Me and my girlfriend broke up for 7 months she reached out and we fixed the relationship, together for 7 years I love her sooo much had to fix myself in that 7 months separation
My ex came ROARING back after I followed Coach Lee's advice, but by that time I truly didnt want him back. I gave it a try but ended up breaking up with him on the 1-yr. anniversary of our original breakup. Wishing everybody here the best of luck in their love lives no matter what happens. ✨
@@lisabaughn if no work was put into personal growth then the same reasons you broke up in the first place are still there, he probably hadn’t changed/learned. All the best in your next dating/relationship journey!
A break is never a mistake. Even after people change and work on themselves that’s still not a valid reason to return to a failed relationship. You’re allowed to be in a relationship with someone other than your ex.
I went NC straight away. 14 months and those first few months the sound of coach Lees intro was my relief 😅 Kind of interesting to listen now. The other side is worth the journey!
Ex broke up with me 6 months back. We went into full NO Contact 4 months now. I have been working on myself and my health in order to heal. She unfollowed/unfriend me on social media just recently. Im still focusing on being the better version of myself. Watching Coach Lee has kept me strong. Thank you Coach Lee!
I'm in the same boat. We left each other February. And we left in good terms and yes she unfollowed me on social media. However I'm curious why they didn't just block us instead of just unfollowing us?
I have been watching coach lees videos for 1 month after my ex of 14 years dumped me. This is no knock on other coaches, but i truly believe coach lee is the best out there on how to get your ex back and relationship dynamics in general. For those wondering whats happening to me now, im at the stage where im doing NC but she keeps texting me. Thank you very much coach lee. Your videos have given me so much encouragement through what has been the toughest time of my life
Today is two weeks of no contact and yes at times it’s been tough but I found coach lees videos the day after the break up and I’ve been watching a video or 2 everyday. It’s been great help. I got on a Coaching Call with Coach Rex and it was so beneficial. Keep watching him even if it’s the same video. Stay no contact and you’ll feel great. We don’t know what the future holds but as long as you watch Coach Lee you’ll feel so much better. Stay positive everyone!
Going on 6 months since my wife left. I have some highs and lows somedays. But I'm a lot stronger on not letting my emotions send a text. Cause I know I'll regret it right after. I actually enjoy being alone and when I get to see my kids it's the highlight of my day. I replaced drinking with working out. I'm down 45lbs and I love it. That was a huge upside about her leaving. I'm working on myself to be the best version I can be for me and my kids.
Thank you coach lee, I can't believe he came back, you gave me hope and strength, I couldn't be happier, thanks so much, greeting from Argentina! Listen to all he says, 100% true!
We were engaged. She said we had communication issues and couldnt see how to work past it. I told her I didn't want to break up, and she didn't care. I moved out, and it's been two months in NC. No, reach out. Her mom stopped me on the street one day and asked why we werent together but I said I guess we just loved in two different ways and I wish her daughter well.
Keep going. Just remember, you’re in a better spot now than being in the same spot married. Keep working on you; you’re not responsible for others. become the best you that you can be :)
Reached out to my ex of 5 years after 96 days of diligent NC and a clean breakup; super casual, just bringing up a memory of a keepsake. She responded politely, but very coldly, asking me to delete her number. I feel like I can actually move on, and I don’t feel the weight on my shoulders anymore. I think I’m free.
Totally agree, but this is the mindset (although sometimes difficult after something that long) that needs to be had after day 1 of NC. Those next 95 days can be yourself working on you and not even thinking about her. As you see by her response, she definitely didn’t care. I’ve experienced the same and learned from it. Glad you’re free! On to bigger and better things :)
Same thing happened to me and a couple of months later he was reaching out. A few months after that the tables had truly turned and he really wanted to get back together in every way. There are no guarantees, but truly, anything can happen.
@@lisabaughn Very interesting, I would love to hear about what your mindset was between the day that that happened and then fast forwarding to the day he came back with all of the interest. Had you done a lot of work on your self concept and made a lot of positive changes in your life?
@@MHcp8 I learned things about him throughout the breakup that made me see I didn't want to be with him anymore. I didn't know those things at the 45-day nothing to lose reach out point (nor while we were together), but over more time in the breakup, I learned things about him that just turned me off completely, and he treated me poorly too, which pushed me over the edge. He returned multiple times from months 4-9 post breakup and broke my heart into pieces several times when he did. Eventually (9 months post-breakup) I was just done and told him I was only able to be friends moving forward. That's when he became the best boyfriend imaginable and did dream-come-true things he never even did while we were together. Unfortunately none of it mattered. I tried with him for 2 months but discovered I just didn't want him anymore no matter what he did. So the journey was less about me and more about discovering things about him that made me just need to say goodbye at the end of the day.
Divorced twice, all I can say with my experienced once your healed and move on, you don’t want your ex back anymore. Your hopes of getting back it’s gone anymore. The betrayal of what they did you don’t have the interest in getting back with them. Closed that door for good. Build a new life again thats what men do!
it really depends on why u broke up..if u guys can get back together and fix the issues and u still love each other why not rekindle the relationship..
My ex contacted me after 36 days of no contact. She said, I'm checking in to see how you are doing and to let you know I still care about you and love you. I responded, I'm doing well. She responded "Liked." She left me to be with another man. It's been 12 days, no additional communication.
4 years together she broke up with me. After 7 weeks rang me out of blue saying she missed me. Got back together for couple months , went on holiday for 3 weeks but she ended again after we got back. 5 weeks no contact since. Not hopefully she will come back a second time. But contact a must. Wish I had of found coach lee 5 months ago 😢😅😅
Thank you coach Lee for being the voice of reason during these hard times. My ex broke up with me back in August of 2024, ever since watching your videos I have gone into NC and it has really helped me be able to focus on myself but also leave that door open. Taking advantage of this extra time I've been working on my career and have been going to the gym regularly. You have calmed my anziety and have helped me have a better understanding of relationship dynamics as a whole. Whenever I had doubts I would just go over all the advice in your videos and they really helped. Whether or not my ex does come back I've been able to find some peace. I just wanna thank you for making these videos as they have greatly helped me and I know they have helped others in similar situations. Guys trust the process! ❤
That’s Amazing. Congrats man. That’s the exact point, it’s not always about “making the ex come back”, the real win is becoming the best you and that serves as a much greater purpose during that time which will have your focus on the right thing. If she does come back, you’re even better of a guy and you may not even want her. When you improve yourself, the world opens up with even more beautiful things. Keep going :)
@@nateboi3138 all the best man. I’ve lived through my own experiences and learned, which is why I love sharing and making my own coaching vids. I think the world can be a much better place when we all work on ourselves but support each other. Have a great day!
Same here my friend. August 2024. I've been in NC ever since she broke up with me for no valid reason. It was hard for the first 2/3 weeks but I keep pushing myself by watching Coach Lee's videos. I'm way better now. At this point whether or not she comes back (like you said, I agree) I don't really care. I'm just getting better and better. Stay strong 💪🏼
@@steft.6463 that’s amazing, man. Keep that positivity and commitment to growth. Headwinds will try to dissuade you because they want to bring you down to their settled lives, but don’t listen to them and be the best for you. All those good things will come!
*The end of a relationship is never a mistake, it’s always an opportunity.* If I understand, take accountability and apologize for my participation in the failure of in the relationship… then there is no need to revisit that failed relationship after it ends, regardless of how much I loved them or time spent together. Yes, people change and some try to return claiming they made a mistake or the grass isn’t greener. It’s your duty to convince them that it’s greener, they just have to keep searching. Not to be mean spirited or rude but because it’s the right thing to do. *Why do I get these in the algorithm.* I’ve never considered returning to cheaters or failed relationships so I think YT is trolling me at this point.
