy a chance cuz apparently tthey are better than hot bad boys 😂 .... Spoiler they are not, worse relationship i ever had, they have manipulative treats and they are Even more misogynistic than """bad boys" ....jesus if those ugos could cheat they would, is not that they dont want to, They CAN NOT do it cuz they are not charming not hot
they assume bad boys are mean. to third parties, not their girl.
YES, holy shit. Yes! Never avain, lol. It's either a hot, rich guy with a great personality or nothing. Not sorry 🫡✨️
When the ugly guy dump you ,😢 it hurts because you tried with them and they behave they can do better than you.And when they fail they want to come back .
The worst relationship I've had was with an uggo, a guy I wasn't even attracted to, but I decided to go out with him to give him a chance and because he was a friend of a friend. I was never that hot, but I am not ugly and at the time quite a few guys were after me. Well, I left this guy because he was an a-hole and aggressive; for some reason he thought that if he bagged me, he will be able to go out with other prettier women. Guess what? They were not interested and he ended up being single for years and years. LOL It was hilarious the way he tried to get back together with me for months and months. I was like, nah, I am not having this sh*t in my life.
These men are finding how undesirable they really are and it is giving me life! ☕️
Sounds like ur the problem
Me and my daughter talk about this often. We both agree that it’s no guarantee he is going to be a good man. Giving them a chance because you’re trying not to be shallow, but when you give them a chance, they blow it, so don’t think it would be better.
Yep, they aways blow it. Like if you want to see what self sabotage looks like... 😂🤷🏻♂️ The audacity is truly shocking. They do come back to beg (and fail) so I guess it sort of equalises things with their stupidity and ego, but I rather not go through this pony show.
Get yourself a loyal protective dog. That’s one of the best things I’ve done. I have been able to feel safer traveling, walking/exercising, just going out in the world in general he’s up for it all and ready to protect me at a moments notice.
yesssss. What race is it?
You mean "breed" 😬😬
Yes!
My tall, attractive, 6-figure earning man is the only one who's actually treated me right. Literally the hottest guy I've dated. Explain that to me, men.
I dated a man who's one eye was looking at me, but the other was looking at his nose. That mother freaker played me 🤣🤣🤣. He was giving me pretty privilege, but cheated on me with someone who made more money and was willing to settle because she had 3 children with from a previous relationship. He dated and married his match that he left me for, so it's all good. The lesson I learned: Why settle for less when you can have the best? I definitely settled because I thought he would be cool, but the whole time he was trying to humble me. I forgive him because God knew what I would be up against if I have settled.
So you were dating a camilian 🦎
@@cliofaces4937 🤣🤣🤣 You said chameleon (that's a good one)!!! Ouch, but yes 😭
@@PointlessPeachesII please tell me he is miserable now
Hi, I have three kids and am a single mom. I'm not a "match" for someone like that just because I have three individuals related to me in a certain way. Don't come after single moms. We get the same treatment. I'm absolutely beautiful and was cheated on as well and he thinks I'll put up with it because of this stigma of single moms having low self esteem. Everyone hates us even our fellow women. It's so disheartening.
@@rubinfeuerherz3799 🤣 I'm not sure because freak him hahaha. I will say that when I last saw him, I lost a lot of weight. I was at GameStop to find a game and he happened to work there . He was bothered that I showed up because he went in the back room with his sassy self. I didn't acknowledge him, except when I told him and another worker to have a good day and they said "you too." The fact that he was bothered was enough for me because I can walk past former lovers and friends as if I never knew them with ease.
I dated multiple uggos and broke men in my past n let me tell ya, they all treated me like crap and cheated and even owe me money. Thank god i came to my senses and now am married to a super loving handsome man
Every ugly guy who was broke treated me the worst!
