My father stopped talking to me after I walked out of my toxic marriage | Tuko TV

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  • @Tuko
    @Tuko  2 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    What message do you have for Ann Bilha Wahome? You can reach her through her number 0711314071.
    To share your story with us, send an email to yvonne.kawira@tuko.co.ke or eucabeth.mukami@tuko.co.ke.

    • @bilharwambui2035
      @bilharwambui2035 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Bilha my namesake your are too beautiful it's well with you gal.

    • @joanmiksabel3598
      @joanmiksabel3598 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      How do you go on to marry a man with all this!? Sometimes women are too blame. Were you marrying the mother or sisters? It's important to walk out early than later because it will hurt more. You can't manipulate a man into love/marriage. It will never work🤧

    • @peterlonyait4101
      @peterlonyait4101 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@joanmiksabel3598 Huyu dada alikuwa amependa kweli ..wish Sisi tungepewa Wazuri ka yeye.

    • @joanmiksabel3598
      @joanmiksabel3598 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@peterlonyait4101 boss! One thing I know, men are hunters naturally. When a woman takes that role, he looses interest and goes for others. When they started having problems and she kept running to his mother, that was wrong. No man appreciates that, and none can be forced into loving you. This behaviour pushed him further away.

    • @blessedmama5367
      @blessedmama5367 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wow !!! It was way too open that the man had no feelings for this lady , in kikuyu culture a man’s mother can’t call the son’s girlfriend to meet without the son’s introduction .

  • @eunicemusyoki3489
    @eunicemusyoki3489 2 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    Darling, be strong and all will be well,I chose the wrong person twice but I left everything to God's hand and I was blessed with the right person and my wedding is next month,take your time and you will be fine...

    • @Annie-tb7ix
      @Annie-tb7ix 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Do you have kids pls? If u have then you are twice lucky....all the best in your wedding...u deserve happiness...

    • @jobsonisluko5842
      @jobsonisluko5842 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      you deserve it swty

    • @frashiahwangari2177
      @frashiahwangari2177 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wish u success after the wedding. From stories all over, it seems all hell breaks loose after the wedding.

    • @wanjanjuguna9012
      @wanjanjuguna9012 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very nice

  • @margaretkenyatta595
    @margaretkenyatta595 2 ปีที่แล้ว +179

    Parents! Parents! Parents! , welcome your daughters back from broken marriage and advise them that is not the end of life than waiting to see her in a coffin or with wounds and pain. A woman saying one day enough is enough that is the end of her pain as she walks away . Promise you no other day you will never hear and see her again 🔙

    • @millymatere
      @millymatere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      After kuvumilia sana na kuishiwa na kila kitu.....alileta another woman na kunifukuza....😥🥲😭

    • @sarahnyokabisallitah
      @sarahnyokabisallitah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks to my parents they welcomed me back... parents please give your children that should to lean on 🙏.. please

    • @margaretwacera3428
      @margaretwacera3428 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The stigma is really i was there once they blame the ladies but I owe nobody an apology for the decisions i made am so proud of myself

    • @emmychannel5563
      @emmychannel5563 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sarahnyokabisallitah lol, good, but that's no license that you shouldn't look well before going into another one. 'Return to sender' is not a good stigma as well.

    • @rue258
      @rue258 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sarahnyokabisallitah I am thankful my mother welcomed me back home.

  • @yesbana49
    @yesbana49 2 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    🤣🤣 looking back I just laugh . I had this toxic X ! weeh . He was asked who is she ? He said "just a friend." Then after 1 year 6 months dating , I called it quits . 3 days later he had gotten another lady pregnant. 🤣Weeh ! Ogopa wanaume ! Years later he still regrets the decisions he made. I am now happily married and outside Kenya .

    • @Wilky254
      @Wilky254 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Waoooooo 👏

    • @karykash1624
      @karykash1624 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow that nyc God has a purpose for everone

    • @nahyialetomia9284
      @nahyialetomia9284 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      My experience with an ex is the funniest; he told his girlfriend I’m his landlord (he lives in my servants quarter)!