Just an update, September 30th we broke up. He left for a seasonal job to travel, we were together 1 year and 7 months. I have broke no contact 2 times but was telling him to treat the new girl good. He was in a rebound and he thought the grass was greener. He came back.
She has reach out after about 4 months. I sent a letter, as I reflected a lot about the breakup and I thought about every word of the letter, it was enough to motivate her to unblock me, send me a message wanting to fix the relationship
I forgot to mention, other than this letter, I stick with no contact. I was blocked in whatsapp and I did't see texting her by other means as an option. I just sent the letter triyng to solve a misunderstanding that ended the relationship. I would not sent a letter otherwise.
@@alexandruionas-salagean8033 I just tried to reflect on the relationship and say what I thought would be relevant. I didn't say I loved her or that I wanted to get back together, after touching on the topics I said I would talk to her to resolve misunderstandings in the relationship. She sent me a message the same day the letter arrived in her hands.
It’s been 7 months, and still nothing. We had a great relationship, and I still don’t know why she broke up with me. Sometimes, it just doesn’t have to make sense. Wish I could fully move on, but haven’t been able to yet. So I guess she won. I’m broken goods.
It'll get better. Remember the love you gave to her, how much you cared for her? You gotta give the same to yourself. Your wellbeing is your responsibility, only you can save yourself. ❤
I'm so glad for having found Coach Lee, in my case, it gave me peace of mind to know what was happening from a professional himself. It helped me to keep my own respect and dignity, and also to get over my ex, being away from them helps you to realise what was going wrong in the relationship. I found out that she was not the right person, she reached out more than a year later, and it was too late for her, stay strong, there are better people waiting for someone like you, who wants to fix things, and wants to fight for the relationship from a mature and calmed focus.
@@JOSEPHINETSANG he replied to a story I posted on Instagram. Said he’s feeling very conflicted and that he’s an idiot. He’s just not sure what he wants.
Coach Lee thank you for your advice on your videos. i have come to a point in my life where i am just over it and finally found my own worth and know what i bring to a relationship
It’s been almost 3 weeks since my gf broke up with me. We were suppose to have our 2 yr anniversary tomorrow and man it hurts. She broke up with me bc I was too focused on work/business that I never gave the attention and value she needed and pleaded me to give her. I’ve done so much deep thinking and reflecting and I was such a bad bf and didn’t even treat her like my gf. I told exactly was I was going to do to make my mistakes right and give her the love she deserves but ultimately told me that she lost feelings for me and doesn’t think I’ll change. Right after the break up I was very emotional for the next few days and begged her to stay in my life. Nothing changed. I hate that I had to experience this to realize what I should have valued and prioritize with us together. I haven’t spoken to here in 2 weeks. Now I’m all alone
@@Compulsive-Elk7103 I have moved on. I am actually thankful for the relationship because I learned a lot and healed from some past traumas that I identified within myself.
It’s been three months since she reached out. She started deleting instagram pictures of us to. I feel like I’m losing her. She said she loves and cares about me deeply. And also said she needs space and no contact for right now.
3 months here for my spouse of no begging or pleading. He’s very subtle now of reaching out like he brought me sneakers a few weeks ago, texted asking how i’m doing? later after work one evening he asked how was work. But still I haven’t reached out to him i’m still doing no contact unless he reaches out to me of course. I’m very calm and collected. We were speaking back in fourth and everything but the momentum slowed. Idk if he expects me to reach out first but I let him initiate.
I just made a similar comment, we broke up early June. She just posted the new profile pics with the dude she rebounded to right after our relationship. Stung a little bit.
Don’t get me wrong! Why y’all want them back! My ex is severely avoidant and I doubt if he will ever change or realize what he did to me! I’m watching videos just to learn more about them and trying to move on. I filed divorce, ending our relationship/marriage together for 18 years! I am 2 months of NC, and 3 months of physical separation! He’s been in therapy for 10 months! See no results! He’s so immature and we didn’t have any sexual for 12 years, there was no touch, hug, cuddle really nothing! But he texted other women and said it’s just a friend!
Since I watch couch Lee I moved on. I don’t care anymore all I care is about myself and living happily. Even I see texts message I ignore and deleted out. You hurt me sorry I can’t take you back.
A month ago I was blocked across the board. 3 days ago she sent me a friend request on snapchat. To do that, she had to unblock me, which means i've had to be on her mind. The next day I was unfriended. No messages were exchanged. I'm still in shock it happened, but I guess it indicates progress. Minor update: I am now blocked again. Not sure what to make of this behavior, but it turns me off.
yes they obviously remember your username and have searched for your profile. They are using energy to think about you which means they care! The timing is not right just yet perhaps they're not ready to talk and still have some fears. Keep no contact. ❤
@-taylor-9980 we're in the same group chat, so I doubt she remembered and just clicked on my name instead. Either way yeah, I will officially be in 30 days no contact soon.
Well after almost 6 years she called it quits 3 months ago . She reached out after about a month with the typical I miss you and think about you so much talk . I offered to meet at the beach and she said maybe when we’ve healed more we can do that . Well 2 months later I haven’t contacted her a single time and she hasn’t reached out to me . I guess it is what it is
All the best man; keep your head up and keep working on yourself. If she doesn’t come back, you’ll be ready for the next one who comes in your life. Just remember, even in a long term relationship you have to keep dating her. We all get complacent, and it’s hard not to when life gets in the way, but that little effort goes a longggg way to keep her happy
VIDEO IDEA Can you discuss why you believe its important to respond to an insignificant message when an Ex reaches out during a sufficiently long period of no contact? There are coaches who say that responding to a message that doesn't display regret or humility over the breakup is counter-productive in getting an Ex back. You shouldn't respond to a hello or I was reminded of you or was wondering how you've been type messages. There are too many reasons an Ex may be contacting you other than wanting you back - validation, guilt, attention, or just wanting to be friends etc. The idea is that there is no way someone will walk out of your life forever without making their desire to get back with you known or to at least want to talk to you in person. The key is to not respond to their insignificant messages and keep the pressure on them until they break psychologically. If they don't break and make their true intentions towards you known, they never really wanted you back in the first place. All of this is especially true if you were the person who was dumped. Thoughts?
@@ira4600 They are interested but most likely not for a relationship statistically speaking. Even if they say something significant or want to meet up with you to talk - it’s no guarantee they want you back. But if they do want you back they know exactly what to say and do to make it clear they want you back.
My ex asked me if i saw a numberlock (the one you use for lockers at gyms) when i moved my stuff out of his place. I was like, why’re you bothering me with such a insignificant question (i did not say that, i just answered with no havent seen it and stayed silent) i can not imagine he did it out of interest.. its too stupid
Does no contact work on people younger? My ex is 10 years younger than me and we were madly in love but her friends and family didn’t like the age gap so she broke it off because she couldn’t handle the pressure
I went no contact after doing all the wrong things. Fighting, pleading, begging, bargaining, you name it. It’s been 5 days No Contact and she asked me about the weather and my work…. I haven’t responded, it’s been over 24 hours since she texted me. Do I respond short and open or do I leave her unopened and wait for her to reach out with more than bs? More importantly she is deep in a rebound relationship only weeks after leaving me. She barely knew the guy and it’s only been 2 months since she left….. I think she may beginning to regret or consider her actions. She was hell bent that this was the man for her. We were together for 2 years, not everything was perfect but that’s life. Should I respond?
