My mother-in-law was jealous of my relationship with my husband
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ต.ค. 2024
- Terry Mbuthia, a mother of three was forced to leave her marriage after her mother in law came in between. According to Terry, her father in law was not for the marriage as he tried to protect her. Little did she know what she was getting herself into. She says house girls would be brought home by her mother in law to replace her . And when she did bring her own house girls, she her husband would try and approach them and so she would switch them up a lot as they didn’t want to stay and be harassed. Her mother in law felt Terry was not a good wife for her son. Her children would see this and she says it affected first two psychologically and that’s when she left to start a fresh.
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Mambo
Nanastory
She is my sister from another mother we grew up together from same village Trizah you are strong girl I know all this coz I know you from young age.
When the baby got born😅
Thas why sipendi wedding wacha niishi kama criminal😢
I must say this Tuko presenter is doing a great job
Yes she is. Just limit the advise within things you understand or leave it out altogether. You are a good listener.
Watching this today and remembering what a wicked mother in law I had. God help me be a good mother to my son's wife
Ameeen
We used to fellowship at the same church I didn't know she was going through hell in her marriage she used to lead praise and worship at our church you are strong mama keep going 🙏
Life has no balance. Nice people always attract Narcissistic behaviors
When we educate ourselves,about narcissists is better knowledge is powerful
It is the inner fear that makes narcists have control.They thrive in making sure the victim has low self esteem.
Unfortunately Very true!
Aki I tell you
💯 True
My mother in law could come in my house and gossip me with my house maid. She disrespect me so much, telling people I come from a poor family. She made sure everyone in the family hated me to point the family members abusing me... My former husband was so weak to protect me from all the abuse. You tell him what is happening, he used to keep quiet...I used to keep quiet once I'm abused. Now they started extending the hate to my children. I couldn't travel to his ushago, for the fear of been humiliated. I had to separate myself from this man, now I'm healing and at peace. I understand you so much.
Sad. It is well dear
SIONDOKI KWA SABABU YA MOTHER IN LAW TUNAPAMBANA MUNGU AKAE KATI YETU
I am so sorry Grace. I am glad you found peace. And there is still hope to find the love of your life 😊
Sorry
Mother in law ni sumu.
As a man, the moment you allow your parents (especially mums) take control of your family affairs, you are doomed!
Aki my mom in law only God knows how good you was to me you're more than my mom, continue resting in peace till we meet again
Ooh mine too was so nice to me may her soul continue resting in peace
Narcs don't have sympathy my friend, do your research and get To know who these types of people are ,infact they hate their own children!
they need Christ
They don love them at all.they are not even concerned about them.n you force them around to do things for them n you too.they treat you like hell.n if you are working,you cater for yourself n he withdraw everything from you
This is my exactly my story
Besides all yes your mother inlaw did all that but the truth is your husband broke the marriage.
Yes
True, maybe he would even lie to the mother to sympathize with him
Yeah, her hubby failed her too.
Thank God I met angelic mother in law but her son was a devil himself, it didn't work
I wish if women would love themselves enough to knows that..,they just don't have to give birth to any man out their..,those children's deserves good father as well. Woi.
I love my mum in law she was an angel you have to work on yourself. You have to be positive if your mum did not give birth and cared for your husband you could not have met him it is your duty to blend into the family. Be positive.
This is my story. Insaults and blamings has become their joy and habit. But I believe my 3 kids will testify what kind of a ma'am they have...
Amen. Stay strong, and always pray to God for safety and protection.
They need Christ, GOD is LOVE !
, you are right. God is love.
During dating its the time to learn each other and most people hide in weddings and the fear of failing after weddings combs many peoples school of thought and that's why many are in a dilemma and suffering to uphold the marriage which has already crumbled with one of the partners.
This woman is a strong survivour. So brave and hard working. God bless you. I hope everything works out for the best ❤
This makes some of us tuogope kuolewa😒😭😭😭...take heart mamaa
Nko nyuma yako
I have worked from day 1 after cs I don't understand the kid of generation of men we have around.Being alone sometimes seems better .
That’s true,.Another one said that wanawake wa gicagi hulima upto the last day
Yeah, crazy world we are living .
This men where borN by single mums
Kansiime's twin siz
Much love dear.
Aki Wooshe likes munipe likes.... Mapema ndio best
Nothing dangerous in this world more than staying with someone who is not loving you and he/she don’t want you to go,you are going far mama
You are right. When someone realizes that you love him too much, thats,, when trouble begins, but unfortunately, love develops naturally.