    • @wambui185
      @wambui185 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@nahyialetomia9284 😅😅hiyo ni kali

    • @nahyialetomia9284
      @nahyialetomia9284 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@wambui185, imagine! He told the gf that I’m married to some man from Nyeri and had two kids. The girl called me, after some time she had a son with him too. We both later struggled as single mothers😛

  • @mkmedia3006
    @mkmedia3006 2 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    The interviewer is doing it right. Giving a listening ear. Keep it up

  • @lydiapatrick9902
    @lydiapatrick9902 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    The interviewer is a qualified counselor. Good listening skills,and there for for the client

  • @geejaccuzi5762
    @geejaccuzi5762 2 ปีที่แล้ว +162

    I want to believe there's no tear a person will shed because of someone else and go unpunished. Take heart, let God take control.. He won't embarass you

  • @williamgreat.m5728
    @williamgreat.m5728 2 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    I have viewed many of search stories & I have noted something common, "the guy looked handsome" my kind advice to ladies, appearance will never matter if it does not correspond with a right character... Check out for the right virtues & values of the person.... its like choosing a beautiful cup & not minding if its content is poisonous or healthy, the content in the cup is what that matters the most , the beautiful cup should comes as an added advantage … another thing marriage is not a product of society, so never mind what people will say, if you are in a messed up marriage just exit, time is irreversible, the only treasure that you should not let any one waste is your time.... most times after exit you'll find peace, so my dear sisters just move & never look back. God will restore & make you shine...Isaiah 60:1-2

    • @maggyngaruiya6649
      @maggyngaruiya6649 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well said brother...

    • @annemwangi565
      @annemwangi565 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      We are visual creatures and nothing wrong with noticing the outer beauty. You meet the face first before you meet their character. Unless you are on common ground and ovlbserve them all the time. It's upon you to get to know the person beyond the physical appearances. Again we all have our tastes and yes all those her/his smile,his/her body looks good are okay to look out for.

    • @sharonmuthoni8179
      @sharonmuthoni8179 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Handsome is relative to everyone

    • @Shiva-mh2zi
      @Shiva-mh2zi 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You seem right👏

  • @ronniksentertainment
    @ronniksentertainment 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    This lady's story has touched my heart because I also wedded weeks before her and the day she wedded is the I was coming from honeymoon but my marriage ended on 28th September 2020 because of my Ex-wife was cheating on me with a matatu driver, it affected me to a point where I distant myself from God and wanted to revenge but God has a way of ya kurudisha mtoto kwa laini, now I am healed and my relationship with God is do tight than with any human being and I will serve Him till my last breath because He rescued me from the wrong marriage.

    • @sharonmbithe74
      @sharonmbithe74 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sorry. Glad God saw you through

    • @felicityncube1007
      @felicityncube1007 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hugs

    • @ronniksentertainment
      @ronniksentertainment 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sharonmbithe74 Thanks.

    • @ronniksentertainment
      @ronniksentertainment 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@felicityncube1007 Thanks

    • @rue258
      @rue258 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My ex husband started abusing me from our honeymoon last year. I left him just after 4 months of marriage because it was too toxic for me. I had to save myself from verbal,emotional and physical abuse.

  • @kenyshabellen3240
    @kenyshabellen3240 2 ปีที่แล้ว +190

    One red flag is when a mother to a boyfriend really puts you close n pushes you to marry the son. In most cases the mother covers bad behaviour of son and just uses you to tame him.

    • @WangechiPenninah
      @WangechiPenninah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      THIS IS SO TRUE 💯. Been a victim of it but lucky enough I called off the wedding 2weeks before. The mother has tried witchcraft on me and all kind of things but when you trust God and make him the center of it all he wins the battle for you.

    • @NazarofGod
      @NazarofGod 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Weh, you're so right🎯🎯! Was almost getting into such a mix. But who is God who revealed his true character and got me out of it

    • @WangechiPenninah
      @WangechiPenninah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@NazarofGod If God be on our side who can be against us

    • @emilywawira6346
      @emilywawira6346 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I second you,my marriage ilikuwa hivyo

    • @Dee_the_blessed1
      @Dee_the_blessed1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      This is true 💯 percent
      Coz they know their useless sons will be zombies and wrecks if you leave them. Know it too well.

  • @sharonmbithe74
    @sharonmbithe74 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I just need to hug this lady for like five minutes. She needs a shoulder to cry on.

  • @harrisonwazza3563
    @harrisonwazza3563 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I have a friend who went through a similar situation. Too many red flags, everything just went wrong after wrong after wrong.
    May God heal her and restore her relationship with her father.