Nope, she’s an ex for a reason. Just enjoy the 2 years for what they were and move on with your life. You will never meet someone who’ll be better for you if you keep returning to the individual you failed with. Sometimes they leave because they think the grass is greener. When they return, convince them to continue searching for the greener grass. Not to rude, but because it’s the right thing to do for you both.
It’s been over 3 months. She has me blocked everywhere yet she unsynced her devices, so she can still see my texts. I went no contact a couple times then broke it. Currently going on 2 weeks of no contact. She interacts with ex coworkers & she has posted tik toks that were obviously about me just a week ago. I’m not going to reach out, but may do it in November or December
@@dandee28 well if she dumped you then she has to reach out to you. If you dumped her then you have to reach out to her. If you feel like you need to reach out once then good luck but don’t expect much
Hey dude!!! Stay optimistic!!! Ive seen an ex come back after 5 to 8 years and thrive like never before. My next door neighbors, both in their 50's, divorced and seperated for 8 years because the man was living a double life for 4 years with another woman in the picture.... they were split up for 8 years and they definitely still got together 😅
my ex reached out after one month of NC, just to casually confirm on the phone that his feelings did not change since the break up "unfortunately." he wanted to know how I was doing. I was calm, polite and reserved on the phone. I made sure the conversation was lightweight. He was kind of shocked and disappointed by my behavior (normally I would beg and cry on the phone). I am 100% sure he expects that I reach out to him this now. What should I do NOW?
Thanks for your response. Yes im definitely going further with the no contact. After that reach out of him i never reached back. I even did not wish happy birthday on his birthday by text the day after his reaching out. On the phone (when he reached out to me) he was talking about the family dinner he was going to have. I just said on the phone "oh Nice, happy birthday already for tomorrow." But i did not initiate by text the day after, because i wanted him to feel what my absence would be like....@@videowilliams
@@maja-5727 Stay in no contact unless they contact you, but don’t wait on them. They could just be lonely or still unsure about you. Best course of action is focusing on yourself / self improvement.
The breakup was my fault, we both ended in really great terms. There was lots of love still. I regret what i did. Im working on my self, however i believe i have to be the one to reach out. Im thinking about reaching out on the 3 month mark. If she doesn't do it herself before. The only thing is that her family wont like me coming back I think. Her sister even blocked me.
That’s a selfish way of thinking about it. She has to be the one to reach out. Not you. Her decision not yours especially if it’s your fault. Trust me, it was my fault but I’m not forcing someone. I did my time. 1 year 3 months. I know that I can’t force a person and they need to reach out to you if you were the problem. Can’t really love bomb someone to get back with you. You need time to work on yourself. 3 months isn’t enough. Try one year.
@@javierlandaverde4108 How about if I wanna reach out in that time frame, to either try get back together or finally move on? I think that is my main purpose of reaching out. If she wants to try again, ill be down. If not ill be okay and Ill find someone else by that time.
I wouldn’t call it selfish, it’s a bit of a negative connotation. But I will say it’s great you realize it’s your fault if it is, you can reach out and apologize to set the record straight, but I do agree after that it’s up to her to come back/reach out if interested. Definitely keep on working on yourself, if not for the 1 year suggested, ongoing. It is a never ending process that leads to a better life :)
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
@@standground7956 Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
Well after 4 months of no contact I just found out that she deleted my number couple of days ago. Is it a good timing to contact them? I don't think so
Ex reached out after 3 weeks of NC on her mother’s death memorial day. She reached out casually, I was polite and the conversation didn’t last long. What does this mean? What should I do now?
She reached out after 10 months and we chatted for a few hours until we both went to bed, next day its dead silent again and its been two weeks. Do I just reach out at this point or do I wait again? I dont wanna stifle the momentum as you said.
Depends on who dumped who. If she dumped you and then you went into no contact, it’s her responsibility to try and get you back. Don’t message first, she’s the dumper and you’re the dumpee so it’s their job to win you back. Not the other way around.
Its already been 2 and half month past since we broke up. During this time I always broke no contact rule. Also during this time, i am putting food inside her locker once a week and shes not complaining about it, shes not texting or messaging me to stop doing it. Yes we are workmates and I can still open her locker since it was my padlock. I am confuse because I hanged my rosary and necklace that has my mothers ashes inside, in her locker.. She still keeping it and not hiding it somewhere... also shes still using my towel that i didnt give to her She also keeping my letters.. I am confused... started november with no contact rule again...
Any advice? 😢 3 months no contact ,break up was after so much arguments His friend called last week and said he's not feeling well but i know he's lying Should i call his friend and ask hows he feeling now or should i act careless and wait for him to reach out???
She told me that she didn’t want no contact, and that it’s a boundary I’m setting. And because it’s a boundary that I’m setting she will not break it at all…. How do I respond to that??? She’s stubborn and strong, and I want her to feel my loss. I want her to reach out to me, but how do I convey that? Will she reach out anyway?
How long should I do no contact if our relationship was only 2 months but was extremely happy for both of us( at least seemingly )until she said she just didn't think she could do it. She was cheated on by her ex husband who she was with for 12 years and has 3 kids with and he left her for her good friend. She was devastated by it.
I wanted to send a letter 2 weeks out bc the breakup truly was unexpected. After 4 years I feel I like I just want him to at the very least ponder on my words before I go no contact. He truly misinterpreted so much even though I was clear from the start. The letter is dignity and clearing myself from his misconceptions. Is this okay?
Coach Lee I need your help here, I told off my ex who wanted to stay friends with me, I made it clear that I can't be friend zoned it's either we get back or cut off all contact, was I wrong? It's been 5 months and I've not heard from him please I'll appreciate your response.
"A lot of times you will hear from your ex, especially if they are not strong enough to stay away from you!" (1:46) Yes, 55 days later that's what happened to me. She said I was the first one who did not have to be told to leave her alone.
Coach Lee please help, im not sure how to respond, my ex reached out today, saying how difficult it is for him, and hes heartbroken....and he hopes that im ok...and he thinks about all the good we had, but nothing about him missing me or he wants me back or anything, he also said i dont need to respond to his message....what must i do...i havent responded...please help! I do want him back...
What does it mean if he reached out after no contact, and then everything seems fine at first, we organized a "date" to talk about everything and apologize, and then 2 hours before the date he cancels it, and not even says sorry. He is just kinda "forcing" me to react mad on this... and starts drama for literal no reason. (Because of that we are in No Contact again)..
I had the same with one of my exes. Just don‘t get bothered by this. It might be a game they play when they want you back or they are still unsure about what they want. They are not ready yet. Don‘t focus on them. Live your great life and let them feel that you can enjoy your life without being resentful so that they feel more drawn to you.
Do you have any videos on if you’re the one that broke up with your ex but miss them? Will they come back? I had to break up with her but I didn’t want to. It was getting to that point but I feel like I should have communicated more than I did. It was more of an impulse thing.
If you broke up with her, really consider the reasons why you broke up and if they can be resolved or if they are things that you can live with. If you consider those things and think you can have a stronger relationship than the one you had with her before, then just reach out to her and tell her what you want.
Ex jumped into a rebound 4 weeks after our 5 yr relationship and has constantly reached out over the last 4 months. Ive never contacted her once. 3 weeks ago i told her to stop texting and calling as im not her friend. Thursday just gone she rang me twice. Havent responded. A very mixed up woman. I think the rebound is still alive yet she still reaches out. Not sure whether to text asking what she rang for?
