8 | What to Expect When Divorcing a Muslim Narcissist

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  • @LK-sk2wv
    @LK-sk2wv 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Alhamdullilah I have no kids with my husband, and I’ve only recently come to understand narcissism, I entertained the thought that he might be previously but thought that would be unfair as we all have narcissistic traits. But after everything that happened, the amount of hurt I felt, the way he treated me, his words, his actions felt so evil and sadistic, over and over and over, and he laughed at my struggles, refused to divorce and yet did nothing to reconcile or resolve any issues.
    I begged Allah for clarity, I completely submitted to Allah and asked him for strength, patience and guidance on the right thing to do. And more and more lies came to light, more and more hurt and abuse came my way, but Allah is the most just. When I went into no contact, like the sister sister said, it was like I saw hell in all its colours, minimum contact seems to have calmed the situation down, but there’s still a lot spite, and a lot of attempts to hurt me, and make sure I’m left with absolutely nothing. I’m completely alone, with no family around me, and him and his family have labelled me a “bad wife” and a “narcissist”. What I find helps me, is focusing on the power of Allah and knowing Allah is just, he sees and hears me. Even though I’ve been silenced by everyone else. But I do find myself questioning myself if I am actually narcissistic, every now and then, we’ve been separated for 6 months now, and when he first left I was completely confused and felt absolutely worthless, he told me repeatedly I am of no value of benefit to him, and he is the only one beneficial to me, and that I used him for my own benefit only.
    Alhamdullilah, I found a Muslim therapy organisation and it helps me a lot. We’re still not divorced, as I can’t afford to pay for khula and in all honesty, I don’t want to re-live the pain when stating my reasons in the application, I still find it extremely difficult to control my emotions, as there’s always so much blame and accusations thrown my way. So much spite, and unfairness, and at times I do react or express my pain, but that just seems to give me him satisfaction. It’s going to be a very journey to heal, I have absolutely no life at all. But Alhamdullilah, my self worth, and my value has started to come back.
    May Allah bring ease and strength to all going through is. May Allah guide and protect us from injustice and being unjust to others, ameen.

    • @Lahna202
      @Lahna202 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Omg sis I’m going through the same thing right now, I’m starting to feel guilty but at the same time I know what he put me through and I know I have every right to divorce.

    • @slickperspective
      @slickperspective 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sister, your brother in Islam hears you. I have a certified narcissist wife with a 4-year-old son. From what you said, "...the way he treated me, his words, his actions felt so evil and sadistic, over and over and over, and he laughed at my struggles...", this is EXACTLY what I'm facing. Her tongue spits fire! When we have a small argument, she always threatens me with divorce time and time again. Her mother is also a narcissist and, FYI, she almost always goes to the mosque too! When she hears her daughter got into a fight with me again, she messages me, "If you don't like her, then let go of her! I know my own daughter! You have mentioned the word divorce before, why still stay with her?!" Her mother is also pushing it, without actually trying to help solve the problem! Until I found out both of them are narcissists! No wonder her late dad was an extremely quiet dude when I met him while he was still alive, and he died because of stomach failure. Now I am in the process of going to the Islamic Center for counseling. If my wife doesn't obey Allah Ta'ala but is happy to be a narcissist, then that's it. She is mentally disordered, and I need to win over my son!

    • @lisahoss5520
      @lisahoss5520 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I converted to Islam and had the same thing happen to me and now I’m loosing faith in myself the religion where can women get help for all this

    • @sofias-i9v
      @sofias-i9v 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Lahna202how are you? ❤hope your ok and I hope the person who hurt you gets what they deserve

  • @sofias-i9v
    @sofias-i9v 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Narcissistic abuse is one of the worst things a person can experience in this world in my opinion. I’m so hurt and weak and drained that at this point I have no more hopes and dreams anymore and I’m just waiting for death. Keeping up the prayer. May Allah help me see the light and give me hope

  • @oliverpervez3685
    @oliverpervez3685 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    SA, If only i had seen this 10 yrs ago. Thank you for sharing with us your knowledge.

  • @kulsum.dar.
    @kulsum.dar. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Assalamu alaikum Dr. Mona, JazakhAllah khairan for this excellent podcast. Everything you addressed was highly accurate, informative and relevant. I am currently on my journey of healing and educating myself and I am truly grateful that there have been many channels out there, including yours, that have assisted in that. Glad to finally see that the issue of the Muslim Narcissist is being talked about. I find that you have done a remarkable job in integrating your expertise, knowledge and experience on this subject matter, to the Islamic teachings. I look forward to your upcoming videos, inshAllah. May Allah SWT reward you for your effort, continue to bless you with knowledge and may He preserve you, Ameen 🤲🏽

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  ปีที่แล้ว

      Wa alaikom al salaam thank you so much for your kind comment, that really means a lot to me

  • @amadiyusuf255
    @amadiyusuf255 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Assallam mu aliakum. Thank you so much for the podcast sister. Your in dept analysis on this topic and the incorporation of the Islamic teachings is beautiful.

