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Living life through love from your heart and loving people more will automatically allow you to be free. The heart is more powerful than the brain. In my journey I take the brain to be “ego” once you separate yourself from your ego that’s when you discover your true nature.
Recently this stuff has been clicking for me. For years I avoided socialising and put on a restrictive front to hide a lot of my personality. It's been mind-blowing to now see that authentically sharing things I previously hid in fear of rejection has had the opposite effect of making people more approving and attracted to me. Thanks so much Julien, it's taken years but the changes are amazing.
A lot of people feel that way. I think that's why they respond well when you're open because they too basically wanna have fun and let loose too, so it makes them feel more at ease letting go. I had those negative fear based type of thoughts and it's something I worked on for years and life's so much better once you've dealt with fear. I never realized how fear is at the base of most negative behaviors or thoughts. Most things like if you boil it down to is most basic form, it's fear. So working to realize how much fear is in our lives, and working on overcoming ALL types of fear will allow you to live much more freely and happily
I had this revelation like 10 years ago after a breakup and a lot of soul searching. Never been happier. Only problem is that now I crave for authenticity and it's really hard to find.
Couldn't agree more Julian. Men have been lead to believe that they need to change themselves to get the women and then wonder why months later the situation is toxic and she ain't cooperating. To pass all test you have to accept who you are and stand on it! Stay Focused Guys!
I work in a barbershop and more then 50% of the time everyone mostly talks bs super exaggerated. I’ve been speaking truth and people don’t like it and they try to get me to judge them so the attention will be on them but I check myself and not get suck and it gets easier to control myself. This is a clear reminder I am on the right path.
I know this subconsciously (and now consciously lol) and I think it’s a big part of the reason why I don’t put forth my best effort in life. Serious self honesty time right now. I don’t like confrontation, I don’t like being uncomfortable or making other people uncomfortable. So I don’t wanna put myself in a position to where I’m gonna be confronted and get tested everywhere because it adds too much stress. It’s not a way that i wanna live. So I’d rather people think I’m sub par and not on their level so that they leave me alone. I’ve experienced it, when i put myself in high value situations, people get fucking brutal man, and that’s when I dip. I don’t wanna deal with any of that. It’s a cold, cold world we live in. I know this is something I have to work on in myself, because I have to reach my potential, but I just don’t like being stressed out all the time and having to keep my guard up. It’s so much more relaxing down at the bottom lol Though I’ve realized recently that when im at my best im 100% a sigma type male. I can put someone in their place just by calmly and assertively talking to them, and I know how to diffuse conflicts really well. I’ve been practicing this to get better at it in the past six months or so and it’s worked out really well. I told a guy who’s above me at my job to grab his balls and start being a manager by getting his crew together. I didn’t yell, I didn’t get angry or emotional, I had a conversation with him, told him something needs to change because decisions that he’s making is making my job harder. We talked through it and he basically kept giving me the runaround so I told him “listen, your guys don’t respect you. That’s why nothing gets done the right way. So I think what you need to do is grab your balls and start being a manager”. I said it to him like I was his counselor lol. And holy shit, things actually changed. I used to think that being loud and aggressive like the stereotypical “alpha male” was the way to go, and for some personalities that is. That can work for some people. For others though, not so much. I have such a calm personality, nobody would take me seriously if I acted all macho and started yelling when I was pissed off. You gotta find what type of assertiveness works for you. Making progress!
I don't believe in "sigma," "beta," or "alpha" bullshit. We're not fucking lions. We're humans. Get the fuck out of here with that shit. I'm sick and tired of hearing / seeing it. It's nothing more than a narcissistic invented stigma developed from people with inferiority complexes. I'm so "alpha." Sounds retarded. (just being honest here) It's only used to be directed into a fictional definitive stereotype that exists merely out of pure bias. There's nothing objective about it and therefore has no validity in actual life. It's not real. I think you just need to stick up for yourself though and your beliefs. I follow my heart and I don't look back. I applaud you for sticking up for what you believed in in that situation though. I avoid certain situations because I don't give a fuck lol. Especially work related. Some people are just cry babies that think their way is the best when really it's usually the worst way in my experience. Don't even get me started on upper management or corporate fucks. Fwiw, I'm surprised that the person you talked to actually heeded your advice in a mature manner it sounds like once you got past the "bs." The only way I'd say that type of shit is if I was in charge but that would never happen because I would have already fired that person lol. Most of the time people aren't going to give a fuck what I have to say in my experience so I don't give a fuck to share it, since it hardly ever matters.
The Sigma is the anti-hero. Similiar traits to Good and Bad alphas but despises weak and corrupt authority. Trump was a Sigma and the Bruce Wayne standing up to the Joker/Hillary/Epstein/Pelosi/Obama/Bush/Biden's tumor.
@@c.s1393 Truth hurts, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, the truth sets you free. Every Biden voter is doing the face palm as they pay more for less and see Amber alerts skyrocket in their states.
Honestly man every time I see you my eyes project to me the image of a psychopath and it may be an accurate lens but this video provided me with immense value, this is the most genuine you’ve come off to me yet. I respect you.
Psychopath? Is he the one that got the rape care on him. Smh. Should've known this picking up stuff wasn't gonna go fast when it got in the hands of nerdy white men with no personality. But to say Julien is. I hope he isn't.
Tested is a good sign of the type of person that you are willing and able to be. However, once you understand why you’re always being tested. It will never, not be, annoying to put up with. Yet the frustration that often goes hand in hand with the topic is eliminated. It is common to feel insecure or doubtful. That’s what others want you to feel like, whenever they confront you with a test. Because subconsciously what you have done, or are able to do- has made them feel insecure. Because they see in You, what they realize they do not possess in themselves. These type of people have a habit/cycle of taking their own personal mental insecurities and turn them into feelings of inferiority. ON THEIR OWN. In order to compensate for those feelings. The emotion will change into anger…. Even tho the anger is truly with themself. When this occurs, For some people it can become an involuntary action to lash out at other people. as if the whole confrontation was the other persons fault in the first place. So don’t waste time feeling upset by these peoples misunderstanding’s of you. The fact is, they have poor mental habits and are unaware that they should/could behave in a different manner. If they understood this, they definitely would have already made the adjustments. Because there are plenty of other people similar to them, they don’t feel like any personal improvements are needed. Even though the whole time, they are feeling confused at the way people treat them during a CONFRONTATION. The correlation is never made that they are the only person responsible for their ill feelings- not the people they Test!)
Testing people you don’t know can get you killed from my life experience… listen to this guy, you better be ready for anything. Use respect and courtesy instead of “shit testing,” you’ll find out far more with less possible dire consequences.