He's practically dating someone new 😢 I'm out of the pic. I'm so sad, i wanted the break-up because he was acting single while we're married. He's still doing it, but he's trying with her , it freaking sucks a**
I was in a long distance relationship, she started to end it, we took a week break, she wanted to take it slow, one set back and she broke it off.. I don’t know if that week counted as no contact because we didn’t talk and when she came back after that week.. she said it wasn’t right not talking to me. Then broke up with me again, it ended badly I begged etc and it still ended. It’s been just over a week and nothing from her.. I guess I should just continue to hold out. But I don’t want too much time to pass because I feel like I will be forgotten. Not sure what to do.
I'm on day 28, guys and they don't forget, mine has started watching my stories and has been nonstop posting stories on her IG, I haven't seen any of them, so she posted a post with the pandora bracelet I got her and a 5£ note in her phone case of when we went to England together a few months ago, just work on yourselves, meditate read books and exercise,Hang in there you got this❤
@@jadiher332don’t wait for anyone. Stay in NC. Do it for yourself and self improvement. Get to the point you can go days without thinking about them and if they come back good but if they don’t you also don’t care.
You tell her straight up, I’m not interested in being friends, you tell her you’re only interested in her romantically and if she feels the same to then contact you. Then, like Coach Lee says, walk away and show her you mean it. Best of luck
@@RealCoachLeeHey Coach, can you do a deep dive on when a dumper rebounds and on how that can extend the length of time since they are in limerence? If they’ve been with the rebound for months and we haven’t heard from them? How likely are these relationships to last and for how long? Do they just rebound again to a new person or backtrack to the previous ex? I’m sure you have come across this many times in your career. I just don’t know how if we are moving on after like 3-6 months, how they can suddenly have curiosity after that long when they are with someone else?
Then you have to match and mirror, but in the meantime work on yourself to become the best mentally and physically so that the women in the future don’t want to leave. :)
@@ira4600 I wish you all the success but that negativity may play more into why a woman wouldn’t come back. Mindset is a big thing, and it’s not about that 1 woman coming back. The bigger picture is growing from experiences. That can’t ever stop. And I know I’m right, because I’ve experienced it :) All the best. We gotta stay healthy in the mind :)
No, not at all. It's not that women don't care. They may still have feelings, but women fear for a man to scorn them if they come back. It's very belittling. Many times, the man may accept them back just to carry out revenge. Men never truly forgive.
Doesn’t work it’s been about 2 and a half months for me got blocked on everything it’s okay tho I’ve been healing staying busy it’s all going to be ok :)
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
She just posted new profile pics with her and the guy she monkey branched to, 4 months post breakup. A total rebound, it’s wild. If your ex is a woman, trust she has been with a new dude since she left, maybe even slightly before the breakup lol.
@@lyngdohfx Then why did she break up? Think about it. She’s probably talking to both of you and she is having mixed feelings, not sure which way to go
@@lyngdohfx I would recommend toning it down a bit. It’s already had precedent but attraction grows in space. Dont spend hours on the phone, do things you wanna do (gym, friends, family hangout) so she misses you and you have more to talk about when you’re together.
@@Freudster21 I’m not with anyone. Women aren’t all scandalous. Just remember it’s not all women. Please. Women think men do the same. I’m pretty sure he met someone else. But who am I to know? He moved 2,000 miles away. I don’t have social media so I’ll never know. I can’t imagine another man touching me. And the thought of him with another woman hurts me.
@@KD-hy3bi I hear ya, yes not all women, but many nowadays. And women do it way more often than men due to their biology and plethora of options at all time.
8 months after i shared my feelings, got insulted, called names, and looked down on, all because i said i wanted to be treated fairly. 8 months and still no contact or no real apology. I loved this woman with everything, and her and her douchbag brother see nothing wrong with how she treated me.
Long distance relationships are very hard. As for that , I would’ve offered a phone call or video chat. Sit down on the phone with them and just talk and focus on them. Keep the conversations light and only project the same attitude as them and don’t over step and try and keep the conversation short.
@@Compulsive-Elk7103 it’s always more complicated than that. We’ve been together on and off for 4 years. This last time together was a year and a half. He relocated half way through the year and a half. We tried to make it work. I stated needs as it became increasingly more difficult for me (needing touch and closeness) and he needing space for healing. I couldn’t give him the space while needing the closeness with the distance. I gave him space (heck he already took it by moving!) but then I was left feeling neglected. I guess after 9 months of long distance, we both started hurting each other by not being able to meet the needs from a distance. It absolutely sucks.
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Felt like coach lee went no contact on us for a while 😂 glad your back coach
@@seanohare1001 😂😂
@@seanohare1001 lol
Good one!
@@Julianm-hw8pg lol
Yes😂😂
Stay away! No contact works. Today is day 45 for me and he reached out.
Congrats. Day 30 for me.
We haven’t spoken for 34 days
❤
Men almost always come back during NC. Women -- never.
@@marguskiis7711 that’s not true.
Me and my girlfriend broke up for 7 months she reached out and we fixed the relationship, together for 7 years I love her sooo much had to fix myself in that 7 months separation
My ex came ROARING back after I followed Coach Lee's advice, but by that time I truly didnt want him back. I gave it a try but ended up breaking up with him on the 1-yr. anniversary of our original breakup. Wishing everybody here the best of luck in their love lives no matter what happens. ✨
@@lisabaughn if no work was put into personal growth then the same reasons you broke up in the first place are still there, he probably hadn’t changed/learned. All the best in your next dating/relationship journey!
Tf happened😂
A break is never a mistake. Even after people change and work on themselves that’s still not a valid reason to return to a failed relationship. You’re allowed to be in a relationship with someone other than your ex.
I went NC straight away. 14 months and those first few months the sound of coach Lees intro was my relief 😅 Kind of interesting to listen now. The other side is worth the journey!
Ex broke up with me 6 months back. We went into full NO Contact 4 months now. I have been working on myself and my health in order to heal. She unfollowed/unfriend me on social media just recently. Im still focusing on being the better version of myself. Watching Coach Lee has kept me strong. Thank you Coach Lee!
I'm in the same boat. We left each other February. And we left in good terms and yes she unfollowed me on social media. However I'm curious why they didn't just block us instead of just unfollowing us?
I have been watching coach lees videos for 1 month after my ex of 14 years dumped me. This is no knock on other coaches, but i truly believe coach lee is the best out there on how to get your ex back and relationship dynamics in general. For those wondering whats happening to me now, im at the stage where im doing NC but she keeps texting me. Thank you very much coach lee. Your videos have given me so much encouragement through what has been the toughest time of my life
Today is two weeks of no contact and yes at times it’s been tough but I found coach lees videos the day after the break up and I’ve been watching a video or 2 everyday. It’s been great help. I got on a Coaching Call with Coach Rex and it was so beneficial. Keep watching him even if it’s the same video. Stay no contact and you’ll feel great. We don’t know what the future holds but as long as you watch Coach Lee you’ll feel so much better. Stay positive everyone!
Coach Lee is always the best on the Internet for relationship advice,
He knows his stuff!
Going on 6 months since my wife left. I have some highs and lows somedays. But I'm a lot stronger on not letting my emotions send a text. Cause I know I'll regret it right after. I actually enjoy being alone and when I get to see my kids it's the highlight of my day. I replaced drinking with working out. I'm down 45lbs and I love it. That was a huge upside about her leaving. I'm working on myself to be the best version I can be for me and my kids.
there is someone better
Thank you coach lee, I can't believe he came back, you gave me hope and strength, I couldn't be happier, thanks so much, greeting from Argentina! Listen to all he says, 100% true!