  • @nyakiomuriithi9959
    @nyakiomuriithi9959 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    Let's cut down this habit of raising broken children in the name of keeping marriages.

  • @Sofia-dl9vw
    @Sofia-dl9vw 2 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    I am so sorry for what this lady has gone through. In future it would also be nice to watch positive stories of good marriages so we can also see that it is possible. I am sure Kenya has such couples. These negative stories can be discouraging.

  • @NataliaMbotinda
    @NataliaMbotinda 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This girl has reminded me sooo much about myself. This has hit so differently

  • @queenqui2024
    @queenqui2024 2 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Thankyou for giving me a platform to encourage someone going through the same

    • @YvonneKawiraTuko
      @YvonneKawiraTuko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thanks for coming over to our channel
      We appreciate you
      TUKO family let's support this girl's channel too. She super blessed.

    • @Viewers_favorite
      @Viewers_favorite 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Take heart dear. I feel the pain.

    • @bettylaban9696
      @bettylaban9696 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are young and beautiful. Love yourself more, cry, let go. Better now than later. God has something greater and better for you. Keep the faith , trust God. You will look back one day and thank God for getting you out.

    • @Karol_Lynne
      @Karol_Lynne 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      you're a strong, beautiful woman

    • @cellesantraamanda1509
      @cellesantraamanda1509 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're a strong woman.

  • @carojoy2995
    @carojoy2995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I know what it feels to be rejected by a father.
    God is more than a father

  • @raindrops1942
    @raindrops1942 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Don’t cry over a fool who doesn’t respect or care about you.

  • @teddgclafe1431
    @teddgclafe1431 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    If you witness an accident, you'll realize that some victims are screaming for help, ignore them , give priority to the one that is silent, they are the most hurting......your father's love for you is deep

  • @shikohmuriithi5216
    @shikohmuriithi5216 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    You were a beautiful bride,please dnt cry....Lakini what kind of man was that🥺🥺

  • @eunicemwangi7411
    @eunicemwangi7411 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Hugs from your villagemate. Really loved your mum, my teacher. Thanks for sharing your story. Surely marriage is not a ticket to heaven!

  • @Anna-qf6ed
    @Anna-qf6ed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +156

    I'm more angry with the dad ,than the ex-husband.

  • @patriciamunayi7706
    @patriciamunayi7706 2 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    As a mother with married daughters I want them to hold onto their marriages and make things work. However, if my daughter or son indicates that they are unhappy with the relationship I will drop everything to give them an ear. And yes, if all indications is that it's not working it's not working! My child's happiness is what matters even when they are sixty!

    • @phyllismuthoni1327
      @phyllismuthoni1327 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank u

    • @virgiewmathenge5706
      @virgiewmathenge5706 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Am sorry for everything....but on the same these are men of nowadais,you could have not leave the marriage...na kuavoid the phone ya wazee😭they are sons of jezebel...

    • @apiobeatrice6134
      @apiobeatrice6134 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      True mama

  • @lucywangu6467
    @lucywangu6467 2 ปีที่แล้ว +347

    Tuko always remember to have with you serviettes or wipes for the guests. It doesn't look good when the guest is in tears and you can't provide.

    • @marthashimwaka5853
      @marthashimwaka5853 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      That's why we love linny

    • @okenobukachi5491
      @okenobukachi5491 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      True

    • @martinkaranja3116
      @martinkaranja3116 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      True

    • @zaiokari1698
      @zaiokari1698 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      And Lnny always provides

    • @Concili
      @Concili 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@marthashimwaka5853 what do mean this is not Lynn know how to talk on people's platforms

  • @charitymulinge1679
    @charitymulinge1679 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Tuko pls tupatieni story zingine sio broken marriages only, ladies huku nje hata wameogopa kuolewa.