One pray I do pray for My daughter's is that when they get married they find their mother in law Dead reason being for what My mother in law has made me go through one thing she forgets that she has a 11yrs daughter that will get married one day
Pole sana kui kwa yale yote upetishwa na mume wako,Mungu atakusaidia ni mwaminifu sana zidi kumtumania, kwa kweli huyu mrembo namjua tulisoma nayeye high school Iresco na alikuwa msichana mzuri na anapenda Mungu,May God see you throu Terry.
Which class were you in I was there too aki nikikumbuka the way she was humble tulianza na yeye nursery school aki
Divorce is done by the court. your husband's signature is not necessary. please familiarize with marriage and divorce laws. Also, you don't need a man's approval to be acceptable to society. Kibali ya Mungu na kujiamini is all what you need.
This lady is beautiful in and outside ,you will go far mummy
She is also wise
Destiny destroyers n Narcissist are hard to please I was there ,it's good u left this abusive marriage.
Yes yes
May GOD Help us to heal
Thanks we are strong
Mother in law ni sumu katika ndoa na akiingilia ndo yako utahangaika hadi mwisho. Sorry for the suffering you went through.
Not all mother in laws are bad haki. Many are loving and concerned. By the way it's just a few years before the oppressed wives also become mothers in law.
Very good sympathetic interviewer 👍
We really need GOD
Eyaaah nooo sorry Gai haaa
These pipo exist but the ones to blame are the mama’s sons whom we get married to unknowingly because of their camouflaging abilities😢
Pole for what you went through.
But come we stay won't help. The secret to a successful marriage is.... Know yourself first..... Once you know who you are and what you want, everything in your life falls to place and you make better decisions. And once you know yourself, you will know what kind of man you want in your life. No come we stay! Know yourself.
True
When a narcissist finds a girl who is obsessed with a wedding 💒 just know you've given him the right to abuse you,they have no empathy
This world is just crazy and I guess he knew that she was much into him and not the other way round.
💯
True. Some wemen will persevere anything for fear of breaking a wedding. 🤔
@@MyJOSE2013, yeah.
We do that imagine @MyJOSE2013
I wish she could have seen her value before she had 3 kids with him. I feel sad to see hardworking women stay in dysfunctional relationships for years until their egos are completely shattered
Wah. .you just told my story in 2010.pole mummy.
Gd eve, just seeing his video and reflected on my relationship with mom in law. Sadly, I havn't spoken to mine will iver 1 1/2 yr. Meddles and wants to run our household, in she treats all her adult children like this especially the 2 grown men. The grown ladies will not put up with her behaviour. Her behaviour is that of a Sh**t disturber. My husband has now seen for himself. Now she lays in Nursing whaling that no one honours her?? We pray for her to change before she loses out on her salvation.
We are twining , exactly is what happened to me my sister. we parted and he want me back again
Hawa wanaume wa kanisa ni maumbwa sana, they are the best pretenders.
Very very very true hawa watu aki
@@magoshlawrence3193 hao hata they don't cope with other ordinary men,ni watiaji sana
Since when will men understand that not providing and caring is not hurting the mother ua hurting your own kids yawaaa...aaa
Hawa wanaume wa kujenga jina their own families are suffering....wamedharau bibizao and not taking care of the kids I don't like such people kufuraisha watu but behind the scenes people don't know.....at least parents and siblings should learn to listen and understand their own
Heeei....uyo mama ndio alikuharibia pia
Naulizaa shida ya language iko wapi hapa?Skizeni message wachana na English yake
Think, Play - behave, apprach and your words as she is your real mother same way let she think you as her real daughter. Matter is simple. No as 'in-law'. be first in life.
What in the world are you talking about??? Your words make no sense!
What the hell are you saying?
Which language is this
The moment a man doesn't know how to balance the relationship with his mother and wife hapo ndio mwisho.Creating boundaries for both parties is equally important.
Pole for what you went through
I feel like shouting but let me try to say it calmly!!!!Those men who are clothed in ngozi ya kondoo kumbe ndani ni mbwa mwitu wamejaaa sanasana kanisani!!!!!!!!!!! To the public they are angels, but to their spouse they are so evil!!!!¡!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lady, I am so happy for the support your parents gave u, some parents chase back their daughters to the abuser!! Go on with the divorce he doesn't have to sign the papers as long as there's record he has been served,an affidavit to confirm will suffice,the case can go on, kwanza asipotokea, case itaenda in your favor!!! Go for it, the earlier the better!don't tie yourself, it's time for your grand rising 👏👏 all the best
Now, bring the man he must be having a banger of a story
We have to listen to both parties
@@jkabese73he will deny
I can't hold my tear this is my story l ask God to strengthen me so as l walk out
May God protect you and lead you .