I’d never go no contact on coach Lee
Good call! lol
We were engaged. She said we had communication issues and couldnt see how to work past it. I told her I didn't want to break up, and she didn't care. I moved out, and it's been two months in NC. No, reach out. Her mom stopped me on the street one day and asked why we werent together but I said I guess we just loved in two different ways and I wish her daughter well.
Keep going. Just remember, you’re in a better spot now than being in the same spot married. Keep working on you; you’re not responsible for others. become the best you that you can be :)
Reached out to my ex of 5 years after 96 days of diligent NC and a clean breakup; super casual, just bringing up a memory of a keepsake. She responded politely, but very coldly, asking me to delete her number. I feel like I can actually move on, and I don’t feel the weight on my shoulders anymore. I think I’m free.
Delete the number seems pretty serious damn
Totally agree, but this is the mindset (although sometimes difficult after something that long) that needs to be had after day 1 of NC. Those next 95 days can be yourself working on you and not even thinking about her. As you see by her response, she definitely didn’t care. I’ve experienced the same and learned from it.
Glad you’re free! On to bigger and better things :)
Same thing happened to me and a couple of months later he was reaching out. A few months after that the tables had truly turned and he really wanted to get back together in every way. There are no guarantees, but truly, anything can happen.
@@lisabaughn Very interesting, I would love to hear about what your mindset was between the day that that happened and then fast forwarding to the day he came back with all of the interest. Had you done a lot of work on your self concept and made a lot of positive changes in your life?
@@MHcp8 I learned things about him throughout the breakup that made me see I didn't want to be with him anymore. I didn't know those things at the 45-day nothing to lose reach out point (nor while we were together), but over more time in the breakup, I learned things about him that just turned me off completely, and he treated me poorly too, which pushed me over the edge. He returned multiple times from months 4-9 post breakup and broke my heart into pieces several times when he did. Eventually (9 months post-breakup) I was just done and told him I was only able to be friends moving forward. That's when he became the best boyfriend imaginable and did dream-come-true things he never even did while we were together. Unfortunately none of it mattered. I tried with him for 2 months but discovered I just didn't want him anymore no matter what he did. So the journey was less about me and more about discovering things about him that made me just need to say goodbye at the end of the day.
Divorced twice, all I can say with my experienced once your healed and move on, you don’t want your ex back anymore. Your hopes of getting back it’s gone anymore. The betrayal of what they did you don’t have the interest in getting back with them. Closed that door for good. Build a new life again thats what men do!
it really depends on why u broke up..if u guys can get back together and fix the issues and u still love each other why not rekindle the relationship..
My ex contacted me after 36 days of no contact. She said, I'm checking in to see how you are doing and to let you know I still care about you and love you. I responded, I'm doing well. She responded "Liked."
She left me to be with another man. It's been 12 days, no additional communication.
Thank you Coach Lee, I'm currently in this area! Cautious but working on my fitness now my ex has reached out!
4 years together she broke up with me. After 7 weeks rang me out of blue saying she missed me. Got back together for couple months , went on holiday for 3 weeks but she ended again after we got back. 5 weeks no contact since. Not hopefully she will come back a second time. But contact a must. Wish I had of found coach lee 5 months ago 😢😅😅
Thank you coach Lee for being the voice of reason during these hard times. My ex broke up with me back in August of 2024, ever since watching your videos I have gone into NC and it has really helped me be able to focus on myself but also leave that door open. Taking advantage of this extra time I've been working on my career and have been going to the gym regularly. You have calmed my anziety and have helped me have a better understanding of relationship dynamics as a whole. Whenever I had doubts I would just go over all the advice in your videos and they really helped. Whether or not my ex does come back I've been able to find some peace. I just wanna thank you for making these videos as they have greatly helped me and I know they have helped others in similar situations. Guys trust the process! ❤
That’s Amazing. Congrats man. That’s the exact point, it’s not always about “making the ex come back”, the real win is becoming the best you and that serves as a much greater purpose during that time which will have your focus on the right thing. If she does come back, you’re even better of a guy and you may not even want her. When you improve yourself, the world opens up with even more beautiful things. Keep going :)
@@ElevateMyRelationships Thank you for your kind words, it means a lot. ❤
@@nateboi3138 all the best man. I’ve lived through my own experiences and learned, which is why I love sharing and making my own coaching vids. I think the world can be a much better place when we all work on ourselves but support each other. Have a great day!
Same here my friend. August 2024. I've been in NC ever since she broke up with me for no valid reason. It was hard for the first 2/3 weeks but I keep pushing myself by watching Coach Lee's videos. I'm way better now. At this point whether or not she comes back (like you said, I agree) I don't really care. I'm just getting better and better. Stay strong 💪🏼
@@steft.6463 that’s amazing, man. Keep that positivity and commitment to growth. Headwinds will try to dissuade you because they want to bring you down to their settled lives, but don’t listen to them and be the best for you. All those good things will come!
Five months of no contact, at this point i don't think we'll ever come back together, at least not on this earth
*The end of a relationship is never a mistake, it’s always an opportunity.* If I understand, take accountability and apologize for my participation in the failure of in the relationship… then there is no need to revisit that failed relationship after it ends, regardless of how much I loved them or time spent together. Yes, people change and some try to return claiming they made a mistake or the grass isn’t greener. It’s your duty to convince them that it’s greener, they just have to keep searching. Not to be mean spirited or rude but because it’s the right thing to do.
*Why do I get these in the algorithm.* I’ve never considered returning to cheaters or failed relationships so I think YT is trolling me at this point.
Just an update, September 30th we broke up. He left for a seasonal job to travel, we were together 1 year and 7 months. I have broke no contact 2 times but was telling him to treat the new girl good.
He was in a rebound and he thought the grass was greener. He came back.
It's true about women not wanting to be too forward even if they were the dumper
Staying away. Fake it till you make it. That's how it's gonna be..
She has reach out after about 4 months.
I sent a letter, as I reflected a lot about the breakup and I thought about every word of the letter, it was enough to motivate her to unblock me, send me a message wanting to fix the relationship
I pray we all get this happy ending 🙏
I forgot to mention, other than this letter, I stick with no contact. I was blocked in whatsapp and I did't see texting her by other means as an option.
I just sent the letter triyng to solve a misunderstanding that ended the relationship. I would not sent a letter otherwise.
@@queenj1203 for now
So she reached out after the letter? After how much time after sending it and what was it about?
@@alexandruionas-salagean8033 I just tried to reflect on the relationship and say what I thought would be relevant. I didn't say I loved her or that I wanted to get back together, after touching on the topics I said I would talk to her to resolve misunderstandings in the relationship.
She sent me a message the same day the letter arrived in her hands.
I just can't make a first move. They have to come back or we're both moving on.
If they dumped you, then yeah they need to reach out.
If you dumped them, then it’s your job to reach out.
It’s been 7 months, and still nothing. We had a great relationship, and I still don’t know why she broke up with me.
Sometimes, it just doesn’t have to make sense.
Wish I could fully move on, but haven’t been able to yet.
So I guess she won. I’m broken goods.
How could you not know?
It'll get better. Remember the love you gave to her, how much you cared for her? You gotta give the same to yourself. Your wellbeing is your responsibility, only you can save yourself. ❤
You broke up on good terms? I guess the connection and attraction just wasn't strong enough. She isn't your soulmate.
No one wins, sir!!
If they're narcissists, you don't want them back. As much as it sucks.
👏👏👏
I'm so glad for having found Coach Lee, in my case, it gave me peace of mind to know what was happening from a professional himself. It helped me to keep my own respect and dignity, and also to get over my ex, being away from them helps you to realise what was going wrong in the relationship. I found out that she was not the right person, she reached out more than a year later, and it was too late for her, stay strong, there are better people waiting for someone like you, who wants to fix things, and wants to fight for the relationship from a mature and calmed focus.
