I stayed in an abusive marriage for years, could not find the strength to walk out but I finally did
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- When Carol got into her first marriage, she ignored all the red flags from the word go. She knew she had no business being with that man but the fear of, “what will people say” was so strong that she opted to remain in that marriage for years.,
However, after years of suffering, she left that marriage, started doing inner work, attended therapy and got to know herself more.
Then one day, love presented itself again, but this time she was ready, aware and healed. She said a big yes, and the rest is history
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Thanks Lynn and Your Amazing Team💕 for Providing a Safe Space to Share My Story and i pray it Empowers snd Impacts Others 💕
Hey sis!!❤❤❤ I can't wait to watch this episode my dear. Just logged on after my morning devotion and I strongly belive this story will change lives and give hope to those who want to rebuild and have a second chance at love. Lots of love sis ❤❤❤.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤
More Grace to you❤❤❤
You are telling a story of many who haven't yet found their voices, thank you.
At Carol I just can't enough of your story because it's sounds like paste and copy of my love story. To God be the Glory for another chance. Xoxo to Lynn and you. Love from Delaware 🇺🇸 🌎
I shed a tear when Charles said "...I want to apologize for the Trauma and the pain you've been through. Even though it wasn't done by me, I think it's appropriate for someone to say sorry...". This is truly healing.
Yes, its really an important thing to do , just to bring healing .
There aren't so many Charles out here.Girl, you are blessed!
This really got me crying 😢 too. Such a loving man, I didn't know they exist
Wooow,this lady describes my life with my ex,for like 16yrs ,today am happily marriage more than 15yrs,God is a God of 2nd chance
The ones that narrate these stories in English are the ones that have really made this channel international
True coz I don't miss any and am Ugandan. All ladies she brings really are so beautiful but passing through alot which anyway makes them stronger 😢😢😢
I am so encouraged that there are men who can love us despite òur past
Amen
Thanks for listening to my story i pray that you’re encouraged
@@WILMA_she lives in Tx
So true, I'm in Ghana 🇬🇭. Watch Lynn's shows all the time. God bless you Caroline and Lynn. This is true Ministry.
I lost everything being in a mental abusive marriage for 43 years and I lost everything during the marriage. It
effected my life and my children. I have found an Amazing Loving Nigerian man now for 6 years. We have met challenges because I am African American Black strong woman. I always asked God to send me a Godly man who will love me and be my faithful Hubby. We put God first in everything we do. God’s Grace and mercy has been the anchor for us.🙏🏾🇺🇸
Aawwww… that’s so sweet. More blessings upon y’all 😇
Wow so good to hear. I was in same situation and pray someone nice comes my way.
More years of happiness 🎉
More blessing ma grea to hear❤
Amen
Ladies...men lie to get you in the box..stop being carried away by an illusion 'he loves me'..focus on who he is..at personal level
💯💯
Sure
Why didn't you say this 8years ago
I agree 💯
💯 percent
As a domestic violence survivor, I totally relate to Caroline's experiences. It's amazing that we are both Carolines that have survived much and love God. Am glad she gave you your flowers Lynn, because you deserve them and much more. Thank you for Hosting my namesake. And YES LYNN!!! God has just begun His work through You. Thank You Caroline for sharing your story and am also trusting God for a man that loves Him too and can wait untill marriage. Shalom.
I like that purpose healing and work. Blessings
I'm 19 with two kids ,the father is a narcissist and, the emotional abuse I have gone through in my relationship with him has caused me suffer from depersonalization, anxiety and depression but currently I'm trying to get my self together at my parents place , don't let anything hinder you from walking out of a toxic relationship or marriage everyone deserves to be happy ❤
‘Depersonalisation’! So so true ❤
All the best. All will be well sooner than you think
I've watched this episode and I've seen myself in it all through,from dating the wrong person,to your mum having an itch about the partner,the emotional abuse,healing and finally giving myself a second chance to love. Everything was like she was talking about me. Even though i don't have a ring on my finger yet,im hoping for the best with the person we trying at the moment. May i have an happy ending like Carol and i tap that in Jesus name.
Amen 🙏🏽
Thank you so much Lynn for bringing Carol to the show! Her story resonates with so many women ( and men), myself included. We need to share our stories and give each other hope. Leaving a failed marriage does not mean you are a failure, it is the marriage that has failed, a distinct entity from you as an individual.
I believe marriages fail because we marry for the wrong reasons e.g. he paid my university fees it means he loves me. Narcissists do that so they can control you. Desperation makes young girls rush into marriage because any act of perceived kindness is seen as love.