I could say jt a thousand times, the one thing I can NEVER DO Is date someone im not attracted to
Someone told Uggos that all they need to do to get a woman is “be nice” (not hit or cheat) and so they learn to manipulate fast
they don't view emotional abuse as counting
Guys will never tell other guys to date for personality. They will never tell another guy to settle. They will ridicule a guy who’s dating someone they feel isn’t attractive. They will use the excuse that they’re visual beings, as if women don’t have eyes too.
To be fair, some guys do date for personality and you see them around. I saw a guy recently who was very fit, at least 6ft 6 and looked like a viking god. The girl he was with was nice however, not normally what you'd see with a guy like him. They had a daughter together..
All guys aren't shallow, it's that some of us come across the wrong people. They guys that try to use women as a stepping stone to another woman could well be narcissistic.
@@ddanielsmcno just men
@@littleleah310 it's not just men. Bitterness will take you nowhere. I wish you well
Reasons why I don't let my niece watch the beauty and beast story genres
Good call 💜 It's pure propaganda.
Especially that there are no reverse stories like that. It's always beautifull maidens accepting ugly, deformed men but reverse doesn't exist.
There are no stories about ugly/ monster girls finding beautiful princes who accept and love them as they are. Literally zero.
@@kamilabasia1496Shrek?
@@baybeecakes450how so?
@baybeecakes450 Shrek wasn't handsome. They made Fiona go from pretty to ugly. From that message I got man will bring you up to his level or down to his level.
Fiona went from being an attractive princess to green swamp monster with lipstick.
Ugh, been there done that and won't do it again. Wasn't attracted to him physically at first, but the charming personality that he faked in the beginning made me fall for him anyway. Time revealed that he was truly terrible inside and out: lazy, a liar, pushy, inconsiderate, deeply insecure, absolutely disgusting and a complete slob with his a$$ crack always hanging out of his pants. 🤢 And he was so jealous of my energy, he never loved me, but he definitely loved sucking the life out of me until I dumped him. Should have never let anyone like that touch me.
my personally opinion is the unattractive ones are SOMETIMES the biggest players because they go under the radar when it comes to threat wise. we put our guard down because we think they won't harm us. we think who would want them anyways. they'll be grateful to have me but unfortunately that's not an uncommon thought/opinion. there are plenty of women who think this way. we it's to becoming an enventor. it's saturated out here. someone already came up with this before you. we need to stop pretending we're special too because the reason it backfires is because we're playing each other. it's karma. the intention of dating them wasn't good. if anything it's insecurity on our part.
Yes, be mistreated by somebody hotter than you! You don't lose anything when you leave. Imagine the humiliation of being rejected by the town dumpster. Being rejected by Mr Darcy is cool.
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plus I think there's a lot of hot guys with good personalities too out there who get overlooked because of the stereotype that they're jerks
Add broke men, men you out earn, men who don't have a college degree, and men who have a degree below yours (i.e you have w Master's and he has a Bachelors) to the list. If you're doing better than him in any way, don't date him. It can become a safety risk.
This! Exactly my experience. Rejected an ugly male friend for years, because I saw him as my friend. When I finally gave him a change, because he threatened to end the friendship, he changed overtime and started to show his true horrible self.
I really needid him as a friend at that time in my life, but he wanted to destroy me. He peeled away my self esteem successfully and it took a long time to heal.
I learned this lesson the hard way.
i call that good friend, bad BF
That's terrible. I feel for you.
I do think it's character and their personality whomever the person is. Looks can be deceiving and there are genuinely good people out there, whatever they look like
Ive dated 3 of those in a row 😂😭 wtf is wrong with me, i'm getting a cute and hot one i swear
As you should. By the way, you're stunning, girl❤
@@meganbrooks7370 thank you gorgeous ❤️ you made my day
Back in school i notice that all the guy's who were unattractive were mean and nasty and bullies and always getting into trouble.
This is why i only gave changes to attractive guy's but unfortunately so did many other women
100% true. I tried giving ulgy chances and only wasted my time. In the end, they turn out to be same shit as good looking one.