Make a fresh viideo on mixed signals from ex
Only took 2 weeks. Not sure where things will go from here, but he’s definitely struggling with his decision.
How did he reach out? What happened? ~
@@JOSEPHINETSANG he replied to a story I posted on Instagram. Said he’s feeling very conflicted and that he’s an idiot. He’s just not sure what he wants.
Hope everything continue to go well. Take your time with it. Slow pace
I don’t need any closure. I reached out during the first no contact, in 3 months and was ghosted…
Coach Lee thank you for your advice on your videos. i have come to a point in my life where i am just over it and finally found my own worth and know what i bring to a relationship
It’s been almost 3 weeks since my gf broke up with me. We were suppose to have our 2 yr anniversary tomorrow and man it hurts. She broke up with me bc I was too focused on work/business that I never gave the attention and value she needed and pleaded me to give her.
I’ve done so much deep thinking and reflecting and I was such a bad bf and didn’t even treat her like my gf. I told exactly was I was going to do to make my mistakes right and give her the love she deserves but ultimately told me that she lost feelings for me and doesn’t think I’ll change.
Right after the break up I was very emotional for the next few days and begged her to stay in my life. Nothing changed.
I hate that I had to experience this to realize what I should have valued and prioritize with us together.
I haven’t spoken to here in 2 weeks.
Now I’m all alone
Been in no contact for over a year. All she does is look at my social media stories on a regular basis and sometimes like my post and stories 🤷🏿♂️
A year is very long.
I would’ve moved over within a few weeks or a month or two depending on the length of the relationship.
@@Compulsive-Elk7103 I have moved on. I am actually thankful for the relationship because I learned a lot and healed from some past traumas that I identified within myself.
This is very timely and good advice. Thank you Coach Lee.
Thank you for everything you do coach lee! Much love ❤️
It’s been three months since she reached out. She started deleting instagram pictures of us to. I feel like I’m losing her. She said she loves and cares about me deeply. And also said she needs space and no contact for right now.
3 months here for my spouse of no begging or pleading. He’s very subtle now of reaching out like he brought me sneakers a few weeks ago, texted asking how i’m doing? later after work one evening he asked how was work. But still I haven’t reached out to him i’m still doing no contact unless he reaches out to me of course. I’m very calm and collected. We were speaking back in fourth and everything but the momentum slowed. Idk if he expects me to reach out first but I let him initiate.
Im in no contact for almost 3 months since we broke up last may 2024. Today. My ex posts her new person in the social media.
I just made a similar comment, we broke up early June. She just posted the new profile pics with the dude she rebounded to right after our relationship. Stung a little bit.
Don’t get me wrong! Why y’all want them back!
My ex is severely avoidant and I doubt if he will ever change or realize what he did to me! I’m watching videos just to learn more about them and trying to move on.
I filed divorce, ending our relationship/marriage together for 18 years!
I am 2 months of NC, and 3 months of physical separation! He’s been in therapy for 10 months! See no results!
He’s so immature and we didn’t have any sexual for 12 years, there was no touch, hug, cuddle really nothing! But he texted other women and said it’s just a friend!
Since I watch couch Lee I moved on. I don’t care anymore all I care is about myself and living happily. Even I see texts message I ignore and deleted out. You hurt me sorry I can’t take you back.
A month ago I was blocked across the board. 3 days ago she sent me a friend request on snapchat. To do that, she had to unblock me, which means i've had to be on her mind. The next day I was unfriended. No messages were exchanged. I'm still in shock it happened, but I guess it indicates progress.
Minor update: I am now blocked again. Not sure what to make of this behavior, but it turns me off.
yes they obviously remember your username and have searched for your profile. They are using energy to think about you which means they care! The timing is not right just yet perhaps they're not ready to talk and still have some fears. Keep no contact. ❤
@-taylor-9980 we're in the same group chat, so I doubt she remembered and just clicked on my name instead. Either way yeah, I will officially be in 30 days no contact soon.
Well after almost 6 years she called it quits 3 months ago . She reached out after about a month with the typical I miss you and think about you so much talk . I offered to meet at the beach and she said maybe when we’ve healed more we can do that . Well 2 months later I haven’t contacted her a single time and she hasn’t reached out to me . I guess it is what it is
All the best man; keep your head up and keep working on yourself. If she doesn’t come back, you’ll be ready for the next one who comes in your life. Just remember, even in a long term relationship you have to keep dating her. We all get complacent, and it’s hard not to when life gets in the way, but that little effort goes a longggg way to keep her happy
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Can you discuss why you believe its important to respond to an insignificant message when an Ex reaches out during a sufficiently long period of no contact? There are coaches who say that responding to a message that doesn't display regret or humility over the breakup is counter-productive in getting an Ex back. You shouldn't respond to a hello or I was reminded of you or was wondering how you've been type messages. There are too many reasons an Ex may be contacting you other than wanting you back - validation, guilt, attention, or just wanting to be friends etc. The idea is that there is no way someone will walk out of your life forever without making their desire to get back with you known or to at least want to talk to you in person. The key is to not respond to their insignificant messages and keep the pressure on them until they break psychologically. If they don't break and make their true intentions towards you known, they never really wanted you back in the first place. All of this is especially true if you were the person who was dumped. Thoughts?
If dumper reaches out they are interested
@@ira4600 They are interested but most likely not for a relationship statistically speaking. Even if they say something significant or want to meet up with you to talk - it’s no guarantee they want you back. But if they do want you back they know exactly what to say and do to make it clear they want you back.
@ira4600 I agree with you.
My ex asked me if i saw a numberlock (the one you use for lockers at gyms) when i moved my stuff out of his place. I was like, why’re you bothering me with such a insignificant question (i did not say that, i just answered with no havent seen it and stayed silent) i can not imagine he did it out of interest.. its too stupid
@@Indowendie He is still interested - keep the pressure on him by staying silent.
Does no contact work on people younger? My ex is 10 years younger than me and we were madly in love but her friends and family didn’t like the age gap so she broke it off because she couldn’t handle the pressure
No one ever comes back to me when it’s finished it’s finished. Not even friends or colleagues 😂
That's crazy because looking at your picture, you're beautiful 😍
I went no contact after doing all the wrong things. Fighting, pleading, begging, bargaining, you name it. It’s been 5 days No Contact and she asked me about the weather and my work…. I haven’t responded, it’s been over 24 hours since she texted me. Do I respond short and open or do I leave her unopened and wait for her to reach out with more than bs? More importantly she is deep in a rebound relationship only weeks after leaving me. She barely knew the guy and it’s only been 2 months since she left….. I think she may beginning to regret or consider her actions. She was hell bent that this was the man for her. We were together for 2 years, not everything was perfect but that’s life. Should I respond?
Nope, she’s an ex for a reason. Just enjoy the 2 years for what they were and move on with your life. You will never meet someone who’ll be better for you if you keep returning to the individual you failed with.
Sometimes they leave because they think the grass is greener. When they return, convince them to continue searching for the greener grass. Not to rude, but because it’s the right thing to do for you both.
If you want her back…. Respond
It’s been over 3 months. She has me blocked everywhere yet she unsynced her devices, so she can still see my texts. I went no contact a couple times then broke it. Currently going on 2 weeks of no contact. She interacts with ex coworkers & she has posted tik toks that were obviously about me just a week ago. I’m not going to reach out, but may do it in November or December
how long do I stay away for? my birthday is coming up next month, hers is coming up, christmas, new years, valentines...