For those who can afford it, i challenge the women on this platform to identify just one girl to sponsor through school, related or not. That act of genuine kindness will help one girl to have an opportunity to marry when she is ready, not because she needs financial assistance.
@myaeve007 thanks for watching my story 💕 blessings to you
Its too sad that "what will people say" keeps so many people in abusive relationships
Carol yr story is so inspiring...I love the fact that God is in the centre of your relationship. You have encouraged many ladies going thru toxic relationships and those yet to get married to take note of the red flags....thank you for giving Lynn her flowers while she is still alive...🎉🎉she has really healed many lifes. Life lessons learnt:-
-everyone has greatness inside of you.
-you are not what happens to you.
- take time to heal...healed people heal others, hurt people hurt others.
Lynn keep up the good work and stretch your tent.
Lynn, Thanks for hosting Calroline. Having known her since she landed in Boston, and truly, She is a Queen who was meant to shine. Even in those tough days in the 90s, we knew she is coming back. Carol we love you and Mr Dey. Keep on shining
Thanks Pastor for taking the time to watch my story and all you have done and continue doing for the community in the diaspora
Thank you so much Pastor🙏🙏
My mum was a victim too, and her whole struggles with healing has made me want to be graced as a tool for healing for wounded souls. If God opens doors for me to study counselling psychology and therapy, i will serve Him with that career in church as those amazing tools of healing did for Caroline.
I used to ask myself why would a woman leave her matrimonio home just like that? The more I kept growing up and experienced it, I know understand,we can always love again and stay where our love is not limited, trigger,where there's peace to be precise.
How about we start a funds drive for that studio?Why not?
Stayed mine 16yrs now single raising 3kids but i still believe in marriage works n i know one ntapata mr right
You’re not alone me too, I’m the same journey….raising two beautiful girls .God will see us through ❤
Thanks for taking the time to watch I pray Your Boaz will find you and your beautiful children 💕
This story is exactly like mine.Ladies ..we go through alot when we don't have the right partner.
Thanks for listening to my story blessings to you
This lady's composure is so admirable ❤. The way she narrates her story and how consistent she is. The God who loves her did this for her and made her smile😊. What a beautiful story with a happy ending 🎉😊. One day I will tell my story.
I experienced the same and gathered courage to walk out after 23 years. That was the best decision l ever made.
Wonderful show Lynn your guest speaks for a lot of women who are suffering in abusive marriages and hoping it will get better but instead gets worse. God bless u Lynn & your crew
Relationships at a young age can drive one crazy,glad for the lessons this forum continues to offer to so many generations ❤
I don't blame anyone who hold on so long on an abuser because of their love bombing trait's . you're always confused but you feel not okay
True
Hi Lynn
I love your show and love her story today. It’s look like my story 35 years ago, but I broke up my engagement six weeks before the wedding. Good God’s Grace save me. Six years later, God’s blessed me with a wonderful man of God. Now we have four amazing children together.
God blessings are with you Lynn and your team.❤
Another day to remind myself to never ignore red flags 🙏
God’s got you always and yes always pay attention to the red flags
Everyone sees the red flags but I think the pleasure to settle down or keep the marriage as they all say, and comparing oneself to fit in groups.
@CarolineMbithiDey I worked with Charles in the past. He's an amazing soul. Am glad you two found each other. Thank you for sharing your story.
N to never ever think of 400 people who are coming to the wedding
May she find complete healing. She gave too much to be with her ex, including ignoring her values, her parents, the red flags. They moved in without setting healthy boundaries/standards. It was bound to fail from the word go. Love with your eyes open ladies. Again, this is the reason enjoying the fruits before the tree matures leaves you with a bitter taste
I can't miss this lesson..
Thank you Lynn for this amazing episode.
Myself I know in future when I get to have my own family, am sure what I've learnt from this show will be a lifetime guide..
Blessings to LNN❤❤
Me too!
I know Carol personally, she’s a brilliant awesome human being, didn’t even know of her trauma. Thanks for not letting your past overwhelm you 💕💕
This particular show was for me!! My Mum met my ex 2 years into the relationship and she said, "he's not the one for you". Regretfully, I stayed for way longer than I should have. I experienced emotional, physical and financial abuse at the hands of this person. To this day i regret staying and losing so much...myself, energy, precious time, my confidence, trust in people. But I'm thankfully i FINALLY got out with my life on 10/14/2022. Hardest thing I ever did. Been through some therapy after getting diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Anxiety. Thank you for sharing your story Caroline, and thank heavens God turned it around for you with a wholesome partner. Lynn, you're an amazing talk-show host. Keep on keeping it real
@wangui0011 sending hugs and loads love your greater days are ahead of you
Sending you love mama ❤
Caroline your story resonates with mine, only that it took me 19yrs of perseverance and covering up to walk out. There's nothing worse than being married to a street angel who's a devil at home.