    • @KonstantBakora
      @KonstantBakora 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂kama mm hapa

    • @selinawanjuki5098
      @selinawanjuki5098 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are not forced to watch

  • @chrismwangi6599
    @chrismwangi6599 2 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    A parent stands by his/her child no matter what....that father needs to talk to his daughter

    • @janetmmbaha7567
      @janetmmbaha7567 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      My mother did not speak with me after my divorce. She died in 2020 before she could. I basically lost my mom 2yrs before her death

    • @christercheru8328
      @christercheru8328 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It depends with the child some children they dont listen to parents

  • @letstalkkenya2
    @letstalkkenya2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    The lady is beautiful 😍😍 we all make mistakes

  • @silantoi5590
    @silantoi5590 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Men are able to read other men. Your father knew and he knows what you went through and he is hurting...his little gal was hurt. When men hurt, they stay away coz if the anger build up, they might do something they will regret. Give your dad time to calm down.

  • @osagyefo4305
    @osagyefo4305 2 ปีที่แล้ว +247

    Never put a wedding ahead of a man's personality and character. Most ladies believe a wedding is everything.

    • @imeldahmangala1813
      @imeldahmangala1813 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ever been on her shoes take heart bilha

    • @imeldahmangala1813
      @imeldahmangala1813 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ever been on her shoes take heart bilha

    • @joanmiksabel3598
      @joanmiksabel3598 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      True because they concentrate more on public image. Friends, neighbours and Family.

    • @lindagithaiga1974
      @lindagithaiga1974 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It's due to societal pressure

    • @naomymose1866
      @naomymose1866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      We are losing Christianity wedding is good, despite all challenges, problems will never end, more aee coming

  • @doreenkanje9839
    @doreenkanje9839 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    The lesson I learned here I will never force relationship weeee huyu aliforce everything had wedding but sory for tht without challenge huez kua strong.

  • @r.q5194
    @r.q5194 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    The man gave her all the red flags before the wedding but she still went on with it. When will women stop compromising with wrong men all because they want to be married. Marriage is not a life achievement and no man can make you happy if you can't make yourself happy.

    • @ceecreole4250
      @ceecreole4250 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know another female like that. They already had 2 kids together. He was having sex with an old classmate of his while engaged and messing with other women. Barely 1 year after their wedding he messing with that old classmate flame and seeking out other lose women. It will destroy her soon. She knew who this man was

    • @marilynnisutherland2331
      @marilynnisutherland2331 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      True.

    • @sharonbrown5755
      @sharonbrown5755 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen so true,u have spoken facts n thruth🤗

    • @kikiannette-
      @kikiannette- 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😪😪true may God help us

  • @mousareggae4750
    @mousareggae4750 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Dad please listen to your daughter….she loves you

  • @bethtoox9435
    @bethtoox9435 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Their were RED flags,the man said I don't want a wedding,he wanted come we stay,he left the lady plan the wedding all by herself.This guy is a narcissist.God is in control all will be well with u,atleast u left early,1yr not 20 yrs later.

    • @verongethe7977
      @verongethe7977 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good interviewer.....

    • @sammbondo762
      @sammbondo762 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      i wish you all knew way what you talking off you sooo supportive yes but come to think of her back of the story,,,y all abt the man and not of hers,wacha kumpaka tope kwenye mgongo wa chupa,atupe her blunders as well.

  • @bburgess6036
    @bburgess6036 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    The toxic marriage hurt her but the problem with her dad has devastated her. Keep going my sister. I applaude you for beiing strong and leaving before it got worse. I applaud you for looking out for your Precious Rose. Daddy if you are seeing this Fathers are very important to daughters so please reach out to your daughter.

  • @maryannekimani3748
    @maryannekimani3748 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hugs girl, just pray for ur dad he might also be going through Alot u know how the society judges but it reaches a time it is just u n ur God when I was in such situation I came to sing " on Christ the solid rock I stand...all the other ground is sinking sand"

  • @mildredayuma9749
    @mildredayuma9749 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    It's OK not to be OK.I walked out of a very toxic relationship and am doing just great!! Just cry and for you to heal and also give yourself time💝💝

    • @YvonneKawiraTuko
      @YvonneKawiraTuko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      We celebrate your courage to walk out of a toxic marriage Mildred.
      You are a true hero.

    • @khadijahamisi9470
      @khadijahamisi9470 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Soo sorry dr

    • @mildredayuma9749
      @mildredayuma9749 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@YvonneKawiraTuko thanks mum♥️

    • @mildredayuma9749
      @mildredayuma9749 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@khadijahamisi9470 am good dear

  • @jacquelynekerera1140
    @jacquelynekerera1140 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Good show Yvonne but can you kindly invest in tissues/surviettes n even a glass of water perhaps.