Stay away at all costs!
No matter what, even on holidays and her birthday.
Don’t give in, work on yourself, improve yourself
@Compulsive-Elk7103 I'm afraid we'll never talk to eachother again. I wqs going to writea big msg
@@dandee28 well if she dumped you then she has to reach out to you.
If you dumped her then you have to reach out to her.
If you feel like you need to reach out once then good luck but don’t expect much
Its been a year. She’s gone boys and ain’t coming back. Same applies to you. Adios.
Hey dude!!! Stay optimistic!!! Ive seen an ex come back after 5 to 8 years and thrive like never before. My next door neighbors, both in their 50's, divorced and seperated for 8 years because the man was living a double life for 4 years with another woman in the picture.... they were split up for 8 years and they definitely still got together 😅
Went no contact, moved on with my life, 4 and a half months the later she got married lol. Dodged a bullet.
my ex reached out after one month of NC, just to casually confirm on the phone that his feelings did not change since the break up "unfortunately." he wanted to know how I was doing.
I was calm, polite and reserved on the phone. I made sure the conversation was lightweight. He was kind of shocked and disappointed by my behavior (normally I would beg and cry on the phone).
I am 100% sure he expects that I reach out to him this now.
What should I do NOW?
Wait for the call in which he admits his feelings have changed? It's good you didn't lose your cool on call #1!
Bread crumbing you. If he contacts you be blunt, but not mean.
Thanks for your response. Yes im definitely going further with the no contact. After that reach out of him i never reached back. I even did not wish happy birthday on his birthday by text the day after his reaching out. On the phone (when he reached out to me) he was talking about the family dinner he was going to have. I just said on the phone "oh Nice, happy birthday already for tomorrow." But i did not initiate by text the day after, because i wanted him to feel what my absence would be like....@@videowilliams
@@maja-5727 Stay in no contact unless they contact you, but don’t wait on them. They could just be lonely or still unsure about you. Best course of action is focusing on yourself / self improvement.
The breakup was my fault, we both ended in really great terms. There was lots of love still. I regret what i did. Im working on my self, however i believe i have to be the one to reach out. Im thinking about reaching out on the 3 month mark. If she doesn't do it herself before.
The only thing is that her family wont like me coming back I think. Her sister even blocked me.
That’s a selfish way of thinking about it. She has to be the one to reach out. Not you. Her decision not yours especially if it’s your fault. Trust me, it was my fault but I’m not forcing someone. I did my time. 1 year 3 months. I know that I can’t force a person and they need to reach out to you if you were the problem. Can’t really love bomb someone to get back with you. You need time to work on yourself. 3 months isn’t enough. Try one year.
@@javierlandaverde4108 How about if I wanna reach out in that time frame, to either try get back together or finally move on? I think that is my main purpose of reaching out. If she wants to try again, ill be down. If not ill be okay and Ill find someone else by that time.
I wouldn’t call it selfish, it’s a bit of a negative connotation. But I will say it’s great you realize it’s your fault if it is, you can reach out and apologize to set the record straight, but I do agree after that it’s up to her to come back/reach out if interested. Definitely keep on working on yourself, if not for the 1 year suggested, ongoing. It is a never ending process that leads to a better life :)
what if there friend is trying to contact u after 5 months of the breakup what could this mean? she was the one that left me
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
Who ended the relationship?
@@standground7956 Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
Hey coach lee, i purchased your breakup kit but havnt received it yet, how long until we get it?
Coach lee pulled a no contact on us😂
Well after 4 months of no contact I just found out that she deleted my number couple of days ago. Is it a good timing to contact them? I don't think so
Ex reached out after 3 weeks of NC on her mother’s death memorial day. She reached out casually, I was polite and the conversation didn’t last long. What does this mean? What should I do now?
She reached out after 10 months and we chatted for a few hours until we both went to bed, next day its dead silent again and its been two weeks. Do I just reach out at this point or do I wait again? I dont wanna stifle the momentum as you said.
Depends on who dumped who. If she dumped you and then you went into no contact, it’s her responsibility to try and get you back.
Don’t message first, she’s the dumper and you’re the dumpee so it’s their job to win you back. Not the other way around.
If they're already with someone else, why would you even want them? Have some respect for yourself please.
I wodner how no contact would impact them when there are chilsren involved that you created and emotional bond with? Sooner or later?
he speaks about that it’s strategic no contact. it’s another video he made.
Its already been 2 and half month past since we broke up.
During this time I always broke no contact rule. Also during this time, i am putting food inside her locker once a week and shes not complaining about it, shes not texting or messaging me to stop doing it.
Yes we are workmates and I can still open her locker since it was my padlock.
I am confuse because I hanged my rosary and necklace that has my mothers ashes inside, in her locker..
She still keeping it and not hiding it somewhere... also shes still using my towel that i didnt give to her
She also keeping my letters..
I am confused... started november with no contact rule again...
Any advice? 😢
3 months no contact ,break up was after so much arguments
His friend called last week and said he's not feeling well but i know he's lying
Should i call his friend and ask hows he feeling now or should i act careless and wait for him to reach out???
Dont reach out continue with no contact
@@georgemosupi4404 updats : he reached out and we are back
No contact works 😍♥️😇
She told me that she didn’t want no contact, and that it’s a boundary I’m setting. And because it’s a boundary that I’m setting she will not break it at all…. How do I respond to that??? She’s stubborn and strong, and I want her to feel my loss. I want her to reach out to me, but how do I convey that? Will she reach out anyway?
my ex texted me over some dumb thing .i think she is just reaching out
As one of the accounts I follow has said before. You miss the hardware and not the software.
How long should I do no contact if our relationship was only 2 months but was extremely happy for both of us( at least seemingly )until she said she just didn't think she could do it. She was cheated on by her ex husband who she was with for 12 years and has 3 kids with and he left her for her good friend. She was devastated by it.
I wanted to send a letter 2 weeks out bc the breakup truly was unexpected. After 4 years I feel I like I just want him to at the very least ponder on my words before I go no contact. He truly misinterpreted so much even though I was clear from the start. The letter is dignity and clearing myself from his misconceptions. Is this okay?
Coach Lee I need your help here, I told off my ex who wanted to stay friends with me, I made it clear that I can't be friend zoned it's either we get back or cut off all contact, was I wrong? It's been 5 months and I've not heard from him please I'll appreciate your response.
"A lot of times you will hear from your ex, especially if they are not strong enough to stay away from you!" (1:46) Yes, 55 days later that's what happened to me. She said I was the first one who did not have to be told to leave her alone.
Coach Lee please help, im not sure how to respond, my ex reached out today, saying how difficult it is for him, and hes heartbroken....and he hopes that im ok...and he thinks about all the good we had, but nothing about him missing me or he wants me back or anything, he also said i dont need to respond to his message....what must i do...i havent responded...please help! I do want him back...
What to do if they have cheated and moved away with someone new can you still get them back
what if there friend reaches out to u 6 months after ur ex left u?
Not one peep since February 27th
In no contact she stated reaching out for 2-3 days and make 1-2 week gap, repeated 3 times, should i also call her in between, what should i do?
What if they reach then do not contact for a month ...shall we reach back ?
Thanks!
Thank you so much!
What does it mean if he reached out after no contact, and then everything seems fine at first, we organized a "date" to talk about everything and apologize, and then 2 hours before the date he cancels it, and not even says sorry. He is just kinda "forcing" me to react mad on this... and starts drama for literal no reason. (Because of that we are in No Contact again)..