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wa alaikom al salaam brother thank you so much, you're most welcome :)

  • @faisalmahmood1183
    @faisalmahmood1183 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much Sis Dr. Mona. JAZAKALLAH KHAIR your podcast is very helpful

  • @greentree7864
    @greentree7864 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    An important podcast for everyone before going into marriage. I look forward to the podcast on the types of divorce in detail that was mentioned in this podcast.

  • @usheikh14
    @usheikh14 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for this sister ❤️🙏🏻

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome :)

    • @usheikh14
      @usheikh14 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@themuslimnarcissistbook currently undergoing the khula process myself and Alhamdulilah I have the means to pay my mahr back so praying for a smooth process insha’Allah. Will definitely message you with any questions🙏🏻❤️

  • @thomasassali9549
    @thomasassali9549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Assalamu Alaikom Dr. Mona,
    JAK for the podcast; they cover a lot topics, all of which are so important and relevant. Sub7an Allah, this particular podcast is VERY accurate of my experiences with divorcing a narc. I attempted to access your website but was unable to, instead getting a message that the domain was "parked." Do you have a new website? I hope this isn't the doing of a narc! Let us know isA

  • @nazneenali9690
    @nazneenali9690 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for this,Dr. Mona...Your explained so accurately everything that may happen in the divorce process..I'm currently in a marriage with a narcissist and I'm afraid to divorce and I've got teenage boys..but living everyday with husband is so draining and has made me a depressed ,angry woman..Do u think going " no contact " or minimal contact will give me some relief? I can always apply for jobs abroad and move ..pls answer if that is a temporary solution before going for a divorce? Thank you once again 😊

  • @fahimnathani7002
    @fahimnathani7002 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    As-Salamu ‘Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu Dr. Mona,
    Thank you for your podcast.
    I had got married and stayed with my ex wife only for 31 days and then had to get a divorced. Alhumdulillah Alaa kulli haal.
    But I still have some doubts and would want to know more. If you offer counselling. Please do let me know how to get in touch. Jazak’Allah hu khairan.

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wa alaikom al salaam Fahim, thank you for your comment. Yes I offer counselling, please email me: author@themuslimnarcissist.com

  • @Ramodest
    @Ramodest 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Did you have any client experiences where the narc husbsnd divorces his wife when she is in her 60s elderly with no job .what can a woman do to help her self not to be homeless. Thank you

    • @Baby_mercedes86
      @Baby_mercedes86 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Ramodest NO DIDDY ha ha 😂

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I don't have clients who this happened to, but I have heard of women who divorce their husbands when they're in their 60s! Elderly women who are divorced and have no where to go should be taken care of by male relatives/sons.

    • @Ramodest
      @Ramodest 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@themuslimnarcissistbook thank you

  • @ritaheeha7285
    @ritaheeha7285 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Sister i am a convert Muslim and need urgent help please. Is there an email adress or number...i have been involved for 20 years am finally out after severe theft and mental exhaustion and lies constant..i have a 4 year old son

  • @KandR101
    @KandR101 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Someone in my life is married to a nasty and disgusting narc. She has everything ( money of her own, job, everything she could need to have a great future), does not have children, and did not even take the Mehr from him. She is in prime state in comparison to the horrific stories I come across/ hear. But she keeps going back to him and the family of the girl for the sake of saving the marriage and isn't taking any steps (I think they are equally to blame here because they have emotionally blackmailed her for other things and forced her so they can stop her from going back ). I told her that he is never ever going to divorce you and things will keep getting worse which, they clear as day light ( Allah keeps getting her out yet she is going back again, then the family and she believes it's Allah not helping). Count your millions of blessings if a narc/psychopath decides to divorce/leave you. Go celebrate!

  • @welcometosemeticpalestine
    @welcometosemeticpalestine 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Expect him to hide all his $ for sure. A person cannot both be q narcissist and a Muslim at the same time due to the nature of abuse, however i know many narcissist "Muslims".

  • @joharahbintyunas5270
    @joharahbintyunas5270 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dr Mona, please can you address on inheritance, for example, if a woman who has possession before marriage house, jewellery ect does husband inherit from her?

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'll have to look into it, as I'm not a Mufteya. I'll ask for you and get back to you inshallah.

    • @joharahbintyunas5270
      @joharahbintyunas5270 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Understanding the Muslim Narcissist Inshaa'Allah

  • @adamjones5004
    @adamjones5004 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This makes sense I’m married to a very evil religious narcissist who runs religious gatherings for the Shahdhilis, and at the moment I’m being punished because my reaction is that I don’t care on divorce topic, I just don’t want my children to not have the father they love very much. I have had really bad depression since being married to this evil, brutal narcissist wicked witch that drops everything for her Sheikh Mohammed Al Yaqoubi , who wouldn’t even look twice at her