Damn I needed to hear this. Relationship failed, family failed, friendships failed and I sincerely thought i was the problem. Then i found out these ppl would go behind my back and say that i was better than them and i was a really good hearted person. Dont know why they are so malicious with me but I’m learning how to handle the shit testing of life.
Remember, first of all your intentions have to be good towards others. If you have moral standards, ethics and knowledge, nothing can shake you. If you try to fake being grounded, it will be very soon exposed. These things come naturally and can’t be achieved from a low vibration. True leaders can’t be made in school it’s something that comes from above.
Even if he was faking it till he made it, there's nothing wrong with something positive. You can be a leader in school. Honestly a lot of what you said can easily be debunked and makes no sense. (Just being honest)
Well, take being genuinely nice to people. I would do it so naturally sometimes since I don't think of much it. It's normal for me while others are struggling to be nice without an agenda since they always try to get something all the time, they have trouble being nice for the sake of being nice.
@@Icyyellowsandroutes8823 As much as I want to contest it, there's not much room since I have trouble understanding the original comment lol What did he meant by from above? As in religious way?
I started tapping into this. Especially with my lady. I always say what I mean & it shakes out relationship for the better I believe. If its challenging that means you're growing. All of it is fun. Even the bad. Stay cool yet open to you first. Some of my personal base presents
Thank you. This is the first time in my life I've heard exactly what I needed to hear; everything I've been experiencing and having problems with for all my life were in this video and it's the first time something like this has clicked for me. I don't idolize, but I'll give praise where it's due, just before 22 and I finally heard what I need, thank you
That's so great, keep up! Now 25 and started with the self encouragement and self challenging, growth, when 21. Made incredible progress, but at some point got distracted from it. Slipped back in old routines. And also started self attacking for slipping which made it more difficult to get back on track. So good for you! If ever you fall back in old ways which might happen.. Please don't blame yourself for it. Keep encouraging every win. No matter how small. Have a wonderful day!
Love the self encouragement, instead of self attack. Self help has lots of undercurrent of self attack, and it can be ironically detrimental to the people who criticize themselves the most
I'm currently following a course by Julia Cameron called 'The Artist Way', which is a course in unblocking your creativity. She pulls up the exact same example where you treat yourself like a child and really pet yourself. I've been doing this for some weeks and I've been much more loving to myself (and my creativity). Interesting to hear you referencing this again. This is gold!
I came to this conclusion years ago. In high school I had very few things going for me except for a few things, not so much a "loser" but loser adjacent. And yet for some reason I got some dings and attacks thrown at me by my "friends" that other friends in the group that I considered to be in a similar situation as me didn't get. I always wondered why. With time I realized that the reason was that my friends subconsciously knew I should be doing better for myself, I should be at a higher level but I was not and they were "punishing" me for it. Humans are weird.
Exactly, people have a perception of who you are based on what they see first, which is how you look. Meaning facial expressions, posture, different gesture and if it doesn't match they just don't know what to do 😂😂
Ego is the reason people feel threatened and become competitive. When you're humble and get rid of your ego, you forget about yourself and make it about others.
@@JulienHimself You straight up reminded me that the show you put on trying to compete will follow you. I can reflect upon the times foreseeing that I can't maintain that front forever and trying to causes me stress. You nailed that right in my when you called it out, I'm trying to self examine, improve and let go. Btw I find it a little hard to measure progress on letting go, you made a gallop about it a while back.
The opening of the video is good. I don´t even have context from where the conversation started, but I can relate to people constantly watching me, and I hate it. My mind is instantly like ¨stop watching me; leave me alone¨ but then I have to tell myself that it comes with the territory.
It does come with the territory, yes... With proper inner work (learning how to let go), you can also achieve a point where it no longer triggers you btw! 👌
I mastered this as a basketball player. Every time I step on the court, I don’t need to say a word. I coordinate the first game and start executing. And that’s it. And as I’ve built my game and become unstoppable, I get attention from all corners. A quick shift between positive and negative energy all the time. But, I always remain focused and In control of my emotions and focused on the challenge at hand. You can only take an L if you don’t come back stronger.
Thank you so much! I needed to hear this. I have decided to take the entrepreneur journey and have recently been exposing myself on social media. Let’s grow! 🔥 2022 is ours 🌹
This is the real conversation I enjoy listening to. You are so lax and chill while speaking, amazing. I am working on being secure in my body and owning the stage and having people look at me as a high value individual who isn’t afraid of being challenged. Thank you very much.
Iike this dude... Like a breath of fresh air... Even you talking here naturally theres basically no fuck ups in your flawless fluid speach.... So smooth
Hmm, great insights. I believe value begins within, and manifests outwards in the shape of our actions and decisions throughout life. As a result, all value is derived from the actions we provide as individuals. A shit test is really just "show me what you're made of"
Celebrating the small wins is so huge!! I just attended you and Owens tour here in L.A. I was feeling so embarrassed of my living situation and would ✍ down the little wins like ok raised my hand and asks a few questions. Keeping eye contact longer in the audience and have felt just a huge shift in just that. Celebrating on those small wins are huge!!
@@ksale22 yes it was. I am going to be authentic I was definitely blown away by their intense present energy. Like even Julian just commenting on a comment from yesterday the other YOU was like "oh my gawd Julien Blanc commented on the comment" and but today I am looking at as like a mentor/person/friend but not as this HUGE pedestal like they've talked about for many moons. What was your live experience like?
Excellent confirmation of what I knew, nicely summarized and condensed. It's like four years of information condensed into 15 minutes - so you can listen to over and over again to re-inforce like a mental workout. Great presentation.
Wow we come from similar backgrounds (not culturally, I mean childhood wise). I was extremely shy as a kid too but now I’m a social butterfly. In the beginning of my self love journey (which was around 4 or 5 years ago), I just kept putting myself out there to step out of my comfort zone. It did work in the beginning but like you said in another video, that’s only temporary bc you haven’t addressed some deeply held subconscious beliefs and you know what? That was 100% my case. It worked for a lil bit but then I got anxious and started overthinking again and went through this whole dark night of the soul period. But I didn’t give up. I came back stronger than before and kept challenging my own subconscious beliefs that kept overthinking and telling me I’m not good enough to be social or popular and I tried putting myself out there again but this time I stayed true to myself. I wasn’t hiding anything. I was being my goofy, quirky and authentic self. In fact, I was so transparent that I even told ppl I used to be really shy before but I worked on myself so much and look at me now. And this worked. For me to handle social situations now comes naturally. I don’t feel awkward or feel the need to overcompensate by being “extra” or “over the top” all the time (unless I’m in that mood) but I do genuinely enjoy socializing and speaking to lots of different ppl, getting to know them and being entertaining. So yeah that’s how I overcame my social anxiety :) Now I’m just applying these same methods to my deeply held subconscious beliefs towards love and career and it’s actually progressing quite well tbh so I’m happy 🥲
One of the attributes that make a superpower is that I have an endless supply of creative as well as physical energy . If I am paralyzed metaphorically or physically it has an extremely negative effect on my mental health. Depression and anxiety . In the extreme. Breaking me in that way isn't possible bc I will at some point refocus all of that creative and physical energy onto a way to go over ,under or through anything paralyzing me .