    • @joanmiksabel3598
      @joanmiksabel3598 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I agree, 💯.

    • @YvonneKawiraTuko
      @YvonneKawiraTuko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This is a very important point. Thank you so much for this. I'll definitely take this into consideration.

  • @catherinejimmy1022
    @catherinejimmy1022 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Nothing hurts than knowing the person you love is cheating on you,this is the reason why i fear getting married or being in a relationship

  • @evelyneprosperofficial6586
    @evelyneprosperofficial6586 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hugs mummy....this gal is soo cute 🥰🥰she deserves a good person.....all will be well kui...trust God ...it's painful but dad will come back to his senses soon woiye 😭,.....

  • @skelemakuu5135
    @skelemakuu5135 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    She is at peace with her ex husband but for her father thats where her heart is broken in pieces

  • @ruthmaina8919
    @ruthmaina8919 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I love weddings but hearing things people go through in the name of weddings gives me chills....

  • @annmwariri8119
    @annmwariri8119 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Woiye aki watu hupitia through alot in this life😔😔 sorry mama and if possible just cry cry it out, lia uchungu wote uishe...iknow it's not easy but God's preparing something good for you, from now onwards your life with never be the same again.

  • @lucyw.ndungu3366
    @lucyw.ndungu3366 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The HOST is so gracious. I like her❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @njeriwachira2408
    @njeriwachira2408 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I’m only 30 minutes into this but I love this woman! I’m praying for you and your beautiful baby girl❤️

    • @Keenytravels
      @Keenytravels 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here... I love her for free

  • @stacysusan7068
    @stacysusan7068 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Say no to toxic relationship. Let God take the wheel of your life gal

  • @vivianchao9421
    @vivianchao9421 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    hugs mama,sometimes we go through hell to get a testimony, good things a coming your way

  • @maryjoseph9894
    @maryjoseph9894 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I am so proud of you of walking away of this toxic marriage. Good on you girl. Dad where are you for your daughter. You are missing on your granddaughter . Keep your spirit on girl.

  • @katendungu572
    @katendungu572 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    A woman's heart is an ocean of deep secret!
    Ann you're beautiful, Blessed and Highly favoured by God..One day you'll look back and thank the Lord after reuniting with your dad..Give God a little more time and everything will be fine!
    BLESSINGS GIRL!

  • @winskitchen.602
    @winskitchen.602 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    The mother in law was caring .

    • @terryray3147
      @terryray3147 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      They Normaly care when they know their son is useless. Ukipendwa na inlaws think twice. Ujue that son is a problem u will live with. They will do anything to ensure u stay with him juu no one else will.

    • @faithraso269
      @faithraso269 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@terryray3147 sad truth 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @sarahmuzaki4656
    @sarahmuzaki4656 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Gal, I understand your position. I personally was born a mistake!! At least this is what my mother kept communicating to me both in words and actions. That hardened me from childhood where I knew so early that in this world, no-one is there for me. I grew up used to the fact that I am not loved. I have worked so hard to reach where iam. I have never known anything like a father figure in my life!!!!

    • @sherylpayne5851
      @sherylpayne5851 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      God calls you previous in His sight.
      Fearfully and wonderfully made.
      The Apple of His eye.
      He loves you with an everlasting love.
      You are worthy of love and shame on those who didn't see your worth.

  • @marienjuguna-kimani6800
    @marienjuguna-kimani6800 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Notice Although this story she has not cried only when talking about her dad? That is where the trauma is

    • @Jabepoma
      @Jabepoma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yes, she's hurt because of her dad's rejection

    • @josiahroyes9467
      @josiahroyes9467 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      MAIN WORD NI "LEAVE" HAPA....AS IN CHOREA MAPARO, Ndio dad ameondokea. Wisdom hio...
      Matthew 19:4-5
      4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ ?6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

    • @sedch
      @sedch 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Marie Njuguna - Kimani her only pillar has crumbled.....so 😢

    • @iraneza5316
      @iraneza5316 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Somewhere she said she has always been dad's girl. He was the first to learn about her pregnancy after her boyfriend. She hoped for a different outcome but got something else....
      It hurts

  • @michegy883
    @michegy883 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Toxic marriages have become the norm for most of the involved. And they injure the victim and the children mostly. Getting out is the best option because there’s no rehearsal in life and don’t think about what others think and say. It’s all about you the individual. Perseverance only hurts you and makes you a prisoner.