Hungs…
Wow! You have put up so well. Hugs, love and prayers that you find healing and someone that loves you dearly.
Hi Caroline thanks for listening to my story blessings to you
@@CarolineMbithiDey Amen 🙏
Sorry you had to go through that. I also stayed for 15 yrs.
Wow! Nice conversation here. There is just so much of us ladies who would or occassionally fall into this trap, " he's been so nice to me, he has sacrificed so much for me" , and then he makes an advancement and truthfully you may not want to consent but the thought of how much he has done blah blah .... you fall in. Yes as she is saying learning to affirm your No is something that every lady can learn and be unapologetic about it. Personal dignity for self matters and doing it for the other is selfish when you are hurting 😢.
Thank Lynn and team
Thanks for listening to my story blessings to you
This episode was so inspiring, I know how that kind of relationship can be, it is very narcissistic and very painful. Thanks to Caroline for sharing her story. I was very moved, we all need to learn to find our selves and stand up for what's right, not just make excuses and allow things to continue down the wrong path.
I stayed married to a narcissist for over 3 decades....each year, each day, I hoped he would change because "he was a man of God." A narcissist is a narcissist, and they never change....
You mean for 30 yrs. That is long but it's never too late to get our freedom.😅😅
Did you leave finally?
This is one of the most powerful impact full interviews 👏🏽. The Lord bless you, Caroline, for hearing God and encouraging Lynn so powerfully and timely 🙏🏽
Thanks Catherine for listening to my story i pray that you’re encouraged
That is my friend and coach! Everytime I listen to your story, I still learn so much. I love how you and Mr. Dey do life together and treat each other. You are such a gift to the hurting. May God continue blessing and enlarging your territory Caroline!!
Wow Carol thanks for sharing- I was feeling like you’re telling my story 😢)
- that’s a common line with abusers ( no one will love you like I do… you’ll not find anyone) 🎉kudos to you - and look what the Lord has done ❤after you’ve let go of what’s not good for you
Finally. Thank you Lynn for hosting my friend Caroline. She’s such beautiful soul. I thank GOD seeing her and seeing where God took her from. God is good. She’s meant to shine. Thank you Lynn. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
I love Carols' spirit and indeed its absolutely true, healing is key, otherwise you wont recognize a good person plus you can also repeat patterns. I am so happy for them both. Charles seems gentle and that's what women need. I can relate to her story and the bounce back and peace is everything. I pray all women in abusive situations get the courage and the realization that there is a way out. You can start again. Not easy, but you can!!
Thanks for listening to my story blessings to you
God bless her for all she's telling you directly about God's messages to you.
On a personal note, I think it's time to reach out and host other communities outside the Kenyan community.
Spread your outreach, Lynn.
God bless you and your team.
Thanks for listening to my story blessings to you
@@CarolineMbithiDey You're most welcome 🙏 and your hubby as well.
my piece of advice...dont promise anything and dont believe on what they promise especially in the initial stages of relationship
We'll said!
Thanks for listening to my story blessings to you
@@CarolineMbithiDeyYou're such strong Gem ❤ thanks for sharing your story
Some people mistake when we say we like to be chased as women. The chase means when I say yes, keep dating me and being a gentleman. When I say no, it means I don’t want you and I don’t want you to try.
Narcissist never take no for am answer. Note, that's a red flag. Because they don't respect boundaries.
Buy a Dildo and leave men alone
Lynn your energy and wisdom matches all the ages from teenagers, thirties, forties and even people who are much older than you may God contribute blessing you for us
I am so happy Caroline has said this. Lynn is Lynn. Our Lynn. Herself!! Unique!! Like no other. Let’s stop comparing her. She is joining the realm of global change makers. Bringing her own unique and authentic light! Just…Our Lynn! She is enough!!
Thank you❤❤❤🙏🙏
We want our Lynn,to sit with akina Oprah,but our girl,will tell the world,you can make it and still be God-fearing.
We learn a lot throughout this platform. God bless you Lynne. Also try to get some people who are going through something but they don't see there in citation so they don't have to hit the wall.