Whenever I'm so sucked into my comfort zone not wanting to do something that is productive, I'll just close my eyes and sit/lay down, whatever it is I'm doing and just not think of anything. It puts me in a neutral state which makes it easier to get up and do something else, instead of immediately getting out of my comfort zone to do something else
Damn, knowledge bombs after knowledge bombs... As usual Julien, thanks a lot. I would not be the person that i am today if it wasn't for you and Owen. God sent you guys to us
Your words really help me to heal myself , I will keep watching you , even if it will take me a long time to be healed . Thank you so much , God bless you ! ❤
Be always authentic and won't have anything to be afraid of. Some people will like it, some people won't, but this is all about you and only you, not somebody else. Self improvement.
dude if you're reading this please keep on making videos on what to do or avoid once you've reached a higher value. I mean I would get a little annoyed at the fact that almost all self-help videos are mostly made for people that are just starting to get into self-help which would sometimes set me back when in the mindset of a higher-value person. (Keep up the great work :)
I noticed this when I get in state at the gym. I'll suddenly start getting dudes trying to lock eyes with me to see if i'll look away. I do notice I start getting a bit paranoid when this happens because all the sudden you got guys looking you up. People really are just animals acting on their instincts. You really just have to get comfortable with the positive and negative attention.
Fkn love your work Julien. Also heard that anxiety comes about when we fear or don't believe we have the resources, or are "enough" to deal with the task.
Damn that point of self encouragement. That you wouldn't say "you should have done better." to your kid if they did something... My dad would say that to me. I got all As and 1 B? He'd go "why is that a B? Why not A?" And completely ignore the rest of my grades. Now I notice the same way of talking within myself too. But I'm glad I got to know what it is so that now I can start working for myself rather than against.
I just learned I cant shut up and be not noticed. I subconsciously kinda want some of the attention but then I also value privacy and peace and im luckily not a celeb cos they dont get to choose much of peace... but theyre very valued and on top, and create great things, but they just never have privacy and they constantly have to deal with pressure and be cool. And say someone with anxiety is noticed cos of a trait thats interesting or a few and unwillingly have to deal with idiots talking to them and bothering them. Thats me. I can be so introverted and then I hope people will ignore me if I sit in a corner, but the second I stand up people stare as if they saw a ghost get up from the ground. with friends, I have a lot of fun usually and all eyes are on us. We had people approach, jealous, happy, annoyed etc with us. People have remembered me for whatever Ive done and said even strangers who only met me for a day and its daunting, really, but the impact is made. with or without my consent. I used to strife for validation as a kid/teen and now I just do whatever comes to me and now I get people from all corners tell me how good I can work etc, without me even trying to ask for it. Its a blessing in a curse. If you want it, you never gonna get it. if you dont need it, its there suddenly for the taking... Also I can say people have been testing me all the time. I had a crush test me cos she was bored and thrilled . She had a boyfriend and was convinced she and I would be nothing, yet she loved messing with me to see how far I could handle her. She would even spread false rumors about me so she got to see my reaction on them. She shouldnt have been a crush, but yeah, was highschool and I was lost lol. And then I had bullies or classmates trying to test me too. I can say, usually, young people of my age who get a task to do in the same environment seem to be very competitive. And if they notice anyone be able to connect well with the task or task giver, like say a teacher, they start acting up to compensate for the jeaousy.
@@JulienHimself hope I can explain this. It was about why people challenge you. Your approach on it made me think about it differently, and kinda let myself image being well, Myself lol. Taking these challenges authentically. That took a lot of anxiety off my chest. It was like a self therapy. Thanks for creating such content, couldn't have thought about it if not for you. ❤
Allways pulling up my freinds when they talk negatively about them selves, i say hey, 1st rule NEVER put yourself down, i used to do it myself many years ago,just not realising the negativity it gave out about me as a person.
Just about as much value as can be packed in a 15 min video. I found out about you in 2017, but I’ve dug around so much it might as well have been 2012. Appreciate you! 🙏 You’ve always had the conviction, but now its like you can “hear the years” like someone who’s seen it all and is cutting right to what actually matters. Grabbed the HVC presale back in December and looking forward to it. Got quite a few takeaways. 1. This video really hammered home the whole competitive vs collaborative frame thing for me. I used to overthink it because I would wonder if the collaborative frame was a selective blind spot of sorts where you try to delude yourself into thinking everyone is on your side. At first it didn’t seem to jive with full authenticity, because it is possible to walk into an environment and immediately have everyone look down on you and think of you as a pathetic piece of shit, right off the bat. The only way I could reconcile assuming everyone was on your side, by default, with that idea was by assuming that the collaborative frame involved still recognizing that many, many people may not be too enthusiastic about you at first sight, but also involved recognizing that that doesn’t mean much and that they are still mostly on your side but just need to see a bit more value before fully joining your camp. I was thinking about it since your last video with Owen, and hearing you say it here really just hammered it home. 2. Staying authentic with congruence tests. I’m someone who usually gets amped up and overzealous when responding to shit tests and I feel like people can often see in my eyes how badly I want what I said to click with them, and that’s probably one of the things that sets me back the most in interactions. 3. Stop waiting to take action. I find I always get sucked into whatever laziness the people I go out with are into. I’m usually the last guy trying to find ways to pressure use into taking action and usually get pissed off that they don’t show the same determination, then at the end I usually succumb to not spoil the fun and we half-ass our action plan and just talk and eat and do our own shit. When I heard the part about you just taking action regardless of anything else, that inspired the fuck out of me. I was like: “why the fuck am I letting what my friends are feeling determine the action I’m gonna take and whether I’m actually gonna improve socially?”
@@JulienHimself The part about beeing challenged because ppl see value in me and the part about authenticity helped me alot. Changed my PoV as soon as I heard it from you.
Avoiding jealous people is much time efficient than accepting the test of jealous person as an opportunity to prove yourself to yourself and then actually still jealous people will not learn because they hate you still and the only thing their pain will stop is by actually curing their own insecurity than actually testing you.