  • @elizabethwangui8289
    @elizabethwangui8289 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi, it's not the end, keep your head up. You fallen twice, collect yourself, take time to reflect, rise up the future a head looks bright!

  • @georgeokudo
    @georgeokudo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Good intro Yvonne, good work. Let the grind roll

  • @pamelawanderaofficial6257
    @pamelawanderaofficial6257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Marry for happiness n not desparation

    • @georginamakena1660
      @georginamakena1660 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Kabisa.the man was not in love frm the word go

  • @estherkanini8933
    @estherkanini8933 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I remember when broke up a courtship in 2020 on basis of character defects, I gathered courage and went home in person to explain it to mum and dad that the most anticipated wedding was not coming forth!!! It was hard yes, but my parents understood me!!! I have seen enough bad marriages to sign up for one in the broad daylight!! I am a daughter in that home and not a single day can I be denied access!! Some actions require boldness... Bring them to speed and let them understand why you made that decision

  • @nyamburawanderi8848
    @nyamburawanderi8848 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm already crying because I'm also that girl's dad despite being married to a man that I love deeply. I really love my dad so so much

  • @scolla81
    @scolla81 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I feel you,but according to ur story there where red flags but u ignored, Am wishing u happiness and heal ur wounds first be4 allowing someone in yourlife .Am lucky Benjamin zulu had real open eyes for many who watch and following his channels ,He's just an inspirational to our society.

    • @LillysConner
      @LillysConner 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ye women always ignore the red flags and when you tell them, they turn on u saying you are just jealous of the relationship

    • @scolla81
      @scolla81 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very true,let people learn from others mistakes

    • @nakamijunic5844
      @nakamijunic5844 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      When it comes to Benjamin Zulu I feel like recording

    • @scolla81
      @scolla81 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nakamijunic5844 Benjamin his just a vibe to our so called society

  • @janewangeci7950
    @janewangeci7950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This guy was a narcissit.
    They are addicted to see,they lie, have no emotions,are manipulative in short they are demonic.
    I thank God you left him.
    Who will educate pple on narcissits. 👹
    Get educated on narcissits and with time you will heal
    Your father should also learn on narcissits and understand all about this story.😫😫

    • @nakamijunic5844
      @nakamijunic5844 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The only perfect tr Benjamin Zulu

    • @lifting599
      @lifting599 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I dated one imagine i.sent him packing Mimi.siwezi.kubali.kuzalia vinyangarika

    • @willhector9478
      @willhector9478 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lifting599 🤔😂😂😂

  • @patriciaojiambo3011
    @patriciaojiambo3011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Red flags all over. You forced yourself on this man! May God bless your mom inlove!

    • @mwangililian7157
      @mwangililian7157 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe she feared the dads doctrines..... She wanted a family

    • @sheilahmwash7353
      @sheilahmwash7353 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      For sure she forced... Soooo many red flags 💔💔

  • @banksshahid316
    @banksshahid316 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Sometimes stories get emotional. Always have some tissue atleast. Otherwise this was deep. Thanks

  • @dunmutinda
    @dunmutinda 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    interview men too,we need equal stories kindly

    • @angulaaagula5926
      @angulaaagula5926 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He is a destroyer he is not willing to be in light. He won't wants because he destroy her intetionally.
      Your comment s is like asking Police to negotiate with mafia the crimes they did is illegal haaha

    • @magnam6807
      @magnam6807 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      They interview people who've written to them and would like to be interviewed

  • @TheCandidTherapist
    @TheCandidTherapist 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I feel your hurt, however I understand your Dad is hurting too because of the outcome of a daughter he treasured, he needs time to heal, just give it time, all gonna be well.

    • @marymwendwa5926
      @marymwendwa5926 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Noooooo...parents shouldn't have such expectations from their children that's why there's alot of suicide

  • @naiyanimagdalene1176
    @naiyanimagdalene1176 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Dad plis talk to your daughter. She needs you today more than never.

  • @christinemutiso2163
    @christinemutiso2163 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I like how you conduct your interviews Ivonne. Doing an amazing job. Keep it up

    • @YvonneKawiraTuko
      @YvonneKawiraTuko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much. I truly appreciate your support.