Oh no, the are worse !!!!! The ugly nerd i gave a chance was more vile than the bad hot guys i used to date 😅
Everything explained about the psychology of ugly men is true! I'll also add the self proclaimed "geeks" behave VERY similarly. I've dated both and they treated me horribly. I realize now that they gained the audacity to treat me badly from my insecurities--I settled for them and it gave them a confidence boost to treat me how they "claimed" other women treated them.
I learned this the hard way… guy was cray cray and obsessive with anger issues…😢
Omg how I can relate! They get mad at the dumbest crap ever to!
Literally JUST escaped an abusive relationship with the ugly "nice guy" LAST NIGHT. Two years of torment finally over and am now grieving all the loss. Finances, energy, emotion, mentality, my home, almost ALL of my belongings, relationships, time, sense of self... all gone for nothing. I can only blame myself for staying so long.
Same.. my ex was abusive.. I left after 4 years.. and I regret it. HARD. Like why? I should have just said no. Bye. Sigh I wish I could go back... but you'll be okay! You are amazing and don't let what he did keep you down.
@@KitanaDenton thank you for the kind words. I'm sorry you also went through having to survive a similar ordeal. We get stronger when we learn to walk away. I'm excited that I finally get to meet my new (stronger) self and what life has for me now that I'm free.
Nope. I am not sleeping with someone I find unattractive. I remember my dentist tried to set my up with some guy that was noticebly overweight...I was pissed but politely declined. Guy was probably trying to hit on her.🙄
The most gorgeous guy I dated was also the kindest. :)
Right I had a guy that was so attractive everyone thought I begged him and he didn’t treat me right and I had 2 ugly friends people thought treated me good so they would say pick 1 of them they forgot my bday I was def arm candy etc the sexy one was very romantic got me flowers never forgot my bday stop thinking ugly men are better
If you’re decades into a long term relationship and you run into some big problems, which usually happens at some point, the attraction can be the only glue holding you together. You don’t want to go the whole relationship relying on attraction but in those really hard times it’s very important.
I went on two dates with one guy and he was pressuring me to hug and kiss him by the end of date two even though I told him I’m demisexual. I could tell he thought i was totally into him but really I was just in a fawn response (like fight or flight) to get out of there… there is nothing more repulsive to me than a guy who wants to do things to my body without my consent. At first I thought since he acted nice I could grow attraction but first the niceness was faked just to get laid and second I’m not going to feel attraction for most guys because most of them only want s*x and I can sense that. So why waist time on someone less conventionally attractive? Those ones tend to be worse anyway because they are desperate!
@@MyDuckSaysFucc The attraction does NOT grow if it's not there from the beginning. Please tell other women this, too ! As some women told me that it would grow and I played myself - I usually just like really attractive men (with just 1 exception, whom I at least find cute). I don't know why women believe that. You shall be happy when you wake up and see your cute guy in bed next to you, not to be 'meh' about his looks. Also, he'd make you ugly kids
With men, the book ALWAYS matches the cover!
I had to pause the video and READ THE COMMENTS....OMG.
Always talk to the exes. The ex wives and girlfriends know who he is and will be more than willing to give you the tea. Every job requires references from past jobs, dating is the same way. Get those references.
they also lie about who's an ex
I haven’t dated a man I was physically attracted to at first in years. It’s literally bc I just don’t think I like men as much anymore, but the women nearby are either awful, straight, or both. So I just keep trying to find that supposed gold. It was much better getting verbally abused by attractive men though, since we literally have to only pick the lesser of two evils when dating. Best to stay alone honestly,
10:15 “they have sub-genres” made me SQUAK
Yes! Dated someone I wasn't attracted to at first. Became the worst narcissistic nightmare. Had to get an order of protection last year and he is still stalking my family to try and get to me. Still trying to smear my name. Unbelievable! Makes me never want to date again.