What I like about your advice is that the bottom line solution of most problems is pretty simple: let go and be yourself. The problem is that whenever I find myself in situations in which I would very much be myself I shy away because if I was truly authentic a lot of repressed shit, trauma, anger, etc will come out and will end up making people hate me. What if my actually true self is fucked-up and hurt? It is not fair for me to throw that on the lap of other people. And I have done a lot of therapy, which helped but did not entirely solve the problem.
Be yourself as much as you can, while of course trying at the same time to be aware of the elements that come up that are rooted from trauma, hurt, etc. Be aware of those elements and of course try to not let them show. But ultimately speaking, the best path is, like julien mentioned above, learn to heal and let go of the past and only then will being yourself will actually be naturally attractive to other people.
Thank you for all of your efforts and I really appreciate you. I worked for Swiss Com We had a Christmas party at Lake Zürich. Switzerland is such a beautiful beautiful country.
@@JulienHimself yes because discipline implies effort and trying. But when you do discipline from a state of reduction. Like taking away screen time. Taking away excess foods. Taking away excess dopamine. I think the statement rings true because focusing your mind on less of all that you are, will naturally bring that openness and relaxed state. Letting go as a term otherwise just implies procrastination atleast to me.
“Discipline” is like “Letting go” there’s a paradox with the both of them, like you mention in your content. Like you can be disciplined from a state of pushing the Boulder up a hill and hating yourself. Or the discipline of realising that when you let go of all the crap, you naturally feel beat learning, improving, moving, focusing, reading etc A big thing for me has been realising that like counting calories FOR EXAMPLE, isn’t obsessive. The healthiest I’ve ever been, and most “humble” was when I was extremely focused, working hard and taking all emotion out of it, and I remember it as the good old days, where it felt like I was doing it all effortlessly and people thought my gym results were magic, and shit like that... But I remember how much work I was actually doing. Or how much I was NOT doing it for the validation, and constantly testing myself (maybe not constantly - or at all) but with doing things and keeping it to myself and that was the validation. And let people think that you’re so lucky that you get results, or that you’re so lucky that you can be positive etc 😂 But then I also fell into patterns when trying to give my 2cents to inspire people where I was like trying to say NO BITCH YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HARD I WORK lol But while I’m here going back to the calories thing... like my family would judge me hard for being healthy around them and actually obviously try tear me down... It was kinda crazy It was my first signs of like toxicity back in the day... Where I was so dialed in woth what was working that I could just ignore them and feel bad for them lol But what’s kept me in a rut I think was thinking I have to be normal because otherwise I’m too obsessed or stuff. Yes. Anyway. Only commenting so much because currently experiencing some clarity atleast for myself, abs yeh
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Living life through love from your heart and loving people more will automatically allow you to be free. The heart is more powerful than the brain. In my journey I take the brain to be “ego” once you separate yourself from your ego that’s when you discover your true nature.
The new self help motivational speaker ,thank you so much, hopefully you write a book.
@@marshallspace3827 Make up your mind please . Just yesterday the narrative was in the opinion of being a Savage
@@leonardofernandez2230 I don't know how to write in that language. I write on souls
Recently this stuff has been clicking for me. For years I avoided socialising and put on a restrictive front to hide a lot of my personality. It's been mind-blowing to now see that authentically sharing things I previously hid in fear of rejection has had the opposite effect of making people more approving and attracted to me. Thanks so much Julien, it's taken years but the changes are amazing.
Amazing to hear! And yes, we are ALL craving for AUTHENTICITY! 🙌
damn peterrrrr UwU
A lot of people feel that way. I think that's why they respond well when you're open because they too basically wanna have fun and let loose too, so it makes them feel more at ease letting go. I had those negative fear based type of thoughts and it's something I worked on for years and life's so much better once you've dealt with fear. I never realized how fear is at the base of most negative behaviors or thoughts. Most things like if you boil it down to is most basic form, it's fear. So working to realize how much fear is in our lives, and working on overcoming ALL types of fear will allow you to live much more freely and happily
Bro I’m the same way but I’m starting to socialize now
I had this revelation like 10 years ago after a breakup and a lot of soul searching. Never been happier. Only problem is that now I crave for authenticity and it's really hard to find.
"What will get you ahead is self-encouragement, not self-attack". Thank you🙏
Amazing takeaway, right there! You're welcome!
"people don't want perfect" this took a huge load off my shoulders
“Be inspired by what’s possible but don’t compare and self attack” 🙌🏻 thanks for the video, I really needed this!
Yes!! You’re very welcome! 🙏
Couldn't agree more Julian. Men have been lead to believe that they need to change themselves to get the women and then wonder why months later the situation is toxic and she ain't cooperating. To pass all test you have to accept who you are and stand on it! Stay Focused Guys!
It goes both ways.
I work in a barbershop and more then 50% of the time everyone mostly talks bs super exaggerated. I’ve been speaking truth and people don’t like it and they try to get me to judge them so the attention will be on them but I check myself and not get suck and it gets easier to control myself. This is a clear reminder I am on the right path.
I know this subconsciously (and now consciously lol) and I think it’s a big part of the reason why I don’t put forth my best effort in life. Serious self honesty time right now. I don’t like confrontation, I don’t like being uncomfortable or making other people uncomfortable. So I don’t wanna put myself in a position to where I’m gonna be confronted and get tested everywhere because it adds too much stress. It’s not a way that i wanna live. So I’d rather people think I’m sub par and not on their level so that they leave me alone. I’ve experienced it, when i put myself in high value situations, people get fucking brutal man, and that’s when I dip. I don’t wanna deal with any of that. It’s a cold, cold world we live in. I know this is something I have to work on in myself, because I have to reach my potential, but I just don’t like being stressed out all the time and having to keep my guard up. It’s so much more relaxing down at the bottom lol
Though I’ve realized recently that when im at my best im 100% a sigma type male. I can put someone in their place just by calmly and assertively talking to them, and I know how to diffuse conflicts really well. I’ve been practicing this to get better at it in the past six months or so and it’s worked out really well. I told a guy who’s above me at my job to grab his balls and start being a manager by getting his crew together. I didn’t yell, I didn’t get angry or emotional, I had a conversation with him, told him something needs to change because decisions that he’s making is making my job harder. We talked through it and he basically kept giving me the runaround so I told him “listen, your guys don’t respect you. That’s why nothing gets done the right way. So I think what you need to do is grab your balls and start being a manager”. I said it to him like I was his counselor lol. And holy shit, things actually changed.
I used to think that being loud and aggressive like the stereotypical “alpha male” was the way to go, and for some personalities that is. That can work for some people. For others though, not so much. I have such a calm personality, nobody would take me seriously if I acted all macho and started yelling when I was pissed off. You gotta find what type of assertiveness works for you.
Making progress!