    • @consolataogola976
      @consolataogola976 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@YvonneKawiraTuko
      Hey great Job.Kindly be carrying or providing Tissues for emotional moments.😊

    • @YvonneKawiraTuko
      @YvonneKawiraTuko 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@consolataogola976 okay I will. Asante

  • @Supervisor-k7d
    @Supervisor-k7d 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    You're a strong seeking approval from a weak man (your father) that's a toxic move. Don't chase him, he will return when he needs you..
    Live your life you have your own family but never seek approval from weakness, you will leave in shame and stress.

  • @evake4685
    @evake4685 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You're strong lady . Don't let anything pull you back. Walking out of the toxic marriage was the best decision you made for you and your girl.
    Keep on holding onto prayers and your relationship with your Dad will be restored.

  • @bikoflavious2903
    @bikoflavious2903 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    😭😭😭😭😭 I found myself in tears 😭 aki watu are so heartless....Bilha don't worry your future is great don't worry about that ex husband .

  • @Gn_plus
    @Gn_plus 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I would love to hear the other side of the story. For the shortest time I knew Sam he was a good man.

  • @bonfacekarani678
    @bonfacekarani678 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Mom I can feel you,

  • @trouymanun1302
    @trouymanun1302 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have no words to say let me pray that your father may know what you are passing through ,my dear God will bless you take courage,you are awoman of destiny

  • @evanmaniac2549
    @evanmaniac2549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Go strong mammy, believe that one day those who rejected you ,those who ignored you, will come back for your help. Let love lead in the body of Christ..Pray and leave the rest to God.

  • @nickiey7530
    @nickiey7530 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    The lady is hurting, not because of moving out of her marriage but because of the dad...
    How I wish tuko mngeweza kuintervrne, you've aired/ heard her story, follow up and hear from the dad and probably know what's happening.
    If the dad is comfortable.
    You can reconcile the two...
    In such interviews, let it not stop here..try to provide a solution.

  • @hopenanyaro2470
    @hopenanyaro2470 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Why did you get married if he was hiding things from you? Why did you plan the wedding? I think you could avoid most pain if you used your senses properly. Marriage is not everything ladies.

    • @joanmiksabel3598
      @joanmiksabel3598 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      True. Says she would do own "investigation" than hearsay. This was one relationship never needed any investigation. It was so clear like snow. He never loved her.

    • @hannahwanjiru426
      @hannahwanjiru426 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      True marriage is not everying I used to say that to be full woman you must be married but not

    • @chebby7351
      @chebby7351 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sometimes we think the person will change

    • @kamaafaye1264
      @kamaafaye1264 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      At that time you always don't remember there is anything called sense😅 I won't judge her

  • @tryphosarungoi1588
    @tryphosarungoi1588 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My daughter is my strength too , through going out of toxic marriage,finally am at peace ✌

  • @lucysekete8923
    @lucysekete8923 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    God choose the right husband for me and a dad to my daughter

  • @phillipsidhojapap1461
    @phillipsidhojapap1461 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    The father may be embittered by how things have turned out in your life despite his efforts. Remember children are crowns to many parents and a failure in the child is taken by some parents as a failure for them. Try and understand you dad and maybe talk to an elderly man he respects to speak to him

  • @ethancollins3676
    @ethancollins3676 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yvonne you are growing as an interviewer good job keep it up.

  • @brendaatieno5106
    @brendaatieno5106 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Bilha! Be strong and have courage dear, your life and your daughter is very important than the life of that fool. God will lift you up and you'll live a happy life which was planned for you. Take heart.

  • @stellamulisa8336
    @stellamulisa8336 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    It's such an emotional story,this girl has gone through so much. Yaani I can imagine what she feels aki

  • @selinawegoki
    @selinawegoki ปีที่แล้ว

    Sorry for falling in the wrong hands pray that God gives you the right person

  • @joycemugaki745
    @joycemugaki745 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So proud of you for walking out of a marriage that was definitely a non starter. I truly hope your dad talks to you!! He should not allow someone to come between the two of you.

  • @VeronicaDunbar
    @VeronicaDunbar 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Kikuyus look more ethiopian than somali. Infact, folklores/or history say, that's were they came frm...onto mt. Kenya. And were married by Dorobo men whi live around the area.
    Another is, the rwandese...