I dated a gargoyle who was a midget at 5ft2 and I'm 5ft 7, had crooked teeth and I was repulsed by him but friends wanted me to stop looking at appearances, I thought he'd atleast have a good personality as he surely could not possibly attract anything with those looks but it turned out his personality matched his external appearance. Never again!!
Ugh I'm so sorry! Never give gargoyles a chance. 🤢
Ditch those “friends” too.
@melanie70345 I thank God I didn't listen to my friends. One got annoyed I was too choosy. I came to the realization, they want me to lower my standards so they can feel better
I think it’s clear the only safe bet is yourself.
So relationship or no, don’t forget to invest in the safe bet first.
It’s not about ugly it’s about broke and stingy men! Money can make anyone look good hence Jayz but being broke and stingy is just disgusting to be trying to date a woman lik go get some bread first sir❤
I have a recent ex who lives out his car has an under the table job and when I asked him to help me with rent not even half of it because he's been here for three months. He got pissed off and broke things off with me!
So me going to him for a lil help was me trying to use him like a credit card!
Jay Z doesn't even look good with money I think. I don't know what Beyoncé sees in him
No amount of money will make you look good,you are not going to look like Sean opry just because you have money
@@nosphosferaoneeyedcat701 that's a pest who wants to rest
LADIES !!!!!!! Don't do it😢, I learned my lesson with my ugly ex....Don't do it for godsake😅
So so true. Ugly men always treated me like I was less (I was not in a relationship with them) while handsome men always were super cute. My bf is above average and oh my god, he is giving me the world ..♥️
I used to think that if I dated down, the relationship would be more secure/they wouldn’t cheat on me, that’s why when I first met my now bf, I was super insecure
No one wants an ogre, you never fall in love at first personality
Yep, never again. Lesson learned
I dated a fat ugly guy and that was the worst mistake I ever did. He sobatage and destroy every part of my life. I had had a glow down then he discarded me when I was no longer shiny. He now returns every so often in the last 5 years since we parted ways just to tell me how happy he is. Don’t date down ladies unless you want to ruin your life.
A guy I dated recently and was my first bf was only 160cm tall with a decent face. He constantly made fun of his own size and I assured him that he was handsome. He acted nice and very warm but once he got me hooked he was avoidant af. I felt so worthless. And after breaking up, he just went chasing this ‘she-is-just-sister girl’. He used to say she was more his type than I did. I felt so ugly. But many months past I just realized that I was played af 😂😂 Apparently, you give a short guy with avoidant issues money and pretty women like me, it boosts their ego through the roof.
I noticed this sht as well with shorter guys.
I'm ashamed of myself for even looking at him or considering him. Had to have a session apologizing to myself
@@Random.sachen1 yes. that incident made me unstoppable really. He was wealthy but I realized it wasn’t enough. He has to cherish me to death too.
Ugly doesn't equal nice! I made that mistake. It sucked. In my experience, handsome guys are nicer. The "hit guys" have extreme insecurities and the whole time the dude was tryna ruin my self-esteem to keep me. Date men, you are attracted to whatever that means for you.
There's a perfect example of dating the ugly guy in Waiting to Exhale that movie was dropping some gems we just didn't pay attention that much
They will set out to destroy you with their own insecurities. They won't be nice or grateful. It'll be way worse then what you were avoiding to begin with.
never ever give xys a chance and base everything off their looks.....uno reverse! remember they would never do the same for you as an xx and most defitnitly base everything and anything off your looks! also VERY happy girls and women have started doing this!
I cannot back this up enough. I agree, wholeheartedly.
"HOT WOMEN ARE SOCIAL CURRENCY" ! SHE'S RIGHT!
I am celibate and safe❤ my ex was slightly below average and ended up being my worst nightmare. It took over a year to regain myself and I am still healing everyday. I realized that I am comfortable "alone" and people can judge me all they want for being single and celibate but I am thriving loving me and being the best version of me and just doing my best to love my family and friends that love me for me❤
UGH. All these stories that apply to me nowadays. I did this back in the late 90's and early 2000's. All it did was make them think they were better than they actually were AND start treating me like I was less than (such as walking ahead of me instead of with me). Just don't do it. Either you're attracted to them or you're not. Don't date to be nice or for potential.