I don't believe in "sigma," "beta," or "alpha" bullshit. We're not fucking lions. We're humans. Get the fuck out of here with that shit. I'm sick and tired of hearing / seeing it. It's nothing more than a narcissistic invented stigma developed from people with inferiority complexes. I'm so "alpha." Sounds retarded. (just being honest here) It's only used to be directed into a fictional definitive stereotype that exists merely out of pure bias. There's nothing objective about it and therefore has no validity in actual life. It's not real. I think you just need to stick up for yourself though and your beliefs. I follow my heart and I don't look back. I applaud you for sticking up for what you believed in in that situation though. I avoid certain situations because I don't give a fuck lol. Especially work related. Some people are just cry babies that think their way is the best when really it's usually the worst way in my experience. Don't even get me started on upper management or corporate fucks. Fwiw, I'm surprised that the person you talked to actually heeded your advice in a mature manner it sounds like once you got past the "bs." The only way I'd say that type of shit is if I was in charge but that would never happen because I would have already fired that person lol. Most of the time people aren't going to give a fuck what I have to say in my experience so I don't give a fuck to share it, since it hardly ever matters.
The Sigma is the anti-hero. Similiar traits to Good and Bad alphas but despises weak and corrupt authority. Trump was a Sigma and the Bruce Wayne standing up to the Joker/Hillary/Epstein/Pelosi/Obama/Bush/Biden's tumor.
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@@c.s1393 Truth hurts, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, the truth sets you free. Every Biden voter is doing the face palm as they pay more for less and see Amber alerts skyrocket in their states.
Your last line is actually very good advice, find the type of assertiveness/agression that works for you. Thanks!
Exactly, you draw attention naturally instead of seeking attention, a completely different paradigm
YES! 🙌
That is facts sometimes i just be thinkin when theh gonna stop starin lmaoo
Honestly man every time I see you my eyes project to me the image of a psychopath and it may be an accurate lens but this video provided me with immense value, this is the most genuine you’ve come off to me yet. I respect you.
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Psychopath? Is he the one that got the rape care on him. Smh. Should've known this picking up stuff wasn't gonna go fast when it got in the hands of nerdy white men with no personality. But to say Julien is. I hope he isn't.
The collaborative frame is really powerful.
Started using it in the gym and my comfort level tripled.
Awesome!!
I think I’ve been using that in the gym too without knowing what it was. But assessing it now that’s totally it.
The choice vs the reaction. Pure gold Julien. Been watching since the RSD days. Crazy to think "shit testing" is the old term. Literally love you bro
Tested is a good sign of the type of person that you are willing and able to be. However, once you understand why you’re always being tested. It will never, not be, annoying to put up with. Yet the frustration that often goes hand in hand with the topic is eliminated.
It is common to feel insecure or doubtful. That’s what others want you to feel like, whenever they confront you with a test.
Because subconsciously what you have done, or are able to do- has made them feel insecure. Because they see in You, what they realize they do not possess in themselves. These type of people have a habit/cycle of taking their own personal mental insecurities and turn them into feelings of inferiority. ON THEIR OWN. In order to compensate for those feelings. The emotion will change into anger…. Even tho the anger is truly with themself. When this occurs, For some people it can become an involuntary action to lash out at other people. as if the whole confrontation was the other persons fault in the first place.
So don’t waste time feeling upset by these peoples misunderstanding’s of you. The fact is, they have poor mental habits and are unaware that they should/could behave in a different manner. If they understood this, they definitely would have already made the adjustments. Because there are plenty of other people similar to them, they don’t feel like any personal improvements are needed. Even though the whole time, they are feeling confused at the way people treat them during a CONFRONTATION. The correlation is never made that they are the only person responsible for their ill feelings- not the people they Test!)
Testing people you don’t know can get you killed from my life experience… listen to this guy, you better be ready for anything.
Use respect and courtesy instead of “shit testing,” you’ll find out far more with less possible dire consequences.
Exactly, can't be completely clueless, just like you have lines that can't be crossed, other people do too. This is where being aware matters 😎
Taking responsibility /ownership for all of yourself and using compassion is a major step!
Yep!
There’s a lot of fake coaches teaching a lot of BS out there. This guy is not one of them. Same goes with the whole RSD crew. Appreciate you guys!
Damn I needed to hear this. Relationship failed, family failed, friendships failed and I sincerely thought i was the problem. Then i found out these ppl would go behind my back and say that i was better than them and i was a really good hearted person. Dont know why they are so malicious with me but I’m learning how to handle the shit testing of life.
Remember, first of all your intentions have to be good towards others.
If you have moral standards, ethics and knowledge, nothing can shake you.
If you try to fake being grounded, it will be very soon exposed.
These things come naturally and can’t be achieved from a low vibration.
True leaders can’t be made in school it’s something that comes from above.
Even if he was faking it till he made it, there's nothing wrong with something positive. You can be a leader in school. Honestly a lot of what you said can easily be debunked and makes no sense. (Just being honest)
Word!
What is a low vibration?
Well, take being genuinely nice to people. I would do it so naturally sometimes since I don't think of much it. It's normal for me while others are struggling to be nice without an agenda since they always try to get something all the time, they have trouble being nice for the sake of being nice.
@@Icyyellowsandroutes8823 As much as I want to contest it, there's not much room since I have trouble understanding the original comment lol What did he meant by from above? As in religious way?
I started tapping into this. Especially with my lady. I always say what I mean & it shakes out relationship for the better I believe. If its challenging that means you're growing. All of it is fun. Even the bad. Stay cool yet open to you first. Some of my personal base presents
Thank you. This is the first time in my life I've heard exactly what I needed to hear; everything I've been experiencing and having problems with for all my life were in this video and it's the first time something like this has clicked for me. I don't idolize, but I'll give praise where it's due, just before 22 and I finally heard what I need, thank you
That's so great, keep up! Now 25 and started with the self encouragement and self challenging, growth, when 21. Made incredible progress, but at some point got distracted from it. Slipped back in old routines. And also started self attacking for slipping which made it more difficult to get back on track.
So good for you! If ever you fall back in old ways which might happen.. Please don't blame yourself for it. Keep encouraging every win. No matter how small.
Have a wonderful day!
Spectacular content, much needed in this day and age -Owen
Thanks man!! Yes, this is CRUCIAL information when it comes to dealing with people and human interactions! 👊
@@JulienHimself Being like this in a foreign country like Poland makes most people envy you and push you aside. Standing alone here.
Bruh your profile literally says Owen why u gotta say it twice
INDEED 👌
Love this. Seeing Owen comment on this post oddly humanizes him even more as a mere mortal and not just as a social-god.
Love the self encouragement, instead of self attack. Self help has lots of undercurrent of self attack, and it can be ironically detrimental to the people who criticize themselves the most
Yes! Agreed!!