This is very inspiring. Lynn, God continues to bless you for your good work. this has really uncovered what am going through in my toxic marriage. it has offered me comfort and the strength to move and concentrate on my healing. God bless you and your team.
Am watching this crying,I can relate to her story I went through this for 9 year and I thank God I came out of it
What a great testimony! I was once naive during my dating journey😢but God helped me out open and now thank God i have a amazing husband our wedding Anniversary is 09/3 too ❤️
such a powerful and strong message. lynn and your team may the prophecy be fulfilled in Jesus mighty name.
I came to the US as an 8 year old from Taita taveta. Saa hizi niko 23 year old and i envy this gal's accent. Anipe siri niongee kama yeye. Lynn you came to the US na huwezi come to WA State. Ningekutreat at least na Ice cream gal. Next time please come to Seattle I will host you in my house.
I agree that every guest brings along life lessons
Lynn you are amazing, you always bring us the best experiences, let's learn from those experiences, people go through alot but keep to themselves am happy many have decided to open up. God bless your work and expand your territories
unfortunately, if you tell someone they are being used..they will think you are jealous..you want to snatch their people
Thanks for listening to my story and life lessons blessings to you
The rebuilding series has had a huge impact on my life as a woman and a mother. Thank you, Lynn. God bless you. People are healing and rebuilding their lives from hurt, pain, deceit, revenge .....etc....to finding themselves and being better.
Caroline, thank you for heeding God's voice and doing this interview! Thank you for embodying so much grace and strength, and vulnerably sharing your story. Although I haven't been married before, you spoke to me on so many fronts. May you continue to be salt and light, and shine your light so bright 💝
@faithmaro5134 dis💕 you’re welcome its my moral obligation to share and testify and empower others blessings to you
This woman deserves to be loved!
Thanks @labelle8110 💕
This lady is amazing.
For the first time in LNN I had pen and paper, wrote some beautiful notes.
Pure spirit that cannot be corrupted Lynn,this is great! Next level we are coming...as lynn says, we respect the giver of the gift not the gift itself...purpose,healing and work merged together!
Watching from Zimbabwe. I love
watching your shows Lynn. You are so amazing I like the way you interview your guests. You don’t interject you give them time to flow with their stories. Keep up the good job 👏🏽
Thanks Carol for pouring out I remember when I met you, you’re young beautiful girl who loved God with beautiful voice. God gave you Dey with a purpose. I attended your 2nd wedding which was very colorful and I knew you are healed. ❤❤continue serving God.
Lynn I love this interview and Caroline. She is a gift to life.
Thanks Carol for allowing God to use you as a channel of strength and encouragement to Lynn.
Thanks for sharing your story.
Carol's journey of life is a beautiful story.
Awesome word healing purpose, and work..Glory to God!!! Thank you ladies for doing the work. I am so excited about doing my work.Lynn that dress is beautiful. Thank you God for healing !!
Love you, Lynn. Love your show. Caro, I am inspired. Won't allow abuse.
I was so tired and didnt know i will watch it all. Thank you Lynn and Caroline. I have learned so much. Thank you Caroline for affirming the words to Lynn. Her platform has so much. Its a unique platform, just one of a kind. Its a HUGE BLESSING
Me too, but I'm glad I finished watching the whole show 😊
I agree with the fact that Afro looks good on you, it's our signature 😅😅 you're looking beautiful as usual 🥰🥰
Be blessed Lynn,you have a pure heart...I'm motivated from Caroline's story wish her well
Your channel is a life changer Lynn, thank you for such a wonderful interview with an incredible woman. More growth, expansion....mega love ❤ 😍 💖 ❣ South Africa 🎉
I have learned that we as parents we need to teach our kids how to say no, and always when you wants to date lf your parents say no, they know better than yourself and Lyn for sure you have a heart which cannot be corrupted and your platform you are helping alot of people to heal.
Thanks Caroline and Lynn for sharing this. Counseling and healing time is important.
Thanks for listening to my story i pray you’re encouraged
@@CarolineMbithiDeythe same story with me but for 18yrs before I pull off 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Too much inspirational thanks for your shows Lynn ❤ and to Carol May the God of mercies richly bless your marriage lovely couple indeed
This story is everything...Lynn God bless you...I relate to everything they are...I am even more hopeful!!!!it's how he looks at her for me!!!!