I forgot about 2017... smh I also did it in 2017 to an overweight man when I wasn't overweight. I helped him lose weight, and his confidence shot up. Next, he treated me like I was the one who was obese and he was above me (at that time, I wasn't obese). smh.
Alot of his friends were like always telling him how beautiful and successful I am. I always felt like I was settling in a way. When we got into a relationship, he would always try to make fun of me, he was also weirdly competitive, we went to a nice fancy restaurant in a hotel which he didn't even wash his car it was so dusty, also talk about private convos we had to other people even bringing it up when I was there and asking for other people's opinion, he would also try shame me for things sensitive topics I opened to him about, then he started liking all these insta models pics when we were on vacation together and it just gave me the ick. This guy always presented himself as the "nice guy", he would always warn me about other guys and how he's different speech. Anyways I was out of there.
yes, it's true. Never give anyone you find unattractive a chance out of some misplaced sense of fair play. Too many reasons not to.
I've been with both hot and ugly, when you are with the hot guys you lose long time friends because they get jealous of you attracting hot guys because they want the hot guys... but when you're with ugly guys, the ugly guy develops an ego problem and they start thinking they can get better than YOU and you start to question your own looks because of all the mind games they play! AND then they will isolate you from everyone, because they don't want you talking to their better looking friends, and your own friends because you're friends are likely to tell you that you can do better, which has happened before. I'm so ready to be single for the rest of my life LOL
I mean, those friends who got jealous don't sound like real friends anyway. So it's still net positive dating a handsome guy
I don’t know if I specifically look for the hottest guy, but if I’m not ATTRACTED to him, deuce ✌️
So in short don’t get with the unattractive guy thinking he’s a good guy but don’t go after the handsome guy thinking he’s going to get over on you. JUST FIND A DECENT/GOOD GUY!!
I learned this the hard way.
I considered shorter guys because of their good personality. Stupidest mistake and waste of energy.
I still regret not buying that beautiful boots with heels not to look taller than them.
“The Picture of Dorian Gray.” The evil you do will be written on your face and body as you age.
I did that 3x in 2023. Never again. My 18 year old self didnt know any better. NOW I KNOW 😂
I'm happy we women have social media this helps us understand men so much.
@@hassanas.benjamin3818 yess samee i wish i knew this when i was 18 last year but after the trauma of dating these 3 men i healed a lot and learned so much now at 19. I felt like my frontal lobe developed and i will keep improving ❤
That's why they're planning to shut it down or control it so we can't speak except in code
I'll always honor my nature and be true to my nature and myself
If that guy is not my type, if I'm not attracted to that guy, there is zero chance, ain't no way am i going to give myself to the man that my body finds no attractive. I'm too precious for that
I'll give myself to the person who's made just for me, who's compatible, right, healthy and created just for me, 100% my type.
Poor women. We’re damned if we do, damned if we don’t.
2:06 yes.. My ExN was SUCH a jerk: VERY INSECURE and being a Narc ( hence ExN) did NOT help and he wasn't my typical guy I date, short among other things. I just liked him for what I thought was him but it was a mask. I WILL NEVER GO for this type of person again UNLESS HIS ACTIONS MATCH HIS WORDS
I LITERALLY WAS TELLING MY BESTIE THIS THE OTHER DAY THAT THIS WAS SUCH A LIE!!!
Don't have to tell me twice 🤣
25:17 - She is right on 🎯🎯🎯🧐
I learn this lesson late, my ex though he could do better 😅 he tried to come back to me but i hate him now.He joked about me being ugly and he said i wasn't smart. He had a college education, i didn't but he doesn't like women who is independent .