I'm currently following a course by Julia Cameron called 'The Artist Way', which is a course in unblocking your creativity. She pulls up the exact same example where you treat yourself like a child and really pet yourself. I've been doing this for some weeks and I've been much more loving to myself (and my creativity). Interesting to hear you referencing this again. This is gold!
I came to this conclusion years ago. In high school I had very few things going for me except for a few things, not so much a "loser" but loser adjacent. And yet for some reason I got some dings and attacks thrown at me by my "friends" that other friends in the group that I considered to be in a similar situation as me didn't get. I always wondered why. With time I realized that the reason was that my friends subconsciously knew I should be doing better for myself, I should be at a higher level but I was not and they were "punishing" me for it. Humans are weird.
Perceptive
Exactly, people have a perception of who you are based on what they see first, which is how you look. Meaning facial expressions, posture, different gesture and if it doesn't match they just don't know what to do 😂😂
Ego is the reason people feel threatened and become competitive. When you're humble and get rid of your ego, you forget about yourself and make it about others.
Those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.
you cannot "get rid of your ego" stop with the nonsense bro
@@sokingssddk And hypocrites go to hell
@@astralbeatz9950 But you should realize when it can hurt you, observe it and subdue it. In short, humble yourself.
Yes, yes
Humble and honest, what an amazing way to give a lesson Julien
Thanks! Glad this resonated with you! What part of the advice resonated with you the most btw?
@@JulienHimself You straight up reminded me that the show you put on trying to compete will follow you. I can reflect upon the times foreseeing that I can't maintain that front forever and trying to causes me stress. You nailed that right in my when you called it out, I'm trying to self examine, improve and let go. Btw I find it a little hard to measure progress on letting go, you made a gallop about it a while back.
This guy is giving a presentation with bed hair and a old T-shirt... and crushing it! This guy is the shit!
Lol, thanks! 👊
When people judge you , or argue, they are jealous
The opening of the video is good. I don´t even have context from where the conversation started, but I can relate to people constantly watching me, and I hate it. My mind is instantly like ¨stop watching me; leave me alone¨ but then I have to tell myself that it comes with the territory.
It does come with the territory, yes... With proper inner work (learning how to let go), you can also achieve a point where it no longer triggers you btw! 👌
@@JulienHimself that’s so funny because I literally added 2-3 videos on “letting go”/Taoism to my watch later playlist last week. Thanks!
I mastered this as a basketball player. Every time I step on the court, I don’t need to say a word. I coordinate the first game and start executing. And that’s it. And as I’ve built my game and become unstoppable, I get attention from all corners. A quick shift between positive and negative energy all the time. But, I always remain focused and In control of my emotions and focused on the challenge at hand. You can only take an L if you don’t come back stronger.
Beautiful universal rules applicable to pick-up as well. Amazing.
The most inspiring part is the old guy sitting down ready to take notes
Thank you so much! I needed to hear this. I have decided to take the entrepreneur journey and have recently been exposing myself on social media. Let’s grow! 🔥 2022 is ours 🌹
You are so welcome! Welcome to the channel 🙏
Thanks!
You're very welcome! 🙏
I guess that's the best video about something like that on TH-cam. I've needed 3 years to understand it while I worked on it.
Thanks! I'm glad this resonated with you! 🙏
Bro literally answered almost all of my problems lmao, this is gold
This is the real conversation I enjoy listening to. You are so lax and chill while speaking, amazing. I am working on being secure in my body and owning the stage and having people look at me as a high value individual who isn’t afraid of being challenged. Thank you very much.
Thank you! Glad this resonated and was helpful! 🙏
Iike this dude... Like a breath of fresh air... Even you talking here naturally theres basically no fuck ups in your flawless fluid speach.... So smooth
Thank you! Glad this resonated with you!!
I’m tired of being challenged by people. It’s Like Who are they ( power move )
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Such a free way of living for people with the world on their shoulders
Hmm, great insights. I believe value begins within, and manifests outwards in the shape of our actions and decisions throughout life. As a result, all value is derived from the actions we provide as individuals. A shit test is really just "show me what you're made of"
You're just a cool cat Julian so comfortable in your skin and it shows. Keep rolling another excellent video
Thanks man! 👌
Celebrating the small wins is so huge!! I just attended you and Owens tour here in L.A. I was feeling so embarrassed of my living situation and would ✍ down the little wins like ok raised my hand and asks a few questions. Keeping eye contact longer in the audience and have felt just a huge shift in just that. Celebrating on those small wins are huge!!
YES! Thanks for attending the LA live event as well!
Crazy seeing them huh
@@ksale22 yes it was. I am going to be authentic I was definitely blown away by their intense present energy. Like even Julian just commenting on a comment from yesterday the other YOU was like "oh my gawd Julien Blanc commented on the comment" and but today I am looking at as like a mentor/person/friend but not as this HUGE pedestal like they've talked about for many moons. What was your live experience like?
Thanks Julien! To live is to suffer. A challenge is just an opportunity to accomplish something and love yourself even more
After months of clicking “Don’t Recommend Channel” TH-cam finally added value by recommending this gem.
Glad this resonates! Welcome to the channel! 🙏
Excellent confirmation of what I knew, nicely summarized and condensed. It's like four years of information condensed into 15 minutes - so you can listen to over and over again to re-inforce like a mental workout. Great presentation.
Thank you!! 🙏
Wow we come from similar backgrounds (not culturally, I mean childhood wise). I was extremely shy as a kid too but now I’m a social butterfly.
In the beginning of my self love journey (which was around 4 or 5 years ago), I just kept putting myself out there to step out of my comfort zone. It did work in the beginning but like you said in another video, that’s only temporary bc you haven’t addressed some deeply held subconscious beliefs and you know what? That was 100% my case. It worked for a lil bit but then I got anxious and started overthinking again and went through this whole dark night of the soul period. But I didn’t give up.
I came back stronger than before and kept challenging my own subconscious beliefs that kept overthinking and telling me I’m not good enough to be social or popular and I tried putting myself out there again but this time I stayed true to myself. I wasn’t hiding anything. I was being my goofy, quirky and authentic self. In fact, I was so transparent that I even told ppl I used to be really shy before but I worked on myself so much and look at me now. And this worked. For me to handle social situations now comes naturally. I don’t feel awkward or feel the need to overcompensate by being “extra” or “over the top” all the time (unless I’m in that mood) but I do genuinely enjoy socializing and speaking to lots of different ppl, getting to know them and being entertaining. So yeah that’s how I overcame my social anxiety :)
Now I’m just applying these same methods to my deeply held subconscious beliefs towards love and career and it’s actually progressing quite well tbh so I’m happy 🥲
One of the attributes that make a superpower is that I have an endless supply of creative as well as physical energy . If I am paralyzed metaphorically or physically it has an extremely negative effect on my mental health. Depression and anxiety . In the extreme. Breaking me in that way isn't possible bc I will at some point refocus all of that creative and physical energy onto a way to go over ,under or through anything paralyzing me .