I had the same with one of my exes. Just don‘t get bothered by this. It might be a game they play when they want you back or they are still unsure about what they want. They are not ready yet. Don‘t focus on them. Live your great life and let them feel that you can enjoy your life without being resentful so that they feel more drawn to you.
Do you have any videos on if you’re the one that broke up with your ex but miss them? Will they come back? I had to break up with her but I didn’t want to. It was getting to that point but I feel like I should have communicated more than I did. It was more of an impulse thing.
If you broke up with her, really consider the reasons why you broke up and if they can be resolved or if they are things that you can live with. If you consider those things and think you can have a stronger relationship than the one you had with her before, then just reach out to her and tell her what you want.
You need to reach out to her
@@alicebend3606 Yeah but I’m fine now. Having that time away from her showed me all her red flags. I’m glad I left her.
Terrible idea to go back to your ex..more disappointment waiting in the horizon
Ex jumped into a rebound 4 weeks after our 5 yr relationship and has constantly reached out over the last 4 months. Ive never contacted her once. 3 weeks ago i told her to stop texting and calling as im not her friend. Thursday just gone she rang me twice. Havent responded. A very mixed up woman. I think the rebound is still alive yet she still reaches out. Not sure whether to text asking what she rang for?
Stay away bro. Some mistakes are not to be forgiven.
What if you’re long distance
He's practically dating someone new 😢 I'm out of the pic. I'm so sad, i wanted the break-up because he was acting single while we're married. He's still doing it, but he's trying with her , it freaking sucks a**
I was in a long distance relationship, she started to end it, we took a week break, she wanted to take it slow, one set back and she broke it off.. I don’t know if that week counted as no contact because we didn’t talk and when she came back after that week.. she said it wasn’t right not talking to me. Then broke up with me again, it ended badly I begged etc and it still ended. It’s been just over a week and nothing from her.. I guess I should just continue to hold out. But I don’t want too much time to pass because I feel like I will be forgotten. Not sure what to do.
i'm going through the same exact situation at the same time. i'm sure they will come back for us but let's improve ourselves during no contact
I'm on day 28, guys and they don't forget, mine has started watching my stories and has been nonstop posting stories on her IG, I haven't seen any of them, so she posted a post with the pandora bracelet I got her and a 5£ note in her phone case of when we went to England together a few months ago, just work on yourselves, meditate read books and exercise,Hang in there you got this❤
@@jadiher332don’t wait for anyone. Stay in NC. Do it for yourself and self improvement. Get to the point you can go days without thinking about them and if they come back good but if they don’t you also don’t care.
What if she dont break no contact ? What if she dont miss you ?
Move on.
Work on yourself, improve yourself. Stay in no contact!! And go out and meet other people and start dating when you’re ready
Getting dumped twice and then get friend zone, any advice?
Show her you can walk away and are done with her.
@@RealCoachLee but she'll call and text
What to do
You tell her straight up, I’m not interested in being friends, you tell her you’re only interested in her romantically and if she feels the same to then contact you. Then, like Coach Lee says, walk away and show her you mean it. Best of luck
@@RealCoachLeeHey Coach, can you do a deep dive on when a dumper rebounds and on how that can extend the length of time since they are in limerence? If they’ve been with the rebound for months and we haven’t heard from them? How likely are these relationships to last and for how long? Do they just rebound again to a new person or backtrack to the previous ex? I’m sure you have come across this many times in your career. I just don’t know how if we are moving on after like 3-6 months, how they can suddenly have curiosity after that long when they are with someone else?
what if it was the other way around
Women never come back. They just do not care at all. Never.
Then you have to match and mirror, but in the meantime work on yourself to become the best mentally and physically so that the women in the future don’t want to leave. :)
You are wrong
@@ira4600 I wish you all the success but that negativity may play more into why a woman wouldn’t come back. Mindset is a big thing, and it’s not about that 1 woman coming back. The bigger picture is growing from experiences. That can’t ever stop. And I know I’m right, because I’ve experienced it :)
All the best. We gotta stay healthy in the mind :)
No, not at all. It's not that women don't care. They may still have feelings, but women fear for a man to scorn them if they come back. It's very belittling. Many times, the man may accept them back just to carry out revenge. Men never truly forgive.
@@ElevateMyRelationships I was replying to original statements from @marguskiis7711
Doesn’t work it’s been about 2 and a half months for me got blocked on everything it’s okay tho I’ve been healing staying busy it’s all going to be ok :)
Why do they unblock?
What if your dumper ex greets you on your birthday during no contact? Do you respond or no?
Keep it short
@@charlesjohnson-nv7vf how? can you explain further? Thank you!
@@charlesjohnson-nv7vfcan you explain further like how to reply if it does happen? Thank you
@@charlesjohnson-nv7vf can you explain how to reply if it does happen? Thank you
Here is my video on that: th-cam.com/video/gLUJbncTN1k/w-d-xo.htmlsi=oVqziVg0d7NWgoid
I was not the dumper but I went back. Then he left me again😢
Yep, never get back with someone after the relationship ends. You guys always learn the hard way.
sounds like a fearful avoidant
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.
Of course you miss him. I am just so sorry. That is a lot to go through. I think everyone here can relate. Wishing you all the best ❤
Talking too Mich Is a turno off. ITS the fastest way to get friendzoned.
She just posted new profile pics with her and the guy she monkey branched to, 4 months post breakup. A total rebound, it’s wild. If your ex is a woman, trust she has been with a new dude since she left, maybe even slightly before the breakup lol.
@@Freudster21 but what if we're in contact daily, video chat, hours of fonecall, texting, every day?
@@lyngdohfx Then why did she break up? Think about it. She’s probably talking to both of you and she is having mixed feelings, not sure which way to go
@@lyngdohfx I would recommend toning it down a bit. It’s already had precedent but attraction grows in space. Dont spend hours on the phone, do things you wanna do (gym, friends, family hangout) so she misses you and you have more to talk about when you’re together.
@@Freudster21 I’m not with anyone. Women aren’t all scandalous. Just remember it’s not all women. Please. Women think men do the same. I’m pretty sure he met someone else. But who am I to know? He moved 2,000 miles away. I don’t have social media so I’ll never know. I can’t imagine another man touching me. And the thought of him with another woman hurts me.
@@KD-hy3bi I hear ya, yes not all women, but many nowadays. And women do it way more often than men due to their biology and plethora of options at all time.
8 months after i shared my feelings, got insulted, called names, and looked down on, all because i said i wanted to be treated fairly. 8 months and still no contact or no real apology. I loved this woman with everything, and her and her douchbag brother see nothing wrong with how she treated me.
Treat her with even more coldness. The one who‘s less afraid to lose the other always wins.
Ive been no contact. Not sure how to be more cold. @miko5900
You can’t be free for coffee when he moved 2,000 miles away
That does make it significantly more challenging. Obviously that’s not an option for you.
Long distance relationships are very hard.
As for that , I would’ve offered a phone call or video chat. Sit down on the phone with them and just talk and focus on them. Keep the conversations light and only project the same attitude as them and don’t over step and try and keep the conversation short.
@@Compulsive-Elk7103 it’s always more complicated than that. We’ve been together on and off for 4 years. This last time together was a year and a half. He relocated half way through the year and a half. We tried to make it work. I stated needs as it became increasingly more difficult for me (needing touch and closeness) and he needing space for healing. I couldn’t give him the space while needing the closeness with the distance. I gave him space (heck he already took it by moving!) but then I was left feeling neglected.
I guess after 9 months of long distance, we both started hurting each other by not being able to meet the needs from a distance.
It absolutely sucks.
Women really hate accountability