Perfect ending to a wonderful video! I can finally attest that this works! I started my first therapy session on the day he moved out. I went through all these phases of self blame to, he played a large role in this break up too. I went from saying, “he left me” to “he lost me”. That ending had purpose because now I understand things about myself I hadn’t known before. The whys behind my patterns of behavior. That ending forced me to see that I have been codependent in relationships, which is why I chose him to begin with. Once removed from the pedestal, I can clearly see how much better I can do. I had settled with an emotionally immature man with severe mommy issues and abandonment issues. I had done a lot of work before him and he triggered another layer of the work that was needed. Although, I still get sad from time to time our of the blue, it soon passes so good riddance to him.
The phrase "Keep Calm and Carry On" doesn't necessarily imply ignoring problems or challenges. Instead, it encourages maintaining composure and continuing with necessary tasks or responsibilities despite difficulties. It's more about resilience and perseverance rather than avoidance or denial of issues.
This is deeply detailed and covers a lot of important situations. It's a lot in one video. Alexis, you must have been up all night. Much appreciated. I relate to many points you made and feel you have reached out to some deeper and silent questions.
Can you do a video on what to much damage post break up might mean? Things ended pretty badly with my ex, we had a deep bond that i never felt before but because neither one of communicated our needs and things sort of exploded because of a situation when her manipulative x partner pushed my buttons causing me put pressure on jer to define things. We both said things in anger we didnt mean but shes ghosted me and i dont know where we stand anymore. It would be great to know if too much damage was done so i dont fool myself
If you go into no contact then the bad memories will fade and she will start remembering and missing only the the good memories. So go no contact and stay strong because it really works. ❤️
@@QueenZ444 the problem for me now is that her ex before me was really toxic, said alot of fukced up things to me that caused me to put pressure on her. he embarrassed her in front of all her friends and dehumanized her but for some reason im blocked on instagram for looking at her stories while she love reacts a posts he makes on her page.
Great information, calmly presented. Thanks much. Very important information about are you really better off without the ex? I dismissed this initially.
If you get back or not,, does not really matter!!!! well I am not at that stage or I would probably not watch any of these videos ... I do care, Is that wrong ?Maybe nothing will happen and I will have spent a lot of time in reflection and introspection thats good , but a loss is. a loss especially if you really loved deeply . I. do not think that goes way . I have years of therapy and I. feel I have grown toward authenticity and yet I still want my ex in my life ....Sorry
I think a video explaining why moving forward than moving backwards is better You broke up for a reason…. Probably more than one if your honest with yourselves Last point Remember how great that new love sex phase is ? Is there anything else I have not considered? 😂
Perfect ending to a wonderful video! I can finally attest that this works! I started my first therapy session on the day he moved out. I went through all these phases of self blame to, he played a large role in this break up too. I went from saying, “he left me” to “he lost me”. That ending had purpose because now I understand things about myself I hadn’t known before. The whys behind my patterns of behavior. That ending forced me to see that I have been codependent in relationships, which is why I chose him to begin with. Once removed from the pedestal, I can clearly see how much better I can do. I had settled with an emotionally immature man with severe mommy issues and abandonment issues. I had done a lot of work before him and he triggered another layer of the work that was needed. Although, I still get sad from time to time our of the blue, it soon passes so good riddance to him.
Did you break up with him or did he ?
You’re advice is very authentic I appreciate it, you stand out of all the other channels around TH-cam. Thanks again ☺️
Good idea about stoicism, summed up as possibly “ keep calm and carry on”
The phrase "Keep Calm and Carry On" doesn't necessarily imply ignoring problems or challenges. Instead, it encourages maintaining composure and continuing with necessary tasks or responsibilities despite difficulties. It's more about resilience and perseverance rather than avoidance or denial of issues.
If the dumper enters a rebound. Never return
This is deeply detailed and covers a lot of important situations. It's a lot in one video. Alexis, you must have been up all night. Much appreciated. I relate to many points you made and feel you have reached out to some deeper and silent questions.
How would this apply to a avoidant spouse you are separated from who has all the signs of the midlife crisis.
🤔yes please.do teach
Statistically over 62% of exes do not come back. Would love to learn your stats on this.
Great content. Learning a lot and using it to live stronger.
Can you do a video on what to much damage post break up might mean? Things ended pretty badly with my ex, we had a deep bond that i never felt before but because neither one of communicated our needs and things sort of exploded because of a situation when her manipulative x partner pushed my buttons causing me put pressure on jer to define things. We both said things in anger we didnt mean but shes ghosted me and i dont know where we stand anymore. It would be great to know if too much damage was done so i dont fool myself
I need this as well. I need to know if it's worth anything anymore.
If you go into no contact then the bad memories will fade and she will start remembering and missing only the the good memories. So go no contact and stay strong because it really works. ❤️
@@QueenZ444 the problem for me now is that her ex before me was really toxic, said alot of fukced up things to me that caused me to put pressure on her. he embarrassed her in front of all her friends and dehumanized her but for some reason im blocked on instagram for looking at her stories while she love reacts a posts he makes on her page.
He won't come back this time. I caught him in a lie with his ex GF.
Very good stuff with detailed research and insight! Very helpful thanks heaps 👍
Your words mean so much! ❤ you re definitely the best in this topic out there. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Great information, calmly presented. Thanks much. Very important information about are you really better off without the ex? I dismissed this initially.
Keep up the good works
How about when they friendzone you?
FOMO and FUD doesnt work on me anymore..All these psychological tactics are basically forms of manipulation...😂❤
Is this also valid for a dismissive avoidant?
The ending……..OMG 😢
If you get back or not,, does not really matter!!!! well I am not at that stage or I would probably not watch any of these videos ... I do care, Is that wrong ?Maybe nothing will happen and I will have spent a lot of time in reflection and introspection thats good , but a loss is. a loss especially if you really loved deeply . I. do not think that goes way . I have years of therapy and I. feel I have grown toward authenticity and yet I still want my ex in my life ....Sorry
I think a video explaining why moving forward than moving backwards is better
You broke up for a reason…. Probably more than one if your honest with yourselves
Last point
Remember how great that new love sex phase is ?
Is there anything else I have not considered? 😂