Whenever I'm so sucked into my comfort zone not wanting to do something that is productive, I'll just close my eyes and sit/lay down, whatever it is I'm doing and just not think of anything. It puts me in a neutral state which makes it easier to get up and do something else, instead of immediately getting out of my comfort zone to do something else
Damn, knowledge bombs after knowledge bombs... As usual Julien, thanks a lot. I would not be the person that i am today if it wasn't for you and Owen. God sent you guys to us
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Your words really help me to heal myself , I will keep watching you , even if it will take me a long time to be healed . Thank you so much , God bless you ! ❤
Awesome insight 💯🤙Much Love ❤ Thank you for sharing 💜🔥
You are so welcome!
Thanks man, I actually benefited from this. Annoying when people test, both men and woman!
Be always authentic and won't have anything to be afraid of.
Some people will like it, some people won't, but this is all about you and only you, not somebody else. Self improvement.
Yes!! 🙌
How is this so on point with what I’m going through. This is mind blowing how relatable everything is
dude if you're reading this please keep on making videos on what to do or avoid once you've reached a higher value. I mean I would get a little annoyed at the fact that almost all self-help videos are mostly made for people that are just starting to get into self-help which would sometimes set me back when in the mindset of a higher-value person.
(Keep up the great work :)
I noticed this when I get in state at the gym. I'll suddenly start getting dudes trying to lock eyes with me to see if i'll look away. I do notice I start getting a bit paranoid when this happens because all the sudden you got guys looking you up. People really are just animals acting on their instincts. You really just have to get comfortable with the positive and negative attention.
This is why it's so key learn how to stay grounded and draw your state from within!
What kind of dudes, race plays a big role.
Humans are tribal by nature, never forget that
@@justicebait lol big black ones like me
@@naija395 😂
Fkn love your work Julien. Also heard that anxiety comes about when we fear or don't believe we have the resources, or are "enough" to deal with the task.
Only when you NEED a certain outcome from that task, yes! Glad this resonated with you!
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Damn that point of self encouragement. That you wouldn't say "you should have done better." to your kid if they did something... My dad would say that to me. I got all As and 1 B? He'd go "why is that a B? Why not A?" And completely ignore the rest of my grades. Now I notice the same way of talking within myself too. But I'm glad I got to know what it is so that now I can start working for myself rather than against.
I just learned I cant shut up and be not noticed. I subconsciously kinda want some of the attention but then I also value privacy and peace and im luckily not a celeb cos they dont get to choose much of peace... but theyre very valued and on top, and create great things, but they just never have privacy and they constantly have to deal with pressure and be cool. And say someone with anxiety is noticed cos of a trait thats interesting or a few and unwillingly have to deal with idiots talking to them and bothering them. Thats me. I can be so introverted and then I hope people will ignore me if I sit in a corner, but the second I stand up people stare as if they saw a ghost get up from the ground. with friends, I have a lot of fun usually and all eyes are on us. We had people approach, jealous, happy, annoyed etc with us. People have remembered me for whatever Ive done and said even strangers who only met me for a day and its daunting, really, but the impact is made. with or without my consent.
I used to strife for validation as a kid/teen and now I just do whatever comes to me and now I get people from all corners tell me how good I can work etc, without me even trying to ask for it. Its a blessing in a curse.
If you want it, you never gonna get it. if you dont need it, its there suddenly for the taking...
Also I can say people have been testing me all the time. I had a crush test me cos she was bored and thrilled . She had a boyfriend and was convinced she and I would be nothing, yet she loved messing with me to see how far I could handle her. She would even spread false rumors about me so she got to see my reaction on them. She shouldnt have been a crush, but yeah, was highschool and I was lost lol. And then I had bullies or classmates trying to test me too. I can say, usually, young people of my age who get a task to do in the same environment seem to be very competitive. And if they notice anyone be able to connect well with the task or task giver, like say a teacher, they start acting up to compensate for the jeaousy.
Teaching spirituality and none doership in a confidence seminar.
Well done.
Thank you! Glad this resonates! 🙏
You look younger, full of joy, life and are very well spoken nowadays! Just waiting for the book.
Such a good video Julien so many good tips on how to improve and be a bether person thank you so much for the content! Greetings from Brazil.
Thanks so much! Glad you got so much value from this!
Thanks for these golden nuggets. Appreciate you sharing such ideas to contemplate about.
You are very welcome! What was the most impactful part of this video for you btw?
@@JulienHimself hope I can explain this.
It was about why people challenge you. Your approach on it made me think about it differently, and kinda let myself image being well, Myself lol. Taking these challenges authentically. That took a lot of anxiety off my chest. It was like a self therapy. Thanks for creating such content, couldn't have thought about it if not for you. ❤
1:25 👌👌👌
2:50 Truth!
3:25 Anxiety
"It's not the having, not the doing, it's the being."... Realness.
Allways pulling up my freinds when they talk negatively about them selves, i say hey, 1st rule NEVER put yourself down, i used to do it myself many years ago,just not realising the negativity it gave out about me as a person.
ngl i’ve had amazing meditation time recently and the things i can’t translate into words but you word them really well
Love hearing and learning more from you guys!
Awesome! Thank you! What was your top takeaway from this video btw?
Made a lot of difficult things seem fixable and simple. Thank you brother. Instant subscribe
Thank you! Welcome to the channel! 🙏
Just about as much value as can be packed in a 15 min video. I found out about you in 2017, but I’ve dug around so much it might as well have been 2012. Appreciate you! 🙏 You’ve always had the conviction, but now its like you can “hear the years” like someone who’s seen it all and is cutting right to what actually matters. Grabbed the HVC presale back in December and looking forward to it. Got quite a few takeaways.
1. This video really hammered home the whole competitive vs collaborative frame thing for me. I used to overthink it because I would wonder if the collaborative frame was a selective blind spot of sorts where you try to delude yourself into thinking everyone is on your side. At first it didn’t seem to jive with full authenticity, because it is possible to walk into an environment and immediately have everyone look down on you and think of you as a pathetic piece of shit, right off the bat. The only way I could reconcile assuming everyone was on your side, by default, with that idea was by assuming that the collaborative frame involved still recognizing that many, many people may not be too enthusiastic about you at first sight, but also involved recognizing that that doesn’t mean much and that they are still mostly on your side but just need to see a bit more value before fully joining your camp. I was thinking about it since your last video with Owen, and hearing you say it here really just hammered it home.
2. Staying authentic with congruence tests. I’m someone who usually gets amped up and overzealous when responding to shit tests and I feel like people can often see in my eyes how badly I want what I said to click with them, and that’s probably one of the things that sets me back the most in interactions.
3. Stop waiting to take action. I find I always get sucked into whatever laziness the people I go out with are into. I’m usually the last guy trying to find ways to pressure use into taking action and usually get pissed off that they don’t show the same determination, then at the end I usually succumb to not spoil the fun and we half-ass our action plan and just talk and eat and do our own shit. When I heard the part about you just taking action regardless of anything else, that inspired the fuck out of me. I was like: “why the fuck am I letting what my friends are feeling determine the action I’m gonna take and whether I’m actually gonna improve socially?”
I can relate to that when you feel cloud nine when you approached someone for the first time even though the conversation doesn't last long
Nice, glad this resonates with you! 🙏
Julien, I want to give you a big hug. Thank your for your videos man.
Thank you... that being carried by self encouragement once you get into that rhythm ...ahhhhh. Love. Thanks again
You are so welcome! 🙏
Julien, you are one of the best in this business. Loving all your videos.
Great video, im going through some phases rn. Listening to your speech helps me reflect my action.
Glad to hear it! What was your biggest takeaway from the video?
@@JulienHimself The part about beeing challenged because ppl see value in me and the part about authenticity helped me alot. Changed my PoV as soon as I heard it from you.
Avoiding jealous people is much time efficient than accepting the test of jealous person as an opportunity to prove yourself to yourself and then actually still jealous people will not learn because they hate you still and the only thing their pain will stop is by actually curing their own insecurity than actually testing you.
That's brilliant... Speak to your Self as you would speak to an innocent child... Your inner child needs to hear this.
YES! 🙌
What I like about your advice is that the bottom line solution of most problems is pretty simple: let go and be yourself.
The problem is that whenever I find myself in situations in which I would very much be myself I shy away because if I was truly authentic a lot of repressed shit, trauma, anger, etc will come out and will end up making people hate me.
What if my actually true self is fucked-up and hurt? It is not fair for me to throw that on the lap of other people. And I have done a lot of therapy, which helped but did not entirely solve the problem.
That's not your true self... You'll reconnect with your true self once you learn to properly LET GO of all of that!
Be yourself as much as you can, while of course trying at the same time to be aware of the elements that come up that are rooted from trauma, hurt, etc.
Be aware of those elements and of course try to not let them show. But ultimately speaking, the best path is, like julien mentioned above, learn to heal and let go of the past and only then will being yourself will actually be naturally attractive to other people.
Just found your stuff. You are such a sweetheart to be helping all these people feel safe to be their authentic selves 🥰
Thank you! And welcome to the channel! 🙏
Thank you, Julien. I enjoyed every minute of this clip! It's a good example of how authenticity can be powerful, and attractive.
Bro, this is the first time I’m coming across your content and I must say, I’m impressed. Subscribed.
Thank you! And welcome to the channel!
I’m grateful the algorithm suggested Julian.❤
Thank you for all of your efforts and I really appreciate you. I worked for Swiss Com We had a Christmas party at Lake Zürich. Switzerland is such a beautiful beautiful country.
You made me realize I should enjoy what ever I do and be myselfself
YES! 🙌
I love your teachings, Julian. You’re the man!
I would be super intrigued to hear a discussion between Julien and Jordan Peterson. That would be awesome to listen to.
thats the most useful thing i ever heared, ever. Thank you so much!
So many facts I’m almost a vet in socializing I also was the quietest kid back in the class
Hot! ☺🌞🔥
Incredible content! Glad this popped up on my feed. Thanks Julien!
Thank you!! What part of this video resonated with you the most?
Dude! glad this video found me. Ive been thinking this forever... you have a new subscriber, Cheers.
I appreciate this video telling people to be themselves in a logical way! Awesome job man, thank you.
Glad you liked it! Thank you!
That was very, very, very encouraging.
Thank you, sir !
You are very welcome!
amazing. I probably saw you at the Grove Coffee Bean regularly. Congrats on the life transformation. 🙌🏼
Lol, nice! And thank you! 🙏
I really liked the part where you say “ask yourself what are you hiding from ppl”
Oh yeah! The next step after that btw is to learn how to let go of whatever comes up!
A lot of amazing advice in this video, not sure why I clicked on it but I sure needed it. Thank you.
Glad this was helpful! Welcome to the channel! 🙏
- Discipline will let go of all that you are not -
I think you mean one no longer needs to rely "discipline" once they learn how to let go... 😉
@@JulienHimself yes because discipline implies effort and trying. But when you do discipline from a state of reduction. Like taking away screen time. Taking away excess foods. Taking away excess dopamine. I think the statement rings true because focusing your mind on less of all that you are, will naturally bring that openness and relaxed state.
Letting go as a term otherwise just implies procrastination atleast to me.
@@JulienHimself thanks for the videos. They’re great.
“Discipline” is like “Letting go” there’s a paradox with the both of them, like you mention in your content.
Like you can be disciplined from a state of pushing the Boulder up a hill and hating yourself.
Or the discipline of realising that when you let go of all the crap, you naturally feel beat learning, improving, moving, focusing, reading etc
A big thing for me has been realising that like counting calories FOR EXAMPLE, isn’t obsessive.
The healthiest I’ve ever been, and most “humble” was when I was extremely focused, working hard and taking all emotion out of it, and I remember it as the good old days, where it felt like I was doing it all effortlessly and people thought my gym results were magic, and shit like that...
But I remember how much work I was actually doing.
Or how much I was NOT doing it for the validation, and constantly testing myself (maybe not constantly - or at all) but with doing things and keeping it to myself and that was the validation. And let people think that you’re so lucky that you get results, or that you’re so lucky that you can be positive etc 😂
But then I also fell into patterns when trying to give my 2cents to inspire people where I was like trying to say NO BITCH YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HARD I WORK lol
But while I’m here going back to the calories thing... like my family would judge me hard for being healthy around them and actually obviously try tear me down...
It was kinda crazy
It was my first signs of like toxicity back in the day...
Where I was so dialed in woth what was working that I could just ignore them and feel bad for them lol
But what’s kept me in a rut I think was thinking I have to be normal because otherwise I’m too obsessed or stuff.
Yes.
Anyway.
Only commenting so much because currently experiencing some clarity atleast for myself, abs yeh
Much much love, Dude. Thank you for this video.
You're so welcome!
You can tell that this guy truly believes what he says and lives it because of what he wears.
🙏
Easily the best video on the subject I’ve seen
Needed this, thank you
Glad it was helpful! What was your favorite part of the video?