I always love seeing love projected.I shed a tear,I cried observing such tons of love showered on Lynn today by Carol.Lynn you stole my words'I love,love'.May God continue to bless you,Lynn you deserve it precious soul...All the way from South Africa
Turning point..... I have done.....the decision point thus turns self slavery into freedom... Quit and go.. Move on... He will change.. Is the Big sickness women are fighting.. God have mercy upon us.. We need God's grace to reign to excel into laughter zones.. Relax into good hands..Lynn you're chosen Queen... Continue being humble. Good goodness is running over you. Amen God bless All. It's a powerful testimony. Be blessed caro
Your story teaches us that only God can change a man ( woman) you can’t change human beings. Thank God you left
Love you Carol♥️, thanks for being brave and sharing your story , a lot of people suffer with no way out , hope this opens eyes that there is life outside of abusive marriages 😘
Beautiful... walking away is always the best decision...to stay and suffer is absolute cowardice!!! May the path ahead be prosperous.
@Lynn you should organize an online meetup for singles men and women who ready for marriage, who have gone through self work and healing.
" Heal so that you don't breed on those who didn't hurt you "
Victims of abuse stay in abusive relationships because of the emotional damage that's inflicted through emotional & at times physical abuse - it's nothing to do with cowardice. When you are not in the right state of mind it's very difficult to make rational decisions. It's important to empathize with victims & survivors of any form of abuse.
Do not be harsh in your judgement. Just thank God that you have never been in such a Situation.
your pastor only prepares you for happily ever after because thats what the bible instructs..but on the ground things are alway different.detach emotions and carry your brain..marriages dont work the way you think
Thank you carol.for sharing your journey. May God bless our pastor Greg whatever he is.
Indeed Ms. Lynne you are exceptional. 🎉❤ you give healing and comfort to many broken soul out there (women) iam one of those.
Yes, very very true, I have similar experiences with her, isolation from your loved ones, physical, emotional, verbal, psychological, sexual, financial, social abuse... I really faced it, thanks Lynn for the show, ts me Veronicah from Uganda, I am your great follower n I refer alot of people to your content darling❤
"Healed people heal others, hurted people hurt others"
This was absolutely beautiful and very empowering!!!!❤❤❤❤
God can collapse timeframes on your behalf! Wow! Such a gracious show. Lynn, you truly are designed for even greater things!🤩
LNN ,this is me ,this is my life story ooh I thank God for He rescued me and my 3 beautiful daughters. I can say am healed and still healing. One day I will share the story of my life . Sharing helps many many others
Hi Lynn.What an Amazing Show!! There are So Many Carolines out there looking for Healing and Encouragement to leave Abusive Relationships & Marriages! Well done Caroline for listening to that Voice Within You saying....This is Not Right.
And getting the Therapy that helped you & Ofcourse God was in that Mix.All the Best Caroline in your 12 year Marriage & as for Lynn....You're Simply the Best & looking Good in that Black Outfit🎉 🎉🎉
Thanks for listening to my story blessings to you
I truly have to agree with her that this platform has really brought healing to many I included, God bless you Lynn and your team for the good work ❤
That was a good message to you Lynn. Carol, thanks for Obeying God to bless Lynn. Surely, healed people Heal
The story is exactly what I have gone through, am rebuilding myself right now thou I don't know how to do it but I believe God has got my hand, I even threw the ring. Caroline you have spoken to my heart, let me have the courage perhaps one day I will also have a beautiful ending, even though the trauma is too much😢😢😢😢
I listened,i cried ,laughed and learnt.Thank you.
This is so timely. I'm glad to have watched and listened today.
So encouraging,,,,,,,,,yes healing is a process and I believe one day I will heal completely and get another chance of love in my life 🙏🙏🙏 .
I just left unapologetically very peaceful and happier now❤❤❤
True when you are in abusive relationship never tell your abuser guy your leaving because that will now be the beginning of tough life
Thanks for watching my story and you’re absolutely 💯 correct
Lynn, you bring us beautiful/good things.
Amazing interview.
God bless you Carol🙏
Amen Lynn,may the God u serve lift u up we already see apart of his goodness in u.
Lynn thanks.... I just met you today some few minutes ago and you're just amazing ❤😍
Lynn empathy amazes me! Kudos 👏
Wow, my take away with this story is to learn to say no, and also to take a break from everything so that I can make the right decision. Thank you Lynn for this amazing 😍 interview 🙏🙏🙏. It's really amazing 🤩🤩
Thank you Lyn for the rebuilding series. Learning alot. Truly we shouldn't allow what we have gone through to define us❤