I declare total Healing in your life. In Jesus Mighty name!
hoo my dear daughter that is exactly what happened to my marriage
So sad what you went thru. May God give you peace.
Mama kui raised a strong woman 💪
Yes, she's a strong woman and rich in Wisdom.
Fellow women marriage doesn’t not define or complete you. Again & again we box and diminish ourselves to fit into society scripts. Learn to be complete and whole!! Learn to stand in your God given power!!!
God is faithful
Pole sana mum.. may God help us
Hugs mamah... God in heaven sees and hears...you will get someone who will love 💞💕 you the way your supposed to be loved
So sorry for your experience but I don't think a come we stay situation helps much. You might end up staying with so many men before landing on the right one.
Sio kwa ubaya bt I prefer kudate mwanaume mwenye Ana mama is better love yenu italast forever, mama's boy is a no for me, nasijasema mtu asipende mamake bt ajue mm ni bb na ule ni mamake
Mimi nilioleka na mamaboy lakini nilimnyorosha na maombi mpaka akarudi kwa line na bado na omba hakuna kutulia
These Men are called Narcissists
Yeah, you are right.
She is a very strong and beautiful woman. May the Lord bless her
I sympathise with the lady. But she is now advocating for 'COME WE STAY' for young ladies who want to get married. Really - you are a christian currently leading Praise & Worship at a church and you are advocating for ;Come we stay'.
Often people think if they had done things differently, there would be a different outcome. For her case, she thinks if she tested out before getting married, it would have ended well. But it's a folly because the problem wasn't wedding in church but not knowing the person you are settling with. Those two are different
She's actually right! There's a research that shows most church weddings including of our parents' time either fail or pple live in misery & faking it for life. In fact couples in church are the most unhappy couples.
@@frashiahwangari2177 point me to the research.. just one. I'm sure there is none. What's right is many come we stay marriages fail compared to marriages done the right way. I can give you plenty of that research. So stop the lie and heresy. You even don't need research. Look at come we stay 'marriages' around you
@@phillipsidhojapap1461 🤐
I noted that also...she is still not healed,very emotional.
Woiye so the lady was going all this and the way she was good in praise and worship in church...may God watch and guide your steps to raise your kids.
Born again christian 's,may GOD give as the spirit of discernment,this pple dnt get as,devil came to kill,steal,destroy.Terry ur husband is a narcissist,for your closure google narcissist,characteristics they don't love their children only themselves.Don't like responsibility or demands from children sad truth.
A word of advice. Whenever we ask God for the desires of our hearts, satan has the ability to see what God has in store for us, he therefore, moves with speed and makes a replica of that which God intents to give us except, that his compared to God's, has imperfections. That is when the power of patience is supposed to kick in through prayer and ask God if truly what is right before us is His will and wait patiently for His response. God, in His abundant love, will always show us a sign but only and only if we practice patience.
Absolutely
Thank you, I was asking myself this the whole time.
Did you ask God before you went for that marriage? Sometimes God warns us and we ignore.
This is great 👌 advice. Patience sio mchezo...people don't like waiting. But it's better to.
Sasa mother in law alikua ameacha bwana yake nanani
What kind of a husband is that?
Huyo hafai kua baba wa mtu wala bwana wa mtu...yaani mbona hata hashuguliki na watoto wake? Na walikua wagonjwa..😢some people are just mentally ill...huyo hafai kusamehewa..this lady has gone through hell from her so called wicked husband and mother in law
Me i got marriage may na ikaisha august na nikaacha marriage roho safi and i remember i told that guy ukiona mjinga kama mm shukuru mungu trust me kila siku unitafuta turudiane bt who is me i just send photos and tell him mungu hatoki kwenu uliniambia nitoke uendelee enda uendelee roho safi mm kwako is a hell tried to reach out my brother bt i told my brother go and get married to him bt not me again
This title is misleading.. it wasn’t the MIL it was the whole man.
I totally agree. The man never loved her she also never loved him and had hoped love would grow kwa marriage. Her goal was a wedding
Please ask to seek a lawyer and get a divorce.
They are expensive. Anyone to offer pro bono?
Wishing you the best. But don't advise people into "Come We Stay" marriages. There is more pain in them. Church weddings are good with the right person and counseling.
These are type of man who trash thr kids today. Kesho the child becomes successful thts when they will show up thr faces ….
That's not a man he is a boy
We grew up together from the same village we went to Same primary and secondary school. If asked of a humble girl from a very humble family I would bring Trizah all the time it has shocked me to see her going though this hell.
A true narcissist, they use you and dump you. They are protective of their character yet so egocentric and abusive
Terry your beautiful just move with live.
She is indeed very beautiful 😍
God is faithful .