  • @geese.with.knives
    @geese.with.knives 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Toxic marriages, toxic relationships.. marriage seems to be a scary institution...

    • @stellamuvea9522
      @stellamuvea9522 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's cheaters who complicate it it's supposed to be a sweet thing

  • @janewambui2494
    @janewambui2494 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Don't cry sweeety,as long as you never did your parents wrong waache Mimi I can cut off anyone including my parents if they are not giving me peace I let them go😒I choose me always..strong girl keep going

  • @pamelawanderaofficial6257
    @pamelawanderaofficial6257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Toxic marriages are not to go by. Just go bila kuangalia nyuma

  • @cuteyforever7238
    @cuteyforever7238 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Praying for healing from above..this lady is still in pains jehovah heal you my sister. It is well girl. People go through pain to grow stronger you'll overcome all these and emerge victorious. I love you and praying for you.

  • @Chiwoful
    @Chiwoful 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This guy is the real definition of a narcist, what they do is identify the person you are closest to then go and make you look so bad in their eyes …I am assured that God will restore your relationship with dad, just hang in there for a little longer

    • @annewairimu5926
      @annewairimu5926 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Very true , my ex tried to poison my mum's mind on how bad of a woman I was ,but mum chose to stand for the truth , she defended me and that was the end between and him , parents always should chose their kids no matter what

    • @Chiwoful
      @Chiwoful 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@annewairimu5926 They are another level of crazy

  • @lakshmib425
    @lakshmib425 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love Kenyan people,the culture and faith on God resemble india.

  • @lucymaina2869
    @lucymaina2869 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    If someone has nothing to hide in their phone,they don't keep the phone away from their spouse.I think apart from insecure people,the rest who snoop are given a reason to,there must be a trigger.Its not insecurity,its finding the truth ,which will set you free ujipange mapema.Too many fake people these days,no need to persevere man made problems.

  • @hellen5940
    @hellen5940 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A strong lady indeed...I like her...

  • @brianngash8954
    @brianngash8954 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I don't know why men insist on cheating while they are so bad at it.

    • @marynjoroge3957
      @marynjoroge3957 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lol. Mnashikangwa kama grasshopper 🦗

    • @reubenkamau7070
      @reubenkamau7070 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Your statement sounds like female point of view.

  • @salomekinuthia2742
    @salomekinuthia2742 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Bilha take heart. You don't have to stay in a toxic marriage to please anyone. Irrespective of what he was told, he will eventually know the truth. You do not have to pressure him.

  • @Miriamegeah
    @Miriamegeah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Toxic marriage It’s Like live in Hell I am glad You Save Your Life..
    Been a Daddy girl It’s Special One Please Don’t give up About Daddy I Know How You Feeling I Lost My Father I Miss Him So Much Now You Have Him Try Harder to Find out Why…
    You are Young and Beautiful, Strong Woman..Happy Valentines Day Everyone 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @imaniekahie2224
    @imaniekahie2224 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    lakini ladies,,,,, ukianza kudate na mtu it's obvious mtakuja kuhave sex,, so make sure mko na protection,,, eg implant ku avoid hizi mambo mingi,,,,, untill siku mtakuja kuelewana mambo na kuhave children,, thank me later

    • @HardlyTalk
      @HardlyTalk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's easier said than done plus kids change people kids change people. Theory is always great until real life happens.
      Good advice though

    • @lifting599
      @lifting599 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Napia anaeza kukupea ukwimwi

    • @bethbandika
      @bethbandika หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@lifting599True

  • @wlkmwlkm3381
    @wlkmwlkm3381 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wedding it doesn't mean it change the carecture of men's and don't trust men's soooooooooo much atakupa pressure ya bure trust God all the time

  • @jedidahmuthui3168
    @jedidahmuthui3168 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Parents break hearts too but nobody's ready for this conversation....This is hurting😭😭😭😭watching this with wet eyes

  • @yvonneodul8291
    @yvonneodul8291 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Just pray for your dad that God touches his heart.

  • @mbabazishanitahfavoured368
    @mbabazishanitahfavoured368 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ladies don't fear to move on it's not easy but at the end of the day you get better ,cry regret judge it's Pat of healing

  • @hamisigirl357
    @hamisigirl357 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    You forced that thing mama