Thanks so much
He was not a husband but a monster in salvation. Love yourself.
Well said
A Malingre hiding in pcea nkoroi Church leadership
Mother's inlaws surely
I have known and served with this girl and for real she is a servant of God.
I can't believe what she has gone through in the hands of a "church elder".
He is a church elder? 🤔🤔🤔
Such a sad story. The title is misleading, the husband never loved and cared for his wife so there's no way the mother in law was jealous. The mom in law was terrible but the husband ndio mbaya kabisa.
What I went through in the hands of a mother in law is hell in as much as I am a man, always advising her daughter the wrong way from not including my name in the birth certificate yet I was taking responsibility, telling her daughter that she doesn't believe in marriage,even men go through difficulty in the hands of their mother in laws only that men don't speak much hence broke marriage that I had built
So sorry for that.
You are right my dear sister l fight such battle l understand you very well.
🤔🤔🤔Some stories make me afraid of getting married
Marriage is a good thing,you will get a good partner just position yourself and be careful
Don’t be afraid baby girl, your story will be different 😊
Majority of people commenting are teachers of English. To everyone else the language is ok, but to them,it isn't. Only a language's teacher would understand.
You are not alone mama Mimi nliwachwa watoi wakiwa 4yrs en 2en half yrs eve Bob sijawahi pata but I thank wako 14 en 12 yrs respectively have been taking care of them since then can't complain first born anafanya exam class 8 the ex my foot 🦶
sorry gal you were dealing with a narcissist. do not regret of him leaving you.
Yes, she went thru hell, but God strengthened her.
Sure even me am planning to leave .
too bad,no humanity at all in some men
Yeah, crazy world we live in.
You broke your own marriage men love being pampered saying you were not able to cook for your husband because of pregnancy is a scam.Unless you are sick you must wake up and cook and do all your wifery duties.
Don't blame your husband or your Mum in love.
If you are looking for a husband online ,kindly don't use people's names.
See a Councillor before you embark on another marriage. The problem is you it is not your husband or his mum.
So so sad. Kutesa mtoto wa mtu n you are a parent.
🤦
Kumbe tuko wengi .jipe moyo mummy
May Our LORD God help you to overcome and give you peace and provide for all your needs according to the riches of His glory. In Jesus' Mighty name. AMEN.
Amen! Thanks Rose for this ❤️
Amen. May God bless her abundantly.
Those men exist atleast wako alikua anapea family yako kitu. But such men are killing you emotionally and fnancially, you have always to be careful because you don’t know what that man has in his head. They can kill you easily na watu wanamujuwa kwa sula ingine nzuli wewe njo utaitwa mubaya.
Waaa a very noizy background.. Please rectify
God bless sisters aki ❤️
This so called mother in law I don't entertain them at all wanatakanga uwe kichwa ngumu usitake ujinga yao
ann ndungu exactly....you have to have the kichwa ngumu na ujulikane wee ni mbayaa..
Nikiimagine vile am always discussed by my mother in law with my nanny's naskia. Nguvu kwa miguu zinaisha...
Wueeeh! Some men aki!!!
You have already told us about yourself so work on yourself.
This man sounds familiar
😄😄😄😄 do you know him
Anabehave kama mtu fulani but narcissist are same
Pole Sana kui...Mimi yale nimepitia sijui naeza anzia wapi nimalizie wapi.nimepitia abuse ya kila aina
You are a strong woman. Take care of you and your lovely babies. God bless and protect you
Ongea kiswahili, ata kiswahili ni poa inaeleweka sana, stop struggling
Unajua aje kama ata hiyo kiswahili ako fluent, everybody is talented differently, stop lowering her esteem bora tumeelewa
Siku marriage itakua day school ill go in
You will also be a mother in law so please spare her.
If not for my hubby who is standing up as a man l think my marriage could be done .... because there is nothing good that l do in the eyes of my mil
It. Was another couple
Naomba mwongee tu Kiswahili wacha tuko watafsiri kwa ajili ya wale hawasikii Kiswahili. Hakuna haja ya kung'ang'ana na lugha ya wenyewe hata Mimi siiwezi kujiexpress vizuri na hiyo lugha na siombi msamaha.
Kuna wale English ni better than Kiswahili. Have you thought of that.? Wewe tafsiri umiweza. Let guests express themselves with the language they feel like
mmmh!! not everyone who speak Swahili , I myself being born and blend in the highland region can’t express myself in Kiswahili , I would rather speak heavy accented standard English or speak in my best language which is my mother tongue
@@blessedmama5367 very true
Hey Sally. Thanks for watching 🎉
She was comfortable in both English na Kiswahili 😊
Sally imagine she is okay, so long as she